P) Emotional Intelligence

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

“There is no separation of mind and emotions; emotions, thinking, and learning are all linked.” — Eric Jensen

Try this first!

A. Try Watching the 17-minute video entitled “6 Steps to Improve your Emotional Intelligence” by Ramona Hacker and then write your takeaways after watching the video. Don’t Forget to share it with your friends!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D6_J7FfgWVc&t=54s

B. ACTIVITY 1.B: I AM AWARE THAT … On the green box, provide the areas you consider your strengths; on the blue provide attitudes, habits, or areas to want to improve and then write a letter telling your 2 year older self, tackling your strengths and your space for improvement.

SYNOPSIS

Being intelligent is one thing a learner should be proud of, but there is also emotional intelligence that an individual in general should also practice. Throughout the years social and emotional learning (SEL) have been a standard requirement of curriculums of schools. This inclusion of Social and Emotional Learning is not just focused on improving the well-being of learners but also to work on helping students to become successful, prevent bullying and conflicts in school setting leading to more harmonious relationships while learning effectively. With this chapter, Emotional Intelligence and its impacts will be discussed.

LEARNING OUTCOMES

After this lesson, the learners are expected to:

Understand the 5 components of Emotional intelligences and see how these are applied in real life setting Extrapolate knowledge on how to show empathy in a variety of situations Grasp the importance of Emotional Intelligence in building a stronger intrapersonal and interpersonal relationship. Page | 157

In this VUCA times emotional intelligence has been playing a vital role underpinning our resilience and adaptability— enabling us to display self-discipline, govern our emotions, empathize with others, and motivate ourselves to keep going despite obstacles. The Emotional Intelligence introduced by Daniel Goleman focuses on emotional intelligence as a wide array of competencies and skills that drive managerial performance, measured by multi-rater assessment and self-assessment (Bradberry & Greaves, 2005).

Emotional intelligence, often measured as an emotional intelligence quotient (EQ), describes an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage emotions of one’s self, of others, and of groups.

Emotional Intelligence Proponent Dr. Daniel Goleman

In the 1990’s Daniel Goleman became aware of Salovey and Mayer’s work, and this eventually led to his book, Emotional Intelligence. Goleman was a science writer for the New York Times, specializing in brain and behavior research. He trained as a psychologist at Harvard where he worked with David McClelland, among others. McClelland was among a growing group of researchers who were becoming concerned with how little traditional tests of cognitive intelligence told us about what it takes to be successful in life.

Goleman argued that it was not cognitive intelligence that guaranteed business success but emotional intelligence. He described emotionally intelligent people as those with four characteristics: 1.They were good at understanding their own emotions (self-awareness) 2.They were good at managing their emotions (self-management) 3.They were empathetic to the emotional drives of other people (social awareness) 4.They were good at handling other people’s emotions (social skills)

5 Components of Emotional Intelligence

After a thorough investigation and research by the proponent in the pursuit of learning Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman’s findings have shown that there are five (5) components or competencies of Emotional Intelligence: Three (3) of these components belong to the Personal Competencies or Skills, which refers to intrapersonal connection of one’s self to his/her emotions. Meanwhile, two (2) of the components of Emotional Intelligence (EQ) are under Social Competencies or Skills, referring to the interpersonal connection or the emotional interaction of two or more people. These competencies or components of emotional intelligence allow people to utilize their emotional intelligence processes to affect themselves and others.

Additionally, Goleman emphasized that Intelligence Quotient (IQ) together with Emotional Intelligence (EI) are essential for making sensible judgments, communicating, empowering, and creating a positive environment.

To better understand these components/competencies here are the three (3) personal competencies:

1. Self-Awareness: refers to the ability to recognize and understand your own emotions; From the word itself ‘awareness’, other than being aware of one's own emotions, a person with self-awareness also acknowledges how their mood, actions, and emotions affect other people. Self-aware individuals can recognize the connection between their own reactions to certain situations, how they feel and how they behave. Having selfawareness also means knowing one’s strengths and weaknesses which enables them to be open to new knowledge and experiences; they are willing to learn for their own betterment. According to Goleman, self-aware individuals tend to have a great sense of humor, confidence, and awareness of how people perceive them.

Example:

Scenario: You lost in a competition while your friend won first place.

Higher EQ: Despite being sad about your loss, you still congratulated your friend to make the situation more positive and let them have their moment of happiness.

Lower EQ: You get envious of your friend and spoil her happy moment by not being at their celebration because you are upset by your loss.

2. Self-Regulation: Self-regulation is also a vital component of emotional intelligence (EQ). In addition to recognizing the effects of your own actions and emotions on others, in order to be emotionally intelligent, regulating one’s emotion is a key competency to practice. Self-Regulation does not mean to keep emotions to oneself and restrict themselves from expressing. Self-regulation is the ability to know when is the right time to express the things a person wants to convey. Simply, it refers to appropriately dealing with one's own emotions. People that practice Self-Regulation are likely to be skilled in diffusing conflicts and tension with other people. They are flexible enough to act according to the changes in the environment.

Scenario: You are the leader of your class in the school festival setting up your class booth with other members of the class. Unfortunately, one of your classmates accidentally ruined a part of your booth’s decoration.

Higher EQ: As the leader, even if you are mad with what happened, you chose to set aside your feelings and tried to think of a solution to repair the ruined part of the decorations before the opening of the booths.

Lower EQ: Even if you have no time to spare because of preparation for the opening of the booths, you decide to lash out to the member that ruined the decorations and berate them in front of your other classmates.

3. Motivation: Specifically, Intrinsic or Self-Motivation is also a necessary personal competency/skill under emotional intelligence. These motivations are beyond material things, popularity, and other glamorous things. Intrinsic Motivations pertain to self-driven goals, passions, and aspiration in life. Emotionally intelligent people are constantly seeking for self-improvement, peak experiences, and achievements. They are always looking for ways to be better that is why with motivation, emotionally intelligent people are likely to take initiative.

Scenario: You are an amateur director. You submitted a film that you have directed in an award show and fortunately won the grand prize for the best film category.

Higher EQ: You humbly accept the recognitions and the awards but you did not stop making films and pursued learning new techniques because you acknowledge that as an amateur director you still have a long way to go. And in your perspective, what matters is making great movies rather than being rich and retiring with a comfortable life.

Lower EQ: Because of the money and fame that you have achieved, you chose to just settle down and not pursue the profession anymore because you think that you have already reached the peak of your career.

They are also considered hierarchical by means of the skills you have in emotional intelligence built upon each other (e.g., self-awareness is the prerequisite of selfregulation and empathy). Under the Social Competencies of Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence are the two (2) components namely, Empathy and Social Skills. For further understanding about these components, read more of its details below.

4. Empathy: Empathy is possessed by emotionally intelligent people who are able to demonstrate more empathy than other people. Throughout life, you will encounter a lot of people with different backgrounds and temperament from yours and you ought to work and relate with them if the situation requires you to. Due to having so much empathy, it is easier for you to understand the feelings of others. Surely, empathic people are emotionally intelligent because they know how to deal with other people’s feelings but more than that, it is because they understand how to deal with themselves.

Example: Whenever they feel angry or happy, they have the capability to precisely selfanalyze themselves of why they feel that way. They do not just understand their own feelings, but they also know how to discuss them without giving burdens to others about it.

5. Social Skills: Social skills are important in building harmonious relationships with others. Having social skills allow you to connect with people especially if you have the skills entailed with it such as being active in listening, verbal communication, nonverbal communication, leadership and persuasiveness.

In addition, social skills entail emotionally intelligent people. Surely, extroversion is related to emotional intelligence at some point, but it doesn’t mean that the concept of emotional intelligence wholly works like that. Emotionally intelligent people are mostly extroverted however, it does not equalize on having a high level of emotional intelligence.

Example: Whether you are an extroverted person or not, as long as you are an emotionally intelligent person, it is certain that you have better social skills over others. Because of their capability of understanding their own feelings and of the others, they are able to understand how to speak and relate with other people.

Impact of Emotional Intelligence There are numerous instances in everyday life where emotional intelligence can be useful.

Thinking Before Reacting To emotional intelligence persons, emotions are powerful but also seem temporary. The emotionally wise reaction to a highly heated emotional situation would be to wait a while before replying. This enables everyone to control their emotions and consider the many aspects of the debate more logically.

Greater Self-Awareness People with high emotional intelligence are skilled at both recognizing their own emotions as well as how others might feel. People who are self-aware can take into account the numerous variables that affect their emotions.

Empathy for Others Knowing how other people feel and being able to empathize with them is a key component of emotional intelligence. This frequently entails thinking about your response if you were in the same circumstance.

Strong emotional intelligence enables a person to take into account the views, experiences, and feelings of others and utilize this knowledge to explain why individuals behave in a particular manner.

Importance of Emotional Intelligence

You can communicate successfully, sympathize with others, and be self-aware if you have a high level of emotional intelligence. Our settings at home and at work are influenced by how we react to ourselves and others. Living in this world entails connecting with a wide variety of individuals as well as dealing with ongoing change and shocks. How you react to the challenges of life depends on how emotionally intelligent you are. It's also a crucial element of empathy and comprehending the deeper motivations behind other people's behavior. Thus, it is really necessary for us to value and to keep in mind the importance of having a high emotional intelligence.

From conducted research the results demonstrated that emotional intelligence has a significantly positive role in many important aspects of human functioning such as: sensitivity for others and one's own emotions, emotional self-concept, coping with stress, maintaining a positive mood, and openness. In regards to prognostic validity of emotional intelligence and competence, the strongest observed relationship was with the quality of leadership, and life satisfaction. In conclusion it could be said that emotional intelligence does not have to compete emotionally with academic or general intelligence, but rather that they could be understood as complementary in reaching the best possible outcome for every human being: to be happy in life.

Tips for Improving Emotional Intelligence Being emotionally intelligent is important, but what steps can you take to improve your own social and emotional skills? Here are some tips.

Recognize. In any situation you are in, whether in a heated argument or receiving a pleasurable experience, it is important to recognize your emotions so that it will be your guide for your next move and be more rational and well-calculated. You can check yourself first, check it within so that you will react with well-sounded actions.

Listen The first step in understanding another person's emotions is to pay attention. Spend some time observing how others are attempting to communicate with you, both verbally and non-verbally. A lot of messages may be conveyed through body language. When you see that someone is acting a specific way, think about the potential causes of that behavior.

Empathize Picking up on emotions is critical, but you also need to be able to put yourself into someone else's shoes in order to truly understand their point of view. Practice empathizing with other people. Imagine how you would feel in their situation. Such activities can help you build an emotional understanding of a specific situation as well as develop stronger emotional skills in the long-term.

Reflect An essential component of emotional intelligence is the capacity to think while experiencing emotions. Think about how your personal emotions affect your choices and actions. Consider the impact of people's emotions while considering how they will react.

What's causing this person to feel this way? Do these emotions have any underlying causes that are not immediately apparent? What makes your feelings different from theirs? You could discover that as you investigate such issues, it will be easier to understand if we could see the role of emotions affects how people think and act.

Organize your thoughts

“Explore Your Memory!”

Complete the matrix of Emotional Intelligence by filling out the table below. Cite one personal experience of each component of Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence.

Components

Self-

awareness

Selfregulation

Motivation

Empathy

Social Skills Personal Experiences

Let yourself explore

Now that you have already made yourself familiar with Emotional Intelligence, its competencies, and importance, it’s time to test your understanding of it through Activity #3 “WHAT IF???”.

Question: “What if there is no Emotional Intelligence?”

Draw 3 Symbols or things inside the boxes that will represent your answer to the question above and explain their meanings to justify the three symbols that you have drawn.

Explanation: (at least 7-10 sentences)

sQUIZ your Mind

Directions: Identify the following statements by choosing the right answer inside the box below.

SELF-AWARENESS DR. DANIEL GOLEMAN SELF-REGULATION MOTIVATION EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE EMPATHY SOCIAL SKILLS PERSONAL COMPETENCIES OR SKILLS SOCIAL COMPETENCIES OR SKILLS DAVID MACCLELLAND

______1. It is one’s ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage emotions of one’s self, of others, and of groups. What is this intelligence? ______2. A science writer of New York Times who specialized in brain and behavior research and wrote the book “Emotional Intelligence”. ______3. One of the growing group of researchers who were becoming concerned with how little traditional tests of cognitive intelligence told us about what it takes to be successful in life. ______4. It refers to the intrapersonal connection of one’s self to his/her emotions. ______5. It refers to the interpersonal connection or the emotional interaction of two or more people. ______6. In order to be emotionally intelligent, regulating one’s emotion is a key competency to practice. ______7. It is important in building harmonious relationships with others and allows you to connect with people especially if you have the skills entailed with it such as being active in listening, verbal communication, nonverbal communication, leadership and persuasiveness. ______8. Self Awareness is a prerequisite to other key competencies under Emotional Intelligence that is why Self Awareness is essential in having a high EQ. Suppose that you are part of a singing group. Many people told you that you are very good at singing but then someone in the group has become more popular because they can sing in a higher key. As a self aware individual, what would you feel? ______a. Be happy for the people that are better than you and not compete with them, be grateful for the compliments you receive. ______b. Always get mad when your group mate gets more attention and compliments than you do. ______c. Leave the group because there is no way you are going to be better than your group mate. ______d. Steal the attention of everyone by singing louder than your group mates so they would only focus on you.

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LEARNING STYLES AND MOTIVATION STORY

Guide Question: Why did you pursue the teaching profession? What is the hardest problem you have encountered in your field?

CHAPTER 13: LEARNING STYLES AND MOTIVATION STORY Teacher Han’s POV

The bell rings, cueing the dismissal for today's class.

"Right on time," I said, looking down at my watch that reads 2:30 pm.

"Alright, that's all for today. I expect you guys to pass your activities at the next

meeting. Goodbye and thank you class," I packed my things, making sure nothing gets left. I see some students outside of the classroom, they look like they're waiting for their friends. It reminded me of my youth days too, oh to be young and beautiful.

I let the students exit the classroom first, opting to be the last one to exit. I exited the classroom, opting to go for the right stairs instead of the left one. It looks like I'm one of the last teachers to go down. I headed for the faculty room, but my attention was caught by a sudden shout,

"Mr. Hans!"

It was a very familiar voice. It suddenly hit me, that was the voice of a certain student of mine when I was still in my early years of teaching. I never forgot most of my students, but especially this group of students. They were memorable and made my early years amazing. Although many people would think they're just a bunch of noisy students, their class bond was amazing.

I turned and saw her, Ayla Lorenzo. She has a bright smile. I saw another familiar face, Celia Gomez. I never saw them apart, they're like two peas in a pod. It makes sense that they're still together.

"Lorenzo! Gomez! What a surprise! What are you guys doing here?" I asked them, smiling at how they've grown up. Gomez, a famous slacker, has her back straightened. Lorenzo, who was much shy before, is now looking confident.

"We were hoping to interview you, sir. It's for research," Gomez says, eyes full of hope.

"What kind of interview?" I asked them, curiosity was seeping in my tone.

"Well, it has everything to do with your teaching experiences and observations

on learners, Sir Hans," Lorenzo answers, giving me a bright smile.

"You know what, let me settle my things on my desk and I'll get back to you

guys," I said, seeing as my arms have gone quite numb by how heavy some of my papers were. I settled my things and came back to find them talking.

"Okay, I'm back. Let's do the interview."

"Thank you, sir! Is it okay if we record the audio of the interview?" Gomez asks me, pointing out to one of their blockmates holding a phone.

"Oh yeah, absolutely," I said, nodding at them too.

One of their blockmates pulled out a paper that had the questions, I assume. “For the

first question, why did you pursue your profession?”

I looked back at the countless times I was asked this question back in college and even in my field. Seeing as I already answered this question countless times, I answered eloquently, “The reason why I choose this profession is because my younger

brother has dysgraphia, and it keeps me motivated to pursue this profession. I love my brother dearly; I saw his struggles in learning and the sacrifices my parents made to give him knowledge despite his sickness. I wanted to help other people who have dysgraphia too.”

“That’s a pretty noble reason, Sir Hans.

” Gomez said admiringly.

“Thank you.”

“Okay, on to the next question, what is the hardest problem you have encountered in your field?”

Tons of flashbacks played in my mind, reminding me of how hard my profession is and why that is more the reason for me to keep going, “As a TLE teacher, the hardest part

that I have encountered was to determine the specific interest and wants of my students, especially in my subject."

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"TLE is divided in different fields like visual graphics or editing, but me as an educator I am more focused in programming. To educate my students better, I need to adjust to their learning style. I need to take a step further but the education system as of right now, makes it hard. I hope for better changes in the upcoming future in terms of better accommodating learning styles of children.”

“An answer that starts many discussions, quite impressive, Sir Hans,” Lorenzo commented.

“I try to be.”

“Okay! Third question, what is the most fulfilling part of your job?”

“For me, the most fulfilling part I encountered during my experience in teaching is to see my students gain new learnings and to appreciate their efforts to try to belong in my subject. Also, as a teacher, it keeps me motivated to see them successfully achieve their dreams and even more motivated to teach children. Right now, seeing how far you have both achieved and continue to achieve makes

my heart happy,” I said while pointing my hand to Gomez and Lorenzo’s direction. They both smiled at me warmly.

“That is heartwarming, sir. For the last question, what advice will you give to an upcoming service teacher?”

“The advice that I can give to the next service teacher is you need to reach out to your students because they are not the same and they have differences. And as a teacher, you must like and love what you do because in everything teachers do, there is always a heart that is desired for the good of a child.”

“Amazing answers, all over. Thank you so much for accommodating us. Please

accept this as a token of gratitude,” Their blockmate said, giving me what seems like a donut from Pan de Manila.

“Thank you! Best of luck to your research. Gomez and Lorenzo, keep in touch and let’s eat out with the others sometime. I’d like to know what the others have

been up to after all these years,” I said, bidding my goodbyes to them. Gomez and Lorenzo pay their goodbyes to me in return.

I look forward to our upcoming dinner with them, knowing what kinds of things they have been doing will remind me again why I do this despite all the hardships. Because in the end, nothing beats all the stress and hardships than knowing I have contributed something into someone’s future.