June 1st Edition

Dear Readers,

Ialways love to learn from where our customs originate. The first time the Torah mentions praying for someone who is ill is in the Parsha of Behaaloscha. Moshe davens for Miriam’s recovery from Tzaraas. This is also the parsha we learn about Lashon Hara, its harmful effects, and how words can never be unspoken or taken back.

We are all very familiar with the misheberach said every week and in every prayer to heal the sick. We add a long list of names to pray for, one that inevitably gets longer and longer. Women gather in the evenings to split up Sefer Tehillim and recite this same misheberech. We make brachos parties, add these names to our prayers when lighting candles and doing hafrashas challah, and we do mitzvos in the merit of their recovery. For the most part, these names are ones suffering from physical medical illnesses.

But what about all those suffering from silent illnesses? Ones they don’t want to make public. These are the mental and emotional illnesses that are rarely out in the open. In this week’s Lou’s Views, Lou Shapiro mentions how this country’s mental health crisis is ignored by our government. I see it firsthand everyday as a nurse on a busy medical unit. Often my patients have nowhere to receive mental health treatment other than a medical institution because of a failure in our over healthcare system and government agencies to provide mental health care services.

May was Mental Health Awareness month. The Jewish orthodox community has made huge strides in discussing mental health issues. This is evident by the many frum professionals working as therapists. It may no longer be completely swept under the rug and fully

covered from view, but at times it is still safely tucked in hiding with only a small part peeking out.

I want to also differentiate between mental health issues and other emotional illnesses and disturbances. They are not one and the same. And those suffering most, are often the families. Just like it would be extremely painful to watch your sister or your son go through intense chemotherapy treatments, it is just as painful to watch your spouse or daughter go through mental and emotional illness, especially when treatment isn’t working.

Where are the meal trains for the mother who is having pregnancy psychosis, the mother whose 10 year old son is an inpatient for wanting to hurt himself, or the mother who is raising 8 kids alone because her husband cannot get out of bed? There are no meal trains, because you don’t know about these that are happening on your block. I have no doubt that if you knew, you would definitely be sending a meal. Because that’s who you are and that’s what is special about the LA community. The reason you don’t know is because it’s not yet safe for those suffering to make their illnesses public. It will affect their child’s chance of a shidduch, and so on.

I was listening to a shiur from Rabbi YY Jacobson, who recounted a conversation with Rabbi Russel. Rabbi Jacobson asked Rabbi Russel how many of the thousands of children he has worked with have gone off the derech because they are bad kids?

Rabbi Russel’s answer is not one. All of the children, teens, and young adults going off the derech are just struggling emotionally and not being seen. This is emotional suffering and emotional illness that leads one to go astray. It’s never a deliberate choice.

This issue is chock full of amazing articles that really discuss some of these ideas. Eman Esmailzadeh discusses the importance of eating properly in order to maintain health and not to eat mindlessly, while Rabbi Cavalier discusses about lashon harah being treif in our mouths, worse than any non-kosher food item. In Calanit Kopple’s perspective of near misses, it reminds me of something I spoke of last week about realizing how many times we take for granted the things we don’t realize we have or don’t have. Are we grateful at every moment that we have health and not an illness? This too we forget often, until our body tells us otherwise.

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Shabbos Zemanim

Friday, June 2

Parshas Naso

Candlelighting: 7:41 pm

Havdallah: 8:45 pm

Rabbeinu Tam: 9:12 pm

Friday, June 9

Parshas Beha’aloscha

Candlelighting: 7:45 pm

Havdallah: 8:49 pm

Rabbeinu Tam: 9:16 pm

The Week In News

China Bristles at Jokes

Ng wrote on Twitter last Tuesday alongside a clip of his show. Uncle Roger is a reference to a video that he made three years ago that shot him to fame and has been viewed 34 million times. By Saturday, Ng’s account on China’s highly censored Weibo platform had been barred from creating new posts. A message on the page said Ng was blocked “due to the violation of relevant laws and regulations,” but gave no further details.

$38 Million for Codex Sassoon

When is a joke not funny?

When it is making fun of the Chinese government. The Xi government does not seem to have a sense of humor. Nigel Ng, a Malaysian comedian, has been banned from China’s Twitter-like social media platform, days after he published clips from a live show predicting his skits about Beijing’s heavily censored politics and Chinese leader Xi Jinping would land him in trouble.

Nigel Ng, who performs under the persona “Uncle Roger,” last week posted a trailer of his new show on Twitter, in which he jokes about China’s surveillance state and begs the Chinese Communist Party not to “make him disappear.” “Uncle Roger is about to get canceled,”

This is not the first person to have ruffled Beijing’s feathers. Last week, a joke by Chinese comedian Li Haoshithat made a loose reference to the army sparked a huge backlash from authorities, who fined the entertainment company he worked for more $2 million and banned it from staging performances in major cities. Police also launched an investigation into Li, who now faces the prospect of jail time. Li, who has canceled all his work, also had his posting rights taken away by Weibo. The sketch Ng posted on Twitter last week was filmed at his recent stand-up tour, which broached more political subjects. In one clip, after learning that an audience member is from China’s southern Guangzhou province, “Uncle Roger” says China is a “good country.”

Last week, what is said to be the world’s oldest biblical manuscript sold for a whopping $38 million, becoming among the most expensive books ever bought. The Codex Sassoon, a leather-bound, handwritten parchment volume containing a nearly complete Hebrew Bible, was purchased by former U.S.Ambassador to Romania Alfred H. Moses on behalf of the American Friends of ANU and donated to ANU Museum of the Jewish people in Tel Aviv, where it will join the collection, the Sotheby’s auction house said in statement.

The 1,100-year-old manuscript is the world’s oldest nearly complete copy of the Hebrew Bible. It was handwritten on 792 pages of sheepskin and includes all 24 books of the Bible and is missing only about eight pages. The seller, Swiss financier and collector Jacqui Safra, had owned the volume since 1989.

“The Hebrew Bible is the most influential book in history and constitutes the bedrock of Western civilization. I rejoice in knowing it belongs to the Jewish people,” Moses said in a statement. “It was my mission, realizing the historic significance of Codex Sassoon, to see that it resides in a place with global ac-

cess to all people.”Not many people had the funds to purchase the manuscript and the bidding took less than six minutes at Sotheby’s. The auction house had estimated that the item would sell for anywhere from $30 million to $50 million. The “gavel price” was $33.5 million, but with fees and premiums, the final price tag reached $38.1 million. Sotheby’s Judaica specialist Sharon Liberman Mintz said the $38 million price tag “reflects the profound power, influence, and significance of the Hebrew Bible, which is an indispensable pillar of humanity.”

The Codex Sassoon is believed to have been made sometime between 880 and 960.It got its name in 1929 when it was purchased by David Solomon Sassoon, a son of an Iraqi Jewish business magnate who filled his London home with his collection of Jewish manuscripts. Sassoon’s estate was broken up after he died and the biblical codex was sold by Sotheby’s in Zurich in 1978 to the British Rail Pension Fund for around $320,000, or $1.4 million in today’s dollars. The pension fund sold the Codex Sassoon 11 years later to Safra, a banker and art collector, for $3.19 mil lion ($7.7 million in today’s dollars).

Montana Bans TikTok

Last week, Montana Gov. Greg Gianforte signed a bill banning TikTok in the state. Gianforte tweeted that he has banned TikTok in Montana “to protect Montanans’ personal and private data from the Chinese Communist Party,” officially making it the first state to ban the social media application.

Montana’s new law–set to take effect in January–is the farthest a state has gone to restrict TikTok over security concerns and comes as some federal lawmakers have called for a national ban of TikTok.It outlines a possible $10,000 per day fine for violators. The law is expected to be challenged in court. Last month, lawmakers in Montana’s House of Representatives voted 54-43 to pass the bill, known as SB419, sending it to Gianforte’s desk.TikTok said it would push to defend the rights of users in Montana.“Governor Gianforte has signed a bill that infringes on the First Amendment rights of the people of Montana by unlawfully banning TikTok, a platform that empowers hundreds of thousands of people across the state. We want to reassure Montanans that they can continue using TikTok to express themselves, earn a living, and find community as we continue working to defend the rights of our users inside and outside of Montana,” the company said in a statement.TikTok is owned by China-based ByteDance. Many U.S. officials have expressed fears that the Chinese government could potentially access U.S. data via TikTok for spying purposes.

NetChoice, a technology trade group that includes TikTok as a member, called the Montana bill unconstitutional.“The government may not block our ability to access constitutionally protected speech–whether it is in a newspaper, on a website or via an app. In implementing this law, Montana ignores the U.S. Constitution, due process and free speech by denying access to website and apps their citizens want to use,” said Carl Szabo, NetChoice’s general counsel.The ACLU also pushed back on the bill, releasing a statement saying that “with this ban, Governor Gianforte and the Montana legislature have trampled on the free speech of hundreds of thousands of Montanans who use the app to express themselves, gather information, and run their small business in the name of anti-Chinese sentiment.”

World’s Most Expensive Ice Cream

t’s doubtful you have enough money in your budget for one scoop of this ice cream; forget about a double scoop in a cone. This frozen dessert, called byakuya–“white night” in Japanese–is currently fetching 880,000 yen ($6,380) for a serving in Japan, officially making it the most expensive ice cream in the world, according to Guinness World

IRecords. Japanese ice cream brand Cellato calls white night a gelato on its website, and the name is a hint to its Italian origins. Those wishing to taste this costly non-kosher confection can order it off the website. What makes this frozen dessert so expensive? The ice cream has white truffles from Italy that are sourced from the city of Alba and that cost as much as $14,500 per kilogram. It’s also topped off by an edible gold leaf, two types of cheese, and “Sakekasu,” a pastelike ingredient derived from

the process of sake-making.“

It took us over 1.5 years to develop, with a lot of trial and error to get the taste right,” a representative from the company told Guinness World Records. If you’re able to afford this overthe-top dessert, there is a specific way to eat it. Cellatotells patrons to pour in the white truffle at the right texture just as the ice cream softens up before mixing it with a handcrafted metal spoon given to them. They are advised to let the ice cream defrost at room temperature or microwave it at 500

watts for 10 to 20 seconds, if the texture is too hard. Oh, and they recommended pairing the tasting with sake or a French white wine. Cellato, which also has a black truffle-based offering on its menu, said it plans to diversify its eye-wateringly expensive product line to include Champagne and caviar in the future. It’s an ice cream that makes your wallet want to scream.

Yeshiva Nesivos Aryeh New Program

Yeshiva Nesivos Aryeh is a new program and the first of its kind in Los Angeles, led by the Rosh Yeshiva Rabbi Aryeh Rosenfeld. It is geared towards boys who have not been finding happiness and success in the “mainstream” yeshiva system and in turn have been struggling with their yiddishkeit. Our program is unique in that we work with both boys who are still in yeshiva, others who have left yeshiva, and many who unfortunately have left Yiddishkeit completely.

Since our inception 2 years ago we have been working with boys (ages 14-19) both one-on-one and have been holding group learning sessions as well. Baruch Hashem, we have been extremely successful in helping these boys

get back on their feet and have seen tremendous growth in all the boys we have worked with. This past Sunday we held our first Parlor meeting in the home of Mr. and Mrs. Barry Weiss and were graced by the big Rabbonim and mechanchim of Los Angeles. The parlor meeting was led by Rabbi Pinchus Wallerstein Rosh Yeshiva of Mesivta Tiferes Shmuel, Ohr Yitzchok and Birchas Shmuel (Brooklyn), and Rabbi Sender Kaszirer Rosh Yeshiva of Mesivta of Eaton Town (Lakewood).

Consortium of Jewish Day School West Coast Symposium

THE LIFE CHANGING-STUTTERING PROGRAM

OOn Monday May 15th, the Builders of Jewish Education (BJE) Los Angeles, hosted the Consortium of Jewish Day School’s (CoJDS) West Coast Symposium. The event featured Dr. Eli Shapiro speaking on how schools can develop a compressive technology strategy and Rabbi Baruch Noy discussing the intersection of education and technology. Participating schools included Bais Yaakov Machon Los Angeles, Emek Hebrew Academy, Harkham Hillel Hebrew Academy, Hebrew Academy of Orange County, Heschel Day

School, Milken Community School, Pressman Academy, Sinai Akiba Academy, Yeshivat Yavneh, and YULA. Participants learned about the many challenges and opportunities that the advancements in technology have to offer a school environment as well as the resources available including JEDIT (Jewish Ed Tech and IT) The Digital Citizenship Project and KETER. Erica Hulls, Director of Educational Technology at Pressman Academy said “I really appreciated the thoughtful and easy to follow walk through…. to create a more comprehensive educational technology plan and the additional conversation about Artificial Intelligence was a value add(ed)” The sentiments were further echoed by participants from Emek Hebrew Academy who felt that the program was “very informative.. (and) the presenters were exceptional.”

For more information about resources for Jewish Day Schools visit the Consortium of Jewish Day Schools at cojds.org.

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On May 7 the Jewish Women’s Initiative (JWI) of Aish Los Angeles held their Annual Luncheon celebrating Friendship and Community at the Luxe Hotel. The event was emceed by Sherry Burdorf and Lisa Grant Auerbach and featured comedy by Stephanie Blum and a tribute video to JWI co-founder and co-director Sharon Shenker, of blessed memory. JWI’s mission is to inspire and educate Jewish moms to bring the beauty and relevance of Judaism to their families and community.

JWI partners with Momentum to take Jewish moms on an epic, high-

ly-subsidized trip to Israel. This transformative journey continues with an 18-month educational program post-trip and is for moms who are seeking deeper identity, literacy, and community. JWI is currently accepting applications for the next Momentum trip October 23–30, 2023. Eligibility: Non-Shomer Shabbos Jewish moms with at least one child who is currently a junior in high school or younger. Must live in Los Angeles or the San Fernando Valley. For an application and more information: www.momentumunlimited.org.

Love N Groceries Event Spreads Awareness

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In the beautiful and inviting back yard of Yossi and Sariti Wachtel, Love N Groceries hosted an event on May 17. The goal was to spread awareness by gathering the community together to enjoy wine and cheese boards, while hearing from some of the organization’s members. Laura Abergel and Elaina Hascalovici spoke about how Love N Groceries does not provide only groceries, but also helps widowed families with rent, tuition, house repairs such as leaky roofs, birthday gifts, and many other aspects of the organization that people would not know about.

One participant, Tanya Heyman, stated that “I don’t go out in the evenings to charity events generally because I feel my place is at home with my kids, but L&G feels very close to my heart and I will always show up for them. Every dollar goes to those in need, no overhead. It’s truly inspiring seeing these women, just like you and me, doing G-d’s work. We as a community have the responsibility to support, even 1$ a week! There is no end to what you can do to help.” The proceeds from the event raised over $6,000 for LNG to continue their great work for so many families.

LINK held its annual post-Lag B’Omer Picnic in the Park on Sunday, May 14th at Rancho Park. Coordinated by Rabbi Moshe Brull, LINK’s Assistant Rav, the outing had something for everyone. For the children, there was an exciting Nerf tournament and Bubble Extravaganza. For the older boys and men, there was a pick-up game of softball where everyone got a chance to play. And, of course, there were delicious treats and cold drinks to top it off. A good time was had by all!

Valley Torah Boys

Utah Weekaton

Last week, Valley Torah High School took their Boys Division on a Weekaton (like a Shabbaton, but during the week) to Utah. The boys let out a muted gasp when they saw that the bus was leaving for Utah at 5:00 AM. But they were all there on time and we pulled out before dawn for the trip. We all had our Tefillin on before we reached the freeway, as we were davening shacharis on the bus.

Our first stop was at Quail Creek Park in Utah for tubing, paddle boarding, kayaking, and much more. We continued on to the Zion Ponderosa Ranch & Resort which would be our home base for the next three nights. The groups broke up with some going canyoneering on the first day and the other half going to Bryce for ATVing and Horseback riding. Everyone switched activities the next day.

Exclusive Interview with Kesher Networks

The Medical Shidduchim division of Bonei Olam

A conversation with Aida Horowitz and Avigail Salter

Hello, AvigAil And AidA, i heArd you Are involved in running Kesher networKs, which is under the umbrellA of bonei olAm, could you tell me how it worKs?

AVIGAIL SALTER: I am a Shadchan at Kesher Networks, an organization that helps Jewish singles with medical conditions find their bashert. Singles register on our online database, which is confidential and only accessible to our Shadchanim. Kesher is unique, in that our database gives the opportunity for singles to search for a suitable match anonymously on their own without a shadchan’s help. They can sit through the other users using pin numbers and a basic background on every registrant leaving out identifying information. We strive to help you, help yourself without compromising on yours and others confidentiality.

Nice. whAt type of people reAch out to you? how do i Know if you cAn help?

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How do you help individuAls And fAmilies with the shidduch process?

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mothers). Maybe the fact that the second night dinner was sous vide rib-eye roast and smoked brisket (prepared by Moshe Nafisi), or that one of the lunches was cold-cut subs (all you could eat), or maybe it was just the abundance of food that impressed them (sorry moms).

What bAcKground types do you cAter to?

AIDA HOROWITZ: We service singles from Chasidish, Litvish, Heimish,Yeshivish, Sephardi, Chabad and Modern Orthodox circles. Our group of shadchanim is diverse and we really have someone who relates to every background.

What is the feedbAcK you Are getting?

AVIGAIL SALTER: The response has been incredible! We are overwhelmed with registrants BH. We are very focused on giving the best service and make every registrant feel welcome and comfortable. The thank you emails and heartfelt phone calls from our registrants when they are expressing their thank you makes it all worth it!

Who supports your orgAnizAtion finAnciAlly?

AIDA HOROWITZ: Kesher Networks is fully funded and supported by Bonei Olam. Rabbi Shlomo Bochner and Rabbi Chaim Landau of Bonei Olam are both directly involved in the operations of Kesher Networks. Rabbi Bochner, founder of Bonei Olam devotes his heart and soul to the organization. Money is never an issue. Whatever Kesher needs to facilitate shidduchim, Rabbi Bochner supplies and supports. Rabbi Landau’s expertise in genetics is a tremendous asset to Kesher networks. Many times, before moving ahead with a shidduch, where genetics are involved, Rabbi Landau is there to consult and advise. Rabbi Landau guides us to the right and safest option for the future of the couple.

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AVIGAIL SALTER: We have multiple options to accommodate our non internet users. We can fax or email you a paper application to print and fill it out. You can either fax, email or mail us a hard copy of your completed application and we will call you. In cases where someone really has no access we can even do the application on the phone with you. Kesher Networks will not turn anyone down for technical difficulties, we will always do our utmost to make it as convenient as possible for each one of our clients!

You might find it surprising that one of the highlights of the trip was … the food. Two quotes from some boys, “They feed us better here than at home!” “The food here is better than my mother’s.” (We will keep their names private to avoid the wrath of their

We left Utah early on Thursday and stopped in Vegas for lunch. The buses arrived back just as scheduled. The boys are already looking forward to the next Weekaton. (You can read more about the Weekaton, and see all the amazing pictures, at vths.org/news.)

Beverly Hills Community Celebrates at their Shul Banquet

The evening began with a fun cocktail hour which included passaround appetizers and a full sushi station. Next, guests entered the Henson Film Studio which was miraculously transformed into a glamorous dinner reception that included presentations and tributes for the honorees. But the highlight of the night was the lively and fun concert by the Fab Four - Beatles Tribute Band. YINBH had over 200 guests at the event.

“Not Just Another Challah Bake”

and “has seen countless miracles.” Her humor, charm, bitachon all shine through her words as she teaches women about the special mitzvah of hafrashas challah.

YINBH Beverly Hills Synagogue Celebrated its Annual Gala Banquet on Sunday, May 21st.

This year, they honored their Vice President of over 20 years, Bill Lopatin, who has been an amazing and dedicated leader and supporter of the shul. At this year’s Gala, there was also a tribute to their late president and beloved member, Dr. Stephen Rothman z”l. The event took place at the Jim Henson Studio Lot and was catered by Pat’s.

Jewish Schools Across the US Make a KLEE for Israel’s 75th!

On Tuesday, May 2, over 200 women gathered in Adas Torah’s simcha hall to celebrate the special women’s mitzvos at “Not Just Another Challah Bake.” In addition to an enjoyable evening dedicated to spiritual topics, the goal of the event was to fundraise for the nearly-completed Beverly Hills Spa Mikveh. Mrs. Negar Akhamzadeh, supervisor of the mikveh project, coordinated the event with a team of volunteers.

The evening began with a delicious dinner by Geshmak, followed by a candle decorating activity led by Rebbetzin Batya Brander in honor of the mitzvah of candle lighting.

The next portion of the evening was dedicated to the mitzvah of hafrashas challah. For the first time ever in L.A., the “World Famous Challah Lady,” Mrs. Suri Jaroslawitz, gave her infamous shiur on the significance of challah. For over 11 years, Mrs. Jaroslawitz has dedicated her time to leading women in song and prayer, sometimes speaking twice per day, publicizing the beauty of hafrashas challah,

Attendees of the event had so much to share, expressing how inspiring, powerful, uplifting and beautiful it was. “So glad I was able to make it. I needed that turbocharge!!!” shared one woman. Another said, “It was the most powerful event I ever went to in my entire life. I had no clue that hafrashat challah was so powerful…I thought it was a nice bracha.” A third woman exclaimed, “I really don’t believe that I have been to ANY other L.A. program that was so meaningful, powerful, and inspiring…You definitely brought something special to LA. BRAVO!”

“It was so amazing!! I laughed and I cried—her words really touched my neshama! I am married BH for 15 years, and it was the first time I heard what she was saying about the 3 holy mitzvot of the Jewish woman.”

For more information about the mikveh, or sponsorship opportunities, visit www.bhmikveh.org.

ACHI, American Communi ties Helping Israel, has designated 2023 as the Year of the KLEE. A KLEE, in Hebrew, means a vessel, like a bowl or a plate. The KLEE commitment is to keep the KLEE filled with foods or other goods made in Israel. Many Jewish day schools across the US have participated in this project, by decorating bowls and plates in honor of Israel’s 75th birthday. The project aims to strengthen the relationship between the student and Israel.

Many schools chose Yom HaAtzmaut as the time to make a KLEE. Many schools around the country have participated in this program, ranging from Baltimore to New Jersey, from New York to Los Angeles. For many children, this was a way of displaying something from Israel in their homes.

In Los Angeles, there are 3 local Orthodox Jewish day schools that made a KLEE. Emek Hebrew Academy had a school-wide event, where all 1,000 students made a KLEE. Pictures of them making the KLEE convey their enthusiasm and support for the project.

At Harkman Hillel Day, in Beverly Hills, 250 elementary students made a KLEE. The children watched videos

about KLEE making to understand how to make one and to comprehend its purpose. They thought the KLEE was a great idea and they liked being able to bring it home and use it.

The Team at ACHI feels the success of the KLEE project in the schools should be carried over to Jewish camps. First on the agenda, though, will be ACHI’s participation in the Israel Day Parade on June 4, in New York City where ACHI’s float will feature a KLEE from Israel, designed by the Israeli artist, Emanuel. The Israel Discount Bank is co-sponsoring the float.

To learn more about ACHI and the KLEE go to www.achi613.org/ the-KLEE. If you would like to make the KLEE in your school, synagogue, camp, or other organization, contact them at team@achi613.org.

YOU MAY BE CARRYING MORE THAN YOU KNOW.

1 in ~ 12 Ashkenazi Jews is a carrier for Gaucher Disease.

Gaucher Disease is an inherited, progressive condition that affects approximately 1 in 850 members of the Ashkenazi community. While carriers have no symptoms, they can unknowingly pass the condition on to their children.

Emek’s 17th Annual Golf Tournament

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On Thursday, May 18th, Emek hosted its 17th Annual Golf Tournament at the beautiful DeBell Golf Club in Burbank. Each participant was greeted with a special duffle bag filled with golf materials. Lieders catered a delicious breakfast and continued to impress throughout the day with a gourmet Mexican-themed lunch served on the terrace. At various golf holes, delicacies such as corndogs, sliders, chicken poppers, hot dogs, an open bar, and handmade cigars were provided. The cocktails and appetizers accompanied the awards assembly and generous raffle including prizes such as a Mac Book Air, iPod, pair of air pods, pearl necklace, emerald earrings and an aged bottle of scotch valued at $1000.

Rabbi Mordechai Shifman, Head of School at Emek, thanked the attendees for their support. This fundraiser is one of Emek’s key benefit events with all the proceeds directly furthering the Rabbi Gilbert Shoham Scholarship Fund. This year, we were fortunate to have three Title Sponsors including CRC Group, Amwins, and Imperial PFS. Additionally, our Associate Sponsor was Midwestern, our Cocktail Sponsor was Drs. Mansano and our Corporate Sponsor was Abramson Labor Group. Due to the generosity of all our supporters, Emek raised over $200,000. We would like to thank Mr. Ari Baer for chairing the event and Mrs. Sandra R’bibo for coordinating the entire occasion.

Gindi Maimonides Learns about the Keylim Mikvah

Students from Gindi Maimonides Academy came to the Anshe Emes Keylim Mikvah to learn about the mitzvah of immersion of utensils. Rabbi Summers of Anshe Emes addressed the students about the ideas and laws behind Tevillas Keylim.

Two Decades of Impact: Friendship Circle’s 20th Anniversary Celebration at The Garden Party

with their survivors prior to the premiere, at an intimate dinner where each student and survivor introduced one another to their respective families.

After watching the emotional film, which was received with rousing applause, the students presented each survivor with a gift bag as each of the heroes that were interviewed was given a standing ovation. The evening came to a conclusion with the singing of HaTikvah, and an emotional rendition of Ani Ma’amin. Special thank you to Rabbi Dr. Eitan Lipstein and Mrs. Libby Engel for their leadership in guiding our students in this incredible accomplishment.

Friendship Circle of LA celebrated its 20th anniversary at The Garden Party, marking two decades of bringing joy and support to Jewish children and young adults with diverse abilities. The event took place on LA’s largest rooftop surrounded by lush flowers and panoramic views of lit skyscrapers. The Garden Party is a signature event that honored 486 volunteers with an evening of fun and celebration. These volunteers have dedicated their time and energy to supporting Friendship Circle’s mission. “Without our volunteers, we cannot credibly call ourselves Friendship Circle,” stated Rabbi Michy Rav Noy, Executive Director.

FCLA went all out to honor the volunteers! As guests arrived, they had the opportunity to capture memories at the 360 Interactive Photo Booth, creating fun mementos of the occasion. An illusionist made rounds wowing the crowd while Cartoonists sketched personalized drawings! The eye-catching and tasty international buffet was enjoyed by all with the milkshake and dessert bar putting a literal cherry on top of a glorious event.

As the evening unfolded, honorees Jessica and Mazyar Shamshoni shared about their passion and commitment to creating an inclusive community. Jessica was inspired to this goal by her volunteering in the Friends at Home program that began 16 years ago. Keynote speaker, Gabriel Cordell, shared his personal story of tragedy and triumph after being paralyzed from the waist down at age 22. He did the seemingly impossible by physically rolling his wheelchair over 3,000 miles across the US. His uplifting message of making a difference in the here and now moved the crowd to tears.

Volunteers and guests were gifted with exclusive swag, celebrating the 20th anniversary. With close to 500 people in attendance, the evening was a testament to the power of community and the organization’s commitment to making a difference in the lives of individuals of all abilities and their families these last 20 years.

Yavneh 8th Grade Students

Premiere Their Names, Not Numbers Documentary

The 8th grade students at Yeshivat Yavneh took part in an unforgettable year-long project to cap off their Yavneh education, one which they will remember for the rest of their lives. Created by educator Tova Fish-Rosenberg, “Names, Not Numbers” is a project that teaches students

about the Holocaust, and urges them to delve into the stories of individuals. The main element of the project involves students researching and interviewing a Holocaust survivor, and filming the interview as well. Once the interviews are completed, the students edit the film, all the while being filmed by a documentarian who records their experience over the course of this life-changing project.

The students premiered the film to the LA Jewish community on Sunday evening, May 21st, Rosh Chodesh Sivan. The survivors that our students formed meaningful bonds with, arrived for the premiere along with their families. Students reunited

The Names, Not Numbers Program is generously supported by a prominent national foundation.

How You Can Help Couples Become Parents

An Interview with Rabbi Elan Segelman, Rabbinical Director of PUAH USA

In the medical realm, each doctor has their own specific way of practicing and we encourage getting second opinions if the couple feels they aren’t progressing.

Lastly, doctors may not take the time to explain to a couple why they’re advising a specific treatment. We give our couples the understanding and support they need to appreciate what their doctor wants to accomplish.

4. Does PUAH provide emotional support and community to these families?

4 years, 8 months, 3 weeks waiting for a child

1. Please share some background history about PUAH Institute, the pioneer in Jewish fertility organizations.

Machon PUAH was founded in Israel in the late 1970s by Rav Menachem Burstein, at the behest of Rav Mordechai Eliyahu zt”l. With the new scientific breakthroughs in fertility, Rav Eliyahu understood that the frum world would need guidance navigating the halachic aspects of this miraculous new technology.

2. What’s the difference between PUAH and other fertility organizations?

We are the only organization that services the entire spectrum of the Orthodox Jewish community. We help singles, we help with primary and secondary infertility and we help couples who need third party reproduction. PUAH is a “one-stop shop” that provides the gamut of fertility services: financial assistance, medical guidance, halachic guidance, and emotional support.

3. Why would a couple reach out to PUAH and not go to their doctor first?

Good question! Firstly, they may feel overwhelmed and not even know where to begin. PUAH’s expert counselor can help them navigate the complex journey.

Secondly, PUAH approaches fertility from a more holistic perspective, taking into account both the medical and halachic aspects.

Yes. Our PUAH Cares team is composed of therapists, social workers, kallah teachers – people who understand the couples’ emotional journey and can provide them with a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry on. This service is critical to the couples’ ultimate success.

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5. What does PUAH do to raise community awareness about infertility?

How does your upcoming campaign on June 11-12 fit into this picture?

Fertility education and awareness are a big part of our mission. Whether it’s through ads, articles, social media postings, webinars, community events, or classes; we aim to discuss all areas of the fertility struggle in an open manner, to break the stigma.

Our upcoming campaign is a part of this goal. By sharing the campaign link, not only are you raising money to ensure we can continue helping couples have the babies they dream of, but you’re also helping to spread awareness. Donate on www. thewaitoftheworld.org

You can end the wait, now.

PUAH provides couples the support, guidance, and resources they need to navigate this difficult chapter and help them welcome a child. Support PUAH to help lessen the weight of their pain and make parenthood possible.

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Reb Eli Stefansky AND HIS FAMED DAF YOMI SHIUR?

BY EZRIEL TZVI GANTS

Excitement is in the air with the announcement that famed Daf Yomi maggid shiur Reb Eli Stefansky will be delivering a rare series of live shiurim in the United States to begin Maseches Gittin.

Though Reb Eli has delivered shiurim in New York in the past, they were either given at a siyum or as a spontaneous shiur in the middle of a masechta. This will be the first time that Reb Elicomes to the U.S. specifically to deliver shiurim to begin a masechta.

We spoke to Rav Eli about the origins of his shiur and about what made him leave Chicago for Eretz Yisrael to give his shiur.

up much of my involvement in my business. I traveled to Chicago once a month for five days and was still heavily involved while in Eretz Yisrael.” But he eventually gave up his direct control of the business to his business partner.

and hashkafah. I started learning the daf several times a day. I didn’t decide one day to drop it all and learn over ten hours a day; it happened gradually, increasing hour by hour.“

“Eretz Yisrael is all about ruchniyus,” he said. “People are more excited about ruchniyus here, and we wanted to give that feeling to our children. I wanted to see if we could make it here for a year, then we’d see what to do next. When the year came to an end, we decided to stay another year. Essentially, we decided to ‘renew’ our contract annually.“

In the beginning, I didn’t give

“I took baby steps. I decided I wanted to get back into Daf Yomi. I had given a shiur in Chicago for eight years, but then I stopped not only delivering a shiur but also learning the daf myself; now I wanted to get back into it. I sat down in a local shul to learn the daf.“ It was siyata diShmaya that I had sat down amongst a chaburah learning the daf b’iyun, and it helped me tremendously. That’s where I met my current chavrusa, who’s a true gadol b’Torah; he literally knows Shas ba’al peh. That’s another thing I highly recommend: Get yourself a mentor, someone who’s better than you are in learning

A big nekudah–and I believe it’s also a key component to growth in both business and in life–is creating a mechayev for yourself: Putting yourself into a situation where you have a responsibility to perform a positive action. I’m not a natural masmid. It was necessary for me to force myself to be committed to this increase in learning. In the past, I would start learning and then get sidetracked by something–and that something could be scuba diving, skydiving, snowboarding, or something else exciting.“

I wanted something more steady, so in 2016 I started giving a shiur once a week on Thursdays. I’d

give a synopsis of the week’s seven dapim in 45 minutes, and I made a big seudah every week in order to be mechayev myself. We had 30 guys a week at the shiur; we also had cholent, kugel, sushi–the works. I knew guys would show up, so I had to be very well prepared. Even when I would travel back and forth to America, I would make sure to be back for the Thursday synopsis shiur. This forced me to learn on the flight and between business meetings.“

Several guys asked me to give the daily daf, and I agreed. Generally, when people want to start learning the daf, they wait for a new cycle to begin a new mesechta, or at least a new perek. The yetzer hara is a true professional in finding excuses. So we purposely started smack in the middle of Maseches Avodah Zarah daf chaf ches, in the middle of a sugya. When it comes to the daf, every day is a new mesechta there’s always a new sugya that you can jump in and join. We started with five guys, and it quickly grew. I try to make the shiur exciting; I want to show that Torah can be very geshmak, and a good story or nice joke always helps. I spend time working on entertaining charts,

“I didn’t decide one day to drop it a and learn over ten hours a day; it happened gradua y, increasing hour by hour.”

and the shiur is carried out in a lively atmosphere.”

But Eli didn’t confine himself to just giving the shiur to the attendees. I asked him what pushed him to create a video synopsis of the shiur. “A few people told me that when they couldn’t make it, they’d still like to be part of the shiur. They asked if I would be able to live stream it. We started streaming live through YouTube, and it’s great that once the shiur is over, it’s automatically archived for later viewing. When you stream live, it’s a lot easier than filming and later uploading.”

“It’s interesting what has become of all this. Today there is a group of six Yidden living in Manchester who gather together to watch the shiur stream live. They use it to prepare for a local daf shiur that they attend later. They’re a very big part of our shiur; they ask questions online and share in our simchos. This past January, a Yid whom no one recognized, showed up to our shiur. He told us that he lives in New York and watches the replay of the shiur every day on the subway and wanted to see the shiur live.“

Another unique advantage of our shiur is that since we live in Eretz Yisrael, we are the earliest daily daf shiur available online in English. The Eight Minute Daf was an idea I was toying with for quite a while. Instead of the weekly synopsis, I knew that a quick daily chazarah video would be of great benefit to the public. At the same time, I also knew the tremendous amount of time it would take. However, a close relative of mine was diagnosed with cancer, and as a zechus for her recovery, I decided to begin the Eight Minute Daf daily videos in her merit.”

I asked Reb Eli for his feelings on using technology for teaching Torah. “It depends on how you use it; it is indeed a double-edged sword. It can be very bad. I am focusing on people who already use programs such as WhatsApp and who utilize these technologies anyway. I am not encouraging people who don’t have these technologies to get YouTube to watch the shiur. Rather, I am targeting Jews who already have it and use it; it reaches people far and wide.“

There is a gentleman from Los Angeles who, while on a surfing trip in Costa Rica, found our shiur online. Since then, he has never missed a day. He visited Eretz Yisrael for two days and spent them in Tel Aviv, but he made sure to make it to our shiur on both days, bringing us boutique coffee.”

What did he give up, as far as his business is concerned, to dedicate

Eli asserts. “I was in charge of growing the business. Business, especially the real estate business, is all about chasing the next deal or adding to your portfolio. You spend time looking for another deal or making your current portfolio more efficient. There’s always something to improve. Giving up that part of the chase was not easy.“

“Financially, as my expertise is in construction, we had to give up the development portion of our business, which was very lucrative. It is a significant potential loss every year, but when I see the satisfaction of those who learn any of our shiurim, it makes it worthwhile.“

Also, honestly, I don’t feel I can lose money. Hashem decides on Rosh Hashanah what I will get. I was nervous at the outset of my current business arrangement, but then a deal came out of nowhere, and I quickly realized that had I been in Chicago, I probably would have messed up Hashem’s plan of giving me parnassah.”

Was it difficult for him to give up control to his partner? “Yes. Of course. It was very difficult. He’s a great guy and lets me think I’m in

control, but he’s the one in charge of day-to-day operations now. We speak for at least 10-15 minutes every day. He has full access to my bank accounts. It’s part of the sacrifice for my new ‘business.’“

In terms of hishtadlus, there came a time when I realized that I’m getting older. I felt the need to make a change. I am an entrepreneur by nature, and this is my newest business deal. The more Torah I can spread, the more ‘business’ I can earn.”

What would he say to someone who says: “It’s easy for you to learn all day because you can afford to?” “Look, I didn’t quit working cold turkey and learn all day; it was a gradual process. One of the main points I want to emphasize—and I think this applies to everyone—is that every one of us can add more time to his learning. When I first started giving the weekly synopsis of the week’s dapim a few years ago, I had no intention to learn all day.“

Each one of us can create a mechayev on himself. You can give a shiur. It can be two or three people, or you can commit to a chavrusa. One of the best ‘mechayevs’ I’ve taken on was

to take the Dirshu test. I went for the 240-daf test, and I never learned so much in my life; I highly recommend it. A commitment, such as a chazarah program, forces you to learn.“

People are very driven. We often dedicate 90-plus percent of our time to parnassah. If you sit back and reflect, you can add to your learning. If you learn 20 minutes, you can probably squeeze in some more time and learn 40 minutes. When I worked all day, I could not imagine giving up any of my work for learning; as I’ve said, it was a gradual process. We can all—everyone of us—make small incremental changes. Doing so is guaranteed to change our lives.“

That’s one of the concepts behind our daf yomi shiur. Every single day we learn a new concept in learning that we weren’t familiar with the day before.”

Does being a businessman affect the way he gives the Daf Yomi shiur or carries out into his other Torah ventures? “I think it helps people relate to me. I am a simple baalabos, not a rav; I’m a regular business guy like everyone else. I like to learn, and I hope people think, ‘If he can do it, so can I.’ I’m one of the guys–a baalabos who gives a shiur. Plus, as I mentioned earlier, I use my entrepreneurial skills to make the shiur work.”

Reb Eli notes that the demands put on him by a daily shiur are serious. “I went on a ski trip with my boys as I wanted to show my kids and others that you can live a life of Torah and enjoy life. No matter what’s going on, you can find time to learn the daf. That’s really my message in life. I’m not telling people to quit their jobs, but maybe you can work 14 hours a day instead of 15. Find ten minutes and then another ten. We’re hustling so much that we forget the point of why we’re working in the first place. And if you don’t have ten minutes, you can start with eight.”

Seeing Reb Eli give the shiur live is a unique experience. He involves everyone who is in attendance and creates an exciting, uplifting, and friendly atmosphere. TJH spoke with several members of Reb Eli’s shiur, and each one echoed the other that the shiur—and Reb Eli himself—have become an important part of their lives. One member, who suffers from an illness, was grateful that due to the live recording he has never had to miss a shiur. Others expressed appreciation for how hard Eli works to sustain the project. From the fun and informative large slides that he brings to each shiur to the many gatherings he has orga-

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nized, Eli doesn’t only give the shiur, he creates a deep camaraderie among the participants.

Today Reb Eli delivers his shiurim from the Mercaz Daf Yomi beis midrash in Ramat Beit Shemesh, and his shiur is often referred to by the initials of the building, MDY. He spends upward of 14 hours a day preparing his shiur, which contains illustrative and informative charts to clearly explain the daf. In the past year, Reb Eli also introduced high level animation to make complicated sugyos easy to understand and remember. There’s a unique blend of charts, graphs, animation, humor, singing, and more. Once you’ve been a part of the shiur for a few months, you will be amazed at the changes in your life and at how much knowledge you have amassed.

Reb Eli and MDY have transformed the Torah landscape by encouraging thousands of Jews to join Daf Yomi mid-cycle. In the past, people began learning Daf Yomi at the beginning of every cycle—once every seven and half years. Now, it has become commonplace to join at the beginning of a new masechta, and often even in the middle of a masechta.

MDY draws a wide range of Yidden. From layman to rabbanim and roshei yeshivah, MDY has transformed the lives of countless participants. After a period of explosive growth, his shiur members reached 15,000. Now you, too, can see and experience what so many thousands of others are part of every day. And even better, you can do it live!

With so many living in the New York area, Reb Eli decided to embark on his first ever New York area tour with live shiurim in Brooklyn, Monsey, Queens, the Five Towns, and Lakewood. Over 500 people were in attendance at the 5 Towns / Far Rockaway

shiur motzei Shabbos—perhaps the largest in person Daf Yomi shiur ever delivered in the area. Many people wonder: What’s the excitement all about? Why are so many people so devoted to this shiur that they even recruit others to join?

Don’t slip into that well-worn excuse: I’ll wait for another masechta. No more waiting. This is your chance, right before Shavuos and Matan Torah. Entrance is free, but space is limited and going quickly so register at DafYomiLive.com to reserve

your spot. If you are a new member and pledge to join for at least seven shiurim, you get a FREE ArtScrollor Oz V’Hadar Gemara Gittin when you join! Save your seat at DafYomiLive.com, and we will see you there!

Reprinted from the Five Towns Jewish Home.

Giving shiur in Florida

On a Fashion Meets Fruit

Summer is a perfect time to introduce delicious fruit to the entire family! Here is a great way to make the fruit look even more enticing! Not only will you get to enjoy healthy fruit, but you’ll also become fashionista in the process!

Supplies:

Plate, Scissor, Clementines, Picture of you!

Instructions:

Step 1: Print out a picture of yours truly

Step 2: Cut out around the picture

Step 3: Peel the clementine aiming to keep large pieces of the peel intact

Step 4: Use the peel and the actual pieces of the orange to let your creativity shine as you form a beautiful dress!

Step 5: Take a moment to marvel at the delicious fashion statement you created!

Step 6: Now that your masterpiece is complete, it’s time to relish the sweet fruit’s delicious taste.

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Joke

Bob was having trouble getting to sleep at night and then getting to the office on time in the morning. He went to see his doctor, who prescribed some extra strong sleeping pills.

On Sunday night, Bob took the pills, slept well and was awake before he heard the alarm. He took his time getting to the office, strolled in and said to the boss, “I didn’t have a bit of trouble getting up this morning.”

“That’s fine,” roared the boss, “but where were you Monday and Tuesday?”

Did You Know? As Per Chazal

• Noach was a vegetarian for more than 500 years.

• Avrohom was kept in the furnace in Ur Kasdim for 3 days and nights.

• Four people were named by Hashem before their birth: Yitzchok, Yishmael, Shlomo Hamelech, and Yoshiahu.

• The guests at Yaakov’s wedding sang, “O-ley O-ley” to hint to him that the bride was really Leah so he couldn’t blame them later.

• Yaakov and Yosef were both born with a bris.

• Serach bas Asher entered Gan Eden alive.

• Yaakov was the first person ever to become very ill before his death.

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• Cham’s wife gave birth to the giant Sichon in the Taivah.

• In order to attract guests, Avrohom planted a beautiful orchard in Beer Sheva.

• The sinews of the ram from Akeidas Yitzchok were used for the ten strings in David’s harp.

• Most Kohanim Gedolim died within the year of Yom Kippur in the time of the Second Bais Hamikdash

• Rochel died during childbirth as she gave birth to triplets. (Binyamin and two girls.)

• Yaakov tied a note around Osnas’ (Dina’s daughter) neck that stated, “Whoever marries this girl, marries one of Yaakov’s family.” An angel transferred Osnas to Egypt where she was brought to Potifar’s home and raised. She eventually married Yosef.

• A Jewish king is required to have a Sefer Torah written for himself. The kings used to attach a mini Torah to their arms and carry it with them constantly.

Mushky Yiftach

1. The sensation of falling when half asleep and jerking yourself awake is called what?

a. Hypnic jerks

b.Fatiguadistophia

c. Delirious fall syndromE

d. Musculo-insomina

2. According to the National Sleep Foundation, what percentage of the population are sleepwalkers?

a. 3%

b. 15%

c. 35%

d. 50%

3. Throughout the average lifetime, how much time is spent actually dreaming during sleep?

a. 76 full days

b. 1 1/3 years

c. 3 years

d. 6 years

4. Who wrote the book entitled “The Interpretation of Dreams”?

a. Sigmund Freud

b. Rav Aryeh Kaplan

c. Socrates

d. Carl Rogers

5. Dreams that are remembered the next day usually occur during what sleep cycle?

a. REM (rapid eye movement) sleep

b. NREM (non-rapid eye movement) sleep

6. According to research, how long does it take the average person to fall asleep?

a. Under 5 minutes

b. 5-9 minutes

c. 10-15 minutes

d. 20-30 minutes

7. According to research, people sleep worse when the following happens:

a. There is dirty clothing under the bed

b. There is a full moon

c. The pillow is a darker color

d. There is a NY Mets poster on the wall in the bedroom

Sleep Trivia Riddle

A man is leaving on a business trip and stops by his office on the way to the airport. The night watchman stops him and says, “Sir, don’t take that flight. I had a dream last night that your plane would crash, and everyone would die!”

The businessman cancels his trip, and sure enough, the plane crashes, killing all the pas- sengers. The man gives his watchman a $10,000 reward for saving his life, then fires him. Why?

Answer: Because he was the night watchman and shouldn’t have been sleeping on the job!

The Great Rabbi Akiva Rebbe’s Stories

Rabbi Mordechai Dubin

Kalva Savua was one of the richest men in Yerushalayim. He had a beautiful daughter named Rachel who was very kind and intelligent. Kalva Savua had a shepherd named Akiva. Although Akiva the shepherd could not even read, Kalva Savua’s daughter Rachel recognized his intelligence and his exceptional qualities. “If only Akiva would have the chance to learn Torah” she thought, “he could certainly become a great Talmid Chacham and a leader of the Jewish people.”

One day Rachel approached Akiva and said, “I would like to become your wife if you promise to go away to the yeshiva for 12 years to learn Torah.” Akiva thought that Rachel was joking. But when he saw that she was serious, he accepted her offer. When Rachel announced to her father that she was planning to marry Akiva the shepherd, Kalva Savua angrily promised her that he would never speak to her again. Rachel was determined to keep her word to Akiva and the two of them were married.

Akiva and Rachel lived in a small shed where straw was kept. One morning Rachel told Akiva that it was time for him to go and fulfill his promise. “Who will take care of you?” he expressed worriedly. Rachel told him not to worry. She could work hard and Hashem would never forsake her. Akiva said goodbye to his beloved wife and began his journey to the yeshiva. Day and night, Akiva toiled in Torah progressing daily until he became a great Talmid Chacham.

Twelve years passed and Rabbi Akiva was on his way home escorted by 12,000 of his students. As he reached his destination he heard his wife speaking with a neighbor. The neighbor was criticizing Rabbi Akiva for abandoning her for all these years. Rachel said that she was very proud that he had been away in Yeshiva and would be very happy if he stayed away for another twelve years learning Torah. When Rabbi Akiva heard these words, he returned to the yeshiva without even stopping to say hello to his wife. Rabbi Akiva became one of the greatest Rabbis of his time, and twelve years later he returned home escorted by 24,000 students.

Twenty-four years had passed since Kalva Savua had last seen his daughter. He was now an old man and desperately wanted to see his daughter Rachel before he died. When Kalva Savua heard that

the famous Rabbi Akiva came to town he thought to himself, ”Maybe this great Rabbi could come up with a way to release me from my promise so I could see my daughter Rachel before I die!” Kalva Savua went to speak with Rabbi Akiva and told him about the promise that he had made 24 years earlier. Rabbi Akiva asked Kalva Savua if he would have made such a promise if he knew that his shepherd Akiva would one day become a Talmid Chacham. Kalva Savua responded that he would never have made the promise even if he knew that his shepherd Akiva could say one bracha. “In that case,” said Rabbi Akiva, “Your promise never counted because your shepherd Akiva became a Talmid Chacham!” “How do you know this is true?” asked Kalva Savua shockingly. “Because I am Akiva the shepherd,” responded Rabbi Akiva. The two men hugged and Kalva Savua was finally reunited with his daughter Rachel.

This story is found in Meseches Kesuvos 62/b

Questions for Discussion

1. Why do you think that Kalva Savua did not want his daughter to marry Akiva the shepherd?

2. How could a girl who grew up in a beautiful home live in a small shed filled with straw?

3. Do you think it was right for Rabbi Akiva to return to Yeshiva for another 12 years without stopping in to say hello to his wife?

Rabbi Mordechai Dubin is a Rebbe at Gindi Maimonides Academy. He is the author of three illustrated children’s books, I’ll Never Forget Yerushalayim, I Believe, and I Know 6; and has produced four Musical CD’s for children, I Made This World For you, Let My People Go, Al Shelosha Devarim, and Hashem is Always With Me.

Community Profile

Keeping Our Legacy Strong Through Innovative Education

Legacy Academy of Jewish Education is more than a school. It is a community of parents, students, and teachers working together to help each child thrive. Legacy focuses on three main ideas: meaningful learning, multi-age classrooms, and mastery-based education.

The meaningful curriculum is organized as a Chabad-based learning program. Each educational decision comes from the inspiration of the Rebbe and can be seen in the Judaic and secular curriculum choices, classroom management styles, and emphasis on character development. The multi-age classroom design honors the complexity of child development and allows students to be placed in groups that are appropriate for their academic, social, and emotional growth. It also provides opportunities for every child to be a learner and a leader, creating a community of cooperation instead of competition. The focus on mastery-based education means that academic programs are designed to help a child work within their zone of proximal development regardless of age or grade. Students’ curriculum keeps them constantly engaged

ing of the complexity of each child.

Finally, the relationship between the child and learning can be fostered. For each child, there is a unique relationship they have with school and learning. Our role as educators is to preserve the child’s innate love of learning. The love of learning is one of the great tenants of childhood, and the Legacy staff cherishes the opportunity to enhance it. This requires a unique understanding of child development and academic goals and is significantly different from the

well in traditional learning environments. However, their parents wanted to see them do more in school than survive, they wanted to see their children thrive. The development of the Legacy learning philosophy has become centered on the yiddish phrase: “If good is good, is better not better?” This inspiration continues to fuel the daily goal for both staff and students to properly reflect on yesterday and continue to improve today.

Legacy has maintained a pledge to provide any student who could benefit from this unique style of Jewish learning a space in the Legacy family, regardless of the financial situation. This pledge has been honored through proper fiscal management and significant support from parents, spon-

sors, donors, and fundraising efforts. This support has allowed Legacy to more than double in size since the first year. Students and staff travel from all over Los Angeles County, Ventura County, and Long Beach to learn within the Legacy schoolhouse. It is a joyful space where students are excelling academically, while also developing strong social skills and emotional awareness. This experience makes any amount of traffic well worth the commute. As students travel each morning across the Los Angeles freeway system, it is through a partnership with parents, dedicated teachers, and an innovative philosophy that the students will arrive at the schoolhouse and then spend their day joyfully learning to establish their own Legacy of Jewish education.

because the work is chosen to be appropriately challenging–never frustrating or boring. Most students work on different levels in different subjects, and all curriculum can be adapted during the course of the year. Through this dynamic curriculum, students gain significant insight into their strengths and challenges. Self-awareness is, therefore, innately woven into the daily learning within the Legacy schoolhouse. The teachers and parents who are part of the students’ learning celebrate both the strengths and challenges of the child, thereby creating a place of acceptance of the whole child.

An innovative learning space, both in physical and philosophical design, Legacy seeks to understand each child in order to provide him or her with the best environment in which to learn. The beginning of this understanding is developing a relationship of respect, honesty, and kindness. The relationship is first established between the school and the parents. Legacy is blessed to have parents who understand, believe in, and support the unique philosophy. This partnership is the bedrock for the security a child feels in their learning environment. Next, the relationship between the teachers and the child is formed. Teachers, at Legacy, develop relationships through interactions as well as observations and work with students in a variety of capacities. From one-on-one learning to group classes, field trips, and extracurricular programs, teachers intentionally interact with students in a multitude of ways in order to enhance their understand-

traditional approach of set grade levels and benchmark learning standards. The focus in the Legacy schoolhouse is allowing students to maintain their love of learning so that they have a lifetime of learning. Through relationship-building, Legacy has witnessed this happen for dozens of children since it began six years ago.

Legacy Academy was created as a space for Jewish families who wanted more than what a traditional school could provide. These families wanted to see their children form deep connections with Yiddishkeit, delight in learning, and develop skills that would help them succeed in an increasingly complex world. Established as a non-profit, Legacy began not by thinking outside of the box, but by tossing out the box completely. The educational philosophy was then built from scratch, based on the teachings of the Rebbe, educational pioneers such as Maria Montessori, decades of professional experience, and a dedication to continuous improvement and innovation. Legacy Academy has continued to adapt to its students’ needs by adding extracurricular classes such as gardening, chess, and drama, as well as advancing into 9th and 10th grade for the girls’ program.

Legacy has had the honor to serve many students with diverse needs. The unique balance between a structured daily rhythm and a flexible curriculum allows students with diverse abilities to all find a space to thrive. Many of the students, both former and current, are children who were able to do

“An innovative learning space, both in physical and philosophical design, Legacy seeks to understand each child in order to provide him or her the best environment in which to learn.”

Sofia Doyle and Malka Seewald

A Tribute to Alison Hendeles

Our houses were situated in a triangle; Alison’s backyard touched Estee’s and Rachel’s, whereas Estee’s and Rachel’s backyards also touched. We were raised in Encino in the 80s and 90s before there was an Eruv, and because we were the only 3 Orthodox little girls within 1 mile of our homes, we spent every single Shabbos together and most of the week playing with each other. Our childhood was Ali, a blond, Rachel, a redhead, and Estee, a brunette, all born within 2 years of each other, playing the day away. After cutting ourselves on the gates between our houses, our parents wisened up and put a proper entry between each of our houses so we no longer had to jump the fence, risking getting mangled.

Cabbage Patch dolls, Popples, Barbie paper dolls, going to the duck pond and park around the corner, swimming in Ali’s pool, and eating one thousand Hydrox cookies that Diane, Ali’s awesome mom, put out for us filled the day. Alison loved all types of games, and her mom was religious about keeping every single tiny piece from every board game. Favorites included Pretty Pretty Princess, Don’t Break the Ice, and endless rounds of Monopoly. We also made up Double Dare obstacle courses where you had to jump over or in all types of everyday objects and risk getting sprayed

with water, and made “potions” from beauty products that Ali’s Nan sent over.

One thing that is extremely unusual—we never fought with Ali. Not once. Could you imagine a scenario where 3 girls never argued? Ali had this way about her, that when anyone did or said anything mean or weird or off, she would automatically excuse them and picture herself in their situation. If someone said something rude, she would say something like, “In their world, we would do the same,” or “I can see that she feels bad, so it makes sense.” Alison raised us to greater heights, moving on, focusing on the good, and forgiving any naughty be-

havior. No drama, no dwelling, life’s good, let’s play.

We grew up, Alison married her love Alex and we were bridesmaids in her wedding. When the twins were born, Estee was given the kavod of kvatter at Noah’s bris and Rachel was given the name “Doda,” an endearing title for the person Ali felt bonded to like a sister. Alison continued to guide us with her calm, peaceful, cheerful logic at every phase. She quickly became a twin mom expert while raising her beautiful babies, Isabelle and Noah with very little outside help, deep practicality and a smile. Ra-

chel would conference Ali in on all wardrobe choices, and Ali would tie together the perfect looks by mixing high and lowend pieces together and declaring that “shoes make the outfit” and “less is more.” Estee asked Ali how to constantly make great dinners. Ali simplified things: buy a huge wok, put in protein and veggies and some store-bought sauce. Violá! Dinner is done.

We don’t remember Alison complaining, kvetching about anything. She did what she had to do with a smile and cheer. Thank you Alison and Diane and Richard for a beautiful, magical childhood. We miss Ali every day.

Ali’s profound impact on our lives endures, even in her absence, as a continuous source of inspiration. Years ago, Ali was the first person with whom Rachel shared her idea for a children’s book titled “Up in the Clouds.” Ali found it creative and adorable and expressed eagerness to receive the first copy. Unfortunately, the book only came to fruition recently, but it now embodies an additional purpose—a heartfelt tribute to preserve Ali’s memory, which is what actually motivated its completion. The book will be dedicated to Alison, with her name cleverly hidden within the whimsical illustrations. “Up in the Clouds,” is scheduled to debut on Amazon on Ali’s birthday, July 18th.

“We never fought with Ali. Not once. Could you imagine a scenario where 3 girls never argued?”

Estee Cohen and Rachel Lesin

The Hebrew Hammer: The Story of a Young,Orthodox Jewish MMA Fighter

Sherrill Cohen

Adjusting his Kippah, Asher steps out of the car and up to the door of his MMA gym, Fight Science MMA. Having already spent multiple hours there in the morning for professional training, he is back again for another 4 hours of coaching. As he gears up to train, Asher looks over at the other individuals in the gym, all adults, all substantially taller, larger, and much heavier than he is—none of which are a deterrent. In fact, it was Asher who announced years prior that he wanted to stop training with other kids and start training with the adults. “You don’t get better unless you go up against someone better than you,” he had said.

Asher has always been one to challenge himself; he has never shied away from anything that was hard or daunting. Instead, he pushed himself to realize that his limits always went farther than he knew, whether that was through his training, working out, school, or learning struggles. He continues to strive to push his boundaries, saying: “I don’t believe that anything easy is worth doing.”

As a 16-year-old Orthodox Jew in Los Angeles, Asher looks like many other

kids his age. A kippah on his head, tzitzit showing from underneath his shirt, and love for his community, friends, and shul. But unlike many kids his age, Asher trains over 40 hours a week in MMA, weight training, and cardio. Being homeschooled

his whole life helped him have the freedom to learn in his own way and the time to follow his passions. His persistence and dedication to his craft have opened many doors for him in the fighting world, allowing him to start his competitive journey. He partici-

pated in two Jiu Jitsu competitions, where he took home two gold medals and two silver medals. But Asher did not stop there; he trained harder, longer, and with even more persistence. He earned his blue belt in Jiu Jitsu, and in November of 2022, had his first Muay Thai fight as a youth fighter. Wrapped in a half-Israeli and half-American flag, Asher stepped into the ring of a Royal Combat Muay Thai Promotion fight, where he greeted his opponent. He is a true sportsman, always checking on his opponent, sharing fistbumps and high fives and words of encouragement. Asher won his first fight by unanimous decision, and made a Kiddush Hashem by first giving his opponent a hug and wishing him all the best for an upcoming fight he had later that week, before even accepting his trophy. In March of 2023, Asher had his second youth fight, during which his opponent got hurt. While his opponent was being checked out by the medics, Asher was right by his side. Asher won the second fight again by unanimous decision, and to this day both he and his opponent remain friendly. Winning is not everything to Asher, “It doesn’t matter to me if I win

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or lose a fight. If I step out into the ring, I know that I have trained my hardest, done my best, and will learn from the experience no matter what. The important thing is that I have a good time and make sure that I am respectful. I know that I can learn from both wins and losses and will continue to improve.”

On June 4th, 2023, in just a few weeks, Asher will be competing in his third fight. This fight, however, is a title fight. One which will give Asher the Royal Combat Inaugural Youth Muay Thai Champion-

ship title, if he wins. Fighting under the handle “The Hebrew Hammer,” Asher is enmeshing his fighting career with his Jewish identity. Asher has always been one to stand up for others and is the first to come to their defense. A while ago on a warm Shabbos morning, Asher saw a few women being harassed by a man in

well, such as joining the IDF and later, becoming a welder.

While Asher has a gift for fighting, it hasn’t been without tremendous hard work and dedication that he has had this success. Asher’s diligence and desire to grow have propelled him to take on and tackle immense challenges. As a child, Asher strug-

a car on his walk to Shul. Asher stopped and made sure that the women were able to get away from the man safely, and that the man did not continue to bother them. “The skills that I have learned in the gym mean nothing if I can’t use them to do good. It is important to me that I can take what I am being taught and use it to serve Hashem,” Asher said. Asher has the heart of a warrior and channels that into being a warrior for the Jewish people.

Asher’s success in fighting hasn’t taken away from any of his other responsibilities. In the mornings you can find him with Tefillin wrapped around his arm. He is in high school and works diligently to remain a high-achieving student, and like any other 16-year-old, he still has chores! He has future goals he hopes to pursue as

gled with dyslexia, which made schooling incredibly difficult for him. Though he worked tirelessly to overcome these issues, they persisted. But Asher was not deterred. He was sure that he could overcome these struggles with hard work, and he did. The experience of overcoming the obstacles of a learning disability created a mindset that helps Asher in his fighting career. He has had setbacks and difficulties, but he refuses to give up. The way Asher inspires others is evident at his fights, where his family and friends gather to cheer him on. Throughout the crowd, “Who is this Asher?” can be heard, and spectators are repeatedly coming up to him after his fights for photos and congratulations. As the only Orthodox Jewish fighter at his gym, Asher is constantly teaching his fellow fighters

all about Kosher, Chagim, and Judaism in general. As the only Orthodox Jew in his promotion, Asher’s middos and good heart stand out as a few of his many beautiful character traits. He continues to awe the fighting world in an amazing display of what it means to be a Jew wherever you may go and in whatever you may do. As his parents said, “We’ve always told our kids that there is not only one way to serve Hashem, but that they should serve Hashem with whatever they do.

“Asher won his first fight by unanimous decision, and made a Kiddush Hashem by first giving his opponent a hug and wishing him all the best for an upcoming fight he had later that week, before even accepting his trophy.”

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Near Misses

Calanit Kopple

Recently, a woman on our local community chat made a request. She asked for true one or two-sentence hashgacha pratis stories. I tend to jump at opportunities to share, sometimes oversharing, so I quickly sent her one story. If you see me one day, I’ll be happy to share it with you.

I found the request to be an interesting exercise in focusing on Hashem’s clear guiding “hand” in our lives. Not only in the major events, but the everyday events, which, in truth, can at times accumulate and gather to one day becoming something big.

I sat for a while and began to reflect on more stories of hashgacha pratis that I could come up with. Some of the most frequent bases of hashgacha pratis involve communication; sharing something with another person. Because person A was in the market at the same time as person B, she was able to share information that person A needed to hear. Or you end up on the same dormitory floor in college as the person who would become your best friend and partner in growing in Torah and mitzvos.

I watched the tow truck driver attempt to maneuver our minivan onto his flatbed truck. “The poor gal,” I thought, as she (the van) struggled to and fro under the force of the driver. But she was just too broken. She could not move on her own.

The driver, upon his arrival, remarked, “Are you okay? They must have hit you good.” I replied, “Yes, I’m fine! I was just pulling out of the driveway and I heard a pop, as if a rubber band snapped.” Motzei Shabbos. At night. With no cars around. Wow. Thank You, Hashem.

Truthfully, I didn’t initially find this broken car saga to be so annoying. Okay, so I couldn’t use the car for a few days. But, this stranger, serving as a shaliach, gave me more hakaras hatov than I had initially considered. This minivan, iyH, was a kaparah, without having to incur a real kaparah. No accident (bli ayin hara!), no injury. Just a broken car that was eventually whisked off to the rescue, to return home later, back to normal.

How many times each day do we miss a red light or drive down one street instead of our usual route? Sometimes seeing Yad Hashem means noticing the absence of events. We safely made it

home. We avoided that food that could have given us an upset stomach. Our washing machine worked and cleaned the clothing. All of these things we expect to happen, and generally do. Recognizing these incidents, or lack thereof, become the perfect opportunity for a “Thank You, Hashem.”

Thinking further, I realized what a satisfying feeling it is to notice hashgacha pratis. Really, isn’t everything hashgacha pratis? Everything is from Hashem. Why is there such joy when we notice the chain of events that leads from one circumstance to something entirely new or resolved? I believe the

joy we experience is a feeling of closeness to Hashem when we can see a little more clearly what He arranged in order to make something happen. It connects the three-dimensional dots, giving us a tiny bit more insight into how He runs the world and how truly interconnected we all are.

Perhaps the seemingly rote, unremarkable occurrences serve as potential special hashgacha pratis moments for others, where we are the tool to help orchestrate the event, and not the star of the show.

Other times, the hashgacha pratis is less desirable. And we struggle to un-

derstand why. Why did this happen to me or to her or to them? And whether we are happy with the outcome or not, the Source of all things ultimately orchestrated it for our good.

Calanit Kopple lives in Los Angeles with her family. If you would like to reach her, you can find her at JOANN on La Cienega most days of the week.

Chef Nir Travels Accross the World to Baku, Azerbaijan

Tast month, Chef Nir was invited by the government of Azerbaijan through Eti El-Kiss, CEO of Cachet WorldWide Productions, and Nurit Greenger, President of the US-Azerbaijan Cultural Foundation, on a journalist delegation, where Chef Nir was asked to give a master class at CÀSÀ Culinary Arts Center, which is the premier culinary school in the entire region. The objective was to teach some of the country’s top chefs about kosher and traditional Jewish foods. Chef Nir taught them about the similarities and differences between Kosher and Halal. Since the relationship between Israel and Azerbaijan is so open, many Israelis and Jewish people travel to this amazing country.

This is not a new task for the traveling Master Chef Nir who has made many trips to the UAE (Dubai, Abu Dhabi, Bahrain) to cook for many kosher delegations and many royal families in the region. In the process, he taught many accredited and Michelin Star Chefs all about the kosher kitchen, from kashering the kitchen, washing vegetables, and gourmet cooking. In Dubai, he was the guest of Mohammad Alabbar, the CEO of Emaar Properties, and who handed Chef Nir the kitchen and staff of the Armani hotel in the famous Burj Khalifa, the tallest building in the world. Those trips were all executed before the Abraham Accords. (Some people say the kosher food he prepped led to the Accords.)

For this culinary trip, Chef Nir chose two different recipes that put a twist on Jewish Sephardic cooking:

Knafeh Shepherd’s Pie and Chicken

Bastilla Cigars. A few of the accredited chefs that joined this class have Michelin stars themselves but wanted to get educated and learn more about the kosher food world. The class was broadcasted on national TV, and reporters were present throughout the entire class. An interpreter explained to the chefs all about the foods, the recipes, and our Jewish culture. Chef Nir was honored to sign and hand each one of the chefs their diplomas of completion in the courses.

After giving the class, Chef Nir was escorted throughout the country to learn more about the culture of Azerbaijan and was taken to various Jewish communities that are still there. Chef Nir’s introduction to this community started a few years ago when the consul of Azerbaijan organized a luncheon in Chef Nir’s restaurant, La Gondola, as a thank you to the Jewish community in Los Angeles, where those present supported the Azerbaijani Jewish community by donating funds to purchase a new Sefer Torah for the Mountain Jewish community of Azerbaijan.

Back to the visit to Azerbaijan. Chef Nir’s trips started with traveling to Shusha and Karabakh, which today is the border of Iran, with a small river acting as a natural border. After spending the night on the army base and seeing the border, they traveled all day to the Red Village, which is a large vacation spot for the Jewish community. Every city they visited, the local mayor and city officials greeted them and hosted them. Chef Nir even played a game with the mayor, and she made sure not to beat him, so as not to embarrass her guest. After a few days of traveling and many army

passport checks, they finally arrived back in Baku, at the Presidential Hotel. There, a great dinner was waiting, provided by the local Chabad community, which also invited the group for Shabbat–a real traditional Azerbaijani Shabbat dinner. The next day, government officials came and gave them a private tour of the old city of Baku. All this traveling was done with a kippah on their heads since Azerbaijan has zero tolerance for any antisemitism.

This was an amazing learning experience for all, and the first trip of many to this wonderful safe country.

Will we see a La Gondola in Azerbaijan anytime soon?

Chef Nir Weinblut was born in Tel Aviv, Israel, and at a young age, he moved with his family to the east coast of the United States, where they opened a pizza shop. Nir grew up helping his parents in their restaurant, and he developed a love for cooking and hospitality from an early age. In the mid-80s, Nir moved to Los Angeles to study business and psychology. While supporting himself, he found his way back into the catering world and discovered his passion for high-end catering. Slowly but surely, he began to explore the culinary world and experienced the higher-end side of the industry.

As he gained more experience in the catering industry, Nir decided to slowly transition back into the culinary world, this time with a focus on the higher-end side of the industry. During this time, he learned from many talented individuals, including French maîtres d’ and back-of-house staff, all of whom taught him something new and valuable.

After gaining extensive experience and training, Nir established La Gondola Restaurant and Catering, which quickly became a front-runner in the kosher world in Los Angeles. Three decades later, the establishment is still going strong and continues to be a leader in the industry. In addition to his success with La Gondola Restaurant and Catering, Chef Nir has also taken his culinary skills to international audiences. He has catered for royals in Dubai and has been a judge on Kosher.com’s Skill’it. As well as being a co-author for a cookbook called “Kosher Soul Food,” which showcases his unique blend of Jewish and African American cuisine.

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Eman Esmailzadeh

The average person spends at least one hour a day eating. So by the age of 30, you’ve spent the equivalent of two years just putting food in your mouth. How can we make this a more pleasurable, productive, and meaningful experience?

Jewish tradition has much to say about what we eat, how we eat, when we eat, and even why we eat, and much of it is also recommended by modern nutritionists. Ultimately, the way we eat can be an Avodat Hashem just like putting on Tefillin or lighting Shabbat candles.

Most of these points are self-evident, but in our busy life at work, with kids, and social gatherings, we somehow lose our focus. Here are 6 Quick Reminders of how to eat like a Mentch.

1. Eat Hungry.

When was the last time you pulled over at a gas station to fill up your tank that was already full? Probably never. However, when was the last time you ate some-

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sive Kiddush?

Like modern-day nutritionists, Shlomo HaMelech advises against the unnecessary consumption of food, saying, “The righteous eat to satisfy their souls” (Mishlei 13:25). Why are you eating, for your soul or your bodily urge? Keep it spiritual and eat when your body needs it. It will surely build your self-control in not giving into your base temptations,

2. Sit Down.

Late to work? Preparing a report? Running after the kids? Doing errands? No problem—it’s just not the best time to be chomping down your meal. Although it may save time, it’s a bad idea. The Talmud (Gittin 70a) uses harsh terminology against those who eat while standing. The Rambam, in Mishneh Torah (Deot 4:3), says that one should never stand or walk while eating.

Modern-day scientific research also claims that this kind of eating is fattening and unhealthy. In fact, there is even a diet based on this understanding, called “The Sit-Down Diet,” which suggests that we consume fewer calories when we eat

sitting down versus while standing up or walking. We are also more likely to digest food better when we sit down and chew our food properly.

3. Acknowledge

You’re hungry and sitting down for your meal, now recognize where the food comes from. Taking three seconds to acknowledge the basic details of the culinary dish placed before you can set the tone for the rest of the meal. Something as simple as verbally acknowledging the work of the cook, especially if it is a parent or spouse, can have a profound effect on your mood. Paying attention to all of the individual ingredients can make the experience even more tasty.

That is where the entire concept of Brachot comes from. It is a statement acknowledging that God is the Creator of the food (Blessed are you Hashem … Creator of ….).

As much as we work hard to pay for the delicious kosher food that we are consuming, in the end, it is important that we acknowledge that its source is from Hashem and that someone else toiled for us to

benefit from this consumption.

4. Remove Distractions

Imagine our reaction to someone in a theater who is on their phone the entire time. Would we have the same reaction to the ever-so-common sight of someone munching down an entire meal while consumed with an iPhone, TV, or computer screen? One cannot fully enjoy a meal while answering emails or scrolling through their Whatsapp and Facebook feed.

Unlike many other religions whose ordinances promote abstinence from physical pleasures, Judaism incorporates the pleasure of eating in every one of its holidays. However, we rob ourselves of this enjoyment every time we mindlessly eat.

Don’t care about enjoyment? Distracted eating causes your digestion to be less effective in breaking down your food, leading to less flavor and increasing the possibility of bloating, gas, and constipation. Trying to lose weight? Research shows that the more you distract yourself during a meal, the more pounds you add. Doing simple acts of mindfulness, such as

paying attention to the smell, taste, appearance, and texture of the food, can keep the focus on your meal.

Imagine this absurd scenario: A dear friend gifts you a luxurious massage chair, hoping that you’ll find joy and relaxation in its soothing embrace. But instead of appreciating this thoughtful gesture, you promptly toss the chair into the trash right in front of your friend’s face. What a waste it would be!

One of these precious gifts from Hashem is the ability to relish and savor the food we eat. Yet, often we squander this divine blessing by mindlessly consuming our meals, allowing distractions to steal away the experience. Just like throwing away the massage chair, we discard the opportunity to truly appreciate and enjoy the sustenance provided to us.

5. Chew, Swallow, Wait… Repeat.

Ever wolf down a meal in one minute? Scarfing down an entire meal can leave you feeling disheartened and with extra calories.

Taking your body off of autopilot mode while feasting, has great spiritual benefits, as well. In describing ways of going against animalistic eating habits, the great nineteenth-century Iraqi sage Rabbi Yosef Hayim, in his famous book, Ben Ish Hai, gives a recommendation that is sure to slow your scarf. He writes that one should not reach for the next bite until the previous bite has been completely swallowed.

Speaking from experience, this one tip is much easier said than done. However, once mastered, this habit is sure to leave you feeling in control and elevated, especially if you take it to the next level and put down your utensil between bites.

6. Appreciate - Bench with Kavana.

Now that you’re satiated and your spirit is recharged, it’s time for some thanksgiving. Saying thanks is much harder when you have somewhere else you want to go. Maybe that’s why the only biblically ordained bracha is the Grace After Meals and not the blessing before the meal (Shemot 8:10).

Being appreciative is a core Jewish value. After all, Jews are called Yehudim from the word L’hodot, or to thank. Messages of appreciation are found in the stories of our forefathers and foremothers. Gratitude permeates the entire Jewish experience, from the first words that are uttered by our lips when we wake up in the morning, “Modeh Ani”, to the thrice-daily communal prayer service throughout the day.

By now, everyone has heard of the side benefits of gratitude including improved health, increased self-esteem, and even better sleep. Taking the extra minutes to appreciate our privileged satiated stomachs should now seem more meaningful and hopefully a little easier.

Take your Birkat Hamazon seriously! Put aside all distractions, take a deep breath, and immerse yourself in a genuine sense of gratitude, a hakarat hatov, for Hashem.

Although it might sound cheesy, try to reflect on the miracle that unfolds with every meal. Recognize the profound gift of sustenance provided to nourish your body and mind. Take a moment to appreciate the intricate workings of your taste buds, which allow you to savor the flavors and textures of your food.

Consider the incredible complexity of the digestive process, orchestrated by the many enzymes and physiological mechanisms. Appreciate the thousands of intricate steps that occur behind the scenes, transforming your meal into nourishment for your body.

Although not practical for every meal, striving towards these goals should help us lead more meaningful, in-control, and healthy lives!

Eman Esmailzadeh is a graduate of UC Irvine where he studied Mechanical Engineering and Business Management. After college, he advanced his Torah studies at various Yeshivas in New York and Jerusalem. With over 20 years of community service, he is a social entrepreneur, co-founding several community organizations including Bayit.LA. He can be reached e@joojcapital. com.

Torah Thought

Parashat Be’ha’alotecha: Clicking and Thinking

Rabbi Daniel Cavalier

How would you feel if, G-d forbid, you find out that the meat you just ate was actually non-kosher meat? Would you feel impure, defiled, and perhaps angry at whoever was responsible?

How about if after speaking to your friend, you realize that you spoke Lashon Hara (derogatory information) about someone else? Would you feel impure, defiled, and angry at yourself?

Rav Yisrael Salanter pointed out that Parashat Shemini (which speaks of forbidden foods) is followed by Parshat Tazria (which speaks of Tzara’at, a spiritual “leprosy”). As is well known, one of the main reasons one may be afflicted with Tzara’at is due to speaking Lashon Hara. The impurity of Tzara’at is very severe. It can impart impurity to others and requires one to be sent away from the community for seven days. Although the impurity of eating non-kosher food is also severe, it does not cause Tzara’at nor require one to be sent out of the Jewish Camp.

Rav Yisrael derived from here that the impurity of speaking Lashon Hara is more spiritually damaging than even eating non-kosher food.

In this week’s Parsha, Miriam is punished with Tzara’at for speaking to Aharon about their brother Moshe Rabbenu.

The background story: Moshe was commanded by Hashem on Har Sinai to be in a constant state of preparedness for prophecy. He was told that he could no longer remain married to his wife Tziporrah. “Go to them and say, ‘Let each man return to his tent.’ But as for you: stand here with Me.” (Devarim 5:27,28) Not knowing that he was commanded to do so, and not realizing that Moshe was unique in his level of prophecy, Miriam was concerned. She noted that she and Aharon were also prophets, and yet they remained married.

The Ohr Hachaim (R. Chaim Ben Attar, 1696-1743) states that Miriam actually considered that she and Aharon were superior to Moshe in two ways: they prophesized when they were yet children while Moshe was 80 years old at the time of his first proph-

ecy. Additionally, Moshe also experienced Tzara’at during his first prophecy (Shemot 3:6) while they did not. That is why she used the double expression “Ha’ach Rak beMoshe Diber Hashem, Is it but, only, to Moshe that Hashem has spoken?” (Bemidbar 12:2) This double expression is an allusion to her argument.

Her intentions were good. She had no malicious intent. She was concerned for Moshe and his family. Moshe was not insulted and bore no ill will against his sister for having spoken about him. (The Ohr Hachaim points out that Moshe did not defend himself out of humility since his response would have required him to state that he was the greater prophet. Hashem, therefore, defended Moshe Himself).

If Miriam was not spared punishment for speaking her “Lashon Hara,” how much more so if one slanders others or reveals secrets or negative information about others?

In this age of social media, we should take heed of the far-reaching damage we might cause to others. Whether it’s sharing a video, posting a picture, or writing a short comment, one can cause irreparable pain and suffering to others. Before we click, let’s remember the story of Miriam, as the Torah states, “Remember what happened to Miriam…” (Devarim 24:9).

We should be just as careful with what comes out of our mouths as we are with what comes in. Lashon Hara is treif!!

The Chovot HaLevavot , Rabbenu Bachya ibn Pakuda (c. 1050 – 1120) states (Gate of Humility Ch. 7) that if one speaks Lashon Hara about others, he/she may forfeit their mitzvot to that person and take on that person’s sins. How frightening!

There is so much good to see in others. Let’s notice those things, speak about them, and bring Shalom in Am Yisrael!

Rabbi Daniel Cavalier, an LA native, learned in Ner Israel Rabbinical College and received Semicha from Rav Mordechai Eliyahu, Sephardic Chief Rabbi of Israel. He is the Rav of Pico Mesivta Shul and a Rebbe in Yeshivat Yavneh. A trained Sephardic Chazzan he is also founder of Yeshivati, personalized learning for adults, couples, and children.

Rabbi Nir Yacoby

Parshat Beha’alotcha: Who should be doing the dishes?

“Why are the dishes still in the sink?” a wife inquires. “Because if I let them soak for long enough, getting them clean will be effortless,” her husband responds. The wife rolls her eyes and says “Oh forget it! I’ll do them myself.” “See, effortless!” the husband smiles.

Who does the dishes? We generally view menial work as being done by people of lesser skill, and therefore, some husbands argue a housewife should be doing them.

Let’s see the Torah’s approach: In ךתולעהב who does God command to get the candles ready for the menorah? Such a menial job could have been relegated to junior priests, to the Levites, to Israelits, or to some outsourced labor. Yet God assigns it to the high priest! Now if the high priest “takes the trash out” then certainly you should too!

A story is told of a husband

who insisted to his Rosh Yeshiva that it was beneath the honor of a scholar like him to take the trash out. The Rosh Yeshiva said he had to think about it. That night the Rosh Yeshiva showed up at the couple’s home. “It may be beneath your honor, but not mine,” He remarked.

When you do the dishes you’re saying “You’re not a maid, we’re in it together. I Love You!” That is sure to build shalom bayit!

Rabbi Nir and his wife Atrian give regular classes on Shalom Bayit. His popular 3-minute podcast is funny and draws Shalom Bayit ideas from the Torah portion of the week. To register: ShalomInComics@gmail.com

Parent Parent

Chani Heyman

Mom with kids

Dear Mom,

That is a great question. Good for you that, although helpful at times, you realize that tattling is not an ideal way to enhance your children’s relationship.

Here is a simple technique to eliminate this foul habit. It is called: “Dangerous, Damaging, Pertaining to you.”

What does that mean?

First, explain to your children that unless something is dangerous or damaging or pertaining to them, you will not listen and definitely not react based on their tattling. Second, define each criteri-

on. Dangerous can include playing with matches, going out the front door, or climbing near the urn. Damaging would need to be actual destruction; smashing the wall with a hammer, coloring with permanent marker on the couch, or cutting one’s hair (All real-life scenarios!) While emptying out lots of toys is very annoying and messy, that would not go in either of those categories.

Pertaining to them: if someone is taking their candy or touching their personal things, then that is connected to

them and they can tell you about that in order for you to help them.

Finally, if his report does not fit any of those categories, then there is nothing for you to do at this point. If it does, then you would thank your extra pair of eyes and dart out to take care of the situation.

What does this look like in real life? If your sweet, very responsible child comes to tattle, “Lilly is taking chocolate!” You can then respond with, “Why are you telling me? Is it dangerous or damaging, or does it have to do with you?” (Any version of that idea using your own words). Many times the tattle teller will look confused and stammer, “because she’s not allowed to!”

To which you have the opportunity to respond, that although that is true, it is not dangerous or damaging or pertaining to him, and so he should not be telling you.

The very difficult part is really not reacting after very politely teaching your child that this is none of his business; you cannot then go and check on the felon. If you act upon the tattling, that will simply fuel his fire to repeat this behavior. Once he sees that this behavior does not get a reaction from mommy, and he begins to understand “dangerous or damaging or

pertaining to him,” he will stop tattling because he is not getting the reaction he was hoping for.

It now seems pretty simple: Don’t react unless it’s dangerous or damaging or pertaining to you. I’m hoping that by writing that phrase over and over you will easily recall how to respond when

Mr. Police Officer shows up in two minutes with the next report. And I’m sorry in advance for the fresh mess of toys. But, I hope you’ll enjoy the new peace permeating your home as a result of sibling harmony now that no one is telling on the other.

Chani Heyman is a parenting coach who has been giving parenting classes, based on the teaching of Rebbetzin Spetner, for over 9 years to hundreds of mothers across the US. You can reach her at chaniheyman@gmail.com

“If we, the parents, are aware that our child is struggling in a specific subject, then it is our responsibility to help them succeed.”

Dear Chani, Lately, my seven-year-old son has turned into the family policeman. All day, he comes to report to me about four-year-old Lilly’s and twoyear-old Akiva’s infractions. Although at times helpful, how can I put an end to his newfound troubling profession?

The Burglar Who Couldn’t Take My Emunah

Kylie Ora Lobell

On Thursday, May 4, I was on a business call with a new client, talking with her about our marketing plan for the month. My husband Daniel called me on the other line. Normally, we talk throughout the day while I’m at work. I ignored it and kept chatting with my client.

But Daniel called over and over. I checked my texts.

“I’m shaking,” he said. “We’ve been robbed. Come home now.”

I acted like everything was OK, wrapped up my call with my client, and called my husband back right away.

“What happened?” I said.

“They stole everything from my bus,” he said. “Come now. And call the police.”

When we got in, Daniel frantically told me what happened. He saw on the security camera footage that just five minutes before he got home, a man had broken into his mobile recording studio, which is housed inside a school bus in our backyard. A man with an orange mask had jumped over our neighbor’s wall and into our yard. He saw our daughter’s playhouse and looked inside of it to see if she was there.

Then he went over to the bus, got in, looked around, and took $25,000 worth of recording equipment including cameras, microphones, and headphones. My hus-

band’s ability to make a parnassah was gone, just like that.

I shuddered at the thought of the burglar looking inside the playhouse. What if my daughter, G-d forbid, was there?

I told Daniel to stay with the children as I ran around the neighborhood looking for the guy, with the plan to call the police as soon as I saw him and hope they’d answer. When I was out, Daniel called me.

“He came back,” he said, breathing heavily. “Come home now.”

Daniel had been out in the backyard assessing the damage when the burglar came back to wipe his fingerprints. When Daniel caught him, he pushed our daughters’ slide at the guy, defending his two little girls inside the house. He screamed at the guy. The guy insisted he didn’t do anything wrong, and then jumped over our gate and ran away,

Now, every little sound in my backyard makes me jump. I’m scared to live in my own home. I can’t let my kids go outside and play without constant supervision. I’m looking behind my back when I walk around my neighborhood. It’s a horrible feeling.

At the same time, as an observant Jew, I know that Hashem has a plan. I feel like I’m not entirely in the darkness because everyone around me has stepped up to show support.

My mother in law, who lives in New York, ordered us delicious food for Shabbat from one of the best kosher restaurants in LA, Lenny’s Casita. Multiple friends brought over food and flowers. People have been texting, calling, and emailing day and night to check on us. Others have donated to our GoFundMe to rebuild the mobile recording studio, called The Podcast Bus.

Someone told us that this was a kappara and if we knew what Hashem was saving us from, we’d hug the burglar who did this to us. Well, I’m not there yet, but I’m hopeful that the truth of the situation will be revealed in time.

Throughout my life, all the bad I’ve experienced has only led to good. It was only part of the journey. Without the bad, I wouldn’t appreciate the good. I know that this is for the best.

The burglar may have made us feel unsafe and violated. He may have stolen our stuff. But the one thing he could never touch, the one thing he could never steal, is my emunah.

To donate to the GoFundMe for The Podcast Bus, visit gofundme.com/f/ rebuild-the-podcast-bus or email me at Kylie@Koldigitalmarketing.com.

A Government With Its Head In The Sand

Hero or villain? This is the na tional debate on how to classify Daniel Penny, who is facing manslaughter charges for the killing of Jordan Neely.

Penny is a marine veteran who held a homeless and mentally ill black man in a deadly chokehold aboard a New York City subway train earlier this month. When the news first broke, protestors took to the streets demanding justice for Neely. New York City DA Alvin Bragg filed manslaughter charges against Penny and said, “Neely should still be alive today and my thoughts continue to be with his family and loved ones as they mourn his loss during this extremely painful time.”

A legal defense fund was then set up for Penny and raised over $2.2 million from 46,000 donors. Florida Governor Ron DeSantis even urged the nation to show Daniel Penny that “America’s got his back.” Former U.N. Ambassador Nikki Haley called for New York’s governor to pardon Penny, and biotech entrepreneur Vivek Ramaswamy donated $10,000 to his legal defense fund.

An eyewitness came forward and informed the New York Post that Neely threatened the lives of passengers and that Penny courageously protected them. She is prepared to testify in Penny’s defense.

William McGurn of the Wall Street Journal wrote, “In a civilized society, the

strong protect the weak. A Marine uses his strength to fight for those unable to fight for themselves. Today it’s common to lament the state of American manhood—how many of us have been appalled by videos showing men standing by and doing nothing as a woman is attacked. Yet when a good man does step forward, he is treated, literally, as a criminal.” He also points out that Neely had a history of attacks against subway riders, including one 2021 instance where he punched a 67-year-old woman, breaking her orbital bone and nose, according to court records.

Others argue that even if Penny had the right to use self-defense, he went too far by using a chokehold. At Neely’s funeral, Rev. Al Sharpton said, “When they choked Jordan, they put their arms around all of us…All of us have the right to live.”

LZ Granderson of the Los Angeles Times wrote a piece titled, “Charging Jordan Neely’s Killer is Just A Star” and wrote the following: “That is a tragedy for the Neely family. But with the backdrop of the growing number of mass shootings committed by people in need of mental health treatment, the manner in which we help people like Neely should be viewed with a much wider lens — and with much more urgency. The kind of urgency the nation took when the Bush administration greenlighted the Trans-

portation Security Administration shortly after 9/11. The kind of urgency that finds millions of dollars to send aid to Ukraine. As tragic as the story of Neely is, it’s not rare. Most cities have mentally ill people living on the streets. And sometimes they die there. Sometimes they harm others, as Neely did. And sometimes they are the ones who are harmed, as he also was. Neely didn’t deserve to die, that much we know. If nothing more comes out of this than a conviction, his death becomes even more tragic.”

Regardless of what side one comes out on in this case, there is an overarching question that you have to ask. What else

needs to happen for the government to realize that this country is in the midst of a mental health crisis? Thousands of people are on the streets who are unable to care for themselves and yet it’s not front-and-center news. Government failure leads to situations like this, where civilians are left to try and do the job that their government neglects to do. Daniel Penny will be judged by the criminal court. Who will judge the government?

Lou Shapiro is a criminal defense attorney-certified specialist and legal analyst, but most importantly, makes the end-of-shul announcements at Adas Torah. He can be reached at LouisJShapiro@gmail.com.

Lou Shapiro