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o, you’re getting eyed up and down by a stranger on a Saturday night in the middle of your favorite going out spot. You lock eyes, you’re captivated by their body language…what next?

There’s nothing more exciting than flirting with people you’ve never met before; it makes you feel special or careless.

It’s easy to overthink and wonder what’s going to happen next, but living in the moment is what matters. You could cascade into an emotional vortex of distress, insecurity, and panic. Whether older, younger, or your age, your emotions are justified. But why should you care? You have nothing to lose. Literally nothing. Okay, maybe he could be your future husband, but like I said – live in the moment. When you’re single, it’s a rewarding rite of passage to play the game.

when flirting. How is someone going to stay interested in you if you don’t even seem at all fascinated?

but to an extent. Have them think this is an everyday occurrence for you. Sit back, enjoy the show, and see what they got.

There is nothing more attractive than having a quality personality. Look up from what you are doing and give everything you have to offer. Nobody wants to waste their time on someone who is avoiding conversation, looking away, or overall acting uninterested. But be careful there’s a difference between someone who is nice and someone who is kind. If someone is being nice in the moment, it doesn’t mean that they will be kind forever. It’s okay to flirt with the friendly stranger, but that’s all it is: flirting. No strings, just fun. The minute you get attached is the moment you lose the game.

Bold is the way to go. Break the ice and get personal. Ask questions about them whether it’s what they do for a living, what they like to do for fun, or about their family and friends. It’s not something that needs to be overthought, if you’re trying to talk to them it can be any topic from the weather to what they ate for lunch. Also, tell or ask them what you are thinking about. Is this gonna go somewhere? Like my apartment down the block?

It’s not only about the conversation. Start dancing with them, smile, or ask to get a drink. If you’re brave, the ball is in your court where they will be more nervous than you and attempt to come up with more conversation starters.

Have your body faced towards theirs as an invitation to talk and get closer. It would be a little unnatural if you were three feet away from each other or yelling across the bar (unless of course you are an expert in the art of crazy strong eye contact). The green light is on when you accidentally brush your arm against them or give any reason to touch them; the tension is hot and you just want to get up close and personal. Leaning in during a conversation shows you’re giving your full attention and interest, which is crucial

Practice makes perfect. It would be harder to flirt with people that you haven’t met before, than to flirt with people you’re already comfortable with. While flirting with the stranger, imagine that this is someone you don’t feel judged by. Who knows, maybe you’ll end up dating your best friend.

If I was flirting with someone, yes, I would also think it’s cute if they were nervous,

There are always going to be those moments where you don’t know what to do. However, you are unique and exceptional. They’re the ones missing out on YOU. It’s better to spend time with the people who want your company, instead of trying for the ones who don’t. Whether it makes you feel better or not, you don’t need the attention from someone else to satisfy yourself.