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Hermisha has been caring for baby Ramiyah while Shabazz has been giving his attention to sons Elijah and Ezrah
Philip Halcrow sees documentary series deliver insights into how new babies change family life
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IFE as they knew it has changed,’ said new grandmother Sara. A lot has been happening in the lives of her daughter Syler and son-in-law Mo and those of the other families in BBC Two’s documentary series The Baby Has Landed. The women giving birth are experiencing the mother of all changes. Initially, Hermisha was feeling drained at being overdue. Since baby Ramiyah has arrived, she has been feeling worn out by Ramiyah’s constant need to be fed. She confesses to finding it difficult to fulfil her other roles as a wife to Shabazz and a mother to their other two children. Shabazz and other fathers in the series also feel the effects of changes and realise that they need to make changes themselves. Mo, who met Syler when she was on holiday in his homeland of Egypt and followed her back to Nottinghamshire, has altered his understanding of the roles men and women play when they have a baby. In Egypt, he said, the man ‘has nothing to do’ with looking after a new baby. But Mo stayed with Syler as she gave birth to Amr-Ace, and he has tried to adopt a hands-on approach in
bringing up his son. He needs to make further changes. Opening a letter from the bank, he described his finances as ‘zero, zero, zero’. He wants to earn more money to support his new family. But Mo and some of the other fathers find it difficult to return to work
Shabazz has given his sons ‘man training’, teaching them to ‘listen to mum’ and be away from their baby – though seemingly not Nigel, who took his departure from wife Helen, newly born Abigail and their four other children in his stride. Meanwhile, Shabazz has been trying to help his children adapt to the newlook family life. Although Elijah and Ezrah are only seven and five years old, he has given them ‘man training’, teaching them to ‘listen to mum’ and to ‘put school things away’. As the series concludes next Wednesday (18 December), mothers, fathers, brothers and sisters settle into their new realities, and extended family members babysit and offer advice.
But a new baby can make his or her mark beyond a family. A work colleague offers one worn-out parent the encouragement that bringing up a child ‘doesn’t get any easier … it just gets different’. And the ability of a baby to affect a wider circle of people is visible when people gather in a church for Abigail’s baptism – a ceremony which itself is evidence of how the birth of one baby even changed the whole world. As other TV programmes are likely to highlight over the next few days, that baby’s birth was instantly announced as being important for more than his family. An angel in the Christmas story tells strangers: ‘I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people … A saviour has been born to you’ (Luke 2:10 and 11 New International Version). People all over the world still want to celebrate Jesus’ birth, because it signifies the beginning of his lifetime’s work: to assure us that God cares for us, offers us forgiveness for the uglier sides of our personality and can help us develop into the people we were meant to be. Many people’s lives have changed – and are still changing – because of the moment that baby landed.
14 December 2019 • WAR CRY • 3