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11 EDITOR’S NOTE 13 EXPERT Q & A 15 BY THE NUMBERS 17 NEST NEWS 21 KIDS CORNER
31 BOOKSHELF 33 CALENDAR 38 CULTURE 41 HEALTH 44 OUTDOORS 46 KIDS IN ACTION
18 PARENTING Rites of passage are often overlooked in modern society. Fill the void with your family’s own version.
22 EDUCATION If your child is getting in trouble or falling behind in school, there may be more going on than meets the eye. Learn about the many special education resources available in our community.
26 FEATURE Instant family? Find out what it’s like to raise twins or triplets (or both)!
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Break camps for the kiddos. February is Black History Month. Living in an area without much diversity, grab the opportunity to impart wisdom to your kids about the struggles of the African American in this country, as well as highlight many of their unique accomplishments (See Culture, page 38). And, finally, as our modern culture has forgotten the importance of the coming-of-age ritual, pause and think about how your family will mark the transition from being a child to an adult (See Parenting, page 18). Happy Valentine’s Day! Happy St. Patrick’s Day! Happy Easter! With so many fun holidays just around the corner, we hope you’ll enjoy special moments with family and friends in the upcoming months.
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My newborn baby is fussy almost all
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Newborn fussiness is very common and causes much angst and worry for parents and caretakers. I always tell parents that fussiness peaks around 6 weeks of life and that the average newborn can cry up to 2-3 hours a day, which is totally normal. If newborns cry most days every day, they may actually have a diagnosis we call colic. Colic can be caused by quite a few things and there are other things I like to rule out before I make that diagnosis and come up with a plan. It is usually a long and complex visit with the pediatrician. If your newborn is truly that fussy, you should make an appointment with your pediatrician right away.
My three-year-old son is having trouble making the transition to bedtime.
He will get in bed and loves to listen to me read before I turn off the light, but
when I leave, he always pops up and says he wants me to stay. If I won’t, he cries, sometimes uncontrollably. Any advice would be helpful.
Sleep issues are one of the most common problems we see from infancy all the way through adolescence. Three-year-olds are one of the toughest ages in that they are too young
to sleep train in the crib but also a little young to understand reasoning at this point. I usually first suggest grace if it seems like just a phase. That being said, you don’t want to spend the next seven years laying with him while he falls asleep. First thing to do would be all of the sleep hygiene stuff you may already do: no late snacks, nothing sugary before bed, no television before bed, etc. You may want to try something like a bath and a sleepy time tea. Then I usually say, “one book and then time for sleep.” Be firm and clear. A night light might help so that it isn’t completely dark. It might be worthwhile to start a reward system so that if he is able to lay down and go to sleep so many nights a week, he gets some type of prize. He also may be a little young for this but sometimes I recommended a “sleep pass.” This is a little certificate or something that you make so that if he has a really rough night he can use it without losing his reward. Ultimately, I tell parents that this age can be really tough and maybe he just needs reassurance for a little while before he gets back into a good routine. Another final option is putting him in a room to share if he has a sibling. This isn’t always an option but worked for my second child. He just needed the reassurance of someone else in the room. Good luck!!
My neighbor’s daughter has the chicken pox. Should I expose my own chil-
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This is a very common question in pediatrics. Before there was a chicken pox vaccine, parents would usually attempt to expose children to the virus because it was safer to have it at a younger age, and families with multiple kids preferred to get it done at once (have everyone sick at the same time). These were classically called chicken pox parties. Now that there is a vaccine, pediatricians recommend this over the “wild type” virus. The main reason is that the vaccine is actually safer in that kids don’t get a really terrible illness that has potential complications, some life threatening. These include pneumonia and a brain infection called encephalitis. Also, if they get the vaccine they are much less likely to develop shingles as an adult, which is terribly painful and also has potential complications. And remember that just because chicken pox was a disease everyone used to get, doesn’t mean it’s benign. Most kids develop very high fevers and have painful lesions all over their body, which may result in scarring. The vaccine has proven to be so safe that I always recommended it over exposure to someone with chicken pox.
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On average, about 11,000 children are conceived on Valentine’s Day each year.
On average, men spend double the amount of money on Valentine`s Day gifts than women spend. The average amount a man spends is $130.
Greeting cards, as usual, will be the most common Valentine’s Day gifts. Fifty-two percent of U.S. consumers plan to send at least one.
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There are about 8 billion candy hearts made each year.
Teachers will receive the most Valentine’s Day cards, followed by children, mothers, wives, sweethearts, and pets. Source: thehobbeehive.com
The first Valentine’s Day card was sent in 1415 from France’s Duke of Orléans to his wife when he was a prisoner in the Tower of London. Source: news.nationalgeographic.com
Nearly 10 new candy heart sayings are introduced each year. Recent additions have included “Yeah Right”, “Puppy Love”, and “Call Home.”
There are approximately 50 million roses given on Valentine`s Day around the world. Source: softschools.
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By Nicole Vulcan whole process, they learn much more than if they are just receiving a lecture.” Follow along on Peters’ adventures as Kid Gov at orkgdom.blogspot.com.
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Oregon Kid Governor Dom Peters gets a commemorative coin from Oregon Secretary of State Dennis Richardson at the state capitol.
Oregon’s First “Kid Gov” Inaugurated Here’s a new way to teach kids civics in Oregon: elect a kid governor. That’s exactly what Oregon Secretary of State Dennis Richardson has done since his time in office, implementing a “Kid Governor” program in the state last year, in the hopes of engaging fifth graders in learning about government through hands-on experience. According to Richardson’s office, about 20 kids submitted videos as part of the competition last year, detailing an issue they felt passionate about. Following that, more than 1,500 fifth graders voted in the election, selecting Dom Peters, who ran on an anti-bullying platform. “I really hope I can make a difference in the state of Oregon to stop bullying. Ending bullying starts with us working together,” Dom said during his Jan. 8 inauguration at the Oregon State Capitol. “I hope that 5th graders in Oregon will join me in writing stories to teach each other to be kind and caring to one another.” Peters is a student at Willamette Valley Christian School in Brooks, Ore. “The Kid Governor program is a participatory democracy in action,” said Secretary Richardson in a Jan. 8 release. “What we’ve found is, by having 5th graders participate in this
Bend-La Pine Schools has rolled out a new resource to help kids—and adults—manage mental health crises and other socio-emotional challenges. “First Step” is a suite of “Tip and Talk” resources loaded onto the school iPads of students grades six to 12 in Bend-La Pine Schools. Elementary students can also access First Step at firststeporegon.org. Resources include contacts for free counseling through partners including St. Charles Health System Behavioral Health, OSU-Cascades Counseling Clinic, Lutheran Community Services NW and Deschutes County Behavioral Health. Also available through the suite is a reporting system called SafeOregon, allowing students to report information about student or school safety 24 hours a day. That can include reporting concerns about cyberbulling or vandalism, according to the District. Additional resources include a connection to YouthLine, a teen-to-teen help line that students can access through phone, text, chat or email. Teens are available to help from 4 to 10 pm, and adults are available on the help line during other times of the day and night.
Keeping Tobacco Away from Kids In August, Oregon became the fifth state in the U.S. to increase the age to buy tobacco products. Enforcement of the new Oregon law, known as “Tobacco 21” began on January 1, moving the legal age to buy cigarettes, vaporizers and other tobacco products from 18 to 21. State health officials say the move was intended to keep tobacco products away from young people. Oregon’s State Health Officer, Katrina Hedberg, MD, said in a release that nine out of 10 adults (who use tobacco) reported starting smoking before the age of 19, with 100 percent starting before the age of 26. “The earlier kids start using tobacco, the more at risk they are for becoming addicted to tobacco and developing chronic diseases such as heart disease, asthma and cancer,” Hedberg said in a release from the Oregon Health Authority. “Raising the legal sale age for tobacco products to 21 can reduce smoking rates and reduce tobacco-related deaths.”
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he first 13 years of your child’s life fly by.
Information on the many milestones that will be met in those early years is abundant keeping parents well educated and feeling “in the know.” Unfortunately, as children draw closer to
and Rites of Passage: Coming of Age in Today’s Society By Annette Benedetti
adolescence, the gush of advice on what to expect and how to prepare slows to a trickle. As a result, many parents feel as lost and disoriented as their child during the coming-of-age years.
The transition from child-
hood to young adulthood is seldom an easy one for either parent or child. Without a formalized event to mark this important transition, a grey area exists across the early to late teen years. Questions about what to expect and when can add to the tension between parent and child as one wonders when the other will either take on extra responsibilities or let go of control.
As an adult, you are “ going to have to know how to struggle. Coming-of-age rituals are rites of passage that bring the beauty back into the struggle.
Michael Griffin, LPC “An initiation is about being able to face your trial,” he says. “As an adult, you are going to have to know how to struggle. Coming-of-age rituals are rites of passage that bring the beauty back into the struggle.”
Creating Your Own Ritual
Historically, some cultures have used coming-ofage rituals to officially mark the transition to adulthood as well as the change in expectations and privileges. Examples of such ceremonies include the Hispanic Quinceanera, where girls spend months before their 15th birthday preparing to enter womanhood, which is a transition that is officially acknowledged during a grand fiesta (referred to as the Quinceañera). Traditionally, Native American cultures would isolate young girls from the tribe for four days when they had their first period. When they returned to the community they would be introduced as women. Similar rituals existed for boys and included vision quests, tattooing and hunting or surviving the wild for a number of days. Presently, the Jewish religion has the Bat and Bar Mitzvah ceremony, where 13-year-old girls and boys become accountable for their own actions (until then, the parent is considered responsible). For the most part, the general American culture is all but devoid of these types of initiations, which offer both young and the old a defining of one’s maturity. Michael Griffin, LPC, is an owner and therapist at Evoke Therapy where teens and young adults can attend wilderness therapy programs. Griffin believes coming-of-age initiations and rites of passage are exceptionally important. “Our modern culture is information rich but knowledge poor,” he says. “We are losing touch with rituals and ceremonies and when we lose those they come to us anyway and in the form of things like divorce and addiction.” According to Griffin, coming-of-age ceremonies help youth learn how to value struggle and honor difficulty instead of trying to fix it or maneuver around it.
If your family doesn’t belong to a culture or religion that has a set coming-of-age ritual for you to perform with your children, you can create your own. To begin, you should decide on the appropriate time frame for your event. The coming-of-age years are somewhat vague but are generally considered to take place between the ages of 12 to 18. When choosing an age and date for your child’s experience, consider what your expectations will be once the ceremony is done. What new privileges will your child have? What extra responsibilities will they be expected to take on? How will you help them find success in their new role? These are all things to consider and map out clearly in advance. The following are some good starting points for creating your family ritual: Take your child on a rugged, unplugged outdoor expedition. This could be a back packing trip or a barebones tent camping excursion that gives them the opportunity to work to survive the wild and gives you the opportunity to share your knowledge. Plan a long road trip and let them drive! This can happen as soon as they receive their permit. Have them help map out the route, earn money for lodging, plan the packing list and prepare the vehicle. You’ll have plenty of opportunity to provide them with adult wisdom on the road. Find a project or a challenge that they must perform or conquer on their own. Think building a structure, hunting or an overnight campout. Seal your family coming-of-age ritual with a symbolic action. Have them give a treasured childhood belonging to a younger sibling or hand off a meaningful object of adulthood in your possession. Whatever you do, remember you are doing it together. The ceremony is a rite of passage for both parent and child as you enter into a new kind of relationship with one another; one that will be treasured for the rest of your lives. Winter 2018 | 19
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Identifying and Navigating Your Child’s Needs By Annette Benedetti
s parents, we try to plan ahead for everything when it comes to our kids, but sometimes the unexpected happens. At first the signs that something is askew might be small, like your child isn’t doing some of the things other children their age are, or maybe they are acting out more than expected. Suspecting that your child may have an undiagnosed disability or special need is a frightening experience, but you are not alone and help is available. Oregon Family Support Network’s Regional Director, Shannon Pugerude, is also a parent of two special needs children. She has dedicated her life’s work to helping Central Oregon families find the resources and support they need. “Families may not know that special education in schools today can provide support in a lot of different ways,” she says. “All public schools in Central Oregon have special teams of teachers… that were formed specifically to monitor all student progress and participation to make sure (they) are receiving what they need to be successful in all realms of school life.” Pugerude says some of the signs a child might have special needs include the following. They: • exhibit challenging behaviors or get into “trouble” often. • have difficulty participating in activities with peers and when in less structured social settings. • are falling behind in their schoolwork or they avoid completing homework.
If you suspect your child may need help, Pugerude says the best place to start is with your child’s school or your primary care physician. She says that some cases are tricky, though, and “invisible disabilities” like mental health challenges may need further evaluation to gain an accurate picture of your child’s needs. “The best advice I can give is that if you feel like you aren’t getting a clear picture of what is going on and things aren’t improving, keep asking,” says Pugerude. She explains that the best way to find out if your child might benefit from services is to have a formal evaluation completed. Families can request an assessment from the school and receive it at no cost if there is a disability that may be impacting their ability to access their education (including social aspects of school) or learn at a rate recognized as “typical development.”
According to Pugerude, schools have the right to refuse to complete an evaluation. She says if this happens there are other places where you can obtain evaluations and learn additional ways to work with the school towards making sure all of your child’s needs are met.
She suggests taking the following steps in order:
•A sk to meet with your child’s teacher and the other teaching specialists in your youth’s school, including, but not limited to: the school psychologist (they do the assessments and are experts on eligibility), a special education teacher, a school counselor or the person who manages 504 plans and the Principal or Vice Principal. Share your concerns and hear their thoughts and ideas. There are also special education administrators who are very knowledgeable about all of the programs the school district offers. They can attend these meetings as well and are a great resource. alk to your pediatrician. •T • If you still feel there might be something that’s getting missed, don’t stop asking for help. Sometimes it takes meeting the right person to understand your youth’s needs. Try local developmental disability programs; mental health services; peer support programs such as Central Oregon Disability Network, OFSN or NAMI; and family peer support specialists can be a wealth of support for a family with a youth who is struggling. Their job is to help families access resources and provide support, coaching and training—and they all have the shared lived experience. • R each out to other parents who have youth with similar challenges. There are many online support groups for parents on social media.
While finding out your child has a disability or a special need can be scary, it is important to remember you are not alone. A vast number of community resources are ready to help your child get the help they need so that they can find success at home and in school. There are also numerous families just like yours, and they are also ready to provide a shoulder or lend a hand to help guide you as you learn how to support your loved one’s unique needs.
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Mason (8), Lily (6), Lucy (8), Cooper (6) and Calvin (6) Christensen / Photo by Natalie Stephenson Photography
Three-Ring Circus or Triple the Fun?
Interviews by Howard Leff
Ever wonder what itâ€™s like to raise a family with twins, triplets, or both?! After the shock, whatâ€™s next? These Central Oregon families share their experiences and offer advice for couples who are anticipating multiples.
Steve & Stephanie
Christensen Twins + Triplets Christensen Family / Photo by Natalie Stephenson Photography
Did you ever imagine that you would have twins AND triplets? No. We always knew there would be a chance because several of Stephanie’s relatives had multiples— including her grandmother, who had triplets. About a year after the twins were born, we decided to have another baby because these two were so much fun. In the back of our minds we knew it was possible to have another set of twins, but the thought of triplets never even crossed our minds.
How do you and your wife possibly find time to raise this very unique family and maintain your busy professional lives? We don’t. There isn’t enough time in the day for any family to get everything done. We always start the day with high expectations of what we will accomplish, but settle for what we get done. I think Steph and I communicate very well and manage to divide up the tasks in an efficient manner. Our saving grace, however, is our nanny Kate. She does so many of the family chores which allows us to actually spend time with the kids during their activities.
What are some things that make you happiest about this situation? Playmates. Having multiples is great. Especially because they have instant playmates and friends for life. There is such an amazing interaction between siblings that are the same age. They learn together and learn from each other. It is incredible to watch.
And what are your biggest challenges? Laundry. It never goes away and no matter what, it will never be done. The kids are outgrowing their clothes before they wear them out and keeping up with the clothes that fit versus the clothes that don’t is a constant battle.
What has surprised you most about parenting “multiple multiples”? Nature versus Nurture. From birth, they have experienced the same things: bath time, bedtime, bedtime stories, dinner time, the food we serve, the clothes they wear, the vacations, the campouts and the pets. Everything they have experienced is the same. Yet they all have very distinct personalities as well as likes and dislikes. They have different talents and different struggles. This helps them to grow, develop and learn from each other. It is really amazing to watch them develop as individuals.
What advice would you have for other parents who are either raising multiples or expecting them? Don’t panic! Everything will be just fine. Notice that I didn’t say that everything will be perfect. Compromises will be made. Expectations will not always be met. Meet and talk to other parents of multiples. Join the Central Oregon Families with Multiples on Facebook. They are a great source for encouragement. Many times, you can inherit strollers, car seats, cribs, clothes etc. from families that have outgrown them. Mostly, just enjoy the ride. It will be the most amazing, challenging and rewarding experience in your life!
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The Melner Family - Beth, Danika (11), Taylor (11), Maya (11), Evan (12), Max (14) and Rick / Photo by Kevin Kubota
Rick & Beth
Melner Triplets + Two
Triplets! What was it like adding three daughters to a family that already included two young children? Yeah, crazy. As you can imagine it was quite the shocker! Honestly, I’m not sure how we pulled it off, as our oldest was only three years old, our second son was 17 months and then the three newborns. We had four in diapers at once! I’m sure a bunch of stuff fell through the cracks, but like most parents, you just find a way.
How did you guys first react upon hearing the news? Shocked would be a good word to use here. This being our third pregnancy, we were a bit casual about the first ultrasound and didn’t get it done until about 20 weeks. We decided to go to an old college friend who was an OB/Gyn. As we entered the room we were joking around and I said, “Whatever you do, don’t tell me we’re having twins.” Soon after we shared a laugh, she started the ultrasound and let out an “Oh sh**!” and started laughing. All she could say was “there are a lot of body parts in 28
here” and her light laughter quickly turned more serious as she had never diagnosed triplets before.
What’s the most surprising thing you’ve learned about raising triplets? One of the most surprising outcomes is that peoples’ curiosity has sparked conversations and personal connections with people due to the attention they draw. It has opened our entire family up to more opportunities. Beth has also found that this has nudged her into being a more outgoing and confident person, which she feels has been a great thing, since she used to be more on the reserved side.
What are some of the challenges? This is the first year since kindergarten that the triplets have been in the same class. That means for the last four years we had five teacher conferences, different teaching styles and homework loads. With five kids, everything is multiplied (every fight, every complaint, every need), but the good news is that every smile and every hug is too.
It’s tough keeping triplets separate...so how do you (and others) manage to avoid mixing them up? Since the triplets are identical (exact same DNA) they were really tough to tell apart when they were babies. They wore their ID bracelets from the hospital for two weeks, then we went to painting one toenail on each baby a different color. After a few months, we got to the point where we could tell them apart. Usually people struggle to tell them apart at first and learn along
the way. I know their soccer coach appreciated that they had different color cleats.
What do your other children think of all this? Being typical older brothers, I think they get a little jealous of all the attention the girls get and don’t like the extra competition for Mom and Dad’s attention. But they like having a built-in set of friends to play with. While having five kids within three years of each other definitely has its challenges, a true benefit is that the small age gap does make it easier for them to relate and hang with each other. We’ll see what happens when they are all driving and fighting over who gets the car!
Mary: We were completely shocked at the 20-week ultrasound. We went in to find out if we were having a boy or a girl and found out we were having a boy AND a girl. Josh: The ultrasound tech asked if we knew there were two. She said she could tell by the look on our faces that we did not know there were twins. Mary: Thankfully we arranged childcare for our older daughter.
What are some things you’ve learned about raising them that you didn’t know before they arrived?
Josh: We’re capable of a lot more than we thought we
were. And you can’t be afraid to ask for help guilt-free. Breastfeeding support groups are invaluable. Mary: I don’t think you realize how different kids’ personalities can be until you have two going through the same phases. They have different sleeping rhythms and eating patterns on top of just general personality traits.
Josh & Mary
What have you come to truly love about having twins?
Josh: My favorite thing is their extremely close relation-
Twins + One
Do you remember your initial reaction upon hearing that twins were on the way?
ship. There is a level of trust and support that we didn’t see at this age with our first kid. Mary: They really understand sharing. They are two so they might not be very good at it, but they do seem
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Nicolet Family / Photo by Natalie Stephenson Photography
to understand the concept better than singletons the same age.
And what are some of the challenges?
Mary: Logistics of everything. Josh: Starting with having to get a minivan to fit all the
car seats Mary: Making sure restaurants have two high chairs. Having two lap infants when traveling. Finding someone to watch two babies. I always feel like I have 50 browser windows open in my head. Josh: We thought that our second child would be easier and require less help through the night. With twins, it was all hands on deck. Mary: I chose to breastfeed our twins. So that required an extra set of hands in the beginning, and lots of support from the breastfeeding circle. Josh: Also, following a set routine with two different personalities makes for interesting mornings, naps, nights and activities. Mary: As they get older it’s hard to find activities they can both enjoy that don’t break the bank.
Any advice for future parents of multiples?
Josh: Use the support groups, and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Mary: It’s ok to feel however you feel. If you love having twins, more power to you. If you are struggling, you are not alone. The struggle doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful or that you love them any less.
Knox the Fox by Ric DeMarco Illustrated by Vicki Shuck
Reviewed by Paige Bentley-Flannery, Community Librarian, Deschutes Public Library What rhymes with fox? A fun-loving fox starts his day with his best friend, Robby the Robin. Through a rhyming dialog, fox and his friends talk about his love of rocks and follow his adventures throughout the day. DeMarco creates a picture book filled with community and friendships. The illustrations are cheerful—filled with outdoor scenes, green grassy hills and trees. A variety of animals are shown in the background enjoying various activities from playing checkers to swimming in a pool. Overall, young children will enjoy the silly fox, his forest friends and exploring the outdoors. Children will discover adventures on each page. Local author, Ric DeMarco, discusses his new series and the writing process and shares a few highlights about the publishing Knox The Fox. How long did it take? Wanting to get the ball rolling, I self-published this first Knox The Fox. Ingram Publishing will be publishing the
The Adventures of
next eight books. Writing, editing the story and creating the art took about two years. With me doing the art direction, it was an absolute joy to work with local artist and friend, Vicki Shuck. Why did you decide to write about a rhyming fox? My wife Debbie and I were in Ketchum, Idaho for a week, and each morning we would take a hike. Every morning we would see this red fox lying on huge rocks. On the second day, I named him Knox. And each morning thereafter we would say, “Good morning Knox!” When we returned to Bend, I began writing the rhyming story of Knox The Fox. Will the series continue with a variety of animals in the background or will any of the background animals—bear, skunk, frog, etc. become friends with fox? The series will continue with the fun cast of characters and colorful art. My hope is that the Knox series will continue to communicate the values of friendship, inclusivity and outdoor adventure. What was your favorite children’s book growing up? All things Dr. Seuss. I love the crafty words and the wonky art. Profits from the sales of all Knox books and future merchandise will be given to support children’s programs in Central Oregon, including Mountain Star Family Relief Nursery, Darkness to Light at the KIDS Center and The Alyce Hatch Center. Be sure to keep an eye out for upcoming events at The Work House and local bookstores this spring or at www.knoxthefox.com.
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Family Fun Run & Fair to Benefit Healthy Beginnings. Saturday, March 3 includes 5K,
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The Art of Bonsai February 18th 1 to 3 pm
Wabi Sabi Party Room 830 NW Wall Street Bend, OR 97703 541.633.720
CALENDAR “The Big Play Thing” and Skating Rink PLAY—Come
check out Central Oregon’s largest indoor play structure with more than 7,000 square feet of climbing adventure! It is designed for children ages 4 and older. Cascade Indoor Sports offers a slew of activities for kids and adults, including open skate
Cascade Indoor Sports | prices vary
Kids ROCK(!) Choir
— Sing Bend hosts this just-for-fun, not-too-serious singing group for kids 12 and under! There’s only one goal: to have a great time! No training, experience, or longterm commitment required to join. Just bring a good attitude!
Broken Top Bottle Shop | $10 singbend.com
Mondays & Thursdays
Middle School Climbing Team
— Does your teen love to climb? This class is designed for the committed middle school-aged kid who has previous climbing experience and is looking for an introduction to competitive rock climbing. Bend Endurance Academy’s experienced and professional coaches spend time working on intermediate to advanced movement drills.
Monday – Saturday
Bend Endurance Academy | $655 entire session, rolling enrollment
Tuesdays & Thursdays
Youth Climbing Team
— Perfect for the committed and experienced youth climber looking to be a part of a climbing team in an age-appropriate and welcoming environment. The Youth Team places a strong emphasis on movement skills, safety, fun and building a strong foundation to become a better climber. Ages 8-11.
Bend Endurance Academy | $600 for entire session, rolling enrollment
Third Tuesday of Every Month
Redmond Mothers of Preschoolers
COMMUNITY — Being a mom can be tough (understatement of the century). Isn’t everything easier with a little help? Join this monthly meeting of mothers to make new friends, get encouragement and know that you’re not alone! Meetings consist of short inspirational videos, activities and crafts and exciting speakers.
Community Presbyterian Church | Free
Baby & Me Yoga
— Babies through early walkers are invited to bring a parent or caregiver to stretch, strengthen, relax—and most importantly, have fun! Sing, explore sign language, dance and make your baby soar through obstacle courses! Please bring a blanket for your little one.
Tula Movement Arts | $45 for 3 classes or $50 for 1-week unlimited tulamovementarts.com
Tuesdays & Thursdays
Toddler & Preschooler Creativity Labs
— Experience two
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Academy’s climbing pro
art classes specifically designed for toddlers and preschoolers to engage in age-appropriate, open-ended art-making activities with a caregiver. Children will have the chance to explore a variety of materials in a safe and playful environment. Finally, a mess that you don’t have to clean up!
Base Camp Studio | $10/drop-in, $90/10 classes. basecampstudio.org
COMMUNITY — Join a community of supportive moms! Share your concerns, questions, joys, challenges, experiences and practical tips. Open to pregnant women and moms with babies up to one-year old. Held at the playground at Juniper Swim & Fitness Center.
Juniper Park | Free
Big Kids Yoga
—Yoga isn’t just for Mom! This class is for older kids who want to learn more of the fundamentals of yoga through mindful games,
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CALENDAR breathing techniques, handstands and restorative poses. Deven Sisler teaches skills to help self-regulate, focus and build stamina.
Namaspa Yoga Studio | $5-$6 namaspa.com
Wednesdays & Saturdays
Pokémon Card Game
PLAY — Gotta catch ‘em all! Join this fun group of Pokémon players in the Wabi Sabi Party Room on Wednesdays, 2:30pm to 4:30pm and Saturdays, 10am to noon or 12:30pm to 2:30pm.
Wabi Sabi | Free
Youth Acro Fusion Program ACROBATICS —
Do your kids want to join the circus? That may be drastic—so here’s the next best thing. This dynamic, performance-based youth program combines hoop dance, partner acrobatics and circus yoga for a program that culminates in a final performance at the Terpsichorean Dance Studio Annual Recital.
Tula Movement Arts | $50 per month
Play Mahjong PLAY
— Learn to play the
Bring the kids to Hoodoo or Mt. Bachelor for the Jr. Snow Ranger program.
game Mahjon (pronounced mah-zhong) from 5pm - 7pm in the Wabi Sabi Party Room. This fun game of strategy is sure to get those gears turning.
Wabi Sabi | Free
Story Time READ—Join
us for storytime every Saturday at 11:00am. All ages welcome!
Roundabout Books | Free
SHARC Open Swim SWIM—Bring
the whole family to the Aquatics Center in Sunriver for a special discounted rate every Sunday for Central Oregon residents. The indoor pool offers a shallow play area for tots, lap lanes and a whirlpool.
SHARC | $9/person
Japanese Conversation Group
— Need to brush up on your Japanese speaking skills? Visit Wabi Sabi from 2pm to 3pm to join Summit High School students as they facilitate a Japanese conver-
sation group in the Wabi Sabi Party Room.
Wabi Sabi | Free
First Friday of Every Month
First Friday Art Walk ART — A fun,
year-round event, First Friday Art Walks are family-friendly and include art, music and drinks at various downtown businesses. Most downtown shops extend their hours for the art walk, creating a lively experience for family and friends.
Downtown Bend | Free downtownbend.org
Second Saturday of Every Month
WAAAM Air and Auto Museum
— WAAAM Air and Auto Museum opens the hangers to the public once a month to run some of its antique airplanes and cars. Bring the kids to Hood River to watch airplane operations up close—and you may even get to ride in retro cars!
Western Antique Aeroplane and Automobile Museum | $6-$14 waaamuseum.org
Jr. Snow Ranger at Hoodoo
— Do your kids love the outdoors? This free event is designed for children to explore our winter wonderland!
ncient Chinese tile-based
Activities include exploring snowflakes, wildlife tracking, winter ecology and the joy of winter fun.
Hoodoo Ski Area | Free skihoodoo.com
Daddy Daughter Dance in Princess Land
— Dads and daughters, doll up for a delightful night of dancing! Hosted by the Bend Rotary Club, this event is for dads (or male role models) and daughters in kindergarten through sixth grade. The evening will include dancing, games, make-your-own tiara station, crafts, photo booths and a chocolate fountain!
Mountain View High School | $20 per person bendrotary.org
February 14 & 15
Backpack Explorers – Electric Boogie
— Parents and children ages 3-5 investigate science, art, music, stories and culture in a fun, hands-on manner. Don backpacks filled with exciting artifacts while journeying through the museum’s nature trails and exhibits.
High Desert Museum | Members: $10/child, Non-members: $15/ child plus adult admission highdesertmuseum.org
Join the excitement of the Hot Cocoa Run at Winterfest, February 16-18 Photo by Micah Frazier Photography
February 16 –18
2018 Oregon WinterFest
FESTIVAL — Grab your friends and family for Bend’s largest festival, celebrating all things winter, including amazing fire pits, ice carving, kids’ activities in the OMSI Science Tent, food vendors, bounce houses and the flying K9 dog show. Don’t miss out on some of the other great events going on with Oregon WinterFest, including the Whole Foods Wine Walk, Royal Run or Kids’ Hot Cocoa Run—your activity ticket will include entry to the festival!
Old Mill District | $10 in advance, $12 at event oregonwinterfest.com
Jr. Snow Ranger at Hoodoo
— Do your kids love the outdoors? This free event is designed for children to explore our winter wonderland! Activities include snowshoeing, winter safety, exploring snowflakes, wildlife tracking, winter ecology and the joy of winter fun. SNOW
February 9 – 18
Lion King Jr.
brings The Lion King Jr (Musical) to Bend! The African savannah comes to life on stage with Simba, Rafiki and an unforgettable cast of characters as they journey from Pride Rock to the jungle... and back again, in this inspiring, coming-ofage tale. Both the story and music in this truncated version closely follow the original film. Songs from the Disney film include Circle Of Life, I Just Can’t Wait To Be King, Hakuna Matata and more!
Summit High School | $10 - $15 tickettails.com
Teen Writing Workshop
WRITING—In this workshop, teens will explore different forms of poetic expression while also identifying and practicing with poetic figures and language. This is a workshop for ALL teen writers—not just for poets!
Roundabout Books | Free
Hoodoo Ski Area | Free
Oregon WinterFest Hot Cocoa Run
— Each prince and princess will run from station to station, building a cup of hot cocoa that is delectable enough for royalty! Stations will include fun and festive ingredients to make the perfect cup of hot cocoa. When they cross the finish line with their toppings, kids will be awarded the final touch—velvety smooth hot chocolate! Ticket includes entry into the 2018 Oregon WinterFest and a stamp on your Kids Rock the Races card. KIDS RUN
Les Schwab Amphitheater | $15 oregonwinterfest.com
School’s Out Kids Camp: Dino Art
— What do dinosaurs, clay and plaster have in common? Art! After checking out the “Dinosaurs Take Flight: The Art of Archaeopteryx” exhibit, students will draw dinosaurs, learn printmaking and create a clay dinosaur! Other activities include games, outdoor exploration and exhibit visits.
High Desert Museum | $40 for members, $45 for non-members highdesertmuseum.org
February 23 & 24
Mountainfilm on Tour
FILM— Bring the family to the Tower for a selection of culturally rich, adventure-packed documentary films curated from the Mountainfilm Festival in Telluride, Colorado. The Environmental Center is hosting two nights of
of Wildheart Na
High Desert Museum Animal Trackers March 26-30
Plentiful Powerful Pollinators March 26-30 Grades 2-3
Outdoor Survival Skills March 26-30
Bend Parks and Recreation Art-rageous Camp
March 26-27 & March 28-30 Ages 6-12 bendparksandrec.org
KPOV Radio Camp
March 26-30 Ages 10-14 bendparksandrec.org
Science Rocks with The Master & Dr. Nope Light & Lasers March 26 Ages 6-11 Dinosaur Day March 27 Ages 6-11 Crazy Chemistry March 28 Ages 6-12 Secret Agent for a Day March 29 Ages 6-12 bendparksandrec.org
All Sport Camp March 26-29 Ages 6-12 Operation Recreation March 26-30 Grades K-5 bendparksandrec.org
Wildheart Nature School Middle Earth Magicians March 26 Ages 6-10 Bigfoot Fanatics March 27 Ages 6-10 Mythic Mermaids March 28 Ages 6-10 Hobbit & Faerie Hunters March 29 Ages 5-9 Witches & Wizards March 30 Ages 5-9 wildheartnatureschool.com
Tula Movement Arts Circus Ninja Camp March 26-30 Ages 5-18 tulamovementarts.com
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CALENDAR films that will inspire you to create a better world, with different playlists each evening. Intermission features a great raffle with grand prize packages from local gear and bike shops.
Tower Theatre |$22 (advance), $25 (day of), $40 (both nights)
Free Day at High Desert Museum
— Take the kids to enjoy a day full of learning and fun. No admission required, all day long! Check out exhibits such as “Innovation Lab: Design Inspired by Nature,” “Dinosaurs Take Flight: The Art of Archaeopteryx,” “Spirit of the West” and more. LEARN
High Desert Museum | Free highdesertmuseum.org
— Join us for all day fun for the whole family...live birds of prey, wild eagle spotting, raptor education, kids’ activities, silent auction, and much more. Hot Dog lunch is provided. Fry Bread is available. Souvenirs benefit the Oregon Eagle Foundation. 10:00 AM LEARN
The Cove Palisades State Park, Round Butte Overlook Park, Culver | Free 541.546.3412
Feb. 28 & Feb. 29
Backpack Explorers: Keeper Care
— Parents and children ages 3-5 investigate science, art, music, stories and culture in a fun, hands-on manner. Don backpacks filled with exciting artifacts while
journeying through the Museum’s nature trails and exhibits. Foster artistic expression in your little one and take home activities to continue the learning.
High Desert Museum | $10/ members, $15/non-members highdesertmuseum.org
Central Oregon Sportsmen’s Show EXPO—
Join us for the 2018 Central Oregon Sportsmen’s Show and Boat & RV Show, featuring seminars, Cowboy Fast Draw, camp cooking, kid’s trout pond, fresh water demo tank and more! 12:00 PM
Deschutes County Fair and Expo Center | Prices vary
New Exhibit — Open through April 8
The Art of Archaeopteryx
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— Featuring a 5K, 10K and One Mile Family Fun Run in addition to a Family Fun Fair, the event benefits Healthy Beginnings, a nonprofit that provides universal health screenings to children in Central Oregon.
Les Schwab Amphitheater | $10-30/registration, Fair is free myhb.org/grin-bear-it-run
Pop-Up Museum “The World of Machines”
LEARN—Children ages 3-11 years will enjoy hands-on arts and crafts, science experiments and demonstrations organized by the Children’s Museum of Central Oregon.
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Check out the Traxxas Monster Truck Tour, March 16
Riverhouse Convention Center Exhibit Hall | Free
Discover Nature Day: Habitat Heroes
NATURE — Do your kids like to get their hands dirty? Design and create habitat for local insects and critters in this special STEM program. Participants will take home their creations to help improve insect habitat in their neighborhood! Recommended for ages 6-12 with a family member. Advanced registration required.
High Desert Museum | Free highdesertmuseum.org
Free Family Swim Night SWIM—Bring
the whole family to Juniper Swim and Fitness Center for a real splash bash! Elevate your family get-together to a whole new level of fun! Join in to combine fitness and fun as a family for no charge. 6:30-8:30pm
Juniper Swim and Fitness | Free bendparksandrec.org
13th Annual Trivia Bee Night
FUNDRAISER — “Bee” there or be square! Enjoy a competitive night of trivia to raise funds for the Education Foundation’s classroom grants program. Who will upset the 2017 champions? It could be you! This event is for adults 21+.
Tower Theatre | $25
Surf and Swim
WATER PARK — Take the kids to enjoy Sunriver Surf Wave Machine and wading pool—all while helping to support public education! 50 percent of proceeds go to Friends of Westside Village Magnet School. No coupon required.
PLAY — Spark a sense of wonder for nature through imaginative play, exploration, songs and stories. This week’s program is Watery Wonders with Upper Deschutes Watershed Council. Ages 3-5 with family.
Jr. Snow Ranger at Mt. Bachelor West Village
Mt. Bachelor | Free mtbachelor.com
Traxxas Monster Truck Tour
— Take the family to see a show of epic
— Do your kids love the outdoors? This free event is designed for children to explore our winter wonderland! Activities include snowshoeing, winter safety, exploring snowflakes, wildlife tracking, winter ecology and the joy of winter fun.
First Interstate Bank Center, Redmond | $20/adults, $10/kids
Sunriver Fitness and Aquatics | $10
io ase Stud
proportions with the nation’s most competitive monster trucks racing and crushing cars. The Traxxas Monster Truck Tour invades Redmond, as 10,000-pound giants compete in racing, wheelie contests and freestyle action! Show up early and meet the drivers and see the trucks up close at the Autograph Pit Party!
Puddlestompers: Watery Wonders
Shevlin Park | Free
St. Patrick’s Day 5K Dash FUN RUN —
Looking for a healthy and family-friendly St. Patty’s day activity? Dress up in green or go all out in full leprechaun attire! This 5K fun run benefits Bend Rotary Club’s Literacy Project as well as J Bar J Youth Services.
Exploring Color & Texture CREATE—This
is an open-ended session where families are invited to work with color and texture in glass. What will you create? Might it be a tree, house, animal or insect? Get inspired and creative with a plethora of materials available. (Additional $30 charge paid to instructor for materials and firing cost). Ages 5 and up. 10:00am - 12:30pm or 2:00 - 4:30pm.
Art Station | $34 - $41
Sunriver March Mudness
— Ready to get dirty? Specially designed for families who love to frolic in filth, this mud run is a great spring break family excursion. No ages are excluded, participants have ranged from 3 to 76 years old in past years! Choose your level of “mudness” on the obstacle course. A portion of proceeds benefits the American Cancer Society.
Sunriver | $12 age 4-11, $20 12-adult, $30 ages 16 and older sunrivermarchmudness.com
Location TBD in Bend | Prices vary
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HOW TO CELEBRATE BLACK HISTORY YEAR-ROUND BY ANNETTE BENEDETTI
ake a moment to walk around your house. Look through the books on the bookshelves, take a peek in your pantry, and peruse the music and movies saved in your home entertainment system. How many cultures are represented in your household? Step back and expand your perspective. Consider all of the environments where your children spend most of their time. What you are likely to notice is a lack of cultural diversity in their surroundings. This February, Black History Month gives your family the opportunity to learn about the great African American pioneers and the historical events in black history that shaped our country, while also presenting a variety of ways to bring diversify to your children’s daily lives.
WHAT IS BLACK HISTORY MONTH? Carter G. Woodson—an African American historian and the founder of the Association for the Study of African American Life and History— created Negro History Week in 1926. In 1976 it became a month-long celebration held in February to coincide with the birthdays of Frederick Douglass and Abraham Lincoln. When asked about the significance of Black History Month, Jason Graham (AKA MOsely WOtta), a Central Oregon-based American visual artist, performer, educator, speaker and hip-hop producer, says that Black History Month is about exploration. “It isn’t about guilt or blame. It is about being fascinated with the diversity of the human experience.” As a person of color who has spent most of his time living in white culture, Graham says,
“My work focuses on trying to see the themes in the struggle so that we don’t feel alone in the struggle.” While Graham sees the benefits of having a month to celebrate black history, he believes it should be seen as a starting point for exploration that should continue into March, April and beyond. “I see the value in (Black History Month), just don’t let it stop there because it didn’t start there,” says Graham.
HONORING BLACK HISTORY WITH YOUR KIDS While your kids will be learning about some of the great African American leaders at school throughout February, the month gives parents the opportunity to look past the obvious and dive deep into the culture and look at lesser-known historical figures. Graham suggests, “Go beyond what you’re expected to do. Stop being a C student. Go ahead and get into something that isn’t being served up so readily.”
HISTORICAL FIGURES TO EXPLORE
Take some time to sit down with your kids and find out who some of the following African American activists are. One of them even lived in Bend. Myrlie Evers-Williams: Graham suggests looking into this impressive woman’s life story. An American Civil Rights Movement activist, Evers-Williams worked for over three decades to seek justice for the murder of her civil rights activist husband, Medgar Evers. She became the chairwoman of the NAACP and authored several books on topics related to civil
MOsely WOtta Photo by Christian Heeb
rights. Fun facts about this amazing woman include: she delivered the invocation at the second inauguration of Barack Obama and she called Bend home for many years. Bayard Rustin: Best known for his work as an adviser to Martin Luther King Jr., Rustin was involved in pacifist groups and civil rights protests as early as the 1930s. He was also openly gay and acted as a leader in the fight for gay rights. Katherine Dunham: Do you have a young dancer in the house? This American dancer, choreographer, author and social activist is sure to inspire. She had one of the most successful dance careers in American and European theater and is sometimes referred to as the matriarch and queen mother of black dance.
BRINGING DIVERSITY HOME
The Central Oregon community is made up of a largely white population, which makes gaining access to a variety of cultures challenging. Parents can begin to introduce children to an array of cultures by exploring different foods, books, music and a variety of art forms. Graham suggests, “Explore with your arms open without the idea that you are going to know everything and dominate it.” As you discover stories, musical artists and new foods that you enjoy, bring them into your home and integrate them into your daily entertainment or weekly menu. Make them part of your family culture year-round. The following are books to add your family’s reading list:
“Ben’s Trumpet” by Rachel Isadora
“Radiant Child: The Story of Young Artist Jean-Michel Basquiat” by Javaka Steptoe
“Strange Fruit, Volume 1: Uncelebrated Narratives from Black History” by Joel Christian Gill
“I Am Loved” by Nikki Giovanni
If you have a music-loving crew, expand your playlist to include African American artists. Your family is sure to find joy in the variety of rhythms and sounds that they come across in Jazz, Gospel, Funk and the Blues. You can investigate similarly with food. Try new recipes and add the dishes you like to your regular meal rotation. Black History Month offers an opportunity to go beyond just learning about a vital part of America’s history, it gives families a path towards creating a more inclusive household environment.
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Parenting tips for combatting childhood obesity By Lizzi Katz
e’ve all read the news – obesity has become a worldwide epidemic. Two-thirds of adults and one third of children in the U.S. are overweight or obese. Changes in how we eat combined with more sedentary lifestyles are the biggest contributing factors. Why is this trend so troubling, and what’s important to know, as a parent, to help keep your kids healthy?
What are the health risks of childhood obesity? Helping children eat well and stay active is important for their future health. Overweight children are at higher risk for chronic health conditions that can last into adulthood, including high blood pressure, elevated cholesterol levels, asthma, sleep apnea, joint problems and type 2 diabetes. Being overweight can also affect kids emotionally. Children with obesity can be bullied and teased more than their normal weight peers, and can also suffer from social isolation, depression and low self-esteem.
Is your child overweight? Looking at fashion or popular culture images, it’s easy to forget
that there are a wide variety of body types that are healthy and normal. This is also true for children and adolescents. As kids grow, there are differences in how their bodies use fat based on age and gender. Remember it’s not just about weight – athletes can weigh more than their peers (muscles weigh more than fat). Talk to your pediatrician to assess whether your child is at a healthy weight and body composition for their body at their age.
What can parents do to promote a healthy weight? Promoting a healthy weight sounds easy. Balance the calories consumed from foods and beverages with the calories used through physical activity and normal growth. But we all know that weight and body image can be emotionally charged issues, and that change does not happen easily. Conversations with a child about weight are tough for any parent. Steer clear of calling kids “fat,” “thin,” or other terms that make a judgment about their appearance. And seek help from your health care provider. If your child is overweight, they can suggest a healthy plan to reduce the rate of weight gain while allowing normal growth and development. Children should not be placed on a weight reduction diet without professional guidance.
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Parents modeling healthy eating supports the development of healthy behaviors in children. Some tips from the experts: Take moderate portions. Limit junk food in the house. Drink water and milk instead of soda.
Enjoy eating together as a family Try to eat meals as a family – studies show that children eat more fruits and vegetables when they eat with their parents. Include foods from all food groups—milk, fruit, vegetables, whole grains and lean meats, fish and beans. Positive attitudes about healthy foods are contagious! There are lots of websites with family-friendly healthy recipe ideas, including choosemyplate.gov.
Kids don’t need to get all their exercise in at once: shorter blocks of movement count – even simple things, like walking to school, can help them stay fit. There are lots of opportunities for organized sports in our communities through the schools and Parks and Rec. As kids get older, organized sports can offer opportunities for socialization and friendship as well as physical benefits.
Don’t forget to encourage healthy sleep for your kids. Studies show that too little sleep can also lead to overeating. Talk to your pediatrician about how much sleep is right for your child at their age.
Helping your kids get enough activity
Did you know that American kids (age two and up) spend an average of 3 hours a day watching television and a total of 5-7 hours daily looking at screens? Experts suggest limiting screen time to no more than 2 hours daily, and encouraging kids to be active at least 60 minutes a day. Some suggestions to help your kids get moving:
Find a fun activity. Help your child find a sport that they enjoy, so they are more likely to continue it. Get the entire family involved for a great way to spend time together. Be a role model. Children who regularly see their parents enjoying physical activities are more likely be active.
Play with your child. A game of tag with your preschooler is a lot more fun than 50 crunches by yourself!
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OUTDOORS LACROSSE GAINS GROUND ON THE WEST COAST IN THE HIGH DESERT
By K.M. Collins
acrosse (LAX), originally known as stickball, got its start as a major community event played by Algonquian tribal members (near the Great Lakes), over several days and involving 100 to 100,000 players. In these days, goals were set between topographic features ranging from 500 yards to several miles apart. Holding sticks with sinew netting, deerskin balls filled with fur were thrown and caught by players adorned with paint and charcoal. Games began by tossing a ball in the air and players racing to be the first to catch it. Looking over a Bend Park and Recreation LAX coach’s manual, it seems stickball has morphed a bit since the first Anglo-Saxons (French Jesuit missionaries) observed the sport 450 years ago, or from its 1904 debut in the Summer Olympics.
Bend Park and Recreation District Youth LAX League In 2004, with a summer camp to gauge interest, BPRD first started inviting grade school 44
boys and girls to participate in LAX. Rich Ekman, who runs Lacrosse for BPRD, says they weren’t sure whether the game would take off in Bend. “It had traditionally been an east coast sport but we heard rumblings that the sport of LAX was moving west and growing in popularity. It’s run primarily in the spring, and the west coast already has a number of traditional spring sports that are very popular: baseball, softball, golf, tennis, track & field.” By 2005, 194 male and female participants were signed up for spring league. Enrollment skyrocketed to 700 in 2016. Presently, youth boys are divided into twoyear increments for 3rd to 8th graders, and girls, 3rd-5th and 6th-8th. 1st-2nd grades are co-ed. Day and week-long camps are also offered in the spring and summer for each gender. “We provide a recreational program only,” explains Ekman. “The goals are to teach the kids the fundamentals of the sport and make it fun. We don’t keep official score, team standings or have end of season tournaments.” The goals of the BPRD Youth LAX League, as listed in the
coach’s manual, include; everyone plays, positive coaching, good sportspersonship, teaching the fundamentals and encouragement to have fun.
his childhood made me appreciate hard-earned stick skills. Running efficiently with the ball in your stick while cradling it in rhythm with your run and accurately throwing and catching. It’s truly an art form that takes years.” Playing long stick middle defender, Haak says he’s charged with keeping the other team from scoring. For the aspiring Central Photo by Jen Kjellesvik “I take the ball and turn it Oregon youth LAX competiover to my team.” Some tor, many summer and travel leagues exist. accomplishments he’s experienced in this position are Local high schooler Haak Kjellesvik got his start starting varsity and attending State, both during his with BPRD LAX in elementary school. Upon entering freshman year for Bend High, and being voted MVP middle school, he began playing on travel teams like Defender at The Battle of Lake Oswego. the Rhino LAX Summer Academy, which took him to “LAX has grown a lot in Bend since I started 10 face-off clinics in Washington and California, and The years ago in elementary school,” Haak, practically a Bend Bombers. veteran, notes. “It helps you improve when you travel The Rhino LAX Summer Academy consists of to play better teams in the valley every weekend. I one-week clinics in would suggest anyBend (and around one interested in LAX the nation) which sign up for summer boast world class camps and try out for coaching and staff all travel teams.” from current Division What Haak loves 1 collegiate teams, most about LAX is the college coaches, high roots of the sport. “It school coaches and was invented by the professional players. Native Americans to Players receive posihonor the Creator. tion - specific training, They also called learn the important the game, ‘wars facets of the game little brother.’ They and techniques like would play for weeks shooting and stick through the mounwork. tains before battle.” Photo Courtesy of Bend Park and Rec In recent years, The In a sense, not much Bend Bombers have been replaced by high school about the sport has changed, as today, young Cenclub feeder teams for Bend, Summit and Sisters tral Oregonians play at the base of the mountains on High Schools. Joe Kerwin explained the logic for the fields 110 yards long. change saying, “It got pretty exclusive… We weren’t really serving all of Bend.” Through the high school club teams, winter indoor For more information offerings are also available. Bend Park and Recreation Jen Kjellesvik, Haak’s mom, says of the commubendparksandrec.org/recreation_programs/sports/youth_sports nity surrounding LAX, “We have very talented coaches in Bend who were D1 athletes or former pro-athRhino LAX Summer Academy letes… The LAX Community is super fun. Our families laxcamps.com/lax-camps/rhino-lacrosse-academy-at-big-sky-park have traveled together for years, shared hotels and had a million team dinners.” Bend Lava Bears bendlacrosse.org Jen laments the lack of LAX where she grew up in Salt Lake City. “Passing the ball with Haak during
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KIDS IN ACTION
in the Making Photo by Caitlin von Gertner
Teen musician hitting high notes despite challenges By Howard Leff
yslexia never quite figured out how to slow down Mateo Garza. Not only does this Bend High junior maintain an eye-popping 4.2 GPA—which includes AP classes— he’s also an impressive 17-year-old violinist with both High Desert Chamber Music and the Central Oregon Symphony. Tutoring helped his academic progress, but when it came to music, his learning disorder never even had an effect. “I personally haven’t noticed any problems with that,” Mateo says, rather nonchalantly. Perhaps that’s because his training started so early. Mateo grew up in a house filled with music. “There was music all around,” says his mom Erin Garza. “But he had an affinity for classical music from a very young age. He would sit and listen to entire symphonies when he was like, 3, and talk about the different movements and how they would make him feel.” Violin lessons began at age 7. “I just really enjoyed playing music and experiencing all the things that come along with learning new pieces and stuff like that,” he says. After that, things progressed rather quickly. “I really started to say ‘This is what I have to do. This is what I have to learn.’ And then in that mindset I would learn different pieces and practice harder. That’s when I started taking things like scales—which beforehand I thought were kind of trivial—more seriously.” “There was a point where he clicked and went through five music books in a year and a half,” adds Erin. “So, at that point I felt this kid needs to be fed this. He needs to be allowed to take this where he can.” Mateo’s skills didn’t stop at the violin. He also began learning the piano and the viola. At the same time, he was also rapidly gaining elite status in gymnastics. Due to school and other commitments, Mateo recently stopped competing, but beforehand, he was spending up to 20 hours a week in the gym. Now he’s fully focused on schoolwork and the violin. “I take private lessons weekly,” he says. “I’m in two chamber groups. One is put on by my private teacher and one is thrown together by a just few friends. And then I play in the Central Oregon Symphony, and the
past two summers I’ve gone to Greensboro [North Carolina] to play with the Eastern Music Festival.” “Mateo has risen to the challenge,” says High Desert Chamber Music Executive Director, Isabelle Senger, who’s also his private teacher. “He is a bright and driven young adult, and has been a leading member of the HDCM Spotlight Chamber Players for the past seven years. I look forward to seeing where his future will lead.” Musically, at least, Mateo has begun to outgrow his local roots. “It’s hard coming from Central Oregon,” says Erin. “There aren’t the opportunities that the kids coming from bigger cities have. There’s one teacher in town who can teach at his level. There’s no orchestra in town that is really at the level he plays with during the summer. As a mom, sometimes it’s frustrating knowing that you can’t give your kid what you could if you were somewhere else. But at the same time, I figure he’s making his own road, and if he really wants it, he’ll make it happen.” For now, Mateo’s just enjoying the moment. “I love to play chamber music…in quartets, trios, quintets—you name it,” he says. “It’s where I have the most fun. You’re interacting with a small group of people, especially if you’re playing with friends or people you know really well. “It’s the situation that I really thrive in.”
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