Antarman by MHC - December 2022

An Appeal

Ummido ka indradhanush an anthology of poems initiated by Motherhood club and compiled by Mrs Akta Sehgal Founder Motherhood Club and Manas Wealth, Mrs Ila Pachauri Chief Happiness Officer Motherhood Club and Founder My little greens, and Dr Indu Bansal Director Radiation Oncology Narayana Hospital.

The book is a poetic expression of hope by 101poets across the globe for Cancer warriors, caretakers and anyone in despair

This anthology is a way to raise funds for Cancer patients from humble background who are not only a victim of the disease but also financial toxicity.

Each book bought gets us closer to bring hope and cheer in the life of one, if not many.

Akta says, its not the money but the intent with which you shall buy this book and that shall make all the difference.

The book can be bought by paying a nominal sum of Rs 250, all the proceeds shall be used to support Cancer warriors from humble background. The amount can be paid via paytm/google pay at 9971477004, along with your address and courier charges on actual

Dear Menbers

At the onset wishing each one of you a very Happy New Year.

The Year 2022 was a year of many new beginnings and many learnings. We started many new initiatives and also let go of a few members due to their conduct. The year always begins at a slow note but gradually catches up, that's what we envisage for 2023 too. A year that shall mark our 4th Anniversary in February and our very first offline Award Function and Anniversary celebration.

This year we intend to focus a lot more of offline activities in addition to the online activities. Many new initiatives are in the pipeline along with the concentrated efforts on Health Wealth & Happiness. Our Team is now fully functional with Ms Pooja Dixit Joining back and contributing to the content development.

The Year 2022 was closed on a high with our Wonder Mom Virtual Felicitation where 31 moms were awarded the title of Wonder Mom and 20 were revered with Super Mom. Mommies who were felicitated are across the country and abroad and across the financial strata keeping in mind our focus on Diversity and Inclusion.

Motherhood club all thru the year did many social drives in collaboration as well as standalone in terms of Resources and Knowledge based for Adults and Children. Team Members of Motherhood club and Antarman Newsletter were revered by the founder's recommendation for their outstanding contribution to grow the platform.

After 3.5 years Motherhood Club has become a brand in itself and is now seeing a huge growth in members, their contribution and the willingness to be a part of the tribe. The team of Motherhood club is being felicitated at many platforms for the uniqueness and the selfless contribution by them for the society at large.

Today we are a 2000 plus strong members, and we see the engagement level going up. We are focused on quality and hence are selective in who can be a part of our group. In times to come we also intend to focus on business development and support each other to grow our business.

Thank you dear members for your ongoing support and we hope the year 2023 shall be as awesome as it can be for all of us

Best Regards

Akta Sehgal

Editor Antarman By MHC

The three pillars on which Motherhood Club stands tall. All our conversations and social drives are around these themes

Everyday Ways to Prevent Tooth Decay

Brushing: Dentist recommend a child-size toothbrush with soft bristles. Use a pea-size amount of fluoride toothpaste with cavity protection that is also gentle on enamel, and spit out the remaining toothpaste when finished brushing.

Children under 2 years should consult a dentist prior to use of fluoride toothpaste. Brush at least twice a day, morning and bedtime, for about 2 minutes each time.

Flossing: Helps remove plaque between teeth and below the gum line, and also helps prevent gingivitis, an early form of gum disease. Children should floss as soon as their teeth begin to touch. Until about age 8, most children need parents' help because they don't have the dexterity to floss. A plastic-handled 'flosser' can make it easier. Floss regularly.

Rinsing: An antimicrobial rinse can kill germs that cause plaque, gingivitis and bad breath. Rinsing for 30 seconds, twice a day, can kill more plaque than brushing. Children 6-12 years of age can use a rinse with adult supervision. Always read and follow the directions for the mouthrinse that you use. After rinsing, spit the rinse in the sink (don't swallow it). Rinse should be used in conjunction with brushing and flossing. A fluoride rinse can help strengthen teeth and prevent cavities.

Do's and Don'ts

* Don't use someone else's toothbrush. You can transfer germs, bacteria, and disease through microscopic cuts in your mouth.

* Wait for atleast 45 minutes after eating acidic foods or drinks before brushing, to prevent erosion of tooth decay.

* Do not skip brushing your teeth - skipping out on this vital practice can cause tooth decay.

* Do not swallow toothpaste or mouthwash. They contain chemicals that are toxic if you swallow them.

* Rinse your toothbrush. Hold your toothbrush under running water for a few seconds to remove any bacteria from the brush. If you don't rinse the tooth brush properly, you can actually introduce old bacteria into your mouth the next time you use it.

* Encourage fruits, salads, water sipping in between meals, discourage sugar based products and juices and decreasing additional sugar in food or drinks and fatty foods.

* Every six months assessment with Dentist be done and Fluoride Application after 3 years of age.

* Special need Children should use powered brushes and mouthwashes for cleaning teeth.

Dr Surbhi Malhotra BDS, MHM

HEALTH CORNER

Healthy life through sahaja yog meditation.....

Sahaja yog meditation is founded by Dr Nirmala Shrivastva ,she started this meditation on 5th May 1970. As per her highness this meditation is based on Kundalini awakening. This Kundalini resides in the sacrum bone at the base of spinal cord. When Kundalini awakens it passes through our chakras, which are situated in our spinal cord....

This meditation is totally based on autonomous nervous system. Left sympathetic, right sympathetic and para sympathetic nervous system. As per spirituality left sympathetic represents Ida nadi i.e chandra nadi. Right sympathetic represents pingla nadi I.e surya nadi and in the middle para sympathetic which denotes sushmuma nadi I.e Brahm nadi.

If there is any imbalance in our left or right sympathetic nervous system, it affects our health. Left channel is our past, right channel is our future and present is represented by our middle channel. Spirituality suggests us to live on middle path for balanced life

If our left system is imbalanced, we are caught up with so many pshycho somatic diseases like depression,Alzaimer,low bp dimenshia etc... Due to imbalance in right channel, we get disease like sugar, high bp,heart disease Asthma etc

Sahaja yog meditation brings balance through Kundalini awakening. If we mediate regularly, we can feel our inner state on our palms. By using sahaja yog meditation improvement can be seen in our health and our social status starts from very first day.

Each chakra represents energy center. Through this meditation our chakras get balanced, and our energy level enhances. At the base we have first chakara Mooladhar which is related with our sexual and rectal organs. Second is swadishthan chakra related to our pancreas, kidney etc.Third is nabhi chakra related our naval cavity. Fourth one is anahad chakra represents our heart and lungs. Fifth is vishudhhi related to throat. It represents ENT. Sixth one is agya chakra related to optical area and brain part offcourse..Seventh one is sahatrara chakra with 1000 petals ... All chakras back are situated here on top of the head ie lymbic area. Through sahaja yog meditation we get thoughtless awareness, which gives great t f ti i day-today life.

So do meditate with Sahaja Yog for happy and joyous life.

Poonam Saxena

Body types and fashion trends - Part

Apple body type (Circular shaped)

Well, this body type generally is associated with being curvier at the bottom with no waist line. The shoulders, busts, hips and thighs are fuller and curvier. Such body figures generally have relatively heavier busts than other body types. What to wear on an apple shaped body ?Avoid wearing clothes that highlight your torso if you have an apple shaped body. Rather opt for outfits that add vertical integrity to your body with features such as V-neckline or keyhole neckline. Jackets or other kinds of layering shall serve your purpose of covering any extra curves that you are trying to hide. If you wish to wear a lehnga then pair it with a long jacket. Do not wear tight ,skinny pants. You may wear salwars with kurtas, and anarkalis too.

Hourglass body type (Balanced shape)

Who doesn't wish for an Hour glass figure?

You can consider yourself to have an hourglass body figure if your bust and hips measure almost the same. Also, in such body figures, the body looks curvier and you will have a well defined waist line.

What to wear on an hourglass shaped body?

Fitted outfits are perfect for hourglass shaped body . Most outfits on an hourglass figure seem flattering. You can wear a peplum top, wrap around top/dress, V neckline, high waisted skinny or bell bottom jeans, etc,.Flared palazzos or pants with noodle strap tops ....

Strawberry body type (Inverted triangle shaped)

Strawberry body or more commonly knows as an inverted triangle is quite opposite to that of a pear shaped body type. Women with this kind of body shape tend to have heavier and broader shoulder line. While their hips and waistline seem to be comparitively leaner. Such body type resembles the shape of the alphabet "V", with little to almost no defined waistline.

What to wear on an inverted triangle shaped body?

Ladies with this particular body type swear by dresses that add vertical integrity. One can create such illusion by opting for vertical stripes or with various necklines such as halter, V-neck or scoop neckline. I would suggest you to wear outfits that accentuate your hipline with designs that include a wrap or a peplum feature. Don't wear layered clothing , go for darker shades. Halter back tops and blouses look perfect on such body types. It's high time to break the stereotype and appreciate your body irrelevant of the shape and size. You are beautiful as you are , just build up the confidence within you . As important as understanding your body type may be, it is just as important for you to accept & embrace it.

Pupul Pachauri

Fashion , Luxury and lifestyle, Travel blogger and content creator

FIN

GURU

CONTRIBUTION

"Don't mess with Credit Card"

Be careful Stay Alert

Credit Cards are an indispensable part of our lives today, because of the advantages they carry. They can well be termed as virtual bank in your wallet. It would also not be wrong to say it is a naughty financial tool that needs to be controlled and managed prudently.

The discounts, offers, and deals that a Credit Card offers are unmatched by any other financial product and s ll b f th i H ver, Credit Cards can become debt traps if not used c ing capacity, when the time for the settlement of th

Credit Cards function on de e the freedom to buy now and pay for the purchases later. The but remains parked without denting your bank balance se of Credit Card offers a chance to build up a line of credit wit they often gauge a potential loan applicant's credit worthines ment.

Credit Cards have attracted like cash back, reward points, priority and preferential ha h credit card.

Credit Cards also come with time during which outstanding credit is not charged interes ail free short-term credit if you pay off the entire balance d

One of the distinct advanta n to user in the form of insurance for card purchases that mig id and understood, Credit Cards can spell a doom for the use

Let's understand the precau frauds with the Cards.

Don't use your credit card w

Think twice before swiping when you don't know your available credit.

Always keep in mind 'over-the-limit' protection, as transactions can be declined, and heavy charges may get attracted.

Don't use your credit card to make yourself feel better. Don't use the same when you are already in debt.

Avoid the temptation of using credit card for luxury items and excessive products than required.

Avoid using your credit card when under the influence of alcohol, feel impulsive, or are in dilemma to make a decision on the product you actually need or not.

Mukesh Bhatnagar

Former Banker

Report a fraudulent transaction that has been made using your credit card by giving a miss call to 14440.

Send the SMS "BLOCK XXXX" to 5676791 from the mobile number that has been registered with the Bank, (XXXX) are the last four digits of your credit card number.

DETAIL SYNOPSIS ON CAPITAL GAINS ACCOUNT SCHEME

1988

Author: Ca RATAN KUMAR AGARWALA

1. CAPITAL GAINS ACCOUNT SCHEME (CGAS) allows individuals to save Income Tax on long-term capital gains .The scheme started in 1988, and the account can be opened in any bank notified by government.

2. At times, the taxpayer is unable to re-invest the Capital Gains or Proceeds of Sale of Capital Assets, in modes and in the manner as specified before the specified due date of filing of return of income or before the expiry of specified time limit to re-invest. The Government decided to resolve it and gave the facility to tax payer to keep related funds in a separate earmarked bank account and with that end view, introduced Capital Gains Account Scheme (CGAS) 1988.

3. In many cases, the time limit with the assessee for re-investment and to avail the exemption, is normally longer than the specified due date to file the relevant return of income. As such, an option is given to the assessee for depositing such un-utilised or under-utilised capital gains in Type A and/or Type B ‘Capital Gains Account’ introduced under the said Scheme.

TIME LIMIT FOR DEPOSIT IN THE CAPITAL GAINS ACCOUNT SCHEME?

When, an eligible taxpayer is unable to re-invest the capital gains in specified investment before the specified due date of furnishing the return of income and where the specified time limit for the investment has not yet expired, he is required to deposit such unutilised or underutilised long term capital gain in the Capital Gains Account before the Specified Due Date for furnishing return of income.

WHERE SHOULD THE CAPITAL GAINS ACCOUNT BE OPENED?

Capital Gains account can be opened in any of the authorised bank branches excluding rural branches of such authorised banks.

TYPES

OF CAPITAL GAIN A/C

Two types of deposits can be made under Capital Gains Account Scheme which is explained below:

• TYPE A – Savings deposit

• TYPE B – Term deposit

i. Maximum term allowed for a Type B account is 3 years within which the money must be utilized:

a. 2 (Two) years for the purchase of new house property or b. 3 (Three) years for construction.

ii. Further, auto-renewal of term deposit is not possible in case Type B Term Deposit A/C like a regular fixed deposit.

Form for Opening either Capital Gain Savings A/C or Capital Gains Term Deposit A/C is earmarked as Form A

"Book Name : 'BECOMING'

By Michelle Obama

Book Review - Mukesh Bhatnagar Co- Editor Antarman

'Becoming' in simple terms is about 'transformation'. It is a forward motion, a means of evolving, a way to reach continuously, toward a better self.

The book is the memoir of Michelle Obama former First Lady of the United States (2009-2017), and gives a glimpse into how much work it takes to be successful, and the struggles along the way.

She has divided the book into three parts, each portraying different stages of her lifeBecoming Me ; Becoming Us ; Becoming More.

Synopsis:

'Becoming Me' gives an insight into her childhood, her growing up years and the role of parents in formative years. In the second, 'Becoming Us' part, she explores her student life, meeting her future husband Barack Obama and the courtship period in understanding each other, better. In the third 'Becoming More' part, she describes her life in politics, working strategically to establish her own identity and not just a ceremonial figure to the President's entourage. She has unfolded various facets of womanhood in all its dimensions.

Why should one read the book !

The author has thoughtfully presented her journey as a commoner and as the First Lady with utmost honesty, in a engrossing way. She has successfully explored, that it is not wise to follow the footsteps, rather one should left her own imprint. And that makes the book highly inspiring for everyone. To quote her from the book - "Success is not about how your life looks to others. It is about how it feels to you. We realised that being successful isn't about being impressive, it is about being inspiring."

I would recommend the book to be read by all, as a study on womanhood.

Quotable quotes from the book

Failure is an important part of your growth and developing resilience. Don't be afraid to fail.

When someone is cruel or acts like a bully, you need not stoop to their level. Our motto should be, 'when they go low, we go high ' .

Successisn'tabouthowmuch moneyyoumake,itisaboutthe differenceyoumakeinpeople's life.

Your child trusts you the most. Do you trust your child?

“You will never become successful in your life.”

“You don’t even know how to speak to elders.”

“You can’t do anything right.”

Parents, have you ever thought, what is the impact of your words being bombarded daily on your child?

“Nobody loves me ”

“I am bad at all things ” “I can never be good for my parents.”

“I am useless.”

Your child’s brain is storing these words and creating these feelings which get deep rooted into their CORE. Your child is very naïve, sensitive and vulnerable. They trust almost everyone and believe everything they hear is true. So, all these words they hear from you impact and weaken their core.

Constant criticism and finding faults in your child is the biggest reason for drift in a parent - child bond.

In the process of getting your child prepared for the future, you constantly keep correcting them. When they repeat the same mistakes or don’t listen, you criticise, taunt, compare them and sometimes even beat them. This slowly becomes your way of talking to them.

What you don’t realise is, slowly, your child’s self-esteem is getting hit every day. They lose trust and belief in themselves. They feel, if my parents, who always believed in me and my capabilities, now think I am worthless, then it is 100% true

Their pillars of support, trust and belief shatter and your child goes from having “low self-esteem to no self-esteem.” So, they don’t study at all, hide their sadness in their anger, act out and you call them rebellious.

**If this problem is not solved, 10 years later, it will become an “Unsolvable” problem and the reality of your child’s life.

Now, that you know the problem, you can find the solution easily. Wait! before you immediately go and start advising your child, check whether you are actually following your own advice your life? Remember your child is constantly observing and duplicating every behaviour of yours.

You have the biggest opportunity to “Lead your child by example”!

Don’t lecture them, instead teach them by doing it yourself. Show them how you handle stress, failure, success, fights, achievements, etc This can be done only by you living every moment based on your values. Instead of any celebrity, you to continue being their role model always.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!

That’s the language of your heart With this YOU strengthen your child’s self-esteem YOU create the unwavering faith and trust in yourself towards your child, just like your child has for you.

Parenting is not super easy, but it’s 100% worth it!!

Dr Smita Dipankar M.B.B.S; D.A (Anaesthesia)

Founder and CEO

Love & Manifestation

There is a difference between what you desire and what you manifest in life. This difference is identical to Attachment (मोह) & Love (म).

Attachment is a Boundation, well on the contrary Love is deeper and wider in all terms. We have often heard that let your loved one go or set them free, if they truly love you, they will become back to you. But you have to understand the conceptual difference between attachment and love. Attachment gives you pain, Expectations and frustration. But true love will give you peace, completeness and joy, whether you get it in return or not.

Similarly having only desires wiithout manifestation will leave you frustrated and tired. Dreaming is not bad, but not working enough to achieve that is bad and causes trauma.

Don't just desire something, aim to manifest it, believe in yourself, believe in the universal magical energy, work hard and work in the Right direction, in the right manner to have iI all.

Happy Manifesting��

Copyright @Neeta Manwani #neetamanwani

FIRST IMPRESSIONS- a short tale with a message.

Don’t judge a book by its cover. ”

Now this is a really old saying and believe it or not, we use it quite often in our lives. Just like we should not judge a book by its cover, how is it that we focus so much on making a first good impression? So many times we see people going beyond their means to create a favorable first impression! From changing the layout of their house to transforming themselves, everything is done to create first impressions on others. First impressions are tricky No matter how well you prepare, they surprise you They are unpredictable First impressions can be misunderstood They can be taken for granted First impressions can be rehearsed, they can also be impromptu and moody First impressions are impressions that can either be judged ruthlessly or ignored blindly. However, they are not threatening, they are just ways in which a human behaves socially. Let me share this incident with you which happened about 25 years back to reiterate the folly of first impressions!

I was on- board the Paschim express from Delhi to Mumbai. Among the passengers traveling with me, were a father probably middle aged and his 17–18-year-old son. The latter had a striking face, twinkling eyes and an infectious laugh! It seemed that he was very happy with the world Also travelling was a 30 ish young man who had a bourgeois air about him He was clearly not very comfortable sitting in our midst! His displeasure and irritation was writ large on his face Suddenly the train started moving and everyone settled down The father and son duo had got the window seat and the " bourgeois " fellow was in the middle berth. As the train picked up speed and left the city limits, the buildings and concrete structures gave way to greener vistas . " Papa, look the trees are running with us " , said the 17 year old joyfully. His proud father was beaming. Then again the boy shouted, " look pa , the orange orb of the sun looks so majestic against the pale pink sky" and " look how many colours are there in the sunset sky " ..Each comment irked the bourgeois but added to the pride and happiness of the father The son then loudly exclaimed, " Papa , look the clouds are racing with us they look like cotton balls being swept by the wind " The bourgeois finally overcame his hesitation and advised the father, " Sir, it seems your son is in need of a good doctor" The father replied calmly, " Sir, he was in need of a good doctor He was born blind and has just had a successful eye surgery. We are just returning home". The bourgeois was stupefied and did not open his mouth again for the entire journey. The incident taught me to be non judgmental and not assume things about anyone. Let us give everyone a chance without forming preconceived notions about them.

Swetha Sundar

Music for Mental Health

Music is said to enhance intelligence and focus, improve mental health, and boost one ' s immunity, and at the same time it works like magic to boost self-esteem and confidence. Be it listening to music,playing music or singing, music helps us relax and de-stress, and lift our mood. Music also helps to improve concentration, world's renowned scientists like Einstein have been known to be great musicians as well. Music is a sure shot remedy to fight insomnia and induce deeper sleep. Many people have expressed how music is a form of ‘ escape ’ , and can quickly and effectively transport them to a better time, place, or memory.

Music is an amazing tool to express emotion and creativity without say anything. Whether it’s playing a playlist of your favourite songs with friends or strumming your guitar, or humming to oneself,music is the perfect non-verbal way of expressing emotions that are too complex to talk about.

Playing peppy music has a profound effect on the brain, stimulating it to increase feel-good hormones that make us happy . Foot tapping music helps fight lethargy and boredom. Music is an incredible vehicle to help us process and internalise negative emotion. Listening to ‘ angry ’ music can be therapeutic when we ’ re dealing with stress and anger. Have you ever realised,why youngsters enjoy head banging music and heavy metal ? Perhaps to push out angst from their system. Music is proven to assist in manage anxiety, mood swings and panic attacks by gently transporting the person out of their current emotional state , giving them the necessary support. Music not only relieves us from emotional pain, it has therapeutic effect on physical pain too. Listening to music ,or playing music surely works wonders to ease pain in critically ill patients.

Meditative music has a cathartic effect on us, improving our mood and inducing relaxation of both the body and mind. Meditative music works deeply into the crevices of our mind, helping us heal at cellular level. As they say , like you need food to survive,you need music to thrive...so sing away to fade your blues.

Ila Pachauri

Sizzling

O ,Women!

Are you aware that for how long you have been trying to fit in? trying to be enough,? trying to be acceptable.?

Being a working women Being a home maker Being a mother Being a sister Being a wife, Being a daughter Being a daughter in law Being a friend Being a carer Being responsible Being reliable

Are you aware that for how long you have been spinning effortlessly in all the roles attached to you.

Just a question. Are you, being You? If yes, Be in the front. If no, Take breaks. Make mistakes. Your list of "should's" can take rest. Try to feel that you are enough even without back breaking list of "shoulds" of sizzling conformity.

Sneh Dutt

Green chillies zero oil Achaar.

By Tapasya Sureka

Ingredients:

1kg long green chillies

Mostly available during winter season

1/4 kg mustard seeds( small)

Nicely grind it into fine powder

150 Gm Salt(can add more if required)

1 tsp powdered Hing( asofeitida)

2tsp fennel seeds

2 tsp red chilli powder

1 big lemon

Process:

Nicely clean the chillies with a clean wet cloth( please do not wash).Make a cut in the centre started from the base until the tapering part with a pointed knife and keep them aside.Now take a big bowl and add all the above ingredients and mix well with hands.Now start filling this masala mixture generously in all the chillies.Keep it at room temperature for 3-4 day before consuming.If required u can cut them into small pieces with kitchen scissors .

Please refrigerate for longer use .

Kaur

Art By Swetha Sundar

Painting by Dr. (Mrs). Rajani Chaudhari

Hand painted Greeting cards by Rekha Agarwal