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Jewish coalition helping Houston hurricane recovery lists groups aiding Florence victims


he coalition of Jewish groups assisting relief efforts in Houston for last year’s Hurricane Harvey has listed organizations that are mobilizing to help the victims of Hurricane Florence that has pelted North and South Carolina. The Act Now Houston coalition—a partnership of national Jewish organizations including BBYO, Hillel International, JDC Entwine, Moishe House, OneTable, Repair the World, the Charles and Lynn Schusterman Family Foundation, and the Jewish Federation of Greater Houston— are still sending volunteers to the Houston area to support the victims of the devastating flooding that destroyed more than 300,000 homes in Houston alone. In a post Friday, September 14 on Facebook, the coalition listed some groups that are mobilizing to help the victims of Hurricane Florence. “As a community of flood survivors and helpers, our hearts are with those

who are now facing Hurricane Florence,” the post said. “Like you, we are monitoring the situation and look to support local relief efforts in the days, weeks, and months to come. May the citizens facing Hurricane Florence find the safety and strength to endure the storm.” The coalition was founded in February, more than six months after Hurricane Harvey. Some 900 individuals from 50 groups have served more than 15,000 volunteer hours through the initiative. In the coming months, more Jewish organizations are scheduled to travel to Houston to help rebuild homes devastated by last year’s hurricane. Early volunteers cleaned out damaged and moldy items, sanitizing what remained, and installing insulation and sheetrock. They also packed and delivered food to families affected by the hurricane damage. Now they are focusing more on

rebuilding. “Though the headlines have moved on from this time last year, we have not forgotten the most vulnerable victims of Hurricane Harvey who still need our help,” Sacha Bodner, program manager for Act Now Houston, said in a statement. “The rebuilding effort takes time, resources, dedication, and the commitment of people to serve in solidarity alongside those whose lives were devastated by the storm.” Recent programs included members of the Jewish Teen Initiative of Greater Boston, which spent four days rebuilding the home of a woman named Cynthia, including painting, tiling a bathroom, installing cabinets and flooring. Moishe House-affiliated Jewish young adults traveled to Houston over the summer to assist in rebuilding a home that had been destroyed during the hurricane. (JTA)

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BRIEFS Tech mogul Marc Benioff blows shofar, buys Time magazine Tech executive Marc Benioff began a week in which he and his wife Lynne announced plans to buy Time magazine by blowing the shofar at his San Francisco synagogue. Benioff sounded the ram’s horn during Rosh Hashanah services at Congregation Emanu-El, a 168-year-old Reform temple. the New York Times reported that Benioff, backed by a guitarist, blew a long, curved shofar before heading with other congregants to a nearby beach to take part in tashlich, the annual casting away of sins. On Sunday, Sept. 16, Benioff and his wife announced that he was buying the fabled news magazine for $190 million. Benioff, 54, is the CEO of SalesForce, a cloud computing company with a popular customer relationship management system, or CRM. He posted on Twitter that he is proud to “steward” the iconic newsweekly. “The power of Time has always been in its unique storytelling of the people & issues that affect us all & connect us all,” he tweeted. “A treasure trove of our history & culture. We have deep respect for their organization & honored to be stewards of this iconic brand.” Time, which was founded 95 years ago, was the most prominent American news magazine of the 20th century. But it has struggled along with other print media recently, and is down to 2.3 million print subscribers from 3 million just last year (and 20 million in its heyday). Its parent company, Time Inc., was bought last year by Meredith Corp., which sold the magazine to Benioff. Benioff, who founded SalesForce in 1999, is outspokenly liberal, but has said he will not get involved in the magazine’s editorial operations. His purchase is the latest foray of tech wealth into the media world. Jeff Bezos, the founder of Amazon, owns the Washington Post, and Lauren Powell Jobs, the widow of Apple co-founder Steve Jobs, controls a majority stake in The Atlantic. Chris Hughes, a co-founder of Facebook, bought The New Republic, a political magazine, in 2012 and sold it several years later. (JTA)

50 pounds of kosher food airlifted to Wilmington, NC, hours before Yom Kippur Jewish families in Wilmington, North Carolina, were able to eat a kosher meal before the start of Yom Kippur after the Chabad synagogue in nearby Charlotte was able to arrange the arrival of a helicopter carrying 150 pounds of kosher food. After days with no contact due to Hurricane Florence, Rabbi Yossi Groner of Ohr HaTorah was able to speak by telephone to Rabbi Moshe Leiblich of the Chabad of Wilmington on Monday, Sept. 24. Leiblich requested that he find a way to send kosher food, the Charlotte Observer reported. A truck full of kosher food sent from Raleigh after the hurricane first hit had been turned away by authorities because of dangerous road conditions. Groner’s son, Ben Tzion, contacted a friend who is a helicopter mechanic and was able to secure a helicopter for Tuesday, Sept. 18. It arrived at the airport in Wilmington at 1:30 pm carrying kosher chicken and dairy products, as well as ready-to-eat meals, which were delivered to families preparing for Yom Kippur, the newspaper reported. “It was tremendous, and certainly a relief,” Leiblich told the Observer. “It gave us kosher meat until the stores are back to normal.” The Chabad of Wilmington was expected to be the only one in the city holding Yom Kippur services because of the hurricane. Some 800 to 1,000 Jewish families live in Wilmington. (JTA) Prime Minister Theresa May says she does not underestimate threat posed by those who promote anti-Semitism A recent poll that found nearly 40 percent of British Jews would leave the country if Labour Party leader Jeremy Corbyn came to power “sickens me,” British Prime Minister Theresa May said. “I do not underestimate the threat posed by those who promote anti-Semitism, or hatred in any form. Nor the pernicious nature of what those people say and what they stand for,” May said at

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a United Jewish Israel Appeal dinner in central London. “But I do not believe those voices speak for the vast, overwhelming majority of people in our country.… And most importantly, I do not believe that those voices will ever win. We will not let them win,” she told the audience of 800. The poll appeared last month in the London-based Jewish Chronicle. “If we are to stand up for the values that we share, then one of the things we need to do is give young Jewish people the confidence to be proud of their identity—as British, Jewish and Zionist, too,” May said. She offered her support to the British Jewish community and to Israel. “I have come here tonight as prime minister of our country to say that I stand with you,” May said. “I stand with Israel as the homeland of the Jewish people. And I stand with the entire Jewish community in Britain.” May alluded to the fact that the Labour Party adopted the International Holocaust Remembrance Alliance definition of anti-Semitism after delaying the vote, but only after adding a free-speech clause on Israel. She stressed her government’s adoption of the full IHRA definition. “Criticizing the actions of Israel is never—and can never be—an excuse for questioning Israel’s right to exist, any more than criticizing Britain’s actions could be an excuse for questioning our right to exist,” the prime minister said. “And criticizing the government of Israel is never—and can never be—an excuse for hatred against the Jewish people, any more than criticizing the British government would be an excuse for hatred against the British people.” (JTA)

Saying Bert and Ernie were gay, a writer for Sesame Street reopens a furry-ous debate A former writer for the PBS children’s show Sesame Street said he based scripts starring the beloved characters Bert and Ernie on his own experience as one half of a gay couple. Mark Saltzman, who is Jewish, reopened a long-standing debate over the puppets’ sexuality in a Sept. 16 interview

with Queery magazine. He had worked on Sesame Street with his late life partner, filmmaker Arnold Glassman, starting in 1984—some 15 years after the two characters hit the screens in the Sesame Street 1969 pilot program. “So it was the Bert & Ernie relationship, and I was already with Arnie when I came to Sesame Street. So I don’t think I’d know how else to write them, but as a loving couple,” Saltzman said. Sesame Workshops, the company that produces the show, dismissed the assertion that the characters’ relationship is homosexual. “As we have always said, Bert and Ernie are best friends,” the company said in a statement. “They were created to teach preschoolers that people can be good friends with those who are very different form themselves. Even though they are identified as male characters and possess many human traits and characteristics (as most Sesame Street Muppets do), they remain puppets, and do not have a sexual orientation.” Objections to the Sesame Workshop statement were swift and angry, noting that numerous characters on the show have been depicted as romantic partners and as having children. That prompted Sesame Workshops to issue a second statement, saying that the show has “always stood for inclusion and acceptance.” Over the years, many have speculated over the relationship of the iconic Sesame Street characters, who appear to share an apartment and a bedroom. Sesame Street was a pioneer among children’s shows in tackling social issues, often displaying progressive attitudes, including celebrating diversity. Saltzman had never confirmed his intention to style Bert and Ernie as a homosexual couple. Asked during the Queery interview whether “Bert & Ernie became analogs” for his relationship with Glassman, Saltzman said: “Yeah. Because how else? That’s what I had in my life, a Bert & Ernie relationship. How could it not permeate? The things that would tick off Arnie would be the things that would tick off Bert. How could it not?” (JTA)


In J.K. Rowling’s new novel, a villain is an Israel-hating anti-Semite Yvette Alt Miller

(JTA)—For months author J.K. Rowling has been warning about the dangers of anti-Semitism in England, sparring on Twitter with critics who either downplay the phenomenon or say its proponents are confusing criticism of Israel with Jew hatred. Now, in her newest book, she includes a character whose obsessive anti-Zionism morphs into anti-Semitism. Lethal White, the fourth series in Rowling’s Cormoran Strike mystery series, written under the pen name Robert Galbraith, features a pair of hard-left political activists who believe “Zionists” are evil and have a stranglehold on Western governments. Extortionist Jimmy Knight’s extreme hatred of Israel has led him to hate Jews. “I wouldn’t trust him if it was anything

to do with Jews,” Knight’s ex-wife tells a detective. “He doesn’t like them. Israel’s the root of all evil, according to Jimmy. Zionism: I got sick of the bloody sound of the word. You’d think they’d suffered enough,” she says of Jews. Rowling’s depiction of a far-left anti-Semite comes at a time of record high anti-Semitism in Britain, where she lives. Britain’s Labour Party and its leader Jeremy Corbyn have been accused of insensitivity to Jews and condoning anti-Jewish sentiments within the party’s ranks. Corbyn previously defended a grotesquely anti-Semitic London mural depicting Jewish bankers, and referred to his “friends” in terror groups Hamas and Hezbollah, though he’s said he now regrets these positions. A September 2018 poll found that nearly 40 percent of British Jews would seriously consider emigrating if Corbyn

became prime minister—as polls show he might. The latest novel isn’t the first time the author of the Harry Potter series has commented on the dangers of anti-Semitism. “Most UK Jews in my timeline are currently having to field this kind of crap, so perhaps some of us non-Jews should start shouldering the burden,” she wrote in April, in response to a critic who said Judaism is a religion, not a race. “Antisemites thinks this is a clever argument, so tell us, do: were atheist Jews exempted from wearing the yellow star?” Rowling, who is not Jewish, also shared with her 14.4 million Twitter followers examples of posts she’d received that denied anti-Semitism was a problem. To a commenter who posted that Arabs cannot possibly be anti-Semitic because Arabs are Semites too, Rowling tweeted a photo of a dictionary definition

of anti-Semitism: “hostility to or prejudice against Jews.” In 2015, Rowling declined to endorse open letters calling for a cultural and academic boycott of Israel and signed by over 1,000 British authors and opinion leaders. Instead, she joined 150 other writers and artists in penning an alternative letter opposing singling out Israel for opprobrium. “Israelis will be right to ask why cultural boycotts are not also being proposed against…North Korea,” her Oct. 23, 2015 letter declared. Instead of boycotts, the letter said, “Cultural engagement builds bridges, nurtures freedom and positive movement for change.” Rowling has been critical of the government of Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, but is adamant that Israel, its people and its supporters should not be subjected to a double standard by their opponents. | October 1, 2018 | Jewish News | 5

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Israel reinforcing nuclear sites due to threats from Iran, nuclear chief says

srael is upgrading and reinforcing its nuclear sites in light of “repeated and explicit threats” made by Iran and its proxies to attack them, a nuclear official said. Zeev Snir, the director-general of Israel’s Atomic Energy Commission, addressed the issue in a speech to a meeting of the International Atomic Energy Agency, or IAEA. The address was provided to the Israeli media. “These outrageous threats require Israel to take action and continue to protect and defend its nuclear facilities,” Snir said. “These facilities are constantly upgraded and reinforced, in line with IAEA safety guidelines, in order to withstand any attack.” Israel rarely discusses its nuclear activities publicly. Snir called for regional cooperation on nuclear security and safety, but noted that while Israel has “repeatedly expressed its

willingness to collaborate with all of its neighbors” on nuclear safety and security, the Jewish state is not recognized by several Middle East countries and Iran has openly called for Israel’s destruction. He called on the IAEA to “conduct a robust verification of Iran’s clandestine nuclear activities,” adding that the covert Iranian nuclear weapons program is “a documented fact.” “Israel has repeatedly underlined the importance of confronting Iran with its lies and concealment efforts,” he said. Snir said the new information recently revealed by Israel “conclusively proves that Iranian activities were part of a well-orchestrated plan to continue the development of nuclear weapons.” He also spoke of Syria’s “undeclared, secretive military nuclear reactor at Dair Alzour,” which Israel bombed more than a decade ago. (JTA)

Kosovo will open an embassy in Jerusalem if Israel recognizes it, president says


osovo would set up an embassy in Israel if the Jewish state recognizes it as an independent state, the president of the Balkan breakaway republic said. “If Kosovo were recognized by Israel, I would place the Kosovo embassy in Jerusalem,” Hashim Thaci told the Real Story news show, the Kosova Press agency reported. The United States and dozens of other countries have recognized Kosovo, a Muslim-majority country, as a state since it declared independence from Serbia in 2008. But opposition by Russia and China have kept Kosovo from getting U.N. membership. Israel, Spain, India, Morocco, and Ukraine are among the key countries that *APY = Annual Percentage Yield of 2.02% for a 16-Month Certificate. Minimum to open a Certificate is $1,000. Not eligible for Active Rewards rate enhancement and cannot be combined with any other promotional offer. Dividends compound monthly. Penalty for early withdrawal. Some restrictions apply. Limited time offer. Fees may reduce earnings on the account. Rate subject to change. Insured by NCUA.

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have not recognized Kosovo, reportedly out of opposition to unilateral declarations of independence—including in territories they control. Israel under Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu has repeatedly urged a number of countries to follow the United States’ example in May and move their embassies to Jerusalem, though so far only Guatemala and Paraguay—which last month returned its embassy to Tel Aviv amid vociferous protests by Israel—have done so. In June, Czech President Milos Zeman joked during a speech that Netanyahu had offered to give up his own home in Jerusalem if the Czech Republic opened an embassy there. (JTA)

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Election 2018 Two Jewish billionaire donors withdraw support from GOP candidates (JTA)—One of the largest donors to the Republican Party in New England is calling on voters to support Democratic candidates in the upcoming elections— nd Seth Klarman put his money where his mouth is. Klarman, a registered Independent who stresses that “I’m not a Democrat,” told New York Times columnist Bari Weiss that he has donated $4.9 million this year to nearly 150 candidates, most running as Democrats. He said that by Election Day in November he will have spent $18 million to $20 million on Democratic candidates. “We need to turn the House and Senate as a check on Donald Trump and his runaway presidency,” Klarman said. Speaking of his planned donations to Democratic candidates, he said “I’m stretching far beyond what I usually do.” Among the Democrats to whom he has donated in this election cycle: Massachusetts Rep. Joe Kennedy III; Texas Senate candidate Rep. Beto O’Rourke; and New York Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand, a potential presidential candidate. Klarman donated more than $2.9 million to Republicans in the 2016 election cycle, according to the Times. He told Weiss that he “has been

alarmed by Republican attempts at voter suppression, and by a president who demonizes immigrants and suggests that Muslims, Hispanics, and blacks are second-class citizens.” Klarman also said he feels “betrayed” by “spineless” Republicans who have, with rare exceptions, been “profiles in cowardice.” The Klarman Family Foundation, which he runs with his wife, has some $700 million in total assets and gave away approximately $40 million in 2016 with a focus on pro-democracy initiatives, including supporting organizations that protect journalists, combat bigotry, and defend LGBT rights. He is also a major investor in the Times of Israel news site. Meanwhile, billionaire philanthropist Leslie Wexner announced at a leadership summit in Columbus, Ohio that “I’m no longer a Republican” and will no longer support the party. He is telling his friends in elective office that he is now an Independent, the Columbus Dispatch reported. Wexner made the announcement at an event sponsored by the Columbus Partnership, the group of central Ohio’s most influential business leaders that Wexner chairs, and YPO (formerly Young Presidents’ Organization), a group of

under-45 business leaders. Wexner, who donates generously to Jewish causes and according to Forbes is the wealthiest man in Ohio, is the CEO of L Brands, which owns Victoria’s Secret and Bath & Body Works. He made his announcement after former President Barack Obama, a Democrat, visited Columbus before heading to a rally in Cleveland in support of Democratic gubernatorial candidate Richard Corday. “I was struck by the genuineness of the man; his candor, humility, and empathy for others,” Wexner said of Obama. Wexner told his employees in a speech last year following the white nationalist and far-right rally in Charlottesville, Virginia, that left one counterprotester dead that he felt “dirty” and “ashamed” by Trump’s response. He also said he couldn’t sleep because of the incident, telling himself that “I have to do something because the leader of our country is behaving poorly.” In the last year, Wexner and his wife, Abby, have donated to initiatives that foster bipartisan civility, as well as contributed $2.8 million to With Honor, a political action committee that supports military veterans from both parties who are running for office.

South Carolina congressman jokes about Abraham Lincoln groping Ruth Bader Ginsburg

Ron DeSantis condemns Jewish backer’s racism, but he won’t return his cash

WASHINGTON (JTA)—A South Carolina congressman made a joke about Abraham Lincoln groping Ruth Bader Ginsburg, mocking the controversy over a woman who accused Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh of assaulting her 36 years ago. “I thought I was going to be late. Did you all hear the latest late-breaking news from the Kavanaugh hearings?” Rep. Ralph Norman, a Republican, said at an event Thursday, Sept. 20 in Rock Hill, S.C., the Herald reported. “Ruth Bader Ginsburg came out that she was groped by Abraham Lincoln.” Ginsburg, 85, is the oldest justice on the court. A reliable liberal vote, she has said she has plans to serve through the term of President Donald Trump. Norman, whose 5th District borders North Carolina, won a surprisingly tight race against Democrat Archie Parnell in a special election a year ago. He faces Parnell again in November.

WASHINGTON (JTA)—The Republican nominee for governor in Florida condemned racist remarks by Jewish backer Steven Alembik as “disgusting” but his campaign said it would not return money Alembik had donated. Alembik, of Boca Raton, had on Twitter called former President Barack Obama a “F***ING MUSLIM N*****.” Asked about his use of the pejorative, he told Politico: “I grew up in New York in the ’50s. We were the kikes. They were the n------. They were the goyim. And those were the spics.” A campaign statement from the GOP candidate, former congressman Ron DeSantis, denounced Alembik’s rhetoric as “disgusting,” and said it would no longer accept money from him. But the campaign also said it would not return at least $4,000 he had given the campaign because it had already been spent during the primaries, The Associated Press reported. DeSantis spoke in February at a pro-Israel event Alembik organized at Mar-a-Lago, the Florida resort owned by President Donald Trump.

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israel 55 House Republicans urge Trump to allow ‘Israel’ on passports of Jerusalem-born WASHINGTON ( JTA)—A letter from 55 U.S. House of Representatives Republicans to President Donald Trump asks him to direct the State Department to allow U.S. citizens born in Jerusalem to list Israel as their birth country on their passport. “Despite the progress in moving the embassy, the State Department has not yet fully implemented the administration’s policy of recognizing Jerusalem as Israel’s capital for purposes of registration of birth, certification of nationality, or issuance of a passport of a United States citizen born in the city of Jerusalem,” said the letter sent Sept. 17.

The letter was released to media by Rep. Lee Zeldin, R-N.Y., who initiated it with Rep. Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, R-Fla. Previous administrations have resisted allowing Jerusalem-born Americans to list “Israel” as their birth country, saying that it would be de facto recognition of Israel’s claim to the city. The Supreme Court in 2015 upheld the executive branch’s right to maintain that policy, although Congress in 2002 passed a law requiring the State Department to allow listing “Israel.” Trump in December recognized Jerusalem as Israel’s capital and in May moved the U.S. embassy to the city.



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Israeli military officials travel to Moscow to provide report about downed Russian military plane JERUSALEM ( JTA)—A delegation of Israeli military officials traveled to Moscow to present the situation report of the accidental downing of a Russian plane by Syrian anti-aircraft fire. The delegation, led by the commander of the Israeli Air Force, Maj. Gen. Amikam Norkin, left on Thursday, Sept. 20, according to the Israel Defense Forces. Other members of the delegation include Brig. Gen. Erez Maisel, the head of the IDF’s Foreign Relations Division, and other senior officers from the Air Force and the Intelligence and Operations divisions. Russian officials said Israel used the Russian reconnaissance aircraft as cover for an alleged Israeli airstrike on a Syrian air base near Latakia. The Russian Defense Ministry called the incident a “deliberate provocation” and vowed an “adequate response.” Fifteen Russian troops were killed in the incident. The IDF said its delegation “will present the situation report of the event regarding all aspects, including the pre-mission information and the findings of the IDF inquiry regarding the event.” The IDF acknowledged that its fighter jets targeted a facility of the Syrian armed forces from which systems to manufacture accurate and lethal weapons were about

to be transferred on behalf of Iran to Hezbollah in Lebanon. “These weapons were meant to attack Israel and posed an intolerable threat against it,” the IDF said. The IDF said it holds Syria’s Assad regime “fully responsible” for shooting down the Russian plane and that “Israel also holds Iran and the Hezbollah terror organization accountable for this unfortunate incident.” An initial inquiry found that the Russian plane was hit and downed by “extensive and inaccurate Syrian anti-aircraft fire,” and that when the Syrian army launched the missiles that hit the Russian plane, Israeli Air Force jets were already within Israeli airspace. During the airstrike on the target in Latakia, the Russian plane that was hit was not within the area of operation. The Russian Foreign Ministry summoned the Israeli ambassador to the country over the incident. Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu spoke before Yom Kippur with President Vladimir Putin of Russia and told him that Syria was squarely to blame for the downing of the Russian military plane, and said he hoped Israeli-Russian military coordination would continue.

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ifty-eight organizations called on the University of Michigan to sanction professors who implement academic boycotts of Israel. The letter, sent to university president Mark Schlissel, was signed by Jewish, Israel advocacy and political organizations and organized by the AMCHA Initiative, a nonprofit seeking to combat campus anti-Semitism. It referred to an incident in which a professor at the school, John Cheney-Lippold, refused to write a letter of recommendation for a student who wanted to study abroad at Tel Aviv University, citing his support for the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement against the country. “I have extraordinary political and ethical conflict lending my name to helping that student go to that place,” CheneyLippold has told reporters. The university said in a statement that it opposes academic boycotts of Israel and that “[i]njecting personal politics into a decision regarding support for our students is counter to our values and expectations as an institution.” In a separate statement, Schlissel said that “[w]e will be taking appropriate steps to address this issue and the broader questions it has raised.” The signatories of the letter—which included groups such as the Alpha Epsilon Pi Fraternity, Christians and Jews United

for Israel, the Simon Wiesenthal Center and the Zionist Organization of America —strongly criticized Cheney-Lippold’s decision and called on Schlissel to make a statement that such behavior would not be allowed. “Impeding a student’s ability to participate in a university-approved educational program in order to carry out political activism is reprehensible,” it read. Cheney-Lippold’s decision has raised questions about academic freedom. The American Association of University Professors opposes academic boycotts, although writing letters of recommendation is voluntary on the part of professors. Hans-Joerg Tiede, the associate secretary of the AAUP’s Department of Academic Freedom, Tenure and Governance, told Insider Higher Ed that AAUP does address whether faculty are obligated to write reference letters, but that “refusing to write a letter of reference on grounds that are discriminatory would appear to be at odds with the AAUP’s Statement on Professional Ethics.” John K. Wilson, the co-editor of the AAUP’s blog, “Academe,” told Insider Higher Ed that “it is morally wrong for professors to impose their political views on student letters of recommendation.” Wilson emphasized, however, that the professor should not be punished. (JTA)

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sraeli medical robotic company Mazor Robotics will be acquired by Dublin-based Medtronic in a deal worth approximately $1.64 billion, the companies announced. The deal, which the Irish firm announced, represents the largest sale or “exit” of an Israeli medical company to date, surpassing the $1.1 billion acquisition of NeuroDerm by Mitsubishi Tanabe Pharma in 2017, according to the Jerusalem Post. Founded in 2001, Caesarea-based Mazor Robotics has pioneered the application of robotics technology and guidance

for use in spinal procedures. The company is the holder of more than 50 patents worldwide. Its 200 systems have guided the placement of more than 250,000 implants during 40,000 spinal operations, the company claims. Medtronic previously held a stake of approximately 11 percent of Mazor shares. In August 2017, Medtronic became the sole worldwide distributor of the Mazor X robotic guidance system. Shares in Mazor Robotics rose by 4.91 percent to $52.75 at the Nasdaq Stock Market last month. (JTA)

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Here’s how Israelis and local Jews are helping in Puerto Rico a year after Hurricane Maria Michele Chabin


lmost immediately after Hurricane Maria barreled into Puerto Rico a year ago last month, disaster relief groups rushed to the shattered island to help with rescue and cleanup. The storm turned out to be the worst natural disaster ever recorded in the U.S. territory. The Category 4 hurricane caused catastrophic flooding that decimated 80 percent of the island’s crops, destroyed or damaged hundreds of thousands of homes, and completely devastated the electricity grid. Among the initial responders was the Israeli disaster response group IsraAID, which opened six mobile medical clinics on the island, distributed water filters in six remote communities, provided mental health support in storm shelters and trained staff at two hospitals in trauma response. As the recovery and rebuilding effort stretched into weeks and months, most emergency response groups packed up and moved onto other disaster zones. But a year after the storm, IsraAID is still in Puerto Rico, and plans to stay for at least two more years. “Following the earthquake in Haiti we stayed there for eight years,” says Yotam Polizer, IsraAID’s co-CEO. “Though being on the ground quickly saves lives, we’re realizing more and more that the initial emergency response doesn’t sustain the local population.” Now, the group’s focus in Puerto Rico is helping communities still struggling with hurricane-related trauma and a dearth of clean drinking water. Needs are especially acute in rural villages cut off from the national water grid. “There is still a lot of work to be done, especially in the mountainous areas,” says Haley Broder, IsraAID’s head of mission in Puerto Rico. “We’re working with a small community there that didn’t have electricity for more than eight months and whose clean drinking water is dependent on an electrical pump.” Hurricane Maria is blamed for more

than 3,000 deaths—not just those who died during the hurricane, but those who died from hurricane-caused illnesses and lack of treatment. Then there’s the additional collateral damage exacerbated by the storm, including deepening poverty and a spike in suicides. Perhaps most notably, tens of thousands of people left the U.S. territory and moved to the mainland. They may never return. The storm’s psychological impact remains overwhelming. “Our psychologists say it’s not PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder] because people are still experiencing trauma every day,” Broder says. “There is nothing ‘post’ about it.” Since ending its emergency response, IsraAID staffers—supplemented by trained volunteers from San Juan’s Jewish community—have focused on programs that build resilience and foster self-sufficiency. The group is working mostly in communities with high rates of elderly and low-income populations. Among the priorities: to create emergency operation plans to cope during the next crisis, whatever that may be. The plans include evacuation protocols, psychological first aid, and access to drinking water. IsraAID is also working with 65 teachers from ASPIRA, a network of schools throughout Puerto Rico to build a resiliency curriculum to reduce levels of stress and trauma during and after an emergency. The program will serve 3,400 children. This month, a new gravitational sand water filtration system built by IsraAID and the Inter American University of Puerto Rico will be up and running in Barrio Real, one of the small rural communities where IsraAID went door to door delivering temporary household water filters right after the hurricane. The new filtration system does not require electricity to function. Volunteers from San Juan’s small

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Jewish community trained by IsraAID have taught residents of Barrio Real how to keep their new water system safe from water-borne diseases and pollutants. “The Jewish community is amazing. They’ve become strong activists. They’re eager to do other projects,” Broder says. The Jewish volunteers include members of the local Chabad, the Conservative Jewish Community Center of Puerto RicoShaarei Zedek Synagogue and the Reform Temple Beth Shalom. Diego Mandelbaum, the religious director of the Jewish Community Center, says IsraAID has provided the local Jewish community with meaningful ways to help the wider Puerto Rican community, especially in poor, hard-to-reach areas. “These are places that otherwise wouldn’t get much help,” Mandelbaum says. The continuing presence of the Israeli humanitarian organization in Puerto Rico “is a great source of pride for the Jews of Puerto Rico,” he adds. Ari Berman, who served as an IsraAID Humanitarian Fellow in nearby Dominica after Maria destroyed much of the island, says he gained invaluable experience. The fellowship, whose main funder is the Charles and Lynn Schusterman Family Foundation—which is also one of many funders that support IsraAID missions —enables U.S. college students to work alongside IsraAID trauma, medical and water professionals in disaster zones around the world. “Working in Dominica confirmed for me what good humanitarian aid looks like,” says Berman, a student at Harvard. Hannah Gaventa, who served as IsraAID’s head of mission in Puerto Rico for most of this year and now leads its Dominica response team, helped formulate the organization’s long-term strategy in Puerto Rico. The emphasis, she says, was building sustainable programs that others could run even after IsraAID is no longer there. A member of Schusterman’s ROI

Community, which aims to support young Jewish leaders, Gaventa credited two ROI micro-grants—for a facilitation course and Spanish-language study – with helping give her the tools necessary to succeed at her job. “At the facilitation course, I learned how to facilitate conversations and gatherings and meetings—you really want to bring out the voices of the people you’re working with,” she says. “In 2018, a micro-grant allowed me to take a Spanish learning course. Before the course I spoke just a few words of Spanish, and now I can work in the language.” Sadly, humanitarian aid offered in the immediate wake of disasters often never reaches its intended target. In September, officials acknowledged that millions of water bottles dispatched to Puerto Rico after Hurricane Maria were still sitting, untouched, on the airport tarmac. Food and donated clothing sent to Puerto Rico also ended up rotting in warehouses due to lack of coordination, according to Polizer. While most relief funding after disasters like Hurricane Maria go toward initial recovery, Polizer says long-term recovery needs are more critical – and typically not as well funded. While IsraAID’s piece of the overall aid effort is relatively small, it’s carefully planned to avoid waste and maximize impact. “The process takes time but it’s worth it,” Polizer says. “As IsraAID’s goal for an affected area changes from direct relief to capacity building, we identify and work with local groups, religious groups, and local NGOs. The idea is to provide them with the tools they need to support themselves.” This article, sponsored by and produced in partnership with The Charles and Lynn Schusterman Family Foundation, is part of a series about how young Jews are transforming Jewish life in the 21st century. This article was produced by JTA’s native content team.)


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raditionally, the Jewish people love a reason to celebrate, and Ohef Sholom Temple (OST) is providing its congregants and the entire Tidewater Jewish community opportunities to do just that. An anniversary worth noting—175 years—is the inspiration behind a series of events planned for the coming months. Committees of volunteers have spent countless hours coming up with ways to honor the synagogue’s past—it was founded in 1844, to commemorate the present—it has just under 700 member families—and to excitedly embrace the future. At the anniversary celebration kick off on Oct. 13, OST will take the opportunity to mark another milestone in its history as well—the establishment of its sanctuary 100 years ago, when the congregation

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made its permanent home on Raleigh Ave. The evening, free and open to the community, will include a brief Havdalah (end of Shabbat) service, a rededication of the sanctuary, music, and dessert. A highlight of the evening will include a thoughtful and inspirational message from special guest Rabbi Rick Jacobs, president of the Union of Reform Judaism (URJ), of which OST is a member. Jacobs’ topic, “Reform Jewish Life in the 21st Century,” concerns not only Tidewater Jews, but a majority of North America’s Jewish population, as well. The Reform movement is the country’s largest; as URJ president, Jacobs represents almost 900 congregations and nearly 1.5 million people. “Like any established organization in a time of change, ours must be willing to

ask ourselves, ‘Which old habits need to be shaken up?” Jacobs said at URJ’s 2017 Biennial conference. “Not because it’s nice to get an upgrade once in a while, but because the forces we face demand our urgent action and attention.” An animated and engaging speaker, Jacobs is known for his intelligence, his devotion and contemporary interpretation of Jewish ideals, and his passionate and public stances on a variety of topics— from social justice to politics to Israel. He inspires audiences to think, and encourages them to act. “I am deeply honored to be joining Ohef Sholom photograph by Steve Budman.

Temple to mark 100 remarkable years in their sanctuary and to kick off the celebrations of their 175th year,” says Jacobs. “This historic synagogue has stood as a beacon of Reform Jewish life in Hampton Roads for all of its existence. On behalf of the Union for Reform Judaism, I am proud to count Ohef Sholom Temple as one of the Reform Movement’s own, and look forward to being with you to mark this milestone,” says Jacobs. Rabbi Rosalin Mandelberg, OST’s spiritual leader, considers it a something of a coup that Jacobs is coming for the event, and is looking forward to hearing his dynamic message. “In our rapidly changing world, we are so fortunate to have Rabbi Jacobs’ visionary leadership of our Reform Movement to help us meet the current challenges to Jewish life, particularly to synagogues,” Mandelberg says. “We are delighted that he has chosen to celebrate our milestone anniversary with us and look forward to welcoming him warmly to our Ohef Sholom Family.” Make reservations by calling (757) 625-4295 or emailing | October 1, 2018 | Jewish News | 11


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ll roads lead to Jerusalem…” or so I like to believe, and so I say, especially when I unexpectedly stumble across a friend or acquaintance walking to or from the Kotel on a Friday evening. In June of this year, I was privileged to find myself with 36 friends at the Kotel on a beautiful Shabbat evening, and it really felt like magic was in the air. We sat together, sang together, celebrated together and took turns lighting candles inside a terrarium! If I’m honest, I’ll admit that it doesn’t take much to bring tears to my eyes…but this Friday night, for whatever reason…or for every reason…everything around me seemed “hi-def.” It was as though I could see every note stuffed into the crevices of the Kotel, feel every bump in the stones I walked upon, and hear every prayer being offered up by the women around me. And needless to say, it made me a little teary-eyed. Hinei ma tov u’manayim, Shevet ach-im

gam ya-chad…are words I learned as a child growing up in my shul in New Jersey…and words that take on more and more meaning each time I am with my community. These are words that can lift my very soul on an erev Shabbat in Jerusalem. “How good and how pleasant it is when brothers and sisters can sit together in unity.” And so we did… sharing the joy and the beauty of Shabbat rituals, while binding ourselves to the collective memory of our People. How pleasant it was to share songs, prayers, and even “selfies” of our Kabalat Shabbat experience. Jerusalem is a special place. On Friday evenings it is a sacred space. Shabbat in Jerusalem can mean a variety of things—it can be walking to services on Saturday morning; getting up SUPER early to get to Masada before it’s too hot to walk the snake path; or it can be a walking tour of the Old City. I opted for the tour and was not at all disappointed. Following in the footsteps of our guide Sarah Tuttle-Singer, we visited places on and off the city’s beaten path,

stepping into each of its four quarters— sometimes at ground level, other times from rooftops—to see it through Sarah’s eyes—the eyes of a person who had lived there, gotten to know its inhabitants, studied its movement, then wrote it all down in a book: Jerusalem, Drawn and Quartered: One Woman’s Year in the Heart of the Christian, Muslim, Armenian, and Jewish Quarters of Old Jerusalem. Sarah’s tour brought us to places that many of us had never known (even those who’d been to the Old City many times). I was particularly surprised to walk into a building on Via Dolorosa, only to be “transported” like Dr. Who to a lush, flowering Austrian Garden, featuring bistro tables replete with steaming mugs of coffee and plates of strudel. I may or may not go back some day, but I was so glad to have been! Saturday evening had its own unique charms and memories, as we came back together to say farewell to our restful Shabbat and prepare to re-enter the work week (although with 20,000 steps on my tracker, it didn’t feel like much of a day

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of rest). Havdalah is enchanting. As a child I was fascinated by the way the congregation would reach toward the flame of the braided candle, turning their hands this way and that, casting shadows all about—separating light from dark and Shabbat from the Scenes from Austria in Jerusalem. rest of the week. That fascination Menachem Begin famously said: “I remains with me to this day, as does the come to Jerusalem. There, the sky is blue joy and optimism I feel as the service conand memory becomes clear.” cludes with our collective hope of some I know that my 36 friends and I conday meeting with Elijah the prophet. tinue to hope for the peace and safety A mission to Israel infuses one with a of those we met along our journey, as sense of optimism. Even knowing that the well as those we may never know. And days ahead remain rife with uncertainty as the High Holidays continue, we add for the Israelis. Even though the only them all to our thoughts and prayers, certainty seems to be continued threats even as we look forward to renewing our and difficulties. Shabbat in Jerusalem acquaintances. If it’s true that all roads has a magical power to almost make lead to Jerusalem, then I encourage you to one forget that so many complex issues “find yourself” there—under the blue sky, remain unresolved for the people and the making clear memories of your own. State of Israel.

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am grateful for the opportunity to serve our community in a way that brings people from all ages and backgrounds together through art,” says Callah Terkeltaub, United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s new Arts + Ideas manager. “There are few organizations that I would have jumped at the chance to work for and UJFT is one of them.” Callah Terkeltaub In her previous role at VOLUNTEER Hampton Roads, Terkeltaub worked to engage a community of more than 7,000 volunteers and 200 nonprofits through the HandsOn Connect system and their proprietary software, VolunTier Vision. She says she looks forward to bringing that experience and her passion for the arts to UJFT’s Arts + Ideas programming, including the Lee and Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival, the Alma and Howard Laderberg and Patricia

Wayne A. Martin has relieved Steven Legum as Lodge president of The Arnold Gamsey Lodge #1195 of B’nai B’rith. While B’nai B’rith International is celebrating its 175th anniversary, Tidewater’s Arnold Gamsey Lodge, which was chartered in 1935, continues to be an active men’s service organization in the community. Although Lodge membership has dwindled over the past few years, it still

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Home The Ultimate Stuffed Cabbage Hack Chaya Rappoport

(The Nosher via JTA)—My mother’s stuffed cabbage is one of my favorite dishes. She makes it with ground beef and rice, and simmers the stuffed cabbage leaves in a rich, savory tomato sauce. I could eat trays of it. My late grandmother used to make a vegetarian version that included rice, mushrooms, and barley. The sauce was sweeter than my mother’s, leaning a little more to the Polish side of tradition, where sweet foods are more prevalent. I could also eat trays of her stuffed cabbage, and I savored the scent of her cooking it up on special days before Sukkot and Simchat Torah. There are countless delicious ways to make stuffed cabbage, with influences ranging from Eastern Europe to Asia, but all of them are undoubtedly a patchke (a

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It wasn’t until Sukkot of last year when I helped one of my aunts make kraut lokshen, or cabbage noodles, an Ashkenazi cabbage dish made of sauteed cabbage and egg noodles, that I thought of making unstuffed cabbage. Inspired by my aunt’s simple but delicious dish, I realized that instead of stuffing each cabbage leaf separately, I could cook everything together in one big pot, eliminating most of the work but none of the taste. These unstuffed cabbage noodles combine the best elements of each dish—the cabbage and egg noodles from kraut lokshen, the meat and tomato sauce from stuffed cabbage—for a dish that’s hearty, savory, and delicious. Smoky, salty beef bacon adds a layer of savory flavor to the dish, a tablespoon of sugar perks up the tomato sauce, and the flavorful sauce is simmered and thickened before being combined with the noodles. These noodles could never replace stuffed cabbage; what could? But this dish is an easy, tasty twist on tradition for when you don’t have hours to spend stuffing little bundles. Serve them on a chilly fall night, in a cozy sukkah, or simply when you need a comforting dinner. Chaya Rappoport is the blogger, baker and picture taker behind Currently a pastry sous chef at a Brooklyn bakery, she’s been blogging since 2012 and her work has been featured on The Feed Feed, Delish. com, Food and Wine, and Conde Nast Traveler.) The Nosher food blog offers a dazzling array of new and classic Jewish recipes and food news, from Europe to Yemen, from challah to shakshuka and beyond. Check it out at www.

Unstuffed Cabbage Ingredients 8 ounces beef bacon,   chopped into 1-inch pieces 1 large yellow onion, finely chopped 2 cloves garlic, finely minced 1 medium cabbage,   core removed and chopped 1 pound ground beef 1 28-ounce can crushed tomatoes 1 tablespoon tomato paste 1 tablespoon sugar ¼ teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes 2 dried bay leaves 12 ounces uncooked egg noodles Salt and pepper, to taste Dried or fresh parsley, for garnish Directions 1. In a large skillet over medium heat, fry the chopped “bacon” until crisp and browned. Remove and place on a paper towel-lined plate. 2. Add the onion, garlic and chopped cabbage to the same skillet with the bacon fat and cook for 7-10 minutes on medium heat, until the onion is lightly browned and softened and the cabbage is wilting. Transfer the mixture and set aside. 3. Turn heat up to high and add the ground beef to the skillet. Cook, breaking up the beef with a wooden spoon as you go, until browned. 4. Add the crushed tomatoes, tomato paste, sugar, crushed red pepper flakes and bay leaves to the skillet. Stir to combine with the beef, cabbage and onion. 5. Add the beef bacon back to the pan, bring to a simmer, then turn down to medium so it bubbles gently. Cook for 10 minutes uncovered, then simmer for another 10-15 minutes, covered. Remove the bay leaves. 6. Meanwhile, cook the egg noodles according to package directions. Drain and set aside. Taste the beef and cabbage mixture and season with salt and pepper as desired. 7. Combine the beef and cabbage sauce with the noodles. Garnish with parsley. Serves 6.


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ore than 5,000 licensed real estate agents currently work in Tidewater. What sets them apart and how does one choose the agent who will best Nancy Evans represent a buyer’s or seller’s best interests? Considering these few factors might help with the selection. Are they a Realtor? Realtors are held to the highest of standards for a real estate sales person, adhering to guidelines, regulations, and a Code of Ethics established by the National Association of Realtors. Agents who commit to these standards by joining

the NAR are also members of the state VAR (Virginia Association of Realtors) and local boards. In addition to being held accountable to certain standards of conduct, Realtors have the opportunity to earn additional designations that help them refine their skill set. Is the Realtor experienced? Whether buying or selling a home, a professional is required to help guide the buyers and sellers through the process. Whether a buyer or a seller, it is necessary to know about required disclosures, mortgage insurance, inspections, finance options, plus much more. It is important, therefore, to be advised by an experienced professional.


Choose an agent who is familiar with neighborhood values and trends. Does the Realtor know neighborhoods and their values? Choosing an agent who is familiar with neighborhood values and their trends will be helpful when structuring an offer for purchase or when pricing a property to sell. A buyer never wants to pay too much for a property just as a seller, would never want to “leave money on the table.”

The bottom line is: Don’t leave finding the “right” sales person to chance. Pricing, negotiating, and advising a client requires compassion, experience, and knowledge. Nancy Evans, GRI, CRB, is an Associate Broker with Howard Hanna (formerly William E Wood). She has been a Realtor in Hampton Roads for more than 30 years. She may be reached at


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ontemporary, see-through fireplaces that warm multiple rooms. Prefabricated gas fireplaces that mount directly to the wall. Electric fireplaces that look realistic and can really put out the heat. No, these are not the fireplaces once considered traditional. Today’s fireplaces are designed for visual excitement, two-sided exposure, and installation in locations previously unconsidered. “The conventional fireplace has all but been reinvented in recent years,” says Jack Goldman, president and CEO of the Hearth, Patio & Barbecue Association (HPBA). “Today’s fireplaces cater to the specific needs and wants of homeowners,” he says. Goldman says that a decade ago, generally only the extremely wealthy would have considered having more than one fireplace in the house. “There are so many new products on the market today that can fit any budget and style.” While in the past, families may have had a wood-burning fireplace, the chances are that it wasn’t outfitted with an insert. “Fireplace inserts with glass doors have become the standard, retaining the heat generated by the fire when in use, and

limiting draft when not,” says Goldman. “Woodstove design has also been updated in recent years allowing for a wide array of designs ranging from traditional to ultra-contemporary.”

Architects have embraced the long, sleek horizontal fireplace surrounds and are incorporating them into their contemporary interior designs. Goldman says that gas and electric fireplaces are now installed for aesthetics and mood as well as heating purposes. “Architects have embraced the long, sleek horizontal fireplace surrounds and are incorporating them into their contemporary interior designs.” Equally exciting, he says are two-sided fireplaces that are increasingly being used in home designs. “When you consider the visual impact and benefits of a two-sided fireplace, the extra expense associated with it seems relatively low.” Goldman says that second and third fireplaces are being installed in existing homes– sometimes for the calming effect they evoke. Specifically, he refers to gas and electric fireplaces that can be mounted directly to the wall, which in many cases do not require venting. “Because of this, fireplaces are making appearances

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The hearth industry celebrates National Fireplace Month in October, showcasing innovative products, which include gas fireplaces that mount directly to the wall (left); see-through electric fireplaces that warm multiple rooms (top); and outdoor fire features that are incorporated into the design of patio furniture (bottom). Photos: Sólas, LLC; Napoleon Products; Outdoor GreatRoom Co.

in kitchens, baths, and other private rooms of the house.” Goldman says that hearth-related innovations are not limited to home interiors. Outdoor fireplace kits using traditional masonry or pre-engineered masonry products range in design from simple to majestic. The gas-fueled fire pit has also been given a new stage with its integration into the design of patio furniture and other outdoor architectural features.

Many new forms of media, such as the simulated gemstones, have been developed for use in gas applications both in and outside the house. Other products include large river-worn stones and sophisticated metal sculptures. To experience the true impact of these and other fireplace products, Goldman suggests visiting the showroom of a local hearth shop. The HPBA website also features a Hearth Gallery of images on its Consumer Information tab.


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hen a homebuyer wants to purchase a home with a large loan amount, another big number enters the picture: 20 percent. For a conventional loan in Hampton Roads that exceeds $458,850, the loan program is considered a jumbo loan product that requires a 20 percent down payment (by most investor guidelines). Homebuyers who don’t want to put down such a large sum of money, however, now have some good news. It’s called the smartARM. The “ARM” stands for adjustable rate mortgage, which is when the interest rate applied on the outstanding balance varies throughout the life of the loan. As an example, the loan program is ideal for people who want to move up to their next home, but don’t want to make a large down payment. The smartARM allows the buyer to lock or freeze the interest rate two ways: • A 5/5 ARM in which the rate will be fixed for the first five years and then can adjust every five years. • A 10/5 ARM in which the rate will be fixed for the first 10 years and then can adjust every five years. It’s important to note that ARMs do have caps on how much they can increase at every adjustment period and throughout the life of the loan. What does it all mean? With the smartARM, the buyer only needs to put down 5 percent for a loan up to $750,000 and 10 percent for a loan above $750,000. The smartARM requires no mortgage insurance and is available only for a primary residence and second homes. The program can also be used to refinance. A minimum 710 credit score and a 43 percent maximum debt-to-income ratio

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An incredible historic find: The Jewish Museum of Greece Devorah Ben-David Elstein

Introduction One of the great things about being a journalist is traveling the world on story assignments. But it’s the remarkable people I meet, during my journey abroad, that fuels my passion for my profession. I enjoy, for example, meeting people from diverse cultures and perspectives, and learning how their society has shaped their lives and culture. I especially admire visionary people, who have overcome great challenges and yet still carry hope in their hearts and a strong desire to leave posterity a proud legacy. The Jewish Museum of Greece is one such special place.

The story The Jewish Museum of Greece (JMG)is located in historic hub of Athens in the voguish Plaka District. The privately-owned, two-story, neoclassical building is easy to find. Its signature rose-pearl colored facade is reminiscent of a hybrid Spanish tea rose. The museum, which was established in 1977, was initially housed in a room next to Beth Shalom Synagogue on Melidoni Street. The multi-talented Nikos Stavrolakis was one of the museum’s founders and its director, 1977–1993. Stavrolakis is credited with creating and preserving the museum’s core collection of ethnic, religious, and historical documents and artifacts. The first wave of donated memorabilia

If you go was painstakingly salvaged after World War II. New acquisitions such as religious vessels and exquisite jewelry, seized from the Jews of Eastern Macedonia and Thrace in 1943, also found refuge at the Jewish Museum. The Jewish Museum was founded with the goal of collecting, preserving, studying, and exhibiting memorabilia. The Jewish heirlooms, made by artisans living in a world that no longer exists, are on display and profoundly touch one’s grateful heart. “The Jewish Museum of Greece is not a Holocaust museum,” says Zanet Battinou, its current director. “It is a repository of historical and living memory—and of the religious practice of the Jewish communities of Greece.” As precious donations continued to flow

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throughout the museum. Along the central axis of the skylight, a collage of intriguing angular shapes and structures are visible. With walls painted in soothing tones of offwhite and pale peach, the floors are covered with gorgeous natural wood and snowy white marble. On March 10, 1998 the new museum was inaugurated. The museum has also expanded its educational programs via more extended activities, more temporary exhibitions, creating special publications, and a strong focus on international relations and activities. “We now have the most important

Judaica library in Greece,” says Battinou. “It is extensive, with over 3,500 titles, in eight languages, and it’s open to the public to read at the museum.” Today, the Jewish Museum of Greece is home to more than 8,000 artifacts and documents. And the dream of one-day giving back to posterity has become a reality.

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eter Lovenheim explains, “It began wonderfully, as romances do, but later devolved into a turbulent on again, off again affair. She was looking for a commitment I couldn’t make and I was looking for emotional intimacy she couldn’t give.” Years of breakups and makeups. The relationship became polarized—he was an anxious partner demanding more intimacy and she was an avoidant partner who shut down and withdrew. His Anxious Attachment style and her Avoidant Attachment style led to the Anxious-Avoidant Trap. The Attachment Effect is Peter Lovenheim’s non-fiction work about relationship intimacy. After personal relationship struggles, Lovenheim’s research began sitting in his hometown University of Rochester Professor Harry Reis’ class in Attachment Theory. Attachment Theory is a body of early childhood research initiated by English psychiatrist Dr. John Bowlby (1907–90). The field studies attachment styles across species. Infants are especially vulnerable to loss because of the long complex developmental path to maturity. Study of orphaned and abandoned children became key after World War I. Early studies of attachment included Harry Harlow’s University of Wisconsin famous research on Rhesus monkeys at Goon Park (with wire and terrycloth mothers) and Anna Freud’s research with war orphans in England. While Sigmund Freud studied the impact of oedipal (ages four to six) conflicts on development, Bowlby and Anna Freud studied the effects of infant and toddler attachment on relationship styles. Current research and psychological evaluation tools include Bowlby’s colleague Mary Ainsworth’s Strange Situation. Children are observed for their reactions in a room when their mother comes in and goes out. University of Virginia’s Ainsworth Attachment Clinic is an active child development research center named for her. Several psychological tests and interviews used to measure attachment

traits are illustrated in Lovenheim’s book. Lovenheim’s treatment of the subject is shorn of technical language, making a complex subject available in journalistic form. His book presents the evolution and current practical application of attachment theory. Describing the basics of attachment developing in mother-child bonding beginning at birth, Lovenheim adds the scientific bases of attachment found in brain imaging and brain wave recordings. Attachment Theory describes three attachment styles: Secure Attachment, Anxious Attachment, and Avoidant Attachment. Those with Secure attachments feel comfortable with intimacy. The last two describe individuals who struggle to find relationship security. Avoidant Types, who received inconsistent care in infancy, cling and crave intimacy in their relationships. Avoidant Types’ caregivers essentially gave the message, ‘take care of yourself.’ They believe in self-reliance and escape relationships for fear of being overwhelmed and disappointed. Lovenheim goes on to illustrate ways these building block bonding styles impact dating, marriage, parenting, friendships, work, sports participation, politics, and religious affiliation. A seasoned journalist, he uses relatable illustrations from his personal experiences in childhood to adult relationships. He interviews people about how their styles impact on family life, illness, sports, business, politics, and religion. This book has been nominated for a Jewish book award not because it is a religious treatment, but because it is a scholarly treatment of an important aspect of human growth and development. Have no (attachment) fear. He describes Earned Secure Attachment. Individuals can overcome early life problems to develop warm trusting relationships.

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fter spending a decade of his adult life helping poor people in southwest China, Tom Elder came home to watch his father die – with dignity– thanks to excellent caregivers. Through it all, he learned compassion. And the value of hospice. That’s just part of the background Tom Elder brings to his role as the new administrator of Freda H. Gordon Hospice and Palliative Care, a joint program of Beth Sholom Village and Jewish Family Service. “My dad lived 13 months after they discovered he had a brain tumor,” says Elder. “Watching the nurses at work left a powerful impact on me.” It led him to nursing school and eventually in 2014 to Freda Gordon. Now he’s the administrator, but Elder defers to an even more experienced medical practitioner when it comes to managing the RN’s and CNA’s who do the challenging day to day work of meeting with stressed families and keeping patients comfortable during their last months on earth. That would be Michelle Capestany, RN. “We coordinate all the resources, whether it’s nurses, chaplains, social workers, physical therapists, or volunteers,” says the New York native. “Our goal is to provide comfort but also education.” Indeed that is what families need more than anything, says Elder. “They want to understand the disease process, in other words how their loved one’s condition will change based on our experience of observing patients suffering from cancer, heart disease, Alzheimer’s, or other chronic conditions. Most people wish to die at home, not in the hospital, and want to have their wishes for treatment followed. That’s our job, in concert with the family.” Two doctors have to agree that a person has six months or less to live before hospice is certified. What makes the experience more bearable for all parties is if the individual has previously established an advanced directive. “Joan Rivers signed one saying that if she was

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not able to do an hour long stand-up comedy routine, she did not want to live any longer,” says Elder, “so her daughter knew exactly what ‘quality of life’ meant to her mother when she was dying after surgery.” Others may say it’s when they can no longer chew, swallow, walk, read, or be able to participate in other activities of daily living, says Capestany. “If the living will is in place, it can help avoid friction among sons and daughters who naturally want the best for their mom or dad.” Capestany, who earlier worked in pediatric oncology and then as a hospice counselor in emergency rooms, says what makes Freda Gordon a premier provider is that their RN’s generally have lower case loads and make more personal visits over the mandatory minimum. She also focuses on ensuring continuity of care from the same CNA’s, which families appreciate. “Also we offer palliative care, which is more symptom focused,” she says. Elder defines it as a “bridge to hospice.” For hospice patients, death is just a matter of time. “It’s what we do with that time that is important,” says Capestany. “That’s why our staff at Freda Gordon, which is available to help patients of any religious denomination, does all it can to make the patient comfortable while

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also helping the family cope, encouraging them to talk to their relative or friend about the past or present, even if they don’t think they are listening. You would be surprised how much they actually hear.” Elder says that patients and families can ask the discharge planner or doctor to refer to Freda Gordon for hospice or palliative care, or call the office, which is located at the Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus at 757-321-2242.

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o l l o w i n g UJFT’s Annual Campaign Kickoff and the inspiring speech by Izzy Ezagui, YADians continued the celebration outdoors, under the stars. “The YAD After Party was a great complement to UJFT’s event,” says Danny Rubin, YAD Rabbi Levi Brashevitzky, Eliot Weinstein, Jenny Sachs, and Jason Hoffman. vice chair. “We had terrific attendance and there’s a lot of energy around this year’s campaign as it’s related to young professionals.” The YAD After Party on September 6 was joined by more than 40 young leaders, which included new community members and new cabinet members. Each guest was presented with the question, “Which Society Will You Join?” Sixteen people committed to being part of Ben Gurion Society, which is a gift of $1,000 or more, in addition to 11 more Society commitments. As a result, YAD raised more than $20,000 for the 2019 Annual Campaign. The party also featured speaker Izzy Ezagui, who chatted one-on-one with YADians. “Our community was very blessed to Danny and Shikma Rubin. have Izzy come to share his story with “I was very inspired to make 2019’s us,” says new YAD cabinet member Estelle Campaign even more successful than Katz. “It reminded me that I have so much before. I am looking forward to seeing our more to do for our people not only locally, community come together to support Jews but nationally and globally. I hope that everywhere.” others were as inspired as I was, to do and The community will continue to work give more.” hard on this year’s Annual Campaign at Ezagui’s presence and the Campaign’s Super Sunday 2019 on October 21. Join theme, It All Starts with You, are the perYADians and community members to rise fect rhetoric for a great Campaign year. up and be the “recipe for success.” (See “What an amazing story by Izzy,” says page 30) Bern Glasser, YLC Campaign co-chair.

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hile Izzy Ezagui, author of Disarmed: Unconventional Lessons from the World’s Only One-Armed Special Forces Sharpshooter, helped kick off the Lee and Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival at United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s Campaign Kickoff, he also made a variety of stops around Tidewater. Students and faculty in Cape Henry Collegiate’s Upper and Middle Schools welcomed Ezagui as part Izzy Ezagui speaks with students at Cape Henry Collegiate School. of their Distinguished Speaker series, intended to expose the students to real-world For more information on the Book Festival, examples of good character traits. visit

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Celebrated Israeli artist to conduct workshops, display work I

srael Today’s first ever artist-in-residence, Hanoch Piven, will lead a variety of workshops for people of all ages, backgrounds, and ethnicities, as well as display his work in the Leon Family Gallery during his two-week Tidewater visit, October 15–October 26. Piven’s portraits have appeared in Rolling Stone, Time, and other major international publications. He will lead workshops for young Jewish leaders, seasoned Jewish communal leaders from agency and synagogue boards, students at the Strelitz Early Childhood Center and Hebrew Academy of Tidewater, BBYO

teens, seniors engaged in the JCC’s monthly Senior’s Club, speak with members of the Community Relations Council about his work using art as a communication tool as a way for bridge building through his fellowship with Seeds of Peace, as well as lead a Family Portrait Workshop during the UJFT’s annual Super Sunday phone-a-thon on October 21, 2018. In addition, Piven will spend time at Title 1 schools, give some university lectures and workshops (one on the topic of genocide and education surrounding it) and go to public and private schools. He will also lead a

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Around Town JCC Seniors Club Presents: What’s Your Story? Lecture and workshop Wednesday, October 17, 12 pm Family Portrait Workshop as part of UJFT’s Super Sunday Sunday, October 21, 10 am and 12 pm BBYO Presents: Teen Leadership Workshop Sunday, October 21, 2 pm Art Educators Workshop Monday, October 22, 5:30 pm The power of creativity and play in education, a lecture for parents Tuesday, October 23, 7 pm Contact Leigh Casson at or 321-2304 for location details or to reserve a seat (required) at any of these events around town.

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parent lecture (the power of creativity, art, and play in education) open to the entire Hampton Roads community, at Cape Henry Collegiate. For young professionals involved with the Hampton Roads Chamber through tHRive, and some other non-profits they partner with, Piven will lead a workshop focused on identity. The list goes on and on. Last month, Jewish News caught up with Hanoch Piven by phone from his Tel Aviv studio. Jewish News: Do you have a favorite piece? Hanoch Piven: Honestly, not really. The nature of my artwork is that one piece makes the other better, just as good color combinations work. I really enjoy looking at many together, and also different stations in my development. For example, I enjoy looking together at some of my early school work like the Jesse Jackson portrait, together with early professional pieces like Barbra Streisand and Einstein, some Israeli political pieces such as Sarah Netanyahu or Ariel Sharon, and more recent pieces like Obama’s, Trump or Darwin. They span over 25 years of work! I must be getting old! JN: Do you recall a favorite or most memorable or most challenging assignment? HP: One memorable piece was the Kim Jong Il portrait for Time magazine and the fact that it was created in 36 hours. It was done right after North Korea executed a nuclear test and I ran to the market in Barcelona (where I was living at the time), to get some mushrooms. JN: How do participants react to your workshops? In other words, are they

Trash or treasure? Junk needed! Hanoch Piven’s hands-on workshops encourage creativity, communication, and self-reflection through the creation of collages with common, everyday objects. Piven conveys the message that playfulness is an important tool to be used to generate a space in which individual self-reflection and growth are possible. In order to have a workshop based on found objects, a lot of random objects are required. Everything from buttons, labels, packaging, and keys to stickers, stamps, and small toys will come in handy. A collection box is located in the Cardo at the Simon Family JCC to drop off donations of “junk” to ensure that everyone finds what they need.

amaze d at what t h e y can do? W h a t do they learn? HP: I am very proud of having left almost 20 years ago, the solitude of the studio, for the opportunity to meet people of diverse backgrounds and ages who attend my workshops. It has been a blast watching, probably by now, tens of thousands of people who have created pieces of art using a method of work that I had previously developed in order to overcome my own technical difficulties. People enter a fun childish place, which they usually do not go into, express through art something really personal and end up being proud of their creations, and most important of all, they really want to share and talk about them. The more I think of it, the more I see that what people learn is to pay attention, to see, which is something basic and simple, yet most people are so dependent on the preconceptions they carry within, that they fail to see what is in front of them.

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et ready to “rise up” and be the secret ingredient in the 2019 Annual Campaign by participating in Super Sunday, the annual community Hanoch Piven. phone-a-thon. “Bring your family, your friends, and your cell phone to make those vital calls that raise funds for our one-of-a-kind programs here in Tidewater, abroad, and in Israel,” says Amie Harrell, Super Sunday vice chair. Sponsored by Coastal Towne Mortgage, and organized and hosted by United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s Young Adult Division, Super Sunday 2019 is taking place earlier than ever to assist Federation’s goal of accelerating this year’s campaign. The community’s biggest fundraising event, Super Sunday helps provide Federation’s Annual Campaign with vital and steady funding so that Jewish agencies across Tidewater, as well as those overseas, can deliver the essential programs and services on which so many rely. It’s no surprise then that every gift, no matter how big or small, helps meet needs in Tidewater as well as in Jewish communities from Havana to Haifa; from Paris to Prague; and from Ukraine to Uruguay. Just

one gift can truly make a global impact. For example, a UJFT campaign donation supports Hillels and Jewish student unions at several of Virginia’s colleges and universities, as well as the Birthright Israel program, which sends young Jewish adults on free trips to Israel, allowing them to connect with their Jewish roots and form their own unique Jewish identities. Campaign dollars also help Jewish Family Service, which provides top level home health care among its many services. Dollars also go to the award-winning Berger-Goldrich Home at Beth Sholom Village, which serves longer-term needs of the elderly. Worried about the fate of Jews living in France who face a rising tide of anti-Semitism? Campaign gifts fund the Jewish Agency for Israel, which can lift Jews out of imminent danger and bring them to Israel at a moment’s notice. Want to help the Jewish communities in the Ukraine who have lived for years in a war zone, afraid to venture out for food or medicine? Campaign dollars help them as well, through the Federation’s overseas partner, the American Jewish Joint Distribution Committee (JDC), whose volunteers and professionals deliver food boxes and vital medicines to shut-ins across the former Soviet Union. In addition to volunteer calling

H opportunities, this year’s Super Sunday will feature a variety of activities for the entire family, including: • Family portrait workshops with Israeli artist Hanoch Piven • Bounce house • Community shuk (market), and • Cookie Jar Project, where kids put treats in cookies jars to be sent to local Jewish partners. Babysitting will be available. For more information, contact YAD director Jasmine Amitay at or 757-965-6138.


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Tidewater Chavurah’s Second Friday Shabbat Service abbi Ellen Jaffe-Gill will lead Tidewater Chavurah’s second Friday Shabbat service at the home of Hal and Elaine in the Great Neck Meadows area of Virginia Beach. A “congregation without walls,” events are held in members’ homes or at other locations. An Oneg follows providing time to nosh and relax with friends. New faces to events are always welcome.

ighlighting the four central collections at the impressive National Library of Israel, this exhibit will focus on the spiritual realm—with sacred books, sacred places, and mysticism, as well as the ethnographic and secular realm—with Israeli culture, Hebrew/Jewish language. An array of facsimiles of illustrated manuscripts, ancient maps, posters, and photographs, this exhibit will introduce the community to treasures of the Library.

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what’s happening Plans to expand Shabbat Project are underway

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global, grassroots movement that brings Jews from across the world together around the shared heritage of Shabbat, the Shabbat Project initiative was introduced in South Africa in 2013. In the days that followed, the Jewish world heard, and was inspired by, how the majority of the community kept Shabbat, and how Jews were brought together in unprecedented ways. The concept is simple: Jews from all walks of life, from across the spectrum— religious, secular, and traditional, young and old, from all corners of the world—unite to experience one full Shabbat together. The Shabbat Project is about creating a new Jewish future based on Jewish unity, pride, and values. Transcending the barriers

that seem to separate, it is an opportunity to rejuvenate family and community life, restore Jewish pride and identity, and strengthen Jewish unity across the globe. For the past four years, Tidewater has joined this global movement. Last October, 200 people came together for a beautiful and inspiring Friday night dinner in Ghent. One of the guests publicly commented that she was now observing Shabbat on a whole new level thanks to the previous year’s Shabbat Project. People walked away from that Shabbat wanting more. The Tidewater Shabbat Project wants to expand and bring together the entire community. To join or volunteer, visit https://

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anelists Rev. Kim Hodges, Pastor of Lynnhaven Colony Congregational, United Church of Christ (Protestant); Rabbi Rosalin “Roz” Mandelberg, senior rabbi of Ohef Sholom Temple in Norfolk (Jewish); Saher Mirza, community volunteer (Muslim); and Teresa Stanley, coordinator of Interspiritual Empowerment Project (Catholic), will explore “What does my religion teach about the equality or differences between males and females? What women stand out in my religion’s scripture? How do specific scripture passages in my faith cause pain, misunderstanding, and confusion about gender roles? How do they bring support or joy? How does my religion shape how gender is understood?” Contact 757.455.3129 or visit

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Simon Family Passport to Israel grant recipient, Shelby Brown, traveled in Israel for three weeks Barb Gelb


Norfolk Academy senior, Shelby Brown is an active member of BBYO’s Kruger chapter. She has held several offices both locally and regionally, and has participated in leadership conferences such as CLTC and Kallah. Still, for Shelby, something was missing in her Jewish experience. She had

Shelby Brown (center).

never been to Israel. “I went to the Hebrew Academy when I was younger, and we learned about Israel, but I wanted to see and learn about it in person.” This summer, with help from a Simon Family Passport to Israel Grant, Shelby travelled to Israel for three weeks with BBYO. Shelby says she likes the BBYO environment because it focuses on teen leadership. “The teens lead the activities,” she says. While in Israel, along with learning about the country and experiencing the sites, she “led a program on body image and organized a dance party and a video for the talent show.” She says that her confidence has gone up from this experience, and her advice to other Jewish

teens who are considering a similar program, is to “Do it! Get out of your comfort zone because it’s the only way to grow as a person. It’s a supportive environment that helps you be your best self.” While in Israel, Shelby also enjoyed experiencing many different types of services. “This has helped me understand that I can make Judaism my own,” she says. “Havdallah at the Kotel was really cool. Wherever you pray in the world, you always face the Kotel, but this time, we were AT the Kotel. It’s serious, but fun. Everyone comes together, and we sing, with our arms around each other.” Through her experience, Shelby made friends from across the United States, and the world, including from Serbia, Croatia,

Shelby Brown (left) at the Kotel.

Argentina, and France. Shelby says she believes the trip will impact her future in wanting to go to temple more often, trying new traditions, and even wanting her “own kids to do this when the time comes.” For more information about the Simon Family Passport to Israel grant for teens, visit http:// to apply by October 8, 2018 or contact Barb Gelb at

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CalEndar October 7, Sunday Brith Sholom general members meeting at 11 am preceded by a board meeting at 10 am. Dr. Jack Siegel will speak about joint replacements. Deluxe brunch follows. $3 per member; $5 at the door; and $10 for guest. Free for guests exploring membership. At Beth Sholom Village. Contact LeeAnne Mallory at 757-461-1150 or OCTOBER 8, Monday Virginia Festival of Jewish Film presented by Alma and Howard Laderberg and Avraham and Patricia Ashkenazi presents Raid on Entebbe. Free and open to the community. 7:15 pm at the Naro Theater. For more information or to RSVP, contact Melissa Eichelbaum at 757-965-6107 or October 13, Saturday Ohef Sholom Temple celebrates the 100th anniversary of its sanctuary with Rabbi Rick Jacobs, president of the Union for Reform Judaism. Evening begins with Havdalah at 7 pm. Reception follows rededication ceremony. Free, but RSVPs requested at 757-625-4295. See page ??. October 16, Tuesday YAD Happy Hour with Ohef Sholom Temple. Join UJFT’s Young Adult Division at 5 pm at Tap It Local for a casual happy hour sponsored by Ohef Sholom. First drink is complimentary courtesy of OST and appetizers on YAD. Contact Carly at for more information. Tap It Local: 244 Granby Street in Norfolk.

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who knew? Kim Kardashian to be face of Israeli sunglasses brand alongside Bar Refaeli (JTA)—Kim Kardashian will join Israeli model Bar Refaeli as a face of Carolina Lemke, an Israeli sunglasses brand. The American reality TV star will also invest a hefty $30 million in the company, which is partly owned by Refaeli, the Israeli business daily Globes reported. The pair will be photographed together for a publicity campaign, according to Haaretz, and Kardashian will visit Israel in March. Kardashian will also be a partner in the creation of her own limited edition glasses line, which she will promote. The partnership is part of the seven-year-old company’s expansion into the U.S. market. Kardashian visited Israel in April 2015 with her husband, rapper Kanye West. The couple baptized their daughter, North, at the Cathedral of St. James in Jerusalem’s Armenian Quarter.

Tel Aviv to host 2019 Eurovision contest instead of Jerusalem JERUSALEM (JTA)—Tel Aviv will host the 2019 Eurovision Song Contest and not Jerusalem, Israel’s capital city, the preferred site of the Israeli government. The semifinals will be held May 14 and 16, with the grand final on May 18, at the Expo Tel Aviv International Convention Center, both the Tel Aviv-Yafo Municipality and the Eurovision Song Contest announced. Both Jerusalem and Eilat also vied to host the world’s largest live music event, which last year attracted 186 million television viewers. Some 20,000 tourists are expected to arrive in Tel Aviv to participate in Eurovision activities. The Israeli government had insisted at

first on holding the contest in Jerusalem— the host country typically hosts the event in its capital city—but relented on another site following the controversy over the U.S. recognition last year of the city as Israel’s capital and a subsequent fear of boycotts. Israel won the right to host the 2019 Eurovision after singer Netta Barzilai won the competition in May. Israel, which has won the contest four times, will host for a third time, having previously staged Eurovision in Jerusalem in 1979 and 1999. Israel has participated in Eurovision 42 times since its first appearance in 1973. A letter sent by the European Broadcasting Union to Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu in care of the Israel Public Broadcasting Corp. late last month said that Israel must allow preparation work for Eurovision to take place on Shabbat, including the dress rehearsal, and cannot prevent anyone from entering the country to participate in Eurovision based on their political opinions. The letter also sought assurances that freedom of the press and freedom of expression will be allowed for all participants and that the KAN public broadcaster have total independence to handle the contest. A public letter published in the British daily newspaper the Guardian, signed by 140 musicians and other artists from some 14 countries, called for a boycott of Eurovision because it is being held in Israel. “Until Palestinians can enjoy freedom, justice and equal rights, there should be no business-as-usual with the state that is denying them their basic rights,” the letter said. Six Israelis, including five Israeli musicians and one artist, signed the letter.

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obituaries Robert Max Katz Norfolk—Robert Max Katz, 72, while surrounded by the people he loved most, went to be with the Lord on September 12, 2018. Robert was born May 6, 1946 in Miami, Florida to the late Albert and Lorette Katz. He enlisted in the Navy and proudly served his country. During his tour in Vietnam, Robert was injured and became a disabled Vietnam Vet. After many years in the jewelry business, he opened Robert’s Jewelry and then Goldbar Jewelers. Robert went to GIA Institute and learned to design beautiful jewelry, working with diamonds and many other precious stones. Left to cherish his memory is his loving wife of 32 years Charlene Katz; ex-wife Susan; son, Rabbi Neal Katz and his wife Jennifer. Their three children Lila, Micah and Rebecca; daughter Robin Katz; a very near and dear granddaughter Lily. Many other nieces and nephews. A very special thanks to Dennis, Lisa, Kathy and Sherry who came to help during his illness. A graveside service was held at Albert G Horton, Jr. Memorial Veterans Cemetery in Suffolk. Fannie Cutler Miles Virginia Beach—Fannie Cutler Miles passed away September 9, 2018 in Virginia Beach, Virginia. She was born April 15, 1924 in Nassawadox, Virginia to the late Stella Cutler Simpson and Leonard C. Cutler.

She was predeceased by her husband Richard Eugene Miles (Eugene) and son Bryan. She is survived by her son Richard (Dicky) Miles and his wife Miriam (Cookie), grandchildren Amy Bosher (Jason), Melissa, and Scott (Melissa A.), along with great grandchildren Saderiah, Haley, Jason Jr., Hunter, Luke, Coltrane, and Molly. She is also survived by her son Harley Miles ( Jeanne), their son Scott (Julie), daughter Leigh Catherine (Ningy) and husband Matt, grandchildren Jefferson, Lorelei, and Alexander, and many nieces and nephews. Fannie was one of seven children. She and her husband were born and raised on the Eastern Shore and grew up in Willis Wharf. Then the family resided in Exmore, Cape Charles, Cheriton, and Belle Haven. In the early sixties, the family moved to Salisbury, Maryland. Her husband Eugene died in 1981 and son Bryan died in 1991. She had a great passion for antiques and politics. She resided at Pine Bluff and for the past couple of years was in and out of nursing homes. Once she arrived at Beth Sholom Village in Virginia Beach, she blossomed. Her final year with Richard and Cookie, the grandchildren, and great grandchildren was a wonderful blessing. She was able to spend and enjoy more time with everyone. We would like to thank David Abraham and all of his staff at Beth Sholom Village, especially the staff in the blue unit who was very attentive. We would also like to thank all the staff at Freda Gordon Hospice for their loving

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obituaries Princeton Lyman, Jewish diplomat who helped plan Operation Moses, dies at 82 Ron Kampeas

WASHINGTON ( JTA)—Princeton Lyman, the Jewish American diplomat who played a critical role in organizing Operation Moses, the stunning 1984 airlift of Ethiopian Jews, has died at 82. Lyman died Friday, August 24 at his home in the Washington suburb of Silver Spring, Maryland, the Washington Post reported. He died of lung cancer. The Post obituary celebrated the role of Lyman in helping to midwife the transition in South Africa from apartheid to democracy in the early 1990s when he was the U.S. ambassador to the country. Lyman had the trust of F. W. DeKlerk, the last apartheid president of the country, and Nelson Mandela, who led the African National Congress. But he also played a critical behindthe-scenes role a decade earlier, when he was deputy assistant secretary of state for Africa, in organizing the airlift from Sudan to Israel of thousands of Ethiopian Jews who had fled their famine-ravished country only to face indifference and starvation in Sudan. In a 1999 oral history for the Association for Diplomatic Studies and Training, Lyman said he was one of only two U.S. diplomats who was fully apprised of the operation, involving secret flights from Sudan to Israel. He helped coordinate logistics between Israel and Sudan, which did not have diplomatic relations, and strove to keep at bay Ethiopian Jewry advocacy groups in the United States who were scrambling for information, as well as the media. “We had to keep the press quiet,” he said in 1999. “The Boston Globe, the

Washington Post, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal all had the story. Peter Jennings at ABC had the story. I had to go to every single one of them to beg them to sit on the story. I told them that if the operation were to go public, the Ethiopians would be in serious danger. I must say that every one of the media outlets suppressed the information they had; I don’t think that today that would be possible.” It was an Israeli official, Arieh Dulzin, the chairman of the Jewish Agency, who revealed the operation at a press conference, and it was Israeli media that made it public. “Unfortunately, the Israeli media was not so disciplined” as the U.S. media, Lyman said. Once the word was out in Israel, a Washington Jewish newspaper reported the story—ignoring Lyman’s pleas—and the U.S. media felt free to publish. Sudan suspended the operation after 9,000 Jews had arrived, leaving 500 stranded. Vice President George H.W. Bush then got involved. Bush “went to Khartoum to see [Sudanese President Gaafar] Nimeiri and to tell him that we wanted the last few hundred Ethiopians taken out,” Lyman said. “Nimeiri agreed, but it too was to be a secret operation. So American C-130s were to fly from Europe to the Sudan, take them on board, fly them up through the Red Sea – avoiding Egyptian radar – and deliver them to Israel. That was done. It was a magnificent operation which I monitored from the Pentagon ‘war room’ listening to the radio broadcasts as the planes landed and took off.” In a 2007 account of the rescue, “Blacks, Jews and Other Heroes,” Howard Lenhoff said other U.S. officials eagerly seized credit for the operation. “Lyman remained silent,” Lenhoff reported. “Always the consummate professional,

Princeton Lyman is an unsung hero of the Ethiopian Jews.” Lyman was born in 1935 to immigrant Jewish parents from Lithuania. Asked to explain his unusual first name, he explained in 1999 that he had brothers named Yale, Harvard and Stanford. “I guess it was an extraordinary example of immigrant parents determined that their children would go to universities,” he said. “Of course, being very practical, we all ended up in the University of California – not the expensive schools we were named after.” He added: “My brother Elliott, who was the only son not named for a university, indeed did not go to college.” Lyman was married for 50 years to the former Helen Ermann, who died in 2008. He is survived by his second wife, Lois Hobson, and three daughters, Tova Brinn of Israel, and Sheri Laigle and Lori Bruun, both of Maryland.

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ussia nominated a film about the Nazi death camp Sobibor as its entry for the Academy Award for best foreign language film. Sobibor, a multimillion-dollar production with state funding, centers on the 1943 escape by Jewish inmates from the camp under the leadership of Russian inmates. It was one of only two such occurrences during the Holocaust, with the other happening that same year in Treblinka. The two-hour film features Konstantin Khabenskiy, one of Russia’s best-known actors, along with an international cast as well as unusually gory visuals. It is based on historical research of the history of the camp in Poland, where SS guards and Ukrainians murdered 250,000 Jews. The Holocaust and anti-Semitism featured in the submissions of five other European countries: The Netherlands, Austria, Romania, Slovakia and Switzerland. The Dutch submission is The Resistance Banker, based on the actions of Walraven van Hall, a banker who financed the resistance during Nazi occupation, including efforts to save Jews. He was recognized as a Righteous Among the Nations—Israel’s title for non-Jews who risked their lives to save Jews during the Holocaust—in the 1970s. Austria’s The Waldheim Waltz, by the Austrian-Jewish director Ruth Beckermann, is a biographical drama about former U.N. Secretary-General Kurt Waldheim, and the controversy of his participation and role in the Nazi regime during World War II. I Do Not Care If We Go Down In History

As Barbarians tells the story of a theater director seeking a re-enactment of the barbaric massacre of thousands of Jews in Odessa by occupying Romanian troops. Slovakia’s The Interpreter follows a Jewish man’s efforts to find the Nazi officer who may have killed his parents. Eldorado, the Swiss submission, looks at the hardships faced by modern-day immigrants to Europe but juxtaposes their situation with the realities experienced by asylum seekers during World War II, including many Jews. Hungary’s submission, Sunset, was directed by Laszlo Nemes, a JewishHungarian filmmaker whose previous feature, Son of Saul, won the category’s 2016 Oscar. The later film is set in 1913 Budapest and follows the trials of Irisz Leiter, a newcomer to the city whose parents’ shop is burned. “Throughout the film, Irisz and those around her make so much of her name that one wonders if the Leiters were Jewish, casting a dark shadow over” the fire, The Hollywood Reporter wrote in a review this month. “But this is never explicitly stated in the film and remains only a possibility.” Israel’s submission is The Cakemaker, which centers on a German pastry maker who travels to Jerusalem in search of the wife and son of his dead lover. It is Israel’s 51st submission to the award; the country has received 10 nominations, but has yet to win. The Palestinian submission is Ghost Hunting, a documentary about prisoners from Israeli detention reliving their incarceration and alleged torture. (JTA)

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