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Game Night Survival Guide

Perfecting Imperfection A vintage home with stylish flaws

Becoming a


From an Ukrainian orphanage to a Missouri farm

Top Apps for Families

There’s an app for that!

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t h e fa m i ly i ss u e

Photo by Alfredo Mubarah

Edito r i a l Betsy Bell, Publisher

Alfredo Mubarah, Associate Publisher

Katrina Tauchen, Copy Editor

All in the Family “When you look at your life, it is the family memories that bring happiness to mind, not what you accomplished alone.” I will never forget Dr. Joyce Brothers mentioning that one afternoon in her long gone TV show. As I sat down to plan this issue, I reminisced about my own family memories. Allowing myself a dosage of nostalgia, I got back in touch for a brief moment with what made me happy back then and how those experiences continue to shape my life. I grew up in a small rural community just outside of Columbia, Hatton to be exact. Although growing up on the farm had its downsides (no neighbors to play with), the benefits were abundant. My siblings and I became a close-knit group. Out of necessity we became our own entertainers. We created our own games, our own traditions and even our own language. Brothers’ quote made me realize that many of those memories are still some of the best ones of my life, along with the memories created while raising a family of my own. This contemplative frame of mind also made me understand that, as far remote as it may seem at this point, I will have to let my daughter fly to her own heights some day. That reminded me how important it is that we spend time together now and create our own traditions. It’s the simple things that count, such as making family dinner a priority no matter how crazy our schedules get. That is the only way she will have as many positive memories of her family as I do. And I certainly would like for her to have that. In this issue, I learned a lot about the adoption and foster care processes, which was very touching. Take time to read “Becoming a Family,” Page 50. The Felgers’ compassion comes through in Stephanie Detillier’s article, where she relates their journey through Ukraine’s orphanages that led them to form their own happy clan in Missouri. We also have in this issue an array of ideas and resources for spending quality family time. I hope you will find them useful. Hopefully they will help you develop more happy memories for you and your family. I invite you to read them and put them to use. And then write to us to tell us about the results. Our doors are always open, and we would like to consider ourselves a part of your extended family.

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table of contents


20 Perfecting Imperfection

Karla Winchester’s German classic 1860s vintage home gives her a new start and a style that surprised both family and friends.

28 A Simply Suite Renovation

Charles Clark of Majestic Homes and Remodeling transforms the Hockman's master suite

46 Dinnertime is Family Time




Top 10 reasons families should eat dinner at the table.

50 Becoming a Family

Dawn and Gary Felger can finally call themselves parents after adopting four children from Ukraine. They cherish every moment they have.


70 Top Apps for Families

There’s an app for that. Apps are helping parents organize schedules and lists, find a recipe or restaurant and keep you in the know about kidfriendly activities, but they won’t tuck your kids in bed and kiss them goodnight.


73 Game Night Survival Guide

How to navigate cheating, crying and creative rule-making.


78 A Mexican Flair to Midwestern Folk Columbia native David Wax merges Midwestern and Mexican folk music and has gained a large grassroots following and critical acclaim.


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Perfecting Imperfection Becoming a Family Game Night Survival Guide A Mexican Flair to Midwestern Folk



Game Night Survival Guide

Perfecting Imperfection A vintage home with stylish flaws



The Felger's Journey to Ukraine

Top Apps for Families

There’s an app for that!

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On the cover

Turn off your TV, cell phones and gather your family for game night. The benefits are endless. Photo by Angelique Hunter

13 Welcome 16 Calendar 34 Design Trend 36 Designer’s Palette 38 Expert’s Advice 40 Shopkeeper’s Story 44 The Dish 46 Edible Education 48 Dear Kate 56 Welcome to the World 58 Mommy Chronicles 62 Fashion 85 Book Club 86 DIY 90 Entertainment 93 On the Web 97 City Scene 102 Home Bound 106 The Last Word | 15

august Sunday








International Friendship Day






Traditional Celtic Music, 44 Stone Public House, 7-10 p.m., free

Film Series: The Wedding Banquet, Museum of Art & Archaeology, 7 p.m., free

The Blue Note's 31st Anniversary featuring Bright Eyes, The Blue Note, 8 p.m., $30




Outdoor Movies in the Park, Tangled, Flat Branch Park, 8:30 p.m., $2 adults, kids 8 and under are free Mike Zito, Mojo's, 8:30 p.m., $10






MU fall semester begins @ 8 a.m.


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Hint Fiction Exhibition, Columbia Art League, 11:30 a.m. 5:30 p.m.



Family Fun Fest: Around the World, Flat Branch Park, 6–8 p.m., free




4 Pegi Young, Mojo’s, 7:30 p.m., $12




First Day of Classes for Columbia Public Schools K-12

Film Series: Iphigenia at Aulis, Museum of Art & Archaeology, 7 p.m., Free


Aug. 25-27 Just Between Friends Consignment Sale, Boone County Fairgrounds, 9 a.m.


Teen Garage Band Bash, Top of Parking Garage, Sixth & Cherry, 7–10 p.m., $2 Return to the Forbidden Planet, Maplewood Barn in Nifong Park, 8–10:30 p.m., $12


Women’s Equality Day

NFL Punt, Pass and Kick, Cosmo Park Football Field No. 4, 9:30 a.m., free

American Heart Association 2011 Heart Walk & 5K Run, Stephens Lake Park, 8-11 a.m., free


Boone Dawdle 2011, Downtown, MKT and Katy Trails, 3–11 p.m., $30-65


Coolin' Down with the Blues, Douglass Park, 3–8 p.m., Free Hy-Vee Ironkids Youth Triathlon, Stephens Lake Park, 8 a.m., $30

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Sept. 2 – 4 Return to the Forbidden Planet, Maplewood Barn in Nifong Park, 8 – 10:30 p.m., $12

MU Football: Missouri Tigers vs. Miami, Ohio, Faurot Field, 1 p.m., GA $23















Grandparents Day

Labor Day

Pooch Plunge, Albert-Oakland Family Aquatic Center, 6 – 7:30 p.m., $4 per dog

Norm Ruebling Band, Stephens Lake Amphitheater, 7 p.m., free

Sept. 11-14 Liquidation Sale, Boone County Fairgrounds

An Evening with Keller Williams, The Blue Note, 7 p.m., $23

Marc Broussard, The Blue Note, 7 p.m., $15

Sept. 9-10 Roots N Blues N BBQ Festival, Downtown Columbia, $25–195

Roots N Blues N BBQ Festival Half Marathon, Flat Branch Park, 7:45 a.m., $30-55

Sept. 17-18 Heritage Festival & Craft Show, Nifong Park, 10 a.m. – 5 p.m., Free MU Football: Tigers vs. W. Illinois, Faurot Field, TBA, GA $23













2nd Annual MidMissouri Race for the Cure, Mizzou Sports Park, 8 a.m., $30 adults, kids 5 and under free

Electric 6 & Kitten, Mojo’s, 8 p.m., $12

University Concert Series: Wynton Marsalis, Jesse Hall, 7 p.m., $27 - 47

Family Fun Fest: Creative Kids, Flat Branch Park, 6 – 8 p.m., free

The Wood Brothers, Mojo’s, 8 p.m., $15

Welcome to the Jungle: 2nd Annual Wine Tasting Event, Peachtree Catering & Banquet Center, 6 - 8:30 p.m.


8th Annual Paws in the Park 5K, Stephens Lake Park, 9 a.m., $20 preregistration, kids 12 and under free

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Imperfection Perfecting

by Scherrie Goettsch P h o t os b y t a y l o r a l l e n | 21

At Karla Winchester’s house in Boonville, architectural salvage and one-of-a-kind pieces spell out the meaning of “home.”


s visitors enter the Boonville home of Karla Winchester, owner of the recently opened Columbia store Grace, “A Place of Restoration,” a refined and welcoming facade greets them. A formally balanced fenestration punctuated with green shuttered windows contrasts against the painted white-brick veneer. For lovers of

architectural detail, which most assuredly includes this homeowner, the exterior focal point is a highly decorative wrought iron Juliet balcony centered above the front door and supported by three equally ornate angle brackets. A wreath of hydrangeas adds softness to the colonial-style front door, is flanked by fluted pilasters and pairs of carriage lamps, lions, urns and topiary. Once a visitor steps inside Winchester’s home, however, most of that formally balanced design disappears.

Not so matchy-matchy Not one to buy complete furniture sets, Winchester admits, “I don’t like a matchymatchy kind of look, but I particularly like antique chairs.” Seated in a one-of-a-kind red needlepoint chair pulled up next to the fireplace in her combination music room/

office entrance, she favors the flexibility chairs and ottomans provide over the more typical large sofa seating solution. With a degree in communications from the University of Missouri in the ‘80s and married to an MU football player, Winchester worked as an interior decorator during the next 20 years in the St. Louis/Chesterfield area and built her business slowly, partly because of the birth of her three children: Brandon Milla, 24; Taylore Milla, 22; and Kathryn Milla, 14. During that time she decorated in Mediterranean and modern styles while living in suburban subdivisions where all the houses looked alike. “My mother is an interior decorator in Kansas City, and that’s where most of my family lives and where I grew up,” she says. Looking for a change in direction after divorcing in 2003, she began looking for an

top Left: A round lamp table nestled in the corner holds a collection of birdcages, and its glass top protects the whimsical painting of a clock face. bottom left: Two rustic columns stand near the front window draped in burlap panels and next to a painted and stenciled armoire. Top Right: Oak chairs that originally matched Winchester’s dining table — now her office table — were reinvigorated with black paint. A commercial Heartland range is sandwiched between a Gothic window frame and a painted-brick fireplace. Bottom right: Next to the four-poster bed, twin headboards were paired together to create a daybed for when her children visit.

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The entrance/music room in Karla Winchester’s home is dominated by a family heirloom — the 100-year-old Steinway grand piano. Centered under the candle chandelier is an Indian tray in copper and brass with a glass top that adds lightness.

historic home in mid-Missouri. She moved to Boonville in 2004 where the selection was good. Finding a corporate job with benefits also fit the bill. In her first Boonville home, located near the Kemper Military Academy campus, she painted the walls and ceilings in a Godiva chocolate brown. Winchester still had aspirations to buy and renovate an aging Italianate beauty nearby into a bed-and-breakfast, but the deal fell through. She is grateful that in the end she wound up on Morgan Street. “An older home is not for everyone; you can definitely be biting off more than you can chew,” she says. Instead, in 2007, she purchased a twostory German classic 1860s vintage home. Originally this house had only four rooms: two upstairs and two downstairs. An addition to the back of the house increased its size to about 1,400 square feet to accommodate a larger family. “The people who owned the home were the people who started the SteinHaus Restaurant,” Winchester says, which was on Main Street in downtown Boonville. They raised five children in this house and had a perennial

garden in the back — mostly known for its daylily collection. “The house is definitely eclectic,” she says. “Friends and family were shocked when they first visited me in this home because this was not a style I’d ever done before. Because I’m alone, it was a new, fresh look. I think it was the style of the house and the charm of the backyard … it just called for it. When I walked in, it was more of that sort of cottage-y feeling. It’s more different than what I’ve ever had. I’ve never had a house that was as neutral as this. I’m enjoying it a lot.”

The thrill of the hunt By 2009, Winchester made another lifealtering decision — to quit the corporate world and open her store, Grace, “A Place of Restoration,” in Rocheport. It specializes in architectural accents, antiquities, salvaged décor and one-of-a-kind repurposed creations. “To me, it’s the thrill of the hunt,” she says. “I do a lot of architectural salvage at my store, so this is the first home that I’ve done that really lent itself to a cottage-y feel.” Examples of her favorite decorating

element, architectural salvage, show up in every room. Next to a new door that allows light and leads into the garden stands a rustic white painted column found in the New Orleans area, and there are more of them standing at attention in other rooms. Above the door is a cornice with dentil molding, another architectural salvage weakness of

“Friends and family were shocked when they first visited me in this home because this was not a style I’d ever done before.” Winchester’s. Still another favorite is an architectural frame with a wall clock mounted inside that came from an estate sale. It hangs adjacent to a 100-year-old Steinway grand piano, a family heirloom and gift from her parents when she turned 14 that she and her children continue to play. A reproduction wire candle chandelier softens | 23

the 10-foot ceiling in the front room and adds a touch of black, one of Winchester’s design mantras. Original yellow pine flooring, plaster walls, a converted gas fireplace and lots of shelving filled with family photos, which give the room its lived-in look, encompass what Winchester calls her “pass-through” room. Spending most of her time in what would have been the original dining room, Winchester prefers to call it her front sitting room. White slipcovers on the love seat can be switched out with the seasons, just as the botanical prints that hang above it can also be easily removed and exchanged for a different look. “I’m not an oak person,” Winchester says, explaining why she painted the oak dining table nestled in the corner. She prefers to use it as a workspace but notes that it, too, is flexible should she need it for a dinner party. Burlap window treatments add texture to the tall south-facing windows in the front of the house without costing a bundle and can easily be replaced once they become sun-damaged. Like all homes, this one is a work in progress, and Winchester hopes to replace the single-pane original windows eventually as well as install colonialstyle half shutters. In the meantime, “I’m trying to keep the integrity of the house,” she says.

If a lot of her furniture in her home and store appear to have a lighter palette, there is a reason. Although Winchester has no particular paint-brand affinity, she does use mostly Sherwin-Williams paint on her walls because she likes the way it covers. For her furniture painting projects, however, she uses probably 70 percent of the Walmart brand’s “Country White.” “The power of paint is unbelievable,” she says. "The joke in our family is that I would have painted my kids if they had stood still. I’m not big on getting rid of pieces; I like to repurpose them. If a piece of furniture doesn’t work anymore, I’ll chop it up, use the legs, make a headboard out of a door. Whatever it is, the challenge is to repurpose it. Most of my things I already had, or they were flea-market finds.”

Return to her roots Moving to the middle room between the front room and the kitchen where stairs lead to two bedrooms, Winchester stresses: “I have paneled the walls with doors with the knobs on them. I did that because I wanted to. My last name is Winchester, and I took that name; it was my great-grandma’s last name. So when I got divorced, I decided to go back to my maiden name, which is Reardon, but then I hy-

A wrought-iron fence separates Winchester’s home from the sidewalk and ties in with the intricate iron balcony above the doorway.

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Repurposed wood makes a perfect backdrop for this quaint chest.

phenated and chose Winchester. My parents had always talked about the Winchester Mansion in San Francisco (named after the man who invented the Winchester rifle) and whose heiress was basically a crazy woman.” She believed in ghosts, and when her husband died, she felt that anyone who had died at the hands of a Winchester rifle would haunt her if she did not continuously build on to the mansion. “There are doors there that go nowhere. When my parents came to visit they said, ‘You’re just like the Winchester lady with doors that go nowhere.’”

“If a piece of furniture doesn’t work anymore, I’ll chop it up, use the legs, make a headboard out of a door.” Without realizing that her paneled doors would remind her of her roots, she left them pretty much like she found them — rustic. In this middle room where the big TV hangs above a sideboard in an area converted from a closet, she white washed the hardwood floors, installed a pair of rustic columns to separate it from the kitchen and added pine beams on the ceiling to make the space appear wider. The layout of the kitchen is virtually unchanged, with another original brick fireplace, | 25

An inexpensive family portrait of Winchester’s three children, done by an itinerant artist while the family vacationed in Jamaica, hangs above a painted buffet with garden topiary sitting alongside. Winchester loves to bring elements of nature such as rocks and urns inside.

also converted to gas, nestled in the corner. Although granite countertops were not in the budget and cabinets had only the doors replaced, Winchester splurged on recessed lighting and a Gothic-shaped chandelier found in the catalog Shades of Light. While visiting her parents in Kansas City, she found a super deal on a floor display commercial 48-inch gas/convection Heartland range from Canada at a Home Goods store. Open shelving with corbels beneath holds dishes, and decorative items hang next to the door to the laundry room that leads out to the garden. Just above the sink a Gothic window frame fits perfectly in front of the window covered in ivy on the outside. “I try to use things I love,” Winchester says. “I love pediments. Love birdcages. I love doing something unusual. I particularly favor Palladian 26 | august/september 2011

windows and Gothic windows. Gothic windows are very difficult to find. I’ll pay a little more for a gothic window just because I love them. I’m fascinated with religious relics. I’ve always liked that shape. … It truly works as a focal point.” In her upstairs master bedroom, which has a black-and-white theme, more personal photos and artwork of her children are displayed. “I miss my children horribly, so it comforts me to see them,” Winchester says. A four-poster bed, left by the previous owner, is graced by an unexpected sock monkey. “This is my whimsical,” Winchester says. “I never had a sock monkey. I got it for Christmas, and I like having it on my bed. I think every room should have something whimsical. I think it is a reminder to myself not to take life so seriously.”

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Charles Clark of Majestic Homes and Remodeling transforms the Hockman's master suite b y a l f r e d o m u barah an d chari s e v e rns | photos b y j e nni f e r k e tt l e r

hen I first visited Sherry Hockman’s house, I asked her if I could move into her bathroom. Not the house — I asked specifically for the bathroom. Starting with the fact that it is the size of my entire first New York City apartment, the features pile up from there. A large deep soak bathtub invites you to melt your stress under the oversized window and behind tall marble columns. The shower area is large enough for a party à la Holly Golightly; connected to it is the hallway that serves as a drying area for after the shower and which leads to Hockman’s spacious closet, which in turn walks out onto the patio. Step by step one learns about the exciting surprises these rooms have to offer. The rain showerhead and massage jets in the shower area are heaven on Earth; a sprawling double vanity and makeup area are a girl’s dream come true. Next to it, a sleek coffee bar with cups and a high-tech coffee machine invite you to a soothing drink while getting ready for a night on the town or before soaking in the tub. To me, one of the best ideas Hockman introduced to her design was a washer/dryer combo in her closet. Yes, in her closet. Genius! To achieve this serene spa atmosphere and luxury feel, Hockman worked with Charles Clark of Majestic Homes and Remodeling. When she decided to renovate the bathroom, she knew she wanted to work with Clark based 28 | august/september 2011

ABOVE: His and her vanities with varying heights add dimension to the room. RIGHT: Natural stone finish adds to the serene spa atmosphere. | 29

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on positive past experience with him. When asked about the process, Hockman immediately sets out on a shower of compliments (pun absolutely intended here) about Clark. She points out that the entire process was stress-free. “Charles kept us constantly updated and always in control of the project,” she says. “At his suggestion, we had weekly meetings with him, which helped make the project completely free of any anxieties and surprises.” Clark cautions clients to practice patience during a project. Hockman’s bathroom, clos-

et and patio renovation took five months to complete. “Clients can anticipate that they will tire of the mess created in the midst of any project, especially when the drywall is on the floor and contractors are running in and out of the house.”

are a great way to start. He recommends avoiding unlicensed contractors, as they most likely will not be around if something goes wrong with the project. “Good contractors stand by their work.” Clark says. “Watch out for contractors who give esti-

“Good contractors stand by their work.” Clark also suggests caution when choosing a contractor. Reputation, referrals from former clients and pictures of past projects

mates on the spot without getting all of the details of the project first. And always ask for a detailed, itemized quote.”

Opposite page UPPER LEFT: Water rains down from every angle. UPPER RIGHT: Smoky stained glass creates privacy and natural lighting. LOWER RIGHT: Centrally located makeup table flanked by his and her vanities. LOWER LEFT: A hallway connecting the shower and closet serves as a drying room. ABOVE: More than 50 pairs of shoes fit into the custom closet. ABOVE UPPER RIGHT: Enjoy a fresh cup of coffee during the morning routine. RIGHT: Doing laundry isn't quite a chore with built-in washer and dryer. | 31

Clark shares that current trends in remodeling include maintenancefree materials that do not require paint or retouching such as composite or aluminum railing. Homeowners also enjoy making their homes current by making small changes that create a large impact. Some low-cost, high impact updates are adding a fresh coat of neutral colored paint, replacing door handles and installing new plumbing and lighting fixtures. Hockman and Clark’s successful partnership on her remodel project was a result of working together and making her vision come to life as it was tweaked by Clark’s expertise. Obviously it paid off. Does it surprise you I want to move in?

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design trend | asian on Louis Vuitt er 2011 Spring/Summ

East Meets West May the eastern sun shine. Asian design has always exercised fascination over the masses. This season, it transcends from inspiration to trend: Asian flair can be seen all around, especially in fashion and home décor. Locally, on trend pieces are on display at McAdams, Tallulah’s, Ashley’s Furniture and Johnston Paint and Decorating.

pro d u ct I NFORMATIO N ( c o u n t e r C LOCKWI SE FROM UPPER LEFT ) G r i d B l u e a n d E b o ny F l o ra l P i l l ow s , A s h l ey F u r n i t u re H o m e S t o re, $ 1 0 e a ch ; H a n d - S c u l p t e d D rag o n C e n t e r p i e c e B ow l , M c A d a m s L t d . , $ 1 4 5 ; Wa l l p a p e r S a m p l e s , Jo h n s t o n Pa i n t a n d D e c o ra t i n g ; B l u e Po t t e ry, M c A d a m s L t d . , $ 1 , 9 0 0 ; A s i a S e t , Ta l l u l a h ' s , $ 2 0 ; C h o p s t i ck s , Ta l l u l a h ' s , $ 6 . 5 0 ; M o t h e r o f Pe a r l Fa n , M c A d a m s L t d . , $ 9 5 ; P i n k C e ra m i c H o r s e, A s h l ey F u r n i t u re H o m e S t o re, $ 4 8 ; C e ra m i c B u t t e r f ly Va s e, A s h l ey F u r n i t u re H o m e S t o re, $ 2 4 ; H a n g i n g B l a ck B a s k e t we ave L a n t e r n , A s h l ey F u r n i t u re H o m e S t o re, $ 3 8 .

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“Old Hollywood was my inspiration,” says I.O. Metro interior designer Becky Erdel for I.O. Metro. Indeed, her astute eye for glamour evokes an air of elegance reminiscent of the golden days and their renowned screen legends. “Everyone should have a dose of glamour in their lives. Incorporating a dash of old-school inspiration is a great way to achieve that in interior décor. 36 | august/september 2011

“Luxury is not about the price tag; it is about personality. I am always on the lookout for beautiful accent pieces that have a twist of luxury and glamour that will not break the bank: exquisite lighting fixtures, plushy upholstered furnishings and exciting fabrics. Décor should reflect a unique style that represents the individuality of the person living in that space. To me that is the ultimate glamour touch.”

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Does the state of the concrete matter when it comes . time to stain? Age and deteriorating concrete can be a factor in how we approach the project, but there are several options other than the expense of tearing out and pouring new that we offer.


What kinds of patterns do you offer? The possibili. ties are almost limitless: flagstone, ashlar slate, tile, brick, wood plank, original or custom logos and designs (restaurants and stores). I am also licensed to stain and engrave MU logos.


What kinds of stains are there in concrete staining? Reactive . acid chemical stains and water reducible concentrate stains are what I use. Can the stains fade over time? What maintenance needs to be done . and how often? Stain can fade and wear off if not given proper maintenance. A sealer needs to be kept on the finished concrete to protect the stain.


What does the finished floor look like? It depends on the sealer that . we apply. Inside you can have a high gloss, wet mirror finish with the inside epoxy and urethane or a lower gloss finish with the inside acrylic. The outside acrylic will have a semi-gloss to wet appearance depending on the amount of sealer applied.

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The Sound of Something Great Creating a superior sound system can come naturally if you're Travis Huff and Sam Jones of Pure Audio b y Dianna B orsi O ’ B ri e n

Leave it to the experts Schuppan admits the project was complicated. When he’d renovated his home in 2006, he’d had a system installed, but when he added on a master bedroom, bath and basement entertainment area — yes, he added on a basement — he wanted to relocate the stereo system into the basement and install two TVs. He also wanted the house wired for on-demand movies and patio speakers installed. He also wanted a system that was seamless and easy to operate. As Schuppan admits, he’s a Web guy, not a sound system or home theater expert. In fact, he just recently learned speakers have to be tuned. All he knows is Pure Audio “fixed something in the wall,” and his system sounds better. That, he says, is all he needs to know. Creating a system that makes music sound great comes naturally to Pure Audio co-owners Huff and Jones. As Huff explains, “I play seven instruments, two of them pretty well,” and he writes and collects music he loves to share with his family and friends. Music has been a huge part of his life; the Columbia native has a college degree in music performance. His partner, Jones, has been a collector and audiophile since the 1970s, Huff says, when LPs were king. “We still love the realness you can only get from vinyl,” he adds, noting that Jones has one of the best listening rooms around.

Birth of a business Long before opening Pure Audio, Huff says he and Jones were designing, configuring, setting up and modifying sound systems. The two decided to open Pure Audio after “months of discussion and brainstorming,” Huff says. From Left: Susan and Sam Jones and Travis and Amanda Huff, owners of Pure Audio

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At the time, Jones was working at Boone Hospital Center in management, but the two had an addiction to audio systems that bring out the best in recorded music. “We decided that we wanted to do something that we truly had a passion for,” he says. Today, the company includes Huff and Jones as well as lead technician Chris Dennis. “Chris has been an integral part of Pure Audio for over four years and has been essential to our success,” Jones says. When the company started, they installed 10 home theater or audio systems a year. Today, they install 20 to 30 systems a year including audio visual presentation and conference room systems for businesses. Both men also credit the support of their wives for the success of their business. “Our spouses are our biggest supporters as well as being co-owners,” Jones says. Projects range from upgrades and installations such as Schuppan’s to work on new homes, such as a recent whole-house system that included a cutting-edge home theater installation in the new home built by Cara and Jeff Canon in Sedalia. The home theater included extensive sound proofing, wiring, cabinetry, lighting and theater seating. The Canon home theater project was one of Pure Audio’s biggest efforts and gave the Canons something they craved: the ability to watch MU games as if they were there. The Canons operate an international business, which can make catching a Tiger’s game difficult. But with their new home sound and theater system, Cara Canon says, “The sound of each event is like being there in real life.”

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hen John Schuppan renovated his home in the Old Southwest, all he wanted was a remote he could understand and great sound in every room of his 100-year-old home. It sounds simple, but after months of looking for a solution, Schuppan says he was at his wit’s end. That’s when he contacted Travis Huff and Sam Jones of Pure Audio & Video Specialty, a Columbia firm opened in 2006 dedicated to designing, installing and servicing quality Hi-Fi systems and highdefinition theater systems. “I wanted to be in any room and hear music and hear it well, and I wanted the new system to work with the old system,” says Schuppan, operations manager at Today, he says, it all works, and the remote fulfills one of his requirements: It’s so easy his mother can operate it. “It passed the Mom test,” Schuppan says.

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Creative thinking, happy customers Since opening the doors of Pure Audio, Huff has been developing relationships with contractors and builders, and the company is the provider of stereo, telephone and video systems for builder Don Stohldrier of Lifestyle Homes. Stohldrier says his firm builds roughly 10 homes a year and appreciates Pure Audio’s work in helping customers choose a whole-house system and then showing up on time to install it quickly and efficiently. Yet, Bill Baird, Lifestyle Homes’ broker, says Pure Audio provides something just as important as a good home audio/video system. “I don’t care what kind of equipment you install, and they (Pure Audio) install excellent equipment,” he says. “If you don’t provide good service and it’s not a good setup for the customer, it doesn’t matter.” That’s exactly what Shelley and Sanjeev Ravipudi appreciated about Pure Audio — but from different perspectives. When the Ravipudis renovated their Bluff Creek home by adding a master bedroom and bathroom, Sanjeev Ravipudi wanted a 50-inch flat-screen TV and sound system installed. “You know, boys and their toys,” he says. His wife, Shelley Ravipudi, however, wasn’t as enthusiastic about that idea. “I didn’t want the television to be the focal point in the bedroom,” she says. To solve the problem, Huff installed a glass over the television screen and surrounded it with a frame. Now, when the television is not on, Shelley says, it looks like a mirror with a pretty gold frame. The rest of the equation involves concealed wires, speakers and components, all integrated into the system in the rest of the house, which makes it all easy to operate and provides great sound and video. “It’s all linked to our iPod, CDs, DVDs and Blu-Ray,” says Sanjeev Ravipudi, a cardiologist. “It can accommodate new items.” Not that he’s thinking of adding any new components, Shelley. Really. And both Shelley and Sanjeev like the fact that Pure Audio met with them and installed the system they wanted at a price that was reasonable. As Sanjeev Ravipudi puts it, “You can go crazy with this kind of thing, and we didn’t want to spend an outrageous amount.” The result is both the Ravipudis and Schuppan love their new systems. As Schuppan puts it, “It’s seamlessly connected all throughout the house, and it works.” | 41

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Isle of Capri's Executive Chef Jason Martin's delightful grilled lemon and herb pork with summer vegetable relish will not disappoint. Pork (Patchwork Family Farms) • 3 tablespoons olive oil • 2 cloves garlic, minced • 1 tablespoon golden oregano, chopped • 1 lemon, zested and juiced • Salt and pepper, as needed • Four 12-ounce pork loin chops, boned or not Relish • 1 medium zucchini, yellow squash, white onion, medium eggplant and red bell pepper • Extra virgin olive oil, as needed • 1 egg yolk (Stanton Brothers Free Range Farms) • 1 clove of garlic • 4 fresh basil leaves • 1 medium tomato, peeled and seeded

Preparation Marinate pork in olive oil, minced garlic, oregano, lemon zest/juice, and season with salt and pepper. Let stand for 20 to 30 minutes, then remove and wipe excess marinade from chops. Grill on medium barbecue grill until 145 degrees internal temperature is met with a meat thermometer. Cook time will be approximately 6 minutes on each side depending on thickness of the chop. To make relish, strip vegetables into ½-inch-thick slices, cutting end to end. Grill until vegetables begin to caramelize and break down. Dice vegetables into ½-inch cubes, reserve and keep warm. Place egg, garlic, basil and tomato into food processor, and blend until smooth. Drizzle olive oil into mix while blending to create dressing. A few drops of water can be added to adjust consistency; the final product should resemble a thick dressing. Add enough dressing to grilled vegetables to coat. Spoon relish over pork, and enjoy.

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very parent deserves to have an “aha!” moment: a time when you see that a seed cultivated in your child has emerged in full blossom. One such moment occurred for me at a family baby shower a few years ago. Moms, grandmas, aunts, sisters and cousins took turns sharing their advice for the expectant mom. When it was my 19-year-old daughter’s turn, she told her older cousin to make time for family dinners together each night. That had been important in her life, she said. I nearly dropped my plate of pastel mints. She had noticed! Evening meals around the dinner table had always been the norm in our family of four. Although never rigidly enforced — scheduling conflicts naturally intervened — it was the expectation, as it had been in the family home where I grew up. The value of the family meal is well known, but you might be surprised to learn how many ways it benefits children.

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It makes families healthier. It may be the one meal of the day when parents can control the food their children eat. Lyn and Kurt Scrivner manage to gather their active family of five around the dinner table at least three or four nights a week. That’s important to ensure that the children, ages 4, 9 and 11, get the right amount of protein, fruits, vegetables and milk that they might bypass at school, Lyn says. “I don’t get to see what they have for lunch. At dinner, I can make sure they’re eating at least one meal that’s healthy.” A University of Illinois study concluded that children who ate with their families at least three times a week were 12 percent less likely to be overweight. The prevalence of eating disorders was also less.

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Children are less likely to smoke, drink or use drugs. The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University says research shows that the more often kids eat dinner with their families, the less likely they are to use harmful substances. Family dinnertime fosters parental engagement, which is an effective tool in preventing substance abuse. “If I could wave a magic wand to make a dent in our nation’s substance abuse problem, I would make sure that every child in America had dinner with his or her parents at least five times a week,” says Joseph Califano, CASA founder and chairman.


Children learn manners, selflessness. Children need to be equipped with basic table manners. It would be a shame to earn a great college degree but lose a job opportunity for talking with a mouthful of food. Teaching manners doesn’t have to turn mealtime into a formal lesson. Let each family member, even young children, adopt their favorite manner and take responsibility for teaching it to everyone else. Perhaps more important than strict table rules, mealtime can teach the importance of staying attuned to the needs of others, with parents setting good examples: “Mandy, do you need more fruit salad?”


Children practice the art of conversation. Imagine a family having a lively discussion around the table over the great moral, political and theological issues of the day. That never happened at our table, but many other topics were prime for discussion. “We kind of just feed off what they’re talking about,” Lyn says. “It’s a time to talk about what’s going on in school.” 46 | august/september 2011



Parents learn about their children. This is especially important as children grow older and form relationships outside the family. Parents can learn how and with whom they’re spending their time. Jessica and Chris Ellingsworth are starting dinner traditions early with their daughters, ages 5 and 3 (and eventually their infant son). During the meal, they rehash the day by reporting the “roses and thorns” they encountered. “We’re not just scarfing our food down, but enjoying our food and talking together,” Jessica says.





Children learn from their parents. Children encounter lots of messages throughout the day, and some can be confusing. “At the end of the day, there’s Chris and me, and we’re available for questions,” Jessica says. Mealtime provides a casual forum for children to learn values and other wisdom from their parents.


It’s time to chill. After a day of busy schedules, dinner can be a time when it all stops. Pressures subside. Everyone relaxes. The surroundings should be conducive to free-flowing conversation. Rather than a formal dining table, a casual table sets the stage for relaxed interaction. Or change it up a bit with dinner on the patio table. In the winter, spread a bright tablecloth on the floor, and eat picnic food.

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It’s one less half hour of TV or video games. Enough said.

It sends a strong message about family. You’re not a random collection of people bumping into one other in the hallway, and dinnertime proves that when family members put everything on hold to come together for a while. “One of the ways love is communicated to kids is through time,” Jessica says. “It tells them that as a family they’re important.”


Family meals create good memories to pass along. If you recall your fondest memories from childhood, many probably involved family gatherings and food. Keep the tradition going in your family, and your children will likely remember and someday make time for it in their families.

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Dear R.O. I can certainly understand your concern for your son’s future. You want the best for him, and you want him to be successful, and a college education seems a necessary component. Although college is an important step, it’s ultimately one your son has to decide to take. You can encourage, cajole and convince, but if he’s not willing (or ready), then it’s going to remain a continual impasse. If you are able to persuade him that college is the right thing and he enrolls and is not truly ready, it is likely that he will prove his point by having a very short college career. And this is not good for anyone. Perhaps it’s time for a new conversation, one that centers around what your son does want to do, not what he does not want to do. What is his vision? Get an idea of where he sees himself, and then help him map out a route to get there. Maybe he needs some time to figure out what he wants to be when he grows up (how many of us know that at 18?), or maybe he has a passion for something that he doesn’t think requires a college degree. Explore all possible options, college simply being one of many. If your son is struggling with pinpointing his interests or talents, suggest a visit to a career center where he can receive guidance on identifying strengths and possible career paths. If he does not choose to pursue college at this time, it is important to make it clear that he has to do something. Part of his new plan cannot be living at home and spending days playing video games and nights hanging out with friends. He has to take steps to move forward and be financially independent. Let him know that whatever he does, you will be proud of him and love him unconditionally; going to college or not going to college does not change that. Allowing your son the space to be his own person, to develop at his own pace and to pursue the dreams he believes in, that is success.

dear kate,I am a married woman in my mid-30s who is at this point childless by choice. For the past few years it seems as if a friend, relative or co-worker is turning up pregnant (or alternatively giving birth) every time I turn around. I am thrilled with this new passel of children in my life, but I’m also feeling like something is quite possibly wrong with me. My husband and I have been married for seven years, and though we have discussed getting pregnant, we are not fully ready to commit. In fact, I am not sure I will

ever be ready. We are in a good situation to be parents, and all signs point to the fact that we should, so why don’t I want to? S. A. Dear S.A. Congratulations on not heeding to the pressure to procreate that it seems you feel, both internally and externally. The decision to have a child is major, though I can understand how it might seem to be taken on with ease given the birthrate of your compatriots. Getting pregnant seems to be the logical next step for many people after marriage; everyone’s doing it, right? But just because that is what is right for most does not mean it’s right for you. And having a child to satisfy the expectations of society, family or culture is not necessarily the best route to motherhood. The idea that having a baby is not only the next logical but also expected step comes from many places. I would bet you have heard the question, ‘So when is it going to be your turn?’ (or some variation of this), a thousand times from well-meaning friends, parents, in-laws and acquaintances. Maybe the answer is never. It’s never going to be my turn to be pregnant. And this is perfectly OK. There is nothing wrong with you. What’s right with you is that you are not simply capitulating to expectation but seeking your own truth. And that can be hard, especially when it looks different from what other’s would like it to look like. Why should you have a baby? Because it is your heart’s desire. Because you feel ready to take on the experience, fully aware that you are never completely prepared. Because you want to, for no other reason than you and your partner have made the decision, free and clear of internal or external expectations about what you should or should not do.

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Dawn and Gary Felger adopted four children from Ukraine and quickly grew into a close-knit farming family.

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ome moms would have been angry. Others would have been worried. But when Dawn Felger saw her children crying and holding their brother Samuel at the back door, she took a minute to savor the moment and felt relieved that the three older kids had rallied together to care for their younger sibling. When her four kids had darted out of the door earlier on that blustery day in winter 2004, Dawn had known where they were headed. The family’s Fort Wayne, Ind., property had a spot that was prone to flooding and often froze into an ice sheet when the temperature shivered below zero. The kids enjoyed pounding away at the ice, but that day 3-year-old Samuel broke through. Next thing Dawn knew, the whole bunch was standing at the back door. Joshua was carrying the sopping wet Samuel. Hannah and Luke stood next to them in support. “They were all taking care of Sam and at the same time making sure Mom wasn’t mad,” Dawn recalls. “It was such a neat moment, especially considering that it happened only five or six months after Sam had been home in the United States.” Dawn and her husband, Gary, adopted all four of their children from Ukraine: two in 2002 and two more in 2004. Hannah, 17; Joshua, 16; Luke, 11; and Samuel, 10, spent the first few years of their lives in orphanages. The Russian- and Ukrainian-speaking kids initially struggled to understand their English-speaking parents and American culture. But it didn’t take long for them to become tight-knit siblings who enjoy eating together as a family and exploring their nearly 100-acre farm in Lohman, where the Felgers moved three years ago.

Choosing adoption When Dawn learned she wouldn’t be able to have biological children of her own, she and Gary didn’t automatically turn to adoption. For several months, they stayed in a holding pattern, waiting for the right moment. They wanted kids but not until they were at a point when they viewed adoption as something they truly wanted rather than as a secondary choice. | 51

Then, Gary learned through one of his work clients about a couple, also from Indiana, who had raised four biological children and adopted two more from Ukraine. The family shared their story and pointed Dawn and Gary to, a website for people interested in Ukrainian independent adoptions. Those are kids we could adopt, Dawn thought, as she looked through the site’s photos. Wanting to share her discovery, she called her mom, who said she had just been praying that God would answer Dawn and Gary’s prayers regarding children. “The combination made it pretty clear that we were meant to adopt children from Ukraine,” Dawn says. The couple decided to adopt independently rather than go through an agency or attorney. They sought advice from Cathy Harris, a single mother from Florida who runs Since 1998, she’s consulted with more than 875 families who have adopted Ukrainian children independently. Couples complete their necessary paperwork — including the Immigration and Naturalization Service adoption application, a home study and medical checks — in America and hire a facilitator in Ukraine to serve as their translator. For the Felgers, the process, from sending the dossier to receiving an adoption appointment in Kiev, took about a year. Dawn and Gary were approved to adopt up to three children, but they had their hearts set on twin boys whom Cathy had seen on one of her recent Eastern European trips. Gary’s father and uncle are twins, so they though the similarity would be neat. But ultimately, they left for the 52 | august/september 2011

Ukraine without knowing the number, gender or age of the children they would bring back. “Before we got there, we didn’t know whether to paint the walls pink or blue,” Gary says. “We didn’t know if we needed bicycles, tricycles or cribs. We didn’t know if we were going to bring home one, two or three children or any.”

To Ukraine and back The Felgers arrived in the capital of Kiev in late January 2002. They then hopped a rickety plane to an orphanage in Simferopol, a city on the Crimean peninsula. There they learned that the twin boys weren’t available, so Dawn and Gary were led into the orphanage’s gym, where five or six boys were brought out for them to observe. “One kid was riding a tricycle around the room and came close to Gary like he was going to run over his toes,” Dawn says. Gary smiles. “He wanted to get my attention.”

says. “But when they asked this woman about Hannah, her eyes lit up, and we knew that was a big clue.” Soon after, the Felgers met Hannah, an 8-year-old, named Marina in Ukraine, with brown hair, delicate features and a smile stretched from ear to ear. “We’ll spend five months trying to find a couch,” Gary says. “It took us years to pick out dining room chairs, but we picked out our daughter in 15 minutes.” The Felgers spent about 17 days in Ukraine, a country hit with economic hardships and poverty after the fall of the Soviet Union. While there, they saw street children who had been kicked out of orphanages at age 16. Many had turned to drug abuse, alcoholism and prostitution. Dawn and Gary couldn’t help but think about these children’s futures when they picked Hannah up from the orphanage. “When Hannah gets in the car, there’s 50 to 60 kids waving goodbye saying, ‘Please, take me to America,’” Gary says as he chokes back tears. “Dawn and I and the translator are crying … and there’s Hannah, just happily waving back to them.”

Adjusting to American life Hannah and Joshua don’t remember much about their time in the orphanages. Joshua says caretakers advised him to talk about the positives of Ukraine. Hannah recalls asking for more to eat and being told no extra food was available. “When I came to the U.S., I thought I was just visiting until I realized I’d be living there for good,” she says. For the first time, Hannah and Joshua had their own parents, house and family car, but Dawn pulls out their passport photos, which reveal frightened looks in their eyes. “It must have been so intimidating for them to put be in a car with three adults, not knowing who they are with or where they are going,” she says.

“We’ll spend five months trying to find a couch. It took us years to pick out dining room chairs, but we picked out our daughter in 15 minutes.” That was how they met Joshua, a 6-yearold with the Ukrainian name Roman. As they began the paperwork to adopt Joshua, Gary quizzed the staff about any girls who might fit into their new family. The caretakers mentioned a delightful girl in an orphanage across town. “They were speaking in Russian, so we didn’t know what they were saying,” Dawn

The Russian-English language barrier made the first month in the U.S. challenging. Before leaving for Ukraine, Dawn and Gary had learned 20 to 30 Russian words, but it often meant their communication was limited to one or two words, which sometimes led to frustration. Dawn vividly recalls the day she found Hannah and Joshua sitting on the bottom step next to

the door, with pajamas stuffed in their backpacks, ready to run away. But overall, Hannah and Joshua were patient, accommodating and rarely defiant. Dawn, a former elementary school teacher with an M.B.A. from Indiana University, left her marketing job to homeschool her children. For Hannah and Joshua, who hadn’t had much, if any, oneon-one attention, Dawn strived to make their home feel like a safe place and their family feel like one cohesive unit. “It was easy on me because they played together a lot from the beginning,” Dawn says. “It was fun to see their imaginations at work. God just put our family together.”

Two more bundles of joy In May 2004, Dawn and Gary found themselves back in Ukraine and looking through three-ring binders depicting children available for adoption. All along they had planned to add to their family, but none of the photos were jumping out at them. “You think, I’ll know it when I see my kid,” Dawn says. “We had been approved for up to three kids again and thought we wanted at least one girl and one boy. At first, these guys seemed too little.” Knowing the story is now about them, Luke and Samuel perk up. Dawn and Gary assumed they might adopt children between the ages of 5 and 7. At the time, Luke, originally named Kyryl, was 4, and Samuel, known as Vladislav, was 3. Although they were young and not available for adoption until two weeks later, they looked like future Felgers. The couple boarded a train to Cherkassy, a city south of Kiev, where the boys were living. Gary describes the journey as a scene plucked from an Indiana Jones movie. As if the bad smells and flashing lights weren’t scary enough, when the couple arrived at the train station around 3 a.m., they were instructed not to utter a word of English. Although Gary and Dawn fondly remember Ukraine’s open-air food markets, wildflowers and fruit drinks, they admit that their Eastern European trips were also nerve-wracking. “We had to carry close to $12,000 in cash,” Gary says. “We had more money on OPPOSITE PAGE: In 2008, the Felgers moved from Fort Wayne, Ind., to a 92-acre farm in Lohman, Mo. RIGHT, CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: Samuel, 10; Luke, 11; the Felgers; Hannah, 17; and Joshua, 18. Although piecing together their family took two trips to Ukraine, the Felgers are now an inseparable bunch. | 53

us than most of the people in Ukraine will make in a lifetime.” The couple also became concerned after meeting Luke. He didn’t make eye contact and spoke very few words. When they went to pick him up from the orphanage, they braced themselves, thinking he would panic and scream. “All of a sudden, once we were away from the orphanage, we were his parents, and he was Chatty Cathy,” Gary says laughing. Wrestling quickly became a favorite pastime of Luke’s after he saw Gary playing around with a stuffed animal.

“It was fun to see their imaginations at work. God just put our family together.” “All of the kids loved wrestling with Gary,” Dawn says. “I think it had to do with physical contact. They had had little contact and hungered for it. It made wrestling seem like a really important game. At first, Luke heard the words ‘wrestle’ and ‘muscle’ and got them confused. He’d say, ‘Dad, let’s muscle.’ ” Samuel was still in a Ukrainian “baby house” when Dawn and Gary picked him up, but he’s heard his story enough to tell it himself. “I wasn’t exactly mom’s best friend,” he pipes up. Gary nods his head. “All the kids were drawn to mom, so it was neat to finally have one come straight to me.” Gary and Dawn had brushed up on their Russian before this trip, only to learn that Luke and Samuel spoke Ukrainian. The Felgers asked the translator to tell the two boys that they’d be reuniting with their brother. Luke and Samuel have the same birth mother, but they had been separated when they 54 | august/september 2011

Dawn and Gary Felger also care for about 40 head of cattle, three sheep, two pigs, five cats, four dogs and about 30 chickens and ducks.

were 3 and 1 1/2. After picking up both boys from their orphanages, Dawn found them sitting on the same side of the car’s backseat floor. They just stared at each other. Something instinctive in their bodies seemed to be saying they were brothers — and soon to be best friends.

The Felgers In May 2008, Gary moved his family from Fort Wayne, Ind., to Missouri after taking a job with the animal health care company Merial. He works with Missouri and Iowa cattle producers and has about 40 head of cattle of his own. The family’s fixer-up farm in Lohman, is also home to three sheep, two pigs, five cats, four dogs and about 30 chickens and ducks. “It feels like Indiana 30 years ago,” says Gary of their quiet farming community. The move to Missouri took some adjusting for the kids, but they now spend their free time exploring their 92 acres of creeks, hills and woods. All of the Felger children have transitioned into public school and blossomed into

their own vibrant personalities. Still a smiley child, Hannah has easily fallen into the oldest sibling role, looking out for her brothers, helping Dawn around the house and greeting houseguests. She enjoys reading, playing basketball and listening to music. Although the orphanage described him as a serious child, Joshua went through a silly phase, mixing his applesauce into his spaghetti and making silly facial expressions in photos. With age, he’s grown more focused as well as passionate about pencil sketching and World War II history. Luke and Samuel are fun-loving country boys interested in baseball, basketball and Legos. Luke is the sensitive, overly emphatic child; Samuel is quick to warm up to — and playfully tease — strangers. Dawn and Gary beam with pride when describing their family. They can’t imagine their life any differently. In their hearts, they hold a special place for Ukraine. In fact, every few months, the same question comes up: Will they adopt again? Knowing how much love they’ve brought into their four children’s lives, they can’t help but keep it open as a possibility. | 55

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ing dong, ding dong rang the doorbell. Luke, our 4-year-old grandson, ran to the door. I followed close behind. It was a neighbor with an invitation for our daughter. I explained that our daughter was out of town and we were babysitting. She noticed Luke and said, “Are you having fun with your grandma?” Very emphatically, Luke said, “No.” I was certain she wished she hadn’t asked the question. Then Luke said: “She is not my Grandma, she is my Grammy. I am having fun with my Grammy.” I heard the relief in the neighbor’s voice when she replied, “I am glad you are having fun with your Grammy, Luke.” I smiled to myself, realizing the name “Grammy” was special to our grandson. We became grandparents on the same day we took our youngest child to college. That evening we received a call from our son telling us to come to Kansas City; several hours later, we welcomed our first grandchild. Our empty nest had been filled with new joy and love for our first grandchild. In the days that followed, I began to ponder the role of grandparents. Sixteen years have passed. Like all things new in our lives, experience is often the best teacher. What has the grandparent experience taught me over the years? I consider a primary role of the grandparent as that of encourager. We need to be on the sidelines of the lives of our grandchildren and building their confidence. We can show love in many ways, but until it comes from our lips, it isn’t fully received. Encouragement can turn an attitude of defeat to one of triumph. Practically, how is this carried out in our lives? One way to encourage a grandchild at any age is to give him or her your undivided attention. I know it sounds simple, but let’s admit it; who isn’t bored after 15 minutes of playing “Barbie?” I understand it requires supernatural effort at times, but never underestimate the lasting impact of having fun together on their terms. Expressing confidence in children can shape their lives in many ways, including their work ethic. My parents asked our son, when he was 11 years old, to paint their house. He painted all summer. His Mama and Papa made him feel like the Da Vinci of house painting. Five years later, when he was in high school, he started a painting business. Another significant role for grandparents is the support of Dad and Mom. Note that I didn’t say always agree, rather support. We didn’t parent perfectly, and neither will our children. Counsel is best received if the parents ask, not before. If counsel is given before they ask, it is often perceived as criticism. One last role in the lives of grandchildren is that of modeling. What does your life look like to your grandchild? Do they see years of walking in integrity? Do they hear a voice of wisdom? Do they hear confession of mistakes and see humility? Perhaps reflection on such questions will help to guide us as grandparents. Although I did not know my grandparents, I remember visiting my parents with our four children. Somehow, no matter what was going on in our lives, all seemed well when we were at their home. It was as though life paused, and we were all refreshed. What they modeled is hard to define, but one thing is for certain: We knew they loved each other and us. A grandparent holds a unique relationship wrapped with an extraordinary love. Remember, you can be a vital part in shaping the next generation and the legacy you leave behind. I hope each of you enjoys the blessing of your role as a grandparent.

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hose with smartphones are finding some relief right in the palm of their hands by taking advantage of free and inexpensive phone applications to manage everything from grocery lists to family vacations. “Smartphones are the way of the future, and with all the free apps users can download, they can make life easier,” says Teri Twyman, U.S. Cellular direct sales manager for Missouri. With Twyman’s help, we chose the top family apps from the hundreds of thousands available to help make your life a bit easier.

Evernote: A top-10 must-have according to The New York Times, this app stores everything from random thoughts to memorable photos in one location. Organize sports schedules, grocery and homework assignments; jot down favorite birthday gifts, future vacation itineraries or special events; save Web clips, texts or social network quotes. Then access everything from your computer and smartphone. Available for Android, Blackberry, Windows Phone 7 and iPhone.

Google Shopper:

Stop running all over town for the best products and prices. Instead, scan barcodes or use your phone’s camera feature to locate area stores that carry same or similar items. Compare prices, see product reviews or get directions and phone numbers for competitive stores. Google Shopper even saves your search history. Android, BlackBerry and iPhones.

Kids Eat Free:

Eating out, locally or while traveling, can be very expensive, especially for larger families or ones with picky eaters. Kids Eat Free saves time, money and frustration by pinpointing your location and displaying area restaurants that offer free children’s meals. Available on Android and some iPhones. A Blackberry counterpart is KidsMealDeals.


This app is guaranteed to bring out the Betty Crocker in almost anyone. Start by selecting a dish, ingredients and/or time to prepare. Voila! You’ve got recipes. Shopping and forget the recipe? Save a trip or a phone call home by letting your fingers do the walking on your smartphone. Android, BlackBerry and Windows Phone 7.

Google Latitude: Share your location and stay in touch with family and friends. Latitude locates and displays your contacts visually on a map whether they are halfway around the world or close to your current location. Great for theme park trips to monitor teenagers without cramping their style. Android, BlackBerry and iPhone.

First Aid:

So essential in an emergency, this app provides easily identifiable icons for quick searches. Step-by-step procedures and videos offer treatments for everything from minor cuts to broken bones and heart attacks. A call option stores emergency numbers. Available for Android and BlackBerry; try iFirstAid for iPhones.


Stay informed on all activities and events regardless of where you are with Aloqa. This app recommends interesting places, services and events and even refreshes itself automatically wherever you go. Android, BlackBerry, Windows Phone 7, iPhone. And finally, because you’ll be lost without your smartphone, don’t forget to install a locator app such as Where’s My Droid, Android; PhoneLocate, BlackBerry; Find My Phone, iPhone.

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e all love our families, but let’s be honest; not all family time is created equal. Thirty minutes spent reading a good book with your daughter is bliss, but 30 minutes trying to brush the snarls out of her hair — not so much. And an hour tossing around the football with your son is great fun, but an hour spent explaining why a ceiling fan with a belt hooked over it does not make a carousel is not (especially because you are more than likely having this conversation in the ER.) We all crave more of the good kind of family time. So assuming you can assemble all your troops in the same place at the same time, how can you make sure your family time leaves you feeling closer than ever? Three words: family game night. Having a family game night is by no means a new idea. In fact, it’s almost cliché to suggest it. But like so many clichés, it has become so for a reason. Family game nights really are a lot of fun. It’s a rare opportunity for all members of the family to be engaged in the same activity at the same time, a feat that gets more difficult as children get older. It is also a perfect excuse for everyone in the house to unplug for an hour or so. There isn’t much to setting up a game night. Follow the principle: If you plan it, they will come. Set a date, pick a game, and play. It’s pretty simple. But sometimes it isn’t. Those who have children of an age when the art of sportsmanship is still being developed know of what I speak. For this segment of the population, I offer a few tips that may help you avoid some potential family game night pitfalls. 74 | august/september 2011

How to navigate cheating, crying and creative rule-making

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Silence your cell phone, turn off the TV, shut down the computer, and plan an old-fashioned family game night.


Cheating will probably be an issue. I don’t know you, and I don’t know your kids. Maybe your kids would never in a million years even consider moving their top hat up a few spaces or pretend they didn’t understand what the card said. But there are some kids out there who will. And it isn’t just kids who cheat. Adults often bend the rules while playing, too, not usually to win but to either allow their kids to win or to make the game shorter. (This is understandable given that a well-played game of Chutes and Ladders can last longer than a round of golf.) I’m not here to judge. But it’s best to decide beforehand what your policy on cheating is so that when it happens, you are prepared to deal with it in such a way as not to ruin the entire evening.


You will want to win.

This is yet another example of something that presents itself as your kids get older, but there will come a point when you are playing Monopoly with your child and you will enjoy — perhaps a little too much — watching him go bankrupt by landing on Boardwalk with your three hotels. It may be ugly, but it’s true. And if you are the really competitive sort, you may even find yourself engaging in a little trash-talk. “What? You don’t have the rent? You can’t pay the mortgage? Uh-oh. Looks like somebody’s going bankrupt.” (Actual transcript of a game between my husband and our 9-year-old.)


If you insist on following the rules, you might have a nervous breakdown. Children,

especially those under the age of 7, don’t like to follow the rules. They forget. They misunderstand. They simply do not care. This is a battle you can choose to fight, or you can wave your white flag and let them make up some creative rules of their own. You might even find a way to make the game more fun — or if nothing else, shorter.


Someone at the table will have a meltdown if they don’t win. Try to anticipate this

behavior. You might not be able to change anything, but at least if you are prepared, you can use it as a teachable moment. All games have a winner and loser. It may hurt, but sooner or later we all have to learn that lesson.


You will have more fun than you think you will. I can practically promise you that. Sitting

around a table playing a board game with your family is almost retro in its simplicity, but therein lies its beauty. It is good, simple, inexpensive fun that not only holds possibilities for teaching your kids life lessons, but it also brings families closer in ways you might not expect. So silence your cell phone, turn off the TV, shut down the computer, and plan an old-fashioned family game night. There will be lots of laughter; there may even be a few tears. But the best part is that if you’ve done it well, there will most certainly be a rematch.

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After a year studying in Mexico, Columbia native David Wax began merging Midwestern and Mexican folk music in playful, unexpected ways. His inventive band, David Wax Museum, now has gained a large grassroots following and critical acclaim. b y S t e phani e D e ti l l i e r | photos b y Erik J acobs


ost people assumed David Wax would end up with a career in academia. He was a former Rock Bridge student council president, a summa cum laude Harvard graduate and a Phi Beta Kappa scholar. Despite his impressive performances with The Cat’s Pajamas, a Columbia rock band, few pegged him as a guy who’d become a professional musician. Wax didn’t envision that either. “It was hard to imagine myself as an artist,” says the 29-year-old who now lives in Amherst, Mass. “It always seemed very daunting, and I didn’t have a clear sense of what I wanted to offer that was artistically different from what was out there already.” But upon returning from a yearlong fellowship in Mexico, Wax knew exactly what unique musical perspective he could offer: a fusion of Mexican folk, Americana and indie rock music — with the rattling of a donkey jawbone thrown in for good measure. Since 2007, Wax has collaborated with fiddler Suz Slezak to form David Wax Museum, a band striving to create “music that is somehow familiar, as if it has always existed somewhere in our cultural ether, but is at the same time undeniably fresh.” Through hundreds of open mic nights, house performances, small gigs and concerts, David Wax Museum has amassed a large grassroots fan base and awed music critics with its distinctive sound. “I think there’s a lot of music out there that takes certain formulas and reapplies them and doesn’t question or re-evaluate them,” Wax says, who mainly plays the jarana, a Mexican guitar-like instrument. “As a songwriter and as a band, we try to think about different ways that songs are presented. When you can’t rely on the same tricks, it forces you to go in a different direction. That’s been an important part of our success.” In the past year alone, the band has been named Boston’s Americana Artist of the Year, hailed by Time magazine as one of the top 10 acts at South by Southwest, featured as an illustration in The New Yorker and promoted on National Public Radio. Wax and Slezak, a native of rural Virginia, have crisscrossed the country this summer performing at the Newport Folk Festival, the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts, Madison Square Park in New York City and more. On Sept. 10, the duo, which often performs with a bevy of guest artists, will return to Wax’s hometown for a 1:30 p.m. performance at the Roots N Blues N BBQ Festival. “I soaked up a healthy, diverse dose of music — country, progressive jazz, rock — while in Columbia,” he says. “It was part of the benefit of growing up in a college town and in the cultural mecca of central Missouri.” | 79

From scholar to musician In retrospect, Wax’s trajectory from likely scholar to thriving musician doesn’t seem all that unlikely. Described by his parents as a self-driven child influenced by Bob Dylan and The Beatles, Wax began music lessons at age 7 and practiced chords on his greatgrandmother’s piano. In the fourth grade, he took up jazz piano with Tom Andes and later joined a klezmer (traditional Jewish music) ensemble and played electric bass at St. Andrew’s Evangelical Church. His musical diet included Wilco, the Old 97’s, Whiskeytown, They Might Be Giants, Trailhead, Ironweed Bluegrass Band and Tom Andes’ Saturday night performances at Murry’s. His main musical project, however, was The Cat’s Pajamas. His rock band, which featured his cousin Jordan on accordion, performed at elementary schools and 80 | august/september 2011

downtown venues, including The Blue Note, for five-plus years. When members of The Cat’s Pajamas went their separate ways, Wax turned his focus away from music. Looking for a fulfilling challenge, he enrolled at Deep Springs College, an all-male, two-year school near Big Pine, Calif. In addition to attending classes, the mere 13 students accepted to the liberal arts school each year work at least 20 hours a week on its cattle and alfalfa farm. “Deep Springs offered a real holistic education, and that’s what appealed to me at the time,” Wax says. “It educated the whole person with an eye toward community.”

A change in perspective During the summer after his freshman year, he traveled to Mexico to build ecologi-

cal stoves in poor communities, an experience that sparked his interested in Mexican culture, music and politics. He began thinking more seriously about a career in the arts, but he wanted a four-year degree from a more traditional university first. After a year of traveling the country on Greyhound buses, performing at open mics and busking in subway stations, Wax arrived at Harvard. There, he studied Latin American history and literature, while also taking courses in poetry, Einstein’s physics and dinosaurs. His musical awakening came upon graduation, when he received a yearlong fellowship to study in Mexico. When Wax began learning Mexican folk music, he often didn’t know the Spanish lyrics or couldn’t pick them up fast enough. Not one to take himself too seriously, Wax started making up his own English lyrics to

the tunes. One of his teachers then challenged him to write “son mexicano,” Mexican folk music. So Wax took songs he had written on an American guitar and began playing them with Mexican instruments and rhythms. When his fellowship was up, he returned to Boston with a gut feeling that he was meant to be a musician. “I had a hard time bringing myself to do anything else,” says Wax, who had left high school with plans to study politics. “I tried studying for the GRE for grad school, tried looking at other jobs, but all I wanted to do was sit around and write songs and practice. I felt like I was caught up in a current, and that’s where I was being pulled.” Wax performed on his own and with several bands while working odd jobs, including part-time teaching at Harvard and tutoring college-bound students. “He never had mixed feelings or qualms about what he was doing,” says his father, Harvey, who describes Wax as a frugal man who “could live on a sandwich and someone’s couch.” Through a mutual friend, Wax met Slezak, a Wellesley College grad who

had a bluegrass, Irish and classical music background. He introduced her to Mexican folk music and urged her to buy a “quijada,” or donkey jawbone, which is a traditional percussion instrument. Its signature sound comes from the clattering of the roughly 12 donkey teeth still left in the jaw. Although the duo had a musical edge from the start, making the band their profession took a lot longer. David Wax Museum didn’t sign with a record label or immediately snatch up spots at festivals. Instead, Wax and Slezak operated on tight budgets and performed in coffee shops, small venues, homes and backyards. For their recent self-released record, Everything Is Saved, they took online pre-orders to help finance its production. “Through hard work and one house concert, one festival, one interview at a time, they’re striving to make it work,” says Harvey, who watches many of his son’s shows on YouTube. “They perform 200 to 300 shows a year. There are no shortcuts. This isn’t American Idol.”

Through hard work and one house concert, one festival, one interview at a time, they’re striving to make it work.



Sept. 10 - Dec. 15 Location: Historic Costume Gallery, Stephens College 6 N. College Ave. (mezzanine f loor of Lela Raney Wood Hall) Gallery hours: Noon-3 p.m. Sat. and Sun., 5:30-8:30 p.m. on Thursday (or by appt.) Special hours: Artrageous Friday, October 7, 6:00-9:00 p.m. For more information call 573-876-7220 or Special tours can be scheduled for groups of five or more. Free and open to the public OPPOSITE PAGE: Suz Slezak and David Wax deliver playful music that reflects their bluegrass and indie rock backgrounds as well as Wax's interests in Mexican folk music. ABOVE: By playing the quijada (donkey jawbone) and jarana, the duo adds a Latin American sound to Americana tunes. | 81

New England fall foliage provides the backdrop for the band's "Born With a Broken Heart" music video.

The tastemakers take notice In summer 2010, Wax’s mother, Jennifer, who went to Stephens College on a piano scholarship, decided to meet her sister in Minnesota and drive to one of her son’s gigs in Fargo, N.D. She was stunned, especially when the band walked into the crowd, unplugged their instruments and began performing an acoustic gospel song. “The people around them were just mesmerized,” says Jennifer, a retired art teacher and fiber artist in Columbia. “I was amazed at how good they were. I didn’t know they had gotten to that level.” Many music tastemakers also began taking notice of their striking talent after their performance at the 2010 Newport Folk Festival. To get there, David Wax Museum beat out more than 150 bands in the Big Opener contest, an online voting process to invite a band to join

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the lineup. Winning the contest was huge for David Wax Museum, which had only performed at one prior festival. “For some bands, it’s just one other festival,” Wax says. “But we saw it as our chance to break through to a larger audience. In reality, you have to kind of see all your shows like that. You never know who will be there and what connection you might make with a fan. Each gig has somehow paid off in some way by leading to a die-hard fan or another sweet opportunity.” Since then, David Wax Museum has been able to hire a manager and publicist, which has helped the duo land better gigs, including national tours with Josh Ritter and the Old 97’s. Performing hundreds of shows across the world, however, has made it more challenging for Wax to find time for songwriting, a process that can take him a year or two. Some of his songs are translations of Mexican lyrics; other times they’re based on his own raw emotional experiences. “For some reason, songwriting has always been a really good avenue for me to push deeper into whatever wound is there and explore the depths of it,” says Wax, who is preparing for the duo’s next CD, which will be recorded this winter. Jennifer says she’s noticed her son’s personal experiences, including the year he spent living with his grandfather who had Alzheimer’s, come out in his music. The lyrics carry much meaning for her, Harvey and Wax’s two brothers. So was Wax “born with a broken heart” as the lead song on Everything Is Saved suggests? He’d rather not say. “I don’t want people to read the songs as autobiographic or like my diary,” he says. “They’re inspired by something that happened to me or something I read, but it can limit the listener’s experience if they know too much about my personal connection to the song.”

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book club | The white woman on the green bicycle

Partnerships Built of Compromise The White Woman on the Green Bicycle

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Hearts and Minds by Amanda Craig

The Very Thought of You by Rosie Alison

The Way Things Look to Me

B y K e ija P arssin e n Photo courtesy of amazon

List from Good Reads:

by Roopa Farooki


n her powerful second novel, The White Woman on the Green Bicycle, which was short-listed for the Orange Prize, Trinidad-born Monique Roffey explores the complicated racial and political dynamics of the country through the eyes of expatriates George and Sabine Harwood. The Harwoods’ marriage suffers because of Sabine’s uneasy relationship with Trinidad, where she feels acutely conscious of her outsider status, and George’s insatiable love for, and resultant refusal to leave, the island. The novel spans from 1956 to 2006, and during the course of that time, we see Sabine and George, once passionately in love, grow apart. The book opens in 2006, when the marriage has already soured. After initially fighting it, Sabine resigns herself to life on the island and develops a dependence on Valium to get her through the hot days. George, unable to find satisfaction with his wilting wife, seduces half the women on the island and, discovering no reprieve there, drowns his sorrows in rum. While the Harwood marriage crumbles, we see the natives of Trinidad, galvanized by the electric orator Eric Williams, push for freedom from their British colonizers and establish independence. But just as moving back to England would not solve the Harwoods’ problems, so independence under a conflicted Williams does not fully emancipate the citizens of Trinidad. Partnerships, both political and marital, Roffey seems to say, are built of compromises. The novel shows that the blind devotion with which we most often approach love or political ideals is both foolish but inevitable, the product of being human and having hope. The trick is how to survive disappointment when it arrives, which it most certainly will. Roffey’s prose is lucid and lush, and much like her characters, she doesn’t hold anything back. Each sentence is a pleasure — sometimes a hard pleasure — and evokes the island as it is, not as a reader might want it to be. The novel doesn’t shy away from difficult subjects such as racism, colonialism and infidelity. Rather, it attacks them head on and in unexpected ways and forces the reader to confront, and perhaps question, his or her own views. Roffey tells the truth beautifully, her characters flawed but compelling, her island world brutal but redeemed by hope.

Keija Parssinen received an M.F.A. in fiction from the University of Iowa Writers’ Workshop, where she was a Truman Capote fellow. Her debut novel, Against the Kings of Salt, will be published by Harper Perennial in January 2012. Keija directs the Quarry Heights Writers' Workshop, a community for Columbia's creative writers. To find out more about the workshop, please visit the QHWW website,

The Man Who Disappeared by Clare Morrall

Grace Williams Says it Loud by Emma Henderson

Fe atur ed Boo k Club : The Li t erazzas On how the group was founded, Anne Weller says: “We were a group of single, divorced or widowed women who often gathered on Fridays after work for a glass of wine; it was strictly social. But then Wendy [Evans] approached me with the idea of having a forum that would allow a better opportunity for us to get to know one another and to share our thoughts on books. Wendy and I met for coffee in early January 2011 and decided to poll the Friday night group for interest. Happily, many of the women expressed an interest, and in March we held an organizational meeting to set meeting times, date, select a name and pick the first few reads. The first meeting was held in April, where we discussed Water for Elephants, followed by a discussion of The Help in May. Our book for July is Unbroken. We are only just beginning!”

Members From Left: Wendy Evans, M.S.N., R.N., Legal Nurse Consultant, Legal Medical Matters LLC; Anne Weller, Retired Development Officer, University of Missouri; Shelley Lyle, R.N., D.D.S., Private Practice Dentist; Cora Butler, J.D., R.N., Director of Commercial Operations, Primaris Healthcare Solutions; Judy Freeman, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus, University of Missouri; Lynne Pye, Senior Coordinator Continuing Education, University of Missouri Extension; Elinor Arendt, Owner, Action Realty; Kitty Dickerson, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus,University of Missouri; Jana Hawley, Ph.D., HDFS Department Chair, University of Missouri; STANDING UP: Caroline Gower, Owner, Caroline and Company; Janice Schuerman, Senior VP/Corporate Secretary, MFA Inc.; Wanda Northway, Founding Partner, House of Brokers; NOT PICTURED: Carolyn Paris, Business Development, Callaway Bank; Dee Corn, Retired, School Administrator; Gina Boone, J.D., Attorney, Columbia Insurance Group; Julie Caplow, Ph.D., Faculty, University of Missouri; Yvette Gonzales, VP of Information Services, Shelter Insurance; Alfredo Mubarah, Associate Publisher, Columbia Home Magazine

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diy | sidewalk chalk

Homemade Sidewalk Chalk This is a recipe sure to be fun in the making as well as the using. B y b e th sn y d e r


Make your mold (or buy them).

What’s more fun than drawing for hours with sidewalk

You can either use toilet paper

chalk? Making your own, of course! Create unlimited color

the cardboard from a cereal box.

rolls or just make your own with

combinations and shapes for your family, for a party favor

Cut a piece of wax paper to go on

or just for yourself.

to glue-stick it on there but not

the inside of the mold. It’s helpful necessary. Fold or roll the carborad to the desired shape, then tape the edges and bottom closed to prevent leaks.

Her e ’s wh at yo u ’ l l n e e d to g e t s tarted: • 1/2 cup Plaster of Paris • Newspapers • Toilet paper roll or cardboard from a cereal box • Wax paper • Duct tape • 3 tablespoons of tempera paint • 1 cup warm water • 1 gallon zippered freezer bag


Time to mix the recipe. Mix each individual color as one recipe. Take a one gallon plastic bag and dissolve the tempera paint in the water. Add the plaster by sprinkling a little at a time. Close the bag securely, and mix with your hands until there are no more lumps.


This is the tricky part: g etting the mixture into the mold. If you’re not worried about g etting messy, a spoon is just fine. I tried it this way first but was worried about the chalk setting up too quickly, so I went for the quicker method of cutting the corner of the bag off and using it as a funnel.

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The plaster will be set up within about 45 minutes, but it will take longer for it to be usable. Mix several recipes with a variety of colors, and let the whole batch cure for a few days.


Unmold the chalk, and draw up a masterpiece!


Make a few different colors,

and alternate pouring them in the molds for multi-color chalk. Mix the tempera paint in after you pour the chalk in the mold for a marbled look. Buy a candle mold, and make a fun shape. Use cookie cutter letters as molds for a party favor! | 87

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entertainment | happenings about town

8 Things

You must do Next month

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34th Annual Heritage Festival and Craft Show

Rally up the cowboys and cowgirls, and tote the young’uns to the 34th Annual Heritage Festival and Craft Show at Nifong Park. On Sept. 17 and 18 from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m., go back in time and walk through a 1859 town filled with actors in costume from shopkeepers to cowboys and their wagons and a Lewis and Clark outpost. Music, dancing and storytelling will entertain the crowds as traditional tradesmen and artisans demonstrate the “lost arts” of the old Wild West days. Local bands and a variety of music will be heard throughout the festival, as well as spooky ghost stories Saturday night. Festivalgoers can purchase handmade crafts, and the kids will have a blast playing games in the Fun for Young’uns Area. Chow down on tasty food, and don’t forget to take the whole family on the hayride. Contact (573) 874-7460 for more information.


5TH ANNUAL Roots N Blues N BBQ Festival


Australian duo Air Supply

Graham Russell and Russell Hitchcock have been making music together for more than 35 years. They met in Sydney, Australia, while performing for the musical Jesus Christ Superstar. Russell and Hitchcock joined forces with four other members, a keyboardist, guitarist, bassist and a drummer, to form the soft rock group Air Supply in 1975. Their first single was “Love and Other Bruises,” and their first album in Australia was a self-titled album. They became internationally known in the late 1970s when they opened for Rod Stewart. Five years later they signed with Arista, and their first album in the United States was on the shelves later that year. Air Supply’s top hits include “Lost in Love,” “The One That You Love” and “The Singer and the Song.” Their latest album, Mumbo Jumbo, took three years to complete because of a demanding touring schedule. Popular songs from Mumbo Jumbo are “Hold On” and “Dance with Me.” Air Supply has toured around the globe in the Philippines, Singapore, Vietnam, Malaysia, Brazil, Israel, Taiwan and Thailand. Fans of Air Supply, otherwise known as Airheads, will be able to rock their faces off when the duo comes to Boonville’s Isle of Capri Hotel Casino on Friday, Sept. 23. Doors open at 7 p.m., and the concert begins at 8 p.m. Tickets are $25 each and go on sale Monday, Aug. 15. Call (660) 882-1200 for information and tickets.

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The Roots N Blues N BBQ Festival takes over downtown Columbia Sept. 9 and 10. Live a carnivore’s dream, and feast on sweet and tangy ribs, chicken, pork, brisket and other foodstuffs. Listen to blues, gospel and folk music, and take in the sights and sounds of downtown Columbia. The festival will host its annual BBQ contest and its King of the Roots band talent competition. The musical acts are Dale Watson, Los Lobos, Taj Mahal, Dr. Ralph Stanley, Mavis Staples, Robert Cray, Fitz and the Tantrums, Robert Randolph and the Family Band, Sam Bush, The Flatlanders, Ana Popovic, Music Maker Revue, Reverend Peyton’s Big Damn Band, William Elliott Whitmore, Toubab Krewe, Railroad Earth and David Wax Museum. Purchase tickets online at


2011 Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure

Help find a cure for breast cancer rain or shine at the Mizzou Sports Park on Sunday, Sept. 18. Run or walk the second annual 5K, and spread awareness in Columbia and beyond. Run for someone who has lost the battle or pulled through victorious. Donations will benefit the community by providing medical treatment for those who qualify, free mammograms and diagnostics, support groups and education on breast cancer. Money will also fund breast cancer research to find a cure. Online registration for adults is $30 until Aug. 22. The cost for those participating in Sleep In and Pink in the Pew or for those using paper applications is $35. Kids 6 and older are $15. Race day registration begins at 6 a.m. The timed race begins at 8 a.m., and the untimed race starts at 8:10 a.m. Register online at


2nd Annual Wine Tasting Event

Join the Hugh E. Stephenson Heart and Stroke Ball Committee on Thursday, September 9 for the Second Annual Wine Tasting Event at the Peachtree Catering & Banquet Center. From 6 to 8:30 p.m., travel the globe while sipping vintage and exotic wines from around the world. Golden Barrel, Cooper’s Oak Winery and Glazer’s will be providing the fine wines and wine will be available to purchase through Top Ten Wines. A doctor will speak on the health benefits of wines during the event as well. Tickets are $50 when purchased ahead of time and are $60 at the door. Proceeds will benefit the American Heart and Stroke Association. Call (573) 446-3000 ext. 3130 for more information and tickets.

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Bring the kiddos to the Around the World Family Fun Fest on Wednesday, Aug. 17 from 6 to 8 p.m. at Flat Branch Park. Give your kids the world tour without even leaving Columbia. Listen to music, dance and play games from around the world. On Wednesday, Sept. 21 from 6 to 8 p.m., bring out your inner artist or actor to the Family Fun Fest. Kids can watch music, theater and dance performances and have fun making arts and crafts. Both events are free for everyone and will also have a bounce house and face painting. Call (573) 874-7460 for more information.


The Greatest Show on Earth: Fashion Circus

Stephens College will feature a circus-themed exhibition from Sept. 10 to Dec. 15. The opening reception is from 12 to 3 p.m. on Sept. 10 at Stephens’ Lela Raney Wood Hall on the mezzanine floor. This exhibition will host a range of pieces from historical fashion items, clown costumes and animal-themed clothing. There will be a black-and-white-themed section to balance out the bright colors of the other pieces as well. A slideshow will illustrate a diverse array of fashion that pushes the limits and encourages others to do the same. And last but not least, some of the ringmasters who brought the circus to Stephens are Anna Wintour, Andre Leon Talley, Hamish Bowles, Simon Doonan and Diana Vreeland. They have helped raise the top tent of fashion and brought the circus to town. For more information go to or call (573) 876-7220.


Citizen Jane Film Festival

Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, children of all ages: Co-directors Paula Elias and Kerri Yost proudly present the fourth annual Citizen Jane Film Festival. Cirque du Cinema is this year’s theme and will be held Sept. 30 through Oct. 2. Citizen Jane celebrates women in the film industry, both in front of the camera and behind the scenes, who only make up 7 percent of the film industry. Because so few women are involved in the making of films, Citizen Jane aims to bring more women into the business. Some women of the film industry will join this weekend circus to show off their feats, teach other women how to make films and help create more female filmmakers. This three-ring circus will be held at Stephens College, Ragtag and the Missouri Theatre Center for the Arts. “We craft a unique experience around each film that you won’t find anywhere else so that there is a reason to get out of the house,” Elias says. There will be 30 films from around the world shown at Citizen Jane in addition to workshops, panels and parties. “In between films there’s something to do,” Yost says. Filmgoers can meet one another and the women involved with the films at Citizen Jane. “We want people to start and end the weekend knowing each other better,” Elias says. Filmgoers can also mingle at Friday’s reception, have a blast at the film festival’s Saturday night party and enjoy one another’s company during Sunday morning brunch. Yost and Elias say making and directing a film is very much like a circus. They agree the early days of the circus are an inspiration for women in film because, unlike the rest of society, in the early 20th century women in the circus industry could have a career, physical talents and strengths at a time when that was not the norm for women. Tickets and passes can be purchased at

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on the web | adoption

Finding Family Sometimes the next step toward growing a family is just a click away. These sites cover everything from international adoption to local adoption, foster care to youth mentoring. B y l a u r e n y o u ng

Our Little Tongginator Tongginator is just one of the many creative nicknames this mommy blogger uses to identify the people in her life. The Tonggu Momma shares her musings as an adoptive mother of two in her blog Our Little Tongginator. Her humorous anecdotes and heartfelt stories give wonderful insight into what it is like to be an adoptive parent to two young Chinese girls nicknamed Tongginator and Mei Mei. Mei Mei joined the family this June. Tonggu Momma has blogged about the entire process of adopting her girls, including her trips to China to meet them for the first time. Currently her posts illuminate Mei Mei’s struggles to adjust to life outside of China.

The Missouri Heart Gallery Project Thousands of children are waiting to find a “forever home” in America today. Many of these children are older, and because of their age, it is more difficult for them to be adopted. Diane Granito, a foster and adoptive parent recruiter for the New Mexico Children, Youth & Families Development and founder of Heart Gallery in 2001, and New Mexico photographer Cathy Maier Callanan saw a way to help these older children and sibling groups find permanent homes, and the Heart Gallery was born. Local professional photographers donate photographs in the gallery. These photographers take the time to get to know the children so the pictures reflect their personalities. The rate of adoption of these older children and sibling groups increased immediately after the launch of the Heart Gallery in New Mexico, with six children adopted on the first day. Since 2001 the Heart Gallery Project has spread to 48 states including Missouri. Images of children waiting to be adopted in Missouri can be found in the virtual gallery on the Missouri Heart Gallery website.

Lutheran Family and Children’s Services of Missouri | Lutheran Family and Children’s Services of Missouri provides a multitude of services including adoption assistance, foster care, youth mentoring and counseling. The organization was founded shortly after the Civil War in 1868 as an orphanage. Today it is one of the original 40 founding member agencies of the Community Fund, now known as United Way. The website is well organized and easy to navigate. Information about adoption and other LFCS services can be found under the “Programs & Services” tab in the navigation bar.

P eople You Should F ollow Connect to Columbia at

@KBIA Columbia and MU’s NPR affiliate. All the news you could ever want! @lil_jimmy_rnb The official voice of the Roots N Blues N BBQ Festival! Look for festival updates, event information and ticket promotions. @PSGallery A contemporary fine art gallery located in downtown Columbia. @TheFoodBankMO Sharing food and bringing hope to hungry people for 30 years. @kampaialley Brand new sushi bar and restaurant in downtown Columbia. (Alley A in between Ninth and 10th streets).

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city scene | Columbia Art League

Columbia Art League

Diana Moxon, Gary and Patricia McIntosh Coles

Ben Orzeske and Tom O'Connor Suzanne Norton

Hannia Burke-Ag端ero

Alex Innecco, Lynette and Ken Logsdon Rick Titmus and Tracy Eichhorn

Giorgi Topouria, Ben Gakinya and Irena Tevzadze

Sarah Seat and Eric Seat

Chris Stevens, Jennifer Perlow and Keith Eggener

Jackie Verdun, Becky McHugh, Vicki Ott and Tootie Burns

Summer Members' Open Show Reception June 23, 2011. The Columbia Art League gives the people of Columbia a chance to learn about art and admire it. CAL offers workshops, seminars and a variety of classes that are open to all ages year-round. | 97

city scene | Sip for second chance

Sip for Second Chance

Beth Pekkala, Kate Tripp and Jessica Ludwig Nick Kenney and Shannan Baker Priya Batchu Amanda Schlink and Sweetie, the bloodhound

Shannon Kasmann and Crystal Cooper

Alfredo Mubarah and Karma

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Jennifer Perlow and Chris Stevens

Sharon Ginsburg, Adele Coleman and Jennifer Larmie

Anne Tuckley

city scene | Sip for second chance

Shannon Kasman, Paul Vernon and Valerie Chassin Becky McHugh and Alfredo Mubarah

Kim Foster and Karma, the Pomeranian

Shelley Ravipudi Karen and Mark Grundy

Jeff Trotter and Daisy, the Beagle

Betsy and Aaron Bell

Kristina and Paul Vernon

Columbia Second Chance and their adorable, adoptable furry friends took a Sip for Second Chance on June 24 at the wine tasting by Top Ten Wines at PS: Gallery, featuring Master Sommelier Bob Campbell and wines from the Golden Barrel portfolio. | 99

city scene | Golf tournaments

Tee Up For Families

Chris Crocker, Joe Scholl, Billy Giordano and Jeremy Bowles Sarah Harbour, Missy Brooks, Kristy Jacoby and Heidi Glaus

Tim Karle, Jim Brown and Tim Swinfard

Skip Brombstedt, Steve Pohl, David Baugher and John Schopflin

Angee McDaniel, Julie Miller, Nancee Swanson and Shanna Quinn

The Family Counseling Center of Missouri's Annual Tee Up For Families Golf Tournament. The tournament was held at Eagle Knoll on June 6 and raised more than $17,000.

Coaches for Kids Wilson Sundvold

Matt Smith, Brett Crist, Gary Pinkel, David Flood and Craig Kuhns

Brian Neuner, Alec Herzog, John Kadlec, Whitey Herzog, Jay Higgins, Chris Ashton and Brad Harrison

MPIX Coaches for Kids raised a record $77,450 for MU Children’s Hospital. Nearly 30 celebrity coaches joined more than 100 local golfers on June 13 at The Club at Old Hawthorne.

Andy Hill, Scott Middleton and Jon Sundvold

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Johnny Roland

Warren Powers, Daniel Winn, J. Devin Cashman, Billy Baird and Jon Van Ness

city scene | EPIC

Ida Hatton, Beau Areo, Patricia Blueitt, Alfredo Mubarah and Dan Pobst

Emily Hendren, Chris Marks and Emily Price Stephanie Turner Stephanie and Mike Kleffner

Courtney Wieberg and Andrea Wright

Kate Stull and Sarah Richards Teresa White and Elizabeth Rawlings

Mitchell Drinkard and Elisabeth Trumbower

Jay Linder and Michelle Mountjoy

Crystal Umfress and Tim Chancellor

EPIC’s fun mixer at Grand Cru on June 30 celebrated the end of their program year with Columbia Home. | 101

Home Bound

These friendly faces are located at the Central Missouri Humane Society, 616 Big Bear Blvd., Columbia, Mo.










Ag e : 8 years old B r e e d : Coonhound T e m p e r a m e n t : Lorainne is a calm, very laidback and gentle sweetheart.

Ag e : 7-8 months old B r e e d : Lab/Collie Mix T e m p e r a m e n t : Really friendly, loving and playful. Everything you want in a lab! Really sweet dude.

Ag e : 3 years old B r e e d : Husky T e m p e r a m e n t : Really outgoing. He loves to play but doesn’t realize his strength. He needs an experienced owner who will train him.

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Ag e : 4 years old B r e e d: Shih Tzu T e m p e r a m e n t : Panda is a quiet and low-key guy who is happiest in a calm house environment. Low-maintenance lap dog.

Ag e : 5 years old B r e e d: Terrier T e m p e r a m e n t : Outgoing yet independent. Active, but very sweet! Will need a patient owner. Kind of moody.

Ag e : 2 years old B r e e d: Maine Coon T e m p e r a m e n t : Sweet and tolerant! Doesn’t like being picked up.

Ag e : 1 year old B r e e d: “Mini” Australian Shepherd T e m p e r a m e n t : Nervous little girl who needs some socialization! She’s happiest when she’s with her brother.

Ag e : 6 years old B r e e d: Manchester Terrier T e m p e r a m e n t : Jam is a handsome guy who’s really scared in the shelter! Once he feels safe, he’ll be an active and loving companion.

Ag e : 1 year old B r e e d: Domestic Short Hair T e m p e r a m e n t : So friendly! Loves to be held and petted.

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the last word | brock ballard

Defining Family With an adopted son and three foster children, Brock Ballard and his wife, Julie, have created a family defined by love, stability and support. b y brock ba l l ar d


y beautiful wife’s brown eyes were weary but alert as she kept the kids quiet and stopped them from pushing all the bells and whistles that fill a hospital room. Julie and I have four children, one adopted and three foster. Each of our kids has traveled on different paths through the foster/adoption system to get to our family experiencing separation, loss and grief in various forms and ways. Children who go through the foster care system just want some stability in their lives. So when something happens to threaten that stability, it’s as if the rug has been pulled out from under them. My recent hospital stay in June to take care of some heart issues brought out that fear in my kids. Julie and I teach our kids to understand that bad stuff sometimes happens to families, but those bad things don’t have to tear families apart. Rather, the bad days are opportunities to grow stronger and work together. Julie and I have two sons, Court and Andy*. Court, 12, is our oldest and has been with me since he was 2 years old. He attached to me quickly after he moved in with me, and I adopted him at the age of 3. We have always been close even though we drive each other crazy at times. Andy is the newest to the tribe, and even at 10 he has been through so much. He was the quietest and the last to enter my hospital room when my family came to visit. Julie and I are also currently fostering two sisters, Sarah* and Katie*. Sarah, 7, has never been pleased with my presence in her life. She has not had any experience with positive male role models, but since she came to our home 18 months ago, she has grown accustomed to my presence. Katie, 3, is her younger sister. She bonded quickly with me when she moved in with us. She walked in to the hospital room, clung to her big brother and was wary of daddy lying in bed with wires sticking out of his arm. Katie looked at me and asked, “Daddy, you sick?” My kids brought me homemade cards that night in the hospital. On the front of Sarah’s homemade card was a big heart with her name on top of it. On the inside it said, “Get well, Dad.” She has never once called me Daddy, but I know the day that she does will be a turning point in our relationship. The look in her eyes was not as foreboding as any of the other kids, but she was quick to hug me before she left. My hugs from her are usually more like drive-bys, but that day she held on a little bit longer. Andy’s card said, “I hope you get well soon and come back.” Many people have left Andy in his life, and he is afraid I will be another one. My heart broke as I read his words and looked into his eyes full of worry. He sat on the bed next to me and took a hold of my hand and did not say much. My family joined hands with me, and each of them said a prayer for me before they left. To hear each of their voices express their concerns to God in their own words was a wonderful moment. Although I saw the fears, worry and concerns in their eyes, I could also see the love and genuine concern they have for their mom, me and for one another. What I saw in all of our eyes that night was that of the eyes of a family. Update: I am now fully recovered from my hospitalization in early June and was recently given a good report from my cardiologist. I am back at work, playing with my family and enjoying life each day to the fullest. *Some names have been changed to protect the privacy of the children in the foster care system. Name: Brock Ballard Age: 42 Education: B.S. in psychology from Evangel University Work: Foster Adopt/Kinship Worker for MBCH Children and Family Ministries: I was first a foster parent as a single individual for three years and then took a break until after my wife, Julie, and I got married. We have been licensed foster parents now for three and a half years. 106 | august/september 2011

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