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8 Old School
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10 New School BY LUCY M. PRITCHETT
12 Survival Skills BY MARIE BRADBY
24 The Agenda BY CATHY ZION
27 Eat Authentic BY MELISSA DONALD
30 Am I Crazy? It Could Be Your Hormones BY TRICIA HUSSUNG
14 21 Things BY ANITA OLDHAM
32 Hormone Therapy: What Do I Do? BY TRICIA HUSSUNG
34 A hhhhh! So Many Food Choices
36 Body Talk BY TIFFANY WHITE AND ANITA OLDHAM
44 H ealing Outside the Box BY MEGHAN SECKMAN
48 Hot Happenings BY GIOIA PATTON
50 Before You Go BY ALISSA HICKS
BY TRICIA HUSSUNG
Volume 23 8 Number 10
CELEBRATING 21 YEARS
ISSUE The Psycho Issue
The word “psycho” may be a little strong, but we sometimes feel like we are on the edge of doing something rash. This issue allows us to delve into the things that tend to make us feel stressed or anxious, as well as how we hide our crazy thoughts in pretty clothes and “proper” behavior. Let’s take a moment to do a collective primal scream, then take a deep breath. We will all feel better able to tackle all the different directions of our daily lives.
“Taking crazy things seriously is a serious waste of time.” — Haruki Murakami
“Was I ever crazy? Maybe. Or maybe life is…Crazy isn’t being broken or swallowing a dark secret. It’s you or me amplified.” — Susanna Kaysen, Girl, Interrupted
ara DeLost gives an extremely convincing portrayal of someone who is feeling nuts, but she has it all together as the digital strategist at Power Creative. She lives in St. Matthews and says naysayers, giving up, playing by rules that are ridiculous, and hypocrites drive her crazy. See more of her in our feature about body language on page 36.
— Tiffany White
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I love to get kids excited about nature — bugs and plants — and taking care of the environment. I feel good when I get kids to care. OLD SCHOOL
SARAH CUMMINS, environmental projects consultant at Chance School
Sarah in 2009, is a community service environmental group that is part of a national organization originating at the Jane Goodall Institute in Virginia. At Chance school, it includes 22 students in grades three through five. “The students take projects out into the community, such as tree planting at an inner city school, a coat drive for homeless children, and a fundraising project for an animal shelter.”
• Hometown: Palo Alto, Calif. • Neighborhood: Eastern Jefferson County • Household: Husband, Vaun Cummins; sons, Coby, 10, and Theo, 5. IS CRAZY ABOUT:
• The environment •A nimals, especially monkeys •B eing a mom •T eaching science to kids •F ood and cooking • Reading •M ocha coffee drinks
Sarah’s Green Team (begun in 2011) is made up of six fifth-graders with a focus on the environmental wellbeing of the school and its students.
Sarah and her husband spent four years (1999-2003) in Kenya studying the behavior of patas monkeys. “We traveled with the group of 30-40 monkeys, observing them and recording data about them in their natural habitat. It took about a year for them to get used to us and not run away. We would follow them from dawn to dusk when they would climb into trees to sleep. That way we knew where they would be the next morning.”
“The students take on three projects a year for the school. They have started a school-wide recycling program and this year helped complete the greenhouse.”
“In my third year in Kenya, a group of five or six very mischievous infant monkeys kept running over to me and trying to interact with me. I think they wanted me to play. When I didn’t engage with them, they started screaming, which attracted the attention of the alpha male. He came loping over to me and bared his teeth to threaten me. This is an animal that is the size of a large dog with three-inch incisors — the size of a lion’s teeth! He was so close I could feel his breath. It was terrifying.”
Every year on Earth Day, I read Dr. Suess’s The Lorax to my students. Written in 1971, it warns against mindless destruction in the name of progress and the dangers it imposes to the environment and the earth’s natural beauty. 8
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Applied and received a grant from State Farm Youth Advisory Board for $25,000 to build a greenhouse on Chance School’s campus. She and her family, students and parents, and faculty spent a weekend this past November building the 30-foot by 60-foot hoop house. Here students grow and tend to plants and vegetables year-round. TODAY’S WOMAN
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I am an artist of opportunity. I struggle with the idea that I am bringing things into a world already full of things. NEW SCHOOL
Interview by LUCY M. PRITCHETT Photography by MELISSA DONALD
SUZANNE EDDS, Artist, Co-owner and operator of Liberty Tattoo & Art Parlor Skulls and Suzanne Edds, 33, artist, coowner and operator of Liberty Tattoo & Art Parlor, 2801 South Third Street • Neighborhood: Beechmont • Household: Partner Gary Bell, tattoo artist; three dogs; and one cat PSYCHO MOMENT:
They all have to do with my art. I am always getting myself into projects with self-imposed deadlines. I set high levels of expectations for myself, and I make goals that are hard to meet.
The fact that I use materials that would be thrown away makes me feel more comfortable with the process of creating. I use muted colors — white clays and dark clays. Much of the bare clay is the surface you see in the piece. I carve into the clay and the glaze falls into the recessed areas. I love the look of bare clay.
In art school at the University of Louisville, I focused on ceramics. I was doing large-scale abstract pieces, which I loved. Some I couldn’t even lift myself. Now, out in the world, I am striving for accessibility. Most of my work can be held in your hand.
skeletons are a common image in culture. They are not to be feared. Some cultures celebrate death. I see them as a reflection of the inevitability of death, the universality of death.
I have no set schedule to work on my art. At the shop, I can sometimes work for 20 minutes or so at a time. I can’t keep a table surface clear at home. I have all sorts of projects in various stages of completion.
The UnFair Art Fair (held this year on October 4, 5, and 6) is a non-traditional, off-beat alternative to the St. James Art Fair. About 20 artists exhibit in the backyard of the Mag Bar (at Second and Magnolia). We close down the shop and show what we have created during the year. This will be our 10th year. I love to see how people react to my work.
• Highland Coffee shop — I drink decaf with cream • Live music • Art • Traveling to other cities to get tattooed by a particular artist • Our ‘53 black and rust Chevy • Collecting junk to use in my art • NPR • Growing garlic in our garden. I didn’t expect it to be so beautiful.
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Overextending But Staying Sane
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HOLLY HOUSTON: Lawyer, Nonprofit Volunteer, Writer, Mentor Holly Houston — lawyer, nonprofit volunteer, activist for women’s and girls’ issues, organizer, writer, dinner party hostess, and more — is power walking through her Highlands neighborhood while she talks to me on the phone. “Of course,” Holly says, laughing about her relentless multitasking as the sound of afternoon rush-hour traffic zooms past her. I got a crash course on this wonder woman when she sent me a brief but dense email that humorously summed up what she’s been up to for the past 20 years — which is way more than would fit into this article. Holly has a solo law practice in family law; is the co-founder and co-director of the business networking and mentoring group Greater Louisville Outstanding Women (GLOW); writes articles for NFocus magazine (“HollyOnTheGo!”); and serves on the boards of Kentucky Harvest, Lemonade Day, Louisville Girls Leadership, and the Louisville Visual Art Association. How does she keep from going crazy with all these irons in the fire?
“If I didn’t have all that going on, I probably would go crazy,” Holly says. “I’m not a very good one-project-at-a-time person. I know there are people who could focus on a brief for a week — I would lose my mind. I get bored very easily, very fast. So, I have to have stimulation.” Community projects, meeting new people, and having parties keep this single 44-year-old occupied. “I don’t know any other way to do it,” she says. “It’s so innately me. If you have to have predictability and certainty, you wouldn’t like my life. I’m great in a pinch, perfect in a crisis. Not everybody is suited to that.” With a degree in journalism from the University of Kentucky, Holly wanted to be a writer, but there were few journalism jobs available. She went to law school on a whim. “Law school beat me to a pulp, as it has zero tolerance for creativity,” she says. “I came out of undergrad believing I was a brilliant writer, only to be totally deflated by a teacher who didn’t like my writing because I don’t write like a lawyer.” She finished her law degree, but Holly thought, ‘There is no way I’m going to practice law. You people are insane.’ She spent three years waiting tables, leading tours of the bourbon trail, and writing a legislative newsletter. But at age 29 with a bank balance of negative $400, she finally gave in and became a lawyer. “At some point, you have to realize what you are good at and what you are not, and you have to make choices around that,” she says. “I’m good at what I do, but the best part is I can be around anybody, anytime.” Here are Holly’s rules for staying sane:
Tip #1: “Don’t Panic.”
Tip #2: “Breathe.” Tip #3 : “Exercise.”
Tip #4: “Be a cheerleader and have a
team of cheerle aders in your life who’ll say, ‘You’ve got this. Don’t they know who they’re dealing with? Yo u’re a bada--! Supastar! Go!”
Tip #5: “Learn to identify and walk aw ay from no-w in situatio ns,
toxic people, non-reci procal relationships, people who devalue you or your goals, em otional vampires, and energ y drainers.”
Tip #6: “Choose your battles wisely. Ask, ‘What is the likely outcome, and is it worth the effort in the scheme of it all?’ Also ask, ‘How important is it?’ to gain perspective when it feels overwhelming.”
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Tip #9: “When all else fails, go back to Tips #1, #2, and #3.” TODAY’S WOMAN
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For our issue about fear, phobias, and all things that make us crazy, we asked a few women on the street about what fears they face.
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et fear be your traveling companion. Much of the time we can soften or even entirely lift our fears, but sometimes, fear persists. Then it’s time for this tool: let fear be your traveling companion. Let it be there, but not in control. Let it be there, but don’t take direction from it or stop moving forward because of it. This is a skill. It’s a skill to learn to act in the face of fear, to allow it to be present but not to interfere. You know when you are driving on the highway, and right next to you, one lane over, there’s some guy hanging out the window, keeping pace alongside you? He’s not in your way but he’s in your field of vision? Think of fear that way: as the guy in the lane next to you. You are in the driver’s seat, in your own lane, moving forward. He’s next to you, not blocking you but just there, somewhat irritating, palpably present. The ride would feel more enjoyable and free if he wasn’t there, but you are getting to your destination just fine anyway. Learn to walk with fear this way — as if it’s your uninvited traveling companion — intrusive, but not in the way. — taramohr.com
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What terrifies you? “Everything! I’m a hyp ochondriac — something out of my control, snakes, something happening to my kids.” – Cristal Alvey
Louisville Chorus’ 75th season opens October 27 at St. Brigid Catholic Church with a performance of the Vivaldi Laudate Jerusalem and the Schubert Mass in G. Look them up at louisvillechorus.org to also find out details about their Christmas concerts.
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CBPW - Christian Business & Professional Women Every Second Thursday (Odd months only) • Noon Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Christine Ward 502.931.2918 email@example.com EWI- Executive Women International- Kentuckiana Every 3rd Tues. • 5:30 p.m. Contact for information & reservation Dotty Wettig firstname.lastname@example.org The Heart Link Network Every 1st Wed. • 6:30 p.m. Inverness at Hurstbourne Condos 1200 Club House Drive Barbara Madore 502.377.8625 40222.theheartlinknetwork.com IAAP- International Association of Administrative ProfessionalsLouisville Every 2nd Thurs. • 6 p.m. Location Varies – See Website for Details. iaap-louisville.org League of Women Voters Every 3rd Mon. • 6 p.m. Lang House, 115 S. Ewing Ave. Pat Murrell 502.895.5218 email@example.com Legal Secretaries of Louisville Every 3rd Tues. • 11:30 a.m. Bristol Bar & Grille 614 West Main Street Elizabeth Harbolt 502.568.5446 firstname.lastname@example.org legalseclou-ky.org
National Association of Women in Construction Every 2nd Mon. • 5:30 p.m. Call for meeting location Patty Stewart 812.288.4208 #121 Network Now Every 2nd Fri. • 11:30 a.m. Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Lee Ann Lyle 502.836.1422 email@example.com NIA Women’s Roundtable Every 4th Fri. • 8:30 a.m. NIA Center 2900 West Broadway – 3rd floor Suzanne Carter 502.775.2548 firstname.lastname@example.org Southern Indiana Women’s Networking Group Every 3rd Wed. • 11:30 a.m. Holiday Inn-Lakeview 505 Marriott Drive, Clarksville email@example.com WIN- Women in Networking Every 2nd Wed. • 11:15 a.m. Oxmoor Country Club 9000 Limehouse Lane WIN- Women in Networking II Every 3rd Wed. • 11:30 a.m. Holiday Inn Louisville East 1325 Hurstbourne Pkwy Kim Fusting 502.267.7066 firstname.lastname@example.org gowin2.com WIN- Women in Networking III Every 2nd Tues. • 11:30 a.m. Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Laurel Lee 810.8919 win3louisville.com WIN- Women in Networking IV Every 3rd Tues. • 11:30 a.m. Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Wendy Manganaro 502.310.0025
[ mé Great Résu 0 Tip #1 Skip personal information such as ‘Married with three kids.’ It might sound stable to you, but to a hiring authority looking for someone to travel, it could keep you from being interviewed. WIN - Women in Networking V Every 2nd Thurs. • 11:30 a.m. Buca di Beppo 2051 S. Hurstbourne Parkway Lee Ann Lyle 502-836-1422 email@example.com win5networking.com WOAMTEC-Women On A Mission To Earn Commission Every 2nd & 4th Wed. • 11:30a.m. The Village Anchor 11507 Park Road Charlene Burke 812.951.3177 woamtec.com Women’s Business Center of KY funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA
Every 1st Fri. Roundtable • 8:30a.m. Location – TBA Sharron Johnson 502.566.6076 #104 firstname.lastname@example.org cvcky.org/womensbusiness center.html Women’s Council of Realtors Every 3rd Thurs. • 11:30 a.m. Wildwood Country Club 5000 Bardstown Rd. Lynda Minzenberger 502.552.8768 email@example.com ZONTA- Advancing The Status of Women Every 1st Thurs. • 6 p.m. Logan’s Steakhouse 5005 Shelbyville Road Joyce Seymour 502.553.9241 firstname.lastname@example.org Listings are on per month basis. To list your meeting for free, email your meeting date, time, location, contact info and website to email@example.com or call 502.327.8855 ext. 14. Deadline for inclusion in next issue is 10/8. TODAY’S WOMAN
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“Avoidance just makes [the problem] worse,” says Dr. Jesse Wright, M.D., Ph.D., a clinical psychiatrist with the University of Louisville Physicians who specializes in anxiety disorders and cognitive behavior therapy. “The key to all successful treatments regarding fears and anxiety is exposure therapy. Whatever the anxiety may be, the person has to find a way to face it.” Dr. Wright does not believe fears to be any more common today than in the past but that we simply hear more about them; people are more open about their fears and about getting help. “[Fears are the] most common problems of anyone who sees a family doctor, even more common than COMMON COMMON depression. I think all people have a small phobia PHOBIAS SYMPTOMS of something,” he adds. OF FEARS According to AND ANXIETY Confronting your fears does not mean diving in Dr. Wright, are fear of heights, headfirst but taking small steps to pinpoint the main Include worried fear of closed thoughts, triggers that cause anxiety. Virtual reality therapy is a spaces, fear of predictions that new way to confront fears. “It is a very real and crowds, fear of something bad will intense experience,” Dr. Wright says. “For example, if public speaking, happen, belief that you fear flying, you can be immersed into a scene on fear of social the person will be situations, fear overwhelmed by a plane through the virtual reality helmet.” of spiders, and the situation/ Depending upon the type and depth of the anxiety, fear of flying. thing, avoidance, treatment can last anywhere from two to five sessions increased heart or for more extreme fears, 15-20 sessions. beat, sweating, Wright also recommends self-help guides. muscle tension, trembling, upset Look for The Anti-Anxiety Workbook by Peter Norton and stomach, and Martin Antony, The Worry Cure by Robert Leahy, and headaches. Mastery of Your Anxiety and Panic by David Barlow and Michelle Craske. Also, be wary of tranquilizers. “They can cause dependency, and they rarely ever solve the problem, just cover it over instead,” Wright says. — BY ALISSA HICKS
Dress in your favorite costume and visit the local businesses of the Highlands to find specials, live performances, and costume contests. DOUGLAS LOOP TO LEXINGTON RD. October 26, 2013, 2pm-? louisvillehalloween.com/ bardstown-boundboofest
F.A.T. FRIDAY HALLOWEEN HOP ON FRANKFORT AVENUE
October 25, 6-10:30pm Hoppers are encouraged to dress in costume and enjoy special activities along the Avenue. Many businesses will host special offers, live music, and refreshments. fatfridayhop.org. Check out TodaysFamilyNow.com for a list of other family-friendly Halloween events.
“I’m 16 and in a confusing relationship. I love the guy, or at least I think I do. We’ve been together for nine months. Lately I’ve noticed he’s become controlling. Sometimes he doesn’t like what I wear, who I hang out with, or what I do. When sI voice my disapproval about his control, things get better, but it sneaks back in slowly. My head says one thing, but my heart says another. Can you help point me in the right direction?”
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The Agenda BY CATHY ZION, PUBLISHER
Ahhhhh…tober October stimulates all the senses…crisp cool breezes, colorful country sides, twinkling jack o’ lanterns, rustling leaves. It’s also a busy month for us, as Today’s Woman is involved in a number of events that we’re sure you’ll enjoy. Hope to see you there!
October 2 PHOTO BY MELISSA DONALD
Jean West will undoubtedly inspire everyone with her presentation at the 100 Wise Women breakfast, 8-10am at The Olmstead. Grounded in health-related issues, Jean has spent her 30-year broadcasting career educating and advising us on medical developments to enhance our lives. leadershiplouisville.org/tag/100-wise-women/
October 11 The annual Dress for Success Suit & Salad luncheon (11am-1pm at the Galt House) showcases the organization’s amazing efforts to assist low-income and disadvantaged women by providing gently worn outfits for their interviews and jobs. And not just clothing, but accessories, shoes, purses, and make-up. Over the past year, they have outfitted nearly 2,200 women! My favorite part is the style show where beaming clients model their new looks. 502.584.8050
The Family Scholar House just opened its fourth housing campus in August, making room for 48 more single adults and their children to live while the adults pursue their college degree. While 215 single women and men along over 300 children are now living within the FSH community, there are still more than 750 families in their pre-residential program who are receiving services while waiting on housing. During the program at Louisville Marriott Downtown from 11:30am to 1pm, Deborah Phelps, who is best known as the mother of Olympic swimmer Michael Phelps, will emphasize the importance of education. Familyscholarhouse.org
November 5 If you know a senior, tell them about Senior Day Out from 8am to 1:30pm at the Downtown Convention Center. They’ll enjoy music, health screenings, mingling with over 100 exhibitors, and even Bingo. And they’ll get a free lunch if registered by October 21. louisvilleky.gov/CSR/OADC or 502.574.5092
GASTHAUS GERMAN RESTAURANT
BY MELISSA DONALD
Take a trip to Germany or Italy without leaving town, and taste what our European friends are serving.
4812 Brownsboro Center Louisville 502.899.7177 gasthausdining.com
Dinner Only: Tuesday-Saturday, 6-9:30pm Closed Sunday and Monday
The moment you step into Gasthaus, you are transported. Indoor accommodations with an outdoor-like setting lends a German countryside atmosphere. Part of the family-owned restaurant’s décor also includes family photos, small tokens of owner Annemarie’s collection, and wall murals of classic German-style buildings in a rural setting. Above all, save plenty of room for dessert. Even if you have to take dessert home, you must have dessert! Annemarie is well known for her desserts (all handmade from scratch the same day they are sold) and virtually every night, they sell out. PAGE 28 >
Start your meal with the Gasthaus Salad. This specialty salad changes every two weeks. The Rucola consisting of asparagus, strawberries, arugula, feta cheese crumbles, pine nuts, and topped with a white balsamic vinaigrette.
Try the classic Jaeger Schnitzel (shown here), a dish of padded boneless pork loin, breaded and sautéed, and served with onions, mushrooms, and potatoes. Best accompanied with a German beer. todayswomannow.com
Try the Strawberry Napoleon. Fantastic flavors come together in this visually impressive dessert. If you’re looking for a German dessert classic, order the equally impressive Apple Strudel. This dessert consists of homemade puff pastry stuffed with granny smith apples, golden raisins, and marzipan, drizzled with a glaze made of confectioner’s sugar and lemon juice. This dessert is served warm with ice cream, whipped cream, and a decorative berry glaze. All desserts are made with no imitations, preservatives and are all low in sugar.
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You can just walk from Fourth Street into an al fresco-like Italian dining room setting. Many windows provide lots of natural light, tall ceilings, stucco-colored walls, and white table linens span the interior. Enter Vincenzo’s Italian Restaurant from the busy streets of downtown Louisville, and you are immediately transformed into this elegant, Italian setting. From start to finish you can’t go wrong at Vincenzo’s. End your evening with the Chocolate Bomb, a round of chocolate cream sauce and chocolate Ganache served with a dollop of Chantilly cream and raspberry sauce. This beautiful and delicious dessert is light in texture and rich in flavor. Just the right amount of sweetness to complete your dining experience.
VINCENZO’S ITALIAN RESTAURANT 150 South 5th Street Louisville 502.580.1350 vincenzositalianrestaurant.com For a main course, try one of their Vitello dishes, a veal chop offered in at least three different ways on the menu. Shown here is a veal chop stuffed with Prosciutto, Fontina cheese, and served with potatoes, broccolini, zucchini squash, and a veal demi-glace sauce. Veal is found in many classic Italian dishes. Chefs Agostino and Serge Katz suggest veal be cooked medium.
Lunch: Monday-Friday, 11:30am-2pm Dinner: Monday-Friday, 5-10pm; Saturday, 5-11pm Closed Sunday
For an evening meal, begin with the appetizer Carciofini Marini. A baked artichoke bottom stuffed with crab, scallops, carrots, and spinach and topped with a jumbo shrimp. Decoratively served with lemon/lime hollandaise and marinara sauces. Extremely flavorful and delicious. TODAY’S WOMAN
Am I Crazy?
It Could Be Your Hormones
BY TRICIA HUSSUNG
Symptoms: tired and fatigued
____________ “I just don’t feel like myself” is one of the main complaints that Carla Layne, a certified nurse midwife from Southern Indiana, gets from the women who come to her for hormone replacement therapy. “They’re very frustrated,” she says. The wide range of symptoms associated with imbalanced hormones can cause problems from head to toe literally. “As women age, our bodies aren’t as efficient in maintaining a stable hormone balance. When women go through menopause, their ovaries stop producing estrogen,” Layne explains. Dr. John Farmer, an OB-GYN based in Louisville, describes how a hormone imbalance triggers symptoms that can affect a person’s whole life. “If you’re tired and fatigued, you won’t be focused and that can affect job performance. You can be irritable with your spouse and family. If you’re overweight and you can’t lose weight even though you’re working hard, that will make you irritable. It affects your whole life, from housework to job performance to personal relationships,” he says. Other symptoms of a hormone imbalance include night sweats, dry skin, foggy thinking, decreased libido, and difficulty sleeping. Dealing with all of these symptoms on a daily basis is enough to make anyone feel crazy. “I had a patient who was the CEO of a major company, and she came in my office and told me, ‘Carla I can’t function.’ She was in tears,” Layne says. The good news is that there are cutting-edge
solutions in the Louisville area that can help women (and men) combat hormone imbalances and get back on track. Jan Atkins, a practice administrator and medical sales consultant for NovaHealth, explained that the pellet therapy they offer is completely natural. “At Nova, it’s all bioidentical. It is a pellet, administered under sterile conditions. Everything we do here is natural, nothing synthetic whatsoever,” she says. The pellets used at NovaHealth are plant-derived and time-released in order to consistently keep hormone levels where they should be, and they are also individualized for each patient’s specific needs. “Nova turns back the clock and optimizes hormone levels to give you the vitality you had in your 20s,” Atkins continues. The most important thing to remember is that you don’t have to live with hormone imbalances. By taking advantage of the services like those offered, you don’t have to feel “crazy” anymore. “We always strive to improve safety and just take care of people,” Dr. Farmer says. Getting educated about hormone imbalances and the different treatments available is a great way to help yourself feel better. Atkins agrees, saying, “Here [at Nova], we arm people with knowledge. Knowledge is power, and it’s literally lifechanging. The more you educate yourself, the more you arm yourself with that knowledge, the better able you are to live in a healthy manner.”
uAnn Marlow is a retired nurse who now works in the flower department at a local Kroger. After taking hormone replacement medication for almost 30 years, she was fed up with not feeling like herself. LuAnn has been a patient at NovaHealth for over a year, and is happy to report that her energy and her life are back on track. Why did you look for help? I gained weight, I felt bad, I laid around the house all day, and had no energy.
Why did you choose Nova? It took me six months of saying to myself, “I should really try that out,” but I finally made an appointment. When I went in initially, I liked the fact that they did the health screening and blood work first. They’re particular about who is and who is not a candidate. They do the screening to determine if there is a history of cancer in the family, and things like that.
can’t lose weight
____________ night sweats
____________ dry skin
____________ foggy thinking
____________ decreased libido
____________ difficulty sleeping
How does your course of treatment work? Initially I would go in about every four to six weeks and they would do my labs to determine what my levels of estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, and B12 were. Based on those, they determined if I needed the treatment, which is a pellet insertion of a natural, slow-release hormone. Now I go in about every eight weeks. I’ll have been going for two years in January. How does your treatment help? I lost weight. I lost 52 pounds in one year, which was so great. My energy is back too, and in general I feel much better. I’m a high-energy person again and I feel like myself. What were you most surprised about? I was surprised that I was so low. I had been on oral estrogen replacement therapy for 27 years and yet the level was so low that it didn’t even register on the scale. Do you have any advice for others? If you’re feeling bad, go in and try it. We’re all supposed to have certain hormone levels in our body, and when we don’t, we just don’t feel good.
What Do I Do?
BY TRICIA HUSSUNG
Bioidentical hormones are a hot topic in the field of hormone replacement therapy. Hormone imbalances are a major issue for women and can result in a variety of problems, from fatigue to headaches to trouble sleeping. Bioidentical hormone replacement therapy (BHRT) is one way to address these symptoms, and we talked with a local medical professional and experts from Precision Compounding to explain how BHRT works and what the benefits are. Bioidentical hormones match the hormones that your body naturally produces. Laura Plaffenberger, a pharmacist and co-owner of Precision Compounding, explains that this enables BHRT to work better in the body: “It makes the body respond better and receptors recognize the hormones better.” She continues, “They also enable us to give the lowest dose possible while also taking care of the symptoms that patients are experiencing. Our goal [at Precision] is always to give the lowest dose possible of hormones that are naturally found in the body.” Carla Layne is a local certified nurse midwife. For her, the most important thing to know about bioidentical hormones is how they can be tailored to fit each woman’s specific needs. “I think that the biggest benefit is that it’s individualized for each person based on their lab values and their symptoms,” she says. “There isn’t a standard therapy for everyone.” Individualization is something that Plaffenberger believes is absolutely necessary, as well. Pharmaceutical compounding is a way to create a particular medication that meets the unique
needs of each patient. “Compounding is extremely important because that’s where we’re able to individualize treatment for each female specifically. We also individualize the dose because all women are not created the same. They all have different hormone and dosage needs, and we are able to give considerably smaller amounts of hormones than traditional methods,” Plaffenberger explains. The pharmacy offers a variety of treatment forms, including topical creams, oral capsules, and troches or lozenges. Bioidentical hormones are identical in molecular structure to the hormones women make in their bodies, according to the Harvard Health Publications. They are made, or synthesized, from a plant chemical extracted from yams and soy. BHRT is not a guaranteed fix and does not work for everyone. Layne says “I think it’s important to note that not everyone is a candidate for either bioidentical or traditional therapies. A strong family or personal history of breast cancer or ovarian cancer would rule out hormone therapy. And it doesn’t work for everyone.” The bottom line about bioidentical hormones is that they are an effective treatment option for many women who are experiencing the problems associated with hormone imbalances. And taking the time to explore treatment options and talk to a hormone specialist is important, Layne explains. “Women spend so much time taking care of everyone else, and we don’t take the time for ourselves.”
What is your course of treatment? What medications are you taking now? I use a compounded cream every morning. I apply it on alternating hips or on the muscle under my arm. It’s made specifically for my hormonal situation, and I don’t have to take any pills. How does your treatment help you? Oh my, for one thing I’m a lot nicer! I don’t have night sweats. I feel normal again, and I feel like myself. What were you most surprised to learn about hormones and/or treatment? I think that being able to use something that’s cream-based is pretty amazing. I didn’t know it was an option before. I don’t have to ingest a pill but I can still get the relief I do. It’s easy and that’s great. Do you have any advice for women who may be experiencing some of the things you did? It’s so important to get the saliva test, and find out what your hormone levels are. Find out about getting the care that’s specifically for your situation, made personally for you, and you will feel better sooner. I think people need to be more aware of how to take care of themselves. Women need to be more wellness-focused rather than reactive in their medical care.
am Martin, a 55-year-old independent insurance agent, has a long history with hormone therapy. Fourteen years ago, Pam underwent a hysterectomy. From then on, hormone replacement has been a part of her life — and Pam knows from experience that personalized treatment makes a big difference. What symptoms or problems did you initially notice? I had a total hysterectomy. When that occurs, you have no hormones in your body whatsoever. I needed to do something, so I tried traditional methods at first, and I couldn’t tolerate them. They didn’t impact the symptoms I was experiencing, and I couldn’t sleep. I was still having night sweats and didn’t feel like myself. The word I used to describe it was ‘discombobulated.’ Why did you choose Precision Compounding? I was aware that they were doing the compounding treatments. I asked my pharmacist, Denise Orwick. I told her I would like to try compounding because the traditional methods weren’t helping my symptoms like I needed them to.
So Many Food Choices…
BY TRICIA HUSSUNG
It seems like a new food trend is popular every week. From juicing to detoxing to eating gluten-free, there are more options than ever, and it’s enough to make even the healthiest eater stressed and confused. Jennifer Elwell, the communications director for the Kentucky Corn Growers Association, knows all about the current debates in the food industry and is ready to set the record straight on whether we’re being too “crazy” about our food. The first problem may be that there’s too much information out there. “I think people hear, whether it’s on television or the internet or from friends, that there are a lot of problems with food safety, processed food, and all of that. There’s so much chatter that it mixes things up,” Elwell says. People tend to overgeneralize when they hear something new as well. “Some of the issue is that they’re getting information that they think applies to everybody and everything, like gluten sensitivity, for example. There is only a small percentage of people who have a serious problem with that; it’s not applicable to everyone,” she continues. One of the most popular recent food trends is buying locally. Elwell says that being able to buy directly from farmers is a great new development. “I definitely think that if the farmers are in the community and they’re providing this service to you, absolutely take advantage of it,” she says. However, it’s important to realize that it would be impossible to buy everything on your grocery list from a local farmer. “It’s very difficult to buy things such as oranges from Kentucky, and it’s
hree years ago, Amanda Gajdzik and her husband expanded their family-run farm to include an orchard. They created Mulberry Orchard, which offers a little bit of everything to visitors. “We have a market where we sell the apples and peaches we raise, and we also have strawberries and tomatoes. We sell other local produce from Shelby County and the surrounding areas, including eggs, honey, beef, pork, and chicken. We have an agritourism site as well, a big kid’s play area, a corn maze, and hay rides to the pumpkin patch in the fall. What made you decide to open the orchard? We farm about 1,300 acres of row crops. Those are corn and soybeans, with burley tobacco and beef cows. We decided to plant the orchard so that we could expand into a niche market due to the unpredictability of the tobacco industry. It only takes up 12 of our acres, but we have 3,500 trees.
impossible to buy local coffee, so having an understanding of what you can and can’t buy locally is key,” Elwell explains. When it comes to organic foods, Elwell says they’re a good addition to your diet but she says eating completely organically isn’t such a big deal. “There is nothing wrong with wanting to eat organic produce, or meat and eggs, but those things are expensive. You shouldn’t be afraid to eat non-organic items either because, though there might be residue on some of the items, it really is miniscule,” she says. And no matter what kind of produce you’re eating, there’s one rule you should always follow: if you’re going to eat the skin, you should wash it, no matter what. “Organic or not, there are some food safety issues that can’t be controlled,” Elwell says. More than anything else, educating yourself on new issues in food is the best way to ensure you make the right choices. Elwell suggests talking to your health provider, visiting local farms, and getting information from both sides of nutritional debates. “I think a lot of the stress is removed if people really understand how food is produced and what their options are,” she says. So the number one way to stress less and get back to enjoying our food? For Elwell, knowledge is power. “We all want to have a food system in which we can choose the foods that we want to eat, depending on how they are grown and processed, but it’s important to actually understand what goes into those things,” she says. Ultimately, only you can decide what’s best for you and your family, and there’s no one right way to eat.
Grass-fed, Corn-fed, or Organic? People need to make a choice that fits them and their families, but they don’t need to be afraid of corn-fed beef versus grass-fed beef, for example. We sell both grass-fed and corn-fed hamburger. They have different tastes and come from different management styles, but it’s honestly just a preference. One is not “better” than the other. We’ve chosen to spray our trees with pesticides, and we have to explain why that is beneficial for the crops we get. We have to explain to people that organics are not always pesticide-free. People assume things like that. They think that because things are organic, they came from a small farm, but a lot of organic farms are large-scale because they have to be in order to afford the management style and certification. People want a pretty piece of fruit, and a lot of times it’s not pretty when you don’t spray to control pests and diseases. We don’t spray any more than we have to, and my family consumes everything that we raise. If I’m not comfortable feeding my family something, I’m not going to be comfortable selling it to customers. We’re very concerned with quality, and we’re taking care of the soil and trees the best way we know possible. Our trees are a 20-30 year investment, so we want to make the most of them.
BY TIFFANY WHITE AND ANITA OLDHAM PHOTOS: MELISSA DONALD STYLING: ERIN FUST HAIR AND MAKEUP BY AMBER MALOY, BLADES SALON & SPA
Watch out! Your body could be telling on you. You might not think your common gestures matter to others, but for someone with a discerning eye, you could be saying much more than you realize. We show you how to decode your own body language — and save face.
KARA DELOST, Digital Strategist, Power Creative
Her body language: Twirling hair What it really means: You may be stressed
Trend: Bold Jewel
Tones with metallic jewelry. At any age a bold jewel tone looks chic and trendy.
KARA IS WEARING: Gianni Bini dress, $ 99, available at Dillard’s, Mall St. Matthews
BODY TALK TERRI BLINCOE, Brand Development and Marketing at Churchill Downs
Her body language: The
partial arm cross
What it really means: You
may feel unsafe and be seeking protection. People who have this body language are unconsciously mimicking the secure feeling they experienced whenever their parent would hold their hand.
Trend: Small patterns
in bold colors. Keeping the classic shape of the dress, Terri was able to pull off this bold pattern on her petite frame.
TERRI IS WEARING: Vince Camuto dress, $128; Vince Camuto shoes, $139; Stony necklace, $ 34. All items available at Dillardâ€™s, Mall St. Matthews
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ALI TURNER, Social Media Analyst, The Social Hive at YUM! Brands KEVIN BARRETT, Assistant Vice President, BB&T Insurance Services
Her body language: Crossed arms
What it really means: You are
not agreeing with or open to anything this person is saying.
Trend: Leather. Leather
accessories and accents are being seen in all the stores. Mixing up textures is a great way to spice up your wardrobe!
ALI IS WEARING: Cremieux blouse, $ 89; skirt, $ 59; Calvin Klein shoes, $79; Stony necklace, $24; Stony bangles, $ 35, all available at Dillard’s, Mall St. Matthews
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BODY TALK KARA TAYLOR, Executive Producer, schmoop.it
Her body language: Fake smile What it really means: You don’t like the person you are smiling at, and you are eager to end the conversation.
KARA IS WEARING: Antonio Melani blouse, $119; Sanctuary jacket, $ 55; Kenneth Cole slacks, $ 55; Isala shoes, $ 89. All items available at Dillard’s, Mall St. Matthews
ALI IS WEARING: Collective Concepts blouse, $79; Cremieux blazer, $ 50; Joe’s Jeans, $169; Antonio Melani boots, $150. All items available at Dillard’s, Mall St. Matthews
Boots and Blazers. Riding boots paired with dark denim and a blazer is a great way to create a business casual look.
Black and White. This classic pairing is coming back around and will be showing up everywhere!
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Healing Outside The Box
It may sound crazy, but it works. BY MEGAN SECKMAN
omen are natural healers. Through food, massage, song, patience, and compassion, we continually heal our children, lovers, and friends with wisdom and grace. But when we get sick, we tend to fit into our hectic schedules some Band-Aid treatment from a convenient immediate care clinic or a box of pills. In Louisville, however, there are women healers who offer alternative treatments to what ails us. Rachel Busse, M.D., for instance, uses homeopathy in her integrative family practice at Norton Community Medical Associates and refers patients for Reiki, acupuncture, and craniosacral treatments. “I feel like my job is to explain a person’s medical diagnosis to them, brainstorm approaches, and help get them connected to the appropriate sources,” Busse says. “I also believe my job is to help someone realize what they already know on a deeper level about their own health and well-being.” Health care can be simultaneously simple and overwhelming. In an effort to step outside the healing box and explain some seemingly enigmatic therapies your health might benefit from, meet a few women healers around town and their alternative approaches to healing. PAGE 46
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Aromatherapy The term “aromatherapy” can be seen on everything from your shampoo to your dryer sheets. But Christine Mikel, aromatherapist at Holistic Health (1622 Story Ave.), says not all smells are created equal. Essentially, aromatherapy is a 6,000-year-old alternative healing practice that uses plant-based, highly concentrated oils (i.e., one drop of rose oil equals 50 roses) that are easily absorbed through the olfactory system or the skin. “Fragrance oils and synthetic oils don’t provide the healing benefits of plant-based oils,” Mikel says. “When we extract plant oils, we are taking the most essential evolutionary part of the plant; something that has allowed the plant to survive throughout history. Plant medicine should be your first go-to when an imbalance shows up. If the illness doesn’t arrest, then go to heavier interventions — but start with an oil.” Aromatherapy claims to treat skin irritations, rejuvenate fatigue, and aid in sleeping. It has calming, anti-inflammatory, and anti-fungal/bacterial/viral properties; promotes fertility, hormone balance, and memory; and is used to treat lymphatic and digestive issues, allergies, and migraines. Mikel says aromatherapy works through the limbic system — the body’s fight-orflight response system — and is Craniosacral Therapy almost primal. Because plant oils Craniosacral therapy (CST) is a newer treatment that are easily absorbed through the allows the body to heal itself after being freed from blockages. nose, they reach the blood-brain The practitioner examines the patient’s body through barrier quickly and provide palpation, or therapeutic touch, and discovers restrictions in almost instantaneous results. the body caused by old emotional or physical trauma such as “Most people are aware of the sports injuries, neck injuries, falls, or birth complications. emotional connection to the CST patients have found it to be effective in relieving sense of smell we have,” she pain, stress, tension, migraines, fatigue, emotional says. “I always think of my dad difficulties, autism, allergies, jaw pain, scoliosis, when I smell motor oil, and I sleeplessness, and restless leg syndrome. It is also claimed to feel nostalgic. With smell, we bolster resistance to disease. instantly know what we like or “The main benefit of CST is that it can relax and what repels us.” reboot the nervous system,” says local trained craniosacral Mikel also says children practitioner Mary Welp. “So in the time of sleepless nights respond well to aromatherapy and stressful days, this therapy naturally and gently calms and tend to enjoy participating your body enough to reset the nerves. As with your computer, in their own treatment. “They sometimes shutting down and rebooting can self-correct an get to make it, have an opinion overused and over-extended nervous system.” about what they like to smell,
Reiki (pronounced RAY-key) is an ancient Japanese Buddhist healing art that uses Ki (or Chi in Chinese, as you might have heard), the energy present in all living things, to heal. In essence, when our Ki is low or blocked, we are vulnerable to illness or emotional imbalance. Katrina Morris, Karuna Reiki master teacher and RN, explains that a Reiki healer transfers healing energy through her hands. “It feels like heat or vibration, causing profound relaxation, pain relief, and healing on a deeper level,” Morris says. “Anyone can learn. You can treat yourself. And the energy never depletes or causes harm.” Healing on a deeper level, she says? “Here’s an example: a breast cancer patient felt overwhelmed by her chemotherapy treatment, and after a Reiki session, she felt empowered to make and accept her health care decisions,” Morris says. Reiki claims to promote balance, well-being, and the ability to focus; re-energizes chronic fatigue; alleviates stress, anxiety, and depression; reduces pain and side effects; and speeds recovery. Morris also suggests that conventional Western treatments benefit when combined with alternative therapies such as Reiki (an approach known as integrative medicine), and many nurses are now adding “Reiki master” to their professional profiles. Morris, along with local nurses and The American Holistic Nurses Association (AHNA), has been working with Norton Women’s and Children’s Hospital to provide Reiki, healing touch, and other holistic approaches in the hospital setting. Since 2009, AHNA has provided Reiki to nurses during their breaks to “heal the healer” and counteract compassion fatigue and burnout. Norton has also integrated Reiki into its computerized medical records as a pain management strategy. Next year, four beds will be dedicated to provide alternative therapies, and nurses will be able to order a Reiki treatment as part of a patient’s comprehensive healing protocol, following the belief that healing is a balance of body, mind, and spirit.
and get to apply and use freely,” she says. She does caution you to do your homework before treating yourself with aromatherapy: “Unlike most American tendencies, more is not more in the world of essential oils.”
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s g n i n e p p a H
what’s going on in the month of October. BY GIOIA PATTON
Mary Chapin Carpenter and Shawn Colvin
With hits like Passionate Kisses and He Thinks He’ll Keep Her, Mary Chapin Carpenter, (who, in October of 2012, was inducted into the Nashville Songwriters Hall of Fame), has sold over 13 million records, won five Grammy Awards, two Country Music Association awards and two Academy of Country Music awards for her vocals. Carpenter’s latest album, Ashes and Roses, (June 2012 release), features a special duet with James Taylor on the track Soul Companion. Shawn Colvin, whose hit singles include Sunny Came Home, and I Don’t Know Why, earned the first of three Grammy Awards. Colvin’s latest studio album, All Fall Down, features a group of stellar musicians, (i.e., Alison Krauss and Emmylou Harris,) and its June 2013 release coincided with the publication of her memoir, Diamond In The Rough.
WHEN ~ October 12 @8pm
Although she is only 21 years old, singer and actress Selena Gomez is already a worldwide, multi-platinum-selling artist, who’s sold more than 10 million singles in the U.S., along with three RIAAcertified top-ten debuting gold albums, and three #1 Billboard Dance Singles. With the release of Gomez’s fourth album Stars Dance, a few months ago (first single is Come & Get It), it quickly vaulted to #1 on Billboard’s 200 chart, making the former Disney star and Texas native the youngest solo female artist to make it to the top of the charts since her pal, Taylor Swift ranked #1 in 2010.
TICKETS ~ $35, $45, $60
WHERE ~ K FC Yum! Center
rown Theatre WHERE ~ B
entucky Center CONTACT ~ K
box office in person or 502.584.7777 or kentuckycenter.org
WHEN ~ October 23 @ 7pm 30.50-$66 TICKETS ~ $
CONTACT ~ K FC Yum! Center box
office in person, all Ticketmaster outlets or Ticketmaster.com
After 40+ years together, ZZ TOP, aka ‘That Little ‘Ol Band From Texas’ lay undisputed claim to being the longest running major rock band with original personnel intact. And in 2004, the Texas trio was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. Their smash hit singles include Gimme’ All Your Lovin’, Sharp Dressed Man, and Legs. Evidence of the band’s consistency and adaptability is found in La Futura, (released 9/11/12), their first studio album in nine years. Amongst the 10 new tracks is the widely lauded I Gotsta Get Paid, which has become both a video and in-concert sensation. WHEN ~ October 24 @ 8pm
orseshoe Southern WHERE ~ H
Indiana TICKETS ~ $50, $60, $75 CONTACT ~ 855.234.7469 or 702.777.2782 or horseshoeindiana.com
m Balé Florclórico da Bahia
The only professional folk dance company in Brazil was formed in 1988 and toured the United States for the first time in 1997. The 38-member troupe of dancers, musicians, and singers perform a highenergy repertory based on Bahian folk dance of African origin, including slave dances, capoeira (a form of martial arts), samba, and those that celebrate Carnival. Under the artistic direction of Jose Carlos Arandiba, the company has earned a prestigious international reputation. “A spectacular display of color, movement, music, and drama!” — Chicago Sun-Times WHEN ~ October 25 @ 8pm rown Theatre WHERE ~ B
TICKETS ~ Starting @ $25 alk up or drive-thru CONTACT ~ w
at Kentucky Center box office or 502.584.7777 or kentuckycenter.org
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BEFORE YOU BY ALISSA HICKS PHOTO BY MELISSA DONALD
Alyssa Paro, 28
JOB: Photographer LIVES IN: Southern Indiana
GO At age 27, Alyssa Paro was suddenly diagnosed with a rare and aggressive form of breast cancer known as Paget’s disease. Alyssa has since put on a brave face and took the bull by the horns, as she describes it, to get the message out to other young women and be a positive advocate for breast health.
Alyssa, a mother of two, owns her own photography business, Veritas Photography, alongside her husband, whom she met while playing a Jack-and-Jill softball game 10 years ago. “He literally knocked me down in the outfield trying to get the ball!” she says. Photography is a major highlight of Alyssa’s life. “The adrenaline rush makes me addicted to it. I also love editing — I spend way too much time doing it.”
Before I Go...
“I make sure I have a good song on! Music is one of my favorite things. The Beatles would be my number one pick.” BIGGEST FEAR? “Singing in front of people! After my uncle died, I realized life is short, so I decided to do the one thing that terrifies me most.”
Alyssa was diagnosed a little less than one year ago but has been in remission for three months. She manages a blog about her treatment updates (vivalacure.org). “I’ve always loved helping people. That is how Viva La Cure started — I wanted to be real about it and offer people advice. Once I heal, I want to turn it into a nonprofit.”
BEST ADVICE FOR WOMEN FACING BREAST CANCER: “To not be scared. You can’t be afraid of
it. The fear is what gets you down and depressed; you’ve got to stay positive and just give it to God.”
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