August 10th 2023 Edition

Dear Readers,

Somehow I’m left with some strong postTisha B’Av thoughts. Those magic delayedrelease caffeine pills put me on a high where I had some deep thoughts. As a grandchild of Holocaust survivors, I usually spend my previous Tisha B’Av thinking of the most recent attempt at the annihilation of the Jewish people and also the one that feels closest and most personal to me. I can feel that pain.

This year I decided to focus on the destruction of both Beit Hamikdash. I sat and learned and read historical accounts of Nevuchadnezzar and Titus destroying our temples, and of the thousands upon thousands of Jews who were murdered during this time and those who gave up their lives willingly, often killing each other and themselves, upon Har Habayis, so that they couldn’t be taken captive by the Romans. They wanted to die Al Kiddush Hashem, instead of living as slaves or being defiled by their captors.

A very long day without any naps (thank you caffeine pills!) got me thinking about our third Beit Hamikdash and the coming of Moshiach. In this week’s parsha of Re’eh, Hashem commands us to build a Temple, the Beit Hamikdash, where we will bring Karbonos, have

Kohanim do the avodah (services), and be able to feel the closeness of Hashem in our presence.

Many believe that we will only be able to build the 3rd Beit Hamikdash when Moshiach arrives. We are commanded to want Moshiach and wish for it every day. Ani Maamin b’emunah shleima b’vias hamoshiach. But usually we yearn for Moshiach when things are going badly - when we want to be saved from the current galus, mixed up political scenes, terrorism in Israel, and rampant disease and sickness among our close friends and family. People tend to daven for moshiach when they’re suffering and wishing for salvation.

How often do we daven for Moshiach when things are going amazing? When we have healthy children, solid parnasa, and good fortune? When we break the glass at a wedding, is anyone truly focusing on the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash or are we anticipating dancing with the chosson and kallah?

I only speak for myself. But I wish I could yearn for moshiach at my greatest times of joy, and fulfill the mitzvah of yearning for moshiach daily.

Ariela

Shabbos Zemanim

Friday, August 11

Parshas Re’eh

Candlelighting: 7:26 pm

Havdallah: 8:29 pm

Rabbeinu Tam: 8:56 pm

Friday, August 18

Parshas Shoftim

Candlelighting: 7:18 pm

Havdallah: 8:21 pm

Rabbeinu Tam: 8:48 pm

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Meant To Be

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Reaching Out to Others

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Starting Something New

Miriam Hendeles’s recent article “Never too Late” published in the Jewish Home

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Finding Your Truth

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Put Safety First This High Holiday Season with the Orthodox Union’s Reflective Belts

The high holiday season means that hundreds of people will be walking home from shul at night several times a week. Many congregants will be dressed in dark clothing, making them nearly invisible to drivers, and posing great risk of serious injury. The best way to address this danger? A reflective belt.

In 2019, the Orthodox Union’s Department of Community Projects & Partnerships launched a safety initiative to provide reflective belts free of charge to all shuls in the OU’s synagogue network. The department’s mission is to enhance Jewish communal life through strengthening community leaders, organizations and infrastructure; confronting ongoing communal challenges; and responding to crises and natural disasters. Four years later, over 40,000 belts have been distributed to close to 400 shuls throughout North America.

The program is sponsored by Drs. Evelyn and Larry Kraut of Fair Lawn, New Jersey, as an expression of hakarat hatov to Hakadosh Baruch Hu for Larry’s recovery from a serious motor vehicle accident as a pedestrian. While walking home from shul on a Friday night in 2018, despite having the right of way, he was hit by an SUV. His injuries were severe and he required spinal surgery.

“The concern for safety when walking home at night has led us to this pragmatic solution,” said Larry. “We pray that no one should, G-d forbid, go through such a terrible experience. Toward that end, wearing reflective gear—like these reusable belts—will significantly reduce and hopefully prevent such occurrences. Evelyn and I are thankful and consider it a great zechut to sponsor this important safety program.”

Rebbetzin Judi Steinig, senior director of the OU’s Department of Community Projects & Partnerships, noted, “The OU is privileged to be part of such an important safety drive. We appreciate the generosity of the Krauts in enabling the OU to provide the belts to synagogues for their congregants to use year-round. We urge everyone to wear them when walking at night –definitely during the high holidays, but especially when it’s dark earliest, during the winter months.”

To join this life-saving initiative, order reflective belts for your shul free of charge at ou.org/community/ou-shul-reflectorbelts/.

Emek’s General Studies Learning Lab

At the helm of the Learning Lab, Mrs. Gersten, a strong and effective leader, has played a pivotal role in the program’s success, ensuring its seamless implementation and fostering a culture of hard work and excellence amongst struggling students. In her role as Literacy Intervention Specialist, she firmly believes that struggling students need to feel capable and confident in their abilities to succeed.

A TIME FOR DANCE Performing Arts Camp Presented an Aladdin Showcase

The Learning Lab is a magical place where every child who crosses its threshold feels successful and valued. It is a place where children go for an hour of power every day, where all children with varying abilities can feel successful and empowered. Built upon the principles of the Science of Reading, the Learning Lab has proven to be an extraordinary success at Emek Hebrew Academy, yielding significant positive outcomes.

“I strive to boost their self-esteem by providing personalized small group instruction that addresses their unique needs.” By utilizing a joyful and positive approach, Mrs. Gersten creates an engaging learning environment where all students can thrive. “I am dedicated to bringing them up to grade level by implementing evidence-based practices rooted in the Science of Reading.” Emek takes great pride in incorporating the Learning Lab into its curriculum and eagerly anticipates the long-term achievements it will bring.

The show consisted of scenes from the musical Aladdin, as well as gymnastics, musical theater, hip hop, and lyrical dance routines. The show was a culmination of weeks of skill-building classes in acting and all dance styles.

Parents gathered in the small theater on Wednesday to watch their children perform. The girls exuded excitement and joy, and the nachas among the mothers and grandmothers was palpable.

The next day, the campers took their performance to Shoshanim. Founded in memory of Etta Shoshana bas Shaul Aryeh, Shoshanim is a community organization providing social clubs and recreational activities for women ages 55+. Based in the La Brea area, women come together to laugh, play, learn, and enjoy each other’s company while having fun. Once a week, the ladies get a chance to dance with one of A Time for Dance instructors!

The campers drew beautiful pictures and presented them to each of the ladies.

Shoshanim had a fantastic time witnessing the extraordinary performance by the girls from A Time for Dance Camp.

“Their talents, skills, and radiant smiles left us truly amazed!” said director Frayde Yudkowsky LSW, LMSW, CTP. “The choreography, singing, and acting were nothing short of exceptional, displaying the girls’ dedication and investment in their craft. The entire per-

formance was a masterpiece, leaving the audience in awe. We extend our heartfelt gratitude to the incomparable Mrs. Sheila Meyer, her exceptional staff, and the talented campers for gracing Shoshanim with such a spectacular show. It was an unforgettable treat that brought joy and inspiration to all in attendance. We are truly fortunate to have experienced such a delightful showcase of young talent, and we eagerly look forward to any future opportunities to witness the magic of A Time for Dance Camp once again.”

We ended the event by playing a fun game together. It was beautiful to watch the interaction between the girls and ladies and a special afternoon that the girls will remember forever.

Jewish Parents & Schools Fight in Court to Protect Children with Disabilities

services. IDEA is designed to ensure all children can receive a free and appropriate education, including in private schools when public schools cannot meet their needs. However, California politicians exclude religious schools, and the religious families they want to serve, from even applying to participate in the program.

Immediately following the rally, supporters made their way to the hearing, where they filled the courtroom.

Over 100 Jewish parents and children gathered together last month to rally for equal opportunity for Jewish children with disabilities.

The rally took place ahead of a hearing to fight a California law that excludes religious schools from receiving special education funding to serve children with disabilities.

The case, Loffman v. California Department of Education, centers around Chaya and Yoni Loffman, Fedora Nick and Morris Taxon, and Sarah and Ariel Perets - Orthodox Jewish parents who believe that their children with disabilities should be able to go to schools that provide an education that will provide their children the tools to flourish while also being in a Jewish environment - specifically, at Shalhevet High School and Yavneh Hebrew Academy, respectively.

California politicians, however, have made this impossible by blocking federal and state special education funding from being used at private religious schools. The Becket Fund for Religious

Liberty, in partnership with Teach Coalition, a project of the Orthodox Union that advocates for government resources and funding for Jewish day schools, is supporting these parents and schools in their fight to stop California from denying education benefits to Jewish children with disabilities.

Addressing the crowd which included families, children with disabilities, and other parents in similar situations, Maury Litwack, Founder of Teach Coalition said, “All children with disabilities, regardless of their religious beliefs, should have the same opportunity to receive a quality education that meets their unique needs - and a parent should never have to compromise on how or where their child is educated.”

The Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) is a federal law ensuring that all children with disabilities can receive an education that meets their unique needs. IDEA funds help pay for the cost of staff training, special education programs, assistive technology, and other

“We want to educate our son in a safe, supportive learning environment that meets his unique needs and upholds our shared religious beliefs,” said plaintiffs Chaya and Yoni Loffman. “Unfortunately, California is forcing our family to choose between raising our son in our faith tradition and providing him the help he needs to reach his full potential.”

“California’s campaign against Jewish children with disabilities and the schools they want to attend is shameful and unconstitutional,” said Laura Wolk Slavis, counsel at Becket. “We argued in court today that the government cannot exclude religious people and schools from a public benefit simply because they are religious.”

A decision from the federal district court is expected in the coming months.

Photo credit: Becket

Saks’ Evening Art Camp for Junior High Girls

Summer is AMAZING!!

But summer nights can be challenging for frum teens. Those relaxed late nights mean so Much. Extra. Time.

In a world where the go-to is sadly an electronic device, Mrs. Saks and Creative Exploring provide a much-needed alternative. A kosher creative environment with equal amounts of structured guidance and an opportunity for independent exploration as well.

All you need to do is SHOW UP.

Based at the art room at Yeshiva Ohr Eliyahu, Mrs. Saks’ Evening Art Camp ran three times a week, for twohour sessions. The campers ranged in age from 6th graders to 9th graders, from a variety of schools around LA and the Valley.

The art projects ranged from phil-

osophical-self-expression-investigation to new-materials -challenge-yourself-andgrow to easy-and-fun-pleasure-in-themaking kind of projects.

Each new project was presented at the beginning of the evening, with guidelines to move forward, suggestions on how to ensure success, discussion, and examples. The remainder of the time was handed over to the campers, with additional comments & guidance as requested. Music, snacks, conversation, the evening creative journey began, with each camper flexing their visual art muscles, and importantly, appreciating the creative journey for what it is. A journey. With ups & downs, rights & lefts. Getting lost and discovering new delights. All in all, a summer night well spent!

Tyler Hero and Big Baby Davis visit Yavneh’s Camp Extreme!

7th Annual Community-Wide Ladies

Yom Iyun Community Event: Bein HaMitzarim and Tisha B’Av

Campers at Camp Extreme could not contain their excitement when Tyler Hero and Glen “Big Baby” Davis walked into their gym. The cheers and screams could be heard all over the campus! Tyler Hero, a young budding superstar and fan favorite with the Miami Heat, spoke to the campers about “hard work” and being a good “team” player. Campers got to ask questions, take pictures, and have Tyler sign basketball cards, jerseys, and basketballs.

Glen “Big Baby” Davis, an NBA champion with the Boston Celtics, spoke

to the campers about listening to their coaches, displaying proper sportsmanship, and exercising daily. A towering figure at 6”9 and almost 300 pounds, Big Baby was friendly and playful with the campers. On the way out, he stopped by the kitchen and participated in the Challah baking process for Shabbos.

Both Tyler Hero and “Big Baby” were so impressed with the Derech Eretz of our campers and the Kiddush Hashem they made. Thank you Tyer and “Big Baby” for coming to Camp Extreme!!!

On Monday, July 24, 2023, over 100 women gathered together for a special Yom Iyun to prepare for Tisha B’Av. Organized by Neshei LA and co-hosted by The Light House, women of all ages and stages enjoyed four unique speakers.

Mrs. Shari Freeman, kallah teacher and mentor, spoke b’simcha on “How to Achieve True Simcha.” Next, psychologist Rabbi Dr. Baruch Amiri gave a novel lecture entitled, “If Bar-Kamtza Had a Psychologist,” which taught foundational principles of a modern form of psychological treatment called DBT. Rabbi Dr. Amiri noted that much of the chochma of modern psychology is actually already found in the Torah itself. The audience joined in a worksheet and practiced as a psychologist would in treating Bar-Kamtza prior to the well-known events that led to the destruction of the Beis HaMikdash.

Following a delicious dairy and pareve lunch, Rabbi Dov Brezak spoke about how to, “Come Alive with Emunah,” sharing powerful stories of Emunah, and reminding us that we must thank Hashem, even for our troubles. Rabbi Brezak, noted author, lecturer, consultant, and educator, explained to the audience that the Beis HaMikdash is still alive, and we mourn it as Yaakov Avinu mourned Yosef HaTzaddik, who was alive, though out of his life for many years. Finally, Rabbi Dovid Horowitz, Rav of Makor HaChaim in Tarzana and rebbe in BYLA, closed the day’s inspiration with a shiur entitled, “Building Ourselves with Simcha to Rebuild the Beis HaMikdash,” emphasizing the importance of being sameach b’chelko in our daily lives.

“It was really beautiful to have a space set in the calendar for women to learn and be inspired and bring it back into our homes. Loved it!” shared Rena Mavashev.

children struggling with kriah problems, there’s a language barrier, so to speak, that greatly hinders their growth. As a tutor or krieh specialist, you grapple for the right direction and resources to help them.

Torah Thought

Parshas Re’eh

Rabbi Adir Posy

Throughout the Torah we see our relationship with Hashem described in various different ways. Two of the most common are the fact that we see ourselves as servants “Avadim.” Indeed we call ourselves Avdei Hashem. At the same time, we are described in this week’s Parsha as children of Hashem as the Pasuk tells us – םכיקולא הל םתא םינב. These two relationships have two very different characteristics. The relationship of servitude is one where we have rules to follow and detailed tasks to perform, whereas the notion of a parent-child relationship conjures up images of unbridled kindness and boundless love.

Throughout our religious lives, we are exposed to both sides of this relationship. Anyone who has ever cleaned for Pesach or checked the tippy top of a Lulav knows how there are Avadim (service) aspects to our Judaism – and that is a good thing, since it grounds us and gives us a mission and G-dly purpose. Yet we all feel, at the same time and through those same life events, the affection of Avinu Shebashamayim - Hashem, our Father.

It is, however, curious to note that as soon as the Pasuk describes this dichotomy and expresses that we are the Children of Hashem, a somewhat unusual Mitzvah follows. We are told, Lo Tisgodedu – a command that Chazal interprets to mean that we are forbidden to separate ourselves into different cliques, each one shunning the other’s manner of serving G-d. How are these two values connected?

Upon further reflection, it would appear that there is a simple yet profound thread that pulls all of these ideas together. When we are told this in the Parsha – םכיקולא ’הל םתא םינב –there is a subtle message beneath the surface. If we are all children of G-d, then we are all related to each other.

It is, therefore, a natural lead into the commandment to be unified as a people, because we have one common root that binds all of the limbs of this proverbial tree that connects us to one another and to Hashem.

From a superficial standpoint, this interpretation goes against some of our most basic instincts. It is so natural to bifurcate one’s life - to separate out all of the rules and regulations – the things that make us servants of G-d from the things that make us הל םינב’ –the easy going relationship that we have as ה’s children. And all too often, this bifurcation, this split of the practical religion away from the spiritual religion, ends up leaving us taking meaning out of our actions and not acting on the things that are meaningful.

Parshas Re’eh offers us the model to solve this paradox – the commandment to be unified. For it is a simple truth that if we focus on what makes us the same, instead of what makes us different, we can have the opportunity to learn from each other and maybe even see a broader perspective.

Put differently, connection to community has not only social value, but it can also enhance our religious experience. It allows us to give to each other and more importantly learn from one another.

So yes, we are servants of Hashem, and that service implies a nuanced and detail-oriented religious life. And yes, we are children of Hashem and we bask in the love and kindness that is part of that parental relationship. And indeed, sometimes our practical lives push us into factions of different minhagim, different opinions, and different perspectives. How do we reconcile those two extremes? We connect with and support one another and we build a sense of unity that is greater than anything that can divide us, for that is what it truly means to be Hashem’s children. As we rise from the ashes of the three weeks, let us resolve to build upon that unity and reach our potential as דחא שיא דחא בלב

Shalom Bayit Through the Parsha

Rabbi Nir Yacoby

Pleasure of Nonsense

God forewarns us in םיטפוש: “Don’t pass your children through fire.”

Two questions come to mind. First, who in his right mind would tolerate having his kids maimed or killed? Second, since this was a religious practice, one that supposedly elevates the spirit –who in his right mind would derive pleasure from such practice?

My uncle immigrated from Shiraz to Tel Aviv when he was in his 30’s. I asked him now, - ¼ 60 years later, “What was your first reaction?”

“I felt I was in a house of prostitution,” he answered. “Why did you stay?” I further inquired. “I got used to it,” he offered. Nowadays he actually loves Tel Aviv.

It is, unfortunately, possible to get numb to behavior that is detrimental to Shalom Bayit, or worse, ascribe pleasure to that behavior. How does it all start? With veering “to the left or to the right” off the path of Torah.

Stick to the path of Torah for your Shalom Bayit.

Rabbi Adir Posy is the Associate Rabbi at Beth Jacob Congregation in Beverly Hills, the Director of the OU West Coast, and the National Director of the OU Department of Synagogue Initiatives. Rabbi Posy works across the gamut of the Beth Jacob membership while directing OU programming in Los Angeles and serving as a consultant for Shuls across North America. He lives in Pico-Robertson with his wife Dr. Hindi Posy and their 9 sons.

Rabbi Nir and his wife Atrian give regular classes on Shalom Bayit. His popular 3-minute podcast is funny and draws Shalom Bayit ideas from the Torah portion of the week. To register: ShalomInComics@gmail.com

In Parshat Shoftim we learn about the establishment of a just society, through the appointment of judges and officers. While the Torah discusses the importance of impartial judgment in legal matters, it also subtly emphasizes the value of judging ourselves and others favorably on a psychological and interpersonal level. It is fitting that my Bar Mitzvah Parasha, which always falls around my birthday of Rosh Chodesh Elul, deals with judgment. No wonder I became a therapist.

The passuk says “Tzedek, tzedek tirdof” (Deuteronomy 16:20) “Justice, justice you shall pursue.” This encourages us to seek true justice. Ibn Ezra writes on this passuk that the word ’Tzedek – Justice’ is repeated to emphasize justice should be pursued whether one would gain or lose from it. This double language can further include not only judging others fairly but also ourselves. Meaning, that we should make every effort possible to judge favorably even if it pains us. Psychological research shows that favorable judgment leads to positive outcomes in the long run. When we cultivate self-compassion, it enhances our overall well-being and when we give others the benefit of the doubt, we strengthen relationships and create a supportive environment. As summarized by author Wayne Dyer, “Judging others doesn’t define who they are; it defines who you are. Choose to see the good in yourself and others.”

Rav Israel Salanter, the Jewish ethicist, highlighted the significance of this concept in his teachings. He stressed the importance of judging others favorably, even when their actions might appear negative, for we don’t truly know what is happening in the hearts and minds of others. The Bal Shem Tov elaborates on the passuk in Tehilim that states “Hashem is your shadow” (Psalm 121:5), that just as our shadows move with us, our relationship with Hashem follows our movements in life. How we view others mirrors how Hashem views us. This understanding fits perfectly with the Gemarah in Shabbat 127b that “One who judges another favorably is himself judged favorably by Hashem.”

The same principle applies when we evaluate ourselves. Often, we are our harshest critics, holding ourselves to unattainable standards and dwelling on our mistakes. We often judge others based on their actions and ourselves based on our intentions. One might notice an attentive parent at the park and exclaim what a great parent they must be, and while putting their own children to bed, they judge themselves harshly for feeling tired through the process. Comparing what others do to what you feel is not a fair judgment. Irvin Yalom, an existential psychiatrist well-known for perfecting group therapy, writes “In therapy, we learn to replace judgment with curiosity, for both ourselves and others. It is a path towards self-acceptance and deeper connections.”

Based on the commentaries and clinical research there are three suggestions for judging favorably:

1. Cultivate empathy: Try to put yourself in the shoes of others to understand their perspective and motivations better. This can help you judge more compassionately.

Pirkei Avot, Ethics of the Father 2:4, writes “Do not judge your fellow man until you have reached his place.” On this, the Bartenura writes, if you see someone fail, do not judge him unfavorably until you have time and time again succeeded in the same place.

2. Avoid assumptions: Don’t jump to conclusions about someone’s actions or intentions. Give them the benefit of the doubt until you have enough information.

Pirkei Avot, Ethics of the Father 1:6, writes “v’hevei dan et kol ha’adam l’chaf zechut” - “judge every person as meritorious.” Masterfully understanding human psychology, the Sforno writes without the ability to give others the benefit of the doubt, how could a friendship ever endure?

3. Focus on strengths: When evaluating yourself and others, focus on positive qualities and accomplishments rather than dwelling on shortcomings. This can lead to a more favorable and constructive perspective.

Rav Yitzchak Berkovits explains

that the idea of judging favorably does not mean that we should irrationally judge every act as positive. Rather it is telling us to be logical, reasonable, and fair, taking into consideration the strengths of the individual as well. Be just in our judgment by considering the full picture.

Parshat Shoftim teaches us that the pursuit of justice extends beyond the legal realm; it calls us to approach each other and ourselves with compassion and understanding. May we strive to apply these lessons from the Torah by cultivating empathy, avoiding assumptions, and focusing on the positives. As we enter the month of Elul, with a focus on reflection and repentance, hopefully we will be able to internalize these messages and gain favorable judgment from Hashem. By adopting these lessons, we

contribute to a more compassionate and connected community, creating a world where justice and kindness can coexist harmoniously.

Elan Javanfard, M.A., L.M.F.T. is a Consulting Psychotherapist focused on behavioral health redesign, a Professor of Psychology at Pepperdine University, & a lecturer related to Mindfulness, Evidence Based Practices, and Suicide Prevention. Elan is the author of Psycho-Spiritual Insights: Exploring Parasha & Psychology, a weekly blog. He lives in the Los Angeles Pico Robertson community with his wife and two children and can be reached at Elan.Javanfard@gmail.com.

Elan Javanfard

Arenaphiles

People who collect sand as a OrganismsPsammophileshobby that thrive in sandy environments. what is sand?

Sand forms when rocks break down from weathering and eroding over thousands and even millions of years. Rocks take time to decompose, especially quartz (silica) and feldspar.

Sand is also composed of fragments of shelled creatures and coral that have been deposited on the coast by the waves.

Often starting thousands of miles from the ocean, rocks slowly travel down rivers and streams, constantly breaking down along the way. Once they make it to the ocean, they further erode from the constant action of waves and tides.

The tan color of most sand beaches is the result of iron oxide, which tints quartz a light brown, and feldspar, which is brown to tan in its original form.

An individual sand particle is referred to as a sand grain. In geology, a sand grain’s dimensions fall in the range of 0.0625 – 2 millimeters. In terms of sheer size, sand grains lie somewhere between silt and gravel.

Did You Know?

A colossal sculpture that recently broke the Guinness World Record for the tallest sandcastle ever built. Crafted from 6400 tons of sand, spanning 32 meters wide and rising to a height of 21.16 meters, 69 feet & 5 inches, the castle was constructed by Dutch artist Wilfred Stijer and his 30-strong team of sculptors. It was built in July 2021 in the Danish seaside village of Blokhus, in North Jutland.

The first person to email in 3 examples of a psammophile will get a free ice cream from Valley Swirl.

Why does sand build the best castles?

Damp sand sticks together because water forms little grain-to-grain bridges. Surface tension acts like rubber bands between the grains. Adding water to damp sand fills spaces between the grains. The bridges vanish and the sand begins to flow more easily.

That’s why adding water to sand helps to form and shape it into a castle. Now, while an 8:1 ratio of sand to water might be the best for sculpting, it turns out that wet sand is still stable and acts solid over a wide range of water contents.

Rebbe’s Stories

Rebbe, Please Drink the Water!

Rabbi Mordechai Dubin

The great Tanna Rabbi Akiva lived at a time when the Roman Emperor made a decree that it was forbidden for a Jewish person to learn and teach Torah. Rabbi Akiva, however, did not let this warning stop him.

“A Jew cannot live without Torah and Mitzvos” he proclaimed to all his stu-

Eventually, his hideout was discovered and Rabbi Akiva was captured by the Romans and thrown into jail. Fortunately, his student Rabbi Yehoshua Hagarsee was permitted to bring him bread to eat and water to drink and for washing Netilas Yiday-

One day there was a new guard stationed outside the jail. He stopped Rabbi Yehoshua Hagarsee to examine what he brought. “Why are you bringing so much water?” he questioned accusingly, “This is more water than the prisoner needs to drink!’ Rabbi Yehoshua explained to him that his rebbe needed water to wash his hands as

“I don’t believe you” said the guard, “I’m sure that the additional water is being used to soften the ground so that the prisoner could try to escape”! With that, the guard spilled out half the water onto the ground. When Rabbi Akiva saw that there was so little water that day, he asked surprisingly, “You know that I am very weak and I rely on you to bring me what I need every day! Why did you bring so little water today?”

Rabbi Yehoshua Hagarsee explained to his rebbe how the new guard spilled out half the water. Rabbi Akiva asked Rabbi Yehoshua to please pass over the remaining water so that he could wash Netilas Yidayim before eating his bread. “But rebbe, you will not have enough water to drink if you wash your hands! Please drink the water, you need it for your health!”

Talmid. He made a bracha on the wa ter and drank, but refused to eat the bread. “Why aren’t you eating the bread? Rebbe, your body is so weak,

washing Netilas Yadayim?” answered Rabbi Akiva. “Our Chachamin taught us that we must wash Netilas Yidayim before we eat bread.” Although Rab bi Akiva was very weak, he refused to eat the bread until additional wa ter was brought for him to wash his hands. When the Jewish people heard about this story, they were amazed at

how careful Rabbi Akiva was about doing Mitzvos. Rabbi Akiva was old, he was weak, and he was in jail, and yet he was still so careful to follow everything that the Torah and the Chachamim said we need to do. Most of us are young, healthy, and free to do Mitzvos. We should all learn a lesson from Rabbi Akiva and do all our Mitzvos in the best way possible.

(This story is taken from Meseches Eruvin 21b).

Questions for Discussion

1. Do you think that Rabbi Akiva was afraid that he would get caught learning and teaching Torah?

2. If he was afraid, why did he keep learning and teaching Torah?

3. Why did Rabbi Akiva’s student want him to use the little water for drinking and not for washing his hands?

4. Could you give 3 reasons why Rabbi Akiva might have been permitted to eat the bread without washing his hands?

5. What lesson could we learn from this story?

Rabbi Mordechai Dubin is a Rebbe at Gindi Maimonides Academy. He is the author of three illustrated children’s books, I’ll Never Forget Yerushalayim, I Believe, and I Know 6; and has produced four Musical CD’s for children, I Made This World For you, Let My People Go, Al Shelosha Devarim, and Hashem is Always With Me.

Daniel Agalar

In the picturesque town of Gateshead, a revered Rebbe and his devoted talmid embarked on a leisurely walk. The path they traversed was adorned with countless trees, their branches adorned with a vibrant display of autumn leaves. As they strolled along, a solitary leaf gracefully descended from its arboreal perch, catching the Rebbe’s discerning eye. Stooping down, he picked up the delicate leaf and turned to his eager talmid, ready to impart a profound lesson.

With the leaf held gently in his hand, the Rebbe began to explain its transient nature. “You see, my dear talmid,” he began, “this leaf is unaware that its time on this tree is limited. In just a matter of days, it will wither and fade away, detached from its life-sustaining source. The tree is like the Torah, providing nourishment and sustenance to those who are connected to it.”

He continued, quoting the powerful verse from Proverbs: “Eitz chaim hi l’machazikim bah—the Torah is a tree of life for those who hold onto it.” The Rebbe wanted his talmid to understand that just as the leaf depends on the tree for its existence, human beings rely on the Torah for spiritual nourishment and sustenance.

The Rebbe went on to share an important insight that resonated deeply with

Connected To The Source

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his talmid. He cautioned, “In your journey through life, my dear talmid, you will encounter individuals who may boast about their freedom to live without adhering to the Torah’s principles. They fail to realize that their choices will have consequences for future generations. Without a connection to the Torah, they, their children, and their grandchildren will drift further away from their spiritual roots.”

Moved by the profoundness of the Rebbe’s message, the talmid cherished and internalized the lesson imparted to him that day. Little did he know that this seemingly simple encounter with a falling leaf would shape his perspective for years to come. That young talmid, whose heart was touched by the Rebbe’s wisdom, would grow up to become the renowned Harav Matisyahu Solomon, a beacon of Torah wisdom and inspiration for countless individuals.

Reflecting on his Rebbe’s teachings, Rav Matisyahu Solomon, often recalls the leaf incident as a guiding principle in his life. The Rebbe’s words served as a constant reminder of the importance of embracing the Torah, not just as an intellectual pursuit, but as a deep and meaningful connection to one’s spiritual essence. He realized that by nurturing this connection, not

only would he be personally enriched, but the impact would transcend generations, ensuring that his children and grandchildren would also be firmly rooted in the eternal wisdom of the Torah.

Rav Matisyahu Solomon has since dedicated his life to imparting this invaluable lesson to his students and disciples, reminding them of the significance of remaining connected to the Torah’s teachings. His own journey, inspired by a simple leaf and guided by his Rebbe’s wisdom, continues to inspire countless individuals to cultivate a profound and

unbreakable bond with the living tree of Torah, nurturing their souls and leaving an indelible mark for generations to come.

Daniel Agalar is the founder of Stories to Inspire, an organization dedicated to sharing curated inspirational stories from renowned Rabbonim. With a widely popular podcast that has surpassed 4 million downloads, Daniel’s passion for spreading positivity shines through. Join their daily Whatsapp broadcast by messaging 310-210-1205 or explore over 4,250 stories on their website at www.storiestoinspire.org. The stories can also be accessed on their hotline at 718-4007145.

Handle with Love: The Path to Joyful Jewish Parenting

Author: Rebbetzin Devorah Eisenbach; Tfutza Publications

Reviewed by Devorah Talia Gordon

“Let me share with you one of my deepest personal goals as a parent. I very much wanted to establish a trusting relationship with each of my children, so that whenever they might need help…they would always feel and know that they can turn to me and find a non-judgmental, loving mother. I later realized that this is parallel to the relationship Hashem offers each of us.”

The above sentiment typifies Reb betzin Devorah Eisenbach’s new book, Handle with Love: The Path to Joyful Jewish Parenting. Her heartfelt yearnings as a mother permeate the pages, while the book is packed with astute Torah wisdom.

As Rebbetzin Eisenbach, a veteran educator, reflects on her experience of leading students on a tour through Jerusalem, she compares being a tour guide to parenting. On the tour, she wasn’t just showing them the sights; she chose what to point out, what was important, and how to see things. All the while, she conveyed her love for the Torah, the Jewish People, and the Land of Israel.

Just like tour guides, parents teach their children what’s important, how to see the world, and how to move through it successfully. This metaphor of tour-guid-

ing informs the structure of the book, which covers childhood through young adulthood. Included are thorough sections on creating the atmosphere in the home, building relationships, school, siblings, and the “rocky terrain” of teenage hood.

Rebbetzin Eisenbach does an excellent job of explaining fundamental values. She delineates parenting goals, goes through the steps of building a trusting relationship with your child, and provides a definition of love. “Love is the joyous emotion we experience when we focus on the goodness of another.” Love, therefore, is a proactive choice, which inevitably leads to improved relationships, and informs every page of this book.

After laying the foundation, the book

covers the nuts and bolts of daily parenting. While numerous, practical topics are discussed, the thread that runs through the book is the importance of building the parent-child relationship. It would be worthwhile for parents (of any aged child) and teachers to study Rebbetzin Eisenbach’s sections on positive thinking, speech, listening, and acceptance of your children (and yourself), among numerous others.

With a light touch, Rebbetzin Eisenbach keeps Torah ideas at the forefront of the parent’s minds and shows how they are instructive on the parenting journey. Concepts such as emunah and bitachon, knowing we are not in control (at any stage!), and seeking advice from parents and rebbeim/mentors are some of the many that are covered.

The book is loaded with illustrative stories. One favorite is about Gittel, a musically gifted young girl, who found no enjoyment in rigorous lessons and practicing sheet music. When she quit lessons, her mother hired a new teacher who would let her play what she liked. From then on, Gittel “put her heart and soul into the music.” As an adult, she wrote plays, choreographed dance performances, and became a well-known educator.

Gittel’s mother didn’t tell the second teacher that Gittel was a difficult student who didn’t practice; she said she was talented and needed a teacher who could value her talent. The conversation ended with Gittel’s mother saying, “Save my daughter for me.”

Such is the profound impact of focusing on children’s strengths, rather than weaknesses, which Rebbetzin Eisenbach says is one of the most crucial things parents can do, especially when the school does not recognize them.

Another wonderful aspect of the book is that Rebbetzin Eisenbach brings many personal anecdotes. She’s transparent about her flaws and how she worked on them to grow into a positive role model for her children.

Handle with Love is refreshing; it’s an honest book born from a mother facing her own hurdles, gifting the reader with her decades of experience. It is an instructive, inspiring handbook to take with you on your parenting journey.

Devorah Talia Gordon. M.F.A, is a freelance writer, editor, and creative writing teacher for women and girls. Her writing has appeared in numerous publications, including Mishpacha Magazine, Binah, Inyan, and Aish.com. Her first book, a middle-grade novel for girls, is scheduled for release later this year from Menucha Publications.

Emerging From the Waters Reborn

Imagine you wake up in a hospital bed with amnesia, and you haven’t the foggiest clue who you are. You try to recall your most recent memory and how you got here, but you can’t seem to remember. After a few seconds, you come to realize that you have no idea who you are. Suddenly, a few men enter the room and give you some shocking news. They tell you that you are the president of the United States, and that once you’re feeling better, they have some very important issues that you have to deal with. How would you feel? You’d probably hold your head pretty high, realizing that you are someone important. However, what if instead of addressing you as the president of the United States, those same people informed you that you were the hospital janitor; instead of awaiting your return to the oval office, they’re awaiting your return to the bathrooms on the second floor. How would you feel then? How would you think of yourself?

The Spiritual Concept of Water

A central question in the story of Noach is why Hashem specifically chose to destroy the world with a flood. Hashem could have chosen any form of destruction, and yet, He chose water. We naturally associate the story of Noach with the mabul and the teivah, but couldn’t there have been another form of this story? What is the significance of water?

The Maharal explains that the fundamental nature of water is that it is formless. Water has no form of its own, rather it takes on the shape of its container. (It is pure chomer, without any tzurah). The ocean is completely shapeless, and unlike dry land which has paved paths, it has no pathways or landmarks. This characteristic of water is indicative of its essence. Water represents the initial stage in every creative process. Before something becomes expressed and takes on form, it remains in a formless and amorphous state. Through the creative process, physical form emerges from this amorphous beginning. This is why the Torah states that during the original creation of the world, there was initially only water. Only afterward did dry land emerge from the water.

Destroying or Recreating?

This is the deep idea behind the mabul: Hashem was not destroying the world, He was recreating it. The Dor Ha’Mabul became so corrupted that Hashem decided to start over again with Noach alone. Hashem therefore immersed the world in water, so that it could go back into its primordial state of formlessness and void. Only once it went back into its original state could the dry land emerge once again from the waters, recreated. Only once the dry land emerged, and the world was birthed once more, did Noach leave the teivah.

Personal Creation

This is also the deeper reason why each of us is surrounded by amniotic fluids when we are in our mother’s womb. Just as the creation of the physical world emerged from formless water, so too, each of us has our own creation story, and therefore emerge from our own waters. Our birth is like the birth of a new world (Sanhedrin 37a). When we are in our mother’s womb, the malach teaches us kol ha’Torah kulah (Niddah 30b). As the Vilna Gaon explains, this refers to the deepest realms of Torah, a transcendent Torah that is beyond this world, a Torah that is beyond the confines of shape and time. This Torah is the very root of reality, and you understood every aspect of it clearly. Not only were you shown this level of Torah, but you were also learning your specific share of Torah- you were being shown your unique purpose in the world, and how your unique role fits into the larger scheme of the human story as a whole. You were given a taste of your own perfection, of what you could, should, and hopefully will become. And from this transcendent realm, you were birthed into the physical world, emerging from these formless waters, with the mission to give form to everything you were shown in the womb, in your primordial and perfected state.

Recreating Our Identity

We don’t need to have amnesia to recreate our identity. Every day, we get to choose who we are, what we believe in, and how we are going to live our lives. Each morning we get to create our identity. We don’t have to continue making the same mistakes again and again. Each

day, we can restart anew. As Avraham said, “anochi afar v’efer”- I am but dirt and ashes. This is generally understood as a statement of extreme humility. However, there is a fundamentally deeper explanation of this statement as well. Ashes represent an elemental breakdown, the most basic particles of an object. Dirt is the starting point of growth, the place where seeds are planted and given life. In a deeper sense, Avraham was saying that every day he would “ash” himself, breaking his very self down into his elemental and root form, and then plant himself anew. In other words, Avraham would recreate himself every single day. Each and every day, he looked deep within himself, broke every aspect down, and recreated himself for the better, taking his life to the next level of spiritual growth. Avraham never continued living the same way he had before simply because it was

comfortable, or he was used to it. Avraham challenged himself daily, breaking himself down, and constantly pushing himself to become the very best he could be. May we all be inspired to embark on a journey of genuine “afar vi’efer,” finding excitement and meaning in our constant growth and internal recreation.

Rabbi Shmuel Reichman is a bestselling author, international speaker, and the CEO of Self-Mastery Academy. He is also a business, executive, and leadership coach, with a unique approach based on Torah values and principles. His bestselling book, The Journey to Your Ultimate Self, serves as an inspiring gateway into deeper Jewish thought. After obtaining his BA from Yeshiva University, he received Semicha from Yeshiva University’s RIETS, a master’s degree in education from Azrieli Graduate School, and a master’s degree in Jewish Thought from Bernard Revel Graduate School, and then spent a year studying at Harvard as an Ivy Plus Scholar. He currently lives in Chicago with his wife and son where he is pursuing a PhD at the University of Chicago. To enjoy more of Rabbi Reichman’s content, to contact him, or to learn more about his services, visit his website: ShmuelReichman.com

Midlife Mu ical Musings

Modulating Through Life

Miriam Hendeles

At the age of twenty-two, Charles Krauthammer, the late award-winning Jewish journalist, suffered a spinal injury while diving into a pool.

He said, “As soon as I hit my head on the bottom of the pool, I knew that everything would change for me. I couldn’t move.”

In spite of his injury, he went on to graduate from medical school and eventually become a prolific writer and a staunch defender of the Jewish people. It couldn’t be easy for him to adapt to the immense changes in his life and still succeed in his life-long dreams.

In music, modulation, switching keys in the middle of a song, is a technique composers use to create tension in the music. In order to slide into a new key, they incorporate what’s common between the two keys or chords into the new part of the song.

For example, in Klezmer (instrumental party music traditional to Yiddish-speaking Eastern European Jews) music, the clarinetist or violinist will often start in one key, modulate to another key, or maybe even switch to a minor key, and then revert back to the original key.

A chazzan might embellish his melody, modulating by gradually coming back to the original key to conclude the song. A composer will modulate to a major or happier key to fit the joyous lyrics in a single section of the song.

Some songs have more complex modulations, meaning the starting and ending keys may not have much in common with each other, so the composer has to go through multiple modulations before reaching the ultimate key. (Bear with me; this is getting technical. I know!) Other modulations are simpler, such as moving smoothly between closely related chords. More difficult modula-

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tions would involve transitions that aren’t as smooth, such as when the song’s mood changes abruptly. In this case, the composer would alter the melody and harmonies more abruptly.

Sometimes, as musicians, we may practice singing or playing a song in one key, but when having to play it with a group of performers, we realize that the key is too low or too high. At that moment, we change the key for the entire song. That might involve starting on a higher or lower note.

Every person has a moment in his or her life when things change abruptly. These situations can bring about turmoil and stress, testing the mettle of the most resilient person. A good way to adapt to a new situation in life is to use what we have learned from our past in order to support us through the changes. Modulating occurs when we gracefully adapt to the life-changing challenges we are given. When we temper our reactions through the abrupt transitions, we come out on the other side singing a beautiful song in the ultimate key. Later, when things settle down, we might find ourselves back in our former key. Or maybe not. Wherever we are, it’s our job to learn to adjust.

Life is a process of adapting to new situations, of elegantly modulating from key to key. And just as Charles Krauthammer made the decision not to let the difficulties deter him, so can we.

Miriam Hendeles, MT-BC, is a music therapist for hospice patients and a writer for Binah Magazine and other publications. She’s the author of “Mazel Tov! It’s a Bubby!” and “Best Foot Forward.” She’s a member of a recently launched website for frum women in midlife, www.jewishwomenofwisdom.org, where frum midlife women connect, communicate, and grow through online and virtual interaction. Miriam keeps busy with her various hobbies and skills, like piano, harp, art, and more recently, physical therapy. She considers this midlife time of life a very exciting period full of lots of growth potential.

In 1974, 19-year-old Ruchama was just starting off as a teacher in Brooklyn. One day she forgot her briefcase in a cab. She imagined she would never see it again. A few days later, there was a phone call from a man named Danny, a jeweler in Bay Ridge. A kind Irish associate of his had found the briefcase, noticed some Hebrew writing, and brought it to the only Jewish person he knew ---- Danny the jeweler.

Danny took great care to find the rightful owner. Among the contents of the briefcase was a letter from Bais Rivka addressed to Ruchama’s family home in Worcester, Massachusetts. Since Bais Rivka was in Brooklyn, Danny decided to start with that. He got the phone number of the school, called, and explained the situation. From there he got the phone number where Ruchama was staying. She was stunned when Danny rang. But this is just the beginning of the story.

When they met, Danny was not super interested in Judaism, but he shared that his teenage daughter Leah was. A short time later, the Lubavitcher Rebbe began the Neshek Campaign for women and girls to light Shabbos candles; Ruchama told her roommate, we have to go to Bay Ridge and bring candles for the jeweler’s daughter. They went back yet another time with two mezuzos, one

for the shop and one for the home; they sent regards for the daughter as well.

Leah began taking on mitzvos and became Shabbos observant in college. She did a summer session at Bais Chana. In June 1978, Leah wrote a letter of thanks to the woman who had sparked everything with the gift of those candles. She went on to study for two years in seminary, married a Lubavitcher Chasid, and raised a beautiful family.

Meanwhile, Ruchama became Morah Ruchama, a first grade teacher in Chabad schools. Little did she know, one of her students grew up to marry Leah’s son! She only put together the pieces of the puzzle years later. The story of Leah’s journey was shared as part of an emotionally powerful banquet presentation; by that time Morah Ruchama had not only taught Leah’s daughter-in-law, but also her granddaughter --- the great-granddaughter of Danny the jeweler! And to think it all started with a lost briefcase…

Denise Berger is a freelance writer who grew up in the LA community. Her work has appeared in Table For Five, Shalom Delaware, Detroit Jewish News, and The Jewish Journal of Greater Los Angeles, in addition to literary publications. Denise can be reached at deniseberger2@gmail.com.

How did I end up here, you ask?

Well, it all began when my friend Zev and his dad, Steven, extended an invitation to a barbecue. All we knew was that it was a launch party for Lieder’s takeout restaurant’s brand-new catering branch called Kosha, but the rest was a tantalizing mystery waiting to be unraveled. So as we embarked on a night drive passing the rhythm of palm trees on PCH to the rolling hills of Malibu, our taste buds were ready for the pure bliss that was to come.

Armed with our names on the guest list, we checked in with a mix of excitement and curiosity, eager to dive headfirst into this electrifying soirée. The moment we stepped foot inside, it became abun-

KOSHA Launch Party

dantly clear that this was no ordinary gathering. As the infectious beats of DJ Daniel Dahan washed over us like a sonic wave, we began to categorize this motley crew of characters, each representing a distinct slice of the LA Jewish community’s vibrant tapestry. Influencers sauntered about, their impeccably curated outfits and perfectly angled selfies capturing the essence of the moment. Party planners walked around analyzing the endless possibilities for their future simchas. We couldn’t help but notice spread amongst the crowd were Chabadnik friends of David Lieder, radiating a unique warmth and camaraderie. Their laughter filled the air, infusing the atmosphere with an extra sprinkle of joy. And then, there we were, the press, armed with pens, notepads, and an insatiable hunger to capture every delicious detail of this culinary extravaganza.

We approached the food stations like explorers discovering a treasure trove of epicurean delights. The first stop was an extravagant meat pizza station, where masterful artisans crafted pies adorned with succulent cuts of beef, chicken, and an array of gourmet toppings. The sight of oyster steaks, expertly sliced to perfection, beckoned us with their tantalizing marbling and promise of unparalleled flavor. Our

eyes widened as we beheld the bone marrow, a decadent delicacy, awaiting its turn to grace our palates with its rich, buttery essence. But the true pièce de résistance was the sight of the ignited spits, bearing enormous racks of lamb and cow ribs that smoked up the aura of the venue. The sizzle and crackle of the meat as it roasted over open flames only intensified our hunger and desire to indulge in this carnivorous paradise. It was a spectacle that blended culinary expertise and primal satisfaction into a mesmerizing dance of flavors and aromas. The abundance of side dishes, meticulously arranged and displayed, was a testament to the artistry of Shaina Weiss and her attention to detail that permeated every aspect of this gastronomic experience.

The moment arrived when David

Lieder, the visionary behind this remarkable gathering, took to the mic; he shared his passion for culinary innovation, unveiling the newest addition to the Lieder’s empire: Kulinary, the dessert catering branch that promised to elevate Kosha’s already upscale catering excellence to new heights. As his words resonated through the venue, excitement rippled through the audience, their taste buds already tingling with anticipation for the delectable sweet creations that were yet to come. The array of desserts included many variations of the eclair, the chocolate mousse, and an abundance of fruit tarts.

As the night reached its crescendo, the stars of the show emerged—the exceptional staff who transformed this event into an experience unlike any other. With a synergy that seemed choreographed to the beat of DJ Daniel Dahan, they skillfully carved meat with precision and flair, mesmerizing us with their culinary prowess. But it

wasn’t just their expertise that captured our attention; it was their infectious energy and genuine friendliness that set them apart. In the midst of this whirlwind of joy, a story unfolded that added an extra layer of enchantment to the evening. Malyk, a worker on his very first day, became the unexpected highlight of the night. As we engaged in lively conversation and exchanged advice, Malyk’s vibrant spirit shone through, illuminating the atmosphere with his infectious enthusiasm. We laughed, shared anecdotes, and even took photos together, capturing a genuine moment of connection and camaraderie that transcended the boundaries of a mere event.

In awe of the impeccable staff and their unwavering dedication, we couldn’t help but wonder: where did David Lieder find this extraordinary team?

As the night draws to a close, our hearts brimming with gratitude and our souls alight with the memories forged, we raise a heartfelt L’chaim to the future of Kosha. This remarkable launch party served as a testament to the boundless creativity and unwavering commitment of David Lieder and Shaina Weiss, the masterminds behind this unforgettable soirée. So here’s to the future, to the magic that lies in the realm of Kosha. May their journey be blessed with continued success, culinary innovations that ignite our palates, and gatherings that weave together laughter, friendship, and unforgettable memories. L’chaim to Kosha, and to the extraordinary experiences that await us in the days and nights yet to come.

There Is No Such Thing As Bad Publicity

Lou Shapiro

On August 1, 2023, former U.S. President Donald Trump was indicted for the third time. Prosecutors allege that Trump conspired with six unnamed co-conspirators to attack the results of the 2020 election. The accusations include that Trump had engaged in an unprecedented pressure campaign aimed at state election workers and lawmakers in a handful of battleground states, as well as Justice Department officials and Mike Pence to persuade them to throw out the 2020 results.

Referencing the indictment, Special Counsel Jack Smith called the January 6 attack on the U.S. Capitol “an unprecedented assault on the seat of American democracy” and said that “the aim of the attack was obstructing a bedrock function of the U.S. government and the nation’s process of collecting, counting and certifying the results of the presidential election.”

Trump’s defense will likely be that his statements regarding the election were constitutionally-protected free

speech under the First Amendment and that witnesses are telling prosecutors what they want to hear to save their skin. Trump will probably also argue that he did not personally instruct people to break the law and the actions they took were on their own accord.

Here is the interesting part: The indictments being filed against Trump only seem to bolster his chances at the 2024 GOP Presidential nomination. A New York Times/Siena College poll released the same day as the third indictment found Trump and Biden tied in a hypothetical matchup at 43 percent. In fact, Trump is dominating his rivals for the Republican presidential nomination, leading his nearest challenger, Gov. Ron DeSantis of Florida, by a landslide 37 percentage points.

Criminal prosecutions are generally not good for business, yet they seem to have the inverse effect on Trump. Why is that? Rick Wilson, co-founder of the anti-Trump Lincoln Project, suggests that “Donald Trump has conditioned … a pretty serious majority of the

Republican base to believe that any legal critique of him, any external charge made against him is invalid and a product of the ’deep state’ or a conspiracy of some kind to take him away from Republican voters.”

Wilson may be onto something. What also could be playing out is the way justice is being dispensed. The first indictment that was filed against Trump was brought by Manhattan D.A. Alvin Bragg for allegedly falsifying business records to hide a campaign contribution. That prosecution bothered a lot of people, even on the left, because federal prosecutors had passed on that prosecution years ago when they prosecuted Michael Cohen.

The second indictment was for allegedly withholding classified documents. Meanwhile, the D.O.J. looked the other way when President Biden and Pence were found in possession of classified documents when they should not have been.

Lastly, throw in Hunter Biden unexpectedly collecting $8 million from a

Ukrainian company and not registering as a foreign agent, and getting off with two misdemeanor tax convictions.

When you zoom out and consider how the criminal justice system is being applied, then it becomes more clear as to why GOP voters are blocking out the noise. They see this latest indictment as just another “Russian collusion conspiracy.” They have endured seven years of attacks on their candidate and that is the only world they know.

Had government leaders and the Department of Justice been more measured and balanced in how they treated Trump from the beginning, then perhaps Trump wouldn’t be tied with Biden today.

Rumor has it that there is a fourth indictment around the corner. That might just be the one that puts Trump ahead.

Lou Shapiro is a criminal defense attorney-certified specialist and legal analyst, but most importantly, makes the end-of-shul announcements at Adas Torah. He can be reached at LouisJShapiro@gmail.com.