May/June 2022 Issue - All about the MEN

May/June 2022 Issue

Inspiring Communities Everywhere!

MANHOOD The Thought, The Walk Cover Story pg. 30

Dwight Williams Community Hero pg. 10

The Art, The Focus Authors Speak pg. 23 www.vandpmediaproductions.com

Inspirational Moments pg. 6

Prayer

Business & Entrepreneurship pg. 14

Being in the Entrepreneurial Lane

Contents

Health & Wellness pg. 16

7 Nutrients for Men Men’s Health is Wealth

Education is Key pg. 20

It’s All About the Teachers

Authors Speak pg. 23

The Art, The Focus

Community Outreach pg. 44

Monthly Commemorations Tapping into your Positive Traits

All Things Fashion pg. 48 The Barber Shop Talk Shop Talk with Troy Michel

Arts & Media pg. 52

10 Life Lessons from Arts & Media

Cover Story pg. 30 “Community is EVERYWHERE!!”

Community Hero pg. 10

Community News Flash pg. 26 Inside the Community pg. 28 From the V&P Ladies pg. 54 Birthday Shout-Outs pg. 56

Contributing

Writers May/June 2022 Issue Marjorie Middleton Karen McConnell-Jones Jason Greene Kyonna F. Brown Michelle DeMarcia Davis Belinda Stevenson Antonio “Tony T” Turner Martina Turner Seth Washington

Editor-In-Chief

Marjorie Middleton

Deputy Editors

Seth Washington Karen McConnell-Jones

Director of Graphics & Design Krystal Glenn

Director of Sales

Karen McConnell-Jones

Photographers

Dominique Massaquoi Tara “CaribGem” Lewis Lechel

Layout & Design

Krystal Glenn Michelle DeMarcia Davis Karen Clay If you are interested in writing for Vision and Purpose Community Magazine, send a writing sample and which column you are interested in to info@vandpmediaproductions.com

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Inspirational Moments

Prayer

By Marjorie Middleton

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am a witness to the fact that prayer changes things. I have a relationship with Christ, my higher power, so I have communication with Him. In that quiet talk time, I share my deepest failures, desires and disappointments. He is a brother, a friend and as importantly, a prayer answering Father.

I have always had a close adult relationship with my parents. Like all children I did not tell them every detail of my life, but they were always available for counsel and listening. Then during the same year I married, they moved to South Carolina. It was an adjustment, but life went on. A few years later when I became pregnant, my then husband and I decided to go to church and change our lives because we were having a baby, a responsibility! We stopped going to clubs and parties. We learned about God, we began a partnership with Him, growing closer to Him daily. The Lord became my confidant and things I never told anyone, I told Him. Later, as I went through a divorce and my children grew older and life continued, I still held on to God in an ever changing world. I prayed more and more because I needed that constant, ever present assurance of my higher power. There are many benefits of prayer, besides answers. Prayer changes things, not just situations, but it also can: Clear your mind Calm your spirit Relax your body Refresh your soul The Oxford dictionary definition of prayer, ’a solemn request for help or expression of thanks addressed to God…” 6 Vision & Purpose Community Magazine

I say all of this to say, I’m grateful for the Lord’s presence in my life. He is radical and reckless for me.

He cares for me tirelessly and constantly. In turn, I want to care for those I love in a fearless, radical, every day kind of way. I want to tackle social justice causes in the same way. Everybody deserves love and care.

Everybody deserves a home and food to eat. For your families, your friends, your neighbors and this lost world, be an advocate, a change maker. Remember, Christ didn’t live in the palace like the King He is, but instead, lived on the streets with the people who needed Him. I am so happy to know that during the times when my life feels so full, and during the times when it may feel empty and overwhelming, I always have prayer, my talk-time, and Him, lover of all mankind. What a blessing, what a promise. Reminds me of an old hymn (just the first verse and refrain is a heart-ful): Blessed Assurance Blessed Assurance, Jesus is mine!

Oh, what a foretaste of glory divine!

Heir of salvation, purchase of God Born of His Spirit, washed in His blood.

This is my story, this is my song Praising my Savior, all the day long This is my story, this is my song Praising my Savior all the day long. (song by Alan Jackson) Vision & Purpose Community Magazine 7

Prayer should be a pure and honest communication. State your request and wait.

We don’t always get what we expect to get, but we always get what we need.

Sometimes what we need is painful, but that allows for growth.

My Dad was a resilient person. He was strong, smart and hardworking. Almost thirty years ago he was diagnosed with prostate cancer. Studies and successes with this disease have grown since then, so prognosis is more favorable, then more precarious; but, we got through it. In my prayer time with my Mom and siblings, I was assured that all would be well, so I prayed a litany of thanksgiving and appreciation. I knew. Ten years ago my Dad was diagnosed with liver cancer.

During this prayer time, I prayed a prayer, again of appreciation and thanksgiving.

But, this was appreciation for my Dad’s life and his blessings in my life, my children’s lives and his contributions to all of our family. Thanksgiving that he was the best provider and husband and father he could be. Thanksgiving that he walked me down the aisle when I married and supported me even when that marriage was not successful. Thanksgiving that he got to meet all 12 of his grandchildren and formed an everlasting relationship with each of them. Life doesn’t always follow the rules, at least not the ones we’ve created. Thanksgiving that he would no longer live with pain. He passed away 9 months later. I knew.

My prayer for you, get to know and trust Him. Have a conversation (prayer) with the Lord to start the process. Think of a time when you needed answers, no matter how trivial…”Lord, is this the best suit to wear for this interview?” Sounds a bit silly, but the point is, make yourself as familiar with Him as He is with you. Read about God, worship Him. Communicate with Him in prayer.

Do you remember the story of Job in the bible? He went through so much hardship, unspeakable pain, and every step of that journey the enemy kept telling him to curse God and get that out of the way. Job never did. He trusted in his journey while keeping close communication open (prayer) with his savior. During that time, he asked God, “teach me” (Job 6:24). “Give me understanding” (Job 26:1-14). He was expressing that life seems unfair, feels like an infected and unhealed cut at times. Sometimes we don’t understand, but in order to persevere we must learn that God cares for us and will not allow anything more than we can stand, even when that feels so heavy. Find strength and healing to keep moving through your journey by knowing and accepting His promises to you.

Mind, spirit, body and soul, allow Him to know all of you. Trust in His answers.

The power of prayer will help you to overcome all anxiety and worry if you only trust and believe in the Lord’s promises. Philippians 4:6-7 says: “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”

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Special Dedication

A Wife’s Perspective of a Husband’s Manhood

By Karen McConnell-Jones

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In Loving Memory of Gregory Jones

hat does a woman look for in a man that will take her from courting him to saying,“I do”? This is a question that will allow for real conversation to take place about what manhood looks like from a woman’s perspective. What are the qualities and characteristics that a man possesses to define the true depth of his manhood? This is what women really want to know and are looking for when dating that special someone.

For me, it is true that a man really wants a woman that he can give the three P’s of what is important to him as a man. Being the provider, the protector, and able to profess his love. I guess Steve Harvey kind of let the cat out of the bag or should I say that he let women in on the spoken truth of what a man feels has to happen in his maturity of real manhood before taking in his woman to be.

Even in our young adult dating life, it was important to Greg that he was capable of giving me the three P’s and continuing to work hard to afford us continuous growth and opportunities. One by one, we were able to achieve all our hopes and dreams. Even in our darkest hour, he always had a way of making me laugh and never giving up on the positive possibilities that were on the other side of our challenges.

The true strength of Greg’s manhood was his ability in understanding the essence of a woman, he knew how to be sensitive yet attentive to all my needs. Greg was my biggest cheerleader and very supportive to “all things Karen” without hesitation. Most of all, he wasn’t afraid to show me his vulnerability, knowing I would be his safety net of strength and the protector of his emotions, without judgment.

On our fun side, he allowed me to be the big sports head in the house. During the football season, Sundays were extremely noisy in our house and it was just the two of us. We were very competitive with each other. Even though he played semi-pro tennis, in teaching me how to play I would declare every time that I was going to beat him and yet every time he would win. And on those rare occasions that I would win, trust me he didn’t let me win, I knew he was proud of me because it showed that his teaching skills were paying off. So, at the end of it all I guess it still was a win for him. DAG!!! He just beat me again! GET IT?!

I am grateful to God for allowing me to have the experience of a loving marriage, a husband that knew the importance of real manhood and how it relates to a healthy marriage.

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Community Hero Vision & Purpose Community Magazine (VPCM): Tell us about our Community Hero?

Dwight Williams (DW): I was born in St. Thomas U.S. Virgin Islands and raised in Jamaica Queens, New York. I am a commissioned officer with the Maryland Army National Guard, a graduate of Bowie State University, and a member of the Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity. In addition, I am the Vice President of Marketing for Elements Haircare Products Inc. Lastly, I believe this article will shine some light into who I am and my background in general, as I’m just a servant of the community.

VPCM: Tell us which branch of the military you serve and why serving your country is important to you?

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DW: I am currently serving in the Maryland Army National Guard; I was previously active-duty Air Force and Air Force Reserve. I grew up in Queens, New York. After migrating from the Virgin Islands and growing up in Queens, I saw a lot of people I knew fall prey to the system, but in the middle of that there were a lot of beacons of light that showed me that no matter where I was raised or how bad the environment might have been you can make it out. I applied to take the military entrance exam for the Air Force and on my first attempt I scored well enough to get into the medical field, although I was led to take another path in the military. Serving in the military is important to me because I am willing to perform the duties that are needed for our country and give my life for these positive role models that lead our great nation.

VPCM: What is your greatest strength/asset?

DW: My greatest strength/asset is what becomes when my ability to think outside the box, resilience, drive is combined. It’s easy to focus on one strength but in some aspects, I function on a higher level and the ability to do that isn’t based on any one strength.

VPCM: Who/What inspires you and why?

VPCM: How do you use your gift/talent to give back to the community?

DW: I’ve been in the Air Force, Air Force Reserve, I’ve been a Nevada State Trooper, a Federal Corrections Officer, I’ve been at the low end of the academic spectrum when I was in high school, I’ve been on the dean’s list in college, I’ve started a few corporations, and multiple small businesses.

I give back to the community in multiple ways, I’ve mentored multiple young adults in the foster care system, I’ve volunteered at high schools in the local community and most of all I mentor my soldiers who make up the Prince George’s County Community as well as the Baltimore County community. I share my experiences to let young people know they have multiple options and there are multiple outcomes based on how they execute those options.

VPCM: What does community mean to you?

DW: To me the very concept of community is similar to the neuro network of the brain.

Community is a powerhouse when harnessed for a given purpose. I grew up in the New York City during the 80’s and while I witnessed the unhinged wave of destruction carried out on the city, it was one of those drug dealers who told me to focus on school and as a backup how to defend myself if I got into a bad situation that I couldn’t get out of.

There’s no real glamor in some of the decisions that members of our community make, but in most cases, there is an opportunity to steer that person away from the wrong path.

DW: I think initially what inspired me was the people who told me that I wouldn’t amount to anything in life. Why these people tried to feed me that I don’t know, but that drove me until I got to Jr. High school and met my English teacher Mr. James C. Morris; he dressed like he was in one of those old school blacksploitation films, but he was the most confident person on the planet as far as I could see. He once had a writing contest in the class, and I just wrote a creative story and won the contest. That was my first time winning anything and I believe it was just the situation of an adult recognizing something in me that was positive. The next person was Mrs. Barbra Quade. After returning from my second military deployment I decided I wanted to become a military officer and she was the first person to believe that I could do it. She died of cancer and although it took a while, I kept that promise to become a commissioned officer.

VPCM: What does Vision and Purpose mean to you?

DW: To me Vision and Purpose means it only takes an idea and the rest is execution, everything else boils down to how long it may realistically take to carry out a thing.

VPCM: Give an affirmation quote and/or biblical scripture to live by?

DW: I’m reminded of part of a poem I memorized during my early days in the frat (Kappa Alpha Psi).

“It’s easy to be ordinary, it takes courage to excel.

Excel I must because all the world is at the edge of its seat” the original version was by Baldwin Wallace University coach Eddie Finnigan “It is very easy to be ordinary, but it takes courage to excel, and we must excel.”

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V&P Men of Honor Celebrating National Brother’s Day and National Military Appreciation Month

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Business & Entrepreneurship

Being In the Entrepreneurial Lane

By Karen McConnell-Jones

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hen deciding to start a business or becoming an entrepreneur, in most cases, we are coming from a place of being willing to put our natural talent or skill set to the test. Yet, it could be as simple as an interest that we have studied and are now willing to explore the opportunity that it may present. Becoming an entrepreneur means you are willing to take the financial risk with the expectation of turning it into a profit. For most, this is how it all starts. Taking what you are knowledgeable about, from a dream, to a vision and having it to be a reality.

Studies have shown that when it comes to the high-risk world of entrepreneurship, men still outnumber women in this area of work. It has been studied, investors and banks are quicker to support a start-up business headed up by men than women. It also has been reported that most businesses are owned by the White community (70.8%), followed by Hispanic or Latino (14.4), Asian (6.2%), and then the Black community (2.3%).

The first thing that all new or potential entrepreneurs should know is the importance of business credit. Once you decide to start your own business you should work on establishing business credit right away. This can be as simple as once you register your business name and obtain a Federal Tax ID Number (EIN), then open up a business bank account, getting a small limited business credit card, establishing business credit with the different vendors that your business will be using, borrow from lenders that report to credit bureaus and making sure your business is listed in good standing..

When Black male business owners were asked the top ten things one should have when starting/having a business, they listed the following: They all agreed that everyone’s experience will be different but what is needed to get off to a successful start is being knowledgeable in the field of business that you are about to embark upon and be willing to put in the hard work. You must push beyond limitations.

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10 things to know when starting or having a business: Establish business credit.

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Stay innovative

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Stay aware of your business district. What’s being built around you and how does it help to enhance your business?

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For brick-and-mortar businesses, find the best location for your business.

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Know who your politicians and developers are within your business district.

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Have a great accountant.

Build business relationships

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Use your business to be of service to the community.

Have the best customer service at all times. NO EXCEPTIONS

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Health & Wellness

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t is a fact that there are seven nutrients that a man should include in his daily diet to maintain a healthy nutritional lifestyle. These seven nutrients are: Protein, Fiber, Omega-3 Fatty Acids, Potassium, Magnesium, Selenium and Vitamin D. Each one of these nutrients requires a daily amount and when taken properly they will give a man the basic building blocks of living a healthy and happy life.

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Nutrients for Men

by Jason Greene

PROTEIN is a building block to muscle and during any weight loss process the burning of muscle and fat is a normal occurrence, so maintaining a certain amount of daily protein is a must. Protein is also a natural human sustainable energy source that will keep you attentive and focused which is useful for any daily activity that all men have. Any lean meat such as trimmed beef, pork or lamb and boneless skinless chicken breast or thighs as well as beans and nuts are included.

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FIBER is a requirement for men due to our naturally large physique, we have to absorb more calories per day and fiber is the perfect source to break down and gradually sustain the nutrients in those caloric foods without sporadic energy depletion.

Deep colored fruits and vegetables such as apples, bananas, carrots and peppers are loaded with fiber. Beans and legumes are also a great source of fiber.

OMEGA-3 FATTY ACIDS are vital to men’s health and truly unique in the sense that we cannot produce them on our own which means we must get them from foods. Another unique thing about Omega-3 is that they assist in the regulation of cholesterol, blood-clotting and inflammation. Heart Disease being a leading cause of death for Black males, we must include this amazing nutrient in our daily diet. Leafy green vegetables such as spinach, flaxseeds and walnuts are full of Omega-3. Freshwater fish such as salmon and albacore tuna are great sources of Omega-3.

These nutrients to me are a man’s ‘7 wonders of the world’, because without them we will never achieve the greatness needed to be the true kings that we are. In nature you will find that most carnivorous male species utilize these nutrients in some shape or fashion to maintain their dominance and with that perspective, in my opinion, we should be one in the same.

POTASSIUM is a mineral nutrient that does wonders for the heart. Any type of cardiovascular treatment needed, potassium is the one key nutrient that our body needs to heal. Potassium is particularly useful due to its composition with its ability to regulate a man’s salt intake preventing sodium related illnesses such as high blood pressure.

Starch heavy Fruits and vegetables such as bananas, avocados, canterlopes, potatoes, apricots and squash are all great sources of Potassium.

MAGNESIUM is that silent nutrient not really spoken about but incredibly important to men’s health. Due to this nutrient’s silent nature its’ key component helps regulate stress levels which is a silent killer for all humans.

Magnesium also assists in a healthy sleep cycle to keep us relaxed and focused so we can properly lead our families. Yogurt, nuts, and seeds are great sources of magnesium.

But black beans and halibut are loaded with it, understanding that this nutrient might be the hardest to obtain daily. it’s definitely a must.

SELENIUM is also a mineral that is a critical compound of your thyroid gland which controls your metabolism and growth.

The mineral is also key to maintaining healthy reproductive organs for men and keeping them functioning properly while preventing debilitating physical illnesses such as arthritis.

Lean beef and poultry, cold-water fish like salmon, nuts and whole grains provide a healthy amount of selenium.

VITAMIN D, which is truly unique because it’s the one nutrient on this list that you do not have to eat on a daily basis to maintain a healthy lifestyle. The only requirement to properly get enough vitamin d is to go outside in the sun for 10 to 30 min daily.

Just like plants and photosynthesis, humans absorb energy from the sun and transform it into Vitamin D which becomes a preventive measure towards strokes.

This can be challenging in the winter months but during that time you can supplement by maintaining a healthy intake of milk and other related dairy products such as eggs and cheese.

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Men’s Health Is Wealth By: Kyonna F. Brown

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hen we think about wealth, most often we relate that to financial status.

Wealth is also related to our mental health. In your mental health we must remember to build up ourselves in such a way that our mindset is wealthy, our spirit is wealthy, and our physical status is wealthy. In the African American community men are not known to focus on the wealth of their health. Many mothers, sisters, girlfriends, and wives are the advocates for our men’s health, striving to produce healthy lineage.

Men are generally pushed to focus on being the leader, the strong one, and the head of the household. Most often, as little boys they are even told not to cry. To be tough and to just suck it up. Being a wife, a sister, and a friend to African American males I have noticed the lack of care they put into mental health. Coming from a background where therapy is taboo, I find it necessary to be the bullhorn for therapy especially amongst my community.

It’s not just the community who shallowly talk about mental health as it pertains to African American males, it is also the professionals such as doctors who can aid in a forward progression in this area. Compared to others, Black men are less likely to be offered evidence-based treatments and are more likely to encounter communication problems with their doctors. There is a study that found some physicians are 23 percent more verbally dominant toward African Americans and 33 percent less likely to engage in patient-centered dialogue. This undermines the trust needed to build a positive relationship and results in less information, less support and less effective care overall, adversely affecting treatment outcomes.

When mental illness goes unnoticed or untreated, it contributes to higher rates of substance abuse, incarceration, suicide and homelessness, which in turn negatively impact one’s state of mind. If the mind is affected it lessens the possibility of creating the wealthy mindset needed to sustain this life and become the true Kings they were meant to become.

Black men are particularly vulnerable to this pattern as they’re more likely to engage in these and other challenges in their daily lives. In my opinion the way the community and health care system are set up only encourages failure for our males. Considering the world’s climate, culturally speaking, it is imperative that we encourage men globally to seek the care that they need in total wellness. It is not just the African American men who suffer, it’s men of many races and low economic status. Due to these and other factors, it’s imperative that we work together to change our thought process on mental illness and bring greater awareness to the issues affecting the community. Let’s help bridge the gap of the broken mindset to a healing mindset. After all, our health is our wealth. Let’s take back what is rightfully ours.

Men, you are valuable and worth it.

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Education is Key

It’s All About The Teachers

By Michelle DeMarcia Davis

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eachers are an important key to the success of our students and community. Please take the time to celebrate your teacher for setting our students up for a successful future as we celebrate Teacher’s Appreciation week and Graduations for the 2021-2022 school year. A simple thank you card or email to remind teachers of how much they are appreciated makes a world of difference to remind them of the positive difference they make in our universe. Gifts are an added bonus.

National Teacher Day began in 1953 when former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt proposed that Congress set aside a day to acknowledge the work of educators. Since 1985, NEA has celebrated National Teacher Day on the Tuesday of the first full week of May. Learningsciences.com shares specifically, it started with an African American woman who taught at a school in the segregated South. At some point during the early 1940s, Mattie Whyte Woodridge (1909–1999), an Arkansas teacher, decided that educators should be recognized for the contributions they make to society. She set to work on a mission to make that happen.

Woodridge wrote to every governor in the United States.

She corresponded with a host of politicians and leaders in education, stressing the need for a national day to honor teachers. In 1944, one of the many letters she wrote landed on the desk of First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt.

Mrs. Roosevelt acted upon that letter, asking the 81st U.S. Congress to consider setting aside one day per year to acknowledge and honor the work of teachers. In addition, the National Education Association (NEA), joined by its state affiliates in Kansas and Indiana, worked tirelessly to help make Woodridge’s suggestion a reality. Like Mrs. Roosevelt, the NEA lobbied Congress to create a day for the nation to celebrate teachers.Woodridge gradually saw her plan materialize.

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Mattie Whyte Woodridge continued to work as an educator in the Arkansas Delta, eventually serving as principal of North End Elementary School in Helena in the 1950s. Although her idea worked its way through Congress for decades, she lived to see its fruition.

At first, Congress declared March 7, 1980, as National Teacher Day—but only for that particular year.

However, a growing movement to make it an annual event had already taken root, and people throughout the country continued to celebrate it. For several more years, the NEA and its affiliates observed National Teacher Day on the first Tuesday of March, and in 1985, the NEA Representative Assembly voted to officially designate that day as National Teacher Day.

Black Men Are An Essential Key To Education As a writer for V&P Community Magazine, I am delighted to be a part of our special May/June edition honoring our men and hoping you have been enjoying this special edition thus far. I wanted to take this time to write about how our Black men are an essential part of education.

Being the key to our success as protectors and providers setting us up for success. Nevertheless, I was shocked to research and find that since 2014, ethnic and racial minorities make up more than half of the student population in U.S. public schools, yet about 80 percent of teachers are white and 77 percent of them are female. People of color make up about 20 percent of teachers; a mere 2 percent are Black men and less than 2 percent are principals.

We are in need for more Black male educators. If you are a Black male who ever considered teaching, please know that now is the time. There are all types of grants, programs and opportunities to be a teacher, professor, substitute teacher etc.

Having our children seeing you as a role model, leading by example will set them up for success, being more of a blessing than you will ever know. If you see teaching as your vision and purpose, please research on how to fulfill this. Our future generations depend on you and we thank you in advance!

Thank you so much to our Black men 2%+ that are stepping up and leading the way in education as Teachers, Principals, Vice Principals, Substitute Teachers, Professors, Coaches etc.… You are appreciated and making more of a difference than words can ever express.

Black Men Educators We Honor You!

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Congratulations Graduate!!!

Your hard work, dedication and persistence have finally paid off.

Whether you are graduating from one grade to another, Elementary school, Middle school, High school, Vocational school, Trade school, a Certificate program, College etc… please take the time to celebrate your wonderful accomplishment.

We are so excited for your future and we’re glad you fulfilled one of your most important visions and purposes.

Tips to avoid the Summer Slide • Read for 20 to 30 minutes daily What is the “Summer slide”?

“Summer slide” is the tendency for students, especially those from lowincome families, to lose some of the achievement and gains they made during the previous school year.

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• Find fun free educational programs online • Ask your schools if they offer programs and school work • Check with your local library for learning programs

Authors Speak

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t is truly something to experience and quite an honor in witnessing amazing artwork or should I say, I now completely understand the meaning of, “beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”. Well, behold, I was very much touched by one man’s majestic photographic art, along with, his spiritual words of expression reminding us that “God Is The Focus.”

The Art, The Focus

By Karen McConnell-Jones

Vision & Purpose (V&P) Community Magazine had the pleasure of doing this special interview with the distinguished gentleman, Colonel Giles, while our team was in the midst of publishing his book of visual and written content. In sitting down with Mr. Giles to work on his book project and interview, I was both overwhelmed with joy and anxiously excited to converse with him. I could also see the joy in his eyes, finally he was completing his mission and purpose, honoring God with this book. Thank you, Mr. Giles, for entrusting the V&P team with your work and with your story. This is such a divinely inspired narrative that leaves us without a doubt in knowing who the center of our perspective should be. God!

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Here’s How It All Got Started Mr. Giles began in the arts and media profession by carrying a resume, or as it was known back in his day, the U.S. Government form, 1-71. The document was sent to the Office of Economic Opportunity by the Office of Personnel Management (OPM) in Washington, DC. When he was hired, his duties included preparing press releases and working in audiovisual. After two years, the agency was canceled, and he was then hired to work in the U.S. Department of Treasury.

His assignment was to videotape trainees auditioning to work for the FBI and Customs.

After two years, the agency relocated to Georgia. Mr. Giles went on to work with the U.S. Department of Transportation’s Federal Highway Administration and was assigned to work in the audiovisual office. Later, he was promoted to the lead videographer, as well as, producer, along with a variety of other ‘hats’ that he wore within the job. He had the honor of videotaping the Secretaries of Transportation and the Federal Highway Administrators, along with many other distinguished guests and employees.

Mr. Giles’ love for photography grew stronger as time went on. Early on, an intimate connection with still film photography, later shifted to a true love of digital. He always had the natural, God gifted talent and the passion for capturing images. One of his highlights was a photograph that he took of a gentleman selling flowers along Connecticut Avenue Northwest in Washington, D.C. In that moment, the street vendor made a sale and put the money in his socks. Mr. Giles entered the photograph into a contest at the Baltimore Sun and received an honorable mention. This was truly a great acknowledgement for him. “Yes, I also love photographing anything in nature, but snakes and skunks”, said Mr. Giles with a laugh.

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Taking His Art to the Pages This is truly inspiring. At the age of 75 years FRESH, Mr. Giles makes a point of letting you know that he keeps his mental and physical stability going by putting it all in God’s hands. He eats healthy and works out regularly but realizes that he is not in control of his life. It too belongs to God. He prays more than once every day and he also thanks God more than once in a day.

This he shared about the path to publishing, “I wanted to do this book as an offering to God. Loving still photography and waking up in the middle of the night between 2:00am and 3:00am to write the quotes that God was giving me, I knew he wasn’t giving me all of this to hang on the wall or put it on the shelf to collect dust.”

“I made three vows to God, and one of the vows that I made to him was, Lord, I will write you a book. So, the book has been written and now finally published.”

Mr. Giles had previously mentioned the deepest thoughts and inner-most purposes that God had placed on his heart with his beloved wife, Mrs. Gladys Marie Holt-Giles. Together they began the journey toward Mr. Giles becoming a published author, prior to her passing in November of 2020.

The couple was married for seven years, and she was quite instrumental in curating the content for this book.

Then Came A Revelation

About his divinely led vision, Mr. Giles continued, “My target audience is not only those who know God but those of whom may have fallen. My hope and prayer are for those that may not know God or know very little about him, and don’t read the Bible much or maybe not at all. I know it may be a hard sell, but if I can get one person to read the book and then focus on God, it will be a success. As the scripture is written, if one person is saved and the devil doesn’t get him or her, God and his angels will rejoice in heaven. I pray for more, but God can find a way. My book introduction states that God reaches us in many different ways, He will then be the focus of our lives.”

Mr. Giles also imparted how he wanted the audience to know that God is real and that he is a jealous and caring God. His doors are never shut, and through prayer, we can always call and count on Him. He wants the reader of his book to know how God has turned his life around and how God can do the same for any one of us. Mr. Giles never thought he would say this but he wanted to be real and with all honesty, it is Jesus who inspires him. He shared that there will never be another Jesus, a man whom he has never met and who, nevertheless, made him jealous because of all the things that Jesus has done and continues to do that he could not do.

Mr. Giles explained, “But God has changed that. I am able to do some of the things he did. He allows me to be a humble man, I can love, I can pray for those who need prayer, I can comfort, feed, shelter, quench a neighbor’s thirst and pull someone up by their bootstraps. With this, God is allowing me to share my life experiences and now these written words and beautiful photographic pieces with the world. He has permitted me to have something to be proud of while honoring Him all the same, and He also is permitting me to leave something that my three beautiful children can be proud of in their father. In addition, I want to take this time to say, my three children inspire me as well, and I too, am proud of them.”

“I just want everyone to know that God is the focus. He is the reason, and my faith is entrusted in Him. For me, I know spirituality means that there is something bigger than I am in heaven or on the other side of where I am standing. Something that I feel but cannot touch, although I might feel it touching me”, he further conveyed.

As we came to the end of our very inspirational conversation, Mr. Giles sincerely wanted the reader of his book to also know that God loves you and that each of us should remember to love him back. He then concluded with this, “Just thank you all, my readers, for allowing me to express my words, my love, and my gratitude for an amazing and mighty God I serve. I can truly say there are so many beautiful scriptures that I carry with me always, in my heart.”

ROMANS 8:35 (NKJV) Who shall separate us from the love of Christ?

Amen!

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Community News Flash

You Get to Choose

By Marjorie Middleton & Karen McConnell-Jones

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t has been voiced that from time to time we all have “worn our emotions on our sleeves” in front of a small group of close family or friends, and sometimes in a display for a much larger crowd, which can lead to consequences we’d not even considered. But it really is true...people can look at you and think they know you by your appearance or demeanor, when in fact they never know who you really are until you share your words and actions. Our wisdom and humility can have us to be remembered in a positive light or our reaction can have us spending forever trying to erase the remembrance of our bad behavior. At the end of the day, we are in charge of how we are remembered.

At the 94th Academy Awards ceremony (March 27, 2022), Will Smith…actor, rapper and film producer…became the “first rapper to win an acting Oscar, 33 years after he became the first musician to win a Grammy for rap music.” (Wikipedia) Phenomenal accomplishments. Will has had much commercial success with music, television and motion pictures and has been married for 25 years to his wife, Jada Pinkett-Smith. He has 3 children, the oldest from his first marriage.

On that night, when slated to become only the 5th Black actor to win an Academy Award, Will made what appeared to be an emotional decision to rise from his seat and walk to the stage to smack the host, Chris Rock. He smacked him because Chris, a comedian, made a joke about Will’s wife. Afterwards, Will went back to his seat and proceeded to curse and yell at the host/comedian.

Black men are incessantly watched, judged and ridiculed more than any other male on the planet. That can be a deterrent or it can be an incentive. Take those eyes as encouragement to be your best, brothers, do your best. Take those eyes as encouragement to be leaders and great role models. Take those eyes and make sure they stay on the Black Kings that you are.

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Our character is what defines us and our actions are what is seen, what is looked upon as part of our character traits. What do your character traits say about you? Yes, character traits are a part of one’s behavior and attitude that helps to make up one’s personality, whether good or bad. So, remember, you get to choose and your choices are impressionable.

Our men are sons, fathers, brothers, grandfathers. Our men represent life. Our men represent power. They represent a higher faith. As we encourage, we build. As we build, we grow. As we grow, we take time to make good and right decisions and choices. We do not profess to know what will come from the incident at the Academy Awards for Chris or Will, besides Will being banned for 10 years, but we do know this is a teachable moment for fathers with their sons. We do know that from this side of it, as a spectator, it appears that Chris showed the world what real MANHOOD looks like and how a gentleman should act…he didn’t fight nor yell back. He has said not one rude thing about his brother. It appears that Will has the opportunity to teach how to better handle hurt, disappointment and anger. We all are responsible for our actions and should take the responsibility of amends if we’ve made bad choices.

Here are the takeaways: - It’s not for any of us to judge our brother (or sister).

- We all have made quick and unhealthy decisions at some point and time in our lives and have received God’s grace.

- We must not stand in judgment, as this too shall pass.

- We must allow for the situation to be released.

- Let go and let God, as He is a forgiving God and the last to give authority over us.

- He grants us another day to make things better.

Matthew 7:1-2 (NIV): “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

You get to choose.

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Inside the Community

Photo Recap from the 2nd Annual Good Friday Fish Fry Hosted by The Community is Priority Group

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Welcome to the V&P Community Magazine’s First Issue Solely Dedicated to MEN

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istinguished men have previously graced the cover of V&P Community Magazine. Building upon that, this is the very first issue, wherein, the full editorial thrust is dedicated to men.

The theme is, Manhood: The Thought and The Walk, as observed in 2022 and revealed in the lives, as well as, livelihoods of four outstanding men of our community, reflected via the magazine’s departments, including: Fashion and Style Health and Wellness Arts and Media Business and Entrepreneurship

Manhood, the very sound of the word has impact, something perhaps to behold, a ready resource for provision and one to be appreciated. Old school Dads and Grandfathers seemed to represent this template so very well and with great honor.

Has society’s changing times and the influence of technology blurred the meaning?

In a world wherein harsh physical needs and boundaries have been mostly overcome, what is the place for manhood? In this age, how is the term defined, or is it defined at all, and what happens to power that exists in an undefined status?

In the next few pages, we hope to provide some clarity, understanding and useful insight regarding the meaning and necessity of Manhood.

Contributing writers include: Tony Turner Jason Greene Seth Washington and Karen McConnell-Jones You might agree, that the combined strength of Manhood and Womanhood is simply incredible. As such, further along in this issue, the women of V&P share their perspectives about what they admire about men. As well, they unleash questions about things they always wanted to ask about men and the men of V&P provide answers.

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Manhood in Style and Fashion Meet Dave Harell, The Suit Brother

By Tony Turner Enter Dave Aka The Suit Brother LLC. What’s in a name? Hiram David Harrell, III, better known as Dave, is a man after God’s own heart. Like King David in the Bible, he is a man of faith who is focused on taking care of his family, arming his men with confidence in the world of fashion. As the name of the company says, he is The Suit Brother.

Dave quit his 9 to 5 to follow his dream of opening his own clothier along with his dad. The Suit Brother LLC., is a force to be reckoned with in today’s men’s fashion, in the world of custom suits and formal wear. He is now working on a woman’s collection.

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anhood: What makes a man, a man’s Man? Is it the swag or the purpose of the man’s life? Could it be the way he expresses himself in his sense of style? Maybe it’s the cut of his suit, the design of the shoe, or the material of both.

It could be his confidence or maybe his intelligence.

Could it be his brave heart, his willingness to drop it all to protect his family and noble causes? The wellgroomed man will always turn heads and be noticed.

Nothing turns a lady on more than a fresh cut and a handsome smile. The beard cut to perfection can open closed doors and receive hot plates of delicious edibles. I have spent $1000 + on sheers made of exquisite metal that cut hair with such precision. It costs to be the boss. End of the day, it’s the role of provider & protector. Put on a custom-made suit and there’s one word that comes from his lady and kid’s mouth. That word is daddy! He doesn’t waste time; he knows how valuable it is. Deals to be made, problems to be slayed.

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His company puts up some pretty big numbers and he is blessed to be able to keep delicious meals on the table. Yes, ladies the man can cook! Bringing home the bacon and frying it up in the pan. Both Dave and Troy, his wife are entrepreneurs, Dave works for his company and Troy is in media. She is an influencer who has started her own line of products from mugs to planners. She has a story to tell and sell. What makes this amazing is they are both in their thirties. Working together to manage the kids and manage their business. And let’s not forget to support and take care of each other.

COVID-19 pushed the kids to go virtual, so for the last two years everybody has been in the house learning and loving each other. Black love, tell me God ain’t Good! I know they have been exhausted but to look at them, they look amazing!

Dave does business around the world, most times when we are sleeping, he is working in time zones on the other side of the world. Oftentimes they are working when the kids are sleeping so it is nothing for them to be working at 3:00 in the morning.

The other thing is that they have fun working on content for their social media platforms. They are self marketed. That means they are creating their own content, editing, and filming themselves and family. Everybody must do their part. What makes a man a man’s man? Is it the clothes he wears or is it the man who wears the clothes? Or is it the reason he puts the clothes on? I would say all of the above! That is Mr. Hiram David Harrell lll aka The Suit Brother. More than a businessman, he is a father, husband, and son, giving his best for his family. Respect given, Black Man.

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David, also known as The Suit Brother, is a 38-year-old husband, father of seven and men’s fashion designer based in Richmond, VA by way of Atlanta, GA. His designs have graced several runways, red carpet events, tv shows, and even a few celebrities such as Nick Cannon and Don Benjamin, to name a few. From tuxedo dresses to a Beauty & The Beast inspired blazer for a Disney wedding, his talent and creativity know no bounds.

He gets his love of fashion from his father who began modeling as a hobby in his early twenties.

After 32 years in the postal service, his father retired and opened the family business, a retail menswear store front committed to providing high-quality, luxury men’s wear. David closely watched his father’s every move and a few years later, joined to expand the online presence and spearhead the e-commerce site.

When it comes to style and precision, The Suit Brother has his foot on the industry’s neck and he’s not letting up. A true fashion savant in a lane of his own, David is just getting started.

Tony had a chance to ask Dave a few questions, let’s check them out.

Dave’s Favorite Quote: “Fashion has no rules.

Wear what you want!” - TheSuitBrother

Tony: What’s your philosophy on business?

Dave: Work as hard as you can and find a way to enjoy it. Enjoy the process, celebrate the small victories. Don’t let the work outweigh the rewards.

Dave’s Three Keys To Success: Be open to change, be able to adapt.

Don’t overthink things, go for what’s in your gut.

Don’t be afraid to invest in yourself, no matter if it’s time, energy or education.

Tony: What is your philosophy on family?

Dave: Try to do everything with love! From discipline to quality time. Make sure it’s done in love and have good intentions. Things go over better that way.

Tony: Most memorable experience with your business?

Dave: Providing wardrobe for Nick Cannon for his television show The Masked Singer.

Tony: Most memorable experience in your personal life?

Dave: I would say getting married.

Dave’s Definition of Manhood: Manhood to me is being a provider, a protector, a compassionate leader and a positive role model. Letting my yes mean yes and my no mean no, always honoring my word. Being a present father who guides by example and loves with quality time. Being a reliable, trustworthy husband. A man who sees a need and fills the void without hesitation and often without even having to be asked. Someone who never lets my family down and always comes through by any means necessary.

Tony: Do you have any mentors?

Dave: On anything and everything it’s been my dad! For life, business, and everything! I don’t take that for granted!

Tony: One last thing you would like our readers to know.

Dave: Stop procrastinating! Get started, find a point of entry and go!

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Manhood In Health and Wellness Meet Martin ‘ Moe’ Gibson Elite Performance Coach and More

by Jason Greene

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anhood is something that I cherish and live with on a daily basis. I am proud to be a man, not to mention a proud Black man. Also, a walking oxymoron due to being completely perceived and viewed one way and actually living the total opposite in reality. A true up close and personal definition of manhood is revealed by a Black man walking in his vision and living his purpose. I recently had the privilege of sitting down and having a conversation about manhood with an individual who is a perfect example of just that. I would like to introduce Martin ‘Moe’ Gibson of Gibson Performance Training (GPT), a shining example of what it means to work and live in your vision and purpose.

Growing up as a child Martin encountered disadvantages being the fourth of six brothers raised by a single mother after his father was murdered while he was very young. Martin and his brothers were tasked with finding an understanding of manhood from a man’s perspective all on their own. Their mom being the strong woman that she had to be, provided Martin and his brothers with life skills, love and space to grow mentally and physically. This was a real-life recipe for the creation of a performance training institution that we now know as Gibson Performance Training.

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Martin, a graduate of Central High School of Capitol Heights MD in 2001 where he was a star football and basketball player, gained a scholarship to play football from 2002-2006 and graduated from Villanova University. He always had a knack for performance training, as a kid living in Capitol Heights, Moe and his five brothers established their own weight room in their mom’s basement inviting kids from the neighborhood and creating competitive workout sessions that helped groom a few young men to become stellar athletes and create better lives for their families. After sustaining a devastating hamstring injury just days before his NFL pro day and going through a strenuous rehabilitation he had a vision of a gym just like in his mom’s basement where it all started. Martin was then able to establish his own performance training institution using sponsorships based on alliances made during his football career at Villanova.

Today, Martin lives a life full of success at work and home. Married with a new baby girl, he bases his successes on “family, loyalty and faith.” Martin states, “I understand what areas I am strong in and where I am not, and I am very ok with admitting it. Taking a backseat to those things that I am not strong at, allowing my wife Keisha Gibson to explore her strengths, we totally compliment each other to maintain a great marriage. Being very determined and mentally strong, I always view any situation with a positive perspective creating a tension free atmosphere therefore decreasing arguments within my marriage. I understand my position and know when to step up and when to sit back and let things ride. As a new father, I admit to always being a father figure to a lot of kids in the past, but I can never thank God enough for blessing me with my own. As a man of faith, I begin every morning and end every night with reading a scripture that is sent to me through different intermediaries. This is needed when engaging with clients”

A true believer, he maintains his strong faith through the teachings of Pastor Keith Battle of the Zion Church in Lanham MD. Martin is also a strict believer in loyalty. He explained, “Through my vision of opening my gym it encouraged my youngest brother Chris Gibson to put his dreams in my hands to make his own career within my vision.” Martin believes that the loyalty that Chris shows on a daily basis gives him the exact amount of determination needed not to fail and maintain absolute success in the training business. With that being said, Martin went on to say outside of his family, faith and business, there is nothing in his house that resembles the gym, no weights or equipment or even loud noises. Outside of training, he loves to read in a peaceful place near water to help him remain clear.

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At Gibson Performance Training, Martin and his crew are comprised of his younger brother Chris and his good friend Gerald and they believe that at times, a person’s talent can take them places where their character cannot sustain them. They offer an exclusive group of training classes along with physical performance enhancing classes for all ages. The proof is in the pudding, and they have established Gibson Performance Training as a household name. Through his training of local talented youth, he has become a mentor to some of the most promising athletes to come out of the Washington, D.C. Metropolitan area in an array of sports and as they progress in their careers, they have shown extreme gratitude to GPT. Jalen ‘Stix’ Smith, a professional basketball player currently playing for the Indiana Pacers said “Working out with GPT was one of the best decisions I made in my life. They helped trim me into an outstanding athlete, but they are more than just trainers, they are probably the most genuine people who sacrifice their own day to help you achieve your dreams. So much laughter and hard work goes into the GPT gym.

I’m truly thankful we’ve crossed paths.” Jarrett ‘Swift’ Hurd, a current professional boxer who is also a former unified light heavyweight champion is quoted as saying “Without GPT I could not have done it. Through all the hard work and dedication week after week, what I love most about GPT is the ‘FAMILY’ part, Martin is not only a strength coach but also a life coach. He always instilled in us how important education and financial stability is.” Finally, Chase Young, a Professional Football Player currently playing for the Washington Commanders recently said “They are definitely familyoriented. Everyone is considered family; we are one big family. They went from rags to riches lol. You always want to surround yourself around people who are just like you or even better. They will push you to your limit.”

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Martin ‘Moe’ Gibson manhood is defined as: A point in a male’s life where he crosses over from being a baby boy or kid to a man. It has everything to do with holding yourself accountable for your actions and taking responsibility or ownership of your decisions no matter the consequences. He has seen his share of boys becoming men sooner because of this and have seen some older males struggle crossing over due to the same issue. This is why Martin lives and breathes success because of his understanding of what true manhood is and how he uses it to recreate his clients within Gibson Performance Training.

Martin’s Key Takeaway 1: I understand what areas I am strong in and where I am not and I am very ok with admitting it.

Martin’s Key Takeaway 2: I begin every morning and end every night with reading a scripture.

Martin’s Three Keys To Success: Faith Family Loyalty Martin’s Definition of Manhood: A point in a male’s life where he crosses over from being a baby boy or kid to a man. It has everything to do with holding yourself accountable for your actions and taking responsibility or ownership of your decisions no matter the consequences.

Manhood in Arts and Media Meet Gregory Johns Renaissance Soul

By Seth Washington

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rt and media can and does shape how a man sees life, himself, his family. For the man who is also an artist, the creative process is among other things a vast tool of learning, insight and wisdom gained through aesthetic experiences. Recently via zoom, I discussed the relevance of art and media upon manhood with photographer, bassist, music enthusiast and husband to wife Pam, Gregory Johns.

When asked about his definition of manhood this is some of what he said, “I think manhood comes from within for each individual but manhood as a whole has a lot to do with resilience. Manhood is being consistent with your right and wrong. But it’s not moving the mountain first, it’s moving the pebble each and every day. Just move the pebble.”

Johns has owned an electric bass guitar since 1968 and for a time he played in a band called the Four Brothers.

Musicianship remained a passion, but would take a backseat, due to a life changing event or as he says, “Fatherhood came in the picture. Not to use that as an excuse, but I think I was trying to find my way with being a parent more so than playing the bass.”

Family has and remains the right way for him. “The most important key to my success is the family component.” He described his mother and father as super parents with himself being the youngest of six great siblings. Even as a kid growing up with the usual set of available inner-city temptations, Johns’ reverence for his family gave him clarity. “So, my first thought would always be to think ten minutes ahead and realize what this is going to bring to my parents, as hard as they are working to provide for us, I’m not bringing home any nonsense”.

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In appreciation of how art imitates life, Johns speaks to the power of family depicted in the Godfather films.

“The loyalty that the movie taught. The family dynamic that it taught; it was something to see.”

With strong examples in life and art, the magnetic pulse of Fatherhood inspired Johns. “When I became a father at the young age of 22, it shaped my life in a way that I knew I wasn’t going away to school, I knew I wasn’t going away to the service. I didn’t marry her mother, but I knew I had to be here for support, in whatever way that I understood the meaning of support, back then.” He adds, “I had two very strong mothers of my biological children. I wanted to be reliable for my children so that if you needed me, I’m reachable and I always answered my phone in case it was one of their moms. Fatherhood and parenting really shaped my life. I now have four adult daughters, two by birth, two by marriage and I love all my daughters tremendously.”

It’s a modern family portrait of distinctiveness that Johns, an accomplished photographer, can appreciate.

Whether covering an event for a client, capturing a cityscape or a timeless portrait, for Johns, excellent learning has transpired behind the lenses. “How to see things differently.” The craft has also been his passport.

“It’s gotten me into a lot of rooms that I would not have gotten into had it not been for the camera. Likewise, it has emphasized the soft skills too, “Patience, sometimes you just have to wait for that shot and it taught me to always be ready.”

Johns utilizes XM/Sirius radio and Apple music to source for music that he can listen to in the car during the commute to and from the office. By day, Johns is an Office Services Supervisor at a major law firm in downtown Washington, DC and he brings a vibrant vision to his leadership role. “In the professional world, my father told me that everybody is not going to like you, no matter what you do or say. When I walk into a situation, I keep my head up high, I say what I know to be correct, to the best of my ability and I make sure that I lead with the truth and never ask anybody to do anything that I wouldn’t do.”

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Back at home, it’s classic jazz, soul and funk albums that he plays on his turntable while assuming the after-work role as boss of the pool table during fellowship moments with the brethren in his pool room. “First of all, when brothers come over to shoot pool with me, I very seldom have anybody over to my house that I don’t love.”

When asked if his wife Pam shoots, he says, “Pam even comes downstairs every blue moon and hits with me.” Therein, he shares about the blessing of marriage and partnership. “Oh, my goodness, it’s so awesome. Having a super lady in your life that happens to become your wife is just biblical. The same accountability that I took on that I didn’t want to bring any foolishness to my parents, I take the same toward Pam. With enthusiasm he adds, “He who finds a wife, findeth a good thing. For ten years we’ve been married. A queen wants a king. Her being like she is has made me want to be better.”

Mr. and Mrs. Johns are members of Mt. Ennon Baptist Church where he is a Deacon. It’s a large church located in Clinton, Maryland providing a host of outreach for its members and community. Regarding men, in the church, Johns referenced the bond that adds strength.

“We support each other, number one, by knowing how each other is walking. For example, by seeing one of our brothers walk by in the narthex looking a little different that day and not quite themselves, so I’m just going to stop him, politely, and say, “Hey brother, how are you doing today?” Prayerfully, we’ll exchange what is needed and go from there.”

During the pandemic, face to face impact was not available and zoom, as well as, streaming were the fellowship options. Likewise, Johns utilizes online platforms for continued self development. “In this day and age, you have to also engage in mentorship through technology. I know I do. I’ll watch recordings of Ted Talks and other leaders speaking.”

Recently, Johns put one of his bass guitars in the shop for repair. As well, he contemplates his future with the instrument. “I would like to purchase an upright bass and have that as my instrument of choice going forward. Perhaps have my childhood friend and professional upright bass player Pepe Gonzales show me some things.” Like life itself, the art of Gregory Johns continues to evolve.

What The Guitar Has Taught You: You’re only as good as you make yourself; Consistency will get you ahead; Perfect practice makes perfect.

Gregory’s Favorite Quote: If you turn a wall sideways it turns into a bridge - Angela Davis Gregory’s Favorite Scripture: He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. - Psalm 91:1 (NKJV) Gregory’s Three Keys To Success: Family; Gratitude; Authenticity.

Gregory’s Definition of Manhood: I think manhood comes from within for each individual but manhood as a whole has a lot to do with resilience. Manhood is being consistent with your right and wrong. But it’s not moving the mountain first, it’s moving the pebble each and every day. Just move the pebble.

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Manhood in Business and Entrpreneurship Meet Danny Allred Man Behind The Business

By Karen McConnell-Jones

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e all have heard it to be said that when a man is in business for himself, he is considered to be “The Businessman.” He is looked upon as the man who makes his own decisions and the man that makes his own money. However, for V&P man of honor Danny Allred it is his humility.

Yes, his humbleness and his gratefulness are what drives him to be a man of hard work and of integrity, who is now living to see his dream, his vision, come to fruition.

Danny Allred currently is the owner of shipping and receiving business, MailXpress, located in Forestville, MD. MailXpress ships all couriers such as Federal Express, Federal Express Home/Ground, United Parcel Service, United States Postal Service and DHD which mainly ships internationally and freight shipping. Danny opened his business in 2006 and he uses the store as a training mechanism for young Black males to gain work history and ethics. When Danny started the business, he was the first under the auspices of Postal connections, shipping and receiving franchise out of San Diego, CA. Danny graciously shares with me his humble beginnings. Some of his work history before becoming the owner of MailXpress, “Yes, I am a business owner yet it took me several years to get into a brick and mortar; I have been in the military and was happy to serve my country, drove buses for Metro and Ride On, worked in two high education associations. After all of this, it is truly an honor to be living out my dreams as MailXpress.”

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“All these have helped to develop me and helped me to be truthful in my walk. You cannot just talk the talk but you have to walk the walk. Now, what does this really mean? It means you have to lead by example, you must be the example. Not just in my work place yet in my personal walk as well. This is part of what helped to shape me for real manhood.

Being the example and knowing a mistake is not a failure but to own up to your mistake is what will give you true growth. I just always want to be a positive example for the future generations.”

In further conversation, Danny expresses how serving his country and giving back to the community is very important to him. He stays mindful in making sure that he hires and gives the younger generation a chance. He is hoping he can teach them how to manage their own business one day and that it is possible to be a business owner if this is what they choose to do. Danny is passionate about ownership, especially in the Black community. He feels that every Black person who owns their own business is in the position to help others. We as existing business owners need to collaborate more and develop a think

As we continued, Danny conveyed to me that he had the honor of seeing great illustrations in both of his grandfathers. They both exemplify what manhood looked like and they both were business owners. He wanted to follow their example and also knew that being a businessman was in his DNA.

tank that new entrepreneurs would use and pull from.

This will help our business community to continue to develop and maintain confidence.

got older, he spent a summer in North Carolina and his grandfather had a discussion with him about his duties and behavior before letting him work at the store that summer. This is probably why to this day, Danny is a stickler about customer service and demands from his employees that they provide the upmost customer service to everyone who enters their store.

He truly knew it was in his blood. Recalling before he was old enough to attend school and spending time with his grandparents one summer in North Carolina, he remembers begging his grandfather to let him go to the store so that he can work and help out. Once Danny

Danny goes on to say “In hindsight, I now see that my grandfather was molding me to be effective and efficient in my work and to be a stand-up entrepreneur/ businessman. Now, it has allowed me not only to be in business for myself but I am now able to show and teach the younger generation that they can own their businesses as well. Simply, just apply yourself and be willing to put in the hard work especially during the tough times because it will pass. Learn from that situation for the next similar entrepreneurial situation and don’t be afraid of making a decision even if it’s the wrong one. God has sustained me every day, being an entrepreneur allows for me to have creativity and independence which in turn has afforded me to be in my purpose.”

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As the interview was coming to a close, Danny shares his final thoughts. “I can only say that I am honestly grateful for my journey in life, in business and even in my most difficult moments. I can recall within the first five years of my business when President Obama had just come into office. He was faced with unfortunate situations to clean up and the economy had taken a dip. We got behind in our leased rental space and the new leasing company did not uphold the payment plan that was in place with the former leasing company. In fact, I learned from my attorney that we actually did not have a lease in place at all and we were forced to move.”

“With prayer and God’s grace the community came through in a big way. I had put a message out to the community, family, friends, and on social media of needing funding to move to a new location. God allowed my prayers and the response to be overflowing. Donations were coming in and surprisingly enough it was from more people that I didn’t know than I did know. My community had risen to the occasion. My prayers were answered.

It just goes to show when your faith is bigger than your circumstances God will always prevail. God has always been my source of power. In seeking God in everything that I do helps me in all my ways. Mentally, it permits me to be the best me. Knowing that my thoughts are entrusted in his care strengthens my sincerity.

Danny’s Favorite Scripture: Proverbs 27:17- As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another (NIV) Danny’s Important Takeaway: Every Black person that owns their own business is in a key position to help others.

Danny’s Three Keys To Success: Be The Example Own Your Mistakes Take Care Of Every Customer Danny’s Definition Of Manhood: You cannot just talk the talk but you have to walk the walk. You have to lead by example, you must be the example. The illustration displayed by both of his grandfathers as businessmen and providers of service excellence; this is what helped to shape him for real manhood.

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Community Outreach Awareness V&P COMMEMORATIONS OF THE MONTH FOR MAY/JUNE National Mental Health Month: Raises awareness of trauma and the impact it can have on the physical, emotional, and mental well-being of children, families, and communities. The ribbon color is green.

May 2022

National Military Appreciation Month: Is celebrated every May and is a declaration that encourages U.S. citizens to observe the month in a symbol of unity. The ribbon color is yellow.

Days: 1st International Labor Day 2nd Melanoma Monday 3rd World Press Freedom Day 8th Mother’s Day 10th World Lupus Day 11th World Fair Trade Day 12th World Migratory Bird Day 15th International Day of Families 17th Endangered Species Day 17th World Telecommunication and Information Society Day 18th International Museum Day 21st World Day for Cultural Diversity for Dialogue and Development 22nd International Day for Biological Diversity 23rd World Turtle Day 24th National Brother’s Day 30th Memorial Day (United States) 29th International Day for UN Peacekeepers 31st World No Tobacco Day

Month Long:

In the United States, Nurses’ Week May 6 -12 Women’s Health Week May10-16 Teacher Appreciation Week May 5- 8

Asian and Pacific Islander Heritage Month Better Hearing and Speech Month Clean Air Month Foster Care Month Mental Health Awareness Month National Barbeque Month (United States) National Arthritis Month (United States) National Asthma and Allergy Awareness Month (United States) National Military Appreciation Month National Physical Fitness and Sports Month (United States) National Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month (United States) 44 Vision Vision & & Purpose Purpose Community Community Magazine Magazine 44

Happy Mother’s Day From Team V&P

June 2022

National Men’s Health Month: To raise awareness about

health care for men and focus on encouraging boys, men, and their families to practice and implement healthy living decisions, such as exercising and eating healthy.

Family Health & Fitness Day: Is celebrated every second

Saturday in June each year. This special day promotes the importance of parks and recreation in keeping communities healthy.

Happy Father’s Day From Team V&P

Days: 1st Global Day of Parents 5th World Environment Day 8th World Oceans Day 12th Family Health & Fitness Day 12th World Day Against Child Labor 14th World Blood Donor Day 17th World Day to Combat Desertification and Drought 19th Father’s Day 20th World Refugee Day 21st International Day of Yoga 22nd World Rainforest Day 23rd Gay Pride Day 23rd International Widows Day 26th International Day in Support of Victims of Torture 30th International Asteroid Day

Month Long:

Alzheimer’s and Brain Awareness Month International Childhood Cancer Awareness Month National Men Health Month Professional Wellness Month Adopt a Cat Month!

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Community Outreach

Mental Stability Tapping Into Your Positive Traits

By Belinda Stevenson

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ow do Black men navigate the ails of family dynamics, deal with the constant stereotyping, find peace from their everyday lived experiences, try to ignore the negative selftalk, and thought loop of personal stories they tell themselves while trying to focus on self-care and process their own understanding of their racial identity?

Strength manifests itself from the willingness to seek help and not feel shamed or emasculated for doing so.

Black women want Black men to be compassionate, but how, without appearing weak. It must be conveyed that expressing feelings or seeking help is not a weakness; It is where you find strength.

Sharing your experiences is not embarrassing; it is brave. Being vulnerable is freeing. It allows you to be open to change, receive help, give you hope, and allows you to dream. Your vision will become clearer, and you will become the architect of your life, so you can build that bridge to get to the side where freedom is waiting.

Freedom takes you where peace, clarity, happiness, and love reside. That euphoria that you deserve and the realization that God has given us exists. Onward towards His great and precious promise of abundant life, knowing we were all designed for a purpose, and he has a plan for you.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord.

“They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”

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Here is a list of 10 focus points regarding mental wellness that are being role modeled by the men of our community who are featured in this issue, along with the V&P contributors who wrote about them.

These perspectives are not offered as substitutes for counseling. They are simply a list of timeless and reliable insights, known to enhance one’s thought life along the path toward inner wellness.

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Take No Days Off From Treating Others The Way You Want To Be Treated EXAMPLE: Danny Allred - MailXPress in Forestville, MD Allred ensures that the lessons he learned as a child about customer service from his grandfather are always put forth and are on display thru the members of his staff.

VALUE: In this way, his employees are prepared for greater opportunities in the marketplace.

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Dress The Best You Can With What You Have - When You Look Better You Feel Better EXAMPLE: Dave Harrell - The Suit Brother LLC, Richmond, VA For many years, Dave’s father worked for the postal service before officially creating the family’s clothing legacy by opening a store. Prior to that he participated in the industry as a fashion model.

VALUE: We can begin to elevate by first doing the most we can with what we have now.

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As A Man Thinketh So Is He EXAMPLE: Martin ‘Moe’ Gibson - Gibson Performance Training in Capitol Heights, MD The mental elements of discipline, consistency and endurance are key areas of focus within Coach Gibson’s approach to training elite athletes.

VALUE: The organized mind is fertile ground for sustained success and enrichment.

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It Takes A Village For Adults, Too EXAMPLE: Gregory Johns - Deacon at Mt. Ennon Baptist Church, Clinton, MD Deacon Johns acknowledges how the community of men within his church both proactively support and hold one another accountable.

VALUE: There is strength in numbers.

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The Ability To Serve Is A Gift We All Have EXAMPLE: Dwight Williams - U.S. Army Officer Williams finds mental strength in volunteering his services. He currently mentors young adults in the foster care system, volunteers at the local community high schools, and mentors the U.S. Army soldiers that report to him.

VALUE: Give and life will give back in knowledge, fulfillment, as well as, opportunity.

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Faith Adds Power EXAMPLE: Colonel Giles - Photographer Giles, Newly released book of photographs and quotes, speaks to the power of an enhanced spiritual life, his faith in God, what it means to be divinely inspired and divinely led.

VALUE: In this regard, it is quite helpful to know that we are not alone upon this journey.

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Men And Women Working In Unity Are A Formidable Team EXAMPLE: Karen McConnell-Jones - Founder and Publisher of V&P Community Magazine, Upper Marlboro, MD The excellent insights and energy shared within this Men’s Issue are made possible by the platform of V&P Community Magazine that was established by women.

VALUE: The ongoing, constructive collaboration between men and women is a crucial aspect of community healing, strength and wellness.

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Personally, Professionally Or Both, Choose Wisely The Company That We Keep EXAMPLE: Tony and Martina Turner - Tony Turner Unleashed Hair Salon and Products, Richmond, VA The Turner’s collaborate with excellence as spouses and co-owners of their salon.

Together, they have been able to successfully navigate storms imposed by the pandemic.

VALUE: Quality partnership is a key aspect of life success and inner peace.

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The Gift Of Choice Remains Available EXAMPLE: Jason Tha Chef Green In the midst of a career in I.T., Green was led to the culinary path. He gained experience by working at restaurants and by attending a culinary college. Now he has clients throughout the DC, Maryland and Virginia (DMV) region.

VALUE: Effective change begins with a decision.

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Words Matter . . . Words Stated And How They Are Stated EXAMPLE: Seth Washington - Writer, Spoken Word Artist As a wordsmith, Washington utilizes both his pen and his voice in doing what the great Ozzie Davis said, “not only to entertain, but to uplift and inspire.”

VALUE: Every word is an investment.

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All things Fashion

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The Barber Shop Talk!

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place of grooming the mind and body, the Barber Shop.. For centuries men have been coming to the Barber Shop to have their hair cut, shaved, steamed and textured. Back in the old days barbershops were even like clinics. Barbers even pulled teeth, the work of dentists only,nowadays. Not only a place of grooming but a place of community, where men and boys discussed major issues of the time. Barbers and their clients shared their views about money, power, sex, sports, family, business deals, and the word on the street.

Oftentimes you could come across a sweet deal on a television, box of steaks, tickets to a concert or event, almost anything could possibly come across the floor. I’m sure some major business deals have transpired while in the Barber Shop. All of this while men and boys were getting that blended fade and sharp round up. A close shave was and is well sought after. Skilled hands with extremely sharp straight razors. One slip of the wrist and there could be serious blood letting.

The trust between the barber and client is likened to a doctor and patient or a lawyer and client. Some of the deepest and darkest secrets are shared and held in this sacred place. In this place sanitation is a must. Clean clippers, sheers, combs, capes, and razors keep staph infection from spreading to the population. The shampoo bowls and chairs also have to be disinfected. It is a place where boys learn to become men. The barber shop is known as the Black man’s country club. This is the place where self esteem is built and inspiration is sparked.

Heated debates are voiced and wisdom is passed. Old heads are putting the youngins up on game. You could be a fly on the wall and soak up a million dollars worth of game. Wise ones listen and take heed and learn, fools talk and get burned. But the goal is always the same, to look fresh when you walk out the door. Before any big event a man is going to want to make his customary trip to the barbershop. After that cut that man is ready to set the world on fire with his charm and intelligence. The ladies know what a fresh cut can do. Things get a little bit sweeter when that brother shows up looking good. He will get a whole lot more yeses than no’s. It must be confidence! It helps her remember the investment she has put in him or the investment he has put in her, either way they’re both winning!

Recently, I interviewed The Suit Brother, David Harrell. I let him know the date of the photo shoot for the front cover as well as my part of the article. He let me know immediately, that he would have to wait until his barber could get to him. He knew his cut would be a big part of how he would be perceived. End of the day, he knew the power of the cut. Not just the way we would see him, but more importantly how he would feel about himself. The Suit Brother is sharp from head to toe. That’s what The barber shop is all about! Topping It Off!

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All things Fashion

Shop Talk with Troy Michel

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t’s all about men and fashion! There is nothing sexier than to see a man in a suit.

I’m talking about a fresh haircut, a nice tailored suit, dress shoes and let’s not forget a good smelling cologne. A man that looks good, smells good and walks with confidence and swag. It’s truly a sight to behold. Their strength, love, protection, guidance and support. The time a man shares with his family, being a mentor and being a leader in his community. It really makes a difference in the future of our youth and our community.

Now, as we celebrate men this issue. It’s a joy to talk with “ The Suit Brother “ Dave Harrell’s wife Troy Michel and ask some questions about love, family, dreams and the future.

About Troy Michel Troy Michel is a wife, mother of 7, tv/ radio personality and actress. She also runs a successful parenting blog and instagram account entitled Mother Tougher. At the start of 2022, she launched a line of journals helping women and children prioritize their mental health.

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An Interview with Troy Michel Martina C. Turner (MCT): What was it that attracted you to the Suit Brother?

Troy Michel (TM): It was his sense of humor that caught my attention. He’s the funniest person I know!

MCT: How do you feel about being that supportive wife to your husband as he pursues his goals and dreams?

TM: The Suit Brother has always been supportive of my goals and stood beside me as I chased my dreams.

From juggling the kids and housework in the evenings after work while I went back to school full time to funding random projects and side hustles I came up with, he’s always been my rock. Now it’s his time to shine, and it’s such an honor for me to be his backbone and hold down the family while he achieves greatness. I am beyond proud of him, all he has done and all he’s about to do!

MCT: How do you both balance work and family time with the kids?

TM: Ha! That’s a great question! What’s balance? I don’t think there’s a “perfect” balance. We just do what we can, and don’t stress about what doesn’t get done. Family time is a priority. If work doesn’t get done during business hours, we finish once the kids go to bed. The Suit Brother and I also have this unspoken language of knowing when to step in and help each other. Whether that be him feeding the kids while I’m on a shoot or me helping him box up orders, putting clothes in the dryer, we just juggle and make it work.

Flexibility and communication. Major keys!

MCT: What’s next for The Harrell’s?

TM: Probably another baby! Ha, just kidding. No, we’ve got our sights set on opening a retail space soon and some other big things are in the works but you’ll have to stay tuned to see!

I look forward to seeing more from this power couple. They are a perfect example of Black Excellence!

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Arts & Media

Ten Life Lessons From Arts & Media

By Seth Washington

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hen the V&P Men’s Issue Arts & Media feature, Gregory Johns, was asked to define manhood, some of the key components that he touched on were inner-self, resilience, consistency and little things first.

Of course, depending on the kind of morning one might be having, any of these or all of these could easily describe the power needed to get out of bed and simply start the day. Indeed the little things, if not, first things.

In painting the image of manhood it truly is accomplished one brush stroke at a time. Even in this digital age, as Johns the seasoned photographer knows well, the camera can take literally dozens of images within the span of a second. Let it also be known, though, that each of those images is still captured one at a time.

Whether a slow waltz or a blazing tango, the dancers move one foot after the other. On page one in the book of Genesis, the divine plan of God unfolds in a graphically detailed sequence of carefully ordered events also known as the creation.

Such is manhood. It is a fully encompassing path of evolution that is both learned and played one note, one breath, one thought, one move at a time and therein lies the origins of grace that emanate from the manhood masters. At some point in their lives, our fathers and grandfathers realized that in the building of the cinematic like image of their existence, every step in the process was required because each step provided a necessary lesson. In making peace with that understanding they moved with majesty in the way of the original Biggie Smalls, portrayed by the great Calvin Lockhart.

Like the epic opening pages of the bible, home is a pivotal source with regards to designing the story arc of our lives and the early life positioning of manhood. The O’Jays touched upon this in the ballad ‘Family Reunion’.

Style influences of parents and guardians are nothing short of tremendous upon the narrative. Fathers drop bars of wisdom like lyricists, but not for entertainment. Instead they do it for growth and enrichment. Johns’ dad let him know that if you stand up straight, no one can ride your back. His dad was also a very meticulous cleaner.

Johns continues the legacy. The music enthusiast takes great pleasure in refreshing his home while listening to the sounds of Tupac and Biggie.

During adolescence, love songs and sweet ballads take on an enhanced meaning to a young man. As well, numerous melodies have been written in praise of motherhood and they’re all well deserved. During his late teens, it was Johns’ mother who enlightened him about the feminine mindset regarding dating and the dance of partnership. Moving forward from that conversation, his thoughts, confidence and self respect were well balanced in this area of his life.

In sculpting the inner knowledge about self, knowing what we don’t know is perhaps, just as important as what we do know. Likewise, identifying and seeking wise counsel is also priceless. Steps inside the step. It’s an ongoing subplot that sustains as life is most certain to require growth at some point, in some way. As well, knowing how to enjoy the journey, including the ups and downs, is also a necessary skill set.

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TEN LIFE LESSONS LEARNED FROM ARTS & MEDIA SHARED BY GREGORY JOHNS - A Duet is a Powerful ballad As a musician Johns knows well the blessings of collaboration. With Pam, his second wife of now 10 years, he has found the smooth harmony of love and friendship.

- Know That Transitions Are Good Like the changes from the verse to the chorus of your favorite song and the photographic change from film to digital, Johns has transitioned from a wise man of the city to a blessed servant of the Most High God, faithfully fulfilling his duties as a Deacon, walking in God’s vision by the rhythm of faith.

- Be Mindful Of Others “When my wife Pam leaves, I put on Biggie and Pac and my Lost Boys. I blast it while I’m cleaning the whole house. I put it on shuffle, so Marvin Sapp may come on, then Biggie may come on right after and the whole place is going to be clean, spotless.”

- Take Care Of What You Have “Now when I want to kick back and listen to the music of where I came from, I’ll put on my albums. I was always a geek with my albums as far as caring for them, so there are no popping sounds” - Engage The History of Your Interests “Long before streaming, I always had the habit of reading the notes and when I was buying albums, I loved knowing the stories and the intricacies of how musicians got together” - Establish Flexible Options “Music, I put it in a gumbo and mix it up for how it works for me. If I’m in the basement, it’s albums. If I’m in the pool room it’s albums. If I’m out by the fireplace it’s bluetooth. If I’m in the car it’s streaming” - Always Have Goals “I would like to purchase an upright bass and have that as my instrument of choice going forward.”

- Be Authentically You “Our band was called the Four Brothers. I would always hear bass notes in my head, so I became the bass player.

We would play some rock, Iron Butterfly and Black Sabbath, in addition to soul and R&B. Music taught me how to love, cause I love it to this very day.”

- Keep Improving Yourself I was self taught as a bass player and taught myself bad habits as a player. The way I play sounds good, but I can improve a few fundamental things. I’m reaching out for a teacher, so in going forward, I’ll be playing correctly.”

- Let Art Be A Tool For Insight “I like how the John Singletons, the Antoine Fuquas, the Spike Lees and the Steven Spielbergs can take us places and leave us kind of in the unknown and cause us to have certain types of conversations.”

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Martina Turner said “I admire the strength, confidence, intelligence, being a protector for his family, and a God-fearing man.”

The Men of V&P Ask The Women of V&P -

What Do You Admire About Men?

Belinda Stevenson said” “Their strength, intelligence, and unwavering support for our dreams and aspirations”

Kyonna Brown said: “I admire men who can understand that females must lead in some roles. The vulnerability they have to encompass speaks strength to their masculinity.”

Michele DeMarcia Davis said:

Krystal Glenn said: Dominique Massaquoi said: “I admire that in today’s generation men are not giving up on mental stability”.

“I admire Godly men’s strength, patience and love while managing their emotions and leading their families/communities”

“I admire men’s physical strength and their ability to lead.”

Karen Clay said: “The man who can profess, provide and protect relative to his loved ones and family.”

Marjorie Middleton said: “Although beauty is in the eye of the beholder, the most impressive trait in men is HONESTY”an”

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Karen McConnell-Jones said: “A man who has a strong/confident presence about himself yet knows when to show his vulnerable side”

Women Asked...

Q&A

DOMINIQUE MASSAQUOI How does it feel that society constantly makes you carry everything on your back?

KAREN CLAY Why are so many men unable to express their feelings?

KAREN MCCONNELL-JONES When did you come into your true manhood?

Men Answered...

TONY TURNER I feel it’s part of The Most High’s design. In order to carry these burdens, we have to seek The Most High for wisdom, strength, and understanding. Learning that some things can get overwhelming, we must give our burdens to The Lord. So, It feels perplexing by design to break us, then The Most High uses this to build us up in him. For when I am weak, He is strong. The end result He gives us courage under fire.

TONY TURNER My question to this is,”Do you really want to know?” I mean would you really want to see your man crying when he is overwhelmed and depressed or angry. I think not! I think you would start to see him as a softy, I’m sugar coating my response. Unable to protect you in a time of trouble. Truth is most men don’t want to be perceived as a lame. We are brought up learning to control our emotions until we explode. Some sooner than others.

TONY TURNER I would say, at age 17. That is when I moved out of my mom’s house and began supporting myself. I still had a lot to learn but I was taking responsibility for myself and my actions. Truth being told, I’m still learning at 50.

JASON GREENE I would say when my first son Makaih was born back in 2008. When I first laid eyes on him my perspective completely changed. I actually felt like I was giving purpose in life and knew the need for me to become a man to make sure he was cared for properly.

KAREN MCCONNELL-JONES One thing that must be i​n your daily manhood walk?

KRYSTAL GLENN Why is it so difficult for men to express/ share their emotions?

MARJORIE MIDDLETON Do men feel the desire to protect women, instinctively; or, do they feel inadequate?

SETH WASHINGTON Prayer and meditation, as I’ve gotten older the value of them and their connection to my daily success is so apparent.

SETH WASHINGTON I believe the man’s emotional pathway is by nature more narrowly defined and this could be a purposeful partnership, counterbalance to women. That said, I believe men navigate emotions more effectively thru understanding cause and effect. So, as we learn more of the appropriate thought structure and language skills around this, we’ll express better.

JASON GREENE I believe I desire to protect women, it doesn’t matter to me if I know the woman or not. If I feel that she feels threatened I will definitely step up like it’s 2nd nature.

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