Ask “UnLearn With Me”
were given all the tools we will ever need. The sooner we adjust to this new mentality of selfreliance, the more prosperous we’ll be!
I am so excited to discuss the topic of unlearning with you today. I continue to experience new things I’m forced to unlearn everyday so its truly an ongoing process and the list could go on forever but we’ll abbreviate it and include just enough to help us on our journey. 1.) Unlearning External Validation Sometimes I wish I could conduct an
2.) Unlearning Toxic Defense Mechanisms I don’t know about you, but my absolute most toxic trait is sabotaging my interpersonal relationships and ending them a bit too premature (according to others). The only reason I don’t completely subscribe to that notion is because it truly is a solid defense mechanism. When others start moving funny, I usually decide I don’t need to
experiment on whether living in smaller towns
see the full movie if the trailer tells me everything I
creates a more hostile environment. It has been my
need to know. And that’s ok! I am not telling you to
experience here in upstate New York and I am
unlearn how to defend yourself and set
curious if changing to a larger city would create more
boundaries. I am simply saying be mindful of
positive connections for me. I call it “Greener Grass”
acting out of fear or anger. What makes a defense
Syndrome because happiness is believed to be on
mechanism toxic? The level of fear and anger
the other side of an unknown variable which does not
behind the decision to defend oneself is usually
seem fair, but we all do it. As an entrepreneur and
what creates the toxic response. Tune in to
avid loner, I have learned we all pretty much feel the
yourself as only you know when your limit has
same. We naturally look to our friends, families and
been reached and if you’re intentions are pure and
support systems for validation and encouragement;
clear of negativity. Its my opinion that this is what
this is where the term “tribe” derives from. But what
keeps your karma clean and allows you to
happens when you outgrow your tribe? I hate to
genuinely move forward without any ill feelings toward whatever situation you were dealing with.
break it to you but there has been a noticeable change in how trusting we can be with others. It has now become dangerous to look outside of yourself for validation. Think about it; the pandemic has everyone focusing on survival mode. Some of us have banned together and some of us have not. Some of us have taken advantage of others during this traumatizing time and though there’s nothing worse than realizing this truth, it could save you to accept it as reality. Unlearn looking outside of yourself for motivation. I’m a firm believer that we
3.) Unlearning Negative Self-Talk This is perhaps my favorite piece of advice because it continues to transform your mind after you’ve begun the process. Unlearning negative self-talk creates peace inside of you that clears all insecurity, self-doubt and even self-degradation. Literally the gift that keeps giving. There’s nothing wrong with being a perfectionist, a
