December 21, 2023

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This Year in Jerusalem

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Can we be hopeful despite the nightmare? pg 19

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hen Leah has many children in succession, and she has more sons than Yaakov’s other wives, she understands to thank Hashem immediately upon all the blessings she received. She does this before anything becomes wrong. Today, with the situation in Israel and in the world, we are thanking Hashem for all the miracles. But we tend to thank Hashem when we see bad things happen. “Hold your kids a little tighter tonight.” I always hated that saying. In America, it takes a school shooting to remind us to be grateful for children who are alive. It’s this gratitude we learn from our mother Leah through the naming of her son Yehudah.

Yehudah was known as a leader from all the brothers, yet he not only took responsibility for them, he took personal responsibility many times in his life.

When Tamar lost two husbands without having any sons, and still wanted to have an heir, she tricked Yehudah into getting her pregnant by dressing up and seducing him. Upon finding this out, Yehudah immediately took responsibility as the father for the twins that Tamar bears. It is from one of these sons that Dovid Hamelech, and all future kings of Israel, come from the line of Yehudah. This personal responsibility, that distinguishes a true leader, is what creates a dynasty of kings.

In this week’s Parshas Vayigash, Yehuda is the brother to step up and take responsibility for his younger brother Binyamin’s safety, offering to remain in jail in his stead. By doing so, Yehu-

dah is not only taking responsibility for his brother’s safety and freedom, but he does this for the purpose of being responsible for the wellbeing of his elderly father Yaakov, whom Yehudah knows could not tolerate should anything happen to beloved Binyamin.

That’s what is missing in today’s world. Personal Responsibility. And it comes as an antithesis to entitlement. The way to counteract the thoughts that “‫מגיע לי‬,” “I am entitled and deserving of everything,” is to teach the next generation to work hard for what they want. It means work hard for your education, work hard on your middos, work hard on your Torah learning, work hard on sustaining relationships, and work hard on bettering the world.

We, as a nation, are sometimes known as Yisraelim, but are mostly called Yehudim. We are grateful Jews - that’s our very definition.

Each of us is supposed to emulate Yehudah. Our very essence is that of gratitude to Hashem, but also personal and collective responsibility.

Our collective responsibility to the world is supposed to be a light onto the nations, specifically when they don’t want our light. This is the morality we bring to the world, especially in times when most have completely lost their moral compass. While it feels that that responsibility is so heavy and enormous, and perhaps feels futile at times, we still have it as our personal responsibility. That is what we must teach our children. If I leave my children with one mission in life, one thing I want them to repeat in their heads when I’m gone, it’s “What am I doing for the Jewish people?”

We just finished teaching our children the story of Yehuda HaMacabee, who stood out because he stood up.There were not many people willing to fight, but he took personal responsibility. Just like Yehuda in Parshas Vayigash. Just like we each need to do. Stand out, Stand up.

Take responsibility. It doesn’t need to be on a global level, nor societal. We don’t each need to be a leader of the nation. We just need to lead ourselves.

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Lighting Up the Night at Spivak Hebrew!

Yavneh 7th Grade Girls Begin New GEMS Chesed Initiative

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he 7th grade girls at Yeshivat Yavneh have embarked on an incredible new chesed program called GEMS. GEMS, an acronym for Give Empower Meaning Support, is a new initiative led by middle school morot Mrs. Carli Becker and Mrs. Gila Polack. The program was born as a vehicle for teaching our 7th grade girls community responsibility, and their place and empowerment within Klal Yisrael.

In addition to volunteering for Friendship Circle and monthly Tomchei Shabbos packaging, the girls have been hard at work with a particularly special chesed project of late. The girls initiated a clothing drive, which Yavneh parents have been generously donating to and dropping off clothing, at which point the girls sort it into different categories. The girls had fun decorating a large storage shed into the GEMS theme and, once all donations were sorted, they were given to a number of Jewish organizations in Los Angeles.

In fact, this past week we were able to give the bulk of all donations that had been set aside to displaced families from the southern part of Israel. More than fifteen oversized bags of clothing were donated to this cause alone! Special thanks to the Hershkowitz family for organizing this special zechus! We are so proud of the 7th grade girls and their morot, and look forward to seeing continued growth on their chesed journey.

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pivak Hebrew Academy ushered in the Chanukah holiday with a week-long schedule of special activities! The holiday began with an Early Childhood Chanukah party. Parents joined us in a group sing along, followed by activities, and lunch in the classrooms.

On the sixth night of Chanukah, we had an amazing Chanukah Chagiga for our Elementary and Middle school students and families! The evening was a unification of Chanukah and Solidarity for Israel. We beChanukah Chidon Winner gan the program with the lighting of the Chanukiyah led by Rabbi Gabriel Elias.

Parents then enjoyed a beautiful singing performance by the students. The first half of the performance began with a Chanukah song medley. In the second half of the performance, the lights went dark, and the children were a sea of glowing blue and white lights. A video began playing the song “Am Echad,” with a very emotional and beautiful montage of images from Israel. The stuChanukiyah dents ended the performance with the lights coming back on to the beat of tambourines and hand clapping to the song “Am Yisrael Chai!” We demonstrated that as a Jewish nation that has endured centuries of persecution, antisemitism, and oppression, we are still here, we are strong, and we come together to celebrate our Jewish traditions and values. We ended the evening with a student-made Chanukiyah Display, dinner, and magic show that was enjoyed by all.

Chanukiyah Students created Chanukiyahs with all different kinds of materials, including tiles, feather, magnets, wood planks, and skate boards.

The following days of Chanukah included an afternoon of “Maccabee Games” where students were challenged physically, mentally, and intellectually. They participated in a round robin of events, which included a Chanukah building race, Sports and Relay races, and Chanukah mind Chanukah Performance games.

We concluded our Chanukah week with a Chanukah themed Chidon - Quiz Show!

Students in grades three through seven studied and were tested in previous weeks to qualify for the Chidon. The students with the highest scores qualified to participate in the Chidon. The final winner won in a tie breaker and each student participating in the Chidon received special Chanukah prizes! We wish Kol Hakavod to Noah Razi, 3rd grade student and winner of 2023 Spivak Hebrew Chanukah Chidon!

As we continue to face challenges as a Jewish nation, we at Spivak Hebrew Academy, continue to pass on our Jewish culture, values and traditions, as well as instill pride in our nation and our land of Israel! Am Yisrael Chai!

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Chai Lifeline’s Evening of Unity Pays Tribute to Israel Crisis Response, Rep. Ritchie Torres

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hai Lifeline, the international support net work, providing social, emotional, and practical assistance to children, families, and communities impacted by medical crises and trauma hosted an “Evening of Unity” on December 4 at Pier 60 in New York City.

Since the outbreak of the war, Chai Lifeline has mobilized its global network of staff, volunteers, and trauma specialists to assist children and families in coping with an unprecedented array of challenges – both in Israel and in Jewish communities across the globe.

“While we never imagined we would be forced to contend with such a devastating and wide-ranging crisis, Chai Lifeline’s decades of experience dealing with all types of traumatic events gave us an existing infrastructure to rely and build upon when it came to implementing a comprehensive response,” said Rabbi Simcha Scholar, Chai Lifeline CEO. That response has included safely relocating Israeli families with children under active cancer treatment out of high-risk areas and providing them with counseling, programming, and support; distributing trauma resources in multiple languages and offering psychological guidance to hundreds of thousands; leading crisis interventions and consultations for thousands in global communities, schools, and organiza-

tions; establishing a dedicated 24-hour helpline to help those directly affected by the war; and ensuring medical care continues uninterrupted for families whose medical hardships are further complicated by the ongoing situation.

Chai Lifeline’s Evening of Unity paid tribute to the incredible dedication and efforts of the more than 200 dedicated volunteers worldwide who comprise Chai Lifeline’s Crisis and Trauma Services team, led by its director, Rabbi Dr. Dovid Fox. The organization also honored Congressman Ritchie Torres, U.S. representative for New York’s 15th congressional district, with the Champion of Israel award in recognition of his unwavering support of Israel and the Jewish community, as well as his ongoing advocacy against antisemitism The program featured Israeli-themed cuisine and moving musical performances by Yishai Lapidot, Eitan Katz, and Yaakov Lemmer.

“During these darkest of times, we have witnessed the incredible resiliency and unity of our community,” said Rabbi Scholar. “The international response of so many good and kind-hearted people is a testament to the eternal power of giving and caring for others. This evening was a testament to that unity and support, as well as our commitment to continue to be there for our brothers and sisters in need.”

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randparents are the voice of the past and the door to the future. They provide us with wisdom from a lifetime of experience that should never be undervalued.”

Given that sentiment, Generations Day at Emek was a huge success! Emek grandparents and great-grandparents alike came from near and far to shep nachas from their beautiful grandchildren.

Our guests were reunited with old friends and family as sufganiyot and fresh fruit were available throughout the morning. Our Pre-1st through 5th grade students were able to bring their family members to their classrooms for special Chanukah performances, and to work on spectacular Chanukah art projects. Students had loads of fun with their Bubbies and Zaidies, creating projects involving dreidels, picture frames, candles and pedestals. Generations Day at Emek is a highly cherished event and we appreciate all the grandparents sharing in this unique program.

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Village Synagogue’s Menorah Lighting Ceremony at Pan Pacific Park

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housands attended a Menorah Lighting Ceremony at Pan Pacific Park in the heart of Los Angeles on the 5th night of Chanukah, Monday December 11th, hosted by Village Synagogue. A night of light and joy in solidarity with Israel, attendees were entertained by Jewish rapper, Kosha Dillz, the Zusha Band and Israeli singer, Idan Raichel.

Counsel General for Israel, Mr. Israel Bachar, opened the evening and addressed the crowd followed by greetings from Councilwoman, Katy Yaroslavsky. The Menorah was lit by Boy Meets World actor, Ben Savage, and survivor of the October 7th massacre at the Nova Festival in Israel, Danielle Sasi. A historic, skyline display lit up the sky, with a Menorah that could be seen for tens of miles. The largest Menorah display of any kind. A symbol of our nation’s perseverance during these challenging times and a reminder that light will always overcome darkness.

“In the past two months we have had to tap into the deepest reservoirs of our faith and remind ourselves that we are believers and the children of believers and just like those before us have overcome - we will emerge stronger, united and more connected

than ever before.” Rabbi Fogelman said in his remarks.

“Remember that you are a part of a nation that values life. Remember that you are a part of a people that pray for peace.Today, we are charged to stand up for truth in the face of those trying to diminish it. Today we demonstrate the power of faith and the miracles it can spark.” Rabbi Fogelman said, addressing the thousands of children, teens and campus students in the crowd.

The evening concluded with songs of Jewish unity as thousands sang and danced together. The event was made possible by corporate sponsors: Caruso, Volt Lites, Fab Fit Fun, Xlear, Go Jeff Law, and Herzog Wine. Special thanks to Event Producer, Yossi Burston Productions.

Village Synagogue is headquartered In West Hollywood and is led by Rabbi Zalmy and Chana Fogelman, home to Village Hebrew, Bar/Bat Mitzvah Academies, Synagogue & Community Center, The Village Shop, a Young Professional Division and Chana’s Challah.

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SimXa Shabbaton 2023 Unites and Inspires

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his year’s SimXa Shabbaton, held in Marina Del Rey, CA, over Thanksgiving weekend, united over 180 Jews of different backgrounds. “I had a wonderful first-time experience at SimXa Shabbaton that was both inspiring and touching,” says Galina Vaisman, “and I want to continue connecting more deeply with my Judaism.” Itzhak Cherner, another new participant, says “we enjoyed the Shabbaton very much and so did our children. We met many wonderful people and enjoyed lectures, atmosphere, and delicious food.”

Keynote speaker, Rabbi Aryeh Katzin of Jerusalem, held mind-boggling discussions on controversial topics of the current situation in Israel, intertwined with stories of miracles that happened to families he personally encountered. Rabbi Yossi Eilfort of Magen Am conducted learning sessions on community and personal safety, and practical training on self-defense tactics. Rabbi Yanky Kahn of Tarzana gave an emotional presentation on his participation in a recent support mission trip to Israel.

Rabbi Reuven Wolf of LA gave a fascinating lecture on the mystical significance of the chant “From the river to the sea.” Miriam Yerushalmi delighted audiences with topics on relationships, parenting, and our tremendous inner potential. Rabbi Chaim Teleshevsky, of S. Monica, gave a presentation on Emotion Code for self-improvement. Esther Tebeka of Las Vegas spoke about her journey from a Chinese celebrity to a Jewish Acupuncturist.

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Rabbi Yechezkel and Ora Rapoport of Seattle conducted learning sessions in Chassidus. Rabbi Lev Yakov Voskoboynik of Kansas University energized everyone with inspiring divrei Torah. Katya Kapelnikova of Chicago gave two soulful concerts for ladies. Ahuva Perlov of S. Jose held a discussion on creating the reality for our internal growth. Rada Konvisser gave a presentation on the life of Golda Meir.

Rabbi Sadya Davidoff of Seattle held a fahrbrengen for pre-teen boys and a guitar kumzits for children.

“Simxa Shabbaton is a great opportunity to reconnect with old friends and make new ones,” says Marina Sragovicz, a repeat attendee from S. Diego. “The sense of warmth and togetherness was comforting during difficult times and provided support and encouragement.”

“This was an oasis of light for me,” said Hinda Langer of S. Francisco.

Shabbaton organizers, Moshe and Esther Davidoff, are happy with the outcome as well. “For the first time in 22 years of SimXa Shabbatons there were many speakers, educators, and instructors all eager to share their knowledge, talents, and emotions. All hearts and souls were united like never before with desire to contribute to Israel and its salvation. Our meeting rooms, shul, and banquet hall were always at their max capacity,” says Esther. Moshe adds, “The shabbaton was a true success, embracing warmth, serenity, and inspiration. The feeling of elation was palpable.”

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ecently, Shalhevet got the incredible opportunity to have a private audience with Shye Klein, a survivor of the Nova Music Festival attacks on October 7th, who is traveling the U.S. with the organization Faces of October Seventh.

Shye’s story is unquestionably important and inherently valuable for audiences less familiar with what happened on that horrific day, but it also reminded our students, who are already intimately familiar with the events of October 7th, that they’re not alone. This initiative stands as a testament to the power of firsthand narratives, aiming to cut through the noise and bring the voices of survivors directly to communities and campuses across North America. Our students bore witness to Shye’s testimony, an experience they won’t soon forget.

Torat Shalhevet is also starting their Erev Iyyun Series. Each month, a different member of Shalhevet’s Limudei Kodesh faculty will give a shiur to the Torat Shalhevet community. Rabbi Falk will be kicking off the series where he will revisit the familiar and stirring words of Lecha Dodi and trace its origins to the Gemara, Tanach, and the spiritual revolution that took place in 16th century Tzfat. For more information about attending the series, please contact g.falk@shalhevet.org.

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LINK Chanukah Party Entertains Children of All Ages

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Healing Kumzitz by Bnei Akiva of LA

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he euphoric echoes of our voices mixed with Eitan Katz’s during the community wide Kumzitz will resonate within our community’s collective spirit. Organized by Bnei Akiva of Los Angeles on November 30th, 2023, the event drew over 300 people, creating an atmosphere of unity and shared purpose.

Eitan Katz’s melodic niggunim and stories transcended the boundaries of our individual souls, weaving a tapestry of healing and spiritual upliftment. As his heartfelt songs reverberated through the venue, we felt a profound connection, our neshamas (souls) resonating with the power of music and communal harmony.

A poignant moment unfolded when we watched a video featuring Bnei Akiva

of LA and Moshava Alevy alumni who had grown into proud soldiers serving in the IDF. These individuals, molded by the values instilled in them by Bnei Akiva, stood as living testaments to the impact of our community. Witnessing their dedication and courage in defending their homeland during times of conflict filled us with immense pride. The event became more than a mere gathering; it became a celebration of our shared journey, strength and resilience. Thanks to our wonderful sponsors, donors, volunteers, and community for joining and bringing strength to one another during these difficult times. Bnei Akiva of LA is proud to be a part of a community that will continue to uplift one another. Am Yisrael Chai!

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Tashbar Celebrates our Sephardic Minhagim with Historic Tallit Event

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A Photo Speaks More than a Thousand Words

Roladin sends DONUTS to the frontlines!

Tamir Hershkowitz goes back to his parents Noach and Maayana’ s destroyed home in Kibbutz Be’eri to see what he can salvage

Menorahs of the IDF

The only thing Tamir could find was this charred Menorah

Tamir lights the Menorah in the burnt home of his murdered parents on the first night of Chanukah

Erdan holds up head of Hamas’ phone number in case anyone wants a true cease fire

A billboard in Kansas

IDF learning Gemara in Gaza

A home outside Concord, Massachusetts has a flag for every hostage

The people of Amsterdam in support of Israel

Child returns as a soldier to the beach in Gaza after 19 years, as one of the families evacuated from Gush Katif

YU Basketball team wears shirts with photos of the hostages while playing against NYU

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Army tank covered in letters from children to IDF soldiers

A menorah taken off a shul in Gush Katif has been at the Gush Katif museum all these years. It has now been brought back to Gaza at the exact site of the previous shul

Lighting a menorah for every hostage at the Kotel

Mashiach rolling in on a tank

On the first night of Chanukah, Yeshiva students light a menorah for every hostage not yet returned

Shalom Bayit

Through the Parsha

Rabbi Nir Yacoby

Parshat Vayigash: Money

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wife asks her husband: “I It could be because you have different dreams, or even if you have a shared dream, how you relate need to buy a new dress.”

“What’s wrong with the one you to money may be different. You, for example, want to create a budget, but to her, a budget apalready have?” he asks.

“It’s too long and the veil keeps pears to be a way to control her spending, indeed getting into my eyes.” Do some, to control her. Dreams are unspoken. If you speak many, most or all couples argue over them out with your wife, you will reduce your differences and increase your shalom bayit. money?

To understand that, let’s observe Joseph, a moment before he reveals himself in ‫ויגש‬. His advisers keep saying “Joseph, these people are innocent. All they want is food.”

While Joseph is thinking to himself: “Innocent? They are mean!

Food? They almost fed me to the snakes and scorpions.”

Looking at the same picture they saw opposing realities: Joseph saw tormentors; the advisers saw innocent people.

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arshat Vayigash, nestled in the heart of Yosef’s story, is a powerful account of familial strife, emotional cutoff, and ultimately, the profound journey towards reconciliation. This story not only provides a glimpse into the complexities of human relationships but also offers profound insights into the corrosiveness of emotional cutoff and the transformative power of reconciliation.

Parshat Vayigash opens with the words “Vayigash eilav Yehuda” — “And Yehuda drew near him.” Yehuda steps forward to intercede on behalf of Binyamin with an impassioned plea reflecting the emotional intensity of the familial ties that had been strained and severed over the years.

Emotional cutoff, a concept in Family Systems Theory, refers to the distancing or detachment that individuals sometimes employ as a coping mechanism when faced with unresolved emotional issues within their families. In the case of Yosef and his brothers, the initial sale into slavery served as a traumatic rupture that led to emotional cutoff. Murray Bowen, the founder of Family Systems Theory explained, “Emotional cutoffs hinder the development of emotional intelligence, preventing individuals from fully engaging in meaningful relationships.”

The brothers, haunted by guilt, chose to distance themselves emotionally, creating a wound that festered over time.

The Parsha introduces a profound turning point. The cutoff that had persisted for years is confronted, and the brothers are forced to grapple with the weight of their past actions. Vayigash means to draw near. The Torah is teaching us that to move in the direction of reconciliation is literally to move toward one another. Even if we are unable to fully meet, to fully fix what’s broken, we can begin to make a difference by stepping forward. In the dance of relationships, reconciliation is the graceful step that allows the music of understanding to play on.

Ramban asks why Yehuda felt the need to repeat the entire story to Yosef, explaining that his frequent use of words such as “my lord” and “your servant” suggest that not only is he speaking to Yosef, but more so he’s figuratively speaking directly to Hashem, pouring out his heart and his entire life’s narrative. Yehuda steps forward as an act of teshuvah standing up for his youngest brother and moving towards reconciliation for his past. With Yehuda taking a step forward, Yosef is moved to take the next step. Reconciliation involves a willingness to confront the pain of the past, to let go of resentment, and to rebuild connections that were once severed.

As Yosef and his brothers embrace and weep together, the Torah teaches us that reconciliation requires vulnerability and a willingness to confront pain that led to the cutoff in the first place.

The art of reconciliation is a testament to the strength of the human spirit, capable of turning wounds into wisdom and discord into harmony.

In our own lives, the lessons from Parshat Vayigash remind us of the importance of addressing emotional cutoffs within our families and communities. The path to reconciliation is a challenging journey worth taking.

By acknowledging the pain, fostering understanding, and extending forgiveness, we have the potential to mend the broken bonds that hinder our well-being. May we find inspiration to embark on our own journeys of reconciliation, bridging the gaps that keep us apart and foster connections that bring healing and wholeness to our lives. __________________________________ Elan Javanfard, M.A., L.M.F.T. is a Consulting Psychotherapist focused on behavioral health redesign, a Professor of Psychology at Pepperdine University, & a lecturer related to Mindfulness, Evidence Based Practices, and Suicide Prevention. Elan is the author of Psycho-Spiritual Insights: Exploring Parasha & Psychology, a weekly blog. He lives in the Los Angeles Pico Robertson community with his wife and two children and can be reached at Elan.Javanfard@ gmail.com.

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Stories

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Dama ben Nesina

In the time of the Beis HaMikdash the Kohen Gadol wore 8 special garments while he did his work. One of these garments was called the Ephod which had two precious gems attached to it.

One day while the Kohen Gadol was walking through the Beis Hamikdash one of the gems of the Ephod became loose and fell out. The Kohen Gadol retraced his steps but the precious gem was nowhere to be seen. Many people helped search but the missing gem remained missing.

There was no choice but to purchase another precious gem. But where could they find such a rare and magnificent jewel?

The Kohanim went to many shops to purchase the gem but none of them had the one they needed.

There was a Non-Jewish man from the city of Ashkelon named Dama ben Nesina who sold rare and expensive jewelry. The Kohanim traveled to Ashkelon and knocked on his door.

Dama opened the door and welcomed them in. “What could I do for you?” he asked. They described to him the gem that they needed. “That gem is very rare and very costly,” he said, “but I happen to have the one that you are looking for.” The Kohanim were very excited! They offered Dama 400,000 golden lira, which was a huge sum of money.

“One moment,” he said, “I need to go upstairs to get it.” A few minutes later, he came back down without the precious gem. “I am sorry but the key to the jewelry chest is under my father’s pillow and my father is resting!”

The Kohanim thought that Dama ben Nesina was using this as an excuse to get more money so they offered him 600,000 golden lira, but Dama ben Nesina said, “I am sorry, I cannot wake up my father.”

The Kohanim offered him 800,000 golden lira, but Dama ben Nesina shook his head and said, “I am sorry, you will need to try to find the gem from another gem dealer.”

The Kohanim were very disappointed. As they were about to leave, Dama ben Nesina’s father woke up and called out, “Dama, could you please

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bring me a glass of water?” Dama quickly ran to get water and brought it to his father.

When he came back down the stairs he brought with him the precious gem and showed it to the Kohanim. Their faces sparkled with joy because this was exactly the stone that they needed for the Ephod. They counted out 800,000 golden liras and handed it to Dama ben Nesina “Why are you giving me 800,000 golden lira?” he asked surprisingly. “We made a deal for 400,000 golden lira!” The Kohanim responded! “We thought that you wanted more money and that is why you told us that the key was under the pillow upon which your father was resting.”

“G-d forbid. I was telling you the truth,” said Dama ben Nesina.

“And I would not have woken up my father for all the money in the world.”

The Kohanim were grateful that they had succeeded in finding a new stone for the Ephod but they were even more grateful that they had the opportunity to learn tremendous honesty and Kibbud Av from Dama ben Nesina.

This story can be found in Kiddushin 31a

Questions for Discussion 1.

Do you know the name of the garment worn by the Kohain Gadiol that had 12 precious gems?

2. What were 3 acts that Dama ben Nesina did that showed the Kohanim his honor for his father?

3. What did Dama ben Nesina do that showed the Kohanim his tremendous honesty?

4. What would have happened if Dama ben Nesina’s father didn’t wake up at the time that he did? ___________________________________________ Rabbi Mordechai Dubin is a Rebbe at Gindi Maimonides Academy. He is the author of three illustrated children’s books, I’ll Never Forget Yerushalayim, I Believe, and I Know 6; and has produced four Musical CD’s for children, I Made This World For you, Let My People Go, Al Shelosha Devarim, and Hashem is Always With Me.

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Can We Be Hopeful Despite the Nightmare

“With the news from Israel bringing us false starts and disappointments, I must admit that I am becoming cynical. I try not to despair but listening to the world press and media, there is so much shifting of blame onto our people, and they overlook our casualties and the atrocities. I do not know anymore how to remain hopeful.”

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hen our crisis line fields the con fusion and anger of adults who feel deflated by the incessant doom of negative news, any first response must begin with acknowledging that the news bias is in fact negative and upsetting. This is what the media does best, and with the appearance of so much anti-Israel or anti-Jewish hype, it is indeed difficult to boost our spirits and to feel hope and confidence. Boosting spirits: hope is as much a spiritual state as it is a state of mind. I will explain.

Dovid HaMelech says in Tehillim that as we will exit the exile and return to Tzion, “we were like dreamers.” The wording there is noteworthy because one would expect the verse to say that “we will be like dreamers.” The past-tense conjugation needs explanation. The commentaries debate the

message of the wording. Some say that “we were like dreamers” means that we will be able to wake up finally and experience the serenity and sanctity of Jewish life once again, appreciating the good and taking nothing for granted. It will all become a dreamy existence moving ahead. Other commentaries contend that the past-tense “we were like dreamers” means that once, G-d willing, our people are safe and secure, we will then be able to look back and allow it to register fully: this has been a bad dream. This was a nightmare.

The human brain does not thrive when we refuse to acknowledge negative realities. By forcing ourselves into untenable denial in trying to feel only positive, the mind develops a defensive, tense posture. The issues which trouble us may sink beneath our consciousness but will continue to weigh us down. The brain knows what it knows, whether or not we allow those negative realities and feelings into awareness.

We do better when we face issues, when we look at the positive while also being mindful of the stresses. This puts us into the position of being able to talk through our worries and fears rather than suppress them. This creates a greater sense of balance and regulation within, and actually generates our ability to

draw on internal resources for better coping.

We cannot cope if we do not begin with facing the distress that needs to be coped with.

Adults need to validate that there is a sense of distress which is anchored in reality. What is the reality?

This is a nightmare. Some people already know this. Some look away and numb themselves to the fears and pain of all that has happened in the last many weeks.

The healthy adult perspective during dismal times is in fact to acknowledge our uneasiness and then to develop a sense of hopefulness. Hope is one of those mind states which hovers between being a way of thinking and being a way of feeling. It is a neurobiological brain capacity. It is psychological but also somewhat spiritual. Hope entails the recognition of the past and present pressures, and also recognizing our past and present strengths and positive experiences. We all have a history of having had better times, and we must access the thoughts and feelings associated with those positive experiences.

Creating hope then involves our projecting forward that although these current times feel bad, we know that we have had better times and that better times will return in the future.

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be better dreams, and by envisioning those positive times ahead, the mind begins to feel its darkness lifting, as if one can even now in this tense moment have a sense, a taste, a trace, of what we will experience once our world is in a better state. People cope through hope.

During better times we have had that sense, that taste, and its presence still lingers within our accessible memory. The mind state of becoming hopeful, of hopefulness, is re-accessing the pleasant past so that we can revive it in our present experience.

Hope paves the way to anticipate better times to come, and our faith that we will emerge from this nightmare.

Hope is being under the chuppah and amidst the ecstatic joy and celebration, knowing that when the glass is broken, we must acknowledge the history of churban, and yet we look ahead, sensing that the joy will return as we look ahead with hopefulness. __________________________________ Rabbi Dr. Dovid Fox is the director of Chai Lifeline Crisis and Trauma Services. For Israel crisis resources and support, visit chailifeline.org/israel or call 855-3-CRISIS.

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This Year in Jerusalem!

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here is a new phenomenon emerging in the Jewish world.

But first let me tell you a story. We were scheduled to take 44 LA Dads to Israel in November on a 200-person Mission.

Then October 7th happened, and the trip did not. But I was determined to go to Israel like those tales you hear about, of people running to Israel during the Six Day War or Yom Kippur War. For 50 years I wondered why people would do that? And now I understand. I didn’t want to be anywhere else.

So, using my platform at Aish, we quickly attracted a diverse group of students, supporters, and just plain folk from across North America. We marketed a 6-day trip that promised they would make “an enormous contribution to Israel.” And contribute they did, in money and in random acts of kindness. Within 2 weeks, we had attracted two busloads. The group never complained or looked at their watch.

They just rolled up their sleeves and said, “put me to work.” They had no fear, rather an unlimited reservoir of empathy. The Inbal hotel in Jerusalem limited the group’s size because displaced families had taken up the rest of the capacity.

Yes, the security issue weighs like an anvil over everyone’s heads both there and here. We all felt that Jerusalem was probably the safest city in the world. Let me ask you, who would you rather entrust your life with all things being equal: The IDF or the LAPD? Guns were in plain sight everywhere, and ironically, I never have felt more secure.

It’s time to blanket Israel with Solidarity Missions. I am imploring you to create your own within your circle of influence.

It’s the next wave of what Jews do and need to do! Right now, the Jewish Quarter and Ben Gurion airport are ghost towns. Cabbies complained of few riders.

Why us? Why now?

Because the entire country is in trauma from the pressures of the War. Everyone has relatives and friends on the Fronts, in the Reserves, and there are so many who are injured, captured, still missing, or killed.

We North Americans were the emotional support for an exasperated populace. Everywhere we went people said “Thank you for coming. It means so much to us.” I was giving out hugs and everyone took one… as they told us of their drama and heroics. Just our presence spoke volumes.

How about the argument that we should have just donated the trip expense instead and not come? Are you kidding? We easily dumped $400,000 on the economy and additionally donated somewhere north of $350,000 along the way. Including an air

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force squadron of drones, which seems to be the essential Chanukah gift for anyone in the Reserves.

If for no other reason, you must experience the overwhelming unity that currently glues the country together. I had no idea where Israelis stood on politics or religion.

It never came up in conversation! There was one task at hand; defeat the enemy and support each other in the process.

As I promoted the trip for two nonstop sleepless weeks, I only had a vague idea of what we would do and the impact we would make. Here are the activities we did, and I suggest you do the same or a variation of: • Find a shiva or military funeral.

• Listen to relatives of the captives.

• Visit wounded soldiers. We spontaneously walked into Hadassah Ein Keren and said we were there to help.

• Throw a barbeque for an IDF base. We made one for 700 soldiers on a transit base five miles from Gaza.

• Harvest the abandoned fields. Nothing like getting Eretz Yisrael under your fingernails.

• Make sandwiches and food for the IDF. At the Aroma Café, we were a 10,000-sandwich conveyor belt just for one lunch for the Reserves.

• Visit Shura Rabbanut Army base to learn how they identify bodies and how they dealt with the deluge of 1200 in one day.

• On the same grounds, visit the world’s largest Ark with hundreds of IDF Torahs. And dance one hakafah (circuit) with a torah rescued from the Holocaust for the Simcha Torah that couldn’t be celebrated.

• Visit the displaced families in hotels and bring toys for the children.

• Don’t forget letters for the soldiers who literally pin them up in their barracks.

• Drop off Shabbos food at the homes of families whose fathers are at the Front.

• Listen to stories of bravery and near misses from the survivors who had no idea of the magnitude of the onslaught.

They fought, while outnumbered, with guns against RPGs, defending hundreds at a time.

• And of course, dance and pray Friday night at the Kotel. You must celebrate life and our purpose for being. It will lift us to triumph over, yet another challenge brought on because we are the Light unto the very dark Nations.

On Shabbos we visited with the venerable 89-year-old Chicago born, Rabbinical Historian, Author, and Lecturer Rabbi Berel Wein, who made aliya 26 years ago.

He summed up the current situation as “We are living in Biblical Times, and we will eventually vanquish our enemies.” The Q and A continued as we thirsted for answers to the new era that has been ushered in.

Bottom line: Get on a plane. You will make a difference and encounter an Israel that is a taste of the Messianic Age and an Israel that is united in love and purpose. _____________________________________ Rabbi Aryeh Markman has been the Executive Director for Aish LA since 1994. He graduated from the University of Illinois with a Distinction in Finance and received his ordination from Rabbi Noah Weinberg, Founder of Aish HaTorah. Aryeh is married to Rochel and their children are spread out over 10 time zones.

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Genocide? Depends On The Context Alina Uchitel

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or most of us, Judaism is a massive part of our identity. Whether you are orthodox or secular, American or Israeli, our Jewish faith is accompanying us in every moment of our daily lives. Growing up Jewish looked different for most people, but obvious similarities can be found pretty easily. Shabbat, donuts on Hanukkah, wine and far too much candy on Purim are among them, regardless of your religious level or geographic location.

Another common similarity among all Jewish households is the topic of the Holocaust.

One would have to take extreme measures to find a Jewish family that was not meticulously educated about the horrors that our ancestors went through.

Eighty years ago, the hatred of Jews was rooted so deeply in people’s minds, it allowed one of the worst tragedies in the history of mankind to occur. The world was horrified to learn about the atrocities of the Nazis and their helpers against innocent humans. Torturing, mutilating, brutally murdering and aiming to erase the Jewish race by executing six million Jewish individu-

als. They failed. The survivors kept living.

They got married, had children and grandchildren, and were able to pass the Jewish history, the traditions and the stories to the next generations. Two words were passed down in every family. Two words that every Jew around the world knows. Never Again.

Jewish people vowed that this tragedy will not happen ever again.

On October 7, 2023, Israel suffered the deadliest terror attack on Jewish people since the Holocaust. From that moment on, being Jewish became harder. Universities, that are supposed to be a safe place for students from any background, ethnicity, religion and race, turned into a battlefield.

Tens of thousands of students and professors openly protest not only against Israel’s right to exist, but also glorifying the terrorists who committed those crimes against humanity. With no repercussions to these immoral and shameful antisemitic protests, they keep growing in numbers by attracting more students who choose to attack Israel as their social justice cause of the month.

The chants that are leading these protests

are getting worse and worse, targeting Israeli and Jewish students not only with hate speech but with physical actions as well.

To address the massive ongoing rise in antisemitism on college campuses, the presidents of Harvard University, the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT), and The University of Pennsylvania (UPenn) were summoned to testify before congress.

However, their pathetic rehearsed answers, that fail to condemn the chants calling to murder Jewish people that can be heard all over their campuses, left the audience speechless. When directly asked whether calling for the genocide of Jews is a violation of the code of conduct under bullying and harassment, Upenn’s president dared to answer that it depends on the context. Furthermore, she added that if the speech becomes conduct, only then it can violate their policy. The lack of moral clarity left the audience, congress and viewers shocked, horrified and angered. Needless to say that if these chants were targeting any other race, ethnic or religious group, the answers of the ivy league presidents would

sound one hundred percent different. I wonder if the KKK stormed into campuses and openly called for the murder of any group of people, how would the police react? What would all the opening segments be in the news report? What kind of statement would the university presidents release? My guess is nothing as weak and dismissing as the ones that were given when it’s time to defend the Jewish students.

Our ancestors survived one of the darkest times of human history. Their voices were dismissed back then. It is up to us to make sure our voices are heard loud and clear 80 years later. It is up to us to make sure these universities, educators and public figures do no get to dismiss calls of genocide. “Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—because I was not a Jew.” Never Again. _____________________________________ Alina is an American Israeli who is navigating the complexities of identity and politics during this challenging time.

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Free Speech Is Not A Free-For-All Lou Shapiro

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he news cycle continues to baffle the Jewish community and its supporters. You couldn’t help but shake your head when you watched the testimony by the leaders of three top universities at a congressional hearing on antisemitism on college campuses. Everyone asked how it is even a question as to whether calling for the genocide of Jews violates a school’s codes of conduct? Yet the presidents of Harvard, MIT, and the University of Pennsylvania found difficulty answering it.

They were conflicted because they were caught between how they wanted to respond from a moral perspective vs. a free speech perspective. Morally they are opposed to calling for the genocide of Jews but since they view it as free speech, they do not know how to address it.

But is what is transpiring on college campuses “free speech”? The ACLU says much of it is. They defend students’ right to use terms such as “from the river to the sea” -- a slogan used by Hamas, designated by the U.S. as a terrorist group -- that supporters of Israel say means wiping Israel and its people off the map.

“There is no ‘controversial speech’ exception to the First Amendment. The First Amendment and the principles of academic freedom require higher education institutions to safeguard all protected speech -- even when that speech is contentious or offensive,” Jenna Leventoff, senior policy counsel at ACLU, told ABC News.

“In fact, the First Amendment exists to protect exactly this kind of political expression. Therefore, phrases like ‘from the river to the sea,’ ‘no ceasefire,’ ‘make America great again,’ and ‘no justice, no peace’ are protected.” The First Amendment “protects speech no matter how offensive its content,” according to the ACLU. On December 13, 2023, Ilya Shapiro who is the director of constitutional studies at the Manhattan Institute authored a piece entitled, “Where Free Speech Ends and Lawbreaking Begins.” He dives deeper in the issue and provides the following: “I would put my free speech bona fides up against anyone. I’m also a lawyer and sometime law professor who recognizes that not all speech-related questions can be resolved by invoking the words First Amendment. Much of what we’ve witnessed on campuses over the past few weeks is not, in fact, speech, but conduct designed specifically to harass, intimidate, and terrorize Jews.

Other examples involve disruptive speech that can properly be regulated by school rules. Opposing or taking action against such behavior in no way violates the core constitutional principle that the government can’t punish you for expressing your beliefs.”

He explains that in drawing the line between speech and conduct, some cases are

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easy: “For example, beating someone up, as has happened at Columbia and Tulane, is assault. Crowding around someone in a threatening manner, like a group of Harvard students—including an editor of the Harvard Law Review—did to an Israeli student who filmed their protest, is commonly known as the crime of “menacing.” A pattern of actions designed to frighten and harass someone, like forcing Jewish students into the Cooper Union library while pounding on the doors and windows, is stalking. Defacing someone’s property by spray-painting swastikas and slogans, as happened at American University, is vandalism. So is tearing down posters—at least on private property and in most campus settings. And masking at a protest, also a hallmark of events sponsored by the Students for Justice in Palestine organization, is illegal in many states—a remnant of the battle against KKK intimidation.

The proper response to such behavior, regardless of how “expressive” someone may claim it to be, is the same response we’d have to instances of assault, stalking, intimidation, and other crimes in any other context: identify, arrest, and prosecute the perpetrators. And in the campus setting, expel them.”

With respect to genocidal slogans like “globalize the intifada” or “from the river to the sea”, Shapiro says that it depends on the context: “First, a clear-cut case: the Cornell student who posted death threats online to Jewish students was rightly arrested, because, as the Supreme Court held, the Constitution doesn’t protect “those statements where the speaker means to communicate a serious expression of an intent to commit an act of unlawful violence to a particular individual or group of individuals.”

In addition to such “true threats” (and not simply political hyperbole), the First Amendment does not protect the incitement of violence, which the Supreme Court has defined as speech that is “directed at inciting or producing imminent lawless action and is likely to incite or produce such action.” The courts have set a high bar on meeting this standard—but it’s surely been reached in some recent cases both on and off-campus.

Take, for example, the pro-Palestine rally in Los Angeles, where, in the course of the event, a 69-year-old man holding an Israeli flag was struck and killed. Assuming eliminationist or other violent slogans were chanted there, it would be hard to imagine a more direct connection between those chants and actual violence.

But a group of students marching through campus cheering for Hamas is no different than a group of students celebrating the killing of innocent black people. Though we can imagine how different the campus response to the latter would be, from a First Amendment perspective, both are protected.”

He concludes with, “We shouldn’t weaken speech protections, which have made America not only the freest country in the world, but the most tolerant. But sometimes “speech” isn’t speech. Sometimes it rises to the level of conduct that prevents others from being able to live their lives.

Right now we need people to discern the difference.”

It is for this reason that Jewish students at New York University, UC Berkeley, and the University Pennsylvania filed lawsuits alleging that their schools failed to protect them from escalating antisemitism, which they say has worsened since the start of the Israel-Hamas war on Oct. 7. Their lawsuits invokes Title VI of the 1964 Civil Rights Act, which prohibits discrimination based on race, color or national origin. They provide several examples of Jewish students being subjected to pervasive acts of hatred, discrimination, harassment and intimidation and that their schools are showing a deliberate indifference to them.

Undoubtedly the universities will assert defenses couched in free speech. They will say how many of the chants of the Pro-Palestinian protestors are inconsistent with the core values of their school and they wish they could do something about it but the First Amendment ties their hands.

But how will they explain a Jewish student draped in an Israeli flag being attacked by two protestors and struck in the head with a metal water bottle? How will they defend against allegations of Jews on campus receiving hate emails calling for their gassing and murder. How will they justify Jewish students being afraid to go to class because they had to pass through the pro-Hamas rallies taking place in main thoroughfares?

It appears that the universities are about to get a lesson on free speech. ___________________________________

Lou Shapiro is a criminal defense attorney-certified specialist and legal analyst, but most importantly, makes the endof-shul announcements at Adas Torah. He can be reached at LouisJShapiro@gmail.com.

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ON THE BRINK(S) The streets are riddled with Brinks armored trucks, stopping at the businesses we frequent daily. Brinks trucks are known to carry large amounts of cash, but were you aware they also transport high value items and auction pieces such as the Hope Diamond? They transport these precious goods to banks, specific high-end retailers, government buildings, mints, and jewelers. In the case of items like the Hope Diamond, they will also deliver directly to the buyer’s home.

MILLIONS ON THE MOVE In our favorite action movies, we see heists of these armored trucks take place with millions of dollars stolen at a time. Due to liability insurance only covering about two to three million dollars, Brinks trucks carry four to six million dollars at their allowed maximum capacity. They can actually carry significantly more. Each truck can transport four to six pallets of cash at a time, but if they carried pallets of strictly $100 bills, the total would add up to almost half a billion dollars!

However, this is rarely the case, as the Federal Reserve is the only entity that works with dollar amounts that large. But don’t forget the Hope Diamond! When cargo like this is being moved, the trucks will carry well over their usual four to six million dollars value in cash. The jewels they transport can be worth hundreds of millions and will take on larger insurance policies. does it take to be an armored truck BEHIND THE WHEEL What driver? It does have strict requirements but

HIGH-STAKES TARGETS Every year there are between 25 and 35 attempts to rob armored trucks in the United States. This is in comparison to the 4,000 attempted bank robberies a year. Only few of these robberies are ever successful. Due to the safety measures taken by drivers and the security features on the armored trucks, most of these robberies are considered to be inside jobs, meaning they are assisted by someone within the armored truck company. These heists require knowledge of the specific trucks driving routes, driver’s patterns, and vulnerable spots along the route.

may not be as daunting as you assume it to be! The basic requirements are a high school diploma, minimum age of 21, no criminal record and the ability to pass an extensive background check. Additional requirements are a guard card training and certification, a valid firearms permit or the ability to pass the firearm licensing requirements, and the ability to complete internal training. Drivers with previous security or military experience are preferred, but it is not required. You must be able to make effective threat assessments and risk analysis, as well as be able to uphold security measures. How much does this dangerous job pay you might ask? A disappointing $25.29 an hour or around $50,580 per year.

THEY GOT AWAY WITH IT The Great Brinks Robbery was an armed robbery that took place in Boston, Massachusetts in 1950. The robbers got away with $2.775 million ($33.8 million today) of cash, checks, and money orders. Only 3 of the 6 assailants were ever caught and convicted.

In July 2022, one of the greatest jewelry heists in U.S. history occurred when a Brinks truck carrying precious jewels reached the LA County line. The driver went to grab some food while his co-pilot was asleep. He left the truck for about 27 minutes. At this time, the robbers struck, getting away with over $100 million work of opals, rubies, yellow diamonds and more. The FBI and LA County Sheriff's Department have never announced suspects in the case, meaning the thieves successfully made off with all of the gems.

In June of this year, 3 men attacked a Brinks armored truck driver in broad daylight, stealing $15,000. The men were never found!

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A couple was arrested on the scene for attempting to steal a large quantity of the money. Over the next few days, after an announcement from the police department, over a dozen people came in to return money they had taken from the spill. It is unknown how many bills were strewn out onto the highway or how much was taken.

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Dear Chani, I need advice on my 14-year-old daughter using technology.

How much time is reasonable for her to shop online? She wants to use my phone daily to search for things; clothes, shoes, ect, and I worry it’s becoming excessive. How can we find a healthy balance?

Hi, thank you for your question. This is definitely a popular topic especially during this gift season. Shopping is in the air and the teens obviously feel it as well!

Here’s a guide to determine your child’s exposure to technology: (Note this may be different for each child).

Imagine Your ideal Scenario: Envision a world without external influences or social pressures. How much technology exposure would be ideal for your child?

Write down your thoughts, focusing on an ideal, not necessarily a realistic scenario.

Do Your Homework: Find out what is the average amount of time your daughter’s friends are spending on technology. Your daughter’s friends are not the kids you want your child to be friends with, but the peers that she is actually friends with. It could be 3, 5, or 10 girls; her close group of friends. For this you will have to consult them or their parents, as your daughter’s perspective might not be entirely reliable - “Everyone is always allowed to shop online whenever they want!”

Record your findings.

Establish Non-Negotiables: Identify what you absolutely won’t allow regarding technology in your home.

This is a personal decision that provides clarity for setting expectations, even if you ultimately won’t need to share this with your child. If we, the parents, don’t have the

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clarity, how can we expect to clearly give over our expectations to our kids? Write down these guidelines.

Create a Technology Schedule: Develop a schedule based on your ideal exposure (step 1) and the information gathered from your research (step 2).

Specify days, times, and frequency. Share this schedule with your daughter, ensuring it aligns with your comfort level and is something she can understand and appreciate.

The goal is to provide clarity and incorporate technology into her routine without it becoming a constant source of desire. Knowing when she can use technology helps reduce obsession. Adjust the schedule as she grows older and revisit these steps when necessary.

I find many times when parents ask me a question about technology, they are really looking for me to just tell them how much their kids should have. Remember, determining technology use is subjective and requires each family to do their own

contemplation. Gain clarity, communicate expectations, and adapt as needed over time.

In weaving these guidelines into your family tapestry, let them be the threads that create a vibrant and balanced pattern, not a tangled web of techno-chaos.

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Chani Heyman is a parenting coach who has been giving parenting classes, based on the teaching of Rebbetzin Spetner, for over 9 years to hundreds of mothers across the US. You can reach her at chaniheyman@gmail.com.

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