Special Edition - Caregivers by V & P Media Productions, LLC

Special Edition November 2021

Celebrating National Family Caregivers Month _ With -

“Angel Heart” of a Caregiver www.vandpmediaproductions.com

Contents Lorraine Moore page 4

Dedra A. Frazier page 28

Deidre Pasteur Moye page 6

Shirley Singer page 30

Editor In Chief

Karen McConnell-Jones Layout and Design

Liz Chambers page 8

Erica Williams page 32

Jackie Holliman page 10

Geneva Williams page 34

Porcia A. Speight page 12

Denise Cunningham-Abney page 36

Rebecca Hamilton page 14

Reverend Dr. Annie Giles page 38

Patricia Rawls page 16

Michelle Lyons page 40

Ballard Jackson page 18

Patricia & Steven Morris Page 22

Krystal Glenn

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VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you? Lorraine Moore (LM): I believe that caregiving is an act of love one person provides for another. I believe that caregivers are generous people who share their time and abilities to express concern and care for their loved one and that it is also a Christian service. When I first began my career as a registered nurse, I was pleased with my choice of career because I believed that serving others in this way would be pleasing in God’s eyes. VPCM: How did you become to be a caregiver? LM: I first became a professional caregiver; then later for my mother, now I am an available support for my brother Charles who is blind and has had a stroke. Now, I am beginning to provide hands-on direct care to my husband, Oliver, who has the Agent Orange. He was exposed to this in Vietnam. VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? LM: I learned during the years I provided care to my mother, to accept help. My daughter Olivia, her husband Danny, and my husband Oliver stepped in to support me. Caregivers, call upon on your support systems and try to find and take respite. Although I was a registered nurse providing in home caregiving, it was no easier for me than the challenges often described by my Hands of Hope group members. Don’t try to do it all alone.

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VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet? LM: Hands of Hope is a wonderful outlet for caregivers. It’s good to know that someone understands. It is a support group and an educational resource. When circumstances allow, I take small trips around the United States with my family, enjoy movies with my husband, and socialize with friends over dinner or at special events. I get joy from being around my Shih Tzu, Riley. VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you? LM: I find that the information that is shared by presenters at the meetings are priceless. I have learned so much about this time in life when you are caring for your loved ones and at the same time preparing and putting things in order in your own life to be prepared when your own time comes. VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope?

LM: For me, it is the fact that I can share Hands of Hope with people who are caregivers. It is rewarding to me to share with others the benefits of Hands of Hope and invite them in. Often, I meet people who are so overwhelmed and in need of what Hands of Hope provides. VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? LM: As a registered nurse who sees this concern daily, the thing that healthcare providers can do for caregivers is to listen carefully to the caregivers’ concerns for their loved ones. Through patiently listening, a healthcare provider can help caregivers keep important things from slipping through the cracks or being missed. VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? LM: My secret sauce is by showing my gratefulness. The Word of God is TRUE, yesterday, today, and FOREVER. “Cast your cares upon Him, for He cares for you.” “In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct thy paths.” “Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.”

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Meet Deidre Pasteur Moye

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VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you?

Deidre Pasteur Moye (DPM): I started my own business not knowing which direction I would be led to give back. My journey led me to do something special for others, most of all caregivers who give their all selflessly day after day. I give a small unexpected gift for birthdays, holidays, and unexpected moments in life. I thank God for the genuine love for others that was passed down to me, and it’s my honor to give back. VPMC: How did you become to be a caregiver? DPM: As my father became ill and aged, I became his caregiver for several years until his health required 24-hour skilled level care. Being an only child, it not only was my responsibility but also my honor to assist my dad in any way I could. VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? DPM: My advice starting off would be to take a long deep breath and talk with another experienced caregiver, who has gone through what you are dealing with to provide you with support. Understand there will be many hiccups along the way and you may become overwhelmed at times, but the challenges will be well worth the reward. Find out about resources available to caregivers and actually use them. The smallest resource could turn out to be your biggest blessing. Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Do simple things such as get a massage, or take a hot bath. Your mental health is extremely important to be able to give your best to others. VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet?

DPM: You must practice self-care. This is extremely important throughout your journey not just as a caregiver but in everyday life. My outlet is a bushel of blue crabs. I don’t drink or smoke, so for me this is my moment of relaxation. When the weather permits, I like to eat them with the view of the ocean, lake or some body of water. This creates a very relaxing environment where I can forget my problems in that moment. VPMC: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you? DPM: Being a member of Hands of Hope is therapy to my soul. After the passing of my dad, Hands of Hope allowed me to give back in his honor. VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope? DPM: My greatest reward being a part of Hands of Hope is being able to be a blessing to such wonderful people. It’s the appreciation and kind words I receive from caregivers that let me know I am making a difference in their lives. My gifts are unexpected and a smile in return is priceless! VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? DPM: Our healthcare provider could possibly create a tele network portal for caregivers who could video chat or text questions to doctors with concerns, 24 hours providing guidance and support needed. VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? DPM: My secret sauce is putting God first in my life, along with lots of patience and a genuine love for others.

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Meet Liz Chambers

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Strong, Giving,Outspoken VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet? LC: Being a part of the Hands of Hope is a big part of my outlet. Ms. Morris has introduced me to a lot of things to help me realize that you have to do things to take care of you in order to help others. I am grateful for that. It helps me exhale. VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you?

VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you? Liz Chambers (LC): I am a woman with a comeback. I have survived Domestic Violence, Amputation, heart disease, I am one who loves to give and do for others encouraging other through my storms and how God continues to bless me. One of my motto is Every Saint has a past every sinner has a future. VPCM: How did you become to be a caregiver? LC: I became a caregiver at a very young age in my teen years for my grandmother along with my aunt Portia and my late grandfather. As I got older the table turned, I had to be care for by my children and my husband Cleo. In 2014 I had to be cared for again with becoming amputee and then just this year, I had to become a caregiver for my husband who has taken ill suddenly. VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver?

LC: Hands of Hope gives me the opportunity to express what I feel and going through. No matter what, they care and listens, this means a lot to me. VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope? LC: I have the pleasure of working as an assistant to Mrs. Morris, when I needed new shoes after amputation they supplied for me, when I needed help with my rent they were there and I received the Outstanding Administrative Award. VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? LC: Help us with more medical benefits with medicine and show true concerns and compassion. VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? LC: Trusting God, speaking positive words, and keep on pressing towards the mark.

LC: Pray first, make sure you are doing self-care, and find a support group like the “Hands of Hope” very resourceful.

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Meet Jackie Holliman

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Caring, Insightful and Understanding VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you? Jackie Holliman (JH): I would like the readers to know that I am concerned about many things involving my family and the things that are currently happening in our world/environment. I care about people and what they are going through. VPCM: How did you become to be a caregiver?

JH: It has given me a lot of information that I needed. A lot of resources I was able to connect with to get help with my daughter. There are so many things you don’t know. It has been a blessing to me because of the speakers brought to us within monthly meetings providing the wealth of information that you need which didn’t even know existed. For that I am truly grateful to Hands of Hope.

JH: My daughter became ill at the age of seventeen (17) and to this day I am still her caregiver.

VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope?

VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver?

JH: Being able to get out and go to the different functions that Mrs. Morris has presented to us. Knowing that it was all about me and not who I was taking care of at that time. It was time for us to just be out and feel like a big family celebrating where you had that time to just let your hair down.

JH: First, learn patience; seek advice from someone who has been a caregiver that can guide you to different resources who can provide you with some help. Get involved with a support group. VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet?

VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver?

JH: My outlet is to find time for myself to be out of the house, go walking or go to the mall. Spend time with your dearest friend and have lunch because if you don’t take time for yourself it can be very stressful. You don’t want to not be apart of something else outside of your immediate environment it will affect your health.

JH: They can be more up front with the caregiver. To inform of the resources that are available. I have found that they know certain things and it is not disclosed. To be fair, honest about how the healthcare system works and not be so quick to shut you down without wanting to just do some of the research and guide you in the direction you need to go in order to follow through that directly affect yourself.

VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you?

VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? JH: Prayer and trusting in the Lord.

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Meet Porcia A. Speight

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VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you?

Porcia A. Speight (PAS): I would like my readers to know my passion is reading, my love for God and giving to anyone in need whether it’s my time, mentally or monetary. I love to learn new things and inspire others to be all they can be. I love helping the elderly and babies because I feel they are the most vulnerable and need our help. VPCM: How did you become to be a caregiver? PAS: I became a caregiver before I realized I was. I have taken care of my parents from a distance until I lost my father and my mother moved in with me. Even though she was very independent, it was a matter of time when I had to support her through breast cancer, then again after she reached 95. My sister and I shared caring for my mom where she then lived with my sister and I would care for her after work, with my sister up until she went into a nursing home. Still working on my job, I had to go by the nursing home, at time, before work and after. This was truly a challenge until she passed away. I joined the Hands of Hope caregivers that same year I lost her in 2017. VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? PAS: My advice for a new caregiver would be to take care of yourself first, because you will need a lot of time and patience and you can’t help the person if you are ill. Learn as much as possible about caring for others and the need to find a support system to help you carry the load. Pray a lot and know you are only one person and it is okay to ask for help. VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet? PAS: My outlet was to go out to dinner at least once every other week, find some quiet time just to spend reading God’s word and meditating. I would also do yard work or things that I loved like reading, sewing and watching a favorite move on TV. VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you?

PAS: As a member of Hands of Hope, I found it to be so relaxing to find others who were like me in caring for a love one, and needed so much mental support. I found after attending many meetings, not only did I get mental support, but physical help as well. Having someone who understands means so much, to know you are never alone. VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope? PAS: My greatest reward has been; being able to roll up my sleeves and help in whatever areas I can to make the organization stronger and productive. Also, just seeing many women and men in the organization get professional information/help from outside sources brought in and with help or advice we need such as Alzheimer speakers/professionals, Wills and Estates, Mental Health, Prince George’s County Social Services and many more. VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? PAS: I would like for the healthcare providers to provide a benefit for family member who wish to keep their love one at home, having the choice to care for their love one at home instead of the government paying thousands, to put them in a nursing home where there are many complaints due to lack of care. Many of us, including myself, did not want my mom to end up in a nursing home where I had to do more for them being in the nursing home than at home, where she could get 24/7 attention. Most of us need to work on our jobs, where if we could pay a relative to do the same work as a nursing home, until we get off work, would be the ideal solution. I found that nursing facilities are always short handed and I found myself caring for my mom, seeing very poor living conditions. VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? PAS: My secret sauce is taking my vitamins and any meds I need, mixed with a lot of prayer and always staying active.

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Rebecca L. Hamilton

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Compassionate, Hardworking, Ambitious VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you?

VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope?

Rebecca L. Hamilton (RLH): I am a granddaughter, daughter, sister and mother. My daughter and family are my world. There isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for them. Both of my parents are cancer survivors (colon & breast). I am very strong willed and will do anything within my abilities to help someone.

RLH: In my opinion the greatest reward of being apart of Hands of Hope is the phenomenal people that are involved. Everyone within the foundation shows warmth, kindness, and love. Arms are always open, and you will never go without.

VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? RLH: Gather all the available information and resources that are provided. Also, join a support group where other individuals who are going through the same responsibilities as yourself can reflect with you along your new journey. We all need someone to talk too. VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet? RLH: My outlet is spending quality time with my daughter. VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you? RLH: Hands of Hope Caregivers Foundation has assisted me by educating of the opportunities and resources that are readily available. Every month each speaker presents new useful information that provides the knowledge that any caregiver would consider essential.

VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? RLH: Healthcare providers could support the journey of the caregiver by involving themselves with the local communities and asking the real questions that somehow go unanswered. VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? RLH: Treating each other as human beings and helping each other.

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Patricia Ann Rawls

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Adventurous, Blessed, and Grateful VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you?

VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you?

Patricia Rawls (PR): I was born in Johnston County North Carolina. I now reside in Prince Georges County, retired from Department of Defense in 2013. I love to travel, have fun and enjoy every breath of Life. My favorite month is December when I celebrate Birthdays, Anniversary and Christmas. My favorite color is RED. In 2012 I was invited by Mrs. Patricia A. Morris, CEO of Hands of Hope Caregivers Foundation to receive respite during the time I was caregiving for family members.

PR: As a member of Hands of Hope, it empowered caregivers to understand a broad scope that people with challenges are hurt and need care. It’s not only in your family it’s nationwide.

VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? PR: You must pray and ask God to give you guidance, patience to love and strength to endure the most difficult responsibility. Educate yourself and do not be ashamed to seek advice and help. NO ONE’S EXEMPT. VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet? PR: First, family support. I eat, read, workout, dance and listen to music. Time for yourself is very important. Attend ALL scheduled doctors’ appointments. YOU CAN NOT DO THIS ALONE. PLEASE SEEK and ASK FOR HELP!! No time for Sslfishness and pride.

VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope? PR: My greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope is MOTIVATION. Everyone has the same basic needs and emotions. THANK YOU FOR SHARING! VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? PR: Our healthcare provider can educate and participate in activities to ensure caregivers have FUNDS and updated supplies to support individuals with underline health issues. Reach Out and Touch! VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? PR: Doing ME: LOVING, SHARING, CARING and if it it feels good and right do it TODAY.

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Meet Helpful, Helpful, Helpful Ballard A. Jackson

ision & Purpose (V&P)) Community Magazine celebrates National Family Caregivers Month with the Hands of Hope Nonprofit Organization of Prince George’s County, Maryland. In this month of November we honor the “Angel Heart” of a Caregiver. VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you)? Ballard Jackson (BJ): I want my readers to understand that I have come to appreciate family and friends more than ever this time in my life. VPCM: How did you become to be a caregiver? BJ: I became a caregiver by helping my wife take care of her mother who is my mother-in-law.

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VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? BJ: The best advice I can give a new caregiver is to give a lot of love and patience. VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet? BJ: My outlet in taking care of myself is to exercise and walking on a regular basis. VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you? BJ: As a member of Hands of Hope, knowing Pat and Steve has given me a lot of information from the organization that has helped me tremendously about caregiving. VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope? BJ: The greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope is becoming friends with the people in the organization. VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? BJ: By providing more up to date resources for the caregiver. VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? BJ: My secret to living a purposeful life is by trusting and having more faith in God and being thoughtful towards people.

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Meet

Mr. Steven Morris

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r. Steven and Mrs. Patricia Morris, who are the perfect husband and wife partnership of the Hands of Hope Caregivers Foundation, the organization was truly birth out of the love that Patricia and Steven have for their community. They started the Hands of Hope in 2013 by opening up the doors of their home to start a support group for caregivers. Now, over eight years later the organization went from a few people gathering in the basement of the couples’ home to 106 active members and their annual conference hosting up to 300 to 400 people.Bringing in Special Guest Speakers, News Media Personifies to our Local Dignitaries, having the conference to be a time to share, encourage one another, but more importantly to bring in resources and informative information that the caregivers can take away and can apply into their daily routine of taking care of their love ones. The conference has been a blessing to all in attendance.

Mrs. Patricia Morris

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r Story The Founders of Hands of Hope Caregivers Foundation

Caring, Compassionate, and Understanding Caring, Passionate, and Considerate.

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ision & Purpose (V&P) Community Magazine celebrates National Family Caregivers Month with the Hands of Hope Nonprofit Organization of Prince George’s County, Maryland. In this month of November we honor the “Angel Heart” of a Caregiver. Vision & Purpose Community Magazine (VPCM): How did you become to be a caregiver? Patricia Morris (PM): I was a caregiver for my mother of ten years and my father for three years. Steven Morris (SM): I was a caregiver to my mom for a period of time, my mother in-law, and my wife when she had a minor stroke. VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? PM: Be patient with love one, locate resources and join a support group. SM: The best advice I could give to someone new to caregiving is to be patient, caring, loving and most importantly understanding. VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet? PM: Meditate, healthy diet, select a form of exercise you enjoy, and as a married couple taking time to smell the roses together.

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SM: I take care of myself by reading, working out in the gym, window shopping, helping my boys in the Gentlemen of Distinction Mentoring Program and taking time out with my wife. VPCM: As the Founders of Hands of Hope what lead you to start the organization? PM: As for me, I started Hands of Hope because I wanted caregivers to know where to locate resources, where to locate support groups and wanted them to have a better understanding of what is a caregiver and what are the responsibilities of the caregiver. SM: As a co-founder of Hands of Hope Foundation I support my wife in any way I can, to help the organization to be successful and enlighten the caregivers of the multitude of resources and service available to them in the county. VPCM: What has been the greatest reward since starting Hands of Hope? PM: Knowing that I am helping a caregiver on their journey. SM: My greatest reward has been watching my wife Patricia Morris’ caring and loving attitude towards helping the caregivers become better aware of what their love one is going through and how to help them with resources and services that are available to them.

VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? PM: Know what resources are needed, help with the referral process, help caregiver to understand the diagnosis and give the needed support. SM: The best way for the healthcare provider to help improve or support the journey of the caregiver is to continue care and support the caregiver through love and continuously providing the caregiver with up to date information, resources and services. VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? PM: MY love for God, and my relationship with my Lord and Savior. He walks with me every day. SM: My secret to living a purposeful life is to treat people the way you would like to be treated with respect and dignity.

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Devoted, Aspiring, and Unstinting

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Dedra A. Frazier

ision & Purpose (V&P)) Community Magazine celebrates National Family Caregivers Month with the Hands of Hope Nonprofit Organization of Prince George’s County, Maryland. In this month of November we honor the “Angel Heart” of a Caregiver. VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you? Dedra A. Frazier (DAF): As a child I was taught to be respectful and genuine when addressing others. I am best known for a tender smile, big hug, and firm handshake by those who have experienced them. My salutation toward others reveals my acknowledgment of their presence, as I greet them in brotherly love. A gift that doesn’t cost a thing, and I freely share in hopes that people walk away feeling respected, appreciated, and most importantly loved.

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VPCM: How did you become to be a caregiver? DAF: My role as a caregiving began once I became old enough to understand how to give of my time unselfishly. My family and friends have always been, and is, my inspiration because they live the life they preach about. In one instance, I remember as a child following my great grandmother around the house, hanging on to her skirt tail and copying everything she did. I saw her, and many others, take care of family and neighbors all my life. If someone was sick in our family, or in need of care, it wasn’t nothing to set up a spare room in the house to care for that person. If you didn’t live in the house, you stopped by to check in and provided whatever assistance was needed. Therefore, being a caregiver to me is not a job I do, it’s a natural behavior I put into action. This is who I am and so it will always be in me to give of my time. VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? DAF: Patients is a virtue, so don’t sweat out your fresh hairdo. When you can, get into a private space so you can breathe. Watch a funny movie, so you can laugh. Play some music, so you can sing along, even if off key. Most importantly, when you get tired, SIT down or someone will be taking care of you.

DAF: As a member of Hands of Hope, I was able to see that this battle of caring for loved ones is not mine alone. There are so many wonderful people giving of themselves to be a helpmate to someone. I never knew the abundant of resources, networking opportunities, and services available to support caregivers. Mrs. Morris, without hesitation, shared her wealth of knowledge, and showered me with love and support. She made me feel my situation was personal to her, which humbled me even more to accept her support. I didn’t realize how much I needed this organization, until I became a member. The saying it takes a village is not just a cliché that we hear from time-to-time. We really do need a helping hand, and that’s what Hands of Hope is for me. VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope? DAF: My greatest reward for being a part of Hands of Hope is hearing the testimonies shared by other members, and the available resources that supports our families. I have heard stories from Hands of Hope members that have brought tears to my eyes. I’ve had one-on-one moments where wisdom was poured into me, with full transparency and without hesitation. You can’t pay for that kind of love among a group of people who wants nothing for their service, but to spread love so that others can live life to the fullest. VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver?

VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet?

DAF: Patients it not a virtue when it comes to explaining the ins and outs of medical services to loved ones who are tenacious, may feel slighted, or discomfited. Providing more visiting nurses or medical representatives that speaks in laymen terms could help elevate some of the stress on caregivers.

DAF: My outlet is enjoying nature. Every moment I get a way, I smell the flowers.

VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life?

VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you?

DAF: My secret sauce to living is sharing a tender smile, giving a big hug, and a firm handshake. My hugs make a difference to those I care for and about.

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Kind, Giving, Meet

Shirley Singer

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VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you?

VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you?

Shirley Singer (SS): I am a licensed Social Worker who have served populations from various socioeconomic and diversified backgrounds. Currently, I volunteer with NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) Co-Facilitating a monthly Family Support Group. In 2019, I received the NAMI Family Support Group Hall of Fame Award, that reads: “Shirley Singer is hereby named a Silver Member of the Education Hall of Fame having earned NAMl’s everlasting gratitude and appreciation for facilitating for two or more years.”

SS: I am a proud member of the Hands of Hope Foundation! The founders, Steven and Patricia Morris, have been a life raft of support for me. During those days when I felt lost and out of touch, I knew that I could call on Pat or Steve for a listening ear, a pleasant smile, and words of encouragement. Our monthly support meetings have helped me to stay grounded and sensitive to my commitment as a caretaker by providing timely and informative speakers and training on how to take care of myself as I care for my loved ones, providing community referrals that have assisted me with connecting with resources, donating medical supplies to my loved one, and making timely referrals for respite assistance.

VPCM: How did you become a caregiver? SS: Sometimes life can thrust you into a situation that can take you by surprise; this happened to me. There was a medical need in my family, I felt that I had been blessed with the skills and knowledge to navigate the care and support needed for my loved one. Now, I assist with the mental health and other medical needs for several family members. VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? SS: For ALL caregivers, and especially new caregivers, I would advise them to take care of yourself, join a support group, ask other caregivers for advice, accept offers of help from people you trust, make future life plans for you and the person you are caring for; and finally forgive yourself for mistakes and negative thoughts. VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility, so tell us what you do to take care of yourself? SS: The short answer to this question is that I pray often for strength, patience and direction. In addition, I get proper rest and nutrition, exercise regularly, even if only for 10 minutes at a time, make and keep all of my medical appointments and I attend monthly Hands of Hope support meetings.

VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope? SS: The greatest rewards to me for being a part of Hands of Hope are meeting Steven and Patricia Morris, fellowshipping with other Group members and learning about the many community resources available to caregivers. VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? SS: I would like to see higher wages paid to health care workers who provide in-home assistance to families caring for their loved ones. VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? SS: My secret sauce to living a purposeful life is PRAY!!

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Meet Erica Williams

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Kind, Caring and Fun

VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you?

VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you?

Erica L. Williams (ELW): I am so BLESSED! My love for my family is above all next to God. I retired early tocare for my mother who has Alzheimer and am available to be a caregiver for any other family member who may need me in the future. Being a caregiver is not an easy task, however; I thank the Morris’s and their Hands of Hope organization for making my responsibilities as a caregiver a lot easier. God has blessed me with a gift and I will continue to use it for as long as I am able.

ELW: As a member of Hands of Hope the monthly meetings with different people coming in with knowledge of resources made life easier when I needed the resources in different seasons of taking care of my mother. VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope?

VPCM: How did you become to be a caregiver?

ELW: Fellowshipping with other caregivers who understand your struggle. Sad but true; sometimes family members and friends just don’t understand.

ELW: My mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer in November 2013. I packed my bags and moved in with her in January of 2014.

VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver?

VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver?

ELW: Pass more laws that can fund caregiver support programs especially respite care.

ELW: Find a good community or support group and feel comfortable with sharing your issues with the group. Someone else may have your answer.

VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life?

VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet? ELW: In the beginning it was hard to take care of myself but once I was not afraid of asking for help; I was able to create a weekend schedule of family and friends to give me a minimum of 3-6 hours on the weekend for myself. I enjoyed game nights and cookouts with family and friends. I enjoyed going to dinner and the movies. Respite care saved me mentally.

ELW: I give God all the glory with my journey as a caregiver. I lean on Him in my darkest hour and He helps me to see the light through others. I thank God for placing Ms. Pat and Mr. Steven in my life.

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Vivacious Compassionate Indus Meet Geneva B. Williams

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Geneva B. Williams (GBW): I hail from the great state of North Carolina. I was born in Benson, NC. I now reside in Upper Marlboro, Maryland and married to Deacon (Emeritus) Lindsay S. Williams for fifty eight blessed years. I have my Masters of Arts Degree in Urban Staff Development, and further studies at Harvard University and George Washington University. I am a member of Central Baptist Church of Camp Springs Maryland for fifty-six years. Currently, a member of The Prince George’s County Maryland Chapter of the National Coalition of 100 Black Women, Vice President-DC Retired Educator & Association, President of The Auxiliary VFW POST 7757 -Largo-Kettering and a member of Hands of Hope Caregivers.

VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you?

strious VPCM: How did you become to be a caregiver? GBW: I became a caregiver in January 2016 at such time that my husband faced some serious physical and medical challenges. Between January 16, 2016 to July 2017, he was hospitalized twice in two different hospitals as well as a patient in two rehabilitation centers. In July 2017, he was discharged to return home under my care and protection. For the duration of his illness, I have been his caregiver to the present time. VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? GBW: PRAY! Exercise patience, show love and compassion, seek help as needed, don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask for help, don’t “go at it” alone, take a break without feeling guilty, join a support group in your area, take care of yourself (your needs; your health), encourage as much independency as possible/ tolerable, caregiving requires a reordering of life’s priorities, and keep your love one lookinggood. VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet? GBW: Regular doctor’s visits as needed/scheduled, visits to hair salon, lunch/breakfast outings with spouse, family, and friends, shopping, read a good book, dress up and look good, go to the movies, and attending Hands of Hope meetings.

GBW: Hands of Hope has been an outreach effort that never ceases to show love, compassion and genuine concern. It has been a shoulder to lean on, call upon and be blessed by. Further, Hands of Hope has offered many tools, resources, strategies and helps to survive my caregiving journey withgrace and empowerment. Valuable topics, presentations and discussions have been shared. For example: How to avoid caregiver burnout, managing stress, anxiety, maintaining a balanced life as a caregiver. Hands of Hope has provided for us ”wraparound” services. VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope? GBW: The opportunity to connect with a caring and stellar leadership that exudes so much love for all as expressed through inspirational thoughts, prayers, and phone calls to just say how are you doing or do you need anything? This support group addresses our physical, emotional, and yes, our spiritual needs. I describe Hands of Hope as an extended “Family Affair” and a safe place to share your innermost feelings! VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? GBW: By sharing current legislation on caregiving, health benefits through organizations such as AARP, available support for older caregivers and schedule of caregiving events assessing the need for a caregiver, helping to locate the right caregivers support group, helping to create a Respite Plan to give caregivers a break, and directing caregivers to local resources and solutions. VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? GBW: My secret sauce to living a purposeful life is a mixture of PRAYER, GOOD HEALTH, THE WORD OF GOD and PUTTING GOD FIRST IN ALL THAT I DO.

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Meet

Denise Cunningham-Abney caregiver, fashionista, and dancer

ision & Purpose (V&P) Community Magazine celebrates National Family Caregivers Month with the Hands of Hope Nonprofit Organization of Prince George’s County, Maryland. In this month of November we honor the “Angel Heart” of a Caregiver. VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you? Denise Cunningham-Abney (DCA): What I would like for the readers to know about me is that I am a true believer in God. My mother always told me to put God first in everything that I do. I have been married for 40 years, have two adult children, and one grandson. I worked for 42 years in the Federal Government, and I am happily retired. I am a very active senior and enjoy a variety of activities, such as traveling, walking, hand dancing, line dancing, yoga, zumba, chair exercises, and helping seniors.

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VPCM: How did you become to be a caregiver?

DCA: I have been a caregiver off and on throughout my life. I am the third of five girls, and I always stepped up when it came to helping my parents and family. I started caregiving for my mother in the early 70’s and later her brother until he passed in 2015. Moving forward, my father became ill in 2000, so I assisted with his caring. Sadly, my father passed away in 2010. Throughout this caregiving journey, I have kept the faith, and I know without a shadow of a doubt that the Lord was carrying me every step of the way. I never would have made it without the Lord and the support of my loving husband Willie Abney. VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? DCA: The advice I would share to help someone new at being a caregiver is understand the importance of Power of Attorney and when to get it. Power of Attorney makes it easier for a caregiver speak on behalf of the person being cared for. It also makes it easier to pay bills and participate in the health and welfare of the person being cared for. Also, I would advise a new caregiver to do some self-care and join a Caregiver’s Support Group where you can get some spiritual, emotional, and physical support. Continue to keep the faith! Remember the Lord is with you every step of the way. VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet? DCA: What I do to take care of myself is to walk, do some yoga, listen to music, go to the spa, drink plenty of water, try to eat healthy, and take vitamins.

VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you?

DCA: Hands of Hope has helped me to share common experiences. It’s a place that if you feel like you’re the only one who is dealing with a difficult caregiving situation, then you can put that idea to rest. I have meet individuals who have experienced very similar situations day in and day out, and just talking about them gives peace of mind and has led me to being a better caregiver, plus validate any feelings that I had. VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope? DCA: As a member of Hands of Hope they provided not only a way to meet new friends with common interests, but also to avoid isolation that can lead to loneliness and depression. Being a member of Hands of Hope has provided me an opportunity to help others. Hands of Hope offer a way to learn new coping strategies by talking to others. Even when you feel like you’re doing just fine, caregiving duties can ultimately begin to take a toll. You can discuss what worked for others and finding solutions to common issues. VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? DCA: Healthcare providers can increase messaging that emphasizes both the important role ofcaregivers and the importance of maintaining caregivers’ health and well-being, be mindful of the health risks for caregivers, and consider family caregivers “essential front-line health workers” and pay them accordingly for their services. VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? DCA: My secret sauce to living a purposeful life is to help others. It shouldn’t be too much of a secret that helping others makes you feel good. Being of service to others has provided a sense of purpose in my life.

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MeetReverend Dr. Annie Giles

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Caring, Faithful, Interceptor VPCM: What do you want our readers to know about you? Reverend Dr. Annie Giles (AG): I’m an interceptor faithful to the ministry because I care of the welfare of the people. A world of information shared to unaware individuals. Can hear a smile in my voice. Love working with people and serving. Encouraging others to join the many available organizations to enhance individuals knowledge.

AG: Prayer tent, food giveaway, ministry within the community, serving others, volunteering with the church in various capacities. Encouraging family members to communicate and be involved. VPCM: As a member of Hands of Hope how has it help you? AG: To be able to share the most information within the community.

VPCM: How did you become to be a caregiver?

VPCM: What has been the greatest reward by being a part of Hands of Hope?

AG: As a caregiver to all, working and serving with Mrs. Morris. Assisting with any area needed to continue educating others.

AG: Meeting other caregivers and observing their stories. To pray for the group and minister to them. Participate in all the activities to encourage comfort and well-being.

VPCM: What advice or tips could you share to help someone new at being a caregiver? AG: Even though I am not a specific caregiver to one individual I would recommend reaching out to different support groups or seeking additional guidance. VPCM: We know being a caregiver is a BIG responsibility so tell us what do you do to take care of yourself or what is your outlet?

VPCM: What can our healthcare provider do to help improvement or support the journey of the caregiver? AG: Healthcare provider should utilize the point of view of the caregiver to give better insight as to what a caregiver is really going through. VPCM: What is your secret sauce to living a purposeful life? AG: Prayer

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Meet

Michelle Lyons

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Achiever, Caring and Spiritual

ichelle Lyons serves as the Board President for the Hands of Hope Caregivers Foundation. In her role she have helped to identify what is the priority need for the members in order to bring the resources to the organization that will be beneficial. “As the President for Hands of Hope it has afforded me the opportunity to assist in facilitating the vision of CEO, Patricia Morris who has truly dedicated herself to the cause and is known for being the “Angel Heart of Caregivers” said Michelle. Michelle Lyons knows all too well of what it takes to be a caregiver. The hard work and dedication that one must display when taking care of their love one is what we call work of honor. “I became a caregiver 36 years ago when my foster mother died and left her adopted daughter and my foster sister without anyone. In which I became their caregiver.” “As a person the knows the system all too well it would be helpful to see the Healthcare Industry providing better access and resources to assist the caregiver in providing for their love one needs.” Michelle made a decision long ago to help others and this has truly driven her life. “As an inspired person, you must continuously grow to get where we want and keep God at the center.”

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