In Loving Memory
TRIBUTES TO OUR LOVED ONES
How to prepare a eulogy
Giving the eulogy at a funeral is an honor as well as an intimidating responsibility. Particularly if you are not accustomed to publicspeaking, it can be difficult to know where to begin.
Well, take a breath and relax. With a little forethought, you can prepare and deliver a stirring eulogy. It is important to invest the time necessary to prepare in advance. Do not wait to “wing it” during the funeral. That is a recipe for disaster. You may freeze up, ramble on, and miss out on the opportunity to pay proper tribute to your loved one. If you plan ahead and organize what you intend to say, it will minimize those dangers. When the time comes, you may choose to digress a bit from your prepared statements, but you will at least have a framework to guide you.
Writing the eulogy
To help with your preparation, make sure you carry a notepad, smartphone or tablet with you for note-taking purposes. Whenever you hear a family member or friend make a relevant observation about the deceased, quickly jot it down. This way, you can keep track of quotations, humorous stories, and factual information. Later, when you sit down to organize your thoughts onto paper, you can use your notes as a reservoir of ideas. If you are have difficulty recalling information or getting input from others, don’t be afraid to ask outright. Spark conversations by asking questions such as:
• What is your favorite memory of your time with them?
• If you could sum up their life in one word, what word would that be?
• What kinds of hobbies did they have?
• What nicknames were they known by?
When you have gathered enough information, it is time to put it all
together. While there is no right or wrong way to prepare a eulogy, the following blueprint can help you get started if you are unsure.
To begin, describe your own relationship with the deceased. Explain how you are personally affected by the loss. Remember that many of the people listening to you will understand fully and may share many of the same emotions. Next, work in some personal details pertaining to the deceased, and include three or four anecdotes. Tell stories that included you, or that were shared with you by others. Heartwarming accounts of generosity are powerful when delivered in a eulogy. Stories that demonstrate the person’s character will resonate with the people who miss them. Humorous anecdotes provide much-needed comic relief from the tension of a funeral service. However, be sure to keep the humor respectful and appropriate. If the loved one was a person of faith, you can make note of that, too.
Talk about life lessons you learned from them as well as the qualities that
made your loved one special. Whenever possible, tie these lessons or qualities into your anecdotes. Beware, however, of the danger of turning the eulogy into a story about yourself. Keep the focus on the person you are honoring.
Near the end of the eulogy, consider addressing the deceased directly. For example, you can turn toward the casket and say, “Mom, I love you and I’m going to miss you. You taught me well, I couldn’t have asked for a better mother, and you will always be close to my heart.”
You may choose to end on that note, or you may opt to share a final poem or read a verse from a favorite hymn in closing.
Delivering the eulogy
You should prepare a complete manuscript of what you plan to say. Though the process may be difficult, it will force you to focus an dorganize your thoughts in a coherent fashion. Using this manuscript, you can practice delivering the eulogy a few times to see how it flows and to edit for length. In most cases, a eulogy of five to ten minutes (two to four
typed pages) is appropriate. If you expect that you will stray from the manuscript during delivery, aim for shorter. If you tend to speak faster when nervous, prepare a longer eulogy.
Whether you take the complete manuscript to the podium or condense the eulogy onto cue cards is your decision. If you are nervous about speaking publicly, bring the entire manuscript up to the podium with you. Just having it handy can relieve your anxiety about getting lost during the eulogy. If you are a confident public speaker, condense the eulogy to bullet points on cue cards. This will help you deliver a more natural, conversational tribute to your loved one.
If you invest the time and energy in preparing the eulogy, you can approach your responsibility with confidence. Step up to the podium, take a deep breath to calm your nerves and get your bearings, and tell everyone about this wonderful person you are honoring.
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Placentia, CA
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Carolyn Becker 1935-2025
Monterey, CA
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Huntington Beach, CA
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Laguna Nigel, CA
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Garden Grove, CA
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Brea, CA
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Newport Beach, CA
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Yorba Linda, CA
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Huntington Beach, CA
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Laguna Niguel, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Huntington Beach, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Karen (Ganfield) Everson 1942-2025
Mission Viejo, CA
Huntington Beach, CA
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San Clemente, CA
Betty Doron 1922-2024
Michael E. Ferguson 1969-2025 Irvine, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Tustin, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Alex Gasporra 1940-2025
Brea, CA
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Irvine, CA
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Aliso Viejo, CA
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Arroyo Grande, CA
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Elizabeth R. Dulebohn 1934-2025
Laguna Beach, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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North Tustin, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Costa Mesa, CA
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Costa Mesa, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Costa Mesa, CA
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Caring for an ailing parent with confidence
Reversing the roles of caregiver and dependent is complicated and emotional. Adult children can become caregivers of their parents inthe blink of an eye, and it can lead to doubt and anxiety for all.
As unfortunate as it may be in the moment, taking over the care of ailing parents is simply a part of life. It is the natural progression that most have to face.
Here are some tips to help you deal with progressing from someone’s child to their caregiver:
1. Accept what is happening. As difficult as it may seem, it is important to know the facts of the illness or condition that needs to behandled. If it is an illness that will eventually
lead to death (whether immediate or long-term), making arrangements for a written will, funeral, and legal determinations is crucial. Completing these steps will reduce future stress and worry.
2. Have open communication with your parent. Explain that you will be handling the situation and stepping up into the caregiver role, so that there is no question or uncertainty. It is important to take over this responsibility while also aff ording your parent dignity, respect and any autonomy they can still have over their own care.
3. Prepare yourself. It will be a rough road to travel. Surround yourself with a reliable support system, plenty of positive energy, and tissues. Know that you will shed tears; you will fall; you will get back up; and you will do what needs done for your parent.
4. Approach your parent with love. Be gentle, loving and understanding, but be strong and courageous. When you are in the last moments with your parent, show them how much you love them. Let that message overshadow the message of fear. Assure your parent that they have had a wonderful life, and their pain will soon end.
5. Reach out to others. There are a number of helpful organizations whose mission
is to help caregivers. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Investigate your local social services organizations and speak to representatives about your situation. Take the help theyoffer. The stronger you are, the better you will take care of your parent during this difficult time.
You have a window of opportunity to make lasting memories and to develop your parent’s hardships into a unique loving and bonding
experience. Your parent brought you into the world, nurtured and enabled you to become the adult that you are today. This can be yourturn to nurture them in return.
Caring for your ailing parent may seem unnatural and stressful, but being prepared and approaching the situation with a full toolbox can help turn it into a natural, even beautiful, experience.
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Santa Ana, CA
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Santa Ana, CA
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San Juan Capistrano, CA
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Bozeman, MT
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Mission Viejo, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Mission Viejo, CA
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Huntington Beach, CA
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Newport Beach, CA
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Mary Anne Holtom 1945-2025
Newport Beach, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Corona Del Mar, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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San Diego, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Brea, CA
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Costa Mesa, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Fullerton, CA
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Garden Grove, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Newport Beach, CA
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Long Beach, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Costa Mesa, CA
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Buena Park, CA
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Stephanie MacNeille 1938-2024 Brunswick, ME
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Fullerton, CA
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Yorba Linda, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Leslie “Tom” Matthey 1934-2025
Laughlin, NV In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Newport Beach, CA
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Rancho Santa Fe, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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San Clemente, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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San Clemente, CA
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Corona del Mar, CA
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Corona, CA
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Anaheim, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Newport Beach, CA
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Mission Viejo, CA
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Mission Viejo, CA
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Corona Del Mar, CA
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San Clemente, CA
Frank Robinson 1934-2025
Dennis Lynn Randall, MD 1941-2024
Laguna Niguel, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Midway City, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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Huntington Beach, CA
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Villa Park, CA
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Newport Beach, CA
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Mission Viejo, CA
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Seal Beach, CA
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San Clemente, CA
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Capistrano Beach, CA In Loving Memory In Loving Memory
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1943-2024
La Mirada, CA
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1942-2024
Laguna Woods, CA
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Jacquelynn “Jacquie” Warren 1941-2025
Santa Ana, CA
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Robert Tounzen 1943-2025
Orange, CA
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Anaheim, CA
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Seal Beach, CA
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San Clemente, CA
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Frances Ybarra Trujillo 1931-2025
Anaheim, CA
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Andrew Christian Veje 1933-2024
Glen Ivy, CA
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Charles West 1923-2025
Fullerton, CA
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San Juan Capistrano, CA
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Placentia, CA
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William James White 1944-2025
Temecula, CA
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Queen Creek, AZ
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Huntington Beach, CA
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Yorba Linda, CA
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Yorba Linda, CA
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Brentwood, TN
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Placentia, CA
May the constant love of caring friends soften your sadness.
May cherished memories bring you moments of comfort.
May lasting peace surround your grieving heart.
Darrel
Alison Aldrich 1955-2024
Placentia, CA
Barbara Ann Anderson nee 1951-2025
Huntington Beach, CA
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Andrew Victor Arczynski 1948-2024
Brea, CA
Franny Rutth Blum 1935-2025
Murrieta, CA
Walter Drake 1923-2025
Altadena, CA
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Dana Point, CA
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It is never easy for someone who has lost a member of the family, even when it comes at the end of a long life or a prolonged illness. The loss is always deeply felt and followed by a period of grief. Considering this, how can you help support a friend who has suffered such a loss? Here are seven simple suggestions.
1. Be there for your friend
Expressing your support by being physically present with your friend is perhaps the single most appreciated action you can take. Because of the sensitive nature of the situation, many friends fail at this most basic task. Be sure to devote some time to spend with your friend in the days and weeks following the loss.
2. Don’t talk; listen
Your friend is likely experiencing a number of thoughts regarding the deceased, and you can be their sounding board. It is appropriatefor you to offer the occasional comment in order to share personal recollections, express sympathy, and provide encouragement, but most of the time you should just listen to what they have to say, and empathize with the feelings they share.
Allow your friend to work through volatile emotions, freely express grief without fear of
judgment, and tell you how the deceased had an impact on his or her life.
3. Provide childcare
If your friend has children, volunteer to take care of them for an afternoon or evening. Particularly if your friend has to make funeral arrangements to handle, your offer can allow them to focus on those responsibilities without the hassle of arranging for a babysitter.
4. Drop off a meal
Prepare a home cooked meal and deliver it to your friend. There are enough things demanding their attention—preparing meals doesn’t have to be one of them. However, don’t pressure your friend to invite you to stay to share the meal. Rather than intruding on family time, simply drop the meal off and leave.
5. Show up for visitation and for the funeral
A day or two prior to many funerals, there are times designated for visitation. Often called a wake, this is an opportunity for people togather to view the body and to express their condolences to the family. Show up for at least a few minutes during one of these times,and then do your best to attend the funeral itself. If you are unable to attend the funeral in person, at least check in periodically over the phone or online.
6. Offer to help out with the reception
If your friend is responsible for organizing a reception following the funeral, volunteer your services.
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How to support a friend who has lost a loved One
There are a variety of ways you can help out. For instance, you can offer your home as a possible location. You could also help with preparations if the reception is to be held at another location. If sandwiches or sweets are desired, you could offer to prepare some. During the reception, you could assist as a host. Afterward, stick around to help clean up.
7. Check in
Grief doesn’t simply end after the funeral. In fact, after the funeral is when the journey through grief truly begins. Check in with your friend regularly after the death. Remember the anniversary of the loss and ask your friend how you can support them on this day. Offer your company, assistance and support through the months and years to come.
Allow your friend to relax and show honest emotions. Losing a loved one can be an intensely stressful and exhausting experience. Your friend should not have to put on a brave face or attend to your needs. Give them the space and freedom they need to process the loss, even if it extends well beyond the date of the funeral.
By being sensitive to your friend’s mental and emotional state—and by taking some responsibilities upon yourself—you can help remove some of the weight from their shoulders. Your support in these ways will go a long way toward helping your friend through this time of loss.
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Rudy Kominek 1937-2024
William Arthur Lewis 1939-2024
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