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Daniel S. Kaiman and Marc B. Fitzerman................. Rabbis Dr. Elana Newman................................................ President Dr. John Schumann...................................... Vice-President Ross Heyman........... Vice-President for Finance/Treasurer Nancy Cohen.......................................................... Secretary Jeremy Rabinowitz......... Synagogue Foundation President Hillary Roubein.................................... Sisterhood President Sara Levitt..................Director of Jewish Life and Learning Betty Lehman.............................. Synagogue Administrator Shelli Wright........................................... Preschool Director Valerie Henderson.............................................. Bookkeeper Brigid Kelley and Cheryl Myers....................Rabbis Offices Gwenn RedCorn......................................... Co-Receptionist Nicki Johnson............................................. Co-Receptionist Nancy Cohen............................ Sisterhood Gift Shop Chair Robert Conn................................................Security Officer Forrest Young...............................................Security Officer David Kraft...................................................Security Officer

Congrats to Mike and Romi Basch who celebrated their wedding on September 8 in Israel. Many Tulsans traveled to be with them as they celebrated their special day. Congrats to Alix Liiv and Monte Caplan on the recent celebration of their wedding here in Tulsa on September 21. IN MEMORIAM Leah Friedman Mother of Rosalie Childs, Jay Friedman, and Ellen Friedman Marcus Arithius Washington Jimmie Lee Washington Brother and Uncle of Linda Brown


Larry Levy Husband of Carole Levy Morton Solomon Father of Dr. Jan Finer and Gail Solomon

HAMILTON’S JEWISH STORY Emily Melton Bolusky Steven Aberson Sharon Cash Brian Brouse The Jewish SocietyRandee of Tulsa will present NancyGeneological Cohen Charney Dr. Andrew Porwancher of the University of Oklahoma on Barbara Eisen Mark Goldman Sunday, November in theHeyman auditorium of Jake Lerner3, at 2:00 p.m. Ross the Charles Schusterman Jewish Community Center. The Terry Marcum Matt Katz focus is one of Dr. Porwancher’s special scholarly interests, Dr. Elana Newman Jeremy Rabinowitz the life and Jewish connections of Alexander Hamilton. Debby Raskin David Sandler, M.D. All are invited. Angela Taubman John Schumann, M.D. Ricki Wimmer Eva Unterman PHILBOOK EXHIBIT ON ISLAM Hillary Roubein This summer, Philbrook Museum of Art has been incredibly PAST PRESIDENTS honored toIMMEDIATE host the exhibition Wondrous Worlds: Art & Islam through Time & Place. The exhibition is Sally A. Donaldson the most extensive exhibition of Islamic artCraig that Silberg has been shown in Oklahoma. Make sure you see it before closes on Sunday, October 6. JoleneitSanditen

Dorothy Kaset Mother of David Hyman UNVEILINGS PLEASE FROM THE HEART An unveiling in SHARE memoryART of the late Stuart Goodall will take place on Sunday, October 20, at noon at Rose Hill Cemetery (Original Section). Friends and family are invited to attend.

ON THE COVER One of the loveliest depictions of Sukkot in history, this engraving shows us the Curiel family of Amsterdam, celebrating in their sukkah in the early 1700s. Created by the noted artist, Bernard Picart, the image reveals a scene of bourgeois comfort and luxury. Note the elaborate bower above the table, the reflectors behind the candles on the sukkah wall and the beautifully set table. Picart’s engraving is a dream of hiddur mitzvah, beauty in the service of observance.

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CONGREGATION B’NAI EMUNAH 1719 South Owasso Tulsa, Oklahoma 74120 Office: (918) 583‑7121 School: (918) 585‑KIDS Fax: (918) 747-9696 Website:





See the description of Rosh Ha-Shanah: Day I in the previous Messenger, but please note that we will be blessing many of the babies born into the congregation this year. Parents of newborns should call the Synagogue to let us know that they will be with us, because each child gets a beautiful, personal blessing. We don’t want to miss you, so call soon!


Just like on Rosh Ha-Shanah, no tickets or admission requirements of any kind are necessary to celebrate the High Holy Days at The Synagogue. Kol Nidray/Yom Kippur Evening services will begin at 7:30 p.m. on Tuesday evening. The next day services begin at 9:30 a.m. with Yom Kippur observances lasting throughout the day. A sermon will be delivered around 11:45 p.m. The concluding service of this holy day will begin at 5:55 p.m. At the conclusion of Yom Kippur services, please join us for a generous break-fast for the entire Jewish community sponsored by The Sharna and Irvin Frank Foundation. There is no cost to attend, but it helps if you make a reservation in advance by calling the Synagogue Office or visiting our website.


Of the many ways we gather to mark holidays, the warmth of home and the generosity of a meal table stand out above all else. For many years, Emily and Richie Bolusky have opened their home on the second day of Rosh Ha-Shanah for a special holiday meal experience for young families, millennials, and Tulsa newcomers. To make your meal reservations, call the Synagogue Office or visit our website. Cost for the pescatarian meal is $10 for adults and $5 for kids. The meal will take place immediately following Rosh Ha-Shanah Day II services. Those attending can gather near the front door of the Synagogue to walk to the Bolusky home together.




We’re going hunter/gatherer to create lush scach, or covering, for the Synagogue’s sukkah. Join this all-call of able-bodied people to help harvest, load, and prepare the bamboo for the top of our sukkah. If you are interested, please write or call our offices. The harvest begins at 9:30 a.m.



Music, the arts, and Shabbat make a wonderful match. The Tulsa Arts District is brimming with creativity at each monthly First Friday Art Crawl. Connect with the Synagogue community for a musical Shabbat service. Stop in and sing while taking in the downtown galleries or make our service your final destination. Shabbat and First Friday make a wonderful combination. It all gets started at 6:30 p.m. in the Fly Loft which is just above the Woody Guthrie Center. Look for the sign on the west side of the building.




Congregation B’nai Emunah is delighted to invite the entire community to the single most ginormous Sukkah celebration in Oklahoma. The first days of the holiday are October 14 and 15. We’ll then gather in the sukkah on the south lawn of the Synagogue on October 18. We hope that members and guests will be thrilled by what they see. Sukkot Dinner will be supported as always by a gift from the Brouse Family Shabbat and Holiday Fund. A joyful Shabbat Sukkot celebration led by the members of Klay Kodesh, B’nai Emunah’s vocal and instrumental ensemble, will follow the meal. Special games, toys, and experiences await! No reservation is necessary for the celebration which begins at 7:00 p.m. But please call the Synagogue Offices or visit our website to make reservations for the 6:00 p.m. dinner.


Kapparot is an ancient practice through which we symbolically transfer our transgressions from the year past in preparation for Yom Kippur (the Day of Atonement). Our version of this ritual requires that we release one hundred doves from the front door of the Synagogue. We’ve been doing the same for the last twenty years in Tulsa. You won’t want to miss out on this once-a-year event. The ceremony begins at the front door of the Synagogue at 11:45 a.m. We think you’ll love the exciting tumult of this event.



We’ll be in the sukkah this year and hope to see you there, as well. This is the annual fall event honoring the whole of Sisterhood’s membership. Watch your mail for additional details.

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Two of the ideas I care about most are accomodation and accessiblility. It’s easy for me to get to the Synagogue, but that’s not true for many people I know. It could be illness or fatigue or a matter of distance. We have members who live far away from Tulsa and simply can’t make it in for the holidays.

The final days of the fall holiday season begin on the afternoon of October 20 with the 5:30 p.m. beating of willow branches to end Hoshana Rabbah. This marks the beginning of the rainy season, leaf fall, and the drift into winter. That same evening, we’ll usher in Shemini Atzeret, a festival attached to Sukkot which spreads out over two days. Services each morning will begin at 9:00 a.m. Yizkor will be chanted at 10:30 a.m. on October 21. The night begins with a beautiful dinner at 5:30 p.m. in the Synagogue sukkah. Call us or visit our website to let us know you’re coming. At 6:45 p.m., Simchat Torah festivities will begin in Kaiser-Miller Auditorium. The congregation will celebrate the conclusion of the annual Torah reading cycle with whirling processions around a chuppah (wedding canopy) led by Rokday Emunah, the Synagogue’s dance ensemble. Look for balloons, confetti, noisemakers, crepe paper, willow branches, sequins, masks and feathers! The evening is filled with joyous song and treats for all. On October 22, join us for the traditional finale to B’nai Emunah’s holiday celebrations, as members and friends gather following services for the annual Simchat Torah Luncheon. Lunch is complimentary; reservations are not necessary. Weather permitting, we will eat for the last time in the sukkah. Our thanks to the Zarrow Families for underwriting this final luncheon of the holiday season.


And so we’ve done what we can to overcome these obstacles. At this point, I think we’ve made real progress. If you can’t be with us in the Sanctuary this year, the way to join the experience of the High Holidays is simply to click your way to our website. That means using your keyboard to get to At that point, Rabbi Kaiman has made it easy. Follow the prompts, and you’ll quickly reach the screen with a live-streamed version of our celebration. You’ll hear music, Torah reading, and messages for the holidays. And you’ll see much of what happens on the bimah of the Sanctuary. Like live-streaming everywhere, this is an imperfect solution. The day might come that we have a camera crew in the Sanctuary (?!), but that isn’t exactly the house style of the Synagogue. The camera on the ceiling doesn’t require much fuss and it takes a pretty good picture of what you’d see from the pews. And in the last year or so, the sound has been great. We’ll keep our fingers crossed and try our best. After that, it’s onward and upward. And keep in mind, too, that if you come to the Synagogue, we want it to be as easy as possible. Our founders imagined a neighborhood congregation to which people would walk on Shabbat and holidays. Cars did not fit into the original equation. It means that our lot is small and you have to park on the street.


With so many babies in the congregation, we are packed at the table for dinner, but there is always room for another family! Call the Synagogue to let us know if you plan to attend.


Enter valet parking for the holidays. Our national movement has long permitted driving to the Synagogue. But once you get here, we can do plenty to help. Just leave your keys with the nice people at the portico. We’ve taken care of everything; just say “Gut Yontif,” and they’ll do the rest. All you need to do is join us in the Sanctuary.


Join us for an unforgettable evening with former United States Ambassador to the United Nations, Harvard Professor, and Pulitzer Prize winner, Samantha Power, widely known as a relentless advocate for promoting human rights. Power has been heralded by President Barack Obama as one of America’s “foremost thinkers on foreign policy.” In conversation with Dr. John Schumann, President of OU-Tulsa, the program will be at 7:00 p.m. For tickets and more details visit

NEW TO OUR FAMILY WELCOME We are so pleased to welcome new members to the Synagogue family: Suzanne Harris Karen Hafter Rosalyn Borg


We hope that the years ahead bring much satisfaction and joy to one and all. 4



Childcare will be available, since Religious School is not in session. Those who have not yet joined Sisterhood are encouraged to contact Randee Charney to either renew membership or join as new members. Dues remain at $36. Donations are encouraged. For information on Sisters in the Sukkah, contact Tona Willhoite at Look for further details in the Synagogue E-mail Blast.

SUPPLIES FOR HOMELESS KITS The High Holidays provide Sisterhood with the opportunity to collect supplies for kits which can be distributed to people living on the streets. Jolene Sanditen, chair of this project, reminds all us to bring toiletries and other items which are placed in gallon zip-lock bags. Consider travel size personal care items such as toothbrushes, toothpaste, soap, shampoo, lotion, hand sanitizer, and wet wipes. Sisterhood is also collecting socks, nail clippers, combs, and band-aids which can be placed in these kits and also distributed to Iron Gate for its clients. Look for the collection boxes at the Synagogue’s front door.

BIKUR CHOLIM Sara Levitt is in need of volunteers to deliver meals to congregants. Please contact Sara at if you can spare the time.



Sign up for the Third Annual Mah Jongg Tournament, scheduled for Sunday, December 8, from 1:00 to 5:00 p.m. at the Synagogue. The cost is $25 for beverages and snacks. Remember to bring new or gently used coats to be donated to Family & Children’s Services. Coats for men, women, or children are needed. For information contact Barbara Eisen or Kristi Tarabolous.

Dr. Sarah-Anne Schumann is seeking volunteers to serve breakfast on Sunday morning, October 27, from 8:15 to 10:30 a.m. The new Iron Gate facility can accommodate more clients, so Sarah-Anne is suggesting 6 volunteers, age 13 and up, including men and women. Contact her at



The book for this meeting will be The Marriage of Opposites by Alice Hoffman. The session will be led by Karen Kiely on Sunday, November 10, at 10:00 a.m. at the Synagogue. The story involves the mother of Camille Pissarro, father of Impressionism, and the book has received rave reviews.

Once again, Sisterhood will offer juice and rolls after the Ne’ilah service on Yom Kippur. If you can volunteer a few minutes to help set up, contact Nancy Cohen.

MOVIE NIGHT Make a date for Wednesday, November 13, 7:00 p.m. at the Circle Cinema when Temple Israel and B'nai Emunah Sisterhoods get together to attend the Jewish Film Festival. The movie for that evening is 93QUEEN, the story of a tenacious group of Chasidic women who smash the patriarchy of their community by creating the first allfemale volunteer ambulance corps in New York City.

SISTERS IN THE SUKKAH ON OCTOBER 20 This year Sisterhood’s Membership Breakfast will continue its tradition of a complimentary meal for all Sisterhood members. Sisterhood will be focusing on meaningful life experiences. Bring an item of importance to the breakfast, which is set for 9:30 to 11:00 a.m. Those who feel comfortable will be asked to explain the significance of the item which they bring.

Here's a honey server from the selection at the Sisterhood Gift Shop. Please come by to take a closer look at our merchandise for the holiday season. This unique combo piece for Rosh Ha-Shanah is made to hold both apples and honey. It is a two-tiered centerpiece and its graceful steel curves holds the honey aloft, above a dish full of apples. The brass and copper leaves and vines entwine, and a fused glass bead finishes the beauty of this work of art. Functionality meets beauty on your table for the High Holiday meal.




DAVID BLATT Mazal tov to David Blatt who has just concluded a very successful tenure as the founding director of the Oklahoma Policy Institute. In January, David will be joining OU-Tulsa as the George Kaiser Family Foundation Professor of Practice in the Masters of Public Administration program. To honor David’s tenure at OK Policy, the organization will be holding a celebration on Tuesday, October 29, from 4:30 p.m. to 6:30 p.m. at the IDL Ballroom. For details and to RSVP, visit

One thing I love about our Tulsa Jewish community is the surprising way we can deliver diverse Jewish experiences for many different segments of our community. A group with which I have been closely involved for many years now is the Hillel program on the campus of the University of Tulsa. In our present form, we operate out of a campus apartment with two part-time fellows acting as facilitators. With weekly Shabbat dinners and mid-week programming, we support Jewish engagement and growth for college-age students here in Tulsa. This work takes a special kind of skill and care, and we’re appreciative to be part of a network of Hillel’s that operate on campuses around the world. And, I’m happy to say that our program keeps growing. This fall, we have welcomed six Jewish, first-year students to campus. From Houston to St. Louis, to Los Angeles, students arrive on campus and often look to us as their home away from home. Experience tells us that a significant portion of these students will remain in Tulsa beyond the completion of their degrees. And even if they leave town upon graduation, we know that positive early adulthood Jewish experiences will translate to a lifelong connection to Jewish community wherever one lives. We do all of this on a modest budget. And I know with more resources, there’s much more we could accomplish. I’m personally grateful for the support of our funders, Jewish faculty on campus, the President of the University, and the Chaplain’s Office for enthusiastically endorsing this work. I hope you’ll join me in taking pride in all we do. I know together we will continue to build vibrant Jewish community for today and tomorrow.


SOME HAVE ASKED Some have asked about the August 31 Tulsa World article under the title, “Synagogue Opens in Sand Springs.” The article describes a group that practices something they call “Lapid Orthodox Judaism,” a term that might be confusing to some. This group has opened a storefront in a strip mall in Sand Springs. The article goes on to describe this community as “the first official offshoot” of a congregation in Saginaw, Texas. One piece of information missing from the Tulsa World article is that this group has a mission to “restore the original faith of Yeshua.” And it also describes itself as “Yeshua-Centered Judaism.” “Yeshua” is the Hebrew name of Jesus. It would appear that this is a group of individuals who believe in Jesus as a messianic and religious figure but have adopted some of the common language, symbols, and practices of normative Judaism. 6






















for our children to learn and grow. This year our Youth Programming on Rosh Hashanah will focus heavily on this story from the Torah. We’ll use drama and play to imagine what it is like to be Isaac, Abraham, God, and Sarah. We’ll pay close attention to the words of the story and we’ll make our own interpretation. As a community, we’ll try to understand why this is here, why we read it now, and what it means to us. In this way, we’ll join a long line of Torah scholars before us.

On Rosh Hashanah we read the harrowing story of Abraham, a hero of the Jewish people, just a few minutes shy of sacrificing his beloved son Isaac. As if I haven’t read this parashah twice each year, I am always struck by this part of our narrative. Each year I struggle to use just the right words, in just the right way to teach it to our children. The questions from our young people are the same each year; “Why would God want this to happen? Why does Abraham even listen to God? What is Isaac thinking through all of this? What about Sarah?” I listen to them and I respond with words that they seem surprised to hear: “You’re right! This is strange! This does feel uncomfortable! This doesn’t seem like the same God who we thank for waking us up in the morning or who freed us from Egypt.”

As we enter a new year may thoughtfulness, honesty, and patience guide us, and may our children jump into the study of Torah with awe, curiosity, and excitement. A happy and healthy New Year to all!

THANK YOU FOR HIGH HOLIDAY DELIVERIES Thanks to Debby Raskin, Carol Mandelbaum, Richard Borg, Michael and Marcy Cyter, Brian Brouse, Joan Niedel, Matt Levitt, Alana Gorden, Sarah Ann Schumann, and Marti Levinson. Shanaz Khalil baked all of the treats, and Terri wrapped all the deliveries. Thank you so much!

On the heels of the New Year, this story and the conversations it sparks, remind me of the great responsibility of being a teacher and parent. Each response, each question, and each admission of our own struggle is an opportunity


Ins�tute of Adult Jewish Studies

Classes begin October 28 and run for six   Monday nights through December 9  (There will be no classes on Nov. 11) 

All classes will be held at the Charles Schusterman JCC

Congrega�on B’nai Emunah, Temple Israel and the Jewish Federa�on of Tulsa Email Mindy at mpresco���

COURSE OFFERINGS Hour One ‐ 7:00 pm Roll Into Dark; Roll Into Light You & Me, Let’s Disagree... From Worrier to Happy Warrior, Jewish Wisdom to Feeling Good (2 hr. class)

Hour Two ‐ 8:00 pm Intro to Judaism: Part 1 From Worrier to Warrior (cont. from hour 1) Why? The Holocaust as History & Warning

She Persisted: Jewish Women’s Impact From Torah to Today

Archaeology of the Lands of the Bible 2…

The Jewish Mind

Con�ersa�onal Hebrew

Pickleball Beginning Hebrew: Part 1

The Sisterhood invites its members and friends to join in our Annual Meeting and Election on

Sunday, June 2, 2019 at The Synagogue at 9:30 a.m. The Brunch and Program will honor

Nancy Cohen as our 2019 Woman of Valor. The cost of the brunch is $12.00 per person Use the return coupon below for your reservation. Please respond no later than May 28, 2019. Your check is your reservation. Please clip here and mail by May 28, 2019


Number of guests who will be attending brunch [check enclosed]:

I 'll pay by credit card and will call Carol Mandlebaum at (918) 407-5282.

I can't attend, but my Woman of Valor contribution of

is enclosed.

Mail to Carol Mandlebaum | 8239 South Evanston Avenue | Tulsa, Oklahoma 74137



We hope that our holiday celebration brings you joy. Please take note that our uniformed officers, ushers, staff, and board members are ready to help in every way. If you hear an alarm of any kind, please assess the situation. If you are on the right side of the Sanctuary and can exit safely, use the big doors that face Seventeenth Place.

Many people struggle with the symbolic language of Jewish prayer on the High Holidays, particularly the motifs of reward and punishment and a God who treasures human praise. It may help to see the first as a metaphor urging self-knowledge, selfevaluation, and consciousness of our thoughts and deeds. The second is part of Judaism’s aversion to seeing ourselves and our fellow human beings as the center and crown of creation. Humility is a moral bridge to the gentle, respectful treatment of other human beings who have the same claims on God’s love that we do.

If you are on the left side of Sanctury as you face the Ark, and it’s safe to exit, use the main doors at the front of the building where you entered. In either case, look for ushers with flags who will help you. Remember, also, there are many other exits from the building, but only one monitored door we use as an entrance. As you spend time in our building, please make sure you take in all the possible exits in case of an emergency.

ACCESS Services at the Synagogue are open to everyone, including our neighbors in the general community who may wish to sample Jewish traditions in a setting of warmth and authenticity. Our members reach out to newcomers with great affection and sincerity, and it is our hope that no one will arrive or depart without a sense of having been greeted as a friend. Unlike most congregations in the country, there are no admission tickets to services or charges of any kind. Visitors should be aware that we are mindful of security in order to keep every participant safe. Simple precautions are always in effect to protect us all. Please introduce yourself to our Front Desk staff if you are visiting the Synagogue for the very first time.

ROSH HA-SHANAH FOR EVERYONE In the spirit of our monthly “Shabbat for Everyone” gatherings, the opening service of our Rosh Ha-Shanah observance follows a familiar model. For families and individuals eager to dine together, we offer an optional holiday brisket meal which begins at 5:15 p.m. With familiar smells and tastes, we hope to make it easy for families and individuals to plug into an authentic holiday experience. Following this communal dinner, we gather in the Sanctuary at 6:15 p.m. for a kid-oriented musical Rosh Ha-Shanah celebration. The instruments and voices of Klay Kodesh will lift your hearts with spirit and energy. Storytelling and special treats for the kids highlight this short evening experience. The service will conclude by 7:00 p.m. to allow those who prefer to gather for the holiday meal in their homes. This year, Rosh Ha-Shanah for Everyone will take place on Sunday, September 29.

DRESS We always say that people should come as they are, but most members of the congregation dress up for the High Holidays. It’s much like the clothing people wear to the symphony or a play. Men typically wear a shirt and tie, along with a jacket or (less often) a sweater or vest. Women wear dresses, skirts and tops, or pants with a jacket. No one dresses to impress and the prevailing style is quiet modesty. Regardless of what you wear, do not hesitate to come because you fear that you may not have the right clothing. There is plenty of room at the Synagogue for everyone.

ROSH HA-SHANAH DAY I It’s the Jewish New Year! A formal worship experience serves as the backbone to this day. Beginning at 9:00 a.m. on Monday, we work our way through a special Holiday prayerbook called the Mahzor. Since our current version only offers Hebrew and English, we have crafted supplementary materials to offer full transliteration as well as additional readings, reflections, and meditations. The supplements are found in the three-ring binders placed at every seat. The morning starts with a series of sung prayers with the chanting of the service being led by our cantor, Rafi Dworsky, who is assisted by our rabbis, Marc Fitzerman and Dan Kaiman. A musical ensemble supports the experience, adding depth, flourish, and meaning to the various parts of the prayerful morning.

SEATING Seating in our Sanctuary is open, with no reserved seats for members or guests. People occasionally save seats for others, so please be alert to normal social cues. There are always available seats at the front of the Sanctuary, where people rarely sit for the reasons that people always avoid the front rows of auditoriums. This is the bane of Rabbis and clergypeople of every community, but what can you do?

By 9:30 a.m., we begin the formal chanting of the Torah service. This participatory event involves a public reading of a section of the Torah. The Torah is read aloud in Hebrew, with 12

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com so that we can prepare to include you. Again, this service concludes by 12:30 p.m. and is followed by a cookie Kiddush sponsored by the Fitzerman-Blue and Kaiman-Gold families. For those wishing to observe Rosh Ha-Shanah with another communal meal, Emily and Richie Bolusky have opened their home for a special Holiday meal experience for young families, millennials, and Tulsa newcomers. The meal takes place immediately following the conclusion of services. To make your meal reservations, call the Synagogue office or visit our website. Cost for the pescatarian meal is $10 for adults and $5 for kids.

translations available in your prayer books. Members of the congregation are called up throughout this part of the service with honors and blessings. A special honor is that of the person who chants the selections of the Prophets, which follows the completion of the public Torah reading. During this part of the service, the Rabbis will offer an opportunity for prayers of healing. Should you or someone you love be in need of prayers for healing, please come forward as instructed and share either the English or Hebrew name of the person which you would like to include. Alternatively, if you would like to submit a name before the Holiday, please email to be included at each of these opportunities throughout the Holiday season.

KAPPAROT A major theme running through the High Holidays is the notion that we let go and find paths to renewal and forgiveness. There are many different ways we manifest this theme. A thrilling way to symbolically mark this transition is by participating in our Kapparot ceremony. Each person is invited to take a pigeon in hand and ritually release the bird so that it flies home to its nest. In doing so, we remind ourselves of the power of freedom and our potential. The informal ceremony takes place on Sunday, October 6, at 11:45 a.m. at the front door of the Synagogue building. A public shofar blast concludes the experience.

After the Torah is returned to the ark, the drama of the morning continues. The shofar is sounded for the first time. The cantor offers a public prayer of supplication, and then the congregation is given space for silent reflection. Traditionally, the sacred words of the Mahzor are recited at this time, but this is also a space for private prayer and personal introspection. At the close of this silent portion of the service, one of the Rabbis will offer a sermon. Following this moment of teaching and learning, our musical ensemble and cantor resume leadership of the service and we sing a public version of the prayers found in the Mahzor. This final part of the service generally concludes by 12:30 p.m. and culminates with blasts of the Shofar.

THE DAYS IN BETWEEN The period that lasts from Rosh Ha-Shanah through Yom Kippur is called the Ten Days of Repentance. Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement, stands in contrast and complement to the days that mark the Jewish New Year. Lasting 25 hours, Yom Kippur is a time to ask for forgiveness and spend time in intensive prayer and reflection. From sundown on Tuesday, October 8, to sundown on Wednesday, October 9, adults refrain from eating and drinking, bathing, wearing leather, anointing oneself with perfume or lotion and marital relations. These activities are all very human and corporeal, but by setting these limits we focus inward on the spiritual tasks of the day.

At that time the entire community is invited to partake in a Kiddush Lunch generously sponsored by the Goodall and Kaiser families. For those who wish to immediately partake in the Tashlich ritual, where one symbolically casts crumbs of bread into a body of water, bags will be available in the front lobby of the Synagogue. A group will walk together to Swan Lake at 1:00 p.m. Later in the afternoon, at 5:30 p.m., a short afternoon and evening service will take place as we round out the day of prayer and reflection.



It’s so nice we do it twice. The second day of Rosh Ha-Shanah follows roughly the same format as Day 1. The public readings are different, and different individuals are honored with participation throughout the service. The morning begins at 9:00 a.m. and by 9:30 a.m. we are chanting Torah. Again, a sermon is delivered at 10:45 a.m., and we’ve nearly completed our service by noon. On this second day, our congregation follows a special custom where we offer Baby Blessings to each new child who has joined our community in the past year. Grandparents, parents, siblings, and relatives receive these blessings on behalf of the new arrivals, who bring so much joy to our lives. If you are the parent or grandparent of a newborn and would like to partake, please email vhenderson@bnaiemunah.

Yom Kippur is inaugurated at 7:30 p.m. with the Kol Nidray prayer. As on Rosh Ha-Shanah, during this service we use a Mahzor, a special prayer book, which outlines the liturgical frame for the day. While our current edition has only Hebrew and English on its pages, a supplementary binder is always available which has full transliteration, poems, and reflective readings. This evening service, led again by our cantor, Rabbis and musical ensemble, moves through the prescribed structure of the service with familiar musical highlights and points of emphasis. Around 8:15 p.m., a sermon is delivered and services conclude around 9:30 p.m. 13

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At 9:30 a.m. the next morning, we begin chanting Yom Kippur service. As on Rosh Ha-Shanah, around 10:30 a.m., we participate in a public reading of a section of the Torah followed by a chanting of the Haftorah (a selection from the Prophets). Please see our description of Rosh Ha-Shanah for what comes next.

At 3:00 p.m. in the Sanctuary, our Rabbis will hold an open forum for reflection and discussion. You bring the questions; they will try to bring their thoughts and perspectives. This is a meaningful way to engage in learning and explore new ideas as a community. All are welcome to participate in this event.


The cantor offers a public prayer of supplication, and then the congregation is given space for silent reflection. Traditionally, the sacred words of the Mahzor are recited at this time, but this is also a space for private prayer and personal introspection. At the close of this interval, one of the Rabbis will offer a sermon.

At 4:15 p.m., the formal afternoon service begins. A short public Torah reading is followed by the ritual chanting of the entire book of Jonah. We then chant the liturgical hallmarks of the afternoon service before taking another short break.

Following the sermon, the congregation will hold a Yizkor (Memorial) service for loved ones who are no longer with us. Names added to the Book of Remembrance are read aloud, and individuals are given time to offer silent supplication. If you have lost a loved one in the past year, please e-mail with the name and date of death so that we can be sure to include your loved one.

NE’ILAH: THE CLOSING OF THE GATES A liturgical highlight of the year, the Ne’ilah (Concluding) Service offers a thrilling end to a day of solemnity and introspection. Beginning at 5:55 p.m., the service is chanted by our cantor, Rabbis and musical ensemble. The Ark doors remain open throughout the main section of this service. Thus, many people stand throughout this liminal period.

Following this moment of reflection, our musical ensemble and cantor resume leadership of the service, and we sing a public version of the prayers found in the Mahzor. This is the final part of the service and generally concludes by 1:30 p.m.

The doors of the Ark serve as an important symbol in the themes of the day, as we imagine the locking of the gates and make our best efforts to seek repentance and forgiveness in these waning hours. As the sun sets, we mark the conclusion of the holiday with a Havdallah (Separation) Service. Finally, the day culminates with blasts from the shofar.

PRAYERS BEFORE THE ARK Following the close of service, many choose to go home or leave the Synagogue for a period. However, those who wish to remain are welcome to remain in our building throughout the day. Beginning at 2:00 p.m. the Ark will be opened, and individuals are welcome to take a moment to offer private prayers before its open doors. Just wait for the person ahead of you, and then step forward.

BREAK THE FAST Immediately following the conclusion of our ritual services for Yom Kippur, the entire community is invited to participate in a Break-the-Fast meal. Generously sponsored by The Sharna and Irvin Frank Family Foundation, this is a celebratory communal moment of achievement, relief, opportunity, and possibility. While there will always be enough food for everyone, we do ask that those who are planning to be with us call or visit our website so we can plan for your participation.


Mah Jongg Tournament Hosted by Congregation B’nai Emunah Sisterhood


Sunday, December 8, 2019 • 1:00 p.m.–5:00 p.m. Congregation B’nai Emunah





RISE UP SINGING SUMMER SONGFEST AT THE SYNAGOGUE SUNDAY, AUGUST 25, 2019 DELI DINNER AT 6:00 p.m. + FREE CONCERT AT 7:00 p.m. peoria at seventeenth street | Valet Parking

Dinner ReservationS: (918.583-7121) oR

Concert in memory of Sharna and Irvin Frank

TAKE A SEAT We are still taking orders for plaques to be affixed to seats in our Sanctuary. Your contribution can fund a tribute or memorial to those who have been important to you. If you’d like further information, please call Betty Lehman at (918) 583-7121 for details.

"She saved my life."

Tribute by Rabbi Yisroel Goldstein to Lori Gilbert-Kaye, who shielded him from a gunman on the final day of Passover, 2019. May the memory of the righteous be for a blessing.


Join us for the 2019 Touro Celebration on Sunday, May 19, 2019. Watch your mail for details.



Thanks so much to the many people who responded to our questions. Shirley Dormont called to say that the third child from the left is Steven Dormnont. The date is 1969, and all of these children are four years old. Elana Grissom says that the little girl furthest to the right is her sister, Mariah Dickson. Directly to her left at the end of the line is Kenny Watt. Although the photograph is not dated, the rompers and the saddle shoes suggest that it’s the 1950s or early 1960s. The tile floor identifies this as a scene in the Nadel Education Building. Can anyone out there help us identify the children in the scene?


The Seventeenth Street Deli is now accepting orders for kosher holiday briskets cooked and ready to go. Please call (918) 583-7121 to place your order. First come, first served. The price is $25 per pound (cooked), and each pound serves three adults.


TREES OF LIFE Please think of commemorating the moments of meaning and celebration in your family by purchasing a leaf on our trees of life. Many generations have already done so, and we have remaining spaces waiting for you. The cost is quite reasonable. Please call Betty Lehman at (918) 583-7121 for details.

When was the last time you had a warm, flaky, delectable knish? We’re now making them at the Seventeenth Street Deli, and you can have your fill on Sunday, October 14. Just call the Synagogue or go to

Congregation B’nai Emunah

Book of Remembrance Please use this form to advise us of those names which should be included in the 5780 edition of our Yizkor Book. Print carefully and please list husbands and wives on the same line. Those with names on record should simply call Valerie Henderson at (918) 583-7121 to confirm their inclusion for the upcoming holidays.

Please enclose a check for $36 for the first eight lines of names on your list and a discretionary amount for any additions. Your name line, as it should appear: ______________________ Your phone number: ___________________ Send to CBE, 1719 South Owasso, Tulsa, Oklahoma 74120 by September 18. Our thanks to The Zarrow Families for supporting the publication of our Yizkor Book.



Tom and Judy Kishner Barry and Debbie Lederman Gale Mason Harold and Sheryl Springer Wendy Weisberg and Andrew Bednarz

Ann Beerman Flower Fund Mr. David and Dr. Janis Finer Estelle Finer Debbie and Mel Hallerman

Barbara Curnutt Preschool Fund Michael Noshay and Sofia Nagda

Dr. Meyer Rozen Prayerbook Fund Jerome and Brenda Katz Betty and Keith Lehman

Endowment 2000 Fund Jonathan Kantor Leor and Hillary Roubein

Jay, Dick, and Linda Brown Jerry and Susan Sokol Dave and Barbara Sylvan

Janis Bolusky Memorial Outreach Fund

R. Kaiman Discretionary Fund

Brouse Family Shabbat+Holiday Programming Fund

Jeanette and Sidney Frieden Computer Fund Dave and Barbara Sylvan

Joe and Dorothy Katz Senior Fund Barry and Debbie Lederman

Building and Grounds Fund

Joe Kantor Hebrew School Fund

Building Renewal Fund

Josh Price Memorial Fund

Camp Ramah Scholarship Fund Paul and Randi Brodsky Susanna Ginsburg Andrew and Terry Marcum Eric and Dr. Jacqueline Scholl

Chevra Kadisha

Dr. Rick and Barbara Cohen Harold and Sheryl Springer

Dave Sylvan Joyful Music Fund Jonathan Kantor Dave and Barbara Sylvan Mimi Tarrasch Nancy Wilk and Charles Brown

Linda Dubois

Elana and Stephen Grissom Leslie Sanditen and Frank Zigmond

Dr. Sheldon and Molly Berger Gale Mason

Mark Goldman and Dr. W.C. Goad

Norman and Shirley Levin Fund for Prayerbook Publication Rabbi Arthur D. Kahn, D.D., Culture Fund

Jennifer and Sam Joels Drs. Brian Milman and Brianna Desire Genny Seletsky

Sallye Mann

Shirley and Martin Brody Dave and Barbara Sylvan

Edgar and Isabel Sanditen Preschool Fund

Bikur Cholim

Ernie and Fern Gershone Debbie and Mel Hallerman Drs. Brian Milman and Brianna Desire Diana Wolff

Morris and Edith Sylvan Transportation Fund

Mike and Sandi Tilkin May

David and Robyn Price Jerry and Susan Sokol

Sanditen Pilgrimage Fund

Leslie Sanditen and Frank Zigmond

Lenny Seigel Plaground Fund Dancy Apple Jay, Dick, and Linda Brown

Louis and Sara Kahan Hebrew School Fund

Janet Dundee and Jeff Darby

Mizel Family Philanthropic Fund Jerry and Susan Sokol

Dr. Andrew Gottehrer Heather Hale Emily Platt and Dr. William Robin

R. Fitzerman Discretionary Fund Dr. Andrew Gottehrer Henry and Helen Katz Dr. Stan and Stephanie Pastor Phyllis Raskin Lynn Shirley Tulsa Bone and Joint Associates Kent and Sandy Vice, Heather Bullock, and Heidi Berriman

Richards Family Library Fund Kip and Gail Richards

Rose Borg Sukkah Fund

Matthew Biespiel Rosalyn Borg Allan and Elaine Jeffy Marc and Jeri Shapiro Bonnie and Louis Spiesberger Jesse Stoner

Sam Plost Matzah Fund

Gale Mason Nancy Wilk and Charles Brown

Schlanger-Blend Kitchen Fund

Drs. Brian Milman and Brianna Desire Scott and Lauren Zeligson

Scott Zarrow Rabbinic Endowment Tom and Judy Kishner Barry and Debbie Lederman Dave and Barbara Sylvan Rhonda Lhevine Wagnon Drs. Linda and Richard Young Maxine Zarrow

Scott Sanditen Memorial Fund Harvey and Nancy Cohen Susanna Ginsburg Dean and Carol Mandlebaum Gale Mason Leslie Sanditen and Frank Zigmond Harold and Sheryl Springer

Security Fund

Dr. Harvey Blumenthal Sally and Robert Donaldson

Sharna Frank Music Fund Jon and Starla Glazer Dave and Barbara Sylvan

Shirley Rabinovitz School Fund Susanna Ginsburg

Stuart and Sherri Goodall/Blanc Art Education Fund Michael and Barbara Kahn

Synagogue Endowment Fund Dr. Scott and Harriet Dunitz

Synagogue General Fund

Dr. Stephen and Ellen Adelson Jennifer Airey Bernard Backer Jason Brimer and Mary Cantrell David and Randee Charney O’Neil Cobb Dr. Rich and Barbara Cohen Barbara and Barry Eisen Martin A. Frey Liat Gal Dr. Linda Goldenstern Jamela Grace David Blatt and Patty Hipsher Dennis and Terri Johnson

Elaine Kahn Adi Kalika Rebekah Kantor Janelle and Matthew Katz Karen Kiely Ilan and Dr. Anne Kozlowski Barry and Debbie Lederman Nikki and Dr. Stephen Sack Mary Lhevine and Dr. G. Schnetzer Gale Mason Greg and Cheryl Myers Elana Newman Martin Newman Dr. David and Iris Sandler Darryl Sartwell Earl and Arlene Starkman Jacob and Kristi Tarabolous Dr. Kevin and Angela Taubman Ron and Tona Willhoite Andy and Nancy Wolov

Religious School Fund

Janelle and Matthew Katz Nikki and Dr. Stephen Sack

In Memory Of

Estelle Aberson Louis David Adelson Miriam and Sam Abravanel Beverly Goldberg Axelrod Kenneth Axelrod Ann Beerman Herbert and Lila Berger Janis Bolusky Isaac Borg Joseph E. Borg Eleanor Brimer David N. Brodsky Meryl N. Brodsky Jack I. Brown Ann Carlyn Jeanette Chucker Theodore and Mitsu Cohen Andrew Dickson Shaine Rochel Donde Carl Fischbein Syna Leah Fischbein Leah Borg Friedman Audrey and Ted Ginsberg

Leona Glazer Leonard Goldstein Stuart Goodall Dudley Gottehrer Harold Guller Gertrude Hart Fritzi Haskell Marvin Kaiman Sam and Helen Kassel Yetta Kassel Lili and Harry Katz Dr. Manfred Katz Nettie and Louis Lederman Steven Lederman Dr. Elliott Charles Mason Charlotte and Harris Miller Minnie Millner Madelyn Moskowitz Nathan Nacht Florence Noshay Jan Pastor Leon and Esther Pastor Dr. Scott Pastor Howard Raskin Meyer L. Roberts Blanche and Isaac Roubein Dr. Meyer Rozen Allan P. Scholl Fred and Mildred Sokol Ezzie Springer Fannie Stockfish Dr. Ernest and Ena Tarrasch Sheldon L. Tilkin Herb and Jane Topper Norman Tugenberg Morris Weissbord Regina West Scott F. Zarrow

In Honor Of

Rosalyn Borg, on her birthday Brian E. Brouse Dr. Jamie Cash Jodi Finer and Mat Zalk, on birth of twins Noah Gluck W.C. Goad, for a return to good health Norman and Shirley Levin Rocky and Shal Wilkerson Ariana and Simone Zalk

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9:00 AM Rosh Ha-Shanah Services 12:00 PM Baby Blessings 12:15 PM The Bolusky Lunch 7:15 PM Closing Service



4:00 PM Hebrew Lab 5:30 PM Service 6:30 PM Midrasha



5:30 PM Service



5:30 PM Service 6:30 PM First Friday at Flyloft 6:43 PM Candles 7:03 PM Sunset

Rosh Ha-Shanah II


9:00 AM ShulSchool 11:45 AM Kapparot | Release of Doves 5:30 PM Service


5:30 PM Service


5:30 PM Afternoon Service 7:30 PM Kol Nidray Service 9:30 PM Closing Benediction

Erev Yom Kippur


9:00 AM ShulSchool 9:30 AM Bamboo Harvest 5:30 PM Service 6:30 PM Candles 6:50 PM Sunset


9:00 AM Yom Tov Services 5:30 PM Service

10:00 AM Sisterhood Membership Brunch | Sukkah 12:00 PM Unveiling for Stuart Goodall 5:30 PM Service | Hoshanah Rabbah 6:21 PM Candles 6:41 PM Sunset

Sukkot VII


9:00 AM ShulSchool 5:30 PM Service

9:00 AM Yom Tov Services 6:55 PM Closing Service 7:10 PM Havdalah

Sukkot I

Erev Sukkot




9:00 Yom Tov Services 5:30 PM Service 5:45 PM Simchat Torah Dinner and Dancing

Shemini Atzeret


5:30 PM Service 7:00 PM Adult Institute at TJCC

9:00 AM Yom Tov Services 6:45 PM Closing Service 7:00 PM Havdalah


9:30 AM Morning Service 12:15 PM Yizkor 4:15 PM Afternoon Service 5:55 PM Concluding Service 7:25 PM Shofar Blowing and Break-Fast


5:30 PM Service

1:00 PM Altamont Baking 5:30 PM Service 7:00 PM Ambassador Samantha Power


5:30 PM Service 6:33 PM Candles 6:53 PM Sunset

Yom Kippur


5:30 PM Service


5:30 PM Service

Sukkot III


4:00 PM Hebrew Lab 5:30 PM Service 6:30 PM Midrasha


8:30 AM Siddur Study 9:00 AM Shabbat Service 7:00 PM Closing Service 7:15 PM Havdalah

Torah: Ha-azinu


5:30 PM Service 6:00 PM Sukkot Dinner 6:24 PM Candles 6:44 PM Sunset 7:00 PM Sukkot for Everyone

Sukkot IV


5:30 PM Service

Simchat Torah


8:30 AM Siddur Study 9:00 AM Shabbat Service 7:10 PM Closing Service 7:25 PM Havdalah

Torah: Vayeilech

Sukkot II





8:30 AM Siddur Study 9:00 AM Shabbat Service 6:50 PM Closing Service 7:05 PM Havdalah

Sukkot V


5:30 PM Service 6:00 PM Bibi-Dibi 6:15 PM Candles 6:35 PM Sunset

Sukkot VI


8:30 AM Siddur Study 9:00 AM Shabbat Service 6:40 PM Closing Service 6:55 PM Havdalah

Torah: Bereshit


9:00 AM Altamont Packing 4:00 PM Hebrew Lab 5:30 PM Service 6:30 PM Midrasha


5:30 PM Service


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1719 South Owasso Avenue Tulsa, Oklahoma 74120 P.O. Box 52430 Tulsa, Oklahoma 74152

YAHRTZEITS FOR OCTOBER, 2019 | 2 TISHRAY TO 2 CHESHVAN 5780 2 Tishray - Tuesday, October 1 Minnie Kahn Louis Mandel 3 Tishray - Wednesday, October 2 Felix Aaronson William Chucker Sam Marks Sadye Rubinstein Anna Shapiro 4 Tishray - Thursday, October 3 Bertha Berelowitz Jim Glass Harry Guterman 5 Tishray - Friday, October 4 Freda Krawitz Esther Pastor Harry H. Rozen Etta Waldinger Borg 6 Tishray - Saturday, October 5 Miriam Cohn Phillips Joseph Grossbard Vicki Walzer 7 Tishray - Sunday, October 6 Alvin Glass Brenda Magoon Louis Mizel Isaac Aaron Schuman 8 Tishray - Monday, October 7 Sylvia Alexander Bertha Ettleman Phillip Fischbein Alexander Meyer Betty Newman 9 Tishray - Tuesday, October 8 Leah Katz Morgan Skyler Shiphrah Stockfish West 10 Tishray - Wednesday, October 9 Jacob Chekofsky Raphael Donde Alvin Dundee Ann B. Freed Sylvia Hannah Jacobson Moshe Chaim Lifsics Sarah Lifsics Philip Trommer

11 Tishray - Thursday, October 10 Elana Wexberg Haas Horska Fanny Kaiser Bertha Winer

19 Tishray - Friday, October 18 Tillie Freidlin Futuronsky Renee Neuwald Joe Pertofsky

12 Tishray - Friday, October 11 Yvonne Davis Beard Eleanor Cohen Simon Kaiser Walter Loftis

20 Tishray - Saturday, October 19 Lisa Glenn Rose Goldstein Rollins Koppel Sarah Sokolof Fannie Weis

13 Tishray - Saturday, October 12 Lottie Gussman Ella Kahn Sol Robinowitz Joy K. Smith Aaron Solomon 14 Tishray - Sunday, October 13 Stuart Beerman Lottie Eiziks Leo Hurewitz Betty LeVine Joe Mickella Joseph Sollosy 15 Tishray - Monday, October 14 Dr. S. Yale Andelman Renee Levin Ruth B. Levy 16 Tishray - Tuesday, October 15 Raymond L. Campbell, Jr. Sam Deaktor Bess Frieden Ida Levy Bessie Plost Dr. Arnold Ungerman Morris Zolt 17 Tishray - Wednesday, October 16 Emanuel Z. Aaronson Elliott G. Bloch Sarah N. Drissman Sam B. Eisman Rebecca Foreman Herman George Kaiser David Miller Flory Moses Reuben 18 Tishray - Thursday, October 17 Bettye Dritch Mabel Makinen Esther Silver

21 Tishray - Sunday, October 20 Cecil Breeding Pearl Brown Fannie L. Budowsky Tom Glasser Rose Kosloff Isadore Oberlander Mary Stavinsky Markus Wolman Rose Zarrow 22 Tishray - Monday, October 21 Julia Finston Rosenberg Irma Goldenstern Dina Kaiser Samuel Shoubin 23 Tishray - Tuesday, October 22 Ray Carnay Rita Newman Max Springer 24 Tishray - Wednesday, October 23 William David Taubman 25 Tishray - Thursday, October 24 Morris Fell Rebecca Fenster Lena Haas Dr. H. J. Harkavy Joel J. Klein David Shapiro Adolph Weiss

27 Tishray - Saturday, October 26 Devera Cohen Adelson Meryl N. Brodsky Morris Gold Allene Merritt Evelyn I. Oleinick 28 Tishray - Sunday, October 27 Dwight Herman Axelrod Hannah Davis Sara Edelman Ethel B. Kaplan Celia Lubin Irving J. Shapiro 29 Tishray - Monday, October 28 Max Bernbaum Bessie Davis Goodall Gertrude Rubin Anna Sanditen Max Sternfield 30 Tishray - Tuesday, October 29 Sidney M. Brouse Sol Dan Ethel Fitzerman Edwin Friedson Joseph Kornfeld Harry “Babe” Magoon Rose Manes Edith Paru 1 Cheshvan - Wednesday, October 30 Zoe Irwin Sam Zarrow 2 Cheshvan - Thursday, October 31 Andy Anderson Lilly Bernstein Edward Perry Brickman Arthur “Buddy” Kaplan Lillie Krisman Norman Landa Michael Roberts Charles Raymond West

26 Tishray - Friday, October 25 Teresa Fadem Robert Martin Frieden Frank Gold Phillip Katz Sarah B. Sitrin Shainah (S.H.) Stekoll Hermine Weiss

May their souls be bound up in the bond of life everlasting. | Please note that each yahrtzeit begins at sunset on the day before the date listed.

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