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Emily McCay — Diaper Fairy p12




BABY Adrian Minotti’s Anti-Wrinkle Secrets p8









WEDDING ADVICE from the Experts p22


Kim Buckler Danced Her Fears Away p10




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JULY 2015 / CONTENTS Volume 25 8 Number 7



ood friends have an uncanny knack to read your mind. They are loyal, trustworthy, and accept you despite your flaws. Your girls keep you going when life slows you down.

In this month’s issue, we’re celebrating the special friendships women share. We want you to use our Girl Time feature (p30) as your guide for finding creative and fun ways of making new instagram-worthy moments. You and your friend can treat yourselves to a nice massage at one the places listed in our pampering section (p35). If your circle of friends is bigger, book an overnight stay at a bed and breakfast or lavish hotel (p36). Take a look at our list of interactive activities for adventure seekers (p33). Also, don’t forget to make time for exercising together at our first Sweat and Sip on July 22 @ 6:30pm (p18). After your workout, we’ll reward you with wine and snacks at Over the 9. Register online at When you invest in your friendships, the positive outcome is greater than you can imagine. Let the celebration begin!

ON OUR COVER Haley Jordan, a junior at Indiana University Southeast, finds fun in the simple things like sitting on the back porch reading HGTV magazine or hiking through Cherokee and Tom Sawyer park with her friend Lily. For a different experience, Haley rides on her ripstik. “It is a small skateboard that is a little more interactive than a regular skateboard which makes it kind of challenging.” Haley says she learned how to ride this summer and practices daily.

PHOTO: Melissa Donald HAIR/MAKEUP: Denise Cardwell, Blades Salon & Spa HALEY IS WEARING: Sunglasses, $55 available at Nordstrom Rack 4600 Shelbyville Rd. 502.899.4940; Dress, $60, available at Express (The Paddock Shops) 502.339.8579; Vest, $33, available at Old Navy 4300 Town Center Drive, 502.425.1927; Necklace, $15, available at Versona Accessories (The Paddock Shops) 4220 Summit Plaza Dr, 502.339.4740; Bracelets, $23/ea. available at Express (The Paddock Shops). REPRINTS ARE AVAILABLE!

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Staging a Perfect Life by LUCY M. PRITCHETT / photos by MELISSA DONALD What Works: Adrian Minotti, 27, co-owner of The Southern Soiree, an event planning and staging company that specializes in antique and vintage rentals; freelance stylist NEIGHBORHOOD: Historic downtown New Albany, Indiana HOUSEHOLD: Husband, Stephen Minotti, two cats and two dogs


drian Minotti doesn’t worry about wrinkles on her clothes or her face with two of her favorite products. She manages to hold everything together with Zots. ZOTS These are little non-permanent glue dots that hold a poster on the wall, a candle in a candlestick, or folds of fabric together. They are easy to remove, and I have never found these to leave any kind of a mark. They come in different sizes and are an essential that I keep in my styling bag. You can find them at any craft store. ROSEHIP SEED OIL This is my antiwrinkle program. It is a light oil that I use every night before bed. I’ve seen that it diminishes fine lines and wrinkles and evens out my skin tone. I sometimes use it in the mornings, especially if I am going to be working indoors all day, as it keeps my skin from drying out. You can also use




it on your cuticles. I learned about it from one of my favorite blogs, Cupcakes and Cashmere. It is not expensive and is easy to find. DOWNY WRINKLE RELEASE SPRAY This is a great product. I am always running from event to event, so I carry it with me. It has that fresh Downy scent. I wear a lot of vintage clothing and spray any wrinkles and iron them with my hand, and it freshens the fabric and the wrinkles disappear. It can also take the place of starch on antique linens. My mom and I joke that we are the downstairs help at Downton Abbey as we are always ironing table linens for our events. TODAY’S WOMAN





KIM BUCKLER, 44, executive director of Oldham Kentucky Tourism and Conventions Neighborhood: Crestwood Household: Greg Hydes, boyfriend Blogs at: where she recounts her food travels around Kentucky




Sometimes a turning point shows up wearing a pair of sequined high-heeled shoes. “Put on your dancing shoes!” might not be a rallying cry for many, but for Kim Buckler, those song lyrics took her to new places — and we don’t just mean the dance floor. Kim grew up in a children’s home in Glendale, Kentucky, where dancing was not only frowned upon, it was forbidden. Even as an adult, Kim, who is now 44 years old, couldn’t bring herself to rebel against her strict upbringing. “I would go to dinner with girlfriends, and then we would go someplace that had dancing,” she says. “I would sit at the table watching everyone else dance while I watched my friends’ purses. I felt too self-conscious to get out on the floor, but when I got home and was alone, I danced myself to exhaustion.” After a four-year relationship ended, Kim discovered that although she was very competent in the workplace — she had an excellent work ethic and was successful on that level — she had no idea what appealed to her on a personal level. “I didn’t have any hobbies,” she says. “Everything I did revolved around that relationship. I sat down and made a list of things that I wanted to try. I liked to be outdoors. I loved music. I wanted to dance. I just made up my mind that I needed to get to know myself and face my fears. It was in December 2010, my birthday month, that I bought myself this pair of black, sequined shoes and made a vow I would dance in public. And I did. It was a Christmas party at the Galt House, and once I started, I didn’t stop dancing.” From then on, Kim faced other fears. Her fear of heights was dealt with when she went ziplining. She faced her fear of being alone and went out in a canoe on a lake for hours by herself. “I was taught to be independent and think for myself and be responsible, but I was never taught how to like myself or how to be by myself. It took that pair of dancing shoes to send me on my way to feeling comfortable in my own company.” TODAY’S WOMAN / / @todayswomannow




Survival Skills of Emily McCay I n 2005, when Emily McCay and her husband, Dr. David McCay, had their daughter, Charlotte, there was no question that Emily was going to use a cloth diaper service in St. Louis, Missouri, where they lived. She wanted to help reduce trash in landfills. “When you keep a kid in cloth diapers until they’re potty trained, you save one ton of landfill waste per child,” says Emily, a Louisville native. “A parent will change between 7,000 to 9,000 diapers.” You can use that many disposables, “or purchase or rent 50 cloth diapers that you reuse. If you look at what goes into landfills, the top three are food and beverage containers, newspapers and junk mail, and diapers.” Her idea for the Diaper Fairy, a cloth diaper delivery service, was born in 2009 after the family had moved back to Louisville. Emily met a pregnant woman at a neighborhood eatery in the Highlands and asked her if she was going to use cloth diapers. “‘I would,’ she said, ‘but I don’t want to do the cleaning.’ I told her she could use a diaper service, and she said, ‘There’s no service in Louisville.’” At the time, Emily had a well-paying corporate job selling vaccines for the pharmaceutical company Novartis. “But I knew this was an opportunity, and it was only going to grow,” she says. “I took three months to do a business plan, then three months to talk it up. I launched it in May 2010.” Though the cloth diaper segment reportedly comprises only 15 percent of the billion-dollar diaper industry, Emily has helped shape its growth. To keep her overhead low, she has always outsourced her laundering. “It was just me, my minivan, and my dining room table. I did the pickup, delivery, and sorting with five clients the first month, handling about 300 diapers. Now we have 20,000 diapers in our inventory.” Some customers sign up for full service, spending around the same amount of money or a little less than they would on disposables, Emily says. But other clients who buy her diapers and do their own laundering “can save up to $1,500 per child and can use them for another child or sell them to another family.” Also, Emily

Emily’s tips for surviving life with a new baby:

1. Limit or spread

out visitors. Playing host can be exhausting. Don’t be afraid to tell someone it’s not a good time. Accept someone’s offers to pick up a few essentials or bring you a meal. Give them time to hold the baby while you




nap, shower, or even enjoy your lunch.

2. Put your baby

in the stroller and take a daily walk. Regular exposure to outdoor light may help regulate your baby’s sleep patterns and make her slumber for longer stretches at night. Plus, exercise and sunlight can alleviate depression.

3.Find a new moms’ group. Talking with others can relieve the


says kids in cloth diapers have a much lower rate of diaper rash and potty train faster because they can tell when they are wet. In late 2013, Emily added the Diaper Fairy Cottage, a retail space located at 1811 Bardstown Road that carries items for babies and moms and has space for classes on parenting, including potty training classes to help families transition out of diapers. “It’s a terrible business plan for me,” Emily jokes. “After 18 months, I’m looking for new kiddos.” Last year she started giving herself a regular paycheck, reached a milestone of laundering a million diapers, and won the 2014 Greater Louisville Inc. “Best Greening and Sustainability Business.”

isolation that many new moms feel, even if it’s not your first baby. Finding a group, such as The Diaper Fairy Cottage’s Afterglow new mom support group, can help you navigate those first months.

4. Wear your baby.

You can walk around without a heavy car seat and be handsfree. The babies are happier and cry less because baby-wearing

(using a sling, wrap, or other soft carrier) helps you and your baby to communicate. Remember to get Dad in on that carrier action.

5. Trust your

instincts. Parenting books are great, but listen to your gut because every baby and parent is unique.

6. Let Dad find his

own way. Give him time and space to

connect with the new baby and hone his own skills.

7. Treat yourself.

With a new baby, you’re giving of yourself constantly, and that can really drain your emotional energy. Whether it’s a leisurely bath or a solo wander around a bookstore, doing even small things for yourself will refill your tank. TODAY’S WOMAN

Professional Connections


Networking and careerbuilding opportunities for women around town

NEW - Network of Entrepreneurial Women Every 2nd Wed. • 6-8pm Location varies. See for details.

Athena’s Sister Every 2nd & 4th Mon. • 6-8pm 1741 Frankfort Avenue Marlene Aldrich Perry 502.322.4135

The Heart Link Network Every 1st Wed. • 6:30pm Inverness at Hurstbourne Condos 1200 Club House Drive Barbara Madore 502.377.8625

BPW- Business and Professional Women- New Albany Every 3rd Mon. • 5:30pm Contact for info & reservation. Tuckers, 2441 State St. Nadine Wilkinson 502.523.1698

IAAP - International Association of Administrative ProfessionalsLouisville Every 2nd Thurs. • 6pm Location Varies – See website for details.

BPW- Business & Professional Women- River City Every 2nd Wed. • Noon Lunch and Program noon-1pm The Bristol-Downtown 614 West Main Street 502.499.4420,

League of Women Voters Every 3rd Mon. • 6pm Lang House, 115 S. Ewing Ave. Pat Murrell 502.895.5218

Southern Indiana Women’s Networking Group Every 3rd Wed. • 11:30am Holiday Inn-Lakeview 505 Marriott Drive, Clarksville

Legal Secretaries of Louisville Every 3rd Tues. • 11:30am Bristol Bar & Grille 614 West Main Street Angela Gibson 502.589.5980

Top Ladies of Distinction Inc. Every 2nd Fri. • 6:30pm Hotel Louisville, 120 W. Broadway, Suite 930 Mamie L Maxwell 502.767.4180

MLWPC - Metropolitan Louisville Women’s Political Caucus Every 4th Mon. • 5:30pm Olmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes 3701 Frankfort Avenue Sherry Conner 502.776.2051

WIN - Women in Networking Every 2nd Wed. • 11:15am Oxmoor Country Club 9000 Limehouse Lane Laura Ridge 502.491.7877

Bridge the Gap Professional Women Every 5th Sun. Heyburn Building 430 W. Muhammad Ali, Suite 24A Hazel Parrish, Chapter President 502.417.2566, Call to reserve. CBPW - Christian Business & Professional Women Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Sharilyn Unthank 502.417.5481 Distinctive Women, Entrepreneurial Women Making a Difference Every 1st Thurs • 6:30-8pm Email for meeting location Deleskia Butler 502.509.5521 EWI - Executive Women International- Kentuckiana Every 3rd Tues. • 5:30pm Contact for information & reservation Christy Smallwood 502.595.7157

presented by

NAWBO - National Association of Women Business Owners Every 3rd Tues.

Network Now Every 2nd Fri. • 11:30am Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Lee Ann Lyle 502.836.1422

[ Great Tip Networking Don’t worry about trying to ”work the room.“ Your goal should not be to meet as many people as possible. Focus instead on making a few meaningful connections. Short interactions with the goal of grabbing someone’s card and leaving aren’t memorable or benefcial. An engaging conversation with just a couple of new people will take you further.

WIN - Women in Networking V Every 2nd Thurs. • 11:30am Buca di Beppo 2051 S. Hurstbourne Parkway Lee Ann Lyle 502.836.1422 Women’s Business Center of KY funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA

WIN - Women in Networking II Every 3rd Wed. • 11:30am Tumbleweed - Stoneybrook Kim Fusting 502.267.7066

National Association of Women in Construction Every 2nd Mon. • 5:30pm Call for meeting location Patty Stewart 812.288.4208 #121

WIN- Women in Networking III Every 2nd Tues. • 11:30am Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Mary Elliott 502.931.2906

National Association of Women MBAs - Louisville Chapter Location & event vary. Details on website: louisville-kentucky *MBA not required for membership

WIN- Women in Networking IV Every 3rd Tues. • 11:30am Big Springs Country Club 5901 Dutchman’s Lane Meg Blackwell 502.641.9589

Every 1st Fri. Roundtable • 8:30am Location – TBA Sharron Johnson, 502.566.6076#104 center.html Women’s Council of Realtors Every 3rd Thurs. • 11:30am Big Spring Country Club 5901 Dutchmans lane Elizabeth Monarch 502.551.1286

ZONTA- Advancing The Status of Women Every 1st Thurs. • 6pm Logan’s Steakhouse 5005 Shelbyville Road Joyce Seymour 502.553.9241

Listings are on per month basis. To list your meeting for free, email your meeting date, time, location, contact info and website to or call 502.327.8855 ext. 14. Deadline for inclusion in next issue is 7/8.

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MaryBeth Bryant (left) and Melinda Leach


hen MaryBeth Bryant’s wedding coordinator dropped the ball on her big day, she made a resolution to do whatever she could to prevent future brides and grooms from suffering through the same chaos. She called up her wedding photographer, Melinda Leach, and together they started Louisville Belles Event Management. With weddings as their specialty, Melinda has taken on the role of logistics guru while MaryBeth has the eye for design. Their goal is to give brides a stress-free celebration, even if it means rescuing a groom who is being held hostage at a hotel by his parents (they swear that’s a true story). Melinda and MaryBeth say that the connection they make with their clients is one of the best aspects of their job. “Your wedding planner becomes your best friend throughout the whole process,” MaryBeth says. Their best advice for brides is to ask for help, hire a good photographer, and most importantly, enjoy your big day. It goes by fast.

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Finding Harmony in New Harmony

fruit, cereal, and a muffin, but other than that, I ate my meals at the small table on the porch and thought I would be quite content to spend the rest of my days there.

Time with Sketchbook New Harmony is home to visual artists of all stripes: potters, watercolorists, sculptors, weavers. There are three art galleries in the town and many impressive outdoor sculptures and gardens that just beg to be sketched, photographed, and contemplated. My cottage was filled with a nice selection of art, all painted or sketched by local artists. I carried my sketchbook with me and came away after a week with many renderings of places and people that I encountered. (The painting shown here is the watercolor of my cottage.)

Historic Interest

Artwork and story by LUCY M. PRITCHETT

I have often thought it would be splendid to spend a week alone in a small cottage somewhere. Perhaps by a lake or in the mountains or in a proper British village. I finally had an opportunity to rent a cottage last April and experience a bit of small town life in New Harmony, Indiana. I have been visiting New Harmony for many years and have often stayed at the inn there. In case you don’t know it, New Harmony is located about two hours west of Louisville just off I-64. It was founded in 1814 as a utopian community and has quite a lively arts scene along with a few historic buildings, gardens, outdoor sculptures, and two labyrinths. It lies on the Wabash River, has a small smattering of shops and galleries along its main street, and sports a population of about 900. What was I looking for during this weeklong retreat? First, a bit of peace and quiet away from my daily routine without the distractions of deadlines, household chores and errands, and a never-ending to-do list. Second, I wanted to spend time with my sketchbook and watercolors and knew that there were plenty of artful spots in the small town to explore. Third, I wanted a place that held a bit of historic interest. Here is what I found.




Peace and Quiet There is plenty of this in New Harmony. Even the town’s name offers up the idea of solitude and serenity. My cottage, the 1840s Guest House, was across from the town’s Roofless Church at the corner of North Street and West Street. It consisted of a living room with a fireplace, a desk and bookshelves tucked into a hallway, an adequate kitchen, a bedroom with a comfortable four-poster bed and a lilac bush blooming outside its window, and the smallest bathroom I have ever seen. The best part was that it had a screened-in porch on the side that overlooked gardens and a small gazebo. There were no other houses in view. I spent every morning and evening sitting on the porch watching the wasps try to get in to make my acquaintance (a few were successful, but I shooed them away). Here is where I did a bit of sketching, reading, staring into space. Every morning I walked the two short, shady blocks to the inn for a breakfast of

I admit to a curiosity about the past and how people lived. New Harmony has a great deal to satisfy that curiosity. There are restored 19th century buildings — a potter’s shop, log cabins and barns, an opera house, the old granary that is now a museum and meeting space, and the Working Men’s Institute, an imposing brick building built in the late 1800s that houses the town library. I spent a few hours there one morning looking through flower and garden books trying to identify the plants and posies blooming in the cottage’s garden. I was fortunate that during my stay the annual Heritage Artisan Days were held and the streets were filled with wellbehaved schoolchildren visiting from all over the state. The fair featured booths with artisans demonstrating crafts such as tin punching, paper marbling, redware pottery glazing, wood carving, and that wonderful paper cutting craft done with tiny, tiny scissors, Scherenschnitte. One day I rented a golf cart — the preferred mode of transportation — and toured the town at a stately speed of maybe 5 miles per hour. I enjoyed the architecture, the scents of flower gardens, and the friendly waves from pedestrians. I found my way down to the banks of the Wabash River and spent more than a couple of reflective moments there. I loved my time on this small community-centered retreat. It was a wonderful week full of many quiet adventures. It is good to acknowledge that fun doesn’t always have to come with a capital F. Slow and easy can be just as enjoyable. TODAY’S WOMAN / / @todayswomannow




Girlfriends = Best Therapy A

My Gaggles Girlfriends

Back (l-r) Joyce O’Neil, Cathy Zion, Sandra Hill; Front (l-r) Bonnie Dollinger, Sandi Metzger, Barbara Haga, Virginia Price.


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@TodaysWomanNow if you are at these events or other events we should let our readers know about.

h, girlfriends! Is there anything better than sharing memories and laughter — and maybe a glass of wine — with your girlfriends? These friendships become more special with each year as our hair turns a little grayer and we become a little wiser. My most “tenured” girlfriend is Sam (her real name is Sandy, but I’ve always called her Sam). She and I have been friends since we were 10 years old at Kennedy Elementary School. We went on to high school together, were roommates and sorority sisters throughout college at Murray State University, and were each other’s maid of honor in our weddings. Although she has lived most of her adult life elsewhere, we still connect whenever she’s in town like we’ve never been apart. My Kappa Delta sorority sisters became my family while in college. Over the past 10 years, I’ve attended several reunions, rekindling old friendships. Several of us have been organizing this year’s reunion, which will be held in Louisville later this month, with over 40 sisters uniting. I met several of my best buds through Business and Professional Women. I first joined the organization while in Cadiz, Kentucky, working my first job after graduating. This strong group of women took me under their wing and fostered my passion for women’s issues, becoming my mentors and advisers for years to come. I continued my involvement in BPW when I moved back to Louisville, where more friendships blossomed and have endured. Many of these women were my cheerleaders and supporters when I took over Today’s Woman magazine 19 years ago and shared my vision for its future. I have many close friends whom I’ve met at work. Among those are 10 women affectionately named the Gaggles by my husband (because when we’re together, we’re like cackling geese). We worked together 40-plus years ago, and when the first one of us left for another job, we vowed to meet monthly to keep in touch. And we have! We’ve always been there for each other to lend a shoulder to cry on or a cheer for the unexpected. We’ve been through births and deaths, illnesses and recoveries, marriages and divorces, heartbreaks and heartthrobs, new jobs and new hairstyles. For the past 15 years, we’ve vacationed for a week at Isle of Palms, South Carolina… no agenda, just walking the beach, dancing to oldies, sharing, and laughing. I heard recently that most men have few friends — not just guys they hang out with, but real friends they can confide in. How very sad. I think that must be a contributing factor for men having shorter life spans than women. Because what better therapy is there than a good friend who knows you well enough to tolerate your faults and loves you for who you are? Cathy Zion Publisher Today’s Woman


Come to the first Sweat and Sip on July 22 at 6:30pm hosted by Today’s Woman and Baptist Health/Milestone Wellness Center. The event will be held at Over the 9, 120 S. 10th St. (home of Old 502 Winery) and starts with one hour of exercise led by Jeffrey Howard and Annie Locke. This will be followed by wine and snacks. Cost: $20 ($25 at door if available). Limited space. Register at by July 15. 26




Have a Party! Fresh flowers, the evening summer breeze, a backyard ladies night, and tasty bites with a southern twist.

Artwork this page by LAUREN DAHL

We asked our readers if they wanted to host a party and we got lots of responses. After choosing potential party giver Barbara Haas, we had her consult with our party planner expert Lauren Dahl and foodie Paige Rhodes. LOCATION OF PARTY Patio ACTIVITIES Barbara will teach her guests how to play a card game called Rook. They also like channeling their inner child by playing the Velcro Toss and Catch Game to see who can catch the ball from the furthest distance. GUEST LIST Barbara will invite seven women from the neighborhood. She and her husband Richard say they’ve developed a close relationship with their neighbors and have parties together once every three months. But this time, Barbara wanted to plan something exclusively for the ladies that included wine as the main drink of choice.

1. Picnic Basket, Target. 2. “Diamond Daffodil” Fabric (to use as tablecloth), Lulie Wallace Online 3. Drink Dispenser, World Market 4. Plaid Plates, 5. Metal Bucket, Michael’s Craft Store 6. C asual Summer Cups, Target 7. Fresh Sunflowers, Sam’s Club 8. Chalkboard Menu, Hobby Lobby

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Party Recipes


Recipes and photos by Paige Rhodes,

Green Apple Martini Sangria Yields 8 servings

1 bottle of chardonnay 1/4 cup sugar 1 Granny Smith apple, cored and thinly sliced 1 cup apple juice 1/4 cup green apple vodka 12 ounces club soda 11/2 cups of frozen green grapes In a large pitcher combine the wine and sugar and stir vigorously until the sugar dissolves. Add the remaining ingredients, except the club soda and grapes, and mix well. Put the pitcher in the refrigerator and let the sangria sit for at least 1 hour, up to 4 hours. Just before serving, stir in the club soda and frozen grapes.

Apple Pie Pops Yields 24 Pops

1 box (two sheets) prepared refrigerated pie dough 1 tbsp freshly squeezed lemon juice 11/2 pounds of apples of your choosing 1/3 cup sugar 2 tbsp unsalted butter 1/8 tsp ground cinnamon pinch of ground nutmeg 1 egg white Peel, halve, and core the apples, before chopping them into a small dice. Toss the apples with the lemon juice. Add the sugar and toss to combine evenly. In a large skillet, melt the butter over medium-high heat. Add the apples, and cook, stirring, about 2 minutes. Cover, reduce heat to medium-low, and cook until the apples soften, about 5 minutes. Strain the apples in a colander over a medium bowl to catch all the juice. Shake the colander to get as much liquid as possible. Return the juices to the skillet, and simmer over medium heat until thickened and lightly caramelized, about 5 minutes. In a medium bowl, toss the apples with the reduced juice and spices. Set aside to cool completely.


Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F. Lightly dust your countertop with flour and place one sheet of pie dough on top. Using a small round cookie cutter, cut out as many rounds of dough as you can. Once you have used up most of the dough, you can roll it back out and keep going. Do the same with the other sheet of dough. Place first layer of dough rounds on a non-stick baking sheet, spaced about 2 inches apart. Push a lollipop stick on the middle of each round. Top with a rounded teaspoon of cooled filling, and place another round on top. Using the tines of a fork, gently press around the edges of the pop to close. Continue with all of the pie pops. Lightly brush the tops of the pies with egg wash. Bake in preheated oven for 12-15 minutes, until golden brown.




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elcome to a list of 65 ways to spend time with your friends — or even by yourself. (We have to be our own best friends sometimes.) Want to be arty? Go to the Artistic Endeavor section. Shopping is always fun — we even tell you where you can park in our Shopping Adventures. Just want a new experience? — check out the An Experience section. Get some green time in our Outdoor Excursions or get things done in Be Practical Together. Or if you need some extended time — retreat with the Overnight section, or just get away from it all with a spa visit in Get Pampered Together. Enjoy! 32








> WORK TOGETHER WITH FRIENDS solving clues and puzzles during an experience at Breakout Louisville (East End, 502.822.4596, Step into a live movie/video game for an hour to unlock clues, codes, safes, and locks in an escape room. Choose between The Kidnapping or The Museum Heist game and get the thrill of adventure-genre movies and games without real-life consequences like kidnapping. Groups are gathered into teams of seven or less and friendships are tested. > VOLUNTEER TO HELP THE POOR at St.Vincent de Paul (Downtown,

502.583.8158, Offer up a set of hands to serve a free lunch and dinner at the Open Hand Kitchen open every day of the year on S. Jackson St. Gather up a few girlfriends and turn a Saturday of shopping into a day of giving back.


Project (Hikes Point, 502.491.0072, Fill out an application to work in the garden every second Saturday of the month through November. You and your gals will help prepare beds, plant, mulch, weed, and the whole shabang.

Top, Gap $13, 4160 Summit Plaza Drive, 502.412.0235; Jeans, Modern Elegance $98, 3921 Chenoweth Square, 502.883.4721; Necklace, Modern Elegance, $64; Glasses. Modern Elegance, $62

Join Jeffrey Howard and Annie Locke at the first Sweat and Sip on July 22 at 6:30pm hosted by Today’s Woman and Baptist Health/Milestone Wellness Center. The event will be held at Over the 9, 120 S. 10th St. (home of Old 502 Winery) and starts with one hour of exercise followed by wine and snacks. Cost: $20 ($25 at door if available) Limited space. Register at by July 15.


(502.429.5070, cooking classes and demonstrations. If you have something specific in mind, suggest it to her for your class. Customers also can hire Mary to raid their kitchens and evaluate current food and cooking habits.

> TAKE A LOOK INSIDE HOMES around Louisville you might pass daily on a

Louisville Historic Homes Tour (Information center located in Central Park, 502.635.5244, Daily walking tours start at 11am, 1pm, and 7:30pm or set up a private tour for smaller groups. Peruse the Old Louisville neighborhood and step back in time through Victorian Gothic and Italianate homes to learn about a significant piece of Louisville history.


Taste Tour bus (Downtown, 502.457.8686, Treat yourself to samples of local chocolate wonders from Cellar Door Chocolates followed by a stop at the Old 502 Winery downtown. Cleanse your palette with a mix of the two themed treats with Old 502’s Chocolate Decadence dessert wine. Top off the night at Ghyslain on Market Street to indulge in artisan-crafted chocolate desserts. Customers are invited to bring their own music playlists, alcohol, and sweet tooth, of course.


(Jeffersontown, 502.909.3500, ) in Jeffersontown available every Friday night. Sometimes, girl time involves taking the kids along,

> GRAB YOUR ADRENALINE-SEEKING FRIENDS and test out the world’s only fully underground zip line course at Louisville Mega Cavern (South End, 502.855.6342, ). wA cavern under the city? It might sound crazy, but the zip courses include a dual racing zip and two challenge bridges testing your skill, balance, and possibly your friendship. > DRESS UP AND HIT ONE OF THE SUMMER GALAS to party for a good cause. Consider attending the 4th Annual PINK PROM on October 2, at The Gillespie ( to raise money to fight breast cancer; or Tuxes and Tails on August 15 at the Galt House (, 502.636.3491) for the Kentucky Humane Society. > PURCHASE A SEASON TICKET PACKAGE WITH

> GRAB 15 OF YOUR BEST FRIENDS AND HOP on The Thirsty Pedaler

(Downtown, 502.354.8822,, a mobile drinking station around Louisville. Choose two or three of your group’s favorite bars to hit up and pedal while cocktails are flowing the rest of the twohour tour. Create a custom music playlist to play on the bicycle to make the journey more memorable customized.

and that means doing something everyone will enjoy. Book a spot online and challenge your friends and children to a game of ultimate dodgeball or jump from trampoline to trampoline in the open jump room.

Break up the usual exercise routine by getting that extra mile walk or run in on the Big Four Bridge (

that is open 24 hours a day, connecting Louisville to Jeffersonville providing skyline views of downtown and illuminating the river and Waterfront Park at night with its colorful light display. Sunbathe on the Great Lawn before to catch summer rays. / / @todayswomannow

A FRIEND for Actors Theatre of Louisville (Downtown, 502.584.1205, Available in three package options, theatre tickets guarantee an event for you and a friend to meet every few months. Maybe grab a drink at the Jeff Ruby’s bar beforehand.


SCULPTURE at the Hidden Hill Nursery and Sculpture Garden. Described as “unusual,” Hidden Hill is a mini-arboretum in Utica, Indiana (812.282.0524,, eight miles from downtown Louisville. Hidden Hill mixes plants with artwork to create a multifaceted garden experience. > TAKE AN EDIBLE LANDSCAPE CLASS where you will learn how to incorporate edible plants into a garden and how to use them in the kitchen at Crestwood’s Yew Dell Botanical Gardens (502.241.4788,


TRAILS, ranging from advanced to casual hiker’s

level at Bernheim Arboretum and Research Forest (Clermont, Kentucky 502.955.8512, just a 20-minute drive south from Louisville. 2015




Make a plan to try out the best alfresco dining in town. Start with Decca restaurant (, 502.749.8128) or Garage Bar (, 502.749.7100)


> GET BEHIND-THE-SCENES ACCESS to some of the best food dishes in Louisville at a live Secrets of Louisville Chefs (502.583.1433, taping. Check out the next show on July 11 hosted in the Kitchen Studio at Bourbon Barrel Foods and learn a new dish or cocktail recipe to make just like the local pros. Tickets include a glass of champagne, meet-and-greet with chefs and the hosts, Tim Laird and Kevin Harned, followed by a tour of the facility. To top it all off, audience members get to sample all the chefs’ food.

 Indulge in wine tasting and a reserved table of appetizers and souvenir glasses for a girl’s day out wine tour at Huber’s Orchard, Winery & Vineyards (Starlight, Indiana, 812.923.9813, huberwinery. com). Breathe in the vineyard air on the patio and listen to live music on the weekends.


at scenic Cherokee Park (entrance off Lexington Road, Break up the monotony of the day by taking a quick walk around the Scenic Loop.


(502.584.0350, It’s the only water trail in Louisville to canoe and kayak with various access points to shorten or lengthen paddling time. Unfortunately, the park no longer provides paddlesport rentals, but supplies can be rented at River City Canoe and Kayak.


at Waterfront (the next one is July 29) on the Big Four Lawn at Waterfront Park ( 91.9 WFPK hosts Waterfront Wednesday, a free concert series under the Big Four Bridge the last Wednesday of the month until September. The event opens at 5pm with music starting at 6pm.

> ENJOY A CRISP, REFRESHING GLASS of sauvignon blanc or chardonnay made locally at Turtle Run Winery (Corydon, Indiana, 812.952.2650, Girlfriends can get a lay of the land by owner and winemaker Jim Pfeiffer and end the tour with a complimentary summer wine tasting. > ATTEND A THEMED SPECIAL EVENT HIGH TEA in one of three rooms at Sisters Tea Parlor & Boutique (Buckner, Kentucky, 502.222.6420, Get lost in the “Paris Pink Dining Room” or “Gigi’s Drawing Room” with an expansive list of teas matching the whimsical nature of the tea setting, like “Paris in a Teacup” or “Fairy Dust.” > GO OUT TO EAT WITH A PLAN — make a schedule of local restaurants to visit this month with friends using Become a Louisville Original Rewards Card member and receive points each time you dine at a Louisville Original restaurant.

 COOL DOWN AND IMAGINE AN ISLAND BREEZE with a coconut iced latte from > Sunergos Coffee. The original location on Preston Street (Downtown, 502.634.1243, is offering coffee classes. > GRAB A TABLE IN THE OUTDOOR COURTYARD and munch on a breakfast pizza at the Anchorage Cafe (Anchorage, 502.708.1880, Quench your thirst on a fresh-squeezed lemonade or a nutrient-packed green smoothie after a hike on the nearby Anchorage Trails. > PLAN A DINNER FILLED WITH FRESH ITALIAN DELICIOUSNESS COOKED BY A

PRO at your house by Chef Gina Stipo, My Italian Table (321.412.2011,

> KICK THE WEEKEND OFF EARLY AT OPEN BOTTLE NIGHT every Thursday at Westport Whiskey & Wine (East End, 502.708.1313, Enjoy whiskey and wine tastings from 6-8 pm.




WHAT TO WEAR Top, Old Navy $23, 4300 Town Center Drive, 502.425.1927; Pants, Modern Elegance $50, 3921 Chenoweth Square, 502.883.4721; Bag, Old Navy $25; Glasses, Sunglass Hut $200, 4290 Summit Plaza Summit Plaza Drive, 502.423.1589; Earrings, Modern Elegance $28


BE PRACTICAL TOGETHER > PURCHASE A Pure Barre class (East End, 502.749.2222, at Westport Village. This new exercise craze centers around a ballet bar, but no dance experience is required. Challenge your body for 55 minutes and encourage a friend to tag along to make the first class a little less intimidating. Instructors suggest customers bring water and a positive attitude, while all other equipment is provided.

 GET AN EARLY SATURDAY MORNING START at the Douglass > Loop Farmers Market (Highlands, 502.384.8953, Open every Saturday from 102pm in the Douglass Boulevard Christian Church parking lot, this market is packed with goods from several local farms, producers, and bakeries. Spend an hour or two with a friend after purchasing fresh food for the week and visit over a block of handmade cheese sold from Boone Creek Creamery. > SPRUCE UP YOUR CLOSET OR HOME AT CONSIGNMENT STORES across the city. Make your way up and down Frankfort Ave. in search of a unique outfit at Margaret’s Consignment & Collectibles or Sister Act Consignment or a vintage lamp at Candyjacks or Refine Design. After a day of shopping, spend those extra dollars you saved munching on a warm baguette down the street at Blue Dog Bakery. NEED A NEW FRIEND? ATTEND A Cliffdivers evening (502.649.4094, to learn with like-minded women. This organization’s mission statement is providing a forum for great conversation and provocative ideas that push members towards overcoming fear, thinking big, and pursuing a passionately conscious life.


WHAT TO WEAR Tee, Pure Barre $40, 4284 Summit Plaza Drive, 502.425.8300; Pants, Pure Barre $90; Glasses, Modern Elegance $62, 3921 Chenoweth Square, 502.883.4721


(St. Matthews, Springhurst, Relax and detox with their Lavender Garden aromatherapy, which reduces inflammation, calms your mind, and promotes better sleep. Or if you are feeling overly anxious, their Anxiety Release aromatherapy will take your mind to a better place with the fragrances of sage, orange, and hints of lavender. Once you have relaxed your cares away, whatever essential oil is left is yours to take home.


in Anchorage (502.245.6484, louisvilledayspa. com) is five straight hours of pampering, which includes an anti-aging facial, a 55-minute massage, body wrap or scrub, and lunch and champagne at the Anchorage Cafe.


PAMPERED TOGETHER > A RELAXING DAY can be found at A Breath of Serenity (St. Matthews. 502.614.8444, which offers a wide variety of massages for all lifestyles, including Swedish, sport, deep tissue, pregnancy, myofascial, and hot stone. Their goal is to reduce stress, boost immunity, minimize headaches, and more through massage therapy, so you and your girlfriends can enjoy whatever life throws at you. > CC

MediSpa (Jeffersonville, Indiana, 812.590.3800, cc-medispa. com) can help you detox with their bamboo massage. Have your stress rolled away with warmed organic bamboo rolled all over your body. You may feel like sushi, but the seaweed wrap is perfect for detoxing and relaxing your worries away. Activate your body’s natural healing process through Reiki — healing that restores your emotional and physical well-being.

the Chopping Block Day Spa & Salon (St. Matthews, 502.896.8498, Their Ultimate Spa Package includes a skin glow body buff, gourmet lunch from a local vendor such as the Cheddar Box, and a glass of champagne. After lunch enjoy a hot stone treatment, deep pore cleansing facial, and hot oil manicure with a trendy color like “Creekside” — a baby blue polish by CND Vinylux. Following the paint job is a paraffin wax treatment, a shampoo and style, and makeup application with Glo Minerals.


If you and your girlfriends are torn between a night in or a trip to the spa, Joseph’s Salon & Spa (St. Matthews, 502.897. 5369, will bring the spa to you! Plan an at-home spa party for you and your friends, complete with seated massages, aromatherapy, aroma minimassages, and more. All you have to do relax, sip some wine, and enjoy a quality evening with your gal pals.

for both Louisvillians and tourists alike. So combine it with a visit to its Xhale Salon-Spa (Downtown, 502.587.7644, This salon offers a true Louisville spa day for you and your girlfriends with their brown sugar bourbon pedicure and the aroma of gingersnap pecans.


Dress, Modern Elegance $118, 3921 Chenoweth Square, 502.883.4721; Hat, Modern Elegance $26; Necklace, H&M $6, 7900 Shelbyville Road, 855.466.7467; Shoes, Old Navy $25, 4300 Town Center Drive, 502.425.1927 / / @todayswomannow






Dress, Gap $18, 4160 Summit Plaza Drive, 502.412.0235; Shoes, Nordstrom Rack $50, 4600 Shelbyville Rd, 502.899.4940; Clutch, H&M $35, 7900 Shelbyville Road, 855.466.7467


the spirit of Kentucky. It wouldn’t be a trip to Bardstown without tasting drinks from the bourbon capital of the world. Before you go, book a room at The Bourbon Manor, a themed B&B, to rest your bourbon trail worn feet. Check the Bardstown-Nelson County Tourist Commission (502.348.4877, for a full itinerary.

of Southern Indiana lies a gambler’s paradise. French Lick Resort (888.936.9360,, located in French Lick, Indiana, houses a casino fit for any level of gambling. Paired with spa treatments, in-house live entertainment, and shopping, it’s the perfect all-in-one getaway girls trip. Treat yourself to the “Girlfriends Getaway” spa bundle which includes a classic facial, manicure, and pedicure.


at Harvest Moon Bed and Breakfast (Ferdinand, Indiana, 812.367.1881, Rise the next morning to a free family style breakfast and spend the day at a local attraction, including French Lick Resort and Casino or Monkey Hollow winery in St.Meinrad.


> SHOP, SPA, AND SLUMBER at The Inn at Irwin Gardens (Columbus,Indiana,

812.376.3663, Drive an hour north on I-65 and find your way to Columbus, Indiana — an architectural haven. For a one night stay, you and your friend can receive two tickets to either the City Architectural Tour or Miller House Architectural Tour. A two night stay gets you two tickets to both events. Unwind at their onsite spa, One Body One Soul Wellbeing Studio, where you and your friends also can treat yourselves to a calming foot soak and upper body massage. > SOLVE A MURDER IN SPRINGFIELD, KENTUCKY at Maple Hill Manor Bed &

Breakfast (Springfield,Kentucky, 800.886.7546, Once a plantation home, Maple Hill houses a wealth of history making it a haunting setting for a murder mystery party. Grab 8-20 of your girlfriends and test your clue-finding skills at a ladies themed murder mystery, like Bachelorettes and Bullets or Death by Chocolate. The night includes game, dinner, and accommodations for $40 per person based on 14 people in a party. The more the merrier.

Louisville and The Galt House (Downtown, 502.589.5200, are synonymous. Women and shopping are also synonymous. Book a Galt House shopping package and enjoy a shuttle service to and from the Outlet Shoppes of the Bluegrass in Simpsonville. Not only will women receive overnight accommodations the hotel is known for, but they will also receive a coupon book for the Outlet worth over $250 and a $25 gift certificate to use at any store at the Outlet. Spend a little, save a little, treat yourself.


> HOST A PRIVATE, AFTER-HOURS SHOPPING PARTY for you and your girlfriends at a local boutique. The Ladybug Gifts (9207 U.S. 42, Prospect, 502.384.4438, will host parties from 6:30-8:30pm for you and your friends, serving appetizers and wine while you browse the store and enjoy 20 percent off your purchases. Locations such as Crush Boutique, BLU Boutique, Rodes for Her, and Rodeo Drive also offer similar “night-out” shopping experiences. For full details, contact the stores or visit their websites. > BARDSTOWN ROAD (THOFL.COM) AND THE


Pink Door Boutique, Dot Fox, Acorn, General Eccentric, Urban Attic, Queen of Rags, Blush Boutique, Pitaya, Hey Tiger, Clay and Cotton, Caden Boutique — the list goes on! Not to mention restaurants as far as the eye can see, like Ramsi’s Cafe on the World, Highland Morning, Cafe Lou Lou, Dragon King’s Daughter, and El Taco Luchador. Parking on this road can be a bit of a challenge, and sometimes you have to take what you can find. If you’re up for walking, park on Baxter Avenue outside of Quill’s Coffee (930 Baxter Ave., 502.742-6129, quillscoffee. com), grab an iced latte and begin your shopping spree!

Fit in a quick visit to have a fruit and veggies facial at Zishi (Jeffersontown, 502.290.1532, before you meet your friends so you will look extra great and it will be a secret you will carry with your rejuvenated face all day or weekend long. 36



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> WITHIN ONE BUILDING Butchertown Market (1201 Story

Ave., 502.584.2841, holds four retail stores that meet all the requirements of a perfect girls’ outing. You’ll start at Work the Metal and browse through a collection of furniture, clothing, and accessories. Next door is Moss Hill Bath & Body to pick up some locally-made pampering products. Bourbon Barrel Foods houses gourmet foods that reflect Kentucky’s signature drink. Let your nose guide you to Cellar Door Chocolates for handcrafted, artisan chocolates. > MAIN STREET IN JEFFERSONVILLE IS AN UP-AND-COMING HOT SPOT FOR LOCAL EATERIES AND SHOPPING. Visit

Choices and J Designs and pick out jewelry to match the perfect outfit you found at Annie’s Corner Consignment. Then grab a bite at Adrienne & Co.’s Bakery Cafe (129 W Court Avenue, Jeffersonville, 812.282-2665, for a gourmet sandwich and some of the finest bakery treats Indiana has to offer. > START YOUR GIRLS’ DAY OUT IN DOWNTOWN NEW

ALBANY WITH A MANGO MIMOSA paired with a stack of

WHAT TO WEAR Dress, Nordstrom Rack $50, 4600 Shelbyville Rd, 502.899.4940; Shoes, Modern Elegance $89; 3921 Chenoweth Square, 502.883.4721

Head to “that building with the red penguins,” to discover that 21C Museum Hotels (Downtown, 502.217.6300,

has more to offer beyond the fluffy arctic birds. Sip on the “Late for Work” cocktail at the Proof Bar to celebrate the weekend while perusing the art spectacles in the museum.




lemon souffle pancakes from Toast on Market (141 E. Market St., New Albany). If you’re looking for a dress for all those summer weddings coming up, check out Dress and Dwell. For those with a more eclectic taste in fashion, Colokial has racks upon racks of unique clothing and accessories. Also be sure to hit Regalo, Opal Gypsys, and Mariposa Consignments during your New Albany spree. When you’ve finished shopping, stop by the Comfy Cow (109 E Market St, New Albany, 812.924.7197, for a scoop of local ice cream.

BE ARTISTIC Check out art at these other art galleries: • Edenside Gallery • Zephyr Gallery  • Swanson Reed Contemporary • FAF Gallery


FRIDAY OF THE MONTH as pop-up shops fill up the 1007 block

of E. Jefferson Street. Whether you’re looking for vintage clothing, handmade jewelry, refurbished furniture, a tasty treat or a bargain deal, Flea Off Market has it all! > TAKE A TOUR OF LOUISVILLE NEIGHBORHOODS SAN FRANCISCO

STYLE on the Frankfort Avenue Trolley Hop (fatfridayhop.

Or try the casual atmosphere where you can paint and sip spirits:

* PINOT’S PALETTE (St. Matthews,


> PARK OUTSIDE OF Please & Thank You (800 E. Market St.,

502.262.9006, and grab a delicious cup of coffee, as well as Louisville’s favorite chocolate chip cookie as you begin your Nulu shopping adventure. Take a stroll down Market Street and see what local Louisvillians have to offer. Check out Why Louisville? for eccentric Louisville knickknacks (and try not to be freaked out by the wax figure of Colonel Sanders) and Gifthorse for local gifts to send to far-away family and friends. If you’re doing some redecorating, stores like Rellek, Revolver, and Scout offer a wide variety of furniture, both new and refurbished. If you’re up for some antiquing, Joe Ley Antiques is four stories of treasures waiting to be found. Once you’ve worked up an appetite, Nulu is home to a slew of local eateries, such as the Garage Bar, Ghyslain on Market, the Mayan Cafe, and Harvest Restaurant.

Or instead of looking at art, create it! Grab your creative friends or even ones who aren’t and attend an artistic class. Try one at The Preston Arts Center (The Highlands, 502.454.9954, ) such as Anatomy for the Artist, Drawing Studio, Intro to Acrylics, or Susan T. Olliver Studio (Anchorage, 502.639.4957,

* UPTOWN ART (New Albany,


* WINE AND CANVAS OF LOUISVILLE (East End, 502.994.7130,



WHAT TO WEAR Top, Nordstrom Rack $82, 4600 Shelbyville Rd, 502.899.4940; Shorts, Old Navy $25, 4300 Town Center Drive, 502.425.1927; Glasses, Modern Elegance $62, 3921 Chenoweth Square, 502.883.4721; Shoes, Modern Elegance $89

org) the final Friday of each month. Explore dining, shopping, and entertainment in the Clifton, Crescent Hill, and Butchertown neighborhoods from 6:30-10pm. And if you can’t make the final Friday, the Downtown Trolley Hop ( rides on the first Friday of each month from 5-11pm.

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Friend or Foe:

Is Your Friendship Healthy or Harmful?


ood friendships are often a lifeline through a bad day. Our friends are who we vent to, laugh with, and celebrate with. These bonds are vital to living a healthy life, but not every friendship flourishes. Take the quiz and find out if your friendship is building you up or bringing you down.

1. Y ou and a co-worker had a disagreement at work. You call your friend to vent and she… a. Tells you to meet her at the nearest bar for a drink and a rant session. b. Listens to your story but quickly starts talking about her day. c. Doesn’t answer your call. She usually only answers if she needs you. 2. Y ou decide to cut your long hair into a trendy bob. You send your friend a picture, and she responds by… a. Gushing over your cute, new hairstyle and asking for the name of your stylist. b. Making a joke about going hat-shopping. c. Not being afraid to express her dislike for short hair. 3. Y ou’re making a major change in your life. You want to keep it a secret until plans are final, but you need to tell someone, so you… a. C all your friend — she would never gossip about you. b. Call your friend but tell her limited information. c. You’re not confident she will keep your secret. Just keep the plans to yourself. Your friend has proven that keeping a secret isn’t a skill she possesses.

4. I t’s time for a girls night out after a long week. You call your friend, who… a. Sets a time for the usual spot. b. Wants to make plans but argues about where to go. c. Says she will be there then cancels at the last minute. 5. Y ou want to host a dinner party, so you invite your friend and her family. She… a. Helps you make a menu and asks what she can bring. b. Likes the idea of a dinner party but wants to do it at her house since it’s bigger. c. Doesn’t show up, then calls hours later with an excuse. SOURCES: Megan Bartley, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist,, Debbie Lorence, Licensed Clinical Social Worker at Breckenridge Counseling Center and UofL School of Medicine’s Department of Pediatrics, Chief Social Worker for the Weisskopf Child Evaluation Center,,, 502.509.7079

Mostly A’s FRIENDS FOREVER Congratulations! You have a thriving friendship made up of long conversations and nights out. Having a healthy friendship can improve the quality of your life, so continue to keep the bond strong and widen your circle of friends. “Choose carefully the people you surround yourself with. The type of people you surround yourself with are going to reflect upon you and determine the type of energy you get from others,” says Megan Bartley, licensed marriage and family therapist. “Some key elements to having a healthy friendship are to be honest and supportive of one another. Also, be open to hear what the other person needs and be able to say you’re sorry.” Mostly B’s FRIENDS FAUX-EVER Your friendship may be close to expiring if it continues to grow stale. “A true friend is someone who accepts you as you are — faults and all — and would never knowingly cause you harm or pain,” says Debbie Lorence, licensed clinical social worker at Breckenridge Counseling Center and chief social worker for the Weisskopf Child Evaluation Center. “A primary factor in a healthy friendship relates to the ability to effectively communicate. When there are disagreements, which there will be, those in healthy relationships commit themselves to working together in an effort to resolve the issue.” Mostly C’s FRENEMY Your friend seems to be wavering behind enemy lines. What once might have been a close bond has turned into a battle for respect. “A friendship gone bad leaves you feeling drained, rejected, and joyless,” says Debbie Lorence. “You may find yourself becoming exhausted trying to maintain the relationship. It is important to thoughtfully consider whether to bail on the friendship altogether or repair the damage. To repair, trace the path that your friendship has taken and determine the place where things started to go south. Accept responsibility for anything you may have done and attempt to openly communicate.” TODAY’S WOMAN / / @todayswomannow




Best Bite Looking for a great spot to meet up with your girlfriends for lunch? Check out Manny & Merle downtown on Whiskey Row. Select menu items from their Pick Two lunch special section. These these two popular menu items paired for a filling and delicious lunch: the Green Chili Pork Taco and the half Kentucky Kale Salad. Text and photograph by MELISSA DONALD

Manny & Merle LOCATION:

122 W. Main Street Louisville, KY 502.290.8888 HOURS:

Tuesday-Thursday, 11am-11pm Friday, 11am-1am Saturday, 4pm-1am Closed: Sunday and Monday

Restaurant open two hours prior to events at the Yum Center on Saturdays, Sundays, and Mondays. LIVE MUSIC:




Wednesday evenings: Open Mic Night Thursday-Saturday evenings: Hired Bands

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pril 1977 — A little boy clad in blue pajamas scurries down the sidewalk of Village Pines subdivision in New Albany, Indiana, followed closely by his older sister. Sandy Gilbert watches with amusement from the house across the street. The children belong to a couple who recently moved to the neighborhood, but Gilbert’s shyness keeps her from going over and introducing herself. A few days later, Rita Stites — the children’s mother — sees Gilbert working in the yard. Excited to have another young couple across the street, she goes up to Gilbert and introduces herself. The two click immediately. Every morning they stand in their front doorways, looking at each other from across the way, each holding a cup of coffee as they talk on the phone, waiting to send their kids off to school. After nearly 40 years of friendship, Gilbert, 63, and Stites, 68, remain as close as ever. Their relationship has withstood births, adoptions, empty nests, and health issues, all of which only strengthened their bond. For women, friendships are an integral part of life, no matter the phase. Some come and go with time, like a pair of shoes one simply outgrows. A few special friendships last a lifetime, the friendships that survive every curveball life throws — marriage, moving, divorce, births, deaths, and beyond. But what makes these relationships so strong that they withstand these highs and lows?

Laughter and Encouragement Forty years and countless cups of coffee later, Stites now waits for Gilbert to join her in retirement. The two friends look forward to the adventures ahead and in the meantime laugh about adventures of the past — both good and bad. “We carried each other’s burdens. We laughed at each other’s silliness,” Stites says. “Through thick and thin, we knew we could call on the other if we needed to. And sometimes it was really through ‘thick.’” Stites remembers the time Gilbert’s back went out. Stites was trying to get Gilbert to the emergency room and Gilbert, completely bent over at a right angle, refused to be wheeled in on a wheelchair, believing it would be embarrassing. “So here she is, completely in pain, and cannot straighten up — but we’re laughing!” Stites says. “And this is the thing. We find somehow, no matter what it is, we’ll end up cracking up and laughing.” As the two giggled through the parking lot, Gilbert barely able to take a full step, two orderlies ran out from the ER, picked up Gilbert, and carried her inside. After all these years, the two have hardly stopped laughing — a key element of a long-lasting friendship, Gilbert says. But you have to be there when the laughing stops as well. “You have to be sincere,” she says. “You have to be a listener. You have to be a confidant. You have to be patient. You have to allow that other person to live their life and not intrude in it, yet be there when the time is necessary.” Stites chimes in, “And you have to be an encourager. And you have to let that person know that it’s OK to make a mistake. It’s OK. And that whatever is going on in your life, I believe it’s going to get better. And I’ll be there for you when you are going through it.” So what’s the secret? How does one go about creating a friendship that lasts a lifetime? “It’s the simple things,” Gilbert says. “We’ve laughed all these years. And that’s what friendship is. You laugh together, you cry together, you talk together, you share.” Friendship is selfless. And most importantly it is based on the quality that is so often taken for granted: love. (l-r) Sandy Gilbert and Rita Stites

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Here-and-Now Friendship

Emily Ferguson, Jennifer Quillo

A Faith-based Friendship After the high school diploma, life changes quickly. People move away, get jobs, or go off to college. Hanging on to old friends becomes a challenge. Eventually, both parties move on, and sometimes the only communication is an occasional Facebook message. But for Jennifer Quillo, 35, and Emily Ferguson, 33, moving on was simply not an option. The two met through the youth group at Wesley Chapel United Methodist Church in Southern Indiana during middle school. By age 15, they were so close that Ferguson agreed to let Quillo cut her hair, even though Quillo had never done it before. “It took way too many hours,” Quillo says with a laugh. Although misshapen hairdos and countless sleepovers created a strong bond, Quillo and Ferguson attribute the real strength of their friendship to their mutual foundation of faith. “Growing up, our relationship was based on a Christ-like relationship,” Quillo says. “So we would give freely for each other, like no other.” Now their children — Quillo’s Elliot, 11, and Lucy, 9, and Ferguson’s Penny, 6 — play together just as their mothers did. The families vacation together, go on double dates, and bring pizza when someone is sick. They treat one another as family, as sisters. “We’ve always had that kind of relationship where we can talk about things even when they are hard,” Quillo says. “We may not talk to each other for two weeks, and then we’ll catch up on a long phone conversation. But it feels like no time has passed, even if it’s been a couple weeks.” The friends agree that there are some things only another woman can appreciate. “[Husbands] don’t give a care that you got that pair of Chacos on sale for $20,” Quillo says. Or when women get beyond grumpy, it’s therapeutic to have a girlfriend to vent to. “There are just certain things [husbands] really have no desire to even know about or hear about or talk about,” Quillo continues. “Like, they would just rather watch videos about biking on YouTube — and that’s fine! But they don’t care about Downton Abbey and Real Housewives.”




Even for people who don’t run out and buy sports cars or climb Mount Kilimanjaro in the throes of a midlife crisis, nearly everyone hits a point where life comes down to the same questions: “What am I going to do now? Where is my life headed?” Friendships are critical during this time, and true friends are the ones who stick by your side through it all. Tracy Jesse, Winnie Green, and Sharon Elzy, all in their early 40s, realized how genuine their friendship was only a few years back. Although they have been close since first grade at Fairmont Elementary School, they drifted apart after high school. Other than the occasional chance meeting at Target, the trio did not reunite until about five years ago. But even after the 20-year hiatus, the group picked up where it left off — laughing until their cheeks hurt, singing, and reminiscing about their show choir days. But long-lasting friendships cannot rely on the past. They have to live in the here and now as well. Green is preparing to send her daughter, Gracie, off to Haiti for mission work. In order to raise money for the project, Green and her family set up a fundraising night at DiOrio’s Pizza and Pub in Louisville, selling T-shirts and pillows at the restaurant. Green and her daughter sat at the restaurant for two hours — but no one showed up. Gracie began to panic. “I said well, we’ll just see. If it’s meant to be, it is. If not, we tried and well, we’ll just have to load all these damn pillows back up,” Green says. She had barely finished her sentence when the first two customers walked in: her lifelong friends Jesse and Elzy. From that moment, Green knew it was going to be OK. “We’re like a good bra,” Green says. “We lift each other up.”


(l-r) Winnie Green, Sharon Elzy, Tracy Jesse


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arol Gunderson was a picky eater while growing up in Louisville. “I ate nothing green until I was 10 years old,” she says. While in college in New York, she learned about vegetable farming. “The experience I had with growing and harvesting vegetables changed the way I ate. It was a powerful motivator for seeking out fresh and healthy food.” Now the executive director of The Food Literacy Project, a nonprofit education organization, Carol works directly with students to teach them how to make healthy food choices. “If kids participate with growing, harvesting, and cooking vegetables, then they’re much more likely to try them,” she says. Founded in 2006, The Food Literacy Project is hosted by Field Day Family Farm, a subsection of Oxmoor Farm where farmer Ivor Chodkowski makes his living raising eight acres of vegetables. Carol was working for and farming with Ivor when he started a pilot program in 2004. The organization’s mission is to build healthy family relations at the farm and with partner schools. “More than 80 percent of the students we serve qualify for free or reduced lunch program,” Carol says. Nine staff members and numerous volunteers reach between 2,000-3,000 children from JCPS and private schools each school year. “It’s not only to harvest and taste, but to cook,” she continues. “We’ve come to refer to our work as ‘field-to-fork.’” Each spring, students show their parents how to harvest and cook vegetables in the outdoor kitchen. “This gives the kids the ability to be leaders and to get excited about vegetables,” Carol says. Carol and her staff also provide professional development to JCPS teachers and the nutrition services department staff. Additionally, a summer program called The Youth Community Agriculture Program (YCAP) pays teens ages 16-19 to grow vegetables. A new initiative called the Truck Farm, an edible learning garden planted in the back of a pickup truck, is on a crowdfunding website. “The truck will help us expand our reach out into the community,” Carol says. Field Day Family Farm also provides opportunities to seniors, refugees, and other children in the community. Major funding comes from corporate sponsorship and the annual Field-to-Fork Dinner and Silent Auction.

The Food Literacy Project received much attention in March when Kentucky First Lady Jane Beshear escorted Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall on a visit to the farm. The duchess planted rhubarb and prepared a vegetable pizza with students from Wellington Elementary. “We were very honored for her recognition,” Carol says. “It’s only possible with the generous support of many, many people and our corporate sponsors.” Contact Carol at

“I met a gentleman online. We’ve been communicating for several months. I have never shared with anyone like I have this man. I feel as though I know everything about him, and I have fallen head over heels in love with him. He wants me to fly to California to meet him and perhaps get married while there. I never factored in that I might be asked to move away from my family and give up my job here. I’m afraid if I say no, he will end the relationship. What am I to do?”





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NAME: Lindsey McClave AGE: 32 JOB: Freelance food, wine and travel writer at LIVES IN: Highlands Lindsey McClave is spending more time on her laptop — and in her kitchen. Last month, she left her job in sales and marketing at 21c Museum Hotel to work full time on her blog,, where she covers food, wine, and travel. Cooking can be intimidating for some people to master, Lindsey says, but she’s using her blog as an instructional tool. “I am teaching myself to cook through my experiences. I want to make the act of cooking more approachable. I want to turn it into a more fun activity to be embraced.” Every year, Lindsey and her husband, Zach, travel abroad for pleasure, but she also uses the trips as inspiration for some of the recipes she posts. She recreates traditional recipes from other countries using local ingredients. Lindsey also hosts The Farmer and the Foodie, a show that airs on Sundays at 1pm on Crescent Hill Radio (WCHQ 100.9 FM) along with Maggie Keith, owner and gardener of Foxhollow Farm. BEST FOOD ACCOMPLISHMENT: “Making homemade pasta. It was one of those things that intimidated me. I was very proud of myself.” BIGGEST FOOD DISASTER: “There are too many to count.” BEAUTY PRODUCT SHE’S LOVING: “I stay natural, but I like Benetint, which is part of the Benefit makeup line. It is a liquid blush. You can use a brush and apply it to your face, then rub it in with your fingers.”

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FASHION SHE’S WEARING: “I am obsessed with my Yosi Samra ballet flats. They are super comfortable, and they fold up and tuck right in my purse, so they are great for traveling.” FOOD SHE’S CRAVING: “The octopus appetizer at Proof on Main — and pizza.” TODAY’S WOMAN

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