South Florida Family Life June 2021

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JUNE 2021

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CLASS MEET SOME OF THIS YEAR’S TOP GRADS

FIGHTING

FAIR STRATEGIES TO HELP SIBLINGS GET ALONG

Baby Noah who had subglottic stenosis and Samuel Ostrower, MD

Noah today

Trusted then. Trusted now.

Seeing 5-year-old Noah come up for air as he plays in the pool, you’d never know he fought a life-threatening battle just to breathe as a baby. His parents placed their trust and hope for his future in Joe DiMaggio Children’s Hospital.

Our experts, including baby Noah’s surgeon, Samuel Ostrower, MD, medical director, Pediatric Otolaryngology, opened his constricted airway that was no bigger than a coffee stir straw.

Today, Noah’s parents say it’s incredible to see a boy who once struggled to breathe hold his breath at swim lessons, play soccer and enjoy being an active kid.

Joe DiMaggio Children’s Hospital is who we trust and where we still seek medical help, his mom says.

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Shelter in PlaceOur Place There are more than a hundred shelters and pavilions in Broward County’s parks. All have picnic tables, most have grills; many include running water and electricity.

Restrooms are either within the facility or nearby.

Call the park of your choice to reserve a shelter for your next outdoor celebration.

Baby Showers Birthday Parties Family Reunions Graduation Celebrations Together is a wonderful place to be!

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departments 8 SOUTH FLORIDA SPOTLIGHT Staying in touch with the people, places and events in our community.

20 MOM MATTERS Why the tiara is a staple accessory every mother needs.

22 FAMILY FINANCES The Dos and Don’ts of giving your kids an allowance.

24 GROWING PAINS How to get your kids to stop losing their stuff without losing your mind.

28 FAMILY DYNAMICS Get ahead of the squabbles with these strategies designed to help siblings get along.

36 CALENDAR OF EVENTS Entertaining and noteworthy things to see and do throughout South Florida.

38 WORDS OF WISDOM When sharing stories of childhood shenanigans with your kids, sometimes less is more.

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SUMMERTIME BUCKET LIST

COUNTDOWN TO SUMMER CAMP

A look at some of the brightest young minds in this year’s graduating class.

Activities that will keep your family entertained all summer long.

There’s still time to find the perfect summer program for your child.

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Splash into Summer LOOKING TO COOL DOWN? THESE POOLS HAVE YOU COVERED

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ummer in South Florida is a great time to hit the pool, and although COVID-19 has caused Broward County water parks to close, plenty of other places to splash and swim are open.

South Florida’s most well-known water park, Rapids, is now open 10 a.m. to 7 p.m. daily. Located just north of West Palm Beach, Rapids has more than a dozen water slides, a lazy river, a FlowRider, a wave pool and a splash lagoon for smaller ones.

Rapids is kicking off summer fun with an Educators Appreciation Day on Saturday, June 12, for educators and their families.

Learn more at www.rapidswaterpark.com Coconut Cove Water Park in Boca Raton is open weekends

capacity. Only 60 guests will be admitted per session on a first-come, first-served basis. www.aquaticcomplex.com The Caporella Aquatic Center in Tamarac is also open daily on a limited basis, with a swimming pool with zero depth entry and children’s water playground. www.tamarac.org/539/Caporella-Aquatic-Center South Florida’s newest water park, Tidal Cove, is tucked away at the JW Marriott Miami Turnberry Resort & Spa in Aventura. With seven water slides, a FlowRider, a lazy river, a kids cove and more, Tidal Cove has more than enough to entertain the whole family. www.tidalcovemiami.com Grapeland Water Park near the Miami International Airport

only through June 18. On June 19, it opens seven days a week through Aug. 8, then returns to weekends only through Sept. 6.

Coconut Cove has two slides, a lazy river, an interactive water playground and more. www.coconutcove-waterpark.com The Cypress Pool and Water Park in Coral Springs will be open daily during the summer with limited

will be open 10 a.m. to 4:45 p.m. daily from Thursday, June 10, through Sunday, August 22. Grapeland has three water slides and an interactive water playground, a large heated pool, a lazy river, a splash and slide area for smaller kids, and more. www.archive.miamigov.com/grapeland/index.html The Venetian Pool in Coral Gables is a great way to cool down, too. Open seven days a week, the Venetian Pool requires reservations in advance at www.playgables.com.

Although it has no water slides, the Venetian’s 820,000-gallon pool is fed with spring water from an underground aquifer that refills the pool daily. www.coralgables.com/departments/ CommunityRecreation/venetianpool

TAILS AND TALES TREAT KIDS TO FUN Animal lovers and book lovers are in for a treat during the Tails and Tales Summer Reading Program, happening online at the Broward County and Miami-Dade County libraries.

The annual Summer Learning Program is a series of free, fun, online events designed to teach, entertain and inspire readers of all ages. This year’s “Tails and Tales” theme includes free virtual programs focusing on animals and nature, as well as events such as trivia contests, crafts, puppet shows, performances, wildlife education and more.

Summer at Your Library also features free “grab and go” meals at participating libraries in Broward and Miami-Dade counties.

In Broward County, the summer reading program includes giveaways for those who register at www.broward.org/Library/Pages/Summer.aspx and then complete various challenges. Prizes include rewards from the Museum of Discovery and Science, Miami Children’s Museum, Water Taxi, Monster Mini Golf, Miami Heat, and more.

Tails and Tales kicks off in Broward County with the 16th Annual Children’s BookFest on Saturday, June 5, with “Let’s Draw with Bob Shea!” from 11 a.m.

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to noon and “The Magical Bookstore,” a performance by Fantasy Theatre Factory, from 1 to 2 p.m. Learn more at www.broward.org/Library.

On July 17 at 2 p.m., the library is hosting “Caturday with the Cat Daddy, Jackson Galaxy,” from Animal Planet’s hit show “My Cat From Hell.” This online event is part of the Broward Library’s Cats and Dogs Programs.

Register at www.broward.org/Library/Events/Pages/default.aspx.

Because of COVID-19 restrictions, the Miami-Dade library program is not including giveaways as of press time, but its Tails and Tales event calendar is filling up. A Virtual STEAM Fest for all ages is planned Saturday, June 12, from 11 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. Explore a world of science and help kick off the Summer Reading Challenge during this live Zoom event, which will teach fascinating facts about turtles, fish, Florida panthers and more.

Space is limited, and registration is required at www.mdpls.org/events.

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Our special section takes a look at some of the best and the brightest in South Florida’s graduating class of 2021 Photo by Lisa Nalven

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ARCHBISHOP EDWARD A. MCCARTHY HIGH SCHOOL 5451 South Flamingo Rd., Southwest Ranches • 954-434-8820 • www.mccarthyhigh.org

Lhogan Benjamin

Juan Leal Mendoza

SAT: 1480 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.36 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: College Board National Recognition

SAT: 1450 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.28 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: National Merit Commended Scholar;

Program; AP Scholar with Distinction, Excelsior Scholar; NHS, Mu Alpha Theta, French, English, Science and Social Studies Honor Societies ACCEPTED TO: Princeton, Columbia, U Penn, Johns Hopkins, Tufts, UF WILL ATTEND: Princeton University

AP Scholar, Excelsior Scholar, Silver Knight Nominee; NHS, Mu Alpha Theta, English, Science, Social Studies, Spanish, Speech & Debate Honor Societies; Model UN VP ACCEPTED TO: University of Chicago WILL ATTEND: University of Chicago

Lauren DeVarona

Kimberly Cover

Gabrielle Baugh

SAT: 1510 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.47 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: College Board National Recognition

SAT/ACT: N/A WEIGHTED GPA: 5.43 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: AP Scholar, Excelsior Scholar;

SAT: 1300 WEIGHTED GPA: 4.5 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: National Honor Society, Science

Program; AP Scholar with Distinction, Excelsior Scholar; NHS, Mu Alpha Theta, English, Science, and Social Studies Honor Societies; Exceptional Theater Company-President ACCEPTED TO: Northwestern University, Boston University, Northeastern University, UF WILL ATTEND: University of Florida

NHS, Science National Honor Society; Key Club, Student Ambassador, Women’s Varsity Soccer-Senior Captain, USA Today First Team Southern Region ACCEPTED TO: Brown University WILL ATTEND: Brown University - soccer

National Honor Society; Yale Young Global Scholar, Ted Ed Club-President ACCEPTED TO: Vanderbilt University WILL ATTEND: Vanderbilt University

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ARCHBISHOP EDWARD A. MCCARTHY HIGH SCHOOL 5451 South Flamingo Rd., Southwest Ranches • 954-434-8820 • www.mccarthyhigh.org

Tamara Dandreamatteo

Sean Brosnahan

ACT: 34 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.56 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: National Merit Commended Scholar;

SAT: 1440 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.37 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: AP Scholar with Distinction,

AP Scholar, Excelsior Scholar, Silver Knight Nominee; NHS, Mu Alpha Theta, Science National Honor Society; International Club Sergeant at Arms ACCEPTED TO: Washington University in St. Louis, USC-Merit Scholarship, UF, BU WILL ATTEND: Washington University in St. Louis

Excelsior Scholar; NHS, Mu Alpha Theta, National Art Honor Society-Vice President, English and Science Honor Societies; Student Government-Secretary ACCEPTED TO: Washington University in St. Louis, Boston College, UF WILL ATTEND: Washington University in St. Louis

Manuel Nouel

Lilian Ang

Madison Templeton

SAT/ACT: 1450/34 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.15 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: National Merit Commended

SAT: 1360 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.25 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: AP Scholar with Honors, Excelsior

SAT/ACT: 1440/31 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.35 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: AP Scholar with Distinction,

Scholar; AP Scholar with Distinction, Excelsior Scholar; NHS, Mu Alpha Theta, English, Science, Social Studies Honor Societies, International Robotics Honor Society-President ACCEPTED TO: Washington University in St. Louis, University of Michigan WILL ATTEND: University of Michigan

Scholar; NHS, International Robotics Honor Society, Mu Alpha Theta, National Spanish Honor Society-Treasurer, English, Science, Social Studies Honor Societies ACCEPTED TO: Cornell, University of Florida, Case Western, Northeastern University WILL ATTEND: Cornell University

Excelsior Scholar; NHS, Mu Alpha Theta, English, Science, Social Studies Honor Societies; Junior Peer Ministry, Student Ambassador, Key Club ACCEPTED TO: Emory University, University of Florida WILL ATTEND: University of Florida

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ARCHBISHOP EDWARD A. MCCARTHY HIGH SCHOOL 5451 South Flamingo Rd., Southwest Ranches • 954-434-8820 • www.mccarthyhigh.org

Samuel Uscher

Lara Ramirez

Cali Hinesley

SAT: 1340 WEIGHTED GPA: 4.9 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: AP Scholar, Excelsior Scholar;

SAT: 1430 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.29 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: College Board National Recognition

SAT: 1530 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.60 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: National Merit Finalist; AP Scholar

National Honor Society; Men’s Varsity Soccer-4 years, Varsity Baseball Manager ACCEPTED TO: Emory University, Loyola Chicago, Northeastern University WILL ATTEND: Loyola Chicago University

Program; AP Scholar with Distinction, Excelsior Scholar; NHS, Mu Alpha Theta, English, Science, Speech & Debate Honor Societies; Student Government Executive-VP ACCEPTED TO: UC-Berkeley, UC-Irvine, UF, BU, Penn State-Schreyer Honors College WILL ATTEND: University of California-Berkeley

with Distinction, Excelsior Scholar; NHS, Mu Alpha Theta-President, English, Science and International Thespian Honor Societies; Student Government Executive Board-Secretary, Model UN ACCEPTED TO: Georgetown University, Boston University, University of Florida WILL ATTEND: University of Florida

Sofia Aviles

Jsiel Oliva

Mariangeli Collado

ACT: 31 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.23 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: Excelsior Scholar; National Honor

SAT: 1490 WEIGHTED GPA: 5.16 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: National Honor Society,

Society, Mu Alpha Theta, Science, Social Studies and Spanish Honor Societies; Excelsior Board Representative, Model UN ACCEPTED TO: University of Michigan, University of Florida WILL ATTEND: University of Florida

National Science Honor Society; Band and Creative Writing Club; Rensselaer Medal Merit Scholarship ACCEPTED TO: University of Michigan, Rensselaer Poly, Worcester Poly, UF WILL ATTEND: University of Michigan

SAT/ACT: 1360/30 WEIGHTED GPA: 4.94 ACCOMPLISHMENTS: Florida State Thespians Troupe 6164 ACCEPTED TO: University of Michigan WILL ATTEND: University of Michigan

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POSNACK JEWISH DAY SCHOOL 5810 South Pine Island Rd., Davie • 954-583-6100 • www.posnackschool.org

Zoey Fisher WEIGHTED GPA: 4.88 OUTSTANDING ACHIEVEMENTS: Cameron Impact Scholar, Coca Cola Scholar, Debbie Wasserman Schultz Award for School and Public Service, National AP Scholar, National Merit Commended Scholar, UNA-USA Emerging Leaders Fellow: Champion of Equality ACCEPTED TO: Brown, UPenn, Columbia University/JTS, Emory, UCF, Georgia Tech Stamps Scholar, UVA Jefferson/ Echols Scholar, William & Mary, Wash U, Northwestern, Vanderbilt Cornelius Scholar, Tufts, American, Vassar WILL ATTEND: Brown University CAREER GOAL: Physician and Public Health Policy Maker FAVORITE HIGH SCHOOL MEMORY: Winning National High School MUN Conference this year

Daniella Lewinger WEIGHTED GPA: 4.71 OUTSTANDING ACHIEVEMENTS: Bnei Akiva

ZOEY FISHER

DANIELLA LEWINGER

Hollywood Head of Middle-School Programming, Cross Country Captain, Pre-Med & Mu-Alpha Theta Club Presidents, Model UN Club Head Delegate, 2 Silver Keys Scholastic Art & Writing, Varsity Soccer District Champions ACCEPTED TO: List College Joint Program with Columbia University, Brandeis University, Northeastern University, University of Maryland, Binghamton University, University of Florida, University Central Florida WILL ATTEND: List College Joint Program with Columbia University CAREER GOAL: Otolaryngology (ENT) surgeon FAVORITE HIGH SCHOOL MEMORY: Camp Kulaqua Sophomore and Junior year

Samuel Vaserstein WEIGHTED GPA: 4.54 OUTSTANDING ACHIEVEMENTS: Student Body President, National Merit Commended Scholar, AP Scholar with Distinction, National Honors Society Inductee ACCEPTED TO: University of Florida, University of Miami, Florida State University, University of Central Florida WILL ATTEND: University of Florida CAREER GOAL: Lawyer FAVORITE HIGH SCHOOL MEMORY: Running the school Purim program

Deborah Wainberg WEIGHTED GPA: 4.41 OUTSTANDING ACHIEVEMENTS: COVID online-tutoring

SAMUEL VASERTEIN

DEBORAH WAINBERG

service founder, COVID day camp founder/counselor, Varsity Swim Team captain, National Hispanic Recognition Scholar, Hispanic Scholarship Fund Scholar ACCEPTED TO: University of Michigan, Cornell University, Johns Hopkins University, Tufts University, University of Florida, Northeastern University WILL ATTEND: University of Michigan CAREER GOAL: Positively impact the cosmetic industry through engineering/business FAVORITE HIGH SCHOOL MEMORY: Sharing Sour Patch Kids in AP Chemistry class

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NSU UNIVERSITY SCHOOL 3375 SW 75th Avenue, Fort Lauderdale • 954-262-4506 • www.uschool.nova.edu

Duncan Jurman

Peyton Ronkin

WEIGHTED GPA: 5.10 OUTSTANDING ACHIEVEMENTS: U.S. Presidential Scholars

WEIGHTED GPA: 5.10 OUTSTANDING ACHIEVEMENTS: 2021 Coca-Cola Scholar,

Nominee, National Merit Scholar, National AP Scholar, International Eco-Hero Award Winner, 5-year Varsity Lacrosse Attackman, Pioneered Bring Butterflies Back, Penn Book Award ACCEPTED TO: Cornell University WILL ATTEND: Cornell University

National Merit Scholar, National AP Scholar, 2nd nationally in Public Forum Debate, Founder of Dipped with Love and BalanceOfPowHER.com, Harvard Book Award ACCEPTED TO: University of Pennsylvania WILL ATTEND: University of Pennsylvania

Ariel Arias

Risa Pollak

Rebecca Wolf

WEIGHTED GPA: 5.08 OUTSTANDING ACHIEVEMENTS: National Championship

WEIGHTED GPA: 5.08 OUTSTANDING ACHIEVEMENTS: National AP Scholar,

WEIGHTED GPA: 5.08 OUTSTANDING ACHIEVEMENTS: National Merit

Debate Qualifier, Top 10 nationally in Public Forum Debate, NSDA District Student of the Year, BU Neurobiology Research intern, Brown University Book Award ACCEPTED TO: Stanford University WILL ATTEND: Stanford University

Johns Hopkins Book Award, Miami Herald Silver Knight Nominee, National Honor Society for Dance Arts, NSU College of Osteopathic Medicine Fellowship ACCEPTED TO: School of Engineering and Applied Science at the University of Pennsylvania WILL ATTEND: University of Pennsylvania

Commended Scholar, National AP Scholar, Miami Herald Silver Knight Mathematics Nominee, Ripley’s Science Scholar, Northwestern Book Award ACCEPTED TO: Duke University WILL ATTEND: Duke University Pratt School of Engineering

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American University Appalachian State University Arizona State University-Tempe Babson College Barry University Bentley University Binghamton University Boston University Brandeis University Bridgewater State University California College of the Arts Case Western Reserve University Clark University Colorado School of Mines Columbia College Chicago Cornell University Drexel University Emory University Florida Atlantic University Florida Gulf Coast University

Florida Institute of Technology Florida International University Florida State University George Washington University Georgia Institute of Technology Hofstra University IE University-Segovia Indiana University-Bloomington Johns Hopkins University Lynn University Massachusetts College of Art and Design McGill University Michigan State University The New School New York University Northeastern University Northwestern University Nova Southeastern University Ohio State University-Main Campus Pace University

Pennsylvania State University Pratt Institute Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute Rollins College Santa Fe College Savannah College of Art and Design School of the Art Institute of Chicago Suffolk University Syracuse University Tallahassee Community College Tufts University Tulane University The University of Arizona University of California-Berkeley University of California-Davis University of California-San Diego University of Central Florida University of Colorado Boulder University of Delaware University of Denver

University of Florida University of Georgia University of Maryland University of Miami University of Michigan University of Pittsburgh University of South Florida University of Southern California The University of Tampa The University of Texas at Austin University of Wisconsin-Madison Valencia College Vassar College Washington University in St. Louis Yale University Yeshiva University

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rom the beaches and Everglades to art and culture, we are surrounded by beauty here in South Florida. We don’t need to travel far for sun and fun when paradise is in our own backyard. Here are 35 local things to do to keep the family occupied all season long.

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Swim and Snorkel Lauderdale-by-the-Sea is a popular place to dive deep down to discover what lives below the surface. www.lauderdalebythesea-fl.gov

Catch a Wave We may not have sizable surfing waves like some seaside communities, but we do have FlowRider at Margaritaville Hollywood Beach Resort, where you can hang 10 on a surfing simulator. www.margaritavillehollywoodbeachresort.com

Everything but the Kitchen Sink If you’ve never indulged in this super-sized sundae at Jaxson’s Ice Cream Parlor, summer is the perfect time. Bring the family to share this colossal creation made with more than a pound of ice cream per person and lots of toppings. www.jaxsonsicecream.com

Cast a Line There are plenty of places on and offshore to drop a line.

Maybe you’ll be having fish for dinner tonight.

Sea Turtle Nesting It’s that season when mammoth turtles make their trek onto our sandy shores to nest. Participate in an organized nighttime Turtle Walk Tour, like the ones offered at the Museum of Discovery and Science, to see the spectacle firsthand. www.mods.org

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Stargaze

Watch the Sunrise Take an early morning trek to the Dania Beach Pier, where there is an unobstructed view of the sun rising up over the ocean. www.daniabeachfl.gov

Butterfly World Be still as countless butterflies flutter around and sometimes land on you. www.butterflyworld.com

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Flamingo Gardens Pink flamingos are just a fraction of what you’ll find at this attraction. Explore the wildlife sanctuary, relax in the botanical gardens, see the historic Wray Home and check out this summer’s Big Bugs sculpture exhibit. www.flamingogardens.org

Play at a Park

Visit Billie Swamp Safari or Everglades Holiday Park to zip over the river of grass by way of airboat. www.billieswamp.com www.evergladesholidaypark.com

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You can do this in your own backyard, or head to a local planetarium like the Fox Observatory at Markham Park to view planets through high-powered telescopes. www.markhampark.com/the-fox-observatory

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With more than a dozen regional Broward County Parks, there are plenty of activities to choose from, ranging from hiking and biking to skateboarding and kayaking. Pack a picnic and make a day of it. www.broward.org/parks

MIAMI-DADE COUNTY Shark Valley Shark Valley, a stunning National Park in Miami, is home to a bunch of free-roaming alligators. Just don’t get too close. www.floridanationalparks.org

Art Scene There’s nothing quite like the Wynwood Walls when it comes to an urban graffiti art experience. Check it out for yourself. www.thewynwoodwalls.com

Venetian Pool Take a dip in this picturesque spring-fed pool created in 1923 from a coral rock quarry. www.coralgables.com

Zoo Miami See a wide variety of animals and species that call Florida’s largest and oldest zoological garden home. www.zoomiami.org

Phillip and Patricia Frost Museum of Science Explore and learn through interactive activities in the museum, planetarium and aquarium. www.frostscience.org

Miami Seaquarium Spend the day among sea lions, endangered sea turtles, manatees and more. www.miamiseaquarium.com

A Day at the Museum You could spend a day, or much of the summer, exploring Miami’s many museums. There’s HistoryMiami, Pérez Art Museum and the Institute of Contemporary Art, just to name a few. www.historymiami.org www.pamm.org www.icamiami.org

Kayak and Canoe Explore Oleta River State Park’s natural habitat, including native mangrove channels and serene blue water, by way of paddleboard, kayak or canoe, all of which are available for rent on-site. www.floridastateparks.org/oletariver

Strike a Pose Bring a camera and have your very own photo shoot with stunning Vizcaya Museum & Gardens as the backdrop. www.vizcaya.org

Cup or Cone Cool off with a summer treat at Azucar Ice Cream Company, where fresh signature flavors include key lime pie and dulce de leche. www.azucaricecream.com

A Day at the Beach Don’t take for granted what some people travel from far and wide to see, our beaches. Head east for soft sand, salty air and the beautiful blue sea.

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South Florida Science Center Experiment with science or stop by for a planetarium show with new, state-of-the-art Digital Sky Skan technology. www.sfsciencecenter.org

Morikami Museum and Japanese Gardens Discover a century-old connection between Japan and South Florida while exploring the museum’s exhibits of Japanese art and artifacts and lush gardens. www.morikami.org

Fill Up Take a break from the kitchen and bring the family to the new Delray Beach Market. There’s plenty of dining options for the whole family from Dad’s Favorite, a classic burger joint, to Circus Eats, a carnival-themed establishment that touts treats like cotton candy, candy apples and flavored popcorn. www.delraybeachmarket.com

Wander the Wetlands Take a stroll through Wakodahatchee Wetlands, a 50-acre preserve that’s part of the Great Florida Birding Trail. https://discover.pbcgov.org/waterutilities/Pages/Wetlands.aspx

Play Day Sugar Sand Park, home to a science playground, splash pad, walking paths, athletic fields, basketball courts and more, has plenty to keep the kids active all day long. www.sugarsandpark.org

PALM BEACH COUNTY Lion Country Safari Imagine yourself in the Serengeti while coasting through this drive-through attraction that is home to more than 1,000 animals, including zebra, wildebeest, lions and more. www.lioncountrysafari.com

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Make a Splash Keep your cool at Rapids Water Park, South Florida’s largest water park, featuring more than 30 attractions, including Big Thunder, Pirates Plunge and Raging Rapids. www.rapidswaterpark.com

Seashells by the Seashore

Horses That Help Take a private tour, or volunteer to lend a hand, at this ranch that provides free horseback riding and horsemanship training to kids with special needs. www.horsesthathelp.org

Shark Park 561 From cable wakeboarding and kneeboarding to a floating obstacle course with slides and climbing towers, there is plenty of water adventure here. www.sharkwakepark.com

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See Dolphins Visit Clearwater Marine Aquarium, site of the Dolphin Tale movie set and home to dolphin stars Hope and Winter, for an entertaining and educational marine-themed day. www.cmaquarium.org

Golisano Children’s Museum of Naples

Palm Beach Zoo Spend the day viewing hundreds of animals, playing in the water fountain, and visiting the zoo’s brand-new Nature Play Pavilion. www.palmbeachzoo.org

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Not only does Sanibel Island have a beautiful coastline, but it’s also known for having some spectacular seashells. Go “sea” for yourself.

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Head to Naples for rain-or-shine fun featuring interactive exhibits and activities designed to inspire creativity and imagination. www.cmon.org

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MOM matters

Queen of the Castle THE ONE ACCESSORY EVERY MOTHER NEEDS

BY CHRISTA MELNYK HINES

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s a work-from-home mom raising two sons, finding dedicated time to focus during the summer months is usually fraught with frustration. Then I landed on a gem of an idea that might seem a little kooky but turned into a brilliant way for me to rescue my workday. For any mom in similar straits, please allow me to introduce you to the power of a tiara.

On a typical workday, no sooner do I slide into my office chair with a warm mug of coffee ready to respond to an email or edit an article, I’m interrupted with some sort of family situation. Usually,

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the crises range from “I’m hungry and there’s nothing to eat...” to allegations of injustices such as “He won’t give me a turn on the Xbox!” and grievances like “He just punched me!”

It’s not that I haven’t tried to establish clear boundaries between work and family.

As I shut the door of my office, I encourage my adolescent sons to be their own best problem solvers and to only interrupt me for code red emergencies, i.e., blood or fire.

I’ve taped Do Not Disturb notes on my office door and promised outings when I’m done with my work. Nevertheless, they perceive

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my calls for time alone the same way speeders treat a speed limit sign — simply as a suggestion. My grouchy responses to yet another inane interruption while in the midst of a pressing deadline have little effect other than a sheepish, “Sorry, I forgot.”

I gave the situation some thought and remembered how a clever friend of mine cut short her 3-year-old’s temper tantrum by putting a silly hat on top of her head to redirect his attention. Could I tweak the idea to help send a message to my kids?

After digging through a basket of

some old costume jewelry, wigs and hats in my closet, I discovered a tiara I received after running a Mother’s Day 5K a few years back. The playful tchotchke features cheap circlets of diamond rhinestones topped with three teardrop pink gems. I’d never before considered the lightweight plastic silver headband as anything special.

Taking it downstairs, I look in the hall mirror and pop the tiara onto my sunbleached blonde hair. Paired with my raggedy blue jean shorts and green cotton t-shirt, the ensemble isn’t electrifying, but the visual impact is beside the point.

Historically, the tiara symbolized wealth, leadership and distinguished social ranking. In Ancient Greece, tiaras made of garlands of wheat, laurel leaves and flowers adorned the heads of athletes, honorable warriors and dignitaries. Over the centuries, queens, princesses and other noblewomen wreathed their heads with circlets of opulent pearls, diamonds, rubies and sapphires to underscore their power and prestige.

Today, if not worn for a state occasion by a member of royalty, a tiara might crown the winner of a beauty pageant or complete the costume of a little girl dressed up as a Disney princess. It seems to me, the esteem a tiara carries is so hardwired into our DNA that anyone could sense its power, possibly even one of my sons.

The rhinestones wink in the sunlight streaming through the hallway window.

I wipe the amused smile from my face and walk into the room where my boys are haggling about whose turn it is to play Xbox. The living room resembles a disheveled frat house littered with microwave pizza boxes, popsicle sticks and cups of half-drunk lemonade.

“I have an announcement,” I say to my two sons.

I stand in front of the television and snap my fingers in the air to get my 11-year-old Drew’s attention. He reaches up and pulls the noise-canceling gaming headset off of his ears. Sitting on the floor, leaning his back on a chair cushion against the ottoman, his green eyes widen as he stares up at me.

I look over at Nolan, my 13-year-old, standing in the kitchen behind our center island munching on tortilla chips, which have scattered across the grey countertop and wood floor.

His blue eyes gawk at me.

For once, my rowdy boys are silent.

“See this tiara on my head?”

I ask calmly.

They nod.

“Whenever you see me wearing it, it means I can’t talk to you. It means I’m in the middle of working on an assignment or in an interview. It means I can’t go looking for your shoes, download a new video game, or resolve an argument that you guys can figure out for yourselves.”

I pause for dramatic effect.

“It means, your mother, the queen, is working and is not to be disturbed.” I raise my eyebrows at them, holding their gaze.

“Um. Ooo-kay, Mom,” Nolan says with a grin. He pops a tortilla chip into his mouth.

Drew rolls his eyes and pulls his headphones back on.

“And clean up this mess!” I declare, my hand regally sweeping across the living room. I spin around gracefully and walk slowly and stately back into my office and firmly shut the French doors.

A little while later, still wearing my tiara, I hear the boys tromping down the hall toward my office.

“Shhh, Drew, stop! We can’t talk to Mom right now. Look!” Nolan loudly whispers.

Out of the corner of my eye, I see them turn and tiptoe away. I smile to myself.

My bejeweled accessory may seem like a silly head ornament, but this decorative piece of frivolity takes on a deeper meaning by protectively encircling my personal time. It informs those around me that I take my time seriously. More importantly, this crowning glory is a reminder to myself that amid the demands of motherhood, I deserve sacred space, solitude and time to fulfill my priorities. I am, after all, the queen of my domain.

Besides, even the best managers with open-door policies have to shut themselves away sometimes if they are going to accomplish anything. Moms are no different. If ever there is one accessory I believe every busy mother needs, I highly recommend a tiara.

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The Value of Money DOS AND DON’TS OF GIVING YOUR KIDS AN ALLOWANCE

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ou can teach your kids important money management skills by giving them a regular allowance, but how do you ensure that they end up learning the right lessons? Here are some suggested tips to follow when it comes to giving your kids an allowance.

COMMUNICATE CLEAR EXPECTATIONS FOR SPENDING, SAVING AND GIVING. It’s important to communicate clear expectations about what your kids are supposed to do with their allowance.

Experts agree that if you want to teach your kids about the value of money, and also encourage them to become caring human beings, then require them to divide the allowance into three parts: spending, saving and giving. “This is an excellent way to expose them to the three most important things they can do with their money,” says Brad Munson, a personal finance expert. “And it’s a lesson that can last a lifetime.”

Also come to a mutual agreement about how much money they are allowed to

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spend, how much they are supposed to save and find a charity that they truly care about. As Susan Borowski, the author of Money Crashers puts it, having kids “choose the charity of their choice will make them more likely to set aside the money. Just like we give to charities that matter to us, children also need to give to a charity that matters to them, or they won’t be motivated to do it.”

USE THE ALLOWANCE TO INSPIRE REGULAR CONVERSATIONS ABOUT MONEY MANAGEMENT. Think of the allowance not primarily as a means of making money available to your kids, but rather as a way to inspire regular conversations with them about money management. Kimberly Palmer, the author of Smart Mom, Rich Mom, says “to get them used to handling and talking about money so it’s not so much the amount as the conversation around it that matters.” Neale Godfrey, a personal finance expert and author says, “Talking to your kids about allowance and money

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is just as important as giving it.” Research shows that the more kids discuss money management with their parents as they grow up, the better they become at managing their own finances as adults.

BE CONSISTENT – BUT REGULARLY REVIEW YOUR ALLOWANCE POLICIES. However you decide that your kids should allocate their allowance, be consistent about your allowance policies and only change them if you have very good reasons to do so, like if you simply can’t afford the current amount or your kids are not spending it in the agreed-upon ways. As child psychologist, Dr. Mary Kelly Blakeslee says, “Nothing bothers kids more than unfairness. If you change the rules without a good reason, you’re reneging on a contract. While children need to learn that life isn’t always fair, you can still respect your children’s feelings by explaining why you have to decrease their allowance or postpone payment, and let them know you can understand their annoyance or disappointment.”

DON’T USE THE ALLOWANCE AS PUNISHMENT OR REWARD. An allowance should be used as a management tool. An allowance, says Munson, “is supposed to develop greater trust and better communication and cooperation, so using it as an unexpected disciplinary tool will just make you look cruel and arbitrary in the eyes of your children (no matter how much they might seem to deserve it). Find another way to make your point while living up to the original bargain.” Nevin Martell, a financial planner, agrees: Using money “as a yo-yo – ‘I don’t like this or I don’t like that, so I’m going to cut your allowance’ — is not going to help them form a healthy relationship with money.”

Similarly, don’t use the allowance to reward your kids for unrelated accomplishments. “Giving your kids money as a reward,” says Joseph Hogue, a certified financial planner, “establishes the mentality that you only need to do things if you’re getting paid.” Instead, suggests Hogue, “let them pick the family outing for the week or just tell them how proud you are of their accomplishment.”

DON’T TIE THE ALLOWANCE TO THE PERFORMANCE OF REGULAR HOUSEHOLD CHORES. Finally, don’t tie the allowance to regular household chores. Doing so is wrong for several reasons: First, it defeats the very idea that being part of a family entails that one has certain responsibilities.

Second, it encourages your kids to bargain every time you ask them to do something around the house.

And third, your kids may even stop doing their chores once they feel they have enough money.

Experts say to only offer your kids extra money for tasks you otherwise would have paid someone else to do like, say, mowing the lawn or painting the house. Godfrey suggests that parents carefully distinguish between what he calls “citizen-of-the-household chores,” for which they shouldn’t get paid, and “work-for-pay chores,” for which it makes sense to give them some extra money.

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GROWING pains

Keeping it Together HOW TO GET YOUR KIDS TO STOP LOSING THEIR STUFF WITHOUT LOSING YOUR MIND

BY SANDI SCHWARTZ

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hat do you mean you don’t know where your new shoes are? You haven’t even had them for a week!”

I screamed at my daughter as steam simmered out of my ears and my face burnt with rage.

Did I lose my temper at that moment? Yes. Did I feel bad about it? Yes, but only partially. I was furious that my daughter had no idea where her sneakers were that I just ordered a few days earlier.

She went to camp the previous day with them on, but now she had no idea where they were. It is just so frustrating to have something you pay a decent amount of money for vanish into thin air. On top of that, I discovered that they were missing two minutes before we needed to walk out the door to get to camp in the morning. Yes, it was stressful.

I screamed. I yelled. I threw a fit. My behavior was definitely overblown as a reaction to a 5-year-old losing a material item (I know, it’s just stuff!), but I also know that if she does not learn that this is a big deal, how will she ever learn responsibility for her belongings and the value of a dollar? I joked that she would have to find a way to earn the money to pay for new shoes. The

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bewildered look I got in return meant it was time to explore the best ways to teach young children responsibility so that I did not have to experience that stressful scene again.

EXPECTATIONS. Are my expectations too high? According to child psychologist Cheryl Gilbert Mac Leod, interviewed by Today’s Parent, young children are focused on so many things at once that it is common for them to lose their gear. We can expect children up to age 6 to lose their belongings at times. When they enter elementary school, they can begin to take on more responsibility and understand the consequences of their actions.

Set some rules with them about which items you will replace, how many times you will replace them, and any other sacrifices they will have to make, such as doing chores to “earn” things or giving up certain privileges like screen time.

Some kids may be naturally organized, but for the most part, it is up to us to teach them how to keep track of their things and to realize the importance of responsibility. There are some simple practical solutions, but also some deeper, more life-long lessons that we can teach our children about responsibility, respect and

the value of a dollar.

PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS. Let’s start with some practical solutions to help our children keep better track of their belongings: SET REMINDERS BASED ON THEIR SCHEDULE. Talk to your children about their daily schedule and point out important actions to take throughout the day, such as putting their lunchbox back into their backpack after their lunch period, putting their clothes in their backpack after a swim lesson, and keeping track of their water bottle throughout the day. Ask them to double-check that they have all their belongings before they leave school or camp at the end of the day.

Forming these habits based on a consistent routine can be very effective and used in so many other situations down the road.

LABEL EVERYTHING. Although it is a time investment upfront, labeling your children’s belongings provides an insurance policy in case they do forget or misplace something. Hopefully, someone will find the lost item and take it to the lost and found so that you can retrieve it later.

You can simply use a Sharpie marker or purchase some name labels online.

MAKE A CHECKLIST. Work with your children to write a list of their key belongings, such as a lunchbox, sweatshirt, sunglasses, hat and homework folder, that they need to make sure they have before they leave the house in the morning and before they come home at the end of the day. Review this list over and over again with them until it is ingrained in their memory. Be sure to review the list together so that you are also checking that they have everything they need.

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PROMPT THEM WITH SPECIFIC QUESTIONS. Yes, we parents are known to nag, but it is necessary at times. Be proactive by asking them questions based on the checklist you created. “Do you have your hat and sunglasses for the day? Don’t forget to put them in your backpack when you are not using them.” Eventually, they will hear your questions enough that they will come up with them on their own.

MAKE IT FUN. Try teaching your kids a song, cheer, or acronym to remember their gear.

LESSONS FOR A LIFETIME. The simple act of my daughter losing her new sneakers at camp prompted some important lessons that she can carry with her for a lifetime.

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calmly as I should have, my daughter got the message that she was irresponsible and her actions had consequences. First, she felt uneasy that I was scolding her; she prefers a happy mommy. Second, she needed to understand that I was not going to immediately hop on Amazon and reorder those same $45 shoes just because she loved them. That day she wore her old, beat-up, slightly-too-small sneakers that she was so happy to leave behind when the new ones arrived. And when I asked her how she was going to earn the money to order new shoes, she realized that so much of what she has and loves costs money, and that needs to be earned by hard work.

I knew that if I simply “came to the rescue” my daughter would grow up with an entitled expectation. There has been a lot of talk about entitled children lately.

These children grow up feeling privileged because their parents believe that they should be happy all the time and never face consequences for their actions. Marsha B. Sauls, a licensed psychologist, explains that these children become belligerent, angry, lazy, selfish, incapable of planning ahead, and unable to understand how their behavior and choices impact others.

Instead, I am trying to raise responsible children who understand that there are consequences for their actions. This means my children won’t always be completely happy. They won’t automatically get things just because they want them. It’s not just that I want my kids to be responsible for materials things; responsibility impacts so many aspects of their lives. If they learn to take care of their own toys and clothes now, then they will respect other people and their stuff, too. They will grasp the value of working hard to be able to pay for things, which will help them to manage their time and money more wisely. They will also begin to see the importance of helping people who do not have nearly as much as they do. Finally, they will feel empowered and develop self-esteem because they have control over their own behavior, which can help them achieve their goals and desires throughout life.

Back to those shoes… I am happy to report that we found the sneakers in a bin in the hallway at camp. But now my son lost his sweatshirt…

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FAMILY dynamics

Fighting Fair STRATEGIES TO HELP SIBLINGS GET ALONG

BY MALIA JACOBSON

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arents of siblings may feel like full-time referees, with good reason. According to University of Toronto research, siblings fight up to eight times every hour — that’s a fight every seven minutes or so.

For years, parents were told to simply walk away and let kids work out fights on their own. This well-intentioned approach is both logical and practical; kids learn how to navigate conflict while parents get some welcome relief from the neverending sibling drama. A win-win, right?

Not so fast. While this advice lets parents out of the referee role, research shows that it doesn’t squash conflict, and may hurt sibling relationships longterm. Although kids may seem to clash less often with this approach, research suggests that fights dwindle not because siblings learn to cooperate, but because one child dominates while the other simply gives up.

But parents can’t monitor every sibling squabble. Unfortunately, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to guiding kids through sibling conflict, says psychotherapist and parenting coach Erin Bernau.

“It’s fair for parents to say, ‘I trust that you guys can figure this out. I’m here if you want to work through some solutions with me,’” Bernau notes. “That said, we also need to think about limiting the harm that severe sibling conflict can have.

Sustained and dramatic sibling conflict can leave everybody feeling exhausted and wary of spending time together.”

When tensions between sparring siblings are high, what’s a frustrated parent to do?

Thankfully, science has answers.

Research shows that teaching children pro-social behavior — acts intended to benefit others like sharing, helping and comforting — is more effective than simply stepping in to stop fights. Here’s how to apply that approach to the most common sibling conflicts, from “it’s not fair!” fights to physical scuffles to bathroom battles.

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AGES 2-6: FAIR SHARE If you feel like your toddler and preschool-age children bicker constantly, you’re not wrong; young siblings do fight more frequently than their older counterparts. “Mine fight all the time,” says Sarah Liao, mother to three young children. “Perceived fairness is a huge issue in our house, and my oldest just likes to antagonize our middle just to get a reaction because she likes to see him get upset.”

According to sibling expert Laurie Kramer, Ph.D., focusing on shared activities and play, instead of fighting, can help foster the warm, supportive sibling relationships that parents want for their children. She created a free online

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program called More Fun with Sisters & Brothers to help parents of siblings ages 4 through 8 learn how to promote sibling harmony and build strong lifelong bonds.

In the short term, parents can quiet the “it’s not fair!” chorus by making it clear that each child is valued and heard. “Parents can help to mitigate conflict by making clear that they are not picking sides whenever possible, and by showing kids in a deep and meaningful way that they value all of their children equally,” says Bernau. “If each child feels appreciation and unconditional love from parents, sibling conflict is more easily navigated.”

AGES 7-12: ROUGHING IT In The Art of Roughhousing: Good

Old-Fashioned Horseplay and Why Every Kid Needs It, authors Anthony T. DeBenedet, MD, and Lawrence J. Cohen highlight the benefits of physical play. Roughhousing stimulates brain growth and helps kids develop emotional intelligence, behavioral regulation, and physical fitness. But lots of parents struggle to tell the difference between play fighting and real physical conflict.

And when roughhousing kids slip into fight mode, they can wind up with battle scars both real and relational.

Parents can promote beneficial physical play — while keeping a lid on actual fighting — by learning what constitutes horseplay. Per research published in the journal Learning & Behavior, healthy roughhousing includes turn-taking and cooperation. It’s also supposed to be fun, so watch for smiles and laughter.

Ground rules help keep physical play safe and fun; kids should know that they can stop the game if it’s no longer fun and ask for adult help if needed, says Bernau. “Everyone deserves to feel safe in their body. While it can be completely healthy for kids to work out some conflict physically, this is also an

opportunity to teach kids about limits, safety and consent.”

As with any other game, both siblings need to be willing participants in safe physical play, says Adele Faber, bestselling coauthor of Siblings Without Rivalry and How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk. “You don’t get to have a great time at someone else’s expense. When you’re a family, you look out for one another, so you can talk about ways to have fun together that keep your family values front and center.”

AGES 13-18: SPACE WARS Bigger kids can mean bigger battles.

Competitiveness between siblings peaks between ages 10 and 15 as they clash over everything from chores to bathroom space to who gets the prime seat on the sofa. It’s a near-constant challenge for Rachel Jenkins, mother of three children ages 11 through 17.

“Being an only child is such a disadvantage because I don’t get it,” Jenkins says. “They fight over their bedroom spaces, sharing the bathroom, bathroom chores and sharing gaming devices. When there’s a problem, it’s always somebody else’s issue.”

Parents may unwittingly spur sibling conflict by siding with one sibling more often — a habit teens are sure to notice.

“It’s important for parents to self-reflect,” says Bernau. “Is there a child whose side we more naturally gravitate toward?

What is this grounded in? Our own role in our family of origin? Some perceived vulnerability (either emotionally or physically) in the child? Is it just a reflex to see one child as the antagonist and one as the victim?”

These responses to sibling conflicts can be reflexive and rooted in our own childhoods, so it can be helpful to get feedback from a partner, a parenting coach, or a therapist, she says.

Challenge feisty teens to create solutions to ongoing conflicts over space, privacy and autonomy, and you might be surprised with their creativity, says Faber. “Teens who share space can come with up with strategies that work for everyone. The point is that they need to feel empowered and invested and part of the solution.”

Malia Jacobson is a nationally published journalist and parent of three.

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Include the name of the event, location, address, date, time, brief description, price and telephone number for the public.

MCC Jr. Chef Challenge SATURDAY, JUNE 19

Kids ages 9-13 can put their cooking skills to the test as they create meals from scratch using mystery ingredients. MIRAMAR CULTURAL CENTER BANQUET HALL, 2400 Civic Center Place, Miramar, www.miramarculturalcenter.org

Steam Train Rides SATURDAY, JUNE 19

All aboard! Hop on a model steam train for a ride around the track. $1.50/ride. 10am-4pm, TRADEWINDS PARk, 3600 W. Sample Rd., Coconut Creek, www.broward.org/parks

Downtown Hollywood ArtWalk SATURDAY, JUNE 19

The downtown area comes alive with art, music, murals, outdoor markets and more. 6-11pm, DOWNTOWN HOLLYWOOD, 954-924-2980 www.floridashollywood.org/artwalk

Featured Creatures SATURDAY-SUNDAY, JUNE 19-20

BROWARD COUNTY Sunny Days THURSDAY, JUNE 3

Free admission Starry Nights have transformed into Sunny Days with free museum exploration the first Thursday of every month. 11am-5pm, NSU ART MUSEUM FORT LAUDERDALE, One East Las Olas Blvd., Fort Lauderdale, www.nsuartmuseum.org

Friday Night Sound Waves FRIDAYS, JUNE 4, 11, 18 & 25

Listen to live music and get some fresh air every Friday night through July 2. Free. 6:30-9:30pm, LAS OLAS OCEANSIDE PARK, 3000 E. Las Olas Blvd., Fort Lauderdale, www.fortlauderdale.gov

SATURDAY, JUNE 5

Bring your family and your appetite to an outdoor event featuring live music and a variety of food trucks. Admission is free. 7-9pm, PARKLAND AMPHITHEATER, 10561 Trails End, Parkland, www.cityofparkland.org

Children’s BookFest - Virtual SATURDAY, JUNE 5

The Broward County Library’s Summer Learning Program kicks off with an interactive drawing lesson with author and illustrator Bob Shea. REGISTER ONLINE. 11am-noon, www.broward.org/library

Dino Dana Opening Weekend SATURDAY-SUNDAY, JUNE 5-6

Discover the wonders of the Mesozoic era at the S O U T H F L O R I D A F A M I LY L I F E

Tamarac Community Farmers Market SUNDAYS, JUNE 6, 13, 20 & 27

Enjoy the open air while you shop for fresh produce, tea, honey and other local products every Sunday. 9am-2pm, VETERAN’S MEMORIAL PARK, 7825 Southgate Blvd., Tamarac, www.tamarac.org

Sea Turtle Walks TUESDAYS & THURSDAYS, JUNE 8, 10, 15, 17, 24 & 29

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Dino Dana exhibit featuring interactive activities via an augmented reality experience. Opening weekend includes additional activities such as a shark tooth dig pit, make-and-take dinosaur skeletons and create your own fossils. Noon-4pm, MUSEUM OF DISCOVERY AND SCIENCE, 401 SW Second St., Fort Lauderdale, www.mods.org

An informative hands-on session about sea turtles is followed by a trip to the beach with expert guides to watch for turtles that have come to lay eggs. Be prepared to walk up to two miles.

Ages 9 and up. $21. Pre-registration required.

8pm-1am, MUSEUM OF DISCOVERY AND SCIENCE, 401 SW Second St., Fort Lauderdale, www.mods.org

Father Son Derby Night FRIDAY, JUNE 18

Have a special night with pop at this pinewood derby-themed event featuring dinner, activities and lots of fun. $30/dad and son; $12/each additional son. 6:30-9:30pm, COOPER CITY COMMUNITY CENTER, 9000 SW 50 Place, Cooper City, 954-434-4300 www.coopercityfl.org

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Celebrate with Dad at this event featuring crafts and games highlighting the creatures of the Big Bugs exhibit. $21.95/adult, $15.95/child.

9:30am-4pm, FLAMINGO GARDENS, 3750 S. Flamingo Rd., Davie, 954-473-2955 www.flamingogardens.org

Dad’s Day Out SUNDAY, JUNE 20

Celebrate the day as you stroll the gardens and visit the historical residence. Dads get in free on their day with one paid adult admission. $20/adult, $8/child. 11am-4pm, BONNET HOUSE, 900 N. Birch Rd., Fort Lauderdale, 954-563-5393 www.bonnethouse.org

Movies in the Park FRIDAY, JUNE 25

Bring chairs and blankets to watch an outdoor showing of Moana on an 18-foot inflatable movie screen. Free. 8:15-9:45pm, PARKLAND AMPHITHEATER, 10561 Trails End, Parkland, www.cityofparkland.org

Big Bugs in the Moonlight SATURDAY, JUNE 26

Explore the Big Bugs exhibit, featuring 10 larger-than-life sculptures, dramatically lit for nighttime viewing. Admission to the evening event is $15.95/ages 12 and up, $12.95/ages 3-11. 7-9pm, FLAMINGO GARDENS, 3750 S. Flamingo Rd., Davie, 954-473-2955 www.flamingogardens.org

Taste of the Caribbean Islands SATURDAY, JUNE 26

Bring your appetite and family to taste food from a variety of vendors who will be selling eats and treats. 6-10pm, MIRAMAR TOWN CENTER PLAZA, 2300 Civic Center Place, Miramar, 954-602-3178 www.miramarfl.gov

MIAMI-DADE COUNTY Twilight Fridays at the Museum FRIDAY, JUNE 4

An evening of free museum admission, live music and more. 6-8pm, CORAL GABLES MUSEUM, 285 Aragon Ave., Coral Gables, www.coralgablesmuseum.org

Gold Coast Free First Saturday

The Juneteenth Experience SATURDAY, JUNE 19

A multi-disciplinary performance celebrating freedom, black arts and culture, and more.

The show will be presented with limited in-person seating and a livestream. 8pm, NORTH BEACH BANDSHELL, 7275 Collins Ave., Miami Beach, 786-453-2897 www.northbeachbandshell.com

PAMM Family Tours SATURDAY, JUNE 19

Explore the museum for free the first Saturday of every month. GOLD COAST RAILROAD MUSEUM, 12450 SW 152 St., Miami, 305-253-0063 www.goldcoastrailroadmuseum.org

Discover the museum through an interactive family tour that includes conversations and art making. $16/adult, $12/child. PÉREZ ART MUSEUM MIAMI, 1103 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 305-375-3000 www.pamm.org

Pour Your Art Out

Father’s Day Bay Cruise

SATURDAY, JUNE 5

SUNDAY, JUNE 20

Create your own painted batik handkerchief during this 60-minute workshop. Ages 8 and up. $15. 1pm,

Cast a line on a this half-day catch-and-release fishing trip departing from the Deering Estate grounds. $45. DEERING ESTATE, 16701 SW 72 Ave., Miami, 305-235-1668 www.deeringestate.org

SATURDAY, JUNE 5

ADRIENNE ARSHT CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS, 1300 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 786-468-2000

www.arshtcenter.org

Vizcaya Late FRIDAY, JUNE 11

Butterfly Walk SATURDAY, JUNE 26

Take a stroll to check out some unique species

of butterflies and a variety of habitats. 11am-noon, DEERING ESTATE, 16701 SW 72 Ave., Miami, 305-235-1668 www.deeringestate.org

Food Truck Wednesdays WEDNESDAYS

Bring the family and your appetite to this food truck event featuring a variety of dishes to choose from.

5-10pm, PELICAN HARBOR MARINA, 1275 NE 79 St., Miami, www.miamifoodtrucksevents.com

Coconut Grove Artisanal Market FRIDAYS

Every Friday through September 3 is a new experience at this weekly event with a rotating variety of artisanal goods, food, art, antiques, live music and more. Free.

6-11pm, ST. STEPHENS CHURCH, 2750 McFarlane Rd., Coconut Grove

Vizcaya Village Farmers Market SUNDAYS

Visit the historic farm and village as vendors sell homemade food and hand-crafted goods. 9am-2pm, VIZCAYA VILLAGE, 3250 S. Miami Ave., Miami, www.vizcaya.org

After-hours event includes garden exploration at night and fun activities and experiences. Tickets must be purchased online, in advance. $18. 5-8pm, VIZCAYA MUSEUM AND GARDENS, 3251 S. Miami Ave., Miami, www.vizcaya.org

Family Day on Aragon SATURDAY, JUNE 12

Enjoy a day of family fun activities, arts and crafts, live performances and more every second Saturday of the month. 2-8pm, CORAL GABLES MUSEUM, 285 Aragon Ave., Coral Gables, 305-603-8067 www.coralgablesmuseum.org

Lasting Impressions: The 3D LED Experience THROUGH JUNE 16

Watch more than 100 famous impressionist paintings come to life through digital technology and giant screens that envelop you. ADRIENNE ARSHT CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS, 1300 Biscayne Blvd., Miami, 786-468-2000 www.arshtcenter.org

PALM BEACH COUNTY Sensory Saturdays SATURDAY, JUNE 5

Families and children affected by autism spectrum disorder can explore the museum for an hour before the center opens to the public. Lighting and sound adaptions are made during this time. 9-10am, SOUTH FLORIDA SCIENCE CENTER AND AQUARIUM, 4801 Dreher Trail North, West Palm Beach, 561-832-1988 www.sfsciencecenter.org

smART SATURDAY, JUNE 5

Geared toward families with kids ages 5 and up, this monthly program focuses on art-making basics. Free. 10-11am, BOCA MUSEUM OF ART,

501 Plaza Real, Boca Raton, 561-392-2500 www.bocamuseum.org

Father’s Day Koma SUNDAY, JUNE 20

Sign online with dad to this virtual program to create komas, a Japanese wooden spinning top.

Noon, MORIKAMI MUSEUM AND JAPANESE GARDENS, 4000 Morikami Park Rd., Delray Beach, 561-495-0233 www.morikami.org

Sandoway Discovery Series THURSDAYS

Children ages 3-6 can participate in a handson activity with different topics ranging from bugs and pythons to plants and butterflies every Thursday. $8/class. 9:30am & 10:15am, SANDOWAY DISCOVERY CENTER, 142 S. Ocean Blvd., Delray Beach, 561-274-7263 www.sandoway.org

Every effort has been made to provide accurate information. Changes and cancellations do occur. Please double check the details before setting out on your adventure.

Alligator & Croc Feeding MONDAYS

Explore the wildlife sanctuary and view the alligators and crocodiles as they have a snack. 4pm, BUSCH WILDLIFE SANCTUARY, 2500 Jupiter Park Dr., Jupiter, 561-575-3399 www.buschwildlife.org

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WORDS of wisdom

Painting a Perfect Picture A SMART DAD KNOWS WHEN TO LIE

BY RICK EPSTEIN

“D

ad,” said my 16-year-old daughter, Wendy, “can Mary and Jessica sleep over tonight?”

“Mary the Thief?”

Wendy replied angrily, “That was a long time ago.”

Wendy’s circle of “frenemies” rotates swiftly, and when she is on the outs with them, she tells us about their wickedness. And Mary had been the central figure in a story of a shoplifting spree at the mall that ended with her capture.

Wendy then asked me, “Haven’t YOU ever stolen anything?”

After a thoughtful pause, I admitted, “Three things, although one of them was a box of thumb-tacks, so you could say it was about 100 things. But each crime is burned into my memory and I’m ashamed of them.”

The PERFECT father wouldn’t have ever done anything wrong.

The SMART father would know when to lie.

And then there’s me.

In that brief exchange, I had lost the moral high ground and practically given Wendy permission to steal anything she could get her mitts on. I had also forfeited my right to indignation and disappointment if she gets caught.

I know every kid transgresses, but with luck, Mom and Dad won’t find out about it until they are grown up.

My 23-year-old daughter, Marie, now tells me that when she was 10, she and the neighbor boy used to fill his red wagon with twigs and branches, light it up and then pull it around the backyard for the sheer joy of running around with a wagonload of fire. (This is just a sample.)

Sally, my 20-year-old, now away at college, has let me know that as a high schooler, she used to sneak out of the house at night for booze parties with her friends.

Kids will cross the line; it’s what they do. But there has to BE a line, drawn by parents and enforced with commitment if not success.

What about my own father? I found an old snapshot of him at age 13 standing beside a sign that says: “QUIET. Hospital Zone.” His arms are outstretched and his mouth is open wide as if he is singing opera. Although it’s clearly a gag, the photo is the only evidence I have that he ever even considered misbehaving.

Dad created his own legend and then lived it. The way he told it, as a youth he never stole, drank, smoked, fought, cursed, made a bigoted remark, or peed outdoors.

The model boy was made believable by the man I knew.

He shaved on Saturdays, paid his bills early, and never started eating until Mom had lifted her fork. Dad would no sooner swipe a hotel towel than he would commit a triple ax murder.

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Youthful shenanigans? He could never remember any.

Some fathers might’ve said, “Drugs? Pull up a chair, son, and I’ll tell you about the time my pals and I dropped acid and tried to steal a horse.” But not mine.

I was never 100 percent comfortable with having such a righteous father. It seemed that his excruciatingly moderate lifestyle and apparent freedom from temptation prevented him from fully appreciating a lively and adventuresome boy like me.

But when my children arrived, because of my dad’s example, I was able to become the paragon of virtue that he was, topped off with a self-indulgent sort of honesty that likes to tell all to whoever asks.

So as a Father’s Day gift to all you rookies, here’s a piece of advice: Someday Junior will ask, “Daddy, did you ever lie, steal or cheat?” Have your answer ready ahead of time.

And for the good of humankind, please try to come up with something better than “yes.”

Rick Epstein is a freelance writer and author of Rookie Dad and The Right Number of Kids.

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