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Recreate Event
24 May
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hroughout our lifetime we face many moments, tough choices, events and situations that imprint on us in one way or another. More often than not, what we project—whether conscious or unconsciously—is an attitude or frame of mind inspired by the negative events of the past. What if this could change? What if you could start all over again? What if you could make your life today the way you’ve always imagined it to be? For many, this simply sounds too good to be true. It’s therefore easier to say that, “it’s just the way I am,” “this is my fate” or “it’s my cross to bear”.
At the Re-create event, you will learn that it’s never too late to start over. On Sunday 24th May, you will receive the tool you need to become a new person from the inside out. Normally we hear that we have to first start controlling ourselves in order to change, but that’s not quite the case. No matter how hard we try, it seems like there’s only so much we can do on our own, so what is the solution? This is what you will discover at the Re-create event, taking place at all UCKG HelpCentres across the country. Are you ready to get rid of the old so that a way can be made for the new?
My re-creation was a process that began when I applied positivity to my life.”
IN PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS I couldn’t sleep. That may seem like something small and insignificant, but it was a big problem for me. Whenever I attempted to fall asleep, fear would creep in and have such a powerful hold over me that I would clench my bed sheets as tightly as I could. I was tormented every night and the lack of sleep gradually affected my mood and behaviour in a negative way. I sought happiness in all the wrong places, such as in unstable relationships, and I always ended up getting hurt. My re-creation was a long process; I had to forgive all those who had hurt me and learn to believe in myself. But that change started happening the more that I applied the words of positivity that I was hearing at the UCKG HelpCentre to my life. I took the right steps towards changing who I was from the inside out. Today, I am happily married and I sleep better then I have ever imagined.” Maria Hill
When I aimed to fill the emptiness, that’s when life began to work out for the better.”
THE BEST DECISION I HAVE EVER MADE… I wanted to become a new man. There was no amount of money, girls or parties that could fill the emptiness I felt inside of me. When I heard that it wasn’t too late to start over, I put all of my energy into changing. What I heard at the UCKG HelpCentre sparked a new belief in myself. This determination empowered me to bury my past. Bit by bit, I cut off things that tied me to my old life. As drastic as it may seem, I threw away all of my old SIM cards because it linked me to my old friends, which led to me doing the same old things. New meant new! So, it had to go. I said goodbye to pornography, goodbye to the lifestyle of a pimp and goodbye to the street life! It was the best decision I have ever made, and because of it I am happily married, I have the family of my dreams and I am financially stable - I a project manager for the local council, helping others to make the right decisions in life. The greatest change of all is the one that happened inside of me. When I decided to be more than what my circumstances dictated me to be, I was able to take steps to become a new man.” Sherwain Nurse
I regained my confidence and stopped living in fear. I love being myself.”
EXCHANGING WEAKNESS FOR CONFIDENCE 24 May
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When the relationship with my ex-boyfriend was good, it was great, but when it was bad, it was REALLY bad! He would punch me, pull my hair, put out his cigarette on my hand, and even poured petrol on me to set me alight! The abuse not only left physical scars, but worse of all, it left massive emotional wounds. I felt an aching dispair inside, as though I was ball-chained to him. I threw myself deeper into my work to avoid facing my reality. I bottled everything inside for so long that one day I had an emotional breakdown. Things didn’t look like they were ever going to get better until I attended an event like the Re-create. That day, I opened up and poured out all I held inside. I spoke of how I had lost all hope of being free from him, but the advisor assured me that I was stronger than I thought and that I was going to make it. With each visit and each session, I grew stronger and finally plucked up the courage to walk away. I was free from him at last! It took time to overcome the emotional scars that the abuse imprinted in me, but I eventually did. I regained my confidence and stopped living in fear. I love being myself, and today I know that whoever comes into my life next will also know and have to match my self-worth and self-love.” Charlotte Nolan
I had no hope left and the voices in my head were so clear — I had to end it all.”
THE REBEL WHO NOW HAS PEACE My family worked hard to provide the best for me, but they couldn’t stop me mixing with the wrong crowd. What began as ‘no big deal’ turned into a full blown addiction! I smoked weed, ecstasy, cocaine, crack and speed. I felt so hopeless that I thought there was no point of living anymore. Voices in my head were driving me to end it all and one day, I listened. I jump 27ft from my window ledge. I crushed my pelvis and damaged my back, and was in extreme shock and pain! I’m lucky to be alive. I wanted a new life and desperately sought for it. I spent £7,000 seeking help from spiritualists, but nothing changed; I didn’t understand that for things to be different, I was the one who had to change. I called the UCKG 24-hour helpline after seeing the number on a leaflet. That moment changed everything— I felt so much better. I visited my local branch and came to understand that if I wanted things to change, I had to change my mindset. It was so simple, but very effective. It was a step-by-step process, but I am so grateful that the advisers were with me every step of the way. I’ve been clean from drugs for years, I have true happiness, and after being told that I’d never walk again, I’m doing what I love as a fitness instructor.”
Rosalind Gaillard
Regaining selfcontrol was the key to beating my addictions.”
I BECAME HOOKED AFTER MY FIRST SIP! 24 May
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At the age of 17, I took my first sip of alcohol, and from then on I was hooked. I would drink during my lunch breaks, and by the time I turned 19, I was binge-drinking every weekend. I knew that I was in a bad place, so I sought help and remained sober for a year. But all my progress went down the drain when I started gambling and playing on slot machines. Eventually, the alcohol addiction came back. I was continuously on and off the booze, and with one failed relationship after another, my life only went from bad to worse. I was depressed and contemplating suicide, as I was so dead inside that I avoided any moment alone. Do not misunderstand me, I wanted to be better but I didn’t know how to, nor did I have the self-control. It was only when I found the UCKG HelpCentre that I was encouraged to deal with my problem at the root. Within a year, I was free from suicidal thoughts, depression and alcoholism. And on top of that, I am now happily married.” Andrew O’Keeffe
My change of character is that it freed me to find the woman of my dreams, my wife, Yolanda.”
GETTING RID OF MY DEEPEST FEAR
the relationship.
Coming from many failed relationships, fear started to form and I wondered if I would ever find the right person for me. Every relationship that I got involved in always started out well, but somewhere down the line, it went wrong and I would end up quitting
“Whose fault was it?” That was the question that filled my mind, and as years went by, the occasional doubt stole my peace of mind. I just wanted to be happy, was that too much to ask? It was thanks to a special meeting held at the UCKG HelpCentre—Love Talk Live—that I began to work on myself first. Happiness didn’t need to exist only when I found my other half; in fact, I needed to be happy first before getting into a relationship! I began to grasp where I was going wrong, and realised that it was all because of fear—fear of ending up with the wrong person. Thankfully with the practical help and advice I received at the HelpCentre, I am no longer afraid or doubtful. The greatest thing about my change of character is that it freed me to find the woman of my dreams, my wife, Yolanda.”
Antonello Napoli
I worked on my inside in such a way that my outside had to reflect the new me.”
AT AN ALL -TIME LOW 24 May
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My drinking and drug abuse turned me into a nightmare for my family. It was so bad that it cost me my love life. I was married twice and both of my exes left me for other men as a consequence. Facing rejection once was bad enough, but having to go through it twice was like having my heart ripped out of my chest and stepped on. Unfortunately, I was as blind as a mole, and proud as anyone can be. Even after meeting my wife and accepting her children, the fear, mistrust and anger I had only added to the strain and uncomfortable atmosphere in the house. I felt as if I were stuck in a never-ending cycle, feeling depressed because of all the drama I had in my life, drinking to try and forget. I didn’t know there was help until I discovered the UCKG HelpCentre. I will never forget the feeling I had when I stepped inside for the first time—I felt peace! Understanding that it’s never too late to start over was the beginning of my change. Had I not taken this step, I would not have been married to a wonderful woman today, won back my children’s respect, or beaten both addictions! I worked on my inside in such a way that my outside had to reflect the new me.”
Helder Colaço
I didn’t like what I was becoming, but I had no control over it until I was invited to the place I call ‘home’.”
THE FURIOUS TEEN THAT IS NOW A GENTLEMAN The separation of my parents and the death of two loved ones were the start of the uncontrollable anger that was inside of me. When I got angry, there was nothing anyone could do to calm me down. I thought that I was older than I really was. It was as if there were a 27-year-old man trapped in a seven-year-old boy’s body. As I became a teenager, the anger only grew stronger; I got involved with the wrong friendships and their influence took its toll on me. I didn’t respect anyone, no matter whether you were older or younger than me. Yet, behind closed doors, I would lock myself in my room and cry myself to sleep. I even contemplated suicide. The hard boy wasn’t so hard! I didn’t like what I was becoming, but I had no control over it, until my bully who had completely changed, invited me to the place that I today call ‘home’. The UCKG HelpCentre challenged me to recreate myself and with their advice and support, my character and mannerisms have changed. I’m no longer an angry or out-of-control youth. My attitude is positive; I’m an example to my family and a good friend to my mum. Aaron How
I had to make the decision to change myself, and I couldn’t be happier because I’m finally in control.”
I AM IN CONTROL 24 May
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At no time did I ever think that the constant negative thoughts and complexes would come to the end. It was here in London, away from everything and everyone, while facing adult-sized problems, that for the first time, I began to seek help. I knew feeling empty and depressed wasn’t right, but I didn’t know where to go. Who could help me? When it came to other aspects of my life, I was doing quite well. Working in beauty never ceases to bring a good income, but it was at my workplace that my colleague decided to invite me to an event that completely changed my life. I would have never expected a simple invitation to the UCKG HelpCentre to make such a drastic change in my life. As I faithfully attended the meetings, I acted upon each message and quickly learnt that I am the one that has to make the decision to change myself. Today, I am the one in control of my mind and I couldn’t be happier! Ana Paula Sossai
Re C re ate!
Prayer request If you could re-create one aspect of your life, what would it be? Character
Self-esteem
Behaviour
Relationship
The way I interact with my family
How I deal with other people
Finances
Other________________________________ ________________________________
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Tick the box(es) that applies to you and bring this request with you on Sunday 24th May.
? is it? ? The Re-create event aims to renew your character, because when you are a better you, it is possible to overcome anything. Your character can make or break you.
>> Who is it for?
This event is for anyone who wants to start over, and whoever is ready to let go of the past and start anew.
>> When is it and what time? Sunday 24 May at 10am (also at 7.30am).
>> Where will it be held?
At your local UCKG HelpCentre (see page 11 for addresses).
Find your nearest UCKG LONDON BRANCHES HEADQUARTERS: RAINBOW THEATRE 232 Seven Sisters Rd, N4 3NX
STAMFORD HILL 70 High Rd, N15 6JU STRATFORD 7 The Grove, E15 1EL
BRIXTON 386 - 388 Brixton Rd, SW9 7AW CATFORD 1 Bromley Rd, SE6 2TS
TOOTING 145 Upper Tooting Rd, SW17 7TJ (Entrance in Lessingham Avenue)
CROYDON 12-14 London Rd, CR0 2TA
WILLESDEN GREEN 17 Heathfield Park, NW2 5JE
EDMONTON 6 Sterling Way 1st Floor (above LIDL), N18 2XZ
WOOD GREEN 54A High Rd, N22 6BX
HACKNEY 20 Brenthouse Rd, E9 6QG HAMMERSMITH Unit 39, Broadway Shopping Centre, W6 9YD KILBURN 234 Kilburn High Rd, NW6 4JR PECKHAM 176-178 Rye Lane, SE15 4NF PLAISTOW St Andrew’s Rd (off Barking Rd, by Plaistow Police Station), E13 8QD SOUTHALL 71-73 The Broadway, UB1 1LA
OUTSIDE LONDON BRANCHES BIRMINGHAM (Bullring) 128 Suffolk St, Queensway, B1 1LX BIRMINGHAM 99 Lozells Rd, B19 2TR CARDIFF West Grove, (off Newport Rd), CF24 3AN GRAVESEND 8/9 High Street, Kent, DA11 OBQ LEEDS 12 Regent Street Leeds , LS2 7QA
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LEICESTER Former City Cinema, 27 Abbey Street LE1 3TE LUTON First floor Luton Mall, 46 George Street, LU1 2LG, (Next to McDonalds) MANCHESTER 71 Daisy Bank Rd, Victoria Park, M14 5GH NEWCASTLE 1 Thornton St (below Premier Apartments, off Westgate Rd), NE1 4AT NOTTINGHAM 11 Thurland St, NG1 3DR SHEFFIELD 12 Hartshead Square, Sheffield S1 2EL SWINDON Former Salvation Army building, 21 Fleet St, SN1 1RQ PART-TIME BRANCHES BELFAST (Tuesday – 7:30pm) Holiday Inn Hotel, 22 Ormeau Avenue, BT2 8HS For more info call 00353 8615 45567
BOURNEMOUTH St. Michael’s Church, (West Cliff bus stop), Poole Rd, BH2 5QU BRISTOL St Werburghs Community Centre Horley Road, St Werburghs, BS2 9TJ GLASGOW (Once a month - call for info) Jury’s Inn Glasgow Hotel, 80 Jamaica Street, G1 4QG ILFORD Ilford Conservative Club, 42 Ilford Hill, IG1 2AT OXFORD Asian Cultural centre (Towards end of Manzil Way) 0X4 1GH (off Cowley Rd, near NHS building) PETERBOROUGH Westgate Church, 70 Westgate, PE1 1RG S T HELIER (JERSEY) Springfield Stadium, Blue Room, Janvrin Road, JE2 4LF WOOLWICH Glyndon Community Centre (Lower Hall), 75 Raglan Rd, Plumstead, SE18 7JB
FINDING ANSWERS | Looking for answers? ...This show is for you! 60 minutes of real issues, real debates, real people, real answers. Airs: Mondays – Sundays from 11pm to 12am. REPEATS: Mondays – Sundays from 7am to 8am. THE CHRISSY B SHOW | The Chrissy B show will inspire you to be happy and stay positive! Tune in for entertainment, true-life stories with friendly and practical advice. Airs: Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays at 10pm REPEATS: Tuesdays & Thursday at 11am, Sunday at 3pm LOVE TALK | There is always something to say when it comes to matters of the heart and James and Helena are not afraid to delve into them. Join the chat! Airs: Every Saturday at 3pm. REPEATS: Wednesday & Friday at 1am DKW (A DIFFERENT KIND OF WOMAN) | Peeks into women and all of their complexities – the good, the bad, and the not-so-hot. Airs: Sundays at 4pm. REPEATS: Saturdays at 4pm.
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What is the UC and what YOUR HOME AWAY FROM HOME The stories that we, at the UCKG HelpCentre, have come across over the years have at times been shocking, unsettling and even hard to hear… A stark reminder of how cruel and unfair life can be, even for those who are trying their very best to live a good life. But we’ve discovered that with the right kind of support and guidance, even the most heart-wrenching stories can become tomorrow’s inspirational ones. That’s why we don’t give up on anyone; that’s why we do what we do. That’s why we make our centres your home away from home. And what is it exactly that we do? Well, the snippets of the life stories you’re reading about as you flick through this newspaper show you exactly what it is that we do—we help people achieve their dreams and be the best that they can be. It’s never too late to start over. It’s never too hard to keep going. It’s never too late to make it. We say this from experience.
KG HelpCentre does it do? The UCKG is a UK charity dedicated to helping people live life to the full— physically, emotionally and spiritually. Over the years, we’ve reached such a large and diverse group of individuals that our growing family now includes some 12 million people from all walks of life, in over 100 countries.We exist for anyone and everyone who knows that life can be better but has not discovered how to make this happen yet. We realise that the best and help we can give anyone is to empower them, teaching them how to help themselves. This goal underlines everything that we do. In practical terms, the heart of our work is the daily sessions and community groups that offer practical support, activities and events to engage locals and point them in the right direction.
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