Antarman by MHC - November 2022

An Appeal

Ummido ka indradhanush an anthology of poems initiated by Motherhood club and compiled by Mrs Akta Sehgal Founder Motherhood Club and Manas Wealth, Mrs Ila Pachauri Chief Happiness Officer Motherhood Club and Founder My little greens, and Dr Indu Bansal Director Radiation Oncology Narayana Hospital.

The book is a poetic expression of hope by 101poets across the globe for Cancer warriors, caretakers and anyone in despair

This anthology is a way to raise funds for Cancer patients from humble background who are not only a victim of the disease but also financial toxicity.

Each book bought gets us closer to bring hope and cheer in the life of one, if not many.

Akta says, its not the money but the intent with which you shall buy this book and that shall make all the difference.

To book can be bought by paying a nominal sum of Rs 250, all the proceeds shall be used to support Cancer warriors from humble background. The amount can be paid via paytm/google pay at 9971477004, along with your address and courier charges on actual

Dear Readers and Members

A heartfelt thank you to each one of you for your continued support and love towards Motherhood club and Antarman newsletter. November as a month was full of interesting conversations and new initiatives. Motherhood club believes in calling a spade is a spade and started two interesting initiatives#thursdaythoughts and #fridayfunda. Thursday thoughts is to ignite our minds about matters that impact the society at large and Friday funda is to build our acumen to be better prepared for the professional and personal life. November also saw the very first duet musical evening by two of our very senior members.

On an ongoing basis some very impactful journeys were showcased during the MHC Talk show hosted by Ila Pachauri and Akta Sehgal. Continued efforts to raise funds for cancer warriors thru Ummidon ka Indradhanush by not just the core team but a few members who went all out to offer the book to friends and family to raise funds. We are so grateful to them

Under our social initiative, our Chief Happiness Officer attended a networking meet with many corporate houses and CSR agencies to create a bigger support system. MHC team in collaboration with Kiddomentoring celebrated children's day at an NGO run school, teaching them about plant care and train the teacher and kids on spoken English and basics of public speaking at another ngo run school in Noida.

With our ongoing efforts, Motherhood club shall be hosting the 2nd Wonder Mom felicitation ceremony in December 2022 and is gearing up for year 2023 with many new initiatives and MHC awards for Change Makers and Achievers in February 2023.

As we are nearing the end of the calendar year, we have been putting conscious efforts to strengthen the content, the team and the brand MHC.

We are hoping for a great year ahead and we wish that our members shall continue to support us as they have in the past.

This edition of Antarman is rich in content and does raise some pertinent questions.

Wishing everyone a very happy new year and looking forward to an awesome 2023 with a keen focus on health wealth and happiness.

We are delighted to close the year on a high - with more than 6 lakhs raised for multiple initiatives, knowledge sharing with women and kids, 2 books launched more than 100 talk shows and online events. Weekly Prompts for story and creative challenge, Story reading sessions, book reading, Poetic evenings, festival celebrations, Humanitarian Awards and a lot more was achieved in this year

In Gratitude

Akta Sehgal Founder & Editor in Chief

Memories of November 2022

The three pillars on which Motherhood Club stands tall. All our conversations and social drives are around these themes

Knock out common Health Ailments With Safe and effective Homeopathy

Homeopathic treatment has become the preferred mode of treatment by people. The reason is simple, the homeopathic medicines are very safe at the same time very effective. They are suitable for people of all ages, from new born to very old. Homeopathic medicines stimulate our bodies own healing mechanism against diseases. Every patient is treated as an individual; the aim is to treat the whole person and not parts. The personality, lifestyle, hereditary factors and details of presenting illness are taken into account before prescribing. Hence sometimes it works as magic even in long standing illnesses. The important role played by homeopathic medicines in day to day ailments is well proven. These medicines help to strengthen the immune system. With help of these simple to take sweets pills the intensity of symptoms reduces to great extent and it helps our body to recover faster.

Some of the ailments where homeopathic medicines give remarkable benefits to patients are:

Respiratory – Common cold to Asthma has been treated effectively with homeopathic. Sore throat, allergic rhinitis, bronchitis, tonsillitis in kids or adults, adenoids, sinusitis, viral infections etc

Digestive - Acidity, indigestion, ulcers, appetite issues, constipation Skin Ailments – hair fall, dandruff, allergies, urticaria, dermatitis, fungal infections, Acne, viral infections like chicken pox, measles etc, chronic ailments like psoriasis and many more Hormonal - irregular periods, cramps, heavy bleeding, menopausal issues, PCOS, Fibroids, Thyroids issues

Headaches - Migraine and other headaches

Injuries – Pain, small traumas leading to swelling, bruises, sprains, muscles spasm

Joints - general joint and muscle pains, osteoarthritis, rheumatoid arthritis, Gout Psychological - this area is greatly neglected, though we all deal with from some anxiety, stress, sleep issues, etc in day-to-day life.

Homeopathic medicines help in our overall wellbeing and help us to lead a healthy and happy life.

Though homeopathic medicines are safe and do not have any side effects, they should always be taken under guidance of a homeopathic physician. It’s not only a science but also an art which requires proper professional training and clinical experience to bring the desired changes.

Happy healing to all.

Dr Nisha Dubey

Senior Homeopathic consultant

Senior Clinical Psychologist.

Owner /Chief consultant at Divine Health Clinics (Delhi and Noida)

Ex-Chief Consultant Dr Batra’s chain of clinics (Mumbai)

Body types and fashion trends

We all have to understand that beauty is all about self-acceptance and being comfortable in your own skin. We humans come in different shapes and sizes and that's what makes each individual special and unique in their own. We all have our own perspective towards beauty

Many a times we bring a dress home because we saw someone else wearing that dress and when we wear it, we don't like seeing ourselves in the mirror. We feel this way because we all have different body types and not every outfit is designed to suit all sorts of body shapes. Fashion trends changes every now and then and there is no denying that! However, what we need to keep in mind is to look for an outfit that not only does justice to our fashion sense but also compliments our body type. People have different kinds of body types and have a tough time figuring out what category they belong to. In turn, they end up wearing clothes that don’t compliment them. Let me touch upon the basic body types to help you reach a balance between what suits your body combined with your personal taste.

Pear body type (Triangular shaped)

Well, a pear-shaped body can also be called a triangular shaped body. A pear shaped has a waist wider than the bust, the hips are fuller, and arms or shoulders are lighter, and the waistline isn't well defined.

What to wear on a pear-shaped body?

Just keep in mind not to wear something that highlights your thighs and hips more. Instead, opt for clothes that cover up the broader areas and draw attention to the upper body instead.

Choose brighter colors over darker colors like black and brown. Anarkali's and A Line suits, fit and flare skirts, slim pants, long shirt, shirt dresses are an excellent choice for those who have a pear-shaped body Go for Structured blouses to balance a pear-shaped body perfectly well.

Straight body type (Rectangular shaped)

As the name suggests, such bodies are not very well defined, and they lack curves. Such body type is also called an athletic body type

What to wear on a rectangular shaped body?

When you have a straight body figure, it is totally up to you what body area you want to highlight. If you wish to highlight your bust, wear something that fits your bust perfectly and also cinches up your waist. A corset is a good choice for such body types. Flowy kaftans or gowns with a belt to accentuate the waist and give shape to the hip portion is also a great idea Pastel shades look good on such body types You can choose between A line dresses, wrap around tops and dresses, flared or pleated pants, puffed sleeved upper wear and anything else that adds volume to one of your body parts.

Pupul Pachauri

Fashion , Luxury and lifestyle, Travel blogger and content creator

Emotion During Adversity, The Worst Investment Decision?

Warren Buffett says one of the biggest mistakes in investing is ‘doing stuff because you can, and not evaluating whether you should.’ What does this really mean?

Most often we see investors coming in hordes when the market rises and does well and accumulating risky stocks. When markets turns down, there is a scramble to get out. A similar situation happens when you need to invest your time to have a meaningful discussion with your financial advisor.

When the investment is done, all the investor is keen to know are there current and past returns. What they forget to look at is the risk associated with it. In a bull or rising market, everyone is willing to take a high risk, even if their risk profile is conservative. Forget being a moderate risk taker!

The situation changes when the market takes a U-turn and becomes bearish or more volatile and the investor’s risk profile gets challenged and that gives them great discomfort. The returns are not there, and, in some cases, there is erosion of principal too. During such times, the investor has all the time to spend on knowing where the investment is, what the risk associated with it, is, and how they can learn more about it. At this point basically, we want to be a learner and just a return seeker.

Having experienced this for over 21 years of my experience in the financial industry, from Sensex at 3000 plus levels to 62,000 plus levels, I believe that the investor Psyche has not changed one bit.

Even the most learned investors make the same mistakes and fall in the trap of the mental biases that we have in our mind. We are over enthusiastic and high-risk takers in a bull market and suddenly become risk averse in a falling or volatile market. The focus is always kept on what is not in our control rather than on what is in our control. Our goals are succumbed to the pressure of our idiosyncrasies and then we want to be mollycoddled for our own biases and mistakes. As Behavioral Finance defies the fact that we are rational and neither is the financial market, we need to focus on the process and that in turn, could lead us to achieve our goals. We must spend enough time in planning our investments and internalizing our goals to be able to have meaningful discussions with our advisor and other stake holders.

Happy investing!

Nuances of Real Estate

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Ila Pachauri

Real Estate Consultant

"LESSONS LIFE TAUGHT ME, UNKNOWINGLY"

An Autobiography, Anupam Kher

Book Review - Mukesh Bhatnagar Co- Editor Antarman

Amongst all the beings on Earth, human being is the only one, who has marched ahead of all. It is because of his ability to learn, unlearn and relearn ; to innovate, create and excel in his chosen path. The best thing is, he takes cues from his own journey, staggered with follies & struggles but overcome the same with single minded approach. No wonder it is their passion and purpose that defines their life.

Anupam Kher, the legendary actor as he is known today, has penned down his own journey'Lessons Life Taught Me, Unknowingly' gives a truthful account of a small town boy, dreaming to be an actor but continuously went on to fail, rather miserably, without any success for years together, inspite of being a trained actor. All his theatrical acumen at National School of Drama, proved futile. So much so his family too gave up hope and suggested him some other vocation. But life has its turns and twist, he left his home abruptly one day, but in a more determined way. He managed to bag his maiden role, in a highly successful production house to be directed by none other than Mahesh Bhatt. But again as the fate would have been, after six months intensive preparation for the role he was shown the red flag. Eventually his outburst with the director, brought him back in the film. The year was 1984, his age was 28 then, his role was of a very old man, the film was 'Saaransh' and became magnum opus in Indian Cinema. He never looked back since then.

The book gives, minutest details as to what goes into the making of a character development in cinematic terms but more as a human being. He never worked for fame but to make an impact through his portrayal. He went on to act in more than 530 films in last 38 years, including Hollywood movies, bagged two National Awards, eight Film Fare Awards, conferred with Padma Shri in 2004, Padma Bhushan in 2016, became Chairman of CBFC ( Central Board of Film Certification under Ministry of Information & Broadcasting and has his own acting school in Mumbai.

The autobiography amply gives glimpses, as to how a person can develop a phenomenal personality, if he stick to his dream, looks at life positive way, has a learning attitude, and above all sees the life itself, as a teacher. The author rightly describes his autobiography - the lessons life taught him unknowingly.

The book divided into six parts and spread over 400 pages, reminds the readers that whatever happens in life, happens with a purpose

I have found the book very engrossing, lucid and a real learning experience. The book highlights how certain phases and situations in life looks difficult, but the very same hold the key to success. Another feature I learned from the book is, that every person in life comes with a purpose. The book is worth a read to carry home some great lessons.

In conversation with nature

I hear sounds I haven't heard in years...

And see the sights that I haven't beholden for ages...

A beautiful sunrise, setting the skies alight... A colourful palette of pinks, oranges, yellows and crimsons.

A bird chirps carefree, it's wings backlit orange and pink. It flits and hops , trills and swirls before succumbing to its flight and freedom. The trees, all mighty and strong, swaying in all their green majesty are holding court . While the leaves are like impatient courtiers, rustling and having hidden conversations with one another .

So as not to disturb the garden's tranquillity and calm. The grass , a green velvety carpet beneath my feet... Emerald, Jade , parrot and moss greens intermingling like intricate warps and wefts. In the night, the starry skies remind me of a canopy studded with diamonds galore... The silent night is a soothing lullaby, refreshing my senses and lulling me to sleep. There is a dearth of adjectives in my head to express my joy and wonder ..

At this ' mine of natural beauty'

I contemplate about our futile efforts to cram the beauty of nature and life into a photo or a blogpost...

No words or pictures can really capture the thrill of feeling the wind on your face, the grass beneath your feet or the idyllic hum of birds and bees. It is a symphony of nature, orchestrated repeatedly but with an untiring novelty everyday which must be experienced with all senses. As my head touches the pillow, I cocoon myself with my discoveries today and sleep with an expectation of unearthing myriad treasures like these everyday.

By Swetha Sundar

People in our lives are like clothes, some are like traditional outfits, and they are always with us.

Some are like fashionable outfits, coming and going until fashion fades.

Some are like simple outfits with whom we can share our deepest feelings at any time.

Some are like clothes that haven't been worn in a long time, similar to those that haven't been in touch with others.

Some are like clothes that have been purchased but never worn, similar to those that are simply added to our friends list.

Some are like clothes we just liked but not yet purchased, similar to those are virtually connected.

Having the right people in your life is just as important as having the right clothes. So, make an informed decision.

Saradha Iyer

Grieve

It is 9am but time does not exist Lost In Time Lost in your own world It is light or darkness You can’t tell As you don’t feel life It does not exist Only your grieve does Grieve tells you the time The time to feel lonely The time to cry The time to shout You can’t keep out it’s presence It won’t allow you It consumes you It bounds you like a love one

Soon you find comfort it in Happiness is an empty shell Grieve fills your heart Unaware it is eating your heart Eating life away As clouds fade away

You lie in wait Will you live or die Grieve has a say on this So what will it be For as dawn & dusk comes Whether grieve comes and goes It is your grieve to decide

Vanessa Jacqueline D’cruz

Art By Vaishali Sisodiya - Tanjore Painting