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Contents

About This Issue

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By Anita oldham

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Power

I am Today’s Woman

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By Lucy M. Pritchett Survival Skills: Starting Over

By Marie Bradby

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Vote: Most Admired Woman 2012

20 Things

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By ANITA OLDHAM

I’m a Snob

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By megan Seckman

Looking Back 20 Years

By ANITA OLDHAM

STYLE

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13 Inspirations

By Holly Gregor

Girl Scouts: A Grandmother’s Perspective 26

By Cathy Zion

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WELLNESS Light Bite: Mushroom-Barley Soup with Bourbon 30

By Melissa Donald

Controlling Allergies

By Cheryl StucK

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Ready to Change Your Life?

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When Life is Unpredictable…And it Always is! 40

BY CARRIE VITTITOE

Realizing Your Dreams

CONNECTIONS The Unpredictable Lynn Winter

By Gioia Patton

Girl Scout Supplement Click Here to open

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Today’s Woman

Volume 22 8 Number 3

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Celebrating 20 Years

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About This Issue

Be Unpredictable This Month

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uring this month of unpredictable weather, we are going to enjoy:

•U sing the Sherman Minton Bridge. Real estate on the northwest side of Louisville just went up.

•T he 2nd blooming of the daffodils. They started blooming in February, but I hope they have a chance to do it right in March.

•T he Girl Scouts 100th Birthday Party on March 12, 4-6pm at The Girl Scouts Center.

•C inderella dancing in the Louisville Ballet. This is the version written by choreographers Alun Jones and (2003 Most Admired Woman in the Arts category) Helen Starr.

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Surprise someone with your boldness* Laugh at something unexpected** Start a new habit***

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— Tiffany White

•W omen’s History Month: Raise your tea cup (or that Grande Latte) to the many women who have come before us and made our path easier.

* We could ask someone to do something crazy for the next cover… ** Maybe when your umbrella flips inside out in some crazy March rain/wind. *** Maybe a vision board like Abigail (page 44).

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CHRISTIE DUTTON ~ meteorologist for WAVE3 TV

AGE: 34 HOMETOWN: Nicholasville, Ky. Neighborhood: Plainview

by Lucy M. Pritchett / Photo: Melissa donald / Makeup: Holly Oyler

Weather wisdom:

I would love to fill the calendar with sunny days, but I am not afraid of getting caught in the rain. Life is filled with pain and pleasure, and I’ll take both, thank you.

Sunrise/sunset:

I get up at 2:30 a.m. I am at the studio from about 3 until 11.

I sleep in two shifts, from noon until 4 p.m., then again from 10:30 p.m. to 2:30 a.m.

Mild with a chance of clouds:

The best all-weather outfit for Louisville consists of jeans — can be worn winter and summer — and a T-shirt with a cardigan that can be put on or taken off.

Snowstorms:

Snow is the most difficult to predict accurately because the variables are so sensitive. It is also the weather I am most excited to predict.

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Chance of rain:

Saying goodbye makes me sad.

I recently lost (to illness) my 7-year-old cat, Tori. She was solid black; my sweet little girl. I have times of unbearable sadness, then a break, with a little peace.

The intervals of peace have been getting longer.

Smooth sailing:

I love vacations. If I could just live in a vacation…I am curious about what it is like in other countries.

I’ve been to Australia, Ireland, and England. I took a Caribbean cruise during hurricane season. Not recommended. There were four tropical storms, and I took lots of Dramamine.

Heat and high humidity:

I have an awesome hair stylist.

Her name is Stephanie Green with Hair Junkies. She cuts my hair and adds the low lights and highlights.

I straighten it in the morning.

I would follow her to the end of the world.

Cold with a chance of accumulation:

I love my Oak Tree Farms brown leather cowgirl boots. I ordered them online.

Blue skies:

What makes me happy?

Adrenaline, adventure, making other people happy, animals, dancing, live Bluegrass bands, girls’ night out, catching up with old friends, traveling to new places, snow skiing, hiking in the sunshine, laughing until I cry.

Thunderstorms:

Judgmental people make me angry. And I hate it when people pop their knuckles. Seeing that makes my hands hurt. I get frazzled just thinking about it.

I also have a fear of needles and spiders.

Farmers’ Almanac says:

There is a lot of truth in folk wisdom predictions. One of my favorites is “Ring around the moon, rain is coming soon.” The ‘ring’ is caused by light refracting through cirrus clouds, which are the wispy clouds that are highest in the atmosphere and are made of ice crystals. When the moon’s light shines through them, it is a sign of warm weather coming.

And a warm front often brings rain.

Five-day forecast:

Even though I predict the weather so others can be prepared, personally, I take the weather as it comes. And sometime suffer the consequences of it.

Pennies from heaven: With a hundred dollars, I would gather some friends and take them out to breakfast at Bob Evans.

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Survival Skills: Starting Over

Kathy Knotts

by Marie Bradby

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or decades, Kathy and her husband John Knotts thought they “had done everything right.” They owned a successful shoe business, and a beautiful home. They kept up with tuition bills for their four children and saved money for their future.

Rule #1: Ask God’s Help.

“I relied on my strength from God, that was number one. When I got up in the morning, I asked God for peace, strength, and wisdom. Those were the last three things that I said before I went to bed at night. The hard times are when you lean on God more than ever.”

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Kathy called on friends, including one who was an interior designer and enlisted her to help with decorating the new store. “It was a very overwhelming summer, and I couldn’t do it without my friends,” Kathy said.

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Then in April, 2011, after struggling through the worst recession in American history, they faced closing their 60-year-old family business due to a sharp decline in traffic at the malls. By August, they had to close two stores, lay off 10 employees, and start over in their 50’s.

Though they quickly opened a new shoe store, J. Carlton Shoes, in October in Westport Village, their lives have changed. They went from being nearly debt-free, to taking out loans to meet college and high-school tuition for three of their children and running their business and personal lives off retirement savings.

“If someone had told me that, at this point in our lives, this is what we would be doing...,” Kathy, 52, says, not finishing the sentence. “Sometimes it’s a good thing not to know what’s in your future. If I could have a crystal ball, would I want one? The answer is ‘no.’ Most people would answer, ‘yes.’ ” Kathy worked outside of the family business, first in public relations for Humana, until she left to rear four young children.

In 2007, she went back to work and became managing director of the Kentucky Show for the Kentucky Center for the Arts. Her husband managed the family business.

During the good years, “I felt so secure and so satisfied with what we had put aside for our future,” Kathy said. “I looked at that and I said, we’re doing okay. We’re going to be able to take care of ourselves. Now, I have re-evaluated that, and I’ve said, it might not be what I thought I would have, but I’m healthy and I’ve got my family, and that’s really what I need to concentrate on. And let it go.”

But the down-turn persisted. When their requests for rent relief were turned down in spring 2011, they had to take drastic action and found themselves considering bankruptcy and dipping into their IRAs. Due to leasing contracts, they couldn’t take any aspect of the old business with them — not even the store name, she said.

I’m not blaming anybody, I’m just saying it’s kind of a shocker. You pick up one day and you say, ‘Wow, my game’s changed,’ ” she says, finally laughing.

After meeting with attorneys, talking to other business people, and anyone else who would talk to her, Kathy and John decided not to declare bankruptcy and believed that they had a sound business that was worth starting over in a new location.

“When you are facing something hard, you have to tell yourself, ‘I can do this.’ Each day I got up and I said, ‘I’m tough and I can do this.’”

Kathy shares life lessons she’s learned from her business crisis:

Rule #3: Money is not security. “I’ve learned to let it go

and not worry about that part of my life any more. I could have no money, and I’m still a very blessed person.“

Rule #4: Get a game plan.

Things started to look up “once we started getting a game plan; started formulating next steps; talked to our lawyers about what can we do, what can we not do; and reality settled in — even though some of the game plan was not what we wanted.”

Rule #5: Educate yourself.

“Get as much information as possible from people who will sit down and talk to you because they have a world of information.”

Rule #6: Stay connected.

Go out with friends to the movies, have people over for pizza, just don’t pull inside and isolate yourself. “A good bottle of wine doesn’t hurt.”

Rule #7: Keep your guard up.

“There are times when I’ve let my guard down. There’s something I have to do for the store and I say, I’m glad that part’s over. Whew! Then two to three weeks later, I think, it’s not over. Now I’ve got to think about next month. You have to get yourself going again and again.

“You don’t have control and you think you do, and I guess that gives people (false) security. Thank God, we’re only in our 50s, and we have a chance to get back on our feet.”

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Arts

Community/Non-Profits

Health/Healthcare

❒ Jeaneen Barnhart

❒ Dr. Renée Campbell

❒ Becky Beanblossom

Artist

❒ Leslie Broecker

Broadway Across America

❒ Brenda Deemer B Deemer Art Gallery

❒ Paula Hale

Speed Art Museum Administrative Director

Who do you admire?

It’s your turn to vote for the most admired women in the Louisville/Southern Indiana area. These women were nominated for the 10th Today’s Woman Most Admired Woman Award by the editorial staff of Today’s Woman.

Vote for one person in each category. Vote online www.iamtodayswoman.com or fax or mail (postmarked

by March 22) your choices to Today’s Woman, 9750 Ormsby Station Road, Suite 307, Louisville, KY 40223. Fax: (502) 327-8861.

Deadline: March 22, NOON

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❒ Christine Harbeson Interfaith Community Council

❒ Dr. Sharmila Makhija

University of Louisville School of Medicine

❒ Mary Sullivan

❒ Vicki Sanders

Corporate

❒ D. Sheila Ward

Jewelry designer/gallery owner

Athletes/Fitness ❒ Carole Banda

Olympic Sports Medicine, UofL

❒ Dr. Kim Carpenter Awaken to Wellness

❒ Cheryl Hart

2nd Wind Motivation

❒ Mary D. Midkiff Women and Horses

❒ Joyce Seymour

Girls’ Louisville Invitational Basketball Tournament

❒ Letty Walter

BPW Hoosiers girls softball team

Ky Humane Society

Metro United Way

❒ Vicki Yates Brown Nucleus CEO

❒ Anne Byerlein

YUM Brands Chief People Office

❒ Jennifer Hughes

Deming Malone Livesay Ostroff, President

❒ Al yce French Johnson

TARC Assistant Executive Director

❒ Karen Lee

UPS Director of Airline Safety

❒ Trish Osborn

KY Market CEO, American Founders Bank

Beauty/Fashion

Education

❒ June Bale

❒ Deborah Bulleit

The Willow Tree

❒ Marilyn Cannon

Physicians Center for Beauty

❒ Tina Geary

Azure Skin and Wellness

❒ Elizabeth Jenkins Boutique Serendipity

❒ Susan Vogt ❒ Terri Waller Blink Boutique

❒ Jamie Estes

Email address:______________________

Family Scholar House

Kosair Children’s Medical CenterBrownsboro

❒ Robbie Moriarty

Address:_____________________________

Phone number: _____________________

❒ Cathe Dykstra

❒ Charlotte Ipsan

❒ Kathy Neuner

Business Owners

Zip:_________________________________

Ovarian Awareness

❒ Lori Redmon

Koi Gallery

Name:_______________________________

City, State, __________________________

❒ Jill Doimer

Home Instead Senior Care

❒ Delanor Manson

Rodes for Her

fax and online voting

Wesley House Community Services

Estes PR

IUS/Harrison Co. Literacy Program

❒ Claudia McCrocklin Langsford Center

❒ Elaine Salvo

Assumption High School

❒ Doris A. Tegart Bellarmine University

❒ Linda Van Houten Walden School

❒ Sara York

Westport and Southpark Teenage Parent Program (TAPP)

Food/Entertainment

❒ Sandra Frazier

❒ Claudia DeLatorre

❒ Holly Houston

❒ N ancy Haner Grantz

Tandem Communications

A. Holland Houston, Attorney

❒ Pat Koch Holiday World

❒ Camilla Schroeder Advance Ready Mix

❒ Patti Swope Swope Automotive

Cake Flour

Nancy’s Bagels

❒ Susan HershberG

Wiltshire Pantry/Wiltshire on Market

❒ Kye Hoehn Kye’s

❒ Joy Perrine

Equus and Jack’s Lounge

❒ Sandy Pike Home Cuisine

Clark Memorial Hospital

Babyology

University of Louisville Women’s Healthcare

Home/Home Style ❒ Claire Alagia Bittners

❒ Barbara Popp Schuler Bauer Real Estate Services

❒ Leslie Lewis-Sheets Leslie Lewis and Associates

❒ Diane Stege Eyedia

❒ Margy Taylor Clay & Cotton

❒ Joan Waddell Joan Waddell Interiors

Media ❒ Candyce Clifft WDRB-41

❒ Claudia Coffey WHAS-11

❒ Natasha Collins WLKY-32

❒ Mandy Connell 84WHAS Radio

❒ Angie Fenton

WHAS-11 Great Day Live/Voice Tribune

❒ Connie Leonard WAVE3

Political ❒ J ustice Lisabeth Abramson Kentucky Supreme Court

❒ J udge Denise Clayton

Kentucky Court of Appeals

❒ Sherry S. Conner Mayor Shively ❒ Ellen Hesen

Mayor Fischer Chief of Staff

❒ Shellie May

Chair of Jeff Co. Republican Party

❒ Carolyn Tandy

District Director for U.S. Rep. John Yarmuth

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Parrot Head Party!

The Undercover Parrot Head Party, complete with sand will be held at the heated River Front Garage on Third Street from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. on March 3. Admission is $20 per person and includes live music

by Jimmy Buffet cover artist, Jim Dishman.

Parrot heads can enjoy cheeseburgers, $3 margaritas and $3 Coronas. Tickets are available from the Galt House Hotel, 502.589.5200.

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// 500 Tea for Two

The Blue Hydrangea Tea is looking for 500 tea cups for their event to benefit Ovarian Awareness of Kentucky (OAK), a Louisvillebased group which educates about the subtle signs of the cancer. This year’s tea will be held April 22, from 1-5 p.m. Tea cups with saucers can be turned in at Baptist Hospital Northeast, 1025 New Moody Lane, La Grange, and at the OAK office, 4010 Dupont Circle, Suite 275 in Louisville. Questions: BlueHydrangeatea2012@gmail.com.

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“I tried these jeans that feel good and look good for a fraction of a normal price for jeans. Who says you have to spend a fortune on jeans?”

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Jordache jeans come in a wide variety of styles and colors. Available at Walmart or online at Jordache.com.

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Check Out His Wheels Is your date driving a flashy sports car, but you know he’s in the first job of his career?

Is he driving a more modest set of wheels, but you know he’s in a leadership position at work? The type of car he drives when taken into consideration with his career, can be an indicator of how he spends and budgets his money. It might also indicate that he turns to material objects for fulfillment.

“Remember, though, you’re not marrying the guy’s sports car, and you certainly don’t want to wind up in a situation where you’re paying for it if he can’t.” says Leslie Greenman, a financial advisor and author of Dating Our Money: A Women’s Guide to Confidence with Money & Men. She suggests that you don’t want to become emotionally involved with someone who doesn’t have the same approach to money as you do.

— Wendy Anguiano, Today’s Woman Fashion Stylist

Helping Find the Cure The Kentucky Chapter of Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation will host its annual Passport to the Bluegrass Gala — with dinner, live entertainment, casino, and auctions — on April 20, at the KFC Yum! Center.

Contact 502.485.9397.

Like Some Bourbon?

Did you even know there was a Bourbon Women’s Association?

Find out more at its Bourbon Women Take Flight event series.

The campaign, which is designed to promote interest in bourbon and engage members across the country, kicks off on March 29 at 6-9 pm. in Lexington, Ky. at the Be Medispa. www.bourbonwomen.org or 502.456.1851, ext.2.

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Held at The Olmstead: Register at www.leadershiplouisville.com

With the theme of “Moving from Pain to Power: (The) Help is on the Way,” this conference for women runs from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. on March 23-24 and includes a 6-8 p.m. dinner March 23 featuring former Washington Post columnist Donna Britt, who wrote Brothers (& Me): A Memoir of Loving and Giving. Register by March 17, contact LyShanna Cunningham at 502.852.2658 or l.cunningham@louisville.edu.

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Jacquie Yu Earle, the New York-based Willow Co. owner and jewelry designer, kicks off the series’ second season on March 14, as guest speaker at Kye’s from 8-10 a.m. For reservations: 812.945.0266, www.1si.org. ia dollenem ne por um resci ur sint

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Okay, so my computer hard drive crashed during the production of this issue. In the midst, I found some wise words from Bob Mueller, one of our regular columnists.

When you have a horrible day, there should definitely be a time and place to experience your feelings so that you can process them. It is important not to pretend that you are fine with things when you are not. It is also important, however, to notice when you are having a pity party. It is a good idea to set a time limit in which to fully express your emotions and not to feel guilty, be ashamed, or judge yourself. Having a friend or spouse witness you during this process can be helpful. You may also want to write about how you feel. When your time is up, let go of the negativity you just expressed. You can declare your intention to your companion. If you have written down your feelings, you can burn the piece of paper or throw it in the recycling bin.

Try not to dwell on unpleasant experiences. Do everything you can to avoid holding on to negative emotions. When you indulge in self-pity, you only make a bad day worse. Try to stop feeling sorry for yourself, release the notion that you are a victim, and notice the good that exists in your life.

— Bob Mueller

Bob Mueller is Assistant Vice President of Mission & Stewardship at Hosparus, the community hospices of Louisville, Southern Indiana, and Central Kentucky. Find Bob online at www.bobmueller.org.

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I bought a parachute!

Find out why in April’s issue.

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Eve*olutionize (v): 1: to transform, refashion, or alter; to become the woman you want to be.

2: to refuse to conform, to dare to take a risk.

We coined this word with our 20th Anniversary Celebration. Tell us how you have been Eve*olutionized in the past 20 years at Eve*olutionized@todayspublications.com and you may be featured in a future issue of Today’s Woman.

Currently Reading: Local author Susan Stirling’s book: The Silence of Mercy Bleu. Now available.

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My name is Megan Seckman and I am a snob.

There. I said it.

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’ve always thought of myself as, above all else, tolerant and open-minded — but I’m even a snob about that.

Otherwise, I wouldn’t have heard my children shout, “Red-neck!” from the back seat when the guy next to us threw a McDonald’s Big Gulp from his exhaust-spouting pickup. Yes, this term came from me. The shame. But that truck, with its NRA/NoBama/Confederate flag bumper sticker seemed so far below me — a mere fly on the windshield of my enlightened coach.

As the tolerant being I am, I also share disdain for those who let their cars idle, don’t recycle, eat fast-food, drink Mountain Dew, and live in the suburbs. I loathe those who stereotype Muslims or Mexicans, but admit that I carry stereotypes about Republicans and people who make way more money than I do. You see, I am the worst type of snob: the self-righteous snob.

The self-righteous snob that I am is, first, a food-snob. I buy organic and local. Spirulina and quinoa occupy my pantry, and I know how to use them. No one ever asks me how I lost my baby weight because they don’t want to hear me preach on whole foods and the sin of corporate fast-food greed. I can quote passages from The Omnivore’s Dilemma, and my children think Happy Meals are “evil” and “not real food.”

I am also a snob about buying second-hand. If someone compliments my outfit, I spit the ridiculous price and consignment store back in their face like a big, “Take that, Sucker!” Buying second-hand is actually a cover for my insatiable addiction to fashion, but it helps me sleep at night knowing I got a bargain. I justify that buying used is better for the environment, even if my jeans were still made by a 7-year-old girl in Bangladesh. Anyone that wastes money on designer clothes is, in my eyes, an insensible pawn (unless we’re talking about designer boots and that is a perfectly reasonable splurge). So, I guess I am also a hypocritical, self-righteous snob.

Finally, I’m a snob about location. My finger is on the pulse of the city everyday ­— at work and home. The city surges art and creativity, the raw is often exposed. I catch myself judging my colleagues and their suburban lives as less cultured, cloaked in an ignorance to the “real world,” and ultimately less cool. I say this because I grew up in the suburbs. Like many snobberies, this one was developed from my past and how I want to escape it.

I teach English, therefore I am a grammar snob. A book snob. Those who aren’t concerned with the aforementioned irk me. I like to tell people I don’t have cable — I read instead of watching TV. I value creativity above monetary success and if I weren’t a snob about that, I’d be depressed.

I’m A Snob About… will be an ongoing column.

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1991 — 2011

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oday’s Woman magazine’s goal from the beginning was to become a friend to the women of Louisville and Southern Indiana. Our mission has been to Inspire, Inform, and Encourage Women. We have heard many stories from women who have told us how Today’s Woman has affected their lives. Here are three who have recently shared their stories.

Inspired: Michelle Sorricelli “I started picking up your magazine about 12 years ago when I opened my first business. It inspired me, and I have watched you grow into a very impressive magazine for women. My partner, Marla Posey (owner of Louisville Java), and I are the only two women in the male-dominated corporate coffee business, and (the magazine) continues to inspire us. Thank you for giving us Louisville Gals something we can talk about.”

Then Michelle Sorricelli met another woman who had been changed by Today’s Woman: “...It’s amazing because I know the magazine changed my life and I hear about others, and I just can’t help but share with you what you ladies are doing...it’s not just a magazine…it’s us...all of us…different parts of us all making us one Today’s Woman!!!!!” She introduced us to Barbara Thompson (read about her below).

Congratulations on 20 Years

Informed: Barbara Thompson Barbara Thompson was in the waiting room of a hospital while her mother had surgery in January 2000. She read about 78-year-old Ingrid Wingren who was still competing in ballroom competitions. “At that time I did not know that Today’s Woman was a local magazine, so I was quite surprised when I learned Ms. Wingren was from Louisville. I was even more surprised to see that she was taking lessons at a studio near where I was living.”

Barbara set up her first lesson at Blair’s Ballroom in Lyndon. “I never stopped dancing from that moment on. I went on to perform with some local studios, competed on the Country Western circuit for three years.” She is now teaching all kinds of dancing, including group classes at the VFW in Middletown two nights and private lessons in Bardstown.

“My whole journey started with Today’s Woman and from that moment on, I have never been the same.”

Encouraged: Catherine Sullivan “Just a note to thank you for a great magazine. I look forward to every issue. Your magazine has been with me from the first issue. Through other women’s stories, I found the courage to get through 17 years of widowhood. I remember an issue many years ago that told of getting through the holidays alone. What great timing for me.

“I learned how to start a business in 1993 and not be afraid with an I-can-do-this attitude. Just as the other women before me had done and shared their stories. They provided the much needed encouragement for me.

“I learned that life alone wasn’t necessary. I read the stories of women who learned how to date. What a scary thought that was. I realized I needed to let go of the past and a beautiful future would find me.”

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Inspirations

By Holly Gregor / photos by Melissa donald

Interior Designer

Dru Adams

ru Adams is a force of nature! She greets me at the door, introduces D herself, steps back so I can come in,

and starts talking. “I’m not into the social thing, and I don’t get The Voice,” she says by way of introduction. A whirlwind of energy, she takes me into her kitchen that’s open to a room with a very long farm table and 12 black Windsor chairs. That room is open to the TV/family room. It’s all very Ralph Lauren: very cozy, very rustic, very casual. I sit at the end of the enormous table that she had custom-made.

Meanwhile, she makes us coffee.

The table is a dead give away.

Nobody has a table like this who doesn’t love their family and want to spend time with them. The table says everything about Dru. It’s chic yet rustic, it’s homey, and she can cook while her family visits with her. It’s so her! Even better is the view. The table looks out onto a patio that she and her husband, Wesley, laid the stones for, surrounded by her gardens and a beautiful lawn for the children to play on.

Dru doesn’t miss a beat…she is animated, funny, and full of fire. I ask about the 13 things that inspire her, but she starts with her dislikes, “I hate trendy things. It’s all the wow! right now. I don’t like that.” She also isn’t fond of anything Victorian or Baroque. As we start going over her list of 13 things, I look around and see that each item she mentions is displayed in her house. So, suffice it to say, if it’s in her house she loves it, and she put it there for a reason.

As for her family: Morgan, 16, Carson Ann, 14, Price, 12, her husband of 19 years, Wesley, and her rescue animals: three dogs and three cats. She is passionate about them and loves spending time at home. Her house is a working house. It’s all there to support her family and the varying cast of animals.

Dru loves to cook, so when she remodeled the house (which is her childhood home) she designed an open kitchen/dining room.

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This is the kind of house that has a lot going on and if the action isn’t coming from the kids, cats, or dogs, then it’s from Dru. Although I didn’t meet Wesley, she says he is “my voice of reason, the calm in my storm.” Dru admittedly says she can get a little hysterical and he “talks me off the ledge.”

Being quite capable with a big personality, Dru approaches both her business and family with a direct, humorous demeanor. While I ask her questions, she directs Melissa, the photographer, “Make me look like Heidi Klum.

I saw her doing a thing on TV about children with cancer. She’s a good girl.”

Dru has a definite style. I ask about the lamps scattered around the room. She takes old iron farm equipment parts and has them wired to make a lamp and puts a cool shade on it.

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13 Things That Inspire Dru: 1. Texture. Wallpaper doesn’t have to be a print. A texture is just as nice. For instance, I love grasscloth wallpaper. 2. McKinney-Hall prints. These prints are the only remaining record of American Indian chiefs from the 1800s. The original paintings were destroyed in the 1865 fire at the S-made furniture, with a purpose. (Besides, I want people to come in, sit down, and put their beer down.) 3. American Folk Art George Washington painting. Don’t you love George? He’s so handsome.

However, my son says, “Mom, he’s so creepy,” referring to the unusual way George is depicted in the painting above the sofa in the den. 4. Native Americans.

I love their drums, the jackets they beaded. Oh my gosh, the way we treated them! We were awful! 5. Feathers. My kids and I collect feathers. I love trees.

It all connects! 6. Hearts. I love love! 7. Ralph Lauren. Ralph is tried and true.

Not anything trendy, very classic. He has custom tepees for his guests to stay in.

Are you kidding me? 8. Art. My favorite artist is my daughter, Carson Ann. She’s got this incredible raw talent. I’m always amazed at how good she is, and she’s getting better. 9. My children, Morgan, Carson Ann, and Price. Morgan (nickname Munch), has a great sense of humor and loves school. Carson Ann, she’s my artist, and Price lives and breathes baseball. 10. Rescue dogs. We are all animal lovers. I’m all about the rescue. We have three dogs and three cats.

11. My garden. I really should be on a farm somewhere, not farming, just gardening with my rescue dogs. 12. Ina Garten, the Barefoot Contessa. Her food is very classic.

I have yet to make anything of hers that people didn’t rave about. Her shortbread cookie recipe has four sticks of butter in it! Now, that will put some junk in your trunk.

13. Unusual lamps. She takes old farm equipment and converts the parts to unique lamps.

Voila! Fabulous. Just like her, the lamps are strong, sturdy, with a quirky edge.

As we sit for awhile in the TV room Dru says, “I love to go to the beach.” Not surprisingly, she follows this with, “I hate Destin! I hate the trendy places. Every corner is a Kmart. I don’t want to go to Michael’s when I’m on vacation! I like being out in the boondocks.” So, her choice for a beach vacation is outside Beaufort, South Carolina. “It’s where they filmed The Big Chill. I love South Carolina. It’s so beautiful.”

As we continue wandering from room to room, looking at all the wonderful designs, fabrics, paintings, lamps, and accessories, I am enjoying her great sense of humor and hysterical stories about her children and husband. One of the last things I comment on are the great black and white charcoal drawings of her children that her best friend gave her for a birthday/Christmas gift. “Aren’t they great! If I see one more oil painting of someone’s child in a smocked dress I am going to throw up!”

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by Cathy Zion, Publisher

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ike those former Girl Scouts who are featured in this month’s special Girl Scouts Supplement (starting on the next page), I was also a Girl Scout. I actually started out as a Brownie when living in Michigan and was able to join a troop when we moved to Kentucky. As a 10-year-old, it gave me a wonderful group of new friends in a new, unfamiliar environment.

I remember building campfires, making crafts, taking trips to Spring Mill State Park, and working together to accomplish a project. Oh, yes… and I did sell and consume my fair share of Girl Scout cookies at 50 cents a box.

Aren’t Girl Scout Cookies the first thing most people associate with Girl Scouts? However, Girl Scouts is so much more, particularly when it comes to building girls’ leadership skills.

Did you know?

• That Girl Scouts is a national leader in conducting research about girls including how boys and girls define leadership differently, how their hopes and fears impact their experiences, and how these factors vary by age, race, and gender. http://www.girlscouts.org/research/publications/ girlleadership/change_it_up.asp • That the Girls Scout Research Institute has studied trends for girls in areas from violence to volunteering, substance abuse to sports, sexual activity to physical activity. http://www.girlscouts.org/research/facts_ findings/ I’ve enjoyed watching my 12-year-old granddaughter evolve as she’s encountered challenges and opportunities made available to her through scouting. She’s learned about foreign countries and their cultures and has camped without access to “modern conveniences.” She’s become

by Erin Stoltz more self-confident and Being a Girl Scout means a lot to me. I first comfortable with who she is started Girl Scouts in Daisies and have been which is SO important for girls. doing it since. Now I’m 12 years old, and I am a I’m thankful Girls Scouts Cadette. There is a lot to do in Girl Scouts like was there for me at a critical meeting new people and trying new things. time in my life. I’m even more I love being in Girl Scouts because I get to thankful they’re here for my hang with my friends and try new stuff within granddaughter and other every Girl Scout meeting. Some of the new young girls in today’s crazy things I have done are fishing and creek world. Congratulations on walking. I’ve even done some charity work for 100 years of giving girls the the Humane Society. A few of my Girl Scout confidence to lead.

Her Granddaughter’s Perspective

members and I got together and collected almost four-hundred towels. Later we donated them to the Humane Society and LVSES. We also made some rope toys for the dogs at the Humane Society and that’s not even everything we have done, those are just some of the really fun things I remember doing in Girl Scouts. If I had the opportunity to go back in time and not do Girl Scouts, I wouldn’t do it. I love being in Girl Scouts and I hope everyone else that is a Girl Scout enjoys it, too.

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LIGHT BITE

Mushroom-Barley Soup with Bourbon

Story, Food Styling, and Photography By Melissa Donald

INGREDIENTS

½ c dry, uncooked pearl barley 1 tsp butter 1¾ c water 1 tsp Kosher salt (3) 8-oz containers of your favorite mushrooms (Baby Bellas, White, and Shitake) 1 Tbsp olive oil 1 large yellow onion — chopped 3 medium size carrots — chopped 3 medium size cloves garlic — chopped 2 large stalks of celery — chopped ¼ cup your favorite bourbon 4 cups vegetable broth 2 cups water 1½ tsp Kosher salt ½ tsp black pepper 1 tsp thyme ½ tsp oregano 1 /8 tsp sage In a colander, rinse the pearl barley and set aside. In a medium pot, place the 1¾ c water, 1 tsp butter, and 1 tsp Kosher salt and bring to a boil. Place the rinsed barley in the pot and return to a boil, reduce heat to a simmer and cook uncovered for about 30 minutes or until all the water has been absorbed. Once done, set aside.

While the barley is cooking, in a large skillet, sauté the onion, carrots, garlic, and celery in olive oil on medium-low heat until the onions are translucent and start to caramelize — about 20 minutes. Stir occasionally.

Rinse all the mushrooms to remove any dirt.

Slice the Shitake mushrooms, and quarter the White and Baby Bella mushrooms. Place all mushrooms in a large pot and add one tablespoon of water. Place the lid on top of the pot and turn the heat on mediumhigh, and cook the mushrooms for about 1½ minutes. You should start to hear the mushrooms sizzle in the pot. Once you hear the mushrooms sizzle, pick up the pot and give it a shake. Return to the burner and let cook for another 1½ minutes. Turn the heat to low and add the broth and water.

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arch tends to be a tough month to find something new and different to cook that is still warm and hearty. Winter officially hangs on for a good portion of the month. Outside, cool temperatures along with rain, sleet, and snow are all possible. Inside, I am in the kitchen, busy creating a soup, a favorite dish of mine for a cold, rainy day. Soup tends to only go so far with some people when it comes to feeling full and satisfied. The barley in this soup adds an element of substance and fulfillment, while the mushrooms add a rich, earthy flavor. A great meal to serve on a cool winter/early spring night.

Once the sautéd vegetables are cooked, add the bourbon and turn the heat up to medium high and stir continuously until all the bourbon has been absorbed and there is no trace of liquid in the pan. Remove from heat and add to the large pot with the mushrooms.

Add the salt, pepper, thyme, oregano, and sage and let simmer on low for 10 minutes; add the cooked barley and let simmer for another 5 minutes before serving.

As a main dish, this serves about 6 people.

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Ah-choo! Sniff…Wheeze…

By Cheryl Stuck

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f you suffer from allergies, you’re not alone. In our Today’s Woman of Wellness survey, 76 percent responded that they suffer from allergies, and 40 percent indicated they use over-the-counter remedies to treat allergies.

Kentucky ranks as one of the hardest hit areas for allergy sufferers and last year, according to the Asthma and Allergy Foundation of America (AAFA), over 498,000 Kentuckians went to the extra trouble of waiting in line at the pharmacy and showing identification to purchase medications containing pseudoephedrine to help control their congestion. The ingredient is monitored due to its use in making methamphetamines (meth), an illegal and highly addictive drug. In the future, it is possible that a prescription will be required to obtain the drugs containing the ingredient. Just a few years ago, they were available off the shelf.

In a letter to the Kentucky General Assembly, the AAFA points out that “Meth abuse is a serious health and law enforcement issue, but it simply does not make sense to punish legitimate patients with unnecessary and costly trips to the doctor’s office.”

From our survey responses, it seems that a combination of treatments for allergies is common. Prescription medications, allergy shots, avoiding the allergen, and a variety of natural remedies were mentioned as effective methods.

If you suffer from sinus problems due to allergies, Mark Corbett, M.D. at Allergy Care, and former chair of the board of Allergy and Immunology, said it’s reasonable to try one of the over-the-counter remedies first. But if you don’t get excellent control with that, or if you have to take it for a long period of time, say, a month or two at a time, then it’s time to see an allergist and determine what it is you’re allergic to. The allergist may have you continue on those medications or may try a nasal steroid medication or nasal antihistamine.

Dr. Corbett said that allergy shots are the only way to actually “cure” the problem of seasonal allergies. But for the patient who is trying to deal with them on their own, he advises beginning to take the antihistamine or nasal steroid spray before the season begins.

He also recommends using air conditioning instead of opening windows, and if you have been outside, take a shower and wash the pollens out of your hair. He also suggests bathing your animals more frequently.

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Advisory group members are: Margie Beeler • Susan Boddy • Christie Bollinger, RN • Sherrice Bond • Kim Broecker • Jennifer Brown • Linda Burry • Kimberly Carpenter, DC • Tamella Buss Cassis, MD • Holly Clark • Stacy Cohen, RN • Diane Collins, RN • Pat Cooke • Funmilayo Dixon • Laurie Duesing • Kelly Davis Fleenor • Tanya Franklin, MD • Julie Garrison, MBA • Carol Graham, MD • Dawn Hayden • Pam Hayden, RN • Mary Haynes • Gretchen Houchin • Mary Jennings • Alexis Karageorge, MD • Dee Jay Kelly • Tomiko Coates Kiefer • Diane Kissel • Kristi Jedlicki Levenhagen • Melissa Little • Sean Maguire, MD • Geri Manning • Lisa Mattingly • David McArthur • Anne McReynolds • Tara Morris • Maria Munoz • Tina Nuttall, MBA, FACHE • Denise Orwick, RPh • Betsy Paulley • Mae Pike • Leesa Richardson, MD • Ticonna Roberts • Cheryl Scanlon • Rhonda Sigler • Burke Stephens • Rebecca Terry, MD • Myrdin Thompson • Deborah Tuggle • Lannette VanderToll • Jessica Walker • Marine Walls • Janie Biagi Watts • Cenia L. Wedekind • Anthony Westmoreland, RPh • Cathi Wiley • Kathy Wilkinson • Debbie Williams • Allison Young, LMT

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Typically, the drainage from your runny nose is clear and thin.

How can you tell if you’re suffering from allergies or if you have a cold?

Adriana McCubbin, M.D. at Kentuckiana Allergy said the more common allergy symptoms are sneezing or itching of eyes, nose, or skin.

Typically, the drainage from your runny nose is clear and thin. With a regular cold, you can have clear drainage as well, but if you have color in your drainage, that’s an indication of a sinus infection or a cold. If you suffer from body aches or general fatigue and are just not feeling well, you probably have a cold. The exception would be if you aren’t sleeping well due to the congestion which could cause your fatigue.

A cough and sore throat can be caused from post-nasal drainage, but if it lingers throughout the day, you’re probably sick.

Prescription nasal sprays are the first line of treatment for allergic rhinitis (nasal allergies). Then antihistamines or decongestants. But Dr. McCubbin warns that “after a while, the effectiveness wears off and that’s when they end up in our office.”

Both doctors stipulated that pseudoephedrine should not be taken over a long period of time due to the possibility of issues with high blood pressure or cardiac problems, especially in older patients.

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Our Today’s Woman of Wellness Health advisory group talks about how they control their allergies.

“I have both food and environmental allergies. The best thing I did was choose one doctor and seek a consistent treatment plan. My allergist keeps my primary care physician informed. I feel better and get sick less often.

“At first, the drug costs were a little high. But my physician and I discussed it and worked together to find treatment options that worked and were affordable.”

Mary Jennings, Director of Marketing and Public Relations for Clark Memorial Hospital

“My allergies are seasonal. Taking a teaspoon of local honey helps. I try to remember to start doing this April 1 and October 1 before the symptoms hit.”

Kim Broecker, Public school teacher

“I am allergic to certain foods, certain metals on my skin, cat dander, pollen, and a multitude of other things. Allergy testing resulted in too many things for me to have just one serum. I needed two. After I started the regimen, we moved, and I had to start all over again. I quit the allergy shots and just try to avoid my allergens and take antihistamines and use skin creams as needed.

I have to occasionally take epinephrine and steroids due to airway swelling. That is a bit scary, but luckily, my reactions all come on slowly enough to get help.”

Deborah Tuggle, Clinical Nurse Specialist for Central Baptist Hospital

“When my allergies strike, I’ll have a headache for the whole day. That doesn’t allow me to work, study, or concentrate.

“Usually the Tylenol doesn’t work completely for my headache. The best remedy for me is decreasing my intake of carbohydrates and/or sugars.

I’m prone to allergies when I have been eating sugars.”

Maria Angelica Munoz, Physical educator

“It is difficult to get enough sleep when I cannot breathe through my nose.

Also, it is hard to be totally on top of my game when on antihistamines, because even the non-drowsy ones make me sleepy. Hepa filters and allergy shots twice a week have helped a lot.”

Burke Stephens, Administrator at Oaklawn

“Allergies make my life miserable at different times of the year. Usually, they occur when a big event is coming up and I need to look my best. That is hard to do when I’m all stuffed up with puffy eyes, and I feel like I’m talking in a tin can. Prescription medications help.

“For my food allergies, I usually try to stay away from those foods. For my sinus problems, sometimes (breathing the steam from) boiling hot water with a towel over my head seems to open me up a little. A good hot shower does the same thing.”

Dee Jay Kelly, Public educator for Harrods Creek Fire Department

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Ready to ChangeYour Life?

Weight Loss Challenge 2012 Written & Photographed by Melissa Donald

t has been one month and already our weight loss participants have collectively lost 29 lbs!

Ichallengers TRX, Zumba, running, strength training, and are all on the workout roster. One of our is already running six miles at a time! This group communicates with each other on a

regular basis for support, encouragement, and inspiration. Cheer them on and get inspired as well.

Food Provided by:

TRAINING by:

Food by Home Cuisine — Mae Pike www.homecuisineonline.com • 502.288.6363 Wallace Avenue in Louisville Home Cuisine is now providing dinners only for our weight-loss participants. Next month check out what we learned in our culinary session with Mae — exclusive to our weight-loss challengers. Mae will be giving advice on how to prepare low calorie, delicious, and easy-to-make meals. She will also share some of her recipes, as well as websites that offer low calorie recipes. All our participants have been enjoying Home Cuisine’s meals thus far, and are excited to learn some new meal ideas.

Kevin Shellman

Susan Jamison

Kevin is the fitness director of the Southwest Y, and has 15 years of experience as a group fitness instructor, and 5 years as a certified personal trainer.

This personal fitness trainer transitioned from being director of Marketing for a physicians group.

Susan’s transition into the field of health and fitness was due to a pre-diabetic diagnosis from her doctor.

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Anytime Fitness Floyds Knobs, IN

Matt Goodwin

Regina DeCaro

Matt graduated from UK with a degree in Kenesiology. He started his career leading group and one-on-one basic training sessions for persons with Multiple Sclerosis. He has been a certified personal trainer for three years, and is a Pro AM Boxer.

Regina is the manager of Wellness Services at Clark Memorial, and is an Advanced Health and Fitness Specialist.

She was a Respiratory Therapist who shifted her career focus on teaching prevention and wellness.

Louisville Athletic Center/ Westport Rd. Louisville

Lois A. Kratz Health and Wellness Center at Clark Memorial Hospital Jeffersonville, IN

Lindsay Rost — Client Invoice Management Intern Age: 23 • Current Weight: 170 lbs/Lost 13 lbs. • Height: 5’3” • Goal: 60 lbs • Trainer: Matt Goodwin with Louisville Athletic Club, Westport Rd. • www.louisvilleathleticclub.com/westport/ Lindsay’s first trainer took a new position but she really likes her new trainer’s (Matt Goodwin’s) workout style. Matt times Lindsay’s exercises with a stopwatch so she doesn’t have to pay attention to counting, but rather focus on doing the current exercise correctly. “I love abdominal work, as well as using free weights. Lunges and squats (especially when I have to jump) will be the death of me though! His regiment allows my metabolism to stay elevated even after the workout.” When not with her trainer, Lindsay runs and works out at LAC on her own.

Tina Blankenship — 10th Grade History Teacher Age: 36 • Current Weight: 180/Lost 5 lbs. • Height: 5’2” • Goal: 50 lbs • Trainer: Kevin Shellman with Southwest YMCA in Louisville • www.ymcalouisville.org/southwest/ Tina is up to running 6 miles! She is training for this year’s Mini and runs with two other people. “They help me along, which makes a difference! Everyone tells me that I will eventually like running, but I still don’t love to run. I know that it’s really good for me and it is a great calorie burner!” Tina’s training schedule has her running 5 days a week. When she is with her trainer Kevin, Tina is doing circuit training workouts, including a lot of mountain climbers, which she hates doing but knows that they are really good for her. She is also taking Zumba classes, which she really enjoys. “I love Zumba! It doesn’t even feel like I am working.” Tina is counting all her snack calories.

Melissa Cora — Stay-at-home Mother of Four; Nurse Age: 42 • Current Weight: 154 lbs/Lost 5 lbs. • Height: 5’3” • Goal: 30 lbs • Trainer: Susan Jamison — Anytime Fitness in Floyds Knobs, IN • 812.923.2438 “My kids have been little watchdogs. If I even attempt to eat anything other than what Home Cuisine provides for me, they will tell me I can’t because it is not on my meal plan. My 14-year-old son puts music on my iPod for me. When I get to the gym, I feel like Rocky, training for the next boxing match.” When working out on her own, Melissa is on the treadmill, elliptical, and rowing machines. She has also tried yoga: “I have a hard time slowing down that much.” She hates planks, which Susan Jamison, her trainer, has her doing. Check out what other exercises Melissa is doing on the next page.

Marcia Hampton — Hospital Scheduler Age: 59 • Current Weight: 173 lbs/Lost 6 lbs. • Height: 5’4” • Goal: 30+ lbs • Trainer: Regina DeCaro with Clark Memorial Fitness in Jeffersonville, Ind. • www.clarkmemorial.org/lois-a-kratz-health-and-wellness-center/

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“Zumba kicks my butt, but it’s a lot of fun!” Marcia is working out at The Lois A. Kratz Health and Wellness Center, which is part of Clark Memorial Hospital. Marcia’s trainer, Regina DeCaro calls her the incredible melting woman, because of the inches she has lost. “I really like the food. Good job, Home Cuisine!” Even when Marcia and her fiancé go out to dinner with friends she takes her Home Cuisine meal with her and explains what she is doing and asks them if they would please heat her meal. She says they always do so gladly. Read more about her workouts on the next page.

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o Gym: Anytime Fitness, Floyds Knobs / Trainer: Susan Jamison / Weight-loss participant: Melissa Cora For the past four years, Susan Jamison has been a personal trainer, helping others achieve their fitness goals. This was a career change for Susan after she was diagnosed prediabetic. Since that diagnosis, Susan started working out and dramatically changed her eating habits. She is now devoted to living a healthy lifestyle and helping others achieve the same goals. With a degree in bio pre-med and now several years of personal training experience, Susan not only knows the way the body operates and incorporates an effective workout regiment, but is also a trainer who can relate to her clients.

As a trainer, Susan likes using a variety of tools and exercises. First she is using the body as resistance. TRX is her favorite tool for body resistant exercises. TRX is a suspension training system that works the muscles, core, and increases metabolism and endurance.

Another tool Susan uses are the Battling Ropes, which are a great way to engage the core while strength training. Don’t let the appearance of these ropes fool you. Each one is 45 lbs!

Along with these, Susan has Melissa doing planks, push-ups, and a variety of exercises on the Bosu. On the days they are not working out together, Susan directs Melissa to a cardiovascular training program combining the rowing machine, elliptical, and treadmill to maximize the use of her large muscle groups and elevate her heart rate to a satisfactory training zone. As the weeks TRX Training. progress, Susan will change Melissa’s cardio training program to a higher intensity interval training technique. Yoga is also incorporated into the program to help Melissa’s body restore her muscles.

Susan strongly believes in keeping her clients off the scale for the first few weeks of training. Susan says that “weight loss can be very fickle, especially for women.

What I have noticed with Melissa is that her whole body is getting ‘closer to the bone.’

Soon the body will start to let go of all the stuff it doesn’t really need. It’s so exciting!” says Susan. “I’ve told Melissa that she is going to inspire every woman who reads her story — she inspires me by stepping out of her comfort zone to do something good for herself and be a healthy example for her family and friends.”

Contact Anytime Fitness or Trainer Susan Jamison at 812.923.2348 or www.anytimefitness.com/find-gym. Anytime fitness is just what this gym offers — open 24 hours a day 7 days a week.

Gym: The Lois A. Kratz Health and Wellness Center – Clark Memorial Hospital / Trainer: Regina DeCaro / Weight-loss participant: Marcia Hampton For 30 years, Regina has worked in the health care industry; the first 17 years she was a respiratory therapist. She was inspired to shift her career focus on teaching prevention and wellness. She is now manager of Clark Memorial’s Wellness Services and has been a personal trainer since 1998.

Marcia usually starts out her workouts warming up on the elliptical machine, then moves on to other machines and exercises as instructed.

Marcia has been utilizing the arm ergometer, new step, stationary bike, free weights, abdominal machine, and inner thigh machine. She also does ball and mat exercises focusing on core and strengthening exercises.

On of Marcia’s favorite activities is attending a Zumba dance/fitness class on Wednesday nights. As Marcia’s tolerance and endurance changes, Regina will be increasing the intensity of her workouts. This is to continue the weight loss, and help build strength and maintain flexibility. Regina says that “as we age our joints can become less tolerant of impact,” which is why it so important to incorporate cardiovascular training along with strength training in an exercise regiment.

On the days that Marcia is not working out with Regina, she walks several miles to maintain endurance. This is how Marcia started loosing weight on her own, by walking and watching what she ate.

Along with the fitness portion of the center, there is a wellness component as well. Marcia met with dietician Anna Smith about foods she can eat to supplement what she has lost by working out.

The Lois A. Kratz Health and Wellness Center is located in Jeffersonville, Ind. Contact 812.283.2600, www.clarkmemorial.org/lois-a-kratz-health-andwellness-center.

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When Life is

Unpredictable (And It Always Is!)

by Carrie Vittitoe / PHOTOS BY MELISSA DONALD

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e all know that when life hands us lemons, we are supposed to make lemonade. That is easier said than done, especially if one hasn’t a juicer and only a quarter cup of sugar in the pantry. Eventually, most people find they are able to adjust to life’s challenges and find a silver lining, but that process often comes with a great many tears and temper tantrums.

Spousal job changes and the cross-country moves that often accompany them are one of the many unpredictable life events that have thrown more than one woman for a loop.

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Shelby Herrera and her husband, Carlos, had settled in Delaware, where they built a home and had their second daughter. Within a week of closing on their home, Carlos was recruited for a job in Louisville at General Electric. Shelby says she and Carlos, “went back and forth for two weeks, before I grudgingly gave in and he interviewed with GE.” For five months, Shelby remained in Delaware with two young children trying to sell their home during one of the worst winters the state had ever experienced, while Carlos moved into a Louisville hotel and began his new job.

Adjusting to these changes was difficult, but Shelby’s outlook improved immensely due to the unexpected kindness of a stranger. Shelby remembers, “The first time I went to the grocery store in Kentucky, I was hugged by someone at the deli counter and welcomed to Louisville! I knew it was going to be okay then.” Since the move in 2005, the family has added three more children to their brood and live in a closeknit neighborhood.

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A Job Loss

Peggy spends some of her time volunteering at the Ronald McDonald house.

Peggy Lutes was blindsided by her dismissal from an organization for which she loved working. In her 60s, Peggy was concerned about finances, health insurance, and the fragile state of her ego. She says, “I had never applied for a job that I did not get and had never been let go from a job, so it took a long time to get over that.”

Although there are things she misses about working full-time, such as the day-to-day connections with other people’s lives, she now looks at being let go as one of the best things that ever happened to her. She was able to spend time with her husband, who had also been let go from his job and was having a difficult time adjusting to being retired. She spent time with her elderly mother and her grandchildren.

She refocused her energies on her female friendships.

Most importantly, she realized things about herself, such as how much she really values praise from seeing a job completed from start to finish. Over time, she has gained a greater acceptance of herself as a vibrant, healthy woman who can adjust to life without glowing employment reviews.

Since many of life’s unexpected curve balls involve the loss of something, such as a much-loved home or career, people often experience the stages of grief just as they would with the death of a loved one.

Mary-Kate Poling, president/CEO of Brooklawn, says, “Dealing with a loss is very individualized, and people experience that loss differently.” Life’s unpredictable nature forces people to move out of their comfort zones and deal with the unknown, which can cause great sadness and anxiety. Poling suggests that making lists of both the positive and negative aspects of a life change can be helpful as one processes the experience.

Women tend to cope differently than men. Poling says, “Men move through the stages of loss much faster than women because they are more factual and less emotional.” She says women are the ones who often get stuck in the stages and feel bogged down by their sad and anxious feelings.

A Diagnosis of a Chronic Illness Nicole Aghaaliandastjerdi could have allowed sadness and disillusionment to get the best of her when she was diagnosed with lupus at the age of 28. While she was relieved to have an answer for her unexplained tiredness, limb numbness, and weight gain, she was also terrified to be the youngest patient in the rheumatologist’s office. As a litigation paralegal and a single parent to two pre-teen daughters, she wasn’t sure how her diagnosis would impact her life.

For awhile, she tried to remain emotionally tough. Nicole says, “I stuffed the bad emotions and pretended everything was fine and nothing had changed for months.” Eventually, she realized that she had to listen to her body and ask for support from family and friends. She says, “I’ve learned that there is no reward for being the toughest or going through difficulties without any help! God put us on earth with each other because we need each other.”

One of the unexpected benefits of her diagnosis was learning more about her family history. With most of her mother’s family deceased and her father’s family still in Iran, she didn’t know much about them.

Her lupus diagnosis caused her to take the time to sit with her mother and learn about her family and herself. Over the course of a few months she listened to her mother’s stories about her great-grandparents and extended family relations.

Nicole with her daughters, Aria and Asia Smith.

None of these women allowed themselves to wallow in their losses. Though they certainly experienced sadness and doubt, they took proactive steps to manage the stress of what life had thrown at them. Shelby Herrera joined a local support group for stay-at-home moms; Peggy Lutes called on longtime friends and family for support; Nicole Aghaaliandastjerdi has utilized prayer with her daughters as a means of finding solace.

These local women, and all of us who daily endure life’s unpredictable events, are a testament to M. Scott Peck’s assertion that, “Our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.”

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Realizing Your Dreams T

he season of adolescence brought me a racing mind with countless dreams, ideas, and plans for my future.

In middle school my dad asked me, “What do you want to be?” I promptly replied, “The boss.”

By 21, I had sought professional help for sexual abuse, drug and alcohol abuse (or “behavioral concerns” that just happened to be at an addiction center), depression, eating disorders, body image issues, and professional direction. Getting to the age of 21 was hard for me.

By 24, I was ready to run like hell from all forms of responsibility. I had driven around the perimeter of the country solo, looking for that magical, perfect coastal place to live.

Somehow, I pulled back into my parents’ driveway in Louisville listening to Take It to the Limit by the Eagles with tears rolling down my face, thinking…life is over. I had lived in New York City

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twice. I bought a cute house in Louisville. I landed and left a job. I had fun and well-educated, beautiful friends, and yet still — life felt like it was over.

The life I wanted seemed too hard, too far away, had too many steps to take to get there, and I wanted everything NOW! For a while, I fought harder, performed better, and life was a grand party; I was getting in the rhythm of how to be an adult, dedicated to my employer, paying bills, and smiling while doing it all.

My gut, spirit, and heart said something needed to change because there were too many options available to me to continue on my chosen path. It was time to start saying yes to things outside of my comfort zone. Three things that I said yes to: • Enroll in a personal and professional development seminar, • Watch a video about vision boards, and, • Make a vision board.

Abigail’s Vision Boards Set Her Path: Look for What I Want

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The Vision Board Today, I am in recovery, my God is my leader and guide, I own and operate Abigail Academy, LLC, and I love the woman I am and am evolving into.

My life is living proof of the power of thought and visualization. I created my first Vision Board in 2006 and you can see how these things went from Vision Board to real life:

1. F ounding my fun and rewarding business, Abigail Academy, LLC, coaching high school and college girls to improve self-esteem and gain confidence and direction with their lives.

2. Traveling to Alaska.

3. Being grounded, sexy, natural, and lovely as I am.

4. Being a season ticket holder to Actors Theatre of Louisville.

5. Becoming a national and regional partner with the Girl Scouts of America.

6. Practicing yoga on the beach with my college friends in Captiva Island.

7. Developing a working relationship with Today’s Woman magazine, serving the women of our community.

8. Being a certified woman and family coach.

9. Being a published co-author of Life is an Attitude; the Power of a Positive Attitude.

10. Having loving friends and family who are intentional, while embracing my life.

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My Personal Mission Statement While being patient and taking the necessary actions to allow and invite these manifestations, I held tight to the personal mission statement created on October 26, 2006 in the seminar I said yes to years ago. My mission statement is: •T o teach young women self-courage • Self-love • Art • Attract people to Louisville • Pass along wisdom to my children • Share intimate joy with my husband.

My affirmation was and still is: I am a healthy, rested, and focused woman.

This mission statement shows me that I am on my purposeful track and that I still have more to look forward to. That great man is going to come along to grow in this journey with me and hopefully we will have many little ones of our own. And I will forever get to help others with creating new visions for their lives.

My life is a vision of success because it fulfills my personal mission. I hold myself accountable to my values, dreams, spirit, and self. My spirit is my loudest guide. I share this with you because, one day, I needed to read something about someone else’s success story in order to get to where I am.

Your vision is yours, your talents are yours, and your life is exactly as you allow it to be.

Because, “what we see, mainly depends on what we look for.” — John Lubbock

I stopped looking for what I didn’t want, and started looking for what I did want. Life is good when you want the life you have.

This is part of our series on making your dreams come true and following some women through the process of realizing their dreams. This is the story of the leader of this process — Abigail Mueller.

Her affirmation is, “I am a healthy, rested, focused woman.”

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Please join Abigail and three fortunate ladies from our community as they learn how to create a new vision over the next several months on our Facebook Group, Today’s Woman Dreams.

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The UnPredictable Lynn Winter

“My dream always for this business is that Lynn’s Paradise Café would become more and more unique. That there would never be anything like it in the world!

The story behind the creation of Lynn’s Paradise Café

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Chapter I: “Do you know how to wait tables?” the frazzled waitress pleaded out of the blue to a 20-something Lynn Winter as the professional woodworker was eating lunch at the Homestyle Café in Fort Bragg, Calif. It was the 1980s and the restaurant was a daily lunch stop for Winter since she’d opened her woodworking shop in town a few months before.

“As a matter of fact, I do know how to wait tables, the friendly Kentucky native replied. One of my first jobs was waiting tables at a Lexington restaurant named Alfalfas…and I loved that job!”

“Great, take over…because I’m having a major asthma attack!” the relieved waitress hurriedly replied, simultaneously thrusting her order pad into the hands of a stunned Winter (whom she’d never met) and then fleeing from the scene.

“Soooo, I lunge up from the table…not knowing anything about this restaurant… which was jammed-packed with customers…and I start waiting tables,” an enthusiastic Winter, founder and owner of Lynn’s Paradise Café says rapidly, speaking by phone. “And by the end of the day, I’d had so much fun, I could hardly stand it. And, though it was very prestigious to be a woodworker, let alone a female woodworker, which was rare, I said to myself that day, ‘life is too damn short not to do what I love. And I’ll just waitress as a social outlet, in addition to continuing my woodworking business,’” she rationalized.

Winter had recently completed the highly-coveted seven-day-a-week, one-year program

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Chapter II: Winter’s next step toward becoming a restaurateur was “knowing somehow…psychically, that I had to get a job at Cafe Beaujolais, which was the most prestigious restaurant on California’s north coast. It was owned by Margaret Fox, who was one of the first people to start novelle cuisine,” she mentions. And without any further thought, Winter gave her two-week notice at Homestyle Café, with the intention of somehow finding a way to work at Café Beaujolais in Mendocino.

The odd thing was that the very same day Winter gave her notice, she got a phone call from Fox, who asked Winter to come in to interview for a job. “How on earth did you get my phone number?” a shocked Winter blurted out to Fox, whom she’d never met, to which an equally puzzled Fox replied ‘I don’t know!’

The first thing Margaret asked me during my interview was ‘can you name some wines?’ (Pauses) I swear to God I couldn’t name a single one,” Winter continues, laughing at the memory of that day. “Although I quickly added, ‘I want you to know up front that if you hire me, I eventually want my own restaurant, and you will never, ever find someone who will work as hard as I will.’

For the next four years an apparently inexhaustible Winter worked at Café Beaujolais seven days a week, punching in a time card for 40 hours as a waitress, followed by 40 hours working in the kitchen. “It was the best cooking experience I could have ever had,” she enthuses about that time period, which came to a close right after an in-person visit from her Kentucky-based parents. That visit began with her father’s announcement that he had prostate cancer.

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Chapter III: ‘We don’t know what your dream is’, Winter’s parents declared, ‘but we’ll back you (financially) in whatever you want to do, and hand over our retirement fund of $60,000 if you move back to Louisville.’

Winter reveals: “My parents owned a building supply business in Louisville and reasoned that they could help me better if I lived in the same city where they had a business. Although…I think my returning home was really so that they could keep me in line.”

On August 3, 1991, 29-year-old Lynn Winter opened Lynn’s Paradise Café on Frankfort Avenue in the Clifton neighborhood.

“One of my favorite descriptions about the restaurant so far,” the restaurateur says, “has been ‘it’s like Dolly Parton meets

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“Well…two years passed, and by that time, I realized that I did not love woodworking any longer, but rather, wanted to open my own restaurant instead,” she says, having revealed the fiction-like opening chapter behind how the professional woodworker eventually became restaurateur.

Salvador Dali!’” And when it came to creating her first menu, she recalls: “I had this West Coast wildness with my Southern roots, and I combined them. So we had traditional biscuits and gravy and made everything from scratch. And although now it doesn’t seem like a crazy thing, at the time I opened the restaurant, when I put black bean burritos on the menu, people didn’t even know what they were.”

As to how the restaurant got its name, Winter says: “It took me two years to come up with it, because I didn’t want to put my name on it.

But one day, I was on a run with my cousin in Santa Cruz, Ca., and when I looked to my right, I saw a sign that read ‘Travel to Paradise.’ And then it came to me — Lynn’s Paradise Café. And I couldn’t deny it,” she says with a sigh.

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Chapter IV: After two years in the Frankfort Avenue location Winter relocated her restaurant to its permanent location on Barrett Avenue, in the Highlands neighborhood. “I needed creative breathing room,” she explains, “like creating an eight-foot metal coffee pot with running soapy water in the front parking lot. And by moving locations, I went from 2,000-squarefeet to 4,400.”

Winter describes the vibe of her restaurant as “a moving art project. It’s performance art as well. It’s one gigantic canvas,” she continues. “I’m actually an innovator. I have the craziest mind I know. The thing is, I have a voracious mind and a voracious eye… and I’m always wanting to push the edge of everything I do,” which includes adding a whimsical gift shop named The World of Swirl in 2003. “Frankly, I think the reason the gift shop was popular from the beginning is because I used to have such a terrible waiting area with everyone cramped together. I used to give coffee away because I felt so sorry for everyone. But when Swirl opened, it was as though the heavens had opened, and everyone could sort of mill around the store and look at interesting things while waiting for their tables,” she explains.

“Ultimately, the store has been successful.”

“I think part of the magic of the success of Lynn’s is that it is ever evolving,” Winter muses. “And it’s never going to be done… and we’ll never know what to expect. I think ‘expect the unexpected’ is at the heart of what Lynn’s is,” she declares. “And that’s why, if there’s anything to my ‘talent’ (laughs), it’s more that I have an insatiable curiosity.”

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I conclude the interview by telling Winter that the expression ‘the sky’s the limit…and beyond!’ will probably come to mind from this point on whenever I think of her. Does she concur?

“Absolutely!” she enthuses. “I believe there’s nothing that we can’t do. I think it’s a matter of being open-minded and having a sense of humor, and being able to try…and fail.” In other words, she quips, “You just gotta flip the omelet and not worry about where it lands.”

Gioia Patton is an arts & entertainment celebrity profiler.

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Fix Your Flaws

By Tiffany White • Photos: Melissa Donald • makeup by holly oyler

Six steps to perfect lips You can have fuller lips without spending money on lip injections or lip plumpers that sting and injure lip tissue. Makeup artist Holly Oyler of Holly Oyler Cosmetics says creating the realistic illusion of fuller lips is all about connecting the dots. Holly begins by applying a lip primer to Betty’s lips to fill in fine lines and give her lips a smooth finish.

1. U sing a light taupe eye pencil, place eight dots on specific parts of the rim of the lips (shown below). Holly uses an eye pencil because it has less oil than a lip pencil therefore acting as a better barrier for defining your lips. The dots, says Holly, are used as a guide for applying the lipstick in a way that will make your lips look fuller but natural.

2. R e-dot the dots using a lip pencil that is one shade darker than your lipstick. Now you are ready to connect the dots.

Betty Zielinkski

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Here’s how it’s done:

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3. With your lip liner, beginning with dot A at the center of the bottom lip, create a line up to the bottom corner of the lip (dot B) on both sides. Holly says “your hand will naturally sweep up to the contour of the lip so that you are sweeping up rather than down.”

4. At dot C, create a line up and toward the bow of the lip, connecting to dot D. 5. Next, make a diagonal line from dot D to dot E on both sides to form an X. 6. Then apply your lipstick.

To make Betty’s lips look a bit larger, Holly applied the lip pencil over her lipstick. If you would prefer not to use the dot system, Holly suggests applying your lipstick first then outlining your lips with a lip pencil in a color that is one shade darker than the lipstick.

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