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The True Cost

The Hidden Cost of Jewish Education: A Community’s Struggle and Call to Action

David Rogatsky

Ihave a confession to make. When I began researching this article on Jewish school tuition in Los Angeles, I assumed the problem was simply that schools were greedy, corrupt institutions. While there are some that fit that description, what I discovered after speaking to nearly 100 people on all sides of this issue is that while some schools are corrupt, it’s not entirely their fault. It’s ours.

The crisis in Jewish education funding is, at its core, a community-wide failure that requires a community-wide solution. Let’s dive into the complex reality of Jewish education in Los Angeles.

The True Cost of Education

“Without fundraising, tuition would not cover the expense of any school,” Rabbi Sufrin of YULA Boys High School told me bluntly. “If you don’t fundraise, right? Look, it’s very expensive.”

Even with sky-high tuition rates, schools are struggling to make ends meet. Rabbi Sufrin explained, “The rough rule of thumb is like, you know, 85% is covered by tuition and like 15% needs to be fundraised.”

For some schools, the situation is even more dire. Rabbi Stulberger of Valley Torah shared that only about 60% of their budget comes from tuition, leaving a staggering 40% gap that must be filled through donations and grants.

So where is all this money going? Running a quality school in Los Angeles is astronomically expensive. Here’s the breakdown:

1. Real Estate: Los Angeles property values are through the roof.

2. Qualified Staff: As Rabbi Stulberger noted, “Our salary line has gone through the roof, and we haven’t managed it with the raise in tuition.”

3. Security: In an era of increased antisemitism, this is a major expense.

4. Special Education: Serving diverse learning needs requires specialized resources.

5. Technology: Keeping up with modern educational tech is an ongoing cost.

6. Compliance: Meeting state and local regulations isn’t cheap.

When you add it all up, the true cost of educating a student often exceeds $25,000 per year, even though most schools charge less than that in tuition.

Rabbi Suffrin of YULA elaborated on these costs:

“We offer, we have over 30 sports teams between the Boys and Girls School, and over 50 clubs between the Boys and Girls School. Right. We have over 100 staff members. We have facilities costs. And why shouldn’t our campus facilities be beautiful? This is where they spend most of their time. This is where they shape their lives.”

The Widening Gap: Income Inequality and Hidden Costs

One of the most challenging aspects of the tuition crisis is the vast income disparity within the Jewish community itself. It’s not uncommon to find families living side by side in the same community, yet worlds apart in their financial realities. As one parent, who wished to remain anonymous, poignantly shared:

“It’s not fair for a family of 4 kids living in a rented duplex making $100,000 a year to compete with a homeowner in Beverlywood, making over a million dollars a year for tuition. We’re all part of the same community, sending our kids to the same schools, but the financial burden is drastically different.”

This stark contrast in financial situations creates a complex dynamic within schools and the broader community. Families struggling to make ends meet often find themselves feeling inadequate or embarrassed when they can’t afford the same extracurricular activities, school trips, or donations that their wealthier neighbors can easily provide.

The Invasive Nature of Financial Aid

In an attempt to address these disparities and ensure fair allocation of financial aid, schools have implemented increasingly thorough vetting processes. However, this approach comes with its own set of problems. Many parents feel humiliated by having to lay bare every aspect of their financial lives to qualify for aid. Moreover, there’s a growing recognition that wealthier families are often better equipped to navigate these processes and potentially conceal assets, while middle-class families find themselves under greater scrutiny.

An administrator who wished to remain anonymous shared, “You’d be surprised

how creative some people can be in hiding their true financial situation. Often, it’s the families with the most resources who know how to work the system, while those genuinely struggling might not even know where to start.”

Rabbi Stulberger acknowledged this challenge:

“It’s hard because it’s an in-depth process, which can be challenging, but the whole purpose is to make sure that all the money that we give out is mamun hektish. It’s holy money, so it’s for Yeshiva education.”

However, he also emphasized their commitment to not punishing children for their parents’ financial situations:

“We don’t believe, and that’s a fundamental view of our board as well, and it’s a unique place to be, because most schools don’t have this, is that we’re not going to punish your child for the shortcomings and the failings of the parents.”

Ahuva Heyman., an administrator at Bnos Yisroel in Baltimore Maryland, shared a different approach focused on building relationships with families from the very beginning:

“If you establish a relationship with the parents in a way that it’s not only about tuition, if you establish that relationship from the minute they walk in the door, meaning when you first interview them, and then when you meet with their child, and then how you communicate throughout the process of getting them into your school, then the first year might be a little uncomfortable for them because it’s the first time, but there’s no excuse after that for your communication to only be around money.”

This relationship-based approach, she argues, leads to greater understanding and cooperation when it comes to financial matters. Ahuva further elaborated on the importance of this approach:

“When somebody feels that the school is listening to them and there for them and working with them, they’re very happy parents and happy to participate in the school and at the school, you know, fundraising and just being supporters of the school.”

Compounding this issue are the hidden costs that many schools impose. In an attempt to keep tuition rates nominally lower, some institutions have resorted to adding various fees or requiring parents to pay for supplies and books separately. This practice disproportionately affects families who are already stretching their budgets to afford tuition.

One of the hottest issues amongst parents I talked to was the issue of registration fees. In addition to tuition already being paid, many schools demand $700 to $1500 fees just to register children for the upcoming year. As one frustrated parent put it, “It doesn’t make sense. Why does it cost so much to register a child? I’d rather they just be transparent with it or just make it part of the tuition.”

This lack of transparency was a recurring theme in my conversations. An administrator who wished to remain anonymous admitted, “We know it’s not ideal, but sometimes these additional fees are the only way we can make our budget work without raising tuition across the board. It’s a balancing act, but I understand why parents find it frustrating.”

Another parent pointed out another frustration: timing. “The schools always have their registration period (with their registration fees and tuition audits) during the single most expensive Jewish holiday, Passover, AND tax season.” Another parent described it as “maddening. Unless you’re wealthy and can afford people to handle all this for you, you are just never prepared for it. In one month, I need to pay several $850 registration fees, do my taxes and pay my taxes, pay for Passover, and somehow have money leftover to pay tuition for that year and my rent.”

These hidden costs and poor timing put immense pressure on schools to balance their budgets while trying to accommodate families across a wide spectrum of financial means. Rabbi Stulberger of Valley Torah acknowledged this challenge: “You have to try and balance all that out and figure out how to make it as affordable as possible, but not cut corners on like what you offer.” This balancing act is at the heart of the tuition crisis, as schools strive to provide top-quality education while remaining accessible to families across the economic spectrum.

The Dark Side of Funding Pressures

While many schools are seeking legitimate ways to address their financial challenges, the intense pressure to make ends meet has, in some cases, led to questionable practices. In a disturbing revelation, a Jewish Home reporter overheard administrators at an elementary school in Pico’s

open house discussing how they were manipulating student test scores to secure tutoring money from the government.

This attempt to game the system for additional funding backfired spectacularly when parents were suddenly alerted that their children, previously thought to be performing well, now “needed tutoring.” The incident highlights the potential for dishonesty and ethical compromises when schools are desperate for funds.

An anonymous source familiar with the situation commented, “It’s a symptom of a broken system. When schools feel they have to choose between honesty and keeping their doors open, something is fundamentally wrong.”

This revelation raises serious questions about the integrity of some institutions and the lengths they might go to in order to secure funding. It also underscores the need for greater transparency and oversight in school finances, as well as a community-wide solution to the funding crisis that doesn’t push schools to such desperate measures.

Innovative Approaches and Funding Challenges

Despite these challenges, many schools are finding innovative ways to address the tuition crisis. YULA, for example, recently merged its boys’ and girls’ divisions, resulting in significant cost savings. Seth Berkowitz, President of YULA’s board, explained:

“We took, you know, what in retrospect seems like an easy decision, but there were plenty of hurdles to, you know, get through at the time to merge the schools. That, there was a fair amount of overhead, like 10% of the combined budget, like north of a million dollars in duplicated costs by, you know, running the institutions independently, and we brought them together.”

This merger has allowed YULA to freeze tuition for four years straight, even in the face of rising costs. They’ve also established a million-dollar endowment fund specifically to help families who struggle to meet the minimum tuition requirements.

Other schools are exploring creative funding options. Mendy Spalter of Yeshiva Ohr Elchonon Chabad shared how they’ve leveraged federal funding for their college program and food services:

“Our main funding that I’m talking about from the government is either federal funding that comes in for our college program or funding that comes in for our food program like the lunch program.”

However, not all funding solutions are without controversy. Some schools have found themselves in difficult positions when it comes to accepting donations with strings attached. Rabbi Bursztyn of Bais Yaakov shared a particularly illuminating story about their experience with the Jewish Federation:

“The Federation used to give us a certain amount of money they wanted us to do the tuition in a certain way... They wanted us to collect our tuition using what’s called fact-sighting, or something like that. We should send parents’ information to a company, they give the income… first of all some of the people who take advantage are having unreported income... So, it’s not worth it.”

He went on to explain their principled stance:

“We don’t need a Federation to tell us how to collect. So, they said, if you don’t do it our way, we won’t give you any money... So, for the last few years, the Jewish Federation gives us nothing.”

This situation highlights the complex relationship between schools and funding organizations, and the difficult choices schools sometimes face in maintaining their autonomy while seeking financial support.

The role of the Jewish Federation in particular came under scrutiny in several interviews. Many school administrators expressed frustration with what they see as a lack of prioritization of Jewish education by the Federation. As Rabbi Stulberger put it:

“Unfortunately, they really haven’t changed their ways, and you know, I don’t want to bite the hand that feeds me because they give minimal funds to schools now, it’s really gone down significantly... It’s sad that the percentage, you can look that up you don’t need me to tell you that, you can look up on the foundation website, you know what- how much they apportioned for Jewish education it’s a dismally low percentage.”

This criticism extends beyond just the Federation to the broader community’s priorities. As one anonymous administrator pointed out:

“The Jewish Federation is the main overall global organization that is here raising millions of dollars every year for the Jewish community. So they do wonderful work with the aged, they do wonderful work, they have, you know, they have a free loan program, you know, so they do some wonderful things... but they also spend millions of dollars on liberal courses that have no Sheichus to perpetuating Jewish life.”

These insights reveal a community grappling with how to allocate limited resources and highlight the need for a broader conversation about funding priorities within the Los Angeles Jewish community.

(The LA Jewish Home reached out to the Jewish Federation, but they were unavailable to comment).

The Broader Community’s Role

Many of those I spoke with emphasized that solving the tuition crisis will require involvement from the entire Jewish community, not just the schools themselves. A seasoned

administrator, who requested to remain anonymous, from a school that had to drastically cut operations voiced frustration with the current lack of communal coordination:

“Everybody created an entity (His school) but they don’t look to the other side, turned around to see what’s going on with the case of kids going to public school, kids who cannot afford to have education...”

This administrator further emphasized the need for a more holistic approach:

“I think that the whole Jewish community organization should give 10% of their budget towards Jewish education. And the wealthy schools… if someone there is doing surgery for $40,000 a day, so he can afford to pay tuition with all you need to do to get it.”

Michael “Avi” Helfand, a legal scholar focused on religious liberty issues, pointed to the need for coordinated advocacy efforts to change government policies:

“The Supreme Court’s doctrine on separation of church and state, it’s changed in recent years and so there’s now as a constitutional matter there’s a path available to treating religion equally. And now you need to start convincing legislatures either through the court system or through advocacy in state capitals that what we’re looking for is to be put on equal footing with all other kinds of communities and private institutions and we want to work with government to make sure we accomplish the objectives they are trying to achieve.”

Helfand also emphasized the importance of framing the issue in terms of equality and partnership with government:

“I think part of the answer is working through some of the most egregious applications of this principle and making clear that this isn’t about preferring religion it’s about giving all private entities who need funds that the government thinks need funds, giving them all the funds they need to accomplish really important government objectives.”

Seth Berkowitz of YULA suggested that the solution might lie in a series of smaller, targeted efforts rather than one overarching fix:

“I suspect that maybe the solutions aren’t necessarily global... maybe the approach is lots of micro solutions rather than like one macro solution for the community. I don’t know the answer, but rather than like waiting for a solve that, you know, would come from somewhere, we tried to make our like own little stab at it as best we could.”

The Impact on Families and the Community

The tuition crisis isn’t just a financial issue - it’s deeply affecting the fabric of the Jewish community. Rabbi Stulberger shared a startling statistic:

“If you would know, I don’t really know the number, but I know the number is shock-

ing, how many frum families do not have their kids in Jewish schools? How many families who would love to have their kids in a Jewish school do not because they don’t want to deal with the financial rigmarole of the tuition committees and what they put through.”

This reality is forcing some families to make difficult choices. As one anonymous administrator shared:

“When my school is closed, there’s no more school like me anymore.... Some of the schools also, they’re trying to be... My school was open to everybody and anybody, learning disabled, kids with no faith that nobody wants.”

The long-term consequences of these choices could be significant for the Jewish community. As Rabbi Shifman of Emek pointed out:

“I would never have believed 15 years ago that Klal Yisroel is going to be so blatantly vilified and demonized as they are today. To me, the need to be able to educate our kids, to be able to handle that, is so much more important now than it’s ever been… Especially, you have, unfortunately so many of, you know, Acheniu of Klal Yisroel that are on the other side of the spectrum that they’re just either ignorant or never understood things.”

A Call to Action: Prioritizing Jewish Education

As we approach the High Holidays, it’s time for our community to seriously reconsider our priorities. I hear it all the time - Jewish education is the single most important thing not only for the survival of the child but of Judaism itself! But are we truly putting our money where our mouths are?

What if, instead of donating to shuls this High Holiday season, we directed our tzedakah towards Jewish schools? Better yet, what if the leaders of Orthodox shuls in Los Angeles made a pact to donate 10% of the money they raise each year to a fund dedicated to filling in fundraising gaps or tuition assistance for Jewish schools?

Our calculations, based on last year’s tax filings and disclosed High Holiday funding, indicate that if they did this, very few Jewish families would be stretched for tuition (except, of course, for the families who use the money for $30,000 Pesach retreats instead). This could be a game-changer for Jewish education in our community.

It’s crucial to remember that every Jewish child is entitled to a Jewish education and cannot be turned away from school due to financial or other considerations (such as yichus or behavior). As we begin a new school year, much is being discussed regarding the topic of school admission. Let’s consider the words of the Lubavitcher Rebbe on

this topic:

“To those who are in the position of the doorkeeper, those in charge of admission to a Yeshivah or similar institution – they need to bear in mind that Torah study is a matter of life for a Jewish boy or girl and should seek every possible means to make it available to each and every Jewish boy and girl. Even if there may be a doubt that a particular applicant might be trying to evade payment for tuition, no child should be turned away. Nor should any applicant be made to feel embarrassed in any case of hardship. Unfortunately, these principles have not always been fully observed in admissions to some Day Schools and Torah institutions in the present time.

And to those who are in the category of seeking admission to Torah learning – the lesson is that no sacrifice should be too great when it comes to Torah study. Even those who have been learning Torah every day and it is a question of missing just one

day the same sacrifice should be made not to miss even a single day of Torah study.”

The Lubavitcher Rebbe’s words remind us of our collective responsibility to ensure that every Jewish child has access to a quality Jewish education, regardless of their family’s financial situation.

The Future of Our Community

The future of our community depends on our ability to provide a quality Jewish education to every child who seeks one. It’s time for all of us - schools, shuls, communal organizations, and individual donors - to come together and ensure that Jewish education in Los Angeles is not just surviving, but thriving.

As Seth Berkowitz eloquently stated:

“I think communally we have to be clear on the fact that education of kids in kind of a rigorous, serious Judaism that also prepares

them for the 21st century, whatever strain of the community, whatever line of Orthodoxy you’re talking about, or even broader than that, those are non-negotiable that need to happen, and we can’t kind of compromise on the kids, or there is no future. It has to be a number one community priority.”

The choice is ours. Will we continue to allow schools and families to struggle under an unsustainable funding model? Or will we step up and make Jewish education the communal priority it needs to be?

As one wealthy parent noted, ‘Baruch Hashem, I can afford tuition. But if something isn’t done soon, more and more families will leave Los Angeles. Wealthier families will be able to stay. But that will create a very different type of community. Not one that I want to be a part of.”.

The future of our community depends on our ability to provide a quality Jewish education to every child who seeks one. It’s time for all of us - schools, shuls, communal

organizations, and individual donors - to come together and ensure that Jewish education in Los Angeles is not just surviving, but thriving.

The choice is ours. Will we continue to allow schools and families to struggle under an unsustainable funding model? Or will we step up and make Jewish education the communal priority it needs to be?

As we enter this High Holiday season, let’s commit to making Jewish education our top priority.

Whether it’s through redirecting our personal tzedakah or encouraging our shuls to contribute to school funding, each of us has a role to play. After all, as the Torah teaches us, “

” - we are obligated to teach our children. Let’s ensure we’re fulfilling that obligation as best we can.

Let’s Be Honest: Parents Vs. Schools

Let’s be honest—there’s a bit of a standoff brewing between parents and schools in our Orthodox Jewish community, and no one’s openly talking about the elephant in the classroom. On the one hand, parents send their kids to school expecting a top-tier education and Torah values, but then some don’t exactly practice what the school preaches at home. On the other hand, schools accept students and often expect families to fit into their frameworks without really understanding the dynamics of the families they serve. It’s like we’re all operating under unspoken contracts, but no one’s reading the fine print. First off, there’s a common belief that paying tuition is a golden ticket to making demands of the school. Parents think, “I’m paying thousands of dollars, so I should have a say in everything, right?” Well, not exactly. Just because you’re footing the bill doesn’t mean the school can or should bend to every whim. Yes, parents deserve input, but the relationship should be about partnership, not a transaction. As Dorothy H. Cohen said, “No school can work well for children if parents and teachers do not act in partnership on behalf of the children’s best interests.”

Let’s take a closer look at that partnership. The second paragraph of the Shema tells us, “Take to heart these instructions

with which I command you today, Teach them to your children and speak of them when you are at home and when traveling on the road, when you lie down, and when you get up, (Deuteronomy 6:6-7).” If we’re being honest, some parents send their kids to school expecting the teachers to do all the heavy lifting—educationally and religiously. But then, when the kids come home, the values that the school is trying to instill don’t exactly match what’s happening at the Shabbat table. It’s like sending your kid to a nutritionist and then feeding them candy for dinner. Consistency matters. If you’re going to enroll your child in a school that emphasizes Torah learning and moral development, that has to be reinforced at home. Otherwise, the mixed signals confuse the kids, and everyone ends up frustrated.

Now, let’s switch gears and talk about schools. Some schools act like they’ve got a one-size-fits-all approach to education. They take in families with different backgrounds, needs, and challenges, but then expect everyone to fall in line with their policies. But here’s the thing—education isn’t just about academic excellence or religious instruction. Mishlei (Ecclesiastes 22:6) says “Educate each child according to his way.” While schools may do a great job educating the child according to their needs, what about the parents? Schools may need to meet fam-

ilies where they are. That might mean being a bit more flexible with offering resources to support parents who may not be able to fully align with every expectation. As long as the family is growth-oriented, there is room for alignment with the school.

Another wrinkle in all of this is the lack of school choice. In some communities, you don’t have many options. So, when parents enroll their children, they may feel forced to conform to the school’s standards, even if it doesn’t fully align with their home life. Similarly, schools may not feel the need to adjust to families’ needs because, frankly, there isn’t much competition. This dynamic breeds resentment on both sides—parents feeling they’re being judged, and schools feeling like they can’t cater to every individual family.

So, how do we fix this? For starters, we need real, honest communication. Schools and parents need to sit down, not just to discuss report cards or tuition, but to have an ongoing conversation about shared values and expectations. Schools could make a greater effort to understand the realities that families are facing—whether it’s financial pressure, religious observance, or mental health challenges—and parents need to understand that upholding the school’s standards isn’t just about paying the bills, it’s about living the values at home, too.

From a Torah lens, the responsibility

of educating our children doesn’t rest solely on the school. Chazal makes it clear that parents are their children’s first teachers. Schools are an extension of the home, not a replacement for it. And while schools provide essential structure and knowledge, parents can’t expect them to perform miracles in isolation.

Collaboration is key, and it starts with humility on both sides. Schools need to be willing to adjust their expectations to the real lives of their students, and parents need to stop thinking that writing a tuition check entitles them to anything and everything. If we can get both sides to move from a mindset of “us vs. them” to one of genuine partnership, then maybe we’ll start seeing the kind of growth in our kids that we all dream of. Because, at the end of the day, true education—like true partnership—isn’t about who’s in charge. It’s about raising children with the intelligence and Midot to thrive in this world. And that takes all of us.

Elan Javanfard, M.A., L.M.F.T. is a Consulting Psychotherapist focused on behavioral health redesign, a Professor of Psychology at Pepperdine University, & a lecturer related to Mindfulness, Evidence-Based Practices, and Suicide Prevention. Elan is the author of Psycho-Spiritual Insights: Exploring Parasha & Psychology, a weekly blog. He lives in the Los Angeles Pico Robertson community with his wife and three children and can be reached at Elan.Javanfard@gmail.com.

Rabbi Suffrin Isn’t Hiding Anything. Look at His Beard

David Rogatsky

As the clock strikes 10:30 PM on a balmy Los Angeles evening, most sensible educators are nestled in their homes. Not Rabbi Arye Suffrin. There he stands, a sentient exclamation point with an untamed beard, in the YULA Girls High School parking lot as he greets a horde of sleep-deprived teenagers returning from a Model UN competition.

“You did great!” he tells each one as they get off the bus and into their parent’s cars.

“I didn’t realize how ingrained being in Jewish education was in me,” Suffrin muses, his eyes gleaming with the fervor of a man who’s found his calling after a brief, bewildering detour through the labyrinth of high finance. “I grew up in the home of a Jewish educator, and our Shabbos table was all about it.”

Indeed, the Chabad Suffrin family tree is laden with the fruit of Jewish education. His father, Rabbi Yisroel Boruch Suffrin, has shaped young minds at Harkham Hillel Hebrew Academy since 2003.

In a move that must give his father much nachas, Arye now finds himself juggling not one, but two schools - YULA Boys and Girls divisions. It’s a balancing act that would make a Cirque du Soleil performer break out in a cold sweat, but our bearded wonder seems to thrive on the chaos. But unlike some Chabad Shluchim, Arye’s dual principlehood was not handed to him on a silver Michael Aram platter.

Fresh out of Yeshiva University’s Sy Syms School of Business, young Arye found himself adrift in the tempestuous seas of Wall Street, balancing books for Lloyd’s in New York City. But faster than you can say “stock market crash,” he traded in his power suits for a rabbi’s garb. “We came to YULA as a trial run 15 years ago, just for a year,” Suffrin recalls, a wry smile playing at the corners of his mouth. “We moved to L.A. and haven’t looked back.”

The California sun beats down on the immaculate grounds of YULA Boys High School, that citadel of Modern Orthodox education perched on the gilded slopes of Pico-Robertson. I’m greeted at the gate by a security guard whose grim determination suggests he’s guarding Fort Knox rather than a yeshiva. After a brief interrogation that would make the Mossad proud, I’m ushered into the main office—a buzzing hive of teenage energy and administrative efficiency.

The secretary eyes me over a sea of pubescent faces, each clamoring for a nurse’s note or hall pass. “You’re here to see Rabbi Suffrin? Are you sure?” Her tone implies I might be better off seeking an audience with the Dalai Lama. I nod, clutching my visitor’s sticker like a talisman.

Suddenly, HE appears. Rabbi Arye Suf-

frin strolls out of his inner sanctum with the confidence of a man who’s just aced his SATs and bar mitzvah on the same day. He’s a study in contrasts: a boyish 40-something face with an untamed Chassidic beard, yet the rest of his attire and demeanor screams Modern Orthodox macher: a crisp white shirt tucked into slacks, a (possibly) Theory tie, and—Great Scott!—a pair of sneakers that whisper, “I’m holy, but I can hustle.”

“David, how are you?” he booms, having spotted my visitor’s sticker. His arm drapes over my shoulder like a tallit, guiding me out of the office maze. As we step into the California sunshine, he offers a choice that feels loaded with metaphysical significance: “Would you like to be seated in the office or outside?”

We opt for God’s great outdoors, settling into lawn chairs dragged together in the epicenter of YULA’s academic universe. Suffrin leans back, arms stretched wide on the rests, basking in the sun like a lion on a warm rock. His eyes, when they lock onto mine, have the intensity of a Talmudic scholar dissecting a particularly knotty piece of Gemara.

“My number one rule,” he declares, leaning forward conspiratorially, “is I never miss class when I’m teaching. Not for like a meeting or anything. I prioritize the classes.” One can almost hear the ghost of Tom Sawyer whooping in approval.

That’s all good, but one has to wonder, how does one man, even one with the energy of a Hasidic Energizer Bunny, manage to be in two places at once?

“I have an amazing administrative team on both campuses,” Suffrin explains, his chest swelling with pride like a peacock displaying its feathers. “They really get the credit for running the details and making sure that the bells are running on time, and the culture and the warmth of the school is up to the values and standards of YULA.”

Ah yes, those famous YULA values. Suffrin rattles them off like a well-rehearsed pitch: “Primacy and relevancy of Torah, uncompromising general studies, and character development.” It’s a trifecta that would make any Jewish mother kvell with pride.

There’s one question I have to get out of the way. I ask him whether or not he is Chabad. Some people, I tell him, think he hides it because he works at a non-Chabad school. A big, bemused grin appears on his face. “I’m not hiding anything,” he tells me. “look at my beard.”

As we delve into more sensitive topics—like YULA’s transformation from where the troublemakers go to a school that attracted a handful of girls, even from schools like Bais Chaya Mushka last year —a flicker of apprehension crosses his face. But it’s gone in an instant.

“I’m not sure what the reputation was before I was there,” he says, a hint of caution in his voice. “I don’t want to go into that.” He pivots with the skill of a seasoned politician, focusing instead on YULA’s current mission and values.

Under Suffrin’s stewardship, YULA has become a veritable smorgasbord of Jewish flavors. “We have an Ashkenaz minyan, we have a Chabad minyan, and we have a Sephardic minyan,” he boasts, his voice rising with evangelical fervor. “In fact, YULA Boys has a Sephardic rabbi in every single grade!” It’s a diversity play that would make a corporate HR department weep with joy.

“We’ve seen an unbelievable commitment to growth and spirituality,” Suffrin boasts, his eyes gleaming with pride. “They’re observant in mitzvot and striving to grow. You see the energy in class, in the halls and at a school kumzitz. It’s really special and beautiful.” It’s all part of the grand plan to create what they call “Bnei and Bnot Torah” – sons and daughters steeped in Jewish learning and values.

But Suffrin’s tenure hasn’t been all Kumbaya and Kiddush cups. In March 2022, a Purim skit at YULA Boys mocking social activism and rival school Shalhevet sparked more controversy than a bacon cheeseburger at a kosher deli. Suffrin’s response was swift and contrite. At a subsequent soccer game between the two schools, he publicly apologized, calling the incident “nothing short of a heartbreaking disgrace.”

This ability to navigate turbulent waters while keeping YULA’s ship steady is perhaps Suffrin’s greatest strength.

As I watch him navigate the halls, greeting students by name and stopping to chat about everything from Talmudic law to last night’s Lakers game, I can’t help but notice a very Lubavitch style to his communication, which makes me begin to wonder if his success stems from his Chabad background.

When I broach this theory, Suffrin shifts uncomfortably. “I’m not sure my Chabad background has anything to do with it,” he demurs. “Like I said, it’s not just me. I have a fantastic staff. Most of which are not Chabad.”

As our interview draws to a close, Suffrin rises with the fluid grace of a man half his age. He extends a hand, his grip firm and warm. Then, as if we wanted to ensure his humility was on record, he repeated his humble brag. “This is not Rabbi Suffrin’s school,” he intones, his voice taking on an almost prophetic timbre. “This school belongs to the Los Angeles community.”

And with that, he’s gone—swallowed up by the bustling corridors of YULA, no doubt off to teach a Talmud class or broker peace between warring factions of the stu-

dent council. As I watch him disappear down the hallway, his untamed Chabad beard bobbing above a sea of modern orthodox yarmulkes, I can’t help but think: Yes, this isn’t Rabbi Suffrin’s school. But his results speak for themselves.

YULA, once considered the redheaded stepchild of L.A. Jewish education, now boasts students from each of the middle schools, waiting lists, and a reputation that stretches from the sun-kissed shores of Santa Monica to the neon-lit Strip of Las Vegas. “We even have kids that board here from San Diego and out in Las Vegas,” Suffrin boasts, his eyes twinkling with the satisfaction of a man who knows he’s built something special.

But with great power comes great responsibility – and a hefty price tag. Despite the tuition freeze, YULA isn’t cheap. Yet Suffrin is quick to point out the school’s commitment to financial aid. “We’re giving out over $3 million in financial aid,” he declares. And no student is ever left out of extracurricular activities like Shabbatons due to lack of funds (field trips, books, and weekend Shabbatons are not included in tuition) . Under Suffrin’s his leadership, YULA has managed to freeze tuition for four consecutive years while simultaneously expanding programs and upgrading facilities. According to YULA’s latest tax filings, the school’s revenue for the fiscal year ending June 2023 was a whopping $18,002,816more than double the previous year’s (and even ended 2023 with a surplus).

His--- I mean YULA’s success has created a new challenge: how to lift all boats in the sea of L.A. Jewish education. It’s a feat that has sent shockwaves through the world of Jewish education, where rising costs have become as predictable as guilt trips from Jewish mothers (this is a reminder to call yours, by the way).

In the great pageant of American Jewish life, Rabbi Arye Suffrin has carved out a niche of his own—part Chabad emissary, part corporate refugee, and all educator.

In the sprawling, sun-drenched landscape of Los Angeles Jewry, that is the perfect combination to lead YULA, and perhaps the entire community into a brighter future.

Just don’t expect him to trade in those sneakers for wing tips anytime soon. After all, in the world of Jewish education, sometimes the most revolutionary act is simply being yourself.

Yoel’s Lemonade Stand

Justin Oberman

“Perhaps the best way to solve the Jewish school tuition problem is to not send our kids to Jewish schools (hear me out)”

I’m the co-founder of a creative consultancy called Tediophobes.

Now, you might wonder, “What in the world is a Tediophobe?” Well, technically speaking, it’s a person who does not like tedious things. But for the sake of better explaining the consultancy, it’s probably best to describe a Tediophobe as someone who thinks more like an artist than a manager, which is a way of saying we’re not your typical suit-and-tie consultants. We’re more like a bunch of random experts who help people and companies that aren’t getting what they need from specialists because what they are missing is the big picture.

In other words, we’re creative problem solvers.

So, when I was asked to write about a “far out” solution to the Jewish School tuition problem in LA, I thought to myself, “Instead of offering up a crazy solution, why not use it as an opportunity to show people how to come up with crazy yet practical solutions of their own.”

When coming up with solutions to a problem, one of the worst ways to do it is to tackle the problem head-on. The closest you should get to solving a problem that way is to use indirection. You know, like instead of selling more pianos by creating ads about pianos, you convince home builders to call living rooms music rooms.

More often than not, however, the indirection is not apparent, and the means to do so doesn’t exist. In that case, you need to get more creative and come up with ideas you usually wouldn’t.

To help accomplish such a goal, I like to use a creative problem-solving technique called “Stepping Stones.”

“Stepping Stones” is a creativity technique from Roger von Oech’s book A Whack on the Side of the Head. The idea is to take an initial concept or problem and intentionally look for seemingly unrelated or far-fetched ideas as “stepping stones” to help generate fresh and innovative solutions.

Here’s how the method works:

1. Start with a Problem or Idea: Begin with the issue you want to solve or the idea you want to develop.

2. Create a “Stepping Stone”: Pick a random, unrelated concept, idea, or solution. It doesn’t have to make sense or be logical at this stage.

3. Build on the Stepping Stone: Take that wild or offbeat idea and use it as a springboard for thinking of new approaches or perspectives. Even if

the stepping stone idea is impractical or impossible, it can inspire other more useful solutions.

4. Refine the Idea: Once you’ve generated a variety of ideas using stepping stones, refine or combine them into practical solutions.

When tackling the issue of Jewish school tuition in Los Angeles, I first needed to define the problem. Because the fact that tuition is too high is not the problem; the fact that our tax money doesn’t go to our children’s education, however, is.

One of the reasons Jewish tuition in LA are so high is because there is no school choice. In other States, a certain amount of the tax money people give can be returned to them or sent to another school if the parents decide not to use the public school system.

This doesn’t exist in LA. For the religious schools, the reason for this has something to do with Church and State. But since school choice isn’t available even for secular private schools, or for students in underprivileged school districts, we know the problem runs deeper than that. And by deeper, I mean the teachers union.

With a problem defined, I then like to solve it by asking: “What’s the stupidest thing we could do?”

And that, my friends, is how I ended up with the seemingly insane idea that the solution to the Jewish school tuition problem in LA might be to stop sending Jewish kids to Jewish schools altogether.

Before you reach for your pitchforks or start composing a strongly worded letter to the editor, remember. This isn’t about abandoning our traditions or giving up on Jewish education. It’s about coming up with ideas you typically wouldn’t in order to create “stepping stones” to a better idea.

Here’s the scenario: Imagine if every Jewish family in Pico Robertson and La Brea suddenly decided to enroll their kids in public schools in their neighborhood. Picture the chaos, the logistics nightmare, the headlines.

“Local schools overwhelmed as thousands of Jewish students leave private education!”

Do you think Hamilton High School is prepared to take on thousands upon thousands of Jewish students?

Can you see the school district officials sweating?

Thinking through this scenario might just lead us to some surprising insights.

For instance, theoretically, such a situation might achieve its goal directly by forcing government

officials to find ways to make Jewish schools more affordable. The headline may spur on the school choice movement in other minority communities, thus further putting the pressure on, so to speak.

Now, let’s take another spin on this.

What if Hamilton High School called our bluff? What if they found a way to make room and suddenly found themselves in a sea of kippot and modestly dressed skirts? Imagine the potential for change from within the system when we are the dominant players. Sure, there might be some awkward moments in sex ed class when the visiting drag queen walks into the classroom to find a yeshiva, but influence goes both ways, doesn’t it?

Maybe, just maybe, we’ve been doing it wrong. Perhaps we are supposed to take over a district and turn it into a Jewish school by default.

Of course, there are the obvious potential downsides. Some might cry foul, accusing us (Jews) of trying to manipulate the system. Candace Owens would probably have a field day. But even that backlash could serve a purpose if it brings more attention to the issue of school choice - an issue that affects not just Jewish families but many underprivileged communities as well.

Now, before you start drafting your emails to transfer your kids, remember: this is a thought experiment. The point isn’t to shake up the system. It’s to shake up your thinking. Because sometimes, the best way to solve a problem is to imagine doing the exact opposite of what you think you should do.

So, next time you’re faced with a thorny problem, try taking a step in the completely wrong direction. You might just find it leads you right where you need to go. After all, if we always think the same way, we’ll always get the same results. And in a world that’s changing faster than a teenager’s TikTok feed, that’s a luxury we can’t afford.

Now, who’s brave enough to share their most outrageous solution to a real problem? The comments section awaits your brilliance (or madness –sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference). And remember, in the words of a wise man (okay, it was me): “The stupidest idea is often the first step towards the smartest solution.”

Let’s see what kind of creative chaos we can stir up together. After all, isn’t that what being a Tediophobe is all about?

To learn more about how to think differently, you can follow Justin on LinkedIn: @Justinoberman

Beyond the Headlines

A weekly glimpse into the Israel you won’t read about in the news

Sivan Rahav Meir

Translated by Yehoshua Siskin

More People, More

Every night, there are more and more people flocking to the Kotel for Selichot. It’s not yet the middle of Elul, yet it already looks like the eve of Yom Kippur, the highlight of the year. And it’s the same at Selichot all over the world — “Sold out,” if you can say that about a prayer service!

I’ve heard so many people asking, dejectedly, how we will celebrate the holidays this year, but in my opinion, we should focus on something else. True, we’ve never been so sad or perplexed, but we’ve also never wanted so much to connect, to pray, to gather together to gain strength from one another! For many coming to the Kotel this year, it’s their first time. Their hearts have been awakened to the healing and holiness of the month of Elul and the upcoming Yamim Nora’im.

Rabbi Yisrael Goldberg, the Chabad emissary to the Rechavia and Nachlaot neighborhoods of Jerusalem, moved just recently to a new and larger building; however, he already understands that the space will be too small to contain the overflow crowds this Tishrei.

Connected

I saw him this week running around and arranging for a giant prayer tent to be set up. Similar tents will be erected all over the country — in community centers, parks, and squares, because how many synagogues or Chabad Houses have the space to contain the record numbers of people who have expressed interest in coming this year?!

People will come to shul to rejoice, to cry, to pray, and to feel a sense of togetherness. And on Simchat Torah, they will also remember the 1,200 holy souls on the day they ascended to Shamayim.

Those connected to a shul should be aware of this and be ready to open the gates and invite newcomers. Those who don’t have a shul are invited to join.

The slogan on the ads prepared by Rabbi Goldberg and other Chabad emissaries is: “We’ve saved you a seat!” But judging from the volume of requests he’s receiving, from those who are thirsting for meaning and for community, Rabbi Goldberg said that maybe the slogan should be: “We’ve saved you a hug.”

The Missile from Yemen and Some Important Reminders

1. Early Sunday morning, sirens jolted the residents of the coastal plain region and central Israel, completely disrupting their routine and daily schedules. Well, this is how our brothers and sisters in the North have been living for quite some time. Is our heart truly with them? And in fact, this is how our brothers and sisters in the South have lived for decades(!), while most of us dismissed it as “intermittent rocket fire, no casualties.”

2. This isn’t the story of the communities bordering Gaza; today it’s about the entire world. Our enemy is willing to make the effort to launch a missile from thousands of kilometers away, from Yemen. We don’t share a border, we haven’t conquered any of their territory, and yet, absolute evil marks us as its absolute enemy, generation after generation. What does this say about us and our role?

3. There were no casualties from the missile, thank God. And within seconds, literally seconds, people started flooding social media with jokes: “Okay, I get it, I’ll wake up on time

The Weekly Parshah: Ki Tavo

One of the most famous greetings when two Jews meet is a verse from this week’s parashah: “Blessed are you when you come, and blessed are you when you depart.” In its simplest meaning, we wish that someone be blessed when they leave home in the morning and return in the evening.

Our Sages give two additional explanations: On the personal level, the verse wishes a blessing upon one who comes to learn Torah in the beit midrash and one who leaves to go to work; on the national level we should be blessed when we enter the Land of Israel, and also when we leave it and go into exile. This is a blessing to the Jewish nation to help it survive all the exiles and diasporas

throughout its history.

Rashi gives a different explanation and says that this verse refers to a person’s entry into and exit from life. We should try to remain complete throughout the entire journey: “Your exit from the world should be the same as your entry, without sin.” Just as an infant is pure and has not sinned, so we should try to keep the slate as clean as possible throughout our lives. We are blessed when we come into the world; let us try to leave in the same manner.

We also read in this week’s parashah, “This day you have become a nation.” What “day” was Moses referring to? He wasn’t speaking about the day of the Exodus, nor about the day that

the Torah was given.

Rashi explains that Moshe was saying his farewells to the people just before his death. He handed over his sefer Torah to the tribe of Levi, which caused major discontentment among the Jewish people. They all went to Moshe to say that they had also received the Torah at Mount Sinai and that it belonged to them just as much as to the tribe of Levi, and asked Moshe why he had only charged the Levites with keeping the Torah after his death.

Thrilled with this complaint, Moshe responded, “This day you have become a nation.” Rashi explains, “Today I have understood that you really wish to cling to God.”

for Selichot,” someone wrote, while many parents remarked, “If it wouldn’t have been for the Yemenites, I wouldn’t have managed to get the kids out of bed on a Sunday morning.” It’s not just the black humor we’re so famous for; it reflects an underlying optimism even in our challenging reality.

4. Above all, we must take comfort and maintain our hope. In the Haftarah last Shabbat morning, all over the world the Jews read the words: “For you shall spread out to the right and to the left, and your descendants will dispossess nations” — a Divine promise that all these enemies will eventually vanish, and we will flourish. And also: “For a brief moment I abandoned you – but with great compassion I will gather you. In an outburst of anger, I hid My face from you for a moment – but with everlasting kindness I will have mercy on you.”

We’ve seen so many of these ancient promises come true. May we soon merit to see them all of fulfilled, speedily in our days.

Remember, Moshe had heard many complaints from the Jewish people throughout their forty-year sojourn in the wilderness — about food, water, and the route to the Land of Israel. Now they came with a completely different kind of complaint; they too want to be a link in the chain of passing on the Torah to the next generation. They also want to keep its commandments and be actively involved in the Torah. Moshe was so moved by their concern and sense of responsibility to the Torah that he was essentially saying, “Now I know, this entire journey has been worthwhile, and we have succeeded. You are now a nation.”

Lunch for Adults and Kids: Fueling Bodies and Minds

Chaim Loeb

For adults working from home and children attending school, lunchtime is crucial for maintaining energy and focus. Unfortunately, many overlook its importance, leading to unhealthy eating habits and reduced performance at work and school. It’s time to prioritize lunch and make it a nutritious part of the day.

The Lunch Trap for Adults: Snacking Instead of Nourishing

Adults often fall into the habit of snacking rather than preparing balanced meals. This grazing might curb hunger but lacks the necessary nutrients for sustained energy. Over time, it leads to lateday overeating, impacting sleep and health.

Research has shown that skipping proper meals and relying on snacks increases evening calorie consumption, which can harm metabolic health. A well-rounded lunch is key to preventing this imbalance.

Kids at School: The Need for Nourishing Lunches

Children, like adults, need balanced meals to fuel their bodies and minds. Studies show that kids who eat nutritious lunches perform better academically, with improved focus and behavior. Yet, many children rely on pre-packaged, sugary snacks, leading to energy crashes. For those who get school-provided meals, the quality can vary, often lacking necessary nutrients.

Leading by Example: Adults Must Prioritize Nutrition

Kids model their eating habits after adults. If we want healthier lunches for our children, we must prioritize our own nutrition. It’s important to model how to prepare simple, balanced meals that are both satisfying and healthy.

Practical Solutions

for a

Healthier Lunch Routine

Transforming lunch into a priority doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are five ways to make it easier:

1. Leftovers for Lunch: Use leftovers from dinner to create a balanced lunch for the next day. This saves time and ensures you’re eating healthy.

2. Plan a Weekly Menu: A simple meal plan helps ensure variety and covers all food groups, making it easier to shop and cook.

3. Shop with a Purpose: Having a menu in mind makes grocery shopping more efficient and reduces food waste.

4. Cook in Bulk: Batch cooking grains, proteins, and vegetables allows for quick meal prep during the week.

5. Advocate for Better School Lunches: If your child’s school lunches fall short, advocate for healthier options. Schools in Japan work with nutrition professionals to design balanced meals for children, and similar programs can be encouraged locally.

A Commitment to Nutrition Starts with Lunch

Lunchtime is a critical opportunity to fuel both body and mind. Adults can avoid the pitfalls of snacking and ensure they have the energy to work, while children can perform better in school. With a bit of planning and advocacy, we can make lunch a nourishing and essential part of the day for both ourselves and our children.

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A Lasting Message From the Pagers

It was right out of a spy movie.

On September 15, 2024, at least 12 people were killed and more than 2,750 others were injured by Hezbollah militants’ exploding pagers, according to the Lebanese Health Ministry.

The blasts were mainly in areas where Hezbollah has a strong presence, particularly a southern Beirut suburb and in the Beqaa region of eastern Lebanon, as well as in Damascus, according to Lebanese security officials and a Hezbollah official.

The explosions came hours after Israel’s internal security agency said it

had foiled an attempt by Hezbollah to kill a former senior Israeli security official using a planted explosive device that could be remotely detonated.

The United States “was not aware of this incident in advance” and was not involved, State Department spokesperson Matthew Miller said. “At this point, we’re gathering information.”

Experts claim the pager explosions pointed to a long-planned operation, possibly carried out by infiltrating the supply chain and rigging the devices with explosives before they were delivered to Lebanon. There are several

theories looming regarding how exactly this was achieved.

As usual, there were different reactions to Israel’s defending itself during the war. A UN human rights expert condemned it and said, “These attacks violate the human right to life, absent any indication that the victims posed an imminent lethal threat to anyone else at the time. Such attacks require prompt, independent investigation to establish the truth and enable accountability for the crime of murder. He went on to say, “To the extent that international humanitarian law applies,

at the time of the attacks there was no way of knowing who possessed each device and who was nearby. Simultaneous attacks by thousands of devices would inevitably violate humanitarian law, by failing to verify each target, and distinguish between protected civilians and those who could potentially be attacked for taking a direct part in hostilities.”

The UN human rights expert made no mention of the thousands of rockets that Hezbollah has been sending into northern Israel over the past several months. For some reason, that doesn’t

violate humanitarian law.

In a piece entitled, “Why Are Hezbollah’s Pagers Off-Limits?” The Wall Street Journal Editorial Staff wrote, “After Israel pulled off a covert operation against Hezbollah that ranks with the Trojan horse, the terrorist group’s apologists are crying foul. For too many in positions of influence, Israel simply isn’t allowed to fight back.

“I’m deeply alarmed by reports that a large number of communication devices exploded across Lebanon & Syria,” wrote United Nations Secretary-General António Guterres on Wednesday. He also said, “I think it’s very important that there is an effective control of civilian objects, not to weaponize civilian objects—that should be a rule.” Ken Roth, the long-time former

head of Human Rights Watch, who turned his field into a blame-Israel-first chorus, seconded the point about objects “associated with normal civilian daily use.”

Do these people think the Lebanese communicate via pager and walkie-talkie? Israel didn’t tamper with civilian objects like smartphones or any device you might pick up at a Lebanese RadioShack. It sabotaged Hezbollah’s secure military communications.

The U.N.’s “alarm” is highly selective; Hezbollah’s takeover of southern Lebanon and daily attacks on Israel don’t trigger it. International bureaucrats reward the Iranian proxy group’s terrorism by creating new rules for Israel—and maybe next time for America.”

The New York Post Editorial Board

also applauded Israel in their piece entitled “Israel’s pager blasts sent just the right message to Hezbollah”: “That was some sublime act of counter terrorism — remotely detonating sabotaged pagers, walkie-talkies and other devices belonging to Hezbollah terrorists. Good for Israel — even though it’s not taking credit...The move was exquisitely calibrated, hitting Hez’s thugs with minimal harm to civilians (as is typical with Israeli military operations).

The strikes will remind all Israel’s enemies that attacking it also puts them, and those around them, at risk. And this was no escalation, just a response (or the start of one): Since Oct. 7, Hezbollah’s shot some 8,000 drones, missiles, and rockets into Israel, igniting massive fires, killing Druze kids and

forcing the evacuation of nearly 100,000 Israelis.”

What is not in dispute is that through this mission, Israel has re-established itself in the eyes of the world as a highly sophisticated and technological leader. The security breach that took place on October 7th dealt a devastating blow to Israel’s reputation in the intelligence community. Israel’s calculated and focused attack on Hezbollah serves as a reminder to its enemies that when the going gets tough, the tough get going.

Lou Shapiro is a criminal defense attorney-certified specialist and legal analyst, but most importantly, makes the end-of-shul announcements at Adas Torah. He can be reached at LouisJShapiro@gmail. com.

Rosh Hashanah: The Three Stages of Teshuvah

The second Daniel woke up, he knew something was wrong. He felt perfectly fine, but he had no memory of who he was. After searching his house, the only useful thing he could find was a book that he seemed to have written. It contained a list of instructions, explaining his life’s story and how he suffers from a form of amnesia, sometimes forgetting who he is. He had written this book as a guide for him in these situations.

As he continues reading through the book, he realizes that it also includes a detailed philosophy of life, a deep spiritual perspective of the world, and an emphasis on living with a mission-centered focus. The book instructs him to seek out a specific mentor, and when he does so, the mentor takes Daniel under his wing and agrees to teach him the true path to greatness. Daniel has an incredible desire to grow and improve, and although he finds the learning difficult, he enjoys the challenge.

As Daniel goes through life, he faces a number of challenges: financial difficulties, relationship struggles, and some health battles. However, the principles in the book and his mentor’s guidance help prepare Daniel for these challenges. He faces each one head-on, always battling through and never giving up. Most of all, they help Daniel deal with his arch-nemesis, Aaron. It appeared as though Aaron’s mission in life was to crush Daniel’s dreams and thwart his every goal. For every step forward Daniel takes Aaron is always there to challenge him, attempting to push him two steps back. But Daniel never gives up, always managing to push past his challenges. Even when Daniel has a minor setback, he always manages to pick himself back up, re-harness his willpower, and keep pushing forward.

After a lifetime of growing, learning, and contributing to the world, Daniel is now a nearly perfect being. One day, just after waking up, the entire world disappears from under him and Daniel finds himself in another dimension, standing face-to-face with… himself.

“I’m sure you are confused,” the other Daniel says, “but I will explain everything. I am the real Daniel, or at the very least, the original Daniel. I was created perfect. Everything in my life was easy, clear, and perfect. But at the end of my life, I felt that something was missing. I suddenly realized that I didn’t want to be perfect, I wanted to become perfect. I therefore devised a plan.

“I created a younger version of myself without any memory of who he was. I then created a perfect arch-nemesis who would challenge him, thereby pushing him to grow. This arch-nemesis would develop along with him, continuing to counter and challenge him as he evolved and grew. But I did not leave Daniel to fend for himself; I created a book of instructions that would guide Daniel back to perfection.

“You, Daniel, are a part of me. Therefore, through your journey, a part of me gets to experience the process of becoming perfect.

“You have just finished your journey; you have reached a perfect state. Now, you get to enjoy the perfection you’ve built.”

A New Year

The birth of a new year is a time of reflection and resolution; a time when hope and inspiration fill the air. We dream about what this upcoming year holds in store; and how we can make the rest of our life the best of our life. We all have ideas, ambitions, and aspirations that we yearn to bring to fruition, and the new year gives us “permission” to revisit these goals and breathe new life into them. For a brief moment, everything is crystal clear; we see our purpose and our path with vivid clarity. However, there is an underlying frustration that accompanies this time period as well. If we reflect honestly, we often realize that our New Year’s resolutions are awfully similar to those of last year, and the year before, and the year before…

We have brief moments of inspira-

tion, but they soon fade into oblivion, only to be resuscitated for a few more days the next year in the hopes that somehow this year might be different. However, there is another option — a way to actually make this year different. By truly understanding this time of year and fully tapping into its powerful themes, we can turn what was previously fleeting inspiration into lasting, eternal change.

The Deeper Themes of Teshuvah

Elul and Rosh Hashanah center around the concept of teshuvah, and Parashas Nitzavim is clearly linked to this theme as well. The pesukim in Nitzavim discuss the theme of teshuvah, the importance of choosing life — choosing what is right and connecting ourselves back to Hashem (see the first pesukim of perek 30 in Sefer Devarim).

As Parashas Nitzavim is connected to the transition from Elul into Rosh Hashanah, let us delve deeper into the concept of teshuvah.

Teshuvah literally means “return,” but whom, or perhaps what, are we returning to? The Gemara (Kiddushin 39b) explains that Hashem created teshuvah before creating the world itself. What is the meaning of this enigmatic statement, and what lessons and implications does it have for us as we proceed through the teshuvah process?

The Practical Form of Teshuvah

The Rambam (Rambam, Mishneh Torah, Teshuvah 1:1) discusses the threestep process of teshuvah:

• First, one must reflect on their past and acknowledge that a problem exists.

• One must then transition into the present and strongly feel the pain of their

mistake, regretting it wholeheartedly.

• Finally, one must look toward the future and resolve to never again commit this same mistake.

This three-step guide is the practical process of teshuvah. However, there is a deeper essence of teshuvah that is the foundation for these three steps, and understanding this deeper essence is the key to truly transforming ourselves through these three steps.

True Teshuvah: Returning to Your Higher Self

Genuine teshuvah is not just about self-transformation; it’s about self-expression, returning to your true and higher self. As we previously stated, the Gemara (Niddah 30b) explains that while we were in the womb, we were in a perfect and transcendent state of being, and a malach taught us kol haTorah kulah. As the Vilna Gaon explains, this refers to the deepest realms of Torah, a transcendent Torah that lies far beyond this world, beyond the confines of space and time. (Quoted in Maalos HaTorah by Rabbeinu Avraham, brother of the Vilna Gaon. See also Even Sheleimah 8:24.) This Torah is the very root of reality, and you were granted complete understanding of its every detail. Not only were you shown this level of Torah, but you also learned your specific share of Torah; you were shown your unique purpose in the world and how your unique role fits into the larger scheme of the human story as a whole. You were given a taste of your own perfection, of what you could, should, and hopefully will become. And from this transcendent realm, you were birthed into the physical world with the mission to actualize everything you were shown in the womb while in your primordial, perfect state. In essence, your job in this world is not to create yourself, but rather to recreate

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yourself — to re-attain your original state of perfection, as you were shown by the malach. This time, however, it must be done through free will — by choosing to become great. Only by overcoming challenges and difficulty and only by asserting your willpower can you fulfill your true potential. In essence, our entire life is a story of teshuvah — returning to our original, higher, and true self.

The shofar is a wake-up blast, meant to shake us from our stupor and return us to our true selves. When we hear the shofar’s piercing cry, we yearn to return to our source, to our higher selves. The word “shofar” shares a root with “le’shaper,” to perfect and beautify. Strikingly, it also shares a root with “mei shafir,” the amniotic fluid that surrounds the fetus while in the womb. When we blow the shofar, we are reminded to improve and perfect ourselves, to return to the fetal state of perfection we once knew, and to return to our true selves.

The Three Stages of Teshuvah

There are three stages of genuine teshuvah:

• The first is individual teshuvah, where we return to our higher selves, our fetal selves, our true selves.

• The second stage of teshuvah goes beyond the limited self, turning the focus from individual to community.

• The third stage of teshuvah is returning to our absolute root and source, to the Source of all sources, to Hashem Himself.

• Communal Teshuvah

The Rambam, in discussing the laws of teshuvah, states that someone who removes himself from the Jewish community has no share in Olam Haba (Rambam, Mishneh Torah, Teshuvah 3:11). In other words, even if this person keeps all of Torah and mitzvos and is an upstanding Jew if he disconnects himself from the community, he loses his eternal existence. This requires explanation. After all, this person didn’t commit a heinous or evil act; he merely chose a life of isolation. Why should this warrant such extreme punishment?

The answer is profound. As human beings, we begin our lives as completely self-centered creatures, perceiving ourselves as isolated, separate, and disconnected from everyone else. As we progress through life, we learn to break down those walls and psychological barriers, recognizing that we are part of a bigger self, a collective self, and a higher consciousness. At root, all of Klal Yisrael is one, an interconnected self. Each of our individual neshamos are part of a greater whole, like individual cells that make up a single human body. A central aspect of Olam Haba is experienc-

ing yourself as part of Klal Yisrael, as part of a greater collective reality. If, however, one disconnects themselves from Klal Yisrael, they have uprooted themselves from reality. Just as unplugging a light bulb from its electrical circuit extinguishes its light, a soul simply cannot exist when disconnected from its root. This is not a punishment, but merely a consequence.

This is the second stage of teshuvah: returning to our collective self, to the single soul of Klal Yisrael.

The Third Stage of Teshuvah

The third stage of teshuvah is returning to our absolute root and source, to the Source of all sources, to Hashem Himself. The Nefesh Hachaim refers to Hashem as the “neshamah shel neshamos” (the Soul of all souls). Hashem is the root of existence, the absolute root of all our souls. Our journey through life is about sourcing our existence back to Hashem; this is the ultimate teshuvah.

We can now explain the Gemara that states that teshuvah preceded creation (Kiddushin 39b.). This is not merely a chronological description; it is a fundamental principle: Teshuvah is the root of this world. All of existence is created with the purpose of returning to its source, to fully reflect its absolute root — Hashem. May we be inspired to fully actualize all three stages of teshuvah this Rosh Hashanah and seal ourselves in the book of life, the book of true existence.

Deceit of an Ally, Part 2

Bruce Brill

This is the second in a five-part series by former NSA agent Bruce Brill based on his recently released book, Deceit of An Ally: NSA’s Secret Jew Room & 1973 Yom Kippur Treachery.

Former U.S. National Security Agency (NSA) Mideast analyst Bruce Brill knew days in advance that Syria and Egypt planned to invade Israel on Yom Kippur (6 October) in 1973. Yet General Eli Zeira, Israel’s Director of Military Intelligence, many years later, confided in Brill that Zeira’s American intel partners had assured him that the Arabs would not attack Israel. From the moment Brill heard this disturbing revelation, he began a mission to unravel the deception that resulted in the unnecessary deaths of over 2,600 Israelis. The vital intelligence Brill obtained was purposely corrupted in restricted, unmonitored rooms within the NSA. Brill discovered these rooms while working within the inner sancta of the agency.

n my role at the NSA as a linguist and military analyst in the early 1970s, I was given information, two days before it happened, that — for a certainty – Syria and Egypt were going to invade Israel on October 6, 1973 – Yom Kippur. Therefore, I was astonished to learn that, when the Yom Kippur War broke out, the Israelis were caught with their pants completely down. The critical intelligence I had been informed about should have been passed on to our ally, Israel; but it was not. The questions I left the reader with in the previous section were these: How could it be that the Israelis, who needed to know about the upcoming attack, didn’t? How could it be that the United States of America didn’t pass on that which we knew — beyond a doubt — to our ally, in time (or at all)?

In this second part of the series, I’ll continue to take you along with me on my journey, full of twists and turns, with the hope of eventually arriving at some answers to these baffling questions. (Spoiler alert! One of the answers will be thoroughly unexpected: not only did the U.S. not properly pass on the intelligence it had to the Israelis, but behind this failure lurked something deliberate, nefarious, and – at least to me – shocking.) It should be noted that the consequences of this intelligence breakdown were severe: since the Israelis were caught off guard by the attack on Yom Kippur, 1973, they racked up losses very quickly. Total casualties during the three weeks of the war were over 2,600 – most of them occurring during the first week, and almost all of them unnecessary.

How could it be that the Israelis, who needed to know about the upcoming attack, didn’t? How could it be that the United States of America didn’t pass on that which we knew — beyond a doubt — to our ally?

During those first days of the war, I worked 16-hour days on special assignment. However, as the war progressed, I eventually returned to my regular job under my Jew-hating boss in the Arabic section. He seemed more excited – and excitable – during my first couple of days back. Then, suddenly and inexplicably, he announced that he was taking off on a hunting trip to Colorado.

What?!? Here we were, monitoring the quickly-changing situation in the Middle East,

with barely enough time to catch a couple of winks of sleep at night, and Mr. Big Shot was taking off to go hunting in the Rockies? At the time, I filed this away in a memory folder as just another inexplicable thing, one of many inexplicables I would encounter at the NSA. Another one was an “E-val” – an enlisted man’s evaluation report – that I received from my boss soon after the war ended. It was the most horrible E-val I had ever gotten, and it became a source of great worry for me. These reports go directly into a soldier’s permanent record, and they can make or break his future: a negative report can impinge on the possibility of landing a good job as a civilian employee at the Agency after discharge, or even on receiving an honorable discharge. I was at a loss over what to do about this matter. I would just have to grin and bear it. But I was not grinning. Fortunately, an Air Force officer in another department on our floor found out about the E-val and came to my rescue. I don’t know how Master Sergeant Robert ████████ learned of my predicament; I can only surmise that it was from the ever-smiling Dusty, an ebullient African-American supervisor who possessed the discernment to know that Mike G., my boss, was a bigot and a Jew-hater — and out to get me. Mike G.’s position outranked Dusty’s, so Dusty, ever resourceful, found a supervisor who outranked Mike. Sergeant ████████ confided in me that it was obvious to him (and to other fair-minded middle managers on the floor) that my boss was gunning for me, for no other reason than,

simply, I was a Jew. Sergeant ████████ could write me an E-val of his own; and since his military rank surpassed Mike’s civilian rank, his E-val would supersede, revoke, and replace Mike’s.

After the evil E-val fiasco and its rectification, I knew I couldn’t continue working for Jew-hating Mike. I petitioned my superiors for transfer out of the Arabic section and into the Hebrew section, and within some weeks this was approved. I was thrilled! Not only would my new position be ideal for improving my knowledge of Hebrew, but it would provide me with a badly needed positive change in atmosphere. As icing on the cake, I would be working under a supervisor whom I loved. Besides being my roommate and a dear friend, the head of the Hebrew division was now my new boss! His piquant sense of humor and constant good spirits made my stay in the department an absolute pleasure. My job was to transcribe audiotapes and then translate those transcriptions. I had learned how to touch-type back in high school, so I was able to put out a good amount of work. Unlike my previous job, where I did little of anything during a typical day, here there was plenty to do, and my busy and enjoyable workday flew by.

As part of the job, I occasionally needed to send teletype messages abroad. The teletype machine was located in a room which required special security clearance to enter. Although I was given this clearance, I was not granted clearance to enter another large room through which one had to pass in

order to get to the teletype room. Since I was collecting security clearances one after the next, I didn’t think it would be a big deal for me to get one for this intervening room. However, the necessary clearance never came. I wondered why, with all my additional security clearances, I wasn’t granted access to this room, especially since I needed to pass right through it to get to the teletype room. However, this was just another one of those inexplicable things I filed away in my memory. Though I was tempted to ask my supervisor about it, it was a question I kept to myself, for fear that asking him would create the perception that I wanted him to violate the “need to know” rule, an iron-clad policy at the agency. But still, it did seem a bit curious.

I wondered why, with all my additional security clearances, I wasn’t granted access to this room, especially since I needed to pass right through it to get to the teletype room. However, this was just another one of those inexplicable things I filed away in my memory.

The intervening room was defined as “restricted”, meaning that access to it required entering a numerical code into a key-

Israeli troops on the Golan Heights fire artillery shells during the Yom Kippur War on October 11, 1973.

The revised E-val, written by the kind Sergeant Robert █████, which replaced my horrible E-val written by Mike G., my Jew-hating boss.

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pad mounted on the door handle. The usual procedure for entry into such a room for a person (like me) who didn’t have the code was to first ring the doorbell. This doorbell was like any typical doorbell in the real world. But that’s where the real-world likeness ended. Next, the person requesting entry would have to take a step or two back to show his face and badge to the monitoring camera. Since I wore my ID around my neck, this was usually a simple matter: I stood there for a minute or two with my ID dangling from my chest, to allow whoever was viewing me to see it clearly and confirm my identity. Then I waited for several more minutes until someone opened the door to let me in. I had no idea why this particular room was restricted. I didn’t need to know. And with all my newfound work, I didn’t dwell on it too much, until…

One day, while I was waiting the usual several minutes after displaying my ID card, the door opened prematurely and one of the workers – who had opened the door not to let me in, but to let himself out – exited the room. Without thinking, I proceeded through the door before waiting to be explicitly let in. On all previous occasions, whenever I had passed through the room, I never noticed anything particularly different about it from my limited-access room in the Hebrew sector (or, for that matter, from any of the open areas throughout the Agency.) On this occasion, though, they didn’t have enough time to “prepare” for my arrival, and I saw what the deal was.

As I entered the seemingly mundane work area, I noticed that the entire back wall of the room was covered with a huge map, and that a ceiling-to-floor curtain was descending over it. It was like a scene straight out of a James Bond movie! What was this all about? Why the huge map? Why the curtain? Why the added secrecy of this particular room, which was off limits to me, even though I had many top-secret clearances? Before the curtain could completely conceal the map, I noticed that it was a map of the Middle East, with Israel at its center. I recall seeing Israel’s “West Bank” settlements individually labeled, each with a number next to it. This didn’t cause me to bat an eye, since G6 (the NSA’s Middle East division) dealt with Israel all the time. But it did cause me to wonder: what were the particulars of the map, which was quickly disappearing before my eyes, that obliged management to restrict me from seeing it? I could only imagine.

Among us Hebees, as the Hebrew linguists were called, there was a spirit of camaraderie. One of the Hebees, Kathy (like my boss, not Jewish), had recently announced her engagement to a Chinese-American businessman, and so one evening after work we helped the couple celebrate by hosting an informal reception at a nearby bar-restaurant. It was one of those rare opportunities for us Hebees to get together socially, outside of our

work environment. At Kathy’s party, some of the Hebees were hitting the bottle a bit too hard, and tongues began to loosen up. Then, a few started doing something that was unheard of outside the Agency: talking shop. Talking shop outside of “the shop” was a big no-no, for obvious reasons. Yet that’s precisely where the conversation was heading. My boss, usually very careful about security in and (especially) outside of the office, was in no position to monitor everything that was being said in the conversation. Quite frankly, he wasn’t even monitoring himself. When the conversation shifted to “certain rooms” in the Agency, he turned to me, thrust his finger into my chest and said, “And you can’t enter because you’re a Jew.” Apparently his conscience was bothering him about the existence of such Jew-free rooms. I thought to myself, “Could that limited-access room with the big map of Israel be one of those Jew-free rooms that he’s talking about? OK, Bruce, file this question

into the inexplicable folder.”

Eventually, spring, 1974 came and my discharge from the Army drew near. Towards the end of our military service, we NSA analysts had several options. One was to “re-up”, which meant signing on the dotted line for another tour of duty. A second was to say goodbye to the military (and the NSA) all together, and hit the pavement as a civilian, out there in the big world. A third, intermediate, possibility was “to convert”. No, conversion in this context didn’t mean dunking oneself in the Jordan River or reciting the Shahada. It meant switching over from military to civilian status and continuing to work for the Agency, sometimes even in the same position as one had while an enlisted man. For me, the only clear option was number 2, to leave the military all together, because by this time I had already made a promise to myself that I needed to go to Israel and see it for myself. Nonetheless, the whole “conversion process” was quite interesting; plus, it took place during work hours, which meant that I could get a break from my day-to-day routine. So I decided to go for it.

Conversion consisted of four steps: Step 1: The “B.I.”, or “Background Investigation”. Why this was necessary is still unclear to me, since we were already Agen-

cy insiders and working with highly classified material.

Step 2: A psychological examination, largely intended to weed out homosexuals. Back in the day, the intelligence community was extremely sensitive about this issue, fearing that people with such proclivities might weaken the community and project the wrong image of its agencies.

Step 3: A polygraph test, in which a senior security officer carried out an extensive and detailed interview with the aid of a lie detector machine.

If the candidate made it past the first three steps, then Step 4 was jackpot time –the salary negotiations.

I passed the first two stages with no problem, and was invited back to take the polygraph test. Besides attempting to detect whether a candidate is telling the truth or lying about a particular issue, the polygraph test is also used to kick off further investigations into specific points of concern raised

conviction to go to Israel and see it for myself had only strengthened. So, in order to gracefully bow out of accepting the offer, I rejected it and responded with a ridiculous counteroffer: I requested a pay grade of GS11, the salary generally reserved for incoming PhD graduates with degrees in language studies. I knew full well that the Agency couldn’t abide by such a request. Thinking that this was the end of my brief stint as a salary negotiator, I started preparing myself to leave the Agency. But the Agency came back with a counteroffer of their own! Not a GS-11, as I had correctly predicted, but a GS-9, a full two grades above their original offer, and a pay grade commensurate with that given to holders of Master’s degrees. (I had only ever completed my undergraduate studies.) Still, despite their sweetening of the pot, I held on to my demand for a GS-11, knowing in my heart that I needed to go to Israel. They upped their offer two more times, ultimately to a “GS-9, Step 4”, but I

by his answers. These investigations are meant to probe whether any negative or compromising information about the candidate might exist which could jeopardize the security of the NSA and its agents. In fact, over 95% of all “negatives” on prospects came not from the background investigation or the psych exam, but from the polygraph results, and 90% of those negatives prompted further investigation. (The end result is that 30% or more of all candidates were rejected outright after the polygraph test.)

Unfortunately, as described in part 1 of this series, I failed one very important aspect of the test: the lie detector showed that I was likely to pass classified intelligence to a foreign national. Furthermore, and more damningly, it showed that I was likely to lie about doing so. Naturally, I expected that this would be the end of my conversion process. After all, the top linguist in our group had been rejected for being caught in a tiny white lie. However, much to my surprise, I was invited to the fourth step, the salary negotiations. I couldn’t believe it!

Though my use of Arabic had been minimal over the past half-year since I transfered to the Hebrew department, I was offered a position in the Arabic department –at a very competitive salary, denoted by the moniker “GS-7”. However, by this time, my

stuck to my guns, honoring the promise I made to myself.

Still, the whole process left me baffled: why were they so eager to entice me, a certified security risk who clearly didn’t want the job, to come on board? I should have been rejected, out of hand, after failing the polygraph examination. Why was I not among the 30% who were rejected? This question deeply troubled me, but I filed it, too, in the memory folder of “the inexplicable”. This folder was starting to get quite thick by now.

The job offer, the attractive salary, the Jew-free rooms at the NSA that my boss told me about at the party, the restricted-access room with the giant map of Israel and the descending curtain, the hunting trip to Colorado, and, of course, the fact that Israel didn’t know about the surprise attack on Yom Kippur, even though the NSA did: these all became burning questions that needed to be answered.

They will be.

Bruce Brill is an independent journalist and former U.S. National Security Agency (NSA) Middle East analyst. He is author of the book Deceit of An Ally: NSA’s Secret Jew Room & 1973 Yom Kippur Treachery Bruce Brill may be contacted at bruce.brill@ gmail.com.

The National Security Agency (NSA) headquarters, located in Fort Meade, Maryland, as it appeared in the 1980s.

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Unity Through Mutual Responsibility

Parashat Nitzavim

Parshat Nitzavim we encounter the concept of mutual responsibility, which holds profound psychological significance pertaining to collective wellbeing. Moshe gathers the entire nation for his final address to renew our covenant with Hashem. Mutual responsibility teaches us that we are connected. Regardless of background, status, or personal journey, every individual is united in this pivotal moment, forming a collective covenant.

The first Passuk of the Parsha starts by stating: “Attem nitzavim hayyom kullechem lifnei Hashem - You stand this day, all of you, before Hashem” (Deuteronomy 29:9). The Ohr HaChaim expounds that Moshe gathered every member of the nation from the elderly to the young, to stress that under the renewed covenant every Jew is obligated to help others observe the Torah and create a meaningful life. It is here that the concept of Arevut, often translated as mutual responsibility or collective accountability, is introduced.

The Gemarah in Rosh Hashanah 29a states “kol Yisrael areivim zeh la’zeh,All Israel is responsible for one another.” From a psychological perspective, Arevut reminds us that we are not isolated individuals, but rather part of a larger community. Just as Bnei Yisrael stood together, we too stand united in the web of human connection. It suggests that individuals are not only responsible for their own behavior but also for the well-being of their fellow community members. The Gemarah Shevuot 39a teaches that the entire Jewish people are considered guarantors for one another to ensure that others don’t come to sin.

Furthermore, the idea of Arevut underscores the importance of empathy. Understanding and sharing in the experiences of others fosters emotional connection and promotes a sense of belonging. This aligns with psychological studies demonstrating that empathy contributes to healthier relationships and increased emotional connections. As mentioned in Pirkei Avot 1:14 “Im ein ani li, mi li. Ucheshe’ani le’atzmi, mah ani. - If I am not for myself, who is for me? But if I am for my own self only, what am I?” Rabeynu Yonah writes on this Mishna that we are unable to reach our full potential when we are only looking out for ourselves. A single thread is like a fragile strand, easily breakable with a little force. However, when

woven together with many other threads, it forms a robust and unyielding fabric. Bnei Yisrael, like string, can be easily broken alone but powerful when interconnected. We must be accountable to one another because our lives are connected in ways we cannot always see through divine providence.

Here are three concise tips to increase the feeling of mutual responsibility within our community:

Shared Goals: Establish clear, common objectives that everyone agrees upon and works towards together for a bigger purpose.

Collaborative Recognition: Acknowledge and celebrate the joint efforts and achievements of the group, reinforcing the sense of shared responsibility. Celebrate each other’s successes.

Empathic Awareness: Empathize with each other’s viewpoints, challenges, & perspectives by placing yourself into each other’s shoes. Take time out of your day to check on those who may be struggling.

Parshat Nitzavim’s lesson on mutual responsibility aligns with psychological principles promoting connectedness, empathy, and a sense of purpose. The synergy between Parshat Nitzavim and the principle of Arevut teaches us that our collective strength lies in our unity. As we enter the High Holy Days, a period of reflection and renewal, let us remember that just as our ancestors stood together before Hashem, so too do the ties of Arevut bind us. May we approach this season of introspection with open hearts and minds that bring blessings and renewal to ourselves, our community, and the world at large.

Smart Saving Strategies: Maximize Discounts and Cut Costs This Year

With the rising cost of education, food, and just about everything else, saving money wherever possible is more important than ever. As we approach a new school year, it’s a good time to reassess your finances and take advantage of savings opportunities you might be missing. A little extra effort can lead to tens, if not hundreds, of dollars in savings, and these small amounts add up quickly. Some of the following tips may seem obvious, but many people overlook them. Even learning just one new way to save is a step toward better financial health. Here are some smart tips to help you save more and shop smarter this year.

Tech Savings for Students and Teachers

If you need a new computer, tablet, or other tech devices for school or work, take advantage of the discounts offered by major retailers.

B&H Photo, a popular store founded by the Jewish community in New York City, offers deals on everything from cameras and audio gear to Apple products. For deeper savings, wait for Black Friday and consider signing up for their credit card, which comes with no annual fee and reimburses you for sales tax. Just remember to enable Auto-Pay to avoid interest charges.

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Even Costco is a great option for tech purchases, frequently offering discounts on Apple products and including AppleCare+ for free, which covers damage and theft.

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If you’re a student, Amazon Prime offers a special plan called Prime for Young Adults. This plan includes perks like free Grubhub delivery, discounts on flights and hotels, and access to the Calm app, which is perfect for managing stress. Plus, Amazon frequently offers additional deals exclusively for Prime members.

If you’re a frequent Amazon shopper, consider getting the Amazon Prime Rewards Visa, which gives you 5% back on Amazon purchases and 2% back on dining and gas, helping you save on school-related costs.

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Make sure you’re maximizing the benefits of your credit cards. Many offer points or cashback on everyday purchases, which can quickly add up over time. Premium cards like Amazon’s offer up to 5% back in key spending categories. Just be cautious not to open too many cards— only spend what you can afford, and always set up Auto-Pay to avoid interest. If you wouldn’t buy something with cash, don’t put it on your card.

eBay: A Great Option for Books

While eBay was once considered a risky place to shop, that’s no longer the case. The platform now offers buyer protection and often includes free shipping and returns. It’s a great resource for buying used textbooks and other school materials at a fraction of the cost. You can often save 20-50% on books by opting for used versions, saving you hundreds over the course of a year.

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Many services you already use for school or work come with hidden discounts.

Adobe offers more than 66% off its Creative Cloud suite, which includes popular programs like Photoshop and Acrobat Pro.

Teachers K-12 can get Canva Premium for free, which is a fantastic tool for creating designs, flyers, and invitations.

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Need new glasses for school? Zenni Optical offers prescription eyewear starting at just $9.95, far less than what most opticians charge. They also carry premium frames from brands like Adidas and Marc Jacobs. Use Zenni’s Virtual Try-On feature to see how the glasses will look on you before purchasing. Students and teachers can take advantage of an additional 15% off at zenni.com.

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You can save money on entertainment too! AAA isn’t just for car services—members get significant discounts on theme parks, aquariums, sports games, movies, travel, and more. Simply log in, add items to your cart, and enter your member number for discounts. For event tickets, search “AAA Tickets” or visit discounts. aaa.com.

Always Check for Discounts

There are countless other discounts out there for students, teachers, and the general public. Before making any purchases, spend a few minutes checking for available discounts or promo codes. Try using tools like the “Honey by PayPal” extension, which automatically applies available coupon codes at checkout.

Saving money is like making money, so don’t be shy about asking for discounts or searching for better deals. Maximize your savings this year with these tips, and keep your budget in check as you focus on success. Because every dollar counts. Hatzlacha Raba!

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LA Unites Voter Center

On Thursday, September 19, over 100 residents of Los Angeles gathered for the highly anticipated opening of the ‘Los Angeles Unites Voter Center.’ Located in the heart of the Jewish community in Beverly Hills, this new center is poised to become a central hub for voter engagement as the upcoming November General Election approaches. The event was marked by enthusiasm and a shared sense of civic responsibility as community members came together to support this important initiative.

The ‘LA Unites Voter Center’ is part of a broader effort spearheaded by Teach CA, an organization dedicated to mobilizing Jewish voters and ensuring that their voices are heard in key local, state, and national elections. The center will provide a range of essential services, including voter-registration support for first-time voters, assistance with absentee-ballot applications for those unable to visit polling stations in person, and information about local polling places. Additionally, the center aims to serve as a hub for volunteer and community engagement, encouraging residents to get involved in the political process.

Beyond these services, LA Unites will also feature a mobile voter center, an innovative part of the initiative that will travel to various neighborhoods, making it easier for residents throughout Los Angeles to register to vote or receive assistance. This mobile unit will visit community centers, synagogues, and other local landmarks, extending the reach of the voter center to ensure that as many people as possible can participate in the democratic process.

The opening of the ‘Los Angeles Unites Voter Center’ signifies a concerted effort to empower the Jewish community and other local residents by providing accessible, non-partisan resources and fostering civic engagement. With the November election quickly approaching, organizers hope the center will play a pivotal role in increasing voter turnout and ensuring that every voice is heard.

Emek’s Technology Policy 2.0

Emek is proud to introduce its new, enhanced technology policy, aimed at prioritizing the safety and mental well-be ing of our students. We believe that enforce ment of this policy is essential to their overall health and development. In response to growing concerns about unsupervised inter net access and the impact of technology, this policy underscores our commitment to foster ing a positive and supportive school environ ment. Emek’s updated policy for students in Pre-1st through 8th grade prohibits the use of smartphones entirely, including at home, and bans all social media apps on any device. No devices, including smartwatches, are permit ted on school grounds, and parents are re sponsible for supervising all technology ac cess. Parents are expected to monitor devices, including tablets and gaming sys tems, install appropriate filters, oversee pri vate group texts and chats, and ensure that the family phone is a kosher phone. We urge parents to support and adhere to this policy because together, we can create a safer, healthier environment for our children. It takes a community effort to counteract negative societal pressures and prioritize the mental health of our youth.

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The mayor announced that he would grant one man any wish he desired. Many showed up. The mayor directed his staff to look for the one with the worst looking clunker in the parking lot. It didn’t take long.

A 1975 Nissan Datsun: dented, banged up, its blue paint was so faded it approximated white. The window seals were all but gone. If it ever had a radio - nobody knows.

Mr. Kalman, its owner, was invited to make his plea. “Mr. Mayor” he cleared his throat “A police officer gave me a fix it ticket for a cracked taillight.” The audience started giggling. “I tried to find a new taillight cover it in junk yards since they don’t make it anymore.” Giggles turned to laughs. “Mr. Mayor, perhaps you can

help me find….. The red tape they sell to patch the cracks?” The roof came down. It’s Moses’ last day in ךליו. What does he wish for? What do you wish for during this opportune time? Shalom Bayit.

Rabbi Nir and his wife Atrian give regular classes on Shalom Bayit. His popular 3 minute podcast is funny and draws Shalom Bayit ideas from the Torah portion of the week. To register: thegameofmarriage@gmail.com