Sweet Heritage Magazine by Carla Hall Issue 1

THE SELF DISCOVERY ISSUE

YOUR STYLE, YOUR WAY!

A Guide to Unlocking Your Personal Look

FROM THE HEART Nancy Fuller Farmer and Carla Dish on Honest Feedback and Growth

WHAT’S ON YOUR PLATE? Recipes Tailored to Your Personality Type!

MANIFEST YOUR BEST YEAR YET! Affirmations to Inspire and Empower

CARLA HALL

My oatmeal sandwich cookies are popular for a heartfelt reason: they embody my grandmother’s love. They’re also my mom’s favorite cookie.

The appeal lies in their chewy texture, the warmth of spices, and the sweetness of raisins, all sandwiched together with a creamy vanilla buttercream. – Carla

EDITOR IN CHIEF Carla Hall

CREATIVE DIRECTOR Kirsten Bischoff

PHOTOGRAPHY Marvin Joseph

SOCIAL CONTENT & VIDEO PRODUCTION Amanda Rodriguez

CULINARY PRODUCER Ariane Duarte

MAKEUP

Shaune Hayes

STYLING

Ashley Michelle Miller

WRITING & EDITING Carla Hall Kirsten Bischoff

CONTRIBUTORS Ashley Michelle Miller Brian Balthazar Nancy Fuller Farmer Elisa Camahort Page Ruchi Pinninger Terri Trespicio

CONTACT INFO Info@carlahall.com

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Letter from Carla

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Dream Big: Manifest the Life You Desire

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Magical Words: The Transformative Power of Affirmations

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The Power of Community: Manifesting Together

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Feedback: The Secret Ingredient to Success

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What I’m Reading

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Your Unscripted Adventure: Self Discovery Through Storytelling

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Savor the Moment: Curating the Perfect Cocktail Hour

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Unlocking You! Assessments that Bring Eureka! Moments

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Recipes for Your Enneagram Number

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Ask a Chef/Ask a Designer

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A Lifelong Passion: Discovering Myself Through Art

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Finding Your Fabulous: Unlocking Your Style Superpowers

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Carla’s Style Staples

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Unlocking Prosperity: The Role of Discovery in Financial Success

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Pause for the Mena

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Nourishing Myself Through Menopause

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But first....let’s set the mood - Matthew made us a playlist! He curated a 75-minute playlist of atmospheric music, designed to create a peaceful and immersive backdrop for your reading. It wraps up with a single, stunning vocal track—a beautiful and affirming note to close on.

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...Or as we say in the South, Do Drop In! Sweet Heritage Magazine is a true labor of love—something my team and I have poured our hearts into. It’s filled with ideas, stories, and insights that I’ve been privileged to gather, and I’m so excited to share them with you.

In this premiere issue, we’re diving into a topic that’s near and dear to my heart: Self-Discovery. Learning more about myself has always fueled my energy, sharpened my mind, and kept my spirit young. Whether it’s uncovering hidden sides of who I am or connecting with new passions, self-discovery is a journey that brings so much joy. I hope some of the stories and ideas in these pages inspire you to explore new dimensions of yourself, too.

One of my favorite features in this issue is all about manifesting change—something I believe can create real magic in our lives. Harnessing the power of our personal energy isn’t reserved for the “lucky” few. It’s something we can all tap into to move closer to the things we desire most. I hope my thoughts on this spark a little inspiration in you to explore your own positive energy!

Self-discovery also means exploring the many ways we can learn more about ourselves. In these pages, we dive into some of my favorite tools and approaches, like seeking feedback, storytelling, and using insightful assessments that highlight our strengths (and areas that could use a little love). We talk about the power of communities—how joining or building them can lead to deeper connections and a sense of belonging.

You’ll also find a fun chat with my co-judge from Holiday Baking Championship, Nancy Fuller Farmer, where we talk about the secrets to success in baking and in life. Plus, tips for curating the perfect cocktail hour (because isn’t that the best time to swap stories?), and of course—recipes galore!

Thank you for letting me share this journey with you. I hope you’ll find inspiration, joy, and maybe even a little magic in these pages.

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MANIFEST THE LIFE YOU DESIRE he idea of manifesting a dream/goal into reality can sound daunting. What exactly does it mean to T'manifest' something into your life? It often sounds like magic or mystery, something that happens to some people but feels out of reach for others. Happily, I’m here to tell you that manifesting is something that we are all capable of doing. And while it isn’t magic, it can certainly feel magical as things fall into place as you desire.

Our thoughts, intentions, actions, and energy shape our reality by influencing the world around us.

Manifesting is directing your energy towards your goals in a way that opens doors and creates opportunities.

It still sounds a little vague?

Okay - we’re going to walk through some of the ways that I manifest my own dreams into reality, and together we are going to brainstorm ways you can take small steps to add this way of thinking into your own life!

ORIGINS OF MANIFESTING Manifesting draws on the idea that the mind is powerful, and by focusing on specific desires or outcomes,

“If you direct your energy toward what you want, you’re more likely to notice opportunities.”

Carla Hall

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we can bring them into existence. Humans have manifested their goals and dreams throughout history. Practices like prayer and meditation can be seen as forms of manifesting, focusing energy on desires and sending that energy out into the Universe. Books and explorations of ideas like “The Power of Positive Thinking” also hinge on the idea that the Universe reacts to the energy we put into it.

While this can sound mystical, just think about it - if you direct your energy toward what you want, you’re more likely to notice opportunities and take actions that lead to achieving your goals. Right? Your mind becomes attuned to the things that match your desires, like when you want to buy a red car and suddenly you start seeing red cars everywhere.

By consistently focusing on what you want, you “train” yourself to see the paths to get there.

MANIFESTING ISN’T MAGIC—IT’S WORK Let me take you back to when I first started thinking about manifesting.

At the time, I was focused on the little things, like finding a parking space.

I’d say, “Divine order, perfect parking!” and before I knew it, boom— parking spot! Now, it might sound silly, but those small moments taught me something important: manifesting begins with belief. You’ve got to believe in what you’re saying or thinking for it to work. If you’re just going through the motions without believing, it’s not going to happen.

You are never too old to start manifesting wonderful things

How to Actively Manifest Manifesting isn’t just about wishful thinking or hoping things fall into place. It’s about consciously creating your reality through a combination of intention, belief, and action. Here’s a breakdown of how to actively manifest

Set Clear Intentions Be specific about what you want. The Universe responds to clarity, not vagueness.

Write down your desires or visualize them in detail.

Focus not just on what you want, but also why. What will achieving this goal bring into your life? How will it make you feel?

Connecting emotionally to your goals amplifies their pull.

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Be patient. Manifesting doesn’t always happen on your timeline, but trust that everything is unfolding as it should.

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But that’s only the beginning. The real work comes when you start aligning your actions with your desires.

For example, let’s say you are manifesting a new car. Yes, you can think about the car you want and what it will be like to drive it, but manifesting is also figuring out what the steps are that will take you from dreaming to owning.

Ask yourself, "What needs to happen for me to get this car?" Do you need to save money, improve your credit score, or explore financing options?

Break these steps down into manageable actions. You might decide to save a certain amount of money each month or look for additional sources of income. This way, you’re not only visualizing the end goal but actively taking steps toward it.

Next, stay open to opportunities. The car you manifest might not come in the exact way you imagine. Be flexible. Maybe a friend is selling a car at a great price, or you find a financing option you hadn’t considered. The Universe often surprises us with options that align with our goals but arrive in ways we don't expect.

START BY CREATING A PLAN Be patient. Manifesting doesn’t always happen on your timeline, but trust that everything is unfolding as it should. You might not own the car tomorrow, but each step gets you closer to your goal. Stay open to unexpected opportunities—perhaps a bonus at work, a promotion, or even someone offering you a great deal on a car you hadn’t considered. These little moments are often nudges, letting you know that you're heading in the right direction.

By focusing your energy, aligning your thoughts with your actions, and staying open to possibilities, manifesting your new car becomes an achievable goal that you actively work toward—not just a distant dream.

Believe in Your Ability to Achieve It Belief is key in manifesting.

You have to truly believe that what you’re seeking is possible and that you’re worthy of receiving it. If you have doubts or limiting beliefs, it can block the flow of energy toward your goal.

Practice affirmations or meditation to reinforce this belief. Replace negative selftalk with positive, empowering statements.

Regularly imagine yourself living in the reality you want to create. Visualization helps to keep your mind focused and aligned with your desires.

While visualizing, feel the emotions that would come with achieving that goal. How would success, happiness, or fulfillment feel?

HOW I AM MANIFESTING MY ONE-WOMAN SHOW One of the biggest things I’ve manifested in my life is my one-woman show. And let me tell you, it didn’t happen overnight. At first, I kept the idea to myself, rolling it over in my mind and imagining what it might look like.

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Eventually, I started saying it out loud—to the right people, of course. I didn’t go around telling everyone, especially those who might have doubted me. Instead, I spoke with people who understood my love for theater and who could offer advice or feedback that would help me grow.

It’s important to share your dreams with people who will support you. If you don’t have your goal solidified in your mind, someone else’s doubt can derail you. You have to believe in your dream so strongly that no one can shake you. That’s what I did. I began talking to people who were already in theater, and soon enough, I was attracting the right people who could help me take the next steps.

Take Inspired Action Manifesting isn’t passive. You need to take steps toward your goal. This could mean learning new skills, reaching out to people, or making daily choices that align with your intentions.

THE PROCESS —LIKE COOKING A GOOD MEAL Manifesting is not an instant process—it’s like cooking a good meal. Some things you can whip up quickly, like a stir-fry, but others, like baking a cake or smoking meat, take time. My one-woman show was definitely a project Pay attention to signs or that needed time to develop, like something that has to smoke for hours. opportunities that arise. Once For example, I submitted the idea for the show to a team at the Apollo Theater and nothing came of it. At first, it felt like a setback, but I realized that every 'no' can help shape the path to your 'yes.' I realized that submission pushed us to create a formal outline, making the project more tangible and helping us move forward in other ways. Every step, even those that seem like setbacks, contribute to success if you stay open and flexible.

MANIFESTING ISN’T ABOUT PERFECTION One of the biggest challenges people face when they’re trying to manifest something is the fear of failure. And I get it—when you really care about something, it can feel precious, and you become afraid of making mistakes. But here’s what I’ve learned: manifesting isn’t about getting everything right. It’s about staying open to the process and learning along the way. In fact, I’m still in the process of manifesting my show - and that’s part of the reason why I’ve been sharing news of it in interviews and here with you!

Manifesting isn’t about getting everything right. It’s about staying open to the process and learning along the way.

you’re in the mindset of manifesting, you’ll notice things you might have previously overlooked that can help you move closer to your goal.

Trust the Process Trust that things are unfolding as they should, even if you don’t see immediate results. Patience and persistence are crucial in manifesting. Sometimes what we want doesn’t arrive in the form we expect, or on the timeline we imagine.

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I didn't tie my dream of performing to one specific outcome like Broadway. By staying open to different ways the dream could take shape I discovered opportunities I might have otherwise overlooked, such as meeting my co-writers and developing the show at the Olney Theater. I continue to manifest my dreams for that show and find ways to grow it.

STAYING OPEN AND TAKING SMALL STEPS If you’re new to manifesting, here’s a tip: start small. Begin with something you want to add to your life but isn’t essential. That way, you can practice the process without the pressure of needing it to happen.

Whether it’s manifesting happiness, contentment, or even something as simple as a parking space, the key is to keep your energy open.

You also need to visualize the small steps, not just the big dream. If you’re thinking about writing a book, start by visualizing yourself writing short stories or essays. Breaking down the process makes it feel more achievable, and it helps you understand that big dreams take time to grow.

Stay Positive and Grateful: Gratitude amplifies the energy of manifestation.

By appreciating what you already have, you open yourself to more abundance.

It shifts your focus from lack to plenty.

Maintain a positive attitude, even when challenges arise.

A COMMUNITY WILL HELP YOU Every obstacle is a lesson Something I always remind people is that manifesting isn’t something that helps you grow toward you do alone. Yes, you’re manifesting your dream, but you’re also your goals. manifesting the people who will help you along the way. For my onewoman show, I wasn’t just thinking about the performance; I was also manifesting the team who could help me bring it to life. The more I talked about it, the more I attracted the right people—people who were excited to work with me and move the project forward.

You’re never going to find those people unless you put your dream out there. Don’t be afraid to talk about what you want. You might be surprised at how many people are willing to help you.

MANIFESTING IS A JOURNEY Finally, remember this: manifesting isn’t about reaching a specific destination. It’s about the journey. As you grow and change, your dreams might change too. That’s okay! Keep an open mind, stay flexible, and trust that every step you take is leading you toward something amazing—even if it’s not exactly what you expected.

The Universe is always working with you, even when you don’t realize it. So keep moving, keep dreaming, and keep manifesting. I promise you, the results will be worth it.

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Hi there! Yes - YOU! I want you to know something: you have the power to manifest the life you want. I truly believe that.

But I get it—sometimes believing in yourself feels hard.

Here’s what I want you to try: Think one positive thought.

If you can’t, imagine me saying, “I believe in you!”— because I do.

Put an imaginary fence around that thought, like a little garden.

Close your eyes daily, visit it, sprinkle water on it, and let the sun shine.

That energy you’re nurturing? That’s where manifesting starts. If life shakes your confidence, just come back and start fresh.

I believe in this so strongly I’ve created a message just for you. Scan the QR code on the next page, and let me bring this encouragement straight to you.

With love always, Carla

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THE TRANSFORMATIVE POWER OF AFFIRMATIONS When it comes to reaching your goals, affirmations can help you cut through the noise and bring clarity to what you truly want to achieve. They allow you to focus your thinking and direct your energy toward what’s most important.

In “The Artist’s Way”, Julia Cameron offers a brilliant approach to writing affirmations. She suggests starting with a list of positive affirmations, like “I am a strong and gifted writer.”

But here’s where it gets really interesting: as you write these affirmations, those pesky little negative voices or doubts may pop up. If they do, capture those doubts on a separate list. Then use them to create affirmations that directly counter and blast away those negative thoughts.

For example, if your inner critic says, “You’re too lazy and scattered to write,” flip that with an affirmation like, “I’m a strong and gifted writer, and I deserve space in my day to write.” It’s a powerful way to silence self-doubt and manifest your creative goals.

Julia’s process digs deep into this practice, and her book can be an invaluable resource for artists (or really anyone) looking to manifest their dreams.

So, next time you’re facing a challenge, try using affirmations not just to build yourself up, but to dismantle any doubts that stand in your way.

Chat GPT Prompts for Creating Affirmations Need some help writing an affirmation?

ChatGPT can help you!

Try asking: “Help me create an affirmation that acknowledges [your perceived weakness] and turns it into a strength to help me achieve [your goal]?”

One of my favorite affirmations

For example, our Creative Director asked: “Can you help me create an affirmation that turns my [tendency to doubt myself] into confidence to reach my goal of [creating a magazine to share my passions]”

Even if the reason isn't clear in the moment, each twist, turn, and challenge is shaping me into the person I'm meant to become.

This is what she got back: I trust my vision and abilities to create a magazine that authentically shares my passions. Every step I take brings me closer to inspiring others and realizing my dream with confidence and creativity.

I trust that life’s timing is purposeful, and every experience —good or bad—is a step toward a greater understanding, growth, and fulfillment.

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6 Affirmations for a Better 2025

I am discovering new passions every day, and I allow myself the space to explore what truly excites me.

I prioritize joy and make time for the activities that bring me happiness and fulfillment.

My art speaks to others, and it finds the right home with those who value and appreciate it.

I am fully prepared for new opportunities, and I embrace the recognition and promotion I deserve.

I am confident in who I am, and I express my true self freely and authentically.

I am disciplined and focused, and I will reach my savings goal by making smart financial choices.

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THE POWER OF COMMUNITY MANIFESTING TOGETHER

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anifesting goals may feel like an individual pursuit, but your goals are actually more achievable when you are supported within a community. Surrounding yourself with like-minded people can augment your efforts, making it easier to take risks, try new things, and grow through shared experiences and support.

Elisa Camahort Page, co-founder of BlogHer and more recently of a new community for professionals who want to improve the “now of work” called Optionality, is an expert on building thriving communities and explained it to us perfectly: "Building your own squad provides you with both the scaffolding to climb as you reach for what you want, and a soft landing if you occasionally fall. It’s amazing how much further we’ll push ourselves when we know someone will stick by us, pick us up if we fall, and encourage us to try all that good stuff.

In the Optionality community we’re supporting people who want to build a different kind of working life that supports professional goals and personal purpose. That takes some

When I first met Elisa Camahort Page, it was when I was on a panel at a BlogHer conference—a platform she co-founded that changed the game for women creators and entrepreneurs. Elisa is one of those rare people whose purpose radiates clearly: she’s here to make the world a better place by creating environments where we can gather, share, and Elisa Camahort Page achieve aligned goals. & Optionality Co-Founder BlogHer Her talents are boundless. Not only did she help build BlogHer into a juggernaut that transformed women’s media and entrepreneurship, but she also co-authored the impactful book “Road Map for Revolutionaries: Resistance, Activism, and Advocacy for All.” And she hasn’t stopped! Elisa’s latest endeavor, Optionality, is a thriving community of practice for seasoned professionals redefining the rules for meaningful careers. Optionality is an exceptional example of the power of community done right. Elisa and its members champion each other, drawing on a wealth of shared resources.

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experimentation!" After hearing that we had two thoughts: Everyone wants that, right?

How do I sign up and make that happen?

Settle in as we explore how being part of a community can help you manifest your goals and realize your dreams. Whether you’re looking to join a community or start one of your own, we think the insights Elisa shared with us will inspire you to connect with others in more meaningful ways.

CONSIDER COLLECTIVE CARE VS. SELF-CARE Self-care has become a watchword of well-being. But as we connect and convene with others, consider the power of collective care—the idea that we don’t have to carry life’s weight alone. In fact, we’re often stronger together. Collective care allows us to share both progress and rest, ensuring that when one person needs support, another can step in to help.

It’s reciprocity that sustains everyone involved.

Elisa shared a powerful metaphor to illustrate this idea: “In a thriving community, no one person bears the full weight of the load. I interviewed Patrisse Khan-Cullors, one of the founders of Black Lives Matter, and she explained that no singer can hold a note forever, but if everyone in the choir breathes at different times, they can sustain the sound much longer than any one person could.”

"Communities are relational, not transactional. The motivations that drive support are based on the idea of a virtuous circle, not just equal exchange of value" Elisa Camahort Page

LEAD ON YOUR CORE PASSIONS AND SUPPORT OTHERS ON THEIRS Communities are relational, not transactional. The motivations that drive support are based on the idea of a virtuous circle, not just equal exchange of value” Elisa reminds us. That doesn’t mean that you put your goals aside in service of the community.

Instead, consider the community a safe place in which to figure out what matters most to you. Focus on one or two of your goals that will also make a real impact on the community you join. As Elisa wisely put it: "Assign yourself the one or two topics you care about most to really be a leader on."

For example, if you’re a strong writer and you join a knitting group, you might volunteer to write the monthly newsletter or take notes during meetings.

Alternatively, if you join a writing community and also love to bake, you might offer to bring treats for gatherings or lead a discussion on writing about food. Focusing on your strengths allows you to

This is the essence of collective care: supporting one another, stepping in when someone needs a break, and allowing yourself to be supported in turn. As Elisa puts it, “It’s vital for us to continue to grow collective care and community care, so that we all get the chance to rest, without slowing our progress toward a more just society.”

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...to go far, go together...

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pour your energy into areas where you can truly grow, while also recognizing that you don’t need to do it all.

African proverb

LET’S GET REAL: FINDING THE RIGHT COMMUNITY FOR YOU Now that we’ve explored the importance of community, how do you go about finding the right one for you? Whether you’re rediscovering a passion or starting something new— like pottery—here’s how to find a community that fits and how to become an active member: DEFINE YOUR INTERESTS AND GOALS Get clear on what you’re looking for—whether it's developing skills, finding feedback, or connecting with people who share your passion. Having trouble thinking of something you want to connect around? Ask a friend to brainstorm with you.

START LOCAL AND DIGITAL Check out local studios or community centers and explore online platforms like Facebook or Meetup for groups that match your interests.

UNDERSTAND WHAT COMMUNITIES VALUE Show up with respect, curiosity, and a willingness to engage.

Authenticity and contribution are what communities appreciate the most.

PARTICIPATE AND BE CONSISTENT Consistency builds trust. Share your progress, ask questions, and engage regularly with others in the group.

Don’t just show up when you need something, remember the community ethos of reciprocity!

PUT YOUR BEST FOOT FORWARD Pay attention to the community’s culture, listen before diving in, and show gratitude for the learning process.

CONSIDER THE LONG-TERM FIT Not every community will be the perfect fit or be a fit forever, and that’s okay. Keep exploring until you find one that feels like home.

And not all communities are linked to hobbies or passions. There are other communities all around you. There are politically active communities at local levels, volunteering in local government or your HOA thrusts you immediately into your local community! There are work related communities inside many large corporations, there are networking communities around careers (including the career of motherhood).

Communities offer emotional and practical support, allowing you to thrive and allowing you opportunities to develop your own skills in supporting others. "Just as you work to develop your leadership in some areas," Elisa reminds us, “collective care means knowing when to give other community members the space to shine in their own areas of focus and expertise.”

MOVING FORWARD: MANIFESTING THROUGH COLLECTIVE CARE So as you move forward on your path to self-discovery, think about how collective care can enrich your life. Whether it’s finding a community that resonates with your passions or creating a space for others to thrive, collective care ensures that we don’t just survive—but truly thrive —together.

The beauty of a community is in the balance it brings: giving and receiving, leading and following. By manifesting your dreams alongside others, you create a support system where each person contributes to the success of the whole.

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FEEDBACK:

THE SECRET INGREDIENT TO SUCCESS

CARLA HALL & NANCY FULLER FARMER

THE SECRET INGREDIENT TO SUCCESS

eedback is at the heart of growth, whether you're competing on a cooking show or perfecting your craft at home. As Holiday Baking Competition judges, Carla Hall and Nancy Fuller Farmer are tasked with giving level expert feedback to chefs every week.

In this conversation they share insights on what it takes to stay open to tough critiques, how they balance honesty with empathy, and why embracing discomfort is key to getting better. After all, feedback isn’t just about improving a dish—it’s about building resilience and confidence.

Dive into this candid conversation to see how feedback can shape your path to success, both in the kitchen and beyond.

How do you think feedback has shaped your growth as a chef or judge, and why do you believe it is so vital to personal and professional development?

Nancy: Whether you’re a chef or a home cook, or in anything you pursue in the scope of your life, feedback is instrumental in learning any craft.

Carla: Feedback is the secret to getting better. When I was on Top Chef, if you placed at the top or at the bottom of a round, you received feedback from the judges. And as a contestant that is valuable information to take into the next challenge or to take home. But when you were in the middle, you got nothing—no information at all. They have since changed that format, but when I was competing, I would rather be on the bottom and have the opportunity to get judges’ feedback than be in the middle and not understand what did or did not connect.

Whether you are a chef or a home cook, or in anything you pursue in the scope of your life, feedback is instrumental in learning any craft.

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Gaining knowledge was my whole goal in competing. If you process it well it’s also a competitive edge.

Nancy: Its definitely about processing the feedback. The skill of knowing to dig into feedback and figure out how to translate what someone is saying and then determining what to do about it. Does their reaction pertain to the taste or the texture? Are they reacting to a lightness? A heaviness? Is it too sweet or too sour?

Listen to the critique and consider how to connect the reaction to where in your process you could alter things to change the dish. Spend time kind of grasping it and holding onto it and thinking about it and what's it going to do for you? How's it going to help you?

How do you stay open to receiving feedback even when it's tough to hear?

Nancy: If that's a personal question. I'm pretty laid back raising six kids and having a dinner party three times a day I developed a very thick skin. If you don't like my food, either go without or learn to cook! They would wait for me to go to bed and raid the refrigerator.

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Carla: I’ve come to realize that if I feel sensitive about something it actually means that feedback is truly meant for me to hear, and it's something that I really have to work on. If I feel indifferent towards it then typically its not feedback I need to value highly. I check in with myself like that because I realize that I cannot learn from everybody, but there are times when somebody says something and it really goes into my heart. That’s when I recognize this person is the messenger of my lesson. And sometimes it takes me a couple days to work through what that lesson is.

THE SECRET INGREDIENT TO SUCCESS There are times when somebody says something and it really goes into my heart. That’s when I recognize this person is the messenger of my lesson.

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Nancy: That sensitivity is like a North Star for you then, giving you direction.

Carla: Yes, it's giving me direction, but I have to figure out what the direction is. You know what I mean?

I have to figure out - why am I reacting so sensitively to the information? But I think as I get older, it's easier to take because I'm like, okay, I can learn. I really can learn. I mean, it's not like an old dog can't learn.

Nancy: Old dogs can learn new tricks.

Carla: Yes! That.

Nancy: When we give feedback in the show, I closely watch the initial reaction. Obviously if it's positive, there's no issue. But there are so many elements at play on a televised competition show that you don't want to crush them by not considering those elements.

Carla: Yes but the feedback of your craft is not personal and that is important for everyone to remember. We're not talking about your eyes, your nose, or your personality. We are talking about the thing you've made.

It's not personal because you can change the way you make it.

I don’t think viewers understand we spend a lot of time with the contestants on the show. We actually talk to them quite a bit more than what the viewers at home get to see on the screen. Because its also entertainment we'll deliver it in a humorous way, but ultimately we want to give something that's constructive for the baker so that when they come back and compete again they are better.I mean, it's become a joke, but when I don't know what to say initially, I'm like, “oh, that plate sure is pretty”.

But no matter what we are always working to be kind.

Nancy: Oh, yes. We try to make something positive, and I try to be kind like I'll say, “Oh, Honey, this looked great, but that other thing you decided to do took away from the greatness”. So that they understand how it’s the whole of everything they did that has to work together.

If the person's passionate about their career, they'll be thankful for the advice, and if not, they'll whimper about the criticism. But at the end of the day, I'm old school, so I tell it like it is. If I'm honest about a dish and it's

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interpreted as criticism, then that person isn't going to excel. They are listening with a negative interpretation from the start.

Carla: Well, that's it. Yes. And we've seen those people.

THE SECRET INGREDIENT TO SUCCESS

The more you resist the feedback, the longer it's going to take you to get to where you think you want to go.

Carla Hall

Nancy: There's some that you just can't help.

What do you do when someone is obviously not accepting the feedback?

Nancy: They go home.

Carla: Exactly. If there are two dishes from two contestants that are equally bad, and one of those contestants embraces the judges’ critiques and one doesn’t - the one who doesn’t is the easy choice to send home.

We want the people who are growing to stay.

This works everywhere. In my business - on my team - I want people who are proactively trying to grow their skills all the time.

Because I’m trying to grow all of the time.

And at the same time over time I’ve also learned how to temper my feedback as I understand people better and learn how different individuals may need to hear

They have accomplished what they set out to do.

And that's going to create confidence.

Always look for the positive that you've obtained from your experience.

Nancy Fuller Farmer

things. On the Baking shows we're working hard to get to know the contestants and if somebody is not willing to grow, they're gone.

What would you would want to hear from someone who had just received a tough critique?

Carla: Oh, I can tell you right now what I would want to hear is “Thank you for that perspective”. Because what we're asking them to see is either they knew something already and we're confirming it or they didn't know, and we’re teaching.

I would want them to say “I hear what you're saying”. Even if they don't agree they should listen enough to hear what we are saying. Even if they don’t agree.

Photo Courtesy of The Food Network

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that’s all you can give them in terms of a lesson.

There are people who don't agree with what we are saying - but also there are three of us judging each dish and three people coming to the same conclusion are probably not wrong.

What role does embracing discomfort and a growth mindset play in pushing yourself or others to achieve their goals, and how do you encourage this mindset?

Carla: I’m always pushing people to be uncomfortable. When I was on Top Chef, what made it such a valuable experience was the necessity of leaning into being comfortable with the uncomfortable because in being uncomfortable, you'll grow. The more you resist the feedback, the longer it's going to take you to get to where you think you want to go.

I would assume the contestants all feel like this is their dream and you're crushing it. Even if you know that's the message they need to receive.

Carla: But also sometimes Nancy, we say, look, you've done the hard thing by saying yes to this competition. Because it is hard, so they've already done a hard thing. And what we're asking them every time there's a challenge is to do one more hard thing. And sometimes they will go the distance and sometimes they won't. But what we also say to them, because you said yes to this hard thing, even if you leave first or second or whenever, it will transfer into you doing something else hard outside of this.

Nancy: Exactly. Because they have accomplished what they set out to do. And that's going to create confidence. Always look for the positive that you've obtained from your experience. Our contestants have put themselves in a position that they are fearful of, and when they crush it or make it great, then their confidence is going to just escalate. And that's going to give them the incentive, the energy, and the power to reach their dreams.

Nancy: But you're not giving them that dream every time you give feedback. You're only giving them feedback on that dish in that moment. And Photo Courtesy of The Food Network

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FEEDBACK TIPS TO HELP YOU BLOSSOM We spoke with Dr. Rebekah Cardenas, hands down one of the most impactful teachers we’ve ever seen, to get her best tips on mastering the art of feedback. Whether you’re improving your craft, excelling at your job, or sharpening any skill, feedback is a crucial tool for growth. Dr. Cardenas, a renowned coach and educator, has an incredible gift for breaking down concepts into actionable steps, making it easy to immediately apply what you’ve learned.

She outlined for us some strategies for gathering feedback. These practical steps will not only help you blossom in your personal and professional life but also turn feedback into a powerful catalyst for growth.

REBEKAH CARDENAS Organizational Psychologist and Executive Coach

CULTIVATE SUCCESS: GATHER SORT SUCCEED REPEAT

HOW TO GATHER Ask often Asking for feedback often reduces our own defensiveness, helping us build a “habit” of wanting to hear from others so as to grow.

Avoid “stacking the deck” If we only ask people who will tell us what we want to hear we risk reinforcing ineffective behaviors and slowing our own development.

Specific in my ask When seeking feedback from someone new, asking for feedback on something specific creates a “safe lane” for them to offer input until trust is built (i.e. “do you think this has enough salt?” before asking “what do you think of this dish?”).

HOW TO RECEIVE

PUT IT TO WORK

Check your mindset

Feedback is information that has no power until we assign it power. Our job in the moment we receive it is not to accept or reject it - simply to seek to understand.

One thing Nancy and Carla mentioned during their conversation was suggesting contestants accept feedback by saying “I hear what you are saying” which is a great trick to use to remember that you are listening and gathering data part of the process.

Stay calm/minimze defensiveness Writing down what someone says causes the brain to focus on capturing the information putting cognition in the drver seat and emotion in the back seat.

Active listening and asking questions

Asking the feedback giver follow up questions ensures that we understand the information so we are well positioned to change it if we decide to do so (i.e.“I heard you say that the bread pudding was dryer than you sould have liked it. Did it taste overcooked to you or do you think I need to modify the recipe?”).

After some time reflecting, determine one change you would like to make based on the feedback .

Expressing thanks

Showing appreciation for the time taken to give feedback signals to the brain that we are grateful to have received the information (whether we agree with or not or choose to act on it or not).

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YOUR UNSCRIPTED ADVENTURE SELF-DISCOVERY THROUGH STORYTELLING

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here’s a reason why people are drawn to unscripted television—it’s raw, real, and unpredictable, just like life itself. That same sense of curiosity and connection is at the heart of storytelling as a way to engage with others—and ourselves.

Life transitions often bring us moments where selfreflection becomes both necessary and transformative. For many women, especially those who have spent years nurturing others, the idea of focusing on personal growth can feel both exciting and unfamiliar. Women are natural storytellers— whether through shared experiences, teaching moments, or the way they process challenges. But what happens when we turn the lens inward and explore the stories we tell ourselves?

That’s where award-winning writer and speaker Terri Trespicio comes in. As the author of “Unfollow Your Passion”, Terri has spent years helping people rethink their narratives to uncover new possibilities and create lives that feel meaningful and authentic.

Terri Trespicio is an award-winning writer, keynote speaker, and the author of “Unfollow Your Passion: How to Create a Life that Matters to You”—a book The Washington Post named one of the best feel-good reads of the year. Her TEDx talk, “Stop Searching for Elisa Camahort Your Passion,” hasPage inspired millions with over eight Co-Founder BlogHer Optionality million views, and her &writing has appeared in Marie Claire, Oprah Magazine, and Business Insider, among others.

A former editor at Martha Stewart Living and winner of the Baltimore Review’s first-place prize for creative nonfiction, Terri helps individuals stop searching for their passion and start making meaningful things happen.

Even better, Terri has extended a special invitation to our readers to join her New Rules Studio program—a supportive community of storytellers passionate about crafting their narratives.

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Kirsten: How can I learn to tell better stories if I don’t feel like a natural performer?

Terri: Storytelling isn’t about being a polished performer—it’s about connecting, first with yourself and then with others. From the moment we’re born, stories shape our understanding of the world. They’re how we learn, grow, and make sense of our lives.

Storytelling is something we do naturally, even if we don’t think of ourselves as "good" at it. It’s innate.

What gets in the way isn’t that you can’t tell a story; it’s the fear that comes with being vulnerable. The worry about what people might think. The feeling that your story isn’t good enough or that it might expose too much of yourself. But here’s the truth: vulnerability is the core of a great story. It’s the thing that makes your story meaningful and relatable.

Without it, stories lose their impact.

When we value our stories—when we take the time to tell them—we also give ourselves the chance to live life twice. There’s something deeply reflective about storytelling. You live the experience once, and then, when you tell it, you experience it again with a new perspective. Poets and saints have said this is what it means to live deeply. Writers, storytellers, comedians, and even lecturers tap into this power when they share their experiences.

Kirsten: I don’t love the idea of being vulnerable. I can take any story and make it funny—that’s how I cope. But by doing that, I feel like I’m juggling facts to stay in place, never really learning or growing. The laughs feel good, so I keep doing it. How do I motivate myself to explore more honest ways of storytelling that I can actually learn from?

Terri: Let me share an example. You asked how to tell stories in a way that helps you grow, and

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the truth is, it’s hard. Sometimes we joke about things to avoid really seeing them. Humor feels safe —it gets a laugh, and that feels good. But when we only tell the funny version, we’re keeping ourselves at arm’s length from the deeper meaning.

This hit me after a breakup I had last summer. It was short but intense—my first serious relationship with a woman—and when it ended, it was devastating. I was a mess, caught up in the story I kept telling myself about her, about us. My friends would say, "That’s not the story you’re telling yourself—it’s the one you’re stuck in." And they were right. I wasn’t seeing the bigger picture; I was clinging to one version because it was too painful to consider others.

At first, my story about that breakup was long and tangled. I could’ve spent hours unpacking it and still not reached the heart of it. But over time—through thinking, crying, and retelling it—I started to understand it better. Now, months later, I can share that story in a much shorter, more distilled way. It’s not less true, but it’s sharper and clearer because I’ve lived with it and reflected on it.

outgrown but haven’t realized yet. Either way, digging into the why behind your story takes real courage.

When you move past the need to make it funny or palatable, you open up the possibility of growth.

That doesn’t mean you can’t use humor—but it’s worth asking yourself if the humor is adding depth or just keeping you from exploring what’s underneath.

Kirsten: I love the idea of exploring my stories to learn more about myself, and I can think of plenty of stories I want to reflect on. But I don’t want to overshare and make the world my therapist while I’m still working through things. That could be weird, right? Or even backfire terribly?

Terri: That’s such an important point, and I’m glad you brought it up. The distinction between public and private storytelling is crucial. We live in a time when everything feels like it needs to be

Here’s the thing: stories evolve if we let them. The danger comes when we lock ourselves into one version, especially when it’s a story about our lives.

Think about it—how many times do we say things like, "That’s just my luck," or "This always happens to me"? Every time we repeat that story, we reinforce it, like driving a stake deeper into the ground. And yet, stories are rarely static. Even memories aren’t perfect —they shift and change over time based on what we focus on and how we frame them.

The question to ask yourself isn’t just, "What’s my story?" but, "Why do I keep telling myself this version of it? Is it true? What do I get out of believing it’s true?" Sometimes, the story we tell is a survival mechanism. Other times, it’s a story we’ve

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shared in real-time—authenticity, transparency, telling it all as it happens. But that’s not always wise, and it’s certainly not always helpful. There’s this pressure now, especially with social media, to treat stories like fast food. Something happens, and the expectation is to post it, share it, and move on to the next thing. But real storytelling— the kind that fosters growth—requires time, reflection, and intention. Think about how a book is written. It’s not dashed off in the moment; it takes years of crafting, editing, and revisiting. That process allows the story to mature, and the writer, too.

Sharing your story too soon, especially when it’s still raw, can leave you vulnerable in ways you’re not ready for. I lead workshops based on the Gateless method—a practice that changed my life as both a writer and a person. It’s a structured, safe space where you can share stories without fear of judgment or critique. In this method, we reflect on the work itself, not the person behind it.

The idea is to separate the writer from their story.

You’re not your story, and you’re not your work.

This approach allows you to metabolize your story. Writing it down, getting it out of your head and body, is powerful on its

own. Reading it aloud in a safe, supportive space can be transformative. But that doesn’t mean every story needs to be staged for the world.

Sharing something too soon—posting on social media the moment you’re served divorce papers, for example—can feel like a stage dive without a crowd to catch you.

The truth is, the world isn’t always equipped to hold your story, and expecting that can lead to disappointment or even harm. Instead, focus on creating spaces where your story can be processed and shaped first. Share with people or groups you trust. Let the story settle before deciding if it’s something you want to put out there more publicly. Authenticity doesn’t mean oversharing—it means understanding when and how your story is ready to be told.

Kirsten: If storytelling can help me understand who I am and how I got here, what’s the one thing you’d advise me to do to really get the most out of it?

Terri: The most important thing you can do is write your stories down. Writing forces you to slow down and actually discover what you think

I love telling stories, and here I am with the amazing Librarian of Congress, Carla Hayden —really our Chief Storytelling Advocate!

We’re trading stories and, in the first part of this video, I explain how storytelling helped me manifest my show Chasing Flavor.

Watch to see how stories can shape dreams!

- Carla

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and feel. We often believe we already know our stories, but the truth is, you don’t fully know them until you start putting them into words.

When you sit down to write, don’t aim for a polished, perfect narrative or even to “learn” something right away. Instead, approach it with curiosity. Let the story unfold as you write it. For example, in my workshops, I give prompts—not to lead people to a specific answer, but to help them drop into a moment or memory. A great prompt might be something like, “Write about a time you realized you knew something no one else did.” That moment could be big or small, but the act of revisiting it unlocks layers of meaning you might not have recognized before.

One of my favorite things about writing is how often it surprises you. You might start with an idea of what you want to write about, but as you go, the story takes on a life of its own. You discover things you didn’t know you were carrying—details, emotions, even realizations about yourself. And you don’t have to set aside hours for this. Some of the most powerful stories come from just five or ten minutes of focused writing. Set a timer, start with a single word or moment, and see where it takes you.

That’s where the real discovery happens. You write with one eye open, letting the words flow, and then come back to them later as if you’re reading someone else’s story. That’s when you meet yourself halfway and realize, “Wow, I didn’t know I thought that.”

So, the advice is simple: write without an agenda. Set a timer, pick a moment, and let the story come to you.

Trust that your curiosity and honesty will lead to the discoveries you’re looking for.

Kirsten: You make storytelling sound like an adventure. I don’t know whether to be excited or scared.

Terri: Both excitement and fear are part of the adventure, and honestly, that’s the beauty of it. The best way to dive into storytelling as self-discovery

Telling stories about both good AND bad experiences helps me understand lessons I was meant to learn Carla Hall

What’s key is to let go of control. Don’t try to map out the discovery or force it to mean something profound. Just write what happened, what you felt, and let it sit. Later, when you revisit it, you’ll start to see patterns, connections, and insights emerge.

And here’s the magic: when you write your story, you become both the storyteller and the reader.

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is to approach it with curiosity, not control.

Don’t sit down with the intention of solving your life or writing your magnum opus—just start small, with prompts that open the door to exploration.

Think of prompts like: “Write about a moment when you realized something no one else knew.”

“What’s a time when you felt everything was moving too fast?”

roles. No one knows what you’re going to do next—not even you—and that’s the adventure.

Lean into the breezy, unscripted feeling. Let go of needing to control or predict the outcome. That’s what makes storytelling—and life at this stage—so exciting.

You don’t know the ending, and that’s exactly what makes it worth telling.

5 STEPS TO REFLECT AND LEARN FROM YOUR STORIES START WITH CURIOSITY

“Describe a small, everyday interaction that stuck with you.”

These are starting points, not destinations.

The goal isn’t to force a lesson or a discovery; it’s to let the story unfold and surprise you.

Write for five minutes, set a timer, and let whatever comes up spill onto the page. You don’t need a plan or a point—just the willingness to explore.

Treat storytelling as an adventure. Skip the lessons and focus on curiosity. Use prompts like: “Write about a time you realized something no one else knew.”

“What’s a time when life felt like it was moving too fast?”

WRITE FREELY Spend 5–10 minutes writing without overthinking. Let your thoughts flow naturally to capture raw feelings and ideas.

This stage of life, especially after 40, is a blank page, and that’s what makes it so powerful. So much of our younger years are scripted by society’s expectations—caregiving roles, career milestones, or the constant push to “be” something. After 40, those roles start to shift or fall away, and that can feel terrifying.

But it’s also liberating.

The truth is, the best stuff usually happens after 40. It’s the time when you stop living by someone else’s script and start writing your own. Society tells women they’re “done” after the big fertility milestones, but that’s nonsense. This is the unscripted part of life, where you get to explore, create, and discover without the constraints of those old

STEP AWAY AND REVISIT After a break, read your story as if it’s someone else’s. Look for emotions, patterns, and themes.

Reflect with Questions Ask: Why do I tell this version?

Is it true or shaped by a narrative?

What do I gain from it?

CHOOSE WHAT’S NEXT Decide if the story is for private reflection, sharing, or further crafting. Storytelling is as much for you as it is for others.

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CURATING THE PERFECT COCKTAIL HOUR

Let me introduce you to one of the warmest, funniest people I know: Brian Balthazar.

Brian isn’t just an incredible host—he’s a true artist when it comes to creating moments that matter, whether it’s curating a beautiful space or setting the perfect tone for an evening. As the creative force behind many HGTV and Food Network shows, including co-hosting Human Vs

BRIAN BALTHAZAR

How do you see the tradition of a cocktail or mocktail hour as an opportunity for self-discovery?

Brian: When I was a kid I loved making ‘potions.’ Truth be told, it was me dumping a lot of things from the medicine cabinet into the sink and seeing what happened.

Hamster and HGTV House Party, Brian brings his passion for home and storytelling to everything he does. I’ve stayed at his home countless times, and every visit is unforgettable—filled with laughter, creativity, and some truly zany videos (see below) that we can’t stop making together!

Not only was this incredibly wasteful, it’s proof I’m from the generation of kids that were set loose to make themselves busy for hours without much supervision.

Me and my friends either had parents that either really trusted us, or just needed a little peace and quiet, so they blindly hoped that we wouldn’t burn the house down or ride our bikes into traffic!

Brian and Dennis St. Germain recently launched home design site Pop Goes the Home and here he shares his expertise crafting a reflective cocktail (or mocktail) hour to wind down your day, complete with his recipe for the wintry drink Serenity Splash. Trust me, you’ll want to try it! - Carla

Today my ‘potions’ are of the beverage variety. What I love about experimenting with drinks is that it feels low-risk. Trying a new recipe in the kitchen can be intimidating— because it takes a while, and we’re not sure we’re going to like it because of a few ingredients we’ve never tried. But drinks? They’re quick, inexpensive, and it’s fun to share the results with friends. Some of my best conversations have happened with a glass in front of me!

What are some simple ways people can integrate this into their routine?

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Hey, we can’t always be meditating! Sometimes, you can find your serenity in the little moments when you treat yourself to something delicious!

Brian Balthazar

I enjoy trying cocktails at bars or restaurants and then recreating them with friends. We’ll gather the ingredients, make our own versions, and do a little taste test. There’s something so fun about the ‘taste test’ (Didn’t you do that as a kid? I did taste tests all the time!) I’ve found myself pleasantly surprised by interesting drink combinations and I think I’ve really developed my palate along the way.

What tips would you offer for curating a home environment that encourages slowing down and creating these moments of connection?

Even though I work in TV, I’ll say it: No TV in the room! One of my favorite spaces at home is a room with four chairs arranged in a circle, surrounded by books. We recently added a bar, but it’s simple— nothing over the top. And it’s not just about cocktails; a cozy chair by the window with a coffee (another drink I love experimenting with!) works just as well.

One thing I love doing is printing a small drink menu ahead of time. I’ll choose two or three signature drinks—usually with one or two unique flavors—and give them clever names that connect to my guests.

This introduces people to new flavors without overwhelming them and keeps things streamlined.

Without a plan, you can end up playing bartender all night, mixing endless drinks to suit everyone’s preferences, and missing out on socializing.

Another thing I love using at my parties is a product I created: NapChat Napkins. These cocktail napkins feature thought-provoking questions on both sides— some fun, some deeper. They’re an easy way to spark conversation without forcing anyone to lead an icebreaker.

When I hand someone a drink, they get a napkin with it, and suddenly the conversations just flow naturally.

As I’ve grown older, I’ve realized how important it is to connect what we eat and drink with the environment we’re in. Have a spot where you can just sloooowwwww down and experience the flavor!

How can someone design their space to be conducive to a cocktail/mocktail hour?

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I give these as gifts, sell them on my site, and use them at every gathering. Creating them was a fun process, and regardless of their success, I’ve loved the learning experience, and I’m all about taking the chance!

When crafting a signature cocktail or mocktail for this reflective moment, what should someone consider in terms of ingredients, presentation, and personal style?

I like keeping things simple with a unique twist on classic cocktails. For example, with a bourbon and ginger ale, I might swap in maple syrup for simple syrup. Or, I’ll add pear nectar to a standard gin and tonic. The key is not to overcomplicate things—this way, if guests want the traditional version, it’s easy to pivot without starting from scratch.

Presentation also makes a big difference. I love using simple, beautiful garnishes like rosemary sprigs, orange peels, cucumber spirals, or apple fans. These touches are easy to make but look impressive. I even have a video on my site showing how to create some of these garnishes.

How does your approach to entertaining tie into self-expression and self-discovery?

I always say, “I’m not the life of the party—I’m the life of the dinner party.” What I mean is that while I can host a big party with 40 people and make sure everyone has a great time, I’d much rather have four to six guests over for drinks or dinner. Smaller gatherings allow for deeper conversations, and I leave feeling like I’ve truly connected with everyone.

Big parties can be fun, but you’re lucky if you get five minutes with each guest. For me, meaningful moments happen in smaller groups, where I walk away knowing my friends in a more profound way.

BRIAN ON THE TODAY SHOW WITH HODA AND JENNA

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Serenity Splash Brian Balthazar It’s a new year, and whether or not you decide to lean into the “dry January” trend, still like a good cocktail, or prefer the spirit free route year-round, it’s a good time to focus on ingredients that restore, replenish and refresh.

That’s why I like to create mixes that people can enjoy just as much with or without the liquor. And don’t forget the garnish! A little bit of extra pop on the top of a glass makes you and your guests feel like they’re enjoying something special.

For this new “spa” take on a Cherry Limeade, I turned to the growing number of Cucumber juice blends you can find in the grocery store. All of them tend to combine cucumber, apple and lemon, and from there, they vary. The only rule for this is to make your own rules when you choose the cucumber juice! Follow your gut and your gut will thank you!

This restorative blend has a wealth of benefits! Tart cherry juice is high in Vitamin C and Potassium, and anthocyanins which are great for inflammation. If you’ve ever had gout, your doctor may have advised you to boost your intake of Cherry juice! Cucumbers are high in Vitamins K, A, C, as well as magnesium and fiber. Ginger ale, particularly if you find a brand that uses real ginger, is great for digestion.

So where does the “serenity” come in? From knowing you’re treating yourself and your body to a drink that is rich in vitamins AND you’re taking a few minutes to sit down, and recharge! Hey, we can’t always be meditating! Sometimes, you can find your serenity in the little moments when you treat yourself to something delicious!

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Serenity Splash Brian Balthazar

INGREDIENTS 3 oz tart cherry juice - Sweet cherries will do, but Tart cherry juice tends to have slightly better health benefits, and most don’t add the extra sugar 2 oz cucumber juice blend - I found mine at Whole Foods, but check your grocery store’s produce coolers for their offerings 3 oz ginger ale - Preferably one that uses real ginger. (Keep extra ginger ale on hand if you wish to cut down on the tartness of the cherries!)

Juice of 1 lime. (About 1 oz) COCKTAIL ALTERNATIVE to spike this drink, use 1.5 ounces of ginger ale instead of 3 and add 1.5 ounces of vodka or gin FOR THE GARNISH 1 sprig of rosemary (5 or 6 inches long if possible!)

DIRECTIONS

1 English cucumber

Fill a 12 oz glass with ice.

Add all the liquid ingredients directly into the glass (I prefer not to use a shaker, to avoid depleting the carbonation of the ginger ale!) If you have extra room in your glass, top it off with the ginger ale!

Stir gently to blend.

FOR THE GARNISH: Take a spring of rosemary and gently remove the bottom needles, leaving a couple of inches of needles left at the top, and a bare sprig on the bottom portion.

Using a vegetable peeler, take your English cucumber and slowly peel across it lengthways. The first peel will be mostly skin, so discard that and peel one or two times until you have a long, thin slice of cucumber. Gently overlap the cucumber into a repeated “S” curly shape and pierce with the rosemary sprig’s bare end, pulling until it through reaches the needles, as seen in the photo.

This make take a practice run, but it’s ultimately very simple and packs a beautiful visual punch! If you don’t have a sprig of rosemary, use a thin cocktail skewer.

For group parties, this recipe translates well into a punch or pitcher!

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Caraway Cheese Crisps Carla Hall

When it comes to finding little moments of peace and indulgence, I believe it’s all about balance— restoring, replenishing, and yes, enjoying! That’s why I’ve paired these crunchy, savory Caraway Cheese Crisps with Brian’s restorative “spa” Cherry Limeade Mocktail. The tart cherries and cucumber juice in Brian’s mocktail bring a burst of freshness, while the crisp, nutty bites of Gruyere cheese, caraway, and sesame seeds provide the kind of satisfying crunch that makes you want to savor every sip and nibble.

Caraway Cheese Crisps Serves 8-10 1 8oz block Gruyere (or other hard cheese) grated 2 teaspoons caraway seeds ½ teaspoon black pepper 3 tablespoons slivered Almonds 3 teaspoons Sesame seeds Preheat oven to 350℉.

Prepare a sheet pan with parchment paper.

In a medium size bowl mix all ingredients together. Scoop tablespoon size mounds leaving ½ inch space between each.

Bake for about 5-8 minutes, or until the cheese is melted, bubbly and golden brown.

Be sure not to over bake.

Remove from the oven and let the cheese “crackers” cool until ready to handle.

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Unlocking You Assessments that bring Eureka! Moments There’s so much I want to learn and experience in the world—but at the top of my list is learning all I can about myself. Every step in life is a part of our journey, and as we grow, we change. So, discovering different ways of assessing my growth and understanding who I am is like catnip to me!

Back in the day, I’d grab a Cosmo magazine and flip straight to the quizzes: “What’s Your Love Language?” or “What’s Your Flirting Style?” I couldn’t resist! Over the years, that curiosity has turned into a deeper journey of self-discovery, and if there’s a tool promising insight, I’m all over it. And that’s the kind of tool assessments are.

You’ve probably heard of the big ones, like MyersBriggs, and, let’s be real, even astrology apps like CoStar (a Team Carla fave!) could count as personality assessments in their own right. But two of my personal favorites are the Enneagram Type System and YouScience.

Both have given me valuable insights into how I move through the world, what drives me, and how I can grow. Whether it’s understanding my motivations through the Enneagram or discovering my hidden talents with YouScience, these tools have been gamechangers for me—and they might just be for you, too!

Discovering My Superpowers: YouScience Over a year ago, Alex Ellison and Betsy Wills asked me to take the YouScience assessment and be part of the journey while they wrote their new book, Your Hidden Genius.

If you know me, you know I’ve done it all: accounting, modeling, catering, TV, cookbooks, judging, and even quilting as a hobby. For years, I thought maybe I was “all over the place,” but YouScience helped me see the truth—my variety isn’t a distraction; it’s a superpower.

My brain thrives on creativity, connection, and exploration, and now I see all those twists and turns as part of my story.

One of my favorite discoveries was my “Idea Rate.”

My brain is a nonstop idea generator (which explains all those notebooks I need to keep track of them!). I also learned about my Spatial Visualization skills, which fuel my love for food styling, quilting, and crafting. These aren’t just hobbies—they’re how I express my creativity and solve problems.

The assessment didn’t stop at strengths; it highlighted challenges, too. Repetitive tasks? Not my thing. But knowing that has helped me delegate, recharge, and focus on what energizes me.

When you buy the book, you’ll get to take the YouScience assessment for FREE. Your life is your recipe—mix it up and make something amazing!

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UNLOCKING YOU

Mapping the Motivations That Shape Your Journey: Enneagram Another assessment I love (and maybe you will too!) is the Enneagram. Unlike the YouScience assessment, which focuses on skills and abilities, the Enneagram dives into personality —the motivations, fears, and patterns that drive how we see the world and interact with it. It’s based on nine personality types, shaped by both temperament and early experiences, and offers insights into why we think, feel, and act the way we do.

ENNEAGRAM TYPE 7 Spontaneous, versatile, always eager for new experiences, but sometimes a little scattered!

By around age four or five, we settle into our dominant type, which becomes a sort of lens through which we view life. What’s fascinating about the Enneagram is how it reveals both your strengths and challenges, giving you a deeper understanding of yourself and others.

Now, here’s where it gets personal: My core type is 7—The Enthusiast. And let me tell you, it explains a lot!

Type 7s are optimistic, adventurous, and endlessly curious. We’re energized by variety, excitement, and possibilities—whether it’s experimenting in the kitchen, tackling new projects, or finding creative ways to blend traditional Southern flavors with modern twists.

But wait—there’s more!

I have an 8 wing, The Challenger, which adds confidence, assertiveness, and a little extra strength to my 7 core. While 7s can sometimes shy away from challenges, my 8 wing keeps me grounded and determined, whether I’m perfecting a recipe, leading a team, or deciding to write (yet another) cookbook. It’s this mix of joy and grit that lets me bounce back from setbacks, tackle big projects, and, yes, even take a tumble on stage with style!

Learning about my Enneagram type

has helped me understand myself better, build a wellrounded team, and appreciate the unique ways I show up in the world.

And because we love having a little fun around here, we created recipes inspired by all nine Enneagram types!

Where do you fall? You can take the Enneagram test at the link to the right (it’s $20), and I can’t wait to hear your type!

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CARLA HALL’S

RECIPES FOR YOUR ENNEAGRAM NUMBER

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FLAKY BUTTERMILK BISCUITS

TYPE 1 THE REFORMER/PERFECTIONIST Type Ones seek perfection and structure, often striving for balance in everything they do.

Flaky Buttermilk Biscuits are the perfect match for their love of simplicity and precision—each layer carefully crafted to achieve the ideal bite.

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FLAKY BUTTERMILK BISCUITS Makes 24 2 1/2 cups / 315g King Arthur (or unbleached) all-purpose flour, plus more for shaping the dough 1 tablespoon baking powder 1 1/2 teaspoons salt 1/2 teaspoon baking soda

2 tablespoons vegetable shortening 8 tablespoons / 1 stick / 113g VERY cold unsalted butter 1 1/4 cups / 284g cold full fat buttermilk (or substitute a mix of 3/4 cup whole milk and 1/2 cup full fat sour cream)

1. Line a half-sheet pan with parchment paper and spray lightly with pan spray.

2. In a large bowl, whisk together the flour, baking powder, salt and baking soda. Add the shortening and use your fingertips to pinch it into the flour mixture completely.

3. Using a box grater, grate the cold butter into the flour mixture and toss until all of the pieces are coated. Pinch the butter into the flour, about 30 seconds, leaving bits of butter.

4. Prepare work surface: Lightly coat your work surface with nonstick cooking spray, then dusting with flour. (The spray keeps the flour in place.) Add the buttermilk to the flour mixture. Mix with a stiff spatula until the dough forms a shaggy mass and there are no dry bits of flour left. The dough should be slightly sticky.

5. Transfer dough to the prepared work surface. Lightly coat your hands and dough with flour and gently pat the dough with the pads of your hands (DO NOT USE A ROLLING PIN) to form it into a flat rectangle, 1/2“ thick. Fold the rectangle into thirds, like a letter. Pat out again and repeat, turning the open ends in first. Repeat one last time, and pat the rectangle into 3/4” thickness. With a floured 2-inch biscuit cutter, cut out dough rounds. Flip the rounds over so that the pinched edge/smooth sides that were against the work surface face up and place on the prepared pan, 1inch apart. Stack the scraps, press and cut again. Refrigerate until cold, about 15 minutes.

6. Preheat oven to 400° F. Bake until the tops are golden brown and crisp, about 11 minutes until golden brown. Let cool 5 minutes before serving hot.

NOTE: The type of flour matters!

Making the perfect fluffy biscuit is all about mastering the little tips and tricks, and I share them all in this video I did with Food Network! From handling the dough to achieving that irresistible fluffiness, this stepby-step guide is here to help you bake biscuits like a pro.

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CHICKEN POT PIE

TYPE 2 THE HELPER/GIVER Type Twos are generous, nurturing souls who thrive on making others feel cared for and appreciated.

Chicken Pot Pie, with its warm, comforting layers, reflects their desire to nourish both the body and the heart.

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Recipes PIE CRUST Flaky Butter Crust 1 large egg 1 teaspoon water FILLING 3 tablespoons canola or other neutral oil 4 medium yellow onions, diced 1 pound carrots, cut in half lengthwise then into 1/2-inch-thick half-moons 6 celery ribs, cut in half lengthwise then into 1/2inch-thick slices at an angle 6 fresh sage leaves 4 sprigs fresh thyme 2 sprigs fresh rosemary

CHICKEN POT PIE

2 fresh or dried bay leaves Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper 2 quarts unsalted chicken broth 2 pounds chicken thighs (bone-in) 4 tablespoons (1/2 stick) unsalted butter 3/4 cup all-purpose flour 1/4 cup heavy cream 1 pound button mushrooms, cleaned & quartered One 10-ounce package frozen baby peas (2 cups)

MAKE THE PIE CRUST (see recipe on next page) Divide the dough into 8 pieces, flatten each piece into a disk, and wrap each tightly in plastic wrap.

Chill for 30 minutes.

Place one oven rack near the top of the oven and one near the bottom. Preheat the oven to 400F. Roll each disk into 1/8-inch-thick round. Transfer to parchment paper–lined half sheet pans. In a small bowl, beat the egg with the water. Brush the egg wash over all the dough rounds.

Bake until golden, about 20 minutes, switching the positions of the pans halfway through baking.

Transfer the pans to wire racks and let cool completely.

MAKE THE FILLING Place the chicken thighs on a plate. Season both sides with salt and pepper and set aside.

In an extra large Dutch oven or a stock pot, add the onions, carrots, celery, sage, thyme, rosemary, and bay leaves. Season with salt and pepper, then add the chicken stock and bring to a boil.

Add the chicken pieces to the pot; return to a boil, then lower to heat to maintain a bare simmer.

Cover and cook until the chicken is just cooked through, about 30 minutes. Begin checking the chicken after 15 minutes; pull pieces out and transfer to a large platter as they’re finished.

SAUTÉ THE MUSHROOMS While the chicken is cooking, cook the mushrooms. Heat a stainless steel pan to high heat. Add the mushrooms in a single layer to the dry pan and cook until they release liquid and start to brown.

Stir the mushrooms to cook on the other side. Once browned, add 1 tablespoon of oil and season with salt. Continue to cook until the mushrooms are cooked through and no longer spongy. Set aside.

FINISH THE FILLING Strain the stock through a sieve, reserving the vegetables and stock separately, but removing and discarding the herbs. Keep the broth hot.

When the chicken is cool enough to handle, remove and discard the skin and bones and pull the meat into bite-size pieces.

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CHICKEN POT PIE In a very large saucepan, melt the butter over medium-low heat. Whisk in the flour until smooth.

Whisk in the hot stock and bring to a boil, whisking occasionally. Continue cooking until the sauce has the consistency of heavy cream, then stir in the heavy cream. Bring to a boil again, then stir in the chicken pieces and vegetables and mushrooms until well coated. When the filling is hot, stir in the peas. Season to taste with salt and pepper, if necessary.

PUT IT ALL TOGETHER Break each pastry round to form two half-moons and place one in the bottom of each serving dish.

Divide the chicken filling among the dishes and top with the other half of the pastry. Serve immediately.

FLAKY BUTTER CRUST Makes two 9-inch crusts 1 teaspoon table salt 1/3 cup water 1/2 pound (2 sticks) cold unsalted butter, grated on a box grater with largest holes 2 1/4 cups all-purpose flour, plus more for rolling In a small bowl, dissolve the salt in the water. Refrigerate until very cold, about 30 minutes. During that time, refrigerate your butter and paddle, too.

In the bowl, combine the cold butter and flour. With your hands, toss the butter in the flour until each cube is lightly coated.

With the chilled paddle, beat the flour-butter mixture on low speed to just break up the butter, about 30 seconds. Add the water mixture all at once and raise the speed to medium-low. Beat just until the dough comes together in big chunks, then immediately turn off the mixer.

Divide the dough into 8 equal portions. Follow the instructions for the pot pie crust above to finish.

I teamed up with Food Network to show you how to make the perfect buttery pie crust! If seeing the process step-by-step and learning all my tips helps you feel more confident in the kitchen, this video is for you. Let’s get baking!

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SAVORY OAT POWER BOWL

TYPE 3 THE ACHIEVER Type Threes are driven and success-oriented, always looking for ways to maximize their potential.

The Savory OAT Power Bowl, packed with nutrients and efficiency, fuels their busy lives while keeping them on top of their game.

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SAVORY OAT POWER BOWL

Serves 4 2 cups water 1 cup oat milk 2 fresh or dried bay leaves 1 cup old-fashioned (rolled) oats 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon orange zest 1 teaspoon lemon zest 1 teaspoon fresh ginger, peeled and minced

2 tablespoons canola, or other neutral, oil Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper 8 ounces mushrooms, chopped 1 cup frozen chopped spinach (thawed and drained) 1 teaspoon garlic powder 1/4 cup pecans, toasted and chopped 2 tablespoons parmesan, grated 2 sprigs fresh thyme

In a large saucepan, combine water, oat milk, salt and bay leaves. Bring to a rolling boil. Add the oats and reduce the heat to maintain a steady simmer. Simmer, stirring occasionally, until just tender, about 5 minutes; almost all the liquid will be absorbed by the oats. Drain through a sieve set over a large bowl. Discard the bay leaf.

Add the orange zest, lemon zest and ginger to the warm oats. Mix together. Adjust seasoning if needed. Reserve.

In a medium saucepan over medium heat the oil. Add the mushrooms and thyme. Cook for 3 minutes or until all liquid from the mushrooms has evaporated. Add the spinach. Cook for another 2 minutes. Season with salt, pepper and garlic powder. Let cool. Discard thyme stems.

Build the bowls. In the bottom of a 8 oz ramekin or mason jar add ½ cup oats. Add a layer of mushroom and spinach mixture. Top with parmesan.

To really power this up, add prepared eggs your favorite way.

MAKE IT AHEAD LIKE CARLA: You can make these jars up to 3 days ahead of time, leaving out the egg.

When ready to serve, microwave oat jar for 1 minute. Dump into a bowl. Prepare eggs your favorite way and top on the oats.

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CHOCOLATE CHAI SANDWICH COOKIES

TYPE 4 THE INDIVIDUALIST/ROMANTIC Type Fours are creative and emotionally expressive, always seeking to bring a unique touch to everything they do.

Chocolate Chai Sandwich Cookies, with their bold flavors and delicate presentation, perfectly match their flair for originality and passion.

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CHOCOLATE CHAI SANDWICH COOKIES Makes about 2 dozen 1 3/4” cookies CHOCOLATE SHORTBREAD 2 cups all purpose flour, thoughtfully measured* 2 tablespoons cocoa ½ teaspoon cinnamon ½ teaspoon salt ½ cup granulated sugar 6 oz butter (1½ sticks), slightly softened 1½ teaspoons vanilla extract

CHAI INFUSED CHOCOLATE GANACHE 1 pint heavy cream 3 chai flavored tea bag sachets 2 cups dark chocolate, chopped Pinch salt

Preheat the oven to 325°.

PREPARE COOKIES Combine flour, cinnamon and salt in a small bowl.

In a medium bowl beat butter and sugar with an electric mixer until creamed well, about 2 minutes. Add vanilla extract.

With the mixer on low, gradually add the flour mixture. Mix until combined. Wrap and chill dough for at least 30 minutes.

Roll dough out between two pieces of plastic wrap (or parchment paper) to 1/8” thick. (Tip: If dough gets too warm, pick the whole thing up and put it in the fridge.) Cut the cookies out using a 1¾” round cutter or a cutter of your choice. Place cookies 1 inch apart on an ungreased cookie sheet. Stack and reroll scraps.

Bake for 15 to 20 minutes, until cookies are slightly golden around the edges, not brown. Let stand for two minutes. Place on a rack to cool completely.

PREPARE GANACHE In a small pot, bring cream just to a boil. Add chai sachets and reduce heat to low. Allow tea to steep in cream for 5 minutes. Discard sachets. Place chocolate in a stainless bowl, then pour warm chai infused cream over the chocolate. Stir until the chocolate melts completely. Add a pinch of salt. Let cool until spreadable.

Putting it all together: Line cookies up in pairs with the bottoms top-side down. Spoon 1-2 teaspoons of chocolate chai ganache on the bottom of each pair. Place the tops on and squeeze gently (being careful not to break the cookie). Set aside until the ganache firms up completely, about 30 minutes.

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HOT FRIED CHICKEN

TYPE 5 THE INVESTIGATOR Type Fives are thoughtful and curious, always eager to learn and perfect niche skills.

Hot Fried Chicken, with its precise seasoning and frying techniques, appeals to their love of diving deep into complex processes and mastering them to perfection.

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4 Servings BRINE 2 quarts water ½ cup hot sauce ½ cup kosher salt ½ cup sugar 4 boneless chicken breasts, pounded 1/2” thick

HOT FRIED CHICKEN HONEY MUSTARD 1 cup mayonnaise 2 tablespoons honey ¼ cup yellow mustard Pinch kosher salt

CHICKEN 2 cups All Purpose flour ½ teaspoon salt ½ teaspoon black pepper BRINE CHICKEN Whisk water, hot sauce, salt and sugar in a bowl until salt and sugar dissolve. Add chicken and refrigerate for at least 4 hours.

FRY CHICKEN Pour brine off chicken and pat very dry. Combine flour with ½ teaspoon salt and black pepper.

Dredge chicken in flour. Place chicken on the rack until ready to fry. Heat oil to 375 degrees and cook chicken to an internal temp of 160. Serve on buttermilk biscuits with dill pickles.

HONEY MUSTARD Makes about 1¼ cups Combine all ingredients and mix until all ingredients are incorporated.

This one’s an oldie but a goodie—thank you, Tasting Table, for keeping it alive! In this video, I show you how I make my hot fried chicken. And if you’ve seen my Library of Congress video, you know this recipe is my love letter and tribute to Prince’s Hot Fried Chicken—the family who started it all!

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TOMATO SWEET POTATO BISQUE & GRILLED CHEESE CROUTONS

TYPE 6 THE LOYALIST Type Sixes are dependable and security-focused, often seeking comfort in familiar routines.

Tomato Sweet Potato Bisque with Grilled Cheese Croutons offers the warmth and reliability they crave, combining classic flavors with a cozy twist.

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TOMATO SWEET POTATO BISQUE & GRILLED CHEESE CROUTONS 4 Servings TOMATO SWEET POTATO BISQUE 1 medium sweet potato 1 tablespoon olive oil 2 medium carrots, roughly chopped 1 rib celery, roughly chopped 1 sweet onion, roughly chopped 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt, plus more as needed 4 cloves garlic, peeled and chopped 2 sprigs fresh thyme 1 bay leaf One 14.5-ounce can fire-roasted diced tomatoes 1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper 4 cups unsalted vegetable broth, or more as needed 1/4 cup heavy cream Freshly ground black pepper Micro basil, for garnish

KALE PESTO GRILLED CHEESE CROUTONS 1 cup packed fresh basil 1 cup packed fresh kale or rape greens 2 cloves garlic, roughly chopped 1/4 cup pine nuts, toasted 1/4 cup freshly grated Parmigiano-Reggiano 1 teaspoon lemon zest Pinch kosher salt, plus more as needed 1/4 cup extra-virgin olive oil Eight 1/2-inch slices bread, cut from a loaf of pain de mie 4 slices sharp or extra-sharp aged Cheddar, grated 3 tablespoons unsalted butter, softened 3 tablespoons mayonnaise

FOR THE BISQUE Preheat the oven to 425 degrees F. Place the sweet potato on a baking sheet and bake until soft, 35 to 40 minutes. Allow to cool, then peel.

Meanwhile, heat a large deep skillet over medium-high heat. Add the olive oil and heat just until hot. Add the carrots, celery, onion and salt. Cook, stirring occasionally, until the onions just turn translucent, about 5 minutes. Add the garlic, thyme and bay leaf and cook, stirring occasionally, until the vegetables are nice and brown, 5 to 7 minutes.

Stir in the tomatoes with their juices and cayenne, then stir in the broth. Bring to a boil, then reduce the heat to maintain a steady simmer until the carrots are tender, about 15 minutes.

Remove and discard the thyme sprigs and bay leaf. Add the roasted sweet potato.

Using a blender, puree the soup until silky smooth. Return the soup to the skillet and heat on low.

Stir in the cream. For a thinner soup, stir in more broth. Season to taste and serve hot with the micro basil and Croutons.

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TOMATO SWEET POTATO BISQUE & GRILLED CHEESE CROUTONS KALE PESTO GRILLED CHEESE CROUTONS To the bowl of a food processor, add the kale, basil, garlic, pine nuts, Parmesan, lemon zest and salt. Pulse until the mixture forms a chunky paste, scraping down the sides and bottom of the bowl occasionally. With the machine running, add the olive oil in a steady stream. Keep processing until the desired consistency is reached, pulsing less for a coarser pesto and more for a smooth one.

Season to taste.

To make the sandwiches: Spread some pesto on 1 side of 2 slices of bread. Arrange a slice of Cheddar over the pesto on 1 slice of bread. Sandwich with the other slice of the bread, pesto-side down. Repeat with remaining pesto, bread and Cheddar.

Mix the butter and mayo together in a small bowl. Spread a generous layer on both sides of each sandwich.

Place the sandwich in a nonstick skillet and turn the heat to medium-low. Cook, turning occasionally, until the bread is nice and toasty and golden brown, the cheese is melty and the sandwich is heated through. Repeat with the remaining sandwiches. Cut into croutons.

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BUFFALO CHICKEN SLIDERS WITH CELERY & BLUE CHEESE SLAW

TYPE 7 THE ENTHUSIAST Type Sevens are fun-loving and spontaneous, always looking for new adventures and excitement.

Buffalo Wing Burgers, with their bold flavors and playful twist, are the perfect match for their love of variety and trying something unexpected.

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BUFFALO CHICKEN SLIDERS WITH CELERY & BLUE CHEESE SLAW BUFFALO CHICKEN BURGER 1 tablespoon butter 1 tablespoon neutral oil ⅓ cup yellow onion, minced 2 cloves garlic, minced 2 teaspoons hot sauce ½ teaspoon dried thyme 1 tsp kosher salt 1½ teaspoons freshly ground black pepper, or to taste ½ teaspoon chile flakes 1¼ pounds coarsely ground chicken or turkey breast meat 8 slider rolls, split and toasted

CELERY AND BLUE CHEESE SLAW 4 ribs celery, 1” pieces thinly sliced on the bias ½ cup red onions, very thinly sliced ¼ cup parsley leaves, roughly chopped 1 tablespoon red wine vinegar 2 tablespoons olive oil ½ teaspoon lemon zest ½ cup blue cheese, crumbled ½ teaspoon salt ¼ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper SPICY MAYO ¾ cup mayonnaise 1 tablespoon lemon juice 1 tablespoon hot sauce 1-2 teaspoons honey ½ teaspoon cayenne pepper

SPICY MAYO In a small bowl, stir together the mayonnaise, lemon juice, hot sauce, honey, and cayenne until smooth. Refrigerate until needed.

CELERY AND BLUE CHEESE SLAW In a large bowl, combine the celery, onion, and parsley. Add the vinegar, oil, lemon zest, salt, and pepper and toss well. Gently toss in the blue cheese and refrigerate until the burgers are ready.

BUFFALO CHICKEN SLIDERS In a small skillet, heat the butter and oil over medium-high heat. When the butter is almost melted, add the onion and salt. Cook, stirring occasionally, for 2 minutes, then stir in the garlic.

When the onion is golden and tender, stir in the hot sauce, thyme, chile flakes, and pepper.

Transfer to a large bowl and cool to room temperature.

Combine the chicken with the cooled onions using slightly damp hands. You want it well mixed, but you don’t want to squeeze it and make it tough. Form the mixture into eight burgers ½ inch larger in diameter than the buns. Use your thumb to dimple the center of each patty.

Coat a large nonstick skillet with oil and heat over medium-high heat. Add the burgers and cook until browned, about 3 minutes, then carefully flip them. Cook until the other side is browned and the meat cooked through, about 3 minutes longer. The burger will feel firm and the juices will run clear.

Slather the spicy mayo on the buns. Divide the burgers among the bun bottoms and top with the slaw. Sandwich with the bun tops and serve immediately.

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MEATLOAF WITH SPICY KETCHUP

TYPE 8 THE CHALLENGER Type Eights are assertive and action-oriented, always ready to take charge.

Meatloaf with Spicy Ketchup, with its bold flavors and hearty, no-nonsense appeal, suits their strong-willed and decisive nature.

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MEATLOAF WITH SPICY KETCHUP

Makes 10 servings GRANNY’S MEATLOAF 1 egg, beaten ¼ cup oatmeal, finely ground ¼ cup milk 2 teaspoons ground cumin 1 teaspoon ground cayenne 2 teaspoons kosher salt 1 ½ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper, or to taste 2 ½ pounds coarsely ground beef 2 cloves garlic, minced 1 small onion, minced ½ rib celery

1 medium carrot 1 tablespoon fresh thyme, chopped or ½ tsp dried ¼ cup fresh parsley, chopped or ½ tsp dried 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce

SPICY KETCHUP TOPPING ¾ cup ketchup 2 teaspoons horseradish 1 teaspoon cumin ½ teaspoon Worcestershire sauce

Preheat the oven to 350°. In a large bowl, combine egg, oatmeal, milk, cumin, cayenne, salt and pepper. Let stand for 5 minutes.

Process garlic, onion, celery and carrot in a food processor until finely chopped.

Add ground beef and finely chopped vegetables to the oatmeal mixture. Add herbs to the bowl.

Gently toss until thoroughly combined. Be careful not to over mix. On a parchment covered sheet pan, form a mixture into 2 logs, 2½ ” wide or desired size.

Combine all the ingredients for the spicy ketchup. Set aside.

Place the meatloaf in the oven and bake for 7 – 10 minutes, then brush the logs with the tomato glaze.

Bake until the internal temperature of the meatloaf is 155 degrees or until the juices run clear.

Allow loaves to cool slightly before cutting.

What I love about this meatloaf is how versatile it is—you can make two and repurpose it in so many ways throughout the week! I shared some of my favorite ideas for this on GMA a few years ago, and it’s still one of my go-to tricks for easy, delicious meals.

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BANANA PUDDING with VANILLA SHORTBREAD

TYPE 9 THE PEACEMAKER Type Nines are easygoing and adaptable, always seeking harmony and comfort in their lives.

Banana Pudding with Vanilla Shortbread reflects their relaxed nature, as they blend homemade with storebought treats for the perfect balance of ease and simplicity.

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BANANA PUDDING with VANILLA SHORTBREAD Makes 8 servings BANANA PASTRY CREAM Makes about 2 cups ¼ cup cornstarch ¾ cup sugar 6 egg yolks 1½ cups whole milk ½ cup mashed banana ½ cup half & half ½ teaspoon salt 1 vanilla bean or 2 teaspoon vanilla extract 1 tablespoon unsalted butter 1 cup heavy cream 2 ripe bananas, cut into ½” slices

BANANA MERINGUE 6 egg whites, room temperature 1 cup + 2 tablespoons sugar ½ teaspoon banana extract 1 tablespoon vanilla extract 1 tablespoon white vinegar ¼ teaspoon fine salt

Sift together the cornstarch and the sugar. Whisk in the egg yolks.

In the carafe of a blender, combine the milk, banana and half & half. Blend until smooth. Pour into a heavy bottomed pot and add the salt and vanilla bean (split and scraped directly into the milk mixture); heat until it comes just to a boil.

Temper the egg mixture by slowly incorporating and whisking in the hot milk mixture. When the bottom of the mixing bowl is warm, add the remaining milk.

Pour the mixture back into the pot and whisk constantly, making sure to reach down to the bottom of the pot and along the sides, until the custard thickens. Increase the speed of the stirring. Allow pastry cream to come to a full boil to ensure that the cornstarch has been cooked out. Taste the custard before removing entirely from heat.

Strain the pastry cream into a large metal bowl. Stir in the vanilla extract (if using) and small pieces of butter until melted. Cover with plastic wrap and press down on the surface. Refrigerate.

Beat 1 cup of heavy cream to soft peaks. Whisk the chilled pastry cream quickly to loosen, then fold in the whipped cream. Gently stir in chopped bananas.

Make meringue: Put egg whites and sugar in a clean, stainless bowl. Place over a double boiler of simmering water until sugar dissolves and to a temperature of 160 F. In a standing mixer, use the whisk attachment and beat the egg whites until cooled and shiny, about 5 minutes. Add the vinegar, vanilla and banana extracts.

Layer banana mousse and shortbread pieces in a parfait dish. Top with banana meringue (torch, if desired) and shortbread. Enjoy!

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I ASKED SOME OF MY FAVORITE CHEFS: WHAT IS A SKILL YOU HAVE LEARNED AS A CHEF THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH COOKING? HOW HAVE YOU USED IT?

@Eitan Eitan Bernath Chef, Author Principal Culinary Contributor, The Drew Barrymore Show Perfecting your cooking repertoire is fundamentally about trial and error, which makes managing kitchen related stress so important to me. Things don’t always go as planned—ingredients can burn, recipes can go awry, and timing can be tricky. Staying calm and focused, assessing the situation and finding the best solution often yields the brag worthy dishes. It's all about perfecting your craft, and a solution-oriented mindset really is the #1 skill to have both in and out of the kitchen when you're learning something new.

I recently made biscuits with Eitan - you can see that video HERE.

@ChefEnrika Chef Enrika Y. Williams Chef owner of Fauna Foodworks

As a chef, one skill I’ve honed that transcends cooking is the art of storytelling. Food taught me to communicate narratives that evoke emotion, connect people, and celebrate culture. This ability extends beyond the kitchen, allowing me to craft meaningful experiences and share the rich heritage of Mississippi cuisine with a global audience. I’ve used this skill to moderate panels like Cookbooks at the Mississippi Book Festival, where I highlighted the intersection of culinary traditions and personal histories. Additionally, as the owner of Fauna Food Works, I bring stories to life through bohemian chic dishes that reflect thoughtful, ingredient-driven creativity. Storytelling has become a vital tool in fostering dialogue, expanding food’s cultural landscape, and reshaping perceptions of Southern cuisine.

You can catch Enrika at these upcoming food festivals Jackson Food & Wine Festival March 14, 2025- Jackson,MS Sipp & Savor April 12, 2025- Meridian, MS

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@Tineke Chef Tini

A skill I have learned as a chef that has nothing to do with cooking is learning to take the lead. Learning how to not freak out if something doesn't go your way but taking a minute to calm down and think in your head about different solutions. Being able to do that in any sort of group setting shows great leadership and can calm down any situation in or out of the kitchen. Photo credit: Thomas Hallowell Tini’s beautifully embroidered aprons are available at hedley&bennett

@SpiketheChef Spike Mendelsohn Chef, Restaurateur, Podcast Host, Food Policy advocate, Dad

MEP- "Mise en place" is a French term that means to get your things in order. As Chef's we refer to this term when we are prepping for our restaurants and stations. The idea of getting your things in order means you will be able to execute your service flawlessly without having to run around the kitchen to find everything. I've adopted the "MEP" for everything in my life. I "MEP" my kids room, I "MEP" my emails everyday, my clothing closet in my house is all MEP. People say I am OCD. They are wrong. I am full on "MEP" and proud of it :) Spike has a podcast that I had such a BLAST joining as a guest - you can listen in here: IN THE WEEDS

@MasterChefTFD Tiffany Derry Chief Culinary Officer & Co-Founder T2D Concepts

One skill I’ve learned along the way is how to effectively lead, grow and nurture a team. The kitchen can be a fast-paced, high-stress environment — there is so much more to being a strong leader than teaching cooking skills.

I aim to lead by example and have worked to create a culture that cultivates the team by giving them opportunities to learn, providing them the tools they need to grow their careers, and create a better future for themselves and future generations. I’ve found that when my team is nourished, they provide even better service to guests.

Tiffany opened her latest restaurant Radici Wood Fired Grill in summer 2024.

Inspired by her time in Italian kitchens and travels through Italy, the menu features seasonal dishes, wood-fired meats and vegetables, and fresh daily-made pastas.

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I ASKED SOME OF MY FAVORITE HOME EXPERTS:

DESIGN-O-MITE

WHAT IS A DESIGN "TRICK" OR INTEGRATION THAT CAN MAKE A KITCHEN A PLACE THAT SPARKS EXPERIMENTING?

@StudioMcGee

Accessibility sparks inspiration

Shea McGee

Co-Founder and Chief Creative Officer Studio McGee

If you’re building your kitchen from scratch, there are several things you can design into plans that prioritize convenience. I’ve found that if my kitchen tools are accessible, the more incentivized I am to try something new. An appliance garage is a great one, because no one likes to drag out a heavy blender and all its components from a lower cabinet. In my own kitchen, I designed the island to have open shelving on one side. Not only can I display some of my prettier serveware, but it’s a great place to store cookbooks that are loaded with inspiration.

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I thrive on less is more in my home and kitchen. I care about living lightly – from the foods we eat, how we interact with our home, and respect our surroundings. I strive to fill my life and kitchen with objects that are old and new – that will inspire me and my family forever. I love being surrounded by what we have created with our home because it’s my taste; it feels balanced.

When it comes to the kitchen, I never shop with a list in mind. I let ingredients inspire me and what is growing in my garden. My tip on cooking is guess confidently and deal with the failure in a creative way.

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I ASKED SOME OF MY FAVORITE HOME EXPERTS

DESIGN-O-MITE

WHAT IS A DESIGN "TRICK" OR INTEGRATION THAT CAN MAKE A KITCHEN A PLACE THAT SPARKS EXPERIMENTING?

@ChadwickBoyd

Clutter-free kitchens leave room for creativity.

Chadwick Boyd

Food & Lifestyle Expert| Chadwick Boyd Lifestyle

I treat the kitchen the same as my office: all the main tools I regularly use are within easy reach, and everything has a home to minimize clutter so I can think and create. My mixing bowls, liquid and dry measuring cups, and measuring spoons are in drawers just below my main workstation and my knives, tongs, spatulas and wooden spoons are neatly organized in canisters on the countertop nearby. I also keep a handful of cookbooks and magazines on the shelf above my workspace so I have new inspiration at my fingertips.

A washable keyboard is connected to my kitchen iPad to ensure I don’t damage it with water and other ingredients when cooking.

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@mylydesign

My Ly

Group your collections in fun, beautful ways

My Ly | Designer | Planner | Artist of My Ly Design

Grouping similar things together and organization would be a great foundation to spark creativity. When I designed Carla's kitchen spaces, I created dedicated spaces for her; collection of spices in a spice drawer, knives in a block drawer, glassware & appliances in a beverage center, cookbooks color coordinated on a dedicated shelf, and her famous cast iron cookware on a display tower. These design tricks are visibly beautiful and will center the focus on inspiring creativity.

You can see My Ly’s work designing Carla’s home, featured in My Dream Kitchen with Carla Hall on Discovery Plus

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A Lifelong Passion Discovering Myself Through Art Art has always been part of my life. As a little girl, I carried crayons and markers everywhere. I remember helping teachers decorate classrooms, carefully putting up the corrugated paper borders, even before second or third grade. Whether in 4-H or culinary school, art was always my go-to. I even chose to draw a picture of broccoli for a class paper instead of photographing it—because art just fit.

Creating is my meditation, my way of connecting with myself. It’s when I stop overthinking and let creativity flow. I’ve always been drawn to paper—its texture, its possibilities. I used to dream of opening a card shop, surrounded by paper and designs. When I worked on my cookbooks, I didn’t even realize I could choose the paper. But by my second book, I knew: paper matters. It’s tactile, it’s part of the experience.

During the pandemic, art helped me reconnect with my roots. I had lost my grandmother’s yo-yo quilt, a beautiful collection of little round fabric tufts sewn together. I couldn’t stop thinking about it, and when something lives in my head like that—an idea, an outfit, a recipe—I have to create it. So, I went to a paper store, bought supplies, and started cutting circles. I folded them like origami into little “yo-yos” and began building what I now call my paper quilts. I’m working on a living version now—a magnetic quilt on a sheet metal wall, where visitors can rearrange the pieces. It’s art in motion, constantly evolving.

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Creativity shows up everywhere for me. Even in my closet. I think of fashion as another form of art. Clinton Kelly’s mantra—pattern, color, texture, shine—guides how I dress. My closet is organized by type and color, so I can decide, “Today I want a green shirt,” and pull from the green section. Scarves, glasses, earrings—it’s all about creating combinations I’ve never tried before.

And then there’s ZENTANGLE. It’s a meditative form of doodling I love, especially when I travel.

I pack pens and little cards to relax and recharge after appearances. Zentangle, like all art, quiets my mind and brings me back to myself.

The beauty of creativity is that it’s not just one thing. It can be art, cooking, reading someone else’s words, finding a new walking path, or striking up an unexpected conversation. It’s about expression, connection, and finding energy in the act of doing. For me, art isn’t just a hobby—it’s a way of life.

Join me making paper yo-yos!

It’s fun, relaxing, and a great way to get creative!

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I also wanted to share my art with you. This is a piece I created, inspired by a photo of my friend Chef Enrika (featured on page 70) in a moment of thought and reflection. It’s paper art, and I love how this medium allows me to incorporate the things that inspire me—like this quiet, powerful scene— into my work.

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Finding Your Fabulous Unlocking Your Style Superpowers @ashleymichellemiller

Ashley!!!! Tell Everyone a little bit about yourself.

Ashley: Hey there! I’m Ashley, and I’m a wardrobe stylist who’s had the joy of working with some incredible entrepreneurs, celebrities, and brands.

Over the years, I’ve learned that personal style is so much more than just picking out clothes—it’s about expressing who you are, embracing your identity, and even helping you reach your goals.

Style evolves just like we do, and it’s such a powerful way to tell your story without saying a word.

People often ask me how I became a wardrobe stylist, and it’s deeply tied to my own journey of self-discovery. There was a pivotal moment when my therapist asked, “Who are you?”—and I realized I didn’t have an answer. That moment set me on a path to unpack my identity, define my “I AMM,” and ultimately start fresh in New York as a stylist. Now, my mission with AMM Style Group is to help others find and love their “I AMM” through personal style.

I am so excited to introduce Ashley Michelle Miller, my longtime fashion stylist and dear friend!

Ashley is a vital part of my team and my partner in bringing my style to life in ways that feel authentic, Elisa Camahort Page empowering, fun. &She has an incredible ability to Co-Founderand BlogHer Optionality listen—not just to what I like, but to how I’m feeling and what I want to express in any given moment.

Ashley’s organization and creativity have helped me maximize my wardrobe, allowing me to reinvent pieces I already own and even explore platforms like Nuully. I love the AMM Daily Style Journal she has put together its a game-changer! It is a wonderful tool for discovering how who you are and what you wear come together to create a wonderful package to present to the world.

-Carla

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Take Carla, for example. She’s the perfect example of how powerful personal style can be.

Watching her embrace her unique identity and light up every room she’s in is so inspiring. With Carla, it’s not just about the clothes—it’s about showing up authentically, loving who she is, and expressing that in every part of her life. That’s what style is all about.

How do you figure out how someone can align their style with what they’re trying to achieve? I imagine it’s not just about clothes —it’s about where they’re going, how they want to show up, and even how they feel in their own skin. What’s your process for helping someone connect those dots?

Ashley: I begin by learning about who you are and sometimes that winds up also being a way for you to discover more of who you are. I would advise you to start with asking yourself some specific questions. Write your answers down on paper. It’s an important step and being able to

define it clearly and re-read it in the future helps you align your style with both your ambitions and your lifestyle.

What are your goals?

What does your daily activity look like?

Are you attending a lot of meetings?

Traveling frequently?

Speaking on stage?

Working from home but want to feel productive?

Understanding where you’ll be and what you’ll be doing is key to curating a wardrobe that supports and inspires you.

How do you want to feel?

Clothing has the power to evoke emotions that fuel your confidence and motivation, so thinking holistically about the feelings you want to cultivate is important.

Ashley and I have shared so many fun fashion moments!

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Lastly, I encourage a bit of visualization. Picture yourself in the spaces where you’re achieving your goals.

What are you wearing?

How do you look?

How do you feel?

Write those details down. Your body and mind already have the answers—you just need to trust them. This exercise becomes your guide, helping you create a personal style that aligns with your vision and empowers you to reach your goals.

For those who may struggle with identifying their signature look for big work/personal events, what advice would you give them to help align their style choices with how they want to be perceived?

Ashley: Identifying your signature look is an evolving journey—it grows and changes as you do.

Start by looking at the outfits in your closet that make you feel confident. Those “go-to” pieces can guide you in crafting looks for big events.

Take the time to plan ahead for these moments. It sounds simple, but so often, we’re scrambling at the last minute, which can lead to outfits that don’t feel right. That’s why I created the AMM Daily Style Journal—a 30-day tool to help you discover your personal style, plan outfits intentionally, and reflect on how they make you feel. It’s about building daily rituals that align with your true self.

When you're rushed, it’s hard to connect with what feels authentic. Instead, you might end up wearing something you don’t love, bought in a hurry or out of frustration. Developing your style takes time, but with patience and practice, you’ll recognize what works for you, making it easier to create looks that genuinely represent who you are—whether for a big "People often ask me, “How did you become a wardrobe stylist?” And every time, my mind goes back to a pivotal moment in my life. I was sitting in my therapist’s office, early in my journey with her, and she asked me to tell her about myself. I couldn’t. When she pressed, “Who are you?” I started to speak but burst into tears."

Ashley Michelle Miller

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event or everyday life.

In addition to personal reflection, there are practical elements to consider when dressing for an event. What should someone keep in mind regarding the logistical setting—like the venue, audience, or even the weather—when selecting an outfit?

So as a wardrobe stylist who has styled for many people, many entrepreneurs, many celebrities, many campaigns for brands. In the industry, we use something called a company or project branding deck, mood board or storyboard to indicate details like the set design to the overall messaging and goals the director or brand has set to achieve the project. All of these things are so important when it comes to crafting an outfit. I look at these elements when I am styling my clients to make sure that they're not clashing with the backdrop to make sure they're going to be comfortable. Are they standing or sitting? Is there a table in front of them? Are they cooking or judging? Are they going to be outside?

There are so many different elements that I consider… the lighting, the weather, the location. So for anybody, whether you are going to a dinner or you are going to a big event, where you're going to be the keynote speaker. I always say do the research.

Also, consider what you would be talking about or the nature and vibe of the event making sure that you are in alignment. You don't want to be wearing a sparkly dress if you were a journalist talking about a big trial that's going on. So consider the elements of why you are even getting dressed and where you're going when it comes to what you're putting on, because all of that is just as important as making sure that you feel amazing in what you're wearing and that it looks great on you, and that it's aligned with your personality. It is a holistic experience. And all of those elements are extremely important as well. .

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You have such a good sense of my style.

How would you define it? How do you always seem to know what I’m going to love? Do you think my style has changed over the years? And when you’re styling me for different events, how do you approach it? What’s your process?

Ashley: Oh, Carla, I absolutely love your style!

It’s been such a joy to be part of your journey and watch your evolution over the years. When we started working together in 2015, back on The Chew, I remember thinking, “She’s so fun and funky! How am I going to do this?” But it didn’t take long to realize that styling you is all about understanding you: your energy, your comfort, and how clothes fuel your creativity and confidence. Seeing your style grow alongside you has been eye-opening—and, I think, therapeutic for both of us.

Your style is as bold, eclectic, and adventurous as you are. It’s vibrant, out-of-the-box, and full of life—always willing to try new things. Knowing what you’ll love has come from time, experience, and really paying attention to who you are. My job is to listen and help you stay aligned with your authentic self, whether that’s through prints, colors, or embellishments. Styling you is always a collaborative process, and it’s one of my favorite parts of what I do.

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HOW TO ELEVATE AN OUTFIT WITHOUT LOSING YOUR AUTHENTIC STYLE STEP 1: START WITH A SIMPLE BASE Pick a basic foundation outfit, like a white T-shirt and jeans or a black dress. This creates a blank canvas for your personal touches.

STEP 2: ACCESSORIZE AUTHENTICALLY Accessories are the easiest way to elevate your look while staying true to who you are. Think about what speaks to your personality: Jewelry: Add a statement necklace, stack some rings, or layer bracelets.

Hats & Scarves: Try a bold hat or a colorful scarf (Carla’s goto!).

Shoes: A great sneaker, sleek heels, or funky boots can make all the difference.

Handbags & Watches: Finish the look with a chic bag or an eye-catching watch.

STEP 3: PLAY WITH PERSONAL TOUCHES Imagine standing in a line with others wearing the same outfit —your accessories will make it uniquely you. Maybe you add a fedora, Carla goes for a patterned scarf, or someone else piles on layered jewelry. Accessories are where your individuality shines.

STEP 4: EXPERIMENT AND BUILD CONFIDENCE Start small and work your way up. Pair a black dress with bold shoes and jewelry or add a fun watch and bright sneakers to a suit. As you get comfortable, you’ll find it easier to experiment with more complex elements like silhouettes and combinations.

STEP 5: REMIX AND REPEAT Remember, style is about exploring what feels good to you.

Mix, match, and tweak until you find the combinations that feel effortlessly authentic. Your accessories are your signature touch, so let them do the talking!

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BANDANA OF THE MONTH CLUB This may have been one of the most fabulous things I discovered in 2024. Bandanas! And a club where you get a new one every month! And they tell you all about each artist - I wind up following them on Instagram! And every single bandana is beautiful! ]

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SEE EYEWEAR If you’re emailing my team to see where I got a pair of glasses from chances are they are from See Eyewear.

I’ve been shopping here for years and they always have great frames. I’ll tell you one of my frame tricks - I look at sunglass frames too - sunglass frames tend to have a wider variety of fun and dramatic styles and simply have my prescription lenses put into those frames.

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Unlocking Prosperity The Role of Self-Discovery in Financial Success

@watchherprosper How important is self-discovery to financial success and planning?

Ruchi: Self-discovery is at the core of financial success and meaningful planning. So much of how we navigate money—how we earn, save, and spend—is deeply rooted in our values, beliefs, and even subconscious behaviors. This is why I encourage clients to explore The Three Principles of Redefining Prosperity™: Wellbeing, Spirituality, and Healthy Relationships with People and Money.

WELL-BEING Now I’m not talking about traditional well-being, I’m really talking about lavishly spoiling yourself like you would your best girlfriend on her birthday! When you prioritize celebrating yourself and doing things that bring you joy, it gives you spaciousness to live a more abundant life, which in turn supports your financial choices.

SPIRITUALITY This is simply the recognition that there is something bigger than us at play here. And recognizing that what you put out into the world is what you will receive. So, are you consumed with thoughts of lack or are you focused on abundance and prosperity?

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS WITH PEOPLE AND MONEY How we relate to others and to money directly impacts our prosperity. Money is energy! Treat it as a friend rather than a source of stress.

When it comes to finances, Ruchi Pinniger, Founder and CEO of Watch Her Prosper®, takes a refreshingly unique approach. “We’re not just here to crunch numbers—we’re here to Elisa Camahort Page understand who you are as a person, what you Co-Founder BlogHer & Optionality value, and what drives you,” she says. Her company goes beyond the balance sheet, diving into the details of her clients’ financial journeys with a holistic focus on trust, understanding, and purpose.

Ruchi’s mission is to help women redefine prosperity on their own terms, combining expert financial guidance with mindset coaching to create a shame-free, empowering experience. It’s not just about numbers—it’s about seeing the whole picture and aligning finances with the life you want to live. In this Q&A, Ruchi shares how self-discovery plays a key role in achieving financial success and building a foundation for long-term growth.

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I know you were in leadership on Wall Street and have helped thousands of women with their business finances. How has your own selfdiscovery impacted your work?

Ruchi: My journey has absolutely shaped the way I work with clients. I remember my own “aha” moment —a time when I thought success would come from the “right” things, like my first designer bag. I grew up with immigrant parents, watching them work so hard, and as a young woman in finance, I believed that once I could afford that luxury, I’d finally “made it.” I remember buying my first Prada bag and feeling that instant thrill, but the excitement faded quickly, and I found myself questioning why I thought this item would change my life. That’s when I realized prosperity is an inside job. True success comes from within, from being connected to your values, wellbeing, and relationships. Now, as I guide clients, I bring this understanding into my work helping them redefine prosperity on their own terms, beyond material things.

How did you and Carla begin working together?

When Carla and I first connected, she shared a story I hear from so many women: she felt alone in managing her business finances and overwhelmed by the judgment she’d experienced from others in the financial world. It’s not uncommon for women entrepreneurs to feel this way—caught between the complexity of financial systems and the lack of personalized, non-judgmental support. I knew right away that we could create a space for Carla where she felt supported and empowered.

expenses that had been overlooked. That discovery alone allowed her CPA to refile her taxes, resulting in a substantial refund! The transformation wasn’t just about the numbers—it was about helping Carla feel in control and confident about her finances for the first time in years, so she could focus on her zone of genius.

But our beautiful work wasn’t just about fixing the past—it was about creating a new foundation. We started by getting familiar with what mattered most to Carla, identifying what was coming in and out, ensuring those numbers were accurate, and establishing simple habits like separating her business and personal expenses.

From there, we moved to saving strategies focused on what defined prosperity for her— building personal and business emergency funds and ensuring she was prepared for taxes and meaningful retirement contributions. Over time, we progressed to focusing on wealth-building and long-term financial prosperity—all done in a way that honors her unique vision and values.

This approach allowed Carla to feel confident and in control every step of the way.

At the time, Carla was working with a bookkeeper who was extremely hands-off, leaving gaps and inaccuracies in her financial records. One of the first things we did was dive into her numbers with fresh eyes and an open mind. Together, we started to uncover tens of thousands of dollars in legitimate

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Our shared connection to spirituality is what makes my relationship with Carla so special.

We often talk about staying open to messages from the universe, finding lessons in the challenges and how intuition shapes both personal success and financial well-being.

I love that Carla has called me her “Financial Therapist,” and that’s a title I hold close to my heart. It reflects the depth of our work together —not just organizing her finances, but helping her redefine what prosperity truly means to her. Watching Carla redefine prosperity over the years has been one of the greatest joys of my career. In fact, soulmate level clients like her were the inspiration behind the name of my business, Watch Her Prosper®.

How do you help clients identify and strengthen their beliefs around money?

I use my RIR Method™—Recognize, Interrupt, Reframe™—I ask them to begin by recognizing their thoughts and beliefs around money. For example, they might notice themselves thinking, “I’m not good with money,” or “I need to work harder to make money.” Next, I encourage them to interrupt those thoughts by

realizing they are simply mental habits, not truths. Then, we reframe with something empowering, like “Every day I trust myself more and more with money” or even “Money comes easily to me, I’m so grateful for my abundance!”

Essentially, my RIR Method™ helps us all to attract more of what we want versus focusing on what we don’t want.

Visit iwanttoprosper.com to access Ruchi’s free Redefining Prosperity™ Workbook! This thoughtfully crafted resource is packed with powerful exercises, reflection prompts, and mindset shifts designed to help you deepen your relationship with money, uncover your personal definition of prosperity, and create a vision aligned with your true values. Whether you're just starting out or ready to elevate your financial journey, this workbook is the perfect tool for empowered, purpose-driven prosperity.

For more practical and tactical financial advice, follow Ruchi on Instagram and stay inspired to live your most beautiful, prosperous life!

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HOW TO BUILD A HEALTHIER MONEY MINDSET AND PRIORITIZE SAVING GET CLEAR ON YOUR FINANCES Start by asking yourself: What do I need to live my most prosperous life? Think big— include both personal and business goals. Then, create a personalized blueprint by reverse-engineering your goals.

DIVE INTO THE DETAILS: What are your personal expenses?

What revenue does your business need to generate?

Does your current income align with your goals, or are adjustments needed?

SET GOALS THAT ALIGN WITH YOUR VALUES Define revenue and expense targets that reflect your values and lifestyle. By aligning your goals with what truly matters, you’ll create an empowered, practical view of your finances.

This clarity helps you prioritize savings and investments with confidence.

TAKE INSPIRED ACTION With your goals mapped out, it’s time to act! Whether it’s setting up automatic savings, refining your budget, or strategizing ways to boost revenue, small, intentional steps will move you closer to the financial life you envision.

Building a healthy money mindset isn’t just about numbers—it’s about aligning your actions with your vision of prosperity!

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Pause for the MENA

Menopause has been a journey of self-discovery for me.

As my body changes, I’ve learned how important it is to focus on its needs. Protein has become a key part of my diet, helping me maintain muscle and stay healthy during this stage.

As I’ve aged, I’ve found chicken to be a great source of protein. It helps build and maintain muscle while supporting fat loss. I also love adding seeds and nuts, like pumpkin seeds, which are full of protein and antioxidants. They enhance flavor, reduce inflammation, and lower the risk of chronic diseases. These ingredients are now staples in my kitchen.

To ensure I get enough protein, I keep my fridge stocked with quick, protein-rich foods for easy salads. This simple habit has made a big difference in how I feel and function. By honoring my body’s needs, I’ve found strength and empowerment during this transformative time.

INTENTIONAL PROTEIN CUTTING BOARD SALAD BAR

Use any ingredients you desire. The more protein the better!

Rotisserie chicken, take off the bone and pulled to bite size pieces Brussels sprouts, sliced thin Kale, washed and cut Butternut squash, medium dice and roasted Pumpkin seeds ½ Red onion, sliced thin Fresh herbs of your choice Lime, juice and zest Olive oil Apple cider vinegar

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Caring for Your Skin, Caring for Yourself A Journey of Self-Discovery Aging is more than changes to our skin; it’s a journey of selfdiscovery that reshapes how we care for ourselves. Skincare can become a meaningful ritual, connecting us to who we are and celebrating the lives we’ve lived. For me, these small, intentional acts of care honor my evolving needs.

Hormonal shifts during perimenopause and menopause, tied to a decline in estrogen, bring dryness, loss of firmness, and slower renewal. Addressing these changes means embracing and caring for our skin as it transforms. Skincare is more than a routine; it’s a reflection of self-care and self-acceptance. As Carla says, “I don’t care that I have wrinkles or crow’s feet.

Those laugh lines? They mean I’ve laughed.” Each mark tells a story.

A simple ritual, like applying a mask, can be a moment of mindfulness. Caring for your skin becomes symbolic of caring for your well-being. By focusing on intentional rituals and nourishing products, we empower ourselves to feel confident and radiant. Pro-aging isn’t about reversing the clock—it’s about moving forward with grace and strength, helping your skin perform at its best while discovering what makes you feel good and confident.

CAIRE BEAUTY: SKINCARE TO SUPPORT YOUR JOURNEY While protein nourishes my body from the inside, intentional skincare nourishes it from the outside.

Caire Beauty’s products are specifically designed to address the unique changes our skin undergoes during menopause and perimenopause.

THEOREM SERUM BOOST A multi-tasking powerhouse with the smallest hyaluronic acid molecules to deeply hydrate, firm, and smooth skin.

It also diminishes dark circles and under-eye bags, making it an essential for resetting skin impacted by hormonal shifts.

GROWNUP MOISTURIZER Packed with patented CeraLipids® technology, this moisturizer protects, rebuilds, and locks in moisture, instantly improving crepey and dry skin.

TRIPLE LIFT MOLECULE MASK Delivering instant hydration and glow, this mask tightens and rejuvenates skin, making it a perfect addition to any self-care ritual.

These products remind me that caring for my skin isn’t just about appearance; it’s about embracing the journey and feeling radiant at every stage of life.

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Thank you for joining us! I hope we inspired you to keep discovering all of the wonderful things that make you who you are. As much as I love the journey inward, I equally love discovering the world around me—which is why the theme of our next issue will be...

Adventure!

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