CONTRIBUtoRs PAgE
Theodora Pangos Tiffanie Snyder Amber Liu
Brittanie Snyder Natalie Gale Amy Lynne Berger
Anu Kumar Eva Bilfeld Helena Whitehouse Laura Weiler
Dearest Readers,
Thank you for being here. There is something about spring/summer that calls for a “pause”, so I hope that you find the time to do just that. Stop and smell the roses (or peonies, lavender, hydrangeas, ranunculus, etc). Pause and take stock of your house, your closet, your loved ones, your best friends, your books, movies, playlists, pet(s)*, and whatever in your life brings you joy. I saw a quote that said: “healing is the new hustling”. While I am all for team hustle, it is essential to add in the time to unwind and heal. You are here unwinding in this magazine, so you’ve made it to the right place. Welcome to the whimsical celebration of love-bugs, balletcore, and garden mania. It’s like The Secret Garden for adults. Down the rabbit-hole we go.
Love, Tiffanie Snyder
P.S.—I Love-Bug You.
* Issue 5 will be pet-themed. Follow @swoonworthymag for more.
A Love Song for Ricki Wilde by Tia Williams. It will make you want to run to your nearest flower shop and go down a rabbit hole of music history. Also, Ricki plays the Stevie Wonder album Journey Through the Secret Life of Plants for her plants.
Forget Me Not by Julie Soto. She is a wedding planner and he is a florist. There are major grumpy x sunshine vibes in this second-chance romance. It also has nice wedding décor inspiration for any brides-tobe out there.
Plot Twist by Breea Keenan has major cottagecore aesthetics. It is very reminiscent of The Holiday, but in the Irish countryside during summer. We’d recommend this book to any Emily Henry fans.
Under the Tuscan Sun. Nothing like a fixer-upper Tuscan villa to sort out your broken heart.
Princess Diaries 2: Royal Engagement. The first movie also has a garden in it, but the sequel is even more spectacular with the gardens.
The Holiday. Arguably the most iconic cottage of all time. It’s so idyllic and charming. Someone please replicate it and include a turtleneck-clad Jude Law inside too.
Bridgerton. Season three (part 1 & 2). Featuring Penelope and Colin. This show is very heavy on the gardencore in the best way.
Queen Charlotte: A Bridgerton Story. The backstories of the Bridgerton characters are so fun in this. The gardens feel even more scandalous for some reason.
The Buccaneers. It is very similar to Bridgerton, except with American high society (and possibly more of the sexy stuff).
Dickinson. There are definitely gardencore vibes and cottagecore ones in this show. It also pairs nicely with poetry (see the next page for more).
ITLIKE A POET
Perhaps because spring is delicate, blossoming, and lyrical, reading poetry seems most fitting. A true mastermind named Taylor Swift launched her The Tortured Poet Department
LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP
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BY EMILY BRONTË (1818-1848)
Love is like the wild rose briar, Friendship, like the holly tree
The holly tree is dark when the rose briar blooms, But which will bloom most constantly?
The wild rose briar is sweet in spring, Its summer blossoms scent the air
Yet wait till winter comes again
And who will call the wild-briar fair?
Then scorn the silly rose-wreath now
And deck thee with the holly’s sheen
That when Decemeber blights they brow
He still may leave thy garland green
THE FIRST DAY
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BY CHRISTINA ROSSETTI (1830-1894)
I wish I could remember the first day, First hour, first moment of your meeting me, If bright or dim the season, it might be Summer or Winter for aught I can say.
So unrecorded did it slip away, So blind was I to see and forsee, So dull to mark the budding of my tree
That would not blossom yet for many a May
If only I could recollect it, such A day of days! I let it come and go
As traceless as a thaw of bygone snow; It seemed to mean so little, meant so much; If only now I could recall that touch, First touch of hand in hand-Did one but know!
Often, for pastime, mariners will ensnare
The albatross, that vast sea-bird who sweeps On high companionable pinion where Their vessel glides upon the bitter deeps.
Torn from his native space, this captive king Flounders upon the deck in stricken pride, And pitiably lets his great wide wing Drag like a heavy paddle at his side.
This rider of winds, how awkward he is, and weak! How droll he seems, who was all grace of late! A sailor pokes a pipestem into his beak; Another, hobbling, mocks his trammeled gait.
The Poet is like this monarch of the clouds, Familiar of storms, of stars, and of all high things; Exiled on earth amidst its hooting crowds, He cannot walk, borne down by giant wings.
A DECADE
BY AMY LOWELL (1874-1925)
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THE POETRY OF BIRDS EDITED BY SIMON ARMITAGE & TIM DEE
When you came, you were like wine and honey, And the taste of you burnt my mouth with it’s sweetness.
Now you are like morning bread, Smooth and pleasant.
I hardly taste you at all for I know your savour, But I am completely nourished.
YOU GIVE ME BUTTERFLIES
Follow JWhitt Art at: @jwhitt_art
Jessica is an illustrator and oddities artist that specializes in Entomology Art. She is inspired primarily by Art Nouveau and nature, especially metamorphosis in nature. All of her insects are responsibly sourced. Our celebration of love-bugs would not be complete without celebrating her stunning work.
What is your favorite rom-com?
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, or Mamma Mia.
When did you first start getting into entomology art?
In 2021, I decided I really wanted to start collecting framed butterflies for my home. When I started looking at shadow boxes online, I noticed that all of the frames I was seeing contained butterflies pasted on a white background. It sparked the idea that I could create artwork to compliment the specimen within the shadow boxes, and after doing some research, I formed my small business. I found joy in preserving specimen while enhancing their beauty through my artwork. Since the average lifespan of a moth or butterfly is incredibly short, this is a way of appreciating their beauty longer. Despite going into this wanting to collect framed butterflies, ironically enough, I don’t have a huge collection of bugs for myself. I mainly just create them for my small business now!
How do you responsibly source your insects?
All insects are responsibly sourced from conservation farms that increase butterfly populations, provide work to locals, and preserve natural habitats. I receive the bugs after they’ve passed, and I preserve them through a process calling “pinning,” which is where you rehydrate their wings, unfold them, and move them into place for display.
What is your favorite part of the spring season?
I love the smell of spring, of all the flowers blooming and the fresh air. I really enjoy sitting outside on my front porch reading a book and listening to the birds.
If there was a bug-related rom-com what do you think that would be like?
I’d like to imagine a female praying mantis accidentally falling in love with a grasshopper after almost ripping its head off thinking it was a male praying mantis. When she goes to bite his head off she gasps and says, “wait a minute, you’re the love of my life.”
What inspires you?
My primary inspirations stem from Victorian fashion, Art Nouveau, fairy tales, and nature. I love to hike and be outdoors, so that rejuvenates me as an artist.
What is next for you?
What is your favorite kind of bug?
My favorite kind of bug is called a Chinese Moon Moth. The adult males are my favorite colors - pink and green!
This year I am focusing on building a body of work to submit to galleries. While I am still creating on a smaller scale for my small business, I am focusing on creating one-of-a-kind larger bubble glass pieces with multiple specimen, as well as my personal stand-alone illustrations. I sell my art at an event called the Lunar Faire, located in New Jersey, that takes place every new and full moon! Their 2024 season starts in the spring.
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What is your favorite rom-com?
Practical Magic
If you could only draw one bug for an art piece, which one would you choose?
Scarab Beetle.
What is your favorite part of the cottagecore aesthetic?
There’s so much to love about cottagecore, but I think my favorite part of the aesthetic is the way that the beauty and allure of it can inspire worthwhile lifestyle pursuits, such as living in an intentional way, making use of things that will last generations, mending, preserving and imbuing things with a human touch. This coincides with the way that the aesthetic also prioritizes a personal story, with your decor being a vehicle to preserve your memories and tell your story, which is something that I do with my art.
Tell us more about the creative process behind your Taylor Swift-inspired collection please?
Back in 2016 I created a collection of paintings inspired by Taylor Swift’s 1989 album. I created a painting for each song on the album, with the same titles as the songs. I then exhibited the collection at a gallery in New York. The idea came to me quite naturally and spontaneously. I was driving across west Texas on a road trip, listening to the album on repeat, and suddenly 13 paintings appeared in my mind, like a cloud of artwork over my head. I spent the next year creating those artworks and called them “1989: 13 paintings inspired by 13 songs”. It was a project full of passion and run-away momentum. Once the ideas were visualized in my mind, I had to get them out onto the canvas. I proceeded with grand bold delusion and the result was this gem of a show, and a body of work I’m still so proud of to this day. That is pure inspiration at its finest. Nothing gimmicky or contrived.
Just a flash of an idea, and the blinders needed to see it through.
At various times over the years I’ve definitely thought of doing another Taylor-inspired collection. When she released Folklore and Evermore I was beaming with aligned kinship and inspiration. Finally it was as if she had written “my albums”, the songs really spoke to me and the aesthetic was perfectly aligned with my own. I was in awe of her. But the timing of my life was not right for me and I kept busy since then. Meanwhile Taylor turned into an even bigger force of nature with her album re-recordings, and her Era’s tour, and her stardust just settles down on all of our smiling faces now. It’s so fun bearing witness to her journey and reading the continuing unfolding book of her life and art. I am glad our art aligned for a moment in time. Maybe it will again someday, who knows?
What inspires you?
I am a woman entirely steeped in metaphor. My inspiration comes mysteriously from things that can somehow be perfect visual metaphors for invisible things. “I am this swan, our love is this ribbon, this moment is a hole in the night sky.” I’m obsessed with landing on a precise feeling and a worthy visual component for that feeling and magically arranging them in a way that tells a story, however cryptic it may be.
What is your favorite part of the spring season?
Summer is my true love, but spring is where it begins. All my bones reawaken from the inward winter, and I always feel myself start to bloom again in Spring. March is my birthday month and I feel this cosmic connection to it. March where I live has the BEST days, the most life-giving affirmative days of picnicking under tree canopies dappled on quilts, and bicycle rides in the gentle side light of the sun, raw oysters on a tray of ice beading with condensation, and planting flowers - the way the soil feels cold on your bare feet warm from the sun. Everything I just mentioned has something to do with the sun! So I guess my favorite part of spring is the light, pure and simple.
If you could write a rom-com with an artist main character, what would you want that to be like?
How about we have an artist who creates
and she stops painting. In grieving the loss of her hearing, and adjusting to her new silent world, she becomes an avid reader and falls in love with the writing of an obscure author named D. Green. Unbeknownst to her this author is also a handsome young art collector who stumbled on her work in a gallery and bought a few pieces. Years pass and one day he decides to seek her out to create the artwork for his next book cover. They meet and feel an instant spark. As they start to fall in love, he decides to “write music” for her to paint, and this reawakens her inspiration and she begins to make beautiful artwork again. And they live happily ever after. The End. :)
What is next for you?
I’m currently creating the scenic art for the Carolina Ballet’s production of The Little which debuts in… March! (My magical month), in Raleigh, NC. This has been such a dream assignment for me. I’ve
always admired the artworks created for the Ballet Russes in the early 20th century, such as art by Bakst, Picasso, Matisse and Chagall. The set and costume designs of that time have been a hallmark of inspiration for me. So when this project came about I felt an instant connection. The designs I have created will serve as the backdrops for all three acts of the ballet, and depict scenes such as the Underwater Sea Castle of the Mermaids, the Little Mermaid‘s hideaway, the Prince’s ship at sea, his castle, and more. The art has a watery dreamy feeling inspired by the classic Hans Christian Anderson tale. Working in this realm is entirely new for me and I’m so honored for the opportunity to showcase my artwork alongside the talented dancers in this company. It will be living breathing art.
ALL THE RAINY RAGE
Rainy Day Playlist
Picture this: you are standing at the front row of a music festival in Kentucky with your best friend (on her birthday) listening to Sheryl Crow perform the iconic “I Wanna Soak Up the Sun'' masterpiece whilst you are absolutely drenched in the pouring rain (and a soon-to-be muddy disaster). It was memorable and fun, and I continuously thanked g-d for my ASOS seafoam green raincoat that somehow survived the downpour.
If you live in a rainy place (or simply because it is spring), the ideal rain gear can romanticize the atmosphere. Nothing like a cowboy boot wellie or a lilac-hued cape to boost your serotonin levels when the sky seems like it’s crying happy tears. Add a rainy day playlist in the mix and you will want to go jump in nearby puddles.
For the classic, Breakfast at Tiffany’s loving lady, a tan, navy, black, or even green trench coat is in order. Make sure you find one with a hood (if you want a hood), and if you are petite, we recommend a “short trench”. J Crew has them in the colors previously mentioned, and Barbour has many options including a showerproof ballerina pink trench.
Fashionistas and taller individuals can rock a rain cape extraordinarily (shorties can too, but speaking from experience you might feel like a blob or ghost). Your entrance to any social gathering will be as dramatic as Mia Thermopolis from The Princess Diaries hopefully sans rain-soaked hair and wet denim. There is a company called Rainraps that makes rain ponchos with different colored (and patterned) linings such as blue, pink, plaid, or striped. The company Rains
offers a light blue (and three other colored) rain poncho modified for cyclists and those who live an active lifestyle.
For rebels who want to go without water resistant garments, an umbrella rivaling the transparent one from Lost in Translation is necessary. Amazon has a lot of options for clear umbrellas or opaque colors, and Bella Umbrella offers fun, artsy options like a butterfly wing patterned umbrella, polka dots, and one with a horse on the handle.
Both the fictional Carrie Bradshaw and the legendary Sarah Jessica Parker care about shoes. Comfortable rain boots are a rainy day essential. Whether you prefer a platform, heel, or even cowgirl boot variety, there are seemingly endless options to choose from. Wolf and Badger sells a leopard spot cowboy boot wellie, and other colors. My personal cowgirl rain boots are from Jeffrey Campbell in a nude hue (but I used to have crazy, colorful ones that I wore until they had holes in them from an unknown brand gifted to me by my grandma). Numerous articles have named the Merry People “Bobbi” Wellington boot as the most comfortable everyday rain essential. There are probably the most number of color options ever (18 varieties), and it is rated five stars.
For all book-lovers, maximalists, and errandrunners, a waterproof bag is key. The brand Rains has a plethora of options from totes to backpacks to bum bags and more for your next adventure. They really make getting drenched look almost fun. We hope that these items spark joy and inspire your next rainy day adventure. Don’t forget a rainy day playlist for the main character energy.
BEAUTY AND THE BESPOKE
In October of 2015, Gormley & Gamble became the first women’s only tailor in the history of Savile Row. G&G, as it is affectionately referred to by customers, was founded by the young entrepreneur Phoebe Gormley, who had been interning between Savile Row and Jermyn Street since the tender age of 15. After finishing school, Phoebe decided to pursue this passion further, enrolling to study bespoke costume design at university.
Follow Phoebe Gormley at: @gormleyandgamble
What is your favorite rom-com?
Oooh, choosing a favorite rom-com is like picking the perfect outfit – it totally depends on my mood! But if I had to pick one that perfectly blends love and style, it would be The Devil Wears Prada. It’s an endless parade of fabulous fashion moments - it’s not normally in the rom-com category - but I don’t see why loving yourself shouldn’t suffice!
What is your favourite rom-com fashion look?
One of my favourite rom-com looks has to be from How to lose a guy in 10 days. Kate Hudson who plays Andie wears that gorgeous pale lemony-yellow silk dress that is absolutely divine. It’s completely iconic - simple yet gorgeous and still remembered by almost everyone 20 years later! I love how timeless & feminine the look is. Those are two things we really value at G&G.
What inspires you?
What inspires me is the commitment to providing women with the same, if not better, sizing options that have long been available to men - on the high street, menswear tailoring has over 30 size variants, whilst us women get 5 or 6, with larger women in particular, being pretty much forgotten. Our inspiration also stems from a dedication to individuality, creating something that is unique to each individual client so that they will love it forever. Also, a significant driving force behind my work is providing an alternative to mass produced clothes. We’re championing a 'buy less, buy better' mentality - beautifully crafted clothes that fit like a glove and are made to last.
Tell us something you wish you knew at 15 when interning around at Savile Row?
At 15, I was navigating the intricate world of tailoring, surrounded by tradition and heritage. Looking back, I realise the importance of trusting my unique perspective and ideas. Learning to balance respect for craftsmanship with the boldness to innovate has been a crucial lesson. It's a delicate dance, and I wish I had embraced that dance floor sooner, recognising that authenticity and innovation can coexist - creating a path that aligns both tradition and progress in what’s on offer for women.
What is your favorite silhouette?
A single-breasted, one button jacket with jetted pockets and matching, wide-leg trousers that fall just above the floor - this is always my go-to and works for so many different occasions.
This issue is balletcore inspired, is there any way to include that in a suit look?
Well, this is the beauty of bespoke tailoring - we can make just about anything and we love it when clients present us with a new challenge, perhaps their own
something they’ve seen in Vogue or worn by their style icon. Generally, I think less is more with these kind of trend-inspired looks… we’re big advocates of ‘slow fashion’ and ideally want our clients to be able to still wear the piece in 10 years time. Silk is a fabric we work with a lot - so I envisage a 2 piece suit, in a super feminine cut that really shows off the waist, made from our blush pink double crepe silk. This fabric flows and moves gorgeously. These pieces would make a divine outfit for weddings and fabulous parties but could also be worn as separates on more casual outings.
What is next for Gormley & Gamble?
We have many overseas clients who love what we do, so, this year we’re going to place more emphasis on making it easier for those who can’t make it to our London studio to benefit from our 10 years experience in women’s made-to-measure! We’re also exploring new fabrics with strong sustainability credentials, from a range of small, specialist mills - such as naturally coloured cotton and Irish linens.
Advice to anyone who’d want to go into the madeto-measure and bespoke tailoring world?
Technical skills are the backbone of tailoring. It doesn’t matter how great your vision is in terms of fashion styling or creativity
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- a deep understanding of the craft is indispensable and there’s no point having one without the other. Start by honing your sewing skills, mastering pattern making, and familiarizing yourself with various fabrics. A comprehensive knowledge of garment construction is essential.
An eye for detail is non-negotiable in bespoke tailoring - it's the meticulous attention to every stitch, fold, and cut that transforms a piece from ordinary to extraordinary.
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Sarah is verified through Colour Me Beautiful as a Colour and Image Consultant, and started her own styling business Ab Fab Image. She loves working with women (and some men) to help them feel and look confident and comfortable in their own style and giving them the tools they need to continue looking and feeling fabulous. Red is Sarah’s favourite colour, and it truly embodies her confidence, loyalty, and strength in her field.
Follow Sarah at: @abfabimage
What is your favorite rom-com?
Pretty Woman. I love the transformation. Being a stylist, it’s not just transforming what you’re wearing. Clothes make the woman, and it can change the way you feel about everything and I think that’s why I love it so much.
First date fashion—what should we wear to drinks or an outdoor date etc? Do you think it depends on the location first or the person first?
Person first. If you’re going on a first date you want to be authentic. Your really need to understand your own style. You don’t want to go looking and feeling like somebody else and then you’d never feel comfortable on it. Outdoor, it depends what season obviously. I’d say casual, but not too casual. If you’re going to drinks, be comfortable, but don’t look comfortable.
What did you wear on your first date with your husband?
I wore black leather trousers and a pink blouse. I think I was making a statement.
You have a really great sense of personal style. How can readers get into finding their own personal styles?
One of the things to think about is words. Think about all of the words that you would like to
describe you. It might be quirky, funky, fun, it might be professional, it might be romantic, it might be all of these words. How you would like to feel in your clothes. I want to be comfortable, I want to be confident, I want to feel unusual, unique, and different. So, once you’ve done that, think about how you’d like to be perceived. What is the lasting impression you want to leave on people. Then you need to put both of those sides together and think where does that lead me? What is it I want to present to the world? Once you’ve done that you can start thinking about where you want to shop. If you want to be funky, you wouldn’t go to Marks and Spencer’s, you’d go to little boutiques, little shops, down Kings Road. If you want to
be professional you might go to Reiss or
It’s easy to get lost in the growing
Do you have any rituals you follow or music/makeup, before the first date while getting ready?
What do you recommend investing in for dates: shoes, a bag, a blazer? Are there any staples?
I’m a big believer in investing in the things that can go with lots of different outfits. Invest in shoes. People always judge you on your shoes. You always need to have clean, shoes, nice shoes. We need to also think about sustainability, consumerism, and things like that. Invest in something that you love that makes you feel really good, sexy and confident.
If someone usually wears black and is looking to incorporate color into their wardrobe, how can they start to do that?
be Breakfast at Tiffany’s at the Blue Box Café. It’s not necessarily for singles, but
I do recommend seeing someone who does color analysis to find your best colors. If you love wearing black and you’re like, “I’m not going to change my clothes”, invest in a bright bag, some bright jewelry, a headband if it’s a girl. A guy might want to get a scarf or something. Shoes. Also think about texture. Think about having lace. Wearing black velvet. Something that reflects the light, and
What’s up next for you and anything else you’d want to share in closing?
I am putting on some new styling services. I am also going to be launching my stylish socials, which is for women who want to go out, put a pretty dress on or something fancy on, something they feel really good in, and go to some amazing place. It might
COTTAGECORE
HOW TO EMBRACE IN THE CITY
BY NATALIE GALE
Cottagecore — search the wildly popular term on social media and you’ll see videos of rolling meadows, elaborate baked goods, gardens, crackling fireplaces, and pretty girls in long, feminine dresses.
On the surface, the trend seems primarily visual. You’ll notice pastels and flowers, farmhouse kitchens, and, of course, adorable cottages. It’s all about idealizing rural life, but not everyone is lucky enough to live in a countryside cottage. So below, you’ll find out how to live a cottagecore life in the city. And no, that’s not an oxymoron.
12 Ways to Live A Cottagecore Life in the City
1. Cook and bake.
While picture-perfect cottagecore social media accounts might depict gorgeous pies baked from fresh fruit, you can embrace much more practical ways of cottagecore cooking in your city apartment’s kitchen. As a rule of thumb, cook from scratch whenever possible. I like to make my own chicken stock every few weeks with leftover chicken bones and vegetable scraps that I can use for soups, pastas, curries, or rice — but figure out what works for you! Maybe you try your hand at baking sourdough instead of buying bread, or at making muffins or other simple pastries you can eat for breakfast all week long. And so many sauces, like salad dressing, hummus, pesto, and pasta sauce, are easier to make from scratch than you’d think.
2. Dress the part.
Just because you don’t live in the countryside doesn’t mean you can’t dress the part! Long, feminine dresses anchor the cottagecore aesthetic for a lot of folks — but trousers paired with a sweater or a button down might work better for city wear, and still looks just as cottagecore. And, if it interests you, making your own clothes is so satisfying (and sustainable). All you need is a sewing machine and a few YouTube tutorials.
3. Work on fiber arts.
Speaking of sewing, any and all fiber arts will help you practice screen-free hobbies that evoke a simpler lifestyle. You might take up knitting, crocheting, or embroidery. The simple act of creating with your hands is super fulfilling — and even more so when you can sew a shirt you like to wear, knit a hat for a friend, or embroider an old piece of clothing to get some new life out of it.
4. Garden.
This one is much easier done in the country than the city, I know. But if you
don’t have any outdoor living space, you still have options. Consider setting up a few pots on your fire escape to grow small crops like leafy greens, root vegetables, or herbs — or just stick with flowers for a little pollinator oasis outside your window. Find out if you have a local community garden, and try to sign up for a plot to get some real gardening done. And you can still garden completely indoors by growing sprouts in a jar!
5. Shop farmers’ markets.
favorite movies that are fun, romantic, and full of gorgeous shots of nature or simpler ways of living include Emma (the 2020 version), Sense and Sensibility, Ella Enchanted, The Holiday (for the cottage scenes!), Moonrise Kingdom, and This Beautiful Fantastic. The latter is even set in a city (London), as a woman gives her apartment’s garden a makeover.
One huge perk of living in a city: you might have access to several farmers’ markets. Take advantage of this readily available, locally grown produce and shop at farmers’ markets whenever possible, planning your meals around what’s fresh and available to ensure you’re eating more in tune with the seasons.
6. Visit zero-waste stores.
8. Read cottagecore books.
Like movies, books can also provide you with tons of cottagecore vibes no matter where you’re living. Some of my favorites in this category include the Anne of Green Gables series, Braiding Sweetgrass, The Secret Book of Flora Lee, Elizabeth and her German Garden, and Down to Earth: A Guide to Simple Living.
9. Compost.
Save your empty glass jars and use them to stock up on refills of pantry staples like rice, beans, and lentils, or on soap, shampoo, and laundry detergent. Living a plastic-free lifestyle is more cottagecore than strawberry picking, in my opinion!
7. Watch cottagecore romcoms.
So many movies have fantastic
You might not have the outdoor space for a compost pile of your own, but that doesn’t mean you can’t partake in this easy way to live more sustainably. Many cities have private compost services that’ll regularly pick up your
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helps local farmers. And turning food waste into compost means it won’t be emitting methane from a landfill.
10. Go thrifting.
You might have a fantastic selection of thrift stores available in a city — use them to shop for dishware and decor, giving new life to old pieces and helping you nail the my-grandma-owned-this look. Thrift for your clothes, too, before you buy something new. Frugality and wasting less are what cottagecore is all about.
11. Bike.
Not feasible in every city, I know — but in some places, biking is a fantastic transit option, helping you avoid the traffic and emissions that come with driving or taking public transit. My ideal day in the city looks like biking to the library, checking out a book to read in the park, and then stopping by the farmers’ market on the bike home.
12. Connect with nature.
Go on a walk to your nearest park, and consider ditching the headphones to soak up the sounds around you — you’ll be surprised at all the sounds of nature you’ll notice, even in the city, when you start paying attention. If it’s nice out, bring a blanket, a book, and a snack, and sit under a tree for an afternoon. I can think of more good trees to sit under in my city than in the country town I grew
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HOW TO DRESS IN BALLETCORE STYLE
BY NATALIE GALE
Leotards, tights, flats, and the color pink aren’t going anywhere anytime soon. The hashtag #balletcore has a whopping one hundred million views on TikTok — the style that’s grown in popularity in recent years seems to have hit an all-time high.
But ballet’s relationship to fashion predates TikTok by a whole lot. There was “ballerina off-duty” in the magazine edits of the 2000s, full of slouchy sweaters, tulle, and pastels.
Balletcore is shaping up to be one of the year’s biggest trends, with fashion houses left and right, like Miu Miu, Simone Rocha, and Givenchy, featuring the style on the runways, while girls on the street (a.k.a. the real trendsetters) embrace the style in more affordable ways.
I grew up dancing ballet and still take classes regularly, and I used to feel decidedly unchic wearing pink tights out in public walking to or from class. But now, when I pair a fitted leotard and a slicked back bun with loose sweatpants and clean, white sneakers, I feel like a fabulous influencer.
I’ve always loved the little formalities and rituals of ballet class, from the uniform-like outfits to the révérence at the end of class when we thank the teacher and the pianist. To me, the balletcore trend helps bring a bit more of this presence into daily routines.
Visually, balletcore can lean two different ways. It can mimic what a ballet dancer might wear on the stage, like tulle skirts, silky fabrics, beads, appliques, and bows. Or, and this way is more “ballerina off-duty,” it can include leotards, leg warmers, sweaters, and other items that a dancer would wear in the studio. Tights, of course, straddle both sects.
What To Look For When Channeling Balletcore
Colors and materials play the biggest role here, since silhouettes are always changing. A tight top and a voluminous skirt can look just as balletcore as a slouchy sweater and tight bottoms, if you do it right.
Pale pink is the obvious choice here, but ivory and gray are close seconds for me. Light blue or other pastels like green or purple work well, too. And for darker colors, stick to black or black-adjacent neutrals for that off-duty ballerina look.
Feminine fabrics like satin, silk, and chiffon will always give your outfit a balletcore boost. As, of course, will tulle! And for a more authentic ballet dancer look, try elevated athleisure pieces made of jersey or cotton, or knit sweaters.
And, while we’re at it, embrace balletcore even further by checking out some of our favorite ballet movies! Romantic comedies like Center Stage, Save the Last Dance, and Flashdance all focus on dancers, and some other fantastic ballet movies include The Red Shoes, Billy Elliot, and A Ballerina’s Tale.
Top Balletcore Pieces
1. Bodysuits
The more practical, streetwear cousin to leotards, bodysuits are pretty much directly out of the dance studio. For a more authentic ballet look, shoot for ones with boat necks or scoop necks. Or pick up a simple leotard from a dancewear brand for a new closet staple.
2. Ballet Flats
This one is so obvious, it almost goes without saying. The ballet flat trend is back, and there are so many cute, high-quality options available. They pair well with trousers or skirts, or elevate casual bottoms like jeans.
3. Sweaters
Any sort of slouchy sweater over a tight top will give you that “I’m on my way to the studio” look. Wrap sweaters are a ballet staple that’ve bled into the mainstream.
4. Flowy Skirts
In the studio, a dancer might wear a flowy wrap skirt that’s anywhere from knee-length to super short. Channel this vibe with any highwaisted, flowy skirt, no matter the length. Bonus points if it’s a wrap skirt, and double bonus if you pair it with flats.
5. Tights
FASHION
Another staple straight from the dance studio, pink tights are one of the most recognizable pieces of ballet attire. Have some fun with this one and explore funkier tights, too, like lacy options or a pair in white or black.
7. Sweats
6. Hair accessories
Just like a dancer might wear on the stage, hair bows, appliqué, and other accessories add an adorably feminine boost to any look. Clip a colorful barrette to a slicked back bun, wear a bow or two to elevate hair down looks, or throw on a headband to complete a casual outfit.
8. Beads, appliqué and more
The best part about balletcore: it can be whatever you want it to be. Go ahead and tie a ribbon around your waist as a sash, wear sparkly statement earrings, or grab some frilly pink socks. Remember, this is all about wearing that ultra-feminine piece that maybe doesn’t fit with the rest of your wardrobe — but makes you feel like the main
Sweatpants and sweatshirts can be decidedly feminine! When done in balletcore style, this might look like gray sweat shorts with tights or a cute sweater, or an oversized gray sweatshirt over a bodysuit.
HOW TO MAKE SPRING CLEANING MORE ROMANTIC
Spring has sprung, and love is in the air. But you know what else is? Dust mites and allergens. While we all want to go outside in our floral dresses, hand-in-hand with our honey bears, after a looong winter hibernation and smell the roses (after taking our daily allergy pill, of course), first, we must clean up our indoor spaces. Hello, spring cleaning.
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Before you get too gloomy about this major buzzkill event, take a moment to consider the benefits. Who said spring cleaning has to be boring and mundane? Certainly not us! So, just like the diffuser you’re about to start pumping with your favorite essential oil to ~cleanse the space~ I’m going to show you how to infuse romance into this fully necessary annual chore.
Music
Set the mood by curating a romantic playlist that takes you and your partner back to your first dance, favorite club, and funniest memory – all while scrubbing the floor! Not everyone can be like Noah and Allie in The Notebook, making up their own music while dancing in the streets, but you can feel like them when you mix ballads into your customized cleaning soundtrack. Sultry sounds slowing you down? Channel your inner Mrs. Doubtfire and blast something upbeat while waltzing with your vacuum like you’re on Dancing with the Stars
Dress Up
cleaning done faster so you can change into something a little more comfortable afterward—Wink wink.
Memory Lane Magic
Stumbling upon old photos, hand-written letters, and sweet momentos while you clean is inevitable. Instead of just throwing them all in a shoebox and stuffing them on the top shelf of your closet, take little breaks to reminisce. Rediscover forgotten places and old fashion trends while sharing stories that fill in the details of all the memories you haven’t thought about in forever.
Personalized Rewards
Still not finding the energy to put towards spring cleaning? Create a reward system to make it more enticing. Before one half of the relationship takes over and the other gets distracted playing old video games, and you’re forced to break out the classic “I want you to want to do the dishes” line from The Break-Up, build in some motivators. Might I recommend a sweet treat after taking out the garbage or a kiss after vacuuming the bedroom? It’s a little fun, a little sexy, and a great way to stay on task.
Worried about rubber gloves and ratty aprons killing your romantic vibe? Don’t be. You don’t need to go full-on, Monica Geller, and throw on a wedding dress to feel dreamy while you disinfect. Especially when you can just throw on your sexy French maid costume from last Halloween instead. A little role-play never hurt anyone, right? And there’s no better incentive to get the
Clean the Shower
Together. Naked. Easy.
Foodie Foreplay
Cleaning out old food is my personal nightmare. While I fancy myself a tidy person, I’m always surprised to find that old jar of pickles hiding in the back corner of the fridge or an expired can of lentil soup in the pantry. Yes, you need to rid your kitchen of these dated goods, but you’ll also discover items you forgot you bought that are still edible. Instead of letting them go to waste, pull out a few items you’d typically “save for a special occasion” and make a fancy dinner for yourselves when the clean-up is over. Just don’t make too many dishes when you do it.
“Whoever
You Want Me to Be”
memories of where we’ve been mixed with the inspiration of who we want to be, so deciding what’s worth keeping or donating can be overwhelming. While there is merit in holding each item close to your heart and seeing whether or not it brings you joy, we have another option that is a little more interactive. Do a fashion show for each other. Give your best model walk, strike your sexiest pose, and then give a “yay” or “nay” together. The best part is the opportunity for a mini stripe tease between outfit changes.
While Ryan Atwood wasn’t talking about his fashion choices when seducing Marissa Cooper in The O.C., it does ring familiar when thinking about the oh-so-necessary yearly clothing purge. Our closets are filled with
Feeling more inspired to get down and dirty? Good. After you reframe your perspective on spring cleaning not just being a hassle, but a recipe for romance, hopefully, you will look forward to this annual tradition. Sweep last year’s bad energy under the rug, fan it out on the deck, and start the season regenerated. Happy cleaning!
PAPE R P LA Y
Stephanie Hartman is a London-based collage artist working with found imagery, painted papers, and materials often destined for the recycling bin. Her practice is playcentered and collaborative, often drawing on themes such as memory and connection. Stephanie is also the founder of Collage Club Ldn. She leads popular workshops celebrating the art of cutting and sticking, and has worked with brands and organizations such as ASOS, Adidas, Barbican, Design Museum, Lush, Toast, and the Royal Academy. She regularly delivers creative workshops in healthcare and community settings too.
Follow Stephanie at: @collageclubldn
What
is your favorite rom-com?
A Knights Tale. I so vividly remember watching it for the first time when I was maybe ten or eleven off sick from school. Since then, I’ve watched it the most, so it’s got to be that.
How did you first get into collaging?
I have been collaging since I was a kid. I’ve always adored it. It started with cutting up things for scrapbooks since I was about four. I was obsessed with collage, scrapbooks and pattern—really heavy into pattern and colour. It’s something I’ve done my whole life. I did illustration and knew I didn’t want to be an illustrator. Of everything that I did at uni, it was always collage adjacent, so if I was printing or doing photography, everything would end up being cut up. In terms of collage club and running them for other people, it was very much initially a way to get rid of things that I’ve been collecting. I’m a bit of a hoarder. Lots of gorgeous paper samples, magazines, loads of stuff I’d amassed over my time at uni and I thought: Ok, maybe I need to get rid of some of this. I invited loads of friends round, we all had dinner, drinks and we all just sat and collaged. It was the nicest atmosphere—making for makings sake and a really nice way to switch off.
What was the process like for the book?
Much quicker than I thought it was going to be. I kind of assumed in my head that you got a lot of time to make and research and write. But actually, the start to finish process
is only a few months. The period after that where it’s handed over to the publishers is a lot longer till the release date. All of the imagery is created by me, everything i written by me as well. It was lots of ideas I’d had bubbling all along for quite a long time. And I really wanted to make it accessible to everyone, so: People who are into collage already, but others who might want to be trying something new for the first time or dipping back into the creative process.
What
is the collage community like?
Incredibly nice. I don’t think I’ve ever met a meanie who comes to collage club. Super passionate, a lot of people come to the collage workshops by themselves, so it’s a really nice way to make friends. You don’t have to chat to people. I think there’s something really gorgeous about being surrounded by people, but not necessarily having to chat if you don’t want to.
How does that work? Do people bring their materials?
No, so for the most part I provide everything. Loads of magazines, painted papers (like on the front of the book), scissors, glue, shapes. I’m always on the hunt for new things. That’s such a joy for me as well. I also run collage club socials, so that is more free-for-all. I bring those materials, but it’s also a space for people to come and work on projects that they’ve already got going on. It's quite often themed as well, so it might be spring, the seasons, architecture, and then I’ll sort of curate accordingly. I enjoy that part.
What inspires you?
I think I write in the book: inspiration is everywhere, so it can be looking at other collage artists. I get super inspired by the people that come to the workshops as well.
Do you have any favorite collage artists?
Yeah definitely. Deborah Roberts, she’s amazing. Obviously Matisse, big inspiration. People I’ve managed to meet at collage club. Contemporary illustrators. This guy called Ed Cheverton I work with and we send each other collages to finish off. Some of those are in the book at the back.
What
is your favorite kind of bug?
They’re not technically real bugs, but in the book, I have a whole project about making bugs. Making jeweled insects. Hybrid bugs. Using existing parts of insects— wings and
tails and antennae, and incorporating loads of gems. I have hundreds of pages of this kind of thing stashed away. And then thinking about environments as well. So, I’m going hybrid. Make your own bugs (see next page for example).
What are some of your favorite collaging resources?
A huge amount of the stuff is donated. I’m constantly looking in charity shops and online sales.
What is up next for you?
Lots of planning for more workshops. Lots across spring. I’ve got another Saturday social coming up. They’re really nice because they are for a wider community. Normally I have twenty at a session, this time I had 80 people come along. Alongside all of the public ones, I do lots of private sessions as well. Going into companies, working with museums, galleries, hospitals.
CONFESSIONS OF A PLANT MOM
Caring for a plant is like caring for a relationship. You really must pay attention to the wants and needs of it. Does it need water? Sunlight? Is the soil damp? Are there any small critters intruding? The goal is a happy and healthy green miracle stretching towards the sun. Otherwise, you can hear Andie Anderson saying, “Our love fern! You let it die!” from How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days
For a while in Brooklyn, I had a lot of plants. There is something super fun about plant watering day. It’s like date night for plants, or a plant spa day depending on the vibe. Music sets the mood. Pruning the dead leaves the way your girlfriend plucks her eyebrows. Or sifting through soil delicately the way your sister applies concealer.
Doubt can be a party pooper. Feeling like you’re not good enough for the plants or being responsible for a vegetal death. Plants can feel the energy we bring in the room, and we can feel their energy (and oxygen) too. Outfit your plant in a stunning pot (but make sure it has drainage holes). R.I.P. to tree the Ivy plant.
Cool girls have plants. My sister keeps a small lime tree on her kitchen island, and when she is having company she can even use the limes for mixed drinks. If that doesn’t scream effortlessly chic, I don’t know what does. Plants feel even more of a necessity for citydwellers, because there is so much concrete/unnatural materials around every day. It feels like the perfect gift that combats the lack of nearby nature. BYOJ—build your own jungle.
Art by Brittanie Snyder
SWOON-WORTHY SANCTUARIES
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What is your favorite rom-com?
As Good as It Gets is definitely my favorite romantic comedy! The film features flawed, but endearing characters. Melvin Udall, played by Jack Nicholson, is an obsessivecompulsive novelist who's hard to love at first, but over the course of the film falls in love with Carol Connelly (Helen Hunt), a waitress and single mother with a difficult everyday life. Melvin and Carol's relationship is characterized by their initial conflicts and personal challenges. We also follow the upsetting life of a painter going through difficult times.
Set in our beloved New York, the film highlights the city's vibrant atmosphere and diverse lifestyles.
What is your favorite interior design style?
Our favorite interior design style can be described as eclectic contemporary. This style combines elements of contemporary design with a mix of art from different eras, as well as designer furniture master pieces to create unique and personalized spaces for each of our clients.The contemporary design provides a clean and minimalist backdrop, allowing us to showcase both the craftsmanship of the artisans we work with and attention to detail. This include using custom-made furniture, integrating handcrafted elements, and incorporating unique materials or finishes, creating for every project designs to make every space cohesive, visually appealing and unique.
Our reference in this style is Vincenzo De Cotiis, who perfectly blends a choice of contemporary furnishings and materials with architecture that is often ancient or antique in inspiration, but adds a resolutely modern intention in the treatment of raw yet sophisticated materials.
When did you first know that you wanted to go into interior design?
From a very early age, I've always been very manual, loving to create, touch, model, draw, paint... As I grew older, I began to think about what this passion would become.
I loved fashion and architecture and was always amazed by Parisian architecture and the magnificent museums and buildings that surrounded me. I've always been fascinated by the interplay between the aesthetics and functionality of spaces, so it was a natural choice for me. It was during my studies and internships that I really realized I'd made the right choice, thanks to my professional experiences.
I was particularly attracted to contemporary style for its ability to create modern, harmonious living spaces. Working alongside skilled
craftsmen and witnessing their dedication to their craft reinforced my passion.
What is the first step when creating your dream home?
When creating your dream home, the first step is usually to establish a clear vision and define your goals for the project. To do this, you need to consider your lifestyle, preferences and needs.
Determine which aspects of your dream home are most important to you. Take into account factors such as the number of rooms, general layout, specific features or equipment you want, durability considerations and any other specific requirements or goals you have in mind.
The zoning of the house or apartment should be well worked out in plan before moving on to the next steps. Before thinking about the aesthetics of a space, it's important to think about its functionality, how it's going to be used and how it's going to be used.
their teachings, the organic beauty of nature, with its rich palette of textures and patterns, never fails to captivate us. The incorporation of natural materials, such as wood, stone and plants, allows us to bring a sense of warmth, tranquility and rootedness to the spaces we design. Understanding the subtleties of the world and the major challenges of our era are, first and foremost, our sources of inspiration and reflection.
Another important source of inspiration for us lies in the heritage of craftsmanship and the skills of artisans. We draw inspiration from traditional techniques, whether it's the intricate woodworking of carpenters or the delicate artistry of ceramists and incorporating their knoledge into our creations. This not only adds a sense of authenticity and uniqueness to the spaces, but also pays homage to the rich cultural and artistic heritage that has shaped our world.
How do you make a room more cozy?
What inspires you and why?
Following the path of the old Masters and
To make a room more inviting, working with light is of a prime importance. It should be as soft as caress of the wind and warm
as a morning sunbeam, rather than bright and an impersonal white. Several types of mood lighting, such as bedside lamps, floor lamps and wall sconces, are needed to create spaces and sub-spaces whose shadows will lick the surfaces with delicacy that will create a welcoming atmosphere. Dimmers can also help adjust lighting levels to create a cozy ambience.
Bring in soft, tactile textures with silk wool rugs, cashmere plaids and cozy cushions. Layering these elements on sofas, armchairs and beds adds warmth and creates a sense of comfort.
Natural elements such as light or dark wood, oak or walnut for example, stone and wooden furniture always add warmth to the space. If possible, a stone fireplace can help create a warm, welcoming atmosphere just like earthy tones can also enhance an interior.
When it comes to curtains, we always favor soft, thick, light fabrics with a beautiful fall, which brings a sense of intimacy. Sheers can also be used underneath to create a soft, diffused light effect during the day. In furnishing, we like to arrange armchairs, so as to encourage conversation and closeness.
Use comfortable sofas and chairs that invite you to settle down and relax. Create intimate corners by arranging furniture around a coffee table or near a fireplace. Personal objects and objets d'art add a personal and intimate dimension to the space. They often reflect a particular taste, style or personality.
What is the best “home office” setup for someone who wants to work from home/remotely?
When setting up a home office for remote working, it's essential to create a space that's comfortable, functional and conducive to productivity. Designate a specific space in your home to be devoted exclusively to work. This establishes boundaries and separates your professional space from your personal living spaces. Place your desk near a window to benefit from natural light and view of the sky will add poetry in your day, while trees and cloud will give you the breath and break you need.The notion of comfort (furniture, access to services such as sports and catering), balance and freedom in a natural, personal environment will help you work tenfold. Add works of art and decorative objects that inspires you to create a dynamic environment. To finish, incorporate plants and natural elements into your home office to bring a sense of freshness and improve air quality. Plants can also enhance your well-being and create a soothing environment.
What is up next for Meteor Studio?
Freshly arrived in Miami, Meteor Studio is growing and expanding like never before. We are also working on our very first furniture design collection, which will serve as a crossroad between Art and Design, aiming to reveal the ancestral link between us and our environment. This collection will be reveal soon and visible during famous exhibition in Paris and Art Gallery. Meteor Studio is always looking to explore new horizons.
Anu
Anu is a Clevelander living in New York and a graduate of New York University with a Bachelor of Arts in Politics and Economics, and a Minor in Film Production. She has worked for organizations such as Environment New York, Hillary for America, Alissa Neil PR, Broadway Video, Care in action, and the National Domestic Workers Alliance. She’s been previously published in Brown Girl Magazine, Burnt Roti, and Washington Square News. When not writing, she can be found watching stand up specials and pretending to be a fan of the Cavs.
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It’s raining and my partner and I are bored and stuck inside! What should we get up to?!
Ok dude, like same! Here’s what we’ve been up to:
Learning to make new espresso drinks! We both love coffee and our little Breville machine, so we’ve been experimenting with making all kinds of warm coffee drinks. We’ve tried adding orange, we often add condensed milk, and we made toffee from scratch to make lattes! We’ve even managed to perfect our latte art (I use “we” broadly here, I can’t take credit here). If you’re looking for inspo, a quick TikTok search will give you a lot of ideas.
Ok be honest, how long has it been since you’ve rewatched Harry Potter? Lord of the Rings? TWILIGHT?? We’ve spent a good chunk of that fake time between Christmas and New Year’s rotting in our apartment binging our old favorite franchises, and it was frickin’ great.
This might be a boring one, but it brought me a lot of satisfaction: organizing my closet. I organize it, I buy new things, I keep tossing and stuffing everything in there, and leaving laundry on that chair. But like, my closet isn’t that small. I’m just too lazy to be thoughtful every time I put something in there (or more often, take something out).
So, I spent some time each day for a couple weeks pulling a section out and putting everything back in there, by
type of clothing, season (which always gets mixed up so fast because New York weather is so inconsistent and you need every season all the time!), and how often I use it (I have too many formal dresses for my excessively casual life). And not to give middle age, but it’s so hot to look in there and see neatly stacked sweaters and jeans sorted by color.
And then I did the same for my partner’s closet, even though he always forgets the system I created (and thoroughly explained) and then tries to hang sweaters, the horror!
It’s my best friend’s birthday! What are some creative ways to celebrate them?
Ok my best friend and I have a tradition of organizing an activity for each other every birthday, so we get to hang out together doing something new, and there’s a little gift built in! Some things we’ve done over the last few years:
Making custom lipstick colors at Lip Lab!
A trip to Brooklyn Charms to make necklaces.
A candle making class. A pottery class.
Getting a “make you own lip gloss kit” online and making an apple caramel (homemade) spread with toppings to assemble and eat on the roof while lip glossing it up in the crisp fall air.
I’m feeling stuck in my job, but I’m not in a place to rage quit. Suggestions?
First of all, take a break. Do you have PTO racked up? Take it all, you’re entitled to it. Turn off your brain and take some time to rot. Come back to your work refreshed. Maybe you were just burned out! I’ll say from experience that it’s always nice to take a good long break, and maybe you’ll realize you actually do like your work, but the workplace in capitalist society is set up in a way to exhaust everyone and you just need to hide for a minute. You probably went into your industry for a reason.
If you come back and it’s an immediate “nope” then that’s a bigger problem, but not unsolvable in small, reasonable steps that don’t leave you stressed and income-less while figuring what you do want to be doing! First, literally give the bare minimum, if you haven’t already (we all know how to quiet quit at this point). Then, think about whether it’s the work or the workplace that has you out of sorts.
If you decide that you like the work, but the workplace is toxic, start applying to anything and everything in that industry with all that extra time you have from quiet quitting! A good idea might be to apply to contract positions, so that you have a short term opportunity to try a different workplace, and potentially might be a faster and easier hiring process. You can also use that income to ease yourself out of your current workplace and hold you over until you find a new full time role. Or you might realize you like working as a contractor and can look for more work accordingly!
If you decide you don’t like the work that you do and want to switch careers, I’d kinda suggest something similar. If it’s a new industry you can jump into without another
degree, try taking on some part time or contract positions to see if you like it. Keep doing that until you find something you like. Keep giving the bare minimum at work to give yourself the personal time and space to try these new things. Keep using all your PTO and sick time. Try acting on your creativity online with a blog or social media as you look to professionalize it. You don’t have to jump off a cliff to find your passions! It just might take a little more work (but think of the payoff!).
Spring has sprung, how do I bring my wardrobe out of hibernation mode?
Ok, here’s three things I’m obsessed with in general and excited to wear the second it’s warm enough:
Colorful leather jackets! Or if you don’t wear leather, maybe a colorful bomber? I just bought one in the most perfect teal/cerulean
I know, I know, florals for spring, how groundbreaking, WHATEVER. I love a breezy floral dress. My latest obsession is buying vintage dresses on depop. It’s cute, it’s (somewhat) unique, and its makes me feel like the main character, so I’m IN.
Mini skirts with sweaters! I feel like it has a 90s/Clueless vibe. I wear a neutral sweater with a bright or uniquely patterned little skirt. My favorite is a pink skirt I’ve had for probably 10+ years that’s covered in pineapples. It’s chill, but like with ~personality~.
I’m moving in with my partner. What should I be thinking about?
Well there’s the practical and the big picture. We’ll talk about both. First of all, figure out the timeline of y’all’s leases. Do they end at the same time? Will one of you have to get storage for some time period? Where will that person stay in the meantime? Are there any roommates that need to be informed? What’s the ideal timeline to find a shared place? Ideally, maybe only one of you has to move and cohabitat in the other’s existing place to minimize the chaos. Can you tell I hate moving?
Then go through all your combined kitchenware, and bedding, and furniture and get rid of anything. Do also keep in mind that it does indeed make sense to have duplicates of *some* things! If you’re going to have an extra bedroom, you’ll probably have guests and need extra towels and sheets. And if you cook together a lot, it might be helpful to hang on to some cooking utensils so you aren’t constantly washing dishes. Strategize!
Make sure you’re finding a big enough space. Do you both work from home all day? Do you need an extra bedroom so you can have individual offices? Does your family come to visit a lot? Make sure you’re getting a big enough space to accommodate both your lives (and closets! Don’t forget the closets!) or if that’s unaffordable, making accommodations accordingly.
Make sure you talk about how you’re tackling chores. Do you take turns? Do you have a defined set of chores you divide evenly? Be clear about who is responsible for what and on what timeline to have those expectations.
Discuss how much time you expect to spend together, versus working, and with your friends, individually and jointly. What do each of your schedules look like, how often do you work late? If you work from home, what are the expected noise levels? Do you play music? And how often do you cook together, handle meals for each other, and eat out or order in? Speaking of eating out, are you both aligned on your monthly budgets and yearly savings? How do you split expenses, or do you have a joint account to which you both contribute?
This answer is full of more questions than answers, but I think that’s probably the most effective example of how to handle this situation. Ask questions!
Dear Readers,
You are seen, you are loved, and you will have better days ahead (even if it does not feel like it yet). Grief is like an anchor that sinks you down into the depths of sea. One day, you will float back up to the light and be fine, but sometimes it feels impossible to get to that point. If you are reading this, and you feel like you want to cry, then go and cry. You don’t need to keep in all the emotions. Suppressing them only makes the healing process harder. Say kind things to yourself in your head or go write some nice “I Am” phrases. Better yet, repeat after me: I am strong. I am alive. I am capable. I am going to be okay. I am smart. I am (insert more nice things that you feel apply here).
The beautiful thing about spring is that we are all going to “bloom again”. Try to notice a few tiny nice things or glimmers each day: the first sip of a really good coffee or tea. A butter-colored butterfly landing on a pink flower. A squirrel dashing around a park with an extremely furry tail. Someone holding a door for someone else. A fun memory evoked from a spritz of perfume. A well-crafted line from a romantic comedy (or a favorite scene. One of mine is the backyard scene from Crazy Stupid Love. It never fails to make me laugh). There are many activities that feel like “small therapies” (though if you do feel like you need a professional, please do seek one of those out), such as: writing, reading, art, petting or watching animals, walking, working out, and more.
Losing a baby has really made me look at the world differently. It has given me a newfound appreciation for mothers and motherhood. While a loss is devastating and sad, I have found comfort in various quotes: Rejection is God’s Protection. Overthinking is Under feeling. And emotion equals energy in motion. Lastly, trying to look at the world with an abundance mindset. Instead of getting upset that it feels like the whole entire world is pregnant, I am trying to be happy for these mamas-to-be and know that one day it will be my turn again.
INTIMACY BEYOND SEX
There is a heady, powerful, and all-consuming magic when it comes to the wonders of the three-letter s-word.
In the past, I have heard multiple people say that sometimes food is better than sex. I have gone back and forth on that comment and I think I am team sex, but only because I eat to live, not live to eat (except for coffee, and ice cream).
Intimacy is this deep closeness; a shared secret between you and your love that makes your lips curl upwards into a smile. I have come to learn that there are so many ways besides the physical to enjoy each other. Shared laughter feels this way. Evening walks in darkness together staring at tiny crabs that scuttle across the sand at your feet. Melting lava cake pleasuring your tastebuds.
Sharing a sunset, a bed, a television show, a tube of toothpaste (but not the toothbrush), a shower, a favorite song, or a bank robbery (just kidding!). Even just getting groceries.
Of course there is the classic application of sunscreen on each other’s backs. A kiss goodnight before you close your eyes to dream. Religion feels incredibly intimate; a whispered prayer, a quiet moment of inward reflection. The familiarity of your partner’s scent. A bouquet of fragrant flowers from your love. And do not get me started on
love letters. There is nothing more intimate than the familiarization with your lovers penmanship. Funnily enough, my husband’s handwriting truly looks nearly identical to that of my little sister’s stroke of the pen.
On that note, a shared closeness with each other’s siblings (and the exciting similarities between each other as siblings) is a very wholesome intimacy. It reminds me of the Taylor Swift lyrics from the song Peace: “Family that I chose, now that I see your brother as my brother”. Sharing your literal or metaphorical dreams with each other.
Witnessing the evolution of a relationship with time is the most rewarding intimacy. Your partner comes to know with only one glance the intricacies of your facial emotions (and speaking as someone who is incredibly hard to read/has resting b*tch face often, my husband deserves a trophy for that). The gathering of information of a persons likes and dislikes is a form of closeness. Even if their preference of strawberry ice cream seems like a small fact, it is now a shared fact.
Collect all the tiny moments like treasures on a beach. You will hold a metaphorical mosaic of memories to cherish forever. And then when the time comes to do the birds and bees, you might even find yourself feeling closer than ever before.
Collage by Helena Whitehouse
Timeless
French Romance in
TOULOUSE
Known as "La Ville Rose" or the Pink City for its distinctive terracotta-colored bricks that adorn many of the city’s architecture, Toulouse is also known as the pink city of love and one of the oldest European capitals of poetry. Let’s embark on a love-filled stroll through thrilling Toulouse, where romance writes its own story!
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Bienvenue à Toulouse!
Nestled in the heart of southwestern France, Toulouse is a vibrant city with cute streets, rich history, and undeniable romantic ambiance. The whole city is a love letter penned in vividly colored bricks. With unique architecture, picturesque gardens, cobblestone streets, charming canals, and a dash of French flair, Toulouse will have (both) your hearts!
Promenade in the historical center
History is everywhere in Toulouse and offers some of the best, most romantic scenery. Hand in hand with your loved one, wander through Trinité and Salengro square, Saint-Sernin area, and the Carmes district. When the sun begins its descent, take a moment to stop by Rue Croix-Baragnon and the fountain of the enchanting Place Sainte Scarbes to admire the soft glow of the setting sun and its dreamy reflection on the terracotta landmarks.
Captivating Canal
Let’s hop on a boat along the Canal du Midi, a UNESCO World Heritage Site that weaves through the city. A cozy boat ride will take you across the water that reflects the rosy hues of the surrounding buildings, passing under the charming Pont Neuf bridge adorned with flowers. After the ride, grab some food at one of the surrounding guinguette (typical open air café) and take a pause beneath the picturesque arches of the Quay of Tounis to pop a bottle of fresh Rosé for a perfect, intimate moment with your significant other.
Gorgeous Gardens
Toulouse offers plenty of grandiose gardens, peaceful parks, and hidden courtyards that
are ideal for a date night. For a romantic and peaceful interlude, explore the Jardin des Plantes, a lush oasis in the heart of the city. Slow down at the Japanese Garden that offers a peaceful retreat for those looking for a serene afternoon getaway. The botanical Garden with its dense greenery and vibrant flowers is a dreamy place for a romantic picnic. Finally, the cloister gardens of les Jacobins and les Augustins museums are two hidden gems that make a one-of-a-kind date night.
Gastronomic Delights
France is known for its culinary tradition, and Toulouse is no exception. Food is a love affair here, so find yourselves in a riverside restaurant, a charming bistro tucked away in a hidden corner, or try one of the spectacular brasseries with fresco ceilings from the city square: Le Capitole. Share some regional specialties that will leave your palate swooning and savor every sip of local wine. In Toulouse, the way to the heart is definitely through the stomach. Bon appétit!
Cultural Treasures
Known as one of the main centers of poetry and pastel painting, Toulouse celebrates art, literature, and music. Whether it's a classic play, a ballet, or a live musical performance, there are many options for a lovely date night. Enjoy a special concert in the city basilica and cathedral like La Dalbade or Saint-Etienne. Don’t forget to take a moment to admire the elegant facades of centuriesold mansions like Hotel de Bernuy and Hotel d’Assezat before hopping on a romantic art gallery stroll in the Antique district for timeless enchantment.
CONNECTING WITH OUR INNER CHILD
Step 1
Make an album on your phone of old photographs. If you need a visual reference to (especially if you have difficulty with the next steps) this will hopefully be helpful.
Step 2
Write down a list of all of the little things that light your soul on fire. When you were little, did you like tie dye? Is there a particular scent that makes you reminisce? (for example, bug spray might remind you of camping adventures, or the burnt aromas of a grill can bring up memories of summer s’mores). There are so many little things that can help you get in the “inner child” zone. What kind of music did you listen to? Was there a place you frequented often? (For me, that was the Bethesda, Maryland Barnes and Nobles—RIP). Is there an element that you loved the most? (For some reason younger me/my classmates were very into fire and candles).
Step 3
Meditate on ways you can bring some of the things from the list above into your current life. Blast the song that makes you feel like your best 12 year old self. Go take a bath and level up on your bath time (bath time is truly a big one that can transfer over from childhood to adulthood. Perhaps even with some adult purple or yellow juice if you
Step 4
Look back on memories that the list or photo album conjures, and thank yourself for all that you have done and how far you have come today. You have grown into someone unique and wonderful. Perhaps write a mantra that relates (for example, “I am whole” or “I love laughter” or “notice the beautiful colors of the day”). Whatever it is that will bring the younger you with you today, in a fun and hopefully not triggering way.
A connecting noun related to the innerchild philosophy is: Nostalgia (a sentimental longing or wistful affection for a period of time in the past).
The cultural zeitgeist craves it, via “grandpa fashion”, “comfort shows”, the newer generation’s obsession with The Parent Trap film. In a world of uncertainty, it feels nice to depend on a fondness for “simpler times”. There is a tangible nostalgia in the way we dress, what we read, listen to, or spray onto ourselves. The popularity of gourmand fragrances seems quite nostalgic. A rise in scrapbooking, the fibre arts, jazz clubs, print, perhaps even reading.
Say hello to the old you. She's so proud.
SPRING ALLERGIES (ROM-COM EDITION)
We are allergic to toxic partners, bad friends, and lack of sunlight. Red flags are like sneezes, they worn you that you are inhaling bad vibes (or pollen), and need to get out of there. Unfortunately, there is no allergy medications for toxic people, only the “block” button and an abundance of space from them. They might make your eyes water as badly as the flowers do, so pay attention before you get too close.
Find the people who make your heart flutter like delicate, pink cherry blossoms in the wind. The dance of spring is choreographed with cleaning, fresh air, and new growth from the ground towards the sky. Nurture yourself out of hibernation, and go frolic in sunshine (hopefully with people who make you feel as radiant as sunshine). Remember: you are not clingy super glue. You are beautiful glitter glue. Pick any color your heart desires and decorate the world with great vibes and decorum.
If you do suffer from actual spring allergies, you might want to increase your “everything showers” (and it is recommended to take them before bed, so that you are not pollenating your pillow). Try to avoid touching your eyes when outside. The weather app can tell you pollination levels. Most importantly, speak to your doctor about your allergies if they are severe.
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Collage by Laura Weiler
HEALTH BENEFITS OF FRESH AIR
1. Fresh air can provide your body with vitamin d, which in turn benefits your muscles, bones, and even digestion. Furthermore, fresh air positively influences your entire respiratory system.
2. Your mental and emotional health is improved by fresh air. It is believed humans store their grief in the lungs, so breathing in general is beneficial to emotions
3. Fresh air will help you get a better night’s sleep. Sleep is great for your health, and is a huge part of every pillar of wellbeing: emotional, mental, and physical.
Breathing techniques go with fresh air like peanut butter and jelly. There are a plethora of options to choose from (and do not do any of these if you are pregnant):
• 4-7-8 Breathing: First, let out all of your air. Then inhale for 4, hold for 7, and exhale for 8.
• Pursed-lip breathing: Inhale through your nose for two seconds, and out of your mouth (with a pursed mouth like blowing a bubble) for 4 seconds.
• Box Breathing: Exhale for 4, hold for 4, inhale for 4, hold for four (then continue as needed).
• 7-11 Breathing: Breath in for 7 and out for 11. Repeat as needed.
• Lion’s Breath (which sometimes can occur in yoga):
Open your mouth and roar like a lion, whilst sticking out your tongue. It might feel very silly, but sometimes it is nice to let everything out.
• Alternate nostril breathing: Inhale and exhale to start. Using your thumb, close off your right nostril and breath in with the left. Let go of your thumb on the right nostril and close the left nostril with your pinky. Breath out and then in. Repeat the pattern. STOP at any time if you feel dizzy.
ROM-COM WELLNESS SCENES
Beauty opening sequences
• Legally Blonde
• The Devil Wears Prada,
• How Stella Got Her Groove Back
Music-related bath & shower scenes
• Easy A Pocketful of Sunshine,
• Pitch Perfect Titanium,
• Pretty Woman Prince on Walkman
Makeover transformations
• Clueless, Princess
• Diaries,
• She’s All That,
• Miss Congeniality,
• Crazy, Stupid Love,
• Roman Holiday
Food-related comforts
• Aquamarine (bath time with Ben & Jerry’s),
• The Parent Trap (Oreos & peanut butter),
• Breakfast at Tiffany’s (a stroll down fifth avenue with a croissant and a coffee to stare at diamonds)
• It’s Complicated (Lavender ice cream)
Fitness-related moments
• Yoga Forgetting Sarah Marshall, Eat Pray Love,
• Rock Climbing Princess Diaries
• Swimming Anyone but You,
• Biking The Proposal
• Park workouts This is Forty and Bridesmaids
• Miscellaneous Bootcamp Moves Pitch Perfect, She’s the Man, Bend it Like Beckham
Healing Journeys (often travel-related)
• Eat Pray Love (Italy, India, Bali),
• Under the Tuscan Sun (Italy),
• What a Girl Wants (London),
Balancing out the rom-coms with real-life wellness examples, the following is a curated list for more wellness ideas (especially if you want to have an Eat, Pray, Love – esque journey from your couch).
Books:
• A Year of Mystical Thinking: Make Life Feel Magical Again by Emma Howarth
• The Manifesting Wordsearch Book by Eric Saunders
• The Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear to Faith by Gabrielle Bernstein
• Living the Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron
• The Pivot Year by Brianna Wiest
Podcasts:
• The Wellness Process with Elizabeth Endres
• Balanced Black Girl with Les Alfred
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