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EDITOR Dear Friends, September is Healthy Aging Month and Sept. 16 is Respected for the Aged Day in Japan. It is also the month I officially begin Living Well 60+. I’m looking forward to this next decade, although I catch myself thinking, “Wow! I can’t believe I’m 60 years old!” I used to believe 60 was very, very old.

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Now that I’ve reached that milestone, it’s not so bad. I have some aches and pains but I guess that’s just to be expected. I can still get around pretty well. I still have plenty of opportunities for active adventures, such as moving to New Mexico in November. I used to dread the thought of retirement, but now I look forward to doing nothing all

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day long but baking, writing and walking or running – not all at once, of course. I’m claiming my sign off as my motto for the next 60 years: I’m going live life like I mean it! I hope you do, too. Live life like you mean it!



Healthy Aging Month and Respect for the Aged Day Why not do something wildly different from anything you’ve done before?

Two special celebrations are happening in September for those who are Living Well 60 Plus. First, the entire month has been designated as Healthy Aging Month. The observance was created about 20 years ago by Carolyn Worthington, executive director of Healthy Aging®, to focus national attention on the positive aspects of growing older. According to Healthy Aging, today there are more than 76 million baby boomers over age 50 years, and the first of the 82.1 million Generation X-ers reached that milestone in 2015.

The aim of Healthy Aging Month is to encourage people to stay active and vibrant as long as possible. Worthington says it’s never too late to find a new career, sport, passion or hobby or to take control of your health issues. “Use September as the motivation to take stock of where you’ve been and what you really would like to do and try it,” Worthington said. “Who says you have to follow a career related to what you studied in school? Who says you can’t start your own home business later in life? Why not do something wildly different from anyAGING Continued on Page 7

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To celebrate Healthy Aging Month, here are some tips from Healthy Aging®: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.

Do not act your age. Be positive in all aspects of your life. Ditch negative people. Walk tall. Stand tall. Take care of your teeth and smile more. Get out and do something that will ensure your interaction with other people: volunteer at the local elementary school, take a class, meet a friend for lunch or coffee. 8. Walk 10,000 steps a day. 9. Find and celebrate your inner artist. 10. Get your annual check-ups.

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thing you’ve done before?” The combination of physical, social, mental and financial fitness is important to the pursuit of a positive lifestyle. What screenings should you get? Consult your primary care physician and consider getting screened for heart disease, high blood pressure and diabetes. And for women, don’t forget about your mammogram and Pap smear.

The second September observance is Japan’s Respect for the Aged Day or Keiro no Hi. Established in 1966 and held on the third Monday in September each year, the aim of this national holiday is to honor all elderly Japanese citizens for their many contributions to family and society throughout their long lives. This year Respect for the Aged Day will be Sept. 16. To honor their elders, many Japanese communities throw parties

and offer special gifts to bring even more longevity to their lives. People who reach the milestone age of 100 in the 12 months before Respect for the Aged Day received a silver sake dish. Even though we don’t live in Japan, you can make someone’s day on Respect for the Aged Day by bringing them a small gift, sending a card or calling to tell them how much you appreciate having them in your life.



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The Basics of Using Your Phone Camera

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by Angela S. Hoover, Staff Writer

Most mobile phones have builtin cameras that are very easy to use. The camera app is usually on the home screen on both Android and iPhones. It can also be found in the apps folder. Taking pictures – and videos – with your phone is as simple as opening the camera app, pointing and shooting. But there are many functions you may not have considered using your phone camera for. All phone cameras come with a built-in flash, and nearly all camera apps feature different picturetaking settings such as portrait or landscape and gridlines for better composition. Photo-editing apps are available for free download. They can remove red eyes in your pictures. This happens because the light sensor on all phone

Get familiar with your phone camera’s zooming ability.

cameras is quite small, creating an issue with getting enough light, or aperture, in dark settings. Always use the flash in these situations. Be sure to get familiar with your phone camera’s zooming ability. This is handy when you’re trying to read something with small print. It can also help you see something far off in more detail. You don’t need a scanner or a combination printer scanner if you have a semi-decent phone camera. Apps like CamScanner can turn almost anything you can take a picture of into a PDF. You can make digital copies of business cards, receipts, tax forms and other important documents. Use your phone camera if you

sometimes forget where you parked in a large lot. Next time you leave your car in the airport’s long-term parking, simply snap a picture of where you parked. Photographic and video evidence can offer fool-proof protection in tricky situations. Take pictures with a date stamp when you move into a new place and again when you move out. If you’re involved in a car accident, take pictures of your car and all other vehicles and property involved. Camera phones aren’t just for taking cute pictures of your cat. Learn from Youtube or Google even more inventive ways you can use yours.


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Probate Basics: What It Is, How to Handle It by Bluegrass ElderLaw LLC What:

Probate is the legal process of settling the estate of a deceased person either by determining the validity of their last will and testament or by following the Kentucky laws of intestacy. For a will to be valid, it must be self-proven or proven valid in court by at least one of the witnesses. A valid will can also be holographic: written entirely in the handwriting of the decedent, signed and dated. Where:

The probate process in Kentucky is handled by the district court in the county where the person died. If the decedent owned real estate interests in another state, an ancillary probate will likely need to be opened in that state as well in order to transfer the real estate. When:

A petition for probate can immediately be filed after a person’s death. However, the death certificate will be necessary to make financial transactions within the probate estate and to interact with most financial institutions and government entities. Who:

Anyone can file a probate petition. If there is a valid will, the court can appoint the person listed as the executor. If there is

not a will, the court will appoint whomever it deems best suited and situated to perform the duties of the personal representative. How:

If you choose not to retain an attorney to assist you with the probate process, Kentucky has a guide to basic probate procedures and the necessary legal forms are available in the court clerk’s office as well as online. The clerk’s office will provide materials, but they are unable to give legal advice.


Settling the estate:

Once the debts and taxes owed by the estate have been paid, the remaining assets can be transferred to the heirs. The personal representative is required to submit a final settlement to the district court. The final settlement cannot be filed until at least six months from the date the personal representative was appointed. If settling the estate takes longer than two years, the personal representative will be required to submit a periodic settlement to the district court. Formal Settlement:

AVOIDING PROBATE There are several different ways to make sure property avoids the probate process and passes directly to the desired heirs: revocable living trusts, pay-on-death accounts and joint ownership of property. The best option or options heavily depend on your personal situation, your goals and your family dynamic. It is a good idea to consult with an estate planning and elder law attorney to discuss your situation as well as your wishes to develop the best individualized plan for you and your family.

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Administering the Estate:


Under the law, certain creditor claims are “preferred.” These include funeral expenses, taxes and other debts given preference under Kentucky or federal law. Anyone who can provide proof of payment of a preferred claim can petition the judge to transfer part of the estate to them as a “preferred creditor” up to the amount of the paid claim.

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An informal settlement in Kentucky requires each heir to sign a notarized waiver stating they received their share of the estate and they waive the requirements of the formal settlement. The informal settlement also requires proof of distribution of any specific bequests as well as the attorney fees paid by the estate.


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Do You Need a Geriatric Care Manager? by Angela S. Hoover, Staff Writer

In certain situations, managing all the life and healthcare needs for someone can be a full-time job. A geriatric care manager (GCM) is a licensed and certified health professional who helps manage the care of a patient with input from the patient’s family. A GCM can help: • Family members who do not have the time to provide care management for the patient, such as adult children raising their own family and working fulltime. • Family members who do not live near the patient. • Family members who want to avoid disagreements concerning the care of the patient. • Patients who do not want family members to be responsible for their care. • Patients who finds it easier to communicate with non-family members about their care. A GCM may be hired for a one-time assessment or can be retained for on-going services. Broadly speaking, GCMs help identify the needs of all involved and work to achieve them. These may include care plans and assistance during transitions, such as moving

from home modifications to assisted living to a nursing home. A GCM is more capable and skilled at managing the care for the patient and their loved ones’ needs than any family member could achieve on their own. More specific examples of the different things GCMs can do to manage a patient’s healthcare include: Making Evaluations.

A GCM can evaluate the patient’s home for safety and assesses any care needs. They also evaluate medical care and treatment, medications, nutrition, hygiene, mental anxiety or depression, finances and financial requirements, program eligibilities, insurance and socialization. Devising a Plan of Care.

This can include short- and long-term plans. The GCM selects personnel, arranges for and coordinates medical services and manages care providers. They may attend doctor’s appointments and make sure doctors’ orders are understood and followed. Communication.

The GCM is trained to discuss difficult topics and complex issues with the patient, their family and healthcare and legal

professionals and serve as liaisons between the patient and family with legal, medical and financial providers. Emotional Care and Support.

GCMs address the emotional concerns of all involved parties. They provide caregiver stress relief and provide information about community resources. GCMs can be an invaluable advocate for the patient. A GCM can help family members make better decisions and avoid emotional and/or hasty decisions that be unnecessary or overly expensive. They can assist with financial planning and work as a liaison with a person’s power of attorney, elder law attorney and financial planner. Medicare and most insurance plans do not pay for geriatric care managers. They typically charge by the hour, from $100$250, which is the national average, says Nancy Avitabile, president of the board of directors of the Aging Life Care Association. There are four certificates for GCMs – Care Manager Certified (CMC), Certified Case Manager (CCM), Certified Social Worker Case Manager (C-SWCM) or Certified Advanced Social Worker in Case Management (C-ASWCM). When interviewing a GCM, be sure to ask if they hold any of these

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certifications. Ask if they are licensed and how long they have been providing care management. Ascertain if they are available for emergencies around the clock and if their company provides home services. Most important, ask for and consult all references. RESOURCES • A Place for Mom ( • AARP ( • Aging Care ( • Aging Life Care Association ( (520) 881-8008 • Aging Life Care Solutions ( • Bluegrass Area Agency on Aging and Independent Living ( (859) 266-1116 Statewide outside the Lexington area: (502) 564-6930 • Caregiver List ( • • Diversified Nurse Consultants ( • Eldercare Locator ( 1-800-677-1116 • Lexington-Fayette Urban County Government ( • ParentCareKY ( • The Senior Source ( 1-866-333-2174

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Favorite Fall Country Drives in Rural Kentucky By Dr. Tom Miller, Staff Writer Where can a Sunday drive take you to admire the fall foliage of the Bluegrass State? Kentucky is known for its rural beauty, horse farms and bourbon trail. Its rivers and state parks provide glimpses of deer, turkey, elk, birds and other wildlife. When you depart from the many interstates and onto some of Kentucky’s beautiful country roads, you are in for a scenic treat. Consider the beautiful views along the Red River Gorge and Nada Tunnel from Stanton to Pine Ridge. The drive along this 30-mile stretch snakes along the Red River with opportunities to stop and enjoy the many vistas. In Stanton, savor the easy one-mile hike to Sky Bridge, which is great for those who enjoy photography because of its natural rock arch. Along Route 77, drive through the 900-foot Nada Tunnel, which was once a railway tunnel and now serves as a connector between the Red River Gorge and the vast Daniel Boone National Forest. Another lovely Kentucky drive is the Big Lick Loop. This route will take you from Carrollton and Big Lick Hollow on the outskirts of the quaint town of New Haven. The trails at Big Lick Hollow afford spectacular views of the North Fork River, and New Haven is full of Kentucky railroad history. In the fall, you’re likely to encounter the historic

Highland Renaissance Festival or Celtic Fest there. A must for some would be the Lincoln Heritage Scenic Byway that goes from Hodgenville to the center of Danville. This 70-mile stretch is beautiful all year round, but fall especially highlights this jaunt through various small towns and bourbon country. There are opportunities to explore sites of interest for Civil War enthusiasts, such as the Civil War History Museum in Bardstown and the Perryville Battlefield State Historic Site. While in Bardstown, known as “The Bourbon Capital of the World,” sample an ounce or two at the Maker’s Mark Distillery or Jim Beam’s American Still House. For those who enjoy fine wine, consider the Elk Creek Winery Loop that takes you through rolling hills, small towns and stretching farmlands. Be sure to investigate the capitol city of Frankfort, where there are several old churches, including the Episcopal Church of the Ascension, built in 1835. Elk Creek Vineyards, established in 2003, offers more than 20 varieties of wine, two free winery tours each day and live entertainment and dinner specials on the weekends. There are plenty of country roads along the Duncan Hines Scenic Byway. Allow a day to fully savor the sights along this route, beginning with

the Kentucky Museum in Bowling Green. The community is the birthplace of famous cake-making legend Duncan Hines. Once in the Green River Valley, explore Mammoth Cave State Park, which has some 400 miles of underground passages. Once you’re back in Bowling Green, a visit to the National Corvette Museum right across the street from the assembly plant is a must for car lovers. Next, head to Northern Kentucky to view the beauty of the Ohio River and the Trail of Tears. Here the community of Smithland has some historic buildings and there are opportunities for fishing or swimming near the dam. While in the area, check out the Kentucky Opry. Its founder, Clay Campbell, played guitar and sang with Lee Mace and the Ozark Opry. Take the time to enjoy the beauty of the Bluegrass this fall and take in some history – and a shot of the best bourbon anywhere. About the Author:

Thomas W. Miller, Ph.D., ABPP, is a Professor Emeritus and Senior Research Scientist with the Center for Health, Intervention and Prevention, University of Connecticut, and Professor, Department of Gerontology, College of Public Health, and Department of Psychiatry, College of Medicine, University of Kentucky.


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Lexington Farmer’s Market Every Saturday (April – October, 7am-2pm) downtown Lexington, 241 West Main Street, visit the Lexington Farmers’ Market! Browse herbs and spices, honey, beeswax, candles, body care products, organic products, eggs, meats and fresh, seasonal produce.

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MYOPIA EPIDEMIC by Dr. Rick Graebe, Family Eyecare Associates and Vision Therapy

Myopia (nearsightedness) is reaching epidemic proportions in the United States. About 42 percent of people in this country who are ages 12 to 54 years are myopic. Myopia occurs when the eyeball is too long from front to back or the cornea, the clear front cover of the eye, is curved. The anterior chamber of the eye is filled with aqueous fluid and the bulk of the eye is filled with vitreous humor. When the lens focuses, it’s like sitting on a basketball. The force goes outward and the basketball/ eyeball changes shape, becoming more oblong. With myopia, objects that are nearby or a short distance away are clear, but objects that are far away are blurred. The National Eye Institute predicts myopia will impact 44.5 million Americans by 2050. The change has been too sudden for it to simply be genetic, although statistically speaking, if one parent is nearsighted, their child is 40 per-

cent more likely to be nearsighted. column (also known as Ortho-k or If two parents are nearsighted, their cornea refractive therapy (CRT)) child is 60 percent more likely to can stop the progression of myopia be nearsighted. in children. The child’s eye is meaCurrent research shows chilsured and fitted with a special lens dren today are developing myopia that he sleeps in. The lens reshapes because they are now doing a the eye so the child can go all day lot more close work and playing without having to wear glasses or more games contact lenses. on computers, Ortho-k works The National Eye phones and great for kids beInstitute predicts tablets. However, cause they’re still there is a very myopia will impact growing. Another simple way to treatment is atro44.5 million slow the progrespine eye drops. sion of myopia in Americans by 2050. These are generchildren: Make ally used to dilate sure they get outside more. One the eye for exams, but it has been study showed a minimum of two shown they can control (although hours spent outside each day has not cure) myopia. The treatment a positive impact on myopia. For does not use a full-blown dose every hour a child spends outside of atropine. It basically locks up playing, running and jumping, that or freeze the lens that flexes and above-mentioned likelihood of focuses when you’re doing close developing myopia decreases by 10 work. Eye exercises taught by a vipercent. sion therapist can also help. When Eyeglasses have been the stanyou’re doing close work, take dard go-to option for correcting eye breaks throughout the day, vision for years, but a couple of remembering the 20-20-20 rule: other possibilities are even more Every 20 minutes, look at somebeneficial than eyeglasses. Orthothing 20 feet away for 20 seconds keratology, featured in last month’s to rest your eyes.

Myopia can lead to complications such as retinal detachment, glaucoma and macular degeneration. If you feel your child is at risk for myopia, schedule an appointment with Family Eyecare Associates. Early detection and correction may keep your child from becoming part of the myopia epidemic. Call Family Eyecare Associates at (859) 879-3665. ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Dr. Graebe received both his B.S degree in Visual Science and Doctorate of Optometry from Indiana University. He is a Behavioral Optometrist and learning expert. He has been in private practice here in the Bluegrass area for the past 32 years.

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pare meals. Consider an island with adjustable height for individuals that use a wheelchair or walker. An island with wheels can be moved to provide a more open layout. Remove cabinets over the stove to avoid leaning over a hot surface and to eliminate potential fire hazards. Keep a fire extinguisher near the stove. Design a smaller work triangle between the stove, sink and refrigerator to reduce the amount of walking and energy use.


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5 Easy Ways to Live in Your Home Longer by Lura Justice, Broker Associate, ABR, CRS, e-Pro, SRES, Rector Hayden Realtors®

What are your plans to maintain your home and age in place? According to U.S. census reports, the baby boomers are the fastest growing segment of our population, and most people want to continue to live in their homes as long as possible, making the decision to move when they are ready. Aging in place will eliminate the stress of being forced out of your home and may provide a less expansive housing option. Helping seniors live at home longer allows people to enjoy a happier, healthier and longer life. You can make simple updates and improvements to an existing home to help you age in place. While the design changes are sometimes necessary to allow some people to continue living independently, they often make living at home easier and more comfortable for everyone. Here are a few changes to consider. 1. Lighting

Install even, indirect lighting to reduce glare and shadows to avoid trip hazards. Add

under-cabinet lighting to provide more light on work surfaces in the kitchen, laundry and garage. Additional lighting at steps and on the exterior help with lack of depth perception and reduce falls. Lighted switches and thermostats also serve as terrific night lights. Switches with a rocker panel increase ease of use. More windows are also a great source of natural light to improve activity and keep a positive mental attitude. 2. Flooring

Use smooth, level surfaces to eliminate trip hazards. Softer flooring materials such as luxury vinyl tile (LVT) or rubber can be easier on joints. These softer floors can lessen fatigue when completing daily tasks such as meal preparation and folding laundry. Avoid level changes to minimize falls. If the change in level cannot be eliminated, use a different material or change the texture to warn the user. Avoid using surfaces and patterns that may promote depth-perception issues and create more risk for falls. 3. Kitchen

Provide an area where you can sit and pre-

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Walk-in or no-threshold showers offer bathing options with less of a trip hazard while providing more privacy. Adding a seat in the shower will allow the user to be seated and help maintain greater independence and safety. Install shower faucets that can be adjusted to accommodate sitting or standing while bathing. These adjustable faucets are also beneficial for people of varying heights and are very helpful with cleaning the shower. Reinforce grab bars and towel bars for extra support while moving around in the bathroom. Choose door levers instead of knobs; these are more functional, especially for wet or soapy hands. 5. Technology

Control thermostats, lighting and locks with electronic devices such as smartphones and tablets or large screens for those with visual impairments. Thermostats and lighting can be programmed to respond to different daily activities and change automatically throughout the day. Be certain to monitor individual ability so as not to cause more frustration for the home owner. The technology may also allow someone else outside the home to control the settings. The Justice Group at Rector Hayden works with senior clients to help identify changes that can be implemented to allow them to live in their homes longer. Many of these features make living easier for the entire family, a caregiver or the home’s next owner. We all want to live in our homes as long as possible. We want our parents, loved ones and friends to live happily and independently for as long as possible. Most important, we want everyone to make their own choices and decisions instead of having someone make choices for them.

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Friends of Caregivers Can Help in Many Ways 10 IDEAS FOR PROVIDING SUPPORT by Lisa M. Petsche, Staff Writer

In approximately one-quarter of American households, care is provided to someone age 50-plus years. In most cases, family members and friends provide all the assistance. 

These unpaid helpers enhance the quality of life for ill

older people who might otherwise require placement in a long-term care facility. 

Typically, the caregivers are spouses or offspring, many of whom are seniors themselves. 

The loved ones they care for have physical or mental impairment (perhaps both) caused by one or more chronic health conditions; stroke and dementia are the most common.

 The caregiving role involves physical, psychological, emotional and financial demands. It can also be one of life’s most rewarding experiences.

The caregiving journey is often a long one, though, and is particularly challenging when the elder care recipient has heavy hands-on needs, a demanding personality or mental impairment. Burnout is common in caregivers.

 Here are some things that you, as a friend or relative, can do to help prevent a caregiver you know from wearing down and wearing out.

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FRIENDS continued from Page 23

1. Keep in touch. Accept that you may have to make most of the effort in maintaining the relationship. If you live at a distance or otherwise cannot visit often, regularly call to see how the caregiver is doing. Send a card or note to brighten their day; include a humorous anecdote or cartoon clipping.

 2. Educate yourself about the care receiver’s disease to help you understand the kinds of challenges the caregiver might be facing. 

3. Listen non-judgmentally, demonstrate compassion and don’t give unsolicited advice to the caregiver. You can’t really understand what they’re going through unless you’ve walked in their shoes, and besides, no two caregiving situations are identical. Provide words of support and encouragement.

 4. Offer to accompany the person to a caregiver support group meeting if concurrent care is available or if they can make in-home respite arrangements. Otherwise, offer to be the respite provider so the caregiver can attend a meeting.

5. Encourage the caregiver to practice selfcare by eating nutritiously, exercising and getting sufficient rest to maintain good health. Do whatever you can to help make this possible. For example, bring over a meal or offer to sit with the care receiver while the caregiver takes a walk or a nap to catch up on lost sleep. 

6. Ask rather than guess what kind of practical help the caregiver needs most. Perhaps it’s dusting and vacuuming, doing laundry or running errands. If your assistance is declined, continue to express your desire to help. Meanwhile, take it upon yourself to deliver a casserole or muffins or, if you’re a neighbor, sweep or shovel both walks or bring in both sets of garbage cans. Encourage the caregiver to ask for and accept help rather than go it alone.

 7. Surprise the caregiver with a treat, such as a magazine, a movie, fresh flowers or a plant, gourmet coffee or tea or a gift certificate to a favorite restaurant that has takeout and delivery service.

8. When it comes to special occasions, keep in mind the most valuable gift you can give a caregiver is the gift of time. Offer to sit with the care receiver for an hour while the caregiver goes to a hair appointment or a religious service, for example, or for a longer stretch so they can attend a social event. 

9. If the caregiver is planning to host a party or dinner, offer to help with preparations or cleanup or to attend to the care receiver during the event so the caregiver can concentrate on hosting duties and mingle with guests.

 10. Offer to get information about community support services and encourage their use as appropriate. About the Author:

Lisa M. Petsche is a social worker and a freelance writer specializing in boomer and senior health and wellness. She has personal experience with elder care.

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The Emotional Effects of Weight Loss

By Dr. Tom Miller, Staff Writer Losing weight is definitely beneficial to overall physical health, but it can also have an unexpected effect on emotional health. Successful dieting can lead to an enhanced sense of satisfaction and self-confidence. Critical to successful weight loss is preparing mentally for the physical changes that could cause adverse psychological effects. Emotional health and wellness may best be measured by a person’s self-concept, self-esteem and ability to be resilient. It involves a continuum of flowing energy that recognizes realistic management marked by physical, mental and spiritual balance in life. One of the most important qualities inherent with emotionally healthy individuals is the characteristic of being able to stay strong amidst adversity and bounce back. When someone is resilient, that person possesses an internal reservoir of strength and coping from which to draw that protects the person’s mental health and well-being. People who are emotionally healthy are in control of their thoughts, feelings and behavior, and they maintain self-control with food choices and weight management. When it comes to weight loss, there are some health risks and concerns that can include the development of gallstones, which

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Maximize Your Visual Performance occurs in 12 percent to 25 percent of people who lose large amounts of weight over several months. Dehydration, which can be avoided by drinking plenty of fluids, is also a concern, as is malnutrition, which usually is a result of not eating enough protein for weeks at a time. Among the psychological concerns are fear and failing to address other emotional needs, which can lead to anxiety, depression and ultimately failure in one’s weight management plan. When you meet someone who is relaxed in life, has an open mind and shares that life with others, you may well have found a person who could be described as emotionally healthy. People who are emotionally healthy handle stress well, see with challenges as opportunities, have a positive self-image and sustain healthy social relationships. Emotional wellness is the state someone experiences and enjoys as they move closer and closer to being self-actualized. Self-actualized people tend to focus on problems outside themselves, have a clear sense of what is right and good, are spontaneous and creative and are not bound by social conventions, including social media. Abraham Maslow suggests self-actualized individuals have a clearer view of reality, accept themselves for who they are and face many of life’s challenges with confidence and tenacity. WEIGHT Continued on Page 28

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According to Maslow, self-actualizing people share the qualities of goodness, benevolence, honesty, interconnectedness, simplicity, organization, structure, order and synergy. Maslow based his theory partially on his own assumptions about human potential and partially on his case studies of historical figures whom he believed to be self-actualized. To move closer to self-actualization, be sure to: • Affirm optimism and positivism. What you focus on is what you will attract in life, so put your energy toward the things you desire, not what you don’t want. • Maintain physical, mental and spiri-

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tual health. The mind/body/spirit connection refers to the way your body responds to the way you think, feel and act. If you are physically healthy, your emotions will tend to be high. • Strengthen your social connections. Engage in social-oriented projects and activities with family, friends and the larger community. Social networking offers windows of opportunities for creating relationships with others based on similar interests. • Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is the state of being aware of your thoughts, feelings and behavior at any given moment. Living in the here and now is a powerful self-growth tool to have in your toolbox.

People who are emotionally healthy are in control of their thoughts, feelings and behavior and they maintain self-control in relationship with self as well as with others. For many people, emotional health ties into the physical, mental and spiritual completeness in their lives. About the Author:

Thomas W. Miller, Ph.D., ABPP, is a Professor Emeritus and Senior Research Scientist with the Center for Health, Intervention and Prevention, University of Connecticut, retired service chief from the VA Medical Center and tenured professor in the Department of Psychiatry, College of Medicine, University of Kentucky.

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Grief Takes Time, Energy and Effort

Losing a loved one — either through unexpected or anticipated circumstances — is always traumatic. Whether the person who died was a spouse, child, parent, sibling or friend, the pain you may feel from this loss is real. As a funeral director, I’ve noticed many of the individuals I help with funeral planning are very composed as they focus on memorializing their loved one. I’ve found the most difficult time for survivors is when the funeral service is over, out-of-town guests have traveled back home and it is time to resume day-today activities. Transitioning through a world with a loved one actively involved in it to a world without that person can be extremely painful. The grief journey is often frightening and overwhelming and sometimes lonely. While there is no doubt it takes time for individuals to adjust to this new normal, here are a few tips for individuals who are faced with the loss of a loved one.


The funeral may be over, but this doesn’t mean your sadness is gone. Grief takes time and it is important to give yourself time to experience it. Ignoring your grief by staying busy will only delay your need to experience the grief journey. It is very important for you to acknowledge the many emotions you may be feeling.


Express your grief openly. When you share your grief, healing occurs and often makes you feel better. Speak from your heart with caring friends and relatives who will listen without judging.


Your emotions may range from shock and numbness to anger and pain. Grief does not proceed in an organized manner. Like life, it is a roller coast of many emotions.

At the time of a loss, it may be necessary to make decisions in order to resume your day-to-day activities. However, because you just experienced an emotional event, it is probably best to postpone any major decisions to a later date when you have had time and you feel better able to make rational decisions.




Grief is a natural and personal process. Time does help you heal, but it also takes a lot of effort. The work requires mental and physical energy. This means anyone traveling the grief journey is likely to become tired more often than normal.

Because grief takes a physical toll on your body, make sure to drink plenty of water and get exercise and plenty of rest. You may not be able to go out and run a marathon, but your goal should be to do anything you are physically able to, even if it is just a 20-minute walk every day.

Grief is hard. If the task is too large for you to handle alone or even with the help of friends and family, make sure to enlist a professional counselor or seek the help of a grief support group. Milward Funeral Directors hosts a support group that meets the third Tuesday of every month at 6:15 p.m. for one hour from March through October. It is open to the public. Remember to be kind and understanding to yourself. Know you are doing the best you can under the circumstances.

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