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Ennea-Type ONE The Ethical Idealist At Their Happiest and Most Effective: Principled, Discerning, High-Minded Unhappy and Stressed: Abrasive and Critical Perfectionists

Direction of Expansion = Green Arrows

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When ONEs learn to be more spontaneous and playful like healthy SEVENs, they enjoy their life by becoming more relaxed, no longer feeling the pressure to never make a mistake.

Stress Point: Stressed ONEs become envious like ego-reactive FOURs and fantasize about being free of responsibility. Often this is responsibility they have assumed, that really belongs to someone else. WINGS Energizing Wing:

When ONEs align with TWO qualities of kindness, they become energized by empathy and experience deeper connections with the people in their life.

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ONEs have more emotional satisfaction when they relax their standards a little and learn to be more accepting of others, like a healthy NINE.

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ONEs with a strong influence from theâ&#x20AC;Ś NINE Wing are intellectual, reserved and very loyal people of integrity. They have the idealism

of a ONE, but can be perceived as elitist, stiff or impersonal because of the NINE tendency to withdraw. TWO Wing are passionate activists and can be hands-on with the causes they support. They

are warmer and less judgmental than other ONEs, focusing more on people than ideas.


Natural Center: ONEs at their best reflect the quality of idealism. Helplessness Belief: At the core of ONE’s self-defeating behavior is the belief that they must earn love and respect by never making a mistake. Helplessness Fear: ONEs are most afraid of being too “bad” to be loved and accepted. Happiness Desire: ONEs most want to have integrity; to do and be good. Unhappy & Stressed

Happiest & Most Effective

Separating Vice: Anger — ONEs often resent others for not meeting their expectations, and angry with themselves for their failures and imperfections.

Connecting Virtue: Serenity — The most effective ONEs are at peace with themselves by accepting the bad and the good as being part of life.

Stressed ONEs Seek: Perfection — Unhappy or Stressed ONEs try to make the world perfect by imposing their standards on everyone around them.

Happiest ONEs Give: Idealism — Happy ONEs possess an idealism for making the world a better place.

Unhappy/Stressed Qualities: Rigid, inflexible, worriers, intolerance, perfectionism, critical, opinionated, picky, demanding and self-righteous.

Happiness Qualities: Wise, dependable, fair, detailoriented, conscientious, honest, ethical, prudent, hardworking, composed, purposeful, and idealistic.

Missing Connection: Joyfulness — ONEs have difficulty connecting with the feeling of joy believing it is only found when their life is perfect.

Happiest Self: Happy ONEs have the ability to rally people to make a difference in the world with their idealism about what is possible.

False Self-Image: ONEs see themselves as the reasonable person who knows the right way to do things.

Highest Self: The happiest ONEs accept that there are many right ways to do something.

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Demonstrate fairness and integrity when dealing with ONEs. They’re very ethical people.

Find ways to help them slow down. ONEs are usually very hard on themselves.

Acknowledge and appreciate the extra effort they put into the things they do.

Encourage them to relax and have more fun, and to plan and organize a little less.

If you are wrong, admit it and apologize. ONEs can be very forgiving if they don’t feel you are blaming them for the mistakes of others.

Avoid sounding critical. Use words like “we missed the mark” or “not quite what I expected.” Encourage with a statement like “we’ve learned how to do this a little better.”

Be clear about your expectations. ONEs like knowing exactly what you want them to do.

Understand the source of their criticism is the mistaken belief that they are deficient.

When they make a mistake, reassure them of your continued respect.

Let them know they will still be loved if they let go of some responsibility.

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EMOTIONAL STYLE OF ONES Coping Style: Stressed or unhappy ONEs control their fear in social connections by controlling the standards and compelling others to follow their rules. Happy and healthy ONEs don’t always have to be right. Disappointment Style: ONEs try to out-perfom disappointment by holding themselves to very high standards and working hard to avoid ever making a mistake or disappointing anyone. The happiest and most effective ONEs are still very hardworking, but more relaxed about trying new things, even if they make mistakes. Bonding Style: ONEs who are stressed or unhappy bond by trying to earn the love or good opinion of others. They get very upset if they think they haven’t met your standard. The happiest ONEs are people of integrity who are accepting of shortcomings in themselves and others.


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