Tips for BREAKING FREE from TOXIC LOVE

It is hard to walk away from toxic relationships. Why do we hold on to them? There is no single answer. Humans are creatures of habit, often finding comfort in discomfort. Unfortunately, those who come from dysfunctional family dynamics are likely to repeat this dysfunction in their own families and romantic relationships. So, how can you walk away from someone you love so passionately, with whom you've invested so much time and effort, and shared so many experiences? Walking away is not easy, but if you want to break unhealthy relationship patterns from your past, tough decisions are necessary.

Here are three tips to help you move forward like an adult, without lingering in unnecessary heartache:

1.Identify if the relationship has run its course or if it is simply going through a rough patch.

Take inventory of the good, the bad, and the ugly. An example of a red flag in an unhealthy relationship is keeping secrets from others or within the relationship itself. Privacy is important in a marriage to protect the integrity of your union, but secrecy stems from:

• Embarrassment

• Fear others will dislike your partner

• Fear of repercussions

• Or all of the above

2.Have the courage to say “enough is enough.”

People often stay in toxic relationships because it’s "not that bad," "they don’t physically hurt me," or "they have good intentions." But are these reasons to stay with someone who is not contributing, fulfilling, or adding value to your life?

Why settle? Why accept less than the best because he or she is Mr. or Mrs. Right Now? Have the courage and willpower to say, “I will not stay because there’s no one else. I will move on, let go, and find someone worthy of my love!”

3. Uproot the relationship completely, leaving no room for ties.

This can be complicated if there are children or shared assets, but like any battle won, it involves compromise and sacrifice. To start living with purpose, let go of mediocrity and accept nothing less than what you deserve.

You will begin making the valiant decisions necessary to get what you want and need. Uprooting means cutting the life of the relationship from its core, root, and emotional source. If you allow occasional visits or texts, you leave room for your emotional needs to be met by someone who needs to be gone from your life.

Walk away and never look back.

Walking away from someone you still love is hard, sad, difficult, and can feel like a tragedy, but it’s not impossible. I promise you, you will survive. Love yourself more.

You owe it to yourself. Make the decision not to allow your children or future children to grow up in a dysfunctional home. You owe that to them. Give yourself the right to be happy, with balance, fulfillment, and the pleasure of living life on your own terms.

Jojo's Bio:

JoJo, a seasoned Mental Health Counselor and Editor-in-Chief of Chasing Clarity Magazine, employs a relational and holistic approach in counseling. With over a decade of bilingual counseling experience, she cultivates a space for clients to feel known, seen and understood. JoJo has firsthand experience navigating the complexities of prioritizing emotional well-being. Acknowledging the courage it takes to share vulnerabilities, she offers empathetic support. Beyond her professional roles, JoJo values her roles as a mother, friend, and family member, actively cherishing moments of happiness. To learn more about JoJo and her services please visit her website at: www.TheClarityHour.net