m y t o p 6 l i f e l e s s o n s : 1. NEVER Spend Time On Regret As I stated, I’ve been through some tough situations in life. And while I could spend my time lamenting youth lost or mistakes made; a while b ack I made a conscious choice to live my life focused on my dreams and intentions rather than regret. Any time spent on regret is wasted. If you want to build a good life there is no room for wasted time. Each and every day should b e well invested in order to take you closer to your goals. No regret. 2. Focus On Being Your Best You Many people spend their time trying to prove that they are worthy of acceptance, love, happiness, promotion, or money. I think it’s better for me to pursue my life being the best possible version of myself possible. I don’ t compete with others and I don’t focus on having certain things. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy having nice things—they just aren’t the goal or focus anymore. I realized a while back that if I’m focused on being the best version of me that I can be I am much happier. It’s confusing to some people because they assume because of my perceived success that I am very competitive. But rather than compete with others I choose to focus on the things that make be a better person; a better wife; a better mother, a better business woman and so on than I was last month or last year. Being the best Carla I can be has proven to be a much better way of achieving success than competing with others. 3. Becoming Is the Key Becoming is a way of achieving that is powerful beyond belief. Becoming is the next step after you are good at being your b est you rather than competing with others. It’s not a tough way of operating; nothing I’m sharing here in this list of lessons is hard, but it is a powerful way of operating. Here are some tips for operating in this manner as well as examples of what it means to use becoming as the key to your ideal life. •
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I needed a life that allowed me to have flexible hours, so I transitioned from having a career in which I was leading a team to becoming a business owner. I wanted to travel more extensively, so I am studying to become multilingual.
Carla and her husband
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I wanted to be a better wife, mother, and grandmother; so I rearranged my life to become more available (more time, more emotional bandwidth, more healthful living). I wanted to do work I enjoyed, so I chose to get the education and experience required to become an expert in my field.
Too many people focus on what they want rather than what it takes to achieve what they want. Figure out what you want. Then determine what you have to become to achieve what you want.
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4. Think Of Faith As A Verb No matter what your beliefs, religion, or philosophy—practice your faith. Now, I don’t mean this is the traditional manner in which this phrase is used. When I say practice your faith I mean it in a much more practical
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