Gaucher Disease is an inherited, progressive condition that affects approximately 1 in 850 members of the Ashkenazi community. While carriers have no symptoms, they can unknowingly pass the condition on to their children.
As the end of the school year approaches, many families are busy celebrating graduations. What a special time to realize how quickly our children are growing up. The little preschooler who didn’t know how to use scissors is now getting a siddur and will be wearing a uniform. There are high school students who will leave our homes to journey to Israel for a once-in-a-lifetime experience of Yeshiva or seminary. It was just a mere four years ago when they were only leaving 8th grade.
In this week’s parsha of Shlach, we learn the story of the meraglim. Mrs. Sarah Tzivia Karmonick beautifully illustrates how Bnei Yisroel was a newborn nation, with every single need taken care of by Hashem, their father, through the Man and the well. They were protected by the clouds of glory, coasting through the desert without a care in the world. Then they were offered Eretz Yisroel, but were scared and so they sent the meraglim to scope out this gift from Hashem. As a young and immature nation, they didn’t believe they could survive in the outside world, wishing they could continue being coddled and protected and secluded. They wanted to be babied, but it was time to grow up and mature. They wanted to remain in utopia, but the real world was calling.
I remember once learning in a parenting class that it is important to acknowledge to children that parts of childhood can be hard. It is hard to share toys, it’s hard to go to bed when playing is so fun, it’s hard to clean our room when the mess doesn’t bother us, and
it’s hard to do chores we don’t get paid for. It’s hard to pay attention to the teacher and sit at our desks, it’s hard not to hit our brother when he sticks his tongue out at us, and it’s hard to come home by curfew.
And it’s also hard to be an adult! (Cue all the times when our kids say “I wish I was a grown-up already!” and you want to respond “I wish I was still a kid!”) It’s hard to regulate our emotions so that we can teach it to our toddlers. It’s hard to go to work all day and then come home to take care of our families. It’s hard to be in the sandwich generation taking care of our children and our older parents. It’s hard to watch our children grow up and let them make their own mistakes. It’s hard to be responsible by planning for the future, even if it involves things we would rather not think about. But we can do hard things!
We need to buy life insurance to protect our families, as mentioned in Calanit Kopple’s very important and timely article. We need to release the bonds tying us to our adult children, as Dear Dini so eloquently and supportively discusses. Mrs. Sheindy Gross reminds us how we need to ask the right questions for our children in shidduchim. And when life throws a curveball, something is amiss, and is not right nor perfect, Miriam Hendeles reminds us to carry on with the tune even if you’ve skipped a beat. Wishing all of the graduates and their families a huge Mazel Tov,
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first time that a kosher pizza restaurant has made the list. At the ceremony that brought together the best pizza makers in the world, Avi Sinclair, chef and co-director of La Piedra, received a certificate from the guide, referred to by experts as the “Michelin of pizzas.”
His humility, devotion and wisdom are a guiding light for generations to come.”
Rav Gershon’s son, Rabbi Tzvi Yehuda Edelstein recalled how his father didn’t share a chumra he had made for himself over Pesach. “Our father did not want to pressure us, or anyone else, into devoutness. Make no mistake: He wanted us to be devout, but from within, not from without.”
in 1944 as among the first six students, living then in the home of Rabbi Michel Yehuda Lefkowitz. Already known for his hasmadah, Rav Gershon Edelstein became a Rebbe at Ponovezh and then later the Rosh HaYeshiva.
The Top 50 Pizza guide, an Italian-made ranking of the best pizzerias in the world, recently came out with its top ranking and a kosher pizza establishment located in Jerusalem has nabbed one of the top prizes. La Piedra came in at the 38th slot. This is the
“I am proud of this international recognition for my partners and myself, which crowns years of hard work. We are happy to pave the way for pizzerias in Israel so that others can join the ranking in the years to come, because many deserve it,” said Sinclair upon accepting his certificate. La Piedra, which has two branches in Jerusalem, offers pizzas cooked over a wood fire, with dough made in the Neapolitan way – from Italian flour rising for 24 to 36 hours before being cooked.
23 years and taught at for over 70 years. Rav Gershon was buried in the cemetery in Bnei Brak. One of the gedolei hador, Rav Gershon was revered for his approach in chinuch and his humility. He was a beacon for those who needed support and was the destination for those who needed guidance–whether in halacha, hadracha or even in Israeli politics. He told people to encourage and persuade their children as opposed to forcing their children to do what’s right.
Born in 1923 in the Soviet Union, Rav Edelstein’s family always valued Torah learning. It was Lag B’omer of 1934, when Rav Edelstein and his brother sailed from Odessa to Palestine to join their father who served as the Rabbi of Ramat HaSharon. The brothers were sent to Lomzha yeshiva in Petach Tikva in 1935, and joined the Ponovezh yeshiva
In 2003, Rav Edelstein joined the Moetzes Gedolei HaTorah of the Degel HaTorah political party. He served as one of the leaders of the party, along with Rav Aharon Leib Shteinman and Rav Chaim Kanievsky.
Rabbi Edelstein was admitted to the Mayanei Hayeshua Medical Center during Shavuos. Just hours before his death, Rabbi Edelstein delivered his final gemara lecture to a handful of students at his hospital bedside.
Early one recent Friday morni ing, sanitation workers, homeless-outreach workers and LAPD officers arrived on a little street in the west of Los Angeles. Jasmine Avenue is lined with low-rise apartment blocks, an imposing Catholic Church, a school and a handful of dilapidated recreational vehicles. There are, by the latest count,
Two weeks ago, over 200,000 people joined in the levaya of HaRav Yerachmiel Gershon Edelstein,zt”l, who passed away at the age of 100. The levaya began in the Ponevezh Yeshiva in Bnei Brak, which he led for the past
Outside the charedi world, Rav Gershon was respected for promoting a peaceful coexistence and easing tensions between charedi and secular Jews in Israel. HaRav Baruch Dov Povarsky spoke at the levaya, “Like Moshe Rabbeinu, Rabbi Edelstein did not want leadership, but accepted it when it was thrust upon him.
more than 11,000 people living in recreational vehicles (RVs) across Los Angeles County. But there are more expected to come.
Many people were forced onto the streets due to the pandemic. Some of those living in the RVs have jobs but don’t want to pay rent on an apartment. Some of them own their RVS; others rent them out for hundreds of dollars a month–far less than the rent for an apartment in the area. In Los Angeles, you are allowed to sleep in a vehicle on some streets. There are, of course, parking restrictions on many streets. But as the number of RVs has grown, enforcing those restrictions has become harder. Large, immobile RVs require large tow trucks. And, according to the city, destroying a dilapidated RV that might contain harmful chemicals can cost up to $9,000 per vehicle.
Many residents are angry at the RVs lining their streets, complaining that they are a blight to their neighborhoods. In the five years since Los Angeles County commissioned one of many reports into the RV problem and potential solutions, the number of RVs on county streets has risen by more than 50%–from more than 4,500 in 2018 to more than 7,100 at last count. Reports are regularly requested and written by various city and county departments.
Councilwoman Traci Park noted that people, called “van lords,” are renting out unsafe RVs. “There is a thriving trade in RVs being rented out as dwelling units on the internet,” she said. Park proposed a motion that would explicitly add RVs to part of the city code that “prohibits a person or entity from reserving any street, parking space, or other public space without written authorization from the City while conducting business pertaining to new and used vehicles.” The motion would also force RV owners to comply with a state law, “which requires that any RV offered for sale, sold, rented or leased within California meet the design safety standards of the American National Standards Institute and Fire Protection Association.”
Currently, Park noted, “Apparently anybody in the city of Los Angeles can buy a junker RV off of a salvage lot and without any oversight or regulation, rent that unsafe inoperable vehicle out to a vulnerable person as a dwelling unit.” She is facing opposition from those who say that she is targeting the poor and the homeless.
You may need to watch your weight.
Air New Zealand recently announced that it is weighing some international passengers before they board flights this summer in an effort to gauge average passenger weight and improve fuel efficiency. The airline asked more than 10,000 customers between May 29 and July 2 to hop on a scale at the gates of certain flights departing from the Auckland International Airport, according to a press release from the airline.
According to the airline, the weights were anonymously recorded, and staff and fellow passengers weren’t able to see the numbers. Additionally, the weighing program was on a voluntary basis. “We know stepping on the scales can be daunting. We want to reassure our customers that there is no visible display anywhere. No one can see your weight—not even us! It’s completely anonymous,” Air New Zealand load control improvement specialist Alastair James said in a press release on the announcement. This is not the first time passengers
had to hop on the scale. Air New Zealand previously weighed passengers flying domestically in 2021. Supposedly, the data is used to help improve fuel efficiency. “We weigh everything that goes on the aircraft—from the cargo to the meals onboard, to the luggage in the hold. For customers, crew and cabin bags, we use average weights, which we get from doing this survey,” James explained. Finnair also weighs passengers on a voluntary basis. Well, I ain’t gonna volunteer for this program–no way!
Montessori Torah Academy has opened its outdoor space to the community on Shabbat mornings. Mothers are invited to bring their young children over the summer for outdoor fun and sensory play. The children have a safe, child-friendly, and age-appropriate space to develop their gross motor skills through various climbing structures, bikes, balance beams etc., engage in
imaginative play with open-ended building toys and kitchen play, and explore new and exciting sensory bins. Meanwhile, mothers of the community have a space where they can come together to mingle and create new friendships with fellow moms of the community. Healthy snacks and fruits are served for the children and mothers to enjoy.
YILA’s BBQ and Carnival on June 4th was a great experience for everyone. The highlights included a Dunk Tank – with volunteers getting dunked for charity, LAPD Motor Officers who helped kids of all ages get on their motorcycles, and a performance by the boys from the YILA choir. The entire parking lot was converted into a carnival playground with many games and a 30foot moon bounce. The 150+ people who attended, ages two to ninety, enjoyed the all-you-can-eat BBQ, cotton candy, snow cones, popcorn, and other treats.
Mendel Levin, President of YILA said “We had great attendance, even with other community events going on the same day. We actually changed the time of our event and made it earli-
er in the day so that it wouldn’t conflict with other events. As our Shul continues to rebound and grow, we are very focused on communal family-oriented events that everyone can participate in and enjoy. Now in our 70th year, we still have daily minyanim and shiurim, a children’s program, and a great Kiddush every Shabbos. Our early 6:30 pm minyan on Fridays is especially helpful to families with young children.”
Thank you to all of our sponsors, volunteers, and LAPD for making the event so special. A special thank you to Ben Levin of SyncLyfe for sponsoring the Dunk Tank, music system, and raffle prizes, and for all of his help leading up to the event as well as on the day of.
On Memorial Day, Bikur Cholim held its 2nd annual Game Changer SoCal Jewish H.S. All-Star Charity Basketball event to benefit the thousands facing illness who turn to them for help. Hosted by YULA at the Samson Center, the game featured the best players from 7 major high schools including de Toledo, Milken, SCY, Shalhevet, TVT, Valley Torah, and YULA.
In mid-2021, Jason Nagel (YULA Boys graduate) reached out to Bikur Cholim’s president, Rabbi Hershy Ten, with an idea. Jason knew of the charity’s life-saving work, sharing he wanted to “show chesed and kindness throughout the Jewish community” by helping organize a local student basketball game to raise funds for their patients. Rabbi Ten said “yes” and soon the Bikur Cholim team came up with “Game Changer” and a committee was formed. On the heels of this success, this year’s committee grew to add members deeply steeped in the basketball world who dedicated their time and expertise, while notable NBA players lent support with video shout-outs along with local coaches lending a hand.
With NBA guest coaches Day’Ron Sharpe of the Brooklyn Nets heading the White Team, and Ryan Turell of Motor City Cruise at the helm of the Blue Team, players battled to the end with a buzzer-beater shot tying the game that sent the roaring crowd to their feet, with the White Team clinching the overtime win 107 — 98. Skills contests resulted in Aiden Bitran of Shalhevet winning the Jack and Gitta Nagel Foundation 3-Pointer award, Elijah Stern, also of Shalhevet, winning the Coleman Family Fast Break award, and Noam Mayouhas of Valley Torah nabbing the Winstar Properties MVP trophy.
With the DJ pumping up the crowd, celebrity coaches autographing swag, and food carts on hand, everyone clearly had an amazing time while supporting a really meaningful cause.
You may remember Adeena Halberstam and Aviva Huss, two local matchmakers from back in February, when they collaborated on a speed dating event at the Cask. They expanded their network of local matchmakers to include Yael Braid, Nathania Braum, and Channa Lalezarian.
The fabulous five joined forces and are now known as the WestCoastShadchans (WCS). They launched their first not-for-profit event at OBKLA on June 8th. The evening was geared
towards frum singles from ages 26-40. The event flier was circulated locally and through various social media platforms. Singles applied and then one of the women reached out to ensure that they aligned with the demographic of the event. The evening flowed naturally. It was productive, as the singles worked together to create 300 kosher meals for those in need. They also had the opportunity to meet one another in a relaxed, beautiful setting. They learned more about the amazing work of OBKLA and had the
opportunity to do a mitzvah while meeting others.
The LA Shmira were kind enough to volunteer as security. Sariti Wachtel of Purple Events volunteered her time and talent to set the light buffet tables as works of art. The shadchans are now busy following up on match ideas. The real work is just beginning!
For more information about future events or to connect with the shadchans you can email them at westcoastshadchans@gmail.com
do,” said Jenna one of the Clubhouse teen participants who brought along a friend from her local school.
The Clubhouse Center for Respite is a non-profit organization that provides respite care for families with special needs children. The organization’s mission is to give families a break from the daily demands of caring for a special needs child so that they can relax, recharge, and reconnect.
The Clubhouse Center for Respite held the Family Fun Day 2.0 this past Sunday, June 4, 2023, at Brandeis Bardin in Simi Valley. An estimated 1500 people came out to celebrate as a community, the Clubhouse, and its participants. The event featured various activities and attractions for all ages, including two live concerts from Uncle Moishy, the BMX Bike Show, acrobats, face painting, pony rides, archery, and an alpine rock climb, among other activities.
“It is so amazing to see how our community came together to enjoy a day of fun for the family while including all of the special Clubhouse participants,” said Tali Merewitz, a Clubhouse volunteer, parent, and one of the event organizers. ‘The funnest day ever, with so much to
Family Fun Day 2.0 was an excellent opportunity for our Kehilla families to come together and have fun while supporting our special participants and their families. It is inclusion at its best. For more information on The Clubhouse, please visit www.the clubhouse.care.
On Monday evening, June 5th, YULA Girls Division celebrated our Class of 2023 with our Senior Awards Ceremony which highlighted our students’ accomplishments in and out of the classroom. From character, to leadership, to academics, to chessed and so much more, our students truly embody YULA’s three pillars.
Awards included Excellence in Judaic Studies, Excellence in General Studies, Middot and Character Development as well as Presidential Awards and the 10th Annual Daniella Lee Casper Israel Scholarship. Daniella Lee Casper graduated from YULA in 2007. She was truly an inspiration to all who knew her until she passed away suddenly in January 2014. In order to perpetuate their daughter’s memory, and to give others the priceless experience of learning in seminary in Is-
rael for a year, Frank and Kerri Lee, with the help of their friends and community, established the “Daniella Lee Casper Israel Scholarship” for YULA Girls Division graduates. The scholarship was awarded to six young women who share the love of Torah learning, strong faith in Hashem, and desire to grow, that Daniella personified. The awardees each received $5,000 towards their seminary tuition. Mazel tov to our seniors and we wish them the best of luck in their future endeavors!
Sam wishes he could stay all year long. He feels an invaluable sense of normalcy and independence.
A magical space where individuals develop social skills, overcome fears, make real relationships – and feel more similar than different.
Alexa was unconditionally included and she finally made sincere, meaningful friendships. Huvi became more flexible and learned to get along with others.
worker plays a crucial role in helping families comprehend their rights and access the services necessary for their children’s success.
The 8th grade students of Yeshivat Yavneh have had an incredible end to their tenure as students of Yeshivat Yavneh! After capping off their work with the Names, Not Numbers program through the beautiful community premiere event, the students rehearsed their graduation and presented a beautiful evening for friends and family, as they
Kivrei Tzadikim like Rav Shimon Bar Yochai, the Arizal, and the Rambam, as well as the holy kevaros at Ma’aras HaMachpela and davening at Kever Rachel. Additionally, students learned the incredible history of Masada, climbed through the City of Dovid, swam through the Dead Sea, and hiked the beautiful trails of artzeinu ha’kedosha. The experience is one they will surely not forget, as students fortified the bonds they’ve spent years establishing with their classmates, allowing them to walk out of Yavneh with achdus and pride.
The teachers and administration of Yavneh couldn’t be prouder of their growth, and cannot wait to see the nachas they will iyH bring to their respective high schools. Mazel Tov, graduates!
The educational journey for a child with special needs can be incredibly demanding. Navigating through complex policies, intricate terminology, and a multitude of documents can be overwhelming for families. To alleviate this burden, our Advocacy Group at Maor is here to assist.
Did you know that at Maor, we offer free advocacy services to the entire Jewish community? We aim to educate and advise parents seeking support for their children. Our dedicated staff social
This past month we hosted a complimentary Advocacy Series designed to help families grasp important benefits and services. This upcoming month we are hosting a series featuring esteemed guest speaker Rina Barak from SLEA Therapies, who will shed light on the role and advantages of various therapies, such as speech therapy, occupational therapy, and behavioral intervention.
To learn more about our upcoming Advocacy Series or to gather additional information about our Advocacy Group at Maor, please don’t hesitate to contact sbennarroch@maorla.com. At Maor, we remain steadfast in our commitment to empowering students with special needs and ensuring they receive the services they deserve!
From May 22-28, the Los Angeles community had the privilege of hosting one of the world experts on medical halacha, Rabbi Avraham Steinberg, MD. Rabbi Steinberg has enjoyed a very close relationship with leading poskim in Israel, especially the Tzitz Eliezer and Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach. He also serves on multiple Knesset and other Israeli committees dealing with medical issues.
He has authored numerous Israeli laws -- such as the dying patient statute -- which incorporated halachic principles, under the guidance of Rav Eliyashiv and Rav Ovadia Yosef. Rabbi Steinberg has also published numerous books on halacha and medicine, such as the Encyclopedia of Jewish Medical Ethics, for which he has won numerous very prestigious awards, and he is currently the head of the Encyclopedia Talmudit project.
In Los Angeles, Rabbi Steinberg spoke to the rabbonim of the RCC at Cedars-Sinai, delivered a lecture to the bioethics committee at Cedars-Sinai, gave a shiur on brain death in halacha at Knesset Israel of Beverlywood to a
standing-room-only crowd, and was interviewed by Rabbi Jason Weiner for a forthcoming podcast on Jewish Medical Ethics.
Over Shavous, Rabbi Steinberg was the scholar in residence at Young Israel of Century City, where he gave a shiur on cutting edge medical halacha, did a late night question-and-answer session with Rabbi Weiner, and then spoke on marijuana in halacha, and what to do when science and halacha conflict.
All of his talks were very well attended, and many people noted how special it was to learn from such an expert, who is also an extraordinarily kind and gracious individual.
is one specific group she referred to as the “Ahavas Yisroel cast.” Out of 26 cast members in that class, there are 10 different schools represented. The bond created between the girls was evident throughout the year. “It’s a special thing to watch children come together through the arts,” said Meyer as she was called up on the stage. She thanked her incredible team for all the love they put into their students and all the behind-the-scenes help to help the show flow flawlessly.
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ATime for Dance performing arts studio presented “The Wizard of Oz” on June 4 and 11. The 19th annual end-of-the-year showcase took place at Beverly Vista Auditorium in Beverly Hills. The show was a culmination of the students’ work in the studio since September.
Under the direction of professionals in the industry, the drama workshop provides lessons in acting, singing, and dance while working on the play throughout the year. Students audition for roles and get official casting assignments. Several drama classes are throughout the City, Valley, Pico Robertson, and this year at Maimonides Academy.
The themed dance recital showcased the students’ accomplishments in ballet,
hip-hop, gymnastics, and even aerial arts!
Approximately 1100 audience members were in attendance. This included local friends and relatives and family members who traveled from all over the country and London and Australia. Students who join year after year are celebrated with a trophy for each milestone of five, ten, and fifteen years within the studio.
The studio was founded by Sheila Meyer, who grew up dreaming of providing a program where children could train under professionals without having to compromise their commitment to their heritage. She especially enjoys watching girls from all different schools come together, building friendships, and working to create beautiful things. There
positions before the Supreme Court, most notably the inclusion of religious institutions in government funding programs.
“We’re happy to welcome Professor Helfand to his new role, where he will join a team of talented individuals advocating through legislation and the courts for nonpublic school students to receive the best possible education,” said Rabbi Moshe Hauer, Executive Vice President of the Orthodox Union. “Avi has the background, experience, abilities, and the passion to help drive these efforts.”
Teach Coalition, a project of the Orthodox Union that advocates for equitable funding for nonpublic schools, announced today that Michael (Avi) Helfand will serve as its Senior Legal Advisor. Helfand is a distinguished legal scholar and advocate for religious freedom.
Helfand has a long-standing relationship with the Orthodox Union and OU Advocacy, and has previously served as legal counsel to Teach Coalition. As such, Helfand has advised on several of Teach Coalition’s legislative initiatives, has worked in partnership with the OU Advocacy Center’s Executive Director Nathan Diament, and has authored Supreme Court amicus briefs on behalf of the Orthodox Union. The amicus briefs advocated for important legal and policy
“Avi is a brilliant legal mind and a tireless advocate for religious liberty,” said Maury Litwack, Managing Director of the Orthodox Union and Founder of Teach Coalition. “His deep understanding of the legal issues facing nonpublic schools and his commitment to ensuring that all students have access to a high-quality education make him an invaluable addition to the team.”
“I’m thrilled to join Teach Coalition in its important mission to ensure that all students have access to the education they deserve,” said Helfand. “I look forward to advancing policies that support the rights of all students to a high-quality education and to ensure that no Jewish institutions are unconstitutionally excluded from government funding programs.”
Teach Coalition is a nonprofit organization dedicated to advocating for government funding and support for nonpublic day schools. Since its founding in 2013, the organization has worked to secure millions of dollars in funding and resources for nonpublic schools across the United States. For more information on Teach Coalition, visit teachcoalition.org.
Leftovers still sitting in the fridge from Shabbos? Groceries sat in the car throughout carpool? How about that yogurt you packed for the trip, and it’s suddenly discovered on the way home? We are quite too familiar with these scenarios and quite lax when it comes to adhering to food safety rules. The CDC estimates that “each year, roughly 1 in 6 Americans (or 48 million people) get sick, 128,000 are hospitalized, and 3,000 die of foodborne diseases”. Before you eat, follow these simple tips to be safe and prevent food poisoning or foodborne illness.
Shop Safely
Shop pantry and non-perishable items before shopping for perishable produce, dairy, and meats to minimize their time out of the refrigerator. Wrap raw meat, poultry, and fish separately in the small bags available to keep their juices from leaking onto other grocery items. Don’t be shy to ask a butcher or employee to re-wrap an item if it’s not sealed well. For transporting home, try packing the raw meat, poultry, fish, and eggs in separate bags from other food items. It is also a good idea to pack frozen and refrigerated foods separately from room temperature foods as this will help to keep your perishable items cold until you get home. When it’s hot outside, avoid placing your groceries in the trunk; rather place them in the front or back seats where the air conditioning is stronger.
Store Safely
Limit the time your perishable foods sit out at room temperature and store them in the refrigerator within two hours. If a perishable food item was sitting outside in the heat, store it in the refrigerator within one hour. If traveling, bring along a good quality cooler filled with ice and keep its internal temperature below 40 degrees F. When unpacking groceries at home, try placing the meats, poultry, and fish in their individual bags on the bottom shelf to prevent any unsafe spills. The lowest shelf is also the coldest shelf. It is best to store dairy and eggs in their original cartons at the back of
refrigerator shelves, instead of on the door. Place fresh produce in their own individual bags in the produce drawer to keep them safe from bacteria or microbes that may be unknowingly already in the drawer.
Store cooked foods in airtight containers or wrap them well to prevent a loss of moisture or absorption of external odors. Molds and odors are not a reliable way to discern if food has gone bad; this is usually a last resort. They often may become bad before emitting an order or developing mold. As a general rule, leftovers will usually last for up to three to four days in the fridge and two to six months in the freezer. Continually label and date foods to keep track of when they were opened, made, or stored. For reference, see https://www. foodsafety.gov/food-safety-charts/coldfood-storage-charts.
Before preparing food, always wash your hands with soap and water for at least 20 seconds. After handling raw meats, poultry, fish, and eggs, be extra cautious to wash your hands well. It is not recommended to pre-rinse raw meat, chicken, or turkey as washing these foods can spread bacteria to other surfaces, and cooking them thoroughly alone will kill harmful germs. Keep track of the utensils, plates, cutting boards, and surfaces used for raw meat, poultry, or fish. Never use the same knives to cut produce or other ready-to-eat foods as this will result in cross-contamination. A good tip is to designate a specific cutting board for raw meats as grooves in cutting boards can easily harbor bacteria. Always marinate meats or poultry in the refrigerator and discard marinades when ready to cook. Serve freshly cooked meat on a clean plate, and never on one that was used for raw even if it’s just “for a second.” It may be challenging, but be aware of towel or dishcloth use and launder those that may have been dirtied along the way. Be vigilant to keep counters and cabinet handles clean as these frequently used areas when handling food can be a host for many bacteria and germs.
wash well with veggie wash under running water before eating. Even if it has a peel, it is important to wash it as the knife can pass dirt or bacteria through the fruit or vegetable. Cut off bruised parts and dry thoroughly with a clean paper towel.
Cook Safely
Meat, poultry, and fish are safely cooked when heated to the recommended internal temperatures that are high enough to kill bacteria and other microbes. The best way to assess a food’s readiness or safety is not with appearance or color, but with the use of a good food thermometer. For optimal safety, whole cuts of fish, steak, or veal should be cooked to a minimum internal temperature of 145 degrees F. Ground beef
should be cooked to an internal temperature of 160 degrees F. Chicken and turkey should be cooked to an internal temperature of 165 degrees F. Always reheat leftovers to a minimum internal temperature of 165 degrees F to make sure the food reaches a safe temperature before eating it.
Those most at risk for foodborne illness are children, pregnant women, those above the age of 65, and others who are immunocompromised. According to the CDC, “85% of all foodborne illnesses could be prevented if people handled food properly.”
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As we eagerly welcome the sun-kissed days of summer, let’s create a simple butterfly project that captures the essence of summer!
Supplies:
Toilet paper roll, paintbrush, paint, paper
Instructions:
Step 1: Bend 1 part of the toilet paper roll inward to form a butterfly wing shape.
Step 2: Dip the edge of the toilet paper roll into the paint.
Step 3: Stamp the paper with the toilet paper roll to form a butterfly.
Step 4: Add the antenna to the top of the butterfly with the paintbrush and paint.
Step 5: Paint the wings with your desired color to complete the look!
Step 6: Feel free to create multiple butterflies using different patterns to make a vibrant collection!
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• Pitch a tent in your backyard
• Roast marshmallows on a campfire
• Tell stories in the dark using a flashlight to light up your face
• Spot a creature of nature and draw it in its habitat
• Watch the sunrise or sunset
• Go for a nature walk or hike! Bring hiking equipment, walking sticks, and glass jars to collect nature items
• Gather leaves, twigs, and other items to make a piece of art
• Don’t forget the bug spray
It goes all the way back to the 1800’s when a man named Thomas Hiram Holding began to popularize the idea of recreational camping. What originally started on the Oregon Trail, camping was a way of life. Holding turned camping into his passion and introduced it to others. Once camping in general had become popularized, Thomas went on to introduce the idea of Cycle Camping to the American world.
This is, quite simply, where you load up on a bike and ride until you find a spot to
camp, get up the next day, and do it all over again.
The first commercial campground opened in 1984 and was called Cunningham’s Camp. From this point in history all sorts of new types of camping came into existence, from mere weekend family getaways, to RV camping, and everything in between.
Whether rafting down a river in a Canoe and setting up camp in the evening, or hiking into the woods far from civilization with a backpack full of your gear, National Camping Month celebrates them all.
Mushky, aka the “Duct Tape Lady”, is a duct tape artist and lover of crafts who is always On A Roll coming up with something new and exciting. Mushky believes that creativity and connection are 2 really important things to take with you throughout life. Crafts build confidence, teach problem solving, and encourages “Out of the box” thinking. She currently teaches 3rd grade in Bais Chaya Mushka LA and is an adjunct professor at Sara Schenirer College. You can check out more awesome projects on her YouTube channel, onarollcrafts, or follow her on instagram @onarollcrafts
To book a craft event contact her at onarollcrafts@gmail.com
1. Everyone buys flashlights
Sleeping bags, tents, and backpacks aren’t the number one purchase of campers — it’s flashlights.
2. S’mores are only about a century old
The first recipe for s’mores was featured in a 1927 Girls Scout manual.
3. Planning takes time
It is believed that, on average, it takes campers 25 days to plan their camping trips.
4. Camping isn’t necessarily cheap
The average camper is believed to spend anywhere between $130–$150 on a two-day camping trip.
5. Camping is good for your health
Camping not only keeps you in shape but is also good for your mental health — spending some time outdoors keeps depression and anxiety at bay.
Ingredients:
• banana
• handful chocolate chips
• handful mini marshmallows
• Handful peanut butter chips
• Coconut flakes
• Graham crackers, broken into small squares
Directions
Step 1: Tear a square piece of foil that is about 12-inch by 12-inch.
Step 2: Place peeled banana on foil and slice it lengthwise about 3/4 of the way through. Spread it apart and fill it with marshmallows and chocolate chips. Tightly wrap bananas in foil.
Step 3: When ready to cook, place wrapped bananas on a hot grill or over fire for about 5 minutes.
Step 4: Remove from the grill, unwrap, and enjoy!
Ingredients:
• 6 Peaches, sliced
• 1 pt. Strawberries, sliced
• 1 Pineapple, cut into large cubes
• 1/2 Watermelon, cut into large cubes
• 1 Apple, cut into large cubes
• 8 Skewers, soaked in water for 20 minutes
• Extra-virgin olive oil, for drizzling
• kosher salt
• Honey, for drizzling
Directions:
Step 1: Preheat the grill to medium-high. Skewer peaches, strawberries, and pineapple. Drizzle with olive oil and season with salt.
Step 2: Grill, turning occasionally, until fruit is tender and slightly charred, 10 to 12 minutes.
Step 3: Drizzle with honey.
Ingredients:
• Apples
• Sugar
• Cinnamon
• Butter
• Brown sugar
• Flour
• Quick oats
• Baking powder
• Aluminum foil
Directions:
Step 1: Preheat the grill.
Step 2: Tear off a sheet of aluminum foil, and divide into 4 pieces.
Step 3: Divide the apples between the four squares of tinfoil. Mix together sugar and cinnamon, and sprinkle over the apples.
Step 4: Next mix together butter, brown sugar, flour, oatmeal and baking powder, evenly sprinkle on the top of the apple mixtures.
Step 5: Fold foil packets up and seal. Place the packets on a grate over a campfire (or in the oven or on the grill grate).
Step 6: Bake for about 20 minutes. Carefully open foil packets, top with ice cream if desired and enjoy!
Rabbi Mordechai Dubin
Rabbi Praida was a devoted and caring rebbe. His students knew that he loved and cared for each one of them. Rabbi Praida had a student who had a very hard time understanding anything that Rabbi Praida taught. No matter how many times Rabbi Praida reviewed the material in class, this student could not understand.
Rabbi Praida asked his Talmid if he would like to stay after class and learn together with him. The student happily agreed. Each day after school, Rabbi Praida and his Talmid would sit together and review the material. The student was still having a hard time but his rebbe was very patient. He never became angry.
They reviewed together 400 times until the student finally understood. Rabbi Praida was very proud of his student and the Talmid went home that day excited to share with his parents the Torah that he had learned. The next day Rabbi Praida and his Talmid learned together and it took the student another 400 times of review before he understood the material. Each day they learned, it took the Talmid 400 times of reviewing before he understood the lesson.
on the door. Someone had come to remind Rabbi Praida of an im portant meeting that he needed to attend later in the day. Rabbi Praida thanked the man and then he continued to learn with his Talmid. When they had reached the 400th time of reviewing, the student still did not know it.
he was having so much difficul ty and the student answered that once the man came to remind Rabbi Praida of his meeting, he was thinking about Rabbi Praida leaving and not on his learning. Rabbi Praida told his Talmid not
to worry. He would not leave until he knew the material well. Rabbi Praida reviewed with the Talmid another 400 times until the student knew it well.
Hashem was very proud of the devotion that Rabbi Praida showed this Talmid and rewarded him greatly.
This story is found in Eruvin 54.b
1. Why do you think that Rabbi Praida’s Talmid was having such a hard time remembering the material that his rebbe was teaching?
2. What was amazing about this Talmid?
3. What great quality did this Talmid show?
4. Why was Hashem so proud of Rabbi Praida?
Rabbi Mordechai Dubin is a Rebbe at Gindi Maimonides Academy. He is the author of three illustrated children’s books, I’ll Never Forget Yerushalayim, I Believe, and I Know 6; and has produced four Musical CD’s for children, I Made This World For you, Let My People Go, Al Shelosha Devarim, and Hashem is Always With Me.
These days, Rabbi Avrohom Wagshul of Yad Menachem gets several calls each day from Jewish parents looking to take their children out of public school. It wasn’t always that way. For years in Los Angeles, many Jewish families felt they were priced out of Jewish education for their children. While all Jewish day schools offer scholarship discounts off their full tuition, for many families just getting by with the high cost of living in LA, even the scholarship prices were way out of reach. Once multiple children entered the mix, many families found it impossible to stay in Jewish schools.
For 11 years, Hillel Hebrew Academy teacher Rabbi Wagshul has run an afternoon Hebrew school, on Hillel’s campus, for such children who attend public school. One day, a mother of a long-time student approached him and quietly asked for help. She was determined to get her son out of public school and applied to a local Jewish school, but couldn’t afford even the discounted rate she was given. Rabbi Wagshul didn’t want to turn down a Jewish mother, so he sent a mass text to anyone he thought might help. Sure enough, a few people stepped up. One anonymous sponsor gave the remainder of the $8,000 needed to send this boy to a Jewish school for the first time! When his mom mentioned how relieved she was that her son would not have to endure another year of non-Jewish December holiday performances, Rabbi Wagshul and the donor were shocked to hear that separation of church and state was not even being upheld at some public schools. The two knew they had to help more children learn about their own Jewish holidays. The anonymous donor pledged the first $50,000, and the fund was named Yad Menachem after Menachem Mendel Wagshul, Rabbi Wagshul’s grandfather of blessed memory, who was devoted to the
cause of supporting Jewish education, and even personally tutored new Russian immigrant children in the Alef-Beis so they could attend Yeshiva.
In the first year (2020-21), Yad Menachem helped 18 children transfer out of public school with $65,000. In their second year (2021-22), 54 children transferred to Jewish schools, and $195,000 was raised through generous donations from the community. However, this past year (2022-23) after their first Charidy campaign, Yad Menachem saw more than double the growth, and 117 local LA students were helped to find a new home in 23 Torah day schools! Yad Menachem had to raise $411,000 to make this happen, but there is no turning back now. There is clearly a great thirst in the local Los Angeles Jewish community among those families in public schools to give their children access to their Jewish heritage.
Yad Menachem relies on a committee of local Rabbis to make decisions when there is a question of eligibility or if a family’s particular circumstances call for more help than the average grant.
Rabbi Dovid Revah of Adas Torah, Rabbi Moshe Levin of Bais Bezalel, and Rabbi Sholom Ber Charytan have all offered their time and wisdom to help form the
policies of Yad Menachem and make sure it is effectively living up to its mission of helping children access Jewish education. Donations to Yad Menachem are tax deductible and can be made at yadmenachem.com.
Rabbi Wagshul hopes that more synagogues and community leaders will come on board to address this vital need in the community. To that end, Mr. Efram Harkham, a donor and avid supporter of Yad Menachem, recently invited a group of Rabbis from major local synagogues to his home for a special lunch catered by his Luxe Hotel kosher kitchen. In
addition to a presentation to the Rabbis about Yad Menachem, the group was delighted to hear words of inspiration from the legendary Rabbi Marvin Hier of the Simon Wiesenthal Center. Rabbi Heir shared how his own parents struggled to give him a Jewish education and a personal story of how he miraculously found a large amount of money to make their dream a reality!
“Yad Menachem helped our dream finally come true by sending our daughter to a Jewish high school! We have wanted to send our kids to Jewish schools years ago, but due to financial limitations, we were never able to do so,” said Leora, a parent. Tali, another mother of a student helped through Yad Menachem, grew emotional as she talked of how her child was helped to attend a Jewish day school. “Yad Menachem literally filled my heart with joy, when I was feeling abandoned and alone, not being able to be a part of the Jewish community. They showed our family real care and kindness!”
To learn more about Yad Menachem or make a donation visit yadmenachem.com. You can also contribute to their campaign page pledje.com/yad.
There’s nothing quite like the overnight camp experience for a city kid, especially when that experience includes exciting daytime activities, beautiful starlit nights, and crisp country air. In camp, children develop new friendships, gain maturity, and gather memories that will last a lifetime. Overwhelmingly, the camp experience remains positive, wholesome, and thoroughly enjoyable for most children.
Still, say experts, campers need to be educated about safety issues
power to assure that camps are safe rests with the parents. But parents need to exercise that power.” How? By making it clear that this issue is really important. “Before completing camp applications, every parent should contact the camps and ask about safety policies and counselor training. If every parent did that, camps will realize that this is a priority. And inevitably they will need to adapt.”
What kinds of questions should parents be asking?
“Lots of things,” says Debbie. “Ask about the hiring process and
wanted to join them. But when she asked about the camp’s protocols and policies, the answers were not as forthcoming as she had hoped. So she decided not to send him, and eventually the other boys pulled out as well. Those parents clearly made a statement about their priorities.”
You’ve chosen a camp. Your kids are excited. You’re packing the trunks and doing last minute errands. You’re proud of your close relationship with your children, but somehow you haven’t yet had the oppor-
very loudly and run away. Then to tell a trusted adult.”
Far Rockaway pediatrician Dr. Hylton Lightman says he gives a similar talk to his patients during their well check-ups. “When I examine them I say, ‘Your Mommy and Daddy know that I am examining you, but nobody else should be doing this. Your private places belong to you alone.’”
Dr. Lightman agrees that children who find themselves in compromising situations should be taught to scream and run away. How does the screaming help? “Screaming gives a child a sense of
which, although uncommon, may arise. Forewarned is forearmed. Debbie Fox is Executive Director of Magen Yeladim, the L.A. based organization dedicated to preventing abuse in our community. According to Debbie, “Awareness in camps about safe protocol, supervision, and hiring is significantly improved. Many camp directors are dedicated to keeping their camps safe for the children.” But the battle is not yet over. And education and awareness are key to protecting our young people.
Debbie says that preparing our children for camp safety starts well before we have that “little talk” about privacy. It starts, she says, as soon as we decide to choose a camp.
“I believe,” she explains, “that the
how they screen their staff. Is the camp licensed? Are counselors trained in CPR and first aid? Is there a Counselor Training Program? Are the campgrounds well supervised? Are cameras installed and operating in secluded areas? Are remote or vacant bunkhouses easily accessible or locked? And finally,” she adds, “is there a protocol in place to deal with any issues that may arise?”
Parents should be asking camp directors about their approach to camper safety. That means physical safety, of course. But also emotional and medical safety. “How does the camp deal with bullying, homesickness, or anxious children?”
Parents do have power. “A parent once called me with her concerns about a specific camp,” says Debbie. “All the popular boys were going and her son
tu-
nity to discuss camp safety issues. It’s not something you want to bring up at the dinner table, after all. So how do you go about it?
It isn’t easy to discuss sensitive issues, but Debbie offers this advice. “Be natural. Find a window of opportunity. This might be while you’re buying or packing bathing suits for camp. Say something like, ‘You know, I just realized that we haven’t had a discussion about personal safety for camp. Let’s talk about this now.’ Then explain that all areas of the body covered by the swimsuit are considered private. Tell them that no one has the right to look at, touch, or even talk about your body.”
Give your children guidelines on how to react in case anyone attempts to break these rules. “Tell them to yell NO
empowerment. He won’t feel like a total victim who is powerless over his assailant. We’ve had incidents where a kid screamed and the perpetrator fled.”
Dr. Lightman adds that parents should “make it clear to the children that revealing any inappropriate behavior is not lashon hora. They must tell a person of authority in the camp.”
It helps, says Debbie, if children are taught to avoid potential issues by staying in public areas. “Whenever possible, they should make sure they are not alone with one person.” She also advises parents to identify a ‘safe person’ in camp, an adult who their children can feel comfortable approaching with their problems. “It could be a camp nurse, a head counselor, or perhaps a learning reb- be who will
“Give your children guidelines on how to react in case anyone attempts to break these rules. “Tell them to yell NO very loudly and run away. Then to tell a trusted adult.”
become the go-to person if any issues arise.”
Most importantly, children should be told that it’s never OK to keep a secret. Perpetrators often tell their victims to keep the abuse secret, sometimes even threatening them to ensure that they won’t tell. “Make it clear that they will never get into trouble for reporting the incident,” Debbie advises.
Being a counselor at camp is not just about choosing softball teams and collecting tips. It’s a tremendous responsibility.
selors and all staff members is if you see something, say something. If anything questionable is suspected, it should be discussed immediately with a supervisor.
In general, it’s the counselor who sets the tone in the bunkhouse. As such, they should never encourage or tolerate unhealthy or improper behavior, even if it’s just a joke. A joke or a prank is only OK if everybody is laughing, including the victim or targeted party. Practical jokes, mischief, and misbehavior at someone else’s expense can be momentarily amusing. But it can be damaging in the long term.
like a private investigator. Allow the child to share the experience on his own terms. And most important, clearly explain that she did nothing wrong and she is not in trouble. Be loving and supportive.”
“Unfortunately,” says Dr. Lightman, “we live in a society where we are not immune to the nonsense from the outside world. So we have to be educated. And if anything awry does occur, it should not be brushed under the carpet. Children who have been victims must be given counseling. Do not ignore it!” he warns.
rectors would be well advised to choose their staff carefully, vetting counselor applicants via a tight screening and interviewing process.
It’s best, says Debbie, for counselors to sign a written behavioral contract before camp starts and to understand clearly that any improper behavior will not be tolerated, even if it’s just a prank.
“Training of counselors is critical,” says Debbie. “There are many training programs available today that provide the counselors with skills to recognize appropriate boundaries and the rules of inappropriate behavior.” ASAP offers a short counselor training video program online with clear and easily understood guidelines. If possible, counselors should also be trained in CPR and basic first aid.
A counselor is in a position of responsibility and they should be aware of certain “red flags” that may signal trouble. “Look for any significant changes in a camper’s behavior, such as sudden mood swings, discomfort with undressing, nightmares, temper tantrums, crying, fear of specific people or places, or speak- ing about inappropriate topics.”
Counselors should recognize when older children or adults seek out opportunities to spend time with younger kids. In general, it’s normal for children to be friends with children, teens with teens, and adults with their fellow adults. Anything else may not necessarily indicate an inappropriate relationship. Still, the situation should be carefully monitored.
“Grooming,” says Debbie, “is another behavior that should raise a red flag.” That’s when a staff member or older camper offers gifts or special privileges to a younger child, making him feel special. “Children may not understand that grooming can sometimes lead to abuse, but counselors who observe this behavior need to report it to their supervisor.”
The general rule of thumb for coun-
Some people love it, others dread it. But visiting day is a tradition that is part of the summer camp experience. It’s an opportunity for parents to reconnect with their kids and see them thriving in the camp environment. It’s also an opportunity to ensure that their children are safe and happy in camp.
On visiting day, says Debbie, parents should spend time alone with their children and talk – really talk – to them. “Show interest and ask questions. Pay attention to the child’s comfort level. Is he ask- ing to come home? If so, why? Does she seem anxious or sad? Does she mention any type of ‘exclusive relationship’ that she is having with a particular person? If parents have any concerns, they should discuss it with the camp staff and perhaps even consult with a professional.”
The conversation should continue even when camp is officially over. When the bus rolls up and the kids are home, more often than not Mom and Dad will ask, “How was camp?” The child will answer, “Great!” And then the laundry marathon begins.
That’s not how it should be, says Debbie. “Ask specific questions. What was your favorite and least favorite camp activity? Who was your best friend? Which counselor did you like? What happened on camp trips? And so on.”
Pay attention to behavioral changes in your child. Be aware of secretiveness, reluctance to discuss the camp experience, withdrawal, and even bedwetting.
If anything inappropriate is discovered, it’s important for the parent to remain very calm. “Validate the child for sharing the information with you,” Debbie advises. “Let him know you appreciate his trust. Encourage her to talk but don’t act
With the summer camp season fast approaching, the topic of safety is certainly on the front burner. Guidelines and information are readily available. And that’s a good thing.
But how do we avoid bringing up children who will become overly anxious and fearful? Is it possible to discuss sensitive issues with children and still preserve that wholesome and fun-filled summer camp experience?
Yes, says Dr. Lightman, it is. But parents have to set the tone. “When you speak to your child,” he advises, “don’t make it a huge scary thing. Explain that certain things should not be happening because these things are not tzinius. Your private places belong to you. Do not make it overwhelming or threatening or scary. Children should be aware, but not frightened.”
If the experts have their way, the topic of camp safety will remain on the front burner for a long time. Because as more awareness is created, chances are
greater that perpetrators will be discouraged from doing harm.
Are we losing our innocence? Perhaps. But we are gaining tremendously in maintaining the safety, security, and well-being of our children.
For more information on camp safety, visit mychildsafetyinstitute.org.
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Dr. Howard Lebowitz MD Chief Medical Advisor, Specialty Hospital, Harvard Medical School“Being a counselor at camp is not just about choosing so ball teams and collecting tips. It’s a tremendous responsibility.”
Close your eyes and imagine going back to your first moments on this earth. To your days of infancy. The air is filled with magic. With love and laughter. You are the center of your parents’ universe. You are surrounded by the soft, loving warmth of your mother. You need only to turn your face and you are so close to the sweet nourishment you need, whenever you need it. Your mother’s milk has every nutrient you can possibly need and fills you not just with delicious sustenance, but with love. You are held in strong, protective arms, safe from all harm. When you cry, you have two enormous humans who would live and die for you, coming to your rescue. The world revolves around you. The world is so perfect. This is everything. You never want it to go away. This is a bubble of bliss. It is the innocence and purity of infancy. Knowing that every care in the world is being provided for you by your loving, ever-present parents.
And believing that this is all that there is.
Until…you realize that it isn’t. And wasn’t meant to be.
This was not why you were born. You were not meant to be coddled and loved in this exclusive bubble in perpetuity. You were meant to take those precious years where you were instilled with values, self-confidence, and goals, and create something from that.
You were meant for so much more. But this so much more comes at the price of facing the “big, intimidating world.” It comes with the risks of pain, heartache, setbacks, mistakes. It comes with the price of scars, loss, suffering.
But this is why you are here.
And this is the story of the Meraglim.
Let us understand where it began and why it happened.
The Jewish nation was still in its stages of early infancy in the Midbar. They had just surrendered themselves to a level of “Naaseh V’Nishma,” where they had elevated their state of consciousness to a level where they did not need to understand anything other than accept the complete sovereignty of Hashem and His Torah.
As His newborn nation, the Jews were wrapped up in Hashem’s protection from all the elements, through the clouds of glory, engulfed in the strong, ever-present, loving arms of their Creator.
Nourishment was delivered daily in the form of Manna, a spiritual sustenance that was served in the exact quantities needed per individual with every bit of nutrition needed. It was so pure, there was no waste.
Miriam’s well traveled with them, providing them with sweet, refreshing hydration as well as a mikva to dip in.
There was no need to work, everything was provided for them. Their only preoccupation was sitting and learning the Holy Torah and connecting to the Shchina.
It was the honeymoon phase of early infancy.
And then it was time to be more than the infant.
Hashem told Moshe, “Tell the Jews I will give them the land of Cna’an. This land is blessed. I will conquer it for them easily. They will come out victorious!”
The Jews were afraid and asked to send spies. Hashem said, “Send for yourselves, although you don’t need to.”
The spies Moshe Rabbeinu sent were tremendous Tzaddikim! What went so terribly wrong?
It was their perception. They understood that once they entered Eretz Yisroel, they would no longer be living in this state, fully saturated and engulfed in holiness with no preoccupation other than learning Torah. They would have to interact with the mundane world and engage in mundane matters.
They didn’t want the D’veikus to ever stop!
This was their mistake.
The spies wanted to seclude themselves from the world so they could keep the Torah and Mitzvos without any distractions. They did not believe that we could survive the outside world without getting influenced. These 10 men are the basis for having a Minyan. Yes, there is a time and place for seclusion when davening and learning Torah. However, it is not enough. Hashem did not put them into this world to completely isolate themselves from the world while sitting and learning Torah in the desert.
Hashem created the world so that we could find that balance between both aspects. Our work is to take the Torah we learn in seclusion, that we have instilled within ourselves, and infuse that kedusha into the world. Don’t just be connected to Hashem while you are davening! Bring Hashem into your daily mundane matters!
Shelach. Shaliach. Messenger.
Every Jew is a messenger of Hashem. Our mission is very simple. We need to conquer the “giants” of the land. The challenges that face us every single day, in the real world around us. Take the tools we’ve learned and apply them to real life with faith that if this is where Hashem wants us to be, this is where we must be.
We were born for greatness. We got the nurturing, values, and tools in the desert 3,335 years ago. It is in our DNA. It is now time for us to take those tools, harness those strengths, and spread the light of Hashem in this big, beautiful, challenging world. The time for infancy is over, it is time to go out there and make a difference. It is time to spread the light.
This Dvar Torah was inspired by a lecture given by Rabbi Yosef Shusterman, based on the teachings of the Lubavitcher Rebbe.
Rabbi Nir Yacoby
Your wife and your child are at it. You’re suddenly flooded with emotions as you’re reminded of your own childhood, your mom’s attack, and your dad coming to your rescue. You come to your child’s rescue, and your wife is livid.
We call this phenomenon projecting and it is played out in חרוק Incense is used to punish a rebellious crowd. Since it had been used before to punish Nadav and Avihu, people started having incense anxiety. Later when plague erupts, God commands that incense be used to stop it, to dispel the notion that incense is lethal.
We’re all sensitive in some area of our lives. How do you know where? Where you’re flooded with emotions.
What do you do then? You soothe yourself as you are aware of an area of hypersensitivity. Conversely, to your wife’s hypersensitivity, you develop tolerance.
Awareness of our own sensitivities and willingness to compensate for our spouse’s sensitivities promote Shalom Bayit.
Pre-Covid, my husband and I supported three children in kollel. We were not only happy to do this; we were proud and felt it was the right thing to do. By support, I mean we gave each couple a certain amount every month. All the children work and try to contribute to their budget as well. During Covid, my husband lost a huge portion of his business and basically needed to rebuild from the ground up. As we were trying to hold on to our own home, help the children and still pay for the unmarried kids, we realized that supporting our kollel couples was too much of a financial burden. We sat each one of them down and explained with complete transparency what we needed to change and how we would give them 4-6 months to figure out a new route. Two of our children accepted it with a huge sense of gratitude for what we could do until now, and the third not at all. They are angry, have chosen not to talk to us, and have openly expressed their feelings with others and it got back to us. What can we do to fix this and repair the relationship?
Sad and stressed
Dear Reader,
I am so sorry for you and your husband that you are going through this. The challenge in rebuilding a parnassa is not simple, and to have this at the same time with a child and his or her spouse not talking to you is a pain I wish did not exist.
I am so impressed that you were able to find the courage to sit your children down and be honest and open with them. I know others who cannot be open about their economic situation with their children when they need to be, and this causes future misunderstandings and unnecessary pain. You realized that something had to change and that it needed to be communicated, and you both took care of it before it got worse. I have to believe that adult children do not want their parents to finance their life to the detriment of losing their home.
You and your husband were honest, open, and real; a dream scenario for anyone in any situation. Your third couple seems to be taking this very hard, and since they are not asking me how to handle their feelings, and you are, I want to address what I believe you and your husband can do. Let’s start with them telling everyone else. For you, you need to shut down those conversations, no matter who is repeating them to you. Whether it’s coming from your other children or “friends,” no one is helping, and it’s not servicing you in any way and potentially causing a bad case of broken
telephone, let alone Lashon Hara, which is not necessary. I am not the Lashon Harah Police, but I will add here that it comes to the point where what they are telling you does more harm than good. You and your husband can send out an olive branch to this couple in many ways. You can send an email, a text, or a voice message and communicate that if and when they are ready to talk, you are always there to hear them and be there for them. Do not mistake this with changing your mind. If you know your own finances and you know what you can or can’t do, then it is ok one hundred percent to stick by your decision, and your children will have to come to terms with that at some point. I don’t believe in the mindset of not talking to people, or shutting out of one’s life, when it comes to a parent and a child. I wish
even when it’s messy or complicated or things don’t go our way. Cousins, aunts, and uncles could be a little more distant if need be, but not parents and children. However, this is what they have chosen to do, and for now, you and your husband can extend an invitation to work it out, or just give them the space they need. While you’re extending that invitation, you can get a Rav involved, a therapist, or a mutual third party, but extending the invite is all you can do, on a human level. You didn’t mention if they have children; if so I would believe that you are yearning to see those children and be in their lives.
This past Shabbos I heard an amazing Speech from Rabbi Klatzky in Minneapolis, Minnesota. He was talking about the Tefila of the Shla Hakodesh we say Erev Rosh Chodesh Sivan. One of the things he brought up was the idea of davening for our children. He recounted stories of parents who davened for their children and things turned around. Even though Erev Ch-
odesh Sivan has passed, I encourage you to keep your siddur close by, your Tehillim close by, and daven for your children. I’m sure it is something you may already do, but during this taxing time, daven that your children should find gratitude in their hearts and that the anger they have should dissipate and hopefully come back to a relationship with their parents. Remember you are Hashem’s child, and He never forsakes his children. Prayer and extending an invitation are all you can do for now. I am hoping that in time your children will see that there is more benefit to having parents in their lives than what a dollar could ever buy.
they wouldn’t take this position with both of you because I actually think they are doing more harm to themselves. We live in a generation where people think it’s better to cut off family, and the reality is we need family. We need family
“I am hoping that in time your children will see that there is more benefit to having parents in their lives than what a dollar could ever buy.”
Mrs. Sheindy Gross
As dating and relationship coach, I find that I must do a lot of encouraging for many of my clients to feel comfortable researching a prospective shidduch. Yet researching and background checking is an important part of the shidduch process and is in line with responsible and effective dating.
The resistance in taking this first step when a shidduch is suggested is always curious to me. Resistance is an indication of strong feelings. What are you afraid to find out? Would you go into a partnership or business deal blindly? Unequivocally no. Yet you would go out at night with a stranger and drive around with them in a car alone and that seems safe? And if not doing research beforehand seems noble and open minded then why not do that in business as well?
The comfort level with this type of research depends on the community you live in and your personal background. Those who are new to the concept of shidduch dating initially feel that background checking is invasive and smacks of lashon harah. While I could see how and why they would feel this way, it behooves them to confront the reality that this is a process that the frum community has been doing for generations. From the simpler families to our great community rabbanim and leaders throughout the centuries, all have been marrying off their children this way. My suggestion to those who are ambivalent and unsure is to discuss these concerns with a Rav, Rebbetzin or mentor. Find out how to proceed within a framework that can work for you but do not disregard the process.
In my mentoring practice, I advise a diverse population of singles. In communities where shidduch dating is not the norm, I have been fascinated by the judgemental resistance these singles get when they want to stick to some framework of shidduch dating AND the success they have when they proceed anyway despite those naysayers. There may well be flaws to our system, but there are many benefits as well.
Why is it indeed not lashon harah to ask personal questions when it comes to shidduchim? The truth is that to answer the question correctly, one should study the halachos of lashon harah regarding shidduchim. By doing so it becomes clear that it is actually imperative and required that one find out about a prospective mate and their family. The key is to stick to
the important facts and not get sidetracked by esoteric questions that have no bearing on the health and happiness of the future couple. Inquiring about personality, middos, interests, family, mental and physical health, schooling, career prospects and hashakafic goals are all necessary to ensure that the two daters are not wasting their time and do not get dating burn-out.
Asking direct questions can make those who have never done it very uncomfortable. It seems weird and inappropriate to them. They may be afraid of the backlash they will get from those in their community or inner circle. It seems that they would prefer their children get married and deal with a very difficult circumstance, rather than pushing through some awkward conversations. I must admit, I find this fascinating.
I have insisted that parents research prospective mates and their families and received a flat out “no” to my request. I then watched a dating process unfold into engagement and parents tear their hair out with their new mechutanim. I wondered if they were remembering that I had encouraged them to research this family first.
I have come to understand that in certain communities this is a new concept, hence parents are resistant. The young people I am mentoring have a difficult time obtaining accurate information without the support of the adults in their lives. This has been the impetus for me to write about this topic. It is a necessary and extremely important first step in the shidduch dating process. It is my hope that by raising awareness I can make it a bit easier on my clients.
(to be continued)
With over 30 years in education, Mrs. Sheindy Gross started her career teaching Judaic Studies in Yavneh Hebrew Academy, and then went on to high school leadership in Bnos Devorah and Valley Torah Girls High schools where she served as principal. Her passion for education has now led her to create a new platform called TEHILA, Torah Education with Heart in LA, for women and girls to receive adult education and advisement. In addition to TEHILA, Mrs. Gross provides dating and relationship mentoring for teenagers, singles and women, as well as leadership consulting for educators. Mrs. Gross can be reached at sheindyg@gmail. com or (323) 684-6448.
Tikva Braum and Rena Kohengadol
Hey there graduates of 2023!!
We share 3 useful graduation hacks that will really enhance your most memorable day!
#1 Graduation Hat/Headband hack:
Let’s face it, graduation caps are not designed to stay on your head! Here’s the most effective way to do it! First, choose a headband that matches your graduation outfit’s style. Slide the headband onto your head, finding the perfect position for your cap to sit. Now, place the graduation cap on top, ensuring it rests securely and comfortably. Give it a little adjustment to achieve that “cap-tivating” look.
If you want an extra level of security, use some bobby pins to gently hold the cap in place.
#2 Fanny pack Hack:
Introducing the trendiest accessory for your graduation day so you have all your essentials: the Fanny Pack!
Let this adorable and practical pouch become your secret storage solution that will hide under your large gown. Safely stash your keys, siddur, wallet, snacks, speech, and phone in your fanny pack.
#3 Share a photographer :
Take advantage of this memorable moment without paying a heavy price tag! Gather a group of friends to share a photographer for your special day.
Only half an hour per person is needed so the shared time is the most cost-effective for yourself, your co-graduates, and the photographer herself as well!
You can also take some friend group shots while you’re at it.
Little time on your hands to find a gift? Then rely on the Dollar Tree for some last-minute gift ideas!
With a black and gold theme, start with a black wire rack and line it with gold gift wrap paper.
Next, decorate it with gold and black foam stars, and then add a cute graduation mug and stuff it with chocolates. Throw in a cute frame that says “class of 2023” and insert a photo of the graduate with her cap and gown. An extra mini graduation cap and tassel makes an adorable extra touch.
And to top it off, you can throw in a graduation card with a gift card!
The only item NOT found at the Dollar Tree is the gift certificate itself!
Flashback to when I was ten years old in a dark and quiet auditorium, sitting in the front row with my fellow piano students. I had already played my song, the others were waiting for their turn to play their prepared pieces at our teacher’s yearly recital.
A more advanced student took her seat at the piano. From low notes to high notes, gaining speed and volume, she moved her fingers, her hands alternating smoothly across the piano: left hand, right hand, left, right, followed by a full chord played by both hands up high on the register. And suddenly she stopped playing. I thought she’d continue where she left off, but she put her hands down, took a deep breath, and then started from somewhere near the beginning.
Once again her hands moved gracefully, gaining in volume, reaching a crescendo at the ultimate chord. She sounded great. Then she paused and started once again, this time at an earlier point than the previous time. She self-corrected a note or two and then stopped abruptly.
She lifted her hands dramatically as if to begin playing take three of her opening phrases. Instead, she banged out two or three loud chords, got up, and walked off the stage. As far as she was concerned, she was done.
I related to the frustration of blanking out, as I too suffered from performance anxiety. When playing at recitals as a child, my hands shook in nervousness, but somehow I got through my pieces (for better or for worse!)
As an adult student in a music therapy program, I became more methodical. After practicing for hours, I’d gather a few kindly neighbors who’d sit in my living room as my audience. Really, I just needed people to pretend to intimidate me, which somehow gave me the confidence to succeed at the real thing. Inspired by one particular teacher, I practiced memorizing the piece from various points in the song. We’d call them A, B, C, and so forth, and I’d rehearse start-
ing the song from each of these parts. That way, if I got stuck and felt I couldn’t move on within a section, rather than start over again from the dreaded beginning, I’d jump to the next closest section. I’d recover from the temporary “blank-out” and play the rest of the piece with familiarity and ease.
I only learned this musical technique as an adult piano player, but it has served me well in my life beyond my musical environment. I often thought about my fellow piano student and her unfinished piano piece and wonder if she would have been able to jump forward to a familiar place in the piece of music, she might have completed the piece.
Mistakes are an inevitable part of the human experience. The trick is not to focus on the wrong notes but to move right on. Don’t go back and self-correct, don’t stop, just move on to the next note or the next familiar guidepost.
When something is amiss in our lives, we get bogged down. Maybe we repeat the same thing over and over, thinking it’s going to be different this time around. Or we look backward, and blame ourselves for “mistakes.” We feel guilt and play the could-have/should-have game. Or we just give up on our goals.
But what if we try a new approach to the same goal? What if instead of looking back, we jump to the next anchor or guidepost that we’ve practiced? Maybe it’s getting support from someone, or implementing a different technique, or reading a book, or going to a shiur. When the music in our lives is not playing so well, let’s jump forward using the tools we have in order to create music that works.
Miriam Hendeles, M.A., MT-BC is a music therapist for hospice patients and a writer for Binah Magazine and other publications. She’s the author of “Mazel Tov! It’s a Bubby!” and “Best Foot Forward.” One of her passions is advocating for frum women in midlife through a recently launched website of JWOW! or www.jewishwomenofwisdom.org where frum midlife women connect, communicate, and grow through online and virtual interaction.
Everyone knows the Cat in the Hat. He’s an irritating, whimsical fellow. He instigates. But he motivates. He’s mischievous.
But he’s creative. He definitely stretches the limits – but does he himself stretch? Or just make trouble? Do you know people like that? Kids like that? You want to wring their necks. At the same time, they are also entertaining and they make things happen.
Extreme qualities, in one entity, can spark extreme reactions in another. But they also can spark action. They push, they prod – they irk – and they know how to push our buttons. And when they push our buttons, they’re forcing us to squirm, and move, and take action.
Remember in the story that the Cat in the Hat came with a minion of helpers. He sometimes can’t do it all by himself. Thing 1 and Thing 2. Yet he is a leader. And these characters may be creating an outlet for others and inspiring the passive to be wild. Yet, somehow, they do have a place in this often hum-drum world. They’re here – but they could be here for the betterment of us all.
True, we don’t always appreciate their pushes and their prods. We don’t always love their annoying habits. We balk, we cringe, we flinch. We throw our hands up in the air. We smile, we smirk, we chuckle. It’s each person’s job to monitor their own reaction. Or a parent’s job to teach skills to navigate this kind of influence. It’s up to us how they will affect us – or if they will affect us at all.
Sometimes, we can stand strong and let their antics wash over us. Sometimes, we take a step back and see that they have something to offer us. Sometimes, we’re moved – even though we wish we weren’t. The bottom line is we can’t blame the other guy. If they have an influence on us, we better recognize what’s going on under our own hats. And if we’re going to throw our hats in the ring and be moved by all the feathers in their caps.
Ingredients
• 8 oz unsalted margarine cut into 1/2 inch pieces
• 2 cups of coarsely chopped chocolate
4 eggs
2 1/4 cups of sugar
• 1 tbsp of pure vanilla extract
• 1/2 tsp salt
• 1 1/2 cups of flour
• 1 cup of cocoa powder
• 1 1/2 cup of coarsely chopped pecans
• 1 bag of mini marshmallows
10 graham cracker squares
Ingredients
• 1 head red cabbage
• 1 bunch parsley
• 1 red onion
2 tomatoes
3 persian cucumber
1/4 cup extra virgin olive oil
• 1/4 lemon juice
• Salt and pepper
Directions
• Chop the head of cabbage, finely chop the parsley, dice the onion, tomato, and cucumbers.
• Set the oven to 350 Fahrenheit and grease a 9x13 pan. Melt margarine and chopped chocolate together then set aside.
• Whip the eggs and sugar until they are white and fluffy and ribbon-like.
• Combine the melted chocolate, egg mixture, and vanilla together.
• In a separate bowl, combine all dry ingredients (flour, salt, and sifted cocoa powder).
• Combine the dry and wet ingredients.
• Add pecans.
• Put brownies into the oven for about 25-28 minutes. For the last 3 minutes of baking, turn on the broiler and add mini marshmallows and little pieces of graham crackers on top of the brownies.
Ingredients
• 1 1/2 LB ground beef or lamb
• 1 red onion
• 1 red bell pepper
1 bunch parsley
1 tbsp tomato paste
• 1 tbsp of baharat
• 1 tsp salt
• 1 tsp pepper
• 1/4 cup of oil
• 1/2 cup pomegranate seeds
Tahini:
• 1/2 cup of Tahini paste
5 tbsp of ice cold water
3-4 garlic cloves
Salt to taste
• (Optional: add parsley into your tehina)
Directions Directions
• In a food processor, ground the onion and a bunch of parsley, and then drain the excess water.
• Chop the bell pepper very finely.
• In a bowl, mix the beef, onion, parsley, bell pepper, tomato paste, baharat, salt, pepper, and oil. Place in the fridge for about an hour.
• Once you take them out of the fridge, start to assemble the kebabs and cook them on the grill or place them in the oven. (If cooking in the oven: turn on the oven to 350 Fahrenheit and cook them for about 15-20 minutes until they reach your desired cooking temperature).
Tahini:
• 1. Chop up the garlic very finely.
• In a bowl, combine the tahini paste, ice cold water, garlic, and salt.
• If your tahini is still too thick, keep adding water until it reaches the desired consistency.
• Once your kebabs and tahini are ready, place the kebabs on a platter, drizzle the tahini, and sprinkle the pomegranate seeds on top. Serve with a side of our London Salad.
• In a bowl with all your ingredients add the olive oil, lemon juice, salt, pepper, and toss together.
• Serve this with the Beef Kofta Kebabs and enjoy!
Chef Nir Weinblut was born in Tel Aviv, Israel, and at a young age, he moved with his family to the east coast of the United States, where they opened a pizza shop. Nir grew up helping his parents in their restaurant, and he developed a love for cooking and hospitality from an early age. In the mid-80s, Nir moved to Los Angeles to study business and psychology. While supporting himself, he found his way back into the catering world and discovered his passion for high-end catering. Slowly but surely, he began to explore the culinary world and experienced the higher-end side of the industry.
As he gained more experience in the catering industry, Nir decided to slowly transition back into the culinary world, this time with a focus on the higher-end side of the industry. During this time, he learned from many talented individuals, including French maîtres d’ and back-of-house staff, all of whom taught him something new and valuable. After gaining extensive experience and training, Nir established La Gondola Restaurant and Catering, which quickly became a front-runner in the kosher world in Los Angeles. Three decades later, the establishment is still going strong and continues to be a leader in the industry. In addition to his success with La Gondola Restaurant and Catering, Chef Nir has also taken his culinary skills to international audiences. He has catered for royals in Dubai and has been a judge on Kosher.com’s Skill’it. As well as being a co-author for a cookbook called “Kosher Soul Food,” which showcases his unique blend of Jewish and African American cuisine.
My friend Stella has silver candlesticks. They were a present from her mother’s third cousin Margaret, whom she met on a trip to Boston. Margaret received them several years earlier, from her cousin Shalom living in Vilnius, Lithuania. How Shalom ended up with the candlesticks is nothing short of miraculous.
Originally made in Warsaw around 1909, they belonged to his grandmother, Baila Leah. In the 1930’s, Baila Leah and her husband emigrated to Chicago, bringing the candlesticks. Even with three adult children there, the couple found the adjustment too difficult. They returned to Vilnius a few years later. Shalom was a young boy.
In 1941, Shalom’s father was selling produce and was arrested for the crime of capitalism. As a result, the family was exiled to Siberia; the grandparents followed. This “tragedy” ended up saving their lives! Six months later the Nazis stormed into Lithuania and devastated the community.
Shalom’s grandparents passed away while in Siberia. The candlesticks were passed to Shalom’s mother, Chana Roiza. The family eventually returned to Vilnius after many years, where they found little left in the way of Jewish life. The Soviet tyranny made contact with the outside world impossible. And so Shalom remained, in a form of exile once again.
Eventually communism fell and communications began to open up. When someone she knew had plans to go to Vilnius, Margaret and her father asked them to reach out to Shalom. He was so touched by this outreach, that he sent back the candlesticks as a present.
In 2017, Stella was travelling in Eastern Europe. She knew through other cousins that there were relations in Vilnius, and was able to track down Shalom. An emotional reunion ensued. Shalom later shared the story with Margaret, who reached out to Stella by email. The distant cousins became close, and when they eventually met last June, Margaret felt it fitting to gift the candlesticks to Stella.
The fact that they’ve survived so many travels is incredible. The way their travels reflect Jewish history is amazing. But what really stands out is Shalom, how he saved this light of Jewish connection through a Soviet imposed blackout of more than seventy years. And he shared that light with the next generation. This is the Jewish essence throughout time.
An original contribution to religion and bioethics, written by a rabbi and scholar. Steeped in the wisdom of his tradition, Weiner brings a faith perspective that is informed by chaplaincy and spiritual care. It is rare to have such writing informed by so much academic knowledge and clinical experience.”
—Nathan Carlin, director of the McGovernA bioethic of obligations and responsibilities, based on the Jewish tradition
for Humanities and Ethics, McGovern Medical School
The Jewish tradition has important perspectives, history, and wisdom that can contribute significantly to crucial contemporary healthcare deliberations. Care and Covenant: A Jewish Bioethic of Responsibility demonstrates how numerous classic Jewish texts can add new ideas to the world of medicine today. Rabbi Jason Weiner draws on fifteen years of experience working in a hospital as a practitioner to develop an “ethic of responsibility.”
This book seeks to develop an approach to bioethical dilemmas that is primarily informed by personal and communal obligations as well as social responsibilities. Weiner applies unique and inspiring values found in Judaism to encourage healthcare providers to remain dedicated to preventing harm and providing care to all. Each chapter investigates relevant philosophical questions such as what the expectations of a society or government are and what we should do when our obligations to others violate our own moral principles, safety, or ability to assist.
Care and Covenant provides analytical, philosophical, and evidence-based scholarship to guide discussions on ethics in healthcare.
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