AntarmanbyMhc_March2023

BY MOTHERHOOD

CLUB

SERIES 4- VOL 2

Mrs. Ila Pachauri Co Founder & Chief Happiness Officer

Mr. Mukesh Bhatnagar Co - Editor

Mrs. Akta Sehgal Founder , Chief Strategy Officer & Editor in Chief

Mrs. Pooja Dixit Chief Content Officer

Akta Sehgal

Anju Kwatra

Archana Joshi

Aruna Sirohi

Dr Tarini Karya

Ila Pachauri

Joy Deshmukh Ranadive

Monica Goel Diwan

Mukesh Bhatnagar

Neha S Taparia

Prerana Avasthi

Pooja Dixit

Poonam Bhatnagar

Ratan Kumar Agarwala

Rekha Agarwal

Shiwani Manna

Smriti Mishra

Suraksha Pruthi Khurana

Swetha Sundar

An Appeal

Ummido ka indradhanush an anthology of poems initiated by Motherhood club and compiled by Mrs Akta Sehgal Founder Motherhood Club and Manas Wealth, Mrs Ila Pachauri Chief Happiness Officer

Motherhood Club and Founder My little greens, and Dr Indu Bansal Director Radiation Oncology Narayana Hospital.

The book is a poetic expression of hope by 101poets across the globe for Cancer warriors, caretakers and anyone in despair

This anthology is a way to raise funds for Cancer patients from humble background who are not only a victim of the disease but also financial toxicity.

Each book bought gets us closer to bring hope and cheer in the life of one, if not many.

The book can be bought by paying a nominal sum of Rs 250, all the proceeds shall be used to support Cancer warriors from humble background. The amount can be paid via paytm/google pay at 9971477004, along with your address and courier charges on actual

Akta says, its not the money but the intent with which you shall buy this book and that shall make all the difference.

Dear Readers

Magnificent March was truly magnificent with loads of celebrations online and offline . The month began with a combined celebration of Holi and Women's day where we saw women celebrating themselves and showcasing the different color's of life thru music, poetry and dance.

Motherhood Club organized its very first offline Poetry Meet & Greet event to celebrate world poetry day along with an online celebration for Outside Delhi NCR Poets.

Month of March also gave us an opportunity to talk to some accomplished women like Dr Nancy Juneja, Mrs Inderjeet Kaur and Mrs Shiwani Manna who in their own way are making a place for themselves and at the same time contributing to the society. Motherhood Club Founder & Co Founder received many accolades for the work being done by motherhood club . The work being done across Health, Wealth and Happiness for mainstream & marginalized women and children is being noticed and appreciated by many across the social sector.

Being the Financial Year end, Team MHC and Team Antarman met and had a 360° review and have planned many new initiatives for the new Financial year.

Stay tuned for more

Best Regards

Akta Sehgal Editor in Chief

समाज क वभस प को दखा व सरी ओर अपन अदय साहस और इा श ारा, उसी सामाज क सामने मा और कणा क

Glimpse of World Poetry Day

Sneak Peek April 2023

TALK SHOWS

OPEN MIC

Memories of March 2023

The three pillars on which Motherhood Club stands tall. All our conversations and social drives are around these themes

April is Stress Awareness Month

Stress can be debilitating, and it can cause and/or aggravate health problems.

Stress can be defined as a state of worry or mental tension caused by a difficult situation. Stress is a natural human response that prompts us to address challenges and threats in our lives.

PreventionisbetterthancureAvoid stressbysimplechangesinyourlife

Even 20-30 minutes a day of walking is a great stress reliever and a good way to get your mind off your daily worries. Exercise has many healthy benefits.

Learn to incorporate some relaxation techniques into your daily life. Meditation, journaling, yoga and breathing exercises are just a few ways to help relax.

The gut and brain are constantly sending signals to each other, so by keeping your microbiota (the bacteria in your gut) healthy, your brain feels less stressed.

To relieve stress before bed, try some relaxation techniques and disconnect from technology as much as possible an hour before bedtime

Financial Stress

Money, too little or too much, in both the situation it causes anxiety. Yes you read it right, deficit or in excess , it makes your heart beat faster. Whatever your circumstances, there are ways to get out of the tough or complacent situation, ease your stress and have complete control and leading a happy life.

Financial stress refers to a feeling of worry or anxiety over money, debt and various expenses. In a February 2022 study from the American Psychological Association (APA), 65 percent of respondents said money is a significant source of stress. Personal financial issues impact us physically, emotionally, mentally and socially¬. Well , yes money may not be the only reason for stress but it leads to many others and hence becomes an important factor that needs to be addressed. How can we reduce our stress – the answer is simple by being financially literate.

Unfortunately the financial literacy rate of our country is vey poor. According to a recent SEBI survey, just 27 per cent of the country's citizens are financially educated and India ranks 23rd in financial literacy among 28 countries, says Visa. If we all collectively work towards enhancing our financial literacy, we shall reap the following benefits

• Confidence to make better financial decisions.

• Better Management of Money and prudent usage of loan or funds

• Achievement of Goals

• Proper Budgeting , there by being conscious on your spending

• Less financial stress and anxiety.

And above all Focus on “ LIFE” – Long term Investments leads to Financial Empowerment

How can we achieve a Happy life and reduce our financial stress?

1. Focus on your Financial Literacy

2. Spend time with yourself and your family members to know their goals and aspirations.

3. Make a budget – follow the 50 -30 – 30 Rule.

4. Always have an emergency fund = 6 months of Income

5. Hire a professional to help you in the journey of investments.

6. Work on your Behavior & Attitude towards money, mental biases

Happy Investing

Akta Sehgal Founder Manas Wealth

CORPORATE GYAN

Make an informed career choice!

Choosing a career is an extremely important decision that can lead to long lasting satisfaction and happiness. Many young adults find it challenging to decide what stream and work industry is ideal for them. Career counseling helps these young adults connect with their ideal careers by taking into consideration their personality traits, various quotients, aptitudes and interests. It also provides assistance in many other ways like:

1. It helps one understand their strengths & weaknesses needed for a career they are interested in.

2. It helps one plan their career in turn their life course.

3. It helps one get a closer look at their personality and hence identify the stresses for mindful living.

4. It helps them understand the different options available apart from the much sort after career options like medicine and engineering.

5. It increases the chances of their success and holistic well-being

6. It helps one build confidence and work on their emotional as well as social quotient.

A lot of people do not know the meaning of career counselling which often holds them back from understanding its importance in choosing one ' s career.

Cale Darnegie is his book 'Your Personal Guide To Big Success' talks about the importance of getting professional guidance in choosing a career as people do it for nearly 40 to 50 years of their life.

Back then during the old schooling system when stream guidance & counselling as per our aptitude, personality, EQ, IQ, SQ, PQ and INTEREST was not very streamlined and we just went with the flock, our liking towards a subject, our grades or what others thought we were good in. The importance of career counselling was realised much later. It is very essential to identify one ’ s aptitude and align it with their interests during the threshold years like the students of 10th, 12th and graduation final year grades.

Psychometric testing paired with a counselling session does wonders and clears the confusions hovering around in a student and patent seeking the guidance. A career guidance & counselling professional, facilitates one to make a mindful career choice is directly linked to one ’ s long-term well-being.

So every time some one asks you what you want to do in your future - engineering or medicine, ask them why they know only 2/12,000+ career options in the world! Choose what's best for you, choose career counselling!

Neha S Taparia Career Counsellor

PARENTING: FUNNY YET RISKY RIDE, MIND YOU!!

Parenting brings a lot of joy bundled with responsibility and sleepless nights. Parenting comes with many challenges which are always welcoming & sometimes takes a toll on you. Kids around you will always make you happy, complete, wanted all the time and leaves you crazy and messy.

Sharing some funny and real incidents which every mom & dad can relate to. A rollercoaster ride - Funny yet risky. Well, Mind You!!

Well, the moment you want to sit quietly and restfully for some time, you automatically come under your child’s radar. He is watching you from some corner and here he comes. You can’t think of resting any sooner. Well, Mind You!!

You have put him to sleep thinking he will be sleeping for next few hours and now you can finish your pending work or watch your favorite show. You try to move out of the room quietly, but you didn’t realize that his eyes are already open and you ’ re already caught. He starts to cry in his shrilling voice as if warning you not to think of taking rest. Well, Mind You!

You are tired, want to straighten your back and take an afternoon nap, suddenly the smaller one is pointing to some stuff he wants from the toys shelf & the elder one is asking you to go to the park with her, now that’s crazy and you will have to do it, else face the annoyance. Well, Mind You!!

You come out of the kitchen and see the mess around and the kids painting the wall. You run towards them without realizing the tiny toy under your feet and you trip. The spilled water on the floor makes it even worse and suddenly you are flat on the floor, shocked and confused what just happened. Well, Mind You!!

The kiddos are asking for the chocolate you just finished and now you are pretending to find it somewhere in the fridge. Time to confess, but at a very high risk. Well, Mind You!! Too much of multitasking and you sometimes become really emotional and can’t control your tears to roll down. While one is crying & the other one is not listening but screaming, throwing tantrums and you were hoping for some silence. Can you expect that? Well, Mind You!!

Too much of multitasking and you sometimes become really emotional and can’t control your tears to roll down. While one is crying & the other one is not listening but screaming, throwing tantrums and you were hoping for some silence. Can you expect that? Well, Mind You!!

PARENTING: FUNNY YET RISKY RIDE, MIND YOU!! - Contd

You are tired and the aroma of fresh hot coffee is refreshing. A sip of it can revitalize you but at that very moment only the kiddo will need to go to the loo or they will spill some milk, water or break something & you forgot about your coffee. Start enjoying cold food and drinks from now on. Well, Mind You!

You might get bitten whenever you feed the little one as they are teething and you helplessly scream in pain every time. You know that the little one is going to bite you again, still you are ready to feed him but with a fear. Well, Mind You!!

You want to go to the bathroom, you just informed one & the other one too got the information, the kids assembly now is going to happen there only. You didn’t realize that you have changed your mind but the kids are already playing there. Well, Mind You!!

You all must have realized that the kids need to talk to you when you are on phone, in shower or talking to someone. You will find kids to be most energetic when it’s bedtime or on a Sunday morning when you plan to sleep till late. It’s really difficult. Well, Mind You!!

Dad is seen moving out of the bed to another room as he has been kicked out by the kids and the whole bed is now occupied by them. The little one lets only Mom to have a space with him. Well, Mind You!!

Poor dad is attacked from all the sides. While playing, one would jump on you and the other might start pulling your hair. Since dad was out for few days for work, lot of love with a feeling of anger must come out as to why you were out. Just be ready to receive few punches also. Well, Mind You!!

A FEW CUTE LITTLE ACTIVITIES ALL THE PARENTS WILL RELATE SPECIALLY MOMS! THE INNOCENT SMILE OF THE KIDS MAKES YOU IGNORE ALL THE NUISANCE.

Aruna Sirohi A Parent

अभलाषा

य कसा यार

कभी सड़क पर बफ सी घमा करती

सपन क उड़ान "म" भी मन म लए फरती

घाव जो लग मन पर

भरपाई उनक ना हो पाई

अपन ही चहर को म लब व तक ना छ पाई ।

यह कसा था तहारा इजहार !

या यही था तहारा पाक यार !

कहत थ करता तमस बइतहा यार

फ़र कस आया मन म तज़ाब का वचार

मरा छोटा सा इकार मझ पर ही पड़ा भारी

छपाक छपाक

तज़ाब क बद स "म" झलसी सारी ।

दहशत

नह बची ह

दख दपण मझ घबराता ह

फफोल स दखो पानी रसता ह

जम को नह ह को भी छता ह

और मझ ..मझ तहार स यार पर तरस आता ह

इक क हद को तम इस कदर पार करोग

मानवता को शमसार करोग

मरी एक ना नह तह इस कदर गरा दया

अपन सो कॉ यार का सड़क पर तमाशा बना दया गलाब

दन क वजह तज़ाब डाल दया

मोहबत म ज़द नह होती मर दोत

ज़द हो गर तो मोहबत नह होती मर दोत ।

सा म तो सपन को उड़ान दता

मीठ बोल

मीठ मीठ बोल, बोल र यार

सगमरमर स बोल जब बोलगा

दल पर सबक राज त करगा

सनग तरी वाणी यह चाद और सतार

मीठ मीठ बोल ,,,,,,,,

मीठ झरन स बह तर बोल

कान म मी दत घोल

लगा दग जीवन नया कनार

मीठ मीठ बोल,,,,,,,,

मधमास क कोयल सा मीठा बोल

बोलन

Art Work by Archana Joshi

Fragments

We do not live fragmented lives. We shatter to live in each fragment, Searching for meaning in old fragrances. School benchs, new books .

The hug of mother, Cigarette smoke on father's shirt.

The scent of unrequited love.

We do not live fragmented lives. We shatter. To be available to all who we love.

Picking up pieces.

Till one cuts our fingers.

Dropping ourselves in pain.

More pieces.

More can be loved.

We do not live fragmented lives. We shatter. We live.

Piece by piece

Joy Deshmukh Ranadive

"Woman,I see a story in her eyes.

Stories of independence, love and care.

I see a little girl with big dreams.

I see this innocent mind smiling and handling the mess of the world beautifully,

I see a young lady taking care of families without complaining and a sensitive soul compromising for others happiness.

In women I see beauty of the universe

Like all the magic added to a soul consciously created her.

I see imperfect being handling all the load in best possible ways.

In women I see flaws making perfect sense

And her complexity like a strength that sets her free.

In woman,I see stories.

I see stories that are yet to be fulfilled with vibrant colours.

In woman,I see stories.''

©prernaavasthi

What does it mean to be an Empowered Woman ?

A few weeks back on March 8, we celebrated International Women’s Day with aplomb. Messages and wishes were floating around for all women in everyone ’ s life. The global theme for International Women’s Day 2023 was #EmbraceEquity. Let’s try and put some perspective in some key aspects of what means an Empowered Woman or what does it take to having a balance while striving to achieve goals.

• Take care of yourself

We all know that how important self-care is for all of us. The example from the airlines that if the cabin loses pressure - fix your own oxygen mask before helping othersapplies to all of us in our everyday lives. To be there for others in our many roles, such as a leader, peer, mother, father, daughter, son, etc. we need to be in a good place with ourselves first!

I find the 8+8+8 rule very helpful in my pursuit of taking care of myself. Sharing with you all as well.

Many people speak about leveraging any flexibility your job allows for to create a healthy work-life balance. This improves our overall well-being and enables us to perform better in and outside of work. Every one of us needs time to recharge every single day, not just a few times throughout the year on a vacation. It’s important for us to remind ourselves that you will always appreciate the time you took for yourself. A best practice which can be considered is to communicate to your team that their priorities can look like this:

If something is going on with your health or loved ones, your mind will be on that so you may not be able to perform your best at work anyway. Therefore, it is important to take care of the personal aspects of your life first in order to then perform well at work. To that end, there is also a good reminder to protect yourself against using overtime hours as a badge of honor. Working non-stop is both unhealthy and ineffective.

• Take your career into your own hands and always learn

Another key piece of advice which women may need to hear more than men but is undoubtedly relevant for all of us, take your career into your own hands. Be proactive and intentional and learn as much as you can. Generally, the leaders are expected to develop their team members. So, one needs to prepare oneself and proactively set up a conversation to talk through the Development Plans with your manager or identify and connect with a Mentor to work towards Self Development.

"No one knows better than you do what you are capable of so be your own brand." Have you ever felt like a potted plant? That’s how it could be if lot of your potential was left untouched earlier and now there are plenty of opportunities to get involved. If you have the time and capacity, volunteer for a new project and dare to raise your hand for what you find interesting and what will challenge you. Making sure you are always learning something new is important to staying engaged and relevant. Its important to let go of your fears instead of listening to the inner voice saying one couldn’t do something. I can assure you that if you go for it you would see what beautiful things can happen as a result.

• Network and ask for help

At the same time, it is important for all of us to know that “It is ok, not to be OK”. Go ahead and ask for help. Having a personal or professional network to support you and give you feedback is key. We hear how important such individuals are to keep ourselves in check and help learn from past mistakes. If you don’t feel you know who your allies are, start putting time and energy into your network. These people will make you better both professionally and personally. Your professional network should not just be those you work with directly but in different parts of the business as well. Branching out and getting to know people throughout the organization is a very actionable task.

• Protect your time

So how do we put some of this great advice into practice when everything feels urgent, and we feel we can only actually get work done after hours when we are freed of back-to-back meetings?

To be your strongest, best self, you need to be nourished and it’s proven that small breaks lead to more productivity. It is up to you to speak up and protect your time and create healthy boundaries. Many experts recommend having a block on your calendar (not for the whole day but for a specific, allocated time) that is set out just for you – it is your meeting with yourself! Once that time is in your calendar, do what you set out to do during it. Maybe it is a walk outside or a yoga class, or it is in fact making progress on a very important topic which you would have otherwise spent the evening doing. Whatever it is, keep this appointment with yourself the same as you would keep an appointment with your business contacts. And think critically before accepting a meeting request, push back if something is too early or too late and always ask for an agenda. If it does not require your presence, send a delegate who has the capacity to attend. We were reminded that in fast-paced times, urgent and important are two different things! If you cannot make a deadline, communication is key, and a quick call usually leads to an acceptable solution.

Monica Goel Diwan Chief Cheering Officer Motherhood club

I believe the above points would help you in some manner. I now leave you with one last bit of input and a special reminder for the women who do it all:

“Choose what you are going to do really well because we can’t do EVERYTHING really well and that is ok!”

By the time we start the very understanding of ourselves, the realization of being a human with all senses and our surroundings, we find ourselves with people similar to us. We find kids our age, grown up kids, elders and some grand parents too (if we are lucky). Learning becomes a constant companion with our mind trying to grasp every action that happens once and others that are repetitive (read routine). All the worldly affairs of daily activities like eating, bathing etc along with recognising and feeling emotions that come naturally. We grow constantly and at each step our mind recognises and denies lot of things, feelings and necessities and takes along learning’s and memories.

Do we realize at any point of time that how we are growing up?

Is growing up only meant for babies to be kids and then adults?

Do we realize that growing up is a constant thing till there is life within? Life thrives on growth and this is true not only for humans but for every life form! Animals, birds, plants and even water! Do we realize then if we are conscious we grow beautifully, we thrive on positivity and we blossom in our own way as the life within us is meant to be joyful. We should realize that growing up is not in our minimalistic mind to realize and own. Growing up does not hold a benchmark. We grow each day, each moment and hence we should make this process joyful and conscious. We need not be masters of our academic subjects or an obedient student to our gurus. We can be ourselves, a free spirit if we realize that we are a constant within. The honesty of realization brings calm and joy which is required to live and thrive amongst the hustle and highly emotional world around us. Growing has parameters defined by our idealistic mind like to be able to hold a pen or a spoon, to be able to express and memorise events in words and to be able to feed or clean ourselves as a growing up toddler. Similarly for adults and senior humans too. Do we realize that if we are able to be calm and joyful within like an infant all this growing up and learning and performing each day thing becomes such a joyful process!!

So next time your mind tells you that you have failed, you are worked up, you are a champion, you can do anything etc etc pause for a while and realize that joy within, that calmness of being constant with your own self and then the smile that comes shall say it all.

Happy growing up!

By Chief Content Officer

Pooja Dixit

Best Out of Waste

by Shiwani Manna

Best out-of-waste simply means to make something innovative and attractive out of the material that is of no use otherwise. Creating something new from the old, recycling and upcycling, are the best ways to reduce one ' s carbon footprint

Reuse, Reduce, Recyle & Recover

Art

By Rekha Agarwal

Art By Ratan Kumar Agarwala

Art By Swetha Sundar

Our Social Initiatives

Books given to 5 students

Ummedo ki

Gullak fund raised 5k Beauty Parlor course started in Collaboration with Goodworks Trust

2 Sewing Machine donate in collaboration with Vardhana Foundation

Fund Raising through Umeedon Ka Indradhanush for cancer warrior

Motherhood club has been consciously working towards menstrual hygiene, cancer awareness and skill development.

We appeal to one and all to come forward and support our cause. You can reach us at motherhoodclub2020@gmail.com

Our Media Partners

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