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Your Golden Month

July 2018

From the Editor

♥ Your Child in Monash is Overview monthly for the published mums, dads and grandparents of the Monash and surrounding areas. ♥ 5000 copies monthly are distributed in the Monash and surrounding areas. ♥ Estimated readership of 15,000.

Where are you travelling during the school holidays?

Some of us try our best to avoid winter.

Who doesn’t like to lay on the beach enjoying sunny days, And just looking at the joyful swimmers?

Have you noticed 2018 has reached half way?

We only have six months left, Are you still watching your time slip away? Oh, time is such a thief.

Some of us cry for the half cup that has disappeared.

Whereas some are grateful, For the half that is still here. May you cherish your days and never be regretful.

Rachel and Kirill

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Looking for July School Holiday activities?

Dancenorth and MLIVE present Rainbow Vomit , an interactive, eye-popping dance show that will delight the entire family.

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Give your child the best foundation for future learning and living. Maria Montessori Preschool provides firstclass care and education for children from 3 to 6 years of age in a stimulating environment.

With over 30 years experience the qualified Montessori teachers will give your child the opportunity to experience enjoyment in learning and achieve a strong educational background.

“The most important period of life is not the age of university studies but the first one, the period from birth to the age of six. The more fully the needs of one period are met the greater will be the success of the next”.

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Reptile Encounters Opens its Doors in Burwood!

Reptile Encounters is Melbourne's premier mobile zoo. And we’ve got some big news…

We’ve just opened a brand spanking new HQ in Burwood!

Just in case you haven’t heard of us, we’ve been delivering fun-filled, inspirational and highly educational wildlife programs to schools across Victoria for over a decade now. We also throw legendary kids birthday parties, and can even bring the fun to your house!

Coming with super-friendly and smart wildlife ambassadors, we’re proud to boast a Saltwater croc, a Woma python, a Port Jackson shark and many more in our starstudded cast!

We believe it is absolutely crucial to give people an up close experience with Australian wildlife, especially as society our today has become a little disconnected from nature. Our goal is to inspire our next generation of marine biologists and environmental scientists!

Climate change and pollution are without doubt two of the most dangerous, challenging and complex issues facing our country and our planet today. But if this generation is not connected to the natural world around them, how are they going to be motivated to fix it?

"In the end we will conserve only what we love, we will love only what we understand, and we will understand only what we are taught." Baba Dioum

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Kids Corner

July 2018 Do the math and colour the picture to reveal what is in it.

Help me to get to my cheese...

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TABLE OF CONTENTS Your Golden Month

Perfectly imperfect paren ng

Cleansing your Mind, Body & Soul The Fun and Benefits of Playgroup Are Your Kids Ready to Fly Solo

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Is self-care a theme coming up for you?

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Hats off to You!

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完美的父母 保护孩子不受性侵

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前一段时间看到朋友圈转发的文章，里面采访了一 些事业有成的人，他们不愿意生孩子。追溯原因的时 候，他们都把小时候和父母消极的经验拿出来做证据， 比如父亲非常暴力，所以他们不想把另一个生命带到世 界上来受罪。看完之后，我很同情他们也尊重他们的选 择，可是并不赞成他们把所有原因都归咎于父母小时候 的作为。 一个人十八岁以后做的所有决定，应该时他自己的 决定，无论受不受其他人影响，那你就要为你的决定所 产生的后果负责。只能是你负责，你年迈的父母或许小 时候对你做过一些不好的事情，但你长大了，在生命某 个方面失败了，父母就无端背锅了。真的，他们生你出 来，养你长大，已经做完了他们能力范围内能做到的 了，你找不到得到工作，找不到得到伴侣，生不生孩 子，杀不杀人，都不应该用父母来做借口，就是你自己 的一个个选择决定了现在你的处境。 现在养孩子太难了，好多书都来教你怎么做完美父 母。孩子打不得骂不得，快乐童年，又不能让他们输在 起跑线。每个人都送孩子去学游泳，而你不去，所以你 不是个称职的父母，以后孩子没有得到奥运金牌或者呛 到水了都是你的错。你没有办法好好跟另一半相处，真 是情缘已尽，这是你的感情，所以你选择沉闷地过一生 或者离婚，别人有什么权力来指责你的决定呢？难道孩 子以后不相信爱情不相信婚姻就是因为他们的父母离婚 了吗？为什么这个社会把什么锅都往父母身上扣？ 我有时想，其实完美父母是一条商业产链。你要做 完美父母，就要从小给孩子买这些玩具，用这些软件， 报这些班，你要学会睡眠法，学会不生气，学会带孩子 旅游，我们都要围着孩子转，你自己的生活已经没有关 系了，因为你要做一个完美的父母啊！可是，你不累 吗？

中国的育儿故事很多都是断 章取义，“昔孟母，择邻处，子 不学，断机杼”，的确应该为孩 子创造一个好的学习环境，但是 并不是所有人不停搬家，教育教 育孩子你孩子就能成孟子的；李 白铁杵磨成针的故事其实是假 的，但是设想一下，一个正常人 没有李白的才华，就是十个婆婆 表演给他看铁杵也没用啊。 培养孩子没错，但真的尽力 就好了，我不相信，你今天骂了 孩子一次，就会影响孩子一辈子 某个性格，我们要培养的，不是 完美的自己，也不是成功的孩 子，而是独立的人格，孩子应该 渐渐长大，渐渐变成一个独立的 人，他们有自己的思想，自己的 生活，我们血脉相连，亲情永远 不会变，但也绝对不是因为这种 亲情我们要合二为一，什么都和 孩子捆绑在一起。 我觉得完美主义者真的很恐 怖，不仅总是对自己的人生不满 意，还把不切实际的期盼放在孩 子身上。每天的生活不只折磨孩 子，也折磨自己。仓禀实而知礼 节，或许是我们生活太好了，大 家都要更好的思想境界，更完美 的人生。但是抱歉，真的没有人 能做到完美。没有完美的父母， 也没有完美的孩子。 对不起，孩子，长大后你的 错误你要自己承担，不要怪你的 父母，我们已经尽力把你养大 了，如果你三四十岁还在怪我们 没有把你培养好，那我们也觉得 你还没真正长大，是应该暂缓一 下想要培养下一代的想法了。 小编随笔

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儿童性侵是一个很沉重的话题，那么，作为家长，怎么才能保护好 自己的孩子呢？ 一：就是要给孩子全面的性教育。在荷兰，性教育课程中，老师会让 低年级小学生在小男孩小女孩的图上，用不同颜色的笔标出哪些身体部 位是大家都可以接触，哪些朋友和家人可以接触，哪些自己可以接触。 这种练习在家里爸爸妈妈的指导下进行，也是完全没有问题的。 二：性教育不可以是恐吓式教育。在防范恋童癖和性侵犯这点上， 家长需要告诉孩子性潜在的危险，性可能会带来伤害。但是必须和孩子 明确的大前提就是，性是一件美好的事，它是和爱联系在一起的。就像 爸爸妈妈一样，因为有爱才会结合。但是，美好的事情，坏人做了，也 会变味。防范性侵的教育，是不应该让孩子对性、对亲密关系产生恐惧 的。家长需要传达给孩子的，主要应该是性美好的一面。 三：遭受性侵害的并不是只有女孩子。由于社会性别认同、对同性恋 的歧视，以及中国文化传统的关系，男孩子在防范性侵犯方面也会遇到 女孩子不会碰到的问题。比如，我们的社会普遍会要求男孩更加坚强隐 忍，他们可能会羞于展示自己脆弱的一面，或者可能因为担心告诉爸爸 妈妈自己不够勇敢而遭到责怪，或者是对同性性行为的罪恶感，而在面 对侵害的时候，更难向家长或其他可以信任的人诉说自己的遭遇。而一 些成年人会开一些关于男孩子生殖器的玩笑，祖辈甚至会有触摸、把玩 男孩子小JJ的行为，这也会让男孩子对自己的身体界限产生困惑，以至 于真的遇到恋童癖，无法及时抵抗。 四：防范针对孩子的性侵害，还有一个不可或缺的因素就是家长要 有防范和隐私意识。在很多情况下，恋童癖都不是那种面目猥琐的陌生 人，而是言行举止正常的身边人。你无法从一个人的言行穿着还判断 ta是不是恋童癖。另外，有调查显示，恋童癖通常熟知孩童心理，他们 中有很大一部分从事与儿童紧密相关的职业，如教育、保健、医疗、体 育等。他们甚至可能是孩子很亲近的人，因为熟人会让孩子放松警惕。 家长可能觉得难以想象，但是针对孩子的性侵害，90%都是在非受迫情况 下发生的。家长隐私意识的缺乏也会让孩子暴露在危险中。举一个简单 的例子，在朋友圈分享孩子的照片估计是孩奴们都会做的事情吧？可是 多少年轻的爸爸妈妈会意识到晒孩子的安全隐患呢？把自己光屁屁的宝 宝发到朋友圈，也许许多人会觉得很萌很可爱，可是这也增加了照片被 人滥用的可能性，因为社交媒体上的图片，任何人都可能进行保存。对 孩子照片的滥用，可能包括将图片作为性幻想对象，也可能是用图片和 视频工具，将照片和视频做成儿童色情作品。

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