Maternity & Infant August - September 2014

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Contents

On the Cover 26

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School Style Get September off to a

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good start with good-value uniforms and those allimportant accessories 34

Pregnancy Dreams Hormones or premonitions? Dr Nicola Davies looks at the meaning behind those strange recurring dreams during pregnancy.

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Mumpreneur Secrets If your maternity leave has

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got you hankering after a

A new baby is a

more flexible lifestyle, then

momentous event for

starting your own business

a family, but for young

might be a possibility. We

children, it can be

outline six simple steps to

confusing and unsettling.

ensure you hit the ground

We look at how you can

running.

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Stranger Danger It’s never too young to start teaching your child about personal safety, but there are ways to do it without scaring the living daylights out of them! Here’s how ...

Sibling Rivalry

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prepare your child for a new sibling

Style 22

Maternity From stripes to suit every trimester to stealing Holly Willoughby’s style, we have your maternity fashion sorted!

25 Baby & Child We’re going back to school this issue, whether it’s uniforms for your bigger ones, or cute, practical outfits for your preschoolers. Cute out!

86 You From school-gate style to latest trends, we have your autumn wardrobe sorted!

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Contents

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Opinion 18

Mummy My Way One reader tells us her experience as a mum

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Regulars

Let’s Get Pumping!

Cliodna Gilroy on the art of

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pumping

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Blog We Log

10 News All the latest news, reviews

What made us laugh or cry

and products

in blogland this month 33

Experts

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74 Ask the Fertility Expert

Features 30

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A spa break makes for a

bathroom before long…

44 All You Need to Know…

just as a treat for your hard-

Weaning

working body. We round up

Our new health column

some of the best locations

looks at the subject of

and treatments out there

weaning. No messing, no

Baby Names

fancy stuff – this is your

What makes parents

straightforward guide to

choose certain names for

weaning.

their children? And should

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we stay mainstream or go

All kiddies can get shy at

for something a bit more

times, but how can you help

unusual? Arlene Harris

if shyness is impacting on

investigates…

your child’s life? Laura Bury talks to the experts

42 Secret Stresses of Motherhood

everything you need for your new addition!

63 Annabel Karmel Quick and tasty dinners when everyone is out at

76 Ask the Physio will have you hiding in the

perfect babymoon or even

Baby Bundle!

75 Ask the Dietitian

Pregnancy Pampering

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Back to School

We all know about the

Yes, September is looming

broken sleep and the hell

and so are all those dreaded

that is teething – but what

colds and bugs. We look

about the other stresses of

at how to keep your little

motherhood that no one

student or pre-schooler

ever told you about? Daisy

healthy and well this term

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72 Ask the GP 73 Ask the Obstetrician

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work, school or crèche all

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day 66 maternity & infant Awards 2014 The finalists revealed!

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Life as a Mum From beauty to fashion to lifestyle know-how, this section is dedicated to making your new life as a mum as rewarding and fabulous as possible!

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Welcome As I type this letter, summer has most certainly arrived in Ireland, and despite the occasional shower and thunderstorm (watched in awe by my two little ones), it looks to be sticking around for a while yet. With this in mind, we feel almost mean bringing you our Back to School issue, but the reality is that September is rapidly approaching and it’s time to get the little ones back into a routine, whether they’re starting big school, pre-school or just getting back into a routine after the heady days of high summer.

To help you get back on track, our fashion section for babies and toddlers is dedicated to kitting out your little ones in style - and for mums, perfect school-gate style is examined on p86. Our special feature on

The team

p58 looks at how to keep your little ones healthy as the usual round of colds and bugs hit the classrooms in September - believe us, this is essential reading!

We’ve got lots of other great features for you this month, from our pregnancy spa special (p30) to our look at the meaning of common dreams when you’re pregnant (good news: you’re not going completely mad!). And we’ve got some really useful advice on introducing your child to a new sibling without TOO much jealousy, and helping your toddler get over his shyness.

So curl up, grab an ice cream (like my kiddies have enjoyed numerous times this summer!) and enjoy the read. Don’t forget to like our Facebook page for great competitions and features, and check out our new website at www. maternityandinfant.ie

Editor: Penny Gray Sub Editor: Elaine Burke Editorial Assistant: Rachel Murray Editorial Manager: Mary Connaughton Art Director: Jane Matthews Design: Antoinette Sinclair, Jennifer Reid, Colm McDermott Photography & Illustrations: Getty Images, Thinkstock Production Manager: Mary Connaughton Sales Director: Paul Clemenson Email editorialdesk@ashville.com or write to maternity & infant, Ashville Media, Old Stone Building, Blackhall Green, Dublin 7; Tel: (01) 432 2200; Web: www.maternityandinfant.ie All rights reserved. Every care has been taken to ensure that the information contained in this magazine is accurate. The publishers cannot, however, accept responsibility for errors or omissions. Reproduction by any means in whole or in part without the permission of the publisher is prohibited. © Ashville Media Group 2014. All discounts, promotions and competitions contained in this magazine are run independently of maternity & infant. The promoter/advertiser is responsible for honouring the prize.

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The Dilemma “We’re heading to West Cork for our holidays and we’re so excited!

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Congratulations maternity & infant on your new look! I’ve been an avid reader since I was pregnant on my first baby two years ago, and now that I’m expecting No.2, it’s great to have a whole new-look mag to read while I count down the long nine months. I especially love the fashion for me and for baby, with all the tips and advice on how to wear it. As the mum of a two-year-old girl, I can tell you that babies are very fashion-conscious indeed!

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Playing games. One game we play is Spot the Licence Plate Numbers. We both pick a year, ie 08 or 06, and count how many we see. Whoever gets the most wins. She loves it!

Also, when we stop at the traffic lights, she shouts abracadabra until they go green!

Maria Maloney Stock up on plenty of books, crayons, snacks, drinks, story and music CDs. Jane O’Brien Mine suffer from very bad travel sickness so I try to travel at nap time. For the bigger ones, I’d recommend a portable DVD and plenty of books.

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Kept my two busy for hours on a sevenhour car trip!

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voted by was recently Holly Willough the best-dressed the celebrity with one bit surprised, not bump and we’re style is always classy as her maternity Here’s how you can and fashionable. re-create this look. in late her third child Holly is expecting husband her TV producer August with revealed she She recently sex Dan Baldwin. to find out the resisted all temptationsurprise. Holly is keep it a preferring to five, and threeto son Harry, “hand already mum Belle. Holly says: year-old daughter I have a boy don’t mind if on heart I really each to have one of or a girl, I’m lucky anyway.”

Schedule in plenty of breaks and have a rough schedule in your head of timings along with activities. Produce books and colouring sheets sometimes, or suggest an easy game like I Spy or counting the number of red cars (for instance), caravans, coaches etc. For older kids you can even do a roadtrip treasure hunt – give them a list of things to see and they have to cross them off when they see them.

Jennifer Smyth

Check out our fashion feature Steal Her Style on page 22 - we hope it will help you (and other stylish mums-tobe) make the most of dressing your growing bumps this summer!

The issue of stammering Thank you for highlighting the issue of stammering (June/July 2014).

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10 NEWS

Budgeting for Baby

Mothercare aids A trip to Mothercare is becoming almost as important as your booking-in visit in hospital! New innovations at the chain of stores include a gift registry so relatives and friends can buy you something they know you need and want, just like a wedding list; a brand-new website at www.mothercare.ie that contains hundreds of advice pages, as well as the chance to shop from home, keep abreast of your Family Card points and rewards, and set up your gift registry; and a Pregnancy Information Pack for the first-time expectant mum, a handy collection of tips and advice, from bra-fitting to your hospital-bag checklist.

Black knot-front shirt, €34, Mothercare

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We all know the old wives’ tales of what is supposed to bring on labour: sex, a hot curry and walking. More recently, some mums say reflexology, homeopathic remedies and acupuncture worked for them but when you’re overdue, a feeling of desperation to get baby out has pushed some mums-to-be to the edge. Here are some of the more outrageous suggestions we’ve heard - warning, don’t try this at home! Blowing up balloons: the theory is that the build-up of abdominal pressure encourages labour to start. Driving a car down a bumpy road or over speed bumps . Nipple stimulation – pulling on your nipples supposedly releases oxytocin, a hormone that causes contractions.

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Babies can be costly creatures, but there are ways to save. Check out these tips from The Positive Economist, Susan Hayes Culleton. If it isn’t already a practice, regular saving is crucial to handle unexpected expenses.

Firstly, examine your existing day-to-day financial situation using the budget on www.savvywomenonline.com, which is a tool to incorporate a financial goal, splits both income and expenditure into categories and allows you to compare your projections against your actual transactions.

Next, consider the expenses related to a new baby and identify how much you can save.

Check out the baby budget planner on www.nca.ie/ nca/baby-budget Evaluate different savings accounts by examining interest rates, minimum requirements, accessibility etc. Use the National Consumer Agency’s easy-to-navigate “Regular Savings” product comparison tool to evaluate the options available to you at http://compare. consumerhelp.ie/RegularSavingsAccount Set up a separate account and a standing order to transfer the monthly sum automatically.

Savings can be made on baby items by shopping around or borrowing pre-owned equipment or baby clothes. Great deals can be made online too with websites like eBay or Mystery shopping organisations could recruit you to try out, review and send feedback on their products.

Go to www.bepanthen.ie for more advice and tips on preventing financial stress in pregnancy.

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From sound financial advice to the best in nightwear and shopping, all your pregnancy news is right here!

SMA Pregnancy and Baby Fair Returning to the RDS this year on August 30th-31st, the SMA Know-How Pregnancy and Baby Fair is a day out for the whole family. With live demonstrations, daily fashion shows, expert advice, entertainment, competitions and much more. Tickets are just €8 at www. ticketmaster.ie and kids go free - don’t forget to pop by the maternity & infant stand to say hello!

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11 News

What’s a name?in

Stroll in style

Nadine Coyle shared a rare glimpse of baby Anaíya on Instagram recently and she is just too adorable – just look at that head of hair! Anaíya, pronounced ah nah yah, is according to some sources a Hebrew name meaning ‘god has answered’. Others say it is West Indian in origin and means ‘she who brings sunshine.’ We think it’s just beautiful.

Looking for a pram/buggy for your new arrival? Bugaboo releases the Bee3 this September, which is designed for newborn to toddler. It features an easy-to-carry, lightweight carrycot, designed especially not to disturb baby while travelling. As always it comes in brand-new colourful fabrics and a larger underseat basket for all your shopping essentials.

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Embrace the early days of motherhood with these great tips, buys and events around the country.

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Loves Piquant Baby is one of those hidden gems in the heart of Dublin, selling unique baby clothes and vintage-style wooden toys, perfect for your little one.

This season will be their first time to stock independent line Sticky Fudge. Piquant Baby owner Susan Eaton says: “I was drawn to this brand of childrenswear for its vintage style, unique styling and creative designs with a twist to create a versatile layered wardrobe for little ones this season.”

Order online at www.piquantbaby.ie.

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This unique class is a great outlet for new mums, as you can bring your baby ‘n’ buggy along - very handy when you’re on maternity leave! Mums also get to meet up with other mums, swap stories, trade tips; it will get you outdoors, without the need for a babysitter so you can get fit and active, feel energetic and positive; and most of all, help you lose the baby weight and tone up. www.bootcampireland.com

Did you know?

2,788 In a baby’s first year, parents buy an average of

disposable nappies costing over €1,000! By the end of age two, the average baby has been changed 7,300 times. The average speed of each nappy change? Two minutes, which adds up to three 40hour work weeks each year!

Baby Bee Make nappychanging easy as pie with Burt’s Bees’ new double-duty nappy cream (€11.95). The cream-topowder formula combines the benefits of a nappy cream and a baby powder, by absorbing wetness and leaving baby’s skin soft, dry and smooth. This nonirritating nappy cream is bound to become a nappy bag staple.

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Magic at mealtimes Love them or hate them, Disney characters have an almost magical effect on babies. We love the new Disney collection of Bumkins, featuring all sorts of characters from Monsters Inc right through to Mickey and Minnie Mouse. Plus, there’s a Bumkin for every stage, including the SuperBib for weaning babies and the Sleeved Bib for extra protection. Available from www.hippychick.com

Baby The latest fashion, interiors and must-have accessories for your little one!

How to… make up a bottle feed There are many ways to make up a bottle feed, but the following is the official recommendations from the HSE. Like any food, powdered infant formula is not sterile, and could contain bacteria like E.sakazakii and Salmonella. ✹ Sterilise your bottles and teats and prepare on a clean worktop with clean hands. ✹ Boil the water to make it sterile, and leave to cool for 30 minutes (until it reaches 70°C). This temperature is hot enough to kill any bacteria, but cool enough not to damage nutrients. ✹ Add the formula to the bottle and shake well. Cool it quickly to lukewarm temperature by running the bottle under the cold tap. ✹ Use immediately or store in a fridge and use within 24 hours.

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Snuggle up!

As the evenings get cooler, a vest is an essential part of any baby’s wardrobe. How cute is this Winnie the Pooh set, €14 from Next?

What’s in a name?

Perfect present Need a special gift for a new baby, or something personal for the nursery? Check out this gorgeous soft patchwork baby ball, €24.40, from Patchwork Delights, which contains a rattle and is handsewn and customized for each baby. Buy from www.patchworkdelights.com

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Teething help

Teething – it’s a word that strikes fear into parents everywhere.

Just when your baby is getting into a nice routine along comes the first teeth, and a restless, crotchedy baby is unleashed. Ease the discomfort with new CaldeBaby Teething Gel, €3.99, launched here by TV3’s Sybil Mulcahy, which cools and soothes babies’ gums and gently cares for your baby’s mouth. Gently massage a pea-sized drop of the gel onto your baby’s gums two to three times a day for instant relief. Genius!

According to a new survey from Coca Cola, the overwhelming majority of Irish people (94%) like their given name and almost nine in ten (87%) consider it important in their life.

See the feature on p38 about names and what makes us choose certain names for our babies.

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Drink up!

Perfect for packed lunches or even just to cure thirst on a hot day, Vita Coco Kids is a naturally fruit-flavoured coconut water that has around 20 per cent less sugar and less calories than other leading Irish chilled kids’ drinks. Our resident monkeys tried and tested these babies and pronounced them delicious! Available in classic Apple & Blackcurrant and tropical Mango & Pineapple, priced €3.49 for 4 x 180ml pack in Tesco and health stores nationwide.

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.... the fun and colourful collection for kids from M&S this autumn. This practical yet fun look will appeal to even the most fashion conscious of little girls. Cardigan from €15, Sweater from €15, Skirt from €20, Tights from €6

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On our shopping list This super-cute Toymaster Toby puppy is available to buy in all Toymaster stores for only €3. All proceeds will go to the Jack & Jill’s Children’s Foundation, providing nursing hours for 300 families with critically sick children in Ireland. If it can make Brendan O’Connor smile, it must be very cute indeed!

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Looking for a last treat before school begins? Check out Lil’ Lodgers at Ashford Castle, a special family-oriented staycation. The two-night package (from €499) includes a daily kids’ club, an uninterrupted dinner for the adults in Wilde’s at The Lodge at Ashford on one night, family lunch in the Quay Bar another day, late check-out on day of departure and Corrib Cruise tickets and a packed picnic on one day. Check out more at www.thelodgeatashfordcastle.com

Colour changing Got a child who refuses to put on his raincoat? Tempt him with this clever Holly & Beau jacket, whose motifs explode into colour when rain comes into contact! From £49.99 at www.hollyandbeau.com

Direct-selling French fashion label Captain Tortue’s new Little Captain collection offers pieces for children aged between two and 14 that are comfortable, original and great quality.

Captain Tortue is sold exclusively by independent consultants at personal viewings and group style shows; preview new collections online at www.captaintortuegroup.com before contacting your local consultant.

Little Captain Jeggings, €30; Top, €30; Jacket, €33

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Kids’ Hoodies Dragon fleece, from £14, M&S

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Spot hoodie, €22, Pumpkin Patch

J By Jasper Conran hoodie, from €24, Debenhams

Freespirit hoodies (2 pack), €30, Littlewoods Ireland

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Learn and Play Learning can be lots of fun with these toys that are designed to be educational as they play!

1 Ladybird My First Laptop, €22, Littlewoods Ireland 2 Alphabet Jigsaws Noah’s Ark, €35, Arnotts 3 Build Yourself Paper Animals, €3, Tiger Stores 4 Large Block Tech – Swat Squad, €3, Penneys 5 Topinifarm, €26.95, www.miramira.ie 6 Mamas and Papas Babyplay Tummytime Cushion, €26.49, Argos 7 ELC Illuminated Globe, €27.99, Mothercare 8 KicoNico Pin Mosaic, €19.95, Imaginarium 9 Gruffalo 4 in Box Puzzles, €9.55, Debenhams 10 Leapfrog Learn to Write with Mr Pencil, €20, Littlewoods Ireland 11 ELC Electronics Phonics Pairs, €18.99, Mothercare

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3years+ There’s a Lion in my Cornflakes

By Michelle Robinson, illustrated by Jim Field (Bloomsbury Children’s), €10

Books

Books reviewed by Anne Whelton and Linda Crosbie.

PICK OF THE PILE

Florentine and Pig and the Spooky Forest Adventure

By Eva Katler, illustrated by Jess Mikhail (Bloomsbury Children’s), €10.45

Any good breakfast cereal worth its weight in sugar has always given sleepy-eyed kids a reason to focus in the mornings. Yes, we’re talking about the chance to get your very own toy by collecting coupons from the cereal box. In There’s a Lion in my Cornflakes, two brothers are eagerly collecting coupons so they can get their very own real-life lion. However, unsurprisingly, things don’t exactly work out as expected.

A wonderful light-hearted read that both kids and parents will get a kick out of, this fun picture book is perfect for bedtime.

We like … Reminiscing about the many days we spent cutting coupons out of cereal boxes!

They’ll love … The colourful and engaging illustrations.

3years+ All I Said Was By Michael Morpurgo, illustrated by Ross Collins (Barrington Stoke), €10

0-2 years Tickle By Leslie Patricelli (Walker Books), €7 The queen of the board book, Leslie Patricelli returned earlier this year with two charming new releases for babies and toddlers, Tickle and Toot. Both see the welcome return of everyone’s favourite nappy-wearing baby, who in Tickle claims that he’s not ticklish. Unfortunately for him, the ‘tickle monster’ says otherwise - and proves it to the little baby once and for all!

We like … The wonderfully colourful pages.

They’ll love … Being tickled by mum and dad!

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The best children’s books are, and should always be, about the power of imagination. The most beautifully illustrated book in the world can’t compete with the fantastical images a child conjures up in his or her own head when reading a book, nor should it try. And while The Rain Door is indeed beautifully illustrated, it is in the fantastical story that this book really excels. Originally published in the late 1980s – but just recently reissued for a whole new audience to enjoy – The Rain Door tells the story of a boy named Harry and his fantastical trip to another world behind the weather. The perfect book to get young minds’ creative juices flowing!

We like … The underlying theme about the power of imagination.

They’ll love … The easy to read and understand story behind the rain door.

Florentine and Pig are back in this, the third book in the series by Eva Katler and Jess Mikhail. In this adventure, there’s a scary monster on the loose and Florentine and her accomplice, Pig, are determined to catch it. They make a plan and pack up some supplies for their adventure, including – most importantly – some delicious supper. Will Florentine and Pig find the monster or are their imaginations playing tricks on them?

We like … The way Florentine and Pig encourage children to love food.

They’ll love … Helping to make some of the yummy recipes in the back of the book.

For more children’s book reviews, competitions, recommendations and interviews with some of your favourite authors and illustrators, visit Gobblefunked.com.

classic read

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Mr Miniscule and the Whale By Julian Tuwim, illustrated by Bohdan Butenko (Book Island), €7

A classic – though, unfortunately, not widely known in Ireland – Mr Miniscule and the Whale tells the story of Mr Miniscule, a tiny explorer with a big dream. One day, Mr Miniscule decides to set off in search of a big blue whale and, of course, finds more than he bargained for when he meets the whale in question. Originally written in the 1930s by one of Poland’s most famous poets, the rhyming adventure of Mr Miniscule has been a classic amongst Polish children for over 80 years, and has only just been translated into English and published by New Zealand-based publishers Book Island in the hopes that this much-loved tale might reach a wider audience.

We like …The soothing rhyming text, helping little ones drift off to sleep.

They’ll love … Laughing at silly Mr Miniscule.

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life isn’t easy but my beautiful baby daughter is the piece that completed the

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Bex Griffiths, 18, is a single mum to one-year-old Ariana and says that, though single parenting is challenging, the joy her daughter brings is worth every battle.

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’m a young, just-turned-18, single mum who got pregnant abroad at age 15. I came back to Ireland to give birth at 16. My story began when I went travelling with my family around Central America for a year. I was with my parents and my six younger siblings, who ranged in age from two to 13. We bought a large van and travelled through country after country, sleeping in the car wherever there was space – the floor, the seats and a small custom-made mattress in the back. We ended up in Panama, where we stayed for a few months.

While there, I met a guy and we started dating, but it ended up being quite an abusive relationship. I got pregnant, and it forced us to remain in Panama until my three-month mark passed. It could have been dangerous for the baby if we had set off before then, because the roads in Central America are notoriously bad. I said goodbye to the father of my unborn child, and off we went.

We continued travelling for another couple of months, before driving up to New York and getting a flight back to Ireland. In October 2012, I gave birth to my beautiful baby daughter, Ariana, and she has brought so much joy to my life. She was completely unexpected, but she has completed my life. It’s like my life was a giant jigsaw puzzle, and I finally found the piece that made it complete.

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with my parents for the first half-year of Ariana’s life but, even though I had the support there, I didn’t take it. I was determined to prove to everyone that I can do it and that being a young, single mom is not damaging to the child.

In hindsight, I wish I had taken up the offers for help.

Instead, I struggled every day and night with a newborn and slowly became withdrawn and depressed. I was eventually admitted in Galway, and got better. I have since been better at accepting help and, although I am a very stubborn and independent person, I have learnt that sometimes we can all use a helping hand. I do believe that you need to learn to handle things on your own, however, as people are not always going to be there for you.

I have no regular contact with the father, but he has recently advised me he wants to file for custody. His case won’t hold up in any court, but it’s yet another thing to add to my worries. Every day is a struggle but it’s filled with love, and it is definitely worth every single second.

I didn’t go back to school after returning from Central America and having Ariana. However, I’ve applied to college for the beginning of next term and plan on furthering my education then.

Recently, I met a kind and loving man, who has always treated my daughter and I with the utmost respect. He is always there when I need him.

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It may still feel like summer out there but before too long, the chillier days of autumn will be upon us. Soon you’ll be pulling your winter woollies out of the wardrobe, and if you’ve got a burgeoning bump, you may have to invest in some warmer maternity wear. But there are ways you can make the transition successfully from summer to autumn. Our Trimester Trends feature this issue looks at stripes, a trend that looks good all year round.

Invest now and you’ll still wearing this trend in the cold winter months. Our Steal Her Style star is Holly Willoughby, who was recently voted the best-dressed pregnant celebrity of 2014 so far.

With three pregnancies now under her belt, she knows a thing or two about dressing a bump!

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1 Triple row anklet, €11, Miss Selfridge 2 Maternity stripe pocket tunic, €33, Topshop 3 Round sunglasses, €19.95, Zara 4 Nail Polish in saffron, €7, Topshop 5 Maternity leggings, €14, Next 6 Canvas shopper, €10, Dunnes Stores 7 Jorgey, €95, Dune

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1 Coral pure colour in envy, €29.99, Estée Lauder 2 Maternity jersey stripe maxi dress, €17.99, New Look 3 Whistles wide brim sun hat, €63.38, ASOS 4 Tie front shrug, €12, Dunnes Stores 5 Active clear shopper with striped pouch, €152.11, DKNY 6 Arizona flat sandal, €69.72, Birkenstock

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1 Indigo cardigan, €55, Marks & Spencer 2 Paul Costelloe Living Tote, €55, Dunnes Stores 3 Maternity ruched front maxi dress, €24.99, New Look 4 Cotton maternity cover up, €25, Seraphine 5 Over the bump legging, €16, Next 6 Patent angular block heel court shoes, €50, River Island 7 Rhinestone necklace, €29.95, Zara 8 Maternity sport waistband pleated midi skirt, €50, Topshop 9 Skinny waist and hip belt with contrast edge paint, €8.45, ASOS

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Simple V section collar, €13, Topshop Maternity orange ruched side t-shirt, €8.99, New Look

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Style Holly Willoughby was recently voted the celebrity with the best-dressed bump and we’re not one bit surprised, as her maternity style is always classy and fashionable. Here’s how you can re-create this look.

Holly is expecting her third child in late August with her TV producer husband Dan Baldwin. She recently revealed she resisted all temptation to find out the sex preferring to keep it a surprise. Holly is already mum to son Harry, five, and threeyear-old daughter Belle. Holly says: “hand on heart I really don’t mind if I have a boy or a girl, I’m lucky to have one of each anyway.”

Mini bowler bag, €38, Miss Selfridge

Pia slouchy maternity top, €54, Isabella Oliver

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Roxy flat boots, €102, Lipsy London

Maternity ultrasoft skinny jeans, €15, Penneys

L’Oréal Rouge in cancan, €7.69, Boots

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School Bag It’s that time already, get your little one suited and booted, ready for September 1st Beat box homework planner, €8, Paperchase

Emily button cat bag, €10, Marks & Spencer

6 Pack basic hair set, €1.50, Penneys

Monkey water bottle, €12, Becky and LoLo

Hello Kitty filled pencil case, €16, Littlewoods

Low profile patent shoes, €14, Penneys Rex wooden colouring set, €4.50, Kilkenny Shop

Ziplock bags, €2, Tiger Stores Bee lunch bag, €19, Marks & Spencer Pencil case, €4.99, easons

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Fota Island Luxury Spa & Resort, Cork A trip to Fota Island is the perfect escape for any mum-to-be. Treat yourself to Mama’s Glow (€230), which begins with a salt foot soak to energise, reduce swelling and stimulate circulation. It includes a gentle hand, lower-leg and foot massage before enjoying the Gorgeous Glow Top to Toe treatment and a healthy lunch.

The Gorgeous Glow Top to Toe treatment includes a pregnancy facial, which is deep cleansing, exfoliating and rebalancing, combined with a massage.

The oxygenating mask clarifies and helps with pigmentation whilst your hard-working legs and feet are treated to a circulation-boosting cooling mineral wrap to reduce puffiness. To book, call (021) 488 3700 or visit www. fotaisland.ie

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Whether it’s a massage to soothe an aching back, a relaxing treat before the big event or a ‘babymoon’ with your partner, a trip to a spa can be a very welcome event during your pregnancy. But what’s on offer and what’s safe? maternity & infant investigates.

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spa is a real treat at any time but, when you’re pregnant, it can take on a whole new importance.

During pregnancy, your body can take quite a battering.

Your skin is stretched, hormones are playing havoc with your complexion and moods, tiredness is on a whole new level, and your back is aching from the new weight you are carrying in front.

We’re not taking away from the beauty and wonder of pregnancy, but the fact remains that few women sail through pregnancy with no aches or pains, and a prenatal treat like a specialist massage or facial

can be more welcome now than at any other time of your life.

However, when it comes to a prenatal spa treat, it is important to know what you can and can’t do.

For instance, while a swimming pool is fine, steam rooms, Jacuzzis and saunas are generally a no-no when you are pregnant. If you are planning a trip to a spa, make sure there are treatments and facilities that will suit you and check with the staff when you are booking to make sure.

Lisa Burns, spa manager at The Wells Spa at Hayfield Manor, Cork, recommends waiting until you are past your first 12 weeks

Q: I heard that you shouldn’t have your feet massaged when you are pregnant, is that true?

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There are reflexes on the feet that are connected to the reproductive system, so working these can induce labour. But, as long as these are avoided, then it is perfectly safe.

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The Spa at Castlemartyr Resort, Co Cork Indulge the senses at Castlemartyr with a glorious ESPA Mum’s the Word package, which includes two hours and 20 minutes of pampering from €190 per person.

Begin with an ESPA Skin Solutions facial to leave skin feeling smooth and glowing followed by a relaxing pre- or postnatal treatment. To finish, treat tired feet to a blissful luxury spa pedicure. If you fancy treating yourself to a full night away, the On Cloud 9 package includes a one-night break at the resort as well as a signature pregnancy treatment, breakfast and access to the vitality pool and thermal suite. This package is available from €205 per night until December 2014.

To book, call (021) 421 9060 or email spa@castlemartyrresort.ie.

before getting a spa treatment. “Spa treatments are very safe as long as you are over the first trimester and your pregnancy is going well,” she says. “In my opinion, it is vital to wait as your body is adjusting to all the hormone changes. Some spas or salons will say they can perform treatments during the early stages of pregnancy but, personally, I would always err on the side of caution and wait.”

Lisa agrees that it’s important to let the spa know that you’re pregnant before booking and beginning the treatment. “It’s very important to let your therapist know that you’re pregnant and how far into your pregnancy you are. In addition, you should be honest about any issues you may have had during previous pregnancies and/or during your current pregnancy as this may hinder the treatment.”

In terms of treatments to go for, many facials are suitable for pregnancy or can be modified for prenatal clients (some oils cannot be used during pregnancy, for instance), but Lisa thinks that massage can be the most useful – and welcome – treatment for pregnant women. “Massage works the whole body but can also focus in on areas of need.

For example, the lower back and legs are common areas that feel the weight the further into your pregnancy you are.”

And the good news is that suitable treatments and massages can be given right up to due date: “As long as you are comfortable, you can have treatments right up to the end of the nine months,” says Lisa. “In fact, a treatment or massage will just help you relax and get ready for the exciting times ahead!”

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Oasis Spa at Lyrath Estate Hotel & Spa, Kilkenny Lyrath Estate is the ideal place to relax before your bundle of joy arrives.

Using products specially formulated for pregnant women, the Mama Mio Gorgeous Glow pregnancy facial at the Oasis Spa promises to help with hormonal breakouts and excess pigmentation using deep-cleansing, exfoliation and facial massage to ensure your skin is smooth, firm and glowing. This treatment costs €90 for midweek bookings or €80 at weekends. To book, call (056) 776 0088 or visit www.lyrath.com.

Spa Salveo at Knockranny House Hotel & Spa, Westport, Co Mayo The stunning Knockranny House Hotel & Spa in the beautiful setting of Westport, Co Mayo, is a great location for a pamper break before baby comes. Spa Salveo offers a good selection of prenatal treatments using Mama Mio products that can be combined or booked separately according to your needs. We love the Yummy Tummy treatment (€60 for 45 mins), which uses gentle skin brushing to increase circulation and exfoliate, while specialist products soothe and moisturise the skin.

A lower-leg and foot massage completes this relaxing treatment. To book, call (098) 28600 or visit www.knockrannyhousehotel.ie..

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Nádúr Spa at Ballygarry House, Tralee Located at the foot of the Kerry Mountains, the Nádúr Spa is a comfortable location that offers a wide range of pregnancy treatments to suit every taste. The 90-minute maternity massage (€130), recommended after first trimester, is a complete head-to-toe massage that alleviates pregnancyrelated discomforts such as fatigue, sciatica, nausea and fluid retention. The treatment will also include the use of hot stones to help induce deep relaxation and ease muscle tension.

The Comforting Coco Cream Ritual (€110 for 75 mins) begins with a gentle pressure-point massage on the feet to help reduce swelling and stimulate circulation, before a warm, creamy coconut butter is applied to the full body – ideal for increasing skin elasticity, nourishing extra-dry skin and helping prevent the occurrence of stretch marks.

The treatment also includes a hydrating face mask and warm hair treatment.

To book, call (066) 714456 or visit www.ballygarryhouse.com

The Estuary Spa at Faithlegg House Hotel, Waterford Faithlegg House Hotel & Golf Resort in Waterford is a charming destination for an indulgent spa break for any new mum or mum-to-be. With a range of gorgeous treatments on offer, mums-to-be will have plenty to choose from. Check out the Tummial (€70 for 60 minutes), a specialised tummy ‘facial’ and upper-back, neck and scalp massage using Mama Mio ingredients to maximise skin strength, health and elasticity, ensuring a stress releasing treatment.

Alternatively, if you’re looking for relief from the tiring effects of pregnancy, book in for the Light Legs treatment (€30), which involves a mineral-rich foot soak, and exfoliation and massage of the lower legs and feet, which will help improve poor circulation, fluid retention and the tiredness in your legs.

To book, call (051) 382000 or visit www.faithlegg.com.

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Spirit One Spa at Radisson Blu Hotel, Galway The Mother-to-Be Spa Ritual at Spirit One Spa has been especially designed to help ease aching muscles caused during pregnancy, leaving you feeling relaxed and totally pampered. The package includes herbal tea and selected refreshments as well as a 25-minute mother-to-be back massage, a 25-minute Elemis taster facial and the use of the relaxation areas and swimming pool. The Mother-to-Be Spa Ritual is available from €100 per person. For an extra treat, pamper your tired toes and add on a pedicure for only €40 extra. To book, call Spirit One Spa on (091) 53842 or email spiritone.galway@radissonblu.com.

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dream world Bizarre and vivid dreams are common in pregnancy and can vary according to trimester. DR NICOLA DAVIES explores some of the common dream images and themes likely to appear in each trimester, as well as what these dreams might signify.

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omen tend to dream more during pregnancy than at any other time in their life. Some dreams are wonderful and filled with imagery of ceremonies, birthdays or other joyful celebrations. Other dreams are frightening, leaving you horrified and filled with anxiety upon waking. What all of these dreams have in common, however, is that they reflect normal physical and emotional changes taking place in a mother-to-be, including her wishes and concerns about the baby, her relationship with her spouse, and her life in generalat this time.

During pregnancy, your dreams are likely to contain more intense emotional content than usual. This is because of the radical and dramatic changes your body is undergoing.

Any anxieties, apprehensions and excitement find reflection in your dreams. The content of dreams also parallels physical and emotional changes at different stages of pregnancy, and tend to reflect your hopes and fears for your baby.

Researchers believe that certain dream images and themes are common to specific stages of pregnancy. For example, pregnant women typically dream of buildings (such as manufacturing plants or shipyards) that tend to get larger as pregnancy progresses, or water in various forms – ponds, lakes, rivers, and oceans.

The images of dreams, understood as symbolic messages or information about many aspects of the dreamer’s life, have varied meanings. Buildings that transform could refer both to changes in the body as well as to places where new things are made, while water imagery is often linked with new life.

First trimester Water Beginning in the first trimester, water imagery in various forms is common. In these dreams,

Dream Themes

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you might be swimming, wading, standing or even drowning. Besides reflecting an awareness of the presence of water in the womb, such imagery can also refer to changing emotions in relation to the growing child living in the water in your womb. Often, the foetus will be depicted in these dreams as little creatures, such as fish or tadpoles, suspended in water.

Images of powerful oceans, floods, and breaking waves seem to be especially common nearer the delivery date but can also appear in the first trimester. These are symbols of childbirth and can reveal a woman’s anxiety about the event, including fears that her waters might break in inappropriate places. Some women dream about drowning or being swept along in a powerful current, which is indicative of anxiety about herself and her baby surviving the birth.

“All of a sudden, a flash flood rushed through the village, and I was swept down the streets and battling to keep my head above the water.”

Vehicles Various vehicles, especially large ones such as buses or trucks, are also common dream images in the first trimester. These could be a reflection of a woman’s awareness of the way her body feels and moves: slowly, awkwardly and not quite under her control.

“In my dream, I was driving a car, but with a spare tyre around my waist. This made driving and manoeuvering the vehicle clumsy, which was exactly how I was feeling about being pregnant.”

“I was driving a ten-wheel truck that took frustratingly long to get moving, and then I was unable to turn it because there were pillars in the way and the turning circle was incredibly large. At the time, I was frustrated about losing the control I had over my body and its movements.”

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✹ Anxiety about motherhood ✹ Anxiety about giving birth ✹ Self-consciousness about body changes ✹ Awareness of amniotic fluid

✹ Curiosity about the motherbaby connection ✹ Insecurity about appearance ✹ Hopes and anxieties for your baby

✹ Predicting your baby’s gender ✹ Imagining your baby’s face ✹ Choosing your baby’s name ✹ Anxiety about partner’s commitment

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also indicate an exciting journey ahead when the baby arrives.

“I am boarding a plane, going off to a foreign country somewhere. I have a bad feeling, like I don’t really want to go.”

Natural imagery Anxieties about going into labour are natural, and dreams during this time are likely to feature powerful natural imagery like earthquakes, erupting volcanoes, bursting dams or gigantic tidal waves. These dreams are a psychic rehearsal for labour and delivery, and are indicative of the extremely powerful physical and emotional transformations that await the mother-to-be. Although intensely anxiety-provoking, they are merely a form of preparation.

Erotic dreams It’s not uncommon for pregnant women to have erotic dreams during the third trimester.

These are partly psychological compensations for having their regular sex life interrupted. However, erotic dreams also reveal fears about whether you will continue to be physically attractive after giving birth.

Nightmares

Second trimester Small animals Dreams in the second trimester often contain images of baby-like animals, an obvious reference to the growing, unborn infant. How you feel about your unborn child, your pregnancy, the baby’s father, and your life in general often determines how you relate to the animals in such dreams. Furthermore, animals in dreams often depict how you relate to your instinctual life; friendly animals show you trust your instincts, while fear-inspiring creatures represent the opposite.

Women who feel threatened by being pregnant might have frightening animals appearing in dreams, while the appearance of lovable cuddly creatures reveals a developing bond with your unborn child. The appearance of baby animals in dreams can be understood as the psyche’s way of giving you the chance to mentally rehearse being a mother.

“I often dreamt that I was a dolphin swimming happily alongside my child.”

Third trimester Baby dreams Dreams featuring babies increase in the third trimester and often reflect fears and desires for the unborn child, including visions of what the baby will look like or that the baby will have no physical deformities. This is also the time when mothers-to-be, prompted by dream material, will decide on possible names or even get clues about the baby’s gender.

Travelling or journeys Travelling or journeys, including ones through tunnels or corridors, are common dream themes in the third trimester. For many, the journey is filled with uncertainty. Such dreams are typical of the third trimester and can be read as emotional commentaries of the unknown. They

Although understandably worrisome, a pregnant woman’s happiness and excitement about pregnancy doesn’t prevent nightmarish content from showing up in dreams. Indeed, such imagery is common throughout pregnancy. Recurring nightmares usually indicate a specific unresolved emotional issue from the past. Their occurrence during pregnancy is normal and to be expected given the heightened, novel changes the mind and body areundergoing. It’s only when nightmares cause persistent, significant interruptions in normal daily functioning that professional assistance should be sought.

Unfaithful spouses Pregnancy brings noticeable changes to your body, so it is natural that some women have doubts about their attractiveness.

Thoughts about whether your lover still desires you and concerns about whether you will get your body back after pregnancy can translate into dreams filled with anxiety about your spouse’s faithfulness. One woman dreamt consistently about her husband having affairs, thereby expressing her deep-seated insecurity and vulnerability.

“Buildings that transform could refer both to changes in the body as well as to places where new things are made, while water imagery is often linked with new life.”

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38 Baby Names

what’s in

A name

How we choose names for our children depends as much upon popular culture as it does on tradition. But, as ARLENE HARRIS discovers, Irish parents have come back to basics when it comes to baby names.

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here was a time when this country was full of Marys and Johns.

But, over the years, the rise of wacky celebrity baby names saw many wouldbe parents turning to the gossip pages for inspiration when trying to decide what to call their bundle of joy. This led to babies being called after grape varieties, foreign cities, wild animals and even pieces of fruit.

Dublin woman Aisling Cahill says she chose her daughter’s name because she really admired Victoria Beckham at the time.

However, she has since changed her mind and wishes she hadn’t let her adolescent feelings for Posh Spice rule her head.

“Victoria is a perfectly nice name and not one that my daughter will ever feel ashamed of, but I really don’t like it anymore because it reminds me of how silly I was when I was younger,” admits the 28-year-old mum. “I used to think VB was great and was impressed with how she met and married a famous footballer, and then got really rich herself.

So, when I got pregnant, I said I would name my daughter after her.

“But, the only problem is, I really don’t like her anymore and my child is a constant reminder of how I slavishly followed someone’s style for years. I hate to admit it, but I had my hair cut like hers and used to try and dress the same way – I am so embarrassed now.

“I would advise any other new mums to think really carefully if naming their child after a celebrity, because your opinion may have changed as you mature.”

Irish parents must be thinking along the same lines, as the latest figures from the Central Statistics Office (CSO) suggest that we have gone back to basics, with the relatively traditional names of Emily and Jack currently the top baby names in the country.

Wide variety Christine Prendeville has been a Montessori teacher since 1995 and runs Little Oak Tree Montessori School in Springhill, just a few minutes from Naul and Ballyboughal in County Dublin.

Despite the statistics, in her experience, the children in her classroom have had a wide variety of names. While she has come across the top names on the list,

they aren’t so common as to be dominating.

“Over the years, I’ve really had quite a mix of names and there have often been two of the same or a few similar-sounding names, which can be tricky at times,” she says. “One year we had an Ellis, an Ella and an Ellen at the same time, which got very confusing.

“In cases like that, we have to be extra careful with pronunciation. Also, when we have kids with same name, they will always get their full title and perhaps their surname or the initial of it. I have a daughter called Alex who is in junior infants and she is known by everyone as Alex P because there is a boy called Alex in her class.

“I also have a boy called Alex in my class this year so he is known by the other children as ‘the boy Alex’ and my little woman is ‘the girl Alex’ whenever she has a day off and comes to help me with the little ones.”

Although Jack and Emily are reportedly the most common names in Ireland, the Montessori teacher – who is mother to Holly (11), Daire (eight) and Alex (five) says she hasn’t had too many with those names come through her hands.

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Jamie Oliver & son, Buddy Bear Maurice

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Beyonce and daughter, Blue Ivy

Alicia Silverstone and son, Bear Blue

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Jack

“I had a boy called Jack two years ago and we have an Emily this year,” she says. “But I also have a TY student helping out who is called Emily.

“Throughout the years I have always had a mix of names in school and have seen everything from from Nuala, Larry, Jyles, Shane and Sean to Kayleigh, Inaaya, Finlay, Jaslene and Tiernan – so a good variation from traditional to the not-sotraditional. I feel it’s still quite a mixed bag when it comes to names and I also feel a lot of parents are going back to Irish names – which is nice too.

“But whatever the names, whether they are traditional or unique, I find that children don’t query anything and definitely from preschool age up to about eight, most kids will just accept every name without question.”

Thinking ahead

2014 Top Names

According to the latest CSO figures, the leading baby names in Ireland in 2014 are: Boys:

Girls:

Jack James Daniel Conor Sean

Emily Emma Sophie Ella Amelia

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1963 Top Names

Boys:

Patrick Michael Paul James

Girls:

Margaret Catherine Anne Ann

Irish Top Names

According to BabyNamesofIreland.com, the most popular Irish-language names are: Boys:

Girls:

Aidan Daniel Sean Conor Dylan Niall Cian Darragh Liam Oisin

Siobhan Ava Aoife Anna Ciara Caoimhe Niamh Saoirse Maeve Keeva

However open children are to unusual names, psychologist Peadar Maxwell says that while parents choose baby names for various reasons, they should be mindful of how it will be received throughout their child’s life.

“One thing I would advise parents of newborns to think about is what the name will sound like on an adult,” he says. “Also, if you really like a particular shortened version of a name, consider giving your child the full version on their birth certificate and then calling your child by the pet name. This gives them the option of using a more traditional name on their CV or in business when they are adult if they so wish.

“Celebrity names will go out of fashion quickly, especially if they are names ‘invented’ for or by the celebrity. Think about if you would like to have an unusual name from entertainment or sport from your parents’ youth. Think about other names in your immediate family: does the name for your new baby alliterate, rhyme or clash with other names, or your child’s surname? What will his or her initials be? Make sure the initials don’t spell something that will be a cause of taunting in school.”

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40 opinion

Let’s get

pumping Mum-of-two and NUK Ireland breastfeeding advisor Cliodna Gilroy on the ABCs of breastpumps – it’s not that scary, honest!

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cover them in Lansinoh and stay very still. When ost mothers-to-be that I meet want it comes to choosing a breast pump, the first to talk about breastfeeding and thing I suggest to all women is to wait unhope to give it a try. When I til you’ve had your baby to buy a pump. ask if they need any help or Your pharmacy will get your pump in if they have any questions stock and hold it in the store for you, if about breastfeeding, nine times out you wish. All too often, mothers-to-be of ten the questions are based around excitedly get their breast pump, open the pumping. When can I start expressbox straightaway and, if the breastfeeding? Is the electric pump better than the ing doesn’t work out, they are left with a manual? pump they can’t return.

If all has gone well and your little bunThe second piece of advice I have on choosdle of joy has latched on and continues to ing a breast pump is to think about how feed well, go home and enjoy the fact that long you intend to feed your baby and there are no bottles to be cleaned and no how often you plan to use the pump. scoops of formula to be counted. I know Mothers nearly always come to me with you’re itching to use that fancy pump you Advice their mind made up that the electric pump bought when you hit the 12-week pregPlease, learn from my is the better option. The electric pump is nancy milestone but try and wait the six mistakes. When it wonderful: it can run on batteries or the weeks so that you and your baby have a comes to pumping, mains, it is discreet, and you don’t need nice rhythm going. my advice is: to worry about a repetitive hand action However, some women need to start causing any discomfort. They are great for expressing sooner. I remember struggling ✹ Try and stay relaxed long-term use and for those intending to to get my son latched and deciding that I ✹ Start pumping on the express every day. would express for six weeks before movgentlest suction level But, while some women find they get ing him to formula bottles. A lot can hapof an electric pump or a better result with an electric pump, I alpen in six weeks and, during this time, I with slow and careful ways liked the manual pump better. As it got to express and start feeding my son hand pumps made no noise, I was able to pump while directly, too. ✹ Pump for no more watching my babies (and television, more From this experience, I learned somethan ten minutes per often). I felt more in control with how thing the hard way: your breasts will be breast much suction and pressure I put on the your breasts a long time after you finish breast, and the manual pump is ergonomifeeding your babies, so handle with care.

Women often overcally designed to be comfortable in most I had a wonderful supply, a quiet pump pump as they want to people’s hands, so I never had fatigue. With and a good little sleeping baby. Off I went get a certain amount fewer parts, it was quick to clean and lasted with the pump and was delighted with myexpressed, but this me through my two babies – that equals self popping two very full bottles into the causes stress and results three years of feeding in total! fridge the day we arrived home from the in the opposite effect.

Everyone is different, and you’ll learn hospital. Oh boy, did I regret that move what suits you and your baby the best. Just the next day. I could put neither baby nor take your time and think before you splash the cash on a pump to the breast as I had overdone the pumping and certain type of pump. caused so much pain to my nipples that all I could do was

PUMP

“I know you’re itching to use that fancy pump you bought when you hit the 12-week pregnancy milestone, but try and wait the six weeks so that you and your baby have a nice rhythm going.”

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42 Parenting

Noisy toys

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Bringing up Baby

secret stresses

From cutting nails to complicated car seats – DAISY WILSON on the six secret stresses that no one ever tells you before having children.

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he first year of a baby’s life is an exciting, wonderful, exhausting and occasionally stressful time for all parents. The advice on how to handle sleepless nights, night-time feeds and colicky babies streams in, but no one warns about the more minor stresses of life with baby. So here are six honourable mentions for occurrences likely to make you want to press the panic button no one provided, along with a few possible solutions.

Cutting baby’s finger and toenails Trimming your baby’s finger and toenails should be a small job. After all, those tiny opalescent crescents are small. But, therein lies the problem. Fingernails so tiny, fragile and delicate that the thought of approaching them with mini scissors can induce feelings of panic, fear and nausea. You’ll need a brain surgeon’s steady nerves and hands, plus a helper. Yes, cutting baby’s nails is a two-person job: one to hold, one to cut, and if you can rope someone into mopping your forehead during the procedure, well all the better.

Solution? Well, some parents file their baby’s nails, others nibble them off. I think waiting until the owner of the sharp nails is asleep is the best bet. Occasionally, they sense that something is up, curling their fingers just as the scissors hover on the point of cutting. Cue vi-

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sions of the worst happening, and a cold sweat breaking out. Second solution: a hasty retreat to the kitchen for a restorative cup of tea.

Leaving the house This stress is not the result of a sudden agoraphobic fear of open spaces, but simply the difficulty in leaving the house. Sometimes, I fondly recall those unchallenging days when stepping outside required nothing more than shoes. Now it’s more on par with a full-scale military operation with four stages.

Stage one is pre-planning: when’s the optimum time to attempt to get the weekly shop?

Before or after nap-time? When is nap-time this week? You can’t go during baby’s frequent lunch hours, morning is one elongated breakfast, and loud noises in the late afternoon make baby cranky so rule that out. Many considerations are taken into account during preplanning.

Stage two is the checklist of required supplies: nappies, wipes, spare clothes, changing mat, blankets, toys, pram, car seat, hat, booties, all baby’s nutritional requirements (here, breastfeeding has the advantage), and your purse, coat and keys. Check, check, check.

Stage three is the first attempt at leaving: the struggle out the door balancing nappy bag, purse and blanket on one arm, a three-ton baby seat dragging down the other, and a juggling performance involving house keys and the cor-

rect placement of car seat into car. All followed by a sigh of relief as you get behind the wheel.

Stage four is the retreat: just as you are about to turn the keys, a small explosive noise followed by the unmistakeable waft of a precariously full nappy results in a forehead propped on the steering wheel, followed by a return to the house for a nappy change, followed by a feed because baby’s hungry again.

Solution: leaving the house should be a competitive challenge on Saturday night gameshows. (Or, just lots of patience and a sense of humour)

Car seat/stroller adjustments Our baby’s car seat comes from a well-known manufacturer rated for its high safety standards and comfort. So, when it was time to adjust the straps to fit the ever-growing child, I thought it’d be easy-peasy-lemon-squeezy.

Yes, lemons for the feeling of bitterness towards said car-seat manufacturer and squeezy for squashed fingers after three hours of trying to fit my hands between the limited space to prise the little thing-a-me-bobs free.

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Choking Hazards

The manual is no help. The YouTube video is no help. Finally, a parents’ online forum covering this topic teaches me the tricks of the trade. All I lacked was an advanced degree in engineering and hands the size of a three-yearold but with the strength of a weight-lifter. No problem then.

Noisy toys Toy manufacturers have a sadistic streak when it comes to their battery-operated sing-along choo-choo beep-beep moo-moo toys. The cacophony of shrieking high-pitched noises available in one small plastic toy is awe-inspiring.

Take, for instance, the toy phone that sounds like old-fashioned internet dial-up: not a pleasant sound. It entertains baby, so you keep it – for a while, praying every day that the batteries will run out. Until, one day you crack, rummage around for a Phillips screwdriver and do the job yourself.

Solution: become one of those puritanical parents who insist on only old-fashioned wooden toys and pretend it’s for purely educational purposes.

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I want to look like Barbie

Dressing baby

Choking hazards

I can clearly remember the frustration as a child of trying to glam Barbie up by dressing her in her finest ball-gown. The hours (minutes) spent coaxing her hands through the tight sleeves, threads catching on her thumbs. Oh, it was annoying.

Dressing baby is similar, but worse, because you can’t give up and babies are delicate; they don’t take kindly to the treatment Barbie had to deal with. So, there you are, trying to get baby into the adorable little designer outfit Auntie Marge with the good taste sent. But the sleeves are like Barbie’s – narrow and stiff – and that little wriggly arm has no interest in helping you out. There are countless fiddly buttons and a lack of elastic stretch for getting it over baby’s massive head.

Baby gets mad, you give up and decide to leave baby in pyjamas forevermore. If only the snaps on pyjamas weren’t so numerous, so complicated, so determined to be done up incorrectly. Argh! Velcro. Velcro is the solution.

Some parents look forward with great joy and anticipation to the day they begin introducing solids. Some cowardly parents (me) find the thought terrifying and stand ready to perform the baby Heimlich every time baby coughs, splutters or utilises the gag reflex. The babies of wimpy parents make do with overly puréed food for a little too long. But then comes the crawling and suddenly choking hazards are everywhere.

The house is baby-proofed: stair gates, plug protectors, fireguards, sharp corners sanded down to smooth curves – everything is ready.

You vacuum, lay down clean blankets, do a visual sweep before allowing baby to scoot about. It doesn’t matter. There will be some minuscule ball of fluff, a penny tucked behind the leg of a chair, a button fallen off your cardigan while you did your visual sweep of the vicinity. You’ll prise it out of that chubby hand, wonder how on Earth you missed it, and try not to panic at what could have been.

Solution? In the words of a Harry Potter character, “constant vigilance!”

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44 HEALTH

All you need to know about…

weaning When to start weaning and what you should be feeding your baby – your essential weaning checklist starts here.

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When should I start weaning? You

should introduce your baby to solids somewhere between 17 and 26 weeks (six months). Before this time, your baby’s digestive system is generally not ready, and early introduction can increase the chance of obesity in later life or risk of food intolerance. You know when your baby is ready when she has good head control, is showing interest in food, starts to look for more milk feeds for a weekor more, and is able to sit up with support.

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What should I start with? First foods should be smooth vegetable purées without any lumps. Cooled boiled water, breastmilk or formula milk can be used to thin a purée and make it more familiar to the baby. Choose a time when your baby is not too hungry and introduce one new food at a time. Good foods to start off with include root vegetables like carrot and sweet potato.

Leave one or two days between each new food to check for a reaction or intolerance.

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What should my baby drink? Cows’ milk is not suitable for drinking until after one year, but can be used after six months in cooking. As your baby progresses with spoon-feeds, the most suitable drink other than breastmilk or a bottle is cooled boiled tap water. Or if the tap water isn’t suitable, use bottled water that has a sodium content less than 20mg per litre, which should also be boiled and cooled.

Juice is not recommended until your baby is at least six months old and then should be unsweetened, 100 per cent juice diluted down to one part juice and eight to ten parts water.

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How do I move on to the next stage? Once your baby has

reached six months old and is used to the spoon, it’s time to introduce some texture to her food. Add a little mashed or grated food to the usual purée and slowly build up the texture as she gets used to it. Your baby will also start enjoying easy finger food like banana, bread or cooked pasta. Meat should be introduced after six months as your baby’s iron reserves from birth will be depleted. By eight or nine months, most family foods are now suitable for your baby in a chunky, mashed texture, moving slowly to chopped and bite-sized pieces. Make sure baby’s foods do not have any added salt or sugar. Finger foods such as toast, melon, cheese, cooked broccoli or carrot, meatballs or rusks are great. Avoid any unpasteurised dairy products or honey, and don’t give whole nuts to babies under the age of five due to the risk of choking.

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How much should my baby eat? Try just two or three

small spoons to start with, and build up when your baby starts to demand more. Once your baby has mastered taking food from the spoon, slot in solid meals between milk feeds, two a day to start with.

Never put purées into a bottle; instead, always offer food from a spoon.

FIND OUT MORE For more weaning tips, log on to www.hse.ie or visit www.safefood.eu. Annabel Karmel has a number of excellent weaning cookbooks and guides, including the New Complete Baby & Toddler Meal Planner (€22.35 from www.eason.ie).

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at Newbridge House & Demesne For a great family day out, check out Newbridge House and Farm in Donabate, Co Dublin

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ooking for an activity that all the family can enjoy? Newbridge House and Demesne has plenty to keep your occupied. People all ages enjoy the farm, from the piglets to the ducklings and the gorgeous chicks in the Hatchery. It is one of the few working farms where children can see pigs and many other animals reared in an environment where they can move about freely and express normal patterns of behaviour. Newbridge is very committed to the highest standards of animal welfare and to the preservation of many rare breeds of animals, which have all but disappeared due to intensive methods of farming.

Newbridge House and Demesne is the most complete Anglo Irish estate in Ireland.

The House and estate were purchased from the Cobbe family in 1985 and opened as a County Dublin Regional Park in 1986.

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Newbridge still has all the intimacy and warmth of a family home with the accessibility of a property in public ownership.

Guided tours are available of the House and delicious treats are baked daily in the Tearooms open all year round. House and Farm are open from 1st April to 30th September seven days a week, 10am-5pm, and from 1st October to 31st March Tuesday to Sunday and Bank Holidays 11am-4pm. Access to the Park, car park and huge adventure playground is free.

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47 development

WHy so

SHY?

If your child is overly quiet or clings on to your coat-tails every time she sees someone new, she could be suffering from shyness. LAURA BURY finds out how you can help your little one overcome it.

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ost babies and young children will hide behind their mum’s leg or hang on to their dad’s shirt when a new person comes in to the room.

That’s a normal part of developing trust and learning how to deal with new people and new situations – but how can you tell if your child is just ‘making strange’ or is suffering from shyness? And is shyness such a bad thing?

Parents of shy children may think that their little one will grow out of it, that it’s just how they are. However, with up to 48 per cent of adults suffering from shyness, not tackling it can cause real heartache for the timid little ones in later life.

“I don’t think the idea that they’re just shy is enough, really,” says psychologist Trish Murphy.

“I think if you understand that it’s not a natural quietness and that it’s born out of fear then they need help and they need support with that.”

While up to a third of shy people are born with a predisposition to it, most develop it from their life experiences. “A lot of people are shy. Many people can’t walk into big rooms full of people. They just can’t do it, and that didn’t just arrive; it’s something that’s been building for a long time and it can have quite serious consequences.

“If you’re afraid of sounding silly, you simply don’t put yourself forward for things – that goes for school, sports, and even jobs and

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Trish says a simple example is in the classroom. “Let’s say your child knows the answer to a question their teacher has asked, but they’re too afraid to say it, so someone else does. That means someone else always gets the praise and the credibility, and that has a further impact on their confidence.”

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Self-conscious children Shy children, and adults, are excessively self-conscious and overwhelmingly preoccupied with what others thinks, which can cause serious social anxiety. This anxiety can lead to social avoidance and it also causes difficulty in thinking clearly when they’re spoken to and put on the spot – which can make it very difficult for them in the classroom and in the playground.

Shyness can be debilitating for a child in school, when she would rather be left alone than to be singled out to speak in front of a class.

The more a child is overlooked as she chooses not to speak out, the harder it becomes for her to get involved – not only in the classroom, but also in the playground when she’s trying to make friends.

“Shy children have fear running their quietness and that’s a problem,” says Trish. “If you have a fear of sounding silly, fear of getting something wrong – if that’s how you’re operating and you do it more and more and more, then it will give rise to anxiety. It’s going to get worse, your child could start to withdraw and not put themselves forward for things because of fear. No parent wants that for their child,” she says.

Tackling the issue The longer this pattern exists, the more difficult it is for children to change so it’s important that parents tackle the issue as soon as they can. But what should you do if you think your child may be suffering from shyness?

Trish advises a softly-softly approach, as shy children may not appreciate being thrown in the deep end: “Taking a light approach with kids is advisable. I like the idea of a reward system where the child can buy into it. They’re part of what they’re trying to do;

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Buster the Very Shy Dog, by Lisze Bechtold

Little Miss Shy,

by Roger Hargreaves

The Shy Creatures,

by David Mack they’re actively participating.”

A reward system could involve using gold star stickers or putting together a fun chart. “Set them a simple target each week – something that’s age appropriate. If they’re in primary school, you could ask them to put up their hand to answer a question in class, or to speak to the person they sit beside.

Then, once they’ve achieved that, celebrate it. You want them to be heard, which takes courage on their part, so help them along by making it fun.”

Ask a teacher Ciara Reddy, owner of The Stables Montessori in Dublin, believes that teachers should be involved in any process to tackle shyness: “Teachers should definitely work with parents to combat shyness in kids, whether that’s in a playgroup, Montessori or school.”

Trish agrees. “What you don’t want is a teacher forcing your little one to speak when she really feels scared, so you want to work with them.”

However, pushing a child too much before she’s ready could make matters worse. “If a teacher asks a child to stand up and read something and the child isn’t ready, they can go into panic mode,” says Trish.

“It can be very humiliating for the child because they may not be able to think clearly as they’ve been put on the spot.

You have to be very sensitive about where the child is at and you have to just push them one little bit at a time.”

So, how can the teacher work with you and your child? “As a teacher I would make sure the child is socialising with all the children and not just one, which tends to happen, and I’d encourage them to sit with children they wouldn’t usually choose to,” explains Ciara. “The teacher also needs to interact with the shy child and get them used to speaking out and feeling comfortable in a conversation.

I find that news, holidays, their family and their pets are subjects they feel most comfortable and confident talking about.”

The main thing, however, is to make the experience enjoyable, so it takes the fear out of interactions with others, whether they’re teachers, family, family friends or other children. “Even if you’re just driving in the car and your little one speaks up and says something, why not get everyone to cheer? It doesn’t have to be serious! Make it exciting, make it fun, make speaking out an enjoyable experience instead of fearful one,” adds Trish.

Confidence for your kids

Ciara Reddy from The Stables Montessori gives her top tips for helping your child overcome their shyness and to learn confidence. ✹ Socialise: Encourage your children to socialise with other children, as this can really help them to build confidence and come out of their shell. Invite friends over for play dates and send your child to visit their friends’ houses. ✹ Interests: Find out what your child loves doing – whether that’s football or dancing – and get her involved in a class where she can meet other children in a fun and enjoyable setting, and where speaking to others may be a less fearful experience. ✹ Groups: Playschools and Montessoris are ideal in preparing your children for confidence in primary school.

However, if it’s not possible for them to go, try to get to a mum and toddler group once a week.

It’s important for little ones to socialise, not only with children their age, but with adults who aren’t their parents. ✹ Take your time: Your child’s shyness won’t be tackled in a week. Take it slowly and go at a pace that’s comfortable for your little one.

✹ Start early and make it fun: The best way to approach shyness is to tackle it early and make it fun – your child will thank you for it!

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51 Child Safety

Safe & sound

Even though you mightn’t like to think of any harm coming to your children, it’s a good idea to teach them about safety from as early an age as possible, writes SARAH BREEN.

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he thought of your child being hurt in some way is every parent’s nightmare. But keeping your kids at home under lock and key is not the answer (although you could be forgiven for considering it after flicking through a newspaper on any given day). On the contrary, teaching kids about personal safety from day one, and giving them the right resources and guidance, could be what makes them invulnerable to harm.

“There’s no real starting point for discussing safety with your children, it should be an ongoing process,” says Caroline O’Sullivan, director of services at the ISPCC. “Children as young as two can be taught basic safety messages both in the home and when you’re out. Tell them clearly to stay with you at all times, and that they should never go anywhere with anyone, even people they know, without first asking a parent.”

Losing your child in a busy public place, even for five seconds, is a heart-stoppingly terrifying experience. But, if you’re confident that your child knows what to do in that situation, it can make trips and days out less stressful on everyone.

“As soon as children are able to understand, teach them their full name, address and telephone number in case they get separated from you,” says Caroline.

“Practise these [details] over and

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Just for kids What do you do if you get lost? a Stop and scream. Shout for

mammy or daddy, or, even better, use their proper names. Don’t walk any further and don’t be afraid to make lots of noise. a Find a safe adult and ask for help.

Safe adults include a uniformed Garda or security guard, a parent with small kids or someone at a cash register. a Know your name, address and phone number by heart. Prove it!

Pattie Fitzgerald’s SafeSmart rules a Teach kids they are the boss of

their bodies and are allowed to decide who can and can’t touch them. This includes not forcing them to hug or kiss someone if they are uncomfortable doing so. a Kids should be taught to always check first with a parent before going off with someone, entering someone’s home or car, or helping someone, whether they know them or not. Always check first. a Private parts are private! Teach your kids that these are special parts of their bodies that no one should be trying to touch or play with, not even someone they know and usually like. Remind them that if the doctor needs to check a private part, that’s okay, but a parent will always be there and you don’t get check-ups anywhere but in the doctor’s office. a Teach kids that if anyone breaks the private parts rule, it’s always okay to say, loudly, ‘Hands off my private parts! Stop touching me now!’ a No secrets from parents, especially secrets about private parts or touches. Predators often tell kids to keep this type of secret. We need to teach kids that it’s always okay to tell when someone breaks a safety rule; that you won’t be angry with them, and that you will always believe them and help them. We actually have to teach kids that there are no secrets because kids don’t know that they should tell about inappropriate touching, especially when that person is someone who is well-liked or known to everyone.

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over again until they know the information by heart. Discuss who to go to for help if they get lost – an information desk, a Garda or security guard, or families with small children.”

Right to say no One of the most important lessons you can teach children is that they always have the right to say no to touching, especially when it comes to any part of their body covered by a swimsuit. This means you can’t pressure them into giving so-and-so a kiss or such-and-such a hug, by the way. If your child say no, respect that. Always.

“Help your child understand what makes them feel safe and unsafe,” says Jenna Russell, project leader at Barnardos.

“Teach them about talking to safe adults if they are worried about anything, and talk to them about secrets and telling.

Parents should cover the difference between good and bad touches, and that we never keep a secret about touches.”

“Stranger danger” is a phrase often bandied about, and most parents will automatically tell their kids not to talk to someone they don’t know. But it can be an ineffective message, especially if you contradict it daily by making small talk out and about with people you have clearly never met.

Sadly, children are far more likely to be abused by someone they have a relationship with than a weirdo in a white van.

Plus, they might need to ask a stranger for help some day if they get lost.

Pattie Fitzgerald of Safely Ever After (www. safelyeverafter.com) is a USbased consultant who teaches safety strategies to families.

She has written two books, No Trespassing – This is MY Body! and Super Duper Safety School,

Safety tip!

Always use anatomically correct words for body parts and tell children their bodies are their own.

and has coined the concept of the ‘tricky person’.

“A tricky person is someone who uses charm, attention, flattery and excessive affection to gain access to a child,” says Pattie. “Tricky people are not always an adult but can be an older child, including a teenager. The main idea is that you can’t tell who is tricky just by looking at them. It’s not what someone looks like, it’s how they act and what they want you to do which makes them tricky. Tricky people look nice, seem nice and charming, but always break rules and push boundaries.”

Here’s something scary: tricky people don’t just groom children, they groom their parents too. Watch out for anyone who tells you your child is extra-special and showers them with attention or wants to buy them clothes or gadgets. Be suspicious of the new neighbour who offers to babysit for free or the relative who insists on one-on-one outings with your kid so you can have some me-time.

Ask yourself, what are their motives? If it sounds too good to be true, decline and keep your distance.

“It’s important that we

teach children that they can say no and seek help from a trusted adult if they are uncomfortable about something,” says Caroline.

Preserving innocence Worried that by broaching this subject you’re in danger of making kids grow up too fast? Don’t be. The opposite is actually true.

“Some parents ignore the fact that children need to be taught safety skills in the same way as they need to be taught how to cross the road,” says Caroline. “They assume that teaching these skills removes their innocence.

All advice needs to be ageappropriate, but also needs to be given before the risks appear.

The only way to preserve a child’s innocence is to ensure they understand danger.”

Always being available to listen to your children is one way to protect them from potential predators. Helping to build their self-esteem with love, praise and attention will ensure they don’t become vulnerable.

“Make special time on a regular basis to connect and talk with your child, from a very young age,” advises Jenna.

“Remind them they can always talk to you about anything.”

And, if you suspect an adult is behaving inappropriately with any child, don’t turn a blind eye and assume someone else will step in.

“Keeping children safe is everybody’s business,” says Caroline. “It’s better to seem like a busy-body than to leave a child who may be in danger to save you feeling uncomfortable.

The ISPCC gives advice on how to protect children on our support line between 9am and 5pm Monday to Friday by calling (01) 676 7960.”

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54 PARENTING

SIBLING RIVALRY

Siblings love to play just as much as they love to fight, and the introduction of a new baby can be an especially challenging time. However, there are ways to weather the storm, writes RACHEL MURRAY.

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ibling rivalry usually starts the minute new baby comes home from hospital. Your first born has never had to share his parent’s attention before and probably hasn’t had to share very much up until this point. It can be extremely tough for a toddler to welcome a new baby into his home and as a toddler doesn’t understand the situation fully it can be hard for mum and dad to fully reassure their first born.

As siblings get older, the situation can sometimes worsen. Their feelings of jealousy are shown through arguing, name-calling, teasing, pushing, and at times physical fighting. Toddlers especially don’t know how to properly express their emotions so they employ these tactics as a way of getting at their brother or sister for breaking their toys, spoiling their games, or stealing their parent’s attention.

Take comfort that children who fight the most in their early years are often the closest as they get older and competitiveness between siblings could be seen as good preparation for life as an adult.

Preparing for baby Toddlers don’t have the vocabulary or cognitive ability to understand mum has a baby growing in her belly. If your toddler is at the talking stage and engaging in play he will be better able to imagine the arrival of a new baby. The easiest way to explain you are expecting is by saying, “mum has a tiny baby growing in her belly, just like when you were in mum’s belly too.”

The best time to tell your toddler is at the same time you tell friends and family, this way they see what a positive and happy response you get from friends and family and your toddler will associate the news with happiness.

Once your toddler sees your belly getting bigger or the arrival of new things for baby, he should begin to make more sense of the situation. Other ways to get your toddler prepared for baby’s arrival are: Reading stories about the arrival of a baby to your toddler

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Going through baby pictures of your toddler Visiting friends and family who have babies of their own Bringing your toddler to appointments so he can hear baby’s heartbeat Let him feel baby kicking and encourage him to talk to your bump

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You say!

Time is short with a new arrival especially when chores have to be done. I recently started to get my toddler to help prepare dinner. This is play to her as she washes the veg and potatoes or counts out the pasta, but it also helps me too. This way they are kept occupied! Washing dishes in the sink is great fun too, whilst you clear away the dinner. They love it!

Geraldine Carol Quinn My experience has been that it’s important to give the first child some one-on-one time with you when the new baby is asleep, my little boy’s eyes light up when I tell him the baby is asleep and we’re going to read a story.

Rachel Doolin I found giving my son presents from the new baby helped; also bringing him to a doctor’s appointment so he could hear the heartbeat. Make sure also to spend some time with them. My son loves just sitting on my lap watching YouTube videos.

Rebecca Sheehan Make sure you have special times with just them and Mammy, no Daddy or baby. Simple things like going for a walk, a treat in a cafe or going to the playground.

Sadie Sparrow I have six kids, 17, 15, 10, 9, 13 months and 2 months. It’s always hard to please everyone but you just have to try and be equal.

Including everyone as much as possible is key to getting along. When a new baby comes it’s good to involve your other children from early on, focus on fun aspects and talk openly about any fears or worries about the new addition. The biggest sibling rivalry comes from age gaps but they learn to deal with this in time.

Siobhan Stapleton When I had my second child I made sure that baby had a present for her big sister. I also did as much one-on-one time with the eldest. Just had my third in March and he had presents for his big sisters. It is tough trying to do one-on-one time but it is important. I find the girls act up quite a lot when they don’t get mammy time. I also find that keeping their routine helps them and constant reminders that I love them.

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you have a hospital birth try to arrange for your toddler to visit you in hospital as even though you will probably only be in hospital for a day or two your toddler will still be upset by your absence.

Take lots of pictures of him with his new sibling, so he knows that this is a special time for him as the newly appointed big brother. Having a present from his baby brother or sister is a good idea as he might feel jealous or left out when he sees all the presents his sibling has received.

Introducing siblings With a small baby it’s important to incorporate your other children into

it. He’ll come around in his own time, more resentment could be caused by forcing him to get involved. Once your toddler realises baby is not a threat to him, he will eventually come around. It can be hard for toddlers to welcome a baby into their domain.

Toddlers are unable to control their feelings and he may begin to act out as he tries to get your attention away from baby.

He might: Act like a baby by asking for a bottle or soother, even though he doesn’t use them anymore; Stop using the toilet; Disrupt you while feeding baby, Try getting into his sibling’s pram or feeding chair

As siblings get older

“Take comfort that children who fight the most in their early years are often the closest as they get older and competitiveness between siblings could be seen as good preparation for life as an adult.” the process of looking after baby as much as possible. But at the same time making sure they don’t get jealous or feel neglected and ensuring everyone’s needs are being met.

For mums, this can be difficult as we never feel like we’re giving each child the attention they want and are left carrying a lot of guilt but as our mums used to always say, ‘I only have two hands.’

It’s about getting into a routine and knowing when you can set aside time for oneon-one bonding and what tasks you can incorporate your other children into when it comes to looking after baby and house chores. We’re lucky in a way, it’s not until children get to about nine or ten when they realise chores are actually work! Up until then they really enjoy getting involved and helping mum out whether it’s preparing the dinner or washing up after meals.

At times your toddler may feel like your baby is coming between you and him, acknowledge these feelings by saying something like: “She does cry a lot, doesn’t she?”

When possible answer your toddler’s needs first: “Baby will have to wait while I get you a drink,” these simple tactics will ease any feelings of jealously and reassure your toddler he has your attention too.

It could happen that your toddler refuses to help out, he may prefer to pretend there is no baby and carry on with his normal routine. If this is the case it’s best not to force

As your baby gets older sibling rivalry can intensify. Fighting over toys, who goes first or baby getting in the way of your toddlers games are all day-to-day squabbles to expect. Being a referee is not easy but try not to compare your children. This will only further feelings of resentment towards the other sibling. It’s about encouraging good behaviour and emphasising your children’s strengths. When baby hits a big milestone like crawling for the first time be sure to praise your toddler on his achievements too. “Chloe is the best at walking but you’re the best at running.”

Discourage telling tales otherwise you could find yourself driven demented. Make it clear you are not interested in what his sister is up to but you are interested in what he is doing. This way your toddler realises you are more receptive when he is chatting about himself and not getting angry about his sibling.

Teach your children to resolve their own conflicts with their siblings. As a parent this can be difficult especially when it comes to conflict with their friends but by doing this you are laying the groundwork by teaching them a valuable life lesson plus they will get plenty of practise with their siblings.

Of course, there will always be some rivalry, especially between same-sex siblings. But in time, things will settle down. They will still squabble, but you will see more bonding than fighting as they build the blocks of what will be a life-long friendship.

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58 Children’s health

Off to a good start

September is looming – whether your little ones are back to school, starting in junior infants, enrolling in pre-school or even returning to crèche, read on for how to give them a healthy start to the academic year.

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59 Children’s health

To school or not to school?

It’s the ultimate dilemma for every working parent – when is it okay for a child to go to school and when should she stay at home?

Stay at home: n Fever along with irritability, crying, refusing to eat and having a stuffy nose that produces green mucus. n Respiratory illness like flu, especially if she has a fever.

n Whooping cough.

Keep at home for several days after she has started antibiotics. n Diarrhoea and vomiting. Stay at home until 24/48 hours after last episode.

n Contagious skin disease such as impetigo. Return 24/48 hours after treatment has started. n Chicken pox/ Measles. Stay home until five days after rash appeared.

n Rash with fever: stay at home until the child feels better or your know what the illness is, eg chicken pox

Go to school: n Common cold: unless your child has a fever, a cold is usually okay for school or crèche

n Rash without a fever or other signs of illness.

Probably okay, ask the teacher/minder

Of course, it’s good to get back into a routine, but it’s not without its hiccups. First up is the inevitable run of sickness that always accompanies every return to group learning. If you are working, this can cause havoc between keeping kids off school/crèche and doctors’ appointments. While you can’t avoid your kids getting sick completely, there are a number of ways to boost their immunity ahead of the upcoming school term – and some of them are as simple as can be.

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ugust is a funny month. One minute it feels like summer will never end, and the next you’re buried under an avalanche of school uniforms, books, requests for money from all angles and the dreaded endless lunchbox debates. And it seems to be the same no matter how young your children are – pre-schoolers often have regulation t-shirts and packed lunches, while even kiddies in crèche need to be organised after summer holidays are over.

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Handwashing habits Your child is never too young to be taught the value of handwashing, as this is probably the best way to help protect against viruses. When they are very young, get into the habit of washing their hands before any meal and after getting their hands dirty, using the toilet or petting any animals. When they are old enough, show them how to use soap on both sides of their hands, and washing for the recommended 20 seconds.

A good trick is to get them to sing ‘Row, row, row your boat’ as they wash.

Touching faces As soon as they know what they are doing, discourage your child from picking her nose, rubbing her eyes or touching her face too much. Viruses like colds and flus are spread through contact and then from contact with the eyes or nose.

Cover your sneeze Contagious viral infections and diseases are spread rapidly through the air. Teach your child to cover her nose and mouth when she sneezes and to blow

to keep an eye on it. n Conjunctivitis: a

crèche/school if it’s more than just

mild case may be alright for school, but talk to your

a watery eye as it can be highly contagious.

The dreaded head lice...

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ost of us who haven’t had to deal with head lice as a parent will remember with dread your mum’s bitter muttering, the hours of searching and the endless combing that came with the note sent home saying that a classmate had head lice. The good news is that while head lice are as common as ever, the treatment is a little easier and more effective.

Head lice are tiny wingless insects that are grey-brown in colour. They are the size of a pinhead when they hatch and 3mm long when fully grown. They are spread by head-to-head contact. They can cause itching but they don’t cause you to get sick; however, there is a risk of infection if the problem is not solved.

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A special head lice comb can be used on wet or dry hair (wet hair is easier as head lice remain still if they are wet) to detect and remove head lice. However, combing needs to be thorough and meticulous, and performed over several days to make sure all lice are removed.

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A special lotion to remove lice may be more effective. There are several pesticidebased solutions available, or a treatment like Hedrin, which is pesticide free and can be used on everyone from six months old to adult. Ask your pharmacist for guidance especially if you are pregnant, breastfeeding or if you or your child have a special medical condition.

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60 Children’s health

Back to routine!

Whether it’s back to school for older kids or back into a routine after holidays for younger babies, how do mums get their little ones back into early-morning starts and learning after a break without non-stop stress and tantrums? Here’s what you had to say…

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A week or two before school begins, start with the early bedtimes and earlier mornings. If kids are younger let them know when they will be going back, as they like to know in advance and get used to the idea. Also if possible have set mealtimes and give them small jobs around the house as this helps to encourage structure.

Siobhan Stapleton

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Keep them learning, and if older, reading or writing “anything” (play shop / cafe / tourist guide etc) during the summer.

Caroline Goonan McGlynn

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Even on holidays I still stick to a normal bedtime, granted with a little leeway.

Jillian Guest-Barden

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When you’re getting them used to the earlier mornings again, plan things to do so they have to get up and out like they would on a school day.

Sophie Leach-Marshall

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We get back into school routine a few days before they go back. No TV, phones or DS in bed on nights before school, they are only allowed these on weekends and holidays. I always try to give them a treat like a trip to the cinema or a day out after the first week of school.

Audrey Doyle

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My little one is going into Senior Infants, and I’m getting her involved in the buying of the back-to-school stuff.

They have their own calendar so they can see the countdown to school/treats.

I’ve also arranged some playdates with friends so there’s no strangeness in going back.

Connie McDonnell Doherty

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her nose in a disposable tissue that is thrown away immediately. Wash hands straight after sneezing or blowing your nose. If no handwashing facilities are present, teach your child to sneeze into the crook of her elbow instead.

Go for the fruit and veg Vitamins and minerals are essential for a great immune system, and the best way to get this is through eating plenty of fresh fruit and veg. Try fun ways of getting fruit and veg into your children by offering them tasty inseason fruit, vegetable crudites with dips and clever cooking ideas like hidden vegetable sauces, vegetable-topped pizzas and fruit and veg smoothies.

Feeling fishy Omega 3 fatty acids are linked with a healthy immune system. Get your children used to fish from an early age with clever recipes such as home-made fish cakes or fish fingers, and tasty fisherman’s pie. Salmon is an ideal fish to offer as it’s packed full of “good” fat and will give your child a great health boost.

Do the D Vitamin D supplements are recommended for every baby in Ireland due to our lack of sunshine in the winter, but with studies showing that this vitamin is vital to a healthy immune system, there is evidence to suggest that it should be given as a supplement to older children too. There are specific multivitamin supplements for children available - ask your pharmacist for advice.

Probiotics If your child is prone to upset tummies or has been on a lot of antibiotics and has been having digestive issues as a result, a special probiotic for children could be a good idea. Just as adults have a balance of bacteria in our bodies, so too have children, and when this is upset, the immune system can be affected.

Talk to your doctor or pharmacist for more.

Sleep Ensuring that your child gets enough sleep not only means she can concentrate more the next day, but her immune system will also be stronger and more efficient. Depending on age, between 10 and 12 hours is usually best for small children.

“Try fun ways of getting fruit and veg into your children by offering them tasty in-season fruit, vegetable crudites with dips and clever cooking ideas like hidden vegetable sauces, vegetable topped pizzas and fruit and veg smoothies.”

Luscious Lunchboxes If you’re tired of your little ones bringing home their half-eaten lunches, chef Catherine Fulvio has some great tips for lunchboxes this September that will get your kids munching in no time!

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Keep it colourful – if you want a balanced diet, look at the colours.

Perhaps a wedge of an apple and some carrot sticks.

Keep it varied.

If your kids are a little older, involve them in packing their own lunchboxes. Let them take part in the decision making and choose what goes in them. Parents are more likely to learn what kids actually like to eat.

Include some dipping sauces or hummus.

Kids love to dip crunchy peppers or carrot sticks into hummus, and it’s a great healthy snack.

If you’re making sandwiches, use wraps or brown bread and cut the crusts off.

Spread some cream cheese on the bread and add some ham.

Roll the ham and cut it into wheels, kids love food to be fun.

Think finger food; it’s quicker to eat.

Often children are dying to go out and play with their friends but if they have a big sandwich to eat, they don’t get as much time. Make food small and easy to eat.

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When it comes to preparing family meals, you might find it difficult to please everyone at once. The following recipes offer you a selection of nutritious, quick, easy and fuss-free options for you to enjoy together with your loved ones – perfect when everyone is back to school, crèche or work!

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➽ From page 63 Chicken Breast with Tomato and Cucumber Salsa Preparation: 10 minutes Cooking: 6 minutes Makes: 2-4 portions ✹ 2 chicken breasts ✹ 2 tbsp soy sauce ✹ 1½ tbsp honey ✹ 1 tbsp olive oil ✹ 1 tsp oregano

Salsa: ✹ 1 tomato, deseeded and diced ✹ 6cm length of cucumber, diced ✹ 1 tbsp basil, chopped ✹ 1 tbsp olive oil ✹ 2 tsp rice wine vinegar

Slice the chicken breasts in half through the middle. Cover with the cling film then bash out to make four thin slices. Place in a bowl. Add the soy, honey, oil and oregano. Season and marinate for as long as you can. Mix the ingredients for the salsa together in a small bowl.

Heat a frying pan until hot. Fry the chicken breasts for 2 to 3 minutes on each side until cooked through.

Serve with the salsa.

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Quick Courgette and Carrot Risotto

Quick Chicken Nuggets

Preparation: 5 minutes Cooking: 10 minutes Makes: 4 portions

Preparation: 10 minutes Cooking: 10 minutes Makes: 20-25 nuggets

✹ 1 tbsp olive oil ✹ 1 onion, chopped ✹ 1 carrot, grated ✹ 1 courgette, finely diced ✹ 1 clove of garlic, crushed ✹ 1 250g packet of express basmati rice ✹ 200ml chicken stock ✹ 30g Parmesan, grated ✹ 1 tbsp chives, chopped

✹ 2 chicken breasts ✹ 2 tbsp pesto ✹ 50g cornflakes ✹ 15g Parmesan, finely grated ✹ A little oil for frying

Heat the oil in a frying pan. Add the onion, carrot and courgette. Fry for about 8 minutes until soft. Add the garlic and fry for 30 seconds. Cook the rice in a microwave according to the instructions. Add to the pan with the stock and stir for one minute, then add the herbs and Parmesan. Season to taste.

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Slice the chicken breasts into small cubes, about 10 to 12 pieces from each breast. Put the chicken into a bowl.

Season and add the pesto and mix together. Put the cornflakes into a plastic food bag and crush with a rolling pin to make fine crumbs. Add the cheese and half of the chicken to the bag. Shake the bag to coat the nuggets and transfer the chicken nuggets onto a plate. Add the remaining chicken to the bag and repeat. Preheat the oven to 200°C and cook the nuggets for 10 minutes.

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Chocolate Raspberry Mousse Preparation: 2 minutes Cooking: 5 minutes Makes: 4 portions ✹ 150g milk

chocolate ✹ 200ml whipping cream Raspberry coulis: ✹ 250g fresh raspberries ✹ 25g icing sugar

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Melt the chocolate in a bowl over a pan of justsimmering water. Stir until smooth and leave to cool. Whisk the cream until it forms soft peaks, then fold in the melted chocolate. To make the coulis, put 100g of the raspberries and icing sugar into a blender. Blend until smooth, then sieve into a bowl.

Put four raspberries into the base of each glass.

Spoon the mousse on top, then drizzle over the coulis. Put four raspberries on top of the coulis and some more mousse. Drizzle over a little coulis and top with the remaining raspberries.

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Best Travel Gadget ❋ Baby Elegance Pram Hook ❋ BeltLock ❋ Ergobaby Stowaway Carrier ❋ IDME Wristbands ❋ SnoozeShade Plus Deluxe Best Baby Bag ❋ Baby Elegance Everyday Tote Bag ❋ BabyMel ❋ Green Label ❋ Lin & Leo ❋ Pink Lining’s Yummy Mummy in Birdcage Best Cot ❋ Baby Elegance Holly Cot & Mattress ❋ Chicco Next2Me ❋ Shnuggle Basket ❋ Stackajack Clevercrib & Highchair Kit Best Safety Product ❋ Baby Elegance Healthguard Anti Allergy Fibre Mattress ❋ Gripper Soles ❋ IDME Wristbands ❋ Mothercare Home Safety Starter Set ❋ NUK Baby Thermometer Best Baby Store ❋ Baby Elegance ❋ Bella Baby ❋ Mothercare Ireland ❋ Sweet Little Babies

Best Car Seat ❋ Baby Elegance Group 2,3 Isofix Car Seat ❋ Graco SnugSafe Group 0+ Car Seat and ISOFIX Base ❋ Maxi-Cosi Cabriofix ❋ Maxi-Cosi 2way Pearl & 2wayFix Base Best Baby Wipes ❋ Aldi Mamia Baby Wipes Sensitive ❋ Johnson & Johnson Baby Extra Sensitive Wipes ❋ Pampers Sensitive Wipes ❋ SuperValu Fragranced Baby Wipes ❋ WaterWipes Best Nappy ❋ Aldi Mamia Newborn Nappies ❋ Boots Super Dry Nappies ❋ Lidl Toujours Drylock Nappies ❋ Pampers New Baby Dry ❋ Tesco Loves Baby Ultra Dry Nappy Range

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Best High Chair ❋ Fresco Highchair from Bloom ❋ Graco DuoDiner ❋ Stokke Steps ❋ Stokke Tripp Trapp Best Baby Monitor ❋ Avent Audio DECT Baby Monitor ❋ BabyPing Wi-Fi Baby Monitor ❋ Motorola MBP27T ❋ Motorola MBP36 S ❋ Tommee Tippee Closer to Nature Video & Sensor Mat Monitor Best Buggy ❋ Baby Elegance Beep Twist Travel System ❋ Chicco Urban ❋ Clever Clogs UPPAbaby VISTA ❋ Graco Evo Travel System ❋ Stokke Crusi

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“Paediatrician of the Year is quite a title and I was very humbled by it.”

We caught up with Dr Colm Taylor of South Infirmary Victoria University Hospital, Co Cork, who won last year’s Paediatrician of the Year Award, sponsored by Caldesene.

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hen your child is sick, as a parTaylor. “It can take a while to understand chilent you want the best care dren and their response to both trauma and possible from a doctor who longer-term conditions. When children are understands your child – not feeling well or are traumatised, they and most importantly, who almost get younger in behaviour, and it’s is trusted by your child. Unfortunately, important to be relaxed with them and not every doctor is like that. Once you treat them as individuals. There’s no point get someone good though, your relief is so hiding your plan from the child; I’m alN OF T HE RICIA I AT YE great that you want to tell the world! The ways very open and try and explain everyA ED maternity & infant Paediatrician of the thing to the child as early on as possible. I Year is one of our most popular awards, as also ask the child if they have any questions it gives parents the opportunity to publicly once I’ve seen them in a consultation.” thank a doctor that has made a huge differIt was found that Abbey had dislocated ence in their child’s life.

60 per cent of her hips, which put her in a In 2013, the award was won by Dr Colm wheelchair. She waited for over a year with Taylor in South Infirmary University Hosher previous consultant for surgery but Sponsored by pital in Cork. Dr Taylor is an orthopaedic under Dr Taylor’s care, the operation was surgeon with a special interest in paediatdone within four months. Although Abbey ric orthopaedics “about 70 per cent of my has to travel to the US for further surgery time is with children. I got a little experiin order to walk, Leslieann credits Dr Tayence early on with children and one of my lor with the amount of progress they have first reg jobs was in Crumlin. The more I made so far with Abbey’s care. worked with children as time went on, the more I liked it.

Dr Taylor is a dad himself, to three girls aged from two In my current role, I would deal with anything from norto seven. “It’s a busy house,” he laughs. “I think becoming mal variants like flat feet to hip instability and club feet to a father myself made me a lot more understanding of how trauma cases to more unusual conditions like length disparents feel when they’re with me. From seeing my own crepancies and tumours. children sick, it’s quite a different feeling to how I thought It was through his work that he met Leslieann McGeough it would be. I would definitely understand children a lot and her daughter Abbey who suffered from a condition more now too, such as how they won’t cooperate with you known as hydrocephalus, which affects the brain and has sometimes! But my children are very young so I’m learning caused Abbey many additional problems such as epilepsy still myself.” and cerebal palsy. It was Dr Taylor’s empathy for Abbey Dr Taylor was thrilled to be given the Paediatrician of and his treatment of her that let Leslieann to nominate him the Year award in last year’s maternity & infant Awards. for Paediatrician of the Year in 2013. “He would make sure “It was completely unexpected,” he says. “It’s quite a title, to explain everything to her and answer all of her questions. and I was very humbled by it. And it was nice for my wife He would listen to her fears and her concerns and he would and my family, because the job can be quite challenging at always be sure to involve her, which was not always the times, especially when I was training and moving around a case when having Abbey treated.” lot. I was really thrilled, and the family that nominated me It’s important to treat child patients with respect, says Dr was chuffed too.”

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69 Dad’s Diary

Brothers sisters NICK WILKINSON‘s children are discovering how much they can tease each other. It’s all going to end in tears.

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y son is in tears. His sister keeps teasing him about his bow-tie.

I should put his fashion statement in context. He has discovered Doctor Who and now lives in a separate dimension to the rest of the family, travelling backward and forward in time. (Though it doesn’t stop him being late for school in the morning.)

He sports a dickie-bow just like his favourite doctor, Matt Smith. But neither his sonic screwdriver nor the cupboard in his room that he has made into a TARDIS can help him escape his little sister.

I have a vivid memory from the same age. It’s of my threeyear-old brothers – twins – reducing me to tears. More than once. How could three-year-olds make a child twice their age cry? I suppose if they can do it to their parents, no other kid is safe either.

My little brothers ganged up on me – double trouble.

It only takes one of our daughter. She is relentless. Luckily, her brother is a little gentleman. Instead of giving her a thump, he will do his best to ignore her. But she nearly always strikes tears of frustration.

After being made to apologise, she envelops him in her arms and shushes him like a baby. She loves it. A big brother is like having the most realistic crying doll ever.

I assure him that this is just a phase. That crucial stage in every person’s life when they realise that actions can have a dramatic reaction. When he was her age, he discovered the fun he could have winding people up – namely me.

I remind him of Munich, when I lost him for 20 minutes in a Christmas market. When I say lost, that isn’t quite accurate. The little terror scuttled away and hid. After the longest 20 minutes of my life, and with the help of a large search party made up of efficient German Christmas shoppers, I found him hiding behind a carousel, delighted with himself.

It wasn’t the first or last time he tortured me with impromptu games of hide-and-seek. And his sister is now doing the exact same thing at the very same age. No amount

of scolding will stop her.

Perhaps it’s genetic. I know I like to wind people up, I just wish that my kids wouldn’t do it to me, or each other.

The first few times that our daughter ran off and wouldn’t answer our calls, I suspected that our son had led his pesky sister into the woods and left her to find her own way home. This was very unfair. When she disappears, it’s usually him who ferrets her out from under a bush in the next field. He must remember all the good hiding places. He is a good big brother – especially when you consider the teasing.

On a drive home from a children’s party, it got really bad.

We were playing ‘I Spy’. Every time he picked a letter, she would shout out, “Pink.”

“Stop being silly,” he said.

Then she really put the boot in.

“Bow-ties are silly,” she said.

He went quiet. So, she started to sing it. Over and over again. Tears of frustration flowed. The car was stopped.

Threats were made. But, unlike my own parents, I don’t think I could ever follow through on the promise of leaving my kids on the side of a main road.

We persuaded her to stop singing the words, but she kept quietly humming the tune, driving her brother mad. We got home with both children in poor form. Soon after we got back, we noticed that she was missing. Again.

I couldn’t find her anywhere. I found my son alone in his room, dressed in his bow-tie. He was standing in front of a Dalek he had made from a cardboard box. For once, he was not looking for his sister. And who could blame him? The little menace had been torturing him for weeks.

“Where’s your sister?” I asked anyway.

My son adjusted his bow-tie and brandished his sonic screwdriver at his cardboard Dalek. I jumped as it shuffled towards us, squeaking in an unmistakable little voice.

“Exterminate!” it cried.

But my son wasn’t frightened. The Time Lord had tamed his nemesis once and for all.

“I know I like to wind people up, I just wish that my kids wouldn’t do it to me, or each other.”

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Skin and nutrition worries

Worries about grommets

My five-year-old son is a plain eater and mostly wants carbs – potatoes, rice and pasta. He has recently developed red patches under his mouth, which are spreading as he keeps licking and rubbing them.

Should I be worried?

Our four-year-old daughter is due to get grommets inserted in two weeks’ time. She is anxious about the operation and is now saying she doesn’t want to go. What do you suggest?

These red patches on your son’s face don’t sound serious but it’s important to find out what they are. I think they’re unlikely to be linked to his eating patterns. By five years old, children have usually developed dietary likes and dislikes and, unlike most adults, they don’t seem to get bored eating the same thing most days. Providing a variety of foods and encouraging him to try different choices is best done by eating together and having the same meal as a family. Red patches can be a sign of eczema so, if your son had mild eczema when he was a baby or if there’s a strong family history of eczema (or asthma), I’d consider this diagnosis. This is also more likely if there are similar patches elsewhere on his body. Children are also prone to skin infections, which can easily spread by touching. Mild eczema can often be treated effectively with moisturisers but, if your son’s red patches persist, I would recommend he sees your GP for a definite diagnosis.

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Teething My ten-month-old baby has started teething and wakes most nights screaming. It’s exhausting for all the family. Is there a safe OTC product you could recommend to help her sleep through the night?

There are many suggested remedies and, as none come with a guarantee, most parents do try several approaches. Your baby may enjoy chewing on your finger and you may massage their gums gently as they do so, perhaps trying a teething gel as well. You can often feel a firmer raised area where the tooth will emerge. If this soothes your baby, then a teething ring may help. Some parents keep a couple in the fridge (not the freezer) as the cold sensation may also comfort your baby. This approach can be applied using food, for example: cold yoghurts or chilled fruit purées. Babies may also chew on food; you can buy sugar-free teething biscuits, but it’s better to cut strips of carrot or apple and always stay with your baby when she is eating. Some babies will be happy simply chewing on a cold wet flannel, or you can offer a cooled drink. If your child has a succession of distressed nights, it is reasonable to try a child-formulated painkiller that contains paracetamol or ibuprofen. Always read the dosage instructions first. Trying to distract attention by playing will often be helpful for a short time. Cuddling will help both you and your baby and may also help her settle off to sleep.

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This is definitely a situation where forward planning will help both you and your child. If you appear calm and relaxed, this will help your daughter.

One of the most common preschool-age anxieties is that they will be separated from their parent and left alone, so most hospitals now let a parent come into the pre-anaesthetic area and be there when children are coming round after anaesthetic. Also, although this may sound strange to an adult, some children may worry they have done something wrong and that’s why they need an operation. You can reassure your daughter and say it’s being done to fix her ears. It’s also helpful to ‘practise’ beforehand. If you have or buy a child’s doctor or nurse kit, you can practise on some of her toys, taking their temperature, listening to their chest, and putting on a bandage. Remember to take in your daughter’s favourite toy or blanket on the day. There are a number of books available, but I like the Usborne First Experiences series Going to the Hospital. If you visit some hospital websites, you’ll often find tips on preparing children who are coming into hospital for surgery. You can also get advice from a number of parenting sites such as maternity & infant.

Quick Guide

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Chicken pox is a highly

A thermometer is an

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infectious common

essential piece of kit in any

It’s important to

disease caused by the

family home, but there are

know if your child is

varicella-zoster virus. It

several different types:

getting dehydrated

spreads easily through

✹ Digital thermometers

with a tummy bug. If

coughing and sneezing,

can take temperature

you see any of these

and is most common

from the mouth, armpit

signs, consult your GP

under the age of 12.

or rectum and so are

or seek medical help:

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suitable for any age

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aches and pains, which

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usually occur a day or two

thermometers are

before the rash appears,

quick and fairly

and spots in groups

accurate for children

anywhere on the body

and adults, but are

that develop into small,

not suitable for babies

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under the age of six

of chicken pox differs from

months

or dry lips

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children, but they can

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Pregnancy tiredness

Cervical suture

I’m four months’ pregnant and I’m still impossibly tired every day.

I’m falling asleep in work and crawling into bed the minute I get home.

I know tiredness goes with pregnancy but surely it should have lifted by now? Should I be worried?

I had a very late miscarriage and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant again. A friend mentioned that I can have a stitch put in to prevent me from going into labour too early – what is this and should I ask for it?

There are times during pregnancy when you will feel very tired and this is normal. There will also be times when you feel you have much more energy, so give it a bit of time and it will settle. I would advise you to eat well, sleep well and exercise at a level with which you are comfortable. There is an association between tiredness, lack of energy and anaemia or low iron levels. In pregnancy, your haemoglobin levels (the iron in your blood stream) fall because your blood volume increases. It is important to make sure your iron stores are good and this will have been checked at your booking visit. Most people are advised to take an iron supplement during pregnancy; this tops up your iron stores and allows you to make haemoglobin, which is the way you carry oxygen in your blood to all the areas that need it. This is good for the health of your pregnancy and also makes sure that when you lose about 500ml of blood at delivery and after delivery of the placenta, you have enough stored iron in your system to allow your body to recover more quickly.

Miscarriages can happen at a variety of stages during pregnancy and the causes can be very different. Very few pregnancy losses are caused by a weakness in the cervix (neck of the womb). It would be important to have your doctor review the notes from your first pregnancy to help decide whether you need a cervical suture in this pregnancy. A review of your past medical history should be able to identify any risk factors for late miscarriage or premature labour, and a review of the events around your late miscarriage should be able to assist in deciding if the cause was related to any weakness in the neck of the womb or whether there were other factors involved.

You should raise your concerns with your doctor or midwife at your booking visit and make sure to ask that your old notes are reviewed.

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Pregnant with triplets I’m in shock – I’ve just been told I’m expecting triplets! What do I need to know? Is this more high-risk than twins? And when will I expect to meet my babies?

The downside of high-multiple-birth pregnancies is that you tend to have higher risks for all the potential complications of pregnancy. The good news is that we know what to expect and will a plan for your pregnancy in place at an early stage. You are going to get much bigger quite quickly so, in addition to more nausea, you will get more uncomfortable earlier in the pregnancy. You will be seen in the clinic and scanned more often to watch out for any complications that may arise. Most hospitals have a dedicated multiple pregnancy clinic staffed by a dedicated team of doctors and midwives. You are likely to be admitted to hospital around 30 to 32 weeks if you have not laboured by then. Your babies will most likely be delivered by elective Caesarean section at 34 to 35 weeks. The babies will probably have to spend some time in NICU (neo-natal intensive care) after delivery, until they put on some weight and they’re breathing comfortably on their own and controlling their own blood sugars and temperatures.

Quick Guide

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What is ... a D&C Sam says: D&C, or dilation and curettage, is a surgical procedure designed to clean out the cavity of the uterus and to make sure there is no remaining tissue left in the womb after a miscarriage.

This is an in-patient procedure requiring general anaesthetic and is usually done as a day case. Following the procedure, you will bleed for anything between a few days and a few weeks but the bleeding should slowly settle and become darker with time.

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How to ... recover from a Csection ✹ Be patient: You won’t feel like you’re getting back to normal for four to six weeks. ✹ Get help: You need to look after yourself and recover. Get someone bring the baby to you, and get help with the house. ✹ Start slowly: You can start your Kegel exercises in bed and begin walking around the house slowly when you feel ready.

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Tip …

Turning a baby Try these at-home tips (best tried after 32 weeks and before 35 weeks): ✹ Put something cold at the top of your bump to encourage your baby to turn away from the cold ✹ Put something warm or play soothing music at your pubic bone to encourage your baby to move closer to the warmth or music ✹ Try the breech tilt exercise, where you lift your hips higher than your head (stack pillows under your hips if it helps) Going for a swim can also help as it keeps your pelvis and hips relaxed, encouraging turning. As always, talk to your doctor if you are worried.

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74 ask the Fertility Expert

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IVF vs ICSI

Trouble conceiving

What is the difference between IVF and ICSI and why would ICSI be recommended for us?

We find that trying for a baby has really taken over our lives and relationship - it’s become a task! Can you advise?

IVF is a fairly natural process of fertilisation, allowing the eggs and the sperm to come together outside the female body. The eggs and sperm are mixed in a dish in the controlled environment of an embryology laboratory. The desired result is that some of these eggs will then fertilise and develop within the optimal conditions designed to mimic your body. ICSI may be indicated if the male patient has a low number of moving sperm within his sample, if there is a history of failed fertilisation with IVF in the past or if the sperm has been surgically retrieved. If these sperm were placed in a dish with eggs, there is a possibility that they would not be able to reach and then penetrate them. Intra-cytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI) is the process of directly injecting one sperm into the centre of the egg. This allows the introduction of male genetic information contained within the sperm directly into the egg, assisting with the fertilisation process. ICSI is a very effective procedure that has been used since the 1990s to assist couples with potential sperm problems. The technique is performed by highly trained scientists and does not impact on the overall fertilisation rates or success rates compared to IVF. Answered by: Dr Sarah Pace, embryologist, ReproMed

Please rest assured that this can happen to the majority of couples who are delayed in becoming pregnant. Stress and disappointment can also work against natural conception in some couples. In trying to do everything to increase your chances of conceiving naturally, we recommend looking at both of your lifestyles, nutritional intake and contemporary fertility profiles. If you’re a smoker, stop smoking. Smoking is not just bad for your health, it also seriously affects fertility in both men and women. You should reduce the amount of alcohol you drink, too. Research has shown that drinking large amounts of alcohol can affect the menstrual cycle in women and reduce sperm quality in men. Maintain a healthy body weight as both obesity and being underweight can affect fertility in both men and women. Eat a healthy diet high in fish, fruit, vegetables, legumes and whole grains. These foods are high in anti-oxidants, which help to reduce damage done to egg and sperm cells by free radicals. Limit your intake of processed foods, sugary drinks, sweets and red meat, too. Finally, reduce stress. Exercise and relaxation techniques such as yoga or meditation might help. In addition, exercise may also help maintain a healthy body weight. Answered by: Dr Fionnuala Breathnach, consultant senior lecturer in maternal foetal medicine, Royal College of Surgeons in Ireland.

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Miscarriage risks after IVF I’ve just had my first early pregnancy scan after an IVF cycle and, thankfully, I’m pregnant! I’ve read a lot about miscarriages, though – should I be concerned?

Quick Guide

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All about ... healthy sperm The average sperm count is about or above 120 million

Miscarriage rates are no higher in IVF pregnancies when compared to spontaneous pregnancies in similar-age women. Nor are they lower, unfortunately. The miscarriage rate among women who are just over six weeks’ pregnant can be as high as 24 per cent. The vast majority of miscarriages are caused by chromosomal abnormality and are therefore determined at the moment of fertilisation. If a woman has an ultrasound that demonstrates a well-grown foetus with a normal heartbeat at eight weeks, the risk of miscarriage falls to 2 per cent. Couples who undergo IVF may have a heightened awareness of miscarriage, not least because the pregnancy is recognised at such an early stage. For this reason, the wealth of information about foetal viability and foetal health that can be gleaned from a high-quality early ultrasound – in the interval between six and nine weeks in particular – can offer invaluable reassurance. Because the fate of a pregnancy is so heavily reliant on the genetic make-up of the embryo, it is important to emphasise that there are no activities of everyday living that would modify the risk of miscarriage. I encourage women to do all of their normal activities, within the limits of first-trimester discomfort. Answered by: Dr Fionnuala Breathnach, consultant senior lecturer in maternal foetal medicine, Royal College of Surgeons in Ireland

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per cubic centimeter, and a low count is diagnosed at under 40 million per cubic centimetre. A low sperm count or poor sperm motility may be caused by environmental toxins.

Another factor that can damage sperm is heat, such as tight jeans, hot baths and sweaty underwear.

To optimise sperm count, quality and mobility, eat a healthy diet high in fruit, veg, good-quality protein and whole grains; exercise regularly (but not excessively); and avoid polluting foods such as coffee, sugar and alcohol, as well as tobacco.

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How to ... prepare for IVF It’s important to take extra-good care of yourself as you prepare for and undergo fertility treatment. Here are some tips: ✹ Talk to each other and remember you aren’t going through this alone ✹ Eat a good diet and take regular exercise ✹ Avoid stress by working normal hours and not taking on too much ✹ Set aside some time each day to be by yourself – listen to music, have a relaxing bath or just take time out

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Should I… be taking a conception supplement?

Apart from folic acid, there is no need to take any extra supplements when trying for a baby unless otherwise advised by your doctor.

However, if you are not sure about the quality of your diet or think you may be deficient in certain vitamins then there is no harm in taking a supplement.

If your product is not specifically for conception or pregnancy, check with your doctor or pharmacist that it’s suitable for pregnancy.

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75 ask the Dietician

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Sugar-free food and kids

Toddlers and meat

I have a two-year-old daughter – can I give her ‘sugar-free’ foods?

I’m a vegetarian, but is it okay for my toddler to avoid meat too? Will she get all the nutrients she needs?

‘Sugar’ is a confusing term and one that covers more than just one type. In reality, there are many different sugars, but it’s helpful to divide them into three groups: ✹ Sugar naturally present in food, for example lactose in milk and dairy products or fructose in fruit, pure fruit juice and honey ✹ Sucrose (otherwise known as table sugar) added to food by the manufacturer, for example in most yoghurts, cordials, breakfast cereals, juice drinks, rusks etc ✹ Non-sucrose sugars such as glucose, maltose, hydrolysed starch,

invert sugar, corn syrup, molasses, raw sugar, dextrose, mannitol, golden syrup, malt extract, brown sugar, xylitol, maltitol etc.

‘Sugar-free’ on a label usually means free of sucrose (table sugar). The answer is to keep everything in balance. Simply keep sweetened foods as a treat rather than a regular feature. Choosing to cook fresh food more often than using convenience and processed foods. Use ingredient labels as a guide to choosing foods with less added sugar. If you buy a food that contains some added sugar, then try to make sure it is a food that provides other nutrients such as fibre or calcium. Good examples include high-fibre breakfast cereals or yoghurts. And remember: milk and water from an open cup are the best for health, hydration and teeth.

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Quick Guide

Drinking in hot weather This sunshine is lovely, but I’m always worried that my three-year-old isn’t drinking enough liquids. How can I tell if she is hydrated enough?

The reason behind recommending meat as part of a toddler’s diet is to provide them with a good source of easily absorbed iron, which is essential for healthy blood, brain and cognitive development. However, there are many other foods containing iron that don’t come from animals. They may contain less iron and in a less easily absorbed form but, provided that you follow this advice, your toddler should get enough to fuel normal growth and development and no supplement will be needed. Be sure to include alternative sources of iron every day. The portion needed is the size and thickness of the toddler’s palm. All types of beans, peas, lentils, fortified breakfast cereals, darkgreen leafy vegetables, egg yolk and dried fruit are good options. To help you absorb iron from these foods, have vitamin C-rich foods such as potatoes, strawberries, citrus fruits (or juices), tomatoes, cabbage and broccoli at the same time.

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What is ... folic acid?

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recipe.

and insufficiency is associated with babies

It’s unusual for most children not to look for drinks when they’re thirsty and the best thirst quenchers for this age group are milk and water. If she is in nappies, your toddler should be having at least one good wet nappy during the day.If she is toilet-trained, the colour and smell of her urine is a quick and easy sign of how well hydrated she is (check the pee chart for reference).

Other signs of dehydration include: ✹ Not passing urine for six to eight hours during daytime ✹ Feeling weak with no energy ✹ Parched mouth and lips ✹ No tears when crying ✹ Sunken eyes ✹ Cold hands and feet

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3 4 5 6 7 8 Pee Chart Your target is to make sure that your pee is the same colour as numbers 1, 2 and 3. Colours 4 and 5 suggest dehydrations and 6, 7 and 8 severe dehydration.

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Quick fix …

Strawberry & Banana Milkshake

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three months before

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76 ASK THE PHYSIOTHERAPIST

Q

Q

Tummy time

Tingling in hands

My first baby is four weeks old and I have been told that I need to start tummy time, but he cries so much that I can’t bring myself to keep pushing it. Is this normal?

I am 29 weeks’ pregnant and have noticed some tingling in my hands in the mornings. It goes away once I shake them out, but it has been there every morning for the past ten days, so I am getting worried.

It’s true that many babies do not tolerate tummy time very well in the beginning. It is important to persevere, however, as it helps greatly with baby’s head control and upper-arm strength, and will prepare him for movement. Start by lying him on your chest and encourage him to look into your face. Do this for very short periods and build up as he gets used to it. If he wails after ten seconds, use that as your baseline and build up his tolerance from there. Try tummy time a little and often during the day and he will soon get used to it. Once he is doing tummy time on a mat, place a rolled towel under his hips, which will prevent his little face pressing into the mat.

This sounds like a case of carpal tunnel syndrome, which is common in pregnant women. Symptoms usually affect both hands and can appear at any time in the pregnancy, but, usually, it is more likely during to occur during the second half when women tend to retain more fluid.

Symptoms can include tingling, numbness, burning, pain or a dull ache in the fingers, hand, wrist and even up the arm to the shoulder. In severe chronic cases, your hand may feel clumsy or weak.There are a few things you can do to relieve the pain. Avoid any activity that requires forceful, repetitive hand movements. If your job requires this kind of movement, get advice on wearing a wrist brace from your chartered physiotherapist.

If you work at a computer, adjust the height of your chair so your wrists are not flexing or bending as you type, and take frequent breaks to stretch your hands. Avoid sleeping on your hands or with flexed wrists and, if you attend any pregnancy classes, avoid leaning through your hands for any of the exercises.Your chartered physiotherapist may need to stabilise your wrist in a neutral position with a splint, which should reduce your symptoms considerably.

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Neck pain after birth My baby is six weeks old now and doing great. Unfortunately, I am not doing so well. My neck has been hurting me since before she was born and is getting worse. I am even getting some headaches. Could this be because I am tired, or should I get it checked out?

Neck pain can happen in pregnancy and in the postnatal period. It is usually caused by a combination of postural changes from pregnancy, tension in your muscles due to tiredness, anxiety about your new role as a mother, your feeding position, and carrying around your baby with and without the carseat. Use a hot pack on the area when you can, to help the muscle fibres relax. Rest your baby on a pillow or cushion when feeding so you do not have to actively hold her there for the duration of the feed. Also, make sure you are not using too many pillows in bed. Become aware of your muscles by actively relaxing them whenever you feel the tension building. Try to draw the shoulders down towards the floor to prevent the tension building up. Stretch by bringing your right ear to the right shoulder and holding it there for 15 seconds. Repeat on both sides until the stretch feels the same. Massage those muscles when lying on your side. For example, with right-sided pain, lie on your right side and massage around the right shoulder blade and up into the neck using your left hand. Do this morning and evening and the tension will begin to ease.If you see no change after a week of following this advice, or if you notice frequent headaches or pins and needles developing, you should be assessed by your chartered physiotherapist for some joint and muscle release as well as some postural strengthening.

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QUICK GUIDE

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Pelvic girdle pain is a

As long as you have approval

Prenatal yoga is a

significant obstetric problem

from your doctor and are

popular class for

and should be treated by a

not at risk of delivering an

pregnant women

chartered physiotherapist,

early baby, exercise is safe

in their second and

but there are some things

in late pregnancy with a few

third trimesters

you can do to ease your pain:

modifications:

of pregnancy. It

✹ Apply an ice-pack for ten

✹ Avoid lifting heavy

combines simple yoga

How to ...

RELIEVE PELVIC GIRDLE PAIN

Tip ....

EXERCISE IN LATE PREGNANCY

What is…

PRENATAL YOGA?

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strengthening and

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much pressure on your

stretching exercises

your skin

tendons and ligaments,

that are suitable

which loosen up before

and beneficial for

birth

pregnant women

✹ Keep your knees close together as much as possible and take smaller

✹ Listen to your body

with relaxation and

– if you feel dizzy or

breathing exercises.

lightheaded, stop

The yoga part keeps

kicking your legs can

✹ Scale back your exercise;

you supple, while

make the stress on the

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the relaxation

pubic joint much worse

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steps while walking ✹ Avoid swimming as

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your breathing. It’s

your legs and one under

for pelvic tilts, as it’s no

also a great way to

your bump to support it

longer safe to lie on your

meet other pregnant

when sleeping

back

women in your area.

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77 ask the sleep Consultant

Q

Q

Sleeping on holidays

Soothers during the night

We are going on holidays soon – any tips for travelling and maintaining good sleep?

I am re-plugging my six-month-old child’s dummy numerous times overnight! What can I do? Must I get rid of the dummy?

Young children thrive on consistency and routine, especially where sleep is concerned. Although this may be trying on holidays, if your little person is still taking a daytime nap, then sleep during the day will also be required when you are away. When travelling with young babies and toddlers, I advise that parents bring with them familiar sleeping items, like the sheet from the cot that your child slept on the previous night before travelling, the sleeping bag (if you use one) and the books that you read at sleep-time. Make sure you don’t forget their special blanket or stuffed toy for sleep. Whilst away from home, avoid being inconsistent should your child wake during the night. If you don’t normally bring them into your bed or give them feeds, then I wouldn’t advise it as, when you get home, they may want more of the same. If you will all be sleeping in close proximity and you don’t normally share a room, then move their cot or bed as far away from your bed as possible, so the sleep can be the least disturbed. Remember, we don’t sleep well if we are too hot or too cold. Adjust the clothes and sleeping bag and blankets that your child wears for sleep in line with the climate you are in so that this isn’t a factor that will interrupt sleep.

Lots of parents I meet wish they never started to use a dummy with their baby and I always encourage them to look at things differently. First of all, dummies are extremely helpful with young babies, provided your feeding has been established. The sucking can invoke the calming reflex and help to calm your baby down, it can help to pace your feeds if they just want to suck and not eat, and it may help a reflux baby. Furthermore, guidelines also suggest that the use of a dummy can help prevent the risk of SIDS. If you are considering not using your dummy anymore, please get the consent of your GP. A more rested child will need less dummy runs, so have a look at naps and bedtimes first. Once your child is past seven or eight months old, you can help your child learn to use the dummy by always putting it into her hand and guiding her hand to their mouth. If you are determined to drop the dummy and your GP has consented then, ideally, discontinue the use at bedtime and use a sleep-learning technique to help them get used to not sleeping with the dummy. Follow this procedure overnight. It takes two to three days for them to get over it and you can still use the dummy for non-sleep times.

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Separation anxiety and sleep disturbances Have you any solutions for separation anxiety and sleep disturbances?

I have five! First, increase daytime attention, focusing on spending sincere, one-to-one time with your child that involves plenty of physical and eye contact and to help him feel connected to you. During the first stages of separation anxiety a young child may also be discovering how to move away from you, and you want to ensure that they feel safe to roam and that you remain a secure base for them.

Practise lots of peek-a-boo, jack-in-the-box and covering items up with blankets, for example, helping your child learn how things can disappear and reappear also, like when you go away. Avoid ever sneaking away from your child. Although sometimes difficult to experience the upset, it is important that you always say goodbye so that you don’t heighten his fears and cause extra uncertainty by slipping away when it is safe and you are unseen. Also avoid picking your child up when he wants to come into your arms. Instead, come down to his level and engage with him on the floor or playmat. Finally, lengthen your bedtime routine by as much as 15 minutes to factor in some extra time together.

Allow for lots of bonus cuddles, hugs and holding to help with the transition to sleep-time, when you will need to leave the room.

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Quick Guide

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How to ... avoid flat head syndrome ✹ Alternate the way your baby sleeps by positioning him on the bottom of the crib as well as the top. He will usually face out into the room ✹ Encourage tummy time during the day ✹ If you bottlefeed, alternate the sides in which you hold the baby ✹ If you use a chair, avoid leaving baby in it for too long

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Tip ... bumper – yay or nay?

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Buy it …

Lights Out Blind

There are a couple of studies that suggest there is an increased risk of SIDS with cot bumpers or that they might pose a danger when baby can move around and potentially pull the bumper down over his face. Although the risk of SIDS or strangulation is small according to the research, some parents choose not to take even that small risk. As an alternative, there are some breathable bumpers available, such as the ones from Safe Dreams (www. safedreams.co.uk).

Going on holidays and need to keep baby asleep?

The Lights Out Blind is an ingenious pop-up blind that goes up in seconds, doesn’t need adjusting and even works on open windows. It is perfect for maintaining baby’s sleep routine on holiday and great for daytime napping too. The Lights Out Blind costs €35.95 for a pair and is available from Little Dreamers (www. littledreamers.ie).

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79 Life after baby

Help Needed

It’s not just the kids who are going back to school, parents across the country are seeing the new season and term as a time to get organized and make changes to their routines. If you’re heading back to work, you may be looking at childcare arrangements – and with the latest study showing that Ireland is behind only the United States in terms of childcare costs, it’s more important than ever to make the right decision. The OECD study revealed that childcare costs were the biggest barrier to many getting off the dole and returning to work, a problem almost exclusive to Ireland. The study, conducted by Indecon consultants, found that full-time monthly childcare costs were between €730 and €1,100 per month for young children. That’s some amount of cash – which is why it’s so important to do your research and make an informed choice. Baffled by the choices out there? See p87 for more.

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80 Mum Business

Going

OUT ON YOUR

OWN Thinking of using some of your maternity leave to start a business? EMMA WALKER has some top advice to make sure you hit the ground running.

➽ Emma Walker

Emma Walker is the founder of The Mumpreneur’s Mentor (www.themumpreneursmentor.com) and a busy mum of two little divas.

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81 Mum Business

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hen you first get pregnant, you may think that you will go back to your current job without too many changes, and for some women this will happen. But, for others, when they’re holding their baby in their arms, they just know that things have changed forever and they might not want to go back to their job.

This is why using your maternity leave is a great opportunity to evaluate your career and decide what you want to do after your leave ends – return to your job, become a stay-athome mum or start your own business as a ‘mumpreneur’.

Whatever direction you choose, just remember that you are doing what’s right for you and your family so please don’t feel like you have to follow ‘the rules’. But if you do decide to take the plunge and start your own business, these six simple steps can help make the transition easier.

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Decide on your business idea. Let me be very clear right from

the start: running a business is hard work and definitely not a get-rich-quick scheme.

If that’s what you’re after, you need to go elsewhere! That’s why it’s really important to choose something that you’re going to enjoy doing a lot of. Think about your past jobs, your hobbies, what your talents are – is there a business idea lurking there? What can you do that you can get passionate about? There are lots of business opportunities out there, whether you are selling your own products or services or buying into a franchise or multi-level marketing (MLM) business, you will find something that is a fit for your skills, experience and goals.

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Get clear on the type of client you want to work with

You will spend a lot of time – and money, if you’re not careful – on marketing, so you need to make sure that what you do works.

This is where getting clear on the identity of your ideal client is key and something that you must take the time to do. Really get to know the type of person you want to buy your product or service as this makes marketing so much easier. By focusing on one type of person (instead of everyone), you can tailor all your marketing materials to speak to only those people. This is what will get results.

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Stand out from the crowd

The sign of a good product or service is if there’s already some competition, as this means that people are already buying what you’re offering from competitors.

It is your job to make sure that you stand out from all your competitors in the eyes of

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your target market so that you are the only choice they should be making when they want to buy your product or service. Think about what extras you can add that will really appeal to your customers and make them spend their money with your business. The other thing you can do is to make sure that you inject your personality into your marketing. We all buy from people so be yourself, as that will attract people to do business with you.

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Speak your customers’ language If you’ve taken the time to

really get to know your ideal customers, you should have discovered what their issues are and why they’d want to buy your product or service. What is keeping them up at night?

What are they prepared to pay anything to solve? Knowing this can help you to create a marketing message that will show them that your product or service is the perfect solution they need. You can turn their big problems into questions that will make them say yes to you.

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Manage your time As a busy mum, you only have limited time available to work on the business so you need to get focused and get all the important work done – instead of chatting to friends on Facebook. Set up a schedule so that you know exactly what time you have available to work on the business and when you will be with your family – a great visual for everyone in the house to know when mummy is working so that there aren’t any interruptions.

Talk to your partner and get them on board to help you out. Can they do some of the housework, help out with the kids more or do the cooking? Anything that can free up your time to focus on the business will help.

Take the time to plan out what work you need to complete for the week so that you can get straight to it as soon as you’re in work mode instead of wasting valuable time wondering what you should be doing.

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Plan for success Map out your

goals for your business as well as the tasks you need to do to achieve each goal. You then need to break those tasks down to 90-day chunks, as this timescale is perfect to make you focus on what is important. These tasks can be included on your weekly planning to make sure that you get them done and stay focused on hitting your targets. If you’re struggling trying to fit everything in, ask yourself if the task to do on your list will move you one step closer to your goal. If the answer is no, it can wait until a later date and you need to focus on something else that does move you closer to your goal. Use your goals to keep you accountable so that you do achieve exactly what you want with your business.

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82 Mum Business

Mumpreneur in business

Barbara Whelan is a stay-at-home mum of two little ladies and set up her business, Barbara’s Bowtique, when her first daughter was just ten months old.

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How did you go about promoting it? To begin with, I promoted it a lot through

reviously a HR manager in financial services, Barbara said she knew she wasn’t ready to return to full-time work after she had her first daughter, and so set about starting her own business instead. Living in Kildare, Barbara is married to Richie and mum to two-and-a-halfyear-old Penny and seven-month-old Robyn.

word of mouth. I then set up a Facebook business page and used the ‘Pages’ tool, which has been invaluable. Facebook has been a wonderful tool to get your business out there and it always helps to run competitions every once in a while to further expand your audience. Facebook, Instagram and Twitter are all wonderful in getting your brand out there.

Tell us a little about your business. My business is called Barbara’s

How do you find juggling the business with being a mum? I will

Bowtique; it is a small operation that I run from home where I design and make hair accessories for little ladies. All my items are handmade. I thoroughly enjoy making each and every piece and would not sell any item I that I would not happily and proudly put on my own daughters.

admit at times I find it hard as my youngest is still very young so I tend to have to work late at night or when my husband is off work. We have talked about possibly employing someone to look after the girls part-time so I can focus more on the business and this is something we will definitely look at over the next few months. We have our attic converted, which is now my workspace or my ‘retreat’ away from nappies and toddler tantrums, giving my husband some ‘quality time’ with his little angels while I work!

How did you decide you wanted to start your own business?

When my first daughter Penny turned one, I started to get itchy feet and, although I knew I wanted to do something, I knew I was not yet prepared to return to the full time work force.

So I started to focus on what I could do from home. I was always very creative as a child and had a big interest in art and crafting but I also wanted to use my new-found knowledge as a mom.

Where did the idea for Barbara’s Bowtique come from? When Penny was born she had a huge head of dark hair that took us all by surprise and, being a true girly-girl myself, I was very excited at the prospect of all the lovely bows and bands I would put in her hair. But this is where the problem began! I found it very hard to find a selection of good-quality hair accessories suitable for babies and for toddlers, so decided to set about making my own. After a while, I started to get friends and then strangers asking where they could get them and this is where Barbara’s Bowtique began.

How is your business going?

Business is going great. It certainly goes in waves; some nights I stay up until 2 or 3am in order to finish orders but I generally have

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a steady flow of orders coming through. I am so delighted when I receive nice reviews and photos sent in to me by customers of their children wearing Barbara’s Bowtique designs.

I received an order from Amanda Holden of Britain’s Got Talent for her daughters, Lexi and Hollie, and she even sent me a lovely thank-you note commenting on how lovely and well-made the accessories were.

Was it difficult to get it off the ground? Initially, I must admit I did feel a little overwhelmed starting out, as this was so out of my comfort zone. All my previous experience was in HR. But I started out small and gradually and, as my confidence grew, I was soon in a position where I could take more orders and broaden my range of designs.

It takes a lot of trial and error to find out what works and what doesn’t. I also research and get advice through some of the online business webinars.

What has been the highlight of having your own business so far? I find it so rewarding when I am sent photos and thank-you notes of how much my customers like their accessories, and also the huge satisfaction of being able to work from home and still be here for all the milestones my girls take.

Where would you like to see your business in two years’ time? I aim to have my website established and business to be growing. Long-term, I would love to have my designs in retailers nationwide and dedicate all of my time to the Bowtique when the girls go to school.

CONTACT Facebook: Barbara’s Bowtique (www.facebook.com/barbarasbowtique1) Twitter: @traversbarbara1 Instagram: @barbarasbowtique

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Tír na nÓg Montessori School AMI, Copperfield House, 6 Clermont, Douglas Road, Cork is currently celebrating its 30th Anniversary.

Tír na nÓg Montessori School was opened in September 1983 by Linda Winning Dip in Montessori Education AMI and Benincasa Diploma. Tír na nÓg is AATI Registered and IMEB Accredited. All teaching staff at this school have successfully completed a teacher training course in either the AMI or the St Nicholas Teacher Training Colleges.

At Tír na nÓg we aim to ensure that the unique qualities of each child are recognised by giving them a happy and secure learning environment. Over the years at Tír na nÓg many of the children made friends for life.

Our curriculum offers Practical life exercises, sensorial activities, music, mathematics, science, language, geography, nature activities, arts and crafts, school concert, patio and garden play areas.

We would like to extend best wishes to our present pupils and to all of our past pupils of Tír na nÓg Montessori School who attended over the last 30 years.

Facilities available :

• Open all year round from 8.00am to 6.00pm Monday to Friday.

• Morning and afternoon Montessori classes.

• Day Care facilities.

• After school care for primary school children.

• Arts and craft camp in July and August.

• This school participates in the government grant schemes –ECCE AND CETS

Phone: 021-4292160 • Email: linda@tirnanogami.ie • Web: www.tirnanogami.ie

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84 Beauty

Top tip

from Georgie Cleeve, founder of Oskia Skincare: “To enliven dull skin, mix a teaspoon each of milk, freshly squeezed lemon and pineapple juice, brush over your skin and leave for a few minutes. The natural AHAs and lactic acid will gently exfoliate away tired skin cells and boost hydration and cell turnover to leave you with a peachier complexion.”

Oskia products are available from www.spacenk.com and at Space NK, Grafton Street, Dublin 2.

Pregnancy can play havoc with your skin, from breakouts to redness – not to mention a tired complexion! We take a look at some of the most common concerns and what you can do about them.

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here are so many changes going on in a woman’s body during pregnancy that it’s no wonder most pregnant women will also notice changes to their skin,” says skin specialist Jeanne Brophy (www.jeannebrophy. com). “For the lucky few it can be the famous healthy glow we often hear people mention in the movies but for many real women pregnancy can bring some troublesome skin changes.”

So what causes skin to go a bit haywire during pregnancy? Quite simply: hormones. The changes women can experience in their skin – hydration levels, suppleness and oil production – are all a result of fluctuating levels of oestrogen, progesterone and HCG. The increased blood through your body can result in redness and obvious capillaries; breakouts are common in the first trimester and pigmentation can also occur.

These conditions may clear up in the second or third trimester and often disappear completely after giving birth. In the meantime, here’s what you can do to get back on track.

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85 Beauty

Grey days: a tired, dull complexion Pregnancy can be tiring, especially during the first and third trimesters, and, like any other time of life, tiredness and lack of sleep will show in your skin. Nutrition and hydration will really help here. “Water is essential for so many functions in the skin. Keeping hydrated will go a huge way to maintaining a healthy complexion,” Jeanne explains. “Stock up on skin-boosting ingredients such as avocado and flax seed, and reduce your sugar intake.” Regular exfoliating is a great way to get skin back in shape, sloughing off complexion-dulling dead skin cells and boosting circulation. Don’t overdo it though, as your skin may be more sensitive while you’re pregnant, and steer clear of rough, granular exfoliants either way.

Try: Dermalogica Daily Microfoliant, €51.20

Get the Glow Back

Our five faves to help skin look as though you’re getting enough sleep.

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The dark side: pigmentation Brown pigmentation patches may appear in a butterfly pattern across the face during pregnancy, a condition known as chloasma. For many women, this will disappear a few months after their child is born but for others it can stay for longer. “Pigmentation can be difficult to treat so the more we can do to prevent it, the better,” says Jeanne. “Vitamin C is a great ingredient to prevent issues with pigmentation. It’s also very important to protect skin from UV damage every day.”

Try: Image Skincare Iluma Intense Lightening Serum, €36

Rough it: dry skin You may find that your skin is drier during pregnancy but tweaking your skincare regime should help. Opt for a creamier cleanser and add hydrating serums or a richer moisturiser to your skincare routine. Your skin might be more sensitive too, so be careful to avoid products that contain perfume. For your body, Jeanne suggests avoiding soaps that can have a drying effect and instead choosing a natural shower gel or cleansing bar. Using a body oil or lotion every day will help to soothe and hydrate dry, itchy skin and may help keep stretch marks at bay too.

Try: Kiehl’s Crème de Corp Lavender Whipped Body Cream, €42

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The Body Shop All-In-One BB Cream, €19.95

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Spot check: oily skin and break Outs You may not have had spots since your teenage years but breakouts are quite common for some women in the first trimester. Again, you can blame your hormones: progesterone levels are higher, which can lead to increased oil flow to the skin. However, as your pregnancy progresses, oestrogen levels will increase so the situation will most likely improve. “Make sure you are cleansing your skin twice daily. It’s important to keep this routine to prevent oil build-up,” advises Jeanne. “Don’t overly moisturise your facial skin.

If oil is a problem, choose light oil-free products.”

Try: Avène Cleanance Anti-Shine Regulating Lotion, €16

Clarisonic Mia 2 (Festival of Colours Collection, €149 A bit spendy but very much worth it, this sonic cleansing brwush is quick, easy to use, and turns cleansing into a mini-facial. The oscillating brush-head moves more than 300 times per second, giving skin a deep cleanse and gentle exfoliation. If your skin is a little sensitive while pregnant, using it a few times a week will do. Replacement brush-heads start at €30.

The Body Shop All-In-One BB Cream, €19.95 When you’re short on time, look for multi-tasking products that are easy to use on the go. Team skincare with a bit of complexionbrightening colour in the form of tinted moisturisers, BB or CC creams. As well as hydrating skin, they’ll help to mask imperfections and will give skin a bit of a glow.

Dermalogica Age Smart Multivitamin Power Recovery Masque, €43.85 One of the best skin-saving face masks available, this Dermalogica darling is always winning awards and for good reason. It’s absolutely packed with vitamins and soothing hydrating ingredients. Slather it on and let it get to work for ten minutes while you do your hair, feed a child or do the ironing, then rinse off. It leaves skin soft and looking calm and healthy. Definitely worth the investment.

Rimmel Sunshimmer Bronzer, €7.49 Don’t underestimate the restorative powers of a bit of bronzer. If you have the right shade for your skin tone and it’s properly applied (on the places where the sun would naturally hit: hair-line, tops of cheekbones, bridge of the nose), it can have an instant brightening effect making you look rested and healthy – even if you don’t feel like it!

Stila Convertible Colour in Petunia, €21.50 A multi-use colour product doesn’t just cut down on time, it pulls your look together. This creamy cheek colour from Stila can also be used on lips and comes in a range of very pretty shades. You can apply it with a brush or just pat on with your ring finger and blend in, and it’s perfect for on-the-go touch-ups.

Rimmel Sunshimmer Bronzer, €7.49

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Clarisonic Mia 2 (Festival of Colours Collection), €149 each

Dermalogica Age Smart Multivitamin Power Recovery Masque, €43.85

Stila Convertible Colour in Petunia, €21.50

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M&I

Loves

Trend

New season trends for autumn/winter

Collection jumper, €23; Collection coat, €110; Autograph trouser, €59; boots, €110, Marks & Spencer

Chloe tile print midi shirt dress, €28, Boohoo

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Swinging Sixties

Sixties style is back - but more a laidback minimalist take than the classic Swining Sixties.

Sweet dolly-style dresses, turtleneck knits and patent boots are what you’ll see from this trend on the High Street.

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Mix It Up

This upcoming season is very much about simple shapes and bland colours, use different textures to mix it up. Wear suede with faux-fur, leather with silk, denim with cashmere. Don’t be afraid to mix it up.

High neck skater dress, € 91, ASOS

Jumper, €21, boots, €24, Penneys

On trend

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Lyocell shirt dress, €29.99, H&M

Tie-sleeve tunic, €49.95, Zara

We love on-trend pieces that are both stylish and comfortable, and the shirt dress is most definitely one of them. So far this summer Beyoncé, Kirsten Dunst, Jennifer Lopez and pregnant reality star Kourtney Kardashian have all been spotted in the the easy-to-wear and easy-tostyle shirt dress. It’s flattering to all body shapes and can be styled in a number of ways which means you get maximum wear-ability out of one item (we love reasons to invest).

Hello Tailor

Strong tailoring with bursts of colour, this trend was made for a working mum. It oozes confidence and keeps you away from the entrapment of a black winter wardrobe.

Style

Although August feels like a summer month, it’s all about change on the High Street. Read our quick edit of what’s coming up this season and trends we’re loving right now.

Mum comfort

Folkster sets up shop in Ireland Folkster, the ultimate shopping destination for those bad-ass bohemian fashion loving folks, has just opened in Dublin and Kilkenny. The store handpicks the best of Jeffery Campbell shoes, UNIF clothing, MIISTA shoes, Sister Jane clothing – as well as Folkster Edit: Folkster’s own designs from accessories, clothing and shoes! They’ve also just added the Folkster bridal edit, hand-picked bridal pieces selected from New York. This store is well worth a visit if you’re in Dublin or Kilkenny, if not, shop online at www.folkster.com

Keep your school-gate fashion casual with knits, jeans and comfy footwear.

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Tulip stitch cardigan, €40, Topshop

High rise skinny jeans, €154, Arnotts

Walk revo slim sunglasses, €19, Topshop

Frolics t-shirt, €33, Lipsy London

Textured pumps, €10, Dunnes Stores

Lipstick in Stay Scarlet, €26, Estée Lauder

29/07/2014 12:02:22

87 You – Work & Lifestyle

Choosing

your childcare It’s the million-dollar question that has divided mums the world over - which is best - childminder or crèche? And what about au pairs? Or family members? Every option has its advantages and disadvantages, so doing your research is paramount.

Family members

Crèches Crèches are hugely popular in Ireland, and fans praise them for their ability to make babies and toddlers sociable and open to group learning long before school begins. Crèches can be both private and communitybased, and offer any combination of playschool hours, full-time crèche, after-school facilities (including drop and pick-up), Montessori and summer camps.

Advantages: ✹ Great for early socialisation skills ✹ Programmes like Montessori prepare the child well for school ✹ A crèche providing after-school facilities means that your child can possibly stay on when he/she starts school ✹ The classroom feel of crèches means a wide range of activities are covered during the day ✹ Community crèches offer subsidized care for lower-income families if eligible

Disadvantages ✹ Can be relatively inflexible with sickness and start/finish time ✹ Some children don’t settle easily at an early age, so it’s important to choose your crèche and your teacher well ✹ Some can be expensive Do your research at: www.childcare.ie

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By far the most cost-effective option is a family member, but this is not without its issues. That said, if you’re lucky enough to have a family member offer to care for your child while you work, be hugely grateful because there are massive advantages to this option.

Advantages ✹ Very cheap option, and often free in many cases ✹ You have the security of knowing the person already and your child’s relationship with that person ✹ Very flexible in terms of time and sickness ✹ Can often pick up and drop to school and activities

Disadvantages ✹ Some people feel awkward or under an obligation – if this is going to be a long-term agreement, it’s often a good idea to formalise it and pay some sort of fee, so both you and the relative know where they stand ✹ Especially if the relative is older, you may need a back-up plan should he or she have to stop suddenly for any reason

You said:

Au Pairs Some families swear by au pairs for their children thanks to their flexibility and value for money.

An au pair is generally between the ages of 18 and 30, and is in the country to learn the language. In return for board and lodging and a small salary, he/she can mind your child for a set number of hours, agreed beforehand.

Advantages ✹ Cheap when compared to crèches and childminders ✹ Can be very flexible with hours, including evenings ✹ Often helps out in the house in general ✹ Great for parents with flexible schedules and older kids who might need a little more help

Disadvantages ✹ Au pairs can vary hugely in suitability for you and your house – you can get someone brilliant or not great at all. It’s important to be adaptable on all sides ✹ You need to have a good spare room and facilities for an au pair to live in ✹ An au pair is not a full-time nanny and cannot be treated as such ✹ Au pairs are only contracted for a set number of months

“Going back to work after Do your research at: maternity leave was so so hard. But it www.aupairireland.ie was made easier knowing that my child was going to looked after in the best facility I could find.

It can be very hard to find a system and a person/crèche to suit your child so I’d recommend that you do your research early, even before the baby is born. It sounds mad, but believe me, all that research will be worth it!”

Gail, mum to Sean (2)

Childminders A childminder, either in your home or in their home, can offer your child more personal childcare, especially if it’s in your own home.

Look for a childminder through personal recommendations, or if you’re answering an ad, make sure you meet them a few times, both with and without your child, and get references from parents he/she previously worked for.

Childminding Ireland is a good resource for finding a registered minder.

Advantages ✹ Can be more flexible with timing and sickness ✹ Some children prefer the closer attention of a childminder ✹ Can work out cheaper ✹ Usually can bring children to and from school, activities etc

Disadvantages ✹ Doesn’t offer the same structured learning or socialisation of a crèche ✹ There are some brilliant childminders out there but there are also some not-so-great. You need to do your research well and make sure your child is happy and thriving ✹ Potential disruption to your child if your childminder leaves ✹ If a childminder minds in your home, they are your employee so there are tax implications then Do your research at: www. childminding.ie

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88 Blog we log

Unexpected

delivery

I’m Deborah McCarthy, a mum of four children. My youngest daughter arrived in May in rather dramatic fashion – here’s the tale of my unexpected home birth.

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hroughout my pregnancy I had two concerns.

One, the concern that all mothers have, is the baby going to be ok. My second concern was about the labour and delivery. My other children all arrived before their due date. I got it into my head this one would arrive on May 1st, a full two weeks early. She didn’t. I spent that week quite sick.

There was a lot of vomiting, a ridiculous amount of bitching and moaning and many naps.

The midwife at my last appointment had gone on and on about how sex was a great natural way to bring on labour. Pfffttttt. I was ginormous, exhausted, hormonal and demonic. There was going to be no sex. I spent the bank holiday weekend mostly napping and bouncing on my ball. The husband spent the weekend tip-toeing around my various moods and demands.

So the weekend passed. On Monday evening, the kids went to bed, I bounced on the stupid ball, The husband was watching the stupid snooker final on the TV. I looked down at my stomach and noticed it was tightening and then stopping again. This kept happening but there was zero pain so I didn’t think anything of it. I went to bed. The tightening kept happening but still no pain. I got a feeling that maybe something might happen so I got up again.

6.25am- went into the bathroom, hit by a pain, followed 40 seconds later by another one.

6.27am- pain after pain after pain after pain. I barricaded myself into downstairs bathroom.

6.30am- husband knocked on door and asked should he ring an ambulance. I believe my exact words were “don’t be so f***ing ridiculous.”

6.32am- walked into hall, looked out at car, realised there was no way I was going anywhere and kindly requested husband ring an ambulance.

Over the following ten minutes. I stayed in the bathroom alone. I remember shouting for some paracetamol at one stage, because you know paracetamol would have sorted the full-blown non-stop contractions, right out.

I could hear my mother in law arriving and the children moving around and getting ready and then leaving. When they left, I stood and looked at myself in the mirror and

decided I would have the baby now. Just like that, like I did this everyday. I was very calm and felt very in control and had zero fear. I got down on the ground and pushed, once. I felt the baby’s head, so called the husband back.

Then we had the most surreal conversation: “I need you to get down on the floor with me.”

“OK.” “I am going to push now and the baby is going to come and you need to catch her.”

“OK,” he replied. I will be forever grateful for his complete calmness too.

It was very quiet. I pushed. The baby arrived. The husband caught her. It was blissfully simple. She was just there, wide eyes staring around, covered in mess, spiky hair and looking, to our untrained eyes, as she should.

We wrapped her up in towels. I sat down on the floor, she started to cry, we probably did too.

Total time from first pain to her arrival about 18 minutes. Whilst her birth at home was unplanned it was ideal. No bright lights, no negotiation or politics, no unfamiliar faces or hospital rooms. She arrived at 6.44am into a completely quiet peaceful house with her parents pretending they knew what they were doing. It could not have been more perfect.

The ambulance arrived ten minutes later. I sent the husband to get me some knickers upstairs, he came back with a thong. Seriously. Coincidentally the same thong I naively wore into hospital to have my first daughter eight years earlier. I kept them as they are lucky knickers but not to actually wear them again and certainly not after just giving birth. I think I possibly waved the ginormous maternity pad at him and the thong and asked him how they would possibly work. Anyway, I digress. The paramedics’ arrival clearly ruined the calmness. They asked was the baby a boy or a girl. A girl, we both said. Then the husband looked at me, neither of us had thought to check was she actually a girl, we couldn’t take our eyes off her face. Familiar but new and so ridiculously beautiful and perfect.

We lost a lot of towels and gained another perfect child and a sensational amazing memory. It was an incredible birth, I wouldn’t change a second of it.

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HER FUTURE STARTS TODAY Inspired by 30 years research on breast milk, new Aptamil with its unique Pronutra+ complex: •

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Contains vitamins A, C & D, which contribute to a healthy immune system.

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IMPORTANT NOTICE Breastfeeding is best for your baby. Use Aptamil Follow On milk as part of a mixed diet from 6 months.

It is not a breastmilk substitute. Use on the advice of your healthcare professional.

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