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Legacy Having the ‘Other Talk’ With Your Kids Leaving a Spiritual Legacy Living a Vibrant and Resilient Life A Salute to Senior Volunteering The Legal Side of Planning Your Legacy www.LIFEseniorservices.org

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13 Having the ‘Other Talk’ with Your Kids

Vol. 28, No. 10

Now it’s time for “the other talk” – the one about the “what ifs” of aging. That talk sounds almost as uncomfortable as the other one, doesn’t it? But it’s just as important.

Learn not only how to jump-start the conversation, but the topics you should consider discussing.

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LIFE SENIOR SERVICES, INC. Publisher LAURA KENNY President and Chief Executive Officer KELLY KIRCHHOFF Director of Marketing and Strategic Planning BETSY TROYER Managing Editor btroyer@LIFEseniorservices.org

18 The Legal Side of Planning Your Legacy:

It’s Never too Early (or Late) to Make Plan Ensuring that your legacy will be recognized by the state requires navigating the sometimes confusing legal world. With a little thought and foresight in planning, the legacy you will leave for your loved ones will be invaluable and comforting.

KAYLEE CAMPBELL Associate Editor kcampbell@LIFEseniorservices.org BERNIE DORNBLASER Advertising Director bdornblaser@LIFEseniorservices.org ERIN SHACKELFORD, CAROL CARTER Copy Editors

20 Leaving a Spiritual Legacy:

CARRIE HENDERSON BOWEN Circulation Coordinator cbowen@LIFEseniorservices.org

Hospice Chaplains are Here to Help Spirituality is unique for each individual.

When one thinks about leaving a legacy for generations to come, spirituality and resolution often plays an important role.

Hospice chaplains can work with you and your family to ensure this legacy.

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22 The Story of Your Life

Shape Your Legacy by Writing Your Obituary Writing your obituary or legacy ultimately gives you the power to tell your story. You are the person who can illustrate the meaning of your life and help loved ones understand what is important to you and why certain details are significant.

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In celebration of this year’s National Volunteer Week, April 6-12, we take a look at two seniors who volunteer in our area.

28 Living a Vibrant and Resilient Life

State Conference on Aging to Focus on Inspired Living Science tells us and experiences show us that with the right attitude, connectivity and coping skills one can continue an inspired, fully resilient and vibrant life. Dr. R. Murali Krishna, the keynote speaker for the 39th Annual Oklahoma Conference on Aging, shares his insight.

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From the Publisher 6 Looking Back 8 Medicare & You 10 This Spring, Put Prevention into Practice What is the Difference Between a Preventative and a Diagnostic Service?

Caregiver Corner Ensuring Your Legacy: 88 Things to Be Done by Survivors Mindbender & Puzzles Noteworthy Business Directory Vintage Friends Calendar Events & Seminars at LIFE Senior Services People & Places Classifieds

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LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHER

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Welcome to April and the awakening of spring!

This month, we bring you an issue filled with information about legacies.

For many of us, leaving a legacy means not only financial gifts but personal ones as well. We desire to leave our children and grandchildren with memories of time spent together, lessons learned, core values, gratitude and even forgiveness. We all want to be remembered, to feel that we made a difference.

In our research, we found that legacies have a common thread: communication. It is important for your family and loved ones to know what is important to you and what you care about most. But how do you start the conversation? We provide tips about how to discuss your future care and your desired legacies in the humorously named, Having the Other Talk with Your Kids, on page 13.

There is also a legal component to ensuring your legacy and care.

Although the legal world can be confusing, we explore and explain a few of the most common options that you might find helpful. If you want to learn more about how to protect your wishes with planning tools, we are happy to offer a seminar on April 24. The information is featured at the end of the article on page 19.

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Each person has such a unique life story and part of your legacy might include sharing it with your family and friends. The Story of Your Life offers suggestions on how to write your own obituary.

Anyone can write up the typical list of where you were born and surviving family members, but only you can illustrate why certain details are significant.

Some might consider leading an inspired life an exciting legacy.

If this is the case, be sure to read Living a Vibrant and Resilient Life on page 28. Dr. R. Murali Krishna, the keynote speaker for the upcoming Oklahoma Conference on Aging, believes that aging can be one of the most inspiring times of your life. Not only does he share 10 tips to help infuse positivity in your world, you have the opportunity to hear him speak at the conference. Learn more about the free Senior Day on May 20 and how to register.

We also honor senior volunteers in this issue. National Volunteer Week is April 6-12, and we take a look at two seniors who volunteer in the Tulsa area in A Salute of Senior Volunteering. Volunteering is one way to make a lasting impact on an organization or in someone’s life. If you are looking to get involved, turn to our Noteworthy section on page 31 to read about a Volunteer Speed Matching Event hosted by RSVP. Thank you for reading LIFE’s Vintage Newsmagazine.

Have a happy and inspiring spring!

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LOOKING BACK

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Ellis Island – The Lost Mural

Exhibit opens April 5 Opening reception and program by artist Andrew Sabori on Saturday, April 5 at 11:00 a.m.

Hidden away in the immigrants’ dining hall of Ellis Island from 1938-1954 was a 190-foot long mural created by Edward Laning as part of the Works Progress Administration, entitled The Role of the Immigrant in the Industrial Development of America.

The dining hall was a place never visited by the public, but millions of immigrants to this country passed through its doors over the years and sat beneath the artistic scenes left

by Laning.

In 2003, artist and muralist Andrew Sabori and his wife visited Ellis Island while tracing his family history and stumbled upon a small photograph of the original mural as part of the exhibit about Ellis Island. None of the staff was able to tell them about the mural, prompting the Saboris to begin a research project that would take them to Princeton, Julliard, the Smithsonian, the Library of Congress and even to visit the original artist’s widow looking for more information.

In 2008, after several years of research and finally finding photographs of the mural and even a few surviving sections in a Brooklyn courthouse, the Saboris decided to reproduce the mural on a smaller scale as an educational tool for students. And that’s just what they did – creating 19 sections that total 90 feet in length. The recreated mural has been exhibited in a number of locations since 2008, including its’ last stop at the National Archives in Atlanta, Ga.

Edward Laning and assistants working on mural, 1938.

Immigrant children, 1908.

in history

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Courtesy of Tulsa Historical Society

Italian immigrants, 1908.

Courtesy of Tulsa Historical Society

this month in history April 2, 1875: Walter Chrysler born Walter Percy Chrysler, the founder of the Chrysler Corporation, which for years was one of America’s Big Three automakers along with General Motors (GM) and Ford, is born in Wamego, Kan. Chrysler, the son of a railroad engineer, worked his way up in the railroad industry — from sweeper to machinist to plant manager of American Locomotive Company — before making his mark on the auto industry.

April 4, 1841: President Harrison dies after one month in office Only 31 days after assuming office, William Henry Harrison, the ninth president of the United States, dies of pneumonia at the White House.

At the inauguration of America’s first Whig president, on March 4, 1841, a bitterly cold day, Harrison declined to wear a jacket or hat, made a twohour speech, and attended three inauguration balls. Soon afterward, he developed pneumonia.

April 8, 1935: Works Progress Administration established

by Congress In April 1935, the WPA was established under the Emergency Relief Appropriation Act, as a means of creating government jobs for some of the nation’s many unemployed. Under the direction of Harry L. Hopkins, the WPA employed more than 8.5 million persons on 1.4 million public projects before it was disbanded in 1943.

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April 19, 1995: Truck bomb explodes in Oklahoma City Just after 9 a.m., a massive truck bomb explodes outside the Alfred P. Murrah Federal Building in Oklahoma City, Okla. The blast collapsed the north face of the nine-story building, killing 168 people, including 19 young children who were in the building’s day-care center at the time of the blast.

April 26, 1986: Nuclear explosion at Chernobyl The world’s worst nuclear accident to date occurs at the Chernobyl nuclear plant near Kiev in Ukraine. The full toll from this disaster is still being tallied, but experts believe that thousands of people died and as many as 70,000 suffered severe poisoning. In addition, a large area of land may not be livable for as many as 150 years.

April 30, 1803: Louisiana Purchase concluded Representatives of the United States and Napoleonic France conclude negotiations for the Louisiana Purchase, a massive land sale that doubles the size of the young American republic. Negotiations moved swiftly, and at the end of April the U.S. envoys agreed to pay $11,250,000. In exchange, the United States acquired the vast domain of Louisiana Territory, some 828,000 square miles of land. © The History Channel www.LIFEseniorservices.org

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This Spring, Put Prevention Into

Practice

Preventive services are health care services meant to prevent illness or detect a medical condition at an early stage (i.e. before you show symptoms of the condition). Examples of preventive services include breast cancer screenings, colon cancer screenings and heart disease screenings.

The onset of spring is a reminder of new beginnings – the longer hours of daylight, sprouting tulips and warmer weather are all indicators of a new season, and a new reason to be proactive with your health. One simple way to manage your health is to practice preventive care. Because preventive services can find health problems early, when treatment works best, it’s a crucial step in maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

Medicare can help keep you healthy by paying for many preventive services.

With Medicare, you have access to a variety of preventive services, such as screenings for diabetes, high cholesterol and cancer, as well as vaccinations, at no cost. They also include programs for health monitoring, and counseling and education to help you take care of your own health.

If you’re new to Medicare, you get a one-time free “Welcome to Medicare” preventive visit during your first 12 months of Part B coverage. This visit is a great way to get up-to-date on important screenings and shots and to talk to your doctor about your family history and how to stay healthy. During the exam, your doctor will do the following: • Record your family history • Check your height, weight and blood pressure • Calculate your body mass index • Give you a simple vision test.

If you’ve had Medicare Part B for longer than 12 months, you can get a “Yearly Wellness Visit” to develop or update a personalized prevention plan based on your current health and risk factors. The visit includes the following: • Review of medical and family history

What is the Difference Between a Preventive and a Diagnostic Service?

Diagnostic services are services used to treat or address medical symptoms or conditions you already have.

Diagnostic services may include the treatment of cancer, heart disease or a medical condition that was previously diagnosed by your doctor.

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A list of current providers and prescriptions Height, weight, blood pressure and other routine measurements A screening schedule for appropriate preventive services A list of risk factors and treatment options for you

When visiting your doctor or other health care provider, you might want to take a list of questions to ensure that you get the most from your visit. One suggestion is the Medicare publication, “Questions to Ask about Medicare Preventive Services.” The brochure can be accessed on Medicare’s website at www.medicare.gov or you can call the Medicare Assistance Program at LIFE Senior Services at (918) 664-9000 to have a copy mailed to you.

So as you tend to your garden this spring, make a commitment to tend to yourself, too. Practice preventive care to ensure you stay healthy, live longer and delay or prevent many diseases.

by Cindy Loftin, Medicare Assistance Program Coordinator at LIFE Senior Services

Medicare coverage of health care services differs, depending on whether the care is preventive or diagnostic.

Due to the Affordable Care Act, Medicare covers many preventive services free of charge. If a service is considered to be diagnostic, Medicare may cover the service.

However, charges, such as a coinsurance or copayment for the service, will most likely apply. For example, charges may apply if your doctor needs to investigate or treat a new or existing health problem during your Annual Wellness Visit. Similarly, if you get a preventive colonoscopy screening and your doctor removes a polyp during the screening, Medicare will consider the polyp removal to be a diagnostic service. Therefore, the colonoscopy will no longer count as a preventive service under Medicare rules, and costs may apply.

Keep in mind that while many preventive services are covered under Medicare for free, additional treatment given during or after the preventive service may come with a fee. For example, charges may apply if your health care provider meets with you to discuss other health care needs before or after you receive a Medicare-covered preventive service. Charges may also apply if your health care provider detects a problem and provides additional services or treatments.

Medicare covers preventive and diagnostic services whether you have Original Medicare or a Medicare Advantage plan, as long as you meet certain rules and requirements. Original Medicare is the traditional Medicare program administered directly through the federal government. Medicare Advantage plans, also known as Medicare private health plans, are offered through private insurance companies.

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Having the

‘OTHER TALK’

With Your Kids

Have you had “the talk” with your kids? No – not that talk. Hopefully, you had that talk years ago. Now it’s time for “the other talk” – the one about the “what ifs” of aging. You know, those gems like “What if I lose my memory?” or “What if I can’t live at home any longer?”

That talk sounds almost as uncomfortable as the other one, doesn’t it? But it’s just as important. Among the things your children need to know are: • • • •

Who you want to help manage your finances – and how you will budget for unknown needs?

If you need some form of assisted living, where do you want to live?

Where can they find the documents and information they’ll need to help?

What type of medical treatments do you want – and not want – and who will advocate for your needs?

If you’re like most seniors, you’ve rarely if ever had these discussions with your family. Why is that? According to the Pew Research Center, older adults are more likely to have had a conversation with their grown children about what to do with family belongings than about advanced illness care.

Part of your legacy is more inclusive than the distribution and allocation of your possessions - it entails informing your loved ones how to help you live your life in a manner in which you desire.

But if you don’t make your wishes formally known, your loved ones are often left guessing, worried they are making the wrong decision and - at times - living with that worry for years to come. In addition, when people don’t make their medical wishes known, they’re more likely to be overtreated than undertreated, contributing to higher medical costs.

“It is difficult for families to talk about death and dying,” says NBC’s chief medical correspondent Dr. Nancy Snyderman. “But by proactively resolving complicated end-of-life issues it’s possible to stave off future financial worries and stress.”

So when it’s time to have “the other talk” with your children, Snyderman offers the following suggestions: • • •

Do the mom thing: “I don’t want you kids burdened with stressful decisions about me.”

Point out the upside: “I’m healthy now, but you’ll be grateful we talked about this.”

Persist: “I know this is hard, but it’s important to me.”

Snyderman says both parents and their children are relieved once the conversation has been started and recommends that seniors keep their loved ones “in the loop” on any changes in financial, medical or personal issues.

She also recommends the website talk-early-talk-often.com for grown children of seniors. It provides an array of information and resources to not www.LIFEseniorservices.org

According to the Pew Research Center, older adults are more likely to have had a conversation with their grown children about what to do with family belongings than about advanced illness care. Part of your legacy is more inclusive than the distribution and allocation of your possessions - it entails informing your loved ones how to help you live your life in a manner in which you desire. only help them start the conversation, but understand the overwhelming journey they may be facing.

“Unfortunately, health and vitality will not always be a given. No matter how healthy your parents have always been, they are only one fall, one accident or one illness away from a serious crisis,” explains Rev. Dale Susan Edmonds, M.Div., creator of the site.

“Not only is it painful to consider you parents ever dying, but then add all the complexity and confusion about wills, trusts and estate planning.

You know vaguely about long term health care, but what’s the difference between a power of attorney, a durable power of attorney for finances, and a power of attorney for health care?”

What to Talk About While the following list doesn’t cover everything you may need to discuss with your family, it’s a good place to start. You can also talk to your doctor or nurse for more end-of-life care questions.

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OTHER TALK

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When you think about the last phase of your life, what’s most important to you?

How would you like this phase to be?

Do you have any particular concerns about your health? About the last phase of your life?

Who do you want – or not want – to be involved in your care? Who would you like to make decisions on your behalf if you’re not able to?

This person is your health care proxy.

Would you prefer to be actively involved in decisions about your care?

Or would you rather have your doctors do what they think is best?

Are there any disagreements or family tensions that you’re concerned about?

Are there circumstances that you would consider worse than death?

(Long-term need of a breathing machine or feeding tube, not being able to recognize your loved ones) Are there important milestones you’d like to meet if possible? (The birth of your grandchild, your 80th birthday) Where do you want (or not want) to receive care? (Home, nursing facility, hospital) What kinds of aggressive treatment would you want (or not want)?

(Resuscitation if your heart stops, breathing machine, feeding tube) When would it be okay to shift from a focus on curative care to a focus on comfort care alone?

What affairs do you need to get in order, or talk to your loved ones about? (Personal finances, property, relationships)

Write Now Another way to initiate a conversation with your loved ones about key life issues is to write them a legacy letter. Also known as ethical wills, these letters communicate and preserve your values.

“They differ from your will of ‘valuables,’ a legal declaration assigning the inheritors your property and material ‘stuff ’,” explains Rachael Freed, author and founder of LifeLegacies.com. “Ethical wills are not legal documents. I call them the non-legal complementary cousins of the legal will (“last will and testament”) and the living will (your advance health care directive).”

If you choose to write a letter, you don’t have to tackle the project alone.

Websites such as Celebrationsoflife.net provide step-by-step instructions along with real-life legacy letter examples.

The website advises regarding your ethical will as a love letter to your family. “Historically, ethical wills have contained blessings, personal and spiritual values and burial instructions,” the site explains.

For the most personal of goodbyes, Melanie Cullen, author of Get It Together: Organize Your Records So Your Family Won’t Have To, recommends writing individual letters to each person – in your own handwriting, if possible.

“For each letter, identify what the person has meant to you, how he or she has blessed you, special times you’ve enjoyed, future milestones you may miss,” Cullen explains. “At the same time, if you find you have had interactions that need mending, consider doing that now. You’ll not only enjoy a closer relationship now, but your last letter can be a sheer blessing.”

She recommends that you include thoughts about your death. “What do you believe that moment will be like for you? Do you believe that death is the end? Or do you believe that you will see God and reunite with those who have already passed?”

A Party for a “Rock Star” Leslie Higdon received an ethical will from her mother several years before her death last December.

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“My mom was unique,” Higdon explains. “She didn’t want a funeral or an obituary – she wanted a party. And she provided instructions and the guest list in her letter.”

Higdon’s mother, Pat Flanagan had battled emphysema for many years and had been on hospice since October. According to Higdon, her mom openly discussed her illness and her hospice care. She said she wasn’t surprised at all when she received her mother’s letter detailing her final wishes.

One of her mother’s most poignant requests was that each guest received a rock from her extensive rock collection. “Mom collected rocks from all her trips across the country – and we gave them to everyone at the party. Some were pretty cool and others were just rocks. But each one was a remembrance of her and that made them special.”

Flanagan had a lot of great friends who knew she was ill and continued to visit her at her home during those final months. Higdon called them for the party and about 50 people showed up, many bringing food even though Flanagan had instructed that her family use money from her estate to cater the affair.

In addition to her party, Flanagan had one additional request for her loved ones – perhaps as unique as the woman herself. “My mom said, ‘I don’t care what you do with my ashes, just don’t make jewelry with them.’ Apparently my sister had read an article about people making jewels out of people’s ashes and my mom didn’t want us doing that.”

More Than Words While legacy letters are the most common way to communicate your wishes, they aren’t the only way. Your last goodbye is limited only by your imagination, personal taste, personality, interests and abilities.

Other options include audio or video tapes, memory books, photo albums, poems, cards – even emails.

Whatever type of goodbye you choose, be sure to let your loved ones know that you have left a legacy letter or ethical will for them. While it’s important to have these conversations now, you can choose the time that something like a legacy letter is delivered. You can always leave the notes with your important records so your loved ones will find it when they’re wrapping up your estate.

“It’s hard; for some of us, nothing is more emotionally challenging. If you’re mustering up all the love in your heart, fond memories, and thoughts of loss, the task may move you to tears,” said Cullen. “Still, be comforted in knowing how precious your goodbye will be to those you love—and the peace you will feel once your goodbyes are prepared.”

Freed concurs. She sees ethical wills in any form as spiritual in nature – a way to not only communicate values, wisdom, history, stories and love from one generation to another, but to preserve who you are and what matters most to you.

“As each of us is unique, so will be each legacy letter you write,” she notes.

“It may be written with a special purpose in mind or to mark a particular occasion or transition in your life or the life of a dear one. You can share it at a special moment in the recipient’s life. You can preserve it to be given to your loved ones at the end of your life. There are no rules except for you to search your own heart to know the appropriate moment for you to share it.”

An Extraordinary Gift While we may all prefer to talk about the birds and the bees at this point, we need to buckle down and talk about what’s important in our lives today.

Our grown children are becoming our caregivers. And for most of them, this can be a burden – but it can also be a gift. We can transform our relationship with our children into a friendship that allows them to honor our end-of-life wishes. But we have to let them know what they are. We have to have “the talk.” We have to start the conversation.

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In Addition, LIFE Senior Services Recognizes the Following Donors for Their Program Support in 2013:

$100,000 and Up

Grace and Franklin Bernsen Foundation BlueCross BlueShield of Oklahoma The Helmerich Foundation The Herman Kaiser Foundation J.E. and L.E. Mabee Foundation Morningcrest Healthcare Foundation Ruth Nelson Family Foundation Jill and Robert Thomas Susan and William Thomas The Tulsa Area United Way The Anne & Henry Zarrow Foundation

$50,000 to $99,999 George Kaiser Family Foundation Joe and Darcey Moran

$20,000 to $49,999

Carl C. Anderson Sr. & Marie Jo Anderson Charitable Foundation Bank of Oklahoma The Mervin Bovaird Foundation Senior Star Living A.R. and Marylouise Tandy Foundation

$10,000 to $19,999

AG Equipment Company Founders of Doctors’ Hospital, Inc. H.A. & Mary K. Chapman Charitable Trust Montereau, Inc. ONEOK Foundation Sherman E. Smith Family Charitable Foundation Jess L. and Miriam B. Stevens Foundation Maxine and Jack Zarrow Family Foundation

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The Legal Side of Planning Your Legacy: It’s Never too Early (or Late) to Make a Plan You have many options when planning your legacy. But ensuring that your legacy will be recognized by the state requires navigating the sometimes confusing legal world. With a little thought and foresight in planning, the legacy you will leave for your loved ones will be invaluable and comforting.

Because each individual has different circumstances and needs, it is important to contact a lawyer to discuss what is best for you. The options discussed below are some of the most popular and are by no means encompassing. While the idea of legal jargon and attorney fees can be intimidating, many attorneys provide free initial consultations.

Will and Testament A last will and testament is an important tool. It informs your family and loved ones of your intentions. An attorney should help you draft one to ensure it is honored. A will requires a probate if property is being transferred (title transfer). Probate is a court process by which the title or ownership in property (including real and personal property) is transferred after death through a court process. The original will must be used when opening probate.

Oklahoma does recognize a handwritten will; however, it has to meet certain requirements in order to be recognized. The document must: • Be fully written in your own handwriting and not typed • Indicate that it is a last will and testament and who is to be given what items • Be signed • Be dated with a full date In many instances, these documents are not be honored due to technical issues. While a handwritten will is a lovely idea, it is important to contact an attorney, even if just to review the document.

for loved ones to say their good byes, consider a document like an advance directive for health care.

A very dear client told me several years ago that she wanted her beloved pet to be brought to her, if possible, before she expired. She felt her pet would better understand why she was not coming home. She also included the following in her advance directive for health care: Allow for sufficient administration of narcotic pain medication without consideration of the risk for addiction.

She was directing her own end to be as pain-free as possible. These issues are sometimes difficult to think or talk about. Yet, she ensured her loved ones would experience peace of mind knowing that they were following her wishes.

Trusts Many attorneys and financial advisors suggest trusts. A trust is very much like a suitcase. Once it is in place, you “store” your property (house, bank account, etc.) in the trust, like packing a suitcase. If you do not put something into the trust by transferring the title to the trust, you will most likely have a probate situation. Trusts are often used when leaving a legacy gift (providing funds for generations) or if a disabled child or family member is involved, so as to ensure that federal and state benefits are not compromised. Trusts can be costly, but they are an excellent tool for many.

Many individuals think they need a trust to avoid probate. They fear the probate process, having heard stories of cost and time. Trusts are often as expensive as probate and require a lot of work. Evaluating your goals and situation with an attorney is the best way to discover if a trust is the best fit for you.

You should also consider writing a will to pass down personal items (jewelry, art, other treasures) to the desired person. The will may never be probated, but it helps pass the personal treasures.

While some want to avoid the probate process, others should consider it as an option. Recently, a client wished to leave their home and bank account to a church. Setting up a trust was significantly more expensive than a will, and the church had the resources to probate the estate without issue after the individual’s death. The client decided to save money now, as the resources after death could be used to transfer title.

Advance Directives and Pre-planning The legacy you leave your family is also about your end-of-life wishes, funeral planning and burial. It is important to consider your burial or cremation wishes and make these known by pre-planning or leaving a note that loved ones can find. Also, if you do not wish for heroic, life-saving measures, but would like certain comfort measures to be taken and time

The Middle Ground There is another wonderful under-utilized option. Since 2008, there is the transfer on death deed in Oklahoma. It allows you to keep full ownership of your real property until death. If property is owned jointly between spouses, the deed can state that the property does not transfer to the designated beneficiary until the death of both owners. This allows

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the property to transfer outside of probate court upon filing an affidavit of death in the county clerk’s office where the property is located and the deed has been filed. The affidavit provides the clerk and land records with a certified copy of the death certificate which allows the property to pass to the beneficiary. This option may be right for you if you only have a home and bank accounts and do not want the burden of managing a trust.

By transferring a home with a transfer-on-death deed option, or a bank account with a pay-on-death or transfer-on-death option, one is designated a beneficiary, very much like leaving life insurance proceeds to a beneficiary, and avoiding a trust or will. The person must understand that to fully utilize this transfer-on-death or pay-on-death process, the individual must set up all accounts and property to transfer so that probate may be fully avoided. Tax consequences should also be addressed, as the individual wants to avoid estate taxes, among others, after death.

There are other legacy-planning options to consider. If you are in a committed dating relationship and not married, your significant other will have no say in your health or well-being without a nomination and proper paperwork in place.

In the end, every individual wants to ensure peace for the loved ones after they are gone. What better way than to spend a few hours making a plan to express your wishes. While many clients are confused about whether a trust is a good option for them; what assets to set up as transfer-on-death or pay-on death; and how certain actions will affect the surviving loved ones; an experienced attorney can guide you through the process fairly painlessly and give you and your loved ones peace of mind.

by Catherine Welsh, Attorney-at-Law

Legal Documents and Advance Planning This program, by Catherine Welsh from Welsh Law Firm, explains planning tools (advance directives, powers of attorney, wills, trusts and do-not-resuscitate orders) to help ensure a person’s wishes are protected.

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Leaving a

Spiritual Legacy

HOSPICE CHAPLAINS ARE HERE TO HELP

When one thinks about leaving a legacy for generations to come, spirituality often plays an important role. Taking a closer look at the spiritual legacy you would like to leave or are leaving can help you assess how you might be able to pass it on more effectively. This is a legacy that transcends material wealth.

Spirituality is unique for each individual. To some, spiritual needs can be met through traditional religious practices, such as singing hymns, praying, partaking in sacraments or reading religious texts. To others, it could mean meditating, spending time with spiritual leaders or simply participating in activities that one enjoys.

Additionally, spirituality could mean simply doing activities that make one’s spirit lively. Legacy.com author Nancy Weil encourages individuals to develop a “spiritual toolbox” that will be of help during life’s difficulties.

“A spiritual toolbox is a set of activities that you use to bring comfort and motivation,” Weil said. “For some people, reading a book or exercising always lifts their spirits. For others, going shopping or chopping wood is what’s needed to take them from their doldrums.”

Spirituality and religion are different, said Rev. Cindy A. Ritter, chaplain with Hospice of Green Country. “Spirituality is the essence of the human being and is a framework for meaning, philosophy, belief, values and creativity,” she said. “For many people, religion is a part of how their spirituality is expressed and lived out.”

In many cultures and families, religion is deeply entrenched in traditions and has been handed down from generation to generation. In these cases, individuals nearing the end of life may decide that their religious legacies are important enough to continue on for future generations, Ritter said.

For those who are spiritual but not religious, spirituality can be the guide for evaluating and processing what is meaningful enough in life to be given as a gift to others, she said.

For those who are facing the end of life, hospice chaplains such as Ritter can help “meet the person where they’re at in their own spiritual journey,” said Ashlie B. Casey, LCSW, Director of Social Services for Hospice of Green Country. “Hospice not only addresses the physical aspect of end of life; it also addresses the spiritual aspect.”

When it comes to leaving a legacy, chaplains attempt to meet spiritual needs, much like a doctor tries to meet physical needs. One of the main roles of a chaplain is to offer a companioning presence. “Chaplains provide unconditional, non-judgmental positive regard and a safe place for expressing fears, doubts, anger, grief and other matters of spiritual distress,”

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Ritter said. “Chaplains meet the patient in their experience and do not preach or impart their own personal beliefs on the patient or family.”

Aside from providing a comforting presence, chaplains facilitate many practical aspects of helping with a person’s hospice care. They are available 24-hours a day for the needs of the family.

If the individual on hospice is part of a church, chaplains work in conjunction with the family’s faith base by contacting the church to update them on the person’s condition. “People will rarely tell their church what they really need because they don’t want to be a burden to others,” Casey said. “Chaplains encourage church members to come by the home rather than waiting for families to call them.”

Chaplains also meet people on their spiritual journey by providing sacraments, reading devotional and sacred texts and any request from the patient that enhances their connection with their spirituality, Ritter said. After the loved one has passed, Hospice of Green Country chaplains follow up with the family for 13 months following the death.

At the end of life, many people feel a need to reconcile with those of which they may be at odds. “Asking for forgiveness and leaving behind a legacy of love is a primary teaching of many religions,” Ritter said.

“Forgiveness and love bring about a sense of peace and freedom which releases feelings of guilt and pain, allowing for readiness for death and connection with self and God.” Palliative care physician and grief expert Ira Byock, M.D., says asking for forgiveness and saying, “I love you,” are two of life’s four most important tenets. Living a life of love and forgiveness can set a positive example for those who will be left behind at one’s death, Ritter said.

Chaplains cannot force anyone to forgive or request forgiveness, but they are available to help loved ones talk through their feelings and past hurts. Also, chaplains help a family discuss their loved one’s desired legacy.

Even though their primary task is to help the family learn how to say goodbye, chaplains also help the family with the loved one’s life review.

“They help people feel like they’re addressing or tying up any loose ends – whether that’s talking to people they haven’t seen or discussing what they want their spiritual legacy to be,” Casey said.

Whether it’s leaving behind the legacy of a religious practice that has spanned generations, or the spiritual essence of an individual’s lifetime, a spiritual legacy is an important investment that loved ones should be sure to share with their family.

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The Story of Your Life Shape Your Legacy by Writing Your Obituary When the famous novelist Nora Ephron died, it seemed sudden to all but her close family and friends—those who knew about her battle with cancer. An honest and humorous writer, she included a list of things she would and would not miss in her book I Remember Nothing written several years before her death. Charles McGrath included a few of these insights in an obituary honoring Ephron in The New York Times: Will Not Miss: dry skin, Clarence Thomas, the sound of a vacuum cleaner Will Miss: her kids, Nick Pileggi (her husband), taking a bath, coming over the bridge to Manhattan, pie

you can pay tribute better. If you have to guess, you’re not sure what you did was valid or validated that person,” said Swyden.

Swyden makes the point that anyone can write up the laundry-list of your life: where you were born, family members, your schools and jobs, who you leave behind. But you are the person who can illustrate the meaning behind those facts and help loved ones understand why those details are significant.

“The important part is what I did when I was high school. The lifelong friends I made when I went to college, and the career that I chose and why.

And what I did with that career—did I impact anybody’s life? Or the time I spent raising my kids and coaching their little league teams, or where my favorite vacation spot was and why. That is your life legacy,” said Swyden.

These are just snippets of insight about a person loved and lost. How wonderful would it be to have your words and thoughts already recorded and on hand for your family to remember you by? Most of us don’t like to think about our death, but we know it’s a universal part of life. Writing your obituary or legacy now will tell your story Anyone can write up the laundry-list of your life: where you and comfort those you love when that day were born, family members, your schools and jobs, who arrives.

you leave behind. But you are the person who can illustrate

The Why: the meaning behind those facts and help loved ones understand Usually, a family member or the funeral why those details are significant.” director writes the obituary. While this gives a general picture of the person’s life, - Stan Swyden, Funeral Director and Manager it’s mostly simple logistical details. Stan Swyden, Funeral Director and Manager at Stanleys Funeral Home in Tulsa and Christian-Gavlik Funeral Home in Broken Arrow, has written his share of obituaries. Because he’s guided families The How: through the funeral and grieving process, he’s an enthusiastic advocate for An obituary should reflect your personality. Susan Soper, the author of penning your own obituary.

ObitKit©, suggests thinking of your obituary as a personal statement or a short story. Soper points out that with the recent trend in self-writing, the “The benefit of a person writing their own obituary would be they can options for style and tone have significantly expanded. She provides specific tell their story … in much better detail than anyone else. When someone examples to elaborate on the options. Some people opt for humor: dies and the family is left to grieve the loss, the whole point is to pay tribute to that person’s life. If I were to write my own obituary for my daughter, she “She was one of four graduation speakers elected by the faculty would know what was important, and she could make plans with my family for 1978 commencement exercises. All of this was achieved while and friends to honor me. If you know what was important to that person, maintaining a 1.8 grade point average.”

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But it’s perfectly fine if you see this as a time for reverence and more traditional obituary content. You can still add personal voice to your obituary: “She was an avid gardener…a soul-food cook, a superb seamstress of fashionable outfits, a comparison shopper, and…a spirit-filled contralto soloist at each stage of her church life.”

Whatever your style, there are standard tips to help you. For one thing, even though the need for an obituary is in the future, the present is a good time to start.

“You can write your own obit now, when current activities and memories are still vivid and you can always add to it later. Tell stories to [your] granddaughter or grandson who’s old enough to write and ask them to write it out for you” said Swyden.

While writing what she referred to as her legacy, Rachael Freed, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, compiled some suggestions for those wanting to follow her lead. Meant as guidance and encouragement, her suggestions cover both content and approach.

• Time yourself. Freed suggests 15-minute increments.

• For each sentence, write one specific thought as you begin the process.

• Consider different types of relationships: family, social, church, work.

• Think about all aspects of your life, your passions as well as your values.

• Include some sensory detail: sight, taste, touch, sound and smell. For example, “I’ve always loved to wake up with the first hazy rays of sunlight to the smell of fresh-brewed coffee.” Details like this help celebrate the rare morning person!

• Connect meaning to your memory and the present to the past. For example, connect your children and grandchildren with stories that include all of you.

These suggestions make what may seem like a daunting task more approachable. And you can always enlist those closest to you for help. They can embellish the picture of you with their unique perspectives. This collaboration can also be the bonding experience they will remember and cherish later as they grieve.

The Final Word: The technicalities about funeral arrangements seem to be the first sensible thing arranged. The hope is that this will alleviate the stress of financial pressures for our family during a challenging time. But a family needs more than relief from money concerns.

Swyden pointed out that it’s in our nature to worry about making the funeral “right,” including how we will honor the person.

Putting pen to paper and sketching the picture of your life will give those who love you solace as they reflect on what you meant to them. And equally important, you’ve played a vital role in sharing your life and what it meant to you. Swyden reminds us that both we and our families recognize that an obituary should be more than statistical information.

“Our lives are valuable,” Swyden said.

To those we love, for sure, but also to us. Writing your own obituary preserves that value with the unique pictures from your life that you can best paint.

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ENSURING YOUR LEGACY: 88 Things to be Done by Survivors Dealing with the death of a loved one is stressful enough. You might also find yourself overwhelmed with the tasks that need to be done in order to honor your loved’ one’s final wishes and celebrate their life. Provided by the Hospice of Green

Secure Vital Statistics (Required for burial permit) 1. Name, home address and telephone number* 2. How long in state* 3. Name of business, address and telephone number* 4. Occupation and title* 5. Social Security number* 6. War veterans serial number* 7. Date of birth* 8. Place of birth* 9. U.S. citizenship* 10. Father’s name* 11. Father’s birthplace* 12. Mother’s maiden name* 13. Mother’s birthplace* 14. Religious name (if any)* Pay Some or All of the Following 15. Family burial estate* 16. Memorials* 17. Funeral director* 18. Interment service or cremation fee* 19. Clergy* 20. Florist* 21. Clothing* 22. Transportation 23. Telephone 24. Food 25. Doctors 26. Nurses 27. Hospitals and ambulance 28. Medicine and drugs 29. Other current and urgent bills (mortgage or rent, taxes, installment payments) Collect Documents (Required to establish rights for insurance, pensions, Social Security, ownership, relationship, etc.)

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Social Security card or number* Marriage license* Citizenship papers* Insurance policies (life, health and accident, property)* Bank books* Deeds to property* Bill of sale of car* Income tax returns, receipts or cancelled checks* Veterans discharge certificate* Disability claims* Memorial Park Certificate of Ownership*

Decide and Arrange Within a Few Hours 43. Burial or cremation* 44. Burial estate location and which space to open* 45. Memorial type and inscription* 46. Casket type (if any)* 47. Clothing for deceased 48. Vault or sectional crypt* 49. Type of service (religious, military, fraternal)* 50. Special selection from scriptures* 51. Clergy to officiate 52. Funeral director 53. Location of Service* 54. Time of day for funeral service* 55. Decide name of charitable organization to which donations are suggested in memory of the deceased* 56. Information for eulogy* 57. Select names for pall-bearers* 58. Flowers* 59. Music* 60. Clothing for you and children 61. Preparation at home, including food for family and guests 62. Extra chairs 63. Transportation for family and guests,

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Notify as Soon as Possible 77. Deceased doctor or doctors 78. Funeral director 79. Memorial park 80. Relatives 81. Friends 82. Employer of deceased 83. Employers of relatives not going to work 84. Casket-bearers 85. Insurance agents (life, health, and accident) 86. Religious, fraternal, civic, veterans organizations and unions 87. Newspapers regarding notices 88. Attorney, accountant or executor of estate * Indicates details that can be planned for or pre-paid ahead of time.

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A Salute to Senior Volunteering President Nixon was the first president to officially recognize the intrinsic value of volunteering. Forty years ago, he created National Volunteer Week to recognize and celebrate the efforts of volunteers. Since then, the original emphasis on celebration has widened; the week has become a nationwide effort to urge people to get out and volunteer in their communities.

According to data released by the Corporation for National and Community Service (CNCS), senior volunteering is at a 10-year high – one in three volunteers is a senior age 55 and older. These men and women tap a lifetime of experience to help those in greatest need. More than 20 million senior volunteers gave nearly 3 billion hours of service, at a value of $67 billion.

In celebration of this year’s National Volunteer Week, April 6-12, we take a look at two seniors who volunteer in our area.

One for the Books Six months after retirement, Carolyn Lee started volunteering as a tutor for the Ruth G. Hardman Adult Literacy Service of the Tulsa CityCounty Library. “I have found that living outside myself and giving to others is very rewarding.

When I feel somewhat grumpy and am living in my head, I only have to remind myself that I will be volunteering soon and will feel 100% better,” said Lee. “I have made a very close warm friendship with my literacy student.”

Today, the Literacy program matches 200 students with volunteers.

In all, more than 3,000 adult students have improved their reading skills through the tutoring literacy services of the Tulsa City-County Library.

“I volunteer because it makes me feel good,” said Lee. “I always feel warm fuzzies when the day is over.

“Over the past eight years, I’ve learned so much about so many new things and met so many interesting people I would never have met in any other arena of life.”

Reaping the Rewards of Helping Others Volunteering is rewarding. It makes you feel like you are accomplishing

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something—that you are giving back —that you are helping people.

Volunteering also gives you the opportunity to meet people, make new friends and get out of the house. You can volunteer a day or two a week or in some cases a few hours a day. Of course there are some seniors that volunteer every day and many who volunteer weeks or even months at a time.

Tulsa resident Fran Redding volunteers six hours a month as a guardian with TARC, a statewide non-profit organization committed to ensuring a high quality of life for Oklahomans with developmental disabilities and their families through education, empowerment, support and advocacy. The agency was founded in 1952 by the parents of children with disabilities who faced lives in which few options existed beyond institutional care. Those parents were passionate about creating programs and services so their children could live satisfying lives in their own communities.

“TARC has been around for over 60 years. They have created so many opportunities for people with disabilities. They sort of chose me because I became a guardian of a disabled individual in 1993 and they reached out to help me and for me to help them,” said Redding. “I believe that everything in the universe is connected somehow.” In addition, Redding has volunteered as an Oklahoma Advocates Involved in Monitoring (OK-AIM Monitor) since 1994.

“I have learned so much about services provided to people with developmental disabilities. I realize how optimistic the people are and that they have hope, living in their own homes and being a part of the community,” said Redding.

Donating Your Time Improves Your Health In addition to helping others, older volunteers are also helping themselves by living active, healthy lives through volunteering. A growing body of research points to mental and physical health benefits associated with volunteering, including lower mortality rates, increased strength and energy, decreased rates of depression, and fewer physical limitations. With nearly one in every five Americans projected to be age 60 or older by 2030, www.LIFEseniorservices.org

a great opportunity exists to engage older Americans in service to meet critical community needs.

It appears that volunteering may pay special dividends for seniors who have chronic health conditions such as arthritis, diabetes, depression, high blood pressure, dementia or Alzheimer’s disease.

Seniors with chronic conditions devote slightly more hours to community service each month when compared with seniors who have no chronic conditions. They are more likely than other seniors to say that their volunteer hours will decrease in the next five years, but they also are more likely to say they plan to continue volunteering “forever.”

Additional Benefits of Volunteering Whether it’s passing out lunches to the homeless or building a home for a family in need, nearly all senior volunteers want to make a difference. Additionally, there are benefits for the volunteer.

Stronger Emotional Foundation. Seniors feel better emotionally.

Perhaps it’s the idea of putting others’ needs before one’s own, but older volunteers almost always feel better emotionally.

Renewed Spiritual Purpose. Seniors gain a sense of purpose.

Along with a need to make a difference, senior volunteers overwhelmingly want to gain a sense of purpose.

Shared wisdom. Seniors share their talents, skills and experience.

Many older adults have spent a lifetime in careers or honing domestic and creative skills that they are more than happy to share with others.

Refreshed Perspective and Mental Acuity. Seniors occupy their free time. Published studies from the Baltimore Experience Corps Trial showed that senior volunteering in the classroom helped support certain mental tasks like “executive function” or brain activity in key areas of the brain.

Invigorated Social Networks. Seniors overcome feeling isolated.

Volunteering gives many seniors a reason to walk out the door each morning.

Better Mental Outlook. Seniors overcome feeling depressed.

Depression is among the biggest challenges faced by older adults who have lost spouses or whose families have moved away or are too busy for them.

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Living a Resilient and Vibrant Life STATE CONFERENCE ON AGING TO FOCUS ON INSPIRED LIVING

Aging is frequently seen with a negative connotation because of the many changes one experiences as we age. But aging does not have to be seen as negative. Science tells us and experiences show us that with the right attitude, connectivity and coping skills one can continue to live an inspired, fully resilient and vibrant life.

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View aging as a normal process – every human has experienced change, growth and maturity. Embrace change with enthusiasm and learn to adapt well to the losses and changes with resilience. Resilience is the alchemy of life that transforms the coal of adversity into a magnificent diamond of strength. This attitude will help you discover your true resources, abilities, strengths and to find joy in this process.

Have a sense of belonging – connecting with others and belonging to a group of people that are traveling the same path as you have a healing effect on the mind and body. Actively developing new relationships gives you a sense of belonging.

Sharing our precious life moments with others is a marvelous gift we can give each other.

Have an “attitude of gratitude” – science tells us that discovering and expressing gratitude for all you have has an enormous impact on your mind, body and coping skills. If you have a mindset of gratitude, you will have a genuine appreciation for life and a sense of wonder and thankfulness.

Find the joy in the small things in life with hope and humility – joy can grow from little things, leaving you wholesome and happy. Joyful presence with each moment of life makes it a precious journey.

Find meaning and purpose for your life – share what you have with others.

Activities such as volunteering can make a difference. It does more good for you as well as helping other people. It may boost your immunity, health and resilience.

Calm your mind – discover the art of quieting the mind through mindfulness, meditation or prayer. Experience the beauty of nature, discover yoga and/or practice breathing techniques. Using these techniques can give us serenity and improved well-being.

Learn to play – you cannot take everything in life seriously. We need time to relax, laugh, be silly, creative and playful. This will have a restoring and regenerating effect on your mind and body.

Seek spirituality – whatever that may mean to you. Getting in touch with the power that is greater than us will bring inner peace, equanimity and genuine happiness, irrespective of external circumstances. Let spirituality guide you, strengthen you and nurture you to live an inspired life.

Get involved in new regenerative learning experiences – our minds and brain can learn new information and skills at any age and make us vibrant.

Nurture healthy physical activity and balanced nutrition – this will give you a solid foundation for health and happiness.

Aging can be one of the most inspiring times of your life. I look forward to sharing more details of this precious journey at the upcoming 39th Annual Oklahoma Conference on Aging. Discover and experience the keys to living your inspired life. It is within each of us to be vibrant!

By R. Murali Krishna, MD, DLFAPA, President & COO, INTEGRIS Mental Health and James L. Hall, Jr. Center for Mind, Body & Spirit

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About the Author R. Murali Krishna, MD, DLFAPA is the keynote speaker for the 39th Annual Oklahoma Conference on Aging. He is a motivating and engaging speaker on mental health and mind, body, spirit and medicine topics and is often interviewed by television and print news organizations for his expert opinion on mental and emotional health issues.

An award-winning psychiatrist, he has been featured on network television news programs and has recently published an inspiring and educational book entitled, VIBRANT: To Heal and Be Whole - From India to Oklahoma City, where he draws on his own life’s journey to guide others toward a stronger, happier spirit.

“When we embrace and accept that every life is finite, we start to see life through new eyes. The value of your life goes up dramatically when you acknowledge that it is fleeting.”

from VIBRANT: To Health and Be Whole – From India to Oklahoma City, R. Murali Krishna, M.D.

Oklahoma Conference on Aging May 20-22 • Norman, Okla.

This year’s conference theme of “Inspired Living” reflects and showcases the many people who lead active, healthy and vibrant lives as they age.

Senior Day

May 20 • 7:30 a.m. - 3:45 p.m.

It is FREE to Oklahomans aged 60 years and older.

Senior Day is filled with informative speakers, a wellness expo, awards, luncheon, film festival and exhibit hall. It is limited to attendees 60 years of age or older. Advance registration is required. Call (405) 325-1022 or visit www.okagingconference.com.

Professional Days

May 21 • 7:30 a.m. - 4 p.m. | May 22 • 7:30 a.m. - 2 p.m.

These days provide training and support for professionals, students and advocates in the field of aging. Hear from distinguished national speakers and other professionals about important issues facing older Oklahomans and those in the field of aging.

Pricing varies. Advance registration is required. Visit www.okagingconference.com for more information.

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|| Volunteer Speed Matching Event Puts New Spin on Getting Involved Interested in volunteering, but don’t know where to start? Experience the excitement of RSVP Tulsa’s Volunteer Speed Matching event.

Similar to “speed dating,” guests will rotate around 20 tables of local non-profit agencies in three minute intervals learning about each agency and their current volunteer needs. At the end of the event, attendees will be given the opportunity to select volunteer opportunities in which they are interested and complete an RSVP volunteer application to be matched with their volunteer assignment. Light refreshments will be served and several door prizes will be given away during the event. The event is scheduled for Thursday, April 10 from 1 - 4 p.m. at Montereau Retirement Community, 6800 S. Granite Ave., Tulsa. Reservations are required to attend, as space is limited. For more information or to register, call RSVP Tulsa at (918) 280-8656.

Experience Spring Time the Oklahoma Way, in Muskogee Come celebrate the warming weather and kaleidoscope of blooming color in simple, soulful Oklahoma style with a Muskogee spring trifecta – the Azalea Festival, Muskogee Chili and BBQ Cook-Off and Cruizaders Car, Truck and Cycle Show. The annual Azalea Festival (8 a.m. to dark) in Muskogee’s Honor Heights Park celebrates the blooming of the azaleas, tulips, dogwoods and wisteria included in the park’s 132 acres. With picturesque ponds and lakes, a tree arboretum, butterfly sanctuary and paved winding roadways and walkways, Honor Heights Park has something for everyone to enjoy. The Cruizaders Car Club of Muskogee’s 7th Annual Car, Truck and Motorcycle Show will run from 8 a.m. to 3 p.m., April 12, at the Muskogee Civic Center, but the Azalea Parade that will officially kick off the day of springtime celebration beginning at 11 a.m. at 7th St. and W. Okmulgee Ave. The Muskogee Chili and BBQ Cook-Off will follow from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m., April 12. The Muskogee Chili and BBQ Cook-Off is the perfect place to sample chili and barbecue from some 100 cooking teams from the five-state area. Guests can purchase a taster kit to sample some of the best chili, barbecue, chicken and pork the area has to offer. Chefs will compete in categories including chili, baked beans, beef brisket, chicken, pork spare ribs and hot links. Attendees are encouraged to vote for their favorites and see which competitor takes the crown of People’s Choice winner. A variety of concessions will be available, as well as an area designed specifically for children. The festival’s kids’ zone will feature food, inflatables, face painting, clowns, pony rides, camel rides and more. For more information about the Azalea Festival and other events, call the Greater Muskogee Area Chamber of Commerce, (866) 381-6543.

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Free Cancer Survivor Symposium to be held on April 12

The 10th annual Celebrating the Art of Healing Cancer Survivor Symposium takes place on Saturday, April 12 from 8 a.m.- 2:30 p.m. at the Mary K. Chapman Health Plaza at St John Medical Center, 1819 E. 19th St. This free symposium is open to cancer survivors, their families, friends and healthcare providers, and highlights mind-body spirit approaches to healing, along with the latest treatment advances, to enhance the quality of life and survival for those who face the challenges of cancer. Complimentary continental breakfast and lunch provided. For more information and to register call the St. John PulseLine at (918) 744-0123.

Learn How to Grow Your Food in Your Own Backyard

Self-sufficient food production practices are the best way to renew and maintain personal health and the natural balance of the environment we live in. This month, Tulsa City-County Libraries, in partnership with OSU Extension Services and the Library Green Team and Staff Association, will introduce programming designed to teach self-sufficiency techniques that attendees can easily put into practice. The techniques covered will include backyard poultry, canning, gardening for younger generations and organic gardening and composting. The lineup will make producing your own sustainable food sources in your yard a true possibility.

Backyard Poultry • April 5 • 1 – 2 p.m.

Learn how to raise poultry in your backyard including management practices, feeding, ordinances, housing and breeds.

Canning is Cool! • April 5 • 2:30 – 3:30 p.m. | April 14 • 6:30 – 7:30 p.m.

Learn about recommended canning practices and procedures for ultimate food safety, canning equipment and the process used for different types of foods.

Gardening with Young People • April 7 • 6:30 – 7:30 p.m Learn how to involve young people in gardening to help them build a lifetime love for gardening and the outdoors.

Above workshops will be held at Pratt Library, 3219 S. 113th W. Ave., Sand Springs. For more information, call (918) 549-7638.

Organic Gardening/Composting Workshop and Seed Swap April 26 • 1:30 – 3 p.m.

Learn the secrets to environmentally friendly gardening. Bring extra seed packets to swap.

The above workshop will be held at Hardesty Regional Library, 8316 E. 93rd St., Tulsa. For more information, call (918) 549-7691.

24th Annual Senior Heath and Resource Fair The annual event kicks off Friday, April 25 from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. at the Broken Arrow Community Center on 1500 S. Main St. This free event, with the theme of “Promoting Healthy Aging,” is one of the largest senior fairs in northeast Oklahoma. There will be demonstrations of Tai Chi, line dancing and Zumba Gold. The Lions Club Mobile Health Screening Unit will offer free visual acuity, hearing, glaucoma, blood pressure, diabetes and bone density testing.

More than 50 exhibitor booths and a blood drive will be offered. For more information, call (918) 259-8377 or see the ad on page 11.

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Vintage Friends

In appreciation of contributions to LIFE Senior Services received in February 2014.

We sincerely apologize for any error or omission. If a mistake has been made, please call Carrie Bowen at (918) 664-9000.

Anonymous Fred and Janet Bascom Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Oklahoma Jill K. Brown Wilda June Brown Yvonne Brown Kathryn A. Carpenter Ruth Casillas The Common Bond Foundation Sharon Daniels Robert and Mary Dick C. S. Dunn Jewell Foreman Mary Jeanne Frey Bob and Peggy Grotts Frank and Jane Hamilton Maisie E. Harwood Anita R. Heckman The Helmerich Foundation Bill and Terri Hirsch Geraldine Howell INCOG Area Agency on Aging Antoinette J. Jackson Susie and Larry Johnson Katy Jones John and Beverly Kauth

Gloria D. Lee Nancy Lemons Lela Lewis Sybil J. Lovett J.E. and L.E. Mabee Foundation Ralph and Frances McGill Foundation A. J. and Ruth Meyer George and Elsie Ridgley Bobby D. Sayre Karen Skrdle Mark Smith Church of St. Mary Lloyd K. and Peggy L. Stephens Foundation Constance S. Ullman James R. Vanderbeek Wanda P. Vint David and Valerie Wails Hazel M. Watson Anita Whitaker Lawrence and Eileen Wigger Nancy S. Wright Larry and Sue Young In Memory of In Memory of Hazel V. Adams Troy D. Adams

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In Memory of John Rose ‘Dune’ Beard, Jr. Elmer L. Clark In Memory of William F. Belitz Betty J. Belitz In Memory of Harold G. Butler Mary Jane Butler In Memory of Susan Collins Jacque Krusemark In Memory of Vernon Cowles Betty J. King In Memory of Theresa Ann Finck Theresa M. Finck and Mary Ann Finck In Memory of Betty Fox David A. Cunningham In Memory of Catherine Heinbockel Karen Ravenscroft In Memory of Janet Higgins Steve Higgins and Linda Strong In Memory of Doyle G. Jones Ruby L. Jones In Memory of Mary Lee Kirwin Bob and Pat Graf In Memory of Helen Meyer Edwin W. Meyer

In Memory of Jim Moomaw Jacque M. Fowler In Memory of Logan and Patti Posey Vicky L. Posey In Memory of Louise Smith Louis G. Smith In Memory of Pat Wood Tom and Mary Carolyn Hills In Memory of Martin E. and Mildred J. Wyatt Tom and Mary Carolyn Hills In Honor of In Honor of Cynthia Bland Jovitha M. Hawkins In Honor of Bryan Close Dolly Thomas-Dixon Honorarium for Guest Speaker Mary Hardy St. Matthew’s United Methodist Women In Honor of Employees of LIFE Senior Services Inez Major In Honor of Joy Thornbrugh Willie Ruth Garvin

About LIFE Senior Services

LIFE Senior Services is a recognized leader in aging services and an acknowledged voice on aging issues. Since 1973, LIFE has been on the forefront of programs and services for seniors, always growing and changing to meet the emerging needs of the aging population. LIFE Senior Services specializes in home and community-based services that promote healthy aging and aging-in-place for seniors, as well as services and support for family caregivers who play a critical role in helping their loved ones continue living at home.

LIFE Senior Services is proud to be a non-profit United Way organization. This year, LIFE will help more than 28,000 seniors and their families, as well as professionals who work in the aging services industry.

If you would like to make a donation in support of LIFE Senior Services, please mail your contribution to: LIFE Senior Services • 5950 E. 31st St. • Tulsa, OK 74135-5114 Make your secure online donation by visiting: www.LIFEseniorservices.org

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Events Meetings Cherry St. Farmer’s Market Saturdays • 7 – 11 a.m.

15th Street and S. Peoria Ave. • Tulsa www.cherrystreetfarmersmarket.com Wednesday Farmer’s Market Wednesdays • 7:30 – 11 a.m.

Parking lot of Brookside Whole Foods E. 41st St. and S. Peoria Ave. • Tulsa www.cherrystreetfarmersmarket.com Broken Arrow Farmer’s Market April 19 • 8 a.m. – Noon 418 S. Main St. • Broken Arrow www.brokenarrowok.gov Guthrie Green Farmer’s Market Sundays • 10 a.m. – 2 p.m.

The Brady Arts District 111 E. Brady St. • Tulsa www.guthriegreen.com Other Desert Cities Presented by Heller Theatre April 4 – 13 • Times vary Henthorne Performing Arts Center 4825 S. Quaker • Tulsa (918) 746-5065 www.cityoftulsa.org/henthornepac Symposium of the American Indian April 7 – 11 • 9 a.m. – 10 p.m.

April 12 • 1 p.m. – 12 a.m.

Northeastern State University 600 N. Grand • Tahlequah Free • (918) 444-4350 NEATs Monthly Gathering & Luncheon Presents “Is it Alzheimer’s or Normal Memory Loss?”

April 9 • 10:30 a.m. • Catered lunch • $8 Yale Avenue Christian Church 36th and Yale Ave. • Tulsa Reservations required • (918) 743-1303 Thailand Culture Fair April 10 • 1 p.m.

Town Village • 8222 S. Yale Ave. • Tulsa Reservations requested • (918) 493-1200 Volunteer Speed Matching Presented by RSVP April 10 • 1 – 4 p.m. • Free Montereau Retirement Community 6800 S. Granite Ave. • Tulsa Reservations required • (918) 280-8656 NEATs Estate Sale April 11, 12 • 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.

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(All submissions due by the 1st of the month preceding publication.)

Spring Mountain Man Encampment April 11 - 12 • 10:30 a.m. – 4:30 p.m.

Woolaroc Museum & Wildlife Preserve 1925 Woolaroc Ranch Rd. • Bartlesville (918) 336-0307 Herb Day in Brookside April 12 • 9 a.m. – 5 p.m. • Free Brookside 41st St. and S. Peoria Ave. • Tulsa (918) 260-7680 Celebrating the Art of Healing: Hope and Promise of 2014, Cancer Survivorship Symposium April 12 • 8 a.m. – 2:30 p.m. • Free Breakfast and lunch Provided Mary K. Chapman Health Plaza at St. John Medical Center 1819 E. 19th St. • Tulsa Registration required • (918) 744-0123 Free Genealogy Websites April 12 • 10 – 11:30 a.m. • Free Hardesty Regional Library 8316 E. 93rd St. • Tulsa Registration required • (918) 549-7691 AARP Safe Driver Course April 14 • 9 a.m. – 3:30 p.m. $15 for members, $20 for non-members University Village, Stovall Theater 8555 S. Lewis Ave. • Tulsa (918) 298-3480 Senior CPR Course April 14 • 1 – 3 p.m.

Osteopathic Founders Foundation 8801 S. Yale Ave., Ste. 400 • Tulsa Reservations required • (918) 551-7300 Computers for Seniors Presented by Tulsa City-County Libraries April 16, 23, 30, May 7 • 1:30 – 3:30 p.m.

Zarrow Regional Library, Computer Lab 2224 W. 51st St. • Tulsa Registration required • (918) 549-7683 Tulsa Metro Retired Educators Association: Meeting, Plant and Book Sale April 15 • 10 a.m.

Tulsa Education Service Center 3027 S. New Haven Ave. • Tulsa (918) 798-5075 Tulsa History with David Breed April 16, 23, 30 • 1:30 p.m. • Free LIFE’s Senior Center at Southminster 35th Pl. • West of S. Peoria Ave. • Tulsa Registration required • (918) 749-2623 Drumming with John Dellavedova Sponsored by Tulsa Library Trust and Hispanic Resource Center April 17 • 7 – 8 p.m. • Free Hardesty Regional Library 8316 E. 93rd St. • Tulsa • (918) 549-7550

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Jenks Herb & Plant Festival April 19 • 8 a.m. – 5 p.m.

Main Street • Downtown Jenks (918) 299-2311 Musical Mondays: Janet Rutland Presented by LIFE Senior Services April 21 • 7 p.m. • $8 Cascia Hall Performing Arts Center 2600 S. Utica Ave. • Tulsa (918) 664-9000, ext. 245 eBook & Audiobook Clinic April 24 • 5:30 – 7 p.m. • Free Hardesty Regional Library, First floor 8316 E. 93rd St. • Tulsa (918) 549-7552 Stand Against Racism: 1921 Tulsa in Flames April 25 • 11:30 a.m. – 2 p.m. • Free Rudisill Regional Library, Ancestral Hall 1520 N. Hartford Ave. • Tulsa (918) 549-7645 Herbal Affair & Festival April 26 • 9 a.m. – 4 p.m.

Downtown Sand Springs (918) 246-2500 Oklahoma Honor Flights Send-Off Ceremony: April 29 • 6:30 p.m.

Spirit Bank Event Center 105th and S. Memorial Rd. • Tulsa Welcome Home Parade April 30 • tentatively 8:30 p.m.

Tulsa International Airport United Airlines Baggage Claim • Tulsa NARFE Chapter 278 Meeting First Tuesday • 5 p.m.

Herman and Kate Kaiser Library 5202 S. Hudson Ave. • Tulsa (918) 576-8657 NARFE Chapter 2184 Meeting First Wednesday •10:30 a.m.

Martin Regional Library 2601 S. Garnett Rd. • Tulsa Caregiver Support Group Presented by A Vow Hospice First Thursday • 6 p.m.

Clarebridge of Broken Arrow 4001 S. Aspen Ave. • Broken Arrow (918) 557-8937 Widowed Persons Gathering Dinner, visiting and cards Wednesdays • 3:30 p.m.

Saturdays • Noon Western Sizzlin’ Steakhouse 6510 E. 21st St. • Tulsa (918) 371-4367 or (918) 341-3375

Drawing on Memories Presented by Alzheimer’s Association Second Tuesday • 10 a.m. • Free Gilcrease Museum 1400 N. Gilcrease Museum Rd. • Tulsa Reservations required • (918) 392-5017 Museum Memories Project Presented by Alzheimer’s Association Third Tuesday • 10 a.m. • Free Philbrook Museum of Art 2727 S. Rockford Rd. • Tulsa Reservations required • (918) 392-5017 Drawing on Memories Presented by Alzheimer’s Association Fourth Friday • 10 a.m. • Free WaterWorks Art Studio 1710 Charles Page Blvd. • Tulsa Reservations required • (918) 392-5017 Faith-based Educational Memory/ Support Group Presented by Jackie Lenzy, BS, BA, CDP April 9 and 23 • 1:15 – 2:30 p.m. • Free Mt. Zion Baptist Church 419 N. Elgin Ave. • Tulsa (918) 584-0510 Doodle Art with Staci Cravens Wednesdays • 1:30 p.m. • Free LIFE’s Senior Center at East Side 1427 S. Indianapolis Ave. • Tulsa Reservations requested • (918) 744-6760 Pins & Needles Quilting Club Mondays • 11 a.m. – 3 p.m.

Come and go as you please Bixby Community Center 211 N. Cabaniss Ave. • Bixby (918) 743-5408 T.O.P.S. (Take Off Pounds Responsibly) Thursdays • Weigh-in at 9 a.m.

Meeting 9:30 – 10:30 a.m.

Bixby Community Center 211 N. Cabaniss Ave. • Bixby (918) 369-9600 Bridge Wednesdays • 10:30 a.m. – 2:30 p.m.

Bixby Community Center 211 N. Cabaniss Ave. • Bixby (918) 366-3346 LaFortune Bridge Wednesdays • 1 – 4 p.m.

Buddy LaFortune Community Center 5202 S. Hudson Ave. • Tulsa (918) 496-6220 Bridge Club Tuesdays • 1 – 4 p.m.

South County Recreation Center 13800 S. Peoria Ave. • Bixby (918) 746-3780

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Bridge, Spades & Dominoes Mondays – Wednesdays 12:30 – 2:30 p.m.

Chandler Park Community Center 6500 W. 21st St. • Tulsa (918) 591-6053 Bunko Third Monday • 6 – 9 p.m. • $5/month Bixby Community Center 211 N. Cabaniss Ave. • Bixby (918) 369-5608

Dancing Line Dancing Class Tuesdays and Thursdays • 10 a.m.

Free and open to public University Village Retirement Community 8555 S. Lewis Ave. • Tulsa (918) 298-3480 Ballroom Dancing Kings of Music Tuesdays • 7:30 – 9:45 p.m.

Moose Lodge • 11106 E. 7th St. • Tulsa (918) 254-8167 Friday Night Dances Fridays • 8 – 11 p.m.

American Legion Post 308 11328 E. Admiral Blvd. • Tulsa (918) 437-1635 Saturday Night Dances Saturdays • 7:30 – 11 p.m. • $6 American Legion Post 1 1120 E. 8th St. S. • Tulsa (918) 584-4274 Square Dancing & Line Dancing Lake Keystone Squares First and Third Friday Workshop 7:30 p.m. • Dance 8 p.m.

Mannford Community Center 101 Green Valley Park Rd. • Mannford (918) 865-2846 Round Up Boys Dance Mondays • 6:30 p.m. • $5 Broken Arrow Senior Center 1800 S. Main St. • Broken Arrow (918) 607-3600

Friday Night Opry Fridays • 6:45 p.m. • $5 1st – 3rd Friday: Country/Western 4th Friday: Gospel Green Country Event Center 12000 E. 31st St. • Tulsa

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O’Brien Park and Recreation Center 6230 N. Birmingham • Tulsa Reservations requested • (918) 591-6008 50+ Basketball Tuesdays • 10:30 a.m.

O’Brien Park and Recreation Center 6230 N. Birmingham • Tulsa Reservations requested • (918) 591-6008 50+ Eight Ball Monday – Friday • 10 a.m. – Noon O’Brien Park and Recreation Center 6230 N. Birmingham • Tulsa Reservations requested • (918) 591-6008 Chair to Floor Yoga Wednesdays • 11:45 a.m. • $6/class LaFortune Community Center 5202 S. Hudson Ave. • Tulsa (918) 260-9236 Parkinson’s Exercise Class Mondays • Wednesdays • Fridays 1 – 1:45 p.m.

University Village Exercise Room 8555 S. Lewis Ave. • Tulsa (918) 298-3370 Zumba Gold with Ariane Betancourt Wednesdays • 6 p.m. • $5/class Shakes Alive Wellness Lounge 5077 S. Yale Ave. • Tulsa • (918) 812-5691

Round Up Boys Dance & Show Fridays and Saturdays • 8:30 p.m.

Caravan Cattle Co. 41st St. and Memorial Rd. • Tulsa (918) 607-3600

Functional Movement Training with Brenda Weaver April 10, 17, 24 • 10:30 a.m. • Free LIFE’s Senior Center at East Side 1427 S. Indianapolis Ave. • Tulsa Reservations requested • (918) 744-6760

Belles & Beaus Squares Second and Fourth Tuesday Workshop 7 p.m. • Dance 7:30 p.m.

St. Marks Methodist Church 10513 E. Admiral Pl. • Tulsa (918) 437-7277

Functional Movement Training with Brenda Weaver Tuesdays • 9 – 10 a.m.

LIFE’s Senior Center at Southminster 35th Pl. • West of S. Peoria Ave. • Tulsa Free • (918) 749-2623

Clog Dancing Lessons Turtle Creek Cloggers Tuesdays • 5:45 – 9 p.m.

Thursdays • 6 – 9 p.m.

12000 E. 31st St. • Tulsa (918) 627-0067 or (918) 619-5060

Exercise Equipment Training with Brenda Weaver Thursdays • 8:45 – 9:45 a.m. • Free LIFE’s Senior Center at Southminster 35th Pl. • West of S. Peoria Ave. • Tulsa Reservations requested • (918) 749-2623

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Events & Seminars AT LIFE Senior Services Maintaining a Healthy Brain There are steps you can take today that will help your body and brain stay healthy. Join Jackie Lenzy of LenzyHouse to learn about dementia diseases and the tools and tricks you can use now to ensure you have a better tomorrow.

Tuesday, April 8 • 9 a.m. – Noon • Free LIFE Senior Services • 5950 E. 31st St. • Tulsa Reservations requested • To register, call (918) 664-9000, ext. 224 Understanding the Basics of Medicare If you are newly eligible or soon to be eligible for Medicare, this will cover the basics of Medicare and what you need to know to make an informed decision about your coverage options.

This seminar is intended for Medicare beneficiaries and closed to licensed Life, Accident and Health Insurance Agents, insurance company personnel, and anyone affiliated with a Health Maintenance Organization or other conflicts of interest.

Wednesday, April 16 • 10 a.m. – Noon • Free LIFE Senior Services • 5950 E. 31st St. • Tulsa Reservations requested • To register, call Roy (918) 664-9000, ext. 250 Caregiving 101 Are you new to caregiving? Learn the vocabulary of the care world, information you need to make good decisions, an overview of community resources, living options and legal documents. Most importantly, learn strategies for support and self-care.

Tuesday, April 22 • 6 – 7 p.m. • Free LIFE Senior Services • 5950 E. 31st St. • Tulsa Reservations requested • To register, call (918) 664-9000, ext. 224 Social Security 101 Whether you want to apply for Social Security benefits, estimate your future benefits or apply for Medicare, there are online resources available to help you. A representative from the Social Security Administration will be here to explain what you can do online.

Tuesday, April 23 • 10 – 11:30 a.m. • Free LIFE Senior Services • 5950 E. 31st St. • Tulsa Reservations requested • To register, call Roy (918) 664-9000, ext. 250 Legal Documents and Advance Planning Thia program, by Catherine Welsh from Welsh Law Firm, explains planning tools (advance directives, powers of attorney, wills, trusts and do-not-resuscitate orders) to help ensure a person’s wishes are protected.

Thursday • April 24 • 10 – 11:30 a.m. • Free LIFE Senior Services • 5950 E. 31st St. • Tulsa Reservations requested • To register, call (918) 664-9000, ext. 224

SENIOR CENTERS LIFE’s Senior Centers are open Monday - Friday, 8 a.m. to 4 p.m.

They offer an excellent selection of social, creative, educational and fitness and health activities to keep members physically active and socially engaged. Call today for a tour and discover all that LIFE has to offer!

Fitness: Mat Yoga and Seated Yoga with Cindy Henson, Chair or Standing Fitness with Juanita Hoeffer, Tai Chi with Elizabeth Williams, Tai Chi with Nancy Anderson, Zumba Gold with Kristi Rains, Strengthen & Tone, Indoor Walking, Women’s Basketball, Line Dancing, Social Dancing, Pickleball and Ping Pong Creative: East Side Band, Choral Group, Art Classes, Writing Classes Social: Luncheons, Brunch, Friday Breakfast, Bridge, Canasta, Various Games, Theme Parties and Day Trips Services: Massage Therapy, VNA Foot Care, Vision Screening, Defensive Driving and Computer Lab *For more information and a FREE monthly calendar of senior center events, please call the LIFE’s Senior Center of your choice or visit www.LIFEseniorservices.org.

LIFE’s Senior Center at East Side 1427 S. Indianapolis Ave. (East of 15th St. and S. Harvard Ave.) Sunny Lile • (918) 744-6760

LIFE’s Senior Center at Southminster 35th Pl. (West of S. Peoria Ave.) Jamey Henderson • (918) 749-2623

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The Rainbow Communities in Bristow had a great time traveling to Cushing, Okla. for a day of bowling.

Lela Sims at her hobby, oil painting. A video of Sims is recorded at the Tulsa Air and Space Museum. She worked at the Douglas Aircraft Companies Tulsa Bomber Plant during World War II.

Even though it’s been a cold winter, that hasn’t kept Saint Simeon’s Residents from exercising! Regular games of pickle ball are popular among the Residents. Mr. Bob Snow shows off his skills during a recent game.

The Broadmoor Retirement Community took a Mystery Trip to the Route 66 Historical Village. A few residents from The Broadmoor climbed aboard the Frisco 1157 Caboose.

Volunteers of America’s Annual Rhinestone Cowboy event will be a special evening of cocktails, dinner, live and silent auction. KTUL Tulsa’s Channel 8 will be honored at this year’s event as the Premier Volunteer 2014.

Pictured are Renee Huffaker, event chair; Pat Baldwin, KTUL’s President and general manager; and Pam Richardson, President and CEO of Volunteers of America Oklahoma.

The Bingo bunch at Aberdeen Heights Assisted Living might take the game seriously, but not their hats!

University Village’s Mystery Lunch was a success!

Hey Mambo’s owner Scott and waiter, Dylan, made the attendees feel very welcome. Scott shared how he got started and the origination of the name. Pictured from right to left: Scott owner, Ruth Nunnley, Dylan (waiter), Joan Reames, Florence Beeman, Irene Taylor and Ruth Swarthout.

Several members of Broken Arrow Seniors, Inc. attended Senior Day at the Capitol. Pictured from left to right: Joe Quier, Sharon Vallejo, Win Quier, Kay Jenkins, Judy Farrow, PJ Shaw, Peggy Grasso, June Lawhorn and Robert Andrews.

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We Want To See Seniors Smiling & Active

Whether it is your traveling group, tennis buddies, or a night on the town, we want your pictures!

Submit high-resolution photos to editor@LIFEseniorservices.org by the 1st of every month.

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APPLIANCE SERVICE Best Appliance Service We repair washers, dryers, stoves, refrigerators, ice makers, heaters, and air conditioners. Spring A/C tune-up special!

We can also provide all of your plumbing needs. Free service call when repairs made. All repairs guaranteed by honest and reliable, licensed and insured service tech with 25 years experience. Senior and veteran discount. 24-hour service available. Major credit cards accepted.

“Expect the best!” (918) 693-5678 bestapplianceservice@cox.net AUTO REPAIR Strickland Automotive Strickland Automotive is locally-owned and - operated with over 40 years of auto repair experience. We perform all types of vehicle repair, from computer and electrical problems to engine and transmission overhauls. ASE Certified mechanics. Open six days a week, with towing provided. Call Gary. (918) 832-7072 CARPET CLEANING ALL PRO Carpet Cleaning Senior and caregiver discounts. Carpet, furniture, rug cleaning. Pet odor removed and Teflon protectant available. Emergency water extraction. Residential and commercial services. Professional truck mount steam cleaning. Carpet repairs and re-stretching. Prompt, professional, quality service at a fair price. Certified, insured. Call Thomas Fink, owner/technician, for free estimate. (918) 636-6303 COMPUTER SERVICES Computer and Electronic Assistance Are you stuck and need Help with your computer or any electronic device. Price and Son Computer and Technology Services, LLC will be glad to assist you in your home. Call James or Jared at (918) 236-6010 or email us at office@ pricestechhelp.com to schedule an appointment.

Computer Help At Reasonable Cost Retired computer tech will help with all your computer needs. Does your computer need to be moved or repaired or do you need help with setup or usage? Can also provide periodic maintenance and updates. Call Ed at (918) 629-1395.

DAYTIME CARE Daytime care for older loved ones LIFE’s Adult Day Services offers convenient, affordable daytime care at three locations in Tulsa and Broken Arrow. For more information, call LIFE’s Adult Day Services at (918) 664-9000.

EMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNITIES Hiring for Home Care Aides!

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assistance to elderly/disabled clients.

Tasks may include errands, light housekeeping, and personal care assistance.

Must have reliable transportation, valid driver’s license, auto insurance and pass OSBI background check. Certified and Non-Certified positions! Apply Today!! www.oxford-healthcare.com or call: (918) 258-1111 ESTATE SALES

trimming, garden tilling, gutter cleaning and lawn clean-up. Call Patrick Mills.

(918) 814-0973.

Estate Sales PLUS Estate Sales PLUS manages Estate Sales… Moving Sales… Downsizing…

Consignments… & Appraisals. Selling your home? We bring HUGE crowds of potential buyers and work with your realtor to showcase your home. Estate Sales PLUS is Bonded, Insured and an accredited member of the BBB. For a FREE CONSULTATION, call Sue Lynn Warren at (918) 488-8853, email estatesalesplus@cox.net or go to www.estatesalesplus.com

Cut and Edge Lawn Service Spring Clean-Up. Lawn Maintenance; Mowing, edging, blowing, leaf removal, tree trimming, tree removal, flower bed reconditioning. We take care of your outdoors needs. Free Estimates. Call Chad at (918) 951-0048.

Mike Ratcliffe Appraisals and Estate Sales A 36 year Tulsa business able to meet your appraisal or estate needs. We are affiliated with the International Society of Appraisers to do appraisals for probate, charitable donation, or equitable distribution. Need entertainment or a fundraiser? We do Appraisal Fairs. Looking to downsize or for an estate sale? Let us broker you nationally. We are bonded power sellers and do traditional tag sales.

We charge no set-up fee. Member BBB. Contact www.estatesbymike.com or Mike (918) 230-8310.

FINANCIAL/INSURANCE Medicare Assistance Program The Medicare Assistance Program (MAP) at LIFE Senior Services provides accurate information, counseling and assistance relating to Medicare benefits for Medicare beneficiaries, their representatives and persons soon to be eligible for Medicare. Call MAP at LIFE Senior Services (918) 664-9000 or toll-free (866) 664-9009.

FOR RENT All Bills Paid Come and join the peace and quiet of Southern Elms Apartments. One bedroom and two bedroom apartments available, 24 hour maintenance and security.

Located in Midtown Tulsa, 4519 East 31st Street. Equal Opportunity Housing. Call (918) 743-8001 for a showing.

FOR SALE Adult Discount Diapers Let us help you with your incontinence products. We provide adult briefs, bladder control pads, protective underwear, and underpads for bed and furniture protection. Call Janet (918) 851-9400.

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A Caring Hand – Tulsa Lawn Service Complete lawn care. Family-owned since 1970. Includes mowing, trimming, edging.

Dependable service and fair prices. In addition, we offer handyman services.

Senior and veteran discounts. Call for a free estimate. (918) 806-2482

Kimble Davis Tree Company Family-owned and operated. Specializing in all aspects of tree care: restoration, pruning/thinning, removal, stump grinding, hedge trimming, firewood available. Serving Tulsa for 25 years.

References. Member BBB. Insured.

ISA certified arborist. Check us out at www.kdtreeco.com. Call Kimble at (918) 853-5383.

Ladybug Flower Bed Service The Bug That Treats Your Garden Like a Lady. Complete flower bed maintenance.

We assess and advise, plant, prune, mulch, hedge trim, weed and remove debris. We are the bug that is good for your garden!!! Call Pat to discuss your flower bed needs. (918) 200-5991.

Lawn Care & Handyman Services Lawn Care/Mowing starting at $35/Landscape Design/Tree Work/Fence Repair & Building/Seasonal Color Design/Yard Spray Treatment/Debris Cleanup/Interior Remodels/Parking Lot Maintenance.

Owner Operated- Fully Insured- Free Quotes-Reliable-Courteous-Professional Service-References Available Upon Request. Call J&S Landscape to take care of all your lawn care & handyman needs (918) 406-4889.

Lawns & More Total lawn care. Dedicated to making your lawn look its best. Insured, honest, experienced and dependable. Veteranowned. Aerating. Rototilling. Stump grinding. We are a small company with personal service. References available.

FREE ESTIMATES. Call Larry.

(918) 361-1299.

HOME REPAIR/REMODELING A Handy Helping Hand Professional home maintenance, painting, and improvements. Whether you’re making overdue repairs, sprucing up your home and garden, or optimizing your home’s “sale-ability” potential, call Joe Surowiak with A Handy Helping Hand.

Professional results. Competitive rates.

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improving homes. Steve can fix anything, from the front door to the back door, from the basement to the attic. Call anytime for a free estimate on drywall, plumbing, electrical, doors, windows, and decks.

Call Steve for repairs, remodels, paint jobs, etc. (918) 636-2376 Allen’s Handyman Services of Tulsa “Your Home Improvement and Repair Specialist.” 14th year serving Tulsa seniors. 10% senior discount. Insured.

All work guaranteed in writing. No pay until job is completed. Plumbing, drain cleaning, electrical, carpentry, painting, seamless guttering installation/repair/ cleaning. Roof, tile, and drywall repair.

Wood siding/trim replacement. Deck repair, power washing, staining. Tree trimming. For free estimate, call Allen at (918) 630-0394.

Bathroom Safety Specialists Maintain your independence. Feel secure in your home with a new walk-in tub/ shower, grab bars, ramps, etc. Also, windows, siding, sunrooms, kitchens and patio covers. Large or small jobs. 35 years experience. Call about our senior and veterans specials and discounts.

Insured. Top quality work with fair prices.

Freed Contractors, Inc. (918) 939-9713 Big C’s Plumbing Services Your one stop Plumbing Shop! Call us and I guarantee you will never have to call another plumbing company.

Licensed, bonded and insured for your protection....Call (918) 855-9216, tell us you saw us in the Vintage Newsmagazine receive an automatic 10% discount....call us now.

BJ’s Handyman Services I will tighten it, nail it, glue it, paint it, cut it, hang it, change it, assemble it, install it, and do other odd jobs. Quality work at reasonable prices. Our goal is to keep your costs low. Life member of Handyman Club of America. Serving seniors since 2005. We now accept all major credit/debit cards. Call BJ at (539) 777-2915. This is a local call.

Bumgartner Plumbing Licensed, with over 30 years of experience. Rates are low and based on the job, not the hour. No service call fee or travel time charge. Senior and caregiver discount. Plumbing service and repair our specialty. Honest, professional service you can count on. Lic. # 82750.

(918) 355-4747 Burton Painting and Floors Specializing in all aspects of exterior and interior home painting. Staining, sealing, and painting faux finishes. Decks, fences, cabinets, and floors. Acid staining of concrete floors, patios, and driveways.

Free estimates. 23 years of experience.

Reliable, courteous, professional service.

Fully insured. (918) 378-2858

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Contracting for Seniors by Van Repairs, painting, remodeling, some plumbing and electrical, small jobs. Special needs: grab bars, ramps, hand rails, door alterations to accommodate wheelchairs, handicap fixtures. Working with individuals, families, seniors, businesses since 1987. We function with integrity, with special concerns for seniors. Free estimates, insured. (918) 636-6849 Dave’s Heat and Air, Inc. Licensed, insured, and bonded. Honest and reliable service for over 30 years.

Competitive rates. Specializing in heating and air conditioning service and repair. All makes and models. Residential and light commercial. Tulsa metro area. Familyowned and operated. (918) 437-8101 Freedom Electrical Services Do you need outlets, ceiling fans or lights hung? Freedom Electrical Services provides quality workmanship. For all your electrical needs, call (918) 630-0734.

Grandfather Clock Repair Call for appointment for free estimate to repair your Grandfather Clock. Over 40 years’ experience in clock repair. Other clocks repaired by request. Clock case remains in your home. Only the parts required for repair are removed. Call Mark at (918) 697-4491.

Home Improvements We install custom made energy efficient replacement windows that will totally eliminate the outside heat and lower ever increasing electric bills. We also remodel kitchens and baths, install roofing, flooring, entry doors and vinyl siding and will remodel or add a room. Those over 55 receive a 15% discount! LIFETIME WINDOWS & SIDING CO. since 1999. We offer services for all of eastern Oklahoma. References furnished. Call Richard for a free quote. (918) 261-9999 Hutson’s Handyman Service Carpentry. Painting. Home repair. Basic plumbing. Sheet rock – new and repair.

Storm doors and windows. Install ceiling fans. Clean and repair rain guttering. $15 service call charge. $35/hour. 10% senior discount. What do you need done?

Member, Better Business Bureau.

(918) 835-8205 or (918) 645-5761 Maintenance-Pro’s We specialize in the daily home repair needs for Seniors. We do electrical, plumbing, carpentry, painting and sheetrock repair. We also do product assembly, change light bulbs, fixtures, ceiling fans and air filters. No job is too small.

Free estimates and affordable rates. Call (918) 812-6465.

Tornado Heating and Air Conditioning Heater not heating like it should? Give us a call today for prompt service. It’s time to clean and inspect those heaters with our $50.00 special. The most affordable rates, and a senior and caregiver discount. 30 plus years of experience, 24/7 quality service. OK license 8329, bonded, and insured. (918) 231-8035 Z&J Remodeling No job is too big or small. Painting, carpentry work, roofing, room additions,

decks, sheet rock, carpet & carpet repairs, storm damage repairs and more. Free estimates and insured.

(918) 629-1903.

INTERIOR DESIGN EXPRESS YOUR OWN STYLE with decorating help from a pro. Need help downsizing, planning or refreshing/ rearranging existing? I can assist you with selections of new furnishings, accessories, curtains, drapery, installation of drapery hardware, small reupholstery projects or custom throw pillows. Over 20 years experience. References available.

Cathryn Copeland (918) 344-4111.

LEGAL Full-Service Estate Planning Law Firm Trusts, Wills, Gift and Tax Planning, Powers of Attorneys and more! With offices in Sand Springs and Tulsa. Discount to Veterans and Retired Teachers.

Willing to meet you in your place for no extra charge! Call Penni of the Skillern Law Firm at (918) 805-2511. www.skillernlaw.com MEDICAL CARE Anderson HomeCare Private pay medical services available in your home: Insulin and other injectables, tube feedings and care, medication management, ostomy care, foley management, foot care, custodial care including bathing. We will treat or make referrals for you. Licensed, bonded and insured for your protection.(918) 794-8819.

OIL AND GAS Mineral, Oil/Gas Interests Want to purchase minerals and oil/gas interests. Send details to P.O. Box 13557, Denver, CO, 80201.

Mineral, Oil/Gas Appraisals Have your mineral rights, oil/gas interests appraised (fair market value) by a Certified Mineral Appraiser.

(918) 663-3074.

PERSONAL ASSISTANCE

Financial Organizer Are you overwhelmed handling monthly finances (paying bills, balancing your checkbook, organization) for yourself or a loved one? I can help! I create customized systems that fit your needs, either for set up only or ongoing monthly. Call me to discuss the options available. Essential Strategy Consulting, LLC. Gwen Stevens (918) 557-5259.

Mail Stacking Up? Do you have trouble seeing to write checks? No family close by to help?

Confused about your income or expenses? I will pay your bills, setup deposits, correspond with insurers, accountants, bankers, doctors, brokers and creditors.

Organize information for your taxes.

Monitor all accounts for fraud. Notarize your legal papers. Bonded and insured.

FREE initial consultation. Senior Money Manager - Call Sherry (918) 625-2001 PERSONAL SAFETY EARS Emergency Alert Response Systems.

Enjoy living at home while we listen for your safety with our quality personal medical alarm and monitoring service. Very affordable with no long-term commitment.

Locally owned and operated. (918) 2980500 or toll-free (877) 885-3277 HALO Medical Alarms HALO provides emergency response throughout Oklahoma with an office in Tulsa. Let a HALO medical alarm provide you with the confidence and security to live independently in your own home, where you are most comfortable. Call (918) 392-0566 or (877) 747-HALO (4256). www.halomedicalalarms.com PERSONAL SERVICES

Accomplished Help at Home Former owner and administrator of Oklahoma state licensed facility. Help in home management coordinating your needs. Cooking, light housekeeping, transportation to doctors’ appointments. I value your dignity with respect. Excellent references. Adjustable fee according to situation. (918)728-5489 or (918) 270-1671.

20% off Senior Wednesdays 9am-6pm Backstage Hair Design feels you have earned the right to be pampered. We offer quality services of Cuts, Colors, Perms, Roller Sets, Shampoo Styles and much more. Discount applies to hair services only. We are located at (81st & Sheridan) 6703F East 81st Street, Tulsa, OK 74133. Please call for appointments.

(918) 493-1468

Bobbi and Bob’s Personal Assistance The Warshaw Group: errands, personal/medical appointments, shopping, personal business assistance, budget management, bill payment, liaison for clients with physicians, hospitals and healthcare insurance professionals, medical insurance paperwork, organizing services. Contact Bobbi Warshaw at (918) 747-3807 or Bob Warshaw at (918) 852-5301 website: www.errands-to-go. com, email: bobbi.warshaw@att.net.

Affordable Hairstyling In-Home or Shop Can’t get out? Transportation and home service available for your hairstyling needs. A Mane Event hairstyling and tanning service for the entire family. 35 years experience. Senior specials for haircuts, perms, and color. In-shop special: Haircut $7 for first time customers in shop ONLY. Tuesday through Saturday. Near 11th and Yale at 937 S. Canton Ave. (918) 834-2686

Caregivers Assisting with your daily tasks. 26 years experience. Meal preparation, shopping, laundry, light housekeeping, transportation to and from appointments. Service

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Darlene’s Salon Services Hair care for men and women, specializing in senior clients. Wet sets, blow drying, back combing, perms, colors, and cuts.

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month’s special: haircut OR shampoo and set for $12. First time clients only with this ad. Come see us at Highland Plaza, 5661 E. 41st St. (Corner of 41st and Hudson).

(918) 742-3440 Detlef’s Master American European Hair Design Established 1964. Precision cuts, color corrections, perms by design from sensible to sensational. Former owner of Elizabeth Arden Red Door Miss Jackson’s Salon and Coiffures Continental Salon. Catering to classy and mature styles for ladies and gentlemen. Monday – Saturday. Call (918) 663-8779. 4833 South Sheridan, Suite 405A in Fountain Plaza. By appointment only.

Energy Healer Be free of pain and disease! With help from Angels I ethereally connect into the energy surrounding a physical condition and change it, giving the physical body the opportunity to heal itself. Can relieve pain, disease, anxiety, mental & emotional issues. Will travel to you. Call Sherry at (918) 605-3491.

Sherrysternad@gmail.com For Your Feet Many foot problems occur later in life. Let MY S.H.O.P. (Seniors House of Pampering) take care of your tootsies. Soothing, relaxing foot bath followed by massage to help relieve pain and improve circulation. Senior owned and operated. $25 at your place. $20 at my place.

(918) 808-5084 In-Home Beauty Services of Tulsa We provide beauty services to our clients who are unable to leave their home, disabled, hospice care or independent living.

We offer full beauty service for men and women in Tulsa and surrounding areas.

Our services include: shampoo & sets, haircuts, perms, manicures. pedicures.

Licensed and Insured. Visit our website www.inhomebeautyservicesoftulsa.com.

Call (918) 630-6274.

Massage Therapy is great for pain, injury recovery, stress, joint mobility, increased energy, circulation and restful sleep! Licensed therapist with 14 years’ experience. Special Introductory Offer of 3 – one hour appointments for only $99! Offices at 6019 South 66th East Avenue, Suite 206, Tulsa, OK 74145. Call Summer for appointment at (918) 955-4536 or email hanks463@ gmail.com.

PROPERTY MANAGEMENT Property Management & Maintenance Over 40 years experience in property management and maintenance. I help my clients to keep their expenses down and their profits UP. I will help get rid of all your frustrations and headaches. Call Steve at (918) 636-2376 to see how he can help you to maximize the benefits of your property.

REAL ESTATE Selling your home?

Specialized Real Estate Consultant services for senior adults contemplating selling their home, downsizing or retirement living.

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deliveries? Need someone to stay with you during an out-patient medical procedure? Also, available as a driver/ companion for traveling; rates negotiable. Call Patricia! (918) 437-3456 or (918) 855-2302

SOCIAL/SUPPORT GROUP Tulsa Widowed Social Group Have you lost your spouse and looking for an active fun group. The Tulsa Widowed Social Group meets every Wednesday, 3:30 p.m. or Saturdays, noon at the Western Sizzlin, 6510 East 21st Street.

Since 1970, the group meets for a light meal, a short meeting and playing cards.

Meet new friends weekly and occasionally go on day trips of fun and fellowship.

Questions, call Bob at (918) 371-4367 or Nancy at (918) 341-3375.

TRAVEL Affordable Motor Coach Tours 2014 APRIL 30-MAY 8: Washington D.C. 9 days $875. JULY: Elvis’s Graceland (Memphis)& Gambling (Tunica) 5 Days.

SEPTEMBER: Grand Canyon & Hoover Dam 9 days. $835 DECEMBER: Christmas in Branson 3 days $305. $75 Deposit per trip. Junkets by Jill Travel (918) 407-9031. Junketsbyjill.com

My Driver Transportation Service Let me do the driving. To and from work, airport, shopping, errands, post office, appointments. Also, LIFT VAN transportation available. Able to assist getting to and from bed. Senior sitting. Also, small breed dog boarding. 20 years experience. CLEET certified and licensed.

References. Member, Better Business Bureau. (918) 491-9929 Travel Made Easy Motor home with lift and driver available for short in-state or long out-of-state trips. Seats 6 comfortably. Cross country patient transfer or sightseeing. Also available for rent: powerchair for shopping, hospital visits, etc. Member, Better Business Bureau. (918) 491-9929 WINDOW CLEANING SERVICE Mr. Alfred Window Cleaning Service Over 15 years of experience cleaning various types of residential and commercial windows. Better Business Bureau accredited business. Reasonable rates.

Serving the Tulsa, Broken Arrow, and Jenks areas. Call between 8 a.m. and 5 p.m., Monday through Saturday, to schedule a free estimate. (918) 893-2983 Window Cleaning Let us help you with Spring Cleaning!

Window cleaning and will do odd jobs including gutter cleaning. Free Estimates.

Insured. References Available. Call Rex at (918) 510-0091 or (918) 895-1668.

Travel Tours Travel by luxury motorcoach with TRAVEL TOURS and see the USA! Transportation, hotels, events and several meals are included. Upcoming 2014 tours include: Eureka Springs & Branson; Mt. Rushmore & the Black Hills; Pennsylvania Dutch & Niagara Falls; and San Francisco & Yosemite National Park. Call for more info or to book your tour. (918) 485-4595.

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