in search of meaning
How to be imperfect and still enjoy life
Teachers and teens:
what they really think
Deeply trendy tapas
How I forgave the man who maimed me
‘I HATE GETTING WET’
World champion Kevin Paul
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04 Â Â locallife Â Trendy Â tapas Â and Â other Â local Â joys 06 Â Â sportymoment Â Paralympic Â world Â champion Â swimmer Â Â
Kevin Â Paul Â on Â why Â he Â hates Â getting Â wet
08 Â Â schoollife Â Teachers Â and Â teens Â â€“ Â getting Â inside Â their Â heads 14 Â foodielife Â Grow Â a Â gourmet Â herb Â salad Â â€“ Â and Â eat Â it!
18 Â Â mylife Â Â How Â Olga Â Macingwane Â forgave Â the Â man Â who Â Â
maimed Â her
24 Â Â reallife Â How Â to Â be Â imperfect Â â€“ Â and Â still Â enjoy Â life Â
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judge Â me Â if Â you Â like Paralympics Â world Â champion Â Kevin Â Paul Â on Â ego, Â comfort Â food, Â and Â why Â he Â hates Â getting Â wet
a Â 17-Âyear-Âold Â schoolboy, Â KEVIN Â PAUL Â won Â gold Â at Â the Â Beijing Â Paralympics, Â setting Â a Â new Â world Â record Â as Â he Â
nailed Â the Â 100m Â breaststroke Â winning Â time. Â Now Â 22, Â he Â has Â just Â
earned Â another Â gold Â medal Â by Â winning Â the Â 100m Â breaststroke Â race Â at Â the Â Paralympic Â World Â Championships. Â Born Â with Â Poland Â Syndrome, Â which Â affects Â WKHXSSHUERG\.HYLQJUHZXSLQ'XUEDQYLOOH&DSH7RZQWKHVRQRIDÂżQDQFLDO planner Â and Â an Â infant Â swimming Â teacher. Â He Â moved Â to Â Port Â Elizabeth Â at Â the Â age Â of Â 11, Â where Â he Â later Â attended Â Grey Â High Â School. Â In Â addition Â to Â training Â 25 Â hours Â per Â week Â for Â the Â 2016 Â Rio Â de Â Janeiro Â Paralympics, Â he Â is Â studying Â for Â a Â law Â degree Â at Â Nelson Â Mandela Â University, Â where Â he Â has Â just Â completed Â his Â third Â year. Â Kevin Â has Â two Â sisters.
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ost irritating habit in self? Stressing out for varsity tests! When I swim, I want to be the best in the world, and at varsity I want to be the best in class! Otherwise I really am a chilled guy…
Most irritating habit in others? Not much gets me, but I suppose I’d say people who try to impress with things that don’t really matter
Ultimate comfort food? Chocolate. I’m a Bar One guy, and when I travel, I buy Milka, which my mother’s Swiss German side of the family introduced me to. I have it with a cup of rooibos with the family in the evening, and manage to keep it down to about four little squares. I have to eat pretty healthily… Make me president and I’d…? Give disabled people in South Africa equal rights. They have them on paper, but not always in reality. Things are getting better and better, but they’re not there yet. I’m not in a wheelchair, but I teach kids who use a wheelchair to swim, and I’ve seen how difÄJ\S[SPMLJHUILMVY[OLT One thing not a lot of people know about Kevin Paul is…? I don’t like getting wet! If the family is swimming at home, I prefer to sit out. I spend so many hours hurting in the water that being in a pool represents work to me. But 0»SSZWLUKOV\YZPU[OLZLHZ\YÄUNVYZ^PTTPUN The exact nature of your physical challenge? I’m missing chest and back muscles on my left side, and my SLM[ZOV\SKLYZ[Y\J[\YLPZKPɈLYLU[(SZVT`SLM[HYTPZ shorter than my right one, and my left hand is smaller What issues has it presented? When I was born, the doctors said there were a lot of things I wouldn’t be able to do, but my parents didn’t listen to them. They could have felt sorry for themselves and me, but they refused to let that happen. They’re a large part of why I’m where I am [VKH`;OL`HS^H`ZW\[P[[VTL[OH[0OHKHKPɈLYLU[HIPSP[` and that I needed to use it. They encouraged me to tackle things head on, and to do everything I could. It took me longer to tie my shoelaces and button my shirts, and I had to build up functionality in my body over the years, but I ended up playing provincial water polo, A-team rugby, and swimming able-bodied nationally until I was 16 How did you feel about it, growing up? My left hand has ^LIILKÄUNLYZHUK0NV[[LHZLKH[ZJOVVSHIV\[OH]PUN ºMYVNÄUNLYZ»HUKUV[ILPUNO\THU5VVULLUQV`Z[OH[ and in my most self-conscious teen years I didn’t want to show my arm to people I didn’t know. But it’s probably made me who I am today. Now I don’t care: look at my hand and judge me if you like!
How did you get into swimming? The doctors told my parents it would be one of the few sports I could do. When I realised I was still using armbands and my friends weren’t, my ego took a little knock, and I told my mum I wanted to Z^PT0YLTLTILYT`ÄYZ[YHJLH[ZJOVVSH[[OLHNLVMUPUL going across rather than along the pool! I won it, and got hungry to win from then on. I swam against able-bodied swimmers initially, but when we all hit puberty and started growing, I didn’t have the muscles, and the KPɈLYLUJLZ[HY[LKZOV^PUN:VTLVUL[VSKT`WHYLU[Z about the Paralympics, and I went to the Beijing Olympics in Grade 11 Best sporting moment to date? Winning gold at Beijing. In the morning heats, I remember looking around for my [PTLHUKOHYKS`ILSPL]PUN[OH[0OHKZOH]LKVɈMV\Y^OVSL seconds. I started to realise the possibility ahead of me. ;OH[^OVSLKH`0OLHYKPUT`OLHKº0JHUKVHSS[OPUNZ through Christ who strengthens me’, which is from Philippians in the Bible, and I sort of knew that I had the race. (M[LY^HYKZ0ZH^OV^P[\UP[LZ[OLJV\U[Y`HUKHSSKPɈLYences of race and religion go out of the window as people get behind you Why do you believe in God? Every day I see little miracles that make it impossible to believe there’s no God. I think we’re here for a reason beyond ourselves Have you ever felt a little peeved with God?@LZP[»Z almost a daily thing. As with any relationship, it’s not going to be all good. I often ask why something hard is in my path Coolest thing about God? Seeing Him at work on a daily IHZPZMVYL_HTWSLZLLPUNWLVWSL^P[OV\[HYTZHUKSLNZ using their talent. God’s always on your side. Like that story of the footprints on the beach, when someone asks God where He has been during their hard times: we often can’t see two sets of footprints because He’s been carrying us all the time Your advice to others with challenges? Overcoming them all comes down to how much you want to achieve something, and what it means to you What would you like to be remembered for? Not as a Z^PTTLYI\[HZZVTLVUL^OVTHKLHULɈVY[[VPTWHJ[ WLVWSL»ZSP]LZHUK^HZU»[ZLSÄZO^P[O^OH[[OL`^LYLNP]LU Your feelings about the saga surrounding your fellow South African Paralympian, Oscar Pistorius? It’s time for the whole country to think of both families. There’s such a media frenzy about the shooting, but we need to remember that it’s people’s lives we are talking about. How would any of us like to be under such scrutiny?
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John Â Broster, Â Thulani Â Mpamba, Â Portia Â Lujabe, Â Caroline Â Petersen Â and Â Chris Â Cloete: Â what Â goes Â on Â under Â their Â polite Â classroom Â exteriors?
aroline Petersen is in Grade 10 at 6SULQJĂ°HOG&RQYHQW:\QEHUJ She has two older sisters and OLYHVLQ(OĂ°QGDOHZLWKKHUPRWKHU DQGIDWKHUDFKDUWHUHGDFFRXQWDQW Âş0Âť]LJOVZLUZ\IQLJ[Z^OPJO0YLHSS`LUQV`ZV I Â quite Â like Â most Â lessons. Â The Â bad Â days Â are Â when Â I Â feel Â tired Â or Â cold, Â because Â then Â nothing Â really Â gets Â absorbed. Â My Â main Â school Â NYPWLZHYLWHY[PJ\SHYS`IVYPUNVYKPÉ‰J\S[ lessons, Â and Â when Â we Â get Â a Â huge Â load Â of Â tasks, Â projects, Â orals Â and Â tests Â all Â in Â the Â same Â week. Â And Â I Â hate Â it Â when Â a Â teacher Â picks Â on Â me Â for Â talking Â or Â disturbing Â a Â lesson Â when Â it Â clearly Â isnâ€™t Â my Â fault. Â I Â donâ€™t Â mind Â answering Â questions Â in Â class Â because Â normally Â Iâ€™m Â paying Â attention. Â I Â never Â let Â on Â to Â teachers Â the Â amount Â of Â stress Â and Â pressure Â Iâ€™m Â under. Â Mostly Â I Â stress Â about Â things Â like Â schoolwork, Â my Â HWWLHYHUJLT`M\[\YLT`L_[YHT\YHSZT` MHTPS`HUKT`YLSH[PVUZOPWZ^OLU[OLYLÂťZ JVUĂ…PJ[0OH]LMV\UKYLSH_PUNTLKP[H[PVU calms Â me Â down. Â I Â sometimes Â play Â the Â guitar Â [VNL[T`TPUKVÉˆ[OPUNZ 0Ă„UKP[\WZL[[PUN^OLU[LHJOLYZHYL[OV\NO[less: Â once Â a Â teacher Â shouted Â at Â me Â in Â front Â VMT`^OVSLJSHZZZH`PUNOV^\UĂ„[HUKSHa`
I Â was, Â and Â in Â fact Â I Â was Â struggling Â because Â of Â asthma. Â Iâ€™ll Â never Â forget Â it. Â Itâ€™s Â great Â to Â get Â encouragement Â from Â teachers, Â and Â to Â hear Â appreciation Â for Â hard Â work. Â My Â worst-ever Â day Â was Â last Â year Â when Â I Â went Â to Â school Â knowing Â someone Â was Â mad Â at Â me, Â had Â a Â tough Â day Â full Â of Â work, Â was Â ignored Â by Â a Â great Â friend, Â came Â home Â feeling Â terrible Â and Â had Â a Â fat Â lot Â of Â work Â waiting Â for Â me. Â I Â probably Â should Â have Â stayed Â in Â bed Â that Â day! Â However, Â most Â schooldays Â are Â good, Â especially Â when Â I Â wake Â up Â telling Â myself Â that Â today Â will Â be Â a Â good Â day. Â I Â try Â to Â act Â as Â Jesus Â would Â do Â as Â I Â go Â around Â school Â â€“ Â but Â doing Â that Â can Â be Â tough, Â and Â I Â often Â forget! Â At Â break Â it Â seems Â that Â almost Â every Â day Â something Â more Â hilarious Â comes Â up Â with Â my Â group Â of Â friends Â Â â€“ Â normally Â something Â to Â do Â with Â embarrassing Â moments, Â memories, Â boys Â or Â food!â€™
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Âş0UP[PHSS`0^HU[LK[VKVZVJPHS^VYR0UL]LY saw Â myself Â as Â a Â teacher Â but Â here Â I Â am, Â
enjoying Â it! Â Teaching Â English Â is Â sometimes Â like Â teaching Â something Â as Â foreign Â as Â French Â to Â the Â kids, Â but Â I Â love Â it Â when Â I Â see Â them Â trying Â so Â hard Â to Â be Â articulate. Â It Â makes Â me Â so Â happy, Â even Â if Â itâ€™s Â only Â a Â few Â that Â make Â the Â LÉˆVY[(ZH[LHJOLYLZWLJPHSS`HSHUN\HNL teacher, Â I Â tend Â to Â advise Â them Â in Â a Â lot Â of Â KPÉˆLYLU[ZWOLYLZUV[Q\Z[[OLPYZ[\KPLZ The Â workload Â stresses Â me: Â administration, Â marking, Â changing Â a Â curriculum, Â the Â huge Â number Â of Â learners Â in Â classes Â â€“ Â the Â list Â is Â endless. Â Because Â work Â has Â to Â be Â done, Â I Â LUK\W[HRPUN^VYROVTLHUKZHJYPĂ„JL[PTL I Â should Â be Â spending Â with Â my Â babies Â and Â O\ZIHUK/V^LSZLJHU0JVWLMVYL_HTWSL with Â a Â class Â of Â 41 Â Grade Â 12s, Â each Â with Â two Â creative Â writing Â pieces Â to Â do Â per Â term? But Â I Â feel Â joy Â in Â my Â heart Â when Â I Â consider Â the Â children Â whose Â lives Â I Â touch Â on Â a Â personal Â basis, Â and Â see Â them Â change Â and Â blossom. Â One Â particular Â boy Â always Â made Â me Â birthday Â cards Â and Â even Â called Â me Â to Â wish Â me Â a Â happy Â birthday. Â Then Â there Â are Â three Â colleagues Â who Â have Â touched Â my Â life Â ZPNUPĂ„JHU[S`!VULPZSPRLHZLJVUKTV[OLY[V me Â and Â the Â other Â two Â have Â revealed Â in Â me Â strengths Â and Â capabilities Â that Â I Â hadnâ€™t Â seen Â in Â myself. Â They Â are Â my Â true Â buddies! Â
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6\YSLHYULYZJVTLMYVTWVVYHYLHZHÉˆLJ[LK by Â crime Â and Â gangs, Â and Â from Â illiterate Â households. Â Parents Â educate Â their Â children Â to Â improve Â the Â entire Â household. Â Many Â learners Â donâ€™t Â take Â education Â seriously. Â I Â get Â frustrated Â when Â I Â see Â them Â missing Â tasks Â and Â being Â absent Â unnecessarily. When Â I Â teach Â something, Â I Â try Â to Â relate Â it Â to Â the Â kidsâ€™ Â daily Â lives, Â and Â thatâ€™s Â when Â they Â often Â open Â up. Â I Â can Â proudly Â say Â I Â have Â a Â very Â close Â relationship Â with Â my Â learners. Â An Â L_W\WPSZ[Y\NNSPUN^P[O[LY[PHY`LK\JH[PVU came Â recently Â to Â tell Â me Â what Â keeps Â her Â going Â is Â the Â Mariah Â Carey Â song, Â Hero, Â that Â I Â once Â played Â in Â class. Â I Â couldnâ€™t Â help Â but Â cry Â with Â her. Â Â Some Â pupils Â are Â funny, Â imitating Â how Â I Â read Â novels Â to Â them Â with Â my Â high-pitched Â voice. Â And Â I Â made Â the Â whole Â school Â laugh Â when Â I Â accidentally Â attended Â school Â assembly Â in Â [^VKPÉˆLYLU[ZHUKHSZ;OL^VYZ[[OPUN[OH[ÂťZ ever Â happened Â to Â me Â at Â school Â was Â when Â some Â learners Â rampaged Â and Â destroyed Â the Â school Â admin Â building. Â They Â threw Â stones Â and Â later Â burst Â inside. Â I Â was Â in Â tears, Â traumatised Â and Â injured. Â But Â my Â grade Â 12s Â comforted Â me Â and Â assured Â me Â Iâ€™d Â come Â to Â no Â harm. Â This Â calmed Â me Â and Â still Â gives Â me Â the Â courage Â to Â get Â up Â and Â go Â to Â work. I Â would Â have Â gone Â crazy Â without Â Godâ€™s Â presence Â in Â my Â career. Â He Â keeps Â me Â calm Â and Â gives Â me Â courage Â to Â face Â all Â challenges Â that Â come Â my Â way. Â In Â some Â situations, Â I Â also Â get Â guidance Â from Â the Â Bible Â on Â how Â to Â handle Â things Â and Â people. Â And Â praying Â every Â morning Â gives Â me Â sanity.â€™
RUWLD/XMDEHLVKHDGJLUORI &ODUHPRQW+LJK6FKRRODQG OLYHVLQ.KD\HOLWVKDZLWKKHU PRWKHUVLVWHUFRXVLQQHSKHZ JUDQGPRWKHUDQGJUDQGPRWKHUĂ˘VDXQW+HU PRWKHUKDVDVPDOOIDVWIRRGRXWOHWDQGKHU IDWKHULVDODZHQIRUFHPHQWRIĂ°FHU Â Âş;LLUZYLHSS`SPRL[LHJOLYZ^P[OHZLUZLVM humour. Â I Â think Â the Â biggest Â mistakes Â teachers Â make Â are Â being Â too Â forceful, Â not Â giving Â the Â students Â enough Â time Â to Â understand, Â and Â being Â too Â strict Â outside Â the Â classroom. Â Being Â head Â of Â school Â is Â obviously Â a Â huge Â WYP]PSLNLI\[ILPUNZO`0HSZVĂ„UKP[HJOH llenge. Â It Â can Â be Â hard Â to Â give Â speeches Â at Â YHUKVT[PTLZ[LSSWLVWSLVÉˆHUKZWLHRPU public. Â Also, Â my Â uniform Â has Â to Â be Â perfect Â HSS[OL[PTL[VZL[HUL_HTWSL;VJVWL^P[O stress, Â I Â listen Â to Â some Â music Â or Â go Â to Â a Â quiet Â space. Â I Â ask Â God Â to Â help Â me Â to Â see Â the Â positive Â side Â of Â things. Â I Â like Â to Â talk Â to Â someone Â I Â trust, Â like Â friends Â or Â my Â mom. Â She Â always Â
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advises Â me Â to Â keep Â praying Â about Â my Â problems. Â The Â most Â important Â things Â Iâ€™ve Â learnt Â at Â school Â are Â critical Â thinking Â and Â leadership, Â and Â not Â to Â give Â up Â easily. Â There Â have Â been Â lots Â of Â times Â when Â Iâ€™ve Â wanted Â to Â give Â up: Â too Â much Â homework Â on Â one Â night, Â family Â situations, Â but Â you Â have Â to Â be Â strong.â€™
RKQ%URVWHUZDVERUQLQ&DSH7RZQ DQGHGXFDWHGDW5RQGHERVFK%R\VĂ˘ +LJK6FKRRO+HKDVWDXJKW6FLHQFHDW :HVWHUIRUG+LJK6FKRROLQ1HZODQGV VLQFHDQGDW&ODUHPRQW+LJK 6FKRROVLQFHLWRSHQHGLQ+HOLYHV in Kenilworth Â Âş4`ILZ[WPLJLVMHK]PJLMVYH[LLU&0[LUK not Â to Â give Â advice, Â it Â feels Â slightly Â arrogant. Â But Â if Â a Â pupil Â asks Â for Â Matric Â dance Â advice, Â I Â suggest Â a Â low-maintenance Â partner! Â What Â drives Â a Â teacher Â mad? Â When Â pupils Â donâ€™t Â pay Â attention. Â I Â think Â what Â Iâ€™m Â doing Â is Â valuable Â â€“ Â all Â of Â it Â â€“ Â and Â I Â get Â irritated Â if Â they Â donâ€™t Â pay Â attention. Â Â ;OLÂş)VYUMYLLZÂťZ[\KLU[ZIVYUWVZ[ HYLKPÉˆLYLU[MYVTWYL]PV\ZNLULYH[PVUZ! much Â more Â sophisticated Â and Â independent, Â but Â also Â more Â self-indulgent Â and Â less Â altruistic. Â Theyâ€™re Â faced Â with Â challenges Â and Â diversions Â virtually Â undreamed Â of Â in Â the Â 1970s Â ÂśMVYL_HTWSL[OL`ZVVM[LUKVUÂť[LUQV`H stable Â home Â or Â good Â parenting. Â Teaching Â PZKPÉˆLYLU[[VV:L[[PUNWYVQLJ[ZPZKPÉ‰J\S[ now, Â because Â no Â matter Â how Â challenging Â the Â question, Â it Â can Â simply Â be Â typed Â into Â Google. Â Nowadays, Â the Â trend Â is Â to Â do Â lots Â of Â work Â in Â pairs, Â sometimes Â in Â groups Â of Â four. Â I Â sometimes Â suspect Â one Â does Â the Â research, Â one Â KVLZ[OL[`WPUNVULTHRLZJVÉˆLLHUK[OL other Â eats Â pizza! (U_PL[`HUKULY]LZHS^H`ZZPTTLYILSV^[OL JHSTL_[LYPVYVMHU`LK\JH[VY0[ÂťZH[V\NOHJ[ to Â be Â on Â display Â before Â an Â audience Â of Â 30 Â or Â so Â critical, Â sometimes Â antagonistic, Â sometimes Â fun Â and Â supportive, Â often Â zoned-out Â adolescents. Â I Â can Â doubt Â whether Â my Â preWHYH[PVUOHZILLUZ\É‰JPLU[S`NVVKVYX\LZtion Â why Â the Â class Â is Â laughing Â at Â some Â in-joke Â of Â which Â Iâ€™m Â ignorant. Â I Â may Â have Â personal Â stresses Â weighing Â heavily Â on Â my Â mind Â but Â the Â show Â must Â go Â on Â â€“ Â thereâ€™s Â nowhere Â to Â hide! Â Â My Â class Â results Â need Â to Â be Â good. Â DissatisĂ„LKW\WPSZVY^VYZLZ[PSSJVUKLTUH[VY` parents Â erode Â oneâ€™s Â self-esteem Â in Â moments! Â Â @V\UN[LHJOLYZPUWHY[PJ\SHYJHULHZPS`MLLS disempowered. Â However, Â the Â rewards Â and Â LUKVYWOPUZ^OPJOĂ…V^^OLUHSSNVLZIL[[LY [OHUL_WLJ[LKJHUÂť[ILILH[LU Â
>LOH]LH]VS\U[HY`Z[HÉˆWYH`LYTLL[PUNH[ which Â we Â pray Â about Â all Â aspects Â of Â school Â life. Â 6\YWYH`LYZHYLWYVMLZZPVUHSHUKJVUĂ„KLU[PHS!Z[HÉˆTLTILYZMHPYS`VM[LUZLUKWYH`LY requests Â to Â the Â group, Â ranging Â from Â life-anddeath Â scenarios Â to Â a Â pet Â dog Â in Â need! Â In Â my Â personal Â prayers Â at Â present, Â Iâ€™m Â praying Â for Â a Â family Â in Â the Â throes Â of Â a Â trial Â separation. Â This Â potential Â dissolution Â of Â a Â family Â unit Â is Â OH]PUNHKL]HZ[H[PUNLÉˆLJ[VU[OL`V\UNZ[LYZ involved. Teaching Â is Â an Â enormous Â privilege. Â The Â kids Â I Â teach Â have Â potential Â to Â achieve Â far Â more Â than Â I Â have, Â to Â become Â captains Â of Â industry, Â SLHKLYZ(ZH[LHJOPUNÂş]L[LYHUÂť0Ă„UKUV kudos Â in Â my Â class Â doing Â well Â because Â itâ€™s Â all Â been Â done Â before: Â my Â school Â has Â had Â the Â top Â marks, Â a Â pupil Â has Â scored Â 100%, Â weâ€™ve Â won Â awards. Â My Â concern Â is Â for Â you, Â the Â individual. Â Do Â your Â homework Â and Â study Â hard, Â so Â that Â you Â can Â do Â the Â best Â you Â can.â€™
KULV&ORHWHLVDQGOLYHVLQ 5RQGHERVFKZLWKKLVĂ°QDQFLDO PDQDJHUIDWKHUWHDFKHUPRWKHU ROGHUEURWKHUDXQWFRXVLQDQG JUDQGIDWKHU&KULVDWWHQGV5RQGHERVFK %R\VĂ˘+LJK6FKRRO Âş0LUQV`ZJOVVSLZWLJPHSS`ZLLPUNT`MYPLUKZ and Â playing Â sport. Â What Â I Â donâ€™t Â like Â is Â the Â OVTL^VYRHUKSHJRVMMYLLKVTSPRLUVLH[PUN in Â class). Â I Â get Â stressed Â when Â I Â have Â too Â much Â work, Â but Â the Â way Â I Â handle Â that Â is Â by Â just Â getting Â started. Â My Â greatest Â concern Â is Â when Â school Â takes Â over Â my Â life Â and Â Iâ€™ve Â no Â time Â for Â anything Â else. I Â donâ€™t Â talk Â to Â teachers Â about Â personal Â Z[\ÉˆVY^OH[OHWWLUZH[OVTLÂś[OH[0Q\Z[ RLLW[VT`ZLSMHUK[Y`[VKLHS^P[O0Ă„UKP[ demoralising Â when Â teachers Â get Â angry Â and Â scream Â at Â pupils, Â and Â so Â my Â best Â piece Â of Â advice Â to Â teachers Â is Â that Â they Â try Â not Â to Â lose Â their Â heads. Â The Â other Â thing Â I Â hate Â is Â being Â falsely Â accused Â of Â things, Â because Â itâ€™s Â unfair Â and Â your Â reputation Â is Â compromised Â for Â no Â reason. Sometimes Â really Â funny Â things Â happen Â at Â ZJOVVSÂśSPRL[OLKH`V\Y[LHJOLYMLSSVÉˆ[OL stage. Â My Â best Â day Â was Â when Â we Â left Â for Â Y\NI`[V\YSHZ[`LHYP[^HZZVL_JP[PUN4` worst Â day Â at Â school Â was Â in Â Grade Â 5 Â when Â our Â history Â teacher Â died.â€™
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spotlight Â on...
Zizi Â Sapepa, Â
cleaning Â supervisor Â at Â Rustenburg Â Girlsâ€™ Â High Â School, Â Rondebosch
live Â in Â Gugulethu Â with Â my Â mother, Â son Â and Â grandson, Â HUK^HRL\WLHYS`HYV\UKHT;OLĂ„YZ[[OPUN0 do Â is Â pray, Â thanking Â God Â for Â another Â day. Â Then Â I Â make Â breakfast Â for Â Okuhle, Â my Â grandson, Â and Â get Â him Â ready Â for Â crĂ¨che. Â My Â son Â Chad Â is Â in Â Matric, Â so Â thankfully Â he Â gets Â OPTZLSMYLHK`MVYZJOVVS1\Z[ILMVYLZP_0JH[JO[OLZO\[[SLMYVTT`OV\ZL[V[OL[H_PYHURHUKMYVT[OLYL0[HRL[OL [H_P[V4V^IYH`;OL[H_PKYVWZ\ZH[[OL[YHÉ‰JSPNO[ZQ\Z[ before Â the Â Red Â Cross Â Hospital, Â so Â itâ€™s Â just Â a Â short Â walk Â along Â the Â common Â to Â the Â school. Â I Â usually Â get Â to Â work Â at Â about Â OHSMWHZ[ZL]LU0YLSH_^P[OHJ\WVMJVÉˆLLHUKZVTLJLYLHS before Â the Â dayâ€™s Â work Â starts. Â
insecurity I Â really Â love Â my Â job, Â but Â there Â was Â a Â time Â when Â I Â travelled Â to Â work Â with Â a Â heavy Â heart. Â This Â was Â in Â 2011, Â when Â I Â was Â the Â supervisor Â of Â a Â group Â of Â contract Â cleaners Â at Â the Â school. Â We Â were Â very Â worried Â when Â the Â company Â we Â worked Â for Â went Â into Â liquidation Â just Â before Â Christmas. Â Â Thankfully, Â the Â school Â decided Â to Â employ Â us Â on Â a Â permanent Â basis, Â and Â we Â were Â able Â to Â start Â straight Â away. Â I Â was Â so Â relieved, Â but Â didnâ€™t Â know Â my Â problems Â were Â just Â starting. Â I Â was Â asked Â to Â stay Â on Â as Â supervisor, Â and Â this Â caused Â insecurity Â with Â some Â of Â the Â ladies Â whoâ€™d Â been Â working Â there Â for Â a Â long Â time. Â Rumours Â ^LYLĂ…`PUNHUKP[^HZH]LY`KPÉ‰J\S[[PTL;OL[LUZPVU^HZ unbearable. Â Â We Â work Â very Â closely Â together, Â but Â we Â could Â hardly Â be Â in Â the Â same Â room Â together.
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At Â that Â time, Â I Â had Â joined Â the Â parentsâ€™ Â prayer Â meeting Â on Â a Â Friday Â morning Â and Â one Â day Â I Â poured Â my Â heart Â out Â to Â them Â YLNHYKPUN[OL[LUZPVU0^HZL_WLYPLUJPUN;OL`WYH`LKMVY me Â and Â encouraged Â me Â to Â invite Â God Â into Â the Â situation, Â so Â thatâ€™s Â what Â I Â decided Â to Â do.
clean Â slate I Â spoke Â to Â the Â ladies Â and Â told Â them Â that Â I Â wasnâ€™t Â there Â to Â take Â anyoneâ€™s Â bread Â out Â of Â their Â mouths. Â Instead Â of Â seeing Â me Â as Â a Â supervisor, Â they Â should Â see Â me Â as Â someone Â who Â was Â there Â to Â work, Â just Â like Â them, Â part Â of Â the Â team. Â I Â said Â we Â needed Â to Â be Â like Â a Â family, Â and Â asked Â if Â we Â could Â pray Â about Â the Â situation. Â I Â said: Â â€˜Letâ€™s Â come Â together Â and Â ask Â for Â forgiveness. Â
Even Â if Â we Â donâ€™t Â think Â weâ€™ve Â done Â wrong, Â letâ€™s Â start Â with Â a Â clean Â slate Â and Â get Â rid Â of Â the Â bad Â feelings Â between Â us.â€™ Â Â
They Â agreed. Â So Â we Â prayed Â and Â hugged, Â and Â made Â peace. Â Since Â then, Â we Â get Â together Â every Â morning Â at Â about Â 11 Â to Â pray. Â We Â pray Â about Â our Â dayâ€™s Â work, Â and Â for Â the Â school, Â and Â for Â each Â other. Â Itâ€™s Â been Â such Â a Â blessing Â to Â share Â prayer Â together Â and Â invite Â God Â into Â our Â midst Â every Â single Â day. Â One Â thing Â I Â love Â about Â my Â job Â is Â that Â I Â work Â with Â people. Â Â But Â [OL`JHUILKPÉ‰J\S[ZVTL[PTLZHUK[OH[ÂťZ^O`0WYH`0WYH` constantly, Â talking Â to Â Christ Â every Â step Â of Â the Â way.â€™
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Living Â with... Cape Â Town Â columnist Â Grant Â Clarke Â on Â keeping Â his Â braai-Âpit Â manly
â€˜Iâ€™VE Â NEVER Â CLAIMED
Â to Â be Â a Â big Â thinker, Â in Â fact Â to Â be Â perfectly Â honest Â with Â you, Â I Â try Â not Â to Â think Â at Â all Â if Â I Â can Â help Â it. Â I Â prefer Â to Â live Â by Â instinct, Â kind Â of Â half-untamed Â wild Â animal Â and Â halfman, Â a Â sort Â of Â modern Â day Â manimal, Â if Â you Â will. Â I Â like Â to Â tap Â into Â my Â inner Â hunter Â and Â rely Â on Â my Â God-given Â instincts Â to Â get Â me Â through Â life. Â ;OL3V]LS`1HJZÂş;31ÂťZH`Z[OH[[OPURPUNPZWYVIHIS`[VVT\JOLÉˆVY[ for Â me, Â and Â if Â I Â tap Â into Â my Â inner Â manimal Â one Â more Â time Â and Â pee Â on Â OLYKHÉˆVKPSZZOLPZNVPUN[VJ\SSTL(UKZOLJHSSZOLYZLSMHNYLLUPL Anyway, Â the Â point Â is Â this. Â I Â was Â recently Â called Â on Â to Â think Â when Â someone Â asked Â me Â how Â I Â managed Â to Â remain Â such Â a Â robust Â specimen Â of Â masculinity Â living Â in Â a Â house Â full Â of Â girls. Â Of Â course, Â raising Â [OYLLKH\NO[LYZOHZHÉˆLJ[LKTL7YVIHIS`VULVM[OLTVYLKPZ[\YIing Â changes Â I Â have Â noticed Â is Â that Â my Â one-liner Â references Â have Â changed. Â Arnold Â Schwarzenegger Â used Â to Â be Â my Â go-to Â one-liner Â guy. Â Whereas Â before Â my Â conversation Â was Â littered Â with Â Shwarzenisms Â such Â as Â â€˜Iâ€™ll Â be Â backâ€™ Â or Â â€˜Hasta Â la Â vista Â babyâ€™ 0 UV^ Ă„UK that Â my Â one-liner Â guy Â is Â in Â fact... Â Judy Â Garland. Â Nary Â a Â day Â passLZ ^P[OV\[ TL ZWV\[PUN HU HÉˆLJ[LK â€˜Toto, Â I Â donâ€™t Â think Â we Â are Â in Â Kansas Â anymoreâ€™\Z\HSS`^OLU0HTSVZ[^OPSLKYP]PUN^OPJOVMten Â graduates Â in Â a Â panic Â situation Â to Â â€˜There Â is Â no Â place Â like Â home, Â there Â is Â no Â place Â like Â homeâ€™. Â Quite Â when Â Judy Â Garland Â insinuated Â OLYZLSM PU[V T` SPML 0 HT UV[ Z\YL I\[ 0 Z\ZWLJ[ WYVSVUNLK L_WVsure Â to Â the Â Wizard Â of Â Oz, Â a Â movie Â my Â girls Â adore, Â has Â not Â helped. Of Â course Â TLJ Â hasnâ€™t Â helped Â matters Â much Â either. Â I Â have Â way Â too Â T\JORUV^SLKNLHIV\[SHKPLZÂťZ[\ÉˆPUT`OLHK[OH[PZ[HRPUN\W]HS\able Â sport-trivia Â space. Â Iâ€™m Â fairly Â sure Â that Â as Â a Â man Â Iâ€™m Â supposed Â to Â think Â that Â a Â pashmina Â is Â some Â sort Â of Â Ukrainian Â rodent Â and Â that Â a Â GHD Â PZH\UP]LYZP[`X\HSPĂ„JH[PVU`L[0KVUÂť[0RUV^L_HJ[S`^OH[[OL`HYL At Â least Â I Â have Â my Â braai Â â€“ Â not Â one Â of Â those Â yuppy Â metal Â things Â that Â SVVRSPRL:W\[UPRÂś0ÂťT[HSRPUNHIV\[T`Ă„YLWP[H[[OLIV[[VTVM[OL garden. Â The Â last Â stand Â of Â masculinity Â at Â our Â house! Â A Â place Â where Â if Â you Â return Â with Â your Â eyebrows Â unsinged, Â you Â havenâ€™t Â done Â it Â properly! Â So Â what Â that Â my Â room Â is Â a Â girly Â colour? Â Sure, Â my Â duvet Â cover Â has Â a Â cherry Â blossom Â motif, Â and Â of Â course Â there Â is Â no Â watching Â rugby Â when Â it Â clashes Â with Â a Â Barbie Â movie Â rerun Â â€“ Â but Â I Â have Â my Â braai. Â My Â IYHHPPZ^OLYL0ÂťTRPUN0[ÂťZ^OLYL0Y\SL0[ÂťZ^OLYL-H[-HJLT`KVN and Â I Â can Â eat Â an Â entire Â big Â bag Â of Â Nik Â Naks Â without Â any Â form Â of Â judgement. Â Itâ€™s Â where Â I Â can Â spill Â marinade Â and Â just Â leave Â it Â where Â it Â falls Â [VWL[YPM`V]LY[PTL0[ÂťZ^OLYL0JHUKYVWTLH[VU[OLĂ…VVYHUK[OL Ă„]LZLJVUKY\SLWPJRP[\WX\PJRS`HUK[OLNLYTZKVUÂť[Z[PJRPZZ[PSS OVUV\YLKHUKZVTL[PTLZL_[LUKLKHYIP[YHYPS`^P[OV\[H]V[L0[ÂťZ where Â I Â can Â do Â what Â I Â do Â best Â â€“ Â think Â about Â absolutely Â nothing Â at Â all. ;OH[ ILPUN ZHPK [OL NPYSZ KPK NV [V H SV[ VM LÉˆVY[ [V WSHU[ HSS [OVZL Ă…V^LYZ HYV\UK T` IYHHP HUK [OL )HYIPL J\ZOPVUZ HYL very Â comfortable Â on Â those Â hard Â benches. Â I Â also Â did Â get Â that Â super Â Jamie Â Oliver Â recipe Â book Â for Â my Â birthday Â with Â that Â wonderful Â hummous Â recipe Â which Â will Â make Â a Â great Â pre-braai Â snack.â€™
Grant Â Clarke Â is Â an Â attorney Â specialising Â in Â maritime Â law. Â He Â is Â also Â an Â elder Â at Â Common Â Ground Â Church, Â Constantiaberg.
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foodielife LOVE Â COOKING Â WITH Â SUPER-FRESH Â HERBS, Â but Â severely Â limited Â for Â gardening Â space? Â Or Â maybe Â you Â just Â never Â had Â the Â courage Â to Â grow Â anything? Â You Â can Â still Â out-foodie Â the Â best Â of Â them. Â Gardening Â in Â smaller Â places Â is Â taking Â off Â as Â the Â joys Â of Â greening Â the Â world Â become Â ever Â clearer, Â and Â Capetonians Â are Â discovering Â thereâ€™s Â nothing Â like Â the Â taste Â and Â satisfaction Â of Â a Â ready Â supply Â of Â their Â own Â fresh Â herbs. Â
grow +HUHÂ¶VKRZWRÂ¿OO\RXUEDOFRQ\RUSDWLRZLWKWKHSXQJHQWDURPDRIKHUEVÂ« >/(;+605,,+;6.96>.6<94,; HERBS?
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that Â holds Â soil, Â from Â old Â zinc Â buckets Â to Â state-of-the-art Â urns. Â Whatever Â you Â choose Â must Â have Â drainage Â holes, Â and Â donâ€™t Â go Â for Â anything Â totally Â tiny: Â a Â pot Â thatâ€™s Â too Â small Â wonâ€™t Â hold Â enough Â moisture Â for Â the Â plant Â to Â thrive. Â NB: Â Use Â relatively Â lightweight Â containers Â to Â prevent Â overstretching Â the Â goodwill Â of Â a Â balconyâ€™s Â structure! Â Itâ€™s Â simple Â to Â prepare Â your Â pot. Â Just Â put Â a Â few Â small Â Z[VULZVYIP[ZVMIYVRLUJSH`WV[VU[OLIV[[VTVM`V\Y JVU[HPULYHUKÃ„SS^P[ONVVKX\HSP[`WV[[PUNZVPSMYVT`V\Y local Â nursery. Â When Â planting Â up Â a Â big Â pot, Â try Â sinking Â a Â plastic Â bottle Â with Â holes Â pierced Â into Â the Â bottom Â with Â the Â top Â just Â protruding Â above Â the Â soil. Â Fill Â this Â with Â water Â to Â keep Â the Â soil Â moist Â for Â longer. Plant Â each Â seedling Â by Â making Â a Â hole Â in Â the Â soil Â with Â your Â Ã„UNLYWVWWPUNP[PU[V[OLOVSLHUKWYLZZPUNKV^UX\P[L Ã„YTS`HYV\UKLHJOWSHU[HSSV^PUNZVTLZWHJLIL[^LLU each. Â Water Â immediately, Â and Â keep Â in Â a Â sunny Â spot. Â Make Â sure Â you Â water Â daily Â in Â very Â hot Â weather, Â though Â if Â youâ€™re Â growing Â sage, Â water Â it Â sparingly. Â
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foodielife Zing up your meal with a gourmet herb salad!
Herbalicious How to green your home and plate (without buying a country estate)
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Would you love me more if I showed less thigh? Would you’ve spared me pain if I’d loved you more? >V\SK`V\»]LSVVRLKHZPKL ZLLUTLILZPKL PM0»KZOV\[LKOHYKLY tiptoed more softly? Did you love me less ’cause you loved her more? Do you love me less ’cause you love her more? Will you love me less now she’s been before?
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You’ve dropped my heart òWPLJLZL]LY`^OLYL¯ Does it matter though now that she’s been there?
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pastor by training, Desirée de Villiers is now a writer and public speaker who lives with her husband and two children in Cape Town. Following the discovery of her husband’s PUÄKLSP[`ZOLWYVJLZZLKOLYWHPU[OYV\NO poetry, and found redemption from an unL_WLJ[LKZV\YJLº(ZZVTHU`OH]LKPZJV]ered, the single greatest treasure of loss is,
I am sipping the welcome warmth of my morning tea in an unpretentious house by the sea I await the dawn with no uncertainty All of this pleases me
If I allow myself to dream there is a river of goodness [OH[ÅV^Z[V^HYKTL It laps my ankles strokes my thighs encircles my waist then reaches high to full enclose TL^P[OJVYLLULYN` (I\UKHU[S`P[IHW[PZLZTL 0KVUV[KYV^U If I allow myself to dream there is a river of goodness [OH[ÅV^ZMYVTTL It seeks out mourners despondents and withered hearts all universal torn apartness and submerges them in air 4HY]LSSV\ZS`P[JHYWL[ZJHYL ;OL`JLHZL[VMYV^U
PYVUPJHSS`^OH[VULÄUKZ»ZOLZH`Zº(Z[OL layers of my various identities were removed, this painful catalyst confronted me with my true self. What satisfaction to be graduHSS`PU[YVK\JLK[VºTL»HUK[VÄUK^P[OH cautious surprise, that I really enjoyed her company. I hope my poems will help people feel normal and hopeful again.’
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Eating Â with Â the enemy
LGA Â MACINGWANE Â was Â born Â in Â the Â Free Â State Â in Â 1959. Â She Â left Â school Â at Â the Â age Â of Â 19 Â with Â a Â standard Â 7 Â (grade Â 9) Â pass Â to Â work Â as Â a Â garage Â attendant. Â There Â she Â met Â her Â late Â husband, Â 9X\LVLOHDVVKHÂżOOHGKLVFDUZLWKSHWURO6KHKDVWKUHH children Â and Â two Â grandchildren, Â and Â lives Â in Â Zweletemba, Â near Â Worcester, Â in Â the Â Western Â Cape
y Â husband Â and Â I Â came Â to Â Zweletemba Â on Â honeymoon Â and Â loved Â the Â Cape Â so Â much Â that Â we Â made Â it Â our Â new Â home. Â We Â started Â our Â family Â straightaway, Â and Â life Â was Â good Â for Â us. Â Vuyisile Â provided Â well Â as Â a Â farmer Â and Â businessman. Â He Â bred Â and Â raised Â goats Â and Â other Â livestock Â in Â Zweletemba, Â which Â he Â took Â to Â the Â slaughterhouse Â in Â Worcester Â to Â sell. Â Vuyisile Â was Â 17 Â years Â VSKLY[OHUTLHUKSVVRLKHM[LYTLHZPM0^HZL_[YLTLS`WYLJPV\Z/L wanted Â me Â home Â to Â raise Â the Â children Â rather Â than Â at Â work Â and, Â because Â he Â had Â had Â no Â schooling Â himself, Â he Â encouraged Â me Â to Â continue Â with Â mine. Â I Â felt Â proud Â to Â complete Â grade Â 11 Â while Â looking Â after Â our Â three Â small Â children. Â On Â that Â fateful Â Christmas Â Eve Â in Â 1996, Â we Â went Â to Â Worcester Â â€“ Â me Â to Â do Â my Â Christmas Â shopping, Â and Â Vuyisile Â to Â catch Â the Â train Â to Â De Â Doorns Â to Â invite Â friends Â to Â our Â Christmas Â meal. Â We Â left Â home Â at Â about Â 10am, Â with Â TLZH`PUN[V[OL[OYLLJOPSKYLUÂş:[H`PUZPKLHUKILNVVK0^VUÂť[IL long.â€™ Â They Â hopped Â up Â and Â down, Â thinking Â of Â me Â coming Â back Â with Â cool Â drinks Â and Â other Â Christmas Â treats. Â I Â said Â goodbye Â to Â Vuyisile Â at Â the Â station Â in Â Worcester, Â and Â walked Â on Â to Â the Â OK Â Bazaars. Â
festive Â atmosphere 0OHKĂ„UPZOLKT`ZOVWWPUNI`HIV\[HUK^HZMLLSPUNYLSPL]LKH[ leaving Â the Â crowded Â Christmas Â shops Â to Â get Â back Â to Â my Â children, Â when Â I Â bumped Â into Â my Â sister-in-law Â who Â persuaded Â me Â to Â go Â with Â her Â to Â Checkers. Â We Â went Â into Â the Â shop Â at Â 1pm Â through Â the Â back Â door. Â Immediately Â I Â smelt Â what Â seemed Â like Â a Â tyre Â burning. Â I Â still Â donâ€™t Â know Â what Â this Â was. Â I Â tried Â to Â ask Â people Â around Â me, Â but Â couldnâ€™t Â pull Â their Â attention Â away Â from Â the Â festive Â holiday Â atmosphere Â â€“ Â many Â were Â jiving Â 18 thislife.org.za Â Â Â | Â Â Â issue Â 9
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but we couldn’t eat. My daughter Philiswe, who was 11, was so traumatised that I hadn’t come home that day that she couldn’t eat for nine days.
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4`PUQ\YPLZ^LYLL_[YLTLHUK0JV\SKU»[^HSR for many months. The bomb left a hole in my left leg through to my calf bone. I went to the Zweletemba hospital on crutches for treatment every week but otherwise stayed at home, too scared to leave. Apart from the wounds to my chest and arms, I had deafness and ear damage.
Beloved husband: Vuyisile was killed in a hit and run accident, and his loss still devastates Olga
The queues were long, but eventually our items were rung up. As I put my money in the shop assistant’s hand, everything changed. There was a deafening bang, so loud that I MLS[[OH[0OHKL_WSVKLK;OLUUV[OPUNULZZ everything went black. No sound. No sight. Just darkness. I could not feel anything HYV\UKTLL_JLW[T`ZLSM0MLS[SPRLHZ[YHUNLY to myself, and was surprised to still be standing, holding onto the counter to keep upright. When I tried to walk, I couldn’t move my legs. My chest and arms were burning with the shrapnel that had pierced my skin. I saw a woman in a Checkers uniform calling and beckoning to me in what seemed like slow motion. I fell down and crawled towards her until I felt the hot pavement burning my hands and knees, and realised I was outside. I had wounds on my hands and chest, and my legs were useless. Suddenly I heard the terrifying sound of another blast nearby. Later, I heard this was a second bomb, planted near the pharmacy. Two policemen came and carried me between them to a kombi, where I collapsed, unconscious. The time was just after 1pm. I became conscious again at 7pm that evening in the Worcester Mediclinic, tied to a hospital bed. I asked a nurse what was happening 20 thislife.org.za | issue 9
[VTLHUKZOLZHPKº@V\»]LILLUOP[I`H bomb.’ There were other bomb victims in the ward, and the sound of children crying and women wailing was too much to bear. My sister-in-law was shaken but unharmed. (M[LY[OLIVTI^LU[VɈZOLZLHYJOLKMVY me in the crowd outside Checkers and she looked all afternoon, going from hospital to hospital, checking names on lists of wounded WLVWSL[OLU[OLKLH[OSPZ[Z^P[OV\[ÄUKPUN TL¶0OHKU»[ILLUPKLU[PÄLKILJH\ZL0^HZ unconscious. She went home to tell my husband, her brother, that she thought I might be KLHK4`O\ZIHUK^HZPUP[PHSS`MYHU[PJ[VÄUK me, then began to grieve my death.
Four years later, I was reading the newspaper at home when I found an article about what had happened in Worcester that day. I read that the bombers were four white Afrikaans men who had planted bombs in areas where black and coloured people shopped, in order to kill as many of us as possible. Four people were killed, two of them were nine-year-old children, and 67 of us were injured. The
The doctor allowed me home for Christmas and by the time I arrived, after 8pm and in a municipal vehicle, the village thought that I was in the mortuary. Friends and family were standing together mourning on our street. Their faces changed when they recognised me through the vehicle window, and many of them began crying.
food parcel I saw trauma on the faces of my children and my husband when I went towards the front door on crutches, my legs bandaged. My husband began crying with relief that I was alive, and sorrow at how much pain I was in. >OLU0^VRL\W[OLUL_[KH`HS[OV\NOP[ was Christmas, a blackness had come over the village. The mayor sent us a food parcel
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to the Macarena as they shopped. I left my sister-in-law at the parcel counter, telling her UV[[VTV]LZV[OH[^LJV\SKÄUKLHJOV[OLY in the crowd afterwards, and went to the tills to pay for what we’d chosen.
Today, my legs still swell and hurt in summer. I walk with a limp, my neck hurts and my left LHYVVaLZW\Z0HTHɈLJ[LKI`UVPZL0OH]L ºOLHYK»HUKYLSP]LK[OLIVTIL_WLYPLUJL ever since, and still don’t feel safe in public areas. I have never been given any compensation for the medical costs, or for being unable to work since the bomb.
Snappy dresser: Olga in the Eighties, aged 29
I lived on my own, and was completely alone apart from when my husband’s family could bring my children to visit. In 2009, 13 years after the bombing, I was contacted by a member of the Khulumani Support Group, which had been formed for reconciliation in our country. I went to a meeting with them and other bomb victims in Worcester. There, they told me that one of the bombers, UPJRUHTLKº:[LMHHUZ»*VL[aLL^HZZLLRPUN amnesty, and wanted to meet his victims. I was shocked. The other victims felt too afraid to face the person who had hated them. But I was angry. I wanted information, and I wanted to keep this Stefaans in jail where he belonged. I went in a car hired by Khulumani to Pretoria Central Prison. I had nothing left to lose.
like a child It was 2pm when I was led to a room inside the prison. When I entered, I saw a young man in prison overalls arranging chairs. Someone told me he was Stefaans, the bomber who wanted to meet me. He was a small man and he seemed like a child to me, although he was 30. I was surprised because 0OHKL_WLJ[LKHUVSKLYWLYZVU^OVSVVRLK more like a criminal. We sat in a circle and the people who were there asked Stefaans questions, while I sat quietly, watched and listened. Someone encouraged me to talk. ,]LU[\HSS`0ZHPKº:[LMHHUZ0KVU»[RUV^`V\ and you don’t know me. Why then did you KV[OPZ[VTL&»/LZHPKº6SNH0OH[LKISHJR people.’ It turned out that he was taught to hate black people from when he was small. His father drank a lot, and his mother was careless. He was put in an orphanage when he was nine and did not go to school. When he was a little VSKLYOL^HZ[H\NO[MYVTHUHKHW[LKº)PISL» by Johannes Van Der Westhuizen, who was
a member of the Wit Wolwe, that people who did not have white skin were no better than HUPTHSZPUHÄLSK Van der Westhuizen took Stefaans to a farm outside Beaufort West when he was 16 to train him to kill, and to make bombs like the one that had injured me. Stefaans told me that in prison he asked for a Bible, and realised that what he had been reading had been changed so much that it wasn’t the real )PISLH[HSS/L[VSKTLOL^HZUV^HKPɈLYLU[ person. Prison had given him the chance to walk with God, and learn right from wrong. I thought to myself that this could be my sister’s child. He was used as an instrument of hatred. How would I feel if this was my child asking for forgiveness? Every day of my life since I was a little girl, I had said The Lord’s 7YH`LY!º3VYKMVYNP]LTLT`[YLZWHZZLZHZ0 forgive those who have trespassed against me’. So how could I not forgive Stefaans? It felt like the most natural thing to do when I stood up, put my arms around him and said PU?OVZHº*VTLOLYLIV`0MVYNP]L`V\ Whether what you have told me is true or not is between you and God. I am not your judge.’ Stefaans cried, I cried, everyone in the room cried.
freedom Little by little since that day, I have begun to heal. Although I long for my husband and I would like to live without pain, I am motivated by the small glimmer of hope that I received after forgiving Stefaans. I have worked since that day as a volunteer with the Worcester Khulumani Support Group, and they use me to manage meetings between Stefaans and the Worcester bomb victims, because I know how much freedom it gave me to forgive. Because of this, 35 of the victims have been to Pretoria Prison to meet Stefaans. I asked if he could be transferred to the Worcester Prison for more discussions, and he was taken there in August 2013. It saddens me that Stefaans has had no family or friends visit him since he went to prison 13 years ago. No one should be so alone in this world. I am trying to get to see him whilst he is in Worcester because I love him as my own child. I told Stefaans that when he gets out of prison, he and I should team up to try to change this country.
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IVTILYZ^LYLºISHJROH[LYZ»[YHPULK[VRPSS All of them had been captured and were in prison. Although this information made me feel both angry and sad at what had happened to me and to the other victims, I was relieved to know at last what had happened, and that the bombers were in prison. In 2003, seven years after the bombing, Vuyisile was killed in a hit-and-run car accident. I was devastated. He had been riding his bike in Worcester when he was hit by a vehicle at high speed. Losing my husband was like losing my hand. It was the worst thing that had ever happened to me, and for a time I did not believe that God L_PZ[LK0SVZ[T`^PSS[VSP]L4`JOPSKYLU^LYL taken from me to live with my in-laws as I was too depressed to look after them, and because I had no income.
Olga’s three children (left to right): Theliswa, Siyabonga and Bulelani Mcdonald live in two prisons, one around your body and one around your heart.’ When I get angry and bitter, not only about my past and the pain but because I am poor and unable to work as a result of the bombings, I get down on my knees and pray to God for help. When my children ask me why I am prepared to grant interviews and keep working for peace when my situation doesn’t JOHUNL0ZH`º)LJH\ZLP[PZT`^VYR» In 2012 I was given an award by Archbishop Desmond Tutu for the Institute of Justice and 9LJVUJPSPH[PVUH[[OL+PZ[YPJ[:P_4\ZL\TMVY forgiving the bomber, and for my commitment to community reconciliation. I was surprised to have been awarded for what I think should come naturally to all of us. ;H[H4HKPIHPZT`YVSLTVKLS/LZHPKº@V\ must sit with your enemies and you must eat with your enemies.’ I will do this, and I will continue to trust God.’
I read in a newspaper article that in prison :[LMHHUZTL[HTHUPUOPZZP_[PLZ^OV^HZ serving more than one life sentence for ISHJROH[LT\YKLYZ^OVZHPKº:[LMHHUZPM you don’t stop thinking that you’re superior because of the colour of your skin, you will this page proudly sponsored by Neville Wellington, Charlie Miller and Eric Kok thislife.org.za | issue 9 21
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Does a prayer a day keep the doctor away? Quite often, says Ali Bourne
with Alison Bourne, prayer clinic co-ordinator :6*0(3>692,9(30:65 )6<95, was born in Zimbabwe and moved to South Africa as a young girl. After many years at an NGO, she started working with prayer and pastoral care needs at Christ Church, Kenilworth, where she has been for the past 11 years. She lives in Wynberg
What is prayer? In my life, it’s speaking to God as you would to a friend Why pray? I believe God loves to answer our prayers and help us out. He can do anything but He doesn’t just barge into our lives, He waits to be asked. Why? I’d say because He wants a relationship with us, it’s a mutual thing How did the prayer clinic start? A group of doctors at Kenilworth Medicross were inspired to set it up after hearing about some Christian doctors in the UK who arranged for people to pray for patients in their practice Who and what do you pray for? Anyone who asks, and for anything: stressed teenagers, people with JHUJLYZVYLIHJRZTHYP[HSJVUÅPJ[ loneliness, even pets! Modus operandi? A team of three volunteers prays for an individual in a session lasting about 20 minutes. *VUÄKLU[PHSP[`»ZJY\JPHS Examples of answered prayer? So many! We often see immediate healings of back, knee and spinal problems. We’ve recently been privileged [VZLLYLHSIYLHR[OYV\NOZPUKPɉJ\S[ family relationships, cancer tests have come back clean, and God has lifted L_[YLTLHU_PL[`
Are all prayers answered? We believe God hears every prayer, and weeps with us. Sometimes there’s instant healing, at other times the outcome is delayed, or answered in H^H`^LKPKU»[L_WLJ[:VTL[PTLZ people come back weekly for a long period of time and it turns out that [OLYLHYLSH`LYZVMZ[\Ɉ\UKLYULH[O [OLWYLZLU[PUNWYVISLT-VYL_HTWSL I need prayer for a very painful neck, but stress in my life is contributing to the problem, and the neck’s just the symptom. I think God hates all illness HUKZ\ɈLYPUNI\[HSZV\ZLZKPɉJ\S[ situations to draw us closer to himself: because we’re desperate, we cry out to Him. Why He doesn’t heal everyone HZ[OL`TPNO[L_WLJ[[VILOLHSLKPZ often clear with hindsight, but can also remain a mystery Isn’t ‘answer to prayer’ just coincidence?4VZ[KLÄUP[LS`UV[>LZLL [VVTHU`L_[YHVYKPUHY`YLZ\S[Z[V[OPUR otherwise. We also see the peace that Jesus can give, despite no apparent healing or change happening Best thing about doing this? Seeing how God’s incredible love and kindness change every situation and person. Being able just to listen and love the people who come is also a great privilege for us
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Retired Â doctor Â Jean Â van Â Zyl-ÂSmit Â lives Â in Â Rondebosch Â with Â her Â nephrologist Â husband, Â Roal. Â They Â recently Â went Â to Â Israel Â on Â a Â study Â tour Â run Â by Â Rev. Â John Â Atkinson Â of Â the Â Churchâ€™s Â Ministry Â among Â the Â Jewish Â people /69;3@),-69,>,>,5;;60:9(,3 Â a Â MVYTLYJVSSLHN\LHZRLKÂş>O`VULHY[OKV`V\ want Â to Â go Â there?â€™ Â I Â didnâ€™t Â quite Â have Â an Â answer Â then, Â but Â now Â Iâ€™d Â encourage Â anyone Â who Â ever Â has Â the Â opportunity Â to Â grab Â it Â with Â both Â hands!
The Â country Â is Â diverse Â and Â beautiful, Â and Â the Â archaeologiJHSZP[LZHYLHTHaPUN@V\OH]LHYLHSZLUZLVMSP]PUNPU history. Â The Â visit Â brought Â the Â Bible, Â and Â the Â Old Â Testament Â in Â particular, Â alive Â for Â me Â and Â I Â gained Â a Â greater Â understanding Â of Â the Â Israeli Â and Â Palestinian Â people Â and Â their Â struggle. Â I Â also Â developed Â a Â greater Â appreciation Â MVY[OLPUJYLKPISLJVTTP[TLU[VM[OLVY[OVKV_1L^ZHUK YLHSPZLK^LÂťYLSP]PUNPU[OLTPKZ[VM[OLM\SĂ„STLU[VMIPISPJHS prophecies! My Â husband Â and Â I Â have Â mostly Â travelled Â on Â our Â own, Â and Â were Â a Â bit Â apprehensive Â about Â being Â herded Â about Â on Â buses. Â However, Â our Â group Â of Â 27 Â was Â handled Â professionally, Â and Â with Â great Â care. Â We Â stayed Â in Â very Â nice Â hotels Â ^P[OL_JLSSLU[MVVKHUKUL]LYOHKHZLUZLVMKHUNLY0[ÂťZ quite Â an Â academic Â tour, Â but Â we Â were Â well Â prepared Â by Â talks Â and Â handouts Â given Â by Â John Â before Â we Â left. Â
John Â anticipated Â that Â every Â one Â of Â us Â would Â encounter Â God Â in Â some Â way Â on Â the Â trip. Â My Â moment Â came Â at Â Lake Â Galilee, Â which Â is Â unchanged Â from Â 2 Â 000 Â years Â ago, Â just Â as Â Jesus Â would Â have Â seen Â it. Â We Â were Â at Â the Â shore Â where Â P[PZILSPL]LK[OH[1LZ\ZHZRLK[OLKPZJPWSL7L[LYÂş+V`V\ love Â me?â€™ Â I Â got Â the Â sense Â that Â God Â was Â challenging Â me Â with Â the Â same Â question, Â and Â it Â was Â an Â emotional Â moment. Â Later, Â as Â I Â sat Â on Â the Â shore Â listening Â to Â the Â water Â lapping Â around Â me, Â I Â had Â a Â great Â sense Â of Â being Â washed Â clean, Â forgiven Â and Â set Â free. Now Â weâ€™re Â back Â in Â Cape Â Town, Â Iâ€™m Â hooked Â on Â the Â Old Â Testament Â and Â going Â to Â Johnâ€™s Â weekly Â classes Â on Â the Â ;VYHO[OLĂ„YZ[Ă„]LIVVRZVM[OL6SK;LZ[HTLU[/LÂťZH humble Â man Â whose Â teaching Â is Â passionate Â and Â worldclass. Â He Â always Â draws Â from Â what Â we Â study Â to Â show Â its Â relevance Â to Â our Â own Â lives. Â Iâ€™ve Â been Â very Â fortunate Â to Â travel Â quite Â a Â bit Â in Â my Â life. Â Last Â year Â we Â went Â to Â China, Â which Â was Â fascinating. Â However Â this Â trip Â to Â Israel Â has Â impacted Â our Â lives Â like Â nothing Â else.â€™
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