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It’s spring again. The time of year when those things that were once cold and laid dormant start to awake and revitalize; come back to life; rise up. Spring is the time of year where newness starts to bloom – you can see it all around, you can smell it in the air. The atmosphere seems to be fresh with possibilities and opportunities to break forth into those things that once seemed aloof and unattainable. Suddenly our minds begin to become renewed with the truth that with God, truly, all things are possible. Spring is also a time of productivity, a time to take those sleeping ideas and dreams and put them in motion. This issue is all about people who are springing forth and putting their plans into action. Larishia S. Johnson
Editor in Chief
In this issue you’ll learn from Dr. Ronn Elmore tips on how to bring and keep harmony in your relationships. We’ve also got a fascinating interview with Center of Praise’s own, Dr. Rhonda E. Carroll. She’s over seas in China and taking things to the next level. Speaking of next level, Centered Living had the opportunity to meet a gentleman by the name of Karega Bailey who is engaged in changing the lives of young people, one family at a time. In honor of spring, newness, and fresh ideas we’re excited to introduce to some and present to others, the Youth and Young Adult Pastors of Center of Praise, Troy Nichols and Emerson Luke. This dynamic duo has the challenging yet rewarding task of building the next generation of leaders. They share with us the state of youth and young adults today as well as their goals for the future. In addition to the phenomenal stories and inspirational people in this issue, one of my favorite things we’ve shared is an outstanding Red Velvet Cupcake recipe from the legendary Ms. Paula Deen. Talk about spring goodness!
When I think about spring, I think of new beginnings. One of my favorite scriptures about new beginnings is found in Deuteronomy 8:7. The verse before explains that if you keep the commandments of the Lord and walk in His ways, the promise is this: “For the Lord your God is bringing you into a good land, a land of brooks of water, of fountains and springs, flowing forth in valleys and hills… (AMP) I pray this season is full of new and fresh beginning for you and yours. I pray this issue blesses you in some way that encourages you to spring forth and put your dreams into action. Are you ready? Let’s go! Live Centered!
Contents Cover
Justice Center
10 Leaders of the NuSkool
14 Protecting Our Family 15 Changing Lives One Mission At A Time
Features
Empowerment Center
8 In Harmony 20 It Takes A Village
22 Source of Light 23 Keys to the Door; Living Stones Ministry
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Health and Wellness
4 Little Drummer Boy: Kyron Kirby 6 A Remarkable Woman of God: Dr. Rhonda E. Carroll
17 The Dr. Is In: The Benefits of Chiropractic Care 19 Financial Empowerment: Does Your 401(k) Have a Mortgage? 23 Good Eats: Red Velvet Cupcakes
Centered Living Staff Contributing Editor Bishop Parnell M. Lovelace, Jr. Russell Nichols Marketing Consultant Antoine Clark Health and Wellness Editor Dr. Sidney Bean Financial Empowerment Editor Eric Creer Copy Vicki Mongan, Copy Editor Fanita Polk-Reaves
Design Rhonda Boglin, Design Editor Louise Pugh, staff designer Ray James, staff designer
Contributing Writers Ronn Elmore Psy.d Paul Phillips, Esq.
Photo Tracey Jacobs, staff photographer Judy Rasberry, staff photographer
Online Presence Randall Ogans, staff member
Writers Nancy Alicea, staff writer Ronnica Gaines, staff writer Daphne Harris, staff writer Cheryl Jackson, staff writer Djuan Perry, staff writer Charleia Price, staff writer
Administration Cheryl Jackson, admin. asst. Nancy Alicea, admin. asst.
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scholarship. So she required that her family receive an apology from the police chief. I embraced that, because it was so inspiring.
CL: Kyron, how do you balance your home life, school life and your music?
One look at Kyron “K-Frost” Kirby and you get the sense that this young man is different. Not different because of his physical appearance due to Albinism, but different because of the way he carries himself. At 12 years old he has a “presence” about himself. He exudes a quiet, humble confidence, and when you see his parents, you see where he gets it from. As Kirby and his parents enter the fellowship hall to meet for our interview, you immediately get the sense of a family that has been tried in the fire, but have come out as pure gold. There is a peace and stability that emanates from each of them, telling of the wisdom gleaned and the genuine love and care they have for others. Many know Kyron as a drummer extraordinaire and a child prodigy. While both of those are true, Kyron is also a young man on a mission to inspire others to embrace themselves and love who God created them to be. Kyron, his mom, Bennie, and his dad, Flip, sit down with Centered Living for a candid interview and share a little bit of their lives with us.
CL: This first question is for all three of you to answer individually: tell us a little about “K-Frost” – who is he and what does the name signify? Kyron: K-Frost was a name that was actually given to me by a rapper; his name is Shock-G [of the group Digital Underground]. He came to our house to
hear me play; first he called me “Frosty Freeze”. My dad was like, “can you give him another one?” and Shock said ok then, “K-Frost”. So when I get on the drums it’s like I transform from Kyron Kirby into my stage presence.
Flip: To me, “K-Frost” fits his whole
personality, from his looks to his talent. Bennie: Well, first I think people have to understand that Shock-G is a man with tremendous talent and vision, and Kyron was only about three years old the time they met. Upon meeting Kyron he was just in awe with his talent and his appearance, he said, “I’ve gotta give him a name!” I thought it was a very creative name, given his talent and physical appearance.
CL: Let’s talk a bit about the name Kyron – does it have any significance or meaning?
Bennie: I’m not sure if you remember but, Barbara Vandell was a member of our church [Center of Praise] and her son Kyron was killed back in the 90’s. At that time I didn’t have any plans of having any more children, but I said if I ever had a son, I would name him after Kyron because I admired how Barbara handled the whole situation. They tried to label her son’s killing as gang related and as something negative, when in actuality Kyron was on his way to college on a full
Kyron: Well, it’s kind of hard because a lot of my friends see my videos on YouTube and they like to call me “K-Frost”, but at school I preferred to be referred to as Kyron because I’m not on the stage. When I’m not on stage I’m always asking my dad to take me to play basketball or to the arcade to do regular things. Then there are times that I tend to like the fame and think, “I should be able to do things because I’m ‘K-Frost’”. That’s when I realize I have to back it up a bit; tone it down a little. Flip: It’s not a hard thing at all really,
to train with Kyron. We just make sure to stress what’s really important, like a good education. We try not to put pressure on him, and make sure he goes in the right direction, because of our experiences. We make sure we keep him in church, and that he knows the Word. Those are the kinds of things we try to instill in him.
Bennie: And you’re wearing a lot of hats. You’re a mom, and you’re trying to manage a career, but they’re your child first. You take a totally different interest in the decisions that are made, and the people he’s around. The circle that he’s involved in is very critical for us. We just try to make sure we always keep him focused and humble, and that he also understands the importance of giving back and loving on people. As a parent it’s a juggling act to perform, but at the end of the day music is not something we’ve ever had to force him to do, and we don’t. He’s never had a lesson or formal training, it’s just a part of his DNA…a gift, and that’s how we treat it.
Kyron: I do; I can play the Kalimba, keyboard, bass and lead guitar special about the drums? Why are you drawn to it?
Kyron: Well, my dad use to play [the
drums] for [artists] like Bobby Brown, S.W.V., and After 7. So, one day while I was looking for my Barney tape (I use to have a TV and VCR in my room) I stumbled upon a tape that actually showed my dad playing the drums! I was excited and remember asking my dad. “Daddy, is that you?! I want to do that!” I remember for Christmas he brought me my first drumset, and I just remember him saying, “Man, this boy can play!” I was actually three years old that Christmas.
Flip: We definitely knew he had a gift at an early age.
Bennie: Yes, from about the age of two
we could tell. He would take my pots and pans, Tupperware; oatmeal boxes – and spread them out to make music. He knew that he needed different containers to make different sounds. I could never find my pots!
Bennie: I’m an avid reader; I go into my “reading mode”. I like planning projects that make a difference. I love to travel and explore different places and countries. I also love to work out! Flip: What helps me is when I give
back, especially to kids in the community. It may sound weird, but I really do love giving, it relaxes me. I love spending time with my family as well.
Kyron: Having fun! I like to relax, kick back, play basketball and play my drums.
Flip: NOAH has helped us to understand
some of the challenges Kyron might face. From the day he was born we were told by doctors about the things he couldn’t do, especially when it came to his sight. Kyron is apart of the Society for the Blind. So when we look at Kyron, we know we’re looking at a miracle.
Bennie:
At the end of the day we always instill in Kyron that there are no limitations to what he can do. He’s no different from anyone else.
Resources: For more information on Kyron Kirby, Albinism and the Society for the Blind, check out these links below:
http://www.kyronkirby.com/
CL: Kyron, tell us what music means to
you?
Kyron: Well right now my friends and
I are in a band called “Legends in Time” – it’s only a three piece band, but music is so important to all of us. When we play, it’s like we all speak the same language, even when
Flip:
It’s been a journey and a joy. When I was his age, I couldn’t play half as good as Kyron, not only is he a drummer, he’s a minister and an inspiration to our family and everyone he meets.
CL: Kyron, how does it feel to hear your parents speak of you that way?
not speaking. Music allows me to have a good time with no worries, and my parents love to hear me play.
Kyron: It makes me feel good because
CL: After visiting Kyron’s website, I noticed a lot of information on Albinism, and one organization I know you are affiliated with is NOAH. Can you explain to us what that’s all about?
CL: Kyron, what would be the one thing you
Bennie: It’s the National Organization for Albinism and Hypopigmentation. I serve on the board and I work with people of color within the organization. We didn’t know Kyron had albinism when I was pregnant; we didn’t know much about the condition. But after he was born I immediately linked with NOAH. So in essence they shed a whole new light on us, and were a very valuable resource. We learned that Albinism stems from a recessive gene that
http://www.kyronkirby.com/kfrostVideosetaa.html http://www.kyronkirby.com/kfrostVideosetb.html http://www.albinism.org/ http://www.buildindependence.org/ http://societyfortheblind.org/
some people don’t understand why I look different, and to tell you the truth, it kind of hurts my feelings. But when people come to me and say that I’m an inspiration, it just makes me feel good.
would want people to know about those living with Albinism?
Kyron: I would tell them that we’re no different than anyone else. And for me, above all else, I’m a man of God – I love being myself. CL: With everything that you all have going
Larishia Johnson is a Sacramento resident by way of Longview TX, and Los Angeles, CA; she the Editor-in-Chief of Centered Living magazine. She’s been a member of Center of Praise for over 15 years, serving within the worship and fine arts ministry as well as serving as the Missions Study Educator for the Global & Cross Cultural Ministry. In addition to her passion for creative writing and teaching, she’s a talented singer, an avid cook, a proud wife and mommy. She’s currently working on a novel and hosts a weekly blog entitled HYPERLINK "http://blackgirlsswim. blogspot.com/" Black Girls DO Swim. Larishia believes that Loving God and loving people is all there is to do.
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CL: With that being said, what is it that is
we both carry, and even with that there’s only about a 25% chance of having a child with Albinism. So statistically speaking, it’s very rare. NOAH has just been awesome. They have a conference every two years, so he’s been able to grow up with other children with Albinism, which is so critical. Children need to see other people that look like them. NOAH has been a blessing, a lifesaver, and a joy. They help us not just to connect locally, but internationally. For instance, we send sunblock to Africa, specifically to Uganda and Kenya. Whenyou think about it, sunblock is something that we take for granted but it’s so critical to children in Africa. Many have to travel to another country to get sunblock, not a city, but another country. It’s such aminimal thing that many don’t have access to. This is something that a group of us do quarterly.
on, what keeps you centered?
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A Remarkable Woman of God
Dr. Rhonda E. Carroll
A remarkable woman, whose obedience in the Lord has led her life to endless paths of new heights. Many of you may already know Dr. Rhonda E. Carroll through her reverent history with Center of Praise. Or maybe you remember her from the many hats she has worn throughout her life: bible teacher, youth director, minister, elder pastor, worship leader. You may have heard about her missions work or travels to many cities and countries where she spent her time ministering to others. Maybe you have heard her angelic voice on one of her music albums or read one of her inspiring books. For those of you who have not had the honor of meeting this extremely blessed and phenomenal woman of God, Centered Living invites you to join us as we get to know more about Dr. Carroll and where our Lord is currently leading her life. CL: Tell us a little about yourself and your vision. Dr. Carroll: My vision is to: empower, enhance, enlighten and en courage people to move forward in their gifts and talents for the cause of the King. CL: What is your connection and history to Bishop Lovelace and Center of Praise Ministries? Dr. Carroll: My connection to COP runs far and deep. Bishop Lovelace and his family, along with my family were part of the same church when we were all in junior high and high school. I was really close to his family. Bishop had started Citywide Praise & Worship Conventions in Sacramento. My sister
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Deaconess Felicia Watson was the coordinator for these conventions. We would have these conventions where worship and praise was the total focus. We would have worship and praise for one hour straight! It was glorious! That is where we learned to just literally bow before the Lord in reverent silence. We grew in singing in the Spirit. We grew in prophetic ministry. It was incredibly awesome! Pretty indescribable! I can’t tell you how beneficial it was to learn the true meaning of worship under Bishop Lovelace (who was not a bishop at that time) because I now train worship leaders and help ministries create, establish, and maintain worship teams in their churches. It’s awesome! When COP was formulated and launched I was at the first service that they held at a hotel. I have been a part of COP since its inception. I was the first “official” youth director for five years and in 2007 I was asked by Bishop to start the Global and Cross-Cultural Ministry that we currently have at our church. I am no stranger to COP and I have had the privilege of seeing the ministry in its inception with 20 members grown to what it is today, with over 3.000 members and five Sunday services. What an exciting thing for me to witness. CL: Where are you currently living
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and serving? Dr. Carroll: Due to The Father’s mandate and destiny for my life regarding living and serving overseas, I am currently in China serving as an international teacher at an international school. I am also doing missionary (or “M” work, as we call it) during holiday breaks with an organization called Liaoning International General Health Trainers (L.I.G.H.T.). The “M” work that I am involved in is visitation to various nursinghomes around the city. Periodically, the orphanages are opened up to foreigners to go and love on the babies, toddlers and children. CL: How long have you served in China? Dr. Carroll: I have served in China for a total of three years. Initially, from 2006 – 2007, I lived and
CL: What is your current occupation? Dr. Carroll: My current occupation is an international/global teacher. I teach middle school language arts (English grammar and reader are inclusive). CL: How does that incorporate with ministry? Dr. Carroll: We daily integrate ministry and occupation easily, for the international school’s core beliefs are that of the Christian faith. With that, I can start and end every class with prayer. Additionally, the students have opportunities to do the same; therefore, the students are learning about Jesus and how personal He is. They are growing and developing in their prayer lives as they speak forth words of gratitude with a sincere heart. CL: A specific instance when your perspective of ministry changed. Dr. Carroll: If you are referring to the perspective change being that of which I really began to understand what ministry really means – service or to serve (which is what the word “ministry” means) it was when the reality of why I was doing what I was doing moved to the forefront of my mind and really permeated in my heart. It was and currently is for the “cause of The King” – the reason I minister, the reason I am passionate about ministry. CL: What are some challenges you had to overcome? Dr. Carroll: Of course there have been several challenges to overcome since being in ministry and truly saying a wholehearted “yes” to the Lord. I endured a 20-year chronic bone disease. I just received relief from that daily pain
2008. I am an overcomer of physical pain. I have had challenges of overcoming low self-esteem. When the scripture became a reality to me of me being “fearfully and wonderfully made,” then I was able to begin building a holistic life. I’ve also overcome challenges of various insecurities. There is a passage in His word that affirms that “I am for you” as well as Psalm 20 – “When I came into the sanctuary, I found help.” I am so glad that I am an overcomer by the blood of the Lamb and by the words of my testimony. CL: What do you love most about where you’re at? Dr. Carroll: I KNOW that I am in the center of the Father’s divine will and plan for my life. Although I had never heard of Shenyang (the city where I am currently living) but my Father knew it existed and He orchestrated me to be here for such a time as this! The other thing that I love most about where I am is the fact that I can teach creatively, as well as every day. I can teach what would be a general subject – I can teach it globally (with there being so many varied cultures, ethnicities, languages, etc) and still connect all of my students through one common ground – the English language and the ability to learn. Lastly, I love being where I am because I have been able to create, implement and maintain the school’s counseling program. I see students of all backgrounds, for all kinds of reasons. I think the best part of the counseling program is that I can walk alongside the students, parents and or teachers that I see and counsel and witness the change, the growth and the life transformation. I thank my Father for sending me here at this time. CL: What does “next level” mean to you? Dr. Carroll: The term “next level” tends to be part of trendy language in Christendom today; however, in a blanket sense, what it means
to me is that we are open to develop into the next realm or we are unafraid to expand, extend, and express that which our Father instructs us, no matter what occurs. The next level can also refer to nomediocrity – going “beyond” the boundaries that may have been previously set. I believe at some point and time, Christians should want to do more than what we’re currently doing, understanding that our Father constantly desires that we continue to do “greater works” than these. Therefore, as I continue reading the book of Acts – to me the Apostles lived in the “next level” constantly. I don’t see much where the Apostles (those who had been with Jesus) debated or disputed among themselves regarding the works of the Spirit or miracles or anything concerning spiritual things, as the Pharisees did many times. Hence, if “the next level” can truly be defined as what I’ve expressed above, comparing with the works of the Apostles – then, I want to live in the “next level” for the rest of my life. CL: What keeps you centered? Dr Carroll: My consistent relationship with my Heavenly Father. I truly have a personal relationship with Jesus. I know that He knows me and I am knowing Him every day. He is the One who keeps me centered for He is my core. He is who I am because I am in Him and His Spirit is in me, actively living and freely operating within me. For additional information on Dr. Rhonda E. Carroll Feel free to visit her website at www.DrRhondaECarrollMinistries.org
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served in Chengdu, Sichuan Prov ince. After being in America for about a year and a half, I returned to China but I now live and serve in Shenyang, Liaoning Province and have been here since April 2009.
Nancy Alicea considers herself to be a loving and caring follower of Christ, with a heart for those in need. She fell in love with COP a little over a year ago and has been attending ever since. She is starting to get her feet wet in learning and trying out new things. Currently on the agenda is learning a new language, learning how to play the piano. She also has plans on attending Bible college for further knowledge, clarity, and empowerment to better serve God’s people.
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In Harmony By: Dr. Ronn Elmore
T
hey all tend to use the same words to tell their stories: “not happy,” “disappointed,” “unsatisfied,” “unfair.” It is the vocabulary of growing numbers of discontented spouses everywhere. Husbands and wives who didn’t know that it would be like this; who feel they must have somehow ended up at the wrong address; that they said “I do” to the wrong person. Now they just want out. With a deep, weary sigh they usually go on the explain how much better off they would be, if only… Over the course of a long marriage there may at times seem to be another place, another feeling, another person – so much more ideal for you than the one you already have. Numbed by frustration and discontent, it is easy to begin fantasizing about another relationship that suits you in all the ways this one doesn’t. The “had you known then what you know now” option would have been your choice, without a doubt. Slowly but surely, when you allow yourself to constantly daydream about this supposedly “ideal” situation, you will become convinced that you can – and should – make it a reality. You become more certain that who and what you have now is just not worth it. “After all,” you’ll say, “God could not possibly require me to go on like this when a more fulfilling choice is available – if only I weren’t married to you know who.” Beware! Your mind can lead you down some very destructive paths. You can’t possibly focus on what your marriage can be if you stay forever obsessed with what it isn’t, or with how much greener the grass is “over there.” “Over there” is nothing but an illusion, masterminded by Satan. It is a cunning, Page 8
three-dimensional, beautifully adorned illusion that deceives discontented spouses into believing that it’s real. Buy into it, and you will gradually begin to emotionally, spiritually and physically disengage from your mate and your marriage. You’ll pronounce it a lost cause that could not possibly be God’s will for you. Being single again, or being married to someone better, will appear to be your true destiny. When we believe our fantasies of how the future could be, we will soon believe that we have the God-given right to go and make it happen.
You can’t bring the best faith, selfsacrifice and commitment to your real marriage when you are completely consumed with the fantasy one. In the end, the one you focus the most attention on is the one that will survive. Our decisions are determined by our perceptions and beliefs. As a man thinketh in his heart so is he. Dissatisfaction grows from obsessing over repeated disappointments and making foolish comparisons of your marriage to someone else’s. Contentment, on the other hand, comes from determined effort and unshakable faith in the God by whom all things hold together – including your marriage. Contentment is the result of practicing consistent gratitude for what is good about your mate and your marriage, instead of keeping such detailed
records of what’s wrong. It is reembracing your commitment to your stale, presently unsatisfying marriage again, and yet again, in spite of how foolish it may feel. Contentment is neither a fruit of positive thinking or emotional manipulation; it is simply a daily decision to rest in the assurance that your God is bigger than your circumstances, and that He is able to do what you cannot do for yourself. Many will read these words and declare that contentment is only possible after God chooses to enliven their stale marriage. God often does His most awesome acts for those who choose to be content before He does anything at all. Contentment declares your mate and your vows to be more valuable than your feelings. Your conflicts become opportunities, not simply to get your own way, but to see into the pained, fearful heart of the one you once loved. Contentment is the gritty assurance that God is well able to build into your marriage something far more satisfying that what you believe is only available elsewhere. You may not have control over your spouse or everything about your marriage, but you can learn, whatever state you are in, to be content. ©For Ronn Elmore, Psy.d. information about his relationship enrichment For information his relationship products as wellabout as private counseling practice for enrichment and private counseling individualsproducts and couples call (916) 760-0401practice or visitfor individual www.drronn.com and Alsocouples visit call (916) 760-0401 www.fi ndingsoulmatesuccess.com www.drronn.com Dr. Ronn’s brand new advice website for smart, single women.
Troy Alexander Nichols, 26 and Emerson Bonner Luke, 23 are not your average twenty-somethings. While corporate world, these two men have focused their lives on building the next generation of leaders; a new g they’re age, they’re both highly gifted and anointed Pastors within the Center of Praise Ministries in Sacramen (H.A.L.O., which stands for Heaven’s Appointed Leaders in Obedience), while Pastor Emerson leads the Young up with these “Leaders of the New School” for a candid and enlightening discussion on the work they’re call CL: How did you come to find yourself at Center of Praise? Nichols: I was actually introduced to this ministry by brother, Russell. We’re from Richmond, CA. So, when I came up to Sacramento to go to school it was difficult to find a church home. After a few years my brother stumbled upon Center of Praise and he kept telling me about a church he found in Sacramento that I needed to check out. I came one Sunday to “check it out”, and have been here ever since. Luke: I was introduced to COP by my godfather, Dr. Ronn Elmore,
who would come and preach here periodically. I was a college student in Boston, and whenever I was home on break I would come and support him. One day there was an altar call at COP [that I responded to], and I didn’t know Bishop Lovelace from
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Adam, and he prophesied specifically to me that God had awe that I was involved with campus ministry at my college. And little did both of us know that I would end up ministering at COP. God was up to something, I’m just glad He chose me to be a part of it.
CL: In your own words, describe youth and young adult leadership
Luke: I think that young adults, more than anything, hunger for authenticity. No longer is it trendy to be a Christian in our generation. So with the young adults that are here, we have the honor of discipling them. They want a genuine and authentic encounter with God. We can’t have gimmicks and expect that to serve people. We need to foster an environment where people can have a genuine encounter with Jesus. That happens through worship experience, small group discipleship, good sound
(preacher’s kid) who grew up in church. That kind of caused me to stray a little bit, because I was close enough to see the behind the scenes and how ministry can be life consuming. I saw my grandfather and dad come home tired and exhausted at times. Being a PK allowed me to see more than just the “Sunday Morning” experience, and to be honest at times it was not pretty. So during the college years I went through my own wilderness experience. But because I did have a solid foundation, I found my way home. I would defiantly say my grandparents and my parents were my biggest influences spiritually. I still have to talk to my mom at least twice a week!
Luke: You know, I didn’t grow up in church. I came from a
culturally Christian household. If you asked us on a survey if we were Christians we would unequivocally check yes. It was Dr. Ronn Elmore who introduced me to Jesus. It was while in college that I was discipled by two primary people. The first was a Japanese American man by the name of Mako Nagasawa, who really expanded my understanding of what it meant to follow Jesus. That it’s not all about just getting to Heaven, but it’s the reality that we see our roles as co-laborers with Christ, embracing His mission. The second person was a man by the name of Pastor Troy Good. I loved his leadership style because he wouldn’t just disciple me, but he would take me with him. So when he went to visit the sick, or go to conferences, he would have me pray. He discipled like Jesus did. He didn’t say sit here and watch me do it, but would say no, you do it too. That was very influential for me. I try to pattern the way I serve in ministry after that.
CL: From your perspective, what is the most important issue facing the group you serve today?
e most men their age are focused on career pursuits in the generation of young disciples of Christ. Also unlike most men nto, CA. Pastor Troy heads the Children and Youth Ministries g Adult Ministry (NuSkool). Centered Living was able to catch led to do, the lives they shape and their heart for the future.. teaching and cultivating a missional mindset.
Nichols: Essentially what we try at H.A.L.O. is to cultivate leaders by providing a community. Teenagers are looking for something solid to grab on to, and here we have the opportunity to lead them to Christ. Christ is the ultimate example of stability for anyone to grab hold to, no matter what their unique struggle might be. So that by the time our youth do get be young adults they have the confidence to understand that being a Christian may not be trendy, but it’s a true lifestyle that they can really be proud of, and have a swagger about themselves. In H.A.L.O. we’re training them to “Step Up and Stand Out.”
CL: Were you influenced by any Youth Leaders growing up? If so, explain how. If not, how do you think that influence would have changed you, if at all?
Nichols: Trust. I think that’s the biggest thing that our youth struggle with. This is a time of transition for them; there’s not a lot of stability in their lives, even for that teenager who has mom and dad at home; raised in church. But that’s not the average population we serve. Our kids are looking for a place and a person they can grab on to. So as a leader, I make sure to always direct them to God, not to me, but to God. But at the same time, I try to make sure that I balance that with providing consistent, authentic relationship. That builds trust. Luke: Identity. Who am I? What am I here for? What does it mean to not be a kid anymore, but also not be where I want to be yet? What has God called me do and be? Identity is huge struggle for young adults. I think that the key to overcoming that struggle is abiding in Christ. Learning and then knowing who you are in Him. Nichols: See, what I like about us sitting here talking
together is that it’s really showing me the relationship of our roles. By the time our youth are young adults, trust in Christ should be established. They don’t have to experience some of the pressure and confusion of not knowing who you are. We can help them in such a way that struggling with identity is not that much of a struggle. By then, they will have come to know and
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just be. believe who they are in Christ. They will have hopefully come to learn to trust Christ.
Luke: So basically what he’s [Pastor Troy] saying is he gets to do all the dirty work for me!
Nichols: But seriously, when you think about it, when we
approach the ministry of reaching our children, we should look at identifying the role of each group. The children’s ministry’s role should be to introduce them to Christ. The role of the youth ministry is to inspire and expand. Where the role of the young adult ministry is to work on identify and get them to work. It causes you to get a holistic picture. CL: Take us through what a typical NuSkool and H.A.L.O. celebration looks like.
Luke: Well, I come from the perspective that it’s all about relationships, so at a NuSkool First Friday, for the first 25 minutes, we’re literally eating pizza, listening to music, talking to each other and catching up. We don’t consider that a waste a time; it’s very intentional and strategic. And it also helps us out because you know, some people like to come late, so I’m not going to lie, pizza and music can be some good incentives. But after that, we pray, spend time in worship, then we’ll hear a word, usually from me, but not always. We have guests that come in. And a lot of times after that we’ll do some type of fun activity like bowling. We just have a good, authentic time with the Lord and each other. Nichols: We have a variety of venues that we gather at, but
I’ll talk about our First Sunday gathering that we call, “Servin’ Up”. We call it that because we really want to give the kids an opportunity to serve “up” towards God. They’re also being fed a word from God. So, they’re being served, while they serve. We meet once a month in the fellowship hall, and it’s awesome. We start off with an icebreaker. From there, we actually follow a similar format to the way Sunday Morning Celebrations are orchestrated for the adults, and that’s intentional. We want them to understand the flow of our church culture. So the youth will lead Praise and Worship, usher, and sometimes perform skits. The only difference is during the time we share the Word, we allow for authentic exchange to build relationship and trust. We consider this a training ground.
CL: With everything that you have to balance between ministry, self and family, what keeps you centered? Nichols: I find joy in being with my beautiful wife, Cynarra, and
family. I love to travel too – pack it up and just hit the freeway. I like to find those quiet times with God – no distractions – to
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Luke: I have a small group of Christian friends that keep me grounded. They are so real with me, and I appreciate it. I love ping pong, believe it or not. Most importantly I would also have to say, honestly, time with the Lord really keeps me centered. Spending time with Him, just to spend time with Him reminds me that the essence of what I’m created to do is worship and please Him. For more information on H.A.L.O. Nation or NuSkool, visit www.centerofpraise.net to stay up to date on the latest happenings. H.A.L.O. Gatherings & Contact Information: • Servin’ Up… : 1st Sundays at the Center of Praise Cathedral in Mary Spears Fellowship Hall, 10:30am • Weekly Round-Up Bible Study 7:00pm • The L.A.B. (tutoring program)- Thursday’s 5:00-7:00pm registration required • Youth Retreat June 10-12th • Stay even more connected to H.A.L.O. by texting halonation 313131 to get weekly scriptures and updates. Standard text messaging rates apply. • Pastor Troy can be reached at halo@centerofpraise.net . NuSkoolGatherings & Information: • Young Adult Celebration: 1st Fridays at the Center of Praise Cathedral, 7pm • Small Group Gatherings: Women meet 1st& 3rd Tuesdays Men meet 2nd& 4th Wednesdays. Coed meetings are every Tuesday at UC Davis, 8pm at Olsen 167 • Pastor Emerson can be reached at youngadults@centerofpraise.net
Larishia Johnson is a Sacramento resident by way of Longview TX, and Los Angeles, CA; she the Editor-in-Chief of Centered Living magazine. She’s been a member of Center of Praise for over 15 years, serving within the worship and fine arts ministry as well as serving as the Missions Study Educator for the Global & Cross Cultural Ministry. In addition to her passion for creative writing and teaching, she’s a talented singer, an avid cook, a proud wife and mommy. She’s currently working on a novel and hosts a weekly blog entitled Black Girls DO Swim. Larishia believes that Loving God and loving people is all there is to do.
Entered Life November 11, 1935
Entered Eternal Life February 27, 2011
Thank You from the Lovelace Family . . . . We would like to extend our heartfelt appreciation to all of our many church family members and friends for your gracious and prayerful support during the time of our bereavement for our father, Parnell M. Lovelace, Sr. We have been overwhelmed by the numerous tributes, communications, cards and condolences that have been shared from those around the nation. Your love and support shall always be cherished and remembered. Our father shall be honored in Home Going Celebrations in the city of San Diego, California on March 3, 2011, and again on March 7, 2011 at the Mountain Springs Baptist Church in Anderson County, South Carolina. He will be laid to rest with his parents and 13 siblings that precede him into eternity, within the Mountain Springs Church Cemetery. Again, thank you for being an awesome church family. I am honored to serve as your shepherd. Colossians 1:3
Bishop and Mrs. Parnell M. Lovelace, Jr. and family
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By: Paul Phillips, Esq. The graying of America has given senior citizens a powerful political voice, resulting in the passage of state and federal laws protecting the elderly from abuse or neglect. But sadly, crimes against the elderly are still committed by individuals and institutions caring for elder adults. According to the National Center on Elder Abuse (NCEA), for every reported incident of elder abuse or neglect, five others go unreported. More than two-thirds of those committing elder abuse are members of the victims' families. Institutional abuse generally involves abuse committed by a person who has a legal or contractual obligation to care for the elderly adult in a nursing home, foster home or other similar residential facility.
Elder Abuse Laws
Numerous accounts of maltreatment led state and federal lawmakers to pass a series of laws intended to protect elderly victims. The federal Older Americans Act of 1965 and the federal Vulnerable Elder Rights Protection Program established in 1992 were instrumental in promoting state laws to address needs and concerns of the elderly. In California, the Elder Abuse and Dependent Adult Civil Protection Act protects the elderly and dependant adults from "physical abuse, neglect, fiduciary abuse, abandonment, isolation or other treatment with resulting physical harm or pain or mental suffering, or the deprivation by a care custodian of goods or services which are necessary to avoid physical harm or mental suffering."
Criminal Elder Abuse Laws
To protect the elderly and express society's abhorrence toward such offenses, California created special offenses for crimes against the elderly. Assault, battery, domestic violence and sexual assault statutes incorporate elder protection, with enhanced sentences imposed if the victim is over 65 or considered a “dependent adult.” In California assault, battery or assault with a deadly weapon cases, it is mandatory for judges to issue orders of restitution requiring guilty parties to pay for older victims’ medical and psychological treatment.
enforcement agencies to investigate reports, intervene, and even remove elderly victims from abusive circumstances. Multidisciplinary teams are being used— combining the knowledge of medical, mental health, social service, legal, and law enforcement professionals to better evaluate an elderly victim's needs. Appropriate protective services can then be offered to elder abuse victims. A restraining order may be imposed to prohibit further emotional abuse of an elderly victim.
Special Provisions for Institutional Abuse
California has also created measures to address abuse in institutional settings. Authorities are granted special powers to investigate reports of abuse in nursing homes and care facilities, and to revoke or deny operating permits to institutions that violate laws or allow their employees to commit offenses against the elderly in their care. Provisions exist to protect employees who report institutional abuse from retaliation by their employers. California has established ombudsman programs to receive, investigate, and resolve the grievances of patients residing in long-term care facilities. California also established registries of caregivers and medical personnel convicted of elder abuse to allow potential employers to conduct more complete criminal history background checks of applicants for positions involving care of the elderly. In lawsuits, a successful plaintiff may be awarded punitive damages when the respondent's conduct was a malicious, willful disregard of the older patient's rights.
Civil Remedies
California has special provisions to enable the elderly to bring civil action. If an older person suffers personal injury or death caused by abuse or neglect, a plaintiff can recover for past medical expenses, future predicted medical expenses, past wage loss, future predicted wage loss and for past and future pain and suffering. California allows the heirs or survivors in an elder abuse case to be awarded damages for the pain and suffering and emotional distress that the elder incurred before he or she died. If there is a loss of money or property by exploitation, the offender may be ordered to pay up to three times the actual damages incurred. If the offender acted with recklessness, oppression, fraud, or malice, punitive damages can be imposed. The court can also order the person to pay the attorney's fees and costs of the person who initiated the lawsuit.
Conclusion
While significant strides have been made in recent years to address the needs and concerns of elderly victims, there is still much to be done. We still need more public education, stronger mandatory reporting, special training for criminal justice and social services professionals, and stiffer penalties for offenders who target the elderly.
Mandatory Reporting
California requires certain classes of professionals to report suspected abuse and neglect, including medical professionals, health care providers, mental health counselors, service providers, financial institutions and virtually all government agents who come in contact with the elderly. Such individuals must report evidence that leads them to "reasonably believe" that the elderly person in question is the victim of abuse or neglect. While California establishes penalties for those who fail to report, our state also provides immunity from civil suits or prosecution to those who make reports in "good faith"—even if those reports cannot be substantiated—to further encourage reporting of suspected abuse.
Investigation and Intervention
California empowers both social service and law
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For more information on laws in your area, contact your local prosecutor or adult protective services agency, an elder rights lawyer, or an elder rights advocacy organization, such as the Foundation Aiding the Elderly (FATE) at (916) 481-8558, www.4fate.org. The information is provided as a courtesy of The Phillips Law Offices, and constitutes only a brief summary of some general elder abuse issues and legal rights under California law. As such, it does not constitute legal advice, and you should contact law enforcement authorities and/or an attorney to discuss specific elder abuse concerns. Paul Phillips has been an attorney since 1987. Though his practice focuses mainly on labor and employment law, he takes a special interest in protecting the elderly and has represented elderly clients and their families in cases ranging from mortgage foreclosure to wrongful death. He can be reached at (916) 797-2232 or paul@pnphillipslaw.com.
Changing Lives One Mission at a Time and volunteers who have dedicated themselves to finding justice for these victims. IJM launched Project Lantern in Cebu Philippines four years ago with a generous donation from the Bill and Belinda Gates Foundation. The project tracked the results of training law enforcement on Women and children being exploited the practice of trafficking to reduce the every day and sold into slavery and number of children who become victims sexual bondage as a way of life. Widows to this becoming the victims of unlawful and horrific experience. The following illegal property seizures. Seems like the are the results since the project’s plot of a Hollywood movie or Broadway implementation: play, when in fact these scenarios are real and taking place every day in • External researchers found that the third-world countries. The majority of number of minors available for sexual the offenders are not prosecuted nor do exploitation plummeted 79 percent from they ever see one day behind bars. For the initial study four years ago. Project many women and children in African Lantern also has seen an increase in law countries, the Philippines, Guatemala, enforcement activity in sex trafficking Peru and many others, a life of slavery, cases. Also noted was the increase in abuse and injustice is an everyday services to survivors, such as shelter, reality. Many victims who suffer this counseling and career training. abuse very rarely see their abusers face any penalties for their actions. Such results prove that we can make a difference once we commit ourselves to The organization International Justice a cause. There are many opportunities Mission (IJM) exists to bring attention for volunteers with IJM, but also to the injustice of human trafficking locally and closer to home, there are throughout the world. They also make it many women and children who are their mission to train local governments victims of abuse and neglect who to recognize the abuse, rescue victims, need our support as well. Whether it’s provide aftercare and make perpetrators volunteering a few hours one day a pay for their actions. week at a local transitional home for women or donating health care products This organization is comprised of or clothes to the local children services lawyers, investigators, aftercare workers organization, we can all make an impact
in the lives of people who need it. If you can change just one life, you have made a difference. Our Savior, with His life, changed the lives of the entire world. Our goal and challenge is to introduce people to Christ and by sharing His unconditional love with them, what greater way to win souls for the Kingdom of Heaven?
Charleia Price was born in Cleveland, Ohio and grew up in California. Charleia is a Spoken Word Poet who has assisted with several Spoken Word venues in Ohio. She has been writing for over 16 years and is currently in the process of releasing her first book. Charleia currently attends Baldwin- Wallace College in Berea, Ohio and attends, The Word Church in Warrensville Heights, Ohio, under the teaching of Pastor R.A. Vernon. She moved to Sacramento in 1994 when she began attending Center of Praise. She currently resides in Willoughby Hills, Ohio. By staying rooted and grounded in the word and keeping Christ as the center of her life, Charleia’s success can only be classified as a miracle and a blessing.
Justice Center
By: Charleia Price
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Praise Him! Praise the LORD. Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever. PSALM 106:1 NIV Sometimes, in our rush to get things done, we simply don’t stop long enough to pause and thank our Creator for the countless blessings He has bestowed upon us. After all, we’re busy people with many demands upon our time . . . and we have so much to do. But when we slow down long enough to express our gratitude to the One who made us, we enrich our own lives and the lives of those around us. Thanksgiving should become a habit, a regular part of our daily routines. After all, God has blessed us beyond measure, and we owe Him everything, including our constant praise. So today, pause and count your blessings. Then, give thanks to the Giver. God’s love for you is neverending; your praise for Him should be never-ending, too. Be not afraid of saying too much in the praises of God; all the danger is of saying too little. ~Matthew Henry Stand up and bless the Lord, ye people of His choice; stand up and bless the Lord your God with heart and soul and voice. ~James Montgomery Nothing we do is more powerful or more life-changing than praising God. ~Stormie Omartian
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Our God is the sovereign Creator of the universe! He loves us as His own children and has provided every good thing we have; He is worthy of our praise every moment. ~Shirley Dobson
PRAYER Heavenly Father, today and every day I will praise You. I will praise You with my thoughts, my prayers, my words, and my deeds . . . now and forever. Amen Reprinted with permission by New Life Ministries (www.NewLife.com)
The Benefits of Chiropractic Care By: Dr. Sidney Bean
For the past 9 years I have had the wonderful opportunity of helping individuals throughout the Sacramento community reach optimal health by way of chiropractic care. But in doing so, I have run across many individuals that have many misconceptions about Chiropractic and are just not well informed. One of my primary goals is to educate as many people as I can about Chiropractic. Helping them have a clear idea of what to expect and what not to expect, what we do, and what we don’t do, but most importantly why. Most of my patients come into my office seeking relief of pain, whether it is for, headaches, neck pain, back pain, etc. But Chiropractic is far more then just pain relief. Chiropractic is a branch of the healing arts which is basedupontheunderstandingthatgoodhealthdepends, in part, upon a normally functioning nervous system (especially the spine, and the nerves extending from the spine to all parts of the body). "Chiropractic" comes from the Greek word Chiropraktikos, meaning "effective treatment by hand." Chiropractic stresses the idea that the cause of many disease processes begins with the body's inability to adapt to its environment. It looks to address these diseases not by the use of drugs and chemicals, but by locating and adjusting a musculoskeletal area of the body which is functioning improperly. The nervous system controls every part of the body and allows you to express true health. If one or more of the bones of the spine is not working properly due to stress or trauma, it can reduce your body’s ability to respond and adapt, and chiropractors call this a Subluxation (or in laymen terms a pinched
nerve). Overtime, if this remains uncorrected it can end end up producing pain or other symptoms. This is just like a dental cavity, getting worse overtime without hurting, until there is a major problem. Chiropractors use a standard procedure of examination to diagnose a patient's condition and arrive at a course of treatment. Doctors of chiropractic use the same time-honored methods of consultation, case history, physical examination, laboratory analysis and x-ray examination as any other doctor. In addition, they provide a careful chiropractic structural examination, paying particular attention to the spine. Chiropractic also places an emphasis on nutritional and exercise programs, wellness and lifestyle modifications for promoting physical and mental health. While chiropractors make no use of drugs or surgery, Doctors of chiropractic do refer patients for medical care when those interventions are indicated. In fact, chiropractors, medical doctors, physical therapists and other health care professionals now work as partners in occupational health, sports medicine, and a wide variety of other rehabilitation practices. If you have questions concerning this article please contact your health care provider or feel free to give Dr. Bean a call at Bean Chiropractic (916) 447-2200. You may also email him at drbean@beanchiropractic.com
Dr. Bean, D.C. is a native of California; he was born and raised in Modesto, CA, which is also where he practiced chiropractic prior to coming to Sacramento. He obtained his doctor of chiropractic degree from Palmer College of Chiropractic West in San Jose, CA. Prior to chiropractic school; he attended Southwestern Adventist University in Keene, TX. He graduated from SWAU with a Bachelors of Science degree in Psychology and a minor in Biology. During his time at Southwestern he was also a four-year member of the men's basketball team. His interests include hiking, bowling, fishing, golf, football, and basketball. Dr. Bean and his family have been members of the Center of Praise Ministries since mid 2007. Sidney B. Bean, DC Bean Chiropractic, 2716 V Street , Sacramento, CA 95818 www.beanchiropractic.com
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Does Your 401(K) Have a Mortgage?
Greetings Centered Living Readers I would like to continue our discussion from the previous issue. Previously we discussed the “mortgage” on your 401(K) and concluded that the mortgage is the future taxes that you will be required to pay on the withdrawals from it. Who is your mortgage holder? The government. Your “mortgage rate” is determined by the tax rate at the time you begin to take withdrawals. Most experts agree that with our current deficit taxes will have to increase in order to pay off our huge debt. 401(K)s and other tax qualified plans do not avoid tax, they simply delay tax and by delaying tax, these plans compound tax, making the tax burden much, much worse. The question is how do we avoid this problem and keep more of our retirement nest egg? You need to move your money from accounts that are forever taxed to accounts that are never taxed. Ed Slott, America’s IRA expert, seen by millions on public television, says the two best retirement planning tools are: 1. Roth IRAs 2. Properly structured 3. Life Insurance Roth IRAs are great because you make after tax contributions, your proceeds grow tax free and you can make tax free withdrawals. The drawback is there are limits on amounts you can contribute. Previously there were limits to the amount of income you could earn in order to be eligible to contribute. However, beginning in
2010 you can make qualified rollover contributions to a Roth IRA regardless of the amount of your adjusted gross income. If you are eligible to do so, you should take advantage of opportunities to contribute to Roth IRAs. Properly structured Life insurance is the single biggest benefit in the tax code because money grows tax free and comes out income tax free. But, unlike Roth IRAs there are no contribution limitations. Why does the government allow such a tax break? Because they know most people won’t use it because they are short sighted and focus on upfront cost of life insurance and not on the big long-term tax free benefit.(People look for instant gratification) TEFRA, DEFRA and TAMRA are the pieces of tax legislation that were enacted in the 1980s. These laws dictate how much insurance versus cash value you are required to have within the contract in order to receive the special tax treatment. The government allows this tax treatment under IRS Code Section 7702. This tax advantage rule was tested in the Supreme Court. The IRS challenged this rule and lost and the court ruled in favor of the structure of a life insurance contract in its current form There are very few financial advisors that know how to properly evaluate your situation and design a plan to stay within the IRS guidelines. Remember the goal
is to enjoy tax free growth and tax free distributions. Has you advisor ever given you a breakdown as to what your possible income will be when you reach retirement and how long your money will last? Remember, in order to keep more of your retirement nest egg, you need to move your money from accounts that are forever taxed to accounts that are never taxed. Where are you accounts now? I appreciate you taking the time to review this column, and I hope that you found it informative. If you have any questions in reference to this article or any other financial planning issues, feel free to contact me. Have a blessed day and remember to live “centered”. Eric Creer eric@creersolutions.com (916) 801-5786
Eric Creer has been in the financial services and planning industry for over 10 years. A graduate of Duke University with a degree in Economics, he is a registered tax preparer and a licensed life agent. Over the years he has been involved in a number of advanced planning seminars and workshops. Eric and his family have been attending COP for over 4 years. Each issue he will provide information to help you and your family secure financial well being and peace of mind.
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IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO PROTECT A CHILD
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April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. Child abuse and maltreatment is a topic that we are often fearful of discussing, but one that plagues our communities. “Next level” thinking means we have to become comfortable addressing issues we fear, so that we can educate, enlighten, advocate, and empower children who don’t have a voice. Before we discuss what we can do to make change and bring healing, let’s talk statistics. Child Abuse Statistics: Each State defines child abuse and neglect and various types of maltreatment in its statutes and policies, however, the Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA), (42 U.S.C.A. §5106g), as amended by the Keeping Children and Families Safe Act of 2003, defines child abuse and neglect as, at a minimum: Any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation; or an act or failure to act, which presents an imminent risk of serious harm. For the first time, in 2009, the Child Maltreatment Reports are able to provide information on the number of child victims in two different ways. First, the duplicate count of child victims counts a child each time he or she was found to be a victim of child abuse and/or neglect. Secondly, the unique count of child victims counts a child only once, regardless of how often the child is Page 20
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reported as a victim during the reporting year. According to Child Maltreatment 2009, the most recent report of data from the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System (NCANDS), a nationally estimated 763,000 duplicate and 702,000 unique number of children were found to be victims of child maltreatment in the Federal fiscal year (FFY) 2009. Based on the unique number of victims, an estimated 78 percent (78.3) Possible signs of abuse: suffered neglect, Types of abuse:
The first step in helping abused or neglected children is learning to The examples provided below recognize the signs of child abuse are for general informational and neglect. The presence of a purposes only. Not all States’ single sign does not prove child definitions will include all of abuse is occurring in a family, but a the examples listed below, and individual States’ definitions may closer look at the situation may be warranted when these signs appear cover additional situations not repeatedly or in combination. mentioned here. See the “What Is Child Abuse and Neglect” fact If you do suspect a child is being sheet for detailed definitions. harmed, reporting your suspicions http://www.childwelfare.gov/ may protect the child and get help pubs/factsheets/whatiscan.cfm for the family. Any concerned per•
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Denies the existence of—or blames the child for—the child’s problems in school or at home Outside of responding to immediate emergencies, we have a responsibility Asks teachers or other careto educate ourselves about child abuse givers to use harsh physical to diminish the taboo. There are many discipline if the child misbeproactive things that can be done to enhaves lighten ourselves towards a collective movement against child abuse. Whether Sees the child as entirely bad, you are a parent, grandparent, caretaker worthless, or burdensome or concerned citizen, our children need us to be their advocate. Demands a level of physical or academic performance the April is National Child Abuse Prevention child cannot achieve Month. Take some time and visit the list Looks primarily to the child for of resources below, not just for educational purposes, but for inspiration that care, attention, and satisfacmoves you to action. If you, or someone tion of emotional needs
• • you know are or have been a victim of child abuse, you are not alone, there is help. It is ok to talk about it. Unlocking the silence is key. Let today be the day you take that first step towards freedom and getting the help you or someone you love, deserve. Resources: National Child Abuse Prevention Month: http://www.childwelfare.gov/ preventing/preventionmonth/ Child Welfare: http://www.childwelfare.gov/preventing/communities/ activities_programs.cfm Child Welfare FAQ: http://www. childwelfare.gov/can/faq.cfm Adult Survivors Resource: http:// www.ascasupport.org/ Child Help National Abuse Hotline: http://www.childhelp.org/pages/hotline Child Abuse Reporting Numbers: http://www.dss.cahwnet.gov/cdssweb/PG20.htm Works Cited: http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/ pubs/cm09/cm09.pdf#page=31 http://www.childwelfare.gov/can/faq. cfm
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Orator and laureate, Karega Bailey is making a name for himself. At the age of 24, he successfully completed his undergraduate work at Hampton University and went on to obtain his Master of Special Education at George Mason University. He is currently a public school educator in Washington DC. Bailey is the epitome of the phrase “next level” and after talking with him, it was no surprise to me why he chose education as his mainstream career choice, or “assignment,”, as he calls it. Bailey is a firm supporter of enhancing quality education, particularly for inner city youth, but more specifically, for students with special education needs identified as emotionally disturbed. However, his passion to teach goes beyond the classroom. Bailey is the fourth of eight children and made an impression on individuals at a very early age. His father, Sonny Johnson, and his mother, Sharon Bailey, both migrated from Jamaica before making the states their permanent home.. At the age of 7, he became a candidate for the GATE program and was bussed outside his neighborhood school. Bailey found himself lost in a new world, feeling out of place and not knowing who he was or what was really expected of him. Bailey calls it his early struggle with a double self consciousness.
He often wondered if he was smart enough for his new school and black enough for home. His family never made direct references alluding to this, but Bailey knew the connotation was there; it was invisible and inferred through teasing, but, that didn’t stop him. “I became a bit sensitive around home environment, but I was coming into my own,” declares Bailey. By the time he entered middle school (and/or) high school he had developed a bit of self worth. It was the support from community institutions and parents of friends that kept him focused, motivated and on task.
words: “I use my sociological lens to s “I use my sociological lens to Bailey coversmy anobservations expansive amount synthesize as an of sociological and psychological educator and effectively comtheory in hisa presentations. His municate message of resiliency social mission is to Itignite interest, through poetry. is my belief incite motivation, enhance cultural that art is intended to imitate life, but too see not the detriresilience, andoften teachIhow mental display of the opposite. to assume the victim role. Self That is, emotional when lifeintelligence, imitates art efficacy, and our youth attempt to perand discernment are key. Bailey sonify the fictional stories told stated, “How do you expect others by their favorite rappers. As to see their way out of something an educator, I have observed an that they’ve trend never seen increasing thatbefore?” leads youth It’s all about discernment. Not to falsely identify with music necessarily distinguishing that contains messages between that dis“good and bad,” between good tract them frombuttheir obstacles and God’s best. When youtheir discern, and further complicate progress. SOL Spoken encourit increases your ability to reach Bailey is a successful product of ages young to experience and live at thepeople next level. And as change of perspective: from the 100 Black Men of America, and ayou allow God to take you through the coping mechanisms used the family services offered by the the “next level” things in life, youto deal with loss, abandonment or Center for Fathers and Families. then become, as Bailey is, a source bereavement, to self worth and These organizations provided him of life to others. with support and direction needed trust.” to continuously succeed despite his Stay connected; support Bailey by socioeconomic stressors. Bailey’s visiting his website: life experiences, struggles and http://karegabailey.com/ challenges influenced his current work entitled, Source Of Life, (S.O.L) Spoken, a collection of Djuan Perry has been a poetry, lectures, and performances long time partner with the Center of Praise Ministries. that address many of the social She’s been a regular attendee for many years and recently in stresses that often inhibit academic 2010, joined her brother, COP achievement as well as the musician, Jabari Seku and his wife Christina, and became a development of the skills necessary member of the ministry. Outof being an accomplished writer, she has an extensive for healthy relationship building in side career in the field of education, and is the founder of: FOOOCUS Consulting Services adolescent and young adults. Bailey sums up his work in his own
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“Keys to the Door” By Cheryl Jackson
astor Chyrell Galbreath-English, known by many at astor Chyrell Galbreath-English, known by many CenteratofCenter Praise of as Pastor (COP) Candi, is a woman Praise as Pastor (COP) Candi, is a of substance She has a passion womanand of creativity. substance and creativity. Sheand hasena pasthusiasm forand business and ministry like none seen like sion enthusiasm for business andI’ve ministry before.none I wasI’ve captured by it. She is the CEO and seen before. I was captured bypresident it. She is the CEOTransformation, and president LLC, of Leadership Transformaof Leadership a business-consulting tion, a business-consulting firm that that firm that thatLLC, provides business resources to micro andprovides business resourcesorganizations. to micro andShe small busismall businesses, and nonprofit consults nesses, and nonprofit Shetoconsults regularly with executives fromorganizations. a variety of fields help regularly with executives from a variety problems. of fields to create synergistic solutions to world-impacting help create synergistic solutions to world-impacting Prior to her current position, she worked for AT&T supPriorbusiness to her current portingproblems. small to large for 25 position, years. Sheshe is aworked wife for AT&T supporting small to large business for 25 and mother who is dedicated to education and the empowyears. She is a wife and mother who is dedicated erment of small business owners. Chyrell is an associto education and the empowerment of small busiate pastor at Center of Praise Ministries in Sacramento, ness owners. Chyrell is an associate pastor at Center CA has earned a master’s degree in religious education, of Praise Ministries in Sacramento, CA has earned received her business certification from UCLA and is a a master’s degree in religious education, received proud member of the National Women of Business Ownher business certification from UCLA and is a proud ers (NAWBO), the NAACP, the U.S. and California Black member of the National Women of Business OwnChamber of Commerce. As if there were any more to ers (NAWBO), the NAACP, the U.S. and California add to Black her listChamber of accomplishments, doing of Commerce.sheAsisifcurrently there were any researching for her first book. more to add to her list of accomplishments, she
is currently doing researching for her first book. I recently had the opportunity to sit down with Pastor Candi and discusshad howthe she opportunity came up withtothesitidea for her I recently down with business and how it evolved into a ministry within COP. Pastor Candi and discuss how she came up with the ideamy forquestions her business it evolved into a She answered fullyand andhow graciously explained ministry COP. answered my she questions how she blends within business withShe ministry and what is fullytoand graciously explained she blends businow able offer, not just to COP, buthow to ministries everyness with ministry and what she is now able to ofwhere. fer, not just to COP, but to ministries everywhere.
PastorPastor Candi: The bible Candi: The says, bible “My says,people “My parish peoplefrom parthe lackishof from knowledge,” so after 25 years of experience the lack of knowledge,” so after 25 in the business networkingininthe the corporate I years of ofexperience business world, of networkdecideding to create business that would the people of in thea corporate world, I help decided to create God. a business that would help the people of God. Centered Living: So with Bishop Lovelace’s encouragement and agreement, you formed Leadership Transfor mation?
Pastor Candi: Absolutely. This business is built upon
a foundation that is based onBishop bib- Lovelace’s encourCentered Living: So with lical principles. agement and Using agreement, you formed Leadership God’s directives to Transformation? teach and transform lives, by creating a new Pastor Candi: Absolutely. way of thinking. SpecificallyThis for business is built upon a foundation that is based on COP, we’re creating a directory biblical principles. UsGod’s directives to teach and transform lives, by ofing businesses owned and operated a new waytoofrecycle thinking. Specifically for COP, bycreating members of COP we’rewithin creating directory of businesses owned and dollars theachurch. This operated by members of COP will allow us to keep each other to recycle dollars within the church. will allow employed, build, This grow, tithe andus to keep each other employed, build,resources grow, tithe and prosper by pulling prosper by pulling together. For example, we’re resources together. For example, we’re working working together with H.A.L.O to create a business plan to together H.A.L.O to createWe a business to partner withwith Junior Achievement. will also plan be offering partner with Junior Achievement. We will also be ofcomputer-training classes, allowing people to learn how to fering computer-training classes, allowing people to work on and build their own computer. We also offer web learn how to work on and build their own computer. design and social media training. We also offer web design and social media training.
Centered Howcan canwe weconnect connectwith withLeaderLeadership Centered Living: Living: How
ship Transformation take advantage all theofTransformation and takeand advantage of all the of ministry ministry offers? fers? Pastor Candi: All of the training and information
Pastor of the training and information can can beCandi: found at:All www.leadtransllc.com and www.
becopresource.com. found at: www.leadtransllc.com You can registerand forwww.coprecourses and source.com. You can register for courses and training training today! today! After this interview, I was so impressed by all of the After this interview, I wasthrough so impressed all ofministhe opopportunities available Pastorby Candi’s portunities available Pastor Candi’s try that I have beenthrough motivated to access theministry websitesthat I andbeen do amotivated little improving myself. As Bishop Lovelace have to access the websites and do a little has stated from the beginning of this year, “2011 is improving myself. As Bishop Lovelace has stated from start of next level thinking.” thethe beginning of this year, “2011 is the start of next level thinking.”
Cheryl Jackson has been a member of Center of Praise for eight years. She currently serves as Administrative Assistant and Staff Writer for Centered Living Magazine. Cheryl has a Bachelors Degree in Psychology from San Francisco State. She has been married for 30 years and is a mother of 3, (one of which is COP’s miracles), and grandmother of 8. Cheryl is a God Gifted writer and has used her talents in play writing, poetry and is currently writing a book of her life experiences.
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Paula Deen’s
Red Velvet Cupcakes
INGREDIENTS:
CREAM CHEESE FROSTING:
2 large eggs, room temperature 1 cup buttermilk, room temperature 1 1/2 cups vegetable oil 1 teaspoon cocoa powder 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon baking soda 1 1/2 cup sugar 2 1/2 cup all-purpose flour 2 tablespoon red food coloring 1 teaspoon white distilled vinegar 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 pound cream cheese, softened 2 sticks butter, softened 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 4 cups sifted confectioners’ sugar Chopped pecans and fresh raspberries or strawberries, for garnish
DIRECTIONS:
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F. Line 2 (12-cup) muffin pans with cupcake papers. In a medium mixing bowl, sift together the flour, sugar, baking soda, salt, and cocoa powder. In a large bowl gently beat together the oil, buttermilk, eggs, food coloring, vinegar, and vanilla with a handheld electric mixer. Add the sifted dry ingredients to the wet and mix until smooth and thoroughly combined. Divide the batter evenly among the cupcake tins about 2/3 filled. Bake in oven for about 20 to 22 minutes, turning the pans once, half way through. Test the cupcakes with a toothpick for doneness. Remove from oven and cool completely before frosting.
CREAM CHEESE FROSTING:
In a large mixing bowl, beat the cream cheese, butter and vanilla together until smooth. Add the sugar and on low speed, beat until incorporated. Increase the speed to high and mix until very light and fluffy. Cook’s Note: Frost the cupcakes with a butter knife or pipe it on with a big star tip. Garnish with chopped pecans and a fresh raspberry or strawberry. Page 25