Enlighten Up

from Supernal Magazine Australia - Issue 12 - February 2020

Discovering Ayurveda

The Breath of Life

By Freya Sampson Custodian Eartheart

The Cycle of Relationships

In the December 2019 issue, we began to delve into the nitty-gritty of relationships. Let’s back up a little and take an overview of where we come from and what relationships really are? Then we can journey back into the nitty-gritty dynamics that make or break our relationships and create the experiences.

The very nature of the Divine itself and therefore one’s own true nature, becomes realised through the interplay of souls, through relationships. Thus one could say, at the highest level of truth, a relationship is the vehicle which the Divine has chosen to work through, in order to know thyself, as the perfection of love in all of its forms, in action, to be of service, aka self-realisation.

From an individuated perception of creation, which each of us has, what does this mean in everyday life? It’s very easy to take relationships for granted, for as far back as we can recall in this life, at the point of conception, we come from and through a relationship.

From that point onward, we are experiencing how the people around us interact. This occurs through gestation, the growing foetus is a soul’s vessel, moving from a state of oneness into a state of individuation. A soul, therefore, has a relationship with its body.

The foetus is experiencing its mother’s responses to all of the energies of life that she is exposed to throughout that period. It is already beginning its relationship with the world. As the body grows, its senses become more specific and targeted, hearing, seeing and feeling. The soul can begin to interact with the people who engage with its mother and with them directly.

Birth occurs and the soul, now fully vested into a body, is birthed into the world and

this being takes the next step into self. Still strongly dependent on parental care to provide everything required for his or her healthy development, none-the-less, absorbing and learning all of the time.

Imprinting about relationships is already well underway. A relationship, like all things in creation, is cyclical in growth and pattern of flow.

There are four phases in any relationship - The Honeymoon, Noticing Differences, Potential Conflict and the Golden Afterglow or Separation.

The aim, in a healthy relationship, is ‘Golden Afterglow’ – to grow in harmonic resonance, virtue and love. This can be understood in rational terms through the geometry of the Golden Mean. Born in 384 B.C., Aristotle’s ethics are to be found within the Golden mean, which involves finding

the balance between two means.

Aristotle believed this was the best way to live in society, with extremes of character deemed unhelpful. For example, someone who is too assertive may cause others to lose their confidence.

Aristotle said “The virtue is to be found between two vices, each of which involves either an excess or deficiency of the true virtue.” For example, were one to witness a robbery, the coward does not have enough courage and thus would do nothing. The foolhardy runs into danger regardless of the situation, whereas the person who holds the mean, in this case being the virtue of courage, will be the one to act in the most virtuous way.

Let’s explore The Honeymoon phase. Rose-coloured glasses, accompanied by a strong

desire to merge with one another sexually; the Gooey, doe eye syndrome of life. Often, when people speak about love, they are actually confused and talking about intense physical desire that occurs at the beginning of a relationship - lust.

The honeymoon is filled with infatuation, daydreaming and a strong desire to please the new beloved. Everything is new. There is intangible mystery and so much to share. Falling in love feels good. Two becoming one, feeling whole and complete in each other. Caught up in the glamour of the beloved’s radiance, one doesn’t ‘see’ the others faults, nor do they ‘see’ ours. One can be quite gullible regarding their perception of the other person. Skeletons, innermost fears, secrets and demons stay locked in the closet!

Discernment - authentic boundaries - what are they? Thinking our new beloved is the bees-knees, when in reality we have actually brought home something the cat could have dragged in! At the same time, while caught up in your infatuation, your friends and family are all freaking out! To the shock of said friends and family, one may appear to do some really bizarre things, going to extraordinary lengths to please the new knight/damsel.

In truth, it takes time to create enough trust for one another to reveal the deeper truths about themselves. As the trust grows, so too does the willingness to disclose and as this occurs, if met and reciprocated with love and acceptance, so intimacy deepens.

Then we begin to notice differences.

More next month, till then, enjoy your journey.