Woodside Herald 3 31 2023

6 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW WHEN GOING TO REHAB

by Stan Popovich

It can be scary when attending an addiction facility for the first time to overcome your addictions and other mental health issues. Many people may wonder what they should and should not do when they attend these places. As a result, here are six suggestions on how to get the most from going to rehab.

1. Follow the rules: The most important thing a person should do is to follow the rules when entering rehab. Focus your energies on getting better and don’t do anything that could get you into trouble. Your main goal should be to find the answers to help manage your addictions.

2. Listen to the professionals: A person who goes to rehab must follow the advice from their counselors. The counselors that you are dealing with have dealt with many people in your situation. These people are experts and following their advice will help speed up your recovery and help get your life back on track.

3. Ask questions: Going to rehab can be a new and stressful experience. Always ask questions on anything that you are not familiar with to help make your stay more pleasant. The people in rehab are there to answer your questions. There is no such thing as a dumb question so don’t feel hesitant to get the answers to your questions related to your stay and rehab experiences.

4. Be friendly with others: Do not take out your frustrations and fears out on the staff or on your fellow residents. A person going to rehab can be scared and frustrated, so it is important to find some other ways of dealing with these issues. Blaming others for your problems is not the way to go and can interfere with your recovery. Be nice to others and in turn most people will treat you with respect.

5. Go to the programs and meetings: Many of the rehab facilities offer programs in the mornings, afternoons, and at night. Make sure you attend these daily programs. The purpose of these programs is to help educate you in finding the right way of overcoming your addictions. If you decide to sleep in or decide to just skip the programs all together you could miss valuable information and delay the recovery process.

6. Write down everything: When talking to the professionals, it is impossible to remember every detail of the advice given to you. Most people forget what their counselors say after a few days. Talking to these experts can provide valuable advice on how to deal with your fears and anxieties and you don’t want to forget what you were told. If possible, find a way to write down the advice given to you by the doctors and staff. Don’t assume anything. Many people think they know what to expect when they go to rehab more than once. It is very important not to assume anything when your in rehab. Each situation is a new experience and don’t assume that your previous stays will be a repeat of the past.

HOW WE MAKE MONSTERS

by Dr. Sharon M. Cadiz

During the height of the COVID pandemic when curfews and stringent limits on public or private gatherings defined a period of about three intense months, the neighborhood post office was a safe refuge where I went daily. Each bundle sent to a beloved family member was a double blessing because I was able to feel useful and safe, clinging to the familiarity and normalcy of the simple act of sending a post. My admiration for our mail carrier Barrett knows no bounds. He always showed up and extended himself in thoughtful and exceptional ways. I say all this so that it is clear that I value the integrity and special qualities of the workers like the one who always makes coming to his window feel like a visit with a cheerful friend. My title for this writing is not a reference to the post office or the workers. It is a marker for an experience that I had a couple of weeks ago when I entered the queue at my local post office to drop off a package. As I walked into the line, there was a little girl of about six who turned to face me staring into my eyes. She was standing near a woman on a cell phone who I presume was her mother. I attempted to smile at the child with my eyes because I was wearing a mask. After this brief exchange, she turned around toward the woman, and then a piece of paper on the floor caught her eye. Following an impulse, she bent over and innocently picked it up. Suddenly, with a roar of disapproval, the woman shouted: “What are you doing? Did anybody tell you to pick that up? Get over here. You don’t go picking things up off the floor. It’s dirty. What’s wrong with you?” The child recoiled and stood motionless as the woman went back to talking on her cell phone. In that instance, I felt that was a defining moment that may have set the events of that young child’s life in motion along a dangerous path.

Over the years, I have reported on many of these types of scenes, always with the hope that I could highlight them for greater awareness of the harm to children that exists in plain sight, which can easily plant the seeds that flower into the next child victim of abuse or the next serial killer. I am obliged to be very direct with my message on this occasion because children desperately need to be loved and safely cared for or they learn cruelty, anger, distrust and the things that make them prone to hurting others as they have been hurt; or attracting abusive people into their lives because that is what they know. The ultimate tragedy is that, like the weekly reports of people committing mass shootings, the loss of life is significant. Constant verbal beat downs; ongoing humiliation and degrading instances when children are berated, start to run up a ‘tab’ that may eventually come due for payment. Sadly, the payment may come in tragic, self-destructive lives, violence toward others; or the extinguished hopes for a safe and satisfying life.

Each instance of seeing a child ridiculed and demeaned at a bus stop; on the train; at the grocery store; or in the post office, suggests that they are in training be a part of another hapless generation of youngsters being shaped at the hands of another wounded soul who is living out their past torment through the destruction of a child’s vulnerable spirit.

It is time to “check ourselves before we wreck ourselves,” as the song says. It is time to become self-aware and recognize how we interact with children on a daily basis; under stress or within the confines of accepted family practices and parenting styles that require excessive corporal punishment and verbal assaults. Institutionalizing acts that harm and belittle, with the excuse that “we always did this,” means that we are working on developing ‘monsters.” There are no perfect parents and I can certainly accept that I have made some mistakes in my parenting that I have tried to make amends for with my grandchildren. The ugly truth is that parents are not always well supported or acknowledged for the challenges they face in raising children, so based on the fact that we can be forgiven for our mistakes as parents and because we are capable of change, I ask that we support each other; look for what we need in order to heal our past hurts, and uphold the sacred duty of childrearing with a high regard for expressing love and compassionate care that creates fewer monsters and more miraculous people. As Women’s History Month comes to a close and Spring arrives, let’s grow into a new awareness and a new tradition for the safe and healthy growth and development of our precious children.

NEW LEGISLATION PASSED

“NO CITIZEN IS ABOVE THE LAW ACT”

Senate Deputy Leader Michael Gianaris announced that the State Senate passed his legislation (S.151), the No Citizen is Above the Law Act. This bill stops the clock on the statute of limitations for criminal and civil prosecutions for people who serve as President of the United States. This legislation was introduced in response to former President Donald Trump’s repeated legal maneuverings to obfuscate investigations by the New York State Attorney General and Manhattan District Attorney. Senate Deputy Leader Gianaris’ legislation will pause the statute of limitations for all crimes alleged to be committed by the sitting President of the United States, thwarting all efforts to impede on-going criminal investigations. Under current law, the immunity enjoyed by Presidents can be used to run out the statute of limitations on criminal charges. The bill will take effect immediately, allowing prosecutors in New York State currently pursuing investigations into the former President of the United States to pursue charges if warranted.

BAN ON SECRET DEALS

Senate Deputy Leader Michael Gianaris announced the Senate passed his legislation(S.545/A.211) that would ban the state and local governments from entering nondisclosure agreements at the insistence of private corporations engaging in economic development talks.

This bill bans the state and local governments from entering non-disclosure agreements at the insistence of private corporations engaging in economic development talks. State freedom of information laws already contain provisions regarding the disclosure of information to the public and exceptions thereto when sensitive data is involved.

SATURDAY, APRIL 1ST

Torsney/Lou Lodati Playground, 41-15 Skillman Ave

10AM Registration/10:30 Start

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This is a FREE event with a suggested donation to help the Mosaic Community Center continue to care for our most vulnerable neighbors through our outreaches which provide food distribution, fresh produce infant and toddler support, and clothing to our most vulnerable neighbors

A GUIDE TO GETTING AROUND BY BIKE

by Cyclo Pete

Happy Spring, Woodsiders! As the weather improves, so too does our ability to get back on our bikes. Some of us have been biking this whole time, but

others, including myself, are taking out our bikes after a winter’s sojourn in storage. To this end, I’d like to introduce a new monthly series: Getting Around by Bike. We’ll be starting with short rides and working up to those glorious long summer rides, along with everything in-between!

Riding For a Purpose

There are multiple reasons to get on a bike. Some people like to do it, some want to reduce their carbon footprint, some find it convenient, some need to bike for work. Whatever your reason, bike rides fall into two major categories. A utility ride is usually a short trip to the store, or multiple destinations, where the bike is mainly a tool to get from point A to point B. A recreational ride is usually a longer trip that starts and ends in the same spot, using the bike as a tool for exercise. Deciding on what kind of ride, or rides, you want to take will help decide how to prepare, how to dress, and what to bring, so it is never too early to start planning your 2023 rides.

Riding Safe

At the risk of sounding like a broken record, I cannot recommend biking for anyone who does not want to do it safely, or legally for that matter. I have written about bike laws, but they exist as faithfully as bike lanes to protect those of us who take to a bike to get around. Make sure you have your front and rear lights and a bell and reach for your Hi-Viz PPE including a helmet and reflective vest every time you ride. Not all of those are required but are a must if you want to stay safe out there. If you are missing any of these, correct that now!

Welcome to the 2023 biking season! After a few weeks or months without taking a long ride, I generally start out with short rides to get back into it and prepare for those longer rides later in the season when my conditioning is better. We’ll dive into the details on some of these short rides next month, so until then ride safe, Woodside!

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Due to the rising crime in our community, starting next Wednesday at 6pm. We will be hosting a FREE community selfdefense class (Krav Maga) and every Wednesday after that. This is free to all our neighbors in our community. Supreme Team Boxing, 34-09 Queens Blvd, LIC Call 718-709-9799 for info

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HELP LOCAL PAPERS

Dear

Act by the State Legislature is important to assure survival of local journalism. Most communities are down to one local daily or weekly newspaper. Newspapers have to deal with increasing costs for newsprint, delivery and distribution along with reduced advertising revenues and competition from the Internet and other news information sources.

Daily newspapers concentrate on international, Washington, Albany, business and sports stories. They have few reporters covering local neighborhood news.

Weekly newspapers fill the void for coverage of local community news from Astoria,

Hunters Point, Long Island City, Sunnyside and Woodside.

I’m grateful that you have afforded me the opportunity to express my views via letters to the editor along with others who may have different opinions on the issues of the day.

Albany needs to join us in supporting weekly community newspapers. Readers patronize advertisers; they provide the revenues to help keep them in business. Let us hope there continues to be room for everyone including the Woodside Herald..

Sincerely,

Larry Penner Faithful Reader for Decades

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ITALIAN-AMERICAN LEGISLATORS CONFERENCE 2023 SCHOLARSHIP

The New York Conference of Italian-American State Legislators is now accepting applications for college scholarships for the 2023-2024 school year.

High school seniors and currently enrolled college students should consider applying for Two Academic and Two Athletic Scholarships, valued at $4,000 each. The winners will receive their awards at this year’s Italian American Day on Monday, May 22, in Albany and recipients must be present to accept them.

Requirements for the Academic Scholarship include the student’s grade point average, higher education interest and goals, community involvement and individual need. Students who apply for the Athletic Scholarship must also demonstrate athletic involvement, achievements and interest in continuing those activities in college.

To apply for one of these generous scholarships, visit the Conference website at www.nyiacsl.org and click on the scholarship link. If you have any questions, please call my District Office at 718-738-1111. The deadline to apply is Monday, April 3, 2023.

SUPREME COURT OF THE STATE OF NEW YORK COUNTY OF QUEENS

Index No.: 700639/2021

HSBC BANK USA N.A. AS TRUSTEE FOR THE REGISTERED HOLDERS OF RENAISSANCE EQUITY LOAN ASSET-BACKED CERTIFICATES SERIES 2007-3

Plaintiff, vs. JENNIFER FINGER AS HEIR AND DISTRIBUTEE OF THE ESTATE OF DANUTA ZIELONKA, UNKNOWN HEIRS AND DISTRIBUTEES OF THE ESTATE OF DANUTA ZIELONKA; any and all persons unknown to plaintiff, claiming, or who may claim to have an interest in, or general or specific lien upon the real property described in this action; such unknown persons being herein generally described and intended to be included in the following designation, namely: the wife, widow, husband, widower, heirs at law, next of kin, descendants, executors, administrators, devisees, legatees, creditors, trustees, committees, lienors, and assignees of such deceased, any and all persons deriving interest in or lien upon, or title to said real property by, through or under them, or either of them, and their respective wives, widows, husbands, widowers, heirs at law, next of kin, descendants, executors, administrators, devisees, legatees, creditors, trustees, committees, lienors and assigns, all of whom and whose names, except as stated, are unknown to plaintiff, NEW YORK STATE DEPARTMENT OF TAXATION AND FINANCE; THE UNITED STATES OF

SUPPLEMENTAL SUMMONS–SUPREME COURT OF THE STATE OF NEW YORK, COUNTY OF QUEENS– SUN WEST MORTGAGE COMPANY, INC ., Plaintiff,against- ANY AND ALL KNOWN OR UNKNOWN HEIRS, DEVISEES, GRANTEES, ASSIGNEES, LIENORS, CREDITORS, TRUSTEES AND ALL OTHER PARTIES CLAIMING AN INTEREST BY, THROUGH, UNDER OR AGAINST THE ESTATE OF GAYLE MUSSENDEN AKA GAYLE OLIV MUSSENDEN, DECEASED; TIFFANY L. MUSSENDEN AKA TIFFANY LYNN MUSSENDEN PRYCE, AS HEIR, DEVISEE, DISTRIBUTEE OF THE ESTATE OF GAYLE MUSSENDEN AKA GAYLE OLIV MUSSENDEN, DECEASED; VIVIENNE C. LANE AKA VIVIANNE MUSSENDEN, AS HEIR, DEVISEE, DISTRIBUTEE OF THE ESTATE OF GAYLE MUSSENDEN AKA GAYLE OLIV MUSSENDEN, DECEASED; UNITED STATES OF AMERICA, ACTING ON BEHALF OF THE SECRETARY OF HOUSING AND URBAN DEVELOPMENT; SYNCHRONY BANK FKA GE MONEY BANK; NEW YORK CITY ENVIRONMENTAL

AMERICA, WAYNE MORA, DENISE MELKUN, JANINA ZIELONKA

Plaintiff designates QUEENS as the place of trial situs of the real property

SUPPLEMENTAL SUMMONS

Mortgaged Premises : 6047 74TH STREET, MIDDLE VILLAGE, NY 11379

Block: 2844, Lot:63

Defendants.

To the above named Defendants

YOU ARE HEREBY

SUMMONED to answer the Complaint in the above entitled action and to serve a copy of your Answer on the plaintiff’s attorney within twenty (20) days of the service of this Summons, exclusive of the day of service, or within thirty (30) days after service of the same is complete where service is made in any manner other than by personal delivery within the State. The United States of America, if designated as a defendant in this action, may answer or appear within sixty (60) days of service. Your failure to appear or to answer will result in a judgment against you by default for the relief demanded in the Complaint. In the event that a deficiency balance remains from the sale proceeds, a judgment may be entered against you.

NOTICE OF NATURE OF ACTION AND RELIEF

SOUGHT

THE OBJECT of the above caption action is to foreclose a Mortgage to secure the sum of $680,000.00 and interest, recorded on May 31, 2007, of the Public Records of QUEENS County, New York., covering premises known as 6047 74TH STREET, MIDDLE VILLAGE, NY 11379.

CONTROL BOARD; JOHN DOE (REFUSED NAME) AS JOHN DOE #1 through #4; DefendantsIndex No. 709952/2022 Plaintiff Designates Queens County as the Place of Trial. The Basis of Venue is that the subject action is situated in Queens County. To the above named Defendants–YOU ARE HEREBY SUMMONED to answer the Complaint in this action and to serve a copy of your answer, or, if the complaint is not served with this Summons, to serve a notice of appearance, on the Plaintiff’s Attorney(s) within 20 days after the service of this Summons, exclusive of the day of service (or within 30 days after the service is complete if this Summons is not personally delivered to you within the State of New York); and in case of your failure to appear or answer, judgment will be taken against you by default for the relief demanded in the Complaint. That this Supplemental Summons is being filed pursuant to an order of the court dated January 17, 2023.

NOTICE-YOU ARE IN DANGER OF LOSING YOUR HOME – If you do not respond to this summons and complaint by serving a copy of the answer on the attorney for the mortgage company who filed this foreclosure proceeding against you and filing the answer with the court, a default judgment may be entered and you can lose your

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The relief sought in the within action is a final judgment directing the sale of the premises described above to satisfy the debt secured by the Mortgage described above. QUEENS County is designated as the place of trial because the real property affected by this action is located in said county.

NOTICE YOU ARE IN DANGER OF LOSING YOUR HOME

If you do not respond to this summons and complaint by serving a copy of the answer on the attorney for the mortgage company who filed this foreclosure proceeding against you and filing the answer with the court, a default judgment may be entered and you can lose your home.

Speak to an attorney or go to the court where your case is pending for further information on how to answer the summons and protect your property.

Sending a payment to the mortgage company will not stop the foreclosure action.

YOU MUST RESPOND BY SERVING A COPY OF THE ANSWER ON THE ATTORNEY FOR THE PLAINTIFF (MORTGAGE COMPANY) AND FILING THE ANSWER WITH THE COURT.

Dated: March 15, 2023

ROBERTSON, ANSCHUTZ, SCHNEID, CRANE & PARTNERS, PLLC Attorney for Plaintiff

Aric H. Peymann, Esq. 900 Merchants Concourse, Suite 310 Westbury, NY 11590 516-280-7675

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home. Speak to an attorney or go to the court where your case is pending for further information on how to answer the summons and protect your property. Sending a payment to the mortgage company will not stop the foreclosure action. YOU MUST RESPOND BY SERVING A COPY OF THE ANSWER ON THE ATTORNEY FOR THE PLAINTIFF (SUN WEST MORTGAGE COMPANY, INC) AND FILING THE ANSWER WITH THE COURT. The foregoing summons is served upon you by publication pursuant to an order of the Honorable Kevin J. Kerrigan, J.S.C. Dated: January 17, 2023 Filed: January 23, 2023. The object of this action is to foreclose a mortgage and covering the premises known as 178-44 Leslie Road, Jamaica, NY 11434.

Dated: August 10, 2022 Filed: February 16, 2023 Greenspoon Marder LLP., Attorney for Plaintiff, By: Meir Weiss, Esq., 590 Madison Avenue, Suite 1800, New York, NY 10022 P: (212) 524-5000 F: (212) 524-5050 (No Service by fax) Please respond to Cypress Creek Office: Trade Centre South, 100 W. Cypress Creek Road, Suite 700, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33309 P: (888) 491-1120 F: (954) 343-6982 E: HYPERLINK

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