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A Brides’ Book of

l * i * s * t* s Everything You Need to Plan the Perfect Wedding Marsha Heckman

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the meaning of flowers

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The Dress

some dresses for you in advance. Take your honor attendant and your mother, or someone to represent

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her with you.

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Wear a strapless bra to try on gowns. If you know

For most brides, the dress is the most important choice

what jewelry you will be wearing, bring it with you.

she makes. You may have been dreaming about the perfect

Wear shoes with the heel height that is comfortable for you. Bring a camera.

dress since childhood. It is an essential expression of your

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personality and style. The dress sets the tone and degree of formality for the entire wedding day. Begin looking early

dress in the first store. If you don’t find it elsewhere,

and set a budget. Order the dress several months ahead.

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Try on several styles of dresses. You may be surprised to find one you didn’t expect to like is the one.

Cull through bridal magazines and the internet

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looking at wedding dresses. Tear out and print out-

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The perfect reference guide and an invaluable tool for organizing her special day!

you can always have your dress custom made.

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Don’t be discouraged if you do not find that dream

Keep all appointments for fittings, and get confirma-

pictures of every dress that appeals to you.

tion of the date of pick-up or delivery in writing. Be

Sketch the dress you imagine, and write down all

certain the store will press the dress for you and have

the desired features of the perfect dress for you.

them put that in writing as well.

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Ask your friends to recommend the bridal salon,

Make a list of accessories, make up, and lingerie you

store, or dressmaker that gave them what they want-

will need. Shop or order them early to avoid anxiety.

ed, with excellent service.

Keep all items for the wedding in one place.

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Make an appointment to try on gowns at two or

Bring the dress home days before the wedding and hang it where it is safe from dirt, stains, and wrin-

more stores. Tell them what style dress you’re interested in and what your budget is. Ask them to select

kles.dYou C l a s s i c We d iwill n glove having it to look at.

Tr a d i t i o n s

Throwing the Garter was a tradition that began as a way of distracting the jovial weddings guests so that the newlyweds could sneak off the wedding chamber alone.

Groom on the Right, Brides on the Left

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stems from the time when a bride was at risk of being

Wearing a Veil

kidnapped at the alter and her groom needed his right

was a tradition that arose independently in many cul-

hand free to grab his sword to defend her.

tures. In some, such as ancient Rome, it was intended

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to protect the bride from the evil eye of jealous rivals.

Bridesmaids & Groomsmen in Matching Clothes

Egypt, where arranged marriages held sway, it was con-

In other cultures, such as ancient India, China, and

was originally in order to trick any evil spirits who may

sidered bad luck for the groom to see the bride before

wish to bother the bride and groom. It was believed the

the ceremony.

would therefore leave the newlyweds in peace.

Carrying the Bride over the Threshold

M u s i c : To - D spirits o would not to be able to tell who was who and

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Music is one of the most important elements of

Ceremony

Old, Something New, your wedding. Think about the best musicSomething for every Something Borrowed & Something Blue part of the event.

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is a tradition with several origins. First, it was to pro-

Arrival of guests

tect the bride from evil spirits lurking in the floor.

Mothers’ seating Second, it was considered bad luck for the bride to fall Processional for attendantsas she walked through the door, so she was lifted is rife with symbolism. “Old” represented the bride’s Processional for the brideinstead. And third, it preserved the bride’s maidenly Make lists with your groom of favorite songs past and her family, “new” was hope for the future, and Recessional reputation of modesty—it wouldn’t be proper to look for romance, tradition, and dancing. the “borrowed,” meant friendship while the blue stood for loyalty, purity, and love.

Request a “play list” from your band leader or DJ, then

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too eager to reach the marriage bed.

make an appointment to discuss your music choices

Guests’ arrival at reception / cocktail time

(and Do Not Play list, too.)

Announcing the bride and groom Music during meal

Rehearse the first dance and time the song. You may

First dance

want to cut its length. Include parents in deciding

Bride and father’s dance

about the music for your dance with them.

Groom and mother’s dance Reception dancing

Make a music list for each part of the wedding:

Last dance

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ere you will find the perfect music for the first dance, gift ideas for guests and attendants, popular wedding locations, and to-do lists to help the busy bride stay organized. Learn how to put together a wedding day emergency kit, who the most popular gown designers are, and what flowers are available for bouquets in every month. Designed in the same style as A Bride’s Book, and small enough to fit in a purse, this petite wonder is a perfect companion to the wedding planner.

And much more!

and Cake Suggestions * Menu Readings and Vows * Popular Floral Arrangements * Reception Themes *

M o s t Po p u l a r Pr o c e s s i o n a l M u s i c

A Brides’ Book of

l * i * s * t* s Everything You Need to Plan the Perfect Wedding Marsha Heckman

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marsha heckman is an established wedding planner and floral designer who teaches classes in San Francisco on wedding planning. She has participated in the design of more than 100 weddings and events and is the author of six books, including A Bride’s Book and Bouquets: A Year of Flowers for the Bride.

Modern “Appalachia Waltz” Yo-Yo Ma, Edgar Meyer, Mark O’Connor

Harnick & Jerry Bock

C l a s s i c Tr a d i t i o n a l Air (from Water Music Suite), George F. Handel Bridal Chorus (from Lohengrin), Richard Wagner Canon in D Johann Pachelbel Procession of Joy Hal Hopson Rigaudon, Andre Campra “Spring” (from The Four Seasons), Antonio Vivaldi “Te Deum” Marc-Antoine Charpentier “The Prince of Denmark’s March” Jeremiah Clarke “Trumpet Tune” Henry Purcell “Trumpet Voluntary” Jeremiah Clarke “Trumpet Voluntary” John Stanley “Wedding March” (from The Marriage of Figaro), Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart

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A Bride’s Book of Lists: everything you need to plan the perfect wedding

By Marsha Heckman 160 pages, 5" x 8" Hardcover, $17.95 ($20.50 CAN) ISBN 978-1-59962-091-6 On Sale: March 2011

“Sunrise, Sunset” (from Fiddler on the Roof ), Sheldon

Here Comes the Bride is Wagner’s Bridal Chorus

g u e s t fav o r s

Reference – Weddings

Included in A Bride’s Book of Lists are: and Music Lists * Song Honeymoon Destinations * Classic Wedding Traditions * Guest and Attendant Gift Ideas *

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rom Marsha Heckman, author of the best-selling A Bride’s Book, comes A Bride’s Book of Lists – a perfect resource for the bride planning her wedding. Heckman is a professional wedding planner and here she makes all her knowledge and experience available in a great little book full of ideas and inspiration.

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“The Look of Love” Dionne Warwick/Burt Bacharach “The Vow” Jeremy Lubbock “To A Wild Rose” Edward MacDowell “Flatbush Waltz” Andy Statman “Wedding Processional” (from The Sound of Music), Rodgers & Hammerstein

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Sacred “All People That On Earth Do Dwell” ( hymn) “Dona Nobis Pacem” (16th century hymn) “Hanava Babanot” (A Love Song), Neeman “St. Anthony’s Chorale” Franz Joseph Haydn “Hymn Fanfare from The Triumphant” Francois Couperin “Scalero de Oro” (traditional Sephardic) “Ave Maria” Franz Schubert

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