November 2011 Around the Academy

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NOVEMBER 2011

FROM THE HEAD of SCHOOL MONTHLY UPDATES

FROM

D AV E FA R AC E

Family Night When Steve Jobs passed away in early October, the world lost a creative genius and visionary. His kids lost their dad. When his biographer, Walter Isaacson, asked him shortly before his death why he was willing to spend so much of his remaining time working on the book, he replied “I wanted my kids to know me. I wasn’t always there for them, and I wanted them to know why and to understand what I did.” As the end neared, Jobs turned away most visitors and focused on spending time with his family.

One of the most powerful tools parents have to influence their children is the family dinner. Frequent family dinners not only strengthen family relationships, they lead to healthy life style decisions by children. A 17-year study conducted by Columbia University “consistently found a relationship between children having frequent dinners with their parents and a decreased risk of their smoking, drinking, or using other drugs.” In support of family time, the Academy is designating Tuesday, November 8 as our first Family Night. The school will shut down at the end of the academic day. We will not assign homework and will cancel all co-curricular activities (athletic practices, rehearsals, etc). Our hope is that families will plan ahead to enjoy a simple meal together. The Columbia study concludes that “the magic that happens at family dinners isn’t the food on the table, but the conversations and family engagement around the table.” Do you believe in magic? I do.

His story is a good reminder to all of us to revisit our own life priorities. We live in a high achievement culture. We put in long hours and strive to get ahead professionally (confession: I’m writing this on a weekend). We send our children to an achievement-oriented school where we expect them to excel in multiple areas. According to author and child psychologist Richard Weissbourd, “Some parents are quietly organizing our relationships with our children around their achievements and making children’s high achievements the main, if unspoken, focus of our parenting.” But at the end of the day, and more Dave Farace dramatically, at the end of our lives, I think we all believe Head of School that building authentic, intimate relationships with our children where we teach them to lead lives of integrity and compassion is what matters most.


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