Your wedding checklist
Wedding planning can get overwhelming. This handy checklist will help you stay on top of all of the important details right up to the big day.
NiNE to tWELvE MoNths BEFoRE
q Decide on a wedding budget and track all your expenses accordingly.
q Set a date.
q make a guest list.
q Research venues for your ceremony and reception and book the one(s) that you like.
q Decide if you want a bridal party and choose who you want to be part of your day.
q Start collecting your guest’s addresses.
Eight MoNths BEFoRE
q Shop for and purchase a wedding gown.
q Book your vendors for the day: photographer, DJ or musician, florist, cake maker and caterer (if food isn’t included with your venue).
q Register for gifts.
q Build a wedding website that your guests can visit for extra information concerning your wedding.
six MoNths BEFoRE
q Choose an officiant.
q Shop for and purchase bridesmaid’s dresses.
q Order the invitations.
q Buy your wedding bands.
FoUR MoNths BEFoRE
q Reserve transportation to and from the ceremony and reception venues, if necessary.
q Have a cake tasting and finalize the cake design.
q Schedule hair and makeup appointments and don’t forget to book trial runs for both.
q make a plan for decorating your ceremony and reception spaces.
thREE MoNths BEFoRE
q Choose and order the groom’s outfit.
q Start thinking about the music and choose songs for the ceremony and the first dance. you may want to make a separate list for party music.
q Have a tasting with your caterer to set the menu.
q Start planning the rehearsal dinner.
q Select wedding favors and order them.
tWo MoNths BEFoRE
q Send out the invitations.
q make sure the bridesmaids and groomsmen have their outfits.
q Have the first wedding dress fitting.
q Shop for and buy gifts for your bridal party.
oNE MoNth BEFoRE
q meet with your officiant to go through the ceremony.
q make sure you have your marriage license.
q Start making a list of people who’ve confirmed that they’ll be attending.
q If another dress fitting is required, do it now.
tWo WEEks BEFoRE
q Book an appointment to have a manicure and pedicure the day before.
q Have the final dress fitting and bring it home.
q Book the groom’s suit or tuxedo fitting.
q Track down people who haven’t responded yet.
q Confirm number of guests with your venue and caterer and don’t forget to order meals to feed your DJ and photographer.
thE WEEk BEFoRE
q make a seating chart.
q Delegate any day-of tasks to your wedding party and family.
q Supply your photographer with a list of pictures you want and your DJ with a detailed playlist.
q Write out checks to pay your vendors.
thE dAY BEFoRE
q Relax while you have your nails done.
q give the payment checks to someone you trust in order to pay your vendors.
q at the rehearsal dinner, give gifts to your bridal party.
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q Have the flowers delivered to the venue.
q make sure the venue is decorated according to your vision.
q keep calm and enjoy.
How to Allocate Funds when Planning a Wedding
Whether it’s a lavish, black-tie affair or a laid back gathering in the backyard, a couple’s wedding day is a momentous, and often costly, occasion. According to the online wedding planning resource Zola, the average cost of a wedding in 2023 was $33,000.
it’s imperative that couples recognize what’s most important to them when planning their weddings. Recognition of those priorities can help couples determine how to allocate their funds. Utilizing data from its The Knot 2023 Real Weddings study, the wedding experts at The Knot (theknot.com) have calculated general percentages of a wedding budget couples can devote to various components (right).
Couples with a keen eye might notice these percentages add up to significantly more than 100 percent. That’s because the budgetary breakdown reflects personal preferences,
• Venue: 37 percent
• Catering: 28 percent
• Band: 12 percent
• Wedding rings: 9 percent
• Photography: 8 percent
• Flowers: 8 percent
• Alcohol: 8 percent
• Rehearsal dinner: 8 percent
• Videography: 7 percent
• Couples’ attire: 7 percent
• Rentals: 6 percent
• DJ: 5 percent
• Wedding party attire: 4 percent
• Guest entertainment: 3 percent
• Transportation: 3 percent
• Ceremony music: 3 percent
• Cake and desserts: 2 percent
• Stationery: 2 percent
• Officiant: 1 percent
• Favors and gifts: 1 percent
• Additional jewelry: 1 percent
individual couples’ budgets and what couples can expect to spend on certain components. For example, couples who do not intend to pay for wedding party members’ attire can find other ways to allocate those funds. Another variable to consider is family. The couples’ parents may offer to pay for the rehearsal dinner, which can leave more room in the budget for other expenses. in addition, The Knot reported that the percentage of couples asking a friend or family member to serve as their wedding officiant rose from 37 percent in 2015 to 51 percent in 2020. This is another expense that modern couples may not need to account for.
Weddings can cost tens of thousands of dollars. Couples who determine how best to allocate their wedding budgets may find it far simpler to plan their big day. ª
The Hidden Gems in the Hills
By Owen Conklin
Envisioning your day: The sun is shining. in your mind you see your wedding guest together to celebrate your biggest day – smiling faces and joy of all sorts. Beyond them the vision gets a bit more blurry as you wonder, “Where will i actually get married?”
This question is one that vexes couples who have come together from engagement to planning their wedding. so much preparation goes into a wedding, and the venue is an important
piece to that puzzle. The location of your wedding frames the views of your guests, of your photography and of your memories. Choosing a location that fits your style and your budget can be a tall order with only so many places to choose from, and a busy wedding season. The rolling hills of our area provide many unique spaces and opportunities that fit all types of styles and budgets. With that, here are Charming Ceremonies recommendations to consider for local weddings.
“ Where will I actually get married?”
otsego Lake views
There are many places that overlook the truly beautiful lake in our own backyard. The lake itself shines in photography with the hills in the background. The leaves in the fall also can offer a unique color for fall weddings.You can find space at many parks, such as glimmerglass or Three Mile Point, or some of the hotels on the western lakeside. For something more upgraded with options to go indoors, contact the Fenimore Art Museum or the Otesaga Hotel and Resort to add elegance to your occasion. view on the mountain
For those hearty and daring, there are higher elevation spaces that look over the valleys we all call home. Franklin Mountain Hawkwatch provides an amazing view of Oneonta and a great space for a small elopement. snow’s Hilltop in Harpursville looks over another of the valleys with the added bonus of cover for issues with wind and weather.
Rustic beauty
For those who find the beauty in old farms and peaceful living, we have many venues tailored to bring that to your wedding. Cadillac Ranch provides beautiful ceremony space, lodging and a barn outfitted for all your guests’ needs. Catskill Ranch in Jefferson has outfitted its facility to provide unique views and receptions sitting around its pond. gilbertsville Farmhouse has made itself a wedding destination – from the chandelier in the barn to photos with its famous goats.
indoors and excellent
Winter in upstate new York can be difficult, and can be the hardest to plan for with a wedding. Music and laughter can be heard many weekends at the Foothills Performing Arts & Civic Center, as it provides a space for weddings and dancing inside. Many of the colleges have unique spaces that can be rented for weddings and beautiful places for photos on campus. For those who enjoy a glass, wineries and breweries provide indoor spaces with an industrial feel that make unique moments. The drinks are a good thing too.
no matter the venue you choose, always use your resources. Plan for what you will do, no matter the weather. Ask your other vendors or planner for advice. Make connections and visit places to see if they feel right.
in the end, the venue adds some unique atmosphere that will enhance your wedding and help tell the story of who you are and your future love story. ª
Owen Conklin is the owner of Charming Ceremonies.
Perfect Ambiance 101: decorating Your Reception Hall
Are you looking for inspiration for decorating your wedding reception hall? Let these expert tips be your guide.
• Decide on a theme. starting with a theme will help you tie everything together seamlessly. Whether it’s the elegance of the roaring twenties, rustic country charm, fairytale magic or retro vibes, you have a wealth of possibilities.
• Curate your colors. select two main colors and a complementary one to add that extra pop to your decor.
• Create your centerpieces. Whether you prefer classic
elegance or an extravagant flourish, remember that your centerpieces should enhance the table without adding clutter or preventing your guests from seeing each other across the table.
• Incorporate lighting. From string lights and exotic lanterns to romantic candles and bold neon, your lighting choices will set the mood for your reception. Use different light sources to create the perfect atmosphere. To add that extra WOW factor, consider incorporating other decorative elements like balloons and flowers to make your reception hall shine.
YBuckle Up for
THE RIDE
By CHARLIE the MATCHMAKER
ou can say i have been in the “love” game for quite a while. At age 54 i am still with the man i met when i was 20 years old, and i was Charlie The Matchmaker for many years. But you know what, kids? i still do not have all the answers. And i have come to a decision. i am no longer going to sugarcoat things.
Relationships are HARd. The reality is that fairy tales live in books and all of us are out here in the real world just trying to survive. Our human instincts tell us to find that “special someone” to go on this crazy journey called life, but many of us find out that our special someone would rather jump out of our moving car instead of enjoy the ride with us. And there are many others who throw open the passenger door on purpose so their special someone goes flying out when they make that sharp turn.
so here we are, living in a world where people seem to be going through relationships as quickly as they go through clean underwear – a world where you can swipe right or left, picking and choosing your next victim as if you were choosing dinner off a menu, while others sit on the sidelines asking, “Why can’t i find anyone?”
it’s a cold, scary world out there, kids, and even though many of us are living in relationship hell or non-relationship hell, i do have some advice that i would like to give. instead of throwing in the towel and moving on, how about we buckle up and try to make it through the rough terrain. i am not saying every relationship is fixable, and if you are in a toxic relationship, by all means get out. What i am saying is, when the going gets tough, sometimes we have to sit down and talk things out.
Are there times my husband and i want to scream at each other
at the top of our lungs? Of course there are. And we sometimes do. But we made a commitment to each other many years ago to stick together through thick and thin, and that is what we are trying to do.
i am not casting judgment on anyone who has gone through a breakup. There are many relationships that are just not healthy enough to sustain in the long term. And i know many people who are very happy living alone and casually dating. All i am saying is, if you are one of those people who believes that special someone is out there waiting for you to find them so that you can live happily ever after, realize one thing. When you find that person, it is not going to be some fairytale life. it will be a life of ups and downs and happiness and sadness and laughter and tears.
When you find that special someone, you are going to find someone who probably has just as many crazy feelings and insecurities as you do. And what should you do? The next time you find that one that you want to settle down with, my advice is that both of you have to buckle up and enjoy the ride and try to not jump out of the car.
Until next time, friends. Remember to take on the day with a smile. ª
Charlie Maffei was once known as CharlieThematchmaker after years of working as a professional matchmaker in nyC. Find his book “Love made Easy With CharlieThematchmaker” on amazon.
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Adding Premarital Counseling to Your Wedding Checklist
By Amanda H. Millward
The day finally happened: your significant other proposed, you said yes, and now you’re engaged.
Planning your wedding day is the most exciting time of your life – finding a venue, purchasing your dream dress, picking the perfect cake and choreographing a goofy, surprise dance for your reception.You planned for the wedding, but did you plan for the marriage?
The wedding celebration is a big deal and engaged couples should be excited for the ceremony, but most couples don’t necessarily prepare for the lifelong marriage filled with trials, tribulations and joys. With the divorce rate remaining around 50%, newly engaged couples need to invest in the marriage by seeking premarital counseling.
Unfortunately, just mentioning those two words brings terror to couples, thinking their relationship is already in trouble before they say, “i do,” while others do not believe they need to worry about their relationship. Many couples view premarital counseling as only necessary if the relationship is damaged. By that time, however, it’s too late for assistance.
Premarital counseling is the tune-up of the relationship and should be considered as an investment in a better, stronger marriage. Participating in counseling can help the engaged couple understand one another on a deeper level as well as set a good martial foundation for the couple to grow.
While couples believe they already know everything about each other, one aspect many don’t consider is how each comes to the relationship, engagement and future marriage with a predetermined outlook of what marriage should look like.
Peter and Jeanette Tolson, founders of Tolson Counseling services, emphasize that couples need to share those notions, find common ground and work through the difference. “[Pre-
“ Before you get married, talk about the big issues: careers, money, and family priorities. It’s important to start the marriage understanding your spouse’s priorities.These agreements can be updated later, but [it’s a good idea] to have a baseline.”
marital counseling] helps the two people in the relationship have an understanding of the patterns of communication that they’ve learned from their own families of origin, or seen in the media, and help them make sure that they have healthy ways to communicate with each other,” Jeanette Tolson said. engaged couples are surrounded by different types of marriages of their parents and other adults in their lives. For example, one person may have grown up in a household where their parents modeled a more traditional dynamic compared to a modern dynamic.
Premarital counseling aids couples in understanding these preconceived notions and how to work through the differences to an agreed baseline. Charles and Wendy gilman of Troy have been married for 36 years and began their journey together by seeking premarital counseling to facilitate a starting point for their marriage. “Before you get married, talk about the big issues: careers, money and family priorities,” Charles gilman said. “it’s important to start the marriage understanding your spouse’s priorities. These agreements can be updated later, but [it’s a good idea] to have a baseline.”
in addition, premarital counseling can benefit couples to communicate appropriately, especially when discussing intense topics, including finances. All couples should discuss all basic essentials, such as finances, roles, household duties, sex, etc. and have a plan for each before saying “i do.” if not discussed beforehand, each assumes the other knows what is expected, which sets the couple up for arguments. “[Premarital counseling] is teaching people how to listen first so breaking down the communication is similar to the brass tacks: one person speaking and the other person is listening to understand – to hear – and to be able to reflect or validate,”
Peter Tolson said.
if an agreement is not in place by time of the wedding, the couple has a higher chance of divorce, and by then it may be too late for counseling.
Furthermore, premarital counseling can aid in establishing ground rules for how to fight fairly. even if couples do go to premarital counseling, there will still be arguments. The counseling does not eliminate the disagreements but eases the hurt feelings. so, to do this, couples need to set up the rules for arguments, implement them and stick to the rules to fight fairly. “We were taught a journaling method. When emotions are running high, we can address these problems by writing to each other,” Wendy gilman said, describing a conflict resolution learned from premarital counseling. Peter and Jeanette Tolson suggest other strategies, including mindfulness, diaphragmatic breathing and taking time-outs, however, whomever calls the time-out must call the time-in.
As with any part of the planning process, please do the research on therapists, religious or secular, and premarital counsel-
ing methods used. Couples should choose based on what works for their relationship. Unfortunately, there isn’t a one-method/ therapist-fits-all solution, and couples may need to meet with multiple therapists before deciding on one who both find comfortable to share intimate details.
Charles and Wendy gilman attended the engaged encounter as a requirement of their church, but they learned valuable lessons to guide them in their marriage. “[We learned] the notion that we are a team, and we are trying to work towards common goals. The journaling technique has allowed us to communicate expectations and negotiate division of labor. We don’t need it every day, but it is a useful tool to fall back on,” Wendy gilman said.
Remember, a client-therapist relationship is where everyone involved shares the common goal to improve the couple’s
relationship before the wedding. if one or both or all do not feel comfortable, however, the work will not get done. Also, understand there are different premarital approaches, including the PRePARe method, integrative behavioral couples therapy, and the gottman Model, but the principals are still the same. Again, research is important.
Premarital counseling is a way for couples to work on their relationship to be stronger and better. Because the national divorce rate is still hovering over 50%, couples should normalize premarital counseling as a way to ease the martial tensions. Remember, going to premarital counseling doesn’t mean your relationship is in trouble, but you are improving on what is already good. so, celebrate your engagement, and add premarital counseling to your wedding day checklist. ª
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5 mistakes
to
avoid 1 3 2 4 5
Have you set the date for the big day? If you’re the blushing bride-to-be, you now have a list of exciting tasks to complete, including choosing a dress. Whether you decide to buy or rent, you don’t want to take your choice of dress lightly. avoid these five mistakes:
Procrastinating. Experts recommend choosing your dress six months to a year before the wedding. This will allow time for fittings and alterations or ordering a specific style. Remember, delivery times can be quite long.
overspending. Setting a budget is essential to avoid overspending on a dress. Without a budget, you might end up with a gown that strains your finances for months or even years after the wedding celebration is over. avoid regrets by thinking ahead.
Asking too many people for advice. It’s great to have input from loved ones, but limit the number of people you bring along dress shopping to avoid feeling overwhelmed. For example, asking your mom, sister and best friend for feedback is plenty. Ultimately, it’s yOUR opinion that matters most.
sacrificing comfort for style. Does the dress look great in the mirror but feel stiff and hard to move in? Is the style beautiful, but the fabric irritating to your skin? make sure that the dress not only looks incredible but also feels comfortable. after all, you’ll be wearing it for hours on your special day.
Choosing the wrong size. Did you fall in love with a dress that’s too small with the hope of losing weight before your big day? Don’t bet on that happening. Instead, opt for a dress that’s your size or a bit larger so it can be tailored to perfection.
Happy shopping! ª
Wedding Choosing your dRess:
What to Know Before a Wedding gown shopping Trip
Weddings mark a turning point from one stage in life to another. The significance of that transition is perhaps one reason why couples and their guests dress so nicely for a wedding ceremony and reception. Formal garb is a wedding tradition, and guests anxiously await seeing which type of gown a bride will wear. in western cultures, white wedding gowns have been the standard since the nineteenth century and are believed to symbolize purity and grace.
shopping for a wedding gown can spark mixed emotions. While it is exciting to try on some remarkable garments, there also is the pressure of knowing all eyes will be on you while wearing this couture creation. narrowing down wedding gown prospects can take vision, time and patience. The following pointers can help when it comes time to visit bridal shops.
Make an appointment
Many bridal shops operate by appointment only. That’s because the staff wants to devote complete attention to a client, and having people simply walk in from the street can draw their attention away and/or lead to long wait times. identify the stores you want to visit, and then call to secure your time slot.
Narrow down styles
Think about what your personal style might be and how you want to look on your wedding day. if you’re not sure about the vocabulary surrounding dress silhouettes, visit Pinterest or instagram and save images of dresses that you love. Then you can show the sales staff what you are thinking instead of going in empty-handed.
keep an open mind
Try on a few different styles even if you have a particular dress in mind.You never know if something might be a better fit for your body type or the scope and style of your wedding unless you give it a go.
start the process early
Unlike off-the-rack clothing, most wedding shops will have to order your dress and have it shipped. Then comes a few weeks for alterations. KWH Bridal notes eight to 12 months before a wedding is a good time to choose and order a dress. Brides magazine says most made-to-order wedding gowns take about six to nine months to create. There also are three separate fittings to ensure the gown will fit like a glove.
invite a handful of confidantes
it’s best not to arrive at the shopping appointment with an entire entourage. Pick, at the most, four people whose opinions you trust; otherwise, it could be a case of too many cooks in the kitchen. As a bride-to-be you’ll already be anxious, and you’ll want soothing, supportive people with you.
Plan your budget
Know well in advance what you can afford to spend. According to data from The Knot, wedding attire accounts for 7 percent of the average couple’s budget. Most wedding gowns are in the range of $2,000. don’t forget about additional costs, such as veil, shoes, alterations, undergarments, and any add-ons.
in addition to these tips, arrive to an appointment well-rested, fed and comfortable. ª
Top Trends in
tuxes
Theories on the origins of the tuxedo vary significantly. some believe that this formal garment was created by wealthy aristocrats attending an autumn ball in Tuxedo Park, new York. However, the Wall street Journal has reported that the tuxedo might be a British invention, spearheaded by the fashion-conscious King of Wales edward Vii in 1865. no matter where the tuxedo originated, it has become standard attire for formal occasions, including weddings.
it may seem as though every tuxedo is the same, but that’s not the case. Tuxes come in different styles, so those tying the knot or attending other formal functions can choose an option that fits their personality and physique. Here’s a look at what sets tuxedos apart and some noteworthy tux trends. suits versus tuxedos
some may wonder what sets a tuxedo apart from a suit. One of the more notable differences is that tuxedo lapels are designed with silk, satin or textured grosgrain to provide that signature V-look, says Brides magazine. suit lapels are made from the same fabric as the suit jacket.
Tuxedos traditionally are held up with suspenders, while suit pants have belt loops for use with a belt. suits are styled with a dress shirt while tuxedos are worn with a particular tuxedo shirt that likely has a spread collar, bib, decorative studs, and French cuffs fastened with cufflinks.
Change up lapel styles
Men who want to set themselves apart can opt for what The Knot calls the most popular styles of tuxedo lapels. notch lapels are the most common and feature two lateral points. shawl collars feature a smooth, sleek looped lapel without notches or peaks. Peak lapels have the lower point of the lapel peak above the upper. Trying on the different jackets can give individuals an idea of which lapel look is best.
New color spectrum
A traditional tuxedo will be black, although navy tuxedos have gained a following. But individuals can find a tuxedo in any color. Those who want to add some extra flair to their weddings may opt for a tuxedo in a color that coordinates to the season or aligns with what the rest of the bridal party is wearing.
Alternative fabrics
The majority of tuxedos are made from wool and will have the silk or satin detailing as described. newer trends include incorporating fabrics like linen or flannel, although these are rare and may be harder to come by.
Neckties grabbing hold
People can set themselves apart with everything from lapels to tuxedo shirts to different colors, but only bowties or neckties can be worn with tuxedoes. While bowties once were the gold standard, those personalizing their wedding looks and taking liberties with style are increasingly opting for neckties. gents can choose a necktie in a complementary texture that will coordinate with the elegance of the tuxedo.
slim fit
Modern tuxedo choices feature a slim fit in both jacket and pant. try on a few different options to see what feels comfortable before choosing a fit. Tuxedos have been around since the nineteenth century and are the attire of choice for formal functions.
Diamonds • Watches
T ial by Fire:
My Venture into the World of dating
By Valerie Secor
Imagine walking into a job interview.You sit down, adjust your tie, and, rather than putting your best foot forward and dazzling the room with your qualifications, you dive headfirst into your professional “red flags.” You explain to your potential employer every reason they should not hire you.
You kick things off by mentioning that you plan to use all your paid time off by March 1st—don’t worry, it’s for very important reasons. during football season, you explain, you’ll show up late every Monday, probably with a hangover.You then casually drop that your toddler’s daycare situation is about as reliable as a career politician. Then you flash your best “hire me” smile, exchange some light banter, and hope they love your honesty as much as you hate mornings—and offer you the job anyway.
That, my friends, is online dating in a nutshell.
Thanks to the Hallmark Channel, our expectations of romance have been completely skewed. They’ve sold us this idea of magical chance encounters: two people run into one another, sparks fly, and they feel an instant connection. They show us scenes of two people meeting for coffee and chatting for hours, completely losing track of time until the barista gives them the side-eye and shuts off the lights—not-so-subtly letting them know it’s closing time. The lovers must now tear themselves apart. naturally, it’s snowing when they walk out, and they share a kiss so romantic it should come with its own soundtrack.
Here’s the kicker: both of those scenarios actually happened to me. But since life isn’t a Hallmark movie, neither ended in a happilyever-after.
Mr. instant Connection? He was lovely. But he also lived three hours away and had a deep disdain for his ex-wife, which he shared with me regularly.
Mr. Coffee shop? We dated for three weeks, waiting for chemistry that never showed up. i think the spark got lost somewhere between our lattes, his overly competitive love of trivia, and a constant need for reassurance i didn’t have the energy to give him.
When you’ve been single long enough, met enough toads, or been disappointed enough times by flames that extinguished as quickly as they ignited, you do what millions of people around the globe have done: you turn to online dating.
secor is the publisher of Upstate Weddings magazine
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For all its quirks and horrors, dating in this way can be incredibly efficient. sure, most people will claim they “don’t have a list,” but let’s be honest—we all have a list.
For some, it’s the infamous 6-6-6 rule: over six feet tall, makes six figures, and has a six-pack. To those women staunchly following this rule, i say, good luck.Your Prince Charming is probably busy deadlifting at the gym while you’re missing out on some really great guys with dad bods.
For the rest of us mere mortals, the list is a little more practical. We want someone local, someone who has kids or at least won’t run screaming if you mention yours, someone in their mid-to-late 40s or very early 50s who doesn’t live in their mother’s basement and, ideally, isn’t an ax murderer. Basic stuff, really.
Because at the end of the day, we’re not looking for perfection—we’re looking for a partner who checks enough of the boxes, makes us laugh, and won’t judge us for eating pizza straight out of the box. And hey, if sparks fly, that’s just a bonus. Oh, and one more thing—nO musicians. don’t ask.
Unfortunately, those on online dating platforms have been ghosted or dumped enough times that they begin conversations by spewing their perceived flaws and selling themselves painfully short. As someone who has been there, i say this: stop. stop leading with negativity and just get to know one another. don’t spend hours texting. instead, pick up the phone, hit the call button, and actually have a conversation. Be honest with one another about what you want out of a relationship, but keep some things to yourself: i.e., unsolicited nude photos and a list of your medications with correlating diseases. Those things are meant to be shared much later.
For me, online dating was fun yet exhausting. i have learned it is both a very useful tool and, also, not for me. i’m not sure where i’ll go from here, but i suppose that’s between me and my therapist (insert red flag here).
good luck, everyone. it’s a warzone out there. ª
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Consider wedding flowers carefully
Although many decorative elements help to create ambiance for a wedding celebration, perhaps none is more awe-inspiring than beautiful floral arrangements. Flowers offer visual appeal, captivating aromas and texture that can make a space more welcoming. engaged couples typically go to great lengths when planning their weddings, but flowers may not be as micromanaged as other elements. some are content to let florists design their arrangements, but the average cost of wedding flowers in 2023 was $2,800, according to The Knot Real Weddings study. That price tag merits some input on the part of couples. it’s important to note that the cost of wedding flowers has been steadily increasing over the last few years due to inflation and climate change, says The Knot. Here are some variables to consider when selecting wedding flowers.
• Greenery: Adding greenery to fill in spaces in floral arrangements can save some money. Centerpieces and bouquets that are floral-heavy will certainly cost more.
• Symbolism: Consider the meaning behind flowers to make choices even more personal.You also may want to select flowers that will complement the theme of the wedding. For example, traditional spring blooms like tulips and daffodils will coordinate with spring weddings.
• Flower varieties: Hardier varieties of flowers, such as daisies, mums, carnations, and protea, are less likely to wilt quickly in bouquets or centerpieces than some other blooms, even when they are cut. such blooms can hold up in any weather and last the entire day so that arrangements will be picture-perfect no matter the hour.
• Venue: Couples may find that some venues already have faux flowers or other decor. That may mean couples do not need to have as many flowers or any elaborate arrangements.
• Size: A particularly large floral centerpiece can overwhelm a table, and a bouquet that is overly cumbersome may detract from the bride or her bridesmaids. Choose the correct scale for comfort in bouquets. For table arrangements, select a size that will not discourage conversation or block guests’ view, nor take up too much real estate on the table.
• Allergies: Although they are cut, flowers in arrangements can trigger allergic responses in some people. Others may be bothered by overly aromatic flowers. Work with the florist to find blooms that will be best.
• Color scheme: Although white flowers always coordinate, many couples like some color in their arrangements. Be sure the flowers pick up the hues used in bridesmaid dresses or even the season of the year.
Couples should take an active role in deciding what to include in floral pieces for their weddings. ª
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Wedding receptions are the culmination of a lot of planning. Though there may not be any insignificant decisions when planning the post-ceremony party, some choices will loom larger than others, including which foods will be served. When planning a wedding reception, couples can choose a venue that provides the food, such as a traditional reception center; otherwise, the reception may take place at an outdoor location or a venue that is not equipped to prepare and serve food. in the latter instances, couples will contract with an outside caterer. in both situations certain factors can help determine who to use for reception food services.
Planning
A traditional reception center/catering hall is likely a wise choice for couples who prefer simplicity in wedding day meal planning. These facilities are experts at addressing all of the components that go into a reception. such venues offer access to a cocktail area and banquet room, and the facility likely has a staff of chefs at the ready to dish up meals. While many reception centers offer restaurant-quality offerings, scouting venues and sampling dishes will provide an idea of how foods taste and help couples narrow down their choices.
Preferences
some receptions are multi-course events starting from the moment guests arrive and snack on hors d’oeuvres to the dessert display served as a final course. Others are low-key and may not have full sit-down
How to manage the menu at your Wedding Reception
service. if you prefer a cocktail atmosphere only, certain venues may make more sense than others. identifying how much food to have and the type of service desired can help pinpoint caterers to interview.
Chef access
Having a specific chef or cuisine in mind may require separating the food from a venue. Reception centers likely will not allow couples to bring in their own food. Therefore, you will have to find a venue where outside food is possible. Then you can work with a favorite chef for catering services.
Location
some couples prefer to combine their ceremony and reception at one spot. This may be at a beachside location or in a converted country barn. if this seems like a scenario you are considering, then the venue will take priority and you’ll have to find an outside caterer to service the wedding.
Allergies
Food allergies and intolerances are on the minds of many nowadays. it is important to be mindful of food restrictions when speaking with caterers. Take careful inventory of work-arounds so that every guest at the wedding can be enjoy a safe, delicious meal.
The wedding reception menu is an important variable for engaged couples to consider. A host of factors may come into consideration as couples try to determine how to feed their guests come their wedding day. ª
How to Choose Your Wedding Caterer
The meal is one of the most important elements of your wedding day. Do you want everyone to enjoy themselves? Choosing the right caterer is crucial. Here are a few points to consider when selecting a caterer.
• Availability. Secure your caterer 9 to 12 months in advance to guarantee availability.
• Pricing. Be clear on pricing and check for additional charges, such as overtime, which might catch you off guard.
• Menu. Ensure the caterer offers options for all dietary restrictions, such as vegetarian or gluten-free dishes.
• Communication style. Choose a caterer who responds clearly to your requests and keeps you updated every step of the way.
Support local restaurants or caterers for your big day.
3 game ideas to spice Up Your Wedding
A successful wedding invariably includes games to keep guests of all ages entertained. Here are a few game ideas to add laughter to your special day.
1. Cinderella game guests are split into two groups, such as male versus female or the groom’s family versus the bride’s family. One group turns around so they can’t see. each member of the other group places a shoe in the middle of the dance floor. At the dJ’s signal, the first group turns around and chooses a shoe at random. They must then find the owner of the shoe and share a dance. it’s a fantastic way to break the ice and get everyone involved.
2. Common ground
Traditionally, this game should be prepared by the groomsmen and bridesmaids. Before the game, they must create a numbered list of shared characteristics among the guests. The list might include such details as owning an electric car, wearing glasses, having a cat or being single. The list is distributed to all participants except the bride and groom. When a number is called out, guests with that characteristic must stand up, and the bride and groom will guess what they have in common.
3. Pass the bag
As the dJ plays a song, guests pass around a bag filled with ‘‘consequences’’ written on small pieces of paper. When the music stops, the person holding the bag must pull out a consequence and carry it out immediately. it’s all about lighthearted fun.
Have fun on your big day! ª
WFinding the Right Wedding Reception Entertainment
edding planning requires a lot of hard work, as couples try to ensure all of the components and moving parts add up to a memorable day when the time comes to say, “i do.”
A couple’s choice of entertainment can go a long way toward ensuring the wedding reception is fun and festive. Couples can keep these tips in mind as they look for entertainers to establish the right vibe for their wedding reception.
• Identify your options. Couples typically choose a dJ or live band to entertain guests during the reception. some couples may even choose both. in general, the more densely populated an area is, the more entertainment options couples will have to choose from. Couples who have no preference regarding dJ or band can explore each option, speaking with representatives for each to get a grasp of their cost and offerings.
• Seek recommendations. Word-of-mouth helps many wedding vendors attract new clients, and entertainers are no different. Couples can seek recommendations from friends who have tied the knot. in addition, speak with people who have coordinated other gatherings in the past, such as family reunions, office parties and community events. entertainment is often part of such events, so those who plan them might be able to offer some valuable insight into the local entertainment scene.
• Attend a performance. in addition to seeking recommendations, couples can see entertainers in action and form their own opinions. Many dJs and bands that perform at weddings also ply their trade elsewhere, including at bars, clubs, community events, etc. if couples are intrigued by a band or dJ as a wedding reception entertainment option, they can arrange to see them perform. Pay attention to their catalog, performance style and how they interact with the crowd during their show.
• Consider the crowd. The guest list and number of invitees also merit consideration when choosing entertainment for the reception. Conventional wisdom suggests bands tend to suit smaller affairs better than dJs, who may be accustomed to playing loud dance music for bigger crowds. in such cases, a booming dance playlist with a sparsely populated dance floor may not establish the vibe couples are going for. Live bands may provide a greater sense of intimacy, which can work better with a smaller crowd. it’s also beneficial to consider musical style before choosing entertainment. A band or dJ that can incorporate a wide range of musical eras and genres is ideal for a wedding reception, where guests will include the very young and the elderly.
Finding the right entertainment for a wedding reception is a fun component of wedding planning. The right choice of entertainment can make for a particularly festive wedding night. ª
Do You Hire a Professional DJ or a Friend?
Are you wondering whether you need to hire a professional wedding DJ or whether you can let a friend handle the tunes for a bargain — or even in exchange for a few drinks? It’s a tempting offer, but entrusting your wedding entertainment to an inexperienced friend could be a risky move. Before you decide, consider these factors:
Understanding of crowds
Professional wedding DJs can effortlessly read the crowd and create the right atmosphere for every moment of your special day. They know how to keep everyone tuned in and dancing. Your friend, on the other hand, might struggle to connect with the crowd or fail to consider their preferences, potentially leading to awkward moments or an empty dance floor.
Technical knowledge
A seasoned DJ comes prepared with top-notch lighting and sound equipment. Plus, they’re ac-
customed to working in all kinds of locations and conditions, so they won’t be shaken by a technical hiccup in the eleventh hour. Your friend might not be equipped to troubleshoot last-minute issues that could leave you with subpar sound quality.
Tons of ideas to get guests moving
Professional DJs have many tricks up their sleeves to get the party going. From games and special dances to contests and challenges, they know how to keep the energy high and the dance floor packed. DJs also know how to cater to all your guests, regardless of their dance skills. If your friend’s repertoire is limited to the limbo and the conga line, your guests might want to leave early.
Ask your friends and family for recommendations to find the perfect DJ for your wedding. You could also hire a specialized wedding planning company to handle all the entertainment details. ª
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