Reunions Magazine Volume 31 Number 1 Virtual Edition March 2022

2022 Reunion

Walthall-Gregory-Berger Family Reunion

Stanton Family Reunion

Ransom-Sease Family Reunion

Celebrations!

Bennett-Cheek Family Reunion

Garland Class of 1965 Reunion

Vol 31 No 1 Virtual Edition March 2022

in this special issue DEPARTMENTS FRONT WORDS – 5 The joys of reunion planning: deadlines, deposits and dilemmas BRANCH OFFICE – 9 Don’t let your memories fade Zap the Grandma Gap ALUM & I – 12 5 tips for partnering with a Professional High School Reunion Planner

by Cyndi Clamp Class reunion planning hints by Rob Hirshheimer

Angel of high school reunions!

The Afterparty SCRAPBOOK – 14 Reunion School

MASTERPLAN – 15 Groshek cousins celebrate by June Groshek Czarnezki

Miller Family Reunion by Maureen Taylor, The Photo Detective ALAFFFA-Minute: My Family’s Top 10 Reunion Activities by Lisa A. Alzo, MFA From one humble tree, a forest grew by Patricia Suyak REUNION FEATURES – 22 Meet and Greet Reunions: Walthall-Gregory-Berger, Evans, Bell Ransom, Seidemann, Spring Branch (Texas) High School, Sullivan High School, USS Ranger, Banks Hill Outlaw, Day, Burtschell/Burttschell, Riley, Berry What’s your name?

Reunions: USS Oklahoma City, Stanton, Seidemann, Garland (Texas) High School, Class of 1965, Spring Branch High School, Class of 1970, Lane Tech, Class of 1980, Lafayette High School, Class of 1979, Maine East High School, Class of 1969 Reunion ice breakers/warmer-uppers Reunions: Johnson, Buck, Douglass-Blount, Darga, Cotton, Pehowski, Freeman Elementary School, Johnson-Barnes A little competition never hurt!

Reunions: Neal, Utley, Howitt, Rowland/Geist/Wilson, Brown, Curtis/Butler, Jernigan MILITARY REUNION NEWS – 44 USS DeWert Reunion by Delta Hinson USS Corry DD/DDR Reunion by Patrick McGoohan “Youth & Responsibility” A Naval Reunion Remembrance by Robert J. Clark Wellness program free to vets and active service personnel REUNION RESOURCES – 50 A directory of reunion-friendly places, services, vendors and products ON THE COVER

Walthall-Gregory-Berger Family Reunion, Bennett-Cheek Family Reunion, Stanton Family Reunion, Garland Class of 1965 Reunion, Ransom-Sease Family Reunion

Reunion Celebrations v March 2022 Volume 31 v Number 1 PUBLISHER Rick Voight EDITOR IN CHIEF Edith Wagner editor@reunionsmag.com EDITORIAL ASSISTANT Mary Catherine Stern ART DIRECTOR Jennifer Rueth SALES ACCOUNT MANAGER Roberta McLoud roberta@reunionsmag.com WEB WIZARDS Mickel Arce • Howard Ehrenberg • Chris Thompson CONTRIBUTORS

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Then, there are ideas for icebreakers/ PO Box 11727 So, let’s do some hoping! warmer-uppers which build upon the name Milwaukee WI 53211-0727 We sure hope reunion season will tags by involving everyone in activities that be a big one this year. We hope all your further re-introduce members. This is one call 414-263-4567 long and careful planning will result in subject that will continue in other issues visit www.reunionsmag.com your best reunion ever. After all, it may, because there are so many possibilities and e-mail editor@reunionsmag.com for many, be the first time you’ve been choices you can make to involve all your together in three years! The excitement members. You’ll not want to miss the is building and you should be happy and proud you’ve stuck with Johnson Family Reunion’s video, a collage from their reunion your resolve to plan and enjoy your reunion in 2022. icebreaker. And I suspect they’d be flattered to have you copy We know the hospitality industry is hopeful and looking their idea. forward to a robust reunion season. The convention and visitors Finally, we’ve highlighted awards and prizes that give bureaus can help from the time you start planning your reunion recognition and reward accomplishments and good deeds. through choosing the venue who will host and make your family These offer opportunities for pride and add to self-esteem for or group comfortable. They look forward to you taking advantage all ages particularly when children are among the awardees. of their accommodations and special services they’re eager to These are opportunities for great congratulations and share. We rely on the hospitality industry just as you do and they satisfaction for jobs well done. have had some rough times but, like all of us, await the rise in There are, of course, all our regular features but not as many demand for all they have to offer. We urge you particularly to take as when reunions are raging and so many planners submit advantage of those who advertise in this magazine and on our material we can feature. We urge you to think of special reunions website as premier reunion hosts! you remember and special things you did at those reunions and It seems that after two reunion seasons where many reunions share them with us now! Send to editor@reunionsmag.com.

Finally, we have been amazed at how resilient reunion used ZOOM to meet, that solution has crept into a special place planners have been to sustain their traditions and have for future reunions. Now in person reunions can provide a hybrid reunions regardless of pandemic restrictions! Hooray for you event that will be able to include members who, for whatever and may your next reunion reflect your commitment to your reason, cannot be physically present. For example, elders who family or group. are not able or not willing to travel can be present for many Meanwhile, we wish you a healthy, happy spring and hope activities virtually. It is a perfect solution to make sure you get as for many improvements in our lives in the months ahead. EW much participation as possible. Think of all the activities that absent members would enjoy being a part of such as being at CELEBRATE YOUR REUNION ON THESE PAGES! your Meet and Greet or banquet or worship service. You know Surprise your family or group with a feature in Reunions the details of your program in advance. Send them a copy and magazine. How about the next issue for which you should ask what they’d like to be present for. Hybrid reunions expand submit material very quickly? Reunion reports/stories can be the joy of including everyone wherever they are. about reunions past, present or future and we encourage WHAT’S IN THIS ISSUE? them, long or short. We edit everything we publish so don’t In anticipation of a great reunion season, we have gone back worry about grammar but make sure all the people and place through years of ideas for you to consider and flatter the people names are spelled correctly. Also add pictures and now we can who have thought of them by copying to use at your reunion. also feature your videos and we’re eager to see them! Send to You’ll find these ideas fresh and useful for this and future editor@reunionsmag.com. reunions. The ideas in this issue are the ones that can help you Pictures and videos must be yours to use and you authorize with the initial parts of your gathering. There are ideas for the us to use. Please send high resolution (250KB or higher, if digital, opening of your reunion starting with the first activity for most and 300 dpi, if scanned) to editor@reunionsmag.com. reunions, the Meet and Greet, those gatherings when everyone is Please send videos as an .mp4, .mov, or .wmv video file via arriving, assembling, and reconvening. www.wetransfer.com (a free transfer service that allows up While some groups need no introduction, others can be well to 2GB to be sent). served by having name tags to assist and remind where time might have created some blank spaces! Some examples are very obvious while others you’ll find are useful and clever.

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The joys of reunion planning: deadlines, deposits and dilemmas

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or many years, I was invited to speak to reunion planners at the Fairfax County, Virginia, Family Reunion Planning Workshop. When I speak at a workshop for the first time, I assume (usually falsely) that the planners are beginners, wanting a timetable, a framework, a “where do I go from here?” Falsely, because I find I’m often speaking to people who know lots more about reunions and have been in the trenches far longer than I. So, I quickly learned I had to punch it up or over or around so we started a little beyond the basics. One year my assignment was to deal with some of the biggest complaints of reunion planners: how to get members to register early or even on time instead of waiting until the last minute. I had heard that lament a lot. So, I looked at what some reunions are doing successfully and added some ideas and challenges. And, thus, this title: The joys of reunion planning: deadlines, deposits and dilemmas.

wait until the last minute or show up the day of the reunion and pay.

Also, what determines when to give a refund to a paid up no show?’”

Gail Taylor, St. Louis, Missouri, of the Holmes Family Reunion after wondering why members don’t register on time also wondered “why people complain about the cost of three days of food, fun, entertainment and t-shirts all under $85.”

THE LAMENTS

THE RESPONSE

First, the questions and I defy you not to recognize some of these.

Tasha La Touche, Mount Holly, North Carolina, De La Touche Family Reunion, asked simply, “How do you get people to pay deposits on time?”

While Bonnie Flournoy, asked, “What are some creative ways to get members to pay their reunion fees sooner rather than later? It would be great to have a good head-count before we begin to negotiate with the venue. I thought we had a great price and didn't need an incentive (silly-putty-me LOL).”

Francene Johnson, Kent, Washington, for the Brandon Family Reunion asked, “How do you get family members to respect a deadline? The biggest problem we've had is getting family members to send in registration fees early and not at the last minute.”

Jennifer Gates Gaidjunas, Tower Lakes, Illinois, planned the Gates/Eagan Family Reunion, and wondered, “How do we get others motivated, committed and offering to help.”

Clyde Bennish, writing about the Immaculate Heart of Mary Academy High School reunion in Cebu, Pilippines, summed up many peoples’ real concerns. “Finding a talented caterer was not difficult, but anticipating how many mouths to feed was a guessing game. A base number was determined but last-minute guests, additional family members, and other variables turned the decision into a struggle. The count of 100 worked out well.”

Daisy Simon, San Diego, California, of the Bennett/Cheek Family Reunion says “The dilemma that mystifies me is, ‘why is it so hard to get family members to commit themselves financially within the time line? The thing that would make my reunion organizing responsibility easier would be if the family would commit themselves and not 6 REUNIONS v www.reunionsmag.com

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By now you get the idea though we have many more examples, which really sound very similar to these.

My first thought is that perhaps reunion members need a little educating. So, without sounding too preachy it seems respect may be in play here. There needs to be more respect for the people who plan reunions and are volunteering their time, effort, money and love upfront.

DO YOUR MEMBERS KNOW WHY YOU NEED MONEY IN ADVANCE? People who’ve never planned a large event don't realize you must make down payments and some purchases in advance.

Have you explained what the fee includes so your members understand you're not using an arbitrary figure? Outline the benefits they'll receive for their deposits. Telling them what you need and why you need it will build understanding and empathy for your position.

You should probably take an opportunity at your next reunion to provide an explanation when everyone is relaxed and happy. Use facts and humor, but be firm in your explanation of why planning deadlines matter. For someone who has never planned a reunion (or other event, for that matter), much of what you have to say may come as a surprise.

If this is not your first reunion, enlist the assistance of previous planners to support and verify your explanation and to add their experience as well. Make the explanation a team effort.

As you need money for down payments, keep urging late payers so you’ll have what you need for your next payment. Never stop collecting so, as you need money, it will be there.

joys of reunion planning You need everyone’s share to cover costs. You need to know how many people to order food for and money for deposits and other expenses. Explain that a banquet meal and coordinating seating for a big group can be challenging without a head count.

A complete guest list makes it easier to estimate how much food to order.

If a generous family member can afford to advance money to the reunion, you can promise to repay your benefactor from late and reunion day collections.

Are you putting money in an interest-bearing account or short-term CD? If so, tell members their money will be earning money for the reunion.

Promise and deliver a full financial report at every reunion.

are seniors 70+ and/or families of four persons per household attending the reunion. Rebates are refunded after the reunion.

One year the reunion was in August and by January 9th, 31 people were already eligible to the rebate.

LA JOYA (TEXAS) HIGH SCHOOL, CLASSES OF 1995-1997 La Joya (Texas) High School, Classes of 1995-1997 developed a contest to get early confirmations; i.e., “First [insert number] registrations will be entered in a drawing to win [insert prize here].”

LINTON FAMILY REUNION Winners of the Will and Mary Linton Family Reunion early registration contest are selected randomly.

And the prizes were …

SOLUTIONS BROWN FAMILY REUNION

1st - C omplimentary hotel room for reunion weekend; value

The Brown Family Reunion starts collecting dues one year in advance and collects regularly: $50 per family several times during the year covers down payments and pre-reunion expenses.

2nd - D inner for two at B.B. King’s Restaurant & Blues Club in

$99 per night.

Downtown Nashville; value $50.

Honorable Mention - $25 gift certificate to Praline’s Restaurant,

RANSOM-SEASE FAMILY REUNION

in the Millennium Maxwell House Hotel, Nashville.

On time registration has its benefits. Members who register on time for the Ransom-Sease Family Reunion get color-coded wrist bands. At buffet meals those who registered on time, go first in line.

If there is limited seating it goes to those who registered on time.

Charlotte Glover says, “We are not trying to be divisive but planning a reunion is difficult without an accurate head count. We want people to understand and be cooperative in the future.”

*REGISTER TODAY!* Register before December 1st, (year) and your name will be entered to win $100 gift card at the next reunion!

Never let any opportunity to collect money escape!

SATCHER FAMILY REUNION

Early bird specials work for the Wilson Family Reunion in Durham, North Carolina. Members pay by a certain date to be entered into a drawing to receive special offers such as gift certificates that allow them to attend the reunion at a reduced rate or to receive gift cards.

This is certainly one of the gems of our family reunions.

In 2005, the Satcher Family Reunion started the “The Satcher Family Reunion Sweepstakes Contest.” The first fifty (50) adults to pay their reunion fees in full are entered into the Sweepstakes. 1st prize=$100, 2nd and 3rd prizes=$25 Walmart Gift Card. The drawing is at the Family Heritage Banquet. This is not only a great way to initiate excitement about the reunion but it motivates family members to get their reunion fees paid early!

SPAULDING FAMILY REUNION

BECKER FAMILY REUNION

WILSON FAMILY REUNION

The Spaulding Family Reunion has an early bird fee, regular registration and late registration: $30 more than early bird.

The Spauldings offer a $50 rebate for the first 50 to register who

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“Registrations started slowly with 50, then 100. We were hoping for 200. June 30th was the deadline, but Beckers are notorious procrastinators. When we still did not have registrations from cousins who had told us they were coming, we extended the deadline to July 10th. In the extra 10 days, we pulled another 150 registrations. We were calling the caterer every other day to add 25 registrations. Finally, he threw up his hands and said just let us know a final count before the morning of the meal. When we hit 375, it appeared there was another generation interested in our roots. We told the caterer 400 and held our breath. 10 registrations came in after that. We quadrupled the size of the town!”

ONE SOLUTION You know the part of reunion planning when you send invitations and a flood of RSVPs and checks don’t appear immediately? Some invites are thrown into ‘to do’ piles, others are misplaced or forgotten. Writing a check, filling out and mailing forms are road blocks to early response for some. Add the convenience of online registration and see if your members aren’t quicker to respond.

Reduce the hassle of collecting registration fees from your members by taking advantage of high-tech help to manage essential administrative duties to make your reunion happen. The most convenient way to manage your invitation and confirmation process is taking registrations, confirmations and payment online.

With online registration, your members can view reunion details, submit their information, register in minutes and pay with a credit card. Immediate email confirmation with reunion details serves as a reminder and ticket to your reunion.

If you’re like most reunion planners, you have neither the time nor the resources to set up a secure online credit card payment service or hire someone to create an online registration system. www.Myevent.com provides free, easy-to-use web tools to manage your entire reunion registration. You set up a customized registration web page for your reunion, showing event details – day, time, place, agenda for the day(s) — with an easy button for attendees to click for signing up and submitting their payment.

All the “heavy lifting” is done for you. You don’t need to purchase additional equipment to process registration or pay merchant account fees. You can easily access the system, view registrations or make changes to your registration page. The system is safe and secure. You can personalize your entire registration process. Your members pay online while you easily manage all the registration data, at no cost to your reunion.

It’s easy to get started. Similar to other credit card transactions on the Internet, members will pay a small convenience fee. The websites’ secure systems manage all the payments. They send you checks with all payments collected minus convenience fees.

ONE PLANNER’S REVIEW Beth Mazza, Fairfax, Virginia, planned her Summit High School

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20-year reunion using online tools. As class president and committee member for four of her high school reunions, Beth struggled getting classmates to send checks. She wanted an easier registration solution.

Putting the service to the test for the first time, nearly forty percent (40%!) of Beth’s classmates registered online.

“I was amazed at how much time and energy online registration saved my committee and classmates,” says Beth. “Getting classmates to pay in advance was a breeze once they learned about online registration and how quick and easy it was. Taking credit card payments for the first time definitely increased attendance. Everyone at the reunion complimented me about being so high-tech.”

Beth was able to view her attendee list all through the registration process, tracking headcount and streamlining event day preparations.

“For our previous reunions, we didn’t have a good idea about the number of attendees because everyone just paid at the door rather than mailing a check. With online registration, I had a good idea about the number of people who planned to attend and was able to have tickets and name badges ready at the check-in desk,” adds Beth.

SOLUTIONS = INVOLVEMENT = OWNERSHIP Challenge members to be more involved in planning and to serve on committees.

Encourage members to donate special skills; bookkeeping, web page design and maintenance, catering, organizing games …

Or if you have members who want to learn new skills, reunion planning is great for anyone interested in staging events.

Recognize all contributions: cash and in-kind. Whenever there is a reminder by mail, online, on facebook or Instagram: salute the contributions loud and proud! It may encourage others to step up to be part of making a successful reunion event.

Do not expect people to pay without lots of reminding. Challenge members! With each contact instead of listing who has not paid, congratulate those who have paid. Later you may need to point out who has not paid but start by keeping the challenge positive.

Consider not asking for the whole registration at once. Instead, ask for x-number of payments of $25 or $50 each due on specified dates. If you start early, you’ll be able to collect for down payments that are due well in advance of the reunion.

Charge separately for some events such as tours and attraction entrances. Then include special reunion activities such as the banquet or picnic in the registration fee. People who pay separately for special events are more likely show up.

If you are doing a potluck and asking members to contribute food, explain that a potluck meal and coordinating seating for a big group can be challenging without a head count. A complete guest list makes it easier to estimate how much food to bring.

Some members may not be able to afford the fees but really want to attend a reunion. To ensure that they can come, charge everyone a little more to extend the hope that everyone, regardless of ability to pay can attend.

If all else fails and people are just not submitting their fair share, then shame and guilt are acceptable, if used wisely. EW

BRANCH OFFICE

Don’t let your memories fade REMINISCING PROVIDES HEALTH AND SOCIAL BENEFITS

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HALLENGE YOUR BRAIN … the more you stimulate and challenge your brain — and the earlier you begin that stimulation — the more of a buffer you’ll create against the detrimental effects of aging.

REMINISCENCE THERAPY (RT) involves the discussion of past activities, events and experiences with another person or group of people, usually with the aid of tangible prompts such as photographs, household, and other familiar items from the past, music and archive sound recordings.

STORYTELLING IMPROVES COGNITIVE FUNCTION – AND IS FUN! Using prescribed photos that ranged from six to 58 photos throughout the five-week session, we noticed a stronger emotional pull and increased engagement with personal photos that captured the actual people and events of the residents own life. This preliminary study suggests that pRT (photo Reminiscence Therapy) stimulation may reduce dementia symptoms both during participation and as much as 24 to 36 hours later, when participants showed benefits from the residual effects of the reminiscence therapy session. This pilot study strongly supports and contributes to a medically valid, non-pharmacological approach to working with and treating patients with dementia.

In what is thought to be the largest randomized trial to date, residents gathered photographs and talked about family. Participants reported a significant improvement in their quality of life.

The intervention also reduced their agitation as effectively as antipsychotic drugs.

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Cognitive Benefits of Photo Reminiscence Therapy for Dementia Patients Preliminary findings within a narrative framework

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he power of photo Reminiscence Therapy (pRT) for those living with dementia and their caregivers has been under-represented in the research community. To bridge the gap, a coalition of organizations joined forces to demonstrate a new understanding of the power of pRT and how it may improve the quality of life for those with dementia by minimizing social isolation and improving medication compliance and general cognitive performance. The aim of the

preliminary pilot project was to identify photos that foster reminiscences and decrease social isolation for older adults living with dementia or a related form of memory impairment. This pilot project looked at the behavioral and somatic responses of older adults in senior living care through pRT grounded in a curriculum-based platform and intergenerational framework. Through the lens of a multi-paradigmatic coalition with new perspectives and insights to share, our findings were robust, insightful, and beneficial for participants. Read Report.

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history, creating strong enduring bonds. Teaching family history will strengthen and empower the next generation while preserving heritage for future descendants.

Family history connects family members in a way that is personal and unique to your family. It gives youth the power to identify with personal heroes, learn life lessons without having to personally go through them, and gain a wise, broad perspective on life. Teaching your children and grandchildren, nieces and nephews, and even your brothers and sisters about their family history can create strong bonds in your family. The connections to your family’s past become a framework to empower your relationships and strengthen your family's future. Visit www.zapthegrandmagap.com for free printables and tons of ideas about how to create a family history culture in your home, as well as a free email newsletter with 52 weeks of ideas about engaging the next generation with their past.

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oing back to your high school will achieve several objectives, some of which will be immediately useful while others will help you later on. Make sure you do these things: v Inform the school about your intention to plan a reunion. v Ask if anyone else has contacted the school with the same idea.

If so, contact that person and join forces or decide which reunion will be planned. There is no room for competing reunions. v Obtain a complete class list with any contact information the school can provide. v Ask the school administrator to add a link to their website for your reunion. v Ask to borrow the school banner and mascot for your reunion. v Ask if they still have yearbooks from your graduating year. v Give the alumni director your business card or contact information, in case former students contact the school with reunion related questions. v Come prepared with your camera and video camera to photograph the school grounds to use on your Facebook page, website and at the reunion.

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ngels to Go by Jim Becker and Andy Mayer (1995, Berkley Books) is a delightful small book of punchout angels to help you with romance, mutual funds, bad hair and lots more! The Angel of High School Reunions says it will “trim your thighs, upgrade your car, and transfer your kids from the Academy of Mixology to Yale!” High school classmates have been bestowed Presidential seals and Oscars from their heavenly helpers.

When you bond with “kindred spirits of your youth” you’ll be secure in the knowledge you’ve “surpassed them in every way.” However, all these positive effects of the angel go into remission immediately following your reunion.

PREPARE BUSINESS CARDS If you are planning a reunion of significant size, you may want to create business cards with the school name, reunion year and school mascot. Include the planner’s name, telephone number, email address and website.

Business cards are inexpensive and very convenient to leave with old classmates who you come face to face with. They are also good to leave with vendors and show a level of seriousness that usually results in a well-attended and successful event.

From Rob Hirshheimer, Montreal, Quebec, Canada, President of myevent.com.

Looking for ways to pay for your reunion?

Consider these ideas!

Make a family cookbook!

Sell t-shirts!

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Make and auction a quilt! Hold a rummage sale!

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5 tips for partnering with a professional high school reunion planner

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id you know there are reunion planning companies that partner with high school reunion committees to plan their reunion?

Whether you’ve planned all your previous reunions or this is your first time taking the lead, consider using a professional reunion planner. The planner can help limit the financial risk, potentially increase reunion attendance, handle behind-the-scenes work needed to make your reunion party a great success, and save you time and money.

Here are 5 tips for working with a professional reunion planning company.

TRUST THEIR EXPERTISE. A high school reunion is a very different party than a wedding reception or corporate event. Professional reunion planners have experience in the uniqueness of a high school reunion and understand the steps necessary to ensure a successful celebration. Trust their estimated attendance numbers, their marketing plan for selling reunion tickets, and their suggested food and beverage options.

WORK AS PARTNERS. Professional reunion planners share your goal to have a memorable and well attended reunion. They manage much of the reunion busywork, such as handling payments, signing contracts, finding classmates, and updating the class database. This frees committee members’ time to personally reach out to classmates to encourage ticket sales, which is the number one thing a committee can do to ensure great reunion turnout. Let your professional planner handle event planning so the committee can be the reunion’s cheerleader.

BE PREPARED. Professional reunion planners will need specific information and details about your class and your vision for the reunion party. v A class list with last known addresses, if available. This may be a booklet from a previous reunion or a database provided by

your school or district. v Attendance numbers at previous reunions. v 2-3 venue suggestions of where you would like to have your reunion. v Links to your reunion website or Facebook group. v Details about food options you’d like to offer. Plated dinner, buffet, or heavy hors d'oeuvres? And if you want a DJ or would a venue with a sound system or streaming service suffice?

GET IT IN WRITING. Protect yourself by insisting on a written contract which clearly states the reunion ticket price, services, and products to be offered by the professional reunion planner. Ask for references. A professional reunion planner will gladly provide references and answer any questions about past reunions and locating high school alumni.

EXPECT PERSONALIZED SERVICE. Beware of reunion packages that contain little or no flexibility. A professional reunion planner should be willing to provide choices and variation for each class, with marketing materials specific to your school and reunion year.

HOW TO FIND A PROFESSIONAL REUNION PLANNER …

The National Association of Reunion Managers (NARM) is a network of professional reunion planners who follow strict industry standards while adhering to a Code of Ethics. NARM planners have strong contacts with hotels, banquet facilities, caterers, DJs, and more. Best of all, reunion committees still maintain the decisionmaking power when working with a professional reunion planner.

Find a NARM planner at www.reunions.com.

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They plan reunions in the St Louis, Missouri, Chicago, Illinois, and Houston, Texas, areas.

The Afterparty

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he pitch for the Apple TV+ series The Afterparty caught my attention because the party it’s after is a high school reunion. On the night of the reunion, a wealthy and successful member invites his classmates back to his house, and he ends up dead. A cop and her colleague descend upon the house and keep everybody there while they get each participant's version of what happened. The first season is eight episodes ending just as this issue is released, so you’ll have to go back to access the entire season.

The concept is that, in addition to each

episode representing a different person’s version of the evening, each is made in a different genre. One episode is a rom-com, one a musical, one is animated, one is an action-movie story. It is more an examination of how adults remain at the mercy of their high school selves than it is a wacky party movie. It’s described as fun, and clever, but gently funny.

There's a fair amount of warmth toward these weirdos and their hang-ups, even though, presumably, one of them killed somebody.

From a review by Linda Holmes on NPR’s Pop Culture Happy Hour. Watch the trailer.

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Groshek cousins celebrate

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ith great joy and in the spirit of the holiday season, a handful of the Groshek cousins decided to meet to celebrate their Polish ancestry at the Polonez restaurant on Milwaukee, Wisconsin’s south side.

Due to Covid protocols, the group kept their size limited, but their enthusiasm was boundless as they celebrated two birthdays: Julie turned 59 on the 17th of December and Karen turned 60 on the 21st.

The staff at the restaurant sang the traditional Polish birthday song, Sto lat to the bewildered gals. Sto lat wishes that the

Birthday girls, Karen Groshek Eben and Julie Groshek Baker.

Birthday girls, Karen Groshek Eben and Julie Groshek Baker being serenaded by accordion player Ron Rutkowski.

recipients live to be 100!

With food such as pierogi, dill soup, cabbage rolls, smoked salmon and Polish sausage, everyone was well satiated. Aunt Betty, who could not make the event, baked German chocolate cupcakes for the occasion.

It was also noted that four of the cousins were 59 years old at the event. This rare event had only a short four-day window and one of those days just happened to be that particular Sunday!

Shared by June Groshek Czarnezki, South Milwaukee, Wisconsin.

Interior of Polonez Restaurant in St. Francis, Wisconsin.

All Groshek first cousins (except Ron Rutkowski) standing, Julie Baker, Cindy Berg, Jean Groshek, Karen Eben, Margie Bauer, June Czarnezki and seated Angela Schultz and Amy Kaczanowski.

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Miller Family Reunion

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he Miller Family of East Guilford, New York, began gathering on the family farm perhaps in the 1940s, if not before. The roots of this event are a little murky.

Generations of Millers lived on those acres.

Eighty years later, their descendants have upheld the tradition. The farm has long since passed out of the family, so the kin have been meeting on the shores of Lake Champlain, Vermont, since the 1960s.

Frederick Samuel Miller and May Huddleston had seven children, all but two lived past their 20s. What began as a simple family get-together of children and grandchildren now extends to their fifth-generation descendants. And now instead of annual reunions, the group comes together every other year. The timing makes more sense as members fly in from all corners of the globe. The pandemic caused a skip in that rhythm.

As an in-law, it amazes me that these far-flung cousins can maintain their connection. The secret is in the planning. One person and the resort coordinator do the heavy lifting. It’s a week-long series of activities that keeps these busy folks linked.

There is family history too.

In 2021, lunch featured a family tree for the generations to fill out. From the original six children, descendants now number over

Those facts are not told at reunions. a hundred which doesn’t include the Instead, it’s a story about how the son of a branches that have lost touch. It can be farmer captured the heart of a daughter of difficult to keep track of all those names and one of Rochester’s leading families. It’s the connections. A tree is one way to follow the classic American story of the self-made history and gives the youngsters a sense of man, but is it true? It appears to be, but their connection. A draft version of the tree most legends often don’t hold up to for this event was printed at www.Family scrutiny. Finding the story requires collecting Chartmasters.com. tales from descendants and combining Photographs tell stories and can inspire them with historical facts and family history. them too. The clues in pictures—people, A reunion is a perfect opportunity to begin places, and events rely on the details in the process. All it takes is a smart phone or clothing, photographer’s work dates and, of a recorder, some questions, and a willing course, genealogy. As The Photo Detective, I participant. Communication with distant help individuals and families fill in the cousins through family tree missing story behind their sites, email and social media images through classes and helps too. consultations on my website.

Add those stories to the Frederick Miller might be images in your collection and surprised to realize his family stir. You never know what summer retreats are ongoing. might pop up.

In this 1920s image, he’s a My three lesson on-debusinessman. The facts of his mand course with Nancy life are simple. Raised on a Desmond of MemoryWeb, farm, he went to school for Cousin Connections: Planning business training, and a Family Reunion, covers married a wealthy young reunion planning from woman from Rochester, New pre-planning to after reunion York. Her family added him to the company masthead, and Frederick Miller 1869-1951 activities. There are tips for In the collection of the how to use virtual connections he remained with the firm author before the event to get things until 1930 when it was sold. done too.

Our family maintains sporadic contact between reunions. Facebook helps us keep track of family milestones. But one thing is certain. Everyone knows when the next gathering will happen and it’s in our calendars.

About the author

Pictured are Frederick and May (Huddleston) Miller and their children (l to r) Edmund, Margaret, Dorothy, Frederick (Fritz), Austin, and in front Stanton. Taken in the mid 1930s.

Maureen Taylor, The Photo Detective, is a family historian who focuses on photographs.

She is dedicated to digital preservation, and currently works with metadata and how-to for archiving family heirlooms. Her passion is working with clients and helping them tell their family story and personal history through images. She works one-on-one with clients through photo consultations, as well as hosting various photo workshops. She is also the host of The Photo Detective podcast, with weekly episodes that pertain to photos, genealogy, and fashion history. Email her at photodetective@maureentaylor.com.

Follow her @ photodetective on social media.

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ALAFFFA-Minute: My family’s top 10 reunion activities

by Lisa A. Alzo, MFA

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ctivities are the lifeblood of any reunion. For my family, games and participation activities involving singing, dancing, and sports have entertained attendees of the ALAFFFA (an acronym for Abbott, Lizanov, Alzo, Figlar, Figlar, Figlar, Augenstein) Reunion for 54 years. Below is a countdown of our favorite family fun times.

10.Softball Game.

The first ALAFFFA reunion, held in 1967, was a small gathering of less than 12 family members at a picnic grove in South Park, Pennsylvania. As the reunion expanded, activities were planned to keep the kids entertained and softball was the game of choice where everyone could participate. The annual game between the “Figlar Fudpucker’s (Joe Figlar’s team) and the Figlar Fonk Fighters (Mike Figlar’s team) became one of the longest- running ALAFFFA traditions!

Three generations of ALAFFFA members participated in this friendly contest. Who won these games? Most years, it depended on the “Ump” (Uncle John Figlar). But the real answer is everyone!

ALAFFFA-LYMPICS competitions.

included The South American Rainforest Trail Mix Challenge, The Backpack Scavenger Hunt, and more! Instead of a $1 million prize, members of the winning team would each receive “100 Grand” (not real money, but rather the candy bar!) and other toy prizes. Visit www.reunionsmag.com/ tv-reality-games/. For details of the ALAFFFA Amazing Race.

9. Gong Show.

Modeled after the popular television show from the 1970s, this activity had ALAFFFA-ites (at that time we were just “LAFFFA”) of all ages singing and laughing at our 1977 gathering at the Ethelbert Grove in South Park, with performances from Big Fig and the Newtons and the Lido Shuffle Crew, and again in 1989 during the Hee Haw-themed reunion at the 100 Acre House. The earlier version was quite low-tech with a sheet for the stage curtain, and music played on cassette tape. In 1989, we had stereo equipment to play the music, a real guitar, and other props. A few of the “child” acts from the earlier gong show reprised their performances.

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Mud Volleyball. The theme for

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The South American Rainforest Trail Mix Challenge for ALAFFFA’S Amazing Race style scavenger hunt.

the reunion at the Community House in South Park one year was Woodstock. A rainstorm the previous night turned the ground in front of the house into a muddy mess, but that did not deter the volleyball tournament planned for the day. Players soon found their faces, arms, legs, and tie-dyed shirts covered in mud and made for quite the spectacle for motorists who drove past the house that day.

7. Family Update.

Based on the Saturday Night Live staple, Weekend Update, we performed the ALAFFFA Update in 1986 at our Luau reunion with Gerry and Mickey Abbott at the anchor desk, and with guest commentators who offered comedic updates about various family happenings during the year.

6.The ALAFFFA Amazing Race.

In 2004, the reunion theme was “Vacations” and ALAFFFA hosted its own version of the CBS show, “The Amazing Race,” where two teams faced off to complete tasks centered on 6 continents. Activities

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ALAFFFALYMPICS. Thanks to ALAFFFA’S favorite second grade teacher, Luanne F., competition-style games became a favorite activity where members of every age could participate in contests or relays such as a balloon toss, egg on a spoon, sack race, etc. The games often changed to match the reunion theme, but there always seemed to be some challenge that involved whipped cream pies in participants’ faces! Homemade replicas of gold, silver and bronze medals were handed out to 1st, 2nd, and 3rd place winners.

4. Cornhole Tournament. annual competition at our family reunions. If you are not familiar with it, Cornhole is a bean bag toss game that has two opposing teams pitching bean bags in innings into a box with a hole at the top—the first team to score 21 points at the completion of an inning wins). See www.sccornhole.com/Cornhole-GameRules.html. We have our own personalized Cornhole box built by my father, John Alzo, painted with our ALAFFFA logo (created by John ”Pee Wee” Figlar).

Cornhole has become an

ALAFFFA’S personalized cornhole box is used each year for a favorite activity.

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Trivia/Jeopardy. There were

numerous versions of ALAFFFA trivia played over the years. With a big family and so many reunions, there has never been a shortage of material to include for the questions. In 2021 we took trivia to the next level with ALAFFFA Jeopardy (J-ALAFFFA-DY) created from a PowerPoint Template (for more information, see pages 32-33 in the September 2021 issue of Reunions magazine; www.issuu.com/reunionsmag/docs/ reunions_mag_sept21_final_ct).

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Surf’s Up! No ALAFFFA reunion is

Lisa Alzo with her mother, Anna Alzo wearing matching T-shirts at the 1999 “Best of ALAFFFA.”

complete without “Surf’s Up!” where everyone gathers in a circle with a small glass of their beverage of choice to do the wave and toast ALAFFFA as “Wipeout” or some other appropriate surfer music plays in the background.

1.Karaoke.

A karaoke machine and makeshift stage with a hand painted backdrop of a peace symbol served as the main entertainment for the 1990 Woodstock-themed reunion. Attendees did their best impersonations of the Woodstock festival performers like Joe Cocker and Janis Joplin, as well as performing songs by Rod Stewart, Julio Iglesias, and many others. All the performances were videotaped and now live on in digital format to provide

enjoyment for all who wish to reminisce about those earlier reunions.

Every family is different, so it’s important to “know your audience” when planning activities for your special day. A good idea is to have a combination of physical competitions and games that can be played indoors or sitting down. For ALAFFFA, having a theme each year opens up many possibilities.

Members participate by making their own costumes, or for milestone reunions, we design special T-shirts available for attendees to purchase, if they so desire. Whatever you plan, just make sure the activities will engage all ages and ideally are easy to implement with minimal cost and effort.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR Lisa Alzo has been surrounded by family at their 50+ year running reunion and walks in her ancestor’s footsteps, literally and figuratively, as a genealogist, lecturer and writer. Author of 11 books and endless articles for newspapers and magazines, Lisa earned a Master of Fine Arts degree from the highly acclaimed Creative Nonfiction Writing Program at the University of Pittsburgh. She works as a writing coach and online educator through her website Research Write Connect www.researchwriteconnect.com.

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From one humble tree, a forest grew

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efore reunions, we were so spread out across the country that we had not made time for reunions. We all relied on our mother to keep everyone informed about what the rest of the family was doing.

Only the death of our mother the year before (and our father many years before that) made us realize that if we did not have reunions, we would lose touch with each other over time. And that would be a great tragedy.

Our Gardiner family tree has grown considerably since our first reunion at Camp Carlson, Kentucky, in 2009. The official reunion photo showed only 21 of the 25 people who attended; the two youngest were in diapers, and one is now learning to drive!

With each passing year, our tree quickly grew into a family forest. Besides the joyous births within our group, we have added distant relatives — aunts, uncles and cousins

— to our list of attendees.

Even a distant cousin, whose family connection was previously unknown to us, began bringing his family to our reunions after his own genealogical research led him to Uncle John, our unofficial genealogist.

We’ve all grown closer and look forward to seeing each other every year. Many of our family’s treasured traditions started at those Camp Carlson cabins.

Our first family tree, for instance, was a sickly looking Patricia Suyak putting leaves on the first Gardiner Family Tree! leafless fabrication that stood Each leaf has a name written on the front, and on the back, a small clothespin and a story written on it that begins with only five feet tall, but when we "Something you may not know about me is . . .". were finished with it, it became a magnificent symbol of our love On that first day, each person was given for family and the secrets revealed that day. a paper leaf with his or her name on it and

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was asked to finish the sentence on the reverse that began with: “Something you may not know about me is . . . “ That next afternoon, we all sat in a circle around the tree and read aloud the answers we had written. After each one was read, it was clipped to the bare tree branches.

One young man shared that he would soon enlist in the Navy. One of our Marines said he was “going to Afghanistan this summer.” His brother, also a Marine, told us that he was “going to Iraq.” A Navy veteran, who had served as a Navy WAVE, shared that she “piloted a C130 Hercules” during her enlistment. And her sister, also a WAVE, said she had “served five years at Guantanamo Bay, Cuba.”

We had a Shriner Clown in our midst, and his wife was a licensed private investigator. Some shared their greatest fears, one mentioned that she was training to run a 5K marathon, and another declared that he appreciated his family. And many eyebrows were lifted when one revealed he lived in a haunted house!

We learned so much about each other — of tattoos, engagements, and even a soon-to-be-grandmother. But our biggest lesson was that those heartfelt revelations drew us all closer to each other in a way we had not anticipated.

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Gardiner Family Forest Kit

• Each tree represents a family within our group and the surnames are placed below each tree.

• Patricia Suyak used her Cricut machine to cut leaf shapes approximately 2 1/2" x 2 1/2". Some leaves were blank but others included the names of parents, their children and grandchildren, wedding dates and information printed on the card stock before cutting the leaves. For our few single males, leaves showed where they were currently living and/or working.

• She took a 4" x 4" sticker of the tree to Office Depot where it was enlarged and printed on ledger size card stock.

The tree (used only once) is long gone but I still have those leaves. There were no other trees until those tree posters in 2021 when we realized that many of our newcomers did not know us and we knew very little about them.

Will there be more trees in the future? I am not sure. Each hosting group organizes the reunions their own way. But these are the only reunion requirements: comfortable accommodations for everyone, a Christmas party with a Christmas tree and a gift for each child, mandatory presence at our main event (a group meal and viewing of a video compiled by my niece from photos of

• The parent's leaf was placed in the center of the tree, listing their names and wedding date. The name of each child, their spouse, and any children were listed on a separate leaf surrounding it.

• She didn’t know enough about newcomers' families to put together trees for them, so she devised kits and asked them to assemble their own tree and stick it on the wall next to others. And each family took their tree and supplies with them when they left.

Each kit includes a tree poster, 3 dozen blank leaves, adhesive, and thin-tip Sharpie pens.

previous reunions) and mandatory presence for a group photograph.

Another way in which we help everyone become better acquainted is through our reunion books. On the last afternoon of the reunion, we ask everyone to surrender their media so we can copy the photos they have taken. My niece compiles them into a video for viewing at a future reunion, and my sister and I make a coffee-table-type book for each family.

We dedicate one page for each family group and, in addition to a group photo of the family taken when they arrived, each member is identified by name under their

own photo.

Thirteen years later, with the addition of so many more relatives, we needed a different ice breaker! One family tree method was now inadequate, and 70 people standing up to complete the sentence would have taken quite a while.

The answer? A forest of family trees! And perhaps a new annual tradition!

Maybe one day we will bring out all those leaves, read them once more, and reminisce about that very first reunion that started it all so many years ago.

Shared by Patricia Suyak, Owensboro, Kentucky.

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Meet and Greet

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s members arrive at your reunion, it’s nice to have a way to do something more than just check in at the hotel front desk.

Plan and announce a Meet and Greet that will involve members as soon as they arrive.

In your advance planning and signing a contract with the hotel, you’ll want to include a place for your members to meet/convene/ unwind/relax upon arrival. When negotiating with the hotel, reserve a meeting room or hospitality suite. Depending upon how many people you expect, the hotel may be willing to provide the meeting room without charge, but you must ask. Do not expect the offer without mentioning this is important to you. Ask the hotel to provide details to members as they arrive either on a public message board or with their check-in material. Include the Meet and Greet room number and hours it will be open. In your pre-reunion reminders, include information about what members can expect at your Meet and Greet: food and drink … t-shirts and registration materials … schedules and tickets … cousins … classmates … buddies … and lots and lots of hugs.

A Meet and Greet can be an informal room for members to gather or you can

make plans that will involve everyone, particularly children who may not know other children! Because Meet and Greets are often on Friday evenings, you should plan to have snacks if you’re not planning a meal. For example, in advance planning you might ask members to bring local or regional specialty foods that represent their home base. For example, cheese and beer from Wisconsin, peaches (preferably in pies) from Georgia, beignets from New Orleans, lobster rolls, Boston baked beans and fried clams from New England, sweet tea from the south and margaritas from Texas. You get the idea! It can turn out to be a delicious welcome as members arrive from all over.

If you plan a program, have someone designated ahead of time to serve as facilitator/master or mistress of ceremonies.

The person must be enthusiastic and able to sell everyone on the fun to follow. Start with introductions either of individuals or groups and describe the reunion program.

One family asked the oldest generation to introduce themselves, their families and share special events that occurred since the last reunion. Read letters and show pictures or set up a remote zoom call for

Banks Hill Outlaw Libation

members who are not able to attend. In no time, everyone will be talking and having a good time.

Or you can plan informal entertainment and ask members who are musicians to bring their instruments and plan to play background music or be a feature on a program. One way to get everyone involved is to plan a sing-a-long. Ask the musician(s) to choose songs and, if at all possible, have printed sheets so everyone can sing along. A range of songs from grandparents’ to kids’ favorites will help get everyone singing. Or if the musicians have a wide repertoire, take turns choosing the music to play to keep things lively.

Collect stories, fun facts and obscure history to create trivia questions. Give prizes to the winners. Or select the couples who have been married longest and play “the oldywed game.” The couples who are best at guessing their spouse’s answers are the winners.

Still some members may be uncomfortable or feel they don’t fit in. Give them an assignment or job. Ask them to greet and direct new arrivals or help hand out awards — any job that helps them feel involved. EW

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moja Dono, Unity Talking Drum, a group of djembe percussionists, provided a joyous welcome to the Banks Hill Outlaw Family Reunion in Washington DC. Umoja means unity and Dono means talking drum. This group is part Washington’s Unity Fellowship Church music ministry.

They also performed a Libation ritual, which begins after asking permission of the eldest person to proceed. The tradition is to pour libations in remembrance of ancestors on all special occasions. Water holds the essence of life and is placed in a communal cup and poured in the direction of the four winds: north, south, east, and west.

Libation (tambiko) Statement: For The Motherland cradle of civilization.

For the ancestors and their indomitable spirit (Invite family members to speak the names of their ancestors and heroes of the African Diaspora).

For the elders from whom we can learn much.

For our youth who represent the promise for tomorrow.

For our people the original people.

For our struggle and in remembrance of those who have struggled on our behalf.

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Family reunion displays

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ave an exciting family history display set up where newcomers can see soon after arriving. If you have a reserved/secure space for the entire reunion and can lock the room overnight, you’ll not have to set it up each day. But make it available as long as you can for everyone to both view and offer to contribute to the next display. You’ll want to include family trees, photos, artifacts and special remembrances that will quickly get members remembering and mingling. Ask the person who assembles the display to be available to answer questions and query members about whether they can add to future displays.

Evans Family Reunion display of members when they were young!

Bell Ransom Family Reunion Precious Memories.

Seidemann Family Reunion collection of family history books.

Walthall-Gregory-Berger Family Reunion history display table.

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Class reunion displays Sullivan High School, Chicago, Illinois, Class of 1969

Spring Branch, Texas, High School

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isplays are also important at class reunions… collection of yearbooks, photos of activities during school times often on a cloth or banner of school colors. This is also a place to memorialize classmates who have passed away since the last reunion. Use recent or school photos with candles and brief biographies of their lives after school.

Military reunion displays

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ilitary reunions typically share memories of their time in service and include uniforms, artifacts, flags, banners, pictures, books and publications.

Gages on display from the USS Ranger.

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Spring Branch, Texas, 50th Class Reunion

Military reunions also include often extensive displays, particularly of units or ships of many eras with photos, artifacts, awards and medals, books and tokens, flags and banners. Ask members to contribute to displays and encourage everyone to spend time reminiscing. Memorials are also important to inform members of the passage of others and of time.

Artifact display at the USS Ranger reunion.

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Day Family Reunion

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he first Day Family Reunion weekend began with a Meet and Greet. For many, this was the first time meeting other family members. They met in a building with a beautiful lake view at

Poverty Point Reservoir State Park in Delhi, Louisiana, to enjoy a fish fry along with music and a family history lesson. They shared ancestral information handouts from Ancestry.com and photos.

Shared by Carolyn Scott, Columbia, Mississippi

Burtschell/Burttschell Family International Reunion

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urtschell/Burttschell Family International includes members from Germany, France and the US (mostly Texas). Here

they are at a restored 17th century cognac distillery in Bonneville, France, home of reunion planners Remi and Valerie Rodier.

Everyone took advantage of time to relax, enjoy refreshments, and to meet and greet their cousins.

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“All About Me” templates were given to the kids, with spaces to write their names, ages, birthdays, favorite colors, favorite foods, and favorite subjects. Later each child read someone else’s template as an icebreaker, helping them to get to know their cousins.

The Riley Family Reunion

R Kids also decorated flowers that were hung on a tree.

iley Family Reunion planners made special plans for the kids at the Friday Meet and Greet. The kids colored and decorated flowers to hang on the Riley Kids Family Tree and answered questions “about me” to get to know their cousins. The flowers on the tree and hands around the tree were displayed at the banquet night event. It was a huge success.

Shared by Jacqueline Gardenhire, Gainesville, Virginia

Riley kids expressed their creativity by coloring and decorating paper hands, made by the reunion committee, that folded into a card. The girls’ hands had lots of bling.

Getting to know the Berry family

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ichele Swain never met any of her grandpa’s Berry family from Arkansas.

For the reunion, she made a copy of a family history report, put it in a binder titled “Berry Family Tree” and made a guest book.

She displayed old family pictures she’d

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collected and set up a display table at the door so as people arrived, they saw it. It was a quick way to get people talking, because older folks recognized some of the people in the pictures and talked to their children and soon everyone was chatting.

She added a note on each page of the guest book asking who wanted a copy of the report. She made six copies of the pictures on CDs so others could make copies. Michele said, “We all had a really good time and I got some family stories I must add to our history.”

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Walthall-Gregory-Berger Family Reunion

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he Walthall-Gregory-Berger Family comes together biennially to celebrate our rich family legacy. Missouri Virginia Walthall Miller, was one of 22 children, so there are cousins we’ve known all our lives, others we have recently connected with, and many we do not yet know. That’s why we value the Meet and Greet at the reunion.

We’ve hosted fish fries, and creative, interactive activities.

During the Meet and Greet we introduce/re-introduce ourselves, including which ancestral line we belong to on our extensive family

tree; this helps tremendously when “First Timers” attend a reunion.

At the end of introductions, we sing our welcome song.

Our Meet and Greet and weekend activities vary, depending upon the theme. Prior to the Meet and Greet, organizers set up a history display table. One of the activities is to assign teams for our Family Olympics and allow teams time to gel and make team flags!

Reported by Sonja Branch-Wilson, North Chesterfield, Virginia.

Teams line up with their flags for Family Olympics!

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What’s your name?

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ever assume that everyone knows everyone else’s name at a reunion!

There are many people at reunions who have not seen one another for a while, sometimes years in the case of most class and many military reunions. People’s appearances change, but more importantly, we eventually forget one another’s names if we don’t see each other for a while.

Then, there are family elders whose memories may slip from time to time or they have so many niblings (nieces and nephews) and grandchildren that name tags help them avoid embarrassment.

The simplest and kindest way to deal with names at any reunion is to provide name tags or badges. Name tags can range from adhesive ones you attach directly to your clothing to pre-printed manufactured ones with magnets or hung on lanyards.

Of course, price is a consideration when

planning name tags. If you use the inexpensive, self-sticking ones, you buy them in sheets. You can organize names alphabetically and print the names ahead of time, making it much easier for everyone to read. Or you can lay out blank sheets on the registration table and have everyone write their own.

Readability on the second choice may leave something to be desired though.

Or if you do a combination of both and leave the blank name tags for late-comReunions magazine editor’s high school reunion name ers, everyone will know who did not tag featuring a high school graduation picture. register on time! was in the same place when we returned If you choose to invest money in name tags, you can collect them at the end of each the next time. That’s a practical and easy solution for a reunion too. reunion so you don’t have to invest in the For preprinted name tags, we looked cost again. I belonged to an organization online for name tags and name badges that had costly name tags that we pinned and found many sources. www.Etsy.com is to a long felt sheet which was rolled up also a good resource. EW and stored at the end of each meeting. It

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e discovered that an alternate name for name tags is credentials so if you like that term: use it! It was news to us!

DIRECTIONS Design your credential. Consider modifying your t-shirt design, use a

USS Oklahoma City Association name badges are metal with magnetic backs to avoid damage to clothing. Dr. Don’s Buttons in Glendale, Arizona, makes them. They are reusable year after year so they only have to make them yearly for new reunion attendees.

80% of newbies return to future reunions, so “permanent” badges are a good investment.

Shared by John Baker, Winfield, Kansas.

Taste of reunions!

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ho doesn’t look forward to the wide array of wonderful smells and tastes of reunion potlucks, picnics and banquets? Do these pictures remind you of wonderful memories and make your mouth water? Add these to why you can’t wait for your next reunion!

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logo, school mascot or family crest or coat of arms or simply use just the reunion name and no design at all! Copy five versions of the design onto the page. Use guidelines to leave about 1/2-inch of space between each image. This will make cutting easier. Leave room at the top for the lanyard.

Add the names. Type the name of each relative/classmate/member or do a mail merge of your list of participants. Be sure to check spellings and make the font large enough so names can be read from a few feet away.

Print onto card stock, then cut into individual cards. For precise cuts, have a print center such as Kinko's do it for you.

Laminate. You can laminate cards yourself with supplies from an office supply company or have it done for you. If you do it yourself, leave enough space between the cards so that the edges can seal. Then, cut.

Punch a hole in the top and hook in the lanyard. Larger quantities of lanyards can be customized. Smaller quantities can usually be found in office supply stores.

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Thomas Stanton Society

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ouise Hawley of Lillian, Alabama, reports that the Thomas Stanton Society meets every three years for a three-day reunion on property in Stonington, Connecticut owned by the family since the 1640s. They provide name tags with lineage so that young relatives who meet for the first time find out that another family member might share the same lineage for a number of generations. The first evening is always given over to family members with stories to tell. Attendance at one reunion was about 150 from 29 states and Canada.

Reported by Louise Hawley, Lillian, Alabama.

Name tags shared by Nancy Lee Ryan, Miami, Florida.

Stanton Family Reunion name tag

Name tag with names of direct descendants of family’s immigrant founder Thomas Stanton.

Meal ticket collected as members enter buffet lines.

Stanton Family Reunion group in front of immigrant ancestor, Thomas Stanton’s homestead, built in the 1600s that was undergoing renovations.

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Seidemann Family Reunion

Each person attending the reunion, member or guest, fills out only the bottom of the perforated tag printed on #80 paper.

Volunteers type in the top for easier reading. They use old fashioned typewriters, but at least they’re electric.

The picture of the name tag chart lists Seidemann family branches. Each branch is assigned a color. A small colored circle is attached to the name tag for the branch the person represents. Some people are descended from more than one branch so have more than one colored circle. Some branches have just over 100 descendants of Friedrich and Rosine Seidemann, but one has over 2,000 descendants. Of course, not all descendants attend the reunion each year, some are deceased and others are spread out all over the US and beyond.

Shared by Phyllis Naumann, West Bend, Wisconsin.

Lane Tech, Chicago, Illinois, Class of 1980. Name tags are arranged alphabetically by Varsity Reunions.

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Name tags for classes hosted by Varsity Reunion Services.

Thanks to Cyndi Clamp, St. Louis, Missouri

Maine East High School, Class of 1969

Spring Branch High School, Houston, Texas, Class of 1970.

Lafayette High School, Class of 1979.

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Reunion ice breakers/warmer-uppers

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ne of the most frequently asked questions is how to introduce and mix relatives who’ve never met or meet rarely or classmates or buddies who haven’t seen one another in years.

Icebreakers! Reunion warmer uppers! Silly games! Activities to loosen everyone up!

One goal of your reunion is to have everyone talking, interacting, enjoying themselves as quickly as possible because there is so little time to be together. Even

adults can find it hard to strike up a conversation. A nice touch, when everyone is arriving at your reunion, is to have committee members circulate, welcome newcomers and instigate conversations. Where did you come from? How was your trip? Have you been here before? What are you looking forward to at the reunion?

If you are hosting a Meet and Greet, begin icebreakers right away.

Many icebreakers can be arranged easily

and quickly. Others require time, effort and collection of supplies and materials. If you intend to do icebreakers, plan ahead and be prepared.

And don’t limit these activities to the Meet and Greet. You can start each day with some activities that get people mixing, talking, laughing and involved. It will help break barriers, get members involved and start conversations that can continue throughout the days … and nights! EW

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armen Allen, Grayson, Georgia, reports about her successful icebreaker at the Johnson Family Reunion in Las Vegas, Nevada. Everyone received an envelope with a card in it with the name of a person to find and take a selfie with.

The selfies were made into a video montage for the next reunion!

Jarrett Johnson and Nathan Agnes

Amiyah Smith (12) and Laniya Flagler (11)

There are many more icebreakers/warmer-uppers online for you to explore!

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If you have special icebreakers and games your family plays (and great pictures or videos of the action), please share them! Pictures and videos must be yours and you authorize us to use. Please send high resolution (250KB or higher, if digital, and 300 dpi, if scanned) to editor@reunionsmag. com. Please send videos as an .mp4, .mov, or .wmv video file via www:wetransfer.com (a free transfer service that allows up to 2GB to be sent).

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Icebreakers upon arrival

s members register, have icebreaker activities ready to hand out to both adults and kids for immediate involvement.

These require everyone to interact and begin to renew and make new friendships.

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ind someone who matches the statement and ask for their autograph. Only one autograph per item. Feel free to add details; i.e.: what sorority? Cat’s name? What languages? Traveled from …? What branch of the military?

This can be bingo boxes or on a list to be initialed.

Buck Family Reunion

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orrest S. Clark of Kissimmee, Florida, writes that a feature of one Buck Family Reunion was a 40-part questionnaire of little-known facts about each family member that everyone was asked to answer. This generated lively discussion. Prizes were awarded for those who got the most answers correct. A reward for everyone was that each person learned new information about their relatives.

Douglass-Blount Family Reunion

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Lynne Wilson Jenkins, Simpsonville, South Carolina, says the Douglass-Blount Family Reunion plays icebreaker games that force people to mix and mingle. They ask everyone to introduce themselves and state how they are related to the family. They recognize the oldest and youngest, the member who traveled farthest and the family with the most immediate members present. They always do a memorial for those who died since the last reunion and share family history.”

Darga Family Reunion

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arol Idalski says the Darga Family Reunion encourages kids to sit at different tables and talk to all the aunts and uncles.

Ask the elders questions about their lives when they were the same age as the kids asking. What subjects did you like in school?

What were your hobbies and interests? Did you play sports? If so, what and how well did you do? How did you decide what you wanted to do in life?

Cotten Family Reunion

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ummer Terry created this icebreaker for the Cotten Family Reunion. She asked adults to bring a current business card to display on a board at the reunion so they can connect in business and interest opportunities. She also asked kids to design and bring along a “business card” that lists current interests, abilities and contact information.

Summer suggested archiving the kids’ cards so that at later reunions they can be reviewed to see how the kids’ interests have changed over the years.

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Easy ice breakers!

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onnect people who have similarities such as hobbies, jobs or interests. When the group is seated all together, have your master/ mistress of ceremonies shout out an interest, hobby or activity and ask everyone involved or interested in that idea to stand. Suggest that everyone look around to see who else is interested so they can talk later and then sit down. For sports … golf, tennis, softball, swimming, basketball … ask everyone interested to stand. Then ask only those who actually play to remain standing. List hobbies, jobs, types of music or art enjoyed, who has dogs or cats (or both); even tastes, everyone who loves chocolate or artichokes or peaches!

For kids, state grades for the next school year and ask them to stand, or call out favorite characters (Sponge Bob, Spiderman, the Little Mermaid) or popular video or board games kids are playing.

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ake a poster of family members’ baby pictures, then try to guess who is who and while doing that marvel at family resemblances.

Pehowski Family Reunion aunts, uncles, 1st and 2nd cousins baby guessing game!

Shared by June Groshek Czarnezki, South Milwaukee, Wisconsin

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or a class reunion, elementary school photos will generate lively guessing.

Shared by Steve Rhodes, Allen, Texas, shown with first grade teacher, the late Mrs. Annette Kirk, at the high school class’s 40-year reunion.

First grade class in 1953 at Freeman Elementary School in Garland, Texas. For their 40-year high school reunion they found all their living teachers and invited them to the reunion.

Almost 50 teachers attended!

The Guessing Game Liz Osborne oversees the Johnson-Barnes Family Reunion guessing game.

There are containers of peanuts, M&Ms, toothpicks, cotton balls, and other items. Members wrote their guess(s) of numbers in each container on a separate sheet and the guess closest to the correct number won. Winners were announced at the banquet and the prizes were the containers.

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Reunion trivia

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ailor questions to each reunion. Questions should teach and entertain. Introduce anything about your family, class or group you think is unique. Questions are limited only by your imagination. Your objective is to entertain, educate, recall and get everyone involved. Keep comments and speeches to a minimum.

“RULES” FOR REUNION TRIVIA

Never ask a question for which you have no answer.

Be creative. Avoid negatives, such as: How many husbands did Aunt Mary Catherine have? Or why did Uncle Andrew go to jail on Christmas Eve? Be patient, understanding and well-versed in methods of crowd control.

A little foolishness is fun. Welcome stories that often interrupt the game. Teach youngsters that family history is fun.

Don’t play favorites; people will yell and scream if you always call on your sister.

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ake a WORD SEARCH PUZZLE using all your cousins’ names. This is a good icebreaker to even precede the reunion in a newsletter or sent with a mailing encouraging attendance. Learn about how other reunions have incorporated puzzles into their reunion activities at www.reunionsmag.com/ crossword-puzzles-and-word-games/.

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NCESTOR SEARCH. This is best played at a reunion with many family branches present. Each parent/child team receives a list of ancestors and has 15 minutes to collect signatures from those ancestors’ descendants. Winners are those who gather the most correct signatures.

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UESS THE NUMBERS. Fill jars with peanuts or candies, pasta or any small objects, and ask everyone to guess how many pieces are in the jar. Someone will, of course, have to count them before hand! But the good thing about this is that the contents of the jar can be the prize. The Seidemanns include a watermelon to guess the weight of.

v How many living generations are there in our family? v Who is the eldest living family member? (Ask the person to stand, be recognized, given flowers and accolades.) v Who is the youngest member present? (Ask the parents to show off the child.) v Which couple has been married longest? Shortest? (Again, ask them to stand and be recognized.) v How many sets of twins were born in the family? v What was grandma Trudy’s middle name? v How many children did the family founders have? Name the founders and their children.

Add some bragging questions to recognize people who are doing something special or outstanding. Emphasize what’s extraordinary and worth recognition.

Who graduated? From kindergarten through post graduate schools. Each student should stand and tell the name of their school and degree.

Who’s in college? Each college student should stand, tell the name of the college and their major.

Who bought a house since our last reunion? Had a baby?

Retired? Was promoted?

THEN, LIGHTER, LESS SERIOUS QUESTIONS. v Introduce anything about your family you think is unique, ie: What was Uncle Jim’s job in the Army? Answer: Uncle Jim was a bugler in the Cavalry. v What relationship was Aunt Kirsten to us and how? Many times we call someone aunt/uncle but they’re not relatives.

Younger members don’t know why.

INCLUDE SOME SILLY QUESTIONS, TOO. v What is Uncle Bubba’s real name? v How many cats does Aunt Erika have?

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A little competition never hurt!

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any reunions include recognition, awards and prizes in their programs. Some are serious, some funny and often, a combination of both. Few reunions miss this opportunity to recognize special people and good deeds.

The reunion committee or a designated member makes a list and solicits nominees.

Sometimes, a list is sent with registration materials or is posted online for people to

nominate others or themselves for awards.

Being able to laugh at yourself is extremely important for many awards.

Presentation can be Oscars-like, with two members giving each award. This draws more members to the spotlight. A handsome bald man can give the “most hair award” and members-married-the-longest can give the “newlywed award.” Where appropriate and, if

it’s not immediately obvious, explain why someone is receiving the award.

The most common awards at reunions are who traveled farthest or lives closest and who’s the oldest and youngest, but there are so many more awards you should consider! While many reunions give funny prizes, certificates are the most common form of recognition. EW

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t family reunions you can celebrate the eldest, the wisest, and of course, the newest member of the clan. Why not salute the soon-to-be new parents who are expecting the youngest at the next reunion? Who has been married longest and most recently?

Who has most the children, grandchildren, great grandchildren? What is the largest branch/contingent at the reunion?

Include recognitions as well! Recognize all graduations from kindergarten through graduate school! Perhaps include recognition of who has the most degrees. Recognize all the volunteer, community and church activities members devote their time and effort to.

If members are contributing to meals or potluck at the reunion, have awards for their efforts. These will have to be voted on at the reunion, perhaps with a show of hands or loudest cheers. Best appetizers, fanciest hors d’oeuvres, best family reunion potluck dish, tastiest chili, best fish fry, best ribs, sweetest cakes, pies, cookies, or candy. If your members are asked to bring treats for the meet and greet or a meal, consider awards for the tastiest, the sweetest, the cleverest or the biggest surprise.

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If your reunion includes a formal banquet where everyone arrives dressed to the Nines, celebrate the finery. Consider making it a red carpet event and designate or hire paparazzi (a photographer and/or videographer) to record the march down the red carpet … and, of course, the rest of the event too. Appoint several members, perhaps of the elder generation, to appraise members as they arrive for the event. Have several categories to judge males and females, young and older separately so there are four winners in each category: best dressed Fashionista award, if there’s a theme, best interpretation of the theme, most colorful, best strut or best use of accessories.

Some of the awards can create competitions. Build anticipation by letting people know about some of the awards that will be given.

Create a gentle rivalry for everyone to look forward. Examples might be the bushiest beard for men or longest hair awards for men and women. Announce these competitions in advance so it’s something everyone is looking forward to.

You could replicate a Fourth of July parade

and have kids decorate their tricycles, bicycles, strollers and wagons and award prizes for the cleverest, most patriotic, brightest or funniest.

If you are playing games or have tournaments or competitions, you will surely want to have awards for the winners.

But try to think beyond just the games and think of other things that deserve recognition or rewards and squeeze them in to everything you plan. If you have a talent contest, include several prizes. If at all possible, have recognition for all of the youngest members to remember the reunion. Or recognize “little helpers” with awards for the children who help out at the reunion.

And don’t forget door prizes that are often names pulled from a hat during various reunion events! You can have everyone put a card or slip of paper in a collection box at registration to be drawn later. Perhaps even have two boxes, one for adults and one for kids with appropriate prizes for each. Consider displaying prizes as an incentive. EW

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These are the awards and awardees presented at the Neal Family Reunion.

(l to r) Kessler Rhodan (10), Taylor Williams (10), Erika Parrish (9)

SUNBEAM AWARDS: This award is given to go-getters of the

(l to r) Lillian Nabors (6), Ethan Parrish (5), Amaris Jaden Johnson (5), Karys Rhodan (7)

younger generation who have proven to be faithful in the pursuit of knowledge, learning and spiritual growth. Equipped with good teachings and wise instruction early on in life, they continue to progress as emerging leaders and lights for Jesus Christ.

SEEDLING AWARDS: This award is for the youth and young beginners in school, in life and in faith. They are boldly walking in confidence and in blind obedience to the wise counsel of their parents, teachers and community leaders. They are proof that great things often come in small, yet surprisingly powerful packages.

PATHFINDER AWARDS: Those deemed as “Pathfinders” are at a critical point in their lives in which they boast the maturity, sound upbringing and spiritual foundation with which to make wise decisions to influence and possibly change not only their own lives, but also the lives of others. If they continue on their current paths, they have the potential to do great things for God’s kingdom and the communities in which they live.

(l to r) Faizon McDowell (18), Evelyn Neal (14), Melissa Blackson (18)

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Utley Family Reunion

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ne year, the Utley Family Reunion of Jackson, Tennessee, gave these awards: most miles traveled (857), youngest person (20 months), couple married the longest (57 years), couple most newly married (3 years), most grandchildren present at the reunion (6), most great-grandchildren present (2 people each had 1), and branch with the most descendants present (34).

Shared by Jackie Utley, Jackson, Tennessee.

Howitt Family Reunion

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he Howitt Family Reunion provides some very special prizes for very special members. Some prizes are silly, but others are carefully selected and represent the family’s Scottish heritage. At one reunion, Bob and Jean Bartholomew received a rope heart with a Scottish bow tied in a knot representing their 60 years of marriage, the longest at the reunion. At the other end of the age spectrum, baby Andrew Johnson, the youngest member present, received a rattle with a Scottish bow. The tallest person received a 15-inch pencil; the winner for “shortest” was a tie and both received vitamins to help them grow. The person with the most change in his right pocket received a shiny, newly minted dime. The person with the least hair received a comb and a child with a loose tooth received a toothbrush. A Hot Wheels car celebrated a new driver’s license, and a small American flag was presented to the person with the longest military service.

Reported by James Guest, Rea, Missouri.

Brown Family Legacy Awards

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n 2017, the host family of the Brown Family Reunion Texas gave birth to the idea of legacy awards in memory of those who had passed away, but whose legacy was remembered and exemplified by family members now following in their footsteps.

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T he J. B. Bravery Award - to (name of nominee) for exemplary courage while serving in the United States Armed Services or state or city civil services.

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T he Rose’s Heart of Gold Award - to (name of nominee) for having a caring heart and giving tirelessly for the well-being of others.

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T he George’s Leadership Award - to (name of nominee) for portraying excellence whether in leadership and conversation or word and song.

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T he Pauline’s Kitchen Award - to (name of nominee) for knowing their way around the kitchen and “how to put their foot in it” with delectable entrees and delightful pastries.

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T he Jason Epps Outstanding Athlete Award - to (name of nominee) for those with endowment and dedication, whose talents are crafted and remarkable and who illustrate good sportsmanship both on and off the court or field.

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T he (name of the deceased person) Legacy of Excellence Award - to young adults who respect the family name, honor the history and who can be trusted to carry on the family legacy with dignity.

Nominations are submitted in advance to allow time for each person's award to be printed for presentation at the reunion dinner.

Reported by Gertrude Roby, Kansas City, Kansas.

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trophy for the Rowland/Geist/Wilson Family Reunion bears an image of Rodin’s “The Thinker” painted in gold, seated on a tongue in cheek white “seat.” The traveling trophy is called “The John” in honor of a family member and a memorable story about him installing the first indoor plumbing. It is awarded for the best performance in their talent show. Before the reunion, family members challenge each other to perform, urging them to be “discovered” at their own family reunion. Instead of saying, “We’re going to The Oscars” family members say, “We’re going to the John.”

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Curtis/Butler Family Reunion

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he Curtis/Butler Family Reunion (CBF) offers categories you can’t dispute, like oldest, youngest, most children, most grandchildren, first to register for the reunion, and first to arrive at the reunion. They also have lots of family pride award categories for which members can nominate others or even themselves: military service, retirements, graduations, school and civic recognition, weddings, anniversaries, new births, reunion planning, etc.

Past reunion awards have included: longest and shortest hair, most gold teeth, weirdest occupation, biggest feet, strangest musical talent, traveled farthest, oldest car, strangest hobby, most

CHARISMA KELSAW

INDIANA STATE MUSIC ASSOCIATION AWARD Winning a First Place Gold Medal For her piano rendition of Peanuts Charlie Brown (Feb 2019)

DON CURTIS GRAND DAD

Curtis-Butler Family Pride Award to Charisma Kelsaw for winning the Indiana State gold medal music award

Curtis-Butler Family Pride Award to Tammy Curtis for attending every reunion session

educated, longest time in the military, lives closest to the reunion, funniest or most unique collection.

Most endearing are the memorials, giving time to remember family members who can only join in spirit.

The 2020 CBF Virtual Reunion was a weekend full of online activities/sessions for all ages — meet and greet, cooking demos, kids’ art, money matters, storytelling for kids of all ages, family worship, games, and a movie night. Future reunions may be a combination of virtual and in-person to involve family members near and far.

Shared by Joan Waters, Charlotte Hall, Maryland

Class reunion awards

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or class reunions, in addition to who’s traveled farthest and who still lives closest to the school, you can add whose appearance has changed most, who looks just the same, who has the most hair, grayest hair and who has the least hair!

Give an award for the person who surprised everyone by their success, the strangest career and who’s changed jobs most often. Also have awards for most recently and longest married, most children and grandchildren. Have awards for teachers who attend the reunion as the most memorable. And recognize class members who have become teachers.

Members of the National Association of Reunion Managers (NARM), the professional class reunion planners, are responsible for these suggestions: First or Last to Register, Biggest Lottery Winner, First to Retire, Best Brush with Greatness Story,

Turned Out Just as Expected, Still Drives (or is still restoring) the Same Car, and Lives Closest to School.

Kathe Murphy, Classy Reunions, Inc., Sandpoint, Idaho, contributes (somewhat dubiously) to this list with these additions: Never Left Home, Never Married, Woman with the Youngest Husband, and Most Body Piercings.

One way to collect information about who deserves which awards is to design your registration form to collect "quantitative" information. Or have a list at the registration table for members to fill out. You’ll then know who qualifies for the Most Children, Youngest Child, Oldest Child, Mar-

ried Longest, and Newest Newlywed awards. Then there are always qualitative awards, such as Changed the Least or Biggest Beer Belly, Biggest Flirt, Still Most Likely to Succeed. The reunion committee can simply choose who gets these awards, or the class can take nominations from the floor and do an "applause-meter" vote. You might want to limit the number of nominations from the floor. If giving an Eligible Bachelor/Bachelorette Award, invite nominees to the microphone to present their "campaign platforms." One class committee gave just "hair" awards including: No Hair, Big Hair, Same Hair, New Hair, Gray Hair and Hair-that-Traveled-the-Farthest.

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Jernigan Family Reunion

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Laverne Jones, Oldest in Attendance

he Jernigan Family Reunion in Webster, Texas, had a definite western theme and flavor! The Jernigans Got Talent Show winners Bregeet Kennedy, Wynaya Kennedy, Penjalee Kennedy, Angela Kennedy, Elijah Harkins, and Kenya and Brooky Dargan performed their own rendition of Old Town Road by Lil Nas X. Thelma Jernigan Johnson and Kenneth Drayden “Rocked the Happy Trail” to win first place for the Best Dressed Cowgirl and Cowboy.

To win door prizes, Jernigan family members had to write their names using the Cowboy and Cowgirl lists.

Examples: Kneeslappin’ Betty Littlefoot, Roping Jane May, Bucking Jedediah Littlefoot, Lucky Annie Dooley. **Editor’s note: Sure enough: we googled it and there are cowboy and cowgirl name generators!** Special Recognitions included First Time Attendees, Most Spirited, First to Register, First time Grandparent, Oldest Male and Oldest Female in Attendance, Youngest in Attendance, Largest Attendance of a Single Family and Traveled the Farthest.

Report submitted by Beverly Paige and Carlestle Coleman.

Angela Kennedy, First Time Attendee

Willie Dunkins, Most Attendance from a Single Family

THE FUN WILL DRIVE YOU HERE. THE MEMORIES WILL BRING YOU BACK.

Pigeon Forge is the ideal place to gather generations together and strengthen family ties. Time spent together is what you make it, whether it’s enjoying the attractions, being entertained at a theater or dinner show, or simply getting reacquainted during a Smoky Mountain retreat. Whatever the reason for gathering, be prepared to create new memories in Pigeon Forge.

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USS DeWert Reunion

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SS DeWert’s first official reunion was held in November 2021 at the fabulous Charleston Harbor Resort and Marina and the Patriot's Point Museum and by all accounts, everyone had a great time. The official quarterdeck mat made its appearance and remained as a welcoming sign for everyone who passed by. (Thanks to Mike Hollingsworth for transporting that heavy thing to the reunion.)

Folks filtered in throughout the afternoon and it was fun looking up and seeing familiar faces walking through the doorway. Right next door was the Reel Bar that became the other unofficial gathering spot. It wasn't long before laughter became the predominant sound at that end of the resort. As evening came, we met up on the patio for a delicious spread of coconut shrimp, bacon wrapped scallops, artichoke dip, pimento cheese, warm brie with toast points, and some of the most delicious chocolate brownies ever made.

Operations Specialists (OS) (left to right) Delta Hinson, David Adams, Buddy Parson, President of the USS Derek Leistra, Richard Dondero DeWert Reunion Association, made his two distinctions. One, she has a sixth sense for selecting any gift introductory remarks, followed by Delta Hinson who took over with that was alcohol related. That being said, the second is that she a trivia contest that covered the life of the ship. Congrats to Greg also had the most gifts stolen from her. I believe the total was six Doan for answering the most questions correctly. Fast fingers and a steals. Afterwards folks gathered at the fire pits and inside to vast collection of DeWert pictures on his phone may have been a continue catching up. factor in Greg’s win.

Friday found small groups getting together for breakfast out on We then moved indoors for a White Elephant gift exchange. the town, touring the Patriot’s Point Museum including the USS Folks brought wrapped gifts from their neck of the woods and the Yorktown and the USS Laffey. The latter is a WWII destroyer that exchange began. If you've never participated in one of these it's a absorbed 6 kamikaze hits and survived, limping her way back from lot of fun. As people take a turn they can either select a wrapped the Western Pacific to the states. Several groups headed downtown gift or "steal" one that's already been opened. Pat Parson holds on a beautiful sunny, but cool day to explore all that downtown Charleston had to offer. Others headed to tour the Civil War era submarine Hunley and visit historic cemeteries that date back to the 1700s. Friday evening found many gathering for a dinner cruise around Charleston Harbor. The meal was outstanding and feeling the deck move a bit underneath you brought back memories of dining on the mess deck while underway. Cruising under the new, and much larger, Ravenel bridge was a very impressive sight that signaled the end of the ride. Arriving back at the pier we headed back to the hotel and quite a few headed to the Reel Bar for a nightcap and more stories.

Saturday dawned clear and cool with a breeze off the water. Thankfully there was a full breakfast buffet set out that was a great way to start the day.

Following breakfast we held the DeWert Reunion Association business meeting. The constitution and bylaws were reviewed and accepted. Per the by-laws, the officer's positions are elected to separate terms so we are not replacing the entire LCDR Larry Parker and Kristine Parker.

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slate at one time. Up for election this year were the President and Secretary positions. VP Reggie Brown was elected President, and Kevin Justesen was elected Secretary. Since Reggie was in the position of VP, his position had to be filled. Derek Leistra was elected to fill the remainder of the VP's term. A huge thank you and BZ (Bravo Zulu/Well Done) to Buddy Parson for the job he's done over the last two years leading the association and bringing everyone together for this reunion. After some discussion it was decided that the next reunion will be held in Jacksonville, Florida, in November 2023. Following the meeting, power naps while football was on seemed to be the plan of the day. That brought us to Saturday’s premier event, the formal banquet onboard the USS Yorktown.

Several members looked fantastic in full dress uniforms and Admiral Doran promised to break his uniform out for the next reunion. The setting onboard was fantastic. The banquet was held on the hangar deck with a B-25 Mitchell Bomber (The Ruptured Duck) as one backdrop. Similar B-25's had flown from carriers to strike mainland Japan early in WWII. Behind the stage was an enormous American flag that served as the other backdrop for the festivities.

LCDR Larry Parker began the remarks portion of the evening with a moving tribute to all POW/MIA's who have not yet returned home.

Following LCDR Parker's speech, Delta read a speech from the ship's first Executive Officer, Captain Bogle. We wish he could have been there to present his remarks in person and he was missed. Bogle's speech did a great job capturing the camaraderie that grew during the ship's pre-commissioning days and flowed into the early years of

the ship. ADM Doran, DeWert's second commander, followed with fantastic remarks about how a ship takes on the attributes of her crew, and how the crew then takes on the attributes of their ship.

And while DeWert is not physically plying the high seas, every time her crew gets together, for a short time at least, the watch is set again and DeWert is back. Let us never allow the spirit of the USS DeWert to fade. Following three outstanding speeches, we quickly covered the results of the online, silent auction. Delta Hinson was in charge of administering the auction. He and Master Chief David Frey had a very spirited bidding war going on throughout the day.

Delta mentioned that he had a secret method and assured several folks that he was going to outbid Frey. Sadly, Delta did not notice that time slipped away and when he looked, the auction had ended. Guess who won the items … Master Chief Frey. Guess who gets to deliver said items to Master Chief … yep, Delta.

Wishing you the best when that happens Delta! The auction raised over $2,500 which all goes to the Association. Thank you to all of those who donated items and all of those who bid, it was a great success. One other note on the auction. If you'd like to know why his name is now Buddy "Ashtray" Parson, you can ask him at the next reunion. What banquet would be complete if there was no entertainment. Reggie Brown brought Flashback, the Party Band, onboard. Reggie is the lead singer for the band and if you ever get a chance to see Reggie perform you're in for a treat. Reggie knocked it out of the park and had everyone moving. To make the continued on page 46

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gig even more special and unique, Neil McEvoy played bass with the band. He looked and played like he'd been with the band forever. And much too quickly, our time onboard the Yorktown came to an end. That doesn’t mean the night came to an end, just the banquet. Oh, no, we headed back to the resort and commandeered the Reel Bar again. There may or may not have been some members of a wedding party in there, and like soldiers, airmen, or marines, when they saw the Navy coming they figured they should just clear out. (In fine Naval tradition we shut down the Reel Bar as well).

Sunday morning dawned and we all made our way to the private breakfast. As we finished our meal, everyone had a chance to address the group one last time and share any memories, insights, or words of wisdom.

The theme that seemed to stand out was what a positive, long-lasting impact the DeWert and her crew had on the lives of so many who served onboard FFG-45.

Finally, the last official event was led by David Houghton and Dave Guarino as we held a memorial service that recognized all of the DeWert shipmates who have passed away. Two bells were tolled for each name that was read. Taps was played and honors were rendered to our fallen shipmates. And just like that, we had come to the completion of our first reunion. Like all great times, the days flew by and we soon found ourselves heading back home.

We'd like to take this time to thank everyone who made this reunion such a great time and resounding success. Thank you to the small group who back in June of 2019 thought it would be a good idea to hold a reunion. To Delta Hinson for his wisdom and experience as we got the Association off the ground. He helped us navigate the early obstacles and set us on a good path. To the first officers of the Association who took a leap of faith and a willingness to shoulder the responsibilities of getting an organization off the ground, starting from nothing. Especially Buddy Parson and Wayne Wilcher. They both spent countless hours checking out venues, talking with caterers, vendors, and location managers, and securing great rates in contracts. Thank you to those who jumped on bi-weekly Zoom calls and added their insights and suggestions that helped fine tune the reunion and make it something special. And especially to each and every one of you who served aboard USS DeWert. Many of you went to great lengths to attend our first reunion and it is greatly appreciated. Many others wanted to attend and were unable because life and circumstances wouldn't allow it.

Know that you were greatly missed. While you might not have been able to make it, you were and are remembered and there's a very good chance you were talked about. November 2023 will be here before you know it. Our hope is that the legacy of the DeWert and her crew will continue on forever and that our reunions will grow over time. Just as FFG-45 left her mark around the world and in the history books, let’s continue to show that the spirit of the DeWert lives on. “Daring, Dauntless, Defiant.” Till we meet again, fair winds and following seas, USS DeWert Reunion Association.

Report and photos shared by Delta Hinson, Virginia Beach, Virginia, with input from David Houghton.

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embers of the USS Corry DD/DDR reunion report having a terrific time in Warwick, Rhode Island, at the Crown Plaza Hotel. All were grateful to put the challenges of 2020 in the record books. Thanks to Richard and Sally Barnier for a great job of hosting and to their many helpers who made this reunion special.

Most important to the success of our reunions are the attendees, shipmates and soulmates who always make it memorable and exciting! I always look forward to seeing everyone and am genuinely disappointed when some can’t make it.

The Crown Plaza was an outstanding

hotel choice and probably the most reunion friendly hotel we’ve ever stayed at. They were most accommodating and exceeded our expectations on every level. A very special gift came from Master Winemaker Rich Barnier for providing all the attendees with bottles of Great Tasting, privately labeled USS Corry Wines.

Our tour, “A Taste of Rhode Island” was well attended and fun. The trip took us to the capital city, Providence, founded in 1636, and filled with three centuries of history and culture. We learned a lot about this wonderful little state as we toured the city. As the name of this tour indicated, our culinary adventure

introduced us to some of Rhode Island’s most famous foods as well as a good deal of the history of Providence. The tour ended with all the attendees receiving a certificate proclaiming them to be official citizens of the Ocean State.

There was plenty of free time for individual activities, socializing, renewing friendships with a great banquet to close out the weekend. Looking forward to 2022, the members voted on Nashville, Tennessee. for our next reunion and plans are being made for another great gathering.

Reported by Patrick McGoohan, Secretary of the USS CorryDD/DDR 817 Association.

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Youth & Responsibility

A Naval Reunion Remembrance

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t was September 1999 and the fourth USS Eugene A. Greene (DD-711) Reunion in Baltimore, Maryland. Hurricane Floyd had made an unexpected visit however, over one hundred shipmates braved the storm and arrived to celebrate their time served on the naval destroyer.

For many it had been over thirty years since they had served their nation in the US Navy. Serving on a destroyer is unique because you live close to the sea and close to one another. Lasting friendships are formed and endure throughout the years.

Destroyers are rightfully called the workhorse or greyhound of the sea. Each crew member is critical to the Bob Clark & Admiral Joe Lopez, both were junior functioning of the ship. Many officers on board the USS E.A. Greene in 1966. of our shipmates were Director, US Naval Academy Museum. His onboard in 1966 and served in the ship’s speech reflected on the time he served on Vietnam deployment. Over the years, USS USS E. A. Greene. The speech was titled Eugene A. Greene ship had sailed around Youth and Responsibility. the world and served in Asia, South “The theme that keeps recurring in my America, Europe, Africa and the Middle East. mind is youth and responsibility. Thirty Our guest speaker for the Greene years, fifty years and more have passed Reunion was J. Scott Harmon, at that time USS Eugene A Greene

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since those days. As we gather here in reunion, we are young once more. The years have melted away … time stands still as we once again see our friends and shipmates of long ago. And we tell wonderful ‘sea stories’ that unite shipmates. All “sea stories” are true…some of them even happened.

“As I think back on those days, I am amazed at how young we were … seaman and foreman … seventeen … eighteen and nineteen years old ... senior petty officers in their twenties and really old-timers, chiefs perhaps in their thirties. Forty was ancient, reserved for the oldest, wisest chiefs and captain. The responsibility we were given at such a youthful age was incredible!

“Nowhere is responsibility more shared and more equal than on a destroyer. Each person, from seaman apprentice to captain, has his duties. We think of the captain of the ship as having responsibility for the ship, but to my mind, everyone on board shares equal responsibilities.

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“A fireman keeping constant watch on a sight glass on a boiler, making sure that the water level is in sight and that the boiler has the proper amount of water. If the water level gets too high or too low, the boiler is at hazard that people might die. The duty is hot and dull, but vital! The fireman is responsible for not only the boiler, but for the lives of his shipmates and ultimately for the ship.” Youth and responsibility continues to be the recurring theme.

It is true that few recollections overcome

Scott Harmon, Earl W. Sapp, Commanding Officer, Bob Clark and Jad Sortore.

the hazards of sentimentality. Nostalgia has its way of producing its own emotions and sensations, but my remembrance of this reunion was that of a young person. The E. A. Greene (DD-711) was my home and passage to a larger world than I had known.

She was a “window to the world” and was

a teacher of responsibility, trust, respect and friendship that has lasted over the years.

The lessons of youth and responsibility have served me well in my past career and personal life.

Reminiscence of Robert J. Clark, Louisville, Kentucky.

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LAKE COUNTY CVB Plan an unforgettable reunion in Lake County, Illinois – We’ll work together to help you plan a family experience that lets you explore all of the excitement of Lake County. From entertaining attractions like Six Flags to our convenient, centralized location close to Chicago, there are so many reasons to choose Lake County for family-friendly fun. For free Reunion Planning Assistance call or email us with your reunion planning questions.

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For helpful information call the Branson Convention & Visitors Bureau to assist you in securing the perfect lodging for your next reunion in this ideal destination at the center of America's heartland!

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OHIO

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Located just 50 miles southeast of Columbus.

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TENNESSEE

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TEXAS

PEARLAND CONVENTION & VISITORS BUREAU 11200 Broadway Street #1390, Pearland TX 77584 Contact Teri Mazhar, 281-997-5970 pearlandcvb@pearlandtx.gov www.visitpearland.com/reunions Rebekah Burns, Marketing Manager Pearland Convention & Visitors Bureau City of Pearland | 11200 Broadway Street, Suite 1390 | Pearland, TX 77584 Phone: 281.997.5971 | Mobile: 832.492.3161 www.visitpearland.com

VIRGINIA

FAIRFAX COUNTY, VIRGINIA 10560 Arrowhead Drive Suite 350 Fairfax, VA 22030 Enjoy everything that Northern Virginia has to offer.

From the monuments and memorials of nearby Washington, DC to the Smithsonian National Air and Space Museum Steven F. Udvar-Hazy Center to George Washington’s Mount Vernon, Fairfax County is the ideal location for your military or family reunion. The spectacular new National Museum of the United States Army is now open and welcoming visitors.

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FREDERICKSBURG TOURISM VISIT FRED The Fredericksburg Region is known for its Colonial and Civil War History, arts community and year-round group-friendly offerings.

Just 50 miles south of WDC, the Fredericksburg Region boasts an award winning distillery, wineries and breweries, outdoor adventures, parks and more.

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To book your reunion, contact Victoria Matthews: (540)372-1216 | 1-800-260-3646 vamatthews@fredericksburgva.gov www.VisitFred.com Video: www.youtube.com/watch?v=kLooe9ESVe8 NEWPORT NEWS – Get closer to ships, history and the great outdoors with one central destination: Newport News, Virginia. Get all this, plus Williamsburg and Virginia Beach, too! Whether getting together with old classmates, shipmates or relatives, Newport News provides the perfect location and services to make your reunion a success. We offer the best value and plenty to see and do. Let Newport News make your next reunion a memorable one.

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WASHINGTON

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When in downtown Tacoma, stroll across the Bridge of Glass displaying artist Dale Chihuly’s work. Visit world-class history and art museums, take a glass blowing class at a local hot shop and see collector vehicles at the largest automotive museum in North America: LeMay—America’s Car Museum. In the evenings, check out the self-guided craft beer crawl or stroll along Tacoma’s waterfront, enjoying regional cuisine.

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