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A Contest of Wit, Wisdom, and a Dash of Meshugas Introducing
Schtickanigans Challenge: Last Week’s Challenge: Yeshiva
What’s the Yiddish Word for ‘Putz’ 2.0?
"A Shvitz-head" – Someone who panics at every minor inconvenience and gets everyone else all sweaty in the process.
Example: "I told Shmuel the kugel would be ready soon, but he’s such a shvitz-head, he’s already sweating about it."
"A Tehillim-talker" – Someone who interrupts Davening with irrelevant comments and thinks they’re being profound.
Example: "The Tehillim-talker in shul last week spent 10 minutes explaining why his parve knife ‘feels eishig.’”
Yiddish is unmatched in its ability to describe idiots, fools, and every shade of schlemiel in between. Why? Because historically, knowing exactly what kind of fool you were dealing with was a matter of survival. Is this person a harmless nudnik or a dangerous shlemiel? A lovable klutz or an infuriating shlimazel? Yiddish ensures you always have just the right word.
Most of these terms are delightful combinations of Hebrew and German, like “putz” (an empty suit) or “schmendrick” (a hapless nobody). But let’s face it: we’re living in modern times, and today’s idiots deserve modern more Englishy names. That’s why this week’s challenge is to come up with new Yiddish-inspired terms for imbeciles, ones that draw more from Hebrew and American English than the shtetl.
When you enter, you’ll need to:
1. Create your new word.
2. De ne it.
3. Provide an example of how it would be used in a sentence.
For Example:
"A Mazel-klutz" – The guy who spills the Kiddush wine but somehow only ruins his own shirt.
Example: "Chaim’s a real mazel-klutz—he dropped the tray, but somehow it landed upright!"
HOW TO ENTER >>>>>>>>>>
Send your submissions to shtick@lajewishhome.com by Thursday, January 23
Include your name, city, your new word, its de nition, and an example sentence.
Rules: You can submit up to seven entries, so let your creativity ow. The winners—The Chosen One, The Almost Chosen, the Shlishis Squad, and all the Mensch-ionables—will be announced in our next issue on January 30. Prizes will be announced next week.
Week Staycations on a Budget
Last week, we asked you to come up with hilariously creative, budget-friendly Jewish vacation packages for Yeshiva Week. Your submissions ranged from the absurd to the outright ridiculous, and they were all priceless—well, technically under $500, as per the rules.
PRIZES
THE CHOSEN ONE received a $100 gift certi cate to Pizza Station!
THE ALMOST CHOSEN walked away with an unopened box of chocolate gelt left over from Chanukah.
Here are the Winners:
The Chosen One Miriam, Scottsdale
EACH MEMBER OF THE SHLISHIS SQUAD earned an autographed photo of the Kiddush Club Captain.
THE MENSCH-IONABLES received leftover Chabad menorahs from Hanukkah—perfect for next year or as a backup ashlight.
“Kosher Dude Ranch in Scottsdale, AZ: Includes horseback riding in skirts, wrangling cattle for cholent, and nightly kumzitz by the camp re—with marshmallows certi ed by three hechsherim!”
The Almost Chosen
Shmuel, Pico Robertson
“Luxury Kosher Gondola Cruise in Venice Beach: BYO grape juice for Kiddush, complimentary ge lte sh sliders, and a gondolier who sings 'Shalom Aleichem’ in Italian.”
The Shlishis Squad
Chaim, La Brea – “Glamping at Gri th Park: Separate tents for men and women, three meals a day of pre-wrapped deli sandwiches, and a ‘minyan on the go’ app to track davening locations.”
Esther, San Francisco – “Kosher Ski Trip to Big Bear: Includes a special Eruv around the ski lodge and ski poles that double as Havdalah candles!”
Aviva, Scottsdale – “The Machmir Motel Retreat: $499 for seven nights and three meals a day of matzah pizza. Comes with a free tour of the motel kitchen to con rm everything is double-wrapped.”
The Mensch-ionables
Rivka, Pico Robertson – “Tour de Kosher LA Bike Ride: Pedal from one kosher restaurant to another—burn o the calories from all the schnitzel while you eat more schnitzel!”
Yitzy, The Valley – “Airbnb stay at a backyard Sukkah (year-round rental): Walls included, lulav not provided.”
Tova, Palo Alto – “Kosher Camping on the 405: Spend Shabbos gridlocked with a catered meal of cold kugel and challah rolls!”
Leah, Long Beach – “Cholent Cook-o at the JCC: Bring your own crockpot and prepare to compete for the title of Master Slow Cooker!” Moshe, La Brea – “Budget ‘Kosher Airlines’: The catch? You bring your own snacks, and in- ight entertainment is a shiur on the daf.”
Think you’ve got what it takes to outwit the Kiddush Club Captain, out-joke the Candyman, and outshine the Rebbetzin of Repartee? Enter this week’s challenge and let’s nd out!
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Dear Reader,
This week’s theme has been sitting on our idea board for a while now, and we’re thrilled to finally dive into it. After weeks of heavier topics, we’re excited to explore something a little more… fluffy—literally and figuratively. Yes, this issue is all about dogs and their unique place in our Orthodox Jewish lives. From Obi, the local poodle with a kippah who’s stolen Pico’s heart, to the broader conversation about halacha, community, and man’s best friend, we’re taking a lighthearted but thoughtful look at a topic that has tails wagging (pun absolutely intended).
Before we get into the fun, we want to take a moment to thank you all for the overwhelming response we’ve received in the wake of the fires. Whether you reached out to help, donated resources, or simply offered words of comfort, your support has been a shining example of what it means to be part of a caring, connected community. As always, you’ve shown us that the Jewish people’s strength lies in our ability to come together in times of need.
And now, as we shift gears to something a bit lighter, we want to hear from you! Flip over to this week’s Shtickanigans (on the left, opposite this page) and take a minute to join the fun. This week’s challenge promises laughter, creativity, and—of course—a chance to win prizes. But more than that, it’s a way to get the community involved in something joyful. Because sometimes, amidst the busyness and the seriousness of life, we all need a moment to play.
So grab a cup of coffee, dive into this issue, and let’s celebrate the furry, funny, and surprisingly profound ways that dogs have found a home in our Jewish lives.
As always, we can’t wait to hear your thoughts. Keep the feedback coming, and who knows—maybe your story will inspire our next big idea.
Warmly,
David Rogatsky Editor-in-Chief The Jewish Home Magazine
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Obi and the Kippah: A Tail of Jewish Dogs, Community, and Identity
It started with a photo. A poodle wearing a sparkling kippah, waiting patiently at a local gathering outside of a shul in Pico-Robertson. Obi, as he’s affectionately known, is no ordinary dog. He’s a micro-celebrity, a furry ambassador who strolls the streets of one of the most vibrant Orthodox Jewish communities in Los Angeles, turning heads and sparking conversations.
The sight of a dog in a kippah is, admittedly, a bit of a curveball for some. A blend of humor and holiness, it’s a visual paradox. For others, Obi has become a symbol of something larger: a way of life where ancient traditions and modern comforts coexist, sometimes awkwardly but always meaningfully.
And yet, Obi’s fame has also inspired a bigger question: What is up with Jews and dogs?
A Complex Relationship
To understand the story of Obi, we need to step back and consider the history of Jews and dogs, a relationship as layered as a mille-feuille pastry. In Jewish texts, dogs occupy a complicated space. On one hand, the Torah praises dogs for their silence during the Exodus from Egypt: “Not one dog shall bark” (Exodus 11:7). Rashi even interprets this as a merit for which they were rewarded. This loyalty is celebrated, a recognition of their role as protectors and companions.
But elsewhere, dogs are described in less flattering terms. Rabbinic literature often associates them with impurity, danger, or even evil. The
Talmud warns against raising “bad dogs” that might frighten neighbors or passersby. The Shulchan Aruch outlines concerns about cleanliness, which, when paired with the halachic intricacies of Shabbat and Yom Tov, makes dog ownership more complicated than it might first appear.
Still, for many modern Orthodox Jews—especially in communities like Pico-Robertson—dogs have found their way into Jewish homes, hearts, and yes, even their Instagram feeds.
Obi: The Dog of the People
Obi is no ordinary dog. His owner, a Pico-Robertson resident who wishes to remain anonymous, initially bought Obi as a companion for their children. “We never expected him to become this neighborhood sensation,” they said, laughing. But Obi’s calm demeanor, fluffy coat, and signature kippah have made him the unofficial mascot of Pico. “He’s brought so much joy— not just to our family, but to the whole community.”
And it’s true. Kids stop in their tracks to pet him. Adults smile and take pictures. At a time when life feels increasingly stressful—between work, rising anti-Semitism, and the ever-present demands of Jewish life—Obi has become a reminder of the simple, wholesome joy a pet can bring.
But Obi’s fame isn’t just about cuteness. His very presence taps
into something deeper: a shared understanding that, when it comes to dogs, Jewish life operates with an unusual openness.
The Halachic Loopholes of Dog Ownership
The Orthodox Jewish world is famously opinionated. Everything from what time to light Shabbat candles to whether quinoa is kosher for Passover can be grounds for endless debate. Yet, when it comes to dog ownership, there’s a surprising flexibility.
Halacha doesn’t outright forbid owning a dog, but it does come with conditions. For example, there’s the issue of cleanliness. Jewish homes, particularly in observant communities, are often kept to strict standards of taharah (ritual purity), and a dog tracking in mud or shedding hair can complicate things.
Shabbat introduces another layer of complexity. Walking a dog requires a leash, and depending on the presence or absence of an eruv, this could be considered carrying—a prohibited activity on Shabbat. Some owners address this by training their dogs to walk off-leash (no small feat!) or by ensuring their local eruv is intact.
Then there’s the question of neutering. Halacha explicitly prohibits castrating animals, which presents a challenge in cities like Los Angeles, where spaying and neutering are often legally required. Many Orthodox pet owners turn to halachic workarounds, such as selling the animal to a non-Jew temporarily for the procedure.
And yet, despite these complications, dog ownership is widely accepted in Orthodox Jewish life. Why?
A Reflection of Individual Needs
Perhaps the most fascinating aspect of Jewish dog ownership is how personal it is. While Jewish law sets boundaries for nearly every area of life—food, dress, prayer— dog ownership is one of the rare areas where individual needs and preferences take center stage.
For some, a dog is a source of security. In neighborhoods where anti-Semitism is a growing concern, a well-trained dog can be both a deterrent and a protector.
For others, it’s about companionship. Dogs provide unconditional love, a rare commodity in a world full of judgment and expectations. Families with children who have anxiety or special needs often report that their dog has become a therapeutic presence in the home.
And then there are people like Obi’s owner, who see their pet as an extension of their Jewish values. “Taking care of a dog teaches my kids responsibility and kindness,” they said. “It’s a lesson in chesed (kindness) every day.”
The Broader Picture: What We Can Learn
Here’s the thing: the debates surrounding dogs in Jewish life mir-
ror many of the broader debates within the community. Is this too modern? Too assimilated? Too complicated?
And yet, when it comes to dogs, most of us don’t ask too many questions. We accept that what works for one family might not work for another—and that’s okay. This unspoken tolerance is a model for how we might approach other aspects of Jewish life.
Think about it. In a world where disagreements over kashrut certifications or schooling options can divide communities, dogs remind us that we’re capable of respecting individual choices without compromising our collective values.
Obi’s Lessons for the Community
Obi’s rise to fame isn’t just about a cute dog in a kippah. It’s about what he represents: the ability to find joy and connection in unexpected places.
“People love Obi because he’s a unifier,” his owner said. “He brings people together—Jews of all backgrounds, religious or not.”
And maybe that’s the real lesson here. At a time when Jewish communities face so much division—both internally and externally—Obi is a reminder of what we share: a love for family, for connection, and yes, for the occasional dose of whimsy.
The Future of Dogs in Jewish Life
So, what’s next for Obi and his fellow Jewish canines?
Social media has already played a significant role in normalizing dog ownership within Orthodox communities. Kosher dog treats are becoming more common, and influencers share tips on integrating dogs into religious life, from Shabbat-friendly toys to halachic advice.
There’s even talk of a “Pet Shabbaton” in Pico-Robertson, where families could bring their dogs to an outdoor kiddush and learn about the halachic nuances of pet ownership. Whether or not this idea takes off, it’s clear that dogs are becoming an increasingly visible—and accepted—part of Jewish life.
Conclusion: More Than Just Man’s Best Friend
Ultimately, the story of Obi and the broader question of Jews and dogs isn’t just about pets. It’s about what they teach us: resilience, adaptability, and the importance of kindness.
As Obi’s owner put it, “In a world that feels so divided, dogs remind us to focus on what really matters—loyalty, love, and a good walk around the block.”
And maybe, just maybe, that’s the lesson we all need right now.
Beyond the Headlines
A weekly glimpse into the Israel you won’t read about in the news
Sivan Rahav Meir
Translated by Yehoshua Siskin, Janine Muller Sherr
“Since October 7th, we’ve been making Kiddush every week. No matter where we are or who is present, I will take a bottle of wine and recite the Kiddush.”
“After Simchat Torah, I was in Israel for the first time in my life — at the age of 30. I came to volunteer around Gaza. I will return again in the summer and bring along friends.”
“After 7.10, I started learning Hebrew online, and also began attending a weekly Torah lesson at the synagogue.”
THE JEWS OF OCTOBER 8TH THESE ARE MY PEOPLE WHERE
“For the first time, I have been walking around campus wearing a Star of David necklace, despite receiving hostile reactions. I cannot recall anything that has ever moved me with such intensity.”
These are just some of the statements I heard this week during my lecture tour in Toronto, Canada. The question is: If Hamas slaughtered, burned, murdered, and kidnapped Jews in the Gaza vicinity, why did someone in Toronto start laying tefillin?
The answer is the global phenomenon called “October 8th Jews,” the Jews who woke up on the day after. Their hearts were opened, and they suddenly understood that they are part of a bigger story — a battle over consciousness and faith, over identity. And the spiritual affects the material: Canadian Jews donated more than $100 mil-
lion to settlements in the north and south, to first-responder emergency squads and resilience projects. Thank you.
A young student contemplating Aliyah for the first time in her life drove me to the airport. Suddenly, her future seems to be in Israel.
I don’t have any definitive conclusions, although I did come back to Israel filled with thoughts and ideas. But in the first stage, it’s crucial that Israelis recognize this phenomenon and act on it. This is a historic opportunity, for millions of our brothers and sisters in the diaspora who are liable to be lost, but who could also return home. Together we will win – together with them, too.
I’d like to extend a big thank you to the Shaarei Shomayim community led by Rabbi Sam Taylor, to Mizrachi Canada and to Rabbi Elan Mazer, Rabbi Dr. Seth Grauer and the Israeli emissaries, as well as Rabbi Yitzchak Landa and Rabbi Shimon Binstock from Chabad of Toronto. Thanks to you, I met more than a thousand brothers and sisters.
The main headline in the local newspapers when I landed in Canada was “Trump: We don’t need Canada.” Well, without delving into Canada-US politics, we need Canada, and we most certainly the Jews of Canada!
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This past Shabbat morning, I was sitting in the women’s section at the Shaarei Shomayim shul, when I overheard a woman whisper to the woman next to her, “What’s happening with the hostages?”
“I don’t know,” the woman replied, “but I prayed for them all night — I almost finished reciting the entire Book of Tehilim.”
“I’m so worried about them. If only they will come back alive…” the first woman said in a trembling voice.
Here were two women living 9,000 kilometers away from Israel, who had never even met the hostages, but who can’t sleep at night because they’re worried about them and want to do everything in their power to help them.
How do we explain this?
I think the answer touches at the very core of what it means to be a member of the Jewish people: The bonds that bind us are invisible but unbreakable.
Only a few minutes after this conversation took place, the following verses were read from this week’s Torah portion: “And I
will take you to be My people, and I will be your God, and you shall know that I am the Lord, your God.”
We are one people —and after all the confusion and worry, the pride and humiliation, the excitement and trepidation, our deep connection to each other is a source of strength.
How can we apply this powerful feeling of unity to our day-to-day lives?
Here is a suggestion that I’ve shared in this space before and which has helped people shift their attitude towards those around them: Let’s try and transfer this tremendous love that we feel for every one of the hostages, all the worry and caring, to those who have not, thank God, been kidnapped.
Think about the people we meet over the course of our day. If they would be kidnapped, God forbid, we would be so worried about them that we would feel almost a physical pain. So, take a good look at the people around you and appreciate that they too are part of the amazing phenomenon known as the Jewish people and worthy of our love.
IS OUR WILL?
A small child can walk around all day with a mud-stained shirt and not care at all. He doesn’t even notice it. But an adult? Even a small stain would bother him. He is mature.
At the beginning of the parashah, Hashem tells Moshe about the first and necessary step of the exodus to freedom: “And I will bring you out from under the burdens of Egypt.”
The Sefat Emet writes that the intention is that the Children of Israel should no longer be able to tolerate this exile; that they will no longer have the patience for even one more day of slavery.
For 210 years, they labored in Egypt under extremely harsh conditions. But like a small child with a dirty shirt, they didn’t even realize how inappropriate it was for them to be slaves.
The first step on their path to becoming free was to develop a revulsion for slavery, to say from the depths of their souls, “Enough, we cannot tolerate this anymore!”
Perhaps what delays us most from making positive changes in our lives is the fact that we don’t even feel that our situation requires correction! We’re used to it; we don’t even imagine anything better, or maybe we are afraid to change — so we accept reality as it is and make peace with it.
The initial condition for progress is the clear distinction between good and evil, the understanding that we deserve something better, that we need to grow. From there, the door opens to great change — to the exodus from Egypt.
May our personal and collective awareness grow, so that, together, we can emerge to true freedom!
Sivan Rahav Meir with Israeli Chabad emissaries Aviad and Hodaya Pituchey Chotam.
A Community Protecting A Community
A Glimpse of Geulah: Lessons from a
Storekeeper Called to Duty
This week, I’m writing from a place far from the familiar streets of Los Angeles, where I typically pen my Community Safety column. I find myself in the vibrant, chaotic, and deeply inspiring neighborhood of Geulah in Jerusalem. Among the narrow streets and packed Judaica stores, I had a conversation that left me contemplating what “safety” really means, far beyond its physical dimensions.
In one of the many shops selling mezuzahs, kippahs, and embroidered challah covers, I noticed something unusual—a neatly pressed IDF uniform hanging by the checkout counter. Curiosity got the better of me, and I asked the shopkeeper why it was there.
With a mix of humility and resignation, he said, “I’ve been called for reserve duty. I’m going to Jenin tomorrow.”
“What for?” I asked.
He shrugged, as if the question were irrelevant. “I don’t know,” he said, “but I’ll find out when I get there.”
We fell into a conversation that ranged from the war to his family, particularly the toll this period has taken on his daughters. “They’re almost paralyzed with anxiety,” he said, a heavy sadness lining his words. “Every siren, every news alert— it’s like they’re waiting for the next shoe to drop.”
The storekeeper’s demeanor was steady, even as he shared the challenges his family faced. When I asked about the uniform, he added, almost casually, “I told my wife I was being called in, so she took my uniform to the cleaners for me. She wants me to look sharp, even in Jenin.”
But it was one particular story that struck me. He recounted a time during re-
serve duty when his unit, comprised of older men, was ordered to clear a house—a job typically done with the help of a K-9 unit. That day, no dog was available.
The commander said, “I can’t force any of you to go, but I need six volunteers to clear the house.”
What followed wasn’t panic or silence, but whispered calculations of life and limb:
“You have five kids, I only have one. I’ll go instead of you.”
“But I just got married and don’t have any children yet. I’ll go instead of you.”
On and on it went, each man weighing his responsibilities and priorities, each one offering himself in the place of another. Eventually, all 20 of them emerged, and the house was cleared without injury.
The selflessness of these men is the
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kind of courage we rarely see but should aspire to. They weren’t just protecting themselves—they were safeguarding each other’s futures, their families, and their nation.
As I left the shop, I thought about how much we can learn from their example. In our communities, we might not face life-and-death scenarios, but we are called upon to step up for one another. Whether it’s helping a neighbor in need or shouldering responsibilities others cannot, the lesson is the same: our strength lies in our selflessness.
This week, I urge us all to think about what safety really means—and how we can ensure it for one another.
Ari Stock
Streimels in Green: A New Chapter for Chassidim
and the IDF
As a native of Meah She’arim and founder of the Netzach Educational Network, I have witnessed firsthand the profound capacity for change within the Haredi community. Today, I stand witness to a historic transformation: Hasidim from the Belz, Karlin-Stolin, and Sanz communities are preparing to enlist in the IDF, under the guidance and blessing of their Rebbes. This is not merely a policy shift; it is a brave new chapter in our community’s story.
The decision to form a special chassidic unit within the IDF marks a significant cultural shift. It reflects a deeper understanding and appreciation of the need for our community to contribute more actively to the broader Israeli society. This change is driven by a sacred principle in Hasidic life— the directive of a Rebbe. When a Rebbe decides, it paves a path that many will follow, no matter how unexpected the direction might seem to outsiders.
The bravery of these Rebbes—who have endorsed their followers’ military service—cannot be overstated. They have initiated a crucial dialogue within our communities about our roles and responsibilities in a state that, while secular, is profoundly Jewish in its character and purpose. The Karliner Rebbe, for instance, has faced harsh criticism and even physical violence for his stance, yet he remains steadfast. He teaches us the importance of non-confrontation and perseverance, virtues that are essential as we navigate this new terrain.
My work with the Netzach Educational Network has always been about bridging worlds. We integrate secular education with traditional Torah study, preparing our students not just for roles in the workforce, but as full participants in the Israeli tapestry, while remaining proud members of the
Haredi community. I believe deeply that the future of the Jewish state depends on all segments of society, including Haredim, taking active roles in its security and economy.
The special technological track designed for these chassidic recruits respects their religious lifestyle while providing meaningful opportunities to contribute to our nation’s security. This initiative is not just about accommodating religious practices; it’s about transforming the perception of Haredim as separate from or immune to the challenges faced by our country.
This moment of integration is significant not only for its immediate impact but for the cultural doors it opens. It is a demonstration of what is possible when tradition meets modernity not in conflict, but in cooperation. Every Hasid who dons an IDF uniform is not only fulfilling a civic duty but is also breaking down barriers, fostering a new understanding of shared responsibility and communal growth.
As we move forward, let us take pride in this bold step and recognize it for what it is—a transformative moment for both the Haredi community and Israeli society at large. Let it be a call to all of us, across all divides, to seek ways to contribute, to engage, and to unite. Our strength as a nation lies in our diversity and our ability to respect and integrate the many paths of Jewish life into our collective journey.
This is a courageous new chapter for us all. As we support these pioneering souls, we must also pave the way for more integration, more understanding, and more shared responsibility. The future of our nation depends on it.
Rabbi Menachem Bombach is the founder and head of the Netzach Educational Network.
Netzach graduate Benny Brim receives the President’s Award of Excellence
Netzach graduates who have joined the IDF
Rabbi Bombach and the chassan (C), Itzik Izak, a graduate of the Netzach Midrasha Chassidit
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The Relationship Reset:
This week, we’re tackling a common issue many couples face. A reader wrote in with this question:
“My wife seems stressed out all the time, and every time I try to help, it feels like I make things worse. I want to know what’s really happening here and how I can actually support her.”
If this resonates with you, you’re not alone. Relationships often hit a point where one partner feels stretched to their limits, and the other feels helpless trying to offer support. When your wife feels overwhelmed, it can be easy to misstep, even with the best intentions.
Here’s the truth: When your wife is carrying a heavy mental and emotional load, she needs you to step in—not just as a problem solver but as a calm, empathetic partner who understands how to communicate in a way that eases her burden rather than adds to it. This isn’t about fixing her stress; it’s about showing up with the kind of presence and leadership that creates trust and connection.
So how can you truly help her without making things worse? Let’s break it down into three actionable steps rooted in polarity and understanding.
Step 1: Stay Composed and Create Space
When your wife is overwhelmed, it’s natural to want to jump in and fix things. But often, that approach can backfire. The first thing she needs from you is a calm and steady presence. She needs to know you’re aware of her struggles and ready to understand her—not just solve her problems.
Start by letting her know you see what she’s going through and that you want to help. Say something like:
“I can see how much you’ve got on your plate right now, and I want you to know I’m here for you. I want to understand how I can make things easier.”
Sometimes, just hearing those words can make her feel less alone in her stress. It’s not about having all the answers; it’s about showing her that you care and creating space for her to express what’s on her mind.
Step 2: Ask the Magical Question
Once you’ve created that space, it’s time to take the next step: Ask her directly, “What do you need from me right now?”
This question is powerful because it shifts the focus from guessing to clarity. It shows her you’re genuinely invested in helping in a way that
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matters to her. It also helps her feel supported and safe enough to let go of some of the mental and emotional load she’s carrying.
When you approach her with confidence and a willingness to lead, it allows her to relax into the relationship. She no longer feels like she has to shoulder everything alone.
Step 3: Execute Above and Beyond
This is where the rubber meets the road. Once she tells you what she needs, follow through—and then go the extra mile. If she says she needs help managing the kids’ schedules, don’t just handle drop-offs and pick-ups; organize the calendar for the week. If she asks for help with chores, don’t just take out the trash—clean up the
whole kitchen.
When you consistently show her that you’re willing to step up and take things off her plate, you’re not just helping her feel less stressed— you’re building trust and deepening your connection. Over time, she’ll naturally begin to relax and feel more supported in the relationship, which creates a healthier dynamic for both of you.
Why This Matters
When one partner feels overwhelmed, it can put a strain on the entire relationship. As the man, it’s your role to bring stability and leadership into the dynamic. By staying composed, communicating effectively, and following through with action, you create an environment where your wife feels
seen, supported, and cared for.
So the next time she’s feeling overwhelmed, remember: Be calm, ask what she needs, and take meaningful action. With these steps, you’re not just addressing her stress—you’re building a stronger, more connected partnership.
Yehudah Kamman is a relationship coach and founder of Men of Integrity, dedicated to transforming lives and relationships. He helps men move from feeling stuck and disconnected to embodying strength, confidence, and authentic connection. Yehudah has also helped countless couples rekindle the honeymoon phase, creating deeper passion and harmony. Through his work, he guides individuals and couples toward greater self-awareness, purpose, and fulfillment. If you’d like to learn more, follow Yehudah on Instagram @men_of_integrity_life E: yehudah@menofintegrity.life
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Lou’s Views
An Executive Order Doomed From The Start
On January 20, 2025, President Trump signed an executive order that aimed to end birthright citizenship. Birthright citizenship is guaranteed by the Fourteenth Amendment to the Constitution, which states that “all persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the state wherein they reside.” This principle was confirmed by the 1898 Supreme Court case United States v. Wong Kim Ark, which clarified that children born in the U.S. to immigrant parents are citizens, regardless of their parents’ immigration status.
Trump acknowledges the Fourteenth Amendment but claims that its legislative intent was “to prevent the exclusion of people of African descent from eligibility for United States citizenship solely based on their race”.
A brief history of the Fourteenth Amendment is that it was adopted in 1868 as a direct response to the United States Supreme Court’s Dred Scott decision, which ruled that descendants of slaves could not be United States citizens despite having been born in the United States.
In response, the Amendment was designed to address racial inequality in part by granting citizenship to formerly enslaved Black people after the Civil War. Since then, the Supreme Court has long upheld birthright citizenship for individuals born in the United States, regardless of the immigration status of the baby’s parents.
The day after Trump issued his executive order, 18 Democratic state attorneys general joined the legal fight to block the move, describing it as unconstitutional. They filed a 50 page Complaint and provided several reasons why the Executive Order is unconstitutional. Their most compelling argument is that it violates the Separation of Powers doctrine.
The Constitution does not empower the President to unilaterally amend the Fourteenth Amendment. Article II, Section 3 of the United States Constitution requires that the President “shall take Care that the Laws be faithfully executed.” The President acts at the lowest ebb of his power if he acts contrary to the expressed or implied will of Congress. Youngstown Sheet & Tube Co. v. Sawyer, 343 U.S. 579, 637 (1952)
(Jackson, J., concurring). Moreover, there is no provision in the United States Constitution that authorizes the President to enact, amend, or repeal statutes. Clinton v. City of New York, 524 U.S. 417, 438 (1998).
Judge John Coughenour, a Ronald Reagan appointee who sits in Seattle, granted the emergency order halting implementation of the policy for the next 14 days while there are more briefings in the legal challenge. He took issue with Trump’s Order and was not shy to express his opinion on it. He said the Order was “blatantly unconstitutional” and issued a temporary restraining order to block it. “Where were the lawyers?” when the decision to sign the executive order was made, he asked. He said that it “boggled” his mind that a member of the bar would claim the order was constitutional.
Executive Orders are murky in terms of their constitutional value. For most national policy changes to occur, Congress must pass a law. An executive order is a way of sidestepping the legislative process of the federal government (at least in a limited way). Legal support for this executive power comes from Article II of the U.S. Constitution. These presidential proclamations carry the force of law. The president can use an executive order to implement policies for the federal government even when faced with opposition from Congress. However, an executive order cannot violate existing federal law.
In this instance, Trump’s legal team surely would have advised him that this Order has little to no hope of surviving constitutional scrutiny. So why did he do it? Presumably because he feels that it sets the tone for his hardline policy on immigration. This is in conjunction with The Department of Homeland Security authorizing law enforcement agents from across the federal government to partake in “investigating, determining the location of, and apprehending” undocumented migrants, issuing a directive aimed at operationalizing the president’s signature campaign promise on immigration.
So while this Executive Order has a big bark in the news, it has very little bite.
Lou Shapiro is a criminal defense attorney-certified specialist and legal analyst, but most importantly, makes the end-of-shul announcements at Adas Torah. He can be reached at LouisJShapiro@gmail.com.
A Taco Tax Tale: Why Your High School Friend Is Wrong About Tax Brackets
Lorenzo Nourafchan
There’s a peculiar species of financial advisor lurking in your Facebook feed. You know the type – the fellow who barely passed high school math but now dispenses tax wisdom with the confidence of someone who just discovered the calculator app on their phone. Their favorite sermon? “Don’t take that raise – it’ll bump you into a higher tax bracket and you’ll actually make less money!”
This is, to put it politely, nonsense wrapped in a tortilla of ignorance. But rather than bore you with tax tables and percentages, let me tell you about Lenny’s Casita, where the Cachete tacos are heavenly and the tax logic is clear.
Imagine your salary isn’t paid in boring old dollars but in Lenny’s tacos. (Stay with me here – this will make more sense than your high school friend’s LinkedIn posts about cryptocurrency.)
For your first 11,600 in earnings, you’re in the Veggie Taco bracket ($6 each). The IRS – those culinary critics of income – takes a modest 10% bite. “Simple but satisfying,” they say, dabbing their bureaucratic mouths with napkins.
Then you start earning at the Pollo Taco level ($8). The IRS says, “Ooh, grilled chicken thigh with caramelized pineapple! We’ll take 12% of these.” Notice something important here: they’re only taking 12% of the chicken tacos. Those first veggie tacos? Still just 10%.
Keep earning, and you’ll reach the Carne Asada level ($9). The IRS really loves that grilled beef – they
want 22% of those tacos. But – and this is the crucial bit – only of the carne asada tacos. Your veggie and chicken tacos remain untouched.
Finally, you reach the premium bracket: Lenny’s legendary Cachete tacos ($10). “Now that’s living!” exclaims the IRS, taking 24% of these confit beef cheek beauties. But again, only of the Cachete tacos.
Now, replace “tacos” with “dollars,” and you’ve got our tax system. It’s called marginal tax rates, and it’s about as threatening to your overall income as a vegan food critic is to Lenny’s brisket taco sales.
So the next time someone tells you to turn down a raise because of tax brackets, ask them if they’d refuse to upgrade from veggie to Cachete tacos just because the IRS wants a slightly bigger bite of the premium ones. The answer, like your high school friend’s understanding of taxes, should be obvious.
Remember: A bigger paycheck is like a bigger order at Lenny’s – even if someone takes a slightly larger portion of the fancy tacos, you’re still left with more food than you had before. And anyone who tells you differently probably shouldn’t be giving financial advice. Or running a taco stand, for that matter.
Lorenzo Nourafchan is the CEO of Northstar Financial Consulting Group, a full-service Accounting, tax, and fractional CFO firm specializing in Proactive
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Dogs, Dollars, and Dogma: A Tale of Untapped Customer Loyalty
There’s something rather peculiar about walking down the main street of an Orthodox Jewish neighborhood. The streets are bustling with life, but something’s missing – the joyful sight of people walking their dogs. It’s like watching “I Am Legend” without Will Smith’s loyal German Shepherd.
Now, before you dismiss this as merely a cultural curiosity, let me share an observation that might interest even the most pragmatic business owner: Dog people make extraordinarily loyal customers. And by “loyal,” I mean the kind of loyalty that makes a Labrador’s dedication to tennis balls look fickle.
Consider Starbucks, that clever purveyor of overpriced coffee. They figured out something brilliant with their “Puppuccinos” – free cups of whipped cream for dogs. The cost? Pennies. The return? Dog owners who will walk an extra three blocks past competitors just to visit the barista who knows their pup’s name. It’s probably the highest-return investment in customer loyalty since the invention of the punch card.
But it goes beyond coffee shops. Ben & Jerry’s offers dog-friendly ice cream. Several major banks keep water bowls and treats at their branches. Even Amazon has a “Pet Profiles” feature that remembers your furry friend’s preferences. These businesses understand a fundamental truth: Make a dog happy, and you’ve got their human’s heart – and wallet – for life.
Research backs this up. Studies show pet owners, particularly dog owners, tend to be more empathetic, more social, and – here’s the kicker – more loyal to brands that acknowledge their four-legged family members. They’re also more likely to recommend these businesses to others, probably because dogs are the ultimate ice-breaker for word-of-mouth marketing.
Which brings us back to those Orthodox Jewish neighborhoods. The traditional stigma against dogs as pets (rooted in historical circumstances rather than direct religious prohibition) isn’t just keeping away potential furry friends – it’s inadvertently creating a blind spot for businesses in these communities.
The solution doesn’t require a theological revolution. Simple gestures like placing water bowls outside shops or allowing well-behaved dogs inside can transform a business from just another store into a community landmark. It’s the kind of small investment that pays dividends in both goodwill and good business.
As an orthodox Jewish dog owner, I can tell you this from firsthand experience: how amazing it feels not to be shushed away by other orthodox Jewish business owners.
After all, anyone who’s ever seen a dog owner’s face light up when a stranger welcomes their pet knows this truth: The fastest way to a customer’s heart often has four legs and a wagging tail. And in business, as in life, sometimes the kindest gesture is also the smartest strategy.
The irony? The same values of chesed (kindness) and hachnassat orchim (hospitality) that are so central to Jewish tradition align perfectly with being welcoming to pets and their owners. Perhaps it’s time for a little dogma adjustment?
Justin Oberman is the Marketing Director and Marketing Editor of the LA Jewish Home and is the Co-Founder of a personal branding ad agency called Genius Scouts. He can be contacted at justin@geniusscouts.com
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Bridging Worlds: The Power of Shlichut
Ihave been blessed to serve as a shaliach twice: In the mid-80s, I spent two years in high school while with my family in Detroit, where my father taught at the local day school. Fifteen years later, my wife and I were teachers in Toronto for three years.
My family made aliyah from Chicago when I was just a baby.
I grew up bilingual, but culturally I always considered myself Israeli. I always knew about communities in the Diaspora, and even had some family there, but it’s different when you live abroad and experience firsthand the differences between life in Israel and in America.
My Detroit and Toronto years certainly increased my awareness of the need for bridges connecting Diaspora communities to Israel. To that extent, once we returned to Israel I taught overseas students here, hoping to reduce their fear of the unknown, expose them to Israeli culture and minimize the gap between them and their Israeli peers. In that sense, our shlichut never really ended.
There’s a constantly growing search in Diaspora communities for the right men and women to lead and inspire their communities, shuls, schools, youth movements and campuses. The challenge has only increased since COVID’s ‘great retirement’, when scores of teachers left the field. Whenever I meet representatives of overseas communities, the first thing they ask is “do you have shlichim for us?” They know that shlichim from Israel bring a unique added value. Even with the cultural and language barriers many shlichim encounter, their contribution is significant, and there’s a rising demand for it. This is what we aim to accomplish at the Shlichut Center founded by World Mizrachi.
Why is Religious Zionist shlichut critical? Our shlichim highlight the centrality of Eretz Yisrael and Medinat Yisrael. A few things have changed since the time of Avraham and Sarah - the first shlichim - though much remains the same. Teachers used to be the primary providers of information. Now, practically all information is available in the palm of our hands. The entire Talmud is available in English on your phone, and Khan Academy is the biggest school in the world.
Students need their teachers to provide what they cannot get from their screens.
In my eyes, a teacher’s most important role is to unconditionally support their students, genuinely care for their spirituality, and accept them without judgment even when in disagreement with their actions or beliefs – and this is something which our shlichim are trained to do. More than the Gemara and Tanach shiurim
they teach, the personal connections they develop make a difference. On college campuses, a significant part of the shaliach’s work is sitting with students one-on-one for coffee, mentoring and guiding them through uncertain and changing stages of life. Shlichim often host both observant and non-observant people for Shabbat, building relationships that sometimes continue for years to come. Regardless of how many WhatsApp groups people are on, they are looking for real human connections.
For many Israelis, it’s “out of sight, out of mind” with regard to Diaspora Jews, who are generally not ‘on their radar’. They might pause for a moment during tefillah, when they say, “raise high the banner to gather in our exiles…”, or when there’s an antisemitic attack abroad… but I cannot say that we Israelis understand our responsibility to Diaspora Jewry.
But shlichut is motivated by the question of why should Ahavat Yisrael stop at the borders of Medinat Yisrael?
More and more Israelis are beginning to realize that over 50 percent of the Jewish nation lives outside of Israel, including many ex-Israelis [over 500,000 in North America alone!]. Shlichut is a big part of building that awareness. And just as Birthright exposes American Jews to Israel, shlichut exposes Israelis to Diaspora Jewry.
On a personal level, shlichut is a win-win: it does wonders for your career and language development; it’s a galvanizing and formative experience for the family; it will make you stronger and more independent, and help you develop new skills; you’ll have a huge impact on other Jews and some of them will even make aliyah thanks to you! I personally know dozens of olim who can attest to that. And since each Jew making aliyah figuratively ‘brings with them’ thousands of other Jews – all of their future descendants – shlichim are indeed part of a world-changing movement!
The past year and a half have taught us the power of global Jewish unity in ways we certainly would have never hoped for but reminded us that wherever we are on earth, the concept of Am Ehad B’Lev Echad (one people with one heart) has never been clearer. We view the mission of our shlichim as more important than ever – to harness the power of our unity to create a stronger, prouder and more identifiable Jewish community. The opportunity has never been greater, but so to the need.
Rabbi Hillel Van Leeuwen is Head of World Mizrachi’s leadership programs, and head of the Shlichut Center.
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For someone who purchased a puppy, in some cities, such as Los Angeles, one must neuter their dog by four months old. What halachically may one do?
According to current Los Angeles city law (as of 2025) dogs (and cats) are required to be spayed (for females) or castrated (for males) after the age of four months, with some exemptions allowed. The exceptions are only limited to:
1) Dogs or cats where by being neutered this could cause their death. To prove this claim, a veterinarian would have to vouch in a letter that this is a valid concern. 2) Dogs used for law enforcement purposes. 3) Service or assistance dogs that assist disabled persons. 4) Competition dogs and cats. Thus, a typical dog owner who purchases a healthy new puppy in the city of Los Angeles (or other restricting cities) will in the majority of cases not be granted a neuter exemption. May one have the puppy neutered to comply with city law?
Prohibition to Castrate or Spay One’s Animal
Regarding offering karbanos it states, (Vayikra 22:24) “[Any animal whose testicles were] squashed, crushed, pulled out, or severed, you shall not offer up to the Lord, and in your land, you shall not do [it].”
The Talmud (Chagigah 14b) records: “ They asked Ben Zoma: what is the law with castrating a dog? He said to them: ‘And in your land, you shall not do’. [From here we derive] any [animal] that is in your land, you shall not do [castration].”
The Shulchan Aruch1 rules regarding males: “ It is forbidden to destroy 1 Shulchan Aruch (Even Haezer 5:11).
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the reproductive organs whether of a person or an animal or bird, whether they are non-kosher species or kosher species. Whether in Israel or the diaspora. Anyone who castrates should receive lashes on a Biblical level in any place…”
Regarding females, the Shulchan Aruch2 rules that it is forbidden to destroy their reproductive organs whether for a person or an animal, however, no lashes are given. It is permissible for a female to drink a liquid which would cause sterilization.3
Instructing a non-Jew to Neuter One’s Animal
Could one instruct a non-Jewish veterinarian to neuter one’s dog? The Talmud4 brings a dispute if a non-Jew is forbidden by way of the seven Noah-hide laws to castrate an animal, the Talmud does not bring a clear conclusion on the matter.5
In any case, the Shulchan Aruch6 rules that one may not instruct a non-Jew to neuter one’s animal.
2 Shulchan Aruch (Even Haezer 5:11). There is a debate if sirus (act of sterilization) for females is Biblically or Rabbinically forbidden. The Gr"a (Even Haezer 5:25) holds that sirus of a female is Biblically forbidden, however no lashes is given since there is no violation of " in your land, you shall not do [it]." The Taz (Even Haezer 5:7) holds that no lashes are given since the reproductive organs do not protrude from the animal.
3 Shulchan Aruch (Even Haezer 5:12).
4 Bava Metziah 90b. According to the views that hold that it is forbidden for a non-Jew to castrate an animal, so if a Jew instructs them to do so, the Jew would also violate 'Lifnei Iver' (do not put a stumbling block in front of the blind).
5 The Beis Shmuel (Even Haezer 5:16) brings a dispute in the Rishonim as to who we follow; the Rambam, Rosh and Rashba hold that a non-Jew is not forbidden to castrate an animal, whereas the Sma"g holds that a non-Jew is forbidden to castrate an animal.
6 Shulchan Aruch (Even Haezer 5:14).
However, if the non-Jew took the animal on their own and neutered it, it is permissible to keep the animal afterward. However, one may not set up a ruse to have the non-Jew neuter the animal for the Jew, if that was done, the Jew must sell the animal to another Jew and they may not keep it.7
The reason one may not give or tell a non-Jew to neuter one’s animal is that we follow the rule ‘amira lenachi’ (instructing a non-Jew to transgress for us) is a Rabbinical prohibition that applies to all halachic prohibitions and not only to Shabbos matters.8 Additionally, as previously mentioned, there are even poskim who hold that a non-Jew may also not neuter an animal, and thus ‘lifnei iver’ (placing a stumbling block in front of the blind) would apply, however, this matter is debated among the poskim.9
Dina D’Malchusa Dina (Law of the Land is the Law)
Cities that enforce neutering laws claim that it benefits the city so that there are fewer stray animals (sometimes even dangerous to the public) in the city. Although the rule of dina d’malchusa dina, when they are fair laws, is a halachically binding obligation, thus one must keep local government laws as part and parcel also as a halachik religious duty.10 However, there is halachic debate as to how far-reaching the rules of dina d’malchus dina apply. It is clear that dina d’malchusa dina cannot override
7 See Bava Metziah 90b; Shulchan Aruch (Even Haezer 5:14).
8 See Bava Metziah 90a about the question if 'amira lenachri' applies to all prohibitions. See also Beis Shmuel 5:16 and Rema (Choshen Mishpat 338:6) that rule that 'amira lenachri' applies to all other halachik prohibitions.
9 See Beis Shmuel 5:16 (cited earlier).
10 See Gittin 10b. Rema (Choshen Mishpat 369:8).
Biblical or Rabbinical prohibitions, for if that were the case, the whole Torah would be abolished!11
(It remains unclear if one could argue and petition that mandatory neutering laws violate the first amendment, and that there must be an added ‘religious exemption’ option.12)
Halachik Potential Solutions to Neuter one’s Animal
Later poskim have learnt merit on the practice of the owner selling13 his animal to a non-Jew and instructing the non-Jew to tell a different nonJew to neuter the animal. The Jew then buys back the neutered animal from the non-Jew. It is important that the non-Jew doing the neutering does not know that they are doing it on behalf of a Jewish owner.14
11 See Shach (Choshen Mishpat 73:39). See also Shulchan Aruch (Admur Hazaken Hilchos Gzeila 5).
12 Rafi Moghadam, Esq. wrote: "Animal neuter laws, as neutral laws of general applicability, generally do not violate religious liberty under the federal Constitution. In _Employment Div., Ore. Dept. of Human Res. v. Smith_ (1990), the U.S. Supreme Court held that the right to free exercise of religion does not exempt individuals from complying with valid and neutral laws of general applicability, even if such laws incidentally burden religious practices.
In short, while animal neuter laws are generally upheld as neutral laws of general applicability, they could be subject to challenge under RFRA if they substantially burden religious practices, requiring the government to justify the law under strict scrutiny. Such laws could also be prone to attack if the Supreme Court formally ditches Smith in favor of a different standard.Trying to get a religious exemption from the law is probably an uphill battle. But I’d be surprised if the neuter law is enforced more than sporadically."
13 The sale should be that the nonJew pays money to the Jew and then takes the animal to acquire it.
14 See Chasam Sofer (Choshen Mishpat 185) and Haelef Li'cha Shlomo 23. The Maharam Shik (11) writes a suggestion to learn merit on those who sell their animals
However, some poskim will only rely on this method for a female animal but not for a male animal.15 Some poskim also do not even agree with this allowance altogether since it is still a clear ruse16
to a non-Jew with the intent that a different non-Jew will neuter their animal. Even though this would be a ruse sale and according to the Rema (5:14), one cannot do this. However, based upon the Chavos Yair (53) that on Shabbos in a pressing loss, one could instruct a non-Jew to instruct another non-Jew to do a violation act for them on Shabbos since this would be a 'shvus of a shvus' in a place where there is a loss. Even though that matter is not clearly agreed upon by all the poskim. (See Mishna Berurah 307:24 who quotes from the Sefer HaChayim that one can rely on the opinions that allow 'amira d'amira' when there is a big financial loss.)
So, with regard to neutering an animal which is left as a doubt in the Talmud, so when one non-Jew (who bought the animal) instructs another nonJew to neuter, the matter is like a 'sfek sfeika' (double doubt) of a Rabbinical prohibition which we could allow. However, the non-Jewish veterinarian doing the surgery, should not know that they are doing this for a Jew, because if that would be the case, a Jew could not benefit from it as stated in Shulchan Aruch (Even Haezer 5:14). Shoel Umashiv (Mahadura Tlisa'ah 1:2229) explains an additional logic; when the non-Jew buys the dog, he is not obligated to sell back the dog to the Jew. So, in the case of instructing another non-Jew to neuter the dog, so we can rely even if there is a ruse in the sale, (see Shabbos 139b).
15 So I heard from Rav Shmuel Furest, that we can rely upon the advice of the Maharam Shik with regard to female dogs where the prohibition of neutering is lighter than for a male dogs. It is noteworthy to mention, that even the Maharam Shik was only writing a "learning merit" on the practice, but was not initially endorsing this practice.
16 See Beis Shlomo (8) who writes that this practice may not be done on a set basis. The Rema (5:14 based upon a Terumas Hadeshen 299) who allows a sale to a non-Jew who then has another non-Jew neutering
Conclusion
One may not arrange a non-Jew to neuter one’s pet. Many frum pet owners rely on the poskim that suggest selling a pet to a non-Jew with the instruction to have it neutered and then buying it back, however
as those poskim write, this is only a ‘limud zechus’ (a learning merit). Some poskim are more comfortable with the above solution only for a female pet. The easiest solution (for those who are determined to have a neutered pet) is to purchase an already neutered pet.
the animal, refers to a sincere sale, where the Jew does not intend to repurchase back from the non-Jew, and thus, if the sale is intended as a ruse (to buy back), so the leniency of the Rema does not apply
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Breaking the Chains of the Mind Parshat Bo
Parshat Bo unfolds a pivotal moment in the narrative of the Bnei Yisrael’s journey towards freedom. It contains the last three plagues, culminating with the exodus of the new Jewish nation. Amidst these dramatic occurrences, we can identify elements of human behavior leading to Pharoah’s motivation to hardening his heart and subsequently Hashem hardening his heart for him. Many classical commentators address how Hashem could take away Pharoah’s free will and harden his heart against his will. In examining this portion through the lens of cognitive dissonance and the sunken cost fallacy, we can gain insights into the human psyche and answer the question of the commentators.
Cognitive dissonance refers to the mental discomfort or tension that a person experiences when holding two or more contradictory beliefs, values, or attitudes simultaneously. The sunk cost fallacy is a cognitive bias where individuals continue investing in a decision based on the cumulative prior investment (sunk costs), despite new evidence suggesting that the cost will not be recouped. Both concepts highlight the influence of psychological factors on decision-making and behavior. Cognitive dissonance encourages individuals to resolve internal conflicts by changing beliefs or behaviors, while the sunk cost fallacy can lead to suboptimal decision-making by focusing on past investments rather than future outcomes.
The Shemot Rabbah discusses how Pharoah hardened his own heart fives times after five plagues. Pharoah experienced the cognitive dissonance of seeing the suffering his nation faced due to plagues and simultaneously wanted to continue his supremacy over his nation of slaves. In an effort to resolve this tension, he hardened his heart to reduce his empathy towards his nation and Bnei Yisrael. The Chizkuni mentions that the torah uses the word ‘Gam – Also this time’ referring to the occasions in which Pharoah hardened his heart, indicating Pharoah feeling justified by his actions. Pharoah continued to see the plagues damage to his nation and yet continued to push forward after each plague due to the cumulative prior investment he had already placed on not letting them go. Rabbeinu Bachya says it is totally unnatural for a person experiencing the kind of plagues Pharaoh and the Egyptians endured not to suffer a total mental collapse. The Torah had already described how, during the first five plagues, Pharaoh had drawn on his psychological reservoirs of obstinacy to stand fast in
face of these plagues.
Based on seeing the direct impact of these two psychological phenomena on Pharaoh’s behavior and the continued direction of his evil inclination, the Shemot Rabbah further answers our question above. Rabbi Shimon ben Lakish said “Since Hashem sent five times to him and he took no notice, Hashem then said: ‘You have stiffened your neck and hardened your heart; well, I will add to your uncleanness’ (Midrash Rabbah, Exodus 13:3).” Pharaoh’s reluctance to release the them exemplifies this fallacy. As the plagues intensify, Pharaoh’s refusal becomes a matter of pride and an unwillingness to let go of what he perceives as a significant investment. Despite the mounting costs and suffering, Pharaoh persists in his course of action, driven by a reluctance to accept the sunk costs and change his decision thereby losing his free will of choice. Rabbi Moshe Chaim Luzzatto wrote, “Our external actions have an effect on our inner feelings. We have more control over our actions than our emotions, and if we utilize what is in our power, we will eventually acquire what is not as much in our power.”
Here are three tips for dealing with cognitive dissonance and the sunk cost fallacy:
1. Recognize and Reflect on Emotional Biases
Like Pharaoh, we can fall into patterns of justifying harmful decisions to reduce discomfort. Take time to pause and reflect on your motivations when faced with internal conflict. Ask yourself: Am I making this choice because it’s right, or because I’m unwilling to face the discomfort of changing my stance? Journaling or discussing decisions with a trusted advisor can help uncover whether pride or emotional investment is influencing your choices.
2. Focus on Future Outcomes, Not Past Investments
Pharaoh’s attachment to his past investments led to his downfall. To avoid this, shift your mindset toward the future: evaluate decisions based on their potential benefits or risks moving forward, rather than what you’ve already invested. Use tools like cost-benefit analyses or visual-
ization techniques to break free from the trap of sunk costs.
3. Take Action to Change Beliefs and Feelings
As Rabbi Moshe Chaim Luzzatto teaches, external actions can influence internal emotions. If cognitive dissonance arises, instead of passively hoping your emotions will resolve, take proactive steps toward change. For instance, if you feel torn between holding onto an old habit and adopting a healthier one, begin small actions in the new direction— those actions can reshape your inner feelings over time.
The interplay of cognitive dissonance and the sunken cost fallacy in Parshat Bo serves as a cautionary tale for us. It prompts reflection on our own lives, encouraging us to examine situations where we may hold conflicting beliefs or persist in decisions due to invested time, energy, or resources. May we strive to navigate our lives with clarity, embracing the wisdom to recognize when we are held captive by cognitive dissonance and sunken cost, and summon the courage to choose a path of liberation and growth.
Elan Javanfard, M.A., L.M.F.T. is a Consulting Psychotherapist focused on behavioral health redesign, a Professor of Psychology at Pepperdine University, & a lecturer related to Mindfulness, Evidence-Based Practices, and Suicide Prevention. Elan is the author of Psycho-Spiritual Insights: Exploring Parasha & Psychology, a weekly blog. He lives in the Los Angeles Pico Robertson community with his wife and three children and can be reached at Elan.Javanfard@gmail.com.
More Peas, Please
Sholom Feldheim
Our daughter and son-in-law are visiting from Israel with our two adorable grandchildren: Ari, almost three, and Shira, eighteen months. My friends asked me how I’m enjoying it.
“It’s total chaos,” I answered, “but I love it.”
You see, I’m used to being productive. Last month, I rebuilt my transmission, wrote three book reviews for the New York Times, and finished Daf Yomi—all while sitting at red lights!
But this chaos, with its countless interruptions, is hard to navigate. It’s like a toobig hat that keeps falling over my eyes—I can’t get anything done. There’s not a single day that I don’t miss something: brushing my teeth, showering, dovening—you name it. I can’t write half a page before the cries come from the crib, “Up, Saba, up.”
I was on duty; what could I do?
I tried waking earlier, five instead of
5:30, then 4:30, but like a bigger pail with a small hole in the bottom, I gained nothing.
Enough of me—let me tell you about my grandchildren. My grandson, almost three years old, woke me one morning holding a guitar. You gotta picture this: the top of his head reaches my mattress. I’m just waking up when he appears at the bedside with his beloved toy guitar in hand and says, “Ah pick, Saba, ah pick.” Ari wants a guitar pick. He’s not even three, and he already knows how to hold and strum a guitar with a pick! Is that cute or what? And he poses too, looking at the ceiling, spinning around as he strums, wearing a grin so big it could melt an iceberg.
Back to my kvetching. I told my wife I needed some “me time,” and if I didn’t go to the Jewish Community Center soon, I would go insane, and she would never see me again.
“So what? You think you are so wonderful to see. Believe me, I’ve seen better.”
That’s the respect I get around here.
ble if I wasn’t. [Remember that gruesome scene in Jurassic Park.]
When I got home, Shira was sitting in her high chair eating peas and carrots, mostly the peas. She methodically shoveled them onto her fork and savored each pea, using her tiny, greasy fingers to pick them out of the bowl as they fell. When she finished her portion, she said in that angelic little voice Hashem confers on our little ones to enlarge their cuteness [so we better tolerate changing diapers], “More peas, p[l]ease.”
Now, I would like to tell you about Shira. She loves to climb; if it’s vertical, she climbs it. She’s hoping to represent Israel in the 2040 Olympics. Her sport is Rockwall climbing. Her parents live on the fourth floor of a six-story building, and Shira scales the building, climbing up the terraces instead of using the elevator—eighteen months old!
So, the following day, at the crack of dawn, I drove to the JCC for Morning Warrior Yoga. Iris is a terrific instructor; her class is energizing and cures the blues. She takes us through various poses: stretching, breathing, and balancing our flesh and bones as if we were made of putty. There are many levels of experience in the class—seven to be exact, and not all of us can execute every pose, but Iris insists everyone can “melt into the mat and connect with their core.”
What core is she talking about? I later learned she was talking about the muscles in our midsection. But aren’t I already connected to my midsection? I mean, I’d be in trou-
So cute; she pronounces “please” without the “l.” Moreover, she laughs at her little play on words and repeats, “More peas, pease.”
This incident thrilled me to my core, and while it’s not the same core that Iris is talking about, I am connecting to it, and the intimacy makes my spirit soar. Not only this, but Shalva also enabled me to finish writing something for the first time this month.
Yay, Grandkids!
Do you know…? Parshas Vayeitzei
Do You Know...? Parshas Bo
when Yakov came to Har Hamoria?
wanted Yakov to go to sleep so He made
What was the makkoh of arbeh??
1. Mitzrayim was covered in grasshoppers
didn’t pay the electric bill switched to Daylight Losing Time sending him to Harhamoria, Alabama, time he realized it, it was very late
2. The Mitzriyim had to hop on the grass
3. All the pickled grasshoppers went sour
4. Their grasshoppers began tasting like tofu
rocks that Yakov put around his
What was the makkoh of choshech?
1. The Mitzriyim were transported to the dark ages
into a fluffy pillow rock band
2. The whole Mitzrayim became dark
3. All the bulbs went out at once
a donut eating contest into one stone
4. All their milchig chocolate turned dark
the Yarden river?
What did the Yidden do when it was dark?
1. They turned on the lights
his staff until the winter when it froze, and he ferry across the chicken and the fox, then the chicken back, then ……..
2. They found all the Mitzriyim’s valuables
3. They played Marco Polo
4. They invented Daylight Savings Time
What did Paroh say the Yidden must leave behind?
1. Their cattle
2. Their iPad 5 DSi WiiU 10,000s
What was the name of Lavan’s wife?
1. Adina
What did Paroh tell Moshe in the middle of the night?
2. Adidas
1. Please leave my land!!!
3. Lavanah
2. Have you seen my blankie?
3. Is it midnight or is it makas choshech again?
4. Mrs. Stevens
4. Did you hear the one about the foolish king who went to the dentist to get a crown?
How did Lavan trick Yakov?
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1. He claimed his name was Besuel
What were the yidden told to tie to their beds?
1. A lamb
2. A llama
2. There were no Franks ‘n Blanks at the smorgasbord
R3. He had a secret card in his sleeve
3. Grasshoppers
4. A blue shirt if they’re on the blue team and a red shirt if they’re on the red team
4. He gave him Leah instead of Rochel
What did Lavan say about why he tricked Yakov?
What happened when the Mitzry firstborns saw the lambs?
abbi Elimelech Biderman shared a remarkable story about a Rabbi in Israel who was struggling to marry off his child and needed a significant amount of money he didn’t have. With no other choice, he decided to travel to America to collect charity.
1. It’s not our minhag for the younger sister to marry first
1. They ran to Paroh and started a huge fight
2. I trick people for a living
2. It was total bedlam!
3. I don’t hold of the Eruv
3. They all tried to trade their bechora for lentil soup
4. They started counting them and fell asleep
Before he left, he sought a blessing from his Rabbi, who gave him two pieces of advice:
1. Always say thank you with a smile, no matter the amount you receive— be it $5,000, $500, $5, or even 5 cents.
4. Did you hear about the mommy goat who claimed she couldn’t give birth and she wasn’t kidding?
2. Continue learning Torah whenever you’re not out collecting.
How did Lavan trick Yakov again?
What was the tenth makkoh?
1. All the firstborn Mitzrys died
1. He changed his promise of payment
home, implying there is such a thing as a good dog. Your dog gives tzedaka—he must be a good one,” the Rabbi said.
Amused and impressed, the wealthy man asked him to share this compliment with his neighbor across the street. Though hesitant, the Rabbi agreed. When the neighbor answered the door, the Rabbi relayed the message. Moments later, the neighbor rushed across the street and embraced the wealthy man—it was his estranged father-in-law. The two hadn’t spoken in months due to a bitter disagreement about the dog, but the Rabbi’s words bridged their divide.
the well when he saw Rochel?
3. Esav and 400 men
4. Mr. Stevens
for water for his camels selfie put her in a box the heavy stone Yakov?
Which mitzvah were the Yidden given at that time?
1. To eat stuffed cabbage on yom tov
2. The mitzvah to determine Rosh Chodesh
3. Mitzvah Boulevard
4. Not to say corny jokes like, “Where do Egyptins go when their backs hurt? To a Cairo-practor!”
and he wanted his mummy giving hugs
National Hug-a-Lavan Day checking for hidden money and gifts
According to the song, what was Paroh wearing when he went to find Moshe in the middle of the night?
1. A T-shirt that said “I’m the king of Egypt and all I get is this lousy T-shirt”
any money or gifts? all from him Spirit Airlines gashmiyus!
2. His nightgown
3. Pajamas
4. Floaties
glove compartment was full of gloves room for gifts
2. The firstborn Mitzrys went cordless bungee jumping
3. All the boils were covered in lice
2. He claimed he didn’t know what speckled or spotted sheep were
4. All the farm animals were scared to death when they saw Paroh in pajamas
3. He said, “I thought you said, ‘dotted sleep’!”
The Rabbi embarked on his journey but found it to be extremely disheartening. Donations trickled in—just a dollar here, a dollar there—and most people ignored him altogether. Despite this, he remembered his Rabbi’s words and did his best to smile, express gratitude, and maintain his learning.
4. When he changed the clocks, he sprang backward and fell forward
What did the Jewish women take out of Mitzrayim?
1. Tambourines
Why was Lavan upset that Yakov left secretly?
2. Snack bags and water bottles
1. Someone stole his idols
3. Dark chocolate
4. It was yom tov, so, stuffed cabbage
2. Someone stole his iPad 5 DSI WiiU 10,000
3. He wanted to give him shliach mitzvah gelt
What must you do with a firstborn donkey?
4. He loved giving hugs!
1. Play Pin-the-tail-on-the-donkey
2. Exchange it for a sheep
As his trip neared its end, he had only collected a fraction of what he needed. A last-ditch effort led him to a wealthy neighborhood, where he went door to door knocking, but no one answered. Finally, at one house, the door opened— only to reveal a large barking dog. Frightened, the Rabbi turned to run when he heard a voice from inside saying, “Don’t be afraid; come in, Rabbi.”
What did Yaakov tell Lavan to explain why he ran away?
3. Exchange it for lentil soup
4. Make sure it fasts on Erev Pesach
1. I was afraid you wouldn’t let me leave
2. I was afraid you would hug me again
3. The sheep were giving me baaaad dreams
4. First you take across the chicken and the fox, then you bring the chicken back, then ……..
Inside the grand home, the wealthy owner asked how he could help. The Rabbi shared his situation, and the man, in a humiliating gesture, gave a ten-dollar bill to his dog and instructed the dog to deliver it to the Rabbi. It was painful enough to receive so little, but to have it handed to him by a dog was deeply degrading. Still, the Rabbi remembered his Rabbi’s advice. He smiled, thanked the man graciously, and even went further, complimenting the dog.
“The Gemara teaches that a person shouldn’t raise a bad dog in his
Overwhelmed with gratitude, the wealthy man turned back to the Rabbi and wrote him a check for $18,000— enough to cover the wedding expenses.
At that moment, all the hardship, rejection, and humiliation the Rabbi had endured during his trip melted away. He realized how Hashem had prepared him for this moment, guiding him to the right person and the right words to say.
This story teaches us the power of gratitude, perseverance, and maintaining emunah (faith) even during trying times. Sometimes, we can’t see the full picture, and our struggles feel overwhelming. Yet, Hashem has a plan, and every step—even the difficult ones—can lead us to the blessing we seek. When we remain grateful, positive, and faithful, we often find that the path to our success was already prepared for us by Hashem. Keep hoping, keep praying, and trust that Hashem will provide exactly what we need in the right time.
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Streamlining Your Soul: 6
Business Strategies for Personal Growth and Fulfillment Special Mother-Daughter Chessed Opportunity for the 7th Grade Girls of Yeshivat Yavneh
President Trump wants to shake up and streamline the US Federal government. Whether you’re a skeptic or fan, consider not what a policy wonk would do, but rather how a tech CEO would shake things up if their company was deep in debt and slow in execution. Here are the 6 principles taken from the online blog Axios. We adapted them to Jewish sources as a guide for running your personal life and achieving self-fulfillment:
1. Simplify, Simplify, Simplify
Just as businesses streamline operations, simplify your personal life by cutting out unnecessary distractions, commitments, and material clutter. A life that is focused and free from excess adds value and joy.
Simplicity in living is a sign of spiritual refinement, and the pursuit of unnecessary luxuries or distractions detracts from one’s true purpose. (Maimonides - Guide for the Perplexed, 3:51)
“The more possessions, the more worries.” (Pirkei Avot 4:10) The pursuit of wealth and material excess often complicates life and leads to unnecessary stress.
2. Cut Costs (of time, energy, and resources)
Just like a business reduces expenses to thrive, manage your personal resources—time, energy, and finances—more efficiently. If you’re spending too much time or energy on activities that don’t help you grow or bring joy, it’s time to scale back.
Don’t over-extend yourself financially or emotionally in the pursuit of spiritual or material gains. Moderation in all things ensures that resources are not exhausted in vain. (Talmud - Pesachim 50b)
Don’t overburden yourself financially in charity or personal endeavors. In matters of personal resources, balance your giving with an ability to sustain yourself. (Maimonides - Laws of Charity, 10:7)
“If you’ve gained much, don’t make a big show of it.” (Pirkei Avot 2:2) Use your resources wisely and don’t overspend on appearances.
3. Bet Big on Personal Growth
Just as business and government focus on high-impact areas like AI or space travel to grow exponentially, focus on areas that allow you to grow at a rapid pace —learning new skills, taking on bigger challenges, and seeking experiences that push your comfort zone.
Someone who constantly strives to learn and grow spiritually and intellectually is truly great. The pursuit of wisdom, knowledge, and skills is an investment that yields great personal growth. (Talmud - Avodah Zarah 19b)
Practice constant, focused effort to engage in the acquisition of wisdom and knowledge. (Maimonides - Torah Study, 1:9) a lifelong practice of Torah study is the most valuable personal investment we can make.
“Who is rich? One who is happy with his portion.” (Pirkei Avot 4:1) Growth isn’t just about external success, but also about the internal development of gratitude and satisfaction.
4. Break Stuff (Embrace Change)
Change is painful, but it’s necessary for growth.
“The world was created through ten utterances” (Talmud - Brachot 7a). Creation involves bringing something new into existence, which often necessitates breaking from the old. Change, while disruptive, is necessary for new growth and transformation.
Personal transformation requires a conscious effort to break away from past mistakes and unhealthy habits. (Maimonides - Teshuva, 2:4)
“In a place where there are no men, strive to be a man.” (Pirkei Avot 2:5) Even when faced with challenge or opposition, it is important to break the status quo and create the change necessary.
5. Ignore the Whiners (Overcome Fear of Criticism)
Many people get bogged down by others’ opinions, whether friends, family, or even strangers online. To lead a fulfilling life, develop a strong sense of conviction and ignore the naysayers.
“The righteous are not afraid of public scorn.” (Talmud - Brachot 4a) Don’t be overly concerned with public opinion. Criticism from others should not deter from acting according to principles and goals.
Have the strength of character to ignore negative criticism when acting in accordance with what is just, wise or necessary. (MaimonidesCharacter Traits, 2:4)
“Do not be afraid of the opposition to your ideas or actions.” (Pirkei Avot 4:20) Focus on truth and integrity, even when it attracts criticism from others.
6. Be Comfortable with Discomfort
Change, growth and progress come with discomfort. Instead of seeking constant comfort, welcome discomfort as a sign of progress. Whether it’s physical discomfort from working out, emotional discomfort from confronting fears, or mental discomfort from stretching your intellectual boundaries, discomfort is a sign you’re on the right track.
“Without pain there is no reward.” (TalmudBrachot 5a) Challenges and discomfort are part of the process of growth and fulfillment.
Real growth involves the difficult emotional work and discomfort of confronting one’s misdeeds. (Maimonides - Teshuva, 10:3)
“Whoever does not accept discomfort for the sake of growth, will never succeed.” (Pirkei Avot 4:4) Overcoming hardship is key to personal and spiritual progress.
Seek out opportunities that challenge you. When something feels uncomfortable, ask yourself, “How can I grow from this?”
Mrs. Carli Becker’s 7th grade girls, and their mothers, had an inspiring evening with Galit Horowitz at LevLA as part of their yearlong chessed program called GEMS: Give, Empower, Meaning and Support. The girls, our “gems”, are involved in all different forms of chessed throughout the year - including a clothing drive, mothers’ helpers, Tomchei Shabbos and other activities.
This week, the GEMS program brought them to LevLA - a beautiful, 6 unit, bikur cholim house in the heart of our community. At LevLA, people from around the world seeking medical treatment in LA find a beautiful apartment, home-cooked meals, transportation to and from the hospital, and so much more. Galit and her husband Shlomo personally oversee every detail of their guests’ stay with so much love. The girls and their moms got to tour the facility and hear Galit’s heart wrenching story about the personal experience that inspired her to dedicate her life to helping families facing medical crises. A huge thank you to Galit for opening up her home and her heart to us. We hope the girls will continue their newfound relationship with LevLA by volunteering there throughout the year.
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JFLA Offers Zero-Interest, Zero-Fee Loans to People of all Faiths and Backgrounds for Fire Relief
LOS ANGELES, CA - Jewish Free Loan Association (JFLA) announces its initiative to provide zero-interest, zero-fee loans to individuals, non-profits, and small businesses affected by the recent wildfires in the Los Angeles area. These loans are available to people of all faiths and backgrounds who live in Los Angeles, Santa Barbara, or Ventura Counties who have been impacted by the devastating wildfires.
JFLA recognizes the urgent need for financial assistance in the wake of the wildfires and is committed to helping the community recover and rebuild. The organization is offering loans of up to $25,000 for eligible applicants to assist with temporary housing, transportation, food, medicine, and other essential needs. Additionally, JFLA has loans of up to $10,000 available for individuals without a guarantor.
“We understand the immense challenges faced by those affected by the wildfires,” said Rachel Grose, Executive Director of JFLA. “Our goal is to provide immediate financial relief to help individuals, families, and businesses get back on their feet as quickly as possible.”
JFLA is also extending its support to non-profits and small businesses impacted by the wildfires. These loans are up to $50,000 and can be used for inventory purchases, relocation costs, signage and marketing, replacement of computers and essential equipment, and more. Loans of up to $10,000 are available to non-profits and small businesses without a guarantor.
The application process for JFLA’s wildfire relief loans is designed to be simple and efficient, with a dedicated team ready to assist applicants throughout the process. Those in need of financial assistance are encouraged to apply for a loan by visiting the JFLA website at www.jfla.org.
To ensure that JFLA can continue providing emergency loans to those affected by the wildfires, the organization is calling on the community for support. Donations can be made directly to JFLA through their website; every contribution will make a significant difference in the lives of those in need.
For more information about JFLA’s Fire Relief Fund loans or to make a donation, please visit www.jfla.org.
About Jewish Free Loan Association: Jewish Free Loan Association (JFLA) is a non-profit organization that provides zero-interest, zero-fee loans to individuals, families, and businesses in need. JFLA has been serving the community since 1904 and is committed to helping people of all faiths and backgrounds achieve financial stability and self-sufficiency.
“Uncomfortable
Conversations with a Jew” Wins National Jewish Book Award
Noa Tishby and Emmanuelle Acho’s Groundbreaking Dialogue Recognized for Its Impact and Insight on Education and Jewish Identity
New York — Noa Tishby was announced today as the winner of the National Jewish Book Award: Education and Jewish Identity, alongside co-author Emmanuelle Acho, for their New York Times bestseller Uncomfortable Conversations with a Jew. The prestigious award honors important figures that contribute to the ecosystem of Jewish thought and ideas.
Uncomfortable Conversations with a Jew was selected for its powerful, candid, and thought-provoking dialogue that explores the complexities of Jewish identity, antisemitism, and the often-overlooked intersection of race and religion. Published during a crucial moment in Jewish history, the book is a series of deeply personal and sometimes uncomfortable conversations between Tishby and Acho. The pair tackles topics from historical prejudice to contemporary social justice struggles, reinforcing a longstanding allyship between the Black and Jewish communities.
“Writing this book with Emmanuel was an opportunity to engage in honest and impactful conversations about identity, history, and allyship,” said Tishby. “At a time when these topics are more relevant than ever, we wanted to create a resource that encourages understanding and unity. I’m deeply honored that the National Jewish Book Award committee has recognized our work and its contribution to these vital discussions.”
Tishby, known for her dynamic presence and fearless advocacy for Jewish causes, uses her platform to challenge stereotypes, amplify marginalized voices, and promote inclusivity. She has become a leading figure in the fight against antisemitism, and her work continues to inspire change on a global scale.
The 74th National Jewish Book Award ceremony will take place in New York City on March 12, 2025 during the JCC Manhattan’s “Books That Changed My Life” Festival.
Uncomfortable Conversations with a Jew is available at all major retailers, in both hardcover and digital formats. The paperback version will be available March 18, 2025.
PJ Library Relaunches Story Podcast for Ages 5+
There’s nothing like story time with your kids… but sometimes, you can’t be the reader and the chauffeur and the cook. Join the parents turning to PJ Library for trusted podcasts that help provide quality, captivating entertainment for their kids’ insatiable appetites.
On January 16, the beloved PJ Library and NAPPA and Parent’s Choice Awards-winning podcast Have I Got a Story for You! is set to relaunch with a 10-episode Torah Stories drop. These stories, which illuminate the morals and messages of bible characters from a Jewish perspective, will help bring to life Jewish traditions, culture, and history for kids ages 5+.
With little time to scrupulously wade through podcast content, parents need trusted brands to turn to so they know their children will be entertained by age-appro-
priate, values aligned stories. PJ Library, which has been sending beloved Jewish books straight to families’ mailboxes since 2005, brings a household name and parent-approved themes to their little ones.
“When we launched our three kid story podcasts in 2019, we knew we had the opportunity to fill a gap,” says Alli Thresher, Director of Digital Content for PJ Library. “There was plenty of Bible storytelling, but very little from a Jewish perspective, and even less that could help break down the sometimes complicated stories of our tradition for young listeners,” they continued. “Audio, as a medium, provides a totally different avenue to start bringing those stories to kids. And because their parents know us and love us, they can hit ‘play’ without having to do too much extra vetting.”
Have I Got a Story for You! features a single narrator who tells the tales of Mo-
Tses, Ruth, Deborah, Aaron, Rebekah, the tower of Babel, and more, in a calm format appropriate for bedtime, naptime, playtime, or car listening. It joins PJ Library Presents’ two other magical, top-rated Webby Award-honored family podcasts, Beyond the Bookcase and Afternoons with Mimi, which bring Jewish traditions, culture, holidays, and values to life for kids of all ages.
Tune into the Have I Got a Story for You! wherever you get your podcasts and look out for the new episodes dropping Jan 16. On the go or at home, now you can bring Jewish stories everywhere.
Questions about Have I Got a Story for You! or interested with an interview with Alli? Email Naomi Barnett, nbarnett@hgf. org.
About PJ Library: PJ Library inspires joyful Jewish experiences by sending free storybooks and activities to families with children ages 0-12 and offering ways to connect with community. The program was founded in 2005 by the Harold Grinspoon Foundation (HGF) and, with the support of generous donors and partners, now distributes books in seven languages to more than 650,000 children in over 40 countries every month. The PJ Library family experience is built around the monthly storybooks and also includes family-focused holiday guides and other free gifts. Anyone who visits PJ Library’s website can hear original storytelling podcasts and explore a vast collection of Jewish parenting resources. The program welcomes families across the diversity of Jewish life. Learn more or sign up for monthly children’s books at pjlibrary.org.
The Chanuka SimXa Shabbaton Inspires and Uplifts
he annual SimXa Shabbaton that took place on December 26th-29th, over Shabbos Chanuka, in Marina Del Rey, CA was an inspiring and enjoyable event for both first-time and veteran attendees. With its theme of Unlocking the Supernatural Powers Within Us, the Shabbaton encouraged the attendees to reach beyond the usual and the ordinary and to form deeper connections with themselves, with others, and with the Creator.
Ilanit Abehsera, who attended the SimXa Shabbaton for the first time, describes it as “really amazing. The organizers gave of themselves so much. Everything ran smoothly and was very pleasant. The speakers were very approachable.” Ilanit especially enjoyed Rabbi Reuven Wolf’s talk on current events, which she found “mindboggling.”
Other speakers included Rabbi Aryeh Katzin, Director of RAJE (Russian American Jewish Experience), Miriam Yerushalmi, the author of many children’s and adult books, speaker, counselor, and family therapist, and Esther Tebeka, an acupuncturist who shared both her spiritual journey and her expertise in natural health.
The attendees were a diverse crowd, a mix of Russian- and English-speaking Jews. Ilanit did not know most of the attendees, but she found herself immediately connecting with “lovely people” and making new friends. She loved the atmosphere of learning and growth and was impressed by so many people who keep coming back to learn year after year.
The highlight of this year’s Shabbaton was the dedication of SimXa Company’s own Sefer Torah, dedicated to peace and unity in Eretz Yisrael. VJ Hirsch, one of the attendees, describes it as “a truly moving experience.” He appreciated the opportunity to hold the scribe’s wrist as he completed one of the last letters of the scroll. VJ wrote, “Then I became more overwhelmed with how the celebrations continued... The singing, the jumping, the dancing, the Torah, the movement with the Torah, the thought that this is what keeps the Jewish people in existence and together for thousands of years.”
Esther Davidoff, who heads the SimXa Company together with her husband Moshe, was also very moved by the Sefer Torah dedication, a culmination of much work. She wrote, “It was heartwarming to see a long line of people waiting to sit down next to the sofer to dedicate their very own letter in this special Torah scroll. When the final letter was completed, I was suddenly overcome by a rush of emotions and my eyes teared up as my husband elevated this Torah scroll for the very first time and everyone started reciting V’Zois HaTorah. It’s a feeling that is hard, no impossible, to describe in words! All I can say is, ‘Thank you, Hashem, for this incredible honor and blessing in our life!’”
In addition to the memorable Hachnasas Sefer Torah and the thought-provoking lectures, the program included a nature walk, wine tasting with Shirah Winery, live Klezmer music with Leo Chelyapov, concerts for women with Katya Kapelnikova, a late-night movie
screening and Russian Tea Room.
The activity-packed children’s program, headed by Tamari Gassman, was enjoyed and appreciated by children and parents alike. As always, the gourmet catering was top notch and this year’s delicious new menu was met with much praise and delight.
Moshe Davidoff wrote, “Reflections that some of the attendees shared with me were very satisfying. The ‘energetics’ were especially on a high level, as one of the participants mentioned to me that the organization was virtually flawless. Things just fell into place. Catered meals were fresh and on time, speakers were inspiring, the weather was absolutely amazing with morning ocean breezes and afternoon sunlight.”
Esther adds, “Every SimXa Shabbaton is beautiful, magical and openly miraculous, but this year’s Torah Dedication event during Shabbos Chanukah was epic for me.”
The attendees left the event filled with inspiration and looking forward to next year’s SimXa Shabbaton.
In the face of the devastating firestorms that have swept across California, the dedicated volunteers of Magivim nonprofit organization have stepped up to provide crucial support to our brave first responders. With unwavering commitment, our team distributed essential supplies, including Chapstick, eye drops, drinks, and snacks, to those tirelessly working on the front lines. As a dedicated Jewish community emergency management organization, we are proud to support the community by offering free propane tanks and serving fresh, warm meals to first responders. We are honored to be the first NGO providing assistance at the main staging area, ensuring timely support where it’s needed most.
Magivim Nonprofit Organization:
Providing Relief Amid California Wildfires
We are proud to have served hot meals to over 1,200 first responders nightly from various agencies, including:
- PCH Meals
- CAL FIRE
- Sacramento Fire Department
- Riverside County Fire Department
- LADWP
- Salt Lake City Fire Department
- Port of LA Police
- LA Metro Police
- FBI
- Glendale PD
- K9 Unit
- County of LA Lifeguard Fire
- Lake Tahoe Fire
- Nacogdoches Fire and Rescue
- Norwich County Fire Department
8 Days of Friendship Circle Winter Camp
The smiles. The joy. The Friendship. This year, Friendship Circle Winter Camp provided over 80 children and young adults with special needs an unforgettable experience. Campers had an action-packed 8-days filled with adventure and joy, creating lasting connections between volunteers and campers. Volunteers played an essential role in supporting and guiding the campers, creating a warm, inclusive atmosphere throughout the camp.
The camp featured exciting trips, such as Boomers with go-karting, minigolf, laser tag, and arcade. Everyone enjoyed the fresh air at the farm with animal interactions and picking fresh vegetables to take home. The fun continued at the trampoline park, where campers and volunteers bounced and laughed together. A thrilling ice-skating outing added a wintery touch to the camp experience.
Chanukah celebrations were a special highlight this year during camp. Chanukah music and songs, specialty crafts and themed treats created a festive, Jewish space. The week culminated with a
These heroes have been working around the clock to protect our communities, and it is an honor for Magivim to support them during this challenging time. However, we cannot do it alone. We truly need the community to step up and join us in this vital mission.
As a Jewish community emergency management organization, we are reach-
grand Shabbat party featuring more songs and treats and an exciting carnival. Throughout the camp, lasting bonds were formed between volunteers and campers. Each day was filled with new adventures, laughter, and a strong sense of community, making the Friendship Circle Winter Camp an unforgettable and meaningful experience for all involved.
ing out to our brothers and sisters to help us make a difference. Your support, whether through volunteering, donations, or spreading the word, is essential in helping us continue our work.
Thank you to all our volunteers, partners, and supporters who make this vital work possible. Together, we are making a difference!
Emek’s 4th Grade Girls spread the light at local Retirement homes
Emek’s 4th grade girls ventured out on an uplifting and impactful field trip as they visited two senior living centers, Ivy Park at Studio City and Fountainview At Eisenberg Village, spreading joy and embracing the spirit of giving. Engaging in the beautiful tradition of singing Chanukah songs, the girls not only celebrated the Festival of Lights, but also forged meaningful connections with elderly residents. This compassionate initiative served as a momentous mitzvah for the young girls, fostering a sense of empathy and understanding for the challenges faced by our aging population. Following the shared experience, the girls extended their kindness by offering Chanukah sugar cookies, as a sweet parting treat for their hosts, symbolizing the sweetness and warmth that they brought to the lives of those who may be feeling isolated and lonely. Through this experience, these girls learned the importance of compassion and discovered the profound impact that small acts of kindness can have on the lives of others.
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