Presentation VOEA 2012 Conference

Victorian Outdoor Education Association (VOEA) 2012 Conference Presentation

Encouraging Appropriate Behaviour: A Six-Step Approach by

Murray Irwin Savi Consulting

Think of an example when someones behaviour was not okay and you had to deal with that behaviour.

BECOME Is a framework to use like DRABC is used in first aid.

As we go through the framework think about your own example.

identify specific behaviour agreement why description

passive

assertive

aggressive

lacks respect for own rights

defends own rights while respecting the rights of others

lacks respect for others rights

agreements: positively framed broad address likely issues consequences

things to include: respect safety & behaviour guidelines give and receive feedback work toward goals consequences

injury - physically, emotionally, psychologically, relationally consistency

when why triggers need

Adapted Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs self actualisation esteem love & belonging safety & security physiological addictions & disorders

correctly perceived; perception justified inappropriate behaviour

identify the trigger incorrectly perceived; perception unjustified

work on appropriate assertive response review thoughts to correct perception work on appropriate assertive response

ways of responding

Rescue - You say pick up all the rubbish being dropped.

Bribe - You offer them marshmallows if they do not drop rubbish.

Support - Okay, I will help you clean up the rubbish.

Reinforce - Thanks for getting the camp tidied up today, heres a marshmallow.

Encourage - Well done for remembering to put it in the rubbish bag.

Coach - Why do you think it is difficult to put rubbish in the bin?

Challenge - Do you think leaving rubbish everywhere for others to pick up is respectful?

Reprimand - Dropping rubbish is not okay.

Consequence - Throwing rubbish on the ground is not respecting the environment. I want you to pick it up as well as that other bit over there and put it in the bin.

Revenge - I have had enough of rubbish everywhere. No one is going to get marshmallows tonight.

self reflection: reacting consistent contributed handling emotions risks

communication - I-messages conflict resolution steps

strategies Living as your word Building & eroding

Changing behaviour to something that is appropriate is a journey.

There is a number of possible destinations you might aim for depending on the circumstances. And there is a number of ways of getting to the destination Sometimes on journeys it is good to have a map.

The BECOME six steps is one way to help you navigate the challenges you can sometime face

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murray irwin

murray@saviconsulting.com.au