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Shirley Harmon’s Fave Spot p8

HER ANIMAL CRUSADE p10

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TIPS TO THRIVE p26

Are You Pink Woman Having This Surgery?

THINGS p16

(10 lists of 10 in hono of our 10 issue)

What Women Are Thinking About p36

How Lauren Jones Recharges

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Fitting Styles for Every Body

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10 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW FIRST p44

Carol Nord is Changing Lives Everyday p12

THESE WOMEN WILL INSPIRE YOU p29

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SELF DEFENSE TIPS p22

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EAT A CREPE

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SMART BUSINESS MOVES p46

Konika Dillingham Kicks It

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love making lists. They help me organize my life and plan ahead. But sometimes I feel like my lists are crammed with tasks I can’t always complete. I become preoccupied with what I must do rather than what I would like to do. In this month’s issue, we’re showing you lists that combine practicality with lightheartedness. If you’re trapped in the tedious list-making conundrum, here are 10 things worth adding to a new list.

1. Eat a delicious crepe for breakfast or lunch (p.42).

2. T ake control of your safety by learning to protect yourself. (p.22).

3. Make time for laughter — you’ll find plenty of it in our 10 Things Women Think About feature (p.36).

4. Prepare a new recipe your friends and family will love. (p.50) 5. Brainstorm about ways you can make monumental changes in your life — and do it.

Find inspiration from the women featured in our 10 Women Who Made Big Changes story. (29).

6. Go to the Louisville Photo Biennial where your visual senses will be stimulated (p.16).

7. Schedule a mammogram for yourself and encourage your friends to do the same (after p.28).

8. Make over your brows for an instant beauty boost (p.40).

9. Have fun with exercise. Put Sweat & Sip on your calendar for November 4 (p.26).

10. Enter for a chance to win Lights Under Louisville tickets starting October 5 (p.13).

Try it and feel your stress levels decrease while your happiness increases.

— Tiffany White

ON OUR COVER Lauren Luckett has made one of the hardest decisions of her life. Find out what she’s doing on page 4 of our breast cancer supplement.

LAUREN IS WEARING: Sweater, $198; Necklace, $88; Both available at Dillard’s, 5000 Shelbyville Rd, 502.893.4400.

PHOTO: Melissa Donald MAKEUP/HAIR: Denise Cardwell, Blades Salon & Spa STYLING: Alissa Hicks

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WHAT WORKS

Guarding History

by LUCY M. PRITCHETT / photos by MELISSA DONALD

What Works for Shirley Harmon, 41, onsite director and curator of Oxmoor Estate and Cemetery

HOMETOWN: Louisville NEIGHBORHOOD: Douglass Hills HOUSEHOLD: Husband Paul Harmon; daughters

Sarah, 13, and Kathryn, 8; son Jackson, 10.

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hirley Harmon spends her days surrounded by history, seeing to things at the Oxmoor home and estate that dates from 1791. Her favorite spot?

The home’s library with its 9,000 books.

The things that work for her, though, are thoroughly modern.

JACKERY This is a hand-held charger for my cellphone. It fits in the palm of my hand and holds enough juice to charge my phone three times before it has to be recharged. My sister gave it to me because she said my phone was always dead, and she could never reach me. It is important to have my phone charged in my job. I am most often walking around the house or the estate, and my phone is always with me. I also bought a smaller, one-charge Jackery that is the size of a tube of lipstick.

ANTIOXIDANT DAY CRÈME BY MEANINGFUL BEAUTY This is one of Cindy Crawford’s beauty products.

It really takes care of my dry skin issues. It is not oily or greasy or thick.

It also has sunscreen in it, which is good because I am often outside at work. I put it on in the morning, and it lasts all day. I am always looking for a good moisturizer, and I saw Cindy talking about this on an infomercial, so I thought I would give it a try. I forget it is there, but it is doing its job.

JESUS CALLING: ENJOYING PEACE IN HIS PRESENCE BY SARAH YOUNG This is a daily devotional, but one that is different from others I have used.

The messages are personal and are written as if Jesus is speaking to me.

I like it because each day’s message is not specific or a story, but the words are encouraging and comforting and conversational in tone. I typically read the day’s entry first thing in the morning.

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By LUCY M. PRITCHETT Photo by MELISSA DONALD

JESSICA MONTGOMERY, 39, executive director, Louisville Metro Animal Services Hometown: San Antonio, Texas Neighborhood: Norton Commons Office pets: Valentine the cat; Cosmo the dwarf bunny; Jupiter the ball python.

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She busied herself preparing the syringe. The soldier on the other side of the examination table sang a lullaby to the skinny, shivering puppy he cradled in his arms. She could only see the soldier’s eyes beneath his dirty helmet.

They were filled with tears. The soldier explained that he found the dog in the desert, and it reminded him of one he had back home in Kentucky. He had brought the pup back to base in hopes that it could be nursed back to health.

But the base in Iraq had a no-dog policy, as there was a rabies epidemic in the country. The only animals allowed on base were the military service dogs. She would have to euthanize the puppy.

Something changed in Sergeant Jessica Montgomery’s heart that day.

She had been tending to the care of military animals and personal pets for years in her job as veterinary nurse in the U.S. Army. Euthanasia of any animal, while never pleasant or easy to accept, was sometimes necessary.

“I had done this many times, but this time it was different for me,” Jessica says. “Something was forever changed in me. The soldier wrapped the puppy’s body in a towel and said he would bury it. He thanked me before he left, but believe me, I did not feel worthy of his thanks. I went up to the roof of the building at sunset, and as the stars came out, I felt so angry — angry that I wasn’t allowed to do anything to save the puppy that would have provided some comfort for that soldier in a combat situation so far from home.

“I made a promise to myself that if I could ever do anything more to help animals and save lives, I would do it.”

Jessica has kept that promise. Today she is the executive director of Louisville Metro Animal Services in Louisville, a quirk of fate since Kentucky was the home of the soldier in the story of her turning point.

“My goal is to change the perception by the community of what Metro Animal Services does,” she says. “We are not the bad guys. Euthanasia of an animal is a last resort under my watch. There are so many other options and avenues — rescues, transport to other shelters for adoption, foster programs — that allow for an animal to leave this shelter alive.”

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Survival Skills of Carol Nord

By MARIE BRADBY / Photos by MELISSA DONALD

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arol Nord is like the academic repo woman. She doesn’t repossess cars or airplanes — she tracks people down and hounds them until they finish their degrees As the executive director of the Nativity Academy at St. Boniface, a private middle school in the Catholic tradition founded in 2003 for urban youth, Carol dogged one former student for several months until he got his GED. That’s right. Nativity Academy is a middle school, but follows its students through high school and post-secondary education.

“I kept showing up at his door until he did it,” Carol says of the young man who was an early student at Nativity Academy and one of the few who didn’t graduate from high school. “I think it was the staff just figuring out how support works. No , we graduate them all from high school.

“We’ve gone back and are working on GEDs. We’ve got two more to go. It takes a lot of persistence.”

Nativity Academy is part of a network of 45 Nativity schools throughout the U.S. Overall, the schools boast a nearly 90 percent graduation rate from high school in four years, and more than 75 percent enroll in two- or four-year colleges and universities, according to the school website.

“People think of it as a school, but that’s only one part of it,” Carol says. “We’re really a nonprofit social service agenc . School is our biggest component.” With the addition of fifth grade thi August, there will be 92 students at Nativity Academy. Academic classes are small and single-sex.

Nativity Academy’s unique model isn’t its academic curriculum, but the extended day program, the summer program, and the support beyond graduation. Also, eighth graders and high school students can attend a variety of summer camps, from law to broadcasting to outdoor adventures in the countryside.

The day at Nativity begins at 7am when students eat breakfast and ends at 5:30pm. After 2:30pm, the students have a snack and an hour of study time for homework.

Then from 4 to 5:30pm, they are enrolled in eight-week enrichment classes conducted by volunteer experts. Students choose from a large menu that includes debate, ballet, Chinese, Capoeira (Brazilian martial arts), golf or swim lessons, jewelry making, and the River City Drum Corp. “A detective did a CSI class and took

Carol’s survival skills:

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Our students and families are resilient.

I’ve been awed by how much strength of character these young people and their families possess.

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They learn survival skills at a young age, largely due to circumstance.

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I dropped two students off at their home one day, and among the six people living in their onebedroom apartment, there wasn’t a stitch of furniture. Just blankets on the bedroom floor.

When I asked the mom what she needed most, she replied that she didn’t want for much but could use a

them to the crime lab at Metro Police, and they studied the blood splatter. The sky’s the limit,” Carol says.

“They are getting exposed to things that they might not ever get a chance to do. That’s the really cool part of our day. It’s quality out-of-school time.”

The graduate support program is a key part of the school’s success. “We help place students in their high school and follow them for four years,” Carol says. “We visit them and check on their grades.” They receive support for the ACT test, college applications, and financial aid applications. They go on college tours “We also follow them in post-secondary education (college or technical school) and work with them. We push them to get education beyond high school. We have graduates of culinary school, hair school; we have pharmacy and nursing tech grads.

“Our first college graduates are starting to come out no ,” Carol says. Number one was a young woman with a triple major who graduated from Hanover College in Indiana last May. The school’s entire $1.5 million budget is made up of small donations and grants, Carol says. “I fell in love with the mission.

You are changing lives every day.”

serving spoon because she only had one.

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Part of surviving is not letting the situation overwhelm you. It’s thinking on your feet, figuring out how to be a connector to help meet needs.

I asked a few folks to get a group together to help this family.

Within three weeks, we

pulled together beds, a kitchen table, chairs, a sofa, a vacuum, small appliances, gift cards, gas cards, clothing, and more.

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Students put obstacles — challenges and learned behaviors — out of mind during the school day and focus on bettering themselves through

education. We all learn survival skills that help us cope.

5. Our goal is for

education to become a survival skill. With an education, students can combat the obstacles they face in their daily lives with hope, self-confidence, and a commitment to achievement.

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Professional Connections

CALENDAR Athena’s Sister Every 2nd & 4th Mon. • 6-8pm 1741 Frankfort Avenue Marlene Aldrich Perry 502.322.4135 Marlene.Aldrich@Phoenix.edu BPW- Business and Professional Women- New Albany Every 3rd Mon. • 5:30pm Contact for info & reservation.

Tuckers, 2441 State St. Nadine Wilkinson 502.523.1698 BPW- Business & Professional Women- River City Every 2nd Wed. • Noon Lunch and Program noon-1pm The Bristol-Downtown 614 West Main Street 502.499.4420, bpwrc.org bpwreserve@gmail.com Bridge the Gap Professional Women Every 5th Sun. Heyburn Building 430 W. Muhammad Ali, Suite 24A Hazel Parrish, Chapter President 502.417.2566, hazelp17@gmail.com Call to reserve.

CBPW - Christian Business & Professional Women Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Sharilyn Unthank 502.417.5481 cbpweast@gmail.com Distinctive Women, Entrepreneurial Women Making a Difference Every 1st Thurs • 6:30-8pm Email for meeting location Deleskia Butler 502.509.5521 distinctivewomen2013@gmail.com EWI - Executive Women International- Kentuckiana Every 3rd Tues. • 5:30pm Contact for information & reservation Christy Smallwood 502.595.7157 ewikentuckiana.com christy@arkhamexec.com

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Networking and careerbuilding opportunities for women around town

IAAP - International Association of Administrative ProfessionalsLouisville Every 2nd Thurs. • 6pm Location Varies – See website for details. iaap-louisville.org League of Women Voters Every 3rd Mon. • 6pm Lang House, 115 S. Ewing Ave. Pat Murrell 502.895.5218 info@lwvlouisville.org Legal Secretaries of Louisville Every 3rd Tues. • 11:30am Bristol Bar & Grille 614 West Main Street Angela Gibson 502.589.5980 AGibson@bsg-law.com legalseclou-ky.org MLWPC - Metropolitan Louisville Women’s Political Caucus Every 4th Mon. • 5:30pm Olmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes 3701 Frankfort Avenue Sherry Conner 502.776.2051 mayorconner@insightbb.com NAWBO - National Association of Women Business Owners Every 3rd Tues. admin@nawbolouisville.org 502.625.0248 nawbolouisville.org National Association of Women in Construction Every 2nd Mon. • 5:30pm Call for meeting location Patty Stewart 812.288.4208 #121

NEW - Network of Entrepreneurial Women Every 2nd Wed. • 6-8pm Location varies. See nentw.com for details.

Network Now Every 2nd Fri. • 11:30am Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Lee Ann Lyle 502.836.1422 lee@lalcomputers.com Savvy Women in Business Every 1st Wed. • 6:30pm Inverness at Hurstbourne Condos 1200 Club House Drive Barbara Madore 502.377.8625 40222.theheartlinknetwork.com Southern Indiana Women’s Networking Group Every 3rd Wed. • 11:30am Holiday Inn-Lakeview 505 Marriott Drive, Clarksville info@soindwng.org Top Ladies of Distinction Inc. Every 2nd Tues. • 6:30pm Hotel Louisville, 120 W. Broadway, Suite 930 Mamie L Maxwell 502.767.4180 ms.maxwell@twc.com WIN - Women in Networking Every 2nd Wed. • 11:15am Oxmoor Country Club 9000 Limehouse Lane Laura Ridge 502.491.7877 lridge@oxmoorcountryclub.com WIN - Women in Networking II Every 3rd Wed. • 11:30am Tumbleweed - Stoneybrook Kim Fusting 502.267.7066 kimins@bellsouth.net, gowin2.com

National Association of Women MBAs - Louisville Chapter Location & event vary. Details on website: mbawomen.org/chapter/ louisville-kentucky *MBA not required for membership

WIN- Women in Networking III Every 2nd Tues. • 11:30am Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Country Club Ln. Patricia Butler 502.214.0397 win3louisville.com

National Council of Negro Women, Inc. - Louisville Section Every 4th Thurs. • 6pm Main Library, 301 York Street Cassandra Lasley 502.650.6602 lasley5514@twc.com

WIN- Women in Networking IV Every 3rd Tues. • 11:30am Big Springs Country Club 5901 Dutchman’s Lane Gretchen Mahaffey 502.451.0600 gmahaffey@kfg.com

[ Great Tip Networking Not sure how to start intentionally building your network? A good beginning step is to simply reconnect with old friends on Facebook. You never know what Susie from high school might be doing now. She might just know someone at the company you’re trying to reach.

WIN - Women in Networking V Every 2nd Thurs. • 11:30am Buca di Beppo 2051 S. Hurstbourne Parkway Lee Ann Lyle 502.836.1422 info@win5networking.com win5networking.com Women’s Business Center of KY funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA

Every 1st Fri. Roundtable • 8:30am Location – TBA Sharron Johnson, 502.566.6076#104 sjohnson@cvcky.org cvcky.org/womensbusiness center.html Women’s Council of Realtors Every 3rd Thurs. • 11:30am Big Spring Country Club 5901 Dutchmans lane Elizabeth Monarch 502.551.1286 Elizabeth@elizabethmonarchgroup.com

ZONTA- Advancing The Status of Women Every 1st Thurs. • 6pm Logan’s Steakhouse 5005 Shelbyville Road Joyce Seymour 502.553.9241 jespud@bellsouth.net

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23THINGS

Photo courtesy of JOHN NATION

Why 23? Because we are 23 years old!

Happenings, news, celebrations, and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month.

By ANITA OLDHAM

Get your photog fx The 2015 Louisville Photo Biennial is being held until November 7, and photos will be displayed in 64 local galleries. They also have workshops, public lectures, and panel discussions — a full list can be found at louisvillephotobiennial.com.

Here are 10 photos you can see in 10 different galleries.

10 LOCAL INSTAGRAMS TO FOLLOW besides @TodaysWomanMag for obvious reasons...

@fotofem

Turkey Run Park begins where Floyds Fork intersects with Seatonville Road and ends at Broad Run Road, encompassing more than 800 acres. You can see far from the Silo Lookout shown here.

Top 10 Things to Do in the Newest Park Turkey Run Park, the newest section of the Parklands of Floyds Fork, will open to the public on October 16. Here are 10 things to do in this new green space that used to be part of a dairy farm.

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• Launch your kayak from Beckley Creek or Pope Lick parks to arrive at Turkey Run via stream.

The new Seaton Valley paddling access extends The Parklands’ total water trail to 13 miles.

• Climb to the top of the 60-foot Silo Lookout (above)for a 360-degree view of the entire park.

• Gear up your mountain bike for the Paw Paw and Chinkapin soft trails, or take a leisurely ride on the Louisville Loop.

• Stargaze with the Louisville Astronomical Society at the Brown-Forman Silo Center on Oct. 16.

• Hike along the new trails with Parklands’ Interpretive Rangers on Oct. 17. Learn about the park’s history and wildlife.

TITLE: Gate to Unknown BY: Jenée Rue Sastry SEE IT: Carnegie Center for Art & History, Oct. 9, 2015-Jan 9, 2016

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• Cast your line at Boulder Pond, which is stocked with trout by Kentucky Department of Fish and Wildlife.

• Take a self e at the preserved Ben Stout House (a 200-yearold structure listed on the National Registry of Historic Places), which will serve as an interpretive center.

• Bring along a BLT picnic to feast on in the Pignic barn (It used to be a pig barn!).

• Plant a tree as a volunteer on Oct. 17 to help grow and nurture The Parklands for future generations.

• Plan an event at the Hockensmith Barn and celebrate that this park marks the third of four areas to make the Parklands of Floyds Fork!

10 Things to Entertain Ideas from our editorial team that are slightly off the beaten path TITLE: part of Parallel Perception series BY: Amber Estes Thieneman SEE IT: Block Party Handmade Boutique, through Oct. 31

See more photos on the next pages...

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1. The Great British Bakeoff (KET) 2. Podcast: How to Do Everything (NPR) 3. Sherlock (PBS) 4. Twin Peaks (originally aired ABC/now Netfix — returning to television in 2016) 5. Grace and Frankie with Lily Tomlin & Jane Fonda (Netfix)

6. The IT Crowd (British sitcom, available online) 7. Married at First Sight (A&E reality show) 8. Halloween Wars (Food Network competition) 9. Book: A Pearl in the Storm: How I Found My Heart in the Middle of the Ocean (by Louisvillian Tori Murden McClure) 10. Mozart in the Jungle (Amazon TV series) TODAY’S TODAY’S WOMAN WOMAN

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More photos from the Louisville Photo Biennial:

10 FALL EVENTS we recommend

(TOP) TITLE: Cabbages BY: Marcia Lamont Hopkins SEE IT: Actors Theatre Gallery, through Oct. 25

St. James Art Show for the artists • Oct 2-4

(LOWER LEFT) TITLE: part of A Walk With Nature and Equines series BY: Kristen Warning SEE IT: Chestnuts and Pearls Gallery, through Nov. 7

Harvest Homecoming (New Albany) for the food • Oct 3-11 Evil Dead: The Musical for the funny gore (They have a splatterzone area at The Alley Theater — splatter, as in blood!) • Oct 8-31

(LOWER RIGHT) TITLE: Lost in Oradour Sur Glane BY: Melissa Donald SEE IT: Lettersong Calligraphy Studio & Gallery, Oct. 2 — Oct. 31

An Evening with Poe (Frazier History Museum) • Oct 22-30

Pirates of PRP Yard Haunt — handmade and free — but take a donation for Dare to Care (9007 Seaforth Drive) • through Oct 31 Boo-La-La Halloween Ball for the Parks Conservancy • Oct 24 Deere Farms Corn Maze and Pumpkin Patch (Lanesville, Indiana) for the nature Drive down Hillcrest Avenue to see the homeowners’ outlandish decor.

Jack-O-Lantern Spectacular for the 5000 carved pumpkins • Oct 8-Nov 1 Dracula at Actor’s Theatre for the tradition • through Nov 1 Boo Halloween Cruise for the family on the Belle of Louisville • Oct 31

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10 Words that Describe

WITTY

DARING

POISED MOTIVATED

10 WAYS TO START A CONVERSATION We went to an expert, Laura Nunnelley, the Young Professionals Association of Louisville’s newest director of membership and also digital media coordinator for UofL alumni.

We thought she had plenty of experience talking to people she doesn’t know, and here are her 10 pointers.

1. Confdence is key. Talk to someone new as if you already know them. It will help ease your nerves. Introduce yourself clearly and proudly.

2. Break the ice with a compliment. It’s an easy way to get the other person speaking.

ADVENTUROUS

3. Proceed by asking questions that will lead into other questions. Everyone likes to tell their story.

FRIENDLY

4. Ask questions about the situation: Have you ever been to this place/this event before?

EFFECTIVE

5. Ask about their career. At networking events, this is key. If they do not have a career, you can mention that LinkedIn has great career services to create another topic to discuss.

INTELLECTUAL

COMPASSIONATE

TOUGH

6. The keys to asking questions are to ask openended questions, to stay present, and to actively listen to their response.

7. Sense their interest and be aware of their personality to know how to drive the conversation.

8. You can always start with a funny one-liner, such as “Do you know any conversation starters?”

9. If you must…talk about the weather.

10. Best advice I can give to anyone: Smile to exuberate conf dence.

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Photos courtesy of The Alley Theater, Deere Farms & Laura Nunnelley

Victorian Tales of Terror (Old Louisville) for the scary history • Oct 15-18

(She’s our photographer at Today’s Woman!)

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10 WAYS TO LOSE A GUY Are you committing one of these relationship faux pas?

Clinginess. While every man loves knowing his woman needs him, constantly monitoring his whereabouts will turn him off.

Lack of confdence. Men are never attracted to women who constantly feel inadequate — no matter how beautiful and smart they are.

Turning him into your fulltime hobby. Having interests outside of your boyfriend proves you aren’t depending on him for your happiness. He will appreciate you more.

Being too available. Men like a little mystery. If you accept every date, he will become more lax about maintaining the relationship.

Being selfabsorbed.

Making every conversation about yourself will make him question your interest in him.

More photos from the Louisville Photo Biennial: (CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT) TITLE: Zantedeschia BY: Patricia Brock SEE IT: Gallery Janjobe, Oct. 13 — Nov. 7 TITLE: Fennel BY: Deborah Brownstein SEE IT: Jeffersonville Township Public Library, through Oct. 17

TITLE: Blood Lines BY: Mary Carothers SEE IT: Gallery Hertz, through Nov. 7 TITLE: Illusion BY: Amira Karaoud SEE IT: Gallery K, Oct. 24 — Nov. 25 TITLE: part of Ancient Splendors: Images of Asia series BY: Monica Glitz SEE IT: Asia Institute – Crane House, through Oct. 16

10 WAYS TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF DURING GRIEF Georgena Eggleston shares what she has learned about healing grief in her new book, A New Mourning – Discovering the Gifts in Grief. Here are some of her ideas for being kind to yourself.

1. A cup of tea or a glass of water with a pinch of sea salt and lemon.

2. A walk outside to feel your bare feet on the grass, the dirt, the sand.

3. A minute of peace and quiet as you turn away from the computer and stretch.

4. Being grateful for what you are doing or for where you are right now.

5. Gratitude for someone or something beautiful right in front of you.

6. Noticing your breathing. Exhaling like a lion and then allowing a breath to come.

7. Going to the bathroom when you frst feel the urge.

8. Taking a drive. Get in the groove. Drive for a while.

9. Asking someone to help carry or move something.

10. Watching the clouds, trees, and fowers outside.

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Showing too much vulnerability. When a man upsets you, the worst thing you can do is cry in front of him. If you must cry, do it in private.

10 Exercises for Good On Our Calendar: 1. Race for the Cure, Oct. 10 • komenlouisville.org 2. Volunteer at the Ironman, Oct. 11 3. Making Strides for Louisville breast cancer walk, Oct 25 • makingstrides.acsevents.org 4. Louisville Beer Run, Nov. 7 • eventbrite.com 5. Girls on the Run 5K, Nov. 21 • gotrlouisville.org 6. GoSantaGo 5K for Gilda’s Club, Dec. 12 • gildasclublouisville.org 7. Fight for Air Climb, Feb. 6 for lung cancer • facebook.com/ ClimbLouisville 8. Anthem 5K Fitness Classic, Feb. 27 9. Rodes City Run 10K, Mar. 12 10. Papa John’s 10 Miler, Mar. 26

Depending on his fnancial resources. Men are attracted to women who are selfsuffc ient. They don’t want to carry their f nancial responsibilities and yours.

Criticizing his family members and friends.

He relies on his friends and family for support and love. Be respectful of those relationships. If anyone has anything bad to say about them, let it be him — not you.

Insecurity. Your boyfriend doesn’t want to spend his time validating your worth.

Possessiveness. Attempting to keep your boyfriend from having casual contact with other women is pointless. If he falls in love with someone else, it will happen no matter what you do.

–From the wisdom of Liz White, mother of editor Tiffany White TODAY’S WOMAN

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TO PROTECT YOURSELF

By MEGAN SCHREIBER WILLMAN

I was in my early teens when my parents began serious talks about ways to protect myself as I went out into the world. I distinctly remember being annoyed with those conversations. For one thing, I was certain I would be fine. After all, what teenager doesn’t think like that? Nothing bad was going to happen to me!

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2. “Kitty Knuckle” Sold by numerous merchants, these personal protection tools are key chains shaped like cat heads.

With one’s ngers placed through the cat’s eyes, the ears can be used to strike at an attacker. These are legal in most states, but contacting your local police before purchase is advised.

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3. Damsel in Defense (damselindefense.net).

Owners Mindy Lin and Bethany Hughes created Damsel in Defense as a way to keep women equipped, empowered, and educated. Their products are sold at home parties, and all tools are non-lethal. Women can choose from a variety of home and on-thego merchandise such as pepper sprays and stun guns, but another feature in the catalog is the Digital Damsel, which provides technology security. The Digital Damsel offers identity theft protection, computer protection and tech support, social media monitoring, and Internet safety and alerts. Anyone interested in these products can get online to nd a sales consultant in the area.

The larger frustration with these parental warnings came from a sense that I shouldn’t have to work so hard to be safe. My mom, in particular, kept insisting that young women had to take extra measures to protect themselves. That really got me. Wasn’t I just as good as any young man and therefore, just as safe? Well, statistically, no, I wasn’t. And it wasn’t until I faced my first dark, empty, poorly lighted parking garage that I began to think Mom might be at least a little bit right.

Decades later, I count myself lucky that I’ve not experienced an assault: a shocking one in three women do. Self-protection is and must be at the forefront of our minds. All people — but yes, especially women — must take conscious steps to be safe in our cars, on the 1. streets, and in our homes.

TOOLS OF THE TRADE For those who find greater security and confidence in carrying a self-defense instrument, here are a few popular options: 1. Y ellow Jacket phone cases (yellowjacketcase.com)

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This phone case can deliver the sting its name promises. Although it looks just like a regular phone case, Yellow Jacket has a “stun gun” feature that can produce a 650-volt charge.

There’s a safety switch so it doesn’t accidentally discharge, and more enhanced models can also charge your phone battery.

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4. Roar for Good (roarforgood.com) [Not yet available for sale but coming soon…]

Roar for Good is wearable (and fashionable!) self-defense technology that can not only act as a deterrent but also can alert authorities when the need arises. Women clip the device on a bra strap, shirt, or belt; it can even be worn as a necklace. By pressing a button on the face of the device, lights go off and an alarm sounds.

When connected to the Roar app on a smartphone, the device will also contact authorities and text the individual’s emergency contacts. Owners Yasmine Mustafa and Anthony Gold are donating a portion of the company’s pro ts to nonpro t organizations aimed at educating young boys about empathy, respect, and consent.

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(continued from page 22) 8. Know Your Neighbors.

The speed of life often denies us the time we should spend getting to know our neighbors. Whether or not it’s an of cial Neighborhood Watch group, one simple safety measure we can all take is to look out for one another. Let a trusted neighbor know when you are going to be gone, and alert one another if you see something suspicious or unusual. Make sure newspapers don’t pile up and that you don’t leave trash cans at the curb when you are going to be away.

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On a related note, most home invasions stem from moments of opportunity.

Crime happens in every neighborhood.

Make it a habit to lock your doors, even if you’re walking the dog. Secure your windows. Consider leaving a radio or TV on for noise. Complacency can become habit in time, but consistently following these little steps to protect your property ensures that a criminal does not find that sought-after opportunity.

5. Guns, pepper spray, and legal tasers.

These self-defense tools have been around for years and certainly have provided safety to countless individuals. Used properly, they can stop an attack and save a victim’s life, but experts such as Lt. Commander Kim Kraeszig of the Louisville Metro Police Department warn that they can also be used to the perpetrator’s advantage. These tools require a close proximity to the assailant, which means that the tables can be turned if the attacker ends up with the device. Pro ciency and training are critically important for 7. individuals who choose to carry any of these implements.

STATE OF MIND Without proper training and preparedness, no tool or weapon can provide the safety and protection we seek. With that in mind, the remainder of this list focuses on a more mental state of preparedness.

6. LMPD Home Survey.

Louisville Metro police offer a free home survey to help owners assess weak points that may cause them to be a target for home invasion. District resource of cers will assess the landscaping, locks, doors, and windows and offer suggestions to homeowners in order to improve the home’s safety. Louisville residents should call their local LMPD division to schedule this free service. Kraeszig says well-trimmed bushes and outside lights deny a would-be assailant a place to hide and are more likely to deter a break-in.

7. Self-defense classes.

A good self-defense course teaches students simple and effective techniques to employ in the event of a physical attack. Probably even more important are the lessons that focus on increased awareness of one’s surroundings and instruction on avoiding dangerous situations. Kraeszig advises that although one never wants a situation to escalate to the point of physical confrontation, self-defense classes do increase a person’s con dence, physical ability, and preparedness to act. One is less likely to be caught off-guard. Classes are offered in many locations in and around Louisville. One option is the Louisville Martial Arts Academy (502.426.0333), which offers selfdefense workshops for individuals, groups, businesses, and organizations.

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9. Pay Attention.

Look around at any time and you’ll see that our collective attention has been captured by small screens. We look at our phones and our e-readers; we’re hooked into earbuds; and we have stopped making eye contact with those around us. Not only does this make us easy targets, but wrong-doers know this lack of focus makes it harder for us to ID them later to the police. “Criminals target people not paying attention,” Kraeszig says. “Making eye contact with people makes them aware that you know what’s going on around you. Say hello. A simple greeting may send a message that deters the individual and keeps you safe.”

10. Care for One Another.

Remember that it should never be put on just one of us, or even women as a group, to keep ourselves safe from violence. In fact, it’s up to the entire community to foster a culture that does not tolerate violence, promotes healthy relationships, and communicates that all people are worthy of respect and safety. The Center for Women and Families facilitates violence prevention programming and professional training to help community members shift norms and create a world without violence. To inquire about these services for your business, school, place of worship, or community organization, contact 502.581.7231 or Melissa.Paris@ cwfempower.org.

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ifteen months ago, I was diagnosed with early stage lung cancer. Two weeks later, I had the top half of my left lung removed and, luckily, needed no chemo or radiation. Throughout this experience, and others, I have learned a few things and want to share these tips with you. They are by no means unique to me, but repetition is not bad if it’s that umpteenth time that resonates with you.

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1. L isten to your body. No one… not your husband, your mother, or your doctor…knows you better than you do. When something doesn’t feel quite right, have it checked out. In 2014, something inside me made me think that I should look into a low-dose CT lung scan.

2. Q uestion your doctor. If he/she minimizes your concerns, push on.

Ask questions….lots of questions.

When I asked my doctor about ordering the lung scan, he rattled off very good reasons why he didn’t think I needed one – I was healthy, had quit smoking more than 20 years ago, and showed no symptoms. However, I insisted that I get a scan.

3. L everage your connections.

Health care professionals in our community are typically happy to help steer you in the right direction of the convoluted health care path. If you don’t know someone to ask, check with a friend who would have that connection. It was comforting to me when women with significant health care backgrounds stepped up to give me their opinions and recommendations.

4. T ake someone with you.

Whether to the doctor, testing, therapy… it’s very helpful to take someone who will help you remember what was said but also, to ask questions you haven’t thought of. People hear things differently, so make sure everyone understands before you leave.

5. E ducate yourself. The Internet is an excellent source for information, but beware: it’s also a source for misinformation as well. Look to websites of trusted sources.

6. T ake time to care for yourself.

We hear this all the time. As women, we put ourselves way down on the list of priorities. If we don’t move ourselves up on the list, who will take care of everyone else when something happens?

7. T ake control. When I was being prepped for my surgery, the anesthesiologist assigned to me was giving me a hard time about my drug allergies. When my nurse heard about our conversation, she asked me if I wanted another anesthesiologist. I didn’t realize that was an option, but I quickly replied “Yes!” 8. R ead your reports. Whenever you get a test done, get a copy of the report and read it. Sometimes the doctor is looking for one thing and the radiologist sees something else that could fall through the cracks. This happened with my mom.

9. P ray… a lot. And don’t be shy about asking others to pray for you. I’m a firm believer in the power of prayer.

10. E njoy every day you have here.

When you survive a serious health issue, you realize how blessed you are to be alive and how trivial other problems are. We rescued a puppy a month after my surgery and she’s brought us even more joy.

Our health care world is changing dramatically every day, and we’ve got to change with it to thrive.

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KRISTEN GRAVES faced a defining momen while running a 5K in 2011. Thirty feet from the finish line, her Achilles tendon snapped, and she couldn’t take another step. When doctors informed Kristen she wouldn’t run again for nine months, she found an opportunity to make a big change.

Using her recovery time productively, Kristen enrolled in an online education program. After obtaining her bachelor’s degree in property management, she enrolled in a dual master’s program from which she’ll graduate summa cum laude in May. Recently promoted to supervisor at Research Properties Inc., Kristen is responsible for managing 1,400 apartment homes. She remains a dedicated runner who is training for next year’s Derby mini-marathon and says she sees life as full of opportunities she gets to do and not what she has to do.

As the director of Innovation for the Ohio Valley Educational Cooperative, ALICIA SELLS wanted to provide incoming high school freshmen with an education directly relevant to the post-graduation workforce. She worked with the superintendents from Carroll, Gallatin, Henry, Owen, and Trimble counties to establish iLEAD Academy in Carrollton. “iLEAD is Kentucky’s first regional hig school,” Alicia says. “It is a career academy, which means it prepares students to enter higher paying jobs in the Louisville region. We will also work to get the students college-ready by the end of their sophomore year. As juniors and seniors, they will enroll full time at Jefferson County Technical College campus in Carrollton in order to graduate with an associate degree and a high school diploma.”

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And know there is more to the story.

KIM KABERLE’s love of “pickin” began early in her life, but she never thought of the potential business opportunity until her family bought a mobile home on Green River Lake. Needing to furnish the trailer but not wanting to spend too much money, Kim and her sister went to flea markets to find cute, inexpensi items to decorate their lake home. Kim had a ball picking through and findin the best deals. Soon, she was selling her finds in her own booth spaces Combining her picker skills with a degree in interior design, Kim had found her passion. In September 2014, Kim noticed that a building close to her home had become available. Never afraid to try something new, she purchased the space and created Kim’s Pickins, Etc., which now contains both her own consignments as well as booth space for 15 vendors.

Kim wanted a place where customers could look around for special pieces at a great price or just come in to chat.

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“I have moved more than a dozen times in my career. Most of my moves were career-driven for GE, where I have been for 20 years,” says MELANIE COOK. “The exception was our move to Louisville. This was the first time we decide to put our personal priorities first. At the time we moved to here, our two children were at the ages of 5 and 6. We had already moved with them three times, so Kentucky was their fourth state. We had too many changes, and it just got to the point where we needed a place to call home but also be challenged from a career standpoint. We had heard such great things about Louisville that we proactively asked GE to get us to Louisville, which they supported.

I was able to find a terrific leadership role as the product general manager for the cooking products division. Then, three years later, I was asked to take on a completely different role as general manager of sourcing. That was a huge change, but I gladly took on the challenge.”

Even though LUCIE STANSBURY had been in the antiques business for 15 years owning The Century Shop Antiques, her passion for fashion compelled her to make a giant leap into the retail business. “I had this thought in my mind since I was a little girl,” Lucie says. “I loved to shop and try on clothes, so I have always loved fashion. I really wanted to incorporate fashion into my retail business, so I decided to downsize the antique store and open Liv Boutique. Liv is a lifestyle boutique; however, there are still original art and antique pieces mixed with fashionable things brought together. Things you wouldn’t expect to be together in one retail location.”

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DR. ERICA WILLIAMS (left) and DR. MELANIE STORY (far left) have

been colleagues for more than 10 years. Through those years, they both found it difficult to provide the type of care they felt people entrusted them to do. It took them about two years to make the decision to open a direct primary care practice. “We don’t go through insurance,” Erica says. “There is a monthly fee the patient pays. This covers all our services — all your general primary care with unlimited office visits.

“We are here to provide care and have a relationship with the patient,” Melanie says. “That patient is involved in a lot of the decision-making about their health care. Direct primary care is a direct relationship between the patient and the physician. It is a very different office. It is more of a community practice with what Dr. Williams calls an old-fashioned feel.”

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When her dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, MICHELLE MAXIM and her family sought a holistic approach to his care. Peace of mind was at stake. “I knew what service I wanted…and I believed I could provide it better than anyone around,” she says. With that vision in mind, Michelle used her retirement funds from her day job to open a Home Helpers and Direct Link franchise in 2012. Michelle works full time in IT contract management, but Home Helpers & Direct Link allows her a more hands-on approach to helping people. She credits good old-fashioned stubbornness and hard work (and her family) to helping her over the humps.

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A native Louisvillian, LARISSA REECE never expected to leave her hometown. No one was more surprised than she was when she took a job as vice president for development and alumni affairs at New York Medical College. Larissa had been working in development at UofL Medical School when the dean accepted a job in New York and recruited her. She and her husband saw the opportunity as the chance of a lifetime. “It opened up my worldview and provided a different lens for how I look at the world,” she says. Larissa promised herself that while in New York, she would say “yes” to all invitations. She fully embraced opportunities to experience the arts, and she says the step out of her comfort zone gave her a level of confidence and self-sufficiency she’d never ha before. She is now director of development at The Kentucky Center.

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LIZ VERSCHURE had more than 29 years of experience working for GE Aviation, Energy, Power, and Water businesses in Cincinnati when the opportunity to transfer to Louisville and take on the role as product general manager was presented to her.

“I had the opportunity to grow and learn a new business, but it was a big change for me after almost 30 years of machines and a high-tech industry,” Liz says. After thinking about it, Liz took the job. “I had no consumer experience, no appliance experience, and had never lived in Louisville.

It was a lot of changes.”

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1 CARDIGANS If you’re taller, a cardigan that’s a little longer is best. If you’re petite, a more f tted, hip-length cardigan will f atter your shape better.

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A-LINE SKIRTS A-line skirts f atter everyone because they f t and slightly f are. Aim for one that’s higher-waisted. You want it to f t at the most slender part or your waist (not your hips!) in order to show off your f gure and lengthen your legs.

BLOCK HEELS Block heel meets booties?

Yes, please!

If you’re dressing it up a bit or want to give yourself some height, these are the perfect fall/ winter shoe.

Booties available at COLONIAL DESIGNS, $87, 3712 Lexington Rd, 502.896.4461.

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Pink faux leather skirt available at CHARTREUSE, $57, 1301 Herr Ln, Westport Village, 502.409.7082; Denim skirt available at BLUSH BOUTIQUE, $44, 3745 Lexington Rd, 502.897.7207.

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CARRIE TAVELLI IS WEARING: Cardigan available at MONKEE’S OF LOUISVILLE, $144, 3624 Brownsboro Rd, 502.897.1497; Tank not available for sale; Boyfriend denim available at BOUTIQUE SERENDIPITY, $198, 3706 Lexington Rd, 502.423.0058, Booties available at MODERN ELEGANCE, $220, 3921 Chenoweth Sq, 502.883.4721, Bracelet available at BOUTIQUE SERENDIPITY, $38.

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CHAMBRAYS Because they come in so many washes and styles, you can f nd a Chambray shirt that’s perfect for your skin and hair tone. It can go casual or dressed up for the off ce or a night out.

Shirt available at MERCI BOUTIQUE, $156, 3911 Chenoweth Sq, 502.893.4254.

BASIC TEES Every woman should have at least one basic tee in her closet at all times. To add a little more f are, try a striped tee.

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Tee available at MONKEE’S OF LOUISVILLE, $85, 3624 Brownsboro Rd, 502.897.1497; Denim available at CIRCE, $205, 3642 Brownsboro Rd, 502.894.0095.

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8 SHIRT DRESSES A simple shirt dress is perfect for anyone who likes to take one item and wear it six different ways. You can wear one alone with simple booties and accessories, or you can belt it to add shape and pair it with block heels for a dressier look.

6 WRAP DRESSES A wrap dress f atters everyone.

Whether you’re curvy or straight-fg ured, this style will play up or add f attering curves.

SANDRA MCCAFFREY IS WEARING: Dress available at COLONIAL DESIGNS, $58, 3712 Lexington Rd, 502.896.4461; Shoes available at MODERN ELEGANCE, $110, 3921 Chenoweth Sq, 502.883.4721; Necklace available at COLONIAL DESIGNS, $58.

Dress available at BOUTIQUE SERENDIPITY, $138, 3706 Lexington Rd, 502.423.0058; Bracelet available at BOUTIQUE SERENDIPITY, $38.

BOOTIES Booties are a must-have for all women this season. Neutral tones go with everything, but you can also easily pair fall colors such as burgundy, plum, or forest green.

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(top to bottom) Available at BLUSH BOUTIQUE, $41, 3745 Lexington Rd, 502.897.7207; available at MODERN ELEGANCE, $225, 3921 Chenoweth Sq, 502.883.4721; available at BLUSH BOUTIQUE, $45.

7 JEANS Find a style that f atters your f gure best, whether boyfriend, f ared, or a simple skinny jean. Best advice is to try on as many pairs and styles as you need to see what works.

10 TUNICS Tunics come in many styles.

A more f tted tunic works for those on the petite side.

Roll up the sleeves or tuck it in to change it up. Pair with your favorite denim or a sleek pencil skirt.

Tunic available at MONKEE’S OF LOUISVILLE, $98, 3624 Brownsboro Rd, 502.897.1497; Denim available at MONKEE’S OF LOUISVILLE, $178.

(l-r) Boyfriend style available at BOUTIQUE SERENDIPITY, $198, 3706 Lexington Rd, 502.423.0058; Flared style available at CHARTREUSE, $77, 1301 Herr Ln in Westport Village, 502.409.7082; Skinny style available at MODERN ELEGANCE, $98, 3921 Chenoweth Sq, 502.883.4721.

You should only cuff boyfriend or skinny jeans.

A good rule of thumb is to cuff no more than three times and keep them between 1-2 inches.

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Thoughts from the minds of Anita Oldham, Tiffany White, Jessica Alyea, Lucy Pritchett, Megan Seckman, Carrie Vittitoe, and Anna Patterson

WOMEN THINK ABOUT

1. Vacationing/Creative Pursuits/Me Time * Being creative makes me feel more human. I try to be creative every day: make art from what’s in the fridge, doodle, pair precise words perfectly in a simple email.

These tiny creations save my sanity and make me an artist.

* A ll three are always on my To Do list — I am not bashful about self-care.

* Creative pursuits for mom are finding new and exciting ways to clean up everyone else’s crap.

* I would go out and eat with you, but I’ve already made a date with a frozen pizza and Netflix. * I hate to fly. I hate to pack. But I do know there is great value in seeing new things, meeting different people, and being away from the things in my daily life.

2, Food

4. Technology

* B y the second day of dieting, I feel like I have volunteered as tribute in the Hunger Games.

With my bow and arrow, everything is food.

* I can only read the news headlines on my smartphone — the smaller screen prevents them from being so startling.

* Eat real food — you know, the kind that actually grows on a plant somewhere instead of something that’s made in a factory. You can eat as much real food as you want. That’s my philosophy: real food with real colors from the rainbow = good for you.

* I do love technology because I am able to do so much more in less time and communicate better. However, I really hate the constant change and updates 5. Relationships involved in this. Will this keep me * As a teen, I wanted a guy younger? Will this help my brain? who could dance. As an Or will it just irritate me to death? adult, I want a man with two left feet who can cook. * Navigation apps are great except for the fact that they * My mom once said men aren’t smart enough to know are often in charge, but I can figure out how to get out they wouldn’t get anywhere of my own neighborhood. without women.

rounds for divorce: When the husband gets into my Lindt Excellence *G 90 percent Cocoa stash.

* I am slowly working my way through my goal of dining in all the local restaurants, but there is something about going back to the local favorites that sometimes derails my plans.

* I don’t cook meat at home, so I relish the pork BBQ sandwich at Feast. * It is amazing how I can mention the word “diet” and my stomach growls.

* T here’s something beautiful about a greasy burger and fries. * Ooh, this Pinterest recipe looks gr—ugh, too many ingredients.

3. Wellness/Health/Fitness * I have been trying to pinpoint exactly when shaving my legs became a luxury.

* Dear brain: Go to sleep.

* You think you’re finally, FINALLY, over the physical and emotional weirdness of middle school and then perimenopause. * I’ll keep my body strong so that when I retire as parent and teacher, I can be a teenager again. I’m going for the Benjamin Button concept. I came into adulthood wild and free and I’m going out the same way — so I’ve got to train now while I’m responsible. * Oh, no — it’s noon. I forgot to drink water yet today. Time to guzzle. This happens about three times a day.

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* As an exhausted college student on a budget, I’ve decided to replace meals with cups of coffee. I haven’t slept in three days and my resting heart rate sounds like a Van Halen drum solo.

* For goodness’ sake, Take me off the Reply-All Email — IT’S A BLACK HOLE. y methodology for solving *M technical issues is to “Google” the solution and keep clicking until you get it right. In my house, this apparently makes me the“technology expert.” * Technology isn’t really improving my life, especially when I sent a text to my teenager that said “Get in the shower” that went to my exhusband instead.

* Like skinny jeans, I’ve noticed it’s not just a fad. I’d better get on board.

* “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have trial and tribulation. But take heart; for I have overcome the world.”

John 16:33. Okay. I can

get through this day.

* I keep hearing that men have the “nothing” box where they actually rest their brain and think about nothing. When I am in my rest mode, I ponder the nothing box and wonder why women didn’t get it.

I think I want it.

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6. Job/To-Do-List * I keep my to-do list short and simple. * I have considered trying to get a job at Google. I am desperate for a nap pod. * Am I living in a Seinfeld episode? #andcanibuildasecretbedintomydesk?

* E mployment is a constant tightrope walk between “I can do this!” and “What idiot thought putting me in charge was a good idea?”

lying position that rivals most advanced yoga positions in order to remain out of the shot and turning the fan on/off as needed. Glad to be moving up in the world. * I always add something I’ve already accomplished to my to-do list. That way at least one thing is marked out before the sun goes down. Lying to myself is part of my daily routine.

* I love the Wunderlist app on my phone, and the separate lists for grocery, home, yard, my Log, Day 57: I have been promoted * Intern

kids. I share it with appropriate people (i.e. from lowly, unpaid intern to “fangirl.” My new husband if he is stopping at grocery.) You get duties include holding a fan in a crouched or the satisfaction of checking off each item!

7. Style sizing would’ve been a good idea if I didn’t know about it; now I’m * Vanity

disappointed because I am fatter than I thought.

* C an I get by with just putting my hair up today instead of washing it? Dry shampoo, you are my good friend. is the fashion spread of the mismatched, yoga pant, ratty T-shirt women? * Where

forecast: 100 percent humidity, otherwise known as “hat day.” * Today’s

* I love fashion because I see it as art. Artists take risks — as long as a boob isn’t going to pop out, so will my wardrobe. to self: my hairstylist says, “If you have a good hairstyle, you may get tired of * Note

it, but other people don’t. If it works, they aren’t thinking it is boring.” This helps me to deal with my consistent hairstyle when I get the itch to try something crazy.

8. Family 9. Guilty Pleasure * I often fear I * At my age, all my pleasures are guilt-free. am failing as a woman, especially * Wait, I still have a bottle of Trader Joe’s almond wine in the pantry! #forthewin #cometomama being a mom. Or does everyone’s * W hat the heck is a guilty pleasure? #whohastimeforaguiltypleasure kid leave for school wearing * All I want in life is a giant sweater, a wool scarf that goes to two socks and my knees, and a coffee cup so big I can swim in it. come home Is that too much to ask? with one? * Oh, wow. That was definitely Mom supernaturally taking control of my vocal cords. * I’m all for public education until it involves disease or bugs, and then I’m ready to run for the hills. * My kids are the greatest self-examination test. They reveal parts of me in themselves, and they unveil the good and the bad in my emotional maturity level. * I pray I inherited the same youthful genes as my mother. It’s cute and complimentary when people say we look like sisters, but it’s going to get really awkward when I get mistaken for her mother… * We all end up becoming our mothers. I’ve learned to listen to my mother with intention: if I learn from her mistakes, I can save some time with my own.

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* Taylor Swift. I love her catchy pop songs, her positivity, creativity, and style. Why did the gods make me a teacher?

I could have inspired way more teens if only I had become Taylor Swift. My guilty pleasure: imagining myself on stage with awesome bangs and a microphone. * A Texas Roadhouse steak dinner, coupled with a Long Island iced tea and good gossip with my bestie is supreme.

10. Home * I learned from my dad that there is always someone I can pay to do things I don’t want to do, so a housekeeper is a must.

* I never feel more magical than when I have my Clorox Toilet Wand in my hand. * I’ve learned that making my bed every day is worth it.

It helps me feel accomplished from the first part of the day.

And, I appreciate it again when I am ready to get into bed.

Ahhh. I feel like at least one thing went right today. * I used to go to Homearama once a year, come home and feel like I lived in a hovel.

Pinterest helps me feel that way daily. * After one year of living without a dishwasher, I now fully appreciate the luxury of having one. In my next apartment, I may be sleeping on a mattress on the floor but, by golly, I will have a dishwasher. is an excuse to * Cleaning

procrastinate on real work.

Right before any deadline, my house sparkles; my windows kill bluejays! Cleaning gives my mind peace — it’s about the only task in life I can see through from beginning to end in one sitting.

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Aleta Gorter, who goes to Louisville Permanent MakeUp, has permanent eyebrow makeup which requires minimal maintenance.

LOOKS BOOK:

BROWS

AROUND Eyebrows are critical to a person’s overall look. They can accent bone structure, bring out the eyes, give someone a whole new face. But what exactly do you do with them?

Wax? Pluck? Darken? Pierce?

By ANNA PATTERSON / Photos: MELISSA DONALD / Model: ALETA GORTER

With eyebrows coming “back in style” — although we don’t recall them ever going away — there are new trends to give your brows more appeal. Here are some ways you can make those brows beautiful:

For eyebrow maintenance...

Tinting Eyebrows, like most hair, gray and fade over time. But there’s good news for secret silvers out there: Eyebrows can be easily tinted to match their original shade. This is also an option for blondes or anyone with fair eyebrows who wants a bolder brow.

Michael Cecil of Spa 2038 says she offers this service as a part of her salon business, but most people don’t overtly offer this option. Be sure to ask your eyebrow technician or hair colorist about tinting and see what they have to say.

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Waxing Apart from

at-home tweezing, waxing is by far the most popular form of eyebrow maintenance. Michael says the key for her is discussing every possible option with clients in order to make sure they get their desired eyebrow shape: thin, thick, natural, arched, you name it. Michael leans the client back and waxes the brows upside down starting with the area between the eyes, then underneath, and if necessary, above the brow.

Afterward, she tweezes and makes sure all stray hairs are gone. To finish, Michael applies lavender to kill bacteria and soothe the skin. If you’re going to wax, it’s important to make sure you have an experienced technician who knows exactly what you want. Otherwise you might be stuck with pencilthin eyebrows for the next three weeks.

HOW TO ENHANCE YOUR BROWS

Wax, Pluck, Darken, and Tint Permanent makeup

If you want eyebrows that are maintenance-free but still look fantastic, permanent eyebrow makeup is something to consider. Beverly Bohr, owner and operator of Louisville Permanent MakeUp, says permanent makeup is a great solution for women on the go or for older women who struggle with daily cosmetic application. Permanent eyebrows require two initial applications of pigment implantation three to eight weeks apart, followed by touch-up applications every two to four years. Occasional plucking may be necessary, but overall your eyebrows will be maintenance-free.

A few tips and tricks...

EYESHADOW AND PENCIL ~ This is the quickest and easiest way to achieve a bolder, thicker brow. Using a brown eyeshadow or powder to coat the hairs makes brows look instantly fuller. Coloring in your eyebrows with a brown eyeliner pencil will also do the trick.

HAIR REGROWTH TREATMENTS~ Although Aveda’s Invati treatment is meant for thinning hair, it has also proved successful for thickening eyebrows. This product has been flying off shelves with the current trend of thick brows. But buyer beware: be cautious with this method, or you might end up with brows too big to manage.

TRENDS

THE ARCHED BROW Arching your eyebrows can make your eyes look refined and polished and also highlight other facial features. But it’s important to know your face shape before plucking away, or else you might end up wearing a look of constant surprise. (Warning: If you have a low forehead and a long face, beware the arch!)

THE THICK BROW Put the tweezers away and let those bold brows show! Dark, thick, Groucho Marx eyebrows have made their way into the world of chic. Celebrities such as Lily Collins and Cara Delevinge are sporting them loud and proud. However, a bit of maintenance is required to avoid looking like Wooly Willy. Invest in an eyebrow brush and clear eyebrow gel to keep those bold beauties in place.

THE FEATHERY BROW This brow is all about the natural look and is incredibly easy to achieve. Unlike the bold brow, this style is less about a filled-in polished look and mo e about emphasizing texture. Using a small brush or comb, brush hairs toward your nose to help them stand up. If you have lighter or sparse eyebrows, fill them in with an eyeb ow pencil using short, feathery strokes. Seal in the style with a clear brow gel.

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Vegan/gluten-free batter is available as well.

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WellnessWatch

By TORIE TEMPLE

10 Things to Know Before Having a Hysterectomy W hen the verdict is a hysterectomy, it doesn’t have to feel like an end-of-life sentence.

For some, this verdict means being pardoned from the charge of monthlong cramping and heavy periods to being set free into a pain-free life.

The following 10 nuggets of knowledge can help you make a smooth transition as you break into a uterus-free existence.

# 1 Hysterectomy Defined

“When we talk about a hysterectomy, a lot of times a person will think of this as removing the tubes, ovaries, uterus, and cervix,” says Dr. Shan Biscette, division director of gynecology for University of Louisville Physicians. “Actually, that’s not always the case. A hysterectomy is really the removal of the uterus. The fallopian tubes and the ovaries are not always removed. The removal of the ovaries is a separate procedure that can be combined with a hysterectomy.”

# 2 R easons for a Hysterectomy

“A hysterectomy can be done for several reasons,” Dr. Biscette says. “The most common reason — uterine fibroids — makes up about 30 percent of hysterectomies. Abnormal uterine bleeding such as heavy and irregular periods caused from endometriosis or pelvic inflammatory disease can also be a reason to have a hysterectomy.”

#3

To Keep or Not to Keep (the ovaries) If a patient is postmenopausal, then she may opt to have her ovaries removed because at this point she has ceased menses and no longer has the biological function to reproduce, Dr. Biscette says. The ovaries are kept in women who are premenopausal; however, women who have an increased risk of ovarian cancer based on genetics and testing may have the ovaries removed.

Current studies have shown that removing the fallopian tubes during a hysterectomy could be beneficial by reducing the risk of cancer, Dr. Biscette adds.

# 4 Hormone Therapy

If there were to be a warning label on a hysterectomy, it would read: MAY CAUSE HORMONE IMBALANCE. APPROACH PATIENT WITH CAUTION. “Women who are going through menopause but not having menopausal symptoms may not need hormone therapy if they didn’t need it before surgery,” Dr. Biscette says.

# 5 Hormone Therapy (With Ovaries)

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Just because a patient gets to tote around a couple of ovaries after a hysterectomy doesn’t mean there won’t be a hormone imbalance after surgery.

Patients should report any menopauselike symptoms to their doctor. “It is not unusual to have hormone imbalances after a hysterectomy where the ovaries are kept,” Dr. Biscette says.

# 6 Recovery Time

Six weeks seems to be the most common timeline for recovery, but each patient’s surgery is different. “There is a lot of internal healing going on,” says Dr. Jean Nusz, gynecologist for KentuckyOne Health. “I have seen a lot of patients who say they can take a 30-minute trip to the store and had to come home to nap. You can feel and look good on the outside, but your body is still healing on the inside.”

# 7 Infection Control

Even if patients are vigilant in keeping infection away after surgery, they may not always be looking for symptoms.

“It is common to get a UTI from the catheter,” Dr. Nusz says. “Symptoms can be pain with urination, urgency to urinate, frequent trips to the bathroom, or not emptying the bladder completely.”

# 8 Carbon Dioxide

Carbon dioxide is pumped into the abdomen to help make room for surgery, says Dr. Nusz. “We try to push on the patient’s stomach and get some of the gas out through tubes; however, it can take 24 to 48 hours for the body to absorb the gas.

“Anesthetics and pain medications can also slow the colon down, causing more gas within your system,” Dr. Nusz says. “This is why you take stool softeners and are encouraged to walk while in the hospital.”

# 9 Recover and Repeat

After a hysterectomy comes a life of less pain, but in some cases, that pain can return. “Ten percent of patients may have to come back for a repeat surgery after a hysterectomy if the fallopian tubes and ovaries were kept in place,” Dr. Biscette says. “This could be because of issues with pelvic pain, which could be caused from ovarian cysts, an ovarian mass, or we could find an abnormality in the tube.”

# 10 Psychological Healing

Not only does surgery take a physical toll on the body, but a hysterectomy could deliver an emotional blow as well.

“It can all depend on the reason for the hysterectomy,” Dr. Biscette says. “It is most psychologically traumatic to women of childbearing age who wanted to retain their uterus for childbearing purposes. However, for most, their quality of life improves.”

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In relationships…play…community

By MARY ELLEN BIANCO

10 Ideas Encouraging Women Business Owners J

esika Young says a lot more goes into starting a business than a good handshake. Jesika, vice president and business banking officer at US Bank, has been in the financial industry since 2008 and has this advice for women entrepreneurs.

Jesika attended Presentation Academy before obtaining her bachelor’s degree from Hanover College. Jesika and her husband, Jerod Young, reside in Floyds Knobs, with daughter Claire Marie. They’re expecting their second daughter in early January.

Jesika suggests: >> How Business Works, A Graphic Guide to Business Success by Alexandra Black >> Strengths Finder 2.0

by Tom Rath >> marisaneal.com She assists in the federal/ state government certifications. >>nawbolouisville.org >>americassbdc.org >>score.org >>sba.gov

1. H ave an advisory group.

“Surround yourself with a team of experts,” Jesika says. A CPA can help with financial planning.

An attorney researches patents and copyrights.

Your banker can advise on capital, equipment, trend analysis, expenses, and keeping up with cash flow.

2. There are options.

Purchase an existing business, start up your own business, or a franchise. Franchise investors can be absentee or involved owners.

3. “Business planning is very important,” Jesika says. America’s Small Business Development Council (americassbdc. org) provides counseling, education, and information.

SCORE is a nonprofit association that helps small business owners through mentoring and education programs (louisville.score.org).

4. “Take an inventory of your personal strengths regarding business management,” Jesika says. “This should be the number one starting point.”

“I have been married for 32 years and have enjoyed a good marriage. Recently, I’ve noticed my husband becoming very close to one of his employees. He said he’s helping her through a difficult time He’s a kind and compassionate man, but he talks to her all the time, even at home after hours. He calls her; she calls him. She tells him everything, and he listens.

I hear how he responds to her and my heart breaks.

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It’s critical to determine if you’ll manage the dayto-day operations or be the face of the product or service. “Understand that you can’t do everything — you’ll get exhausted,” Jesika advises.

5. Look at what can be outsourced. For example, a business owner may not know how or want to develop her business’s website. “I am a big advocate of playing to people’s strengths for marketing,” Jesika says. igure out the capital.

6. F “The most important part is to have a partnership with your banker who understands your goals and objectives enough to tell your story,” Jesika says.

7. “ There are a lot of valuable resources for women in business on the national and state levels,” Jesika says. The Small Business Administration (SBA) offers loans, including minority loans.

Also consider federal or state certification. Those certifications help to set a company apart and gain more business.

or web businesses 8. F for e-commerce, Jesika advises that a business owner learn about payment processing and fraud protection. “It’s more than just the lending, it has to be the whole picture,” Jesika says.

9. “ Surround yourself with a good support system, such as family, friends, and other business owners who will help with the mentoring process,” Jesika says. “It’s hard, especially for the first couple of years.” Jesika is involved with the National Association of Women Business Owners (NAWBO) Louisville (nawbolouisville.org).

It’s a support network for all phases of business development.

10. “ Be prepared that your social life will fuse with your business life,” she says. “Having that blend is critical, too.” As a working mother, Jesika understands that women already feel pulled in different directions.

Why? Because I rarely get to speak my heart to him because he doesn’t give me the same degree of time or patience as he does others. I know she’s going through a tough time and he’s there for her, but he doesn’t see what I’m going through. Am I wallowing in self-pity or should I be concerned?”

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She Kicks It!

By ANNA PATTERSON Photo by MELISSA DONALD

Konika Dillingham

T

hree years ago, Konika Dillingham was invited by a friend to attend a Zumba class at Sol Fitness in Louisville. Konika hated the gym and didn’t think she would identify with the Latinbased dance exercise. But her friend eventually wore her down, and to her surprise, Konika fell in love with Zumba.

Now, three years later, Konika is a certified Zumba instructor with a class of more than 70 members at Canaan Christian Church. “It’s grown bigger than what I imagined it would be,” she says. She attributes the success of her class to the variety of music and style she incorporates. Konika also goes beyond dance and makes her members get on the floor for push-ups, burpees, and ab exercises.

When she started her class last April, Konika saw it as a means for additional income and a way to stay in shape.

But when her father passed suddenly in his sleep at the age of 67, Konika’s outlook on life changed. At his funeral, Konika realized how many lives he had touched across the country and how great a legacy he had left. It was at that moment Konika stopped treating her Zumba class like a business and started using it as an outlet to inspire women and help them face whatever obstacles were in their path. “[Some women] go through all sorts of hell throughout the day with their work, their family,” she says. “I want Zumba to be about living in the moment and taking time for yourself — however you’re inspired or moved.”

For women struggling with weight, Konika says consistency is key. Find something you love and stick with it, and results will come. For those struggling with loss, let yourself grieve. Pray, keep your mind occupied, and surround yourself with a support system. But overall, the best advice she can give is live life to the fullest. “Every day is precious,” Konika says. “Tomorrow is not promised. So live your life. Find something that you’re passionate about and do it. Be the person that makes a difference. Be an inspiration.”

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10 DELICIOUS TASTES for OCTOBER Story and photos by PAIGE RHODES

One of the best things about Autumn is all of the amazing food! Slow cooking, flavorful, full of spices, and oh-so-comforting. Here are 10 foods you should be tasting this fall, including recipes, events, and produce that are perfect this time of year.

1. Caramel

Corn

October is the perfect month for bonfi es and, with every bonfi e, you need caramel corn. Here is a recipe for my Cocoa Porter Caramel Corn, which is a favorite every fall.

Salted Cocoa Porter Caramel Corn (Serves 4) INGREDIENTS 7 cups of un-buttered popped popcorn 2 /3 cup brown sugar 2 Tbsp light corn syrup

½ c up dark beer (I use West Sixth Cocoa Porter), plus 2 Tbsp for use later 4 Tbsp butter 1 tsp sea salt

INSTRUCTIONS

Preheat oven to 250 degrees F. Spray a large baking pan with cooking spray and add the popcorn to the baking sheet in an even layer and set aside until caramel is ready.

Add the brown sugar, light corn syrup, ½ cup dark beer and butter to a saucepan over high heat. Stir until the sugar dissolves, stop stirring. Allow to boil for 7 minutes, without stirring. Remove from heat, immediately stir in the remaining 2 tablespoons dark beer.

Spray a silicone spatula with cooking spray and gently pour the caramel sauce over the corn, stirring to coat.

2. F ried

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Resurfaced, Louisville’s popular pop-up urban space, is back for three days October 15-17 to bring us music, design, community discussions, local beer, and local food. The event I am most excited about is the 2nd Annual SlowFood Fried Chicken Throwdown on October 17, which is sure to be a delicious competition for all.

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Bake for 20 minutes at 250 degrees F, stir, and bake for an additional 20 minutes.

Remove from oven and spread evenly onto a sheet of parchment paper, sprinkle immediately with salt. Allow to cool until hardened.

Apples

Many varieties of apples are more than plentiful this time of year. Check out the Douglass Loop farmers market on October 24 and 31 to stock up for all of your fall dishes, sweet and savory alike. (Or, take the family to go pick your own at local places like Huber’s Family Farm or Hidden Hollow Orchard.)

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10 DELICIOUS TASTES for OCTOBER 4. Roasted

Pork Loin with Apple Cider Mustard Sauce

(Serves 4-6)

I love to prepare a slow-cooking comfort meal and this is one of my favorites.

INGREDIENTS 2 Tbsp vegetable oil 1 (2-pound) boneless center cut pork loin, trimmed K osher salt and freshly ground black pepper 1 medium onion, thickly sliced 2 carrots, thickly sliced 2 stalks celery, thickly sliced 3 cloves garlic, smashed 3 sprigs fresh thyme 3 sprigs fresh rosemary 5 leaves fresh sage 4 Tbsp cold unsalted butter 2 apples peeled, cored, and cut into 8 slices 2 Tbsp apple cider vinegar 1 cup apple cider 2 Tbsp whole grain mustard INSTRUCTIONS

Preheat the oven to 400 degrees F. In a large dutch oven, heat the vegetable oil over high heat. Season the pork loin all over generously with salt and pepper. Sear the meat until golden brown on all sides, about 2 to 3 minutes per side. Transfer the meat to a plate and set it aside.

Add the onion, carrot, celery, garlic, herb sprigs, and 2 tablespoons of the butter to the skillet.

Stir until the vegetables are browned, about 8 minutes. Stir in the sliced apples, then push the mixture to the sides and set the pork loin in the middle of the skillet along with any collected juices on the plate.

Transfer to the oven and roast until an instant-read thermometer inserted into the center of the meat registers 150-155 degrees F, about 40 minutes.

Transfer the pork to a cutting board and cover it loosely with foil while you make the sauce.

Arrange the apples and vegetables on a serving platter and set aside. Remove and discard the herb sprigs. Return the skillet to a high heat and add the vinegar, scraping the bottom with a wooden spoon to loosen up any browned bits. Reduce by half then add the cider and reduce by about half again. Pull the skillet from the heat and whisk in the mustard and the remaining 2 tablespoons of cold butter. Adjust the seasoning with salt and pepper, to taste.

Slice into ½-inch thick pieces and arrange over the apple mixture. Drizzle some sauce over the meat and serve the rest on the side.

5. B arrel-Aged Beer, Cider, and Brandy I don’t think it gets much better than food trucks, beer, and brandy. On October 30, Copper & Kings Distillery is hosting its 2nd annual Lock, Stock, and Smoking Barrels Brandy Barrel-Aged Beer Festival. The festival of barrel-aged beer, cider, brandy, and smoking hot food and music will take place from 6-10pm at the Copper & Kings distillery.

Count me in!

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6. Kale

Kale is a leafy green that is readily accessible all through the year these days. However, if you’re wanting to get it while it is at its peak and grown locally, look to pick some up in October.

There are so many different beautiful varieties and you can check them all out at the St. Matthews Farmers Market on October 10, before it closes for the fall season!

7. F all

Ice Cream

If you’re not familiar with Louisville Cream, you are sorely missing out. They are a phenomenal local small-batch ice cream company with a cult Louisville following. This fall, they will be slinging their new flavors all over the place, including Fleur De Flea on October 17. My flavor choice? Their Autumn Apple with caramelized bourbon and duck fat oatmeal cookies.

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10 DELICIOUS TASTES for OCTOBER 8. R oasted

Pumpkin and Apple Soup

There is so much more you can do with pumpkin than make pie! One of my favorite ways is to roast it and puree it with apples in my Roasted Pumpkin and Apple Soup with Sage Browned Butter Cream. If you’re hosting a fall dinner party, this is a perfect course to impress your guests.

9. Mushrooms

This month, you can get pricier, harder to find mush ooms, for significantly ch aper because their growing conditions are ideal. They are delicious!

Roasted Pumpkin and Apple Soup with Browned Butter Sage Cream (Serves 6-8) INGREDIENTS

2 baking pumpkins quartered and seeded Olive oil as needed Salt and freshly ground pepper, to taste 2 carrots, peeled and thickly sliced ½ yellow onion, thickly sliced 2 garlic cloves, smashed 2 apples peeled, cored, cut into chunks INSTRUCTIONS

½ tsp freshly grated nutmeg 4 cups vegetable broth 1 cup apple cider ½ cup heavy cream 2 Tbsp butter 5 leaves of sage salted pumpkin seeds (pepitas) to garnish

Preheat oven to 425°F. Drizzle the pumpkins with olive oil and season with salt and pepper. Place the pumpkins, cut side down, on the baking sheets. Roast, turning the pumpkins occasionally, until they are tender and beginning to brown, about 35 minutes.

Let the pumpkins cool, then scoop the flesh into a bowl In a large dutch oven or stockpot over medium-high heat, warm 2 Tbsp olive oil.

Add the carrots, onions, salt, and pepper. Cover and cook, stirring occasionally, until the vegetables begin to soften, about 7 minutes. Add the garlic, apples, and nutmeg, and cook, stirring frequently, for 1 minute. Add the pumpkin flesh with the b oth and cider, cover the pot, and bring to a boil. Reduce the heat to medium-low and simmer for 15 minutes. Working in small batches, transfer about 2 cups of the soup at a time to a blender and blend until completely pureed.

Melt butter over medium heat with the sage leaves. Cook the butter, swirling often until it is fragrant and a dark golden color, being careful not to burn. Remove crispy sage leaves and set aside.

In a bowl, whisk the cream until slightly thickened. Whisk in the sage-browned butter. Ladle the soup into warmed bowls and drizzle with the browned butter cream and top with a few pumpkin seeds. Serve immediately.

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10. Butternut

Squash

If you are a fan of Butternut Squash, you are in luck!

Butternut Squash is in season all throughout October and you can surely pick some up at The Original Bardstown Road Farmers Market, which runs all the way through December.

October is full of wonderful things to do with your family, including: getting everyone in the kitchen for some fun cooking experiments, teaching your kids about healthy eating at a farmers market, or spending the afternoon at a local festival. Take some time this month to enjoy all of the flavor of fall with your loved ones and you will be one happy camper!

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BEFORE

GO

YOU

By TIFFANY WHITE / Photo by MELISSA DONALD

NAME: Lauren Jones AGE: 30 JOB: WAVE 3 Sunrise anchor and midday meteorologist LIVES IN: Eastern Jefferson County Lauren Jones works hard to make every part of her life comfortable — no matter where she is. The news anchor sets her alarm for 1:30am and drinks a Red Bull right before she heads into the studio at 3:30am. Lauren describes her days as long and tiring, but she makes it easy on herself starting with what she wears to work. “At work, I wear my husband’s eece pajama pants and a $2 Old Navy shirt [until I go on air],” she says. “I look like a trainwreck in the morning.” Lauren says she can’t tolerate wearing structured clothing all day.

Although she endures lighthearted teasing from her coworkers, Lauren does what makes her feel good. “It’s about being comfortable with yourself,” she says. “When you are married and have children, what other people think of you isn’t as important.” The Columbus, Indiana, native also describes herself as an introvert who tells bad jokes. “I am probably a little goofy and quirky. Some people think that when you are a television anchor that you have this persona of being larger than life and outgoing, but I am shy. My husband and close friends would probably say I am quirky and socially awkward.”

Sleep is Lauren’s preferred choice for relaxation, but she has become obsessed with watching her favorite television shows such as Chicago PD, Chicago Fire, and Dateline. She also enjoys taking her two daughters to the park or pool. But she says the best part of her day is dinner time with her family because she has a chance to recharge and reconnect with them. “It’s the part of the day where I can breathe and be thankful for what I have.”

BEAUTY PRODUCT SHE’S LOVING: “I love my facial moisturizer by Philosophy, and my go-to hairspray is Tresemme.”

FASHION SHE’S WEARING: “I wear a lot of hats, sweaters, jeans, and boots.”

LATEST PURCHASE SHE’S PRAISING: “I purchased a long cardigan on sale from White House Black Market. I have already been wearing it.”

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Before I Go... “I hop out of bed, then rush to take a shower.

I grab my stuff and literally run out of the house to work.”

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