in fact embrace her free spiritedness) and allow her some freedom over the environment of her own room. Now that’s not to say, I gave her a free for all and allowed her to trash her room. No. What we did is work out a compromise, both setting healthy boundaries of what we expected from each other. This is where expectations work! …when they’re based on a mutual understanding. 2. Stop Controlling Control is fear-based. It’s an indication that you don’t quite trust how life is going to turn out, so instead of leaving it up to chance you control it. This is not only true in your own life, but certainly also in the lives of the people close to you. You mistakenly believe you are helping them by being so in control. The way to begin to let go of control is to understand that everyone is on their own path, and it’s not your job to dictate and coordinate it. Even if those we love hit bumps in the road, its part of their journey and not up to you to clear the path or fix it. That’s not to say that you can’t be there to support, guide, and even provide advice if it’s asked for, but that support and guidance is to be given without attachment to whether they decide to listen to you or not. When you can let go of your attachment to how things turn out, you then have let go of control and are on the road of trust! A very freeing feeling! 3. Start Loving and Accepting Yep! Everything boils down to love and acceptance. The fact is that when we unconditionally love and accept ourselves we can then love and accept others…regardless of what they are, or aren’t, doing! So, this means it’s not about trying to change the other people who aren’t living up to your expectations. This means that it’s about you changing you. It’s about you learning to love and accept you. People, your children included, will respond to the energy you are sending out. If you are setting expectations based on fears that come from your own lack of self love and acceptance, they will feel rigid and unreasonable. Most will respond to this energy with resistance. If you are setting expectations based on understanding and openness that come from self love and acceptance not only of yourself, but also of others, the expectations will be met with a desire to want to reach for them. The resistance is dropped because they receive the energy of complete love and acceptance, so they know regardless of any mistakes made they will not lose your love…it’s truly unconditional.
you gotta do this This is a fun and informative weekend away for women who are looking to meet new friends and reconnect with old ones. Join us at the 3rd annual WOW! in Canmore at the luxurious Solara Resort for a weekend full of empowerment.
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This year’s sessions include: The Art and Science of Creating a Great Life – Gemma Stone Love Art – Wendy Lees Not to Yield: That is the Trick – Marie Reed Nutrition for Life – Carrie Hucal Mentoring for Success in the Workplace – Del Edwards Freedom from Mental Dis”ease” to Achieve a New You – Laura Principe Working With Angels – Ramona Ramesat Being Your Brainy Best – Crystal Willms Your Year to Shine – Wendy Woodworth Setting You up for Success – Donna Reid Grab the Pen, Author Your Own Story – Valerie Ball Let’s Talk About Sex – Mistress X Experience Qigong – Sabine Goubau Hold On To Your Inspiration and Faith, You Are The Pilot – Brenda Schurko Depression Breakthrough, Finding Peace with Depression – Lee Horbachewski Facebook, What is Your Personal Brand – Claudette Stiven and Suzanne Presnial Give a Little Joy – Jill Burk Ignite Your Inner Light – Christina Read Keynote Speaker: Jo-Ann Vacing-Dibblee
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Expectations alone are neither good nor bad, but it’s the form in which we place these expectations on others. Once you’re able to shift into a place of letting go of the expectations that are creating emotional havoc in your life, you will then find the peace and calm we all aspire to…and so will your family. Trisha Savoia Founder/Owner of Absolute Awareness, and creator of the The Integrity Code, and The Soulful Parent Courses facebook.com/trifectamag
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