The Knot Summer 2025

WEDDINGS

THE CHOICE IS YOURS | 2025

BRING ON THE BLING RING TRENDS YOU’LL LOVE NAIL YOUR WEDDING VIBE MORE IS

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MAXIMALISM AT ITS BEST

Higher Love OLYMPIANS NOAH LYLES & JUNELLE BROMFIELD ON THEIR ENDURING ROMANCE

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STYLE & DECOR

The Choice Is Yours 2025

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DESCRIBE YOUR VIBE Nail your wedding theme, aesthetic and vibe with our easy formula.

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WE ALL WANT TO WED IN A BACKYARD NOW A stunning place to say “I do.”

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THE NEED FOR NOSTALGIA

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HIGHER LOVE Olympians Noah Lyles and Junelle Bromfield talk love and marriage.

On Junelle: Bustier top and skirt by Alexandra Grecco; jewelry: stylist’s own.

On Noah: jeans by Tibi; shirt by K.ngsley; blazer by Who Decides War; sneakers by Adidas; draped shirts: Tibi, Norma Kamali and Officine Générale

Why this sentimental feeling is making a comeback in weddings.

PLANNING

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MONEY MOVES Why weddings cost so much, plus real budget breakdowns to keep you on track.

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PLAN YOUR WEDDING SEASON LIKE A PRO Not sure if you should RSVP yes? Want to know the average cost of being a guest?

We’ve got you.

ON THE COVER Photography by Chrisean Rose; styling by Shibon Kennedy; makeup by Jaleesa Jaikaran at Forward Artists using L’Oréal Paris; hair by Mirna Jose; nails

by Pika; tailoring by Iris Taborsky-Tasa.

On Junelle: dress by KYHA Studio; shoes by Christian Louboutin; earrings by Johnny Nelson; bracelets: stylist’s own. On Noah: pants by Emporio Armani; shirt by Thom Sweeney; blazer by Jack Victor; loafers by Christian Louboutin; bracelet: stylist’s own.

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This or That T R AV E L

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THE THAILAND CHEAT SHEET Adventure to the hottest destination of the year.

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THE RETURN-MOON Four destinations worth revisiting.

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Make getting there part of the fun.

FA S H I O N & B E AU T Y

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NEXT-GEN DRESS CODES

DRESSED TO THE NINES

A new crop of couture is on the horizon.

Truly #extra looks for the morning-of to the after-party.

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SUIT UP Michael Strahan talks fashion-forward ’fits.

BEAUTY FOR EVERYONE Be the best version of yourself on your wedding day.

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A CUT ABOVE THE REST Engagement ring trends that have our attention.

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MORE IS MORE

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Eye-catching accessories to elevate your look.

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NEW YORK, I LOVE YOU High school sweethearts say “I do,” twice, in the Big Apple.

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GOING THE DISTANCE This couple kicked off forever with a whimsical garden celebration.

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TAKING LOVE TO NEW HEIGHTS California locals treated guests to hot air balloons and the best of Chinese culture.

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A NANCY MEYERS WEDDING REGISTRY Create a wish list for a movie-worthy home.

LIFE

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THE BEST DAY Should your wedding day be the best day of your life?

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LETTER FROM THE EDITOR

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The Choice Is Yours A wedding is a joyous event of love and commitment. But it’s also a series of choices, starting with “yes.” Do you want a big wedding or a small celebration? Plated dinner or buffet? Band or DJ? And then there are the decisions that hit a little harder— like trimming your guest list due to venue capacity or opting for smaller centerpieces to keep your floral budget on track. Your wedding is about you and your partner—all the choices you make should reflect your shared values and desires.

We know decision fatigue is real, so we set out to ease the burden by empowering your choices. Isn’t is easier to make a decision when you know in your gut it’s the right one? On page 18 you’ll find a step-by-step guide to nailing your vibe, aesthetic and theme (even if you don’t know the difference between the three). Dress code dilemma, no more—we have the foolproof guide to memorable ’fits, plus the truly #extra looks you’ll love for the big day. We also tackle the b-word, offer tips for adding some nostalgia to your day and blind you (in the very best way) with the latest bling.

For me, the highlight of this issue was my time with track-star power couple Junelle Bromfield and Noah Lyles. Two words: GREEN FLAGS. They are so grounded in their love for one another and well prepared for the journey ahead as husband and wife.

Their love story warmed my heart and the peek into their wedding plans made me so excited for what’s to come. I even got to go dress shopping with Junelle—pinch me!

Back to choice: I leave you with a quote from Charles R. Swindoll, a pastor and author: “The remarkable thing is, we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.” I think about this regularly, but the sentiment is so apropos for wedding planning. Some choices will be easy, some fraught with disappointment.

How you show up when you make these decisions is everything.

— LAUREN KAY, EXECUTIVE EDITOR

I TA LY A Cut Above, p. 86 Maximal or toi-et-moi

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SET THE TONE

Describe Your

Vibe

HOW YOUR WEDDING LOOKS IS IMPORTANT, BUT HOW IT FEELS IS WHAT YOUR GUESTS WILL REMEMBER. By Cathryn Haight

Anyone with a family member who married in the early 2000s (or who’s a sucker for that era’s wedding-related TV shows) remembers the oft-discussed wedding theme. Anyone who’s engaged right now is likely filtering their wedding decisions through the lens of viral wedding aesthetics.

(Is a champagne tower quiet luxury? Or old money?) And anyone who’s got their ear to the ground in the wedding industry understands the effectiveness and necessity of a wedding vibe.

In short, a wedding vibe goes beyond optics: It captures the mood and emotion of your day, the soul of your wedding. We get it—that sounds like a lot of pressure, but we promise there’s no wrong route to take here. If you’d like some help, tap us in. We’ve created a few explainers and exercises to help you identify (and name) a wedding vibe that’s authentic and truly transcendent.

Let’s formulate your perfect vibe.

Theme vs. Aesthetic vs. Vibe STILL FUZZ Y ABOU T THE DIFFERENCE BE T WEEN THESE THREE TERMS AND HOW THE Y REL ATE ? LE T US CLE AR THINGS UP.

wedding theme /’we-diŋ ‘thēm/ noun. : An overarching characteristic that ties together the visual elements of a wedding, often informed by the location or venue; the look of the event in terms of concrete, general visuals that are easily understood.

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Ex: forest theme, fairytale theme, country theme, beach theme.

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wedding aesthetic /’we-diŋ es-ˈthe-tik/ noun. : A fuller wedding vision that encompasses tangible visual elements like decor as well as perceived actions to create a cinematic moment in time that you can see in your mind’s eye, like a film; a view of a wedding that accounts for the cohesive visuals of a wedding theme and adds a situational aspect and specificity.

Ex: New England summer aesthetic, coastal grandma aesthetic, old money aesthetic, Western gothic aesthetic.

wedding vibe /’we-diŋ ˈvīb/ noun. : The palpable energetic quality of a wedding, the movement and texture of a moment, a look you can feel, like if you were inside the “movie” of the wedding aesthetic; a consideration of emotions and experiences evoked by elements visual and otherwise.

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Ex: Intimate dinner party vibe, sultry city vibe, ethereal classic minimalist vibe, mysterious opulent historic vibe.

In short, think of these three views of your wedding in the shape of a funnel, with the wedding theme being the most broad category at the top, then getting a little more defined in the wedding aesthetic, then ending with the wedding vibe at the bottom, which completes a fully rendered wedding vision. For example, if you start with a beach wedding theme, you could work through it as follows: beach theme

> New England summer aesthetic > intimate alfresco dinner party vibe.

You could also end up with this formula: beach theme > natural, beachside, craggy California aesthetic > minimalist, textural, ethereal vibe.

See how differently you’d experience these weddings? Perhaps the first might use residential decor and a slew of candles to set the scene, with hushed conversation

unfolding around a cozy table.

The latter could come together with floaty white drapes that look like sea-foam, with light wood accents and a nature-inspired color palette—you imagine guests would hear crashing waves and feel a sea breeze. No matter the path you take, you’ll be making not just an event, but a true experience for guests (an experience we’d really like to see the Pinterest board for).

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Think: moody blues, touches of weathered brass, fish motifs, dark and glossy woods, and rope textures.

This aesthetic feels like a well-loved, eclectic old family home in Maine filled with treasures curated for generations.

COASTAL,

SUMPTUOUS,

COLLECTED,

OPULENT,

LEGACY

OTHERWORLDLY

Coquette Aesthetic Frothy, fun and straight from Sofia Coppola’s subconscious, coquette is all about feminine touches like ribbons and lace with an undertone of Victorianera design and a hint of European gilded grandeur.

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RICH,

MOODY,

DELICATE,

MAXIMALIST

BESPOKE

Whimsigoth Aesthetic This aesthetic leans witchy, celestial and a little bit ’90s, embracing jewel tones and woodsy hues in combination with glimmering metallics and lots of texture. It evokes the nostalgia of autumns past.

TEXTURED, MYSTERIOUS, LUXURIANT

Quiet Luxury Aesthetic Rich, luscious neutrals are the name of the game when it comes to quiet luxury. Trappings are elegant yet subtle with a focus on quality over flash.

Use this handy Venn diagram to understand how you might distill a wedding vibe from a popular aesthetic and to get more familiar with how they overlap and intersect. Perhaps you’ll be inspired to incorporate elements from two seemingly opposite aesthetics to craft a heady mélange of a wedding vibe that makes your day feel wholly reflective of your romance, not like a theme party.

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Old Money Aesthetic An aesthetic that evokes the subtle glamour of the generationally wealthy through details pulled from influences like historic architecture, preppy leisure pursuits, subtle vintage nods and luxe materials.

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Once you’ve felt out what your wedding vibe looks and feels like in your head, you’ll need the right words to loop in your vendors. We’ve hashed out the ideal wedding vibe formula and translated it into this fun word bank exercise. Simply choose one word from each column to identify your wedding vibe (and if you think of any additional phrases that fit the bill, feel free to add them in). Play around with different combos until you find one that resonates.

VISUAL

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SENSUAL

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SITUATIONAL

What it looks like

What it feels like

Where it could be

silken urban sleek opulent coastal candlelit classic shimmering velvet dark

intimate ethereal cozy moody layered frothy sumptuous buzzy relaxed nostalgic

dinner party martini bar enchanted forest historic manor ball retro motel tropical heat English rose garden Italian countryside rock club grandma’s house

Your wedding vibe is: [column 1 choice] [column 2 choice] [column 3 choice]

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Your wedding vibe is about the experience of being in a place and existing in an ephemeral moment. To find inspiration on how to truly evoke a feeling, we suggest you close your laptop, click the lock button on your phone and look around you. Consider how to engage all five senses for your guests and consult the list below to see where you might find a wedding vibe muse.

THE LOCAL ART MUSEUM YOU WISH

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YOU LIVED IN:

THE RESTAURANT OR COCKTAIL BAR YOU’RE TRANSPORTED TO IN DREAMS:

Pull ideas from your favorite date-night spot to capture a wedding vibe you love. Is it buzzy, mysterious, intimate, sleek? Find what makes you gravitate toward this space and aim to recreate it.

From taking in ethereal impressionist works to admiring geometric contemporary masterpieces, you’ll feel like a kid in a wedding vibe candy store at your local art museum.

Reflect on the emotions you experience in each gallery, taking snapshots of any art pieces that strike you.

see page 84 for more!

THE SCENT SHOP YOU COULD LINGER IN FOR HOURS:

Wander over to your local Le Labo, department store or candle shop and sniff around. Scent is deeply connected to memory, so use it as a springboard to identify the emotions you’d like to bring out on your day. (Just think about how vibey Maison Margiela’s Replica scents are.) Skip to page 84 to learn why you should consider the olfactory aspect of a wedding.

THE HOME YOU LOVINGLY CURATED:

Chances are, your home is the place where you feel most like yourself, and you’ve designed a space that captures your energy to a T. Look toward things like your decor style, level of minimalism or maximalism and how you feel (and want company to feel) upon walking through the door.

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We All Want to Wed in a Backyard Now

By Cathryn Haight | Illustration by Loveis Wise Coming of age in the mid-2000s, I had a limited understanding of where a “special” wedding could take place. I watched my older cousins pinch pennies to afford receptions at slick art museum venues or jockey for the best hotel ballrooms. At the time, elegance equated to opulence (and sky-high centerpieces and purple uplighting). Nuptials out back at home seemed like an anomaly or a backup plan—not something to strive for.

In today’s wedding landscape, what comes to mind when you think of a backyard celebration feels much different, especially as upscale venues like historic estates offer spaces that bring a similar energy.

Gone are the plastic chairs, potluck wedding buffets and DIY decor

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THE NEW BACKYARD WEDDING IS ELEVATED, EXPENSIVE AND ALL OVER MY FEED.

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lovingly assembled by relatives. In their place are events that recall an alfresco meal at the engaged duo’s favorite buzzy, candlelit restaurant or that recreate a romantic evening the couple spent clinking craft cocktails before a sunset in Tuscany. Most often, they simulate what a Saturday-evening gathering at home with the pair would look like in a perfect world (which somehow includes justshucked oysters and magic grass that your heels won’t sink into).

The new backyard wedding is unabashedly elevated, walking a path paved by the elaborate micro-weddings—destination or otherwise—that sprung up through COVID-19.

Couples with large budgets were forced to shave down guest lists and choose outdoor venues that complied with regulations, including the lawns of stately childhood homes or family vacation properties. These affairs placed an emphasis on gourmet food and cocktails, a curated and immersive design as well as an attention to detail that continues to pervade today—and inevitably raise the bar for backyard bashes.

“So much has evolved in the backyard wedding trend over the last decade,” says Kristen Gosselin, creative director at KG Events & Design on Martha’s Vineyard. “The wedding industry has encountered a pandemic, economic fluctuations and general 24

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trends that have changed the course of execution. There was a huge boost in backyard weddings through the pandemic, and since then, they have remained popular—but with bigger guest counts and fewer restrictions.”

Along with the expected trappings of a backyard wedding, the definition of a luxe celebration has also shifted. It’s not about expensive venues and flashy details anymore. It’s about giving guests the chance to relax and connect in a locale so exclusive and personal to the couple that it’s likely never even seen a wedding aisle before.

“Wedding planning has become the ultimate tool of creative expression for many couples, and no venue is as personal as a childhood home,” says Sarah Lema, lead planner and designer at the New Englandbased Mavinhouse Events. “Hosting a wed-

ding at home brings guests into the couple’s world and gives a peek into how they live and care for their closest friends and family.”

Wedding world-building has never been easier (or more overwhelming). There’s boundless inspiration to pull from across social media, with images of grand tents and atmospheric drone photography of backyard weddings populating Pinterest.

Factor in the staying power of the quiet luxury, coastal grandmother and old money aesthetics—plus the influence of the Nancy Meyers industrial complex (more about that on p. 126) and deep roots of the micro-wedding boom—and it’s no wonder these new backyard weddings feel so utterly chic.

Gosselin notes the aforementioned social media trends that glorify a wealthy lifestyle are the catalyst for the backyard bashes

REBECCA LOVE PHOTOGRAPHY

Right at Home: The most popular venues for an elevated backyard wedding are locales like childhood homes or heirloom vacation properties.

Let’s Talk Logistics WHAT WEDDING PL ANNERS NEED YOU TO REMEMBER WHEN YOU BU ILD A BACK YARD WEDDING VENUE FROM SCR ATCH .

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Aesthetic License: Viral Internet aesthetics like old money, coastal grandmother and the dinner party wedding have influenced the trend.

we see now. The images that arise when we search for these aesthetics online are extremely curated and highly aspirational for those who don’t summer in a massive East Coast beach house (most of us). But because a wedding is such a special day, many couples choose this occasion to strive toward and embody the look they love. “They therefore become the perfect inspiration for the wedding day—and an opportunity to manifest that specific lifestyle or theme that they feel so connected to,” says Gosselin.

Ashley Allan, co-owner of the Arizonabased Your Jubilee Weddings, echoes that the aspirational tone set on social media expands the idea of what a backyard wedding could look like. And more importantly, it changes the event experience from a guest perspective. “People are gravitating toward backyard weddings because the ones we see on social media feel like an elegant hug,” she says. “Couples are conveying that they want their guests to feel comfortable and at

home regardless of whether the wedding is casual or black tie.”

According to The Knot 2025 Real Weddings Study, 72 percent of couples make the guest experience their top priority during wedding planning. And with a backyard as a blank slate, a couple can tailor their evening to give attendees a truly singular gathering.

This means to-be-weds must balance outward beauty and hidden function.

“An elevated backyard wedding usually considers the full guest experience, allowing for three distinct spaces for the ceremony, cocktail hour and reception,” says Samantha Leenheer, owner and creative director at House of Joy in Dayton, Ohio. These events often take 7 to 10 days to set up, and for good reason. Many private-home weddings need custom-built structures to accommodate a couple’s vision, such as a pergola-like frame to suspend chandeliers over lawns or acrylic platforms to cover pools. Plus, all of these features should fit with the home’s architec-

Plan for parking: Whether it’s onsite or nearby with trolley service to your home, providing parking is key, so guests don’t have a long walk in high heels before the party starts.

Craft a kitchen for caterers: Work with your catering team to map out the needs of the kitchen, from tent size to vehicle access and trash. Plus, they’ll need an area for staging plates and silverware before and after use.

Don’t bank on good weather: A weather contingency plan will ensure you can capture the vibe you’re going for, even if you can’t marry in your actual backyard.

Bring in restrooms: You’ll likely need more facilities than your downstairs powder room. Find a spot that’s accessible to power and water to position pop-up restrooms (and have a plan to flush and reset the tanks if your wedding is a multiday affair).

Mind noise ordinances: There’s probably a city-mandated cutoff time for your music to blast throughout the neighborhood. Take note of it.

Power up: Account for enough power to handle your lighting, production and entertainment elements.

Be sure cords are tucked away so guests won’t trip.

Take out the trash: Have a designated trash area and schedule a special pickup to handle the larger-than-normal load.

Hire seasoned vendors: It takes experienced pros to spearhead the production timeline and to make sure the event space is properly assembled and insured. Plus, you’ll need someone to coordinate things like garbage disposal once the party is over. Hire pros who have worked on similar outdoor weddings to ensure they can navigate the unpredictability (weather or otherwise) that arises in this style of celebration.

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From the Ground Up: Throwing an elevated backyard wedding requires “building a venue,” including infrastructure elements guests don’t see.

UPGRADE THE ESSENTIALS Basic won’t cut it for an elevated backyard bash—these key swaps make all the difference.

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Leenheer notes that those she’s planned range from $80,000 through $200,000, which most couples can’t afford. An undercurrent of privilege and generational wealth also pervades these weddings and allows planning them to look so easy breezy.

While fancified backyard weddings are most definitely on trend this year, what lies at the heart of them is tender, rooted in love and sentimentality. And that’s something all engaged pairs should keep in mind regard-

Swap standard flooring for platform flooring if your property has a view, to take advantage of better sight lines.

less of budget. You can still celebrate in a place that’s special to you, even if you don’t have $80,000 to spend. Your guests will feel happy and loved either way.

Lema says couples hope to convey that: “This is our world, and we want to share it with you.” It’s not about the social media splendor, but rather the connection to place and the ability to weave a wedding into a property’s legacy—and to add a touch more magic to each day spent there in the future.

Swap separate tables for a long table or serpentine tables for a high-impact, on-trend look that underscores a sense of togetherness.

Swap floor-length tablecloths for layered or pooling ones to add elegant movement and lush texture.

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ture and the surrounding landscape. Even tents, though ready-made, often require extensive lighting and fabric treatments to bring them to a luxe level. Additionally, there’s unglamorous but crucial infrastructure required when “building a venue for a day,” as Lema puts it. Couples must provide restrooms, catering facilities, climate control, dedicated power, guest transportation and parking—while keeping them all largely out of sight. It takes a lot of effort to build something that looks so effortless.

We can’t, in good faith, discuss this topic without acknowledging the open secret of the new backyard wedding: They’re much more expensive than the previous iteration.

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TIPS AND TRICKS .

Scoop someone else’s estate: “We recommend picking a historic estate that gives the feeling of celebrating in a home,” says Leenheer. “While it may not be your home, it’ll give the feel of an at-home wedding for you and for your guests.” She also mentions that you can host a smaller prewedding event at your home, like a rehearsal dinner or postwedding brunch. “It’ll still be special to open your home to friends and family for the event and make it part of your wedding experience.”

Look out for large lawns: “If you want a backyard-wedding feel, but don’t have access to a yard that’ll fit your needs, we recommend looking for venues with large lawns; sometimes country clubs are a great fit,” says Allan.

Tap your wedding planner: “We have a handful of properties available to rent only to our clients,” says Lema. “It can feel incredibly special and intimate to rent a private home and create your own world of a wedding weekend there.”

Find a venue with an existing tent: “There are so many venues that allow tenting. Better yet, some have existing tents that are already included in the overall venue price,” says Gosselin.

“Venues also have basic rentals like tables, chairs and tabletop items inhouse. This means couples don’t have to take on a full tent and rental order and instead can splurge on upgrades or specialty options that will help achieve the elevated backyard wedding feel they’re going for.”

Keep budget in mind: As noted, elevated backyard weddings are expensive. Prioritize what’s most important: keeping everyone comfortable—guests and vendors alike.

Bird’s Eye View: Experts note that an increase in drone footage across social media has helped glamorize the backyard wedding.

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PA S T P E R F E C T

The Need for

WHY MODERN WEDDINGS FEEL IN CONVERSATION WITH THE PAST.

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By Cathryn Haight

Each time I thumb through the wedding albums of my parents and grandparents, I feel a tender tug in my chest.

I bet you’ve felt it too. That’s the bittersweet pull of nostalgia, a heady and layered emotion that connects us to our singular and shared pasts. Milestone events like weddings are already ripe with feeling. They’re also sure to be experienced with just as much (if not more) emotional potency in retrospect, when a couple can look back on their nuptials as the beginning of a rich shared life.

Despite the “assured sentimentality,” so to speak, that’s built into weddings, modern couples continually gravitate toward elements that recall and romanticize bygone eras.

These include details like the Lambeth cake that proliferated from the 1930s through the 1980s, elevated backyard weddings in family homes (see p. 22), full-vintage bridal trousseaus and audio guest books in the form of old-school rotary phones. Retro details are trendy, sure, but there’s a deeper desire here: to ensure that today’s weddings will carry the same emotional weight and significance as those of our parents and grandparents. This guarantee of nostalgia is all the more important in our fast-paced, digital-driven world.

“Weddings, love and marriage all prompt nostalgia,” says Krystine Batcho, a licensed psychologist and a psychology professor at Le Moyne College who specializes in nostalgia research. “Love and commitment involve the paradoxical blend of joy and excitement for an anything-is-possible future and the anxiety that comes with the unknown.” She explains that nostalgia permeates all aspects of weddings: The couple expresses nostalgia for every experience that led them to the altar in their vows, and guests feel nostalgic toward their own romantic pasts or perhaps for the childhood of one of the marriers. By leaning into this sense of nostalgia, the couple makes the statement that they expect their relationship to withstand the test of time. “Permanence in relationships is treasured and thought of today as, sadly, too rare, like a natural pearl,” says Batcho.

We all want to preserve the nerves, excitement and splendor of a wedding as much as possible. While photography and videography have always helped produce a tangible record of a celebration, contemporary couples are pushing it a step further. They forgo the previously popular bright and clean digital imagery in favor of analog-leaning styles like subtle and delicate 35mm film photography or grainy Super

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8 film, which looks like an old-fashioned home movie. These visual mediums tend to prompt nostalgia in the viewer for decades gone by.

“Typically, couples who reach out specifically wanting film are really drawn to the documentary aspect of it—the slowness, the intention in each photograph,” says Jess McDole of Jess McDole Weddings, which specializes in analog film photography and Super 8 cinematography.

“We’re living in this fast-paced world, where content is always available and ever-changing, and couples want to slow their moments down a bit, really feel and experience them, and be able to have images that reflect that.”

With only a few frames per roll, film insists on a softness and slowness, which lets the emotion of the moment shine through. “The thing that always shocks me when I look through old wedding photos is how in the moment the photos were,” says Mallory Colton. She and her husband, Grant, are the creatives behind Mallory Frances Weddings, which focuses on vintage-inspired videography and photography.

“These vintage formats take it back to the basics: capturing a wedding day the way it really was.”

The unique hues, grain, flash, light leaks and missedfocus moments that unfold naturally on film evoke sentimentality through their visual appeal. But even couples with sleek modern wedding aesthetics—those who wouldn’t seem to be moved by retro-inspired paraphernalia—still elect for their weddings to be captured in this way; it feels storied, tangible and in line with the visuals of yesteryear.

Both McDole and Colton emphasize that it’s not necessarily the optics of film that draws pairs in, but that its embrace of imperfection expresses some truth.

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“I think it really does come down to couples being drawn to that feeling of Need-to-know tips and nostalgia,” says McDole, who notes that terms to find a photographer moments captured how they are, withor videographer with a out additional curation or interference, nostalgic style. better show their true emotion. Couples might select a contemporary aesthetic ANALOG PHOTOGRAPHY: for their day-of experience, but choose When searching for film an imagery style that evokes the emotion photography verbatim, your of the day. McDole continues: “There’s search might pull digital a timelessness to images that are told videographers (these with a more documentary approach, and vendors are also branded as creating them through analog film adds film). Swapping the word film another layer to that.” with analog will provide more Colton also underscores the stayaccurate search results. ing power of film, as well as its power to cultivate connection. “I think when DOCUMENTARY couples see themselves in a Super 8 or PHOTOGRAPHY: VHS video, it ultimately reminds them This style captures of someone else first,” she says. Her movement and emotion well, grandparents’ wedding video was shot yielding shots that on Super 8. She adds, “Whether it be look like movie stills, their parents or a vintage movie they whether digitally or on film. love, I think couples feel emotional seeing their love story captured in such a 35MM PHOTOGRAPHY: timeless way.”

This style of film imagery This may feel at odds with how fast brings warmth and depth the modern world moves. Millennials to your photos as well as a and Gen Zers—the two generations prislight texture and grain. marily saying “I do” these days—have undergone some especially significant SUPER 8: shifts in culture and how we do (and Fuzzy in a way that evokes don’t) connect with each other. Batcho a sweet home movie, says that, according to her research, Super 8 film has muted members of these generations expericolors and a romantic ence and display nostalgia in more aesthetic quality. diverse and public ways. They lean on analog mediums and vintage pieces as 16MM FILM: they plan their weddings to feel a closer This motion picture film bond with loved ones from earlier eras. offers vivid colors, warm skin “Millennials and Gen Zers grew up tones, texture and a slightly during times of rapid change and witcrisper look than Super 8. nessed a number of tragic events; it’s not surprising that they would be attracted to the notion of a simpler, more ideal time,” says Batcho. She cites COVID-19 and the growing loneliness epidemic as driving factors for this increase in nostalgia. “Technology has expanded the ways we interact with others, creating excellent opportunities but also risks and challenges to adapt,” she notes. Given how much time they spend in cyberspace, it makes sense that millennials and Gen Zers yearn for life as it was before the advent of modern technology.

Amanda Montell, a New York Times bestselling author and the host of the Sounds Like a Cult podcast, underscores that

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when the world feels like “an assault on the senses,” these generations lean on nostalgia for clarity and to cope. Montell has researched and recorded episodes covering both “the cult of weddings” and “the cult of nostalgia” and is currently engaged herself. She knows that many in her generation nostalgically long for an abstract idea of weddings in the past while planning nuptials in today’s heavily consumerist, social-mediadriven landscape.

Montell posits that weddings have become more extravagant to appeal visually and impress folks on social media. “That’s in contrast with weddings of the past, which were—with the exception of nobility weddings—smaller scale, not as spectacular, a little bit more rigid and maybe rooted in religious practices,” says Montell. The simplicity and established structure of these nuptials feels more sincere to some couples, who thus gravitate to tradition. It connects us to the past and hopefully leads us to a secure, enduring union like those of our par-

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ents and grandparents. Montell says: “Because the present feels unpredictable and scary, we’re not remembering facts from the past. We’re romanticizing a fantasy of it to make our future—or in the case of a couple getting married, their future—seem like everything is going to be okay.”

Ultimately, the through line is connection. Couples getting married in this tumultuous time—when adult milestones like affording children or a home are far more out of reach than in the past—want to crystallize their partnerships as legitimate and in line with the successful couples of yesteryear. We are sentimental for a seemingly simpler time. A time when only those who attended a wedding in person or who flipped though a photo album or viewed a wedding VHS could experience the magic and mayhem of the day. Now we happen upon meaningful milestones like weddings seemingly by accident on our phones as we scroll through an endless bank of others’ special mo-

ments—mixed with shopping ads and mundane reels.

“We want to be off our phones; we want to be more connected and more present with our loved ones,” says Montell. “I find it quite ironic that we’re looking for notions of a time before social media.”

Colton, age 29, echoes this exasperation: “We had the privilege of growing up without social media, oftentimes having our happiest moments of childhood captured either on film photographs or home videos. Somewhere along the way, we all grew up and got social media and started taking 200 pictures just to get the one to post. I think, subconsciously, we’re aching to get back to simplicity.”

Nostalgia is powerful and transportive, certainly in a time when the marrying generation feels more uprooted and isolated. Whether it comes in the form of capturing yourself on fuzzy Super 8 film or not, nostalgia emphasizes the realness of your marriage and your position in the culture-spanning tradition of saying “I do.” Rest assured: As the world changes, your love and wedding will always be a glimmer of beauty. One that you can tap into at any time for joy and grounding, even if the event itself shimmers and disappears as fast as champagne bubbles.

Romantic Retrospective ASK YOURSELF (AND YOUR PARTNER) THESE QUESTIONS TO NAIL DOWN HOW YOU ’ D LIKE TO RELIVE AND REFLECT ON YOUR WEDDING DAY.

Would carving out intentional time throughout your wedding day to record how you feel (writing quick journal entries, recording audio messages together after the recessional, etc.) create meaningful mementos?

Are physical mementos—like a guest book, bouquet preservation, or framed invitation—important to you as you reflect on your day?

Would you prefer to take in the visuals of your wedding: at your own pace (flipping through a tangible photo album) or in a more immersive way (viewing a video)?

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WEDDING BUDGETS

Money Moves NO DRE AM WEDDING CAN BECOME A RE ALIT Y WITHOU T A WAY TO PAY FOR IT. COUPLES AND PROS OPEN UP ABOU T WEDDING FINANCES TO HELP YOU BU ILD A BUDGE T THAT WORKS FOR YOU.

By Hannah Nowack

Setting a wedding budget is one of the first—and, frankly, most important—wedding planning tasks to complete. After all, you can’t move forward with your vision or find your wedding vendors until you know how much money you have to spend. But if you’ve been avoiding your wedding budget because it’s stressing you out, we’re here to help. It’s no secret that budget planning can feel daunting, particularly because weddings are expensive. If you’ve never hosted an event of comparable size before, the financial aspect might feel like a completely new world of terminology and rules. We’ll let you in on a secret, though: Making your wedding budget doesn’t have to be hard or scary. It can actually be downright simple, especially with the help of this comprehensive guide.

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Elsa Boscarello (@ElsaBoscarello) Lake Tahoe, CA

work,” says Boscarello. “Beyond our skills and equipment, we invest in tools and systems. Add in costs like business insurance and photo permits—there’s much more to it than clicking a shutter.”

why weddings are expensive: Photographer Elsa Boscarello explains that business overhead costs may not be immediately apparent to couples, but contribute significantly to the overall price a vendor charges. “Behind every Instagram-worthy wedding photo is an incredible amount of

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advice to remember: Boscarello encourages couples to hire vendors they trust and can rely on. “Investing in someone who values your moments as much as you do is always worthwhile,” she emphasizes. “Wedding days fly by, and

your photos will be one of the only ways to relive your big day. Not to sound cliché, but capturing those memories is priceless.

Feel confident in every transaction. You’re assembling a team to bring your vision to life and create the celebration of your dreams. After an adrenaline-packed day, you’ll realize just how much you forget, and that’s when you’ll truly appreciate having someone who can capture not only the moments but the emotions you’ll want to remember.”

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But really, why are weddings so expensive? Wedding professionals give firsthand insights into the factors that drive up the cost of weddings, plus advice on how to save.

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Brittany Smith (@TheVenlist) St. Petersburg, FL

why weddings are expensive: Event planner Brittany Smith notes that the economy plays a major role in wedding expenses, as well as the degree of flexibility couples are willing to have with their vision and guest list for the celebration. “Factors such as inflation, supply chain disruptions and increased labor costs can directly affect the prices of essential wedding services and products,” says Smith. “Since wedding vendors must account for these fluctuating costs in their pricing, couples often experience higher overall expenses during periods of economic

instability.” She goes on to note that “how flexible you are with your vision can significantly impact your budget.

If you have a very specific aesthetic in mind and are unwilling to compromise, costs will rise. If you’re looking to save money, consider keeping your guest list intimate.”

advice to remember: “The most important rule of wedding budgeting is to spend what you can realistically afford,” says Smith. “Before setting a budget, consider your current savings, any possible family contributions and your ongoing savings ability.

The key is balance! Celebrate your love in a way that aligns with both your heart and your budget.”

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Alex Metz

(@CxRA_NYC) New York City

why weddings are expensive: F LO R A L D E S I G N E R

Jennifer Bernal (@HouseofBernal) Middletown, NY

why weddings are expensive: “Weddings are a fine blend of art, logistics and expertise, with each event requiring careful planning, skilled professionals and quality materials to bring a couple’s vision to life,” says floral expert Jennifer Bernal. “The cost of a wedding reflects not just the tangible elements, like flowers, rentals and linens, but also the expertise and time invested by vendors. Florals, for example, require sourcing premium blooms, conditioning and designing them, and executing seamless installations on the wedding day, often in a limited time frame.”

advice to remember: Bernal encourages couples to remain open-minded. “In floral design specifically, being flexible with seasonal blooms and trusting your designer’s expertise can often lead to stunning results that feel bespoke while staying within budget. A wedding is a collaboration, and when couples and vendors share the same goal of creating something magical, the results speak for themselves. A well-chosen vendor will not only bring your vision to life but will also be an invaluable partner in navigating decisions that align with your budget. By working with professionals who understand design, logistics and execution, you’re investing in a stressfree, beautifully curated wedding.” .

Wedding caterer Alex Metz explains that customization and high-quality service contribute to the overall cost of wedding food. “Weddings are highly personalized, and catering costs reflect this through customized menus, premium ingredients and tailored service. Wedding catering requires made-to-order dishes and a high staff-toguest ratio for seamless execution. Many venues lack full-service kitchens, increasing costs for equipment, rentals and logistics.

Presentation is just as important as the food.

Caterers craft immersive dining experiences with curated service, artistic plating and thoughtfully designed stations that feel both stylish and effortlessly elegant.”

advice to remember: Metz explains that focusing on customization and splurging on select priorities is a wise budgeting approach. “For couples unsure about spending, focus on what matters most to you,” she advises. “If food and beverage are central to your wedding, thoughtful catering can make the experience feel special and personal—without requiring extravagant choices. Identify your top three must-haves—whether it’s exceptional food, live music or a dream venue—and allocate your budget accordingly. Invest where it counts and scale back in areas that hold less significance. The best investment is creating a day that feels authentically yours.”

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Real Talk Inspiration is great, but without the numbers to go with it, you can’t use those pics as a blueprint for your own day. Here, three couples share both their wedding photos and all the details of how much they spent to help you plan a beautiful—and cost-effective—event.

Sarah + Sean total wedding cost: $7,141 wedding location: atlanta Sarah and Sean planned a brunch wedding for 28 guests on a Sunday in June with a whimsical garden vibe.

“Every piece that we envisioned turned out better than we could have imagined. And we didn’t go into debt for it, which was really exciting,” says Sarah.

She and Sean thought about eloping, but a wedding was important to their parents, so they decided to a host a small celebration (which they planned in three short months). However, it was important that they not take on any debt for the event, and they didn’t want to exceed $10,000, even if it meant making sacrifices.

To start, they looked for an all-inclusive wedding venue, so they didn’t have to deal with renting items from multiple vendors. The venue they settled on, the Ivy Tea House, has a lot of plants and an earthy vibe they liked, so they chose not to spend too much on decor and let the space shine.

Additionally, they booked the venue during an offpeak time—a Sunday morning—to save even more.

The timing meant they skipped dancing, and mimosas were the only alcoholic drinks on the menu. “Everything felt right. The people who were there know

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we aren’t big dancers or big drinkers.

They weren’t disappointed when they left—they departed feeling like they’d been at a Sean and Sarah wedding,” says the bride. And that champagne in the mimosas? They purchased it for a mere $81 from Costco. In keeping with the DIY vibes, they also purchased their wedding cake from Whole Foods.

However, the couple did leave some things to the professionals. Having a wedding coordinator was critical for them: “Anyone who thinks you can coordinate the wedding yourself, good luck,” quips Sarah. They also share that their one regret was not spending more on their photographer. Although they hired a pro to capture the wed-

ding, they booked a limited package that didn’t cover the entire length of the celebration, something they would change if they were to plan it again.

Ultimately, Sarah explains that they “worked really hard on making a wedding that felt like us. I had a vision of elegance and simplicity, but I worried that might look cheap. However, it ended up being the most perfect day.”

She goes on to offer this advice: “Budgeting doesn’t always mean you have to spend less. One thing I learned from our wedding is that there are things that are worth spending a little more on. I learned that as long as Sean and I are on the same page, it’s okay to choose the more expensive option.”

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Here’s the thing about averages: They are helpful at painting a broad picture but inherently gloss over the details. Our data found that the average wedding cost in 2024 was $33,000. This number was based on 17,000 respondents—each of whom had a wedding that was uniquely their own. To better understand how vastly wedding budgets vary from couple to couple, we’re diving into three recent weddings so you can see what these numbers look like in practice.

Angelica + Brad

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total wedding cost: $109,601 wedding location: dallas Angelica and Brad planned a French high-tea-inspired wedding for 120 guests in Dallas filled with flowers and fireworks.

“You can’t put a price on the feelings that surround the wedding,” says Brad. “Whether you spend $100,000 or $50,000, it’s going to be worth it.” Initially, Angelica and Brad contemplated eloping when they thought they might have to cover the cost of the wedding themselves. However, they soon found out that Angelica’s parents had been saving up for her wedding and were eager to contribute, so they set about planning an elegant wedding with blush flowers and gold accents.

The couple says that their initial budget was $40,000, but that they increased it to achieve their vision.

They share that they “wouldn’t have had the wedding we did if it wasn’t for Angelica’s parents contributing at least 90% to the budget.” One thing

that the bride’s parents felt strongly about? A wedding planner. Angelica recalls that her mother was “insistent on a full-service planner, since we didn’t have the time to handle the little details.”

The couple and their families are also big foodies, so catering was a major

investment: They spent almost $25,000 on food, beverage and waitstaff. They even had a coffee cart and chicken-and-waffle bites as a late-night snack. However, to save a bit on food, they opted to cut a faux cake.

To capture the day, the couple not only hired a photographer, but a videographer and a content creator. They were on the fence about videography until they spoke with married couples who regret not investing in it. “As the years go on, you forget things,” notes Brad, who was especially grateful they invested in great videos. The decor was another big-ticket

item, coming in at $21,000.

They initially earmarked $6,000 for flowers, but realized their vision wouldn’t be feasible for that amount.

They ended up spending $12,000 on flowers and the rest of the decor budget went toward everything from three lounge areas to a custom monogram dance floor wrap.

Other notable purchases included an audio guest book, fireworks, a fog machine and prewedding dance lessons.

“There isn’t a lot of transparency about how much things cost. People should be well-prepared when they start wedding planning,” emphasizes Brad.

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Lucia + Charles Lucia and Charles quadrupled their original wedding budget to achieve the destination wedding of their dreams in Tennessee.

Although Lucia and Charles live in Miami, they didn’t want to deal with the heat and expensive prices the city is known for. As a result, the couple decided on a destination wedding and spent 10 months planning their Tennessee celebration.

They started with an initial budget of $15,000 but quickly realized it wouldn’t go far when their first venue quote came in at $40,000. “It

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was a wake-up call to where everything stands in the wedding industry,” says Lucia.

From there they enlarged the budget with an aim of not exceeding $60,000. Their top priorities were the venue, photography, videography and food, items they were willing to stretch the budget for.

After touring over 10 venues, the couple knew they’d found their perfect spot when Lucia started crying as they walked into The Pavilion at Five Gables. So they forked over $10,000 to secure that spot and moved on to booking a videographer. Lucia had been

following one on Instagram for years, and she jokes that she would’ve moved her wedding date had he not been available then. The couple paid about $6,000 for the videographer, about the same amount their wedding catering cost. Another budget highlight? The live wedding painter they hired to further memorialize the event.

For Lucia (who describes

herself as a spender) and Charles (a self-proclaimed budget-conscious guy) compromise was the name of the game with the wedding finances. “Weddings put a lot of stress on a relationship.

The most important thing is to communicate with your partner. Set your budget and decide what is most important to you,” advises Lucia.

INFOGRAPHIC DESIGN BY ASHLEY WU; PHOTOGRAPHY BY KECIA KILLIAN

total wedding cost: $55,850 wedding location: birchwood, tn

Level Headed Understanding budget tiers, from low-budget to ultra-luxury, is key to setting a realistic spending plan. I spoke with Lynette Dow of Lynette Dow Events (@LynetteDowEvents) and Michelle Durpetti of Michelle Durpetti Events (@MDurpettiEvents) to get their advice.

No matter how many zeros are in your budget, a wedding is an investment. The thing is, it can be hard to set proper expectations with so many wedding ideas floating around. To set the record straight, we’re taking a look at a range of budgets to understand what goes into

each tier of celebration so you can build your spending plan accordingly. Ultimately, however, Durpetti reminds couples that the perfect event is about much more than dollars: “While budget impacts scale, intentionality and hospitality define a truly extraordinary wedding.”

LOW-BUDGET:

BUDGET:

STANDARD:

PREMIUM:

LUXURY:

ULTRA-LUXURY:

UNDER $10K

$10,000–$30,000

$30,000–$60,000

$60,000–$100,000

$100,000–$500,000

$500K+

Low-Budget

Standard

Luxury

It can be difficult to plan a low-budget wedding, even with DIY details, and you should be aware that you may have to make sacrifices to save money. But don’t fret: I’ve attended a wedding of this scale and had an absolute blast (there was even a fun taco bar!).

Most US weddings fall into this tier.

Our data shows that the national average cost of a wedding is $33,000 (assuming a guest count of around 116 and a per-person spend of $284).

If you live in an expensive city like New York City, a wedding in this price range will be hard to achieve.

Can I let you in on a secret? Before working as a journalist, I worked for a luxury planner and saw many events at this caliber. And here’s what I learned: A luxury wedding ($100,000– $500,000) is about more than saying “I do.” It’s about crafting memories.

cost considerations

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Shrink the guest list: “Prioritize guest experience over grandeur: Opt for small gatherings, courthouse weddings or backyard celebrations,” suggests Durpetti.

Pick an off-peak date and time: Our data shows that a Monday wedding is, on average, 32% cheaper than a Saturday one.

Streamline the vendor team: You’ll need to be strategic about which vendors you can afford.

Large-scale custom structures may be outside of your realistic budget.

Consider locality: Wedding prices vary greatly across the country: $60,000 will go much further in the Midwest than in Southern California.

Luxury wedding venues: Many luxe venues, especially hotels, have food and beverage minimums that make it impossible to host a wedding for under six figures. Why? Because the quality and service is so renowned, the only way to make the event financially feasible for venues is to guarantee economies of scale with set minimums.

Budget

Premium

Ultra-Luxury

You might be thinking, “Can you plan a wedding with a $20,000 budget?” With a small guest list and some smart choices, you can pull off a memorable event within this tier.

A premium wedding costs between $60,000 and $100,000. In pricey cities, weddings in this range are typically the minimum you can expect to spend. Like with any tier, location, priorities and guest count factor heavily into stretching the budget.

This tier gives you enough flexibility to splurge in some areas.

An ultra-luxury wedding ($500,000+) isn’t simply an über-expensive bash.

Rather, it’s an elevated (often multiday) celebration that prioritizes the guest experience, service and personalization. Those viral weddings you see online with endless flowers and custom-built structures? TBH, they come with a seven-figure price tag.

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Rely on a wedding planner: This is good advice no matter your budget tier, but it is especially helpful for upper-tier budgets. Hiring a planner is crucial as they can “help maximize the budget for florals, entertainment and personalized touches,” notes Durpetti.

Invest in custom fabrication: Many weddings at this scale lean heavily into productions that require multiday load-in schedules. “Building custom dance floors, structures and large-scale floral installations will be seen in ultra-luxury weddings,” says Dow.

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cost considerations Lean into simplicity: “Opt for simpler menus, very minimal decor and strategic planning to get the most out of every dollar,” advises Durpetti. She adds: “Custom design elements will stretch this budget, so I would stay away from those.”

Buy an affordable wedding dress: Say “yes” to a dress that doesn’t break the bank. Shopping at trunk shows will cost less than buying a custom dress.

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Budget Building Now that you understand the ins and outs of wedding budgets, it’s time to start creating your own. Keep these tips and percentages in mind as you craft your own wedding financial plan.

The Average Budget Breakdown

elevate effectively While you will have to shell out a sizeable chunk of change for the wedding, these simple tips are perfect for those looking for easy ways to save. Lauren Doll of Dream Co. Weddings and Events (@DreamCoPlanning) reminds couples that ruthless prioritization is the key to elevating and extending your budget. “Prioritizing a budget takes open communication with your partner and some research,” she says. “If you take the time to get on the same page, and then research vendors that fit within your budget, you can stretch a dollar quite a long way.”

Each of the three weddings we’ve shared prioritized different budget items.

But if you’re still wondering what an average wedding budget looks like, here’s the typical breakdown, according to The Knot 2025 Real Weddings Study.

Repurpose flowers from the ceremony in the reception.

Select an off-season wedding date.

Serve buffet-style food instead of a seated dinner.

Hire local vendors to save on travel fees.

Have a small cutting cake and a sheet cake instead of an elaborate tiered dessert.

Invest in seasonal flower arrangements.

Keep your guest list small.

Be smart about what you DIY. Consider digital save-the-dates.

Wear used or rented wedding attire.

Forgo wedding favors.

Use a budget tool (like The Knot Budget Advisor) to make informed decisions.

VENUE & RENTALS

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CATERING, CAKE & DRINKS

24%

PHOTOGRAPHY & VIDEOGRAPHY

10%

Average Wedding Cost in the US

FLOWERS & DECOR

9%

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down to the last detail Chances are this is your first time planning a wedding. Here are some items you might not have thought about that you need to account for in the wedding budget.

Insurance Service fees Marriage license fee Wedding dress alterations and steaming Vendor meals Overtime fees Thank-you gifts Postage stamps Undergarments Welcome bag delivery Taxes and gratuities Cleanup and breakdown fees Event rentals Transportation fees Weather backup-plan items Honeymoon expenses

Questions to Consider

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Certified Financial Planner Felicia Wong (@FeliciaCPA), founder of Aventurine Planning, shares the questions couples should ask themselves if they feel stuck amid wedding budget planning.

QUESTION 1: WHY DO WE WANT TO HOST A WEDDING?

QUESTION 2: WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT TO US?

QUESTION 3: WHAT DO OUR FINANCES LOOK LIKE?

“Couples first need to establish why they want to have a wedding, and always come back to this. If at any time you feel overwhelmed, take a breath and remember that this is supposed to be a fun experience to celebrate your love. It doesn’t have to be perfect for you to enjoy every moment of it.”

“Consider what you want before anyone else comes into the picture.”

“Being on the same page as a couple is key. No one wants to start their marriage arguing about finances. Sit together and have an honest conversation about where your current finances are and how much you realistically would like to and can spend on your wedding.”

QUESTION 4: HAVE WE PREPARED FOR UNEXPECTED SITUATIONS TO ARISE? “With any wedding there will be some extra costs at the end. Prepare for this by adding in a little cushion (about 10–15%) to your overall wedding budget.”

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GUEST GUIDE

Becoming the

Greatest (Guest) of All Time IT’S TIME TO MAKE THIS WEDDING SEASON THE BEST ONE YET. LEARN EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW TO ENJOY EACH CELEBRATION WITHOUT BREAKING THE BANK.

By Chapelle Johnson | Illustrations by Tiana Crispino

wedding guests tell all These frequent wedding goers have all the advice you need to conquer wedding season. Here are eight helpful tips that’ll keep you organized, on-budget and present in the moment.

Kennedy C. 29-year-old Recruiter Weddings attended in 2024: 18

Tip #1: Switch up your look (the budget-friendly way).

“I exclusively did Rent the Runway for three years straight, and that’s the only way I could afford to have a fun dress for every wedding. I highly recommend doing this, because you’re more excited to get dressed. Plus, I think it’s worth it for your mental state when you’re going to numerous weddings to put on an outfit that makes you feel good.”

Tip #2: Think of the bigger picture.

“It can feel repetitive getting on a plane, going to a hotel, checking in and putting on a dress, but you need to zoom out a bit. Remember, this is this person’s special day, and they wanted you there.

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How awesome is that? They value you and your relationship enough to know they wanted you present on their wedding day. Because yes, weddings and wedding culture can get out of control, but at the end of the day, you’re witnessing somebody getting married, which is such a beautiful thing.”

Ivorine D. 27-year-old Software Engineer Weddings attended in 2024: 2

Tip #3: Phone a friend.

“For many weddings I’ve been to, I know family or friends who live in the city of the event. I’ll usually stay with them to cut hotel costs. If I can’t do that, I try to find someone in the wedding party who I’m comfortable with, and I share a hotel room with them.”

Tip #4: Socialize with others like you.

“People are generally friendly at weddings and there’s lots of small talk. If the couple isn’t offering plusones, that probably means other guests will be there by themselves and you can feel free to connect with them.”

Gabby B. 29-year-old Accountant Weddings attended in 2024: 10

Tip #5: Don’t be afraid to repeat an outfit.

“I’m very much pro re-wearing wedding outfits, especially if the clothes are neutral colors

or I haven’t posted pictures in them on Instagram. I also invest in my formal dresses, because I believe if you get fewer nice dresses, you’ll rewear them more. Then I buy new accessories to change the look, instead of getting a new dress for each wedding. Also, if I have a unique bridesmaid dress I know I won’t wear again, I sell it on Poshmark once the wedding is over, because that’s better than having it sit in my closet.”

Tip #6: Book your travel and accommodations early.

“I book my stuff pretty early. So if there’s a hotel room block,

go ahead and book it; if the room block fills up, you won’t get that discount. For flights, I check at least once a day to see if they either go on sale or if seats are starting to fill up, so that cost doesn’t make going to the wedding more expensive.”

Emily K. 29-year-old Attorney Weddings attended in 2024: 12

Tip #7: Make a trip out of it.

“If I’m paying $1,000 for a flight to Big Sky, Montana, for a wedding, I’m going to go for a week and make that my vacation for the year. I’d rather get more out

of the trip than just showing up for a wedding and leaving this incredibly beautiful and fun place in a day and a half.”

Tip #8: Create a shared note to stay organized.

“My partner and I have a shared note on our phones where we have every wedding we’ve been invited to. We write the wedding location, date and if we’ve purchased a gift or not. I like to easily reference those dates.

That way, when I’m talking to people and they’re like, ‘Hey, are you doing anything on June 15?’ I can pull up that list and know I have a wedding in Chicago that weekend.”

should you rsvp “yes” or “no?”

Just because you got a wedding invitation doesn’t mean you have to accept. Use this fun flowchart to help determine whether or not attending an upcoming wedding is best for you.

When did you get the invitation?

I got it a few months before the wedding date.

I got it one week before...

Are you close with the couple?

Will you know other people besides the couple?

Yes, the groom is my bestie!

No, I haven’t spoken to either since high school.

But will going to the wedding cost an arm and a leg?

Are you in the right headspace for a wedding?

Nah, and I have some extra spending money.

Yeah...and I’m on a tight budget right now.

Yes, I’ve been waiting for a fun wedding to come along!

Yes, you should go!

Yeah, my parents, sister and fave cousin will be there.

Eh...I’ve actually been stressed out with personal stuff.

Not really and I don’t get a plus-one.

Do you have to take a lot of vacation days to attend?

Nope. It’s only two days on Saturday and Sunday.

Unfortunately, I would have to use a week of PTO to go to all the important festivities.

Stay home!

There’ll always be another wedding.

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it’s time for a mental health checkup Being overwhelmed during wedding season shouldn’t be the norm. Landis Bejar, a licensed mental health counselor and founding therapist of AisleTalk Consultation & Therapy (@AisleTalk) in New York City, provides all the mental health guidance you need before and during the celebration.

It’s not the end of the world if you don’t have a plus-one and only know the couple getting married.

Bejar offers ways you can tackle feeling nervous about attending a wedding alone. First, talk to the to-be-weds about how you’re feeling. “Many people worry about bothering the couple with personal asks. But usually it’s totally fine as long as you do it well in advance—not the last six to eight weeks, when they have a zillion things on their to-do lists.

If you’re worried they’ll receive your feelings negatively, emphasize how you’re excited for them and your desire to help make it the best day ever,” Bejar says. She suggests asking the couple if they can introduce you to other guests in your city, people who will be at your table or another solo traveler. You can also push yourself to socialize more by attending prewedding events like the engagement party or the couple’s shower. “You’ll meet people in a smaller, more intimate environment and feel familiar with them by the time you get to the wedding,” Bejar explains.

In the end, Bejar wants you to remember

to stand up to your inner social anxiety and that needing alone time is perfectly fine.

“Quiet those inner critics in your head that make you feel bad about being alone, dancing by yourself or being awkward during small talk. Come up with punchy responses to those imaginary voices like, ‘No one knows me here, and I don’t care if I look silly. I’m dressed to the nines and I’m going to dance my heart out!’” Bejar continues, “It’s okay to step away and take breaks when you need them. Get fresh air or go to the bathroom to touch up your makeup. Call a friend halfway through the evening for a pep talk.”

If you’ve been invited to multiple weddings back to back, pause and consider if you need to attend each one.

“Simply take a minute to reflect on whether you ‘have to’ attend. Some people feel so obligated to say ‘yes’ to everything, they don’t even consider the idea of sending their well wishes along with their regrets,” Bejar says.

Put your mental and physical health first.

Evaluate how much energy or stress would

be involved if you attended because, as Bejar says, “no two weddings come with the same set of circumstances.” That means you need to compare how much traveling you’ll have to do, vacation time you’ll use, events you’ll need to attend and more for each wedding.

Bejar likes to guide guests through this decision-making process by asking them two questions: If you had all the money and time off in the world, which of these weddings would you genuinely want to attend?

And if these weddings weren’t happening so close together, would you want to attend

here’s the hack for staying on track Keep yourself organized during wedding season and beyond with this standard guest to-dos timeline. Feel free to clip it and put it on your fridge.

BOOK YOUR TRAVEL AND ACCOMMODATIONS

To get the best prices on a room, flight or rental car, book at least five to six weeks before the wedding. This time frame gives you enough leeway to make adjustments if necessary.

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RSVP

BUY A GIFT

You need to RSVP on time, which means at least three to four weeks prior to the wedding. (Do this whether you’re accepting or declining the invite.) Also, don’t forget to block your calendar and request time off from work.

Purchase a present from the couple’s registry at least three weeks ahead of the wedding. You can have first pick on a gift you love and possibly help the couple get items they need during the planning process.

DETERMINE YOUR OUTFIT AND PACK YOUR BAG

Always check the couple’s wedding website and invitation for the dress code before deciding what to wear. If you’re going to a destination wedding, plan your outfit three weeks out to have enough time to buy clothes and accessories you may need. If it’s a local event, plan your look within the last two weeks.

ATTEND THE WEDDING

The big celebration is finally here!

Remember to have fun and be present because, in the end, the day is all about love.

$610

The overall average cost of a wedding for a guest

“budget” isn’t a scary word Whether it’s your first time diving into wedding season or you’ve been through several, you might not know the average cost for things or what your wedding guest budget should be.

To help you compare numbers, we’ve gathered some fast facts using data from The Knot 2024 Guest Study, which surveyed 1,000 people who attended at least one wedding in 2024.

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all of them? “These two questions help discern between wants, needs, ability and feelings of obligation. When you have clarity on what’s most meaningful to you, you can figure out how and what to prioritize and which concessions you can make to do so,” Bejar says.

Don’t let your mental health fall by the wayside because of a busy wedding season.

Bejar creates a worksheet with clients, which involves a four-step process. First, think about what self-care really is. “People talk about it all the time, like getting a massage or a manicure, but that’s only one dimension. In actuality, self-care occurs in five areas: physical, mental/ emotional, professional, social and spiritual.

Plus, self-care is something that we should do all the time, whether we’re really stressed or not,” Bejar says. Second, take stock of what self-care acts you’re already doing and what you’d like to do more of. “Some examples are taking time off when sick, setting boundaries, asking others for help when you need it and spending time in nature,” Bejar says. Third, make a plan. “Start planning how to engage in self-care regularly. I like to think of it in terms of time intervals. Pick one to three acts of self-care you’d like to do and aim to incorporate them into your life regularly,” Bejar says. Finally, evolve your plan over time.

“You aren’t always going to need the same things and the same frequencies. Evolve your plan to grow with you,” Bejar says.

With all of these tips in mind, you’ll be prepared to always take care of yourself. But you must remember to put this advice into practice. “Put your own oxygen mask on first before helping the person next to you. You can’t show up for others if you haven’t shown up for yourself,” Bejar says.

The average total cost for attending a local wedding

The average total cost for attending a destination wedding via car travel: $840

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The average travel and accommodation cost for guests

The average total cost for attending a destination wedding via plane travel: $1,680

The average travel cost for local guests: $42 The average car-travel cost for an out-of-town guest to a destination wedding: $476 The average plane-travel cost for an out-of-town guest to a destination wedding: $1,223

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The average amount a guest spends on a gift

The average cost a casual friend of the couple spends on a gift: $140 The average cost a close friend, family and wedding party member spends on a gift: $160

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of guests report that the economy impacted what they were willing to shell out for a wedding. Spending on attire and gifts for the couple are the most common elements affected by the economy.

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T R AV E L

Thailand has always been a top honeymoon escape thanks to its gorgeous beaches, temple-strewn valleys, pampering spas and sensational food. The White Lotus effect could boost it to the top spot. The third season of the smash HBO dramedy was largely flmed on the island of Koh Samui, at the over-the-top Four Seasons resort, but Bangkok and Phuket also have cameos. Set jetting isn’t the only reason to visit. Travel + Leisure has named Thailand its 2025

destination of the year, citing the Southeast Asian country’s embarrassment of riches, from the mountainous north to the southern Andaman shores and cities both ancient and modern. It’s ripe with choice, whether you want a fly-and-flop honeymoon on a private island or an adventure-flled vacation packed with jungle treks, diving excursions and visits to bustling night markets.

BANGKOK LUXE HOTEL: A cocoon of tranquility on the Chao Phraya River, Capella Bangkok is one of the city’s priciest stays for good reason. The hotel has perfected understated white-glove service, boasts a Michelin-starred restaurant and an award-winning spa, and all 101 suites and villas overlook the river. Honeymooners should request a veranda suite, which opens to a Jacuzzi on the balcony. From $1,112. Veranda suites from $2,259; CapellaHotels.com BOUTIQUE STAY: A 10-suite gem in frenetic Chinatown, the Mustang Blu hotel transports guests to another era with its old-world charm. Rooms have claw-foot tubs and antique furnishings, and the lobby cafe serves a complimentary breakfast feast. From $193; @TheMustangBluBangkok SPLURGE: A garden tour serves as the prelude to dinner at Baan Tepa Culinary Space, which has two Michelin stars. Seasonal seven-course 54

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tasting menus take guests on a culinary journey of Thailand, showcasing haute riffs on regional dishes, such as black squid dong dang noodles ($400 for two people).

BARGAIN: Sae Phun, a humble but lauded noodle shop, has been operated by the same family since 1926.

The signature chicken stew is the

owner’s grandfather’s recipe.

DON’T MISS: Be sure to visit the Queen Sirikit Museum of Textiles and its excellent gift shop, located within the elaborate Grand Palace complex.

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Thailand’s capital is a celebration of contrasts: high-end restaurants and humble food stalls, hypermodern skyscrapers and ancient temples, neon-lit bars and sanctuary-like spas.

KHAO YAI Located a 2.5-hour drive from Bangkok, Khao Yai National Park is Thailand’s oldest and third-largest national park and a UNESCO World Heritage Site that protects one of the few monsoon forests left in Southeast Asia.

LUXE HOTEL: The golden age of train travel informs the design of InterContinental Khao Yai Resort, a jungle-shrouded property on the edge of the park.

Rooms are modeled after vintage rail cars, while suites are housed in repurposed train carriages. From $420; KhaoYai.InterContinental.com BOUTIQUE STAY: A hillside hideaway with enchanting valley views, Sala Khaoyai has just seven unique rooms and a team

that can arrange romantic moments like a rooftop barbecue for two. From $178; SalaHospitality.com SPLURGE: A park visit is much more enriching in the company of a naturalist who can help spot wildlife like elephants and Asiatic black bears. Full-day guided treks can be arranged through the park. $179 for two people; ThaiNationalParks.com BARGAIN: Penlaos, a superb rustic res-

taurant with mountain views, specializes in the spicy, tangy food of Thailand’s Isan region, such as papaya salad.

DON’T MISS: As dusk falls, head to Khao Yai Bat Cave at Khao Luk Chang to witness millions of wrinkled-lipped bats stream into the sky in search of food.

CHIANG MAI

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Many travelers head straight to the slowpaced, scenic countryside, but northern Thailand’s capital shouldn’t be missed. Ornate temples and crumbling stupas are reminders of Chiang Mai’s Lanna heritage, and young creatives are opening hip design studios, galleries and cafes.

LUXE HOTEL: With just 30 suites built around a colonial-era teak homestead in the leafy Wat Gate neighborhood, 137 Pillars House combines the intimacy of a boutique stay with resort touches. A serene spa, gardens dotted with daybeds, a restaurant that serves refined Thai and Lanna fare, and an all-star concierge team round out the offerings. From $550; 137PillarsHotels.com BOUTIQUE STAY: Smack-dab in the middle of Old City, the 46-room Tamarind Village feels like a remote retreat cloaked behind a wall of

bamboo and shrubbery. Complimentary cultural activities include a walk to nearby temples and cultural sites. From $179; TamarindVillage.com SPLURGE: Take a day trip to Care for Elephants, an ethical sanctuary that doubles as a retirement home for elephants that once worked in the arduous logging and tourism industries.

Guests can walk with the animals in the forest, feed them bananas and watch them laze in mud baths. $180 for two people; ElephantNature Park.org BARGAIN: Hidden among the stalls of Kad Kom Market, Khao Soi Lung Prakit Kad Kom’s renowned khao soi, a Northern Thai coconut curry noodle soup, costs less than $3.

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PHUKET Known as the Pearl of the Andaman, Thailand’s largest island is famed for its postcard-perfect beaches, buzzy nightlife and sensational seafood.

LUXE HOTEL: One of Phuket’s most exclusive stays, Trisara is an all-villa resort situated on a private beach on the lessdeveloped northwest coast. A spa with water-facing treatment rooms, a Michelin-starred restaurant that serves sustainably sourced cuisine and activities ranging from cooking classes to Muay Thai boxing make it hard to leave the tropical grounds.

And did we mention each villa has it’s own private pool? From $1,014; Trisara.com BOUTIQUE STAY: New adults-only glamping retreat TwinPalms Bangtao Phuket Tented Resort features 28 safari-style accommodations mainly nestled around a lagoon. A beach club and bar are steps away. From $190; TwinPalmsHotelsResorts.com

SPLURGE: Charter a private yacht with Andaman Cruises and island-hop to Ko Racha Yai and Koh Phi Phi to snorkel, scuba dive and kayak around the dramatic cliffs. From $220 for two people; AndamanCruises.com BARGAIN: A five-minute boat ride delivers you to a floating, family-run dining experience. Ban Laem Hin (nicknamed Kruvit Raft), known for it’s stellar Central and Southern Thai seafood, is worth the scenic trip.

DON’T MISS: Pull yourself away from the beach to experience the cultural phenomenon that is Phuket’s walking street market, held every Sunday on Thalang Road.

Home to the Golden Triangle—the geographical spot where the borders of Thailand, Laos and Myanmar converge— Thailand’s northernmost province beckons travelers with its hill-tribe communities, mesmerizing waterfalls, herds of elephants and ancient city of the same name.

LUXE HOTEL: Anantara Golden Triangle Chiang Rai Elephant Camp & Resort has a dreamy remote setting perched atop a ridge overlooking the Mekong River.

Rooms have views of three countries and on-site activities include cooking classes and elephant camp tours. From $944; Anantara.com BOUTIQUE STAY: A hilltop haven, Phu Chaisai Mountain Resort has 50 bambooand-clay cottages sprinkled across 800 acres of subtropical mountain forest. You can easily spend an afternoon soaking in

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views of the Mae Salong valley from the infinity pool, but take advantage of activities ranging from treks and bird-watching to private yoga classes and Thai cooking classes. From $113; Phu-Chaisai.com SPLURGE: Book a night in Anantara’s Jungle Bubbles. These secluded, clear PVC glamping tents are set on raised wooden decks, letting couples ogle elephants from bed (from $820).

BARGAIN: After visiting Khun Korn Waterfall, stop for a meal or cup of wild green tea at Sangkaew, a restaurant that serves Kengtung food from Myanmar.

DON’T MISS: Of Thailand’s 40,000-plus temples, Wat Rong Khun (the White Temple), designed by artist Chalermchai Kositpipat, may be the most audacious.

Within its porcelain-like shell, Buddhist symbology is remixed with pop culture elements ranging from Michael Jackson to Marvel comics.

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KOH SAMUI A slice of paradise in the Gulf of Thailand, Koh Samui has long lured travelers with its crystal-clear waters, sugary beaches, plunging jade-hued valleys and colorful night markets. Its spotlight in the third season of The White Lotus has given it superstar status.

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LUXE HOTEL: Book far in advance if you want to channel your favorite White Lotus character and stay at the überluxe Four Seasons Resort Koh Samui. Set on the northwest corner of the island, its 60 villas are densely landscaped, so go ahead and skinny dip in your private pool. From $1,800; FourSeasons.com BOUTIQUE STAY: Satisfy your private island fantasies at Cape Fahn Hotel. The 22-villa property off Choeng Mon beach,

on the northeast corner of Koh Samui, boasts a restaurant with a star chef.

From $650; CapeFahnHotel.com SPLURGE: The Four Seasons can arrange an overnight stay on a luxury yacht.

Island-hop by day, then sip bubbly onboard as the sun sets (from $2,665).

BARGAIN: Shop for handicrafts and street food along the walking street in Fisherman’s Village on Bophut Beach.

DON’T MISS: Take a break from the beach to see the 40-foot gilded Buddha at Wat Phra Yai temple complex on Koh Phan Island, not far from Koh Samui.

White Lotus Checklist Take a Muay Thai class Join a yoga session at the Four Seasons Koh Samui Book a body scrub at the Four Seasons Koh Samui spa Visit a Buddhist temple or monastery

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ReturnMo AKA an intended return to your honeymoon destination.

These romantic places offer a lifetime of experiences to keep the loved-up bliss going with each passing anniversary. Take our quiz to discover your idyllic country of choice.

What’s your ideal vacation vibe?

A. Romantic, historic and full of delicious food and wine B. Vibrant with live music, pristine beaches and mouthwatering fare C. Adventurous, rustic and surrounded by jawdropping landscapes D. Relaxing, tropical and close to the ocean E. Dynamic, futurist and steeped in ancient tradition

How do you like to spend your mornings?

A. Step 1: Coffee B. Indulging in a delicious breakfast after yoga C. A hearty hike at dawn D. A leisurely stroll, preferably in nature E. Sleeping in, followed by a relaxing shower or bath

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By Esther Lee and Emily Rumsey

What kind of climate do you prefer?

A. Mediterranean warmth with mild breezes B. Tropical weather C. Dry, sunny days D. Moderate tropical heat with rainbow sightings E. A mix

What kind of activities excite you?

A. Tasting menus (with wine) and exploring art museums, ancient sites and tiny coastal villages B. Snorkeling, exploring Mayan ruins and lounging by the pool C. Horseback riding, hiking and visiting hot springs D. Surfing, whale watching and beachcombing E. Visiting temples, exploring tech districts and fine dining

What’s your favorite type of scenery?

A. Rolling hills, dramatic coastlines and medieval architecture B. Lush jungle, aquamarine cenotes and awe-provoking beaches C. Canyons, red rock formations and mountain peaks D. Volcanic islands, palm trees and turquoise waters E. Cherry blossoms, misty mountains and urban skylines

Which souvenir do you like to bring back from vacations?

A. Leather anything from a small artisan shop B. A bottle of mezcal C. A piece of jewelry or handcrafted pottery D. Kona coffee E. Manga and custom candy

oon What’s your dream vacation housing?

What’s your favorite takeout meal?

Pizza Tacos Burgers Poke bowls Ramen

Mostly Ds: Hawaii Mostly Cs: The American West Mostly Bs: Mexico Mostly As: Italy Results

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A. A charming villa overlooking the countryside B. A luxury bungalow with a plunge pool C. A private resort in the middle of nowhere D. An oceanfront resort with a scene-y club E. A sleek, urban high-rise property

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Italy Buongiorno from the land of pizza, pecorino and panna cotta. If that list isn’t enough to convince you, just ask the honeymooners who’ve gone before you. Spoiler alert: most return, arriving in droves for summertime memories. Oh, and let’s not forget: Italy *is* the land of amore, after all. Romance abounds just about everywhere, making it an ideal option for anniversary trips.

Why You’ll Return: Rome, Florence and Venice are gateways to a lifetime of repeat trips to Italia. The welltraveled set will say that to know Italy, you must savor it town by town, from the electric-blue Sardinian coastline to the rugged Alpine peaks of the Dolomites. Plus, multigenerational travel is exceptional in Italy. The country has plenty of history and food-related experiences to keep all ages engaged.

Where to Stay: Hotel de la Ville (Rome); Il San Pietro di Positano (Amalfi Coast); Borgo Egnazia (Puglia); Grand Hotel Tremezzo (Lake Como); Villa Sant’Andrea, a Belmond Hotel (Sicily)

There’s so much more to Mexico than tequila and tacos. (Though if that’s just your speed, we support that too.) Luxury hotel portfolios are expanding thoughtfully with elevated all-inclusives that specialize in everything from fitness to food…Not to mention the fun. Across Mexico’s expansive landscape, couples can find a variety of sights and appealing options that speak to their interests.

Think: wellness escapes in Punta Mita, unobstructed luxury in Los Cabos and full-service amenities along the Riviera Maya. Foodies and museumgoers will thrive in Mexico City, while historians will marvel at the beauty of San Miguel de Allende.

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or West Coast cities. Many couples can find direct flights from major US cities to Mexico, discovering a completely different climate and culture at the destination of choice.

To venture deeper with every visit, guests can book culturally

immersive activities like a temazcal ceremony or an agave harvesting and tasting led by locals.

Where to Stay: Naviva, a Four Seasons Resort (Punta Mita); The St. Regis Mexico City; Hilton Tulum Riviera Maya All-Inclusive Resort

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Please note: Local laws may restrict service availability to all.

Visit the Equality Index (Equaldex.com/equality-index) for more information.

American West Imagine sagebrush, thorny bushes, shades of unexpected quiet greens, the splendor of buttes and bluffs against blue- and pink-tinted sunsets and sunrises. That’s the feeling of arriving out West. The vast and

unspoiled acres of land across 11 states—including Wyoming, Montana, Utah and Colorado—is home to a high concentration of national parks and unobstructed beauty that defines Americana. Honeymooners

will want to splurge on private slot canyon tours (photos, of course, are a highlight), as well as indulgent spa treatments after each day’s adventure. If you plan to drive, you’ll want to stop by shops at Native American reservations for handmade gifts like pottery to bring back home.

Why You’ll Return: Couples who revel in nature will find themselves returning to the region to ascend a new hiking trail in Moab, Utah, or to ski down the slopes of Aspen Snowmass. Scene-y types will be spoiled for choice with restaurant pop-ups and shopping boutiques, as well as luxury hotels and dude ranches that offer pristine views.

Plus, the appeal will continue as active couples may return with their families, including furry friends.

Where to Stay: Amangiri (Canyon Point, Utah); The Cloudveil (Jackson Hole, Wyoming); Dunton Hot Springs (Dunton, Colorado)

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Hawaii Unofficially known as the Honeymoon State, Hawaii is a fabulous choice for couples who want to experience jawdropping vistas, fresh seafood, culture and luxury. Newlyweds frequent Maui, an island conducive to romance with snorkeling and picnics by day, sunset luaus by night. But Hawaii is also the perfect repeat destination for entire families, given the adventurous terrain in Oahu, the rocky seas and dolphin sightings of Kauai’s Na’pali Coast, and the gentle beaches of Wailea.

Why You’ll Return: Hawaii is easy to reach from the West Coast, and it offers diverse cultural experiences. It feels like visiting a foreign country, no passport required. There are two phrases you should always have on the tip of your tongue: “aloha” (hello) and “mahalo” (thank you). Those who warmly respect the locals will find that there aren’t enough shaved ices and gas station poke bowls to satiate a lifetime of visits.

Where to Stay: The Ritz-Carlton O’ahu, Turtle Bay; Four Seasons Resort Maui at Wailea; 1 Hotel Hanalei Bay (Kauai)

Japan If a friend has visited Japan, you’ve likely heard them say they can’t wait to return. The archipelago is ideal for couples since it caters to a range of interests.

Newlyweds will find all sorts of culturally immersive experiences, like tea ceremonies and Kabuki performances, to fulfill their every fancy. Not to mention the food (sushi, chicken karage, omurice and more), the onsens (hot springs) and the cultural lessons (etiquette, for one) that come with every visit.

Why You’ll Return: Avid skiers will be thrilled with Hokkaido’s

powdery slopes in winter, while Kyoto’s cherry blossoms will leave couples speechless in the spring. Arguably the hardest part about a Japan return-moon is the distance from the US (a 15-hour flight from New York City; 12 hours from Los Angeles). Couples tend to reserve it for their most special anniversaries. Many go on to explore neighboring countries like South Korea and China.

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GETTING THERE REQUIRES TIME AND ENERGY. WHY NOT ENJOY IT AS MUCH AS THE DESTINATION ITSELF?

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You’d think we would’ve grown out of asking “Are we there yet?” whenever we travel. Yet for many adult voyagers, the process of transiting from Point A to Point B evokes a familiar sense of dread. There’s a term for feeling this way: travel anxiety (or at its worst, hodophobia, which is defined as the extreme fear of travel).

Now what if we told you that we can reframe this perspective? The beauty and blight of travel is that you’ll come across the unexpected, including the occasional frenetic tourist. Yet you could also end up seeing the Northern Lights right outside your plane window. “Being on the journey forces you to slow down, whereas you’re likely on the go when on the ground,” says Alexis Bowen, cofounder of travel agency Elsewhere by Lonely Planet.

“While you’re getting there, you’re sitting and taking it in.”

There’s value in these moments of uninterrupted presence. Profound reflections or a relationship-bonding experience could happen while you’re traversing meridian lines on a transcontinental flight or cruising down the Nile. “A favorite travel philosophy of ours is: We prefer trips where the act of ‘getting there’ feels like traveling, not transiting,” Bowen says. A greater adventure awaits.

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One of the best travel decisions I’ve ever made was upgrading my flight from Singapore to New York City using 90,000 air miles. Considered the longest flight in the world, Singapore Airlines 24’s “main cabin” is composed entirely of business class and premium economy seats. (Sounds fancy, huh?) Well, considering you’re reclined or seated for 19 hours straight, this transcontinental marvel isn’t for the restless. As someone who averages 15,000 steps a day, I extensively scrolled Reddit for incabin hacks prior to the flight. Think: the proper dosage of melatonin to knock me out, functional plane pillows and comfy loungewear (page 66).

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easier, since I spent the first leg of it snoozing. On the way back, though, I knew what I had to do: I marched up to the counter at Changi Airport and requested an upgrade. Dutiful girl math made it clear that fully reclining and catching up on Korean dramas for the 9,500-mile journey home was my ideal take on self-care.

Somewhere over Calcutta, happily bundled in a cashmere throw with a Diet Coke, chicken satay and an overnight sheet mask (don’t judge), I thought about how others would perceive contentment on a long-haul flight…And this may very well be it. Say your honeymoon is halfway around the world and your goal is to optimize for time: There’s no

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better way to do it than by upgrading your ticket and arriving refreshed and reinvigorated.

Airlines to consider: Fly with Emirates or Qatar Airways if you plan to travel to/ from the Middle East or the Maldives.

Both are renowned for their strong business and first-class products, as well as amenity partnerships with luxury houses like Bulgari. Book Singapore Airlines if you’re flying to/from Southeast Asia, especially if you plan to embark from Changi Airport; the lounge alone, with its laksa and buffet, is a remarkable way to start the trek. British Airways is repeatedly top-rated for satisfaction, while Lufthansa recently redid its cabins; if you’re planning a long-haul flight to Europe, either could be a delightful way to make the trek, which is often a red-eye. Book Japan Airlines, revered for its food and service, if you’re flying to East Asia.

Why it’s perfect for couples: Your honeymoon deserves the elevated experience.

On that Singapore flight, I watched one loved-up couple huddled together in a single business class seat for much of the trip, bingeing bubbly, snacks and one movie after the next. And guess what? It turned out they were honeymooners.

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Trains My grandfather is a model train hobbyist. Some of my fondest memories from growing up involve watching him operate his little plastic locomotives while I played with tiny traveler figurines and made up elaborate stories about where they were headed. Fast-forward decades later to experiencing Shinkansen trains in Japan, complete with white-gloved conductors, and my fate was sealed: I love train travel. To this day, my mouth still waters when I remember the chocolate mousse I savored aboard a multiday Amtrak trip my family took from Los Angeles to Kansas City when I was in grade school. But as someone who commuted via the New York City subway daily for much of her 20s, I know that train travel isn’t always glamorous. So how do you sort through the coal (yes, that’s a train joke) to find the gems?

After all, the last thing you want after months of wedding planning is an arduous day of travel on a clanging roomette.

It’s time to leave the heavy lifting to someone else while you unwind. Enter: luxury locomotive travel. You can travel by train to some of the most breathtaking destinations in the world. Some options even offer spacious glass-dome cabins that immerse you in the spectacular scenery.

Routes to consider: The rail line Rocky Mountaineer operates throughout the Rocky Mountains. Its most iconic routes survey British Columbia and Alberta, with stops at Canadian treasures like Whistler and Lake Louise. The company offers a five-night package aboard a spacious train that takes honeymoon-

ers from Vancouver to Banff.

Riders who upgrade to the rail’s glass-dome cabins can take in overhead views of rushing mountain rivers and towering evergreens. The only downside to this journey? You risk running out of camera roll space; make sure you have plenty of storage on your phone. Around every bend, the stunning sights continually eclipse each other and beg to be captured. If a European honeymoon is what you’ve always dreamed of, then it’s time to book tickets aboard the British Pullman, A

Belmond Train. While Belmond is best known for its luxury hotels, it also operates seven tourist trains, and the route through England is absolutely sublime. Newlyweds can step back in time to the Golden Age of Travel on railcars that have been restored to the glamour of the 1920s. Or if you’re ready for a train trip that feels right out of a Studio Ghibli scene, like those in Howl’s Moving Castle and Spirited Away, then try snagging one of just 20 spots aboard the Seven Stars Kyushu by applying to ride on the iconic Japanese train. (Note: these last two trains have dress codes!)

Why it’s perfect for couples: Normally, sightseeing involves exertion as you walk or hike around beautiful destinations.

But rail travel makes seeing the world possible without lifting a finger (perfect for those weary after months of wedding prep). As on a cruise, you can enjoy scenic stops at landmarks—even overnight stays in luxurious properties—along the way.

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There’s something extra-special about starting and stopping along routes at your own pace. If you’re going to spend at least three days in a vehicle, we suggest upgrading to a seasonally appropriate choice. In warmer climates with winding drives along elevated coasts, convertibles are a bold and stylish ride (windswept tresses and all). And if your version of honeymoon romance is skiing the Alps or shopping in St. Moritz, consider a luxury SUV to help conquer those roads.

Routes to consider: The Riviera Route along the Cote d’Azur is a stunning option for honeymooners in the South of France. Another breathtaking drive that overlooks a big body of water is the

Great Ocean Road in Australia. On Maui in Hawaii, couples rave about the Road to Hana, although we recommend starting early or avoiding peak seasons when people often travel with families.

Speaking of the USA: Is there anything more iconic than Route 66? Honeymooners can enjoy part of it on the drive from Las Vegas to Page, Utah, especially if they plan to see the South Rim of the Grand Canyon along the way.

Why it’s perfect for couples: If you don’t drive your own car, you’ll miss rugged American vistas of Western canyons and buttes, the tranquility of bamboo forests in Hawaii, and the charm of medieval villages along the Mediterranean. After all, the feeling of only you, your partner and the open road? Getting there never felt so good.

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Imagine the experience of cruising down the Nile River on a traditional felucca, taking in the sleepy Danube at dawn or rowing through the canals of Kerala during your honeymoon. Seasoned travelers know that the wonders of the world are sometimes best seen from the high (or still) seas. One pro tip? Book your trip with a travel advisor or a local travel service. You want to work with those who’ve actually navigated these waters themselves.

Places to consider: In Egypt, views of the Great Pyramid of Giza and the Sphinx are arguably better from the Nile. “These stunning wood sailing vessels (feluccas) look like they’ve been lifted straight from ancient Egyptian hieroglyphics,” says travel expert Bowen. “Journeys are four to six nights with everything included: traditional Egyptian meals, friendly staff who make you feel like family and nights spent under the stars.” Some couples may prefer to fly to Europe, then set sail on

the Mediterranean around the Cyclades in Greece or the Turkish Riviera south of Istanbul. Whatever option you choose (we recommend setting sail with companies like Oberoi, Viking Cruises and Virgin Voyages), it’s smooth sailing from here.

Why it’s perfect for couples: Cruising takes the guesswork out of evening accommodations and most meals. In fact, you can easily hop from sunset in Athens to sunrise in Crete on an overnight liner. Adventurous types may enjoy the experience of embarking and disembarking at various spots.

“Some of the most unforgettable moments include watching the sunset over the Nile, spotting massive crocodiles and experiencing the warmth of the crew, who make the experience feel deeply personal rather than touristy,” says Bowen.

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W E D D I N G WA R D R O B E

Dressed to the Nines Having a second bridal look is nothing new, but having a third or fourth (or even fifth) is on the rise. Going all out with your wedding looks gives you more chances to show off your bridal style, while helping you set the tone for each unique phase of your day. Oh, and it’s fun. From full-on glamour in the getting-ready suite to reception dresses that shine just as much as the ceremony gown, these looks make the case for a maximalist wedding day wardrobe.

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If the runways of Bridal Fashion Week have taught us anything, it’s that getting-ready looks can go far beyond a white bathrobe and slippers. Milla Nova paired corseted strapless bodysuits with ruffle-hem bloomers and lace wide-leg pants.

Meanwhile, Dana Harel showcased beaded lace bralettes underneath sheer silk-chiffon tops and matching bottoms.

Over-the-top details like feathers, faux fur and sequins can make even the most laid-back silhouettes feel worthy of a special occasion.

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Having multiple looks makes it even easier to justify an extravagant, of-the-moment ceremony dress, as do the latest collections flooding the bridal fashion scene. Go bold with the oversized blooms of Monique Lhuillier and Pnina Tornai, the asymmetric lines of Alexandra Grecco and Savage & Hunt, or the daring, sheer details of Julie Vino and SOUCY. You can always save “comfortable” and “easy to dance in” for the reception.

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R EC E P T I O N Whether it’s an opportunity to slip into something more dance-floor ready or an excuse to don another dramatic dress, having a special look for the reception is a surefire way to let your guests know it’s time to party. Eye-catching details like all-over pearls and floral embellishments can make a mini or ankle-length dress feel just as bold as a gown, without the need for a bustle.

Use this look as a chance to wear something unique and unexpected, like a three-piece suit or flowing scarf.

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Nothing says “fun” like ruffles, sequins, feathers, fringe and fur, and bridal designers have given us no shortage of options to choose from. Let a shimmering number from KYHA, Alexandra Pijut or LEIN catch the light under the disco ball at a late-night dance party, or stun at a chic cocktail bar in head-to-toe feathers from Bronx and Banco or Esé Azénabor. After all, when better than your wedding day to don something this extra?

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Suit Up

TV HOST AND FORMER PRO FOOTBALL STAR MICHAEL STRAHAN IS SERIOUS ABOUT HIS ’FITS. Any suiting styles you’d love to see make a comeback?

I am on team three-piece suits! I personally love the look and think it’s super classy. I think this went away a bit in American tailored fashion as people have moved toward a more casual look, but I will keep wearing them and encouraging others to wear them too. It’s a great look for a wedding, especially when the jacket comes off and you’re still looking great in your vest dancing the night away with your partner.

We are here for the more-is-more approach to wedding fashion these days. How can someone create a #extra look without going too over the top?

I love a fun lining. It can make a solid or more traditional-looking suit really pop with personality. We have some great ones to choose from in the Design Lab. I also like accented stitching in a contrasting or bold color. It is the true sign of a unique custom suit! Adding the date, your names or a special message inside is a great way to really make it yours.

to get the scoop on the new Michael Strahan Design Lab and trends he’s loving.

Q: From football to fashion—how did you decide to launch your own line of clothing?

A: This all grew out of my own need for suits in my professional life. When we launched my brand 10 years ago, I found myself wearing up to three suits per day between my commitments at ABC, FOX and The $100,000 Pyramid. We needed to work with a manufacturing partner to help us get enough product to meet my lifestyle. After the success we had with suits, we’ve entered new categories, from boys to athleisure, licensed sports merchandise and now custom.

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What menswear trends are you loving?

Bold colors, fun patterns and people bringing their own personality into a look.

And that’s why we launched the Michael Strahan Design Lab. It allows guys to really go as bold or delicate as they want and let their personality shine. There’s nothing quite like putting on a suit that was made just for you and includes special details that you chose. My whole brand is rooted in confidence and making it part of your routine. When you dress well, you feel confident and set yourself up for success.

Confidence is always the best accessory.

What about the wedding party?

I love when wedding parties are cohesive for photos, but ultimately you want everyone to feel comfortable. When we created the Design Lab, we wanted guys to be able to have similar looks and still let their own style come through. I love when grooms all have the same suit color but then show their personality with a lining they chose themselves. It makes for a suit they will love to wear in the future.

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His eponymous line of suiting does the most, with bold colors, eye-catching patterns and total customization options. We caught up with the Hall of Famer

What advice do you have for grooms shopping for their wedding look?

It’s your day, so pick something that you love and that you will look and feel your best in.

Don’t worry about trends. If you want to go classic with a peak lapel, let it fly. If you want to be a bit more bold with a floral lining, let’s do it! And don’t forget to have fun with your look—everyone is there to celebrate you and your partner. It’s your time to shine! And those special accents, like a custom monogram with your names and wedding date, will be something you cherish for a long time.

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Next-Gen Dress Codes MODERN COUPLES ARE REWRITING THE RULES ABOUT WHAT TO WEAR TO A WEDDING.

I’ve done black tie. I’ve done dressy casual. What I’m really craving now is an out-of-the-box dress code that actually makes my jaw drop. There’s just something exciting about getting to dress up for an event with a theme (the more unique, the better). Fortunately, today’s couples are paving the way for the next generation of dress codes.

I spoke with three trendsetters to understand how to come up with unique attire plans.

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Capitol Couture If you could bring a fictional character to life for one day and have them officiate your wedding, who would it be? For California couple Jonathon and Kyle, it would be none other than Effie Trinket of The Hunger Games. But having their officiant sport Effie’s signature sequins, feathers and fringe wasn’t the only way that they paid homage to the beloved book and movie series on their big day.

Invitations to the wedding encouraged guests to come decked out in full “Capitol Couture.” If you’ve read the books, you know this translates to all-out maximalism. “In The Hunger Games, the people of the Capitol wear over-the-top fashion that represents a sense of delusional optimism and a moment of joy and beauty for the tributes,” explains the couple. “We wanted to exude some of that exuberant energy during our wedding.”

The odds were certainly in their favor

when guests arrived in The Hunger Games– inspired attire. Some wore outfits directly influenced by the film, while others put their own personal spin on the dress code. As for their wedding party, each member was assigned a specific color and given creative freedom to choose a look based on it. The result was a rainbow that surrounded the couple as they stood at the altar.

For Jonathon and Kyle, having each of their loved ones come dressed up in a movie-inspired ensemble was about more than just photo ops. It allowed guests to not only witness the theme through their decor and installations, but actually take part in it.

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color, but as it turned out, the right choice was (quite literally) right in front of them.

“Once we finally settled on pink, everything else fell into place: our glitter artist, disco ball, edible glitter cocktails, cotton candy station and, of course, the outfits,” explains Molly. The official dress code? Pink Disco Carnival Extravaganza.

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To make their vision of a pink disco party a reality, the couple enlisted the help of their guests. “The dress code guidance read: ‘We would love to see our family and friends decked out for our wild, retro, pink extravaganza of a wedding. Nothing is too ridiculous, nothing is too fancy, nothing is too pink,’” says Molly.

They shared outfit inspiration on their wedding website, along with a link to a Pinterest board, where guests could browse shoppable styles online. “We wanted everyone to be able to express themselves in the way they felt most comfortable, whether that was a dress, a jumpsuit or a suit. The only requirement was that it had to be a shade of pink and cocktail-appropriate,” the couple adds.

For to-be-weds who dream of having their wedding vision brought to life by their guests’ attire, Molly and Andrew have one simple tip: Give clear guidance. “If you give people more to work with and encourage them to incorporate things like feathers, sequins, velvet and fringe into whatever their own personal style is, you will end up with a much more interesting and fun mix of outfits,” they explain.

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#1: Provide inspiration so guests understand what you’re thinking. Photos on your wedding website or even a dedicated Pinterest board will do the trick.

Cowboy boots and Stetsons were the unofficial uniform of Taylor and Brad’s first few years together. The two met at the University of Texas at Austin, where they fell in love while rooting for the Longhorns at home games. After graduating, their story continued in the Lone Star State, and Western wear began to influence their everyday attire. When it came time to pick a dress code for their wedding welcome party, the choice was obvious: Cowboy Chic.

“Since the majority of our guests were coming from out of town, we wanted the event to highlight the city that we love so much,” Taylor explains. Of course, giving their guests a proper Texas welcome was only a part of it. The dress code and theme also allowed the couple to share a piece of their love story with the people they’re closest to.

While most rodeos may have branded cattle, branding took on a different meaning at this celebration, thanks to the bride’s profession as a stationer. “One of the first ideas Taylor had when brainstorming elements for our invitation suite was to create a handy look book to guide our guests’ attire,” Brad recalls. “We worked with a watercolor artist to create personalized portraits of us in sample outfits for each event.”

Guests found this booklet in the invitation (along with a boot-shape insert that

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#2: Anticipate questions guests might have so you can answer them in advance. The FAQ page of your wedding website is perfect for this. #3: Be clear with your wording.

Check out our guide to verbalizing your vibe on p. 18. #4: Give them time to plan— and shop. The earlier the better when it comes to sharing that you’re leaning into an unusual dress code.

outlined details of the event). For the welcome party? You guessed it—the couple’s caricatures rocked Cowboy Chic attire.

“Brad’s portrait had him in dark jeans with a jacket, cowboy boots, a cowboy hat and a bolo tie. Below was a caption that read: ‘Dark jeans and boots, baby! Add a bolo tie and a cowboy hat if you’re feelin’ festive,’” says Taylor. “My portrait had me in a short dress with cowboy boots and a caption that read: ‘Embrace your inner classy cowgirl and put on a fun dress with those boots!’”

Taylor and Brad’s guests took the inspiration and ran with it (or should we say, rode with it). They showed up dressed in their best Cowboy Chic attire, ready to two-step the night away. “Our guests loved the theme and had fun with it! The attire booklet ended up being one of our most complimented elements of our wedding,” the couple shares.

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Exhale Wedding Nerves Breathing is the single most fundamental thing we do every day. (In fact, we inhale then exhale about 20,000 times a day.) But just because it’s instinctual doesn’t mean we don’t occasionally fall victim to poor breathing habits. Stress and anxiety can cause changes to our respiratory patterns that in turn lead to, well, even more stress and anxiety. If you’re in the process of planning a wedding, chances are you know this phenomenon all too well.

Between touring venues, booking vendors and trying on outfits, it can be tough to find time to slow down and fill your lungs with air. That’s where Elsa Unenge comes in. As a certified breath coach, she’s built a career by helping people find calm within the chaos. Below, she breaks down what makes breathwork an essential part of the wedding planning process.

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Q: What is breathwork?

A: Breathwork is the practice of intentionally changing your breathing pattern to improve your physical and mental well-being. Simple, scientific breathing practices are used by Olympic athletes to improve performance and recovery, by Navy SEALs to find calm and focus in highly stressful situations, and even by psychiatrists at some of the world’s leading medical institutions who prescribe these practices to their patients.

Q: Why should couples incorporate breathwork into their prewedding prep?

A: Your breath is directly connected to your nervous system, making it one of the most powerful tools for managing nerves. By understanding your respiration and practicing simple techniques, you can lower your heart rate. This helps create a sense of tranquility and control during even the most stressful moments, whether it’s weeks, days or just minutes before walking down the aisle.

Q: How soon before their wedding should couples begin breathwork practices?

A: It’s never too early to start. The sooner you familiarize yourself with different breathing techniques, the more natural they’ll feel when you need them most. If you start a couple of months or weeks before your wedding whenever you feel stressed, worried or nervous, it will help you build confidence in using your breath. That being said, it’s also never too late, as specific inhalation and exhalation patterns can have an immediate impact on your nervous system.

Q: Can couples practice breathwork together? If so, what are the advantages of this?

A: Yes, absolutely! Practicing together and learning the same techniques can strengthen your connection and create a sense of teamwork. It’s a beautiful way to support each other, especially during moments of intense emotion.

Q: What breathwork techniques should couples familiarize themselves with in the months leading up to their wedding?

A: There are so many breathing techniques out there, including diaphragmatic breathing, pursed lip breathing, box breathing and more, so I suggest trying a few until you find a couple that you like. Once you do, stick to them, learn them well and practice whenever you need.

Got five minutes? Try out this quick and easy breathwork technique that you can use whenever nerves run high (think: right before you walk down the aisle). Here’s what Unenge says to do: “One of my favorite practices I do with my husband is the humming breath.

Together, you breathe in through your nose, then hum softly as you exhale with your lips closed (mmm…) making sure your exhale is longer that your inhale. When your exhales end, breathe in through your nose and go again. Do this for just a minute and notice how you feel.

There might be some giggles, which is completely fine.”

Q: How often should people practice breathwork to gain the most benefits?

A: Breathing is powerful, and often five minutes a day is enough to feel the benefits.

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An interior design trend that first gained traction on TikTok in early 2024, the “unexpected red theory” is the idea that adding a pop of red to a space—no matter what colors and elements are currently in it—can instantly elevate its look. The color craze carried over into the beauty space when TikTok creator Maj.beauty claimed that wearing nothing but red lipstick can give the appearance of a more even skin tone, tricking the eye into seeing fewer blemishes and imperfections. There’s a reason designers and makeup artists are still talking about the color trend and its transformational powers: Because it’s timeless. From a natural-looking pinch at the cheeks to a scarlet bridal manicure, here are a few ways you can incorporate the shade into your wedding day look.

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Find your perfect tone.

Ease into red.

Experimenting with red doesn’t mean you have to dive headfirst into an all-crimson outfit. Dobkine recommends starting small, as even a pop of the shade here and there can instantly elevate your look.

“A swipe of red lipstick, a red scarf or even a touch of red in a pattern can work wonders,” she says.

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Pair red thoughtfully.

A high-contrast combination— like red with black or red with another bright color—can make the shade feel overwhelming.

“Instead, try pairing red with a more neutral shade that fits you, like gray, brown or blue, to create a more harmonious look,” Dobkine says.

Try it on.

At the end of the day, you’ll never know what shades work best for you unless you try them. “Stand in front of the mirror and really consider how you feel in the red,” Dobkine says.

“The right shade will integrate seamlessly with your features, making you feel confident and elegant. Remember: You should be wearing the color—not the other way around.”

Trust your gut.

Dobkine’s final piece of advice? Choose the red that makes you feel your best.

“Trust your instincts. Deep down, we often know what suits us,” she says. “It might not be the boldest shade in the room, but if it feels ‘right,’ that’s what matters most.”

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Intimidated by the idea of wearing red? Color expert and style coach Julia Dobkine of Agile Styling is here to uncover what it takes to embrace the shade. Some reds are warm and feel almost orange, while others are cool with subtle hints of blue in them. According to Dobkine, a red that matches your natural coloring will never overpower you. Instead, it will feel as effortless as wearing your favorite neutral. “When you wear the right shade of red, it feels like magic. It enhances your natural features, brings out your glow and makes you feel confident instead of self-conscious,” Dobkine explains.

Color Analysis 101 “The beauty of red is that it’s for everyone—there’s a shade to match every complexion,” Dobkine says.

Use this quick guide to finding your perfect shade of red based on the four main color seasons.

True Spring: Think warm, lively reds like coral, fire red or scarlet.

These shades match the vibrant and golden undertones of spring palettes perfectly.

True Summer: Soft, cool reds like raspberry, apple red, rose red and cranberry complement summer’s understated elegance.

True Autumn: Earthy reds like tomato red, brick red and currant red beautifully harmonize with autumn’s warm and muted tones.

True Winter: Cool, bold reds like garnet, ruby red and cherry red offer dramatic contrast and perfectly suit winter’s striking features.

P R O T I P S : Not sure what your color season is? Start with your undertones instead. “If you’re cool-toned, look for blue-based reds. If you’re warm-toned, go for golden or orange-based reds,” Dobkine says. Another tip is to consider the contrast in your features. “If your look has high contrast, like dark hair and fair skin, bold and saturated reds will suit you. For softer features, muted reds may feel more natural.”

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1. Add a subtle pop of color with this cult-favorite hydrating lipstick you’ll reach for again and again.

Sheer lipstick in Goldie Red, $49, Gucci.com 2. Play up your updo with these glistening, garnet-embellished bobby pins set in 18K gold-plated brass. Karina bobby pin set, $325, JenniferBehr.com 3. If this slingback’s crystal-scattered ivory silk hasn’t already caught your eye, the iconic Louboutin red bottom certainly will.

Queenissima red-sole slingback pumps, $2,795, Christian Louboutin, SaksFifthAvenue.com 4. Go bold with this sparkling red take on Lele Sadoughi’s iconic knotted headband, which you can easily pop on or off for a second hair look.

Embellished knotted headband, $195, LeleSadoughi.com 5. Give the “classic” bridal manicure a new meaning and opt for Chanel’s terra-cotta-toned red over your typical neutral or baby pink. Longwear nail color in Fabuliste, $33, Chanel.com

6. Red blush is the best way to get those naturallooking, just-pinched cheeks, and Merit’s skin-like hydrating cream formula is the crème de la crème. Flush Balm cream blush in Persimmon, $30, MeritBeauty.com

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7. Adorned with rhinestones and gold-toned hardware, this Cult Gaia clutch doubles as a work of art. Lillia mini clutch in Garnet, $398, CultGaia.com

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8. Put a spin on your usual pearls with these handmade baroque pearl drop earrings topped with glistening red garnets. Luccichio garnet and pearl earrings, $231, VintouchJewels.com

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Fragrance may feel like a small detail when it comes to planning a wedding, but given the science of scents and their transporting power, it’s no surprise that modern couples are increasingly embracing it as a key part of their celebration. The olfactory bulb, the part of your brain responsible for processing smell, has a direct connection to the limbic system, which is most closely associated with emotions and memory.

It’s the reason a whiff of wood floors may revive the nervous excitement of your very first ballet class, or the aroma of freshly baked oatmeal cookies can bring you back to days spent at your grandmother’s house—moments you may have thought you’d forgotten. Even if you don’t realize it, this phenomenon is something we as humans have all experienced: the Proust effect.

“The scent system is fascinating.

It completely colors our world but is often forgotten in most event experiences,” says Tiffany Rose Goodyear, founder and CEO of custom event fragrance company Scentex. Today, couples are changing this: They’re selecting personal scents carefully and strategically incorporating them into every aspect of the wedding day.

Popular methods among TikTok creators include spritzing fragrance onto paper goods, placing coordinating reed diffusers around the reception space and putting bars of soap in bathrooms.

Candles of the same scent also make for great welcome bag gifts (but we wouldn’t place them on dining tables or anywhere near food and drink). And for a more holistic approach, couples can hire pros like Scentex to bring commercial-grade diffusers to customize the scent into your venue. No matter the scale, scentscaping your wedding will create an immersive experience like no other—one that will infuse your memories for years to come.

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3. 34 Boulevard Saint Germain scented soap, $50, DiptyqueParis.com

4. English pear and freesia room spray, $68, JoMalone.com

5. Santal rock rose reed diffuser, $60, ApothekeCo.com

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Upgrade Your Updo If you’ve been considering saying “I do” to an updo, we just might have what it takes to fully convince you. A classic bridal updo is one of the most comfortable styles for brides, since it keeps your hair out of your face throughout the day, and is one of the easiest to accessorize. There are countless ways to upgrade your updo (beyond a veil). To ensure no strand of hair goes unnoticed on your wedding day, we’ve rounded up some of our favorite accessories to help pin your hair to perfection.

Meet the crown jewel of your wedding wardrobe.

This crystal and pearl tiara will upgrade your look in a bold way. Audra pearl and crystal tiara, $189, DarethColburn.com A touch of whimsy never goes unnoticed.

Wear these sparkling bridal hairpins in your slicked-back bun or braid for an elevated look.

Adriana hairpins, $88, OliveandPiper.com Add this iridescent pearl headband to your updo and you’ll feel like the world is your oyster.

Allison Pearl Halo, $278, LeletNY.com A subtle hit of sparkle is all you need to make a statement. Reach for this studded hair clip for your wedding day and every celebration after. Broche Vivier hair clip, $575, RogerVivier.com You won’t need wings to get you down the aisle, but you have to admit, these look pretty cool. Pair them with a twisted bun for an angelic effect. Crystal Dove Wing hair clip, $85, TwigsandHoney.com

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Getting engaged was a wake-up call. I no longer recognized the person I saw in the mirror. When I worked up the courage to step on the scale tucked away in our closet, a number flashed on the screen I’d never seen before, and a whirlwind of emotions came over me. “What have I done?

I try my hardest in every other part of my life, but why don’t I do the same for my health?”

As my body changed in recent years, so did the way people treated me. Compliments turned to unwanted opinions, and I was learning to navigate life in a body that didn’t feel like my own. I knew something had to change, and the fast approach of my wedding was the kick start I needed. With the support of my fiancé, Tyler, who has never made me feel less than because of my body, I learned how to prioritize myself, set boundaries and say no.

Around this time, I took the plunge and talked to my doctor about starting a GLP-1. When I thought about all the eyes on me on my wedding day, it wasn’t that I wanted to look like an airbrushed model. Rather, I simply wanted to inhabit a body where I felt comfortable and at home.

I quieted the little voice inside my head who whispered the stigmas associated with weight loss medication. I knew there’d be judgments, and while I was still nervous, I felt empowered because I was taking back control of my life. I made the decision that was best for me.

When I started to lose weight, I realized I had gotten so used to feeling like nothing ever fit me in the right places.

I’d catch myself tugging on my clothes, uncomfortable and just wanting to disappear into the shadows. Tyler has always loved how I look. I wanted to experience that same love and acceptance for my body.

I discovered that gaining weight had given me a unique perspective. I felt free. I hadn’t realized how much I relied

on compliments to shape my self-worth until they were gone. I stopped caring what people thought about me. It was heartbreaking to feel uncomfortable in my body, but I was, in many ways, my happiest.

Throughout my weight loss journey, I learned to love myself for me, which carried over into wedding planning. Soon, I was open to broadening the scope of our day. We invited a few more guests than just immediate family and booked a venue instead of eloping at the courthouse. I wasn’t sick to my stomach thinking about how others would perceive me or how I would look in photos. This time, I didn’t let those confidence-crushing comments win.

But there was one thing I still couldn’t shake: dress shopping. What books and films paint as a core bridal memory was keeping me up at night. So many thoughts swirled in my mind, “What if they have a limited selection of plus-size dresses? What if I immediately hate how every style looks on me? What if I leave more defeated?” I knew deep down that I wouldn’t give a single dress a fighting chance at a salon appointment. So to protect my peace of mind, I approached wedding dress shopping my own way. I said “yes” to the dress with the click of a mouse.

Even more so, I’m grateful that I made the decision to say “yes” to a partner who’s been a steadying force amid my health journey. While everyone’s story looks different, for me, online wedding dress shopping and taking a GLP-1 were the outward steps I took to reinforce the inner confidence I have built. The prior version of myself who didn’t struggle with her weight wouldn’t recognize the self-assured woman I am today. I healed a negative relationship with my body, changed my lifestyle and rebuilt my confidence. The result?

I was no longer itching to change the subject when talking about my wedding. I finally felt like a bride.

On my wedding day, I zipped up my dress (the first and only one I ever tried on), fastened my earrings and clasped my shoes. Took a step back and a deep breath.

I liked who I saw in the mirror. I felt beautiful inside and out—and none of that was dependent on my appearance.

Tyler taught me how to love myself for me—and that’s the truest fairy tale of all.

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2 0 2 5 E n g a g e m e n t R i n g T r e n d s 1. EAST-WEST SETTINGS When Zendaya hard-launched her engagement to Tom Holland at the 2025 Golden Globes, she also dropped a newish concept into the gemstone zeitgeist: her engagement ring, an oval-shape diamond in an “east-west” setting. While not necessarily a new design tactic, this modern style puts the center stone on its side, rather than in a common “north-south” orientation.

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2. MARQUISE STONES Rounds and ovals may never truly go out of style, but marquises are on their way in. Call it the Selena Gomez effect: Not only does she have a 2015 song that references this diamond shape, but her own marquise engagement ring became an instant sensation at the end of 2024. Known for its elongated body and pointed edges, this antique style dates to the 1700s, but we predict its modern takeover is just beginning.

3. HALF BEZELS The thickness of a traditional bezel setting can sometimes dull a gem’s brilliance and sparkle by blocking light from refracting within. Half bezels only surround part of the center stone, offering security without reducing shine.

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4. MAXIMAL MULTI-STONES There’s no denying the beauty of a dazzling solitaire center stone perched on an unadorned band, but that’s not where 2025 trends are headed. We’re living in a maximalist era, after all, and you’ll likely see more unique designs with three or more stones.

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Can You Tell the Difference?

Think you’re a pro at decoding diamonds? Test your knowledge to see if you can spot the difference between a mined diamond, a lab-grown diamond, a white sapphire, a white topaz and moissanite.

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5 5. THOUGHTFUL TOI-ET-MOIS The sentimentality behind toiet-moi engagement rings (which means “you and me” in French) never fails to make us swoon.

Maybe you’ll place two of your favorite shapes side by side, or perhaps you’ll pair a diamond with your partner’s birth stone.

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1. White topaz You might associate topazes with shades of vibrant blue or deep orange, but this gorgeous gem can also serve as a diamond alternative. Made of a silicate mineral, a topaz gem has an 8-point Mohs scale rating, making it a suitable center stone option. 2. Mined diamond Mined diamonds are pulled from the earth. They’re subjected to immense heat and pressure for millions of years or more before they’re ready to be recovered and polished. Because of their value and scarcity, mined 5 diamonds typically have a higher price tag than lab-grown diamonds and diamond alternatives.

3. White sapphire Sapphires come in all shapes, sizes and colors— even white! An exceptionally rare gemstone, the white sapphire is named for its complete lack of color.

With a 9-point rating on the Mohs scale of hardness, it’s almost as tough as a diamond (which is a perfect 10).

4. Lab-grown diamond Lab-grown diamonds are chemically the same as mined diamonds. They’re made in lab settings under conditions that replicate the pressure of Earth’s crust. Because they can be massproduced, the cost is generally lower than mined diamonds. In 2024, our data found they made up over half of all engagement ring center stones.

5. Moissanite Composed of silicon carbide, moissanite is a synthetic diamond alternative. Not only is the price generally lower than diamonds, but moissanite gemstones have more brilliance and fire (read: more sparkle) thanks to their higher refractive index.

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Pearl-fection Clockwise from top: headpiece and necklace by Erickson Beamon; rings by Renna; cluster pearl flower pin, three-row pearl clasp necklace and double-row pearl necklace by Kenneth Jay Lane; thin pearl necklace on right wrist by Alison Lou; pearl drop earrings

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Ice, Ice Baby Clockwise from top: Veil by Honor; spiral ring by Maison H Jewels; Icône ring and Brume de Saphir necklace by Van Cleef & Arpels; Wildflower aquamarine double cocktail ring by Lionheart; Claw pavé ring and Galaxy ring by Maison H Jewels.

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Put a Pin in It Clockwise from top left: Mary Jane French barrette, Lelet NY; Pansy Lucite crystal pin and Punk Royale crystal flower pin

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by Lelet NY; spider broach by Erickson Beamon; Leia crystal ear cuff by Lelet NY; Flocked daisy tulle coat by Honor.

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Disco Darling Clockwise from top: The Royal necklace

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ring by Alexis Bittar; diamond coil ring

by Anita Ko; Modern Etruscan sevenstation diamond cluster bangle by Tanya Farah; bold burst diamond tennis bracelet by Suzanne Kalan; diamond

constellation cuff by Renna; Tree of Life leaf bypass bangle and Modern Etruscan diamond cutout scattered bangle

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Tulle Good to be True Clockwise from top: Siobhan long dangle earring by Bonheur Jewelry; hair jewels by Erickson Beamon, pink sapphire pyramid eye ring and Bubble Gum Candy tourmaline ring

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Crystal Clear Clockwise from top: Liquid Lucite large wave hoop earrings by Alexis Bittar; Eva dress

by Naeem Khan; Solanales crystal pebble ring by Alexis Bittar; pear promise ring, pear trinity emerald ring and Hidden innerhalo emerald ring

by Miraki Jewels; Solanales gold crystal lace-up cuff bracelet and Liquid Lucite wave hinged cuff bracelet by Alexis Bittar.

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T To appreciate Junelle and Noah’s love story is to start at the beginning, when she slid into his DMs “just as friends” in 2017. “Let’s just say the buildup to us getting together is probably a seven-year story,” says Noah.

Junelle was living in Jamaica; Noah was stateside. The two maintained busy training schedules as professional athletes, seeing each other in person only a few times over the course of three years. “Three months after we started to text, Noah said he had something to tell me,” says Junelle.

“He called me and told me that he liked me.” Noah smirks, sharing that he knew there was chemistry between them.

“Anytime someone got into a relationship with someone else, we’d stop talking,” he says. In 2022, Junelle and Noah saw each other a handful of times—the most ever—at various track meets, and in Jacksonville, Florida, Noah asked Junelle to be his girlfriend. “We were still long-distance,” recalls Junelle. “At that point I hadn’t decided if I was going to move to the US. We said we didn’t want to ruin our friendship, so we decided on a three-month trial.” This piques my interest and Noah clocks it. He explains that you date for three months and reassess the relationship with monthly check-ins. “We’d ask each other, ‘How are you feeling? Do you want to keep doing this? Is there something you don’t like or something you do like?’ And so forth,” he says. I’m awed by the intentionality of this. “After three months, you make the ultimate decision—are we going to stay together or are we going to break up and go back to being friends?” I know how the story ends, but I ask for more details. The trial was successful and the check-ins and moments of honest communication between the couple were lasting as well. “I feel as if the three months helped us to be more open about stuff we don’t like,” says Junelle. “It was a safe space to explain how you were feeling and what you wanted from the relationship.” The couple continued the practice even after they were official. “It laid the foundation for us to always be in a situation where we’re comfortable communicating,” says Noah. I wrongfully assume that this practice came

from therapy and Noah’s mental health journey, which he has been vocal about. Noah laughs and tells me, “I actually learned it from my mom. She used it when she was dating, and I thought it was a good idea. But it has some foundation in mental health,” he agrees.

I’m inspired by the depth of their relationship but hardly surprised. These high-achieving athletes have both overcome so much. Noah battled asthma, ADHD and dyslexia as a child and depression and anxiety as an adult. Junelle has overcome loss and cyberbullying; Noah describes her as one of the strongest, most resilient people he knows. Noah has been an advocate for mental health since the beginning of his career, using his platform to address and destigmatize mental health issues, especially within the athletic community. “I feel that the mental healthy journey is always going on—it never stops,” says Noah. “Each day provides a new challenge.”

The two agree that their shared discipline and lifestyle, including the mental toughness needed for their sport, is a gift. “I’ve been in previous relationships where there was a disconnect,” says Noah. “While track and field is my job, it’s also my first passion. It’s what I want my legacy to be.”

Junelle is quick to agree but shares an important distinction that she believes has contributed to the couple’s romantic success. “I usually tend to separate our relationship from track a lot, because I feel as if we’re different people at the track,” says Junelle. “It’s a whole different personality and everything. Even when we’re training together, Noah can’t call me ‘baby’ at the track, because at the track, I’m Junelle. I’m not your baby at the track.” Noah laughs, countering, “You would give your boyfriend pats at the gym but not at the track.” Junelle explains that she didn’t want a relationship that was tied to the sport. “I love the separation,” she admits.

Fans of the running powerhouses watched their friendship blossom into something deeper from the sidelines.

Throughout their relationship, the couple has fiercely

On Junelle: Dress by KYHA; pearl dress by Norma Kamali; earrings by Lizzie Fortunato.

On Noah: Shirt by Simone Rocha; pants by Officine Générale; shawl by House of Giles.

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JUNELLE, YOU WERE THE FIRST PERSON TO MAKE ME FEEL SAFE. YOU ARE MY SAFE SPACE. supported one another on and off the track. At the Paris Olympics, Noah won gold in the men’s 100 meters and bronze in the 200 meters, racing just two days after testing positive for COVID-19. He collapsed after the race and medics wheeled him off the track. His personal best of 19.31 seconds in the 200 meters is the American record, and his photo finish in this Olympic 100-meter race helped him secure the title “Fastest Man in the World.” Junelle also competed in Paris and finished 8th in the semifinals of the women’s 400 meters. She did not advance to the finals but championed Noah’s journey and was on the sidelines to congratulate him after his races.

Junelle, a Jamaican native, has been on a healing journey since losing her mother to cervical cancer in 2021. Her death came just before Junelle’s Tokyo Olympics campaign started. Noah offered a supportive ear and set out to boost her confidence at every turn. “At that time, I was in Jamaica,” says Junelle. “I wasn’t making any national teams or anything, so it was nice to have somebody who’s at the top of their game telling you that you can do it too, no matter your circumstances or what you’re going through.” The track star considered hanging it all up, but Noah wouldn’t let her. “I was going to quit, because it was getting hard mentally,” Junelle remembers. “And Noah helped me get through that.

He told me that I’ve got nothing to lose, that I am talented and whatever I aim for in life, I will be good at it.”

In addition to being a steadfast admirer and hype man for his bride-to-be, Noah is also a fierce protector. Junelle faced unfair criticism at the 2024 Summer Games due to her relationship with Noah. People labeled her a “sellout” for dating an American sprinter, an area where Jamaica has dominated records and victories. She endured cyberbullying and received death threats. But Junelle tuned out the noise.

“I don’t care much for public opinion,” she says. She was also subjected to colorism, with people making derogatory remarks about her skin tone. “I love my skin complexion,” says Junelle. “I love my hair. I love everything about being Black, so the comments didn’t affect me that much.”

Even so, she chose to speak out about colorism to empower others. “I want the Black children out there in Jamaica to know they’re beautiful, and they need to know how to love themselves,” she says. She credits therapy and her support system for seeing her through a difficult time. “It reminded us we already have a good foundation. It made us realize

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On Junelle: Dress by Aisling Camps; bustier by Alexandra Grecco; jewelry and harness: stylist’s own. On Noah: Leather jeans by AGOLDE; shirt by Dries Van Noten.

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NOAH, YOU ARE THE FIRST PERSON TO MAKE ME FEEL LIKE I CAN BE MYSELF. how strong it already was,” says Noah.

I ask the two to tell me about their engagement. Noah beams and Junelle giggles as he begins to retell the story.

Noah worked with a local jeweler to have a custom ring made based on a style Junelle had tried on. “We went ring shopping, and after we left the store, she was calling all our friends,” remembers Noah. He had the ring sent to his mom’s house so Junelle wouldn’t catch on. This was in July.

“I was at the point of wondering where the ring was,” says Junelle. I read a sign in the store that said you’re supposed to get your custom ring in four weeks. I knew he had to have the ring,” she adds.

“I’m an all-out guy, and I was trying to make this a surprise,” says Noah sheepishly. Every year I have an end-ofseason party, so I decided this is going to be it. It’s my party; it’s about me.” Noah hired a planner to bring his vision to life, choosing an Airbnb with a scenic backyard, cuing the music, the lights and even arranging fireworks. In October, the couple traveled from their home in Orlando, Florida, to Miami for the proposal. In his excitement, Noah failed to pack the ring—luckily, his sister saved the day, handing it off just in time. When I asked Junelle if she was onto him, her face hints at a yes. “His family is not very good at keeping secrets. His sister didn’t talk to me for six weeks,” she says.

“But when we were in Miami, he was a little bit stressed so I thought it’s not happening, he’s too grumpy right now.”

After all the planning and thoughtful details, Noah winged his engagement speech. He began with a passage from 1 Corinthians and shared how he felt when the two got together. “I finally figured out what peace was,” he professed to Junelle. “The ability to be vulnerable even though we have the most extremely uncomfortable conversations—every time we get through it, I feel so much happier knowing I can do this. I can do life together with you.” He then asked Junelle, “Will you do life with me?” Before he could drop to a knee for the official ask, she said yes, prompting chuckles from their family and friends who were gathered nearby.

The two are planning a spring wedding in 2026. “I like big weddings; she likes very small weddings,” Noah says. In the end, he’s getting his way. “If we keep it under 200 people, that’d be great.” Junelle will get what she wants too: She’s hoping to lean into her Jamaican heritage through cuisine and wedding vendors. “I want to get as many Jamaicans involved as possible—my makeup artist, my dress, everything,” says Junelle. The couple have decided to channel Junelle’s colorism criticism into something beautiful. “One of our wedding themes will be all things melanin, all the

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shades,” she shares. The two also plan to honor the people who are no longer with them. “My mom and my brother have passed away, so Noah had this amazing idea to have empty chairs at the front with their pictures on them,” Junelle says. For his part, Noah is championing the music. “I’m going to be honest, the reception is definitely going to be heavily influenced by me,” he says. Noah, an amateur rapper, is going for the party vibe. “I want everybody to have fun and interact with each other,” he says. “I want the cultures mixing, people taking photos and everybody showing up in their Sunday best.” And much like his engagement, Noah is committed to improvising his vows. “I have a bet going on with my brother’s girlfriend,” he explains. “I told her about two years ago that I would wing my vows, and I stand true to that.” Junelle counters, “I most definitely will not. I get nervous in big crowds, so I need to write my vows.”

For Junelle and Noah, the wedding day is just a moment in their love story. They’re a fun-loving couple who relish the company of family and friends. They love to visit Universal Studios and ride roller coasters; she cooks on Sundays; they train together. It’s palpable how much they genuinely enjoy each other’s company. I asked when they each knew this was it. For Junelle, it was her desire to continue messaging Noah even though she hates text messages. “I’ll answer a call anytime, but I don’t answer text messages,” she says. She shared that Noah was the first partner who really listened to her. After the death of her mother, she was feeling a void.

“I always say, Noah came into my life on God’s timing,” she remarks. “My mom would listen a lot. We had a very close relationship. She would call me at 5 a.m. before practice so I could tell her everything, and at night it was the same. Noah is the second person to be that for me. I mean, you have friends that really listen, but it’s different when you have a partner who listens.” Noah knew when he kept coming back.

“Even though we had only met each other in person like five times by 2022, she was constantly in my head,” he says.

“I knew this wasn’t some fling. She was the first person to make me feel completely safe, to be completely open,” Noah says. Junelle is quick to agree sharing, “ You were the first person to make me feel like I can be myself.” They credit this openness to their candid conversations, listening to each other’s views before offering their own.

On set during the shoot for this story, the couple exudes an easy love, checking in with each other, trading compliments and laughs. It’s total green flags. Noah has main-character energy, which Junelle complements while firmly holding her own. Before we wrap up, I ask what’s next: Ten years down the road, what will Junelle and Noah’s life look like? Without missing a beat, Noah declares, “Simba is going to be born.” Simba is what Noah wants to name his first son, Junelle explains. “When he told me about it, I was like, that’s a good idea,” she says. “But then we started dating,” she laughs sheepishly. Noah reminds her that there is no going back, and that she’s stuck with him. “It’s you and me forever,” he jokes. The two do want children in the future. Junelle also wants two dogs, something they don’t have time for now. And Noah wants a goat. “The G.O.A.T. [greatest of all time] has to have a goat,” he quips.

On Junelle: Bralettes

by KYHA and Aisling Camps; skirt by Norma Kamali. On Noah: Pants

by Tibi. Engagement ring throughout: Junelle’s own.

Hair by Mirna Jose; makeup by Jaleesa Jaikaran at Forward Artists using L’Oréal Paris; nails by Pika; tailoring by Iris Taborsky-Tasa.

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Best Day? IT MAY BE THE LAST SINGLE DAY OF YOUR LIFE, BUT SHOULD IT BE YOUR SINGLE GREATEST DAY?

By Hannah Nowack | Illustration by Loveis Wise

“Your wedding is going to be the best day of your life!” Even if you’ve only been engaged for five days, there’s a good chance you’ve heard that emphatic proclamation as many times (accompanied by plenty of squeals of joy). But how accurate is the statement? Furthermore, should your wedding be the single greatest day of your life?

Here’s the thing: Your wedding will be great, full stop. But...there’s also a chance that one or two things might not go exactly as planned. What happens then? In the famous words of Voltaire, “The best is the enemy of the good.” While weddings are amazing celebrations, be wary of letting the pursuit of perfection eclipse the wonderful event you’re planning.

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I’m a wedding expert, not a healthcare professional. So I spoke with a few therapists to better understand the mental factors at play when people say your wedding will be the best day of someone’s life. “Brides and grooms alike can place so much hope onto a wedding, expecting it to fulfill every dream they’ve ever had,” observes Margo Call, an Oklahoma-based licensed professional counselor. “It can create unrealistic expectations and eventually lead some people to feel down or depressed after the glamour and attention of the wedding fades.”

Similarly, Melanie Neff Yarborough, a licensed independent clinical social worker in Alabama, encourages to-be-weds to consider what would happen if the wedding isn’t the best day of their lives. “Society teaches us that there are certain milestones along the way, such as graduating from school, getting married and having kids that are the most important times in someone’s life. But as I’ve seen through my work with clients, this is not always the case. When someone experiences a big life change, such as a wedding, and it isn’t everything they’ve dreamed, they then will feel like something is wrong with them or missing.”

EXPECTATION Not only is there external societal pressure for things to feel perfect, but there’s also a scientific explanation for these feelings.

Call me a contrarian, but I have a reaction to high expectations that you’re probably familiar with. Whatever the circumstances— be it a friend hyping up the latest movie or my neighbor’s endless raving about the hip new bistro around the corner—inflated expectations set me up for disappointment.

Say, for example, I end up rating said new restaurant an 8/10. If I’d eaten there with little-to-no knowledge ahead of time, going in with expectations for a 5/10, I would’ve been impressed—the spot was way better than I anticipated. However, my friend’s endless praise had me anticipating a 9/10 spot, so even though I enjoyed my meal, it was worse than I’d expected, and I left feeling a bit underwhelmed. That’s the power of unrealistic, or unfairly inflated, expectations.

I’ve always believed in this concept, but had never heard of any hard science to back it up until recently. I was listening to Atomic

Habits, by James Clear, while driving home from hanging out with friends. His explanation of this phenomenon was so spot-on that I had to pull over and write down his words.

At long last, I knew I wasn’t alone in my thinking about the drop-off from expectations to reality. In his book, Clear discusses dopamine (a neurotransmitter associated with pleasure and motivation) and dives into what makes it spike.

Clear explains that when something positive happens to you (like celebrating your love for your partner), you get a hit of dopamine. And as that positive scenario repeats itself, you also get hits of dopamine during anticipation. “Dopamine is released not only when you experience pleasure, but also when you anticipate it,” Clear writes.

From your proposal to the engagement party and wedding showers, you’ve been getting more and more hits of dopamine, yet these celebrations pale in comparison drop-off with couples: “I’ve heard from reBECOMING to your wedding. As such, the levels of an- cently married people that there can be a bit ticipatory dopamine your body is experienc- of a letdown after the wedding. There is so By now we’ve established that there’s a ing ahead of your wedding continue to grow. much hype around this day that when things strong chance your wedding might not be “The greater the anticipation, the greater the start to taper out into ‘normalcy’ it can feel the best day of your life. But rather than letdopamine spike,” he writes. confusing,” she notes. ting that defeat you, it’s time we discuss why Ok, ok, but why does this matter? “WhenSo what are you left to do? You should, this might actually be a good thing: because ever you predict that an opportunity will be reasonably, be excited for your wedding. “A it sets you up for success in your marriage. rewarding, your levels of dopamine spike lot of mental health is affected by expecYou know how people joke about folks in anticipation...This is one reason that the tations, and whether or not life meets the who “peaked in high school?” I always anticipation of an experience can often standards and visions that we have in our get sad when I think about that, because I feel better than the attainment of it,” Clear own heads,” Neff Yarborough reiterates. can’t imagine spending the next 60+ years writes. Because when your anticipatory “So it is sometimes best to hold these ex- looking back on the proverbial glory days. dopamine levels outweigh what you actu- pectations loosely. Don’t get me wrong: Be Wouldn’t you rather each day and experially experience on your wedding day (like excited for this day and look forward to it! ence be your “best day so far” and forever my restaurant scenario), you may end up But hold these expectations of perfection be in a state of becoming? feeling deflated (and confused about why and ‘the best day ever’ lightly.”

In her aptly named memoir, Becoming, you’re feeling that way). Whew—what a To do so, put your excitement into context former First Lady Michelle Obama says: mess! Society places pressure on you, you and understand that the wedding is simply “Now I think it’s one of the most useless (understandably) get excited and hopped one piece of a greater whole. “At the end of questions an adult can ask a child: What do up on dopamine. That isn’t a formula for the day, you want to not just be planning an you want to be when you grow up? As if growsuccess; it’s a formula for disappointment. event, but a life you can share beyond the ing up is finite. As if at some point you beNeff Yarborough has seen this kind of wedding day,” advises Call. come something and that’s the end...For me, becoming isn’t about arriving somewhere or achieving a certain aim. I see it instead as forward motion, a means of evolving, a way to reach continuously toward a better self.

The journey doesn’t end...At 54, I am still in progress, and I hope that I always will be.”

How beautiful is it to be able to say, as you make your marriage vows, that your love and partnership are still in progress and you hope they always will be?

“My hope for prospective brides and grooms is that your wedding is only the beginning of how your love will hopefully grow over time,” says Call. “A wedding is about connection and commitment, not perfection.”

Brides and grooms alike can place so much hope onto a

wedding, expecting it to fulfill every dream they’ve ever had.

—Margo Call, LPC

The anticipation of an

experience can often feel better than the attainment of it.

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New York, I Love You HIGH SCHOOL SWEE THE ARTS BROU GHT THE DR AMA IN THE BIG APPLE WITH THE ULTIMATE PERSONALIZED T WO - DAY AFFAIR .

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SIMONE & DEMI Story by Chapelle Johnson Photography by Calenrose

The invisible string theory, a belief that people are “tied” together by destiny and connected by an unbreakable unseen thread, describes Simone Brown (25, a software engineer) and Oluwademilade (Demi) Tega (25, a medical student) to a T. The two met and started dating on and off in 10th grade, but they broke up before college. Their love story wasn’t over, though: During freshman year, Simone and Demi got back together.

The pair dated for almost seven years before getting engaged on April 2, 2022. During that period, Simone and Demi discussed the timeline for their engagement and what the proposal would look like. This open communication helped Demi know exactly how he would propose. “Given Simone’s personality, I knew she’d want something that felt special, but not like a spectacle. She also wanted something private where she’d be able to celebrate with our loved ones after,” says Demi. With the support of Simone’s friends, Demi surprised her at the Brooklyn Heights Promenade, where they had spent many college nights together. He proposed with a gorgeous pear-shape diamond as the setting sun and Brooklyn Bridge created the perfect urban backdrop for the occasion.

Simone and Demi wanted plenty of time to plan their wedding, so they enjoyed a twoyear engagement. And since they dreamed of hosting a multiday cultural affair to honor Simone’s Jamaican background and Demi’s Nigerian one, they needed the extra time.

First, they had to choose a wedding location: Atlanta, closest to their families, or New York City, where they now live. They soon realized this wasn’t a tough decision at all. Simone explains, “Although Georgia is our home state, Atlanta wouldn’t have felt like a familiar setting. Plus, we live in the greatest city in the world, so why look somewhere else?”

Location picked, it was now time to find a venue they loved. For the traditional Nigerian wedding, The Bordone LIC was ideal since it was a blank slate for their design and had a beautiful view of the Manhattan skyline. For their second venue, they chose the Rainbow Room at Rockefeller Center.

Simone, a former competitive dancer, knew the venue was perfect after seeing its giant rotating dance floor.

Across the River The best part about the skyline view on day one?

Guests could see the Rockefeller Center building where they’d be the next day.

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Colorful Heirlooms The couple wore jewelry made of coral, gifted by Demi’s parents, which is a symbol of prestige in Nigerian culture.

I fell for your strength, your confidence, your independence, your fearless nature and the force of your spirit.

—Demi

The theme for the Nigerian wedding on May 31, 2024, was “Tulum disco,” as Simone called the vibe. She explains that the theme was a natural choice for the ceremony since they wanted an atmosphere that captured their heritages, but also had modern twists. They share the same favorite color—green—and decided to make it the primary hue for the ceremony palette. They added reds, yellows and oranges to create a warm and welcoming feeling. As for the decor, Simone and Demi praise their florist for bringing their theme to life with tropical flowers and plants, like Venus flytraps, Birds of Paradise and flame lilies. Lush greenery and sparkling disco balls on the ceiling brought the theme together.

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was Yoruba-style and the other Urhobo, to represent the respective Nigerian tribes Demi’s parents are from. Simone donned a traditional Yoruba bridal outfit, a long-sleeve top and a gold sheath skirt with eye-catching floral appliqués throughout. Demi sported a gold-pattered sokoto (pants) and dansiki (shirt) with a matching agbada (large draped upper garment). For the Urhobo look, Simone says, “My George [an ornate traditional West African wedding dress] was an opportunity to be a bit more creative, since this was for the reception. The designer created a gorgeous petal design for the top with beaded wire details.” To complement Simone’s look, Demi wore a green-and-gold beaded draped shirt and wrapped garment for the pants.

With their planner’s help, Simone and Demi tackled the unique challenge of blending traditions from two different cultures in one ceremony, focusing on the most significant customs from each. “Some highlights were the Kola nut ceremony, a traditional Urhobo rite that involves sharing Kola

nuts to honor the guests, and the idobale, a traditional Yoruba form of greeting by prostration, the ultimate show of respect, for Simone’s family,” says Demi. Following this, guests dined on a delicious buffet-style Nigerian and Jamaican dinner, including jerk chicken, jollof rice and pounded yams.

Simone and Demi said “I do” a second time the next day (June 1) with a Westernstyle wedding. This event embraced a “city chic” and “cottage fantasy” theme. Simone says that the former felt appropriate for the Rainbow Room; that vibe was Demi’s favorite. Meanwhile, Simone felt strongly about incorporating the cottage aesthetic since her design style is earthy and organic. A color scheme of dark purple, peach, green and cream was a muted contrast to the vibrant palette from the day before.

But what did the fashionable couple wear during their luxurious ceremony? For Simone, the decision was overwhelming, given the endless options available in New York. Luckily, Demi saw a Galia Lahav dress

Fresh and Fruity Papayas and plantains on the tables matched the tropical vibe and color scheme.

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Wedding Date May 31–June 1, 2024

Ceremony + Reception Sites The Bordone LIC, New York City; Rainbow Room, New York City

Photography Calenrose

Videography KEJ Productions

Event Planning + Design Fallon Carter Events

Floral Design August Sage & Violet

Officiant Pastor Jordan Rice

Simone’s Attire Day one: BethO; Made Pieces; day two: Aritzia; Bronx and Banco; Galia Lahav; PatBO

Veil Galia Lahav

Demi’s Attire King Hakbal; Michael Andrews Bespoke

Shoes Simone: Christian Louboutin; Demi: Christian Louboutin; Gucci

Accessories Simone: Verstolo; Demi: Breitling; Cartier

Engagement + Wedding Rings Ultimate Diamond

Hair Hair by Sadiku

Makeup Felicia Graham Beauty

Wedding Party Attire Men’s Wearhouse; Various

Stationery DIY; Jenny Cho

Rentals Luxe Event Rentals

Catering Bola’s Kitchen; Rainbow Room

Cake Day one: L.A. Sweets NY; day two: Ron Ben-Israel Cakes

Music Cocktail hour: DJ Sparkxx; reception: DJ EJ; MAS Music

Dance Lessons Fred Astaire Dance Studios

Favors For Your Party

at a friend’s wedding and knew the brand’s dresses were Simone’s style. He was right: Simone chose the first dress she laid eyes on at the Galia Lahav salon. It was classic because of its ball gown silhouette, yet unique, with iridescent sequins. Meanwhile, Demi dressed in a bespoke ivory vest and dinner jacket with a shawl lapel and black tuxedo pants.

After a sentimental ceremony, a jazz quartet greeted guests at the cocktail hour. Tasty bites soon followed. The stars of the show?

Fresh sushi and a lamb carving station. The minimal decor, with small ikebana arrangements and candles, was just how Simone and Demi wanted it. “We planned for our cocktail hour to line up with the sunset. The tablescape would be the least interesting thing to look at. I’m so happy with the trade-off, because the sunset was the best decor we could’ve asked for,” Simone says.

While guests were impressed with the breathtaking views of New York City, they were even more amazed by Simone’s hand-crafted touches. “I designed all our stationery. My friend’s sister is a graphic designer, so she sketched some iconic statues around Rockefeller Center and the Rainbow Room marquee sign. I wanted the look to feel like back-of-the-napkin sketches, as if they’d been doodled onto each invitation, menu and program,” Simone says.

The decor went up a notch at dinner, with figs, green grapes and pearl-studded pears on tables resembling still lifes. The meal of roasted black cod with miso glaze and spinach-and-ricotta gnocchi left guests wanting more. Cue the showstopping wedding cake: alternating layers of citrus and vanilla with brown sugar cookie dough, peach, and mint chocolate chip filling. “It sounds like too much going on, but it was the most delicious cake I’ve ever had,” says Simone.

There were lots of noteworthy moments at Simone and Demi’s wedding, from their first look on the balcony with the Empire State Building in the background to the lively money dance tradition. But nothing created a more meaningful memory than the first dance. “Walking down the stairs toward the dance floor took me back to that feeling of going on stage at competitions.

But this time was different, because I was sharing something I love so much with the person I love the most,” says Simone. The two breezed across the floor in step and in love to “Can I Call You Rose” by Thee Sacred Souls. “Hearing the gasps and cheers from the crowd as Demi whisked me into the air is a moment I’ll never forget,” says Simone.

Functional Favors Simone and Demi offered custom matchbooks to their guests. Each had a sketch of Rockefeller Center or Rainbow Room icons on them.

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Going the Distance THIS COUPLE STARTED FORE VER WITH A WHIMSICAL WEDDING IN THE CAPITAL CIT Y.

ROBIN & MIKE Story by Chapelle Johnson Photography by Ali Valdez for Nikki Daskalakis

Robin Mowson (36, a public health immunization specialist) and Michael (Mike) Duenes (35, a United States Space Force acquisitions officer) would’ve never guessed meeting through mutual United States Air Force Academy friends would result in a fairytale wedding. But before they could get to that chapter of their love story, an 18-month long-distance relationship was in store. The space between them meant countless phone calls and FaceTimes, and frequent visits between Dayton, Ohio, and Washington, DC. Eventually, Mike moved to the DC area to live with Robin. Despite frequent work travel, they made time to see each other whenever possible. “One moment I’ll never forget is meeting between flights at Washington Dulles International Airport to have a drink and spend time together. I was arriving back from South America and Mike was headed out on a work trip, but for an hour we were together at a bar in Concourse C,” says Robin.

This commitment to their relationship made them a stronger couple and ready for the next step. On July 23, 2022, Mike took Robin to afternoon tea at the Ritz-Carlton in Washington, DC, to propose. “When we got off the elevator, he told me our room was right around the corner. As we were walking down the hall, I overheard my mother saying ‘I remember when we got engaged’ through a doorway. My jaw dropped and I immediate118

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ly started crying while Mike tried to assure me that this was a normal afternoon tea,” Robin says. Mike calmed Robin down as best as he could before walking her to the Club Lounge, where Robin’s parents greeted her.

Spoiler: It was not, in fact, a normal tea, but an incredible proposal.

With the unconventional beginnings of Robin and Mike’s relationship, it was no surprise the post-engagement plan followed suit. Since Mike had to relocate to Alabama for 10 months for a master’s program, they eloped in DC on April 7, 2023, and planned to have their big wedding the following year on June 29. Because Mike wouldn’t be able to help plan much, booking a hands-on planner was crucial. They selected Edwin Hernandez of Ida Rose Events and Design. “Having him visit venues and vendors with me, then debriefing over dinner and drinks, was so much fun,” says Robin. With the help of their stellar planner, the couple decided on the Larz Anderson House, a Gilded Age mansion

Mother Knows Best “My only ask for my bouquet was that it include white tulips, because that’s what my mom carried at her wedding,” Robin says.

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Secret Garden Soiree As a nod to Robin’s childhood memories of the tea parties her grandmother used to have, teacups were one of the vessels of choice. at the reception.

in DC, for their venue. “I fell in love with its art, design and history. The entrance sets the scene for the bon vivant vibe I imagined, and because outdoor space was a must for me, its back patio with sculptures and reflecting pool were the icing on top,” says Robin.

Robin and Mike took the atypical route for the ceremony and kept it intimate. There was no decor, no wedding party and guests were asked to arrive during the cocktail hour. Only nine loved ones were in attendance for the ceremony, and Robin’s uncle officiated. “Holding a private ceremony with just close family and friends allowed us to focus on being present. We wanted to read personal vows to each other without being nervous or self-conscious in front of 100plus people,” Robin says.

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ple, yellow, green and hot pink. At the entrance to the venue, a large champagne bar and custom newspapers welcomed guests.

The headline read, “Celebration of the Year!

Robin and Mike Say ‘I Do’ Part Deux.” Once guests walked into the building, a watercolor artist painted portraits of attendees. Guests could also explore the museum, get another drink or eat the tasty passed appetizers.

After the cocktail hour, there were too many highlights to count. Fresh fruit and vegetable arrangements decorated the serpentine tables, which Robin thought was “a perfect example of a design choice that was functional while being exciting.” The outdoor event also had a top-notch caviar service; guests could eat small amounts of it on potato chips or blinis. Waiters held trays that read, “Want a bump?” as a nod to the trendy method for enjoying roe: off the back of one’s hands. The focal point was a lush gin-and-tonic bar adorned with greenery and vibrant blooms. It served the couple’s favor-

ite gins, including Empress and Hendrick’s; garnishes like pink peppercorns and thyme; and monogrammed ice cubes—all served in vintage coupes and teacups.

The reception transitioned indoors for the dancing portion of the night and was nothing short of amazing. A lounge area with a luxe dark purple couch surrounded with both oversized paper flowers and fresh ones anchored the decor and was the perfect space to snap Instagram-worthy photos. The music selection matched the mood: Robin and Mike asked the DJ to play specific songs at certain points of the night to keep themselves present and on schedule. For example, as everyone came into the ballroom after dinner, the servers handed out espresso martinis as the DJ spun “Espresso” by Sabrina Carpenter.

Above all the stunning details throughout the evening, most important to Robin and Mike was taking the time to honor loved ones who died before the wedding. Robin’s brother, Craig, passed away in 2020, and it was paramount to Robin to acknowledge him in a beautiful way. “Edwin and I talked about having Craig’s guitar on display with a photo of him nearby, which felt like a nice memorial without being too melancholic.

I wasn’t expecting the gorgeous presentation created for the guitar and the floral accents that made it a really special showcase,” Robin says.

A special moment was entering dinner to an instrumental version of “Levels” by Avicii. We have the best memories of saying, “Alexa, play ‘Levels’” and dancing around together at home.

Wedding Date June 29, 2024

Ceremony + Reception Site Larz Anderson House, Washington, DC

Photography Ali Valdez/Nikki Daskalakis

Event Planning + Design Ida Rose Events + Design

Floral Design Ritual Floral Studio

Event Content Creator In the Moment Content Creations

Officiant Robert Gibb (Robin’s uncle)

Robin’s Attire Ceremony: Monique Lhuillier; reception: Katherine Tash

Mike’s Attire Ted Baker

Headpiece Jennifer Behr

Shoes Robin: Jimmy Choo; Mike: Zegna

Accessories Mike: Omega Speedmaster; Trafalgar

Engagement + Wedding Rings Ascot Diamonds

Hair

Ahead of the Curve Instead of a traditional rectangular head table, the VIPs found their seats around a trendy serpentine table.

Yene Damtew

Makeup Makeup by Shirin

Stationery Invitations and menus: Paper Refinery; escort/ place cards: Sweet Gifts

Rentals DC Rental; Something Vintage Rentals

Draping Voile & Veil

Catering + Cake Occasions

Music DJ Phlipz and Showpow Events

Photo Booth Photoshoot Fresh

Watercolor Artist SV Fine Art

Transportation Sunny’s Worldwide Chauffeured Transportation

Favors For Your Party

Taking Love to New Heights NE X T- LE VEL PERSONALIZ ATION IMPRESSED GUESTS AT THIS E ARTH -TONED FALL WEDDING .

ANGELICA & JONATHAN Story by Chapelle Johnson Photography by This Modern Romance

Like many couples today, Angelica Sun (31, CEO and creative director of Velvet Fox Designs) and Jonathan O’Connor (32, CEO of Joycast Acrylics) met online, in 2015. But their love story was anything but conventional. They became friends before deciding to meet face-to-face and, at that point, only shared a few phone calls and photos. In a world where some people have fake online identities, not video chatting before a first date was unheard of, but Angelica and Jonathan were ready to take the leap.

They planned to see each other in person for the first time at the Third Street Promenade in Santa Monica, California, which was a one-hour drive for Angelica, but a longer trek for Jonathan. “Jonathan lived in Marin County near San Francisco. He said there were many times he thought how crazy

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he was driving seven hours to meet a girl who could potentially be a catfish, but he never turned back,” says Angelica. It’s a good thing Jonathan listened to his gut, because the date was filled with laughter and ended with them stargazing along scenic Highway One. Four months later they became boyfriend and girlfriend. “After our third date,

Work the Runway Custom tan arches stood above the terra-cotta-colored aisle lined with larger-than-life faux white poppies.

I knew I loved her. After three weeks, I told my best friend I was going to marry her,” says Jonathan. On November 25, 2022, he proposed at a private dinner on the beach while he and Angelica were vacationing in Playa del Carmen, Mexico. Much to Angelica’s surprise, Jonathan placed the

ring underneath a juicy strawberry on their cheesecake dessert for her to discover, before getting down on one knee.

Once engaged, their first order of business was finding a wedding location and hiring a planner. For the venue, Park Hyatt Aviara in Carlsbad, California, ticked all of Angelica

and Jonathan’s boxes. It had the large outdoor area they wanted for their reception and accommodations for out-of-town guests, and it was unfamiliar enough that it felt like a luxury destination by the ocean, despite being nearby. For Angelica, having Amorology help them plan the wedding was THE KNOT

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Let the Good Times Roll The cocktail-hour sushi bar offered nigiri and made-to-order hand rolls, which kept guests coming back for seconds.

DIY Diva Angelica and her stationery team designed the menus with pearl fasteners and custom ginkgo holders.

a no-brainer, given her career as a stationer.

“Since I’m in the wedding industry, I know many planners. Amorology always awed me whenever I saw their creative work and execution style,” she says.

The theme for the resort affair was inspired by “European fashion, Oriental shapes and the film Crazy Rich Asians,” says Angelica.

The colors that made this theme come to life were neutrals like tan and cream, while terra-cotta and poppy red made the decor more dynamic. Angelica’s Chinese heritage also influenced the celebration’s look. “My Chinese culture played a huge role in the

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wedding. I embraced Eastern design qualities and translated them into my own style with a Southern California touch,” she explains.

With the help of their florists and planner, Angelica and Jonathan were able to make their wedding vision board a reality. It started with the attire and accessories for Angelica and her wedding party, which were true works of art. One of the florists, Dogwood & Fir, accented the bridesmaids’ dresses with blooms of Majolica roses, amaranthus and more (hand-sewn into the fabric) and created mismatched hair accessories. The bride also got a gorgeous floral headdress—an all-white

Wedding Date November 11, 2023

Up, Up and Away Hot air balloons made the ultimate Insta-worthy backdrop for guests’ photos at the reception.

Ceremony + Reception Site Park Hyatt Aviara, Carlsbad, CA

Photography This Modern Romance

Videography Peyton Frank

Event Planning + Design Amorology

Floral Design Bouquets and decor: Layered Vintage; bridesmaid dresses: Dogwood & Fir

Officiant Jim Patton

Angelica’s Attire Ceremony: Pronovias; reception: Alamour; Beth and Brian Qipao; Dantella Bridal

Jonathan’s Attire The Grotto

Veil Blushing Bride

Headpiece Dogwood & Fir

Shoes Angelica: Cult Gaia; Jonathan: Cole Haan

Accessories Heirloom

Engagement Ring

Jonathan, your unwavering

Angelica: Hiddenspace; Jonathan: Manly Bands

authenticity is a

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beacon of inspiration, one for the ceremony and an all-red one for the reception to match her red qipao, a traditional form-fitting Chinese dress.

After a heartwarming ceremony among the palm trees, the cocktail hour commenced and was a highlight for Angelica. Not only did the couple serve delicious fruit-forward signature drinks, but there was an out-ofthis-world sushi bar to dig into. In addition, the couple displayed vintage rotary phones as audio guest books, so people could verbally share their well-wishes. The party next moved under a sheer golden canopy with a terra-cotta-colored gable structure, where guests enjoyed a seven-piece band. But there was a surprise on the way: colorful hot air balloons suspended in the sky, a perfect backdrop for golden-hour pictures. They also gave Angelica and Jonathan some alone time, since they went up in one after their grand reception entrance.

Hiddenspace

Wedding Rings

Hair + Makeup Wedding Party Attire Milla; The Grotto

Stationery, Welcome Bags + Favors

always reminding me

Velvet Fox Designs

to embrace my true

Back Up Productions; Borrowed BLU; Bright Event Rentals; Brilliant Event Lighting; Brudvik, Inc.; Catalog Atelier; Excellent Party Rental; Folklore Event Rentals; Hostess Haven; Theoni Collection

Rentals

self without fear or reservation.

And even though there was a communication snafu resulting in 10 unaccounted-for guests showing up at the wedding, everything ended up exactly as it was supposed to. The bride and groom chatted with loved ones, savored their delectable four-tier cake and performed a breathtaking first dance to their favorite song, “If I Lose Myself” by OneRepublic. “I loved our first dance. It finally felt like it was just us in this tiny moment where we could focus only on each other,” says Angelica.

Catering Cocktail Hour + Reception: Debisushi; after-party: Park Hyatt Aviara

Cake Hey There, Cupcake!

Music Crowd Theory Entertainment

Audio Guest Book After the Tone

Hot Air Balloons Magical Adventure Balloon Rides

Casino Tables Black Tie Casino Events

Dance Lessons Nadiya Lockitch

Transportation La Costa Limousine

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REGISTRY

A Nancy Meyers Wedding Registry SHE’S THE FILMMAKER RESP ONSIBLE FOR YOUR DRE AM KITCHEN(S), THE MIND BEHIND YOUR FAVORITE ROM - COMS AND THE DOY ENNE OF DESIGNS THAT FEEL TIMELESS , COZ Y AND ELEGANTLY LIVED IN .

Instead of imagining you’re a Nancy Meyers protagonist—curled up in a cream slip-covered chair with a homemade pain au chocolat, a book flopped open on your lap as you yearn wistfully—you can live like one. To do so, consult this list of Meyers-inspired wedding registry gifts that pull from some of her most iconic movie interiors.

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SOMETHING’S GOTTA GIVE 1. We can envision this mother-of-pearl dish tucked in between the other seashell trinkets in the shingle-style

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home, perhaps used to hold a pair of glasses or safely store jewelry. Mother-ofpearl decorative dish, $39, YGNCollective, Etsy.com 2. A beautiful splurge, this pair of crystal candlesticks recalls the set adorning the

dining table. The traditional silhouette and touch of sparkle will elevate your breezy summer dinner parties. Harcourt candlesticks, $750, Baccarat.com

3. A big rattan coffee table tray is ideal for adding texture to a room and grouping all manner of books, remotes, etc. It also does double duty as a means to transport

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picnic goodies to the beach we’re manifesting outside your doorstep.

Tava handwoven rattan serving tray, $50, PotteryBarn.com

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4. Though not quite as sprawling, this offset blue-and-white striped area rug recalls the one anchoring the Something’s Gotta Give house’s comfy coastal living room. Plus, it’ll feel nice underfoot as you laugh and cry your way through writing a hit Broadway play. Ilona striped handwoven area rug, from $57, BirchLane.com 5. This delicately pleated platter would fit right in among the serving ware displayed in the dining room china hutch in the movie’s Hamptons beach house. The ruffles skew more organic and asymmetrical, which feels fresh and totally at home on the coast. Earthenware platter, $80, CrateandBarrel.com

THE HOLIDAY 6. This dark bronze accent lamp with a linen shade could belong in both Cameron Diaz’s California palace and Kate Winslet’s English cottage. (Meyers loves some simple accent lighting.) Sinclair metal arc table lamp in brass, $299, PotteryBarn.com

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7. The blue-and-white checked plates perched above the fireplace in Kate Winslet’s cottage kitchen feel equal parts whimsical, cozy and modern—especially when mixed with traditional chinoiserie pieces.

Royal Check dinner plate, $65, MacKenzie-Childs.com 8. Striped sheets walk the line between quirky and classic, so even though they’re fitted on the English cottage bed in the movie, they could still work if your style is more in line with Cameron’s Cali mansion.

European linen fitted sheet set, from $80, Quince.com 9. One thing about Cameron Diaz in The Holiday: She loves a statement planter urn. Steal her home’s combination of California organic

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and traditional design with this terracotta option. Aria amphora jar planter, $188, ShopTerrain.com 10. There are a handful of big baskets spread around the

English cottage, a few of which hold firewood. These beauties —available in myriad sizes—will make storing blankets or toting laundry look cinematic.

Curved seagrass baskets,, from $50, WestElm.com

MOVIE E X TR AS The Nancy Meyers canon is too much to cover in a couple of pages. Find a few additional registry picks from some other favorite films here.

FATH E R O F THE B RI DE The Father of the Bride house is traditional, cozy, early-’90s perfection. And despite Steve Martin’s antics, the eye always gravitates toward the chinoiserie-esque pitcher on the coffee table filled with bright yellow blooms.

Blue Italian Liverpool jug, $112, Spode.com

I T ’S CO M P LI CATE D This stunning handmade stoneware piece looks just like the plates stacked on the shelves of Meryl Streep’s kitchen. They’re perfect for serving roast chicken or the croissants you made at midnight on your marble-top island.

Minimal stoneware dinnerware, $124 for 3-piece set, ShopConvivial.com

TH E PARE NT TR AP An extra-plush air mattress is a great little luxury to have on hand for overnight guests.

Plus, it’ll keep them buoyant if Nick Parker’s “brats” push them into a pond while asleep.

Evian and lizard not included. Dream Series air mattress, $210, SoundAsleepProducts.com

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LET’S THROW IT WAY BACK (NOSTALGIA IS TRENDING!) AND MASH YOUR WEDDING.

Don’t remember how to play? We got you. 1. Put a wedding venue spin on the classic mansion, apartment, shack or house (think: Museum, Aquarium, Seaside, Hotel Ballroom). It’s totally okay if your MASH is R (Ranch), G (Greenhouse), B (Backyard) and V (Vineyard), or something else entirely. 2. Next, list your categories: vibe, aesthetic, theme, signature sip, first dance song, getaway car (you can have up to 9 categories, one for each square). Then populate each category with four options. If you’re feeling equitable, pick two and let your partner choose two. 3. Next choose a number between 3 and 10, any way you like: roll a dice or choose your lucky digit.

4. Move around the categories in a clockwise fashion. If your number is six, when you get to the sixth option, eliminate it by crossing it out. Jump down and start again. Do this until you’re left with a single option in each category. Ta-da, this is your wedding future!

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