JLS: As much as I hate to say it – I had – worldly actions, such as cursing, to do all I could to stay in front of her drinking, doing drugs, etc., even in the regarding matters of life. She asked presence of their children. Some even a lot of questions, which took me to abuse them physically. This is devastating the bible, dictionary, library, and other and can stifle the possibility of a great and sources to find the correct answers. The successful future generation. other issue was the boy-thing. Being a beautiful young lady and CL: What is it that looking more mature than her “It’s such a great encourages you about the actual age, there were quite a lot sensation to share state of fatherhood today? of boys trying to date her before the joy and love of Are things getting better? she was presented to society. My a happy family.” JLS: I sincerely believe that wife and I always wanted her to times are getting better. I am marry the very best. So I felt it especially encouaged when necessary to virtually “interrogate” each I observe fathers spending quality time young man who wanted to take her out with their children. Many of them – even on a date. That was quite a challenge as single parents – are now bringing their and it didn’t always make her very children to church. Many fathers are also happy. taking their children shopping, sporting events, on vacations, etc. This, in itself, CL: In your own words, tell us lets me know that in spite of the seeming what it means to be a father, whether trend of absent fathers in many homes, naturally or spiritually. there are still some who take fatherhood JLS: It is one of the most rewarding seriously. I am also encouraged when I experiences a father can have: knowing counsel with many young men who are that his child is a result of his seed and seeking help in learning how to keep or then being able to nurture that child into put their family relationship back together. adulthood. It’s such a great sensation to share the joy and love of a happy family. CL: What would you say to encourage What a gratifying feeling to see your child the men who are on the right path flourish into adulthood and then have when it comes to their children and such a positive and profound impact on families? Many times they do not get the humanity. It is also a fantastic feeling to recognition they deserve. How would you have grandchildren who love and respect motivate them to keep going? you. JLS: I tell all fathers to know and first of all, make sure you have a spiritual I have to also speak from a Biblical relationship with God through Jesus perspective. The Bible gives clear and Christ. Revere and obey Him. Respect concise definitions about fatherhood. and love others. Regard yourself with “Train up a child in the way he should pride and live a life of integrity with go…” “Fathers provoke not your children dignity. If we do not love ourselves, then unto wrath…” “Spare the rod and spoil we certainly won’t have much love for the child. . .” These and other biblical passages have been my most important guide for rearing my daughter. CL: When you look at the state of fatherhood today, what is it that concerns you? JLS: I believe that there are too many fathers who do not uphold their responsibility in supporting their children. In other words, some actually disown their offspring; others abdicate their financial responsibility; but most of all they do not share in the duty of raising their children. The other issue I have with some fathers is the lifestyle they model before their children .................
others – whether our offspring or others in general. Then shower that love on your children. Remember, even though we all want to be recognized by others for what we do – especially at home – it is God who will give the ultimate recognition in that final day. Besides, it is important to realize we must look at the fruit of our labor and if nobody else gives us the praise or pat on the back – then encourage ourselves. We know what we have done and whether it is good or not. Our motivation should be based on the results we produce, rather than by others opinions. CL: What would you say to encourage the men who may have strayed off the path when it comes to their children and families? They may have lost their way, but what word of wisdom or encouragement do you have for them today? JLS: Remember who you are as well as whose you are. You have been wonderfully and fearfully made in the image of God. It is He that has made us and not we, ourselves. We are somebody – humble, but not weak. Remember, God wants us to look to Him for answers to our problems. He is a forgiving God of another chance. So humble yourself and ask God for His help and guidance. Disconnect yourself from those who won’t support their children and pray for them. Then connect yourself with other fathers who can provide meaningful assistance to help you get back on the proper path of fatherhood. CL: What keeps Dr. Joe centered? JLS: What an easy question to answer. I anchor myself in Jesus. Following His teachings keeps me on the proper path. Also belonging to a church where so much inspiration, support, love and joy that exudes from the pastor and members gives me the motivation to stay focused. However, I must also admit that my daughter, son-in-law, grandchildren, and immediate family are compelling incentives. Most of all, my darling wife of more than 50 years has been an anchor of support through her modeling Jesus and cheering, critiquing, and comforting me have also helped me to “stay the course”.
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