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KANSAS CITY — Move over, Taylor Swift. A band of die-hard, Jewish fans of the Kansas City Chiefs are bringing a little yiddishkeit — and lots of girl power — to Chiefs Kingdom.

Across St. Louis County on game days, these Jewish women of all ages embark on a pilgrimage they hope will end in gridiron triumph: a 240-plus mile drive to GEHA Field at Arrowhead Stadium, where they don their favorite jerseys, chow down on tailgate party staples and cheer their hearts out for the Kansas City Chiefs.

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fans from St. Louis told the Jewish Light that their Jewish identity spices up the multicultural melting pot at Arrowhead, where they’ve befriended fans from varying faiths and backgrounds, as well as other Jews.

“Being a Chiefs fan gives me a feeling of community, of feeling good about our love of the team and being united around one cause,” said Traci Goldstein Holdener, 51, a season ticket holder from Chesterfield. “I feel like I’m part of something.”

St. Louisans and Kansas City Chiefs fans Traci Goldstein Holdener (left) and Amy Spetner Doughty (above). ALL PHOTOS: KEVIN DEUTSCH

A working mom and pro-Israel activist, Goldstein Holdener said she “fell in love with the Chiefs” on Sunday, Dec. 17, 1995, a 39-degree afternoon with the wind whipping at Arrowhead and John Elway’s Denver Broncos on the opposing sideline.

Chiefs quarterback Steve Bono ran for a key touchdown and sent about 75,000 fans at Arrowhead into a frenzy. The Chiefs won 20-17 and turned Goldstein Holdener, who previously cared little for football, into a hardcore fan.

She wears her Star of David pendant to games and said she’s been welcomed by Chiefs die-hards from numerous cultures, including a family that brings kosher hot dogs to her at tailgate parties.

“My life is so full of things that are political — I love two things, Israel and the Chiefs — and sometimes it feels great to check out from all that and just enjoy the game,” Goldstein Holdener said. “People See CHIEFS on page 12

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How a Montana wilderness retreat, born in St. Louis, is transforming Israeli soldiers’ lives

BY BILL MOTCHAN SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH LIGHT

Anxiety, anger, stress and sleepless nights.

They are all common behaviors experienced by military veterans, particularly those engaged in combat. These soldiers have experienced trauma. That is especially true for Israel Defense Forces soldiers tasked with rooting out Hamas in Gaza’s dangerous, compressed urban environment.

Earlier this year, an innovative program offered a respite to a group of Israeli soldiers. Known as Healing in Nature (HiN), the initiative combines technology and a remote wilderness location as therapeutic tools. The setting is northern Montana, but its origin can be traced to St. Louis 16 years ago. That was when Adam Wallis heard Rabbi Nir Barkin speak at Temple Israel. Barkin is member of the clergy in Yozma, Israel, a sister congregation to TI. “I really connected with him and we became really good friends,” said Wallis, who was a TI board member at the time.

“He started staying with us when he came into town.”

In 2001, Wallis first visited the K Bar L Ranch, located 120 miles south of the Canadian border. His father, the late Bill

From left: Emily Wallis, Omri Barkin and Adam Wallis.

Wallis, founder of the Wallis Companies, discovered the ranch when he was invited there by ExxonMobil.

Adam and his wife, Emily, now run the ranch. It is truly remote, seven miles from the nearest road and accessible only by foot or horseback. The scenery is also breathtaking. Fresh mountain air and whistling winds proved the perfect anti-

dote a young IDF soldier who had just completed his military service during Operation Protective Edge. The soldier was Omri Barkin (Rabbi Barkin’s son).

Barkin flew to the K Bar L Ranch to decompress. He quickly learned essential skills, including how to pack a mule and saddle a horse.

“It was just an amazing experience,”

Barkin said. “It really healed my soul.

Being up there with the horses, the wilderness, you’re completely disconnected from Wi-Fi, with no reception. I felt much better after everything I went through in my military service. And I wanted to share that experience with my buddies.”

That epiphany led Barkin to develop HiN. In the aftermath of the Oct. 7, 2023 Hamas attack, he arranged for 15 IDF soldiers to spent one week at the ranch to have the same experience. In order to qualify, the soldiers were screened through an initial psychological evaluation. The weeklong session in June 2024 also brought four therapists to assist in the therapy.

“I knew they were going to need some help with their mental health,” Barkin said. “When you are working with people who have gone through trauma, there are two options. You can either grow from it or go to a darker place. We’re just trying to help them kind of process everything and grow from whatever they went through.”

During the HiN week at the ranch, the soldiers began each day at 6:30 a.m. with a cold plunge. Exposure to cold temperatures helped teach the participants controlled breathing. That was followed by a See HEALING on page 6

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Mirowitz students remember Oct. 7 Students at Saul Mirowitz Jewish Community School placed stones near the Israeli flag pole to remember the souls lost, and gathered for a ceremony with meaningful poems, songs and prayers.

At top left, Shinshinim (Roni, Roni, Gaya and Ziv) lead Mirowitz in ‘Acheinu Kol Beit Yisrael,’ a prayer for the redemption of the remaining hostages.

At top right, Mirowitz students, staff and families gather for the ceremony. At left, Student Sabine Hotter lays a rock next to the Israeli flag pole.

At right, Morah Val Toskin, interim director of Jewish life, leads the ceremony.

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Event to explore history of Jewish Chesterfield LGBTQ+ Holocaust victims plans to open new teen

leadership chapter

BY KATHLEEN LEES SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH LIGHT

On Oct. 27 at the St. Louis Kaplan Feldman Holocaust Museum, Eric Marcus will highlight the hidden history of LGBTQ+ Holocaust victims.

Marcus, the founder and host of the award-winning podcast “Making Gay History,” will illuminate these voices through the special program “Making Gay History Time Travel.” He will provide a sneak preview of his podcast’s upcoming 10-episode series, which highlights the lived-experiences of LGBTQ+ people during the rise of the Nazi regime and throughout the Holocaust. Through extensive research and archival interviews, he will share a glimpse into this often-concealed past.

“It’s really groundbreaking research, and it brings attention to lesser-known groups of people who were targeted during the Holocaust,” said Helen Turner, director of education at the museum. “I

Program is open to juniors/seniors in high school; deadline to apply is Nov. 3

Eric Marcus really hope that this serves as a bridge to widen the circle at the museum and get more people involved in the mission and seeing themselves in the conversation.”

The event at the Holocaust Museum will begin at 3 p.m. in the museum’s auditorium. General admission is $5, and tickets can be purchased online. For more information, visit stlholocaustmuseum. org/programs/upcoming-events.

Jewish Chesterfield, a community organization dedicated to empowering youth, has launched a new Solomon Leadership Program chapter in Chesterfield. This initiative aims to cultivate leadership skills, foster community involvement, and inspire the next generation of leaders. Successful participants earn three college credits.

The Solomon Leadership Program provides driven teens the opportunity to engage in leadership training, community engagement, and mentorship programs. Participants will gain valuable foundations in decision-making, values-driven leadership and public speaking, equipping them with the skills neces-

HEALING CONTINUED FROM PAGE 3 group session led by a psychologist. Much of the week was spent simply experiencing nature. Smartphones were prohibited, but with no cell coverage, they’d be useless, anyway. There was one high-tech tool: a “smart-ring” that tracked the soldier’s biofeedback measurements. The data was then analyzed by Barkin’s HiN support team at Cambridge University and used to create a long-term care plan.

During the week at the ranch, the soldiers had the time and space to block out distractions and achieve a level of calmness, according to Emily Wallis.

“When the soldiers were there, the one thing they all said when they walked onto the property was that they felt safe,” she said. “They were able to shut out noise and hear and see and taste things that they usually couldn’t do because of all the distractions. They could really unpack all that and were able to really feel and ground themselves.”

Adam Wallis said he was moved by seeing the transformation.

Healing in Nature. PHOTO COURTESY OMRI BARKIN “It was really impactful for me,” Wallis said. “Given what they had just gone through in Gaza and where they’ve been, you saw the real impact that Mother Nature and wilderness has. The other thing that was so amazing was to see how they were able to open up. They sat in the

main lodge, and they had their arms around each other. They were able to connect with each other and understand each other better, which was just amazing.”

Barkin also witnessed the impact of the session, and recognized it was as beneficial to his comrades in arms as it was

sary to make a positive impact in their communities.

Through an exclusive curriculum, high-profile local guest speakers, and knowledgeable community mentors, teens experience accelerated growth and transformational learning.

The program is open to teens in their junior and senior years of high school, and applications are now open until Nov. 3. Solomon accepts driven and committed teens who are excited to be part of the program. Interested individuals can learn more and apply by visiting www.solomonprogram.org or contacting Rabbi Avi Rubenfeld at rabbiavi@gmail.com.

when he first made the trip to Montana.

“We understand that a week in Montana, while it’s amazing, it’s not enough, so we have an alumni community that continues to stay in touch with the soldiers, and supports them with whatever they need,” he said. “It can be help with school, babysitting, or support systems.

We really provided them a variety of therapeutic methods. Some continued doing an ice bath, meditation and the breathing methods. We tried to provide the tools at the beginning and then support them with whatever we can afterwards.”

Barkin is now engaged in a fundraising effort, so he can continue HiN’s work and take additional IDF soldiers to Montana.

He has already planned for three additional groups to go in June 2025. He is based in Tel Aviv, and during Rosh Hashanah, Barkin came to St. Louis to visit the Wallis family. They are more than happy to continue hosting the soldiers at K Bar L Ranch. Emily Wallis said “It was incredible to watch their growth.” Adam Wallis said “We have a super passion for Israel.

When Omri called us with this idea, it was a no-brainer for us to say yes.”

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Fischoff said opening night (Nov. 2 at 7 p.m.) Bergman, the former IDF paratrooper and executive director of the Richardson Center for Global Engagement, was chosen.

“Mickey has this stunning way of putting a human face on international diplomacy, and his book, ‘In The Shadows: True Stories of High-Stakes Negotiations to Free Americans Captured Abroad,’ gives personal insight to his behind-the-scenes crucial role in the release of Gilad Shalit, and more recently, Americans held abroad such Otto Warmbier and Britney Griner.”

“We are so lucky to have Mickey Bergman as our headliner,” Scallet added.

“We selected this author because ‘In the Shadows’ will help us understand international negotiations, and perhaps, why it has been so hard to get our hostages home from Gaza.”

Closing night (Nov. 17 at 7 p.m.) will feature Handler, aka Lemony Snicket, who will be interviewed by Fischoff about his memoir “And Then? And Then? What Else?” at the St. Louis County Library’s Clark Family Branch. His program is appropriate for adults as well as grade school and up age children (children may attend for free).

Handler’s new memoir “is a deep dive into the cultural analysis of what helped frame and inspire his work and career,” Fischoff said. “But more importantly, Daniel is a truly entertaining speaker, and I have complete confidence that this is going to be a night of enjoyment for the whole family. He’s smart, he’s quick, and his cultural criticism is really an elevated and thought-provoking exploration into what contributes to our own creative processes.”

In between those opening and closing night is a whole lot of wonderful book festival.

Other headliners • Julia Quinn, author of the wildly popular “Bridgerton” historical fiction series.

She will headline Women’s Night “A Romantic Affair,” joined by Felicia Grossman and her “Once Upon the East End: Wake Me Most Wickedly,” on Nov. 7 at 7:30 p.m. (with a reception at 6:30 p.m.), at J’s the Staenberg Family Complex Edison Gymnasium. The discussion will be moderated by Ellen Futterman, editor-

From left: Authors Mickey Bergman, Joan Nathan, Julia Quinn and Daniel Handler are among the authors appearing at the 2024 St. Louis Jewish Book Festival. in-chief of the Jewish Light.

• Renowned cookbook author Joan Nathan will discuss her new memoir “My Life in Recipes: Food, Family, and Memories” on “Cookbook Night” (Nov. 16 at 7 p.m.).

Additional highlights: • Adam Nimoy talks about his book (and his famous father), “The Most Human: Reconciling with My Father, Leonard Nimoy,” on Nov. 4 at 5 p.m.

• Brian Levant and Fred Fox Jr.’s “50 Years of Happy Days: A Visual History of An American Television Classic,” (Nov. 4 at 7:30 p.m.) with stories and video outtakes with the writers of this classic TV series.

• Benjamin Ginsberg will discuss a very timely concern with his “The New American Anti-Semitism: The Left, the Right, and the Jews” (Nov. 7 at 1 p.m. at the St. Louis Kaplan Feldman Holocaust Museum).

“A Night of Theater” features Eddie Shapiro and his book “Here’s to the Ladies: Conversations with More of the Great Women of Musical Theater” plus special performances by New Jewish Theatre (Nov. 9 at 7:30 p.m.).

• The annual Kristallnacht remembrance will feature Karen Kirsten’s “Irena’s Gift: An Epic World War II Memoir of Sisters, Secrets, And Survival” (Nov. 10 at 7:30 p.m.)

• A Veteran’s Day program will include Stuart E. Eizenstat, author of “The Art of Diplomacy: How American Negotiators Reached Historic Agreements That Changed the World” (Nov. 11 at 7:30 p.m.).

• An overview of the baseball film genre with Noah Gittell (“Baseball: The Movie,” Sports Night, Nov. 14 at 7:30 p.m.). Gittell offers a multimedia presentation, joined

by Post-Dispatch sports columnist Ben Hochman.

• How to kick your clutter habit with

St. Louis Jewish Book Festival WHEN: Nov. 2-17 WHERE: Most events are held at the Jewish Community Center’s Mirowitz Performing Arts Center, 2 Millstone Campus Drive, with a few events held elsewhere at The J’s Staenberg Family Complex or in the community. Visit full schedule online for information about specific events.

• Historical Fiction (Nov. 8 at 1 p.m.)

• Women’s Memoirs (Nov. 13 at 5 p.m.)

Must-see recommendations

When asked if they thought one program was a must-see, both co-chairs mentioned the same one: Ilan Evyatar, author of “Target Tehran: How Mossad is Using Sabotage, Cyberware, Assassination/and HOW MUCH: Ticket prices vary. The festiSecret Diplomacy to Stop a Nuclear Iran val’s All-Access Pass, which also allows access and Realign the New Middle East” (Nov. to more than 25 JBF author events all year 12 at 1 p.m. at the Chabad Jewish Center round, cost just over $210. of St. Charles County).

“I believe this MORE INFO: Visit stljewishbookfestival. presentation will org for author information and full schedule of events. The festival box office is open Monday- help all of us to Friday from 10 a.m.-4 p.m. (call 314-442-3299). better understand current events in Andrew J. Mellen (“Unstuff Your Life!” the Middle East, which of course Nov. 15 at 11 a.m.). can be helpful for so many of us at Missouri’s Own and other this time,” Scallet panel discussions: said.

The Missouri’s Own panel (Nov. 14 at 2 Raznick men- Ilan Evyatar p.m.) includes a favorite of Scallet. tioned two programs: The Evyatar event, as “My favorite book this year is ‘Harry well as the event with R. Derek Black, godGets Wise’ by Michael Vines. This book is son of KKK Grand Wizard David Duke, about Michael’s grandfather trying to run and author of “The Klansman’s Son” (Nov. a store here, in downtown St. Louis, and 12 at 7:30 p.m.). Raznick said the book all the gangsters he had to deal with to chronicles the author’s “journey from hate keep his business running. Reading this to understanding. It should be an extremely book reminded me of my own father’s powerful evening.” store downtown. He had many of the same The festival will include an in-house problems and dealt with some of them in bookstore, staffed by festival committee the same ways. Michael describes St. members, to give attendees a chance to Louis so artfully throughout this book. It buy books from any of the events. was a very fast read for me, and now I Fischoff said the 2024 St. Louis Jewish need a signed copy — or three — so I can Book Festival offers a literary banquet for pass it down to my children.” readers.

Other panels include: “This festival is an opportunity not sim• “The Old Jewish Men’s Guide to ply for us to amplify Jewish writers or Eating, Sleeping and Futzing Around” writers on Jewish themes, it’s a chance to with Noah Rinsky, along with Reuven support them, to celebrate them, to engage Fenton’s “Goyhood.” (Humor in Literature with them, and to help continue on the legpanel, Nov. 3, 7:30 p.m.). acy that is Jewish literature,” Fischoff said.

Noah Gittell, author of ‘Baseball The Movie,’ will be featured during the festival’s Sports Night.

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Newsmakers is a compilation of the Jewish community’s newsworthy professional and academic accomplishments. Submit your news to news@stljewishlight.org. Call 314-743-3669 for more information. Newsmakers is compiled by Elise Krug.

Shelley Dean is the new social media director for Aish HaTorah in St. Louis. She is responsible for elevating their community’s visibility through creative and engaging social media content. Dean is a member of Congregation B’nai Amoona.

The Jewish Community Relations Council of St. Louis (JCRC) has appointed J. David Levy as the new board chair for the Michael and Barbara Newmark Institute for Human Relations. The institute is committed to the concept of a pluralistic society where diverse religious, racial, and ethnic groups live and work together and their differences enhance the community. Levy is retired from Angelica Uniform as vice president of corporate planning and is a member of Temple Emanuel.

On National Philanthropy Day, Steve Lowy received the Outstanding Philanthropist Award from the St. Louis Regional Chapter of the Association of Fundraising Professionals. A major donor of Washington University’s Lowy Scholarship for the past 40 years, he has sponsored endowed and annual scholarships that have supported more than 100 engineering students. Lowy currently serves as chairman for IT consulting and staffing firm Envision and is a member of Temple Emanuel.

The Honorable Ellen Levy of Missouri’s 21st Judicial Court, was named one of nine 2024 Leaders of Distinction. She will be celebrated at the YWCA Leaders Lunch on Dec. 13 at the Marriott St. Louis Grand.

Levy is a member of Congregation Temple Israel.

The Art Gallery at Chesterfield City Hall will feature 14 paintings of Mark Koritz.

The art exhibit is currently running through Dec. 31, with an artist reception on Oct. 24 from 5:30-7:30 p.m. All proceeds from the sale of his work goes to The St. Louis Men’s Group Against

TOP ROW, FROM LEFT: Shelley Dean, J. David Levy, Steve Lowy and the Honorable Ellen Levy.

SECOND ROW: Mark Koritz, David Levy, Dr. Ron Wolfson and the cover of his new book.

BELOW RIGHT: Jamie Krakover is the author of ‘Authority.’

Cancer. Koritz attends Congregation Shaare Emeth.

David Levy has joined Mercy’s Center for Performance Medicine as a certified hand therapist and occupational therapist.

He treats conditions that range from hand and upper extremity arthritis to complex injuries resulting from trauma, helping people return to their full and regular activities. Levy is a member of Central Reform Congregation.

In his new book, “Jewish Communal Leadership: Lessons Learned from

Leading Practitioners,” educator, organizational innovator and former St. Louisan Dr. Ron Wolfson gives us the lessons learned from intensive interviews with outstanding Jewish leaders who share their insights and experiences leading a variety of Jewish institutions.

The book is designed as an interactive volume for leadership teams to read and use together, including discussion questions at the end of each chapter to focus attention on practical application of the content. Wolfson is the Fingerhut Professor of Education at American Jewish University.

Jamie Krakover recently published “Authority,” her second book in the Tracker Sequence. The book is about a futuristic St. Louis where everyone has brain-interfacing tracking chips, and a 16-year-old has to navigate the intersection of Judaism and the technology threatening to take control of everyone she cares about. A member of Congregation Temple Israel, Krakover is an engineering senior manager for The Boeing Company.

Newsmakers is a compilation of the Jewish community’s newsworthy professional and academic accomplishments.

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Hostage families’ stories will be highlighted at solidarity event at The J The one-year anniversary of the Oct. 7 terror attack on Israel served as a stark reminder of the ongoing crisis, but this awareness must not fade. To keep the stories of the hostages and the impact of terrorism at the forefront, the St. Louis Jewish community is invited to gather at the Jewish Community Center – Staenberg Family Complex on Oct. 27 for a special event aimed at fostering solidarity and understanding.

Organized in partnership with the Hostage and Missing Families Forum, this in-person event will feature a live Zoom conversation with a family member of a hostage, sharing their personal story and perspective. While the specific family participating is still being determined, this direct connection aims to bring our community closer to those enduring unimaginable hardships. To fully engage, attendees must be present at The J, as the Zoom session will only be accessible to those in the room.

“We hope our community can learn about the personal impact of these events and the importance of solidarity and support,” said Naomi Elbaz, Israeli engagement coordinator at The J. “By creating a platform for dialogue and understanding, we hope to foster compassion and encourage proactive responses to violence and hate.”

Attendees will also experience a virtual tour of Hostages Square in Tel Aviv, visually linking our community to the events unfolding in Israel.

“The event also invites attendees to engage further by participating in advocacy efforts, contributing to fundraising initiatives for affected families, and educating themselves and others about the broader context of violence and trauma,” said Elbaz.

To join this vital conversation and show your support, register online at https://formstack.io/ A127F.

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Beth Hamedrosh Hagodol Cemetery undergoes major improvements Beth Hamedrosh Hagodol Cemetery, located at 9125 Ladue Road, is nearing completion of significant upgrades to enhance the visitor experience and preserve the cemetery’s historic grounds. The improvements include a new office and garage, updated walkways, newly paved roads and a restructured parking lot. Visitors will also notice changes to many of the burial sites in this cemetery, one of the oldest in the St. Louis Jewish community.

The cemetery’s board of directors authorized the updates after careful deliberation. Key changes include leveling mounds and removing existing ground cover and wooden boxes surrounding graves. Eventually, all grave sites will be uniformly covered with grass to create a more cohesive and serene environment.

“The cemetery’s board and staff are dedicated to ensuring the grounds reflect the care and respect we have for the

An artist’s rendering of the 2,400-square foot building under construction at Beth Hamedrosh Hagodol Cemetery.

Jewish community we serve,” said Roberta Gutwein, president of the Beth Hamedrosh Hagodol Cemeter y Association. She noted that the ivy and sedum ground cover, which has been removed, held no religious significance but had become difficult to maintain.

Executive Director Cindy Becker echoed these sentiments, explaining the operational challenges posed by the previous landscape. “The

upkeep and personnel demands made it nearly impossible to maintain the current ground cover. We want visitors to find the grounds attractive year-round, and these changes will help achieve that goal.”

The board’s goal is to ensure the cemetery remains a place of beauty and calm for families and visitors, while also simplifying long-term maintenance.

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CONTINUED FROM PAGE 1 will ask me questions when they see [the Star of David], and it’s another way of teaching people about Judaism.”

Mauri Tedder, 26, takes her Jewish pride a step further at Chiefs games, wearing a gold necklace and chai charm large enough to rival an NFL star’s jewelry. She also sports a chai tattoo on her neck, fusing personal style with faith while rooting for quarterback Patrick Mahomes and company.

“I wear my chai every day, I’ve got tattoos that are visible that represent my Judaism, and I’ve always felt at home here,” Tedder, who lives near Creve Couer, said while tailgating at Arrowhead in September. “I feel like I can be me while being a Chiefs fan.”

Tedder’s fandom is a family affair. Her mother, Yvonne Tedder, 58, holds season tickets in Section 123 along the 5-yard line.

Before driving to home games, she loads her RAV4 with a grill, tent, chairs, tote packs filled with eating supplies, and that perennial tailgating MVP: a portable toilet.

Like most longtime Chiefs fans, Tedder has rituals that make game days all the more fun. One is cheering on her favorite player, defensive tackle and fellow Florida State University alumnus Derrick Nnadi.

Another is snacking on crinkle-cut Crabfries she orders from Chickie’s & Pete’s at Arrowhead at halftime.

“It’s an incredible atmosphere on game day and really fosters a sense of community,” Yvonne Tedder said. “Everybody is one big, happy Chiefs family.”

Rooting for NFL teams has not always been easy for Jewish women, several of whom said aspects of the sport can at times conflict with their values. The

Above left: Marni Frischer with her father, Phil Frischer. Above right: Mauri (left) and Yvonne Tedder. ALL PHOTOS: KEVIN DEUTSCH game’s impact on player’s brains and bodies, plus allegations of sexism, racism and gender discrimination that permeate the league, can make fandom a tough sell for some.

Still, a 2021 SSRS Sports Poll found that 46% of NFL fans were female, the highest of any professional U.S. sports league.

And that was before Taylor Swift started rocking Chiefs gear.

The music superstar’s high profile romance with Chiefs tight end Travis Kelce added a “Swift factor” that has sparked massive growth among the team’s female fan base, Jewish women included, superfan Amy Spetner Doughty said.

“I’m not a Swiftie who became a football fan. I’m a football fan who’s also a Swiftie,” said Spetner Doughty, 52, of Olivette. “I doubled down when my two loves came together, and it’s been unbelievable.”

The Jewish mother of three, a school nurse in Clayton, came to the Chiefs with a broken heart. The Rams’ departure from St. Louis after the 2015 season left her “devastated, angry and hurt.”

“I was crying,” she said. “I just didn’t want to root for anything.”

When Mahomes began his string of spectacular seasons in 2018, Spetner Doughty’s love of the game reawakened.

“I was just all in for the Chiefs from then on,” she said. “And now the Swift factor has brought daddies and their little girls together again.”

Like Spetner Doughty, Chiefs fan Marni Frischer, 24, inherited her love of the Chiefs from her father, Phil Frischer. A fan from the time she could walk, she attended her first game at age 4 with her dad and grew into a fervent football aficionado.

“We’d make a family trip from St. Louis and come in the night before, get barbecue

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Frischer sees similarities between her love of Jewish family traditions and her passion for Chiefs football, minus the religion.

“I feel like the aspect of tradition in Judaism is kind of replicated through football, bringing people together, making the game the biggest priority of the day for our family,” she said.

Like many female Chiefs fans, Frischer can reel off player factoids with ease. For instance, she recently schooled a reporter on the 2016 reality dating show “Catching Kelce,” in which 50 women from 50 states competed to win the heart of the star, who has been selected to the NFL Pro Bowl nine times.

Travis and Taylor’s relationship is good for the game, she said.

“There’s been a kind of stigma around women and football, this idea that it’s more for men and that women might shy away from the game, feeling like they can’t ask questions (about the sport),” Frischer said. “I think the Taylor effect has been great because it’s gotten more people involved and interested” Beth Higdon, 51, is among longtime fans stepping up their team spirit amid the Swift-Kelce craze. She’ll be attending her first Chiefs game at Arrowhead on Nov. 10 against the Broncos.

The Jewish Chesterfield resident said she’s long loved watching Chiefs games on television but is excited to experience the excitement of live football.

She hopes to bring the back-to-back Super Bowl champs a little luck, too.

“If they’re on a winning streak, we make sure that we’re wearing the same clothes (as the previous week),” said Higdon, whose go-to Sunday apparel is a red Kelce jersey. “I just love this team.”

At left, Beth Higdon. Above, Amy Spetner Doughty sports her Travis Kelce jersey.

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D’VAR TORAH ON PARASHAT BERESHIT

Pioneering rabbis are inspiration to choose knowledge, seek truth

BY RABBI RACHEL BEARMAN CONGREGATION SHAARE EMETH

Every year, as we study this week’s Torah portion, Bereshit, I find myself thinking of two remarkable rabbis.

The first rabbi I associate with Parashat Bereshit is Rabbi Sally J. Priesand. In 1972, Rabbi Priesand was ordained by the Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion and became the first female rabbi in North America. In the more than 50 years since she was ordained, Rabbi Priesand has served the Jewish people tirelessly and has taken every opportunity to, as she describes it, “hold the door open,” for the rabbis of all genders and especially the female rabbis- who have followed in her footsteps.

Several years ago, I had the pleasure of speaking with Rabbi Priesand, and I asked her who her favorite biblical figure was.

She replied that she loved, “Eve because she chose knowledge and wisdom over life in the Garden of Eden.”

I was so struck by her answer. For thousands of years- since the time of the Torah itself- Eve’s choice to eat from the tree of knowledge has been denounced, and, yet, in one sentence, Rabbi Priesand had upended all of the assumptions that are behind that denunciation. The more that I thought about her answer, the more it made sense. Of course, Rabbi Priesand admires Eve. Rabbi Priesand is a pioneer

who chose to seek her rabbinical education even when many of her professors and classmates denounced her goals. It makes perfect sense that she finds such meaning in the story of another woman who could have lived comfortably within the boundaries she was given but who decided to pursue an unprecedented path to knowledge and wisdom instead.

The second rabbi that I associate with Bereshit is Rabbi Regina Jonas, the first female rabbi. Rabbi Jonas received her rabbinical ordination from Rabbi Max Dienemann in a private ceremony on Dec. 27, 1935. Her ordination certificate was signed by Rabbi Dienemann, the then president of the General Assembly of Rabbis in Germany, and Rabbi Dienemann’s signature was attested to by Rabbi Leo Baeck. For years after her ordination, Rabbi Jonas worked selflessly and courageously for the Jewish people of Germany, even as the Nazis continued to gain more power.

In 1942, Rabbi Jonas and her mother were deported to Terezin where she continued to teach and serve the Jewish people until October of 1944 when she and her mother were sent to Auschwitz and then murdered.

Rabbi Leo Baek, Victor Frankel (author of “Man’s Search for Meaning”), and other survivors of Terezin knew Rabbi Jonas, and, yet, after the war, none of them ever again mentioned her by name in any public

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I thought that the views of 12 people that were included in the Jewish Light article (Oct. 9, St. Louisans reflect on personal changes sparked by Oct. 7) were representative of a majority of Jewish people and validated many of the emotions and thoughts that I have had and continue to experience. However, I was really distressed by the comments made by Michael Berg, which I considered much more extreme and irrational than the comments most St. Louis Jews who don’t support Israel might express.

Berg’s comments were hard to empathize with, unsubstantiated second-hand or third-hand accounts, or simply a rehash of Hamas, Hezbollah and Iranian propaganda statements.

Sadly, in war there is “collateral damage” to civilians and to buildings in order to neutralize terrorist enemies and to destroy enemy weapons and equipment.

Hamas’s barbarians have continuously used non-combatant adults and children,

and even the Israeli and foreign hostages of Oct. 7 as “human shields.”

Such loss of life is unfortunate but unavoidable, even when the Israeli army sends warning for civilians to leave an area in order to avoid injury or death. In my opinion, Israel’s IDF is as careful, or more careful, to avoid collateral damage than most other military forces. I think that Michael Berg is a “useful idiot” puppet of anti-Israel terrorist propagandists and is doing a great job in promoting hate and antisemitism. I don’t know him personally but do feel sorry for him.

I feel that his statement is unbalanced and untrue. Maybe the publication of Michael Berg’s statement gives Jewish Light readers a bitter taste of the hate speech that he and other Jewish and non-Jewish anti-Israel and antisemites promote, but would prefer not to read this kind of misinformation in my local Jewish newspaper.

Morris Finkelstein, M.D., Ph.D. Clayton I have always considered the Jewish Light a safe space in our community, a

writings. Her life, rabbinate, and legacy faded almost completely into obscurity until a researcher discovered a small collection of her surviving writings in 1991.

This previously unknown collection included a photo of Rabbi Jonas in rabbinical robes, a few newspaper clippings about her work as a rabbi in various German communities, a copy of her rabbinical thesis, and her ordination certificate (source: “The Sacred Calling: Four Decades of Women in the Rabbinate,” pages 46-48.

Over the last several decades, scholars have used this small, personal archive to fill in Rabbi Jonas’s story and to craft a portrait of a woman defined by her deep commitment to education and by the resiliency and steadfastness that she showed as she encountered and overcame all obstacles in her years-long pursuit of the rabbinate.

In one of the pieces discovered in Rabbi Jonas’s small archive, we find her reflections on her desire to be a rabbi, “If I confess what motivated me, a woman, to become a rabbi, two things come to mind.

My belief in God’s calling and my love of humans. God planted in our heart skills and a vocation without asking about gender. Therefore, it is the duty of men and women alike to work and create according to the skills given by God.” — Regina Jonas, C.-V.-Zeitung, June 23, 1938 (source: Jewish Women’s Archive, jwa.org).

We do not know for certain the exact day that Rabbi Jonas and her mother were

publication that promotes a variety of viewpoints and respects all opinions, however the published reply of Michael Berg to the Oct. 7 tragedy crossed a hard line for me (“St. Louisans reflect on personal changes sparked by Oct. 7”). How can our exclusive Jewish community publication give this individual a forum of which to spew misinformation, ignorance and propaganda? It was extremely disappointing and sad to see that he was provided the opportunity to be published among many of our distinguished St. Louis community leaders who already provided a variety of opinions across the spectrum on this matter.

His prime concern on Oct. 7 was that Israel would now make “life a living hell for every man, woman and child in Gaza.”

He then mentions Israeli “atrocities” and “genocide” without a word about the Hamas atrocities committed to innocent Israeli civilians sleeping in their homes or celebrating at a peaceful music festival or specifically of men, women, children, babies that were barbarically slaughtered, raped, burned, murdered or taken as hostages that day. It was not mentioned that Israel did not choose this war or that it has the right to defend itself to make Israel a safe community for all of its citizens — Jews, Muslims, Christians, Druze or that many of the Israeli victims were peace

Rabbi Rachel Bearman serves Congregation Shaare Emeth and is a member of the St. Louis Rabbinical and Cantorial Association, which coordinates the d’var Torah for the Jewish Light. killed, but based on the timing of their deportation from Terezin and their arrival in Auschwitz, Shabbat Bereshit has been designated as their yahrzeit (their anniversary of passing).

In honor of these two remarkable rabbis, these two pioneers who devoted their rabbinates to serving the Jewish people, I hope that we will all approach the familiar stories of Bereshit with open minds and hearts. I hope that we will honor these rabbis’ commitment to the pursuit of knowledge, even and especially when our pursuit leads us into previously unexplored spaces. I hope that we will allow ourselves to listen to the small voice within our hearts, the same voice that Eve heard within her heart, the voice that asks, “What will happen if we trade comfort for truth? What can we become if we choose knowledge over contentment? What lies beyond the boundaries that we have been told that we must exist within?”

What I have learned from Rabbi Priesand and Rabbi Jonas is that if we are brave enough, determined enough, visionary enough, we can choose knowledge and can become the pioneers on whose shoulders future generations will gratefully stand.

activists who worked alongside Palestinians to help provide employment or transport their children from the border to Israeli hospitals and other kind acts.

It is vital that we acknowledge the full context of the situation, rather than allowing radical viewpoints that promote hate speech to overshadow the facts. I urge the Jewish Light to continue its important work by offering space for diverse perspectives while ensuring that it does not inadvertently promote harmful narratives. We already face an abundance of misinformation within our community, on our college campuses and beyond. I hope that future editions will strive for a more balanced representation of the complexities we face.

Sherri Hyken-Sadon Creve Coeur In 1945, would a Jewish newspaper print a story where a Jewish reader expressed support for Nazis and great concern for the damage that may be caused to the concentration camps by the allied military forces. In 1967, would a Jewish publication post a comment from a Jewish reader who was concerned that Israel destroyed Egyptian and Syrian airplanes. That could never happen, right? Well in 2024, the Jewish Light included a reflection on Oct. Letters continue on opposite page

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Reflections on nearing 80

BY MARTY ROCHESTER

As the presidential election approaches, I wanted to write about which candidate I thought was worth voting for but could not do so since endorsing or rejecting political nominees in a column published by a nonprofit such as the Jewish Light would not be kosher.

Hence, I decided to write on a lighter subject that is far less important, except one that has deep meaning for me. It so happens I am nearing octogenarian status, which leads me to reflect back on my lifetime, both ups and downs. As I note below, I have experienced far more ups than downs.

My first blessing was to be born a couple months after World War II had ended, into a solidly middle-class family with warm, caring parents. (I have never taken that for granted.) My father was a pharmacist, my mother a schoolteacher. I was joined by a twin brother, Stuart, who became my oldest and closest friend. We were raised as Conservative Jews, taught strong values, including the importance of education.

My parents sent me and my brother to Baltimore public schools. Both the elementary and junior high schools I attended took their name from nearby Pimlico Racetrack, which was only about 15 minutes from my house if I walked with a fast gait. In contrast, Baltimore City College High School, my next stop, was located several miles across town. I relied on public transportation, which meant my spend-

LETTERS CONTINUED FROM OPPOSITE PAGE 7 by a Jewish reader who was upset about the rapes, torture, kidnapping and murders not because he values Jewish lives, but instead because he feared for the people living in Gaza.

The reader refers to the buildings that Hamas hides weapons in as schools, hospitals and bakeries and refers to Hamas terrorists as doctors, journalists and aid workers. When a school hides weapons, it is no longer a school, and when a doctor kidnaps innocent Israelis, they are no longer a doctor.

The kicker was the reader ended his interview saying that Israel cannot bomb its way to peace and security, and then pushes for a Palestinian state. The writer seems to think that terrorism should be rewarded.

I am still in great shock and anger that any Jewish organization would offer space to any anti-Israel, pro-terrorist viewpoint, but especially in the Oct. 7, 2024 special reflecting back to one year ago that day.

Mike Minoff Olivette

Amendment 3 As Missouri approaches a pivotal general election, one measure stands out on the ballot: Amendment 3. This amendment seeks to repeal the state’s extreme abortion ban, which currently prohibits abortion even in cases of rape and incest. The National Council of Jewish Women (NCJW) is dedicated to championing reproductive justice, ensuring that every individual has the right to make personal, faith-informed decisions about their body, health and family without undue governmental interference.

Our Jewish tradition teaches us that reproductive freedom is inherently linked

ing an hour each way, transferring daily from one bus to another. This “busing” was the price one had to pay for the quality of the education “City” had to offer. For those of us enrolled in the special college preparatory program, the venerable institution — it is the third oldest public high school in America and had graduated the likes of Leon Uris and Stuart Symington — rewarded our long commute with a dedication to academic excellence.

My brother and I then attended Loyola College, where I gained an early appreciation for diversity, being among no more than a dozen Jews in our class at a Jesuit school. I learned to eat steamed crabs and crab cakes, drink beer and made lots of lifelong friends. I was required to take ROTC and learn to shoot an M1 rifle, although I was spared going to Vietnam, missing the most traumatic challenge of my generation due to a deferment for graduate school. I have never quite shaken my sense of guilt over that.

My brother and I went our separate ways after college. He got his Ph.D. in history at the University of Virginia and eventually became the chief historian in the U.S. Department of Defense. I received my Ph.D. in Political Science in 1972 from Syracuse University and spent almost the next 50 years at the University of MissouriSt.Louis before retiring in 2019 as Curators Distinguished Teaching Professor of Political Science. (Stuart died of melanoma in 2009, one of the lowest points in my life,

but not before showing me how one dies with the utmost courage and dignity.)

My professional life was primarily spent teaching and writing about international relations. Among my writings is a book on the United Nations calling for improved global institution-building. I was recognized in 1995, on the 50th anniversary of the U.N., by the St. Louis chapter of the United Nations Association of America as one of 50 local “people who have devoted their lives personally and professionally to the values of peace and justice within their own communities and throughout the world.”

As suggested by my scholarly interest in the U.N., I have spent much of my adult life as a liberal — participating in the civil rights movement of the 1960s, delighting in the Republican downfall over Watergate in the ’70s, speaking out against some of Ronald Reagan’s Cold War policies in the ’80s, taking on a Big Brother role with a troubled St Louis inner city kid in the 2000s and so on. All the while, however, I sensed that, as I was aging, I was becoming more and more alienated from the left.

This was mainly a reaction to what I witnessed in K-12 and higher education, where a growing misplaced obsession with “equity and diversity” on the part of “progressive” educators translated into a collapse of standards.

It was not that I had abandoned liberalism; rather, liberalism had abandoned me.

We hear today how the GOP is unrecognizable. Well, the same can be said about

to our religious liberty. By voting YES on Amendment 3, we can dismantle Missouri’s restrictive abortion ban, empowering women to make informed choices about their pregnancy and healthcare with support from their families, medical professionals, and clergy—all while preserving our religious freedoms.

NCJWSTL calls on all Missourians to stand against government overreach and reclaim the autonomy to make their own healthcare decisions. Please vote YES on Amendment 3 this November 5th.

Marlene Hammerman, MSW Past President, National Council of Jewish Women-St. Louis Chair, Amendment 3 Campaign

aid to Israel to pressure it into a deal with Hamas; Pramila Jayapal, who has labeled Israel a racist state; Squad member Summer Lee; 28 of 37 Democrats who voted against last April’s Israel Security Supplemental Appropriations Act; Bernie Sanders, Elizabeth Warren, to name a few.

I wrote Mr. Pereles to request “that in the name of transparency, you make known this [J Street] affiliation to voters in District 15…it is the right thing to do.”

I am still awaiting a response.

Susan Feigenbaum, Ph.D. Town and Country

Transparency in politics Like you, I receive many calls from candidates on November’s ballot. As a resident of Missouri Senate District 15 (Chesterfield, Town and Country, Ballwin), I was particularly interested in Joe Pereles, who is running to represent me. His campaign materials indicate that he has been involved in many community organizations, including the Jewish Federation.

I was quite surprised when told that Mr. Pereles is also actively engaged in the St. Louis chapter of J Street. The national J Street website notes that “Joe co-founded the St. Louis J Street Chapter, [and] is the chapter’s advocacy chair.” He is also listed as a member of J Street’s National Board of Directors. Why would Mr. Pereles omit this longstanding commitment to J Street from his campaign materials?

For many of us with a strong commitment to the survival of Israel, J Street’s policies – such as supporting the Iran nuclear deal – are, at best, naïve, and at worst, downright dangerous. Its 2024 Congressional endorsements are telling: Colin Allred, who supports withholding

Pereles responds to letter As a candidate for the Missouri State Senate, I am eager to respond to the comments made by those questioning my support for Israel.

While state senators don’t have much sway on our nation’s foreign policy, they do have an impact on reproductive health care, public safety, education and so many other issues that matter to everyday Missourians.

I am an active and proud member of our local Jewish community, serving on the board of the Jewish Federation, which raised over $7 million for our Israel Emergency campaign. I am a past chair of the Jewish Community Relations Council, a past president of Congregation Shaare Emeth and a co-founder of Be The Narrative, the organization expanding the highly successful Student to Student program nationwide. And yes, I am also involved in J Street — a pro-Israel, propeace, pro-democracy organization.

When it comes to my pro-Israel politics and work with J Street, it is critical to make clear that my beliefs are representative of the vast majority of American Jews who want security for Israel, peace between Israel and her neighbors and a

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J. Martin Rochester, Curators’ Distinguished Teaching Professor of Political Science Emeritus at the University of Missouri-St. Louis, is the author of 10 books on international and American politics. the other side — the Democratic Party, with its condemnation of the merit principle, the elevation of the group over the individual, the violation of the rule of law at the border, and perversion of other liberal values, is also unrecognizable.

Notwithstanding the awful current state of our politics, I have been blessed to live in the greatest country on Earth. I have also been blessed with two wonderful sons –one of whom is a Reform Jew and the other a Lubavitch Jew but who do not allow these differences to create barriers between them — and nine beautiful grandchildren. Thank God, they are all healthy, as I am. Sadly, two years ago I lost my wife Ruth, who I enjoyed a wonderful marriage with for over 50 years.

Retirement was an existential moment for me, Ruth’s death even more so.

I continue to try to cope as best I can, thankfully surrounded by lots of family and friends. I have written over 200 op-eds in the Jewish Light, Post-Dispatch, Education Week, USA Today and other publications. I hope I still have something left to contribute. In any event, it truly has been a wonderful life with few regrets.

sustainable future for all in the region.

Voters in Senate District 15 have two choices for our next state senator—I have vowed to protect a woman’s right to choose. David Gregory, my opponent has proudly sponsored and voted in favor of the most restrictive abortion ban in the country with no exceptions for rape or incest. To me, the choice is clear.

I’m running for the Missouri State Senate to fight for you. I will fight for Missouri, for our rights and against antisemitism and extremism at home and around the state.

Joe Pereles Chesterfield

Bringing young Jews back to Judaism It is quite obvious that Mr. Norman Pressman holds a deep disdain of what he calls the “ultra-Orthodox.” It is also quite obvious that Mr. Pressman is missing the point. More Americans across the board are turning away from religion in general.

In a Pew Research Center survey conducted in 2018 and 2019, the religiously unaffiliated share of people who describe their religious identity as atheist, agnostic or “nothing in particular,” now stands at 26%, up from 17% in 2009.

The movement away from religion is even more extreme among young women than young men when it comes to religion: A 2024 survey by the Survey Center on American Life reported that 54% of Gen Z (those born 1997 to 2012) adults who left their religion were women; 46% were men.

Rabbi means teacher. Perhaps Mr. Pressman would do well to ask himself what he can do to help our Jewish youth to return to Judaism in an engaged and committed Jewish lifestyle.

James Pollock Town and Country

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BY ELLEN FUTTERMAN EDITOR-IN-CHIEF

On Oct. 25, the Repertory Theatre of St. Louis kicks off its Steve Woolf Studio Series with the dark comedy, “The Roommate” by Jen Silverman, a two-character play starring Nancy Bell as Robyn, and Kelley Weber as Sharon. In “The Roommate,” middle-aged Sharon, recently divorced and seeking a sensible roommate, opens her home to Robyn, a mysterious woman with a murky past.

The 90-minute play strives to take audiences on a humorous adventure “of self-discovery, secrets and revelations that challenge societal norms, embrace the unexpected and revel in the reinvention that only true friendship can create,” according to press materials.

“The Roommate,” is being directed by Rebekah Scallet, artistic director of New Jewish Theatre. In a wide-ranging Q&A,

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Kelley Weber and Nancy Bell (above) star in The Rep’s production of ‘The Roommate,’ directed by Rebekah Scallet (left). the Jewish Light spoke to Scallet about the play, which also happens to be on Broadway starring Patti LuPone and Mia Farrow (the play’s small scale and St. Louis’ distance away from New York, allow the Rep to stage this production), and directing on a stage away from the Jewish Community Center campus and the Wool Theatre, her “regular” home.

How do you interpret the central themes of “The Roommate,” and what

unique perspectives are you bringing to this production?

“The Roommate” is about unlocking your hidden potential no matter how old you are, and recognizing that it’s never too late to make a real change in your life.

The women at the center of this story are both stuck in the ways they’ve been living their lives to this point, and desperate to make changes. And through their interac-

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Before Oct. 7, actor and comedian Michael Rapaport referred to himself as a “lox and bagels Jew” — proud of his heritage, though not very involved. But after Hamas’ deadly attack on Israel last year, Rapaport — best known for his roles on the TV series “Boston Public,” “Prison Break,” “Friends” and “The War at Home” — has emerged as an unflinching voice in support of Israel and the hostages still held in Gaza and against antisemitism.

Rapaport will visit St. Louis Saturday, Nov. 9 for a performance at the Sheldon Concert Hall (see below for full event details).

“I’ve heard great things about The Sheldon,” Rapaport shared during a recent phone interview. “It’s an intimate space, and I love that vibe. It feels like you’re performing directly to the audience.”

Rapaport said he weaves together his personal experiences, humor and current events into his performance, offering a mix of levity and insight.

Rapaport’s current tour reflects his deepening connection to his Jewish identity, intensified by his recent trips to Israel amid the ongoing conflicts.

“I’ve been there four times in the past year. The trips are emotional—demoralizing, inspiring, all of it. What’s happening there is unimaginable,” he shared. His shows relate these experiences, combin-

WHEN: Now through Nov. 17 WHERE: The Emerson Studio at the Loretto-Hilton Center, 130 Edgar Road HOW MUCH: $60 MORE INFO: Purchase tickets online at Repstl.org, by phone at 314-968-4925 or The Rep Box Office at the Loretto-Hilton Center

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ing humor with the sobering realities of what he saw firsthand.

Balancing humor with heavy topics is no easy feat, but it’s something Rapaport

believes is crucial.

“I give it the reality, the respect, the See COMEDY on page 21

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You may be an alpha, dude, but you’re no sigma Columnist seeks out trendy teen slang to decode for parents, grandparents

teem and need to compensate by bragging — or mogging.

Of course, you could simply be confident in your achievement and can actually back up your mogging. You don’t just walk the walk, you mog the talk.

“Leo’s friend Ephraim is the height mogger, but Leo is the grade point average mogger.”

person in charge is called the alpha? Well sigma is even better. When you are a sigma, you are at the height of the chain, the one with top billing, the person who is, well, better than everyone else.

“Gassing up the rental car, Jeff knew which side the tank was on because he looked for the little arrow on the dashboard pointing it out. Such a sigma move.”

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Kids, these days. No one knows what they’re talking about! It’s probably the same stuff we talked about when we were young but with new words.

Remember being young, when you didn’t have back pain and went out for the evening at 10 p.m.? Those days are long gone.

For those of us with kids or grandkids in their teens, we often hear words we don’t understand — that is, when they actually speak to us. One generation’s “groovy” is another generation’s “sick.” And when a Jewish mother hears the word sick, she panics.

As in years past, I am going to help you decode the trendy lingo modern day teens use to communicate.

Opp — An opp is a shady character, the enemy, a person who is your opposition. For example, Cardinals fans know that Cubs fans are opps, and they are not to be trusted.

“When Jeff grounded Davis from going out, Davis declared Jeff was an opp holding him back from opportunity.”

Sigma — You know how the

Columnist Amy Fenster Brown is married to Jeff and has two teenage sons, Davis and Leo. She volunteers for several Jewish not-for-profit groups. Fenster Brown is an Emmy Award-winning TV news writer and counts time with family and friends, talking and eating peanut butter among her hobbies.

Crash out — This one has nothing to do with falling asleep at 8:30 p.m. If you are triggered and go bonkers, yelling at everyone and throwing a tantrum, you are soooo crashing out.

“The customer isn’t always right, as proven by the one who crashed out at customer service screaming that the checkout line was too long and she had somewhere important to be because her time is more valuable than everyone else’s.”

Next time you talk to a teen, your aura points will go through the roof, since you’ll be making a sigma move knowing all the trendy slang. They’ll know you’re not an opp based on your motion. Snap a pic to prove your mewing is mogging theirs. Be sure to flash some pape and someone in the room will crash out in no time.

Motion — Things are moving in a positive direction when you’ve got motion.

Money, romantic interests, life is really going your way.

“With college acceptances and scholarships rolling in, Leo has got motion!”

Aura — An old term with a refreshed definition. These days, aura is more specific to your level of cool. If you have aura, the energy of the room changes just by you walking into it. Aura is fluid so, if you do something cool, it boosts your aura points. And if you do something embarrassing your aura points are down the toilet.

“Dressed head to toe in Banana Republic, Jeff’s aura was off the charts high when he walked into work surrounded by engineers in white socks and black shoes.”

Pape — Short for paper but, in this case, the recycled trees refer to money. Dollars.

Bills. Did you just get paid? Then you have pape!

“Anyone can have the kind of money that jingles, but if you have the kind that folds, you’ve got pape.”

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Mewing — This is like a fitness regimen for your jawline so you look strong and attractive without Kardashian level contour makeup. In the exercise of mewing, you press your tongue to the roof of your mouth to get the look. This allegedly works on the spot for photos. Repeat mewing is a workout for a more defined jawline.

“Every time the cat mews, I remember to do my own mewing to shape my jawline, even though nobody will actually ever notice it.”

Mogging — This is when you’re better than others at something, although one could argue that if you have to obnoxiously announce it, you likely have low self-es-

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Helena is the daughter of Eva Guez Cooper of Paris, France, and Michael Cooper of Orlando, Fla. She is the granddaughter of Yael and Jacob Guez (z’’l) of Mainvilliers, France, and Diane and Charlie Cooper of Clayton.

Max is the son of Laura Balent and Bill Bruch (z’’l) of Bellevue, Wash. and the grandson of Andrew Balent of North Carolina.

Helena is the director of youth engagement at Congregation Shaare Emeth. Max is the associate director of sustainability and auxiliary programs at The College School.

Helena spent the year as an intern at The College School, where Max teaches, in their Equity and Inclusion department. Her “desk” was outside of his office and they quickly became friends. Fast forward to a year later, their friendship turned romantic. Max proposed at Lafayette Square Park on an evening walk (one of Helena’s favorite activities). Lafayette Square Park is beloved by Max because he spent a lot of time there when he first moved to St. Louis.

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BAR MITZVAH: JOSHUA ISAAC ROSEN Joshua Isaac Rosen, son of Diane and David Rosen of St. Louis, will become a bar mitzvah on Nov. 9, 2024 at Congregation B’nai Amoona.

Josh is the grandson of Joyce Raskin of Brooklyn, N.Y.; Ray Raskin and Rosary Morelli of Brooklyn; Helene and John Graham of Brighton, Mich.; and Charles Rosen of Farmington Hills, Mich. He has one sibling, Marni Rosen, who is 14.

Josh is a seventh-grade student at Saul Mirowitz Jewish Community School. His favorite subject is math, although his favorite school period is lunch, where he gets to hang out with Chef Anya.

In the summer, Joshua enjoys splitting his time between Ramot Amoona and Camp Sabra, the Jewish Community Center’s overnight camp in Lake of the Ozarks. Josh began acting during summer plays at Camp Sabra — this sparked a love of musical theater. This past year Josh starred as Bruce in Shooting Star’s production of “Matilda” and went on to star as Donkey in the Camp Sabra production of “Shrek” this past summer.

For his mitzvah project Josh assisted Liessa Alperin, director of congregational life and engagement at B’nai Amoona, in several activities. His favorite was making challah and matzah ball soup for members of our community.

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BAR MITZVAH: GREYSON DANIEL MEYERS Greyson Daniel Meyers, son of Morgan and Matthew Meyers of St. Louis, will become a bar mitzvah on Oct. 26 at Congregation Temple Israel.

Greyson is the grandson of Judy and Mark Meyers of Chesterfield, and Peggy and Bob Wynne of Pellegrue, France. He has two siblings: Lila, who is 16, and Jack Robert, who is 9.

A seventh-grade student at Ladue Middle, Greyson loves soccer and has played for the St. Louis Scott Gallagher Club since he was 7.

Cleaning up our special local rivers is what Greyson chose to work on for his mitzvah project and he participated in a huge Missouri River cleanup last month with Missouri River Relief. Greyson also enjoys basketball, baseball, hanging out with his family, sleepovers and gaming with his friends.

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LEAH A. KABAKERIS, on Monday, Oct. 14, 2024.

Beloved life friend of Michael G. McCluskey.

Dear daughter of the late Leon and Ruth (nee Johnson) Kabakeris. Cherished cousin of the late Fay (nee Kabakeris) (the late Dr. Israel I.) Berwald. Dearest cousin to all of the following: Dorothy Kabakeris, Dr. David (Gayle) Berwald, the late Sonya (John) Scharf, Dr. Rose Ann (George Chism) Berwald, Dr. Bruce (Laurie) Berwald, Julie (Keith Fern) Berwald, Lynne (Brad) Stein, Samuel and Daniel Scharf, and Erin and Rebecca Chism. Our dear cousin, colleague and friend.

Leah was an avid lover of all things Cardinal Baseball, suffering in their losses, and jubilant in their victories. She loved her work as a chemist and the years she spent with Sigma Chemical.

She also loved softball and served a stint as a coach for an inner-city league. Leah also loved all four legged domestic pets. Along with her life partner, Michael, a stray cat who wandered into their home one spring day in 2006 was adopted and resided in peace and comfort until his own passing in January 2024. He was simply known as Minnie Me. In similar manner that he is dearly missed, so shall Leah be for all the times of those who loved Leah and called her friend.

A graveside service was held Sunday, October 20, 2024, at Beth Shalom Cemetery, 650 White Road. Chesterfield, MO 63017. Contributions in her memory may be made to the charity of your choice.

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ALICE RUTH (PLATTNER) LEVY was born April 29, 1927, to immigrant parents in Collinsville, Illinois, and transcended her circumstance to live a life that far surpassed anything she could have dreamed of at that time. Rooted in a magnificent 66 year marriage, it was a life filled with deep and everlasting love, adventure, travel and above all, family.

Alice was a strong and independent woman.

She was a high school valedictorian, (before women really did that type of thing) college graduate, teacher, wife, mother, grandmother, and great grandmother. She was a world class cook, as well as a writer, amateur actress, golfer, and fitness buff, and she continued to grow and learn and impact the world around her until her death on October 15, 2024.

She was predeceased by her husband, Marvin Levy, and is survived by her three sons, Steven (Joanna), Rick (Lynn) and Brad (Jennifer), 9 grandchildren and 11 great grandchildren, and a network of family and friends that stretches from St. Louis, to Florida, to Texas, and beyond. May her memory, and her recipe book, forever be as a blessing.

Per Alice’s request, In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions can be made to Doctors Without Borders in her honor. DoctorsWithoutBorders.org

LIVIA KESSLER, October 19, 2024 Beloved wife of the late Dr. Sheldon Kessler; loving mother and mother-in-law of Diane Sanchez (Juan) and Dr. Beth Levy (Dr. Joseph); devoted grandmother of Stephanie Levy, David Levy (Katie), Dr. Deborah Levy (Dr. Ryan Brennan) and Sarah Levy; devoted great grandmother of Joey Levy, Maya Levy, Adam Brennan and Lilly Brennan; dear sister and sister-in-law of Dr. Ted Reich (Ida); dear aunt of Dr. David Reich (Dvora) and Jonathan Reich (Judith); great-aunt, cousin and friend.

A graveside service was held Tuesday, October 22 at 10 AM at Beth Hamedrosh Hagodol, 9125 Ladue Road. In lieu of flowers, contributions are preferred to Kol Rinah Synagogue or the Alzheimer’s Association.

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SUE ORENSTEIN, October 3, 2024 Beloved wife of the late Herbert S. Orenstein; daughter of Melvin and Sylvia Corn; loving mother of Richard Essman (Vicki), Barbara Essman and Janet Franz (Paul); devoted grandmother of Elizabeth, Natalie, Adam and Zac; dear sister of Ruth Satz and Eugene Corn (Dale) & many beloved nephews and nieces. Sue was a graduate of Soldan H.S., Washington University and HarrisStowe Teachers college.

She was an elementary schoolteacher and co-owner of Herbert’s Fine Gifts.

A Graveside Service was held Tuesday, October 15 at 1 PM at Chesed Shel Emeth Cemetery 650 White Road. In lieu of flowers, contributions are preferred to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Association and/or Shir Hadash Reconstructionist Community, shirhadashstl.info. Please visit bergermemorialchapel.com for more information. Berger Memorial Service

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MARSHALL E. POLSKY, October 9, 2024 Beloved son of the late Charles and Alyne Brasch Polsky.

Dear brother of Johanna Polsky and the late Brian Polsky.

Dear cousin and friend.

A graveside service was held Friday, October 11, 10:00am at United Hebrew Cemetery, 7855 Canton Avenue. Live stream available at www.rindskopfroth.com. In lieu of flowers, contributions in his memory may be made to the Animal Protective Association (APA) of Missouri, 1705 S. Hanley Road, Brentwood, MO 63144.

A Rindskopf-Roth Service SONYA “SUNNY” RUDY (nee Furfine), December 6, 1932 – October 15, 2024 Beloved wife for more than 54 years of the late Milton Rudy; dear mother and mother-in-law of Harvey Rudy (Sharon) of Atlanta, Deborah “Debbie” Vo (Thanh) of Ellicott City, MD and Michael Rudy of Los Angeles; dear grandmother of Lauren Rudy, Olivia Vo (Matt) and Emma Vo (Julio); dear sister of the late Allen Furfine (the late Lee) and Charles “Chuck” Furfine (Carolyn); dear sister-in-law of the late Frances “Frankie” Siegel (the late Allan.) Dear aunt, cousin, and friend.

Sunny lived much of her life teaching, mentoring and encouraging children of all ages.

Until her retirement in December, 1992, her career spanned more than 30 years, beginning as a teacher of the deaf at the Central Institute for the Deaf and later in the Special School District. Her dedication to her students was unwavering and she found immense joy in seeing them learn, grow and thrive.

Perhaps her greatest joy in life was her family.

Holidays, birthdays and other special occasions were often made all the more memorable with Sunny’s baked goods along with special crafts she would personally make for all. Surpassing all that, however, was the love and pride she had for her husband, children and grandchildren. Her demonstrated love was boundless and she cherished every moment she spent with them.

Sunny was a member of the United Hebrew Congregation where she and her late husband attended for most of their married lives together.

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OBITUARIES INDEX Kabakeris, Leah A. Kessler, Livia Levy, Alice Ruth Orenstein, Sue Polsky, Marshall E. Rudy, Sonya “Sunny” Schulein, Lenore Harris Scissors, Robert Seligman, Lester A. Small, Marilyn Sorkin, Jerry Stone, Harvey Trochtenberg, Roberta LENORE HARRIS SCHULEIN, October 14, 2024 Beloved wife of the late Benjamin M. Schulein, Jr; dear step-mother of Bonnie Gertz, Penny Feldman (Jeff) and Cathy Goldstein (late Dr. Barry); dear step-grandmother of Joshua Gertz (Jamie) and Eva Lee Gertz (Jarod Lawson), Derek Feldman and Dana Crews (Mike), Alissa Polucha (Steve) and Brent Goldstein (Ali); dear step great-grandmother of Lily Feldman, Bryce and Blake Polucha; dear sister of the late William I. and the late Robert P. Harris; dear aunt of Maurice Harris, Anne Piccoli, Jennifer Grau Doubrava and the late Jill Harris; dear cousin and friend.

Lenore took Ballet lessons at age 6 from Victoria Cassan. She danced and choreographed during her four years at Northwestern University. She danced in New York, toured in Gentlemen Prefer Blonds with Marie Wilson, and taught for June Taylor. She received her Masters in dance therapy in 1975 and had her own practice for over 35 years. Lenore “loved helping others have more energy and be a strong expressive person they were meant to be”.

A graveside service was held Sunday, October 20th, 10:00 AM at New Mt. Sinai Cemetery, 8430 Gravois.

Visit bergermemorialchapel.com for more information. Berger Memorial Service ROBERT SCISSORS, October 15, 2024 Beloved husband of the late Saundra Librach Scissors; dear father and father-in-law of Patti (Joshua) Katz and Bruce Scissors; grandfather of Declan and Gibson Katz and Avery and Logan Scissors; brother-in-law of Susan (Stanley) Heller, Caroline (the late Joel) Weissman and the late Lawrence (Jane) Librach.

Bob was born July 12, 1933 in St. Louis. He married the love of his life, Sandy, in 1957. Bob had a long and successful insurance career. He enjoyed the great outdoors and being with his family.

A graveside service was held Sunday October 20, 4:00 PM at Beth Shalom Cemetery, 650 White Rd. 63017.

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Graveside service Wednesday, October 23, 1:30pm at Chevra Kadisha Cemetery, 1601 North and South Road. Contributions in his memory may be made to the JCC Senior Olympic Fund, 2 Millstone Campus Drive, St. Louis, MO 63146. A Rindskopf-Roth Service MARILYN SMALL, June 14, 2024 Marilyn passed away peacefully at home after fighting a long battle with lung cancer. In true Marilyn form, she surpassed every doctor’s expectation and fought her illness with strength and grace from beginning to end. Marilyn was a loving and adored wife, mother, step-mother, Grammy and friend. She is survived by her husband Les, and children Brad (Mary) Hohenberg, Jennifer (Paul Goessling) Hohenberg, Jeff (Abbey) Small, Michael (Lisa)

ROOMMATE CONTINUED FROM PAGE 16 tions with each other, they both are able to spread their wings and make new discoveries about who they truly are.

In directing the play, it was very important to me to find the reality in the characters. It’s easy to sort of jump to familiar archetypes — Sharon is the traditional Betty Crocker housewife, Robyn is the rebel cool girl. And while some of those characteristics are definitely present, we have been working to go deeper and find all the nuance and intricacies of what drives each of them.

Can you share your approach to directing the character dynamics between the two roommates? How do you plan to highlight their differences and similarities?

The script has really done most of that work for me. (Writer) Jen Silverman has created two fascinating women, both in their 50s, and both mothers of grown children, but that’s about where their similarities end. Sharon has never had a career, and her entire identity has been wrapped up in being a wife and mother. And now that she’s divorced with her son far away, she’s no longer sure of her own identity.

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This approach allows him to integrate these significant issues while still bringing levity to the stage.

Unlike other stand-up comics, Rapaport has the unique ability to balance the heavy with the humorous. He integrates personal anecdotes, commentary on current events

OBITUARIES Small as well as grandchildren Eleanor, Luke and Finn Hohenberg, Riley, William and Harper Small and Sabrina and Sadie Small. She is preceded in death by her parents Betty and Ben Berger.

Marilyn was born on October 24, 1945 and raised in University City before attending the University of Iowa. She moved back to St. Louis after college to raise her children and reconnected with the love of her life at their 20th high school reunion. Marilyn and Les were together for over 40 years and shared a love of traveling, the mountains and champagne.

Marilyn loved dancing, hiking, and spending time at the beach or in the mountains. She was always up for an adventure. Her energy, zest for life and love for her family will be missed.

JERRY SORKIN, September 12, 2024 Jerry Michael Sorkin passed away in Philadelphia, PA on September 12, 2024 at the age of 71. Father of Joseph Sorkin; brother and brother-in-law of Chuck (Pam) Sorkin of Austin, TX and the late Murray Sorkin; dear son of the late Bea and late Burton Sorkin; Uncle and friend to many.

Graveside services were held Tuesday, September 17 at Chesed Shel Emeth

Robyn has definitely had, well, I suppose you could call it a career. And though she has also been married and been a mom, she never let those roles define her.

Sharon has never ventured far from her Iowa City home (though she takes pains to point out that she’s originally from Illinois), while Robyn has traveled and lived all over the place, most recently the Bronx, which terrifies Sharon. One way we’ve worked to emphasize those differences is through costumes — my designer Lou Bird and I decided that Sharon probably just goes to Dillard’s and buys what she seses on the mannequin in the women’s section, while Robyn cultivates her own unique sense of style. This supports the work of the actors finding ways to distinguish these women from each other.

I understand the set is crucial to the production. What influenced your decisions regarding the set design and overall aesthetic of the production?

From the very beginning, I felt like this big old Iowa City farmhouse was almost like the third character in the play. Rob Morgan, who I’ve been working with as a scenic designer, did a phenomenal job of finding research images, both of real actual Iowa City kitchens by way of online real estate listings, as well as more abstract art that captured the feeling of the world. In

and the realities he’s witnessed on the ground in Israel.

“It’s not the whole show, but it’s a chunk.

And I think it’s respectful while still being funny. You have to find that balance,” said Rapaport.

For Rapaport, performing isn’t just about making people laugh; it’s about creating a connection.

“I look at stand-up as a performance. It’s not just jokes; it’s about the ebb and flow of the show and the energy I bring. For me, it’s about creating that connection with the audience every single time.”

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Memorial contributions preferred to the American Cancer Society, American Heart Association and the American Stroke Association.

Visit www.bergermemorialchapel.com for more information. Berger Memorial Service HARVEY STONE, October 16, 2024 Beloved husband of the late Diane Stone; dear father of Jeffrey Stone and the late Beth Stone; grandfather of Jacob Stone, Joshua Stone and Abigail Stone; dear brother and brother-in-law of Linda (Michael) Wolfson; brother-in-law of Linda (Tom) Jones; fatherin-law for many years of Amy Stone; dear friend to many.

Harvey grew in University City, Missouri and married the love of his life Diane in 1960. They had two wonderful children. He joined his father in the family business at Stone Carlie for many years and became close to many employees and clients to this day.

A graveside service was held Monday October 21, 1 PM at United Hebrew Cemetery, 7855 Canton Ave. University City, MO. 63130.

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particular, both of us were drawn to the paintings of Andrew Wyeth, and the way he captured an idyllic, but lonely sense of country life.

As a Jewish director, do you see any parallels between the characters’ journeys and your own experiences or values? How might that influence your direction?

This is a tough question. Religion itself isn’t much of a topic of the play. However, morality certainly is. And I suppose my sense of morality is strongly directed by my faith. Some of Sharon and Robyn’s actions could certainly be considered amoral, but the play is so brilliant, we find ourselves rooting for them to be “bad,” because those actions also do them so much good. The play doesn’t really show us the people who might get hurt, so it’s easy to lose yourself in the fun of “breaking bad.” But at the end, the play also reminds us that those actions have a cost — and Sharon and Robyn each must decide if they’re willing to pay it. So lots of moral questions to wrestle with, which is very Jewish indeed.

Given that “The Roommate” is also playing on Broadway with Patti Lupone and Mia Farrow, how do you plan to differentiate this production for the St. Louis audience?

What the audience can expect The St. Louis audience can expect everything from stories about marriage, parenting and divorce to his unfiltered takes on pop culture and politics.

“I try to bring a lot of energy, and it’s all about connecting with the audience,” he said. This approach allows him to maintain the authenticity he’s known for, whether he’s on stage or speaking to millions on social media.

His social media presence has become a significant platform for his advocacy.

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A graveside service was held Friday, October 11, 10:30 AM at Beth Hamedrosh Hagodol Cemetery, 9125 Ladue Road.

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Well, obviously, we don’t have Patti and Mia! I didn’t see the Broadway production myself, but I would imagine that when you have two amazing megastar actors like that, their star power has the potential to overwhelm the script. Can you really forget that Patti LuPone is Patti LuPone when you’re watching her on stage? Our fantastic local actors Kelley Weber and Nancy Bell have the ability to disappear and transform themselves into these roles, hopefully keeping our focus on the story. The two of them have amazing chemistry and are bringing so much love and care to the play. In fact, our entire design and artistic team on “The Roommate” is also St. Louis based, which has led to us crafting a production that is going to be really special for St. Louis audiences.

What do you hope the audience takes away from this production, particularly regarding its emotional and social themes?

I hope they have a great time and leave with a sense of hope for themselves and the world, knowing it’s never too late to start a new adventure.

giving inspiration or strength. It’s incredibly humbling. I feel lucky to have a platform and to articulate my thoughts. It’s not something I take for granted,” he reflected.

As he prepares to perform in St. Louis, Rapaport is looking forward to more than just the laughs.

“I’m excited to be in St. Louis, have some great barbecue and deliver a show that’s real, honest and, above all, funny. I’ve been told Pappy’s is the spot for barbecue.

I’m a meat guy, and I’m looking forward to trying it—if anyone has other recommendations, let me know.”

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Potluck Shabbat for young adults

The young adult chapter of Sparks Match! is hosting a potluck Shabbat dinner for people in their 20s, 30s and 40s at 6:30 p.m.

Bring something vegetarian to share and celebrate Shabbat together and meet new people. RSVP to Daphne at daphnekoalabear@gmail.com.

Temple Israel hosts ‘The REAL Story of Hanukkah’ WHEN: Nov. 3, 9:45 to 4 a.m.

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From noon to 1:30 p.m. Mirowitz Center Trainer Daniel Landsbaum will lead a class on the GovTrack.us website and its main features: identifying elected representatives, seeing how they vote and learning about bills. Free, but RSVP required.

you write your personal narrative. Program supported by a grant from the Women’s Auxiliary Foundation for Jewish Aged.

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Ed Koslin will lead a three-part class on “Living in the End-of-Life: Coming Back a Short Distance Correctly” from 1 to 3 p.m. on Fridays, Nov. 1, 8 and 15. Despite our awareness of the end of life, a considerable amount of living can occur during this phase.

Embark on a transformative journey to dive deeper into conversations about life’s last phase. Engage in thought-provoking discussions so you can deliberately live your best life now. For more information and to register, visit: stloasis.org or call 314-862-4859, ext. 24.

Guiding & writing autobiographies

Join the Mirowitz Center for a six-part series on writing an autobiography. The series will be taught by Maxine Mirowitz, leader of the Storywriter’s Guild, and sessions take place from noon to 1 p.m. on Fridays, Nov. 1 and 8, and Dec. 6, 13, 20 and 17.

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SUNDAY | NOV. 3 Bais Abraham hosts event for young families

The Saul Brodsky Educational Resource Fund and Bais Abraham Congregation invite the community to a Parshat Noach Petting Zoo and Mesiba from 10 a.m. to noon at Bais Abraham, 6910 Delmar Blvd. This new program targeting young families corresponds with the reading of Parshat Noach (the Torah portion of Noah) in synagogue and features a petting zoo, teaching by Bais Abe’s new rabbi and a sing-along, as well as refreshments and the opportunity for families to connect. There will be a chesed/service project where participants will make items to donate to the local APA shelter, and an opportunity to give tzedakah to an organization benefitting animals in Israel. This event is free, but RSVPs required at www. baisabe.com/event/PettingZoo.

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Temple Israel hosts ‘The REAL Story of Hanukkah’

Temple Israel Senior Rabbis Amy Feder and Michael Alper will lead a class from 9:45 to 11:15 a.m. on “The REAL Story of Hanukkah.” The event description notes, “Did you know that the REAL story of Hanukah includes not a single miracle, not a drop of oil, and has absolutely nothing at all to do with Christmas? The story of Hanukah does however include many Jewish people with lots of chutzpah and a will to prevail. Join the Rabbis to hear the true story of why we celebrate this holiday.” Free for TI members; $18 for non-members. RSVP at www.ti-stl.org/ AdultEducation.

THURSDAY, NOV. 7 Presidential legacies: ‘The Reagan Years’

From 11 a.m. to noon, learn more about President Ronald Reagan and First Lady Nancy Reagan from Leslie Flynn of the Ronald Reagan Presidential Library and Museum at this online Mirowitz Center program.

Veterans Day Salute: Jumping Fleas Ukulele Quartet

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From 9:15-10:15 a.m. Kol Rinah is hosting a workshop open to all KoREH parents and the Kol Rinah community run by Helen Turner, director of education at the St. Louis Kaplan Feldman Holocaust Museum. She will share insight on the complexities of current antisemitism in social media and good practices to follow. No RSVP needed.

ONGOING Oasis chair yoga class at Crown Center

Crown Center hosts an Oasis Chair Yoga Class on Thursdays at 11 a.m. Discover the benefits of gentle yoga designed for older adults, incorporating modified poses that can be performed while seated in a chair or using the chair for support. Whether you are new to yoga or looking to maintain your flexibility, strength, and balance, this class offers a safe and enjoyable way to enhance your well-being. For more information and to register, visit: stloasis.org or call 314-8624859, ext. 24.

Movies at the Mirowitz Center

On Fridays at 1 p.m., enjoy movies on the Mirowitz Center’s 14-foot screen. Call the Movies at Mirowitz Hotline (314-733-9812) for the film title and description each week.

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ABOVE: Janet Amitin-Roberts (left) and Carly Sparks. BELOW: JFS Board of Directors President Molly Salky stands with honorees Earl Kessler (center) and Al Siwak.

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At right, Al and Nancy Siwak, and Essie and Earl Kessler.

Al Siwak and Earl Kessler were honored at the event for founding the Pallet Partners in support of the Harvey Kornblum Jewish Food Pantry.

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NOURISH: A Party for the Pantry was a tremendous success thanks to an outpouring of generosity from the community. The event took place on Sunday, Sept. 15 to support the Harvey Kornblum Jewish Food Pantry.

More than 200 guests packed The Hall at Olive + Oak in Webster Groves to celebrate the Harvey Kornblum Jewish Food Pantry and to honor Earl Kessler and Al Siwak, the founders of Pallet Partners, who have raised hundreds of thousands of dollars over the past 25 years to benefit children, families and seniors who have experienced food insecurity.

Kessler and Siwak, both 90, have been friends since childhood. Both were successful in the business community, as Kessler ran the family business, Artistic Furniture Co., while Siwak headed up Paramount Headwear Co. Kessler and Siwak were presented with a unique plaque engraved on a pallet that will be permanently displayed at the food pantry in their honor.

ABOVE: Michael and Abby Goldstein “We are grateful for the support Al and Earl have shown over the years for the Harvey Kornblum Jewish Food Pantry,” said JFS CEO Miriam Seidenfeld. “They are a part of the community that is dedicated to the fight against food insecurity, which is what tonight is all about.”

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The archive is also developing rotating digital exhibits, such as a project about Evansville, Ind., synagogues and a collection of Jewish newspaper ads from the High Holidays and Passover. These exhibits will offer new perspectives on the region’s Jewish heritage and contribute to a broader understanding of its historical significance.

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In May 2019, Temple B’nai Sholom in Quincy, Ill., held its final service, closing its doors after more than 150 years. The once-thriving congregation, which had counted 500 Jewish residents at its peak, had dwindled to fewer than 30.

“We never had enough families move in to replace those that left,” said longtime congregant Carla Gordon to the Jewish Light in 2019. Like many small Jewish communities along the Mississippi and Ohio rivers, Quincy’s Jewish history now risks fading into memory, as records, artifacts and personal stories scatter with time.

This is a narrative familiar to small towns across the region, such as Louisiana, Mo., where Jewish immigrants established a vibrant community in the 19th century.

As detailed in a Sept. 23 Jewish Light article, Jewish settlers in Louisiana thrived for decades, leaving behind lasting legacies like a secluded Jewish cemetery that still holds the graves of many of the town’s Jewish residents.

The Riverlands Jewish Archive This is where the Riverlands Jewish Archive (RJA) comes in—a new, fully digital project dedicated to preserving the rich Jewish history of river towns like Quincy and ensuring that these legacies remain accessible for future generations.

Spearheaded by Timothy R. Riggio Quevillon, the Jewish Heritage Fund visiting professor at Western Kentucky University, the archive seeks to gather and digitize materials from Jewish communities spanning from Cape Girardeau, Mo., to Terre Haute, Ind. Unlike traditional archives housed in physical buildings, the RJA embraces a digital approach. It allows local communities to access their histories online while enabling individuals and families to retain their original materials.

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The Michael family of Louisiana, Mo. “We’re hoping to create a digital space for scholars and communities alike,” Quevillon said. “What makes this project special is that it not only preserves the documents but ensures that families and local communities remain connected to their own history.”

Rediscovering forgotten communities The RJA focuses on both large and small Jewish communities that have played a pivotal role in shaping the cultural identity of the region. Towns such as Cape Girardeau and Alton, Ill. are key areas of interest. While many of these communities have dwindled or disappeared over time, their stories remain vital to the region’s broader narrative.

“One of our greatest challenges is locating materials from communities that no longer exist,” Quevillon noted. “For example, we’re actively working to recover records from Cape Girardeau and Alton.

Fortunately, scholars across the region— from Missouri State, Southeast Missouri, and the Midwest Jewish Studies Association—are helping us trace where these valuable records might have ended up.”

Another small town that is a key focus

for the RJA is Terre Haute. In collaboration with the Indiana Jewish Historical Society, the archive has acquired an extensive collection of documents chronicling more than 150 years of Jewish life in Terre Haute. These materials include synagogue records from Congregation Zion (1858– 1889) and Temple Israel (1858–2000), cemetery records dating back to 1882, and personal papers from community members.

“We’re thrilled to preserve Terre Haute’s rich Jewish history,” Quevillon said. “This generous donation of records will be a key part of our initial launch this fall.”

Building connections across generations Community engagement is central to the RJA’s mission. From Missouri to Southern Illinois and beyond, local leaders have played a vital role in uncovering forgotten resources and gathering oral histories from Jewish families. Organizations like the Southern Illinois, Missouri and Kentucky Federation (SiMoKy) have been instrumental in these efforts.

“Connecting with local rabbis, congregational leaders and Federation presidents in places like St. Louis has been critical to our success,” Quevillon said. “St. Louis, with its long history as a hub of Jewish life

Set to launch on Nov. 1, the RJA will showcase an evolving collection of digitized resources, oral histories and curated exhibits. As the archive grows, it is actively seeking contributions from individuals and organizations who may have historical materials to share. Quevillon is also working closely with the Kaplan Feldman Holocaust Museum and the Brodsky Library in St. Louis to expand the archive’s reach.

For Quevillon, this project is deeply personal. A Kansas City native with strong ties to the Midwest, he sees the RJA as an opportunity to honor the region’s Jewish heritage and ensure its stories are preserved for generations to come.

“Having grown up with family scattered across the Midwest, I understand how important these small communities are,” he said. “This archive is our way of making sure their histories are not forgotten.”

As the RJA prepares for its official launch, it continues to seek contributions from across the region. Anyone with historical records, photographs or documents is encouraged to contact Quevillon directly to ensure their stories become part of this growing digital archive.

Do you have historical records, photographs, or stories to contribute to the Riverlands Jewish Archive? Reach out to Timothy Quevillon at timothy.quevillon@ wku.edu, or visit the archive’s website at www.Riverlandsjewisharchive.org when it launches in November.

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‘Golden Age’ of U. City comes alive in book by writer who lived it

BY JORDAN PALMER CHIEF DIGITAL CONTENT OFFICER

For many of us, the place and time where we grew up holds a special spot in our hearts, representing an iconic way of life filled with a deep sense of belonging and love. We’ve all likely felt that our story was one worth telling, though life often has a way of keeping those stories untold.

But not for Linda Fine Hunt. She wrote her story down, in her book, “Particular Place and People.”

“I have been writing this book in my head most of my life. Even when walking home from grade school, I was writing this book,” said Fine Hunt from her home in Whitefish, Mont.

Fine Hunt grew up in a predominantly Jewish neighborhood in University City during the 1950s and ‘60s, a time she describes as a “golden age.” For her, University City wasn’t just a backdrop but a vibrant character in her life’s story, one that nourished her Jewish identity and instilled a deep sense of pride. The safety and support she felt in this community permeate the pages of her book.

“We knew only safety. I did not have to

defend my religion and culture until I moved away from University City,” said Fine Hunt. “I wanted to write about how great it was to be a Jewish child growing up with all this love and support.”

The inspirations for “Particular Place and People” stem from a mix of personal history and an insatiable curiosity.

“I was fascinated by a mansion I could see from my front lawn and often explored, even though it was private property,” remembered Fine Hunt. “My curiosity led me to research its history, spending hours poring over newspapers to learn about the land, the mansion, and the people who lived there. My detective work even connected me with the last living relative who grew up in the mansion, and we had many enlightening conversations. You can see a picture of this home on the last page of the book.”

Her Jewish life was filled with rich experiences, from attending Sunday school at Shaare Zedek Synagogue to savoring Jewish delicacies from local delis.

“My dad would pick me up, and we would go to Alan’s Delicatessen on Olive Street Road and Midland Blvd. My favorite choices were the onion rolls, rye bread and

Author and University City native Linda Fine Hunt.

anything with poppy seeds. I did not eat meat. My dad would add smoked whitefish and kosher pickles for me. He bought corned beef for the rest of the family,” she said.

Fine Hunt’s motivations for writing the book are deeply personal. She wanted to portray a positive narrative of Jewish life, moving away from the usual focus on the hardships of Jewish history, like the Holocaust, and instead celebrating the community she grew up in.

“Growing up in University City gave me the skills to be Jewish. When I left, I was confronted with antisemitism for the first time. My strong Jewish upbringing taught me to tell people I did not know that I am Jewish. I hoped that informing people of my culture would prevent traditional ethnic jokes and antisemitic comments. I usually got the response, ‘You don’t look

Jewish,’” said Fine Hunt.

In the book, Fine Hunt changes the names of most of the people in the story but not all.

“I wrote about Jimmy Reina and used his real name because it is a great name, and he was unique in our neighborhood,” said Fine Hunt. “He was my first crush at age 4. I was upset because he was Catholic.

I assumed I could not marry a Catholic.

My mother told me otherwise.”

Fine Hunt said she welcomes her old neighbors and the entire community to try her book and discover the world where a mansion, a neighborhood and a young girl’s dreams converge to tell a story that is as universal as it is personal.

“Particular Place and People” is available online through Amazon and Barnes and Noble.

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How do you write a meaningful eulogy?

Rabbi James Bennett shares insights into crafting a thoughtful, tactful remembrance

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Sadly, this year I attended the funeral of the beloved husband of a former colleague.

I’ve been to many funerals in the past, but none like this one. The words spoken by this man’s family and friends painted a picture so vivid, I could imagine myself inserted into every scene of life they so eloquently described. It was a collection of eulogies like none I have ever heard before.

This experience made me think—how would I write a meaningful eulogy? How would anyone?

To help me answer this question and to help teach us more about the role of the eulogy, I turned to Rabbi James Bennett, Senior Rabbi of Congregation Shaare Emeth for guidance.

What is the importance of a eulogy in a Jewish funeral service?

I have always believed that the hesped, or eulogy, is one of the most important parts of the process of grieving, mourning and of the funeral service itself. Mourners often experience the process of planning for and then listening to a eulogy as one of the most cathartic parts of the first few days after the death of a loved one. Jewish

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How do you guide family members in preparing a meaningful eulogy?

I am a firm believer that mourners should not feel obligated to speak at the funeral of their loved ones, although many people in our contemporary culture choose to do so.

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est friends of the deceased and invite them to tell me the story of their loved one’s life. I often interview them to help guide the discussion, asking leading questions that will help them to reflect on the details of their lives. I also encourage the family to share memories, stories and reflections that illuminate the blessings they cherish and remember most.

What advice do you give to those who feel overwhelmed or unsure about what to say?

Do not feel obligated to say anything. Our tradition honors silence in the

Rabbi James Bennett of Congregation Shaare Emeth.

presence of grief. In the Torah, for example, when two of Aaron’s sons died, “Aaron was silent.” All too often we fill that empty space with words, but the truth is that our silence can express as much as our efforts to find words. I also strive to help relieve people of that social pressure to “speak at the funeral” just because others did so at the funeral of their loved ones. In many ways, it is much harder for a mourner to “perform” at a funeral than to simply be a mourner. I encourage people to give themselves permission to let me or the other

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“A Beautiful Noise,” which celebrates the life and career of Neil Diamond, details the Jewish musician’s journey from his early days as a struggling singer-songwriter to becoming a worldwide sensation.

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What elements make a eulogy truly memorable and impactful?

I think the best funeral eulogies are simple, honest descriptions of the best qualities of the person who is being mourned and the story of their life. Eulogies should not be a time for homilies, teaching, moralizing or otherwise. What makes a eulogy memorable and impactful is when the words are an honest and truthful story of the life of a human being that has now ended.

Are there specific themes or components that should always be included?

I think that a good eulogy summarizes the facts of a life but focuses on the story of the life — who this person truly was, what kind of a difference they made to the people they touched during their lifetime and how they will be remembered.

Can you share any memorable eulogies you have heard that stood out to you?

I have heard many eulogies and delivered many more — well over 1,000 or more. I have often been deeply moved by the words of eulogy I have heard others deliver, and I have often been moved to tears by the words that mourners have shared with me and asked me to craft into a eulogy as well.

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What made them particularly moving or impactful?

What makes eulogies impactful to me is when they are about the deceased, not about the speaker. When people, even well-intentioned, turn a eulogy into a comedy routine, or a story about themselves, or about a show, I think it detracts from the profound power and opportunity for sacred memory that is implicit in the act of remembering.

What role does personal storytelling play in a eulogy, and how can it enhance the tribute?

I think that storytelling is essential to the delivery of a eulogy, but only when the stories are about the deceased and not about the person delivering the eulogy.

How do personal anecdotes and memories contribute to honoring the deceased?

While we can honor a person’s memory by sharing memories, when we turn a eulogy into an abundance of stories about ourselves, it ceases to honor them, and instead becomes about us. Often, well-intentioned people choose to handle the grief of others by deflecting and making it about themselves — how close I was to the deceased, how well I knew them, how funny I can be in telling the story of their life. While this may be entertaining to the people gathered for the funeral, I believe such extended reflections are better for other settings and for memories later on.

The funeral should primarily be for helping those who are mourning begin their journey to healing.

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ABOVE: Nancy Morrow Howell (left), director of the Friedman Center for Aging at Washington University, and Marylen Mann, chairman emeritus at Oasis Institute. RIGHT: Crown Center Board President Mark Rubin addresses attendees.

ABOVE RIGHT: Crown Center Executive Director Andy Thorp (center) is flanked by Larry Gast (left), Vice President, Development at Jewish Federation of St. Louis, and Karen Sher, Vice President, Community Impact at Federation.

LEFT: From left, philanthropist Michael Staenberg, Mitch Baden of Royal Banks of Missouri and Scott F. Sciortino of Royal Banks.

RIGHT: (From left) David Lang, Crown Center Board Member Irl Scissors, Cassie Malane of The Harry and Jeanette Weinberg Foundation and Crown Center Board Member Dan Cohen.

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ROSH HASHANAH

Covenant Place residents welcomed Rosh Hashanah with Betsy and Ron Cytron, Debbie Sher and Rachael Pevnick. Pictured above, from left, are Ron Cytron, Rachael Pevnick and Betsy Cytron.

CROWN CENTER FOR SENIOR LIVING

GRAND REOPENING Guests at Crown Center’s recent grand reopening celebrated the new Crown Center Phase 1 Apartment Building and Staenberg Commons.

Executive Director Andy Thorp welcomed attendees and introduced board president Mark Rubin, board member Michelle Schwerin and resident Rise Gilliom, who each spoke about their connection to Crown Center.

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