all — with both fire and focus — it’s Chibuike Rotimi Amaechi. He has been many things: a fierce legislator, a no-nonsense administrator, a political survivor, and an unapologetically outspoken voice within a system that often rewards silence.
The other day, opened a package I had long forgotten ordered. Inside: a mini bag too small to hold anything useful, a trendy serum I’ve already replaced with another trendy serum, and a dress bought for a party I didn’t even attend. It wasn’t buyer’s remorse—it was buyer’s amnesia. And that, in itself, felt telling.
You know, there was a time when shopping in Nigeria had rhythm. You bought things to mark a moment—paydays, festive seasons, wedding invites. Consumption had context. Now? It’s unrelenting. Dispatch riders arrive before you remember what’s in the bag. From Instagram ads to TikTok trends, the urge to consume is constant. And no, it’s not always about luxury. Sometimes it’s just the social pressure to look “fresh,” not repeat clothes, or somehow prove you’re doing okay—even when you’re not.
This week, Inside Nigeria’s Hyper-Consumerism Spiral examines this need to constantly show up. The piece isn’t judgmental—it’s observant. I’m guilty, like many of us. But here’s the truth: when spending becomes reflex, not reward, when we shop more out of anxiety than excitement, maybe it’s time to ask what we’re really trying to fill. Consumption has become both theatre and therapy. And maybe, just maybe, it’s costing us more than money.
It’s not a stretch, then, to move from shopping to something else we tend to overperform— relationships. In today’s Nigeria, being in love comes with a side of public pressure. Relationship Anxiety: The New Third Person in the Room explores how our romantic lives are increasingly shaped by timelines, comparison, and the silent competition for the picture-perfect relationship. We’re not just dating each other anymore—we’re dating expectations, followers, algorithms, and insecurities too. It’s intense, often unspoken, and absolutely worth talking about. You should check it out.
Also, somehow, we’re almost halfway through the year. July is near, and with it, that familiar mix of reflection and low-grade panic. But breathe. If you’re still figuring things out, you’re not alone. You don’t need to catch up; you just need to come back to yourself.
So here’s to clarity. To less pressure, more intention. To love that feels like ease. And yes, to the occasional cart you abandon without guilt.
“WE’RE
ALL ADDICTED TO BUYING” – INSIDE NIGERIA’S HYPER-CONSUMERISM SPIRAL
From buy-now-pay-later schemes to constant sales and doorstep deliveries, modern Nigerians are consuming faster than ever—but are we genuinely
By Konye Chelsea Nwabogor
There was a time when shopping in Nigeria had rhythm. It followed paydays, festive seasons, and milestone moments. Buying something new was a reward, not a reflex. But those days feel distant. Today, consumption is constant—clicks, carts, and deliveries are the new pulse of modern life. Welcome to the era of hyper-consumerism, where spending has become less about need and more about habit, status, and emotional escapism.
Across Nigeria’s urban centres, especially Lagos and Abuja, hyper-consumerism is no longer limited to shopping malls or e-commerce apps. It’s baked into our homes, wardrobes, and psyches. Open the average Nigerian’s closet, and you’ll find more clothes than hangers and more shoes than feet could ever wear. Perfume bottles line up like soldiers on dressers. Bags are stacked, many still with tags on. It’s not about lack of awareness—we know we’re doing it. But stopping feels harder than we’d like to admit.
The irony is that even minimalism has become a trend to consume. There’s a new market for curated restraint—capsule wardrobes that still cost a fortune, or neutral-toned lifestyle aesthetics that signal self-discipline but require a great deal of spending to achieve. So whether it’s maximalism or minimalism, luxury or thrift, we’re still shopping—endlessly.
The reasons are layered. One is the emotional high—what behavioural scientists refer to as a dopamine loop. The anticipation of a new delivery, the illusion of control, and the temporary satisfaction of having something new all combine into a cycle that’s hard to break. With the rise of digital platforms, we’re constantly exposed to new products, lifestyle aspirations, and social comparisons. Algorithms do not just know what we like; they predict our next weakness.
Social media, particularly Instagram and TikTok, have turned consumption into theatre. The unboxing. The “get ready with me.”
The weekend market run. The subtle pan across a designer label
during a morning routine video. These are all curated moments of identity-building—and the pressure to keep up is very real. Not participating in the churn can feel like being left behind. But it’s not just outside influence. Many of us have internalised consumption as a form of progress. We equate acquiring with arriving. And when the country feels chaotic—when governance is unreliable and the future uncertain—purchases become a coping mechanism. If everything else is out of your control, at least you can control what you wear, spray, or carry. This hyper-consumerist mindset extends beyond fashion. Homes are now cluttered with unused kitchen gadgets, stacks of décor items from discount stores, unopened skincare kits, and duplicated electronics. Every new interior trend demands a change—buying rattan today, marble tomorrow. We’re constantly tweaking, upgrading, rebranding. Yet beneath all this abundance, there’s a hollowness. A quiet fatigue. Despite the volume of things, satisfaction remains elusive.
That’s the paradox: the more we buy, the less fulfilled we seem to feel.
So what’s the way forward?
First, we need to acknowledge that consumption is now deeply tied to identity in a way that previous generations didn’t experience. Our parents bought for utility. We buy to be seen. Breaking that linkage requires a mindset shift—recognising that style, taste, and confidence are not always connected to novelty or volume.
Second, we need to normalise re-use. Not just re-wearing outfits, but rotating items in our homes, restyling spaces, even swapping with friends. There’s no shame in showing up in the same outfit twice. In fact, that should be the flex—knowing how to make the most out of what you already own.
Retailers and influencers also need to evolve. Rather than pushing endless new drops, there’s space for brands that promote durability, timelessness, and thoughtful consumption. Nigerian designers in particular have the opportunity to lead this conversation, championing craftsmanship and value over trend-chasing.
Finally, there’s the power of the pause. Before each purchase—pause. Ask: Do need this, or am I just numbing a feeling? Will this bring joy beyond this week? Or am I simply caught in the loop?
None of this is to say that consumption is inherently bad. In fact, Nigeria’s creative and consumer sectors are some of the most vibrant in Africa. Supporting them is vital. But the challenge—and opportunity—is to be more intentional. To consume with awareness, not addiction. Because at some point, we have to ask: are we really in control of our choices—or just being led by an algorithm and an invisible hunger for more?
Maybe it’s time we start curating not just our wardrobes and feeds—but our habits. Maybe the next wave of luxury isn’t owning more—but choosing wisely, living lighter, and learning to find satisfaction in enough.
EXECUTIVE EDITOR
CHEERS TO FADEKEMI AND LANRE
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t was an elegant affair steeped in tradition, grace, and high society sparkle as the families of Senator Mukhail Adetokunbo and Mrs. Feyisola Abiru, and Omoba Olabode and Mrs. Oluyemi Onanuga, came together to celebrate the wedding of their children, Fadekemi Aminat and Lanre Faruq, on Saturday, May 31, 2025. Held at the prestigious Eko Convention Center, Eko Hotel, the reception was a grand and wellorchestrated event that brought together political dignitaries, captains of industry, and Lagos high society. Guests arrived stylishly dressed, adding to the air of glamour that surrounded the day. The atmosphere inside the ballroom was nothing short of spectacular—with lush floral installations, gleaming chandeliers, and a soft, romantic palette that set the tone for the evening. The families spared no detail in making the celebration unforgettable, with a seamless blend of culture and class. As expected, it was a showcase of elegance, legacy, and the beautiful fusion of two prominent families.
Congratulations to the newlyweds on a beautiful beginning.
First Things First: Why Gold Jewellery?
Gold is one of the only fashion items that doesn’t lose value the minute you walk out of the store. In fact, depending on the market, your gold pieces can actually appreciate in value over time. It’s a hedge against inflation, a symbol of status, and—when chosen wisely—a deeply personal style statement. Unlike costume jewellery, which tarnishes or breaks after a few wears, real gold lasts a lifetime and then some. Whether you wear it daily or keep it tucked away for special occasions, you’ll always know you’ve got something of true value—on your wrist, around your neck, or stashed safely for rainy days.
Understand Karats (Because Not All Gold Is Equal)
When buying gold, the first thing to understand is karats— which indicate the purity of gold in the piece. Think of it like a percentage score:
24K: Pure gold. Extremely soft and bright yellow. Gorgeous, but not great for daily wear. 22K (91.6%): High in purity, commonly used for traditional jewellery in places like Nigeria, India, and the Middle East. Still soft, so often better for occasional wear.
18K (75%): Stronger and more durable while still retaining a luxurious gold shine. Great for fashion jewellery and daily wear.
14K (58.5%): More affordable and extremely durable, but with a subtler gold tone.
If you’re just starting out, 18K offers the best of both worlds: high gold content with everyday durability and elegance.
Learn the Lingo: Solid, Plated, or Filled?
Don’t be fooled by anything that sparkles. All gold is not created equal, especially in the age of curated Instagram shops and fast jewellery trends. Know the difference: Solid Gold: The real deal. Long-lasting. High resale value.
Gold-Filled: A thick layer of gold over base metal. More affordable, but not an heirloom piece.
Gold-Plated: A whisper of gold over a cheap base. Looks great at first but fades fast. Avoid as an “investment.”
If it’s not solid gold, it’s not investment-worthy.
Always Check for Hallmarks
Every genuine gold item should have a hallmark stamped discreetly on it. This
BUYING
GOLD
JEWELRY FOR BEGINNERS
So, you’ve caught the gold bug. Maybe it was a pair of vintage hoops on Instagram, a friend’s heirloom necklace that glowed like old money, or the realisation that, unlike trendy jewellery that rusts in two months, real gold never goes out of style—or value. If you’ve never bought gold jewellery before, it can feel like walking into a world where everyone speaks in karats, hallmarks, and weight per gram—and you’re just here wondering why one bangle costs as much as rent. Welcome to your beginner’s guide to buying gold jewellery. We’re breaking down everything you need to know so you can buy with confidence, clarity, and a little bit of flair.
tiny engraving tells you the karat and purity—e.g., “750” for 18K or “916” for 22K. It’s your first line of defence against getting duped. Buying gold without a hallmark is like buying a designer brand without a tag. Just don’t do it.
Start with the Classics
Your first gold piece should be versatile, timeless, and true to your style. Think gold hoop earrings, a slim bangle, a Cuban link chain, or a delicate pendant. These are the kinds of pieces you’ll wear often and that work with almost everything—from jeans and tees to traditional wear. Remember: you can always go bold later. Start with what you’ll love and wear now, not what’s trending on TikTok.
Think in Grams, Not Just Naira (or Dollars) Gold is sold by weight— usually in grams—and its price is tied to international gold rates. That means a
heavier piece will cost more but also carry more resale value. Always ask for the current price per gram and do a quick mental calculation before you buy.
This helps you know whether the price you’re quoted is fair—or inflated by overhead, craftsmanship, or just vibes. Where to Buy: Trust Is Everything
If you’re buying in Nigeria, head to trusted markets like Balogun Market in Lagos, Wuse in Abuja, or the ancient gold traders of Kano. These markets have rich histories and offer a wide variety of options— but go with someone experienced and always insist on a scale, a hallmark, and a receipt. For beginners (and those who want more peace of mind), upscale jewellers or certified gold boutiques may offer less negotiation but more credibility, especially with warranties,
authentication, and clear return policies.
Want a gold-buying experience like no other, and you have enough cash to burn? Head to Dubai.
The Dubai Gold Souk is a legendary marketplace where you’ll find everything from delicate gold anklets to jaw-dropping bridal sets. The quality is excellent, the selection is unmatched, and gold prices are surprisingly competitive.
Bonus Tip: Gold Is Style with Security
What makes gold jewellery so special is that it’s a wearable savings account. A lot of African women already know this. In many families, gold is gifted at weddings and special occasions because it’s not just a symbol of love— it’s financial security you can hold in your hand. In emergencies, gold can be sold, melted, or traded. That’s not just sentiment—that’s strategy.
Hertunba’s latest collection, JOY, is not just about fashion— it’s a thoughtful reflection on what it means to be a woman navigating the complexities of life in Nigeria today. Created with intention and clarity, the collection captures the quiet strength of women who continue to create, nurture, and persevere despite the pressure of daily challenges.
Designed by Creative Director Florentina Agu, JOY is rooted in the experiences of Nigerian women— teachers, mothers, traders, and creatives—who remain visible, vibrant, and dignified in a society that often takes their contributions for granted. The collection doesn’t idealise struggle; it honours the grace with which many carry it.
Crafted with handwoven Akwete and shimmering Aso Oke, the garments represent the merging of heritage and contemporary design. Bold colours—tangerine, fuchsia, and fresh greens—signal energy and presence, while silhouettes balance structure and ease, giving form to both softness and strength.
These are pieces made to move, work, and endure— much like the women they celebrate.
What sets JOY apart is its clarity of purpose. It’s fashion that acknowledges reality without being defined by it. The pieces are designed sustainably, using upcycled materials and indigenous weaving techniques, aligning with the brand’s broader mission to merge luxury with responsibility.
The name Hertunba— derived from “Her” and the Yoruba title “Otunba”— signals feminine authority and intention. And with this collection, the brand leans into that identity with conviction. JOY is not positioned as fleeting happiness but as a deliberate, daily choice to be present, expressive, and resilient.
At a time when the pressure to constantly appear put together weighs heavily on many, Hertunba offers something different: garments that allow space to breathe and designs that feel grounded in something real. This is fashion as acknowledgement—not escape.
HERTUNBA’S COLLECTION
“JOY”
IS A BOLD STATEMENT ON WOMANHOOD AND RESILIENCE.
LACE IS BACK – BUT NOT HOW YOUR GRANDMA WORE IT
By Aliyah Olowolayemo
Lace used to be the fabric of heirlooms—neatly tucked away in your grandma’s wardrobe, reserved for church services, society weddings, and the occasional “big event” in the family. In Nigeria, it was synonymous with Aso Ebi prestige—elaborate, intricate, and expensive. But lace has undergone a major rebrand. No longer just dainty or demure, it’s now sheer, sultry, sporty, sometimes punk, and often unapologetically edgy. Fashion has dusted off the old lace narrative and spun it into something fresh—less Victorian modesty, more modern confidence. Thanks to runway reinventions and the street style scene, lace has evolved from being “special occasion only” to everyday slay. Whether you’re heading to a fashion event or simply brunching in Lekki, there’s a lace look with your name on it. Here’s your updated style guide to lace in 2025—and how to wear it without looking like you raided a vintage store for your auntie’s 60th birthday outfit.
1. Sheer Lace Dresses Are the New Eveningwear
Let’s get this out of the way: Yes, lace is now extremely sheer—and proudly so. From the Grammys to private rooftop parties in Lagos, floor-length lace dresses are making bold entrances. They’re sexy, romantic, and a little dangerous. The trick is all in the styling: think visible high-waist briefs and bralettes, or layering with solid slips that still let the pattern peek through.
2. Lace Tops, But Make It Daytime
There was a time when lace tops were for bridal showers or your mum’s friend’s 50th birthday. Now? They’re street-style staples. Pair a fitted lace blouse with cargo pants and sneakers, or layer a sheer longsleeved number over a bralette and tuck into high-waisted jeans. Add gold hoops, layered necklaces, and maybe even a leather jacket.
3. Lingerie-Inspired Lace Is Now Streetwear
Thanks to the TikTok generation and fashion’s obsession with Y2K nostalgia, lingerie-inspired lace has spilled over into streetwear. Lacetrimmed camisoles, slips, and babydoll dresses are layered over tees or under oversized blazers. Channel your inner ‘90s Kate Moss with a Gen Z remix: combat boots, messy buns, and tiny shoulder bags—the more unexpected the combo, the cooler the result.
4. Lace Trousers? Yes, Really. We know—it sounds like a risky move. But lace trousers are having a fashion moment. Sheer and tailored, they’re a power statement. Go monochrome with a matching lace shirt, or tone them down with an oversized tee or utility jacket. Add chunky sandals or barely-there heels, depending on your vibe.
5. Traditional Lace, Reimagined In Nigeria, lace has never gone out of style. It’s a cultural staple, from weddings to coronations. But even our beloved Aso Ebi is getting a refresh. Designers are creating modern silhouettes—think asymmetric blouses, corseted iro and buba combos, lace dresses with detachable sleeves, and vibrant non-traditional colour palettes.
6. Don’t Sleep on Lace Accessories
If a full lace outfit feels like too much, there’s always a subtler route. Accessories are an easy way to dip your toe in. Lace gloves, tights,
headbands, and even socks are making a comeback—yes, even in hot climates. They add texture and visual interest to a look, especially when styled cleverly. Lace gloves with a sleeveless slip dress? Instant drama. Sheer lace socks with mules or pumps? Fashion girl detail. These little touches go a long way.
7. Lace Meets Sporty?
Surprisingly Chic
If you love contrasts, this one’s for you. Fashion is embracing the unexpected—lace meets streetwear meets sporty. Picture this: a lace bodysuit under a tracksuit set, or a mesh-lace hybrid paired with sneakers and a bum bag. The beauty of this trend lies in its ability to marry softness with structure and hyper-femininity with a tomboy edge. It’s giving “don’t box me in” energy, and we’re here for it.
Dear Reader,
SURVIV R
BY DR. KEMI DASILVA-IBRU AND GLORIA JOACQUIM
WARIF SURVIVOR STORIES
Welcome to the WARIF Survivor Stories Series, a monthly feature where stories of survivors of rape and sexual violence are shared to motivate and encourage survivors to speak their truth without the fear of judgment or stigmatization and to educate the public on the sheer magnitude of this problem in our society. The Women at Risk International Foundation (WARIF) is a non-profit organization set up in response to the extremely high incidence of rape, sexual violence, and human trafficking of young girls and women in our society. WARIF is tackling this issue through a holistic approach that covers health, education, and community service initiatives. WARIF aids survivors of rape and sexual violence through the WARIF Centrea haven where trained professionals are present full time, 6 days a week, including public holidays, to offer immediate medical care, forensic medical examinations, psychosocial counselling, and welfare services, which include shelter, legal aid, and vocational skills training. These services are provided FREE of charge to any survivor who walks into the Centre.
BECOMING EMERALD: A JOURNEY AT 23
The day began like any other: ordinary, uneventful, and familiar. Nothing felt out of place, so I carried on with my usual routine. had just returned from my JAMB lesson classes, determined and focused. I had already passed my WAEC exams with excellent results, but despite my efforts, I didn’t meet the cut-off mark for Mechanical Engineering, the course truly wanted to study. Though I was admitted into another program, chose to decline. decided to wait and try again. This was my second attempt at JAMB, and I was more committed than ever. My mom has two children, my younger brother and me. Our father passed away about five years ago after a long illness, and since then, she has been our sole provider. Over the years, she has taken on various small businesses, doing whatever she could to keep us in school, put food on the table, and ensure we had a roof over our heads. Despite the challenges, she never wavered in teaching us strong values—kindness, integrity, and the importance of contentment. Her resilience shaped us, and her lessons helped us grow grateful for every little thing she was able to give My mother runs a small food shop where she sells cooked meals, and after school, my younger brother and always help serve customers. In the evenings, she usually leaves us at the shop while she heads to the market to buy ingredients for the next day. On that fateful day, just like many others, she left us at the shop as usual. That’s when he came—Sonny, the name he gave me. He walked in, sat beside me, and ordered food.
After eating, he checked his pockets and claimed he had forgotten his purse. He pleaded with me to follow him so he could pay me. I was reluctant at first, but he assured me that he had left it at a nearby shop where he had just bought an item. agreed to go with him. I got into his car, and he waved a handkerchief in my face. I immediately felt weak and dizzy. He drove me to a place I later found out was a short-let apartment. He used a key to open the apartment and carried me inside, and was semiconscious. It was a self-contained apartment. While inside, he removed my clothes, forced himself on me, and he had sexual intercourse with me several times. Meanwhile, my mother returned from the market and began searching for me. She asked my brother, who told her had gone with a customer to collect payment for the food he bought from our shop. My mother, now frightened, started calling my phone, but I had left it behind to charge before Sonny arrived, and forgot to pick it up when I left the shop.
Though I was still weak, did not stop in case he chased after me. I kept walking until found a business centre. explained my situation to the agent, who gave me her phone to make a call. I called my mom, and the agent described my location to her. I waited until she came to pick me up. We went straight to the police station, where wrote a detailed statement. The police officers visited the location, but Sonny had already absconded. They began investigating the owner of the apartment.
The police referred us to the WARIF Rape Crisis Centre. was assessed, and received medical care. The doctor at the Centre conducted both medical and forensic examinations, and received psychosocial counselling to help me cope with the trauma. I was experiencing fear, flashbacks, loss of concentration, and anxiety. The counsellor assured me it was not my fault and gave me the strength to begin my healing journey. After the first session, I felt relieved and was better able to process my emotions.
am hopeful for a meaningful life despite the trauma. The counselling at WARIF helped me greatly. I attended group therapy sessions, where developed a sense of belonging with other survivors. found comfort in knowing I was not alone and that others shared similar stories. The sessions taught me new coping strategies and helped me move forward toward healing and fulfilment.
Thanks to the police officers and the apartment owner, the perpetrator was eventually tracked down and arrested. The case was charged to court. We have attended a few hearings, and I am pleased with the proceedings. I am confident that I will get justice.
About three months after the incident, sat for my JAMB exams, aced my papers, and gained admission to study my choice course, Mechanical Engineering, at one of the prestigious universities in Nigeria. It has been two years since the incident, and I am doing well in my academically, psychologically, emotionally, and mentally.
Many thanks to my support system, especially the WARIF Team. You are doing an incredible job!
* Real name of the Survivor changed for confidentiality
My mother cried out for help, and neighbours in nearby stalls joined in, calling my name and searching for me. Eventually, she and her friend went to report my disappearance at the nearest police station. Fortunately, the drug on the handkerchief began to wear off. pretended was still dizzy, and after another sexual molestation, Sonny felt satisfied, and he went to take a shower. I quietly got up, tiptoed to the door, turned the lock, and thankfully, it opened. ran as fast as my legs could carry me.
Dear Survivor, please know that you are not alone, and it is not your fault. Help is available. If you have been raped or know someone who has, please visit us at:
The WARIF Centre 6, Turton Street, off Thorburn Avenue, Sabo, Yaba, or call our 24-hour confidential helpline on 0800-9210-0009.
You don’t coast through Nigerian politics for over three decades without collecting stories, scars, enemies, and the kind of authority that cannot be borrowed. And if there’s one politician who has walked through it all — with both fire and focus — it’s Chibuike Rotimi Amaechi.
He has been many things: a fierce legislator, a no-nonsense administrator, a political survivor, and an unapologetically outspoken voice within a system that often rewards silence.
From the moment he became Speaker of the Rivers State House of Assembly at just 34, Amaechi positioned himself as a man unafraid of the front row. He went on to serve two full terms as Governor of Rivers State, where he oversaw massive infrastructure expansion — including the reconstruction of schools, roads, and health centres — long before “development” became a political buzzword. Later, as Minister of Transportation under President Muhammadu Buhari, he spearheaded one of Nigeria’s most ambitious infrastructure drives in recent memory. Under his watch, the Lagos-Ibadan Railway line was completed, the Abuja-Kaduna rail became operational, and conversations around national logistics began to shift from abstract policy to actual movement. Amaechi stood out for his urgency — his insistence that progress be visible and measurable.
Now at 60, the political heavyweight still commands a certain attention. Not because he panders to the spotlight but because he’s never really left the stage. Whether you admire his grit or critique his methods, you cannot ignore the footprint: a legacy built not just on titles, but on a fierce belief in doing the work — and often doing it loudly. What does turning 60 mean to a man who’s already shaped state and national politics, challenged his own party in full daylight, and still came close to clinching the APC presidential ticket in 2023? Is this the beginning of elder statesmanship — or simply a new vantage point?
From his early days in student unionism to one of the most pivotal voices in Nigeria’s Fourth Republic, Amaechi’s story is layered, controversial, and undeniably compelling. As he steps into this new chapter, he sits with us — frank as ever — for an honest, insightful conversation about legacy, leadership, and what still keeps him awake at night. Rotimi Amaechi is still standing. And as you’ll read, he’s still very much not done.
BY KONYE NWABOGOR
Sixty looks good on you - but beyond appearances, what has this milestone really meant for you personally? Gratitude. I’m grateful to God for his grace. And that the desire to worship God is more as get older.
Let’s go back to the beginning. What was your childhood in Rivers State like? The real story, not the political version.
I have told this story several times, you know. It wasn’t easy for me. had a poor background. My parents struggled to get me through the University, after which began to sponsor myself and my siblings. I depended so much on God, and in the end, He delivered me. At a very young age, I entered politics at the age of 22, which would be approximately thirty-eight years ago. And I’ve since been in politics, struggling to make my contributions, and my achievements are there for everyone to see. From the positions I’ve held, from being the Speaker of the parliament of the University, and then being in the government, all makes me thank God for the wonderful life he has given me.
Were you raised in a politically conscious home – or did that come later?
Well, my father was into politics. He contested for Councillorship; can’t remember if he won or not. So when you consider that, literally took over from him. By 1992 was already in politics. I had become Special Assistant to the Deputy Governor of Rivers State.
You became Speaker of the Rivers State House of Assembly in your 30s. That’s young. Did you feel ready, or were you just simply bold?
I was ready. Yes. I was one of the best Speakers the country had produced at that time, and give glory to God for giving me that opportunity. Again, I would also be grateful to Dr. Peter Odili for allowing God to use him as an instrument to uplift me.
You were Governor at 42, Minister at 50. When did you hit your Peak politically - or do you feel it hasn’t happened yet?
I feel it hasn’t happened. The presidency is there for people to compete. Well, not to ‘compete’, to consider, and I’ve not also withdrawn from politics.
Politics in Nigeria is not for the faint-hearted. What has kept you going through the turbulence – loyalty, belief or something else entirely?
God!
You’re famously blunt. You say what others are afraid to say? Has that honesty helped your career? Or cost you more than people realise?
Those who like me like me for being blunt and honest. Everybody knows where they stand with me. So those who like me,
like me for that. They want to know upfront. You want to know upfront; you would not want to be deceived. What you see most times, for example, is people lying up and down, people deceiving you. You make your calculation based on the promises people have made, only to get disappointed. You have lost out because of that. Who would want that?
So, those kind of people are happy that they’re dealing with a man like me who’s straightforward. The upbringing received from my parents was different; they didn’t teach us how to lie, nor did they encourage us to do so. So, I teach my children not to lie, and hope that at the end of the day, they will be like me. Those who hate me hate me because they don’t want to be told the truth. They don’t like me because tell the truth. That’s what it is. Sometimes, it’s advantageous. But if it was disadvantageous, then I wouldn’t have gotten to where I got to (in my career).
Your emergence as Governor through the Supreme Court in 2007 remains one of Nigeria’s most extraordinary political comebacks. What did that teach you about fate and power?
That was all God, trust me. I fear God so much because know what he can do. Nobody else. I tell you, yes, it’s God. People should look at what happened to me. If anyone thinks it isn’t God, I wish them luck. But again, we must not fail to remain transparent; we must continue being transparent, at the least.
As Minister of Transportation, what achievement are you most proud of? The one you believe history will remember. Lekki Deep Seaport. We built the Lekki Deep Seaport from scratch. We built it from scratch. went to China to sign the agreement from scratch. There was nothing when got to that land. went to the President to seek support. He gave me all the support needed, and I ensured that it was indeed achieved. It was earlier abandoned when the Concessionaires approached me, and I said, are you ready now? They said yes. The then NPA MD(Hadiza Bala Usman) didn’t want them to. She made it extremely difficult. I had to put my feet down, and said this must be achieved. And there was so much ethnic noise back then, but I insisted that it was done because it’s a national infrastructure. The next one is the Railways you have. People are talking about the Railway from Lagos. Remember the Completion of Abuja to Kaduna and Warri to Itakpe? They were all my ideas. Kaduna to Kano and Kano to Maradi - they were started. Okay, cannot claim ideas – the one of Kaduna to Kano was Obasanjo’s idea. He had a plan of what the railway network would be like in Nigeria. The one from Kano to Maradi was ECOWAS Protocol. was instrumental to bringing them to fruition by God’s grace. I think that if we don’t allow people to ignore and rewrite history, then the country won’t forget me for that.
What about the Deep Blue Project (Integrated National Security and Waterways Protection Infrastructure) ?
Well, that has to do with security; people may tend to forget over the years that it was my idea. The one that nobody can forget you is the one they can see on ground, the one where they can say, who built this.
What’s your honest assessment of where Nigeria is right noweconomically, socially, and morally? Do you think we are addressing the real problems - or are we constantly sidestepping them for convenience and survival?
Why do you ask a question that you already know the answer to? Now, there’s no way - you know that I will not say to you, and will repeat it to the world that Tinubu has done damage to us. Even your children will come to suffer the consequences of his term. You will be shocked at the kind of harm they are doing. They don’t care. They have no fear. They have no respect for Nigerians. People are buying new cars, businesses, and houses. wonder what he’s doing? Only looking for opponents. But right there, people are stealing, they’re not afraid. They are building houses with the money. They are laundering the money and building hotels.
In 2023, you made a bold run for the presidency. What was the most revealing thing that experience taught you?
That I should try again! I need to get back to it that in collaboration with the people, we can change Nigeria together.
So that means you are going to run again?
don’t know. I just see that what it looks like is that should try again. If given the opportunity again, would you contest for the presidency?
Of course!
Many Nigerians feel that their leaders are out of touch. Have you ever struggled with that? The disconnection between office and reality?
I’ve always not been distant from reality. I’ve always helped. I knew what it is to be poor because have been there too. I’ll give you an example. I found it difficult with my siblings to go through primary and secondary
schools because we had no money. We managed to go through it. My elder sister used to remind me because had to go to University, others stayed home for me to graduate. then had to train the rest of my siblings. So whenever I complain like, ‘Oh, this is too much work, this person should leave me, why do I have to continue to pay?
Everybody feels I have to fund everybody.’ She tells me, ‘You are the family investment.’ So, understand poverty. I’ll give you another example. jog through the roads around my neighbourhood, and see some children come up to me; they watch me pass, and one day, ask why they don’t go to school. Five of them. And they said their father does not have the money to send them to school. So I told my staff, ‘enrol them in a school, whether private or government, will pay.’ They enrolled them in a private school. Two of them have finished primary school and are now in Secondary school.
And we will train them on the path they choose until they earn their degrees from the University. also appealed to their father not to have more children. But he has had two more in addition to the five I am training in school. feel sad that if hadn’t jogged through that place, five children would have been wasting away with no education. When told my security that I would train the children up to University, one of them said, ‘Oga, I have children too. It’s not that I’m that rich. can’t fend for the world, but feel sad seeing primary school age children on the streets instead of being in school. If I become President, was toying with the idea yesterday - can you, as President, declare free and compulsory education? My mind tells me, you can do that. You may not have the money, but you can push your way through, just to ensure that more persons go to school. If you can’t train everybody, at least train up to 80 per cent of Nigerians. There was a time in Tunisia when almost everybody was a graduate. If everybody goes to school, the politicians will not be successful at manipulating the people with the issue of ethnicity and division. What’s the problem in Nigeria? If you give me a chance to be President of Nigeria, I will change the concept of indigeneship to citizenship. Indigeneship is what kills Nigerians, and that’s what you have. And now look at it, and I think we should look more at being citizens of Nigeria, not indigenes of any subdivisions. believe the government is not even looking at doing better, and that is it. The World Bank recently asked the question, ‘Where are the proceeds from the subsidies?’ If you put back those funds into the economy, it will grow the economy. You get back the Middle Class that we don’t have now because we have just two classes, which are the rich and the poor.
What’s the problem in Nigeria? If you give me a chance to be President of Nigeria, I will change the concept of indigeneship to citizenship. Indigeneship is what kills Nigerians, and that’s what you have.
People often say we need a new generation of leaders. But who is preparing them? And do you see any hope in the next crop of political Minds?
That’s a bit difficult to answer, so I don’t incite, and they use it against me. Some youths are working hard towards changing Nigeria. Some just want to pick up from where the current leaders stop. The good thing are the ones working hard to change things for the good of the country.
If you were to start again, not in politics, but in another field, what would you choose? And why?
Farming. Imagine that have a chicken farm that produces ten thousand chickens, and you’re selling one for one hundred. That’s one million, right?
How has your family shaped the man you are today? And how do they cope with all the chaos of politics?
My wife has been such a wonderful, caring and understanding wife. At first, she was sceptical about my coming back home late at night. One day, as Governor, asked her to come with me. At about 10 pm, picked her up and went on my security rounds. It was a bad night, and we ran until the security met up with me; they were trying to deploy when my wife saw that her life was in danger, and I actually had to take her back home. dropped her off and went back to join the security team, we were on patrol until 4 am.
But the most important thing is she had participated the most of my political life. So she knows all of it, and she is such a wonderful wife, mother, and director. She takes care of the children. She was at one time both father and mother to the children. When it gets tough, and she needs a father to scream at the children, she brings me in. When she needs to be a mother, she becomes a mother to them and all that. So she’s such a great woman.
WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A FASHIONABLE MAN IN 2025
Fashion in 2025 has officially outgrown the idea that men must choose between being classic or trendy. Today, style is a hybrid— part elevated essentials, part subtle flex, part “I know exactly what I’m doing without trying too hard.” The fashionable man in 2025 isn’t just dressing well; he’s curating a wardrobe with intention, personality, and just enough edge to make people look twice. Here’s what defines the stylish man this year—no overdone confidence talk, just real-deal fashion cues:
1. He Knows the Power of Quiet Luxury – but Adds His Own Twist Yes, the Succession-era of stealth wealth is still going strong, but 2025’s fashionable man isn’t just dressing like a corporate villain. He understands quality, but he’s not afraid to throw in a curveball. Think of a perfectly tailored cream jacket paired with frayed denim or a suede loafer worn with track pants. It’s less about screaming money and more about whispering taste—with a wink.
2. He’s Big on Textures 2025 is the year texture takes centre stage. The fashionable man is layering fabrics in
a way that makes even a monochrome outfit feel rich. It’s less about prints and more about how things feel—literally and visually. Pro tip? Mix hard and soft textures. A structured linen blazer over a lightweight knit tank is a spring winner.
3. He Respects Tailoring, But Doesn’t Worship It
We’re in the era of the “relaxed suit.”
You’ll find today’s stylish man in slouchy double-breasted blazers, unlined jackets, wide-legged trousers, and the occasional matching short suit (yes, it works when done right). He’s not ditching tailoring altogether—he’s just updating the fit. Bonus points for choosing bold colours— aubergine, forest green, and rust—that look less office and more off-duty cool.
4. He’s Not Afraid of a Statement Accessory 2025 is not the year to be shy with your extras. Enter: chunky metal cuffs, beaded neckpieces, hats that serve, and sunglasses that do more than block the sun. The fashionable man knows how to inject personality through one standout piece. And no, it doesn’t have to be loud—it just has to be intentional.
5. He Treats Sneakers Like
Investment Pieces
Sneaker culture has matured. Today’s stylish man isn’t chasing every hyped drop—he’s investing in sneakers that blend craftsmanship with minimal branding. Think Wales Bonner Sambas, Margiela replicas, or sleek, handmade leather pairs from lesserknown labels. They’re still sporty, but with taste.
If he’s wearing chunky dad sneakers, it’s because he wants to look like a Scandinavian creative director—not because it’s trending on TikTok.
6. He Understands That Grooming Is Part of the Look
This isn’t about skincare routines or beard oil plugs. We’re talking about the subtle art of looking clean without looking “done.” Hair is sharp, beards are shaped (if present), and nails are low-key impeccable. Nothing flashy. Just elevated hygiene that says, ‘I care, but I don’t need to announce it.’
7. He’s Embracing Cultural Fashion With Respect African prints. Japanese silhouettes. Middle Eastern embroidery. The fashionable man in 2025 is borrowing from global aesthetics with understanding, not appropriation. He might pair an agbada-inspired overshirt with denim, or wear Moroccan babouches with a linen suit.
He Shops Smart
And Sustainably
9. He Makes Athleisure Look Like Luxe
10. He’s Got Range Ultimately, the fashionable man in 2025 has range. He can do minimal, maximal, global, or retro—all without looking like a fashion victim. He’s not trying to be everyone; he’s just very much himself, expressed through his clothes. And that’s the magic.
GREG KONMEH
UZOMA DOZIE
JOSEPH EDGAR
CHIKE OGEAH
Life as a Nigerian comes with its own unique rhythm. There’s the daily hustle, the art of beating traffic like it’s an Olympic sport, keeping an eye on the exchange rate as though you’re trading forex, and adjusting to life’s little surprises like the occasional fuel queue. It’s a lot—and even the most resilient among us eventually whisper those four sacred words: I need a break. Not just a long weekend or a Saturday staycation, but a real getaway. The kind where you leave the country, silence your phone, and treat yourself to food you can’t quite pronounce. The kind of trip that resets your body, mind, and maybe even your wardrobe. But when is the best time to take this much-needed escape? Because if there’s one thing Nigerians have mastered, it’s perfect timing. And spoiler alert: December isn’t always the smartest choice.
December? Stay Put, Biko.
Let’s get this out of the way: No real Nigerian wants to leave Nigeria in December. That’s when Nigeria comes alive. The weddings, the concerts, the December-only hookups, the last-minute airport pickups. Whether you’re in Lagos, Enugu, or Jos, Detty December is not to be missed. In fact, even Nigerians in the diaspora save their money and vacation days just to fly back for it. So unless you’re running from wedding invites or avoiding that one auntie asking about marriage, December is a no-fly zone.
SO, WHEN’S THE BEST TIME TO JET OUT?
Glad you asked. The best time to travel out of Nigeria depends on what you’re looking for—peace, affordability, fewer tourists, or a well-timed escape from yet another fuel price hike. Here are three golden windows:
1. March to Early June:
This is arguably the bestkept secret in travel circles. The harmattan haze is gone, the kids are still in school, and the rest of the world isn’t quite on summer break yet. You’ll get better flight prices, visa appointments
won’t feel like Hunger Games, and the destinations are just warm enough for that sundress you’ve been dying to wear.
2. September to Early November: Think of this as the calm before the December storm. Everyone abroad has returned to work or school, so the crowds thin out. European cities are getting cold but not freezing, and you can get into restaurants and museums without standing in a queue that wraps around the block.
3. January to February: Fresh from Detty December and burnt from the
ESCAPE: THE SWEET
When and Where to Take a Holiday Outside Nigeria
bills, most Nigerians go into hibernation mode. But if you’re clever (or have leftover travel points), this is a great time to sneak in a quick trip—especially for snow-filled adventures or quiet luxury retreats.
WHERE TO GO BASED ON YOUR MOOD AND BUDGET
Let’s break it down. Here’s where to escape to, based on your vibe.
For the Vibes + Visa Ease: Ghana or Kenya
Close enough to feel familiar, but different enough to feel like a getaway. Accra is always buzzing, and Nairobi offers everything from city life to safaris—plus, visa processing won’t make you cry.
For the Bougie Soft Life: Maldives or Seychelles
Ideal for baecations or milestone birthdays. Think: private beaches, floating breakfasts, infinity pools, and the sweet satisfaction of
posting it all on Instagram. The only thing better than soft life is soft life outside Nigeria.
For Culture & Exploration: Paris, Rome, or Istanbul
Perfect for travellers who want their holidays with a side of history, art, and fantastic food. Paris is for romance (and shopping), Rome is for drama (and gelato), and Istanbul?
It’s giving East meets West realness.
For Street Style + Shopping: London, Dubai, or New York
This one’s for the fashionistas, the content creators, and the ‘I came to slay’ squad. London is a second home to Nigerians—we know the corners, the stores, and the shawarma spots. Dubai offers shiny malls, hot weather, and luxury on speed dial (plus, it’s very Instagrammable). New York, though? That’s the holy grail. You’ll blend in with
your bold colours and edgy looks, and no one will blink.
Soho, Fifth Avenue, Brooklyn flea markets—it’s all fair game. And nothing beats walking through Manhattan with a coffee cup in hand like you’re in a Nollywood version of Sex and the City.
For Natural Beauty + Adventure: Cape Town
South Africa keeps giving—and we should keep receiving. From wine tasting in Stellenbosch to hiking Table Mountain, or just staring out at the ocean from Camps Bay, Cape Town is for travelers who want excitement and peace. Plus, the photos?
Chef’s kiss.
Plan Ahead or Pay the Price
Word to the wise: start early. Apply for your visa months ahead—especially for the Schengen zone, the UK, or the US. Use a travel agent who understands Nigerian realities And always, always keep an eye on flight deals.
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RELATIONSHIP ANXIETY: THE NEW THIRD PERSON IN THE ROOM
It begins quietly. A delayed reply. A subtle shift in tone.
A “hey” instead of the usual “hey babe.” Then comes the internal monologue: What did I do? Are they losing interest? Is someone else in the picture? And just like that, a romantic evening becomes a mental battlefield. The wine is still flowing, the room is still dimly lit, but there are now three of you at the table — you, your partner, and your anxiety.
We don’t talk about it enough, but we feel it deeply.
Relationship anxiety, once an obscure concept tucked away in the annals of psychology, has taken centre stage in modern romance. And in today’s hyperconnected, pressure-cooked Nigerian society — where romantic expectations are high, timelines are short, and social media provides endless comparisons — it’s not just common, it’s epidemic.
“In our parents’ time, love was simpler,” says a Lagos-based relationship psychologist.
“Today, young people are dating with a hundred open tabs in their minds. They’re juggling societal expectations, digital scrutiny, personal trauma, and unrealistic ideals all at once.”
So, what exactly is relationship anxiety?
It’s the persistent fear that something is wrong, even when everything seems fine.
It’s not necessarily tied to red flags or major betrayals — in fact, it’s often at its loudest in quiet moments when nothing is happening. It’s a gnawing uncertainty. A need for reassurance. A tendency to second-guess your worth, your partner’s intentions, and the future of the relationship, often simultaneously.
And it doesn’t discriminate.
You can be madly in love, in a “healthy” relationship, and still be haunted by what-ifs. What if they fall out of love? What if I’m too much? What if they meet someone better?
In Nigeria, where so much of love is tied to status, marriageability, and gender roles, these fears are even more heightened. You’re not just dating a person — you’re dating their tribe, their expectations, their family WhatsApp group, and sometimes, even their pastor’s vision board. At 30, every “how far?” from an auntie can feel like a ticking time bomb. For men, there’s pressure to be “ready” — emotionally, financially, spiritually — and the fear of failing at any of these metrics can manifest in withdrawal and avoidance.
“We’re a generation obsessed with getting it right,” says a media personality and relationship commentator, Amaka B. “But in the process, we’re so scared of heartbreak, we end up emotionally unavailable ourselves.”
Where does it all come from?
A cocktail of things: past trauma, childhood attachment wounds, inconsistent parenting, and — let’s not pretend — social media. We now live in an age where one badly lit photo on Instagram can set off a 48-hour anxiety spiral. You post them; they
don’t repost you. You see them online, but your message is still blue-ticked. You check their followers and see a new pretty face. It sounds ridiculous until it happens to you. And suddenly, you’re not present in your own relationship — you’re just investigating it.
But the problem with relationship anxiety is not just that it’s exhausting — it’s that it’s self-sabotaging. In trying to avoid disappointment, we sometimes create it. We test our partners, push them away, withhold affection, become clingy, or constantly ask for reassurance. And yet, none of these things truly soothe the fear. They only feed it.
The Nigerian twist
In our culture, relationships aren’t just emotional — they’re social capital. From the moment you start dating, everyone has an opinion.
Friends ask if he has “plans.”
Parents want to know if she can cook. Society constantly reminds you that time is ticking, that you should be settled by now, and that being single past a certain age is a failure in disguise.
This external pressure becomes internalised, breeding anxiety about meeting deadlines. Should we have moved in together by now? Should we be talking about marriage? Is it too soon to introduce them to my parents? Why did their ex get a ring in a year, and I’m still waiting?
And for many women, especially, the stakes feel even higher. Anxiety about being “chosen” becomes a silent epidemic. The fear of wasting time. Of becoming another “almost bride.” Of being good but not good enough.
It’s no wonder so many people say their relationships feel crowded. Because even when it’s just two of you, there’s always one more: anxiety. Lingering. Watching. Waiting for cracks.
What’s the way out?
First, recognition. Knowing that
what you’re experiencing isn’t madness — it’s human. We are wired for connection but also for protection. Relationship anxiety is often your brain trying to preempt pain. But the irony is: in trying to avoid hurt, you end up hurting yourself — and your partner. Second, communication. Not performative check-ins or manipulative reassuranceseeking — but honest, vulnerable conversations. Saying, “I’m feeling a bit insecure today, and I’m working through it”, rather than, “Who’s that girl that liked your photo?”
And lastly, self-awareness. Are you reacting to your partner, or are you reacting to your past? Are you afraid they’ll leave you, or are you just afraid of being left again?
Therapy helps. So does journaling, mindfulness, and choosing partners who are emotionally safe. But even more powerful is learning to sit with discomfort. To stop asking anxiety to leave the room, and instead learning to keep loving even when it shows up. Because real intimacy isn’t about the absence of fear — it’s about feeling the fear and choosing connection anyway.
DOES YOUR LIVING SPACE FEEL CHAOTIC? MAYBE IT’S TIME FOR A RESET
When you step into your home, do you breathe a sigh of relief—or brace for round two of the day’s madness? We’re not talking about that “I tried on five outfits, and now my room looks like a boutique exploded” kind of mess. We mean deeper chaos—the kind that makes your home feel like an extension of your to-do list. The laundry stares at you. The dishes whisper your name. The clutter? It’s a full-blown conversation. Suddenly, you’re indoors but not at peace. And that’s the problem. Your home should be your soft landing. The place where your jaw unclenches, your shoulders drop, and the day finally lets you go. But for many of us, our living spaces have quietly morphed into crash pads—functional, yes, but comforting? Not quite. Blame it on the daily hustle. Or the fact that adulting somehow always feels like a moving target. Whatever the reason, we often neglect the one space designed to recharge us. The good news? You don’t need to
1. Clear the Surfaces, Clear Your Mind Start small. Your bedside table. Your kitchen counter. Your desk. Visual clutter is loud, even when it’s quiet—it overloads your brain and keeps you stuck in fight mode. Wipe down, declutter, and if you’re feeling fancy, add a vase with fresh flowers or dried palm leaves— instant serenity.
2. Reclaim That Abandoned Corner Every house has one: the chair where clothes go to die, the corner
that eats unopened mail. What if you turned it into something useful—a reading nook, a journaling spot, a mini coffee altar? Turning dead space into calm space is the kind of home therapy that pays off daily.
3. Rethink the Lighting
Big light is for looking, not for living. Overhead bulbs are useful, but they rarely feel like home. Add a soft lamp, some candles, or fairy lights if you’re feeling whimsical. Warm light soothes the senses. It’s an underrated fix that makes your space feel instantly more inviting.
4. Scents Make Sense
We don’t give our noses enough credit. A calming scent—think lavender, eucalyptus, or vanilla—can do for your mood what an iced latte does for a Monday. Whether it’s a candle, oil diffuser, or incense, layering fragrance into your space resets the whole energy.
5. Make the Bed, Always It takes five minutes. And yet, it changes everything. A made bed is structure in the middle of chaos. Even if the rest of your room is a work in progress, that one act says: “I’ve got this.”
6. Protect Your Spaces from Creep
The moment your living room starts storing gym bags, receipts, and half of last week’s laundry, it stops being a living room. Draw a line. Keep things where they belong. Order is less about perfection and more about boundaries.
7. Design Around Your Habits, Not Against Them
Still eating in bed? No shame. Get a tray and make it cute. Always dropping your keys at the door? Get a bowl or basket and make that their new home. Your space should work with you, not guilt you into acting like someone you’re not.
