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A publication of Sheridan House Family Ministries 1 7 0 0 S o u t h F l a m i n g o R o a d • D a v i e , F L 3 3 3 2 5 • ( 9 5 4 ) 5 8 3 - 1 5 5 2 • w w w. s h f m . o r g

November 2009

Honoring Christ by serving the needs of children and families

A Note From Bob -

Monthly Calendar . . . This month in the prayer calendar you will notice somewhat of a change. Of course you will still see the residential children, their parents, and single moms we serve listed along with our staff, individuals in our community, and our nation’s leaders. However, I’ve taken the liberty of adding some of the needs of our ministry, in particular, some of the financial needs. There is no doubt that the families we serve, the families who support us, and the ministry itself is in the midst of some of the most challenging financial times ever. One of our board members recently encouraged us to gather together weekly to pray for the needs of the ministry. We have already begun to do so and the time we have spent in prayer has been remarkable! Please join us this month as we pray day by day for the ministry of Sheridan House and the people we are so privileged to serve. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Philippians 4:6

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Please Pray For... Is any one of you in trouble? He should pray. Is anyone happy? Let him sing songs of praise. James 5:13

Sheridan House financial needs


Countless needs of others


The parents of our residential youth



Provision for our single moms

The sale of our old campus


Specific support for each residential youth


Wisdom for the counselors


Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful. Colossians 4:2

Your pastor and his family



Increased supporters for the residential homes

The Ladies Bible Study as they meet


The families of our employees


Graduates of our residential program


The parents of our graduates


The financial needs of our residential homes


I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy. Philippians 1:3-4

Your church’s financial needs


Single moms in great need


The employers of single moms


Worldwide burst of generosity among Christians


Children on our residential waiting list


Quality time for residential program families this weekend


Parents implementing tips


O LORD, hear my prayer, listen to my cry for mercy; in your faithfulness and righteousness come to my relief. Psalm 143:1

Open hearts to the Word shared in your pastor’s message


Thankful Hearts for what we have


Opportunities to share Christ’s love


Opportunities to help more families for Christ glory


Thankfulness for the food we have today


Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Romans 12:12

Open hearts to the Word shared in your pastor’s message


Thankful hearts for what we have


Sheridan House Family Ministries 1700 S. Flamingo Rd. • Davie, FL 33325 (954) 583-1552 •

Our nation


Our President


Will You Help A Child & A Family This Holiday Season? Earlier in this issue, Bob shared about some of the issues we all face when we gather the extended family around for that special meal during the holiday season. He offered some practical advice on making the most of that special time. If you will permit me, I would like to share another issue facing so many families, in particular, the single parents who Sheridan House ministers to day in and day out. Not surprisingly, many single parents in our community struggle to make ends meet. Most are tasked with being the sole provider and champion for their children and have limited help from anyone to shoulder their load. Like everyone, they long to make the holidays a special time for their family, but many simply don’t have the means to do so. Would you join us as we come alongside hundreds of families this holiday season? Every Thanksgiving, we provide the makings of a special meal for single parent families in need. This year, the turkeys have already been provided, so we are holding a food drive from now until Monday, November 16th, to collect both canned and dry goods to supplement the meal. For Christmas, we are collecting unwrapped toys for nearly a thousand children. The parents of the children will have the opportunity to visit our Toy Shoppe in December and select a few perfect gifts for their children. There is nothing like seeing a child’s face light up on Christmas morning when a highly anticipated gift is unwrapped. The simple gift of some food and toys allows families to make memories that last a lifetime while providing encouragement to those with limited hope. Your donation will make the difference for a family in need! God Bless You, Scott

For more information, please visit our website at or drop off your donation of goods at our Family Resource Center 1700 S. Flamingo Road, Davie, FL.

Lives of Significance By Brian Vann

One reason why the Sheridan House Residential Program is so effective is because of role the behavioral specialist plays in the lives of the boys and girls. Working side by side with their house parents, the behavioral specialists are responsible for monitoring the children’s progress in school, providing feedback to parents concerning the weekend goals while at home, and ultimately mentoring the boys and girls to make wise choices to become the young men and women God has designed them to be. We are happy to introduce them to you. Ephrain “Fish” Figueroa, the behavioral specialist in Boys House 1, has served at Sheridan House for almost five years. A graduate of Moody Bible Institute, Mr. Fig has a heart for working with boys. In fact, he often tells others that based on his background and past experiences he is just like a Sheridan House boy even though he was never in the program. Married for six years and father to four children, Mr. Fig enjoys the strong sense of family at Sheridan House. “I feel privileged to be a positive role model for the boys.” He is honored to see Christ works in the lives of the boys. “Once the boys are ready to graduate, it is a bittersweet time for them. They have reached the top of one mountain only to discover the rest of the journey that is before them. I am thrilled to help them prepare for this journey.” Alissa Hafer is the behavioral specialist in Girls House 1, and has served here for almost two years. Actually, she was an intern for the Girls Summer Program for two summers before joining us full-time. A graduate of Palm Beach Atlantic University in 2006, she caught the vision for serving here when she attended the grand opening celebration of the new Sheridan House campus with her husband. “When we went to the grand opening, it was clear that the Lord was going to do something awesome in and through Sheridan House. It was then that I realized I wanted to be a part of it…It is a privilege to speak into the lives of young ladies at the most awkward and sometimes most challenging season of their lives.”

Adam Roberts has been at Sheridan House for nine years. Serving as behavioral specialist in Boys House 2, Adam graduated from Asbury College in 2001, married later that year, and celebrated the birth of his first child earlier this year. When asked why he chose to serve at Sheridan House, he stated, “Sheridan House is where you can spend quality time with each individual boy, cultivating relationships, and seeing progress. In fact, it is exciting to be a part of changing lives.” A highlight of his time with the boys is “seeing them respond to the fact that an adult actually wants to be with them.”

In high school, Julianna Guevara had the assignment to write about where she saw herself serving in the future. She wrote, “I see myself getting a degree, getting married, and ministering to middle school-aged girls.” It was also during this time that she first heard about Sheridan House by volunteering to be a part of a service project. A 2007 graduate of Florida International University, this south Florida native became the behavioral specialist in Girls House 2 soon after she got married over a year ago and is currently working toward a Master’s Degree at Trinity International University. One of her favorite aspects of serving at Sheridan House is the relationships she has formed with the girls and her house parents. “Serving at Sheridan House lines up with my passion and ministry.” Matt Wells is the behavioral specialist in Boys House 3. Serving at Sheridan House for almost three years, Matt is excited about being a part of what he calls “front-line service.” He is a 2006 graduate of Palm Beach Atlantic University and is also pursuing his Master’s Degree at Trinity International University. “The best part of serving at Sheridan House,” Matt reports, “is reaching into hurting families, providing hope, and sharing truth about Jesus Christ.” Relating with the boys during the camping trip in Colorado with his new bride has been the highlight for him this year. Sheridan House is very fortunate to have these men and women serving Christ here. It is exciting to see how God blesses those whom He uses to bless others.

I remember hearing Rosemary say, “Bob, I just need for you to behave!” It was our first Thanksgiving and we actually had a home for Rosemary’s family to come and visit. My expectations of what this great family occasion would be like were huge. I was pretty excited. However, it didn’t go exactly as I had planned. Her family arrived and needed my help unloading the cars. Before I knew it, I realized that I was the only one “unloading.” They were busy greeting each other and touring our new home. I wanted to be there for that; but my Type A temperament wouldn’t permit me to stop the task at hand. Plus, I knew unloading the cars would get me points with my in-laws. “Oh, Bob! I’m sorry we left you alone to do the unloading! You’re such a servant leader. Thank you!” At least that’s what I wanted to hear. Instead I got, “Oh, please be careful with that; it’s our family’s antique turkey platter.” I think I even heard an emphasis on the words “our family’s…”

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In her excitement of seeing her family, even Rosemary missed the awesome job of serving I had done; but I got over it! After all, it was Thanksgiving and I was

thankful for family…even if it the more moody I became until I seemed awkward. found myself acting like a child. Actually, I didn’t find myself, That Wednesday night we watched Rosemary did. all their special family movies. I strategically sat on the floor at “Bob, I know my family is Rosemary’s feet, giving her family sometimes difficult; all families space on the couch and chairs. are. What I need now is help from When I got up to get myself some you as we serve them. I need for tea I asked, “Does anyone want you to behave!” anything while I’m up?” I asked in a low voice hoping no one would hear me, but her father heard and announced to the multitudes. I poured them tea and to my horror, there wasn’t enough left for me. Worse, no one noticed! That’s when I went for a walk. When I came back, Rosemary asked me if I was okay…that I appeared a little abrupt and moody. She wanted to know if there was something I wanted to talk about with her. “No,” I responded, thinking I shouldn’t have to explain how “we” were not being appreciated for the work “we” were doing to make this a special holiday. She should be able to see that. She should have noticed that there wasn’t any ice tea left. Instead, I took the mature, high road and said, “I’m okay. I just needed to clear my head.” But things just got worse. The more I felt taken advantage of

to visit and stay in a house that isn’t theirs. All of us bring our decades of old family dysfunctions. What do we expect? Same faces with different personalities? This holiday season, decide to expect only one thing. Decide you will serve the weird people in your family. The weirder they are, the more you will serve. Here’s the deal though: don’t serve them, serve Christ. If I was sitting comfortably and Christ asked me for tea, I’d jump up and get it. “Here it is Lord; all of it!”

Imagine Him saying, “Thank you my son. Now take the tea you brought me and give it to your father-in-law.” Matthew 25:45 goes something like, “when you do this for the weirdest of these you Wow! I felt immature. I realized are doing it for me.” (I did say that I didn’t understand holidays “something like”). and family gatherings. Apparently, I was going about it all wrong. You When you serve people for the see, I wanted to be appreciated. It Lord’s pleasure, you will be looked like I was serving, but I transforming your holiday into its was really only doing things to get original title, Holy Day. Make this feedback - to make people realize Thanksgiving a holy day by serving what a great person I was. When the people God permits around I didn’t get what I expected, I gave you; even those difficult family back the worst of me. members. Remember, you might be the difficult family member to Holidays and family gatherings are some of them. It all boils down to awkward. Kids come home from your heart. Remind yourself Who college and feel like they don’t you are really serving. belong anymore. Relatives come

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November 2009 Family Advocate  
November 2009 Family Advocate  

In this month's Family Advocate, Sheridan House Family Ministries gives advice on dealing with family members in this fast approaching holid...